I just walked out in the midst of being disrespected. I wasn't having it anymore, especially when I've done nothing but try to help improve that place.
I left a toxic workplace where I was mobbed. The manager was one of the bullies. I have frequent flashbacks. I’ve been advocating for workplace bullying bills and telling my story.
According to Setyan Law, a 2023 statistical survey: 75% of employees have witnessed workplace bullying behavior. 62% of workplace bullying cases result in the resignation of the victim. 70% of the time, the bully is the one who remains with the company while the victim leaves. Only 5% of reported workplace-bullying cases have successful conciliations. Only 1% of workplace bullying victims end up confronting their perpetrators. 61% of workplace bullies are supervisors, and 33% are co-workers. 71% of workplace bullies act alone, and 29% bully in groups.
I am having a forced retirement due to my toxic work environment. 2 years of being unsupported in a new trust and first management position. I am beyond disgusted now that I let them make my health suffer. Walking away is the only option when this happens but not without involving your union and having it all raised to the top of the chain.
I left a toxic workplace over a year ago. I still have anxiety panic attacks, sleepless nights, headaches with blackouts, can’t eat or feel sick snd throw up after eating foods I was able to watch fine as a child. In addition to bullying, ostracisation, gaslighting and humiliation, crimes were committed that get hushed over to protect the companies reputation. I do not trust companies and will never work for a company again
I stayed at a toxic environment for 13 years and left last May. I am experiencing what I dubbed “exit wounds” bc I am surprised at how it still affects me and how sad I am that I stayed so long and about everything I experienced.
Ugh, it’s not even been a month since I was “let go” from my toxic job and I just had an interview for another role and feel like I totally bombed it because my confidence is so damn shot right now. 😢
Thank you. I left a toxic workplace where I was bullied and gaslit by management 6 months ago. I am still healing and in recovery from the trauma. Your video helped. Thank you
Thank you for the video. It was too late for me and I hit chronic burnout, thought I had a brain tumour. Just shows the strong can still get caught in the toxicity. Once I asked myself who am I thats when I realised these people were never my kind of people, no support, felt alone and always giving to my team but my bucket dried up because it never was replenished. Look after yourself is what I have learnt but dont back down get your union involved and get it all known and out there, thats my parting gift I am going through. Its the culture and name and shame.
It’s been a month for me since it ended. So good to read thru the comments and know I’m not alone. Thank you for saying talk to yourself as you talk to your best friend. In the past month I doubled my efforts to talk to others and help others. What I have been telling others were so much more kind than what I told myself
Coming up on 5 yrs of retirement. I left a very toxic work environment in mammography. Lots of gossip. Tribes. I over worked….came in early to turn on machines etc. Stayed to do the last patient as I was single and others married w kids etc. Drinking a bottle of wine became the norm. Few months later I quit at age 68. 5 yrs later my nervous system is finally calmed down. It took that long. So I relate to Jamie talking about what our bodies are going thru. I drink now and then w long periods of time of sobriety. I’d like to stop for good. So I’ll keep listening to Jamie! ….a God thing cuz this am she just popped up on my feed and it’s exactly what I need!
I recently retired after 30 years in cardiac critical care. It was a world of stress and often toxic. I turned to alcohol as an escape and am now fighting for a life of sobriety. Have now gone 1 week without any booze after many years of abuse. These videos are really helping me cope and stay strong. Thanks greatly Dr. Jamie!
@@Jay-xb6nc i worked in health care all my life too. First at a large teaching hospital in Los Angeles, then transferred to a local Public Health department (i have a masters degree in public health). I’ve always worked for large bureaucratic government organizations. The competition for professional positions was fierce. I am single, no children so I felt obligated to take care of my future so i only worked for pension organizations. OMG…people never cease to amaze me how low they can get. I stayed 26 years in the same program without the opportunity for promotion because geographically the programs were so spread out over the city. It’s too complicated… suffice to say…the croneyism is palpable.
I left a toxic work place a few days ago. Oh my goodness I never thought I’d go through that again. I cried soo much while I was still there, yes I was worried when I left but I felt instant relief when I left. I’ve involved Jesus Christ on my healing journey. Reading the word, loving on myself, working out and lots of sleep is working in my favor
Unfortunatelly, hospitals looks like the worst work environments ever, main reason is that it’s not a happy place to work and the routine is so stressfull
@owllady88x8 go girl. Bully's don't like being confronted, it damages their ego. I am heading out the door of my nursing toxic workplace. Would not recommend the NHS to anyone.
Hello, left a toxic job 2 years and 8 months ago, it was the most liberating experience and relief I'd ever felt. The place was and likely still is a hellish nightmare place to be. I experienced almost all of these things you talked about. I'm almost to where I believe in myself again now and were I am thriving. Thank you.
I blindly accepted a position and 4 months in, I’m regretting it. I’m ready to put in my resignation, give myself a day of grace, and a chance to find the right fit.
Im going to write the letter to my former self but do you have any ideas moving forward? I worked as a caregiver at a assisted living I was so excited to start the job as my mom just passed and I had taken care of her in her terminal days . I was so good at taking care of the elderly but when I got to this one place most of the other caregivers were decent to me except there were a few problems , there was a specific jamacian woman who for some reason over time insulted me and called me out continuously , confronting me and slandering me that I was a lazy caregiver and never cleaned the residents properly she would make fun of me and berate me, I was absloultely floored on how to handle this I hadn't been treated this blantably rude since the grammar school play ground,being a people pleaser this was hard. I have a friendly personality and hadnt really had anyone have this much disdain and hostility toward me openly in my adult life. I had so much anxiety when I knew I had to see her which was daily. I again tried everything being friendly and trying to joke with her and even trying to talk with her and stand up to her . I remember one day I said Hi to her in front of the building and she yelled at me never to say hi to her in front of the building again alot of people had this issue with her but she really targeted me . She really clearly hated me . Managment liked her and she kissed up to them making jamaican food for them . I had to quit nothing was working they wouldnt do anything about her I was beginning to have sleeplness nights plus a fellow caregiver friend was so moody she had a love hate relationship with me ,one minute she wouldnt talk to me for days then she was fine. I was so full of dread and anxiety working there I couldnt sleep anymore. What advice do you have if I run into to someone this blatantly hostile and nothing works again? It was so toxic and unprofessional there I dont think theres many places that bad but since then Im uping my education to higher pay and more professional places in a different field. I dont think theres alot of places like this were you literally feel like your in jail and going to get beat up by the inmates. I was also the only white one working there which may have had something to do with it. AGAIN its really to bad because I was so excited to start that job especially since it was right next door. I think a letter to move on would be good but any advice in the future when if I run into someone who has pure openly disdain for me and theres nothing I can do?
How do you cope if you left a toxic environment of 25 years in a row, and basically all your previous jobs were toxic and you are severely burnt out? How do you find a new job? How do you go to work again when you cannot get out of bed and there is noone who is there for you? That is a vod I would like to watch.
I will work on making a video on this topic because it is so hard. When we are hurt in a toxic work environment we take that toxicity with us. So learning to let that go with grounding work (journaling, meditation, exercise and being in nature ect..) can help. You need to heal and that takes work. There is a RUclipsr named Jennifer Brick and she makes a lot of videos on toxic work environments and healing. ❤️🩹
I’m currently working in a hospital that is toxic it’s been nine months of hell it’s affecting me physically and mentally I’m looking for other work haven’t found it. I work with a bunch of ass wipes who bully me and I will be sueing the hospital if they fire me tomorrow due to me being in a protected class/disability. I left a job that I really loved to take this hospital job to try to learn about my career, catch up on bills to save my dog who had malicious cancer and my dog died recently what a shit show I got myself into. I feel like a real idiot myself. Thank you for the video it helped.
I’m so sorry! I made this video because I really suffered too and it is sooo hard! Obviously the toxic behaviors are all about them and not you but that really doesn’t help! It feels so bad and can hurt your self esteem so much! Sorry you have to go through all of this and I’m so sorry to hear about your sweet doggie ❤️🩹
I was bullied and abused during my postdoc by my supervisors and when I reported it to the university, I was mobbed by the supervisors and the university administration.
@@Jamieinjanuary doing a lot better now. Thank you. Improving by the day. I feel like what saved me was knowing what was happening to me. I read Janice Harper's book and realised that I was mobbed by the same uni admin. she was mobbed by. I also tried to read Complaint by Sarah Ahmed, but it was too hard to read since it triggers a lot. For anyone being mobbed in academia, just get out and leave asap.
Yesterday was my last day at the toxic job! ❤ Yes I am worried about 'carryover' of the tension and mistrust in my new role, which starts Monday. I am just grateful to be out of that old place. Hallelujah! So grateful to just focus on healing now. Your empathy radiates, and this video is spot on. Thank you for helping survivors and not victim blaming those who went through this. You are right that it makes you have self doubt, which is damaging to one's self esteem and career in major ways.
Hey there, thanks for the information. I know it’s going to take me a while to recover from this toxic environment-the culture and the people are really bad. I worked at a place for 15 years where I was the happiest person you could imagine. Now, some people don’t even recognize me; they say I look miserable and stressed, which I know I am. I took this position for a bit more money and to gain experience, but it wasn’t worth it. All I’ve gotten is hurt, pain, and sleepless nights. I’ve been struggling for a while now and am desperately looking for a way out, but it’s very difficult.
Iv decided to leave a toxic job which literally has been affecting my health to shocking levels. I just know it was the best decision to make no matter how much I tired it was never good enough and so much bitchiness from grown women ridiculous I felt like I was back in secondary school
i worked for clinicians and I still struggle with the fact the director and clinical manager manipulating, belittling me, condensing when I worked above and beyond naturally. I stopped being able to do my work at the level due to the constant bullying. and had to quit and be unemployed for 6 months. I hate that they get paid to literally do nothing. Only thing is now that I have left everyone has realized that they are incompetent and all the work they took merit of was mine. It still impacts me today and very difficult to move past it.
I feel I was set up for failure when I came back to work to light-duty from a on the job injury. New managers and employees I got fired with in month. False accusations against me.
I’m suffering imposter syndrome as a transition to retirement. I feel as though the MPH degree was a complete waste of years and money to be stuck in a toxic workplace that limits opportunities for only select employees. Oh man… how I wish I could start over. Too late for everything in my life. No partner, kids, going to retire solo. Your feedback most appreciated.
I raised concerns about a new employee, oh boy that was the trigger and it was all down hill from there. They will group together and use every means available on you until you give up. Also HR is your enemy everytime, they are only there to protect the company and not you.
I am leaving a toxic working environment after 15 years. Its a specialised area. I am 52 and would need to unskill in a different area 😢❤. It's scary being hospitalised 4 times with anxiety, kept going back into it got well, then would get unwell again because of the job. Just can't do it anymore 😢
Thank you so much for this video. I am trying to heal from leaving a toxic work environment where I had people talk down to me like I was stupid, yell at me, and just overall be vile to me. I hate to be /that/ guy and say this but I am literally the nicest person you could work with?? I keep to myself, always friendly/good attitude and always willing to help, so it really boggles my mind and hurts me very deeply that people want to treat me (or others) like that. Then I feel a little pathetic for letting people get to me but I remember I'm human like everyone else! This was a hospital by the way😭 I am a CNA but had to take a big break and work regular jobs after quitting because I was so riddled with anxiety from that experience I told myself I didn't want to do nursing anymore. But I know in my heart that I belong in healthcare, just not there! I am now going for my LPN and I'm excited to be back in this field :) Good luck everyone!! ❤
I know how hard it is!! It took me a while and I think I brought my toxic ptsd to my job after I left the toxic job. Took me a while to get my self worth back
I want to thank you for putting this video up. It was suggested to me right after I turned in my badge and letter of resignation. I worked as a nurse in a jail and while I enjoyed the job itself, the environment was so toxic I would come to work stressed over who would working with me and what they would be gossiping about. I would sit in another room to work or work in the nurses office in the jail unit with the corrections officers. They were my refuge. Other than that, I couldn’t trust anyone and was constantly looking over my shoulder. I’m pretty traumatized from all of that.
Thanks alot for this video as I really need it , leaving a toxic company in the sense that the process is toxic , and things are not moving at all and they expect a contract staff to move things when all the permanent staff are hiding behind , time heals and you need to leave a toxic work place in order to be ready emotionally to perform well in the interview , else it will keep coming back to haunt you
Ive just discovered your channel and subbed. I appreciate your serene and calm delivery compared to other videos on the same topic. Very humane and resonating. ❤ thank you
I am in a toxic workplace and have been bullied over the nearly 5 years I have been here - the management is extremely toxic I’m interviewing in London and I am worried I’ll not be good enough for them even though I passed the first interview and assessments! But a part of me thinks I’m not good enough and I won’t succeed and they’ll fire me.
That’s the hard thing about leaving a toxic workplace. The low self esteem a toxic workplace causes can follow us. Try the tips I mentioned in the video and try to heal. You are amazing and you will do well in your new job. I’m sorry you have been mistreated. I certainly know how that feels 🩷
@@Jamieinjanuary Thank you - I needed to hear this! I will be trying the tips in this video. Sending love to all those who are in similar situations and needed to hear this too- being bullied really does hurt your soul. I think it will take me sometime maybe even years to build myself back up. Maybe in my case my personality made me an easy target!
They're all toxic, what are you talking about?!? Every single job will have people that don't like you, especially if you're a female and you got it going on.
How do I rehabilitate myself from over 26 years of a toxic unfair work place?. I need to stay until March 2025 because tax person and financial planner said my retirement plan is 99% successful as opposed to only 90% if I leave now. I just want to start over. I’ve never received concrete feedback as to the missing skill set. Bottom line: it’s a competitive workplace and I’m at a disadvantage since I’m older (66 years old) and I feel as though there is blatant ageism at play as well as other “isms”. Appreciate any feedback as to how to heal.😊
I had to take time and leave the job. During that time I really had to assess what was important to me. You can find a hobby, Start writing in a journal (which helped me discover what was bothering me). I used to draw and I stopped so I was instructed to start that back up. Take a break from social media and spend more time making your space/ house look fresh and clutter free. See a therapist. I do not know where you live but Zocdoc has on line therapist that you can just zoom or call!
This is so helpful! Thank you for your advice. I'm retiring early because of this exact situation. Do you think it is worth it to tell my supervisor or just keep it on a positive, superficial level?
How can you deal with a toxic environment at school... How can you deal with that when the management itself is weak and can't do anything to stop a bunch of students who are selfish, loser and a failure and want to make you a scapegoat to their faliure.
I just walked out in the midst of being disrespected. I wasn't having it anymore, especially when I've done nothing but try to help improve that place.
Good for you! Yes!
I left a toxic workplace where I was mobbed. The manager was one of the bullies. I have frequent flashbacks. I’ve been advocating for workplace bullying bills and telling my story.
Likewise. It's been 13 years for me and can't get over it.
Me too 😢@@999timepass
@@999timepass Take revenge even if it was decades ago. You are going to feel better.
According to Setyan Law, a 2023 statistical survey:
75% of employees have witnessed workplace bullying behavior.
62% of workplace bullying cases result in the resignation of the victim.
70% of the time, the bully is the one who remains with the company while the victim leaves.
Only 5% of reported workplace-bullying cases have successful conciliations.
Only 1% of workplace bullying victims end up confronting their perpetrators.
61% of workplace bullies are supervisors, and 33% are co-workers.
71% of workplace bullies act alone, and 29% bully in groups.
Sad, but when I read the title of this video "Toxic Work Environment" I knew nursing would be in it. Nurses, whew!
We are quite the bunch!
I am retiring. From a toxic workplace. It is a local health department. Im too angry and resentful I can’t even write about it.
I am happy to hear you are getting away from it. That type of environment affects us deeply!
I am having a forced retirement due to my toxic work environment. 2 years of being unsupported in a new trust and first management position. I am beyond disgusted now that I let them make my health suffer.
Walking away is the only option when this happens but not without involving your union and having it all raised to the top of the chain.
I left a toxic workplace over a year ago. I still have anxiety panic attacks, sleepless nights, headaches with blackouts, can’t eat or feel sick snd throw up after eating foods I was able to watch fine as a child. In addition to bullying, ostracisation, gaslighting and humiliation, crimes were committed that get hushed over to protect the companies reputation. I do not trust companies and will never work for a company again
It’s so true that a toxic work place can destroy you! I know!
I stayed at a toxic environment for 13 years and left last May. I am experiencing what I dubbed “exit wounds” bc I am surprised at how it still affects me and how sad I am that I stayed so long and about everything I experienced.
I’m so sorry! It took me a while to heal too.
I was in a toxic workplace for 7 years. Left it 13 months ago and and finally just starting to recover….
It really takes a toll on us!
It took me over a year to recover, and I still have flashbacks from the experience and nightmares about my managers.
You know toxic work environments are so hurtful! Literally destroying our self esteem. I’m so sorry you went through that.
Ugh, it’s not even been a month since I was “let go” from my toxic job and I just had an interview for another role and feel like I totally bombed it because my confidence is so damn shot right now. 😢
@@twinbulls1980I feel the same.
I got terminated after standing up to my toxic management
I’m so sorry! Something much better will come to you!
Put in my resignation today, I will not carry anyone’s baggage!
Yes! It’s not worth your time if you are miserable!
You will heal!
Thank you. I left a toxic workplace where I was bullied and gaslit by management 6 months ago. I am still healing and in recovery from the trauma. Your video helped. Thank you
I know how that trauma can last and carry over!
Just left a toxic job, this is so validating. Thank you.
Thank you 🙏
Thank you for the video. It was too late for me and I hit chronic burnout, thought I had a brain tumour. Just shows the strong can still get caught in the toxicity. Once I asked myself who am I thats when I realised these people were never my kind of people, no support, felt alone and always giving to my team but my bucket dried up because it never was replenished. Look after yourself is what I have learnt but dont back down get your union involved and get it all known and out there, thats my parting gift I am going through. Its the culture and name and shame.
So true! The stress mimicking illness and injury!!
It’s been a month for me since it ended. So good to read thru the comments and know I’m not alone.
Thank you for saying talk to yourself as you talk to your best friend. In the past month I doubled my efforts to talk to others and help others. What I have been telling others were so much more kind than what I told myself
True! Positive self talk is important!
Videos like this are so much needed. Sometimes you're being gaslit so hard, you need someone to point it out to you.
So true! It can be subtle and if one has any insecurities it can almost make sense to you for a while! So hard!
Absolutely. Toxic people will find a way to build on your insecurities.
Coming up on 5 yrs of retirement. I left a very toxic work environment in mammography. Lots of gossip. Tribes. I over worked….came in early to turn on machines etc. Stayed to do the last patient as I was single and others married w kids etc. Drinking a bottle of wine became the norm. Few months later I quit at age 68. 5 yrs later my nervous system is finally calmed down. It took that long. So I relate to Jamie talking about what our bodies are going thru. I drink now and then w long periods of time of sobriety. I’d like to stop for good. So I’ll keep listening to Jamie! ….a God thing cuz this am she just popped up on my feed and it’s exactly what I need!
So hard!
I recently retired after 30 years in cardiac critical care. It was a world of stress and often toxic. I turned to alcohol as an escape and am now fighting for a life of sobriety. Have now gone 1 week without any booze after many years of abuse. These videos are really helping me cope and stay strong. Thanks greatly Dr. Jamie!
@@Jay-xb6nc i worked in health care all my life too. First at a large teaching hospital in Los Angeles, then transferred to a local Public Health department (i have a masters degree in public health). I’ve always worked for large bureaucratic government organizations. The competition for professional positions was fierce. I am single, no children so I felt obligated to take care of my future so i only worked for pension organizations. OMG…people never cease to amaze me how low they can get. I stayed 26 years in the same program without the opportunity for promotion because geographically the programs were so spread out over the city. It’s too complicated… suffice to say…the croneyism is palpable.
I left a toxic work place a few days ago. Oh my goodness I never thought I’d go through that again. I cried soo much while I was still there, yes I was worried when I left but I felt instant relief when I left. I’ve involved Jesus Christ on my healing journey. Reading the word, loving on myself, working out and lots of sleep is working in my favor
This is wonderful! I hope you heal and never look back!
Unfortunatelly, hospitals looks like the worst work environments ever, main reason is that it’s not a happy place to work and the routine is so stressfull
So stressful
I just got fired from a hospital 11/22/24. I stood up to the bullies & that’s just not allowed.
@owllady88x8 go girl. Bully's don't like being confronted, it damages their ego. I am heading out the door of my nursing toxic workplace. Would not recommend the NHS to anyone.
Hello, left a toxic job 2 years and 8 months ago, it was the most liberating experience and relief I'd ever felt. The place was and likely still is a hellish nightmare place to be. I experienced almost all of these things you talked about.
I'm almost to where I believe in myself again now and were I am thriving.
Thank you.
I’m so glad to hear you are healing! ❤️🩹
I blindly accepted a position and 4 months in, I’m regretting it. I’m ready to put in my resignation, give myself a day of grace, and a chance to find the right fit.
So hard! You will find the right fit!
I get it 😢 I am sorry that you are going through this Erin you don't deserve it.
Thank you...going through this now...insanity. No one understands. I appreciate your compassion.❤
You are so welcome!
Thank you Im getting over this toxic work place with a bully so much anxiety and sleepless nights
It takes a while to heal
Im going to write the letter to my former self but do you have any ideas moving forward? I worked as a caregiver at a assisted living I was so excited to start the job as my mom just passed and I had taken care of her in her terminal days . I was so good at taking care of the elderly but when I got to this one place most of the other caregivers were decent to me except there were a few problems , there was a specific jamacian woman who for some reason over time insulted me and called me out continuously , confronting me and slandering me that I was a lazy caregiver and never cleaned the residents properly she would make fun of me and berate me, I was absloultely floored on how to handle this I hadn't been treated this blantably rude since the grammar school play ground,being a people pleaser this was hard. I have a friendly personality and hadnt really had anyone have this much disdain and hostility toward me openly in my adult life. I had so much anxiety when I knew I had to see her which was daily. I again tried everything being friendly and trying to joke with her and even trying to talk with her and stand up to her . I remember one day I said Hi to her in front of the building and she yelled at me never to say hi to her in front of the building again alot of people had this issue with her but she really targeted me . She really clearly hated me . Managment liked her and she kissed up to them making jamaican food for them . I had to quit nothing was working they wouldnt do anything about her I was beginning to have sleeplness nights plus a fellow caregiver friend was so moody she had a love hate relationship with me ,one minute she wouldnt talk to me for days then she was fine. I was so full of dread and anxiety working there I couldnt sleep anymore. What advice do you have if I run into to someone this blatantly hostile and nothing works again? It was so toxic and unprofessional there I dont think theres many places that bad but since then Im uping my education to higher pay and more professional places in a different field. I dont think theres alot of places like this were you literally feel like your in jail and going to get beat up by the inmates. I was also the only white one working there which may have had something to do with it. AGAIN its really to bad because I was so excited to start that job especially since it was right next door. I think a letter to move on would be good but any advice in the future when if I run into someone who has pure openly disdain for me and theres nothing I can do?
@@Jamieinjanuary I left a very long message did you delete it?
Left a toxic workplace after 14 years. I never had dreams/nightmares about the place until I left it, and now have them regularly.
A toxic workplace is so hard to recover from!
Dreams are one of the ways to heal. We can do it! Good luck
How do you cope if you left a toxic environment of 25 years in a row, and basically all your previous jobs were toxic and you are severely burnt out? How do you find a new job? How do you go to work again when you cannot get out of bed and there is noone who is there for you?
That is a vod I would like to watch.
I will work on making a video on this topic because it is so hard. When we are hurt in a toxic work environment we take that toxicity with us. So learning to let that go with grounding work (journaling, meditation, exercise and being in nature ect..) can help. You need to heal and that takes work. There is a RUclipsr named Jennifer Brick and she makes a lot of videos on toxic work environments and healing. ❤️🩹
I’m currently working in a hospital that is toxic it’s been nine months of hell it’s affecting me physically and mentally I’m looking for other work haven’t found it. I work with a bunch of ass wipes who bully me and I will be sueing the hospital if they fire me tomorrow due to me being in a protected class/disability. I left a job that I really loved to take this hospital job to try to learn about my career, catch up on bills to save my dog who had malicious cancer and my dog died recently what a shit show I got myself into. I feel like a real idiot myself. Thank you for the video it helped.
I’m so sorry! I made this video because I really suffered too and it is sooo hard! Obviously the toxic behaviors are all about them and not you but that really doesn’t help! It feels so bad and can hurt your self esteem so much! Sorry you have to go through all of this and I’m so sorry to hear about your sweet doggie ❤️🩹
I was bullied and abused during my postdoc by my supervisors and when I reported it to the university, I was mobbed by the supervisors and the university administration.
I’m so sorry to hear this.
@@Jamieinjanuary doing a lot better now. Thank you. Improving by the day. I feel like what saved me was knowing what was happening to me. I read Janice Harper's book and realised that I was mobbed by the same uni admin. she was mobbed by. I also tried to read Complaint by Sarah Ahmed, but it was too hard to read since it triggers a lot. For anyone being mobbed in academia, just get out and leave asap.
Yesterday was my last day at the toxic job! ❤ Yes I am worried about 'carryover' of the tension and mistrust in my new role, which starts Monday. I am just grateful to be out of that old place. Hallelujah! So grateful to just focus on healing now. Your empathy radiates, and this video is spot on. Thank you for helping survivors and not victim blaming those who went through this. You are right that it makes you have self doubt, which is damaging to one's self esteem and career in major ways.
Doesn’t it?! It takes alot to heal! I hope your new job is going well!
Hey there, thanks for the information. I know it’s going to take me a while to recover from this toxic environment-the culture and the people are really bad. I worked at a place for 15 years where I was the happiest person you could imagine. Now, some people don’t even recognize me; they say I look miserable and stressed, which I know I am. I took this position for a bit more money and to gain experience, but it wasn’t worth it. All I’ve gotten is hurt, pain, and sleepless nights. I’ve been struggling for a while now and am desperately looking for a way out, but it’s very difficult.
I’m so sorry! I completely understand! A toxic workplace really messes with you! Ruined me! I hope you get yourself back ♥️
That is such an important topic!
It really is! I look back on my experience and am amazed at how damaging it really was.
Iv decided to leave a toxic job which literally has been affecting my health to shocking levels. I just know it was the best decision to make no matter how much I tired it was never good enough and so much bitchiness from grown women ridiculous I felt like I was back in secondary school
It’s amazing how stress affects our health!
i worked for clinicians and I still struggle with the fact the director and clinical manager manipulating, belittling me, condensing when I worked above and beyond naturally. I stopped being able to do my work at the level due to the constant bullying. and had to quit and be unemployed for 6 months. I hate that they get paid to literally do nothing. Only thing is now that I have left everyone has realized that they are incompetent and all the work they took merit of was mine. It still impacts me today and very difficult to move past it.
It really is hard to move past. It’s also hard not to take it with you to the next job! I’m so sorry you had to go through that!
@@Jamieinjanuary My new job the people are very lovely. So good workplaces and managers do exist. Don't be afraid to leave and find your people!
I feel I was set up for failure when I came back to work to light-duty from a on the job injury. New managers and employees I got fired with in month. False accusations against me.
I’m so sorry! 😞
I’m suffering imposter syndrome as a transition to retirement. I feel as though the MPH degree was a complete waste of years and money to be stuck in a toxic workplace that limits opportunities for only select employees. Oh man… how I wish I could start over. Too late for everything in my life. No partner, kids, going to retire solo. Your feedback most appreciated.
I raised concerns about a new employee, oh boy that was the trigger and it was all down hill from there. They will group together and use every means available on you until you give up. Also HR is your enemy everytime, they are only there to protect the company and not you.
I agree. ☝️
I am leaving a toxic working environment after 15 years. Its a specialised area. I am 52 and would need to unskill in a different area 😢❤. It's scary being hospitalised 4 times with anxiety, kept going back into it got well, then would get unwell again because of the job. Just can't do it anymore 😢
It’s not worth it
Wow, just went through this! 6 months free🙏
So free!!!!
Thank you so much for this video. I am trying to heal from leaving a toxic work environment where I had people talk down to me like I was stupid, yell at me, and just overall be vile to me. I hate to be /that/ guy and say this but I am literally the nicest person you could work with?? I keep to myself, always friendly/good attitude and always willing to help, so it really boggles my mind and hurts me very deeply that people want to treat me (or others) like that. Then I feel a little pathetic for letting people get to me but I remember I'm human like everyone else!
This was a hospital by the way😭 I am a CNA but had to take a big break and work regular jobs after quitting because I was so riddled with anxiety from that experience I told myself I didn't want to do nursing anymore. But I know in my heart that I belong in healthcare, just not there! I am now going for my LPN and I'm excited to be back in this field :)
Good luck everyone!! ❤
I know how hard it is!! It took me a while and I think I brought my toxic ptsd to my job after I left the toxic job. Took me a while to get my self worth back
I want to thank you for putting this video up. It was suggested to me right after I turned in my badge and letter of resignation. I worked as a nurse in a jail and while I enjoyed the job itself, the environment was so toxic I would come to work stressed over who would working with me and what they would be gossiping about. I would sit in another room to work or work in the nurses office in the jail unit with the corrections officers. They were my refuge. Other than that, I couldn’t trust anyone and was constantly looking over my shoulder. I’m pretty traumatized from all of that.
I’m a nurse too! I’m glad you got out!
Thanks alot for this video as I really need it , leaving a toxic company in the sense that the process is toxic , and things are not moving at all and they expect a contract staff to move things when all the permanent staff are hiding behind , time heals and you need to leave a toxic work place in order to be ready emotionally to perform well in the interview , else it will keep coming back to haunt you
Time does heal but it not right that work can be so harmful!
Try working temp agencies or sub Jobs. Uber. Lyft. Instacaet. Home daycare. Anything where you don’t have to be around the same people everyday.
That is true! Did you leave a toxic work environment and found that type of work a good solution?
Ive just discovered your channel and subbed. I appreciate your serene and calm delivery compared to other videos on the same topic. Very humane and resonating. ❤ thank you
Thank you!😊
Good luck to you.
Thank you 🙏🏻
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I am in a toxic workplace and have been bullied over the nearly 5 years I have been here - the management is extremely toxic I’m interviewing in London and I am worried I’ll not be good enough for them even though I passed the first interview and assessments! But a part of me thinks I’m not good enough and I won’t succeed and they’ll fire me.
That’s the hard thing about leaving a toxic workplace. The low self esteem a toxic workplace causes can follow us. Try the tips I mentioned in the video and try to heal. You are amazing and you will do well in your new job. I’m sorry you have been mistreated. I certainly know how that feels 🩷
@@Jamieinjanuary Thank you - I needed to hear this! I will be trying the tips in this video. Sending love to all those who are in similar situations and needed to hear this too- being bullied really does hurt your soul. I think it will take me sometime maybe even years to build myself back up. Maybe in my case my personality made me an easy target!
Thanks you
This video is really helpful
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you ❤
Thank you for watching and you comment ❤️
Beautiful video❤
Thank you!!
They're all toxic, what are you talking about?!? Every single job will have people that don't like you, especially if you're a female and you got it going on.
You have a point!
😢damn 😩
I knew I liked you.
The Charlize Theron reference was hilarious 😂..
Thanks for the useful tips. ❤
Glad you liked it!
How do I rehabilitate myself from over 26 years of a toxic unfair work place?. I need to stay until March 2025 because tax person and financial planner said my retirement plan is 99% successful as opposed to only 90% if I leave now. I just want to start over. I’ve never received concrete feedback as to the missing skill set. Bottom line: it’s a competitive workplace and I’m at a disadvantage since I’m older (66 years old) and I feel as though there is blatant ageism at play as well as other “isms”. Appreciate any feedback as to how to heal.😊
I had to take time and leave the job. During that time I really had to assess what was important to me. You can find a hobby, Start writing in a journal (which helped me discover what was bothering me). I used to draw and I stopped so I was instructed to start that back up. Take a break from social media and spend more time making your space/ house look fresh and clutter free. See a therapist. I do not know where you live but Zocdoc has on line therapist that you can just zoom or call!
Or ganging up on you, like 2 against 1. High school bullshit, jeez get over yourself. 😑
This is so helpful! Thank you for your advice. I'm retiring early because of this exact situation. Do you think it is worth it to tell my supervisor or just keep it on a positive, superficial level?
That depends. Superficial is what I’d go with
Dutch bros coffee is the most abusive company I’ve ever worked for.
I won’t go there then!
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What about when you cannot leave, cz it's a University degree? Any advice? Literally anyone...omg please.
I am about to make a video on that! Stay tuned :)
How can you deal with a toxic environment at school... How can you deal with that when the management itself is weak and can't do anything to stop a bunch of students who are selfish, loser and a failure and want to make you a scapegoat to their faliure.
Are you a teacher? For me as a teacher I just make sure I have very clear expectations and documentation
@@Jamieinjanuary no unfortunately I'm not. I'm a student
One of my favorite forms of manipulation ????
Did that come out wrong? I meant because it's so bad. I guess my sarcasm did not come across well. Thank you!
Just get a new job that pays same or more move on to much going on in the world to do that !