Exs only come back for 2 reasons after a breakup

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  • Опубликовано: 5 фев 2023

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  • @blackenigma6777
    @blackenigma6777 Год назад +4818

    I have a 3rd one. When they realise the person they pursued after dumping you isn't as good as you.

    • @lawyer93
      @lawyer93 Год назад +72

      True!

    • @GiovanniMartinez-gn7sc
      @GiovanniMartinez-gn7sc Год назад +27

      Yup

    • @najmahabrahams856
      @najmahabrahams856 Год назад +84

      I’m the best thing that ever happened to the x 😃 took me 8& half years but I did it.. now he’s the one chasing… thank you amazing coach Blac 🙏 appreciation & respect always 🦋💫

    • @rambojohnj.6117
      @rambojohnj.6117 Год назад +93

      That’s fear. That no future partner will be as good as you.

    • @ericprater8335
      @ericprater8335 Год назад +96

      I feel a correction is needed here on many people's behalf you mean the person they pursued before they dumped you

  • @anskubansku5614
    @anskubansku5614 Год назад +2498

    3rd one goes.. they only come back when they failed to replace you

    • @tracywalton6948
      @tracywalton6948 Год назад +19

      Facts!!!

    • @earthexplorer1
      @earthexplorer1 Год назад +17

      That's a good one!

    • @lisathomas7719
      @lisathomas7719 Год назад +6

      I was just about to put this in there also , 2 great mindz think alike !
      And its true , ive had 3 of my ex partners literally even go as far as to cry N say how stupid it was of them to screw over a good woman for the sake of a 5 min fling that meant nothing at all to them , and will u pls give me another chance i promise you this / that it'll never happen again you have my word , i said yes N so did you the day i gave it to you and here we are 12 yrs together with one N wanted me to go back to NZ to live with him ( due to the fact he was deported and screwed up any chance of returning to australia ) so a double whammy actually 3 lol , including the fact he slept with a bitch .

    • @troyboy1974
      @troyboy1974 Год назад +1

      Absolutely!

    • @bihmthethird
      @bihmthethird Год назад +2

      Yep 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

  • @donnaholton1981
    @donnaholton1981 Год назад +1908

    Narcissist don’t change they just change people.

    • @ChamStar625
      @ChamStar625 Год назад +20

      💯💯💯

    • @betsyakoko6810
      @betsyakoko6810 Год назад +30

      On point you can't srub a leopard to remove the dorts

    • @torianosegars2995
      @torianosegars2995 Год назад +5

      Do they change ppl for the good or for the bad?

    • @changeoffocus1074
      @changeoffocus1074 Год назад +35

      Is it me or are narcissist psychopaths??
      Or very similar!!!

    • @esthero1994
      @esthero1994 Год назад +6

      ​@@changeoffocus1074 very similar..a few diff characteristics but for the most part same. A psycopath is harder to spot than a narco.

  • @carmolina
    @carmolina Год назад +593

    I can’t deal with failed relationships anymore. It makes a person feel mentally impaired. I’d rather be alone. This takes a toll on your soul.

    • @manda-panda
      @manda-panda Год назад +32

      It really does Sis

    • @kc8639
      @kc8639 Год назад +22

      I hear that!! It really does hurt in ways that only we know. My soul feels sick. Why would I want to subject myself to more of this. If they ran from you once they will do it again and most likely the ONLY reason they come back is because they ran to someone else and blew up in their face.

    • @Po5itivemind5et
      @Po5itivemind5et 6 месяцев назад +7

      and the issue is if you stay reserved it takes a toll on the relationship you literally cant win

    • @eternallyellese
      @eternallyellese 6 месяцев назад +9

      Pain teaches us so much, and we always can learn more about ourselves through the people who have taught us. We can always heal 😊

    • @carmolina
      @carmolina 6 месяцев назад

      @@eternallyellese I agree. Pain has taught me a lot about who I really am.

  • @Prettygirlblessed
    @Prettygirlblessed Год назад +411

    They can’t find anyone to replace you when they realize It’s more than just sex and whatever superficial things they made themselves believe. You were the shit and no one can replace you …… Reality hit them after all the fun and games… to bad I know my worth and not taking you back. ….

    • @lanac7974
      @lanac7974 Год назад +23

      You have the best comment on here…the realize they left for a 20

    • @busybee2033
      @busybee2033 Год назад +7

      ​@@lanac7974
      Yeah that part

    • @manda-panda
      @manda-panda Год назад

      Yep, left for some loose booty, low hanging fruit. Some off brand btch, as Coach Warren Mcfadden likes to say 🤣

    • @winecrimesfoodandtime7119
      @winecrimesfoodandtime7119 9 месяцев назад

      Yep not to nasty drug addict

    • @stevenmonaghan1301
      @stevenmonaghan1301 29 дней назад +1

      Boss

  • @dyankee16
    @dyankee16 Год назад +658

    I don’t even want my ex back. There’s no point digging in the trash once you already put it on the curb

    • @YAHsChild412TX
      @YAHsChild412TX Год назад +8

      Facts!!!

    • @Lboogs7
      @Lboogs7 Год назад +3

      Did u dump her or did she let you go?!

    • @dyankee16
      @dyankee16 Год назад +6

      @@Lboogs7 I dumped her

    • @aqua6613
      @aqua6613 Год назад +9

      ​@@dyankee16 ego talk...you lying 😆

    • @dyankee16
      @dyankee16 Год назад +16

      @@aqua6613 don’t need to do that my guy. I just don’t tolerate disrespect. I respect my time too much

  • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
    @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 10 месяцев назад +352

    Never take back someone who shows you how little they care about your happiness!

    • @bryanpineda5118
      @bryanpineda5118 8 месяцев назад +9

      💯

    • @teejaytanya
      @teejaytanya 3 месяца назад +3

      Louder🗣️ for🗣️ the 🗣️cheap🗣️ seats🗣️ in 🗣️the 🗣️back!!!🗣️

  • @rsaunderst
    @rsaunderst Год назад +587

    My Ex is walking away. I don't want him back. I realize that he never loved me in the first place. I will not contact him for nothing. I must learn to love myself more.

    • @jordanh.5182
      @jordanh.5182 Год назад +24

      In the same boat. Stay strong and remember your worth. Keep moving forward ❤️

    • @rsaunderst
      @rsaunderst Год назад +2

      @@jordanh.5182 Good morning. 🙏❤️

    • @mellabeautynyc8587
      @mellabeautynyc8587 Год назад +14

      Same. I chose myself 💯‼️

    • @allthingsjana7870
      @allthingsjana7870 Год назад +5

      Also chose myself

    • @Donna9852
      @Donna9852 Год назад +5

      What are you doing? I do great for a few months and then I end up texting him again but then I find out. It’s sad all over again. Is it just an addiction because you know the person so well I keep doubting it and saying what if?

  • @kashondemand356
    @kashondemand356 Год назад +308

    I have a 4th reason. They are determined to save their relationship by coming back cause sometimes relationships can be rebuilt if both parties are on the same page . It's nothing wrong with wanting to make things right with the right person . GOD Bless 🙏🏾

    • @SabrinaDacosta
      @SabrinaDacosta Год назад +16

      Yeah like 10 years down the road though

    • @alphablaqog
      @alphablaqog 9 месяцев назад +46

      @@SabrinaDacostamine came back a week ago after blocking me on everything imaginable. We were just two broken individuals that needed time away from each other to really realize we couldn’t live without each other

    • @fartmnms
      @fartmnms 9 месяцев назад +17

      Depends on the issue, some things can only be forgiven but not forgotten

    • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
      @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 8 месяцев назад +6

      @@alphablaqog You got lucky. Everyone is different. I had one ex come back after one month and *HE* and *I* were abusive to each other. This last one, oh Lord, is acting like I killed his pet!

    • @alaalfa8839
      @alaalfa8839 8 месяцев назад

      Women or men may not be bad people....... but experts on neuroscience explain that negative emotions and thoughts are very addictive for the brain and neuron network, therefore people come back to experience wrong thoughts emotions and habits because their brain is addicted to the chemicals of brain........ Every thought and emotion creates a chemical in the brain... the stronger the emotion the greater the chemical addiction it creates in your brain, so your body and subconscious mind are craving these habits and experiences...... These people just need therapy or change their habits within a few months. and also it's very helpful to practice meditation and metacognition...practicing love empathy and gratitude helps you to feel more energy in your body and mind and creates values with people.......People may not be bad, but they have a lack of knowledge. Knowledge affects your motivation and creates beliefs and values.

  • @Awilli9071
    @Awilli9071 Год назад +530

    They will also come back if they want to hurt you some more. They want to turn the knife one more time. Why? Because you haven't previously set any boundaries.

    • @SKRooU2
      @SKRooU2 Год назад

      Narcissism rears its ugly head

    • @w.m9494
      @w.m9494 Год назад +23

      I experienced this 3 years ago. Destroyed my life. But lesson learnt.

    • @Gods_Got_My_Six
      @Gods_Got_My_Six Год назад +43

      I don't get why people like to hurt people they're supposed to love.

    • @jacijune
      @jacijune Год назад +3

      yessssss

    • @jacijune
      @jacijune Год назад +29

      ​@@Gods_Got_My_Six because they never loved you in the first place.

  • @ECA2
    @ECA2 Год назад +762

    Once they become an Ex, there's no return. Cut connections. Move on. Replace them with someone better.

    • @1984Akeem
      @1984Akeem Год назад +25

      What if you never find anyone better?

    • @FreshUF
      @FreshUF Год назад +93

      @@1984Akeem It’s all in your head! Get more self esteem!

    • @susanplatt5331
      @susanplatt5331 Год назад +5

      What does it mean when you get rid and they pursue you 30 year's later?

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. Год назад +21

      ​@@susanplatt5331 I think it means she's single and desperate.

    • @WishesandWonder
      @WishesandWonder Год назад +54

      @@1984Akeem you’re putting your ex on a pedestal. They aren’t as perfect as you are creating in your mind. There’s always someone better!

  • @hollandmarielleTV
    @hollandmarielleTV Год назад +226

    Exes will also come back because they are bored. If you had no boundaries before they will return to see if you still have none. Exes will come back because the honeymoon is over with the person they were with after you and you are a familiar place to return to. They may return for payback, or to ask for forgiveness and another chance or maybe return just to see if you’re making it without them. Exes return for an infinite amount of reasons. Way more than only 2.

    • @angelluv9818
      @angelluv9818 Год назад +7

      BAM

    • @starzz7235
      @starzz7235 11 месяцев назад +3

      This is true sadly

    • @TruSwen93
      @TruSwen93 10 месяцев назад +1

      U talking about one example. It doesnt mean everybody is the same. Your ex was a narcissist 90%

    • @carlel121
      @carlel121 4 месяца назад +3

      Not everyone leave you for someone else and I have proof of that.

    • @karenk2409
      @karenk2409 3 месяца назад +1

      Mainly because they got one over on you the first time around, and figure you can be used again.

  • @kristinej.4182
    @kristinej.4182 Год назад +504

    EXs are EXs for a reason. They never loved. They only used us. They only think about themselves!

    • @topesmcgoat
      @topesmcgoat Год назад +14

      Fear is stronger than love. - Tupac

    • @shawny979
      @shawny979 Год назад +1

      Exactly..

    • @TruSwen93
      @TruSwen93 10 месяцев назад +10

      Its not true for everybody :)

    • @ULTIMATEUNITED2000
      @ULTIMATEUNITED2000 7 месяцев назад +11

      Hate that saying. Shut up pls. X are x for a reason is BS. You loved or love them at a point in time, a mistake happened or you fell out of love. Doesnt mean you cannot love them again. Just unfortunately after the fact people put too high a wall up, 🧱 , let ego or pride not want them to message you or they become disrespectful. Play stupid games win stupid prices. If you were dumped (dumpee) best to try move on let them make and effort. If you were dumper, you message make an effort if you want them back. Simple

    • @try2justbe
      @try2justbe 3 месяца назад

      Not always!

  • @humbleugoo8306
    @humbleugoo8306 Год назад +209

    I learned in the hard way! Never go back to an ex. never take back an ex. You already know how is going to end

  • @kybeastmode
    @kybeastmode Год назад +102

    Remember if your going to take someone back you make sure they love you harder than when they walked away.

    • @beachysmeachy_
      @beachysmeachy_ Год назад +7

      i appreciate this comment!

    • @greatnesss104
      @greatnesss104 11 месяцев назад

      I Cant thank #Divinelovespell02 for bringing back my partner after 2years of separating. this is a miracle;;

    • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
      @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 8 месяцев назад +16

      But the thing is: how do you *TRUST* someone who broke that TRUST again?! They said that past behavior is the best indicator of current one. I don't always agree, but there IS that thing still in the back of my mind. How do I know they have truly learned to appreciate me, value me and not take me for granted and do things right this time??!

    • @philangezwitebethusi9364
      @philangezwitebethusi9364 7 месяцев назад +5

      ​@@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858When a lion is hungry it hunts and doesn't stop until it finds food or starves to death, it doesn't begin eating grass. You'll know.

    • @Janine466
      @Janine466 4 месяца назад

      Once a cheater always a cheater​@@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858

  • @Qu33nB.
    @Qu33nB. Год назад +44

    You only miss the high when you're feeling low. You only miss the rain when it starts to snow. You only love em when you let em go❤️

  • @beet5800
    @beet5800 Год назад +154

    Another reason: You are a good woman! 👍 Unforgettable!

  • @Simouno
    @Simouno Год назад +67

    There's only reason, they haven't found a better option

    • @greatnesss104
      @greatnesss104 11 месяцев назад +1

      I Cant thank #Divinelovespell02 for bringing back my partner after 2years of separating. this is a miracle.{}{}

    • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
      @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 8 месяцев назад +6

      Even then, some exes egos will NEVER let that happen. I don't think at least it would apply to my last ex.

  • @EmmaJames-sv6pp
    @EmmaJames-sv6pp Месяц назад +22

    This man is real after seeing all the comments and asking for help. I see that my prayers are coming true Thank you Dr OLUWASEUN🤗

  • @fjetcj
    @fjetcj Год назад +57

    My husband and I have been married 10 years now. We split up 3 times early on. You never know the damage someone is packing, and you definitely don't understand how love moves mountains unless you've been really loved by someone.
    It really depends on the issues, traumas, and personalities but damn I got lucky, BLESSED, to have such a beautiful marriage and relationship in life today. Both people have to be committed in elevating each other to higher levels of thinking. Remember, in a relationship you are not adversaries, you are advocates. Be your partner's advocate, not adversary.

    • @beachysmeachy_
      @beachysmeachy_ Год назад +5

      Can I just say that I can relate! My partner and I have been together 9 years in November. The first four years were a bit rocky and like your relationship, early on we split 3 times as well.
      it does depend on the issues, traumas or whatever obstacles are attached to a specific relarionship, to know whether to fight or leave.
      I too am blessed to have this relationship in my life. We are not married but I don’t believe you have to be married in order to have commitment. Our commitment is being shown every day!
      Anyway, I enjoyed reading your post.

    • @fjetcj
      @fjetcj Год назад +3

      @@beachysmeachy_ thank you, that's really great you've got a solid relationship. It takes a long time...Most of us are hurt a few times before finding something real.

    • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
      @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 8 месяцев назад

      Aww I'm glad you got lucky... at least someone did! I never wanted to be treated like an enemy but my ex...

    • @Lotus19
      @Lotus19 Месяц назад +1

      It’s encouraging to read your message because I was married for 28 yrs and divorced now for 13 yrs. I REALLY have NEVER LOVED ANYONE AS much as my EX HUSBAND! I have dated very little since the divorce and thought that I had moved forward and I have until recently I THINK OF MY EX DAILY! We have 2 adult son’s and we do talk sometimes about our son’s but NEVER about US! I’ve dreamed of him and DAILY THINK ABOUT HIM! He and I were the BEST OF FRIENDS! I MISS THE FRIENDSHIP AND MARRIAGE!

    • @maquise12
      @maquise12 Месяц назад

      Both of U give me hope, my ex & I are H.S. sweethearts '86, on & off for yrs., crazy thing is we've never broken up we just walk away it used to hurt but not anymore​ I just enjoy the good times when we're together ... In this day & age I don't even wanna meet anyone new, ppl now are crazy, I know his crazy 😜 @@beachysmeachy_

  • @SHEMAGK
    @SHEMAGK Год назад +119

    Currently 3 weeks since we haven’t spoke. Not calling him and if he calls I will ignore his calls until maybe second or third time he tries . I have always been the nice girl that’s always available and loyal but that gets me nowhere. I’m literally never going to change my heart because I know I’m rare and made of Gold but I’m also not going to waste my energy on someone that takes me for granted.

    • @ashantalomax2421
      @ashantalomax2421 Год назад +13

      Ignore it don’t let him come back or talk his was back at ALL

    • @GSXR750wx
      @GSXR750wx Год назад +11

      Block him and thank me in a few weeks time.

    • @Jason-ek5ri
      @Jason-ek5ri Год назад +23

      Do what's best for you! Don't listen to these comments! They don't know the WHOLE story! Only you do.

    • @musclemuseumm7517
      @musclemuseumm7517 Год назад

      remember WHY you left it. he wasn’t good enough/he betrayed you or cheated on you/he lied to you/ he was mistreating or abusing you.
      men are b1tches to women they love. remember that.

    • @k.c9002
      @k.c9002 Год назад

      Update?

  • @markour-parkour1918
    @markour-parkour1918 3 месяца назад +38

    If they decide to leave, that’s on them, respect their wishes and move on. I don’t have time for people that don’t want to be a part of my life anymore.

    • @RitahNash-yg3yf
      @RitahNash-yg3yf Месяц назад +1

      𝑰 𝒔𝒖𝒑𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖

  • @cherrylynn7173
    @cherrylynn7173 Год назад +159

    Big problem is… they typically don’t change so don’t look back

    • @thecorruptedcat989
      @thecorruptedcat989 Год назад +12

      They absolutely damn don't! I can be crying from the flood gates of heaven and still no change!

    • @nancyrivera8201
      @nancyrivera8201 Год назад +8

      People don’t change. Only circumstances and age change but people remain the same

  • @Smooveandpretty
    @Smooveandpretty Год назад +247

    😂😂😂 how about finding someone that’s gonna treat you good instead of chasing a shitty ex.

    • @zaraham4405
      @zaraham4405 Год назад +14

      Yes girl we don't have time and energy for that shitt. 👏

    • @fahim618
      @fahim618 Год назад +2

      You have answer in your question. If he is shitty then yeah why chasing?

    • @kimberlys347
      @kimberlys347 Год назад +2

      Much better use of energy 😂

  • @calebruffin
    @calebruffin Год назад +38

    I love how all my ex's that broke up with me been regretting it for the rest of their lives lol

    • @rondas7772
      @rondas7772 Год назад +4

      Yep same here

    • @jennag3226
      @jennag3226 Год назад +4

      Lol...had my daughters father come back knocking on my door telling me he made a mistake letting me go over 20 years ago. Asking me if I'd consider being with him again bc I'm "the best person he knows." Mind you this man is married. 😂

    • @calebruffin
      @calebruffin Год назад

      @@jennag3226 obviously this guy was a poor choice on both of you behalf. You dropped him for his red flags and now his wife needs to do the same. I’m not seeing the correlation here.

    • @calebruffin
      @calebruffin Год назад +5

      Just kidding I was called everything from controlling to being a narcissist all because I run my house like a well oiled machine. If you don’t want to be successful you don’t get on this ride.

    • @rondas7772
      @rondas7772 Год назад +2

      @@jennag3226 that's not funny, it's insulting that he even approached you

  • @BluDrop5
    @BluDrop5 Год назад +51

    I have a fourth one: they come back because they still have access to you. #BlockAndNoContact

    • @Lee-rt6tx
      @Lee-rt6tx 4 месяца назад +4

      Did that. Fucking woman called me from her friend’s number talking bout “why’d you block me” even tho she blocked me first and when I confronted her about it via social media dm, she blocked me there too. Like tf?? Why wouldn’t I block you, you clearly showing me that you have no interest in making things work and would rather find your already perfect man instead of appreciating the one you had and helping build him up.
      Last time I put my worth into another human being. From now on, I come first in my life and it’s time for me to be selfish

  • @calvarado1520
    @calvarado1520 Год назад +17

    They also thought the new person they are cheating with was going to be better than you and they were wrong. 😂😂😂😂 never take back a cheater.

  • @leilanigreenwood5064
    @leilanigreenwood5064 Год назад +87

    Any man I walked away from I never went back. Never called them, texted. Never drove by their home. Never asked their friends, family members how they are doing.
    When it's over, it's over. Of course they could not believe I just moved on and never to return. They apologized and admitted their mistakes. Bullshit, they knew what they were doing was wrong, they didn't care at the time. This included my ex husband. Keep it moving

    • @judymavar197
      @judymavar197 Год назад +3

      Same

    • @Afk225
      @Afk225 Год назад +5

      Have you ever hurt one of your exes and realised you messed up

    • @Afk225
      @Afk225 Год назад

      @Jamilyn Brown damn sorry to hear that...take that as a challenge and try becoming a better person overall....work on your loyalty n present the best version of yourself in the next relationship

    • @leilanigreenwood5064
      @leilanigreenwood5064 Год назад +9

      @@Afk225 No, I never hurt any of my exes. The only time I came close was dropped them and never returned. They said I was cold, none feeling, and unforgiving. I raised in a house 🏠 with real men. My grandfather, father and 2 uncle's. They didn't lie, cheat or bring distress to their wives or family. We lived in a multi generational apt in the 60s and 70s.

    • @winecrimesfoodandtime7119
      @winecrimesfoodandtime7119 9 месяцев назад

      I had to go by their place let me tell you Crack house glad to rid of that uneducated users pos

  • @NamalAlexx
    @NamalAlexx 5 месяцев назад +75

    This man is real after seeing all the comments and asking for help. I see that my prayers are coming true Thank you Dr OLUWASEUN😇

    • @NamalAlexx
      @NamalAlexx 5 месяцев назад

      On Facebook page

  • @OYEYEMI-hm8yo
    @OYEYEMI-hm8yo 5 месяцев назад +58

    Thank you Dr Oluwaseun for helping me solving my love problem. I will never forget your favor for the rest of my life.❤

  • @whodoneitbr549
    @whodoneitbr549 Год назад +61

    never take back a man or anyone else that walks away

  • @Fox1nDen
    @Fox1nDen Год назад +37

    I do not want any of my former loves to come back. I am spoken for. My true love takes good care of me. I never look back

    • @YAHsChild412TX
      @YAHsChild412TX Год назад +1

      Good for you👏🏾 wish yall nothing but happiness & success!!

  • @honorsutton919
    @honorsutton919 Год назад +71

    Well I found out he was married after being with him for 5 years. So I walked away and never looked back. It’s been over a year and months now. He reached out with flowers for my birthday in January. He will still remain blocked and out of my life. Why bother? Men never ceases to amaze me.

    • @gotchamocha
      @gotchamocha Год назад +20

      men never ceases to amaze you? everything must amaze you in this world, because how tf did were you dating a married man for FIVE years!! 5 f’ng years. I swear to god it literally takes most people a few minutes of internet searching to dig up all info there is to know about a person, household info, socials, employment history. You have to be trolling, or else there is no hope for you in the modern age, technology is your friend use it

    • @devrajkashyap8620
      @devrajkashyap8620 Год назад

      ​@@gotchamochayou simp 😂

    • @KingGogh
      @KingGogh Год назад

      ​@@devrajkashyap8620 how tf is he a simp? He's 100% correct. If a woman was getting cheated on for 5 years by a MARRIED MAN?!? She's stupid af

    • @KingGogh
      @KingGogh Год назад +17

      How can men never cease to amaze you....when YOU were the gullible, naive child? Dating a married man for 5 years and had NO CLUE?!?! Wtf?

    • @zadokprime4831
      @zadokprime4831 Год назад +4

      ​@@KingGogh She had a few dudes in the DMs and the DL is how... wasn't naive. Just convenient to blame the dude

  • @dianeprince1684
    @dianeprince1684 Год назад +41

    Let them stay away. You don't need them.

  • @nadine4634
    @nadine4634 Год назад +27

    I had ex contacted me for 6 years straight. It was the samething...."I've change", " let's start over", "let's have a family". Each time I would tell him...I hope he finds what he's looking for.

    • @johndesante9124
      @johndesante9124 Год назад +3

      Why can’t you give him a chance?

    • @rondas7772
      @rondas7772 Год назад +4

      ​​@@johndesante9124 bcz he did too much and caused too much hurt

    • @rdodamiangrin
      @rdodamiangrin Год назад

      yeah and I bet you're sleeping with a new guy every week at least ever since

  • @victorcavuoto7369
    @victorcavuoto7369 Год назад +103

    Once they're your ex they should stay your ex you don't need someone that left

    • @SimplyKimE
      @SimplyKimE Год назад

      @phim8407This brings me delight and hope. My ex was such a loving and caring person. Oh how I miss him. I PRAY that GOD sends him back to me. 🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️

    • @winecrimesfoodandtime7119
      @winecrimesfoodandtime7119 9 месяцев назад +1

      exactly

    • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
      @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 8 месяцев назад +1

      Exactly. Shows their true commitment level and how they valued you and the relationship. Talk about giving someone abandonment issues.

  • @hazelelmore7060
    @hazelelmore7060 Год назад +35

    Trauma bonding doesn't work...don't bother.

  • @BettyRayy
    @BettyRayy 5 месяцев назад +61

    I just can't stop thanking you enough Dr OLUWASEUN or bringing back my lover to me....... really appreciate sir😊

    • @BettyRayy
      @BettyRayy 5 месяцев назад +1

      On Facebook page

  • @lademonhunter5395
    @lademonhunter5395 2 месяца назад +4

    It only took 8 days apart and he came back and had long deep discussions to continue forward with our engagement. He told me how much he missed me and wanted me as his Queen. I’m still shocked bc I tried the most for months to convince him instead of leaving. After that separation he now sees me for what he truly wants forever. Inshallah. I knew he was my ordained husband. 😊🥰☺️

  • @suzannedouglas1068
    @suzannedouglas1068 Год назад +15

    When they are selfish and haven't found anyone else to put up with their shit and they don't want anyone else to have you.

    • @jr5993
      @jr5993 3 месяца назад

      When they cheat on their bf with you then end up going back to the same bitch bf who still stays 😂. No animosity but you cheat on your bf with me and say you've never been dumped before. Tf you expect. I liked spending time with her but dummy much 😂.

  • @Ihavesubswithnovideos
    @Ihavesubswithnovideos Год назад +32

    My ex who broke up with me really broke me up.. I begged her not to leave me, but she seeing my vulnerability started to take advantage of it.. she saw me as a beta and decided to make it even worse. She started dating other guys infront of me just to hurt me... The first month was worst for me.. i couldn't stop thinking about her... Then I watched several videos and tried the no contact thing .. it's a year now and I'm already in a healthy relationship with this beautiful girl and guess who texted me yesterday. Yes exactly, My ex.. she left me a long paragraph about why she was wrong and is apologizing...
    Remember Kings, you're the prize. She's the bonus.

    • @layconbad5279
      @layconbad5279 11 месяцев назад

      #Divinelovespell02 can help you bring back your husband. He helped Me and i am a living testimony..

    • @bryanpineda5118
      @bryanpineda5118 8 месяцев назад +2

      💯💯

    • @gman955
      @gman955 8 месяцев назад

      Damn, this shit hit hard. I just broke up with my ex who i dated for 6 months, loved her to death. She simply tried to convince me to leave with her as she’s transferring to another college because the one she’s currently in doesn’t feel as accomplishing so she says. It’s also the fact that everyone knows that the college she’s transferring to is known as a party school and she wants more fun during her youth. She’s 19 and i’m 25 with a bachelors degree and a secure job in engineering. I felt like i had it all, but then she asked me to go with her 5 hours away to that school. Like, how tf would that even work, when bills gotta be paid & i’m currently the only breadwinner. So we weren’t on the same page and both of us lost interest, especially me. I started to sometimes ignore her calls when i’d hang with the boys & tbh that was asshole of me. But she wasn’t perfect either, i used to happily cook everything when she stayed with me in my apartment, breakfast lunch and dinner no problem..But then when she switched to a new apartment with roomates, i stayed with her since it was nicer.. and it rubbed me wrong when she would complain about me wanting to cook at her new place since she had roomates who were all used to doordashing and uber eating.. There would be mornings that i’d starve and ask if i could make an egg, and she’d just roll her eyes and say “fine i’ll do it”. I literally had to BEG this woman to make me anything and if it wasn’t for me being in her apartment i’d fucking cook my own food. I know this isn’t the 1920’s , but some reciprocated energy was lacking bad. Things went sour, i went to my parents to cool off (7hours away) and was just cold to her. I came back a week later and she said we’re just not in the same page & said maybe when she’s done with college we could be together unless she meets someone new over there. So fuck me right.

    • @MelinasAdventures
      @MelinasAdventures 6 месяцев назад

      @gman955 yeah it seems like the two of you were not on the same page and were in different stages of life and how you view relationships.

  • @missscott4951
    @missscott4951 4 месяца назад +23

    I must admit Dr oluwaseun your indeed a great man who knows he's job, thanks for bringing back my relationship which I lost over 4 years ago❤

  • @TMB1974
    @TMB1974 Год назад +24

    They come back when they realize the grass ain't greener on the other side

  • @margaretwince2748
    @margaretwince2748 Год назад +150

    Too late then. When a woman is done, she is done. He has lost her.

    • @Eddybo22
      @Eddybo22 Год назад +45

      And when a man is done , he is done. She has lost him.

    • @torianosegars2995
      @torianosegars2995 Год назад +13

      Same with men too

    • @judyperri9496
      @judyperri9496 Год назад +13

      @@Eddybo22 He probably wasn’t much to lose

    • @Eddybo22
      @Eddybo22 Год назад +28

      @@judyperri9496 nor was she. Many a women have lost great men doing the exact same thing. I am just saying it goes both ways.

    • @joyell821
      @joyell821 Год назад +8

      ​@@Eddybo22 I can tell that anyone who lost you actually won.

  • @preston3319
    @preston3319 5 месяцев назад +4

    Never thought I'd be looking this type of stuff up but glad there's help. Hard to keep my head up when my minds weighing me down

    • @jr5993
      @jr5993 3 месяца назад

      Life is for enjoying. Wasting it thinking about something else is never a good idea. If you have to put too much effort into anyone it's not worth it. Apparently I wasn't affectionate enough. Like what. I love myself more than you deal with it. I ain't obsessing over someone else. It's the other way round or nothing.

  • @HealingEvolutionTarot
    @HealingEvolutionTarot Год назад +11

    Yep. Had to walk away from a long-term relationship last year. The time they took to appreciate my presence was the perfect amount of time for me to heal enough to move on💯😔🤷‍♂️🎯✌️

  • @jolteon43
    @jolteon43 Год назад +10

    In the end, no matter how you slice it, there is only one reason a girl leaves you:
    She thinks she can do better. They are wrong in 95% of the cases.

    • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
      @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 8 месяцев назад

      Same with men really.

    • @jr5993
      @jr5993 3 месяца назад

      Life is for enjoying. Relationships are often such a drain. You have to do a cost benefit analysis.

    • @gravityclarity
      @gravityclarity 2 месяца назад +1

      Most won't because most men will not be better. A good man is hard to find.

  • @angelabroadnax7668
    @angelabroadnax7668 Год назад +36

    Ex's are and Ex's for a reason. I don't reconnect with Ex 's. They could become a millionaire, and I still will not reconnect. When I am done . I am done.

    • @greatnesss104
      @greatnesss104 11 месяцев назад

      @@comparecards5688 I Cant thank #Divinelovespell02 for bringing back my partner after 2years of separating. this is a miracle.

  • @YAHsChild412TX
    @YAHsChild412TX Год назад +14

    My exes can't come back..... The only time I'm looking in the rear is when I'm driving ✌🏾

  • @jesse4884
    @jesse4884 Год назад +41

    Another one: they see the growth of you as a person

    • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
      @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 8 месяцев назад +1

      So they are only with you once the money has rolled in? Okay.? 🙄

    • @brooke96591
      @brooke96591 6 месяцев назад

      @@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858Or, more positively, your ex really loved you but you had unhealthy/immature traits that hurt them too much to be able to stay in the relationship. Then, you learned from that experience (and maybe others) and changed into a healthier individual, to your ex’s great joy.

    • @lilianakeya9868
      @lilianakeya9868 2 месяца назад

      ​@@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858yes😢😢😂😂

  • @lourieb9702
    @lourieb9702 Год назад +7

    We were each other’s first spouse, divorced prematurely as kids… we were under the age of 21 when we married and met in HS at 15/17. We remarried at the same time to the wrong ppl and had children with the . Today, after 21yrs, we are free again at the same time and chose to come back to one another because we both wish we would’ve never let go to begin with. When you learn better you do better. And we are so much better now. ❣️

    • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
      @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 8 месяцев назад

      Since when are second chances actually given or happen? Remember it takes two. Like I said, you guys got lucky. Some people NEVER look back.

  • @DawnshieId
    @DawnshieId 2 месяца назад +2

    They say, evil is only nice to one thing: unyielding strength.

  • @maywoodric
    @maywoodric Год назад +6

    If she leaves, don’t let her back ever!!! She failed to replace you and she will drag you deeper into that hole that you escaped from if you go back.

  • @Qu33nB.
    @Qu33nB. Год назад +5

    I read somewhere that when forced to choose between 2 women, a man will choose the one he cares LEAST about... because they know that woman can't hurt them like the one they love most. This is not my personal opinion, it's just something I read but it made me think because in my experience, the ones who cheat never cheat with an upgraded partner.

  • @Violinbutterfly14
    @Violinbutterfly14 Год назад +7

    They come back acting RIGHT in those situations. Otherwise, they always come back...even if they are still not serious just to see if they can.. You can tell the difference by their actions, not their words.

  • @RyanJones-ns3rn
    @RyanJones-ns3rn 8 месяцев назад +4

    Partner of 7 years, engaged for 4 months randomly ended it with me 2 weeks ago.
    I’ve realised since writing her a letter, realising where I could improve and offer solutions this still isn’t enough. I feel like I don’t know her anymore as it’s so out of character, we have a house together and a dog.
    I’m hurting but every day I’m getting slightly stronger, I’m trying to do the no contact but so hard with the house etc.
    I’ve limited to 1/2 texts a day but only about the house, no emotions or anything about the relationship. I hope this works as I’ve never loved or felt pain like this!

    • @austinkesler4493
      @austinkesler4493 7 месяцев назад

      If she really loved you then completely cut contact and she’ll realize what she’s missing. Don’t talk “business” that’ll make you seem boring, you need to seem attractive and boring isn’t so.
      When you talk let her initiate and try and build attraction but don’t get emotional. Then when you meet in person dress nice have eye-contact and focus on how you can build attraction back.

  • @carlottaherring6890
    @carlottaherring6890 Год назад +6

    Some ex's need to be lost forever!!! 😅

  • @lashanda8977
    @lashanda8977 Год назад +9

    Never look back. I have never found it to be worth it.

  • @yaasy77smart1
    @yaasy77smart1 Год назад +16

    I never let him back in cause I know my worth especially I tell people watching these tarot videos and dating advice is cool but I tell people u have to accept people for who they are and listen to ur heart not take bullshit from nobody I distance myself from a ex he betrayed me we no communication even if he text back I won’t ever on god take him back for what he did to me coming from my experience for those who still have love and put in the work to rekindle a relationship back with there ex be happy and do not bring up the past make it work and plan for great things to come in the future

    • @XCVi_MAC
      @XCVi_MAC Год назад +2

      Mine left me and made me feel quality for not pursuing here. “ I waited so we could get back together and you never showed up “

    • @yaasy77smart1
      @yaasy77smart1 Год назад +2

      @@XCVi_MAC I hear u I know it hurts and think about the good times u guys had but time heals all wounds and best thing to do is focus on u and lovr will come and when it comes trust as time goes on u won’t even b thinking about him cause u b thinking ur relationship with ur partner

    • @XCVi_MAC
      @XCVi_MAC Год назад +5

      @@yaasy77smart1 I’m slowly healing , but god himself has a bigger plan

    • @yaasy77smart1
      @yaasy77smart1 Год назад +2

      @@XCVi_MAC u will find love keep urself busy go on trips vacations meet new people be careful though but once u meet the right one ex whoooo😂😂😂😂

  • @sweetness1992
    @sweetness1992 Год назад +18

    Ex only come bk because they fear ,and pain really not because of u.

  • @Jose-lz6cw
    @Jose-lz6cw 5 месяцев назад +3

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t.

    • @kerrymillar1267
      @kerrymillar1267 4 месяца назад

      Was she waiting for you to propose but you never did?

    • @sparopsych5313
      @sparopsych5313 2 месяца назад

      No offense. ..... If you don't see your life with anyone else, WHYYYY after 5 years was she still your gf??? Unless mutual, she gave you plenty of time to decide. ...... While your healing will get better and easier, make sure you're not just healing from the pain of her loss. Heal from the selfishness you displayed by keeping her as a place holder vs wife for 5 years. Good luck !

  • @Acombhair
    @Acombhair Год назад +10

    I threw my husband out and I think he liked it. That was 5 months ago, haven't heard from his dog ahh since 😁👏🏾👏🏾

  • @amyloves9940
    @amyloves9940 Год назад +5

    Yes, I have experienced this to definitely agree. Your absence will bring you peace though when you are done... checked out.

    • @greatnesss104
      @greatnesss104 11 месяцев назад

      I Cant thank #Divinelovespell02 for bringing back my partner after 2years of separating. this is a miracle;;

  • @sandyware5043
    @sandyware5043 Год назад +5

    Ignoring is powerful!!! Next thing you know, they’re popping up at your house everyday like a nasty fly!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤✨✨✨✨✨✨✨💯

  • @412mystic
    @412mystic Год назад +5

    Every ex I've ever had has tried to come back.

    • @greatnesss104
      @greatnesss104 11 месяцев назад +1

      I Cant thank #Divinelovespell02 for bringing back my partner after 2years of separating. this is a miracle.{}{}

  • @scorpiocara6798
    @scorpiocara6798 Год назад +11

    And with all that being said it still doesn't mean they care about you. Doesn't mean that at all. IT MEANS THEY CARE ABOUT THEMSELVES AND THAT THEY ARE STILL SELFISH

  • @victorianorris1916
    @victorianorris1916 Год назад +5

    You speaking not but the Truth, I have did all this so today I walked away!! I love you videos keep doing what you doing!!

  • @malindateal14
    @malindateal14 Год назад +4

    I love this. Especially coming from a man because women don’t always understand what’s going on. Much thanks

  • @dojocho1894
    @dojocho1894 Год назад +2

    I was 20 yrs older than my ex wife. 17 yrs married she's been gone 4 yrs now.....we lived a amazing life hard to believe she was 23 when I met her she is now in her 40's time is not kind to women. I'm doing great.....Just bought a 51 ft yacht.....

    • @layconbad5279
      @layconbad5279 11 месяцев назад +1

      #Divinelovespell02 can help you bring back your husband. He helped Me and i am a living testimony..

    • @greatnesss104
      @greatnesss104 11 месяцев назад

      I Cant thank #Divinelovespell02 for bringing back my partner after 2years of separating. this is a miracle.

  • @gloriarobinson6820
    @gloriarobinson6820 Год назад +14

    I was done walked away and left him . I'm over the stagnation and disappointment. I'm glad I came across your channel.

  • @reneemassey-2827
    @reneemassey-2827 8 месяцев назад +3

    I just divorced my ex narc. I changed my number, my job, and my address. My old neighbor called me and told me he was knocking on my old door....I'm out!!

  • @evagold4640
    @evagold4640 10 месяцев назад +3

    I have tried so hard to get him back. Explained so many things, asked for forgiveness although he was the one who disrespected me and then left and i didn’t do anything wrong. But yesterday i got sick of his narcissism and said to him „i wont let you disrespect me anymore, i deserve much better, that’s the end goodbye „ and now i feel free

  • @OneEpicEric
    @OneEpicEric Год назад +6

    My ex left me, she just walked away, a year later she contacted me saying sorry.......I told her she has a lot to be sorry for, I then changed my number.

  • @ojanimoore3936
    @ojanimoore3936 8 месяцев назад +3

    3rd thing: They worked on themselves and pearned from their mistakes. Took time to grow and is ready to love again

  • @gurugamer8632
    @gurugamer8632 Год назад +10

    Some women have too much ego

  • @yourhealingjourney9824
    @yourhealingjourney9824 Год назад +6

    And when they cannot replace you

  • @SharlenesJourney
    @SharlenesJourney Год назад +4

    I keep asking myself this question God what do you possibly see in me 😢 I be feeling so horrible and I think I’m at a point where I been pushing God away but I know he won’t leave me cause he loves me sometimes I try to convince him that I’m a bad person when I know I’m
    Not it’s the enemy but I do love God I Love Jesus and I’m trying my best to get it together . If Jesus suffered for me I’m willing to suffer for Jesus so I can walk in whom he called me to be 🙏🏾❤

  • @vanessacs538
    @vanessacs538 Год назад +2

    Why would anyone go back to being mistreated and being made a fool of, is when you've to exam oneself.

  • @terridillon3053
    @terridillon3053 Год назад +10

    Get out! STAY OUT!
    Nothing has or ever will change
    They will keep on abusing you

  • @ShadowMoon96
    @ShadowMoon96 Год назад +5

    Ex partners only come back because they can't replace you or are bored

  • @lunchhead7085
    @lunchhead7085 11 месяцев назад +2

    People come in and out of life consistently and actualy most are not that good. Hopefully your mother and father loved you so you have a good benchmark for what love actually means. Also be realistic , did you deserve to be let go , anyone toxic, too needy , sad or weak should F the F off.......no time for those people in my life.

  • @narcvanquisher
    @narcvanquisher 9 месяцев назад +2

    Unacceptable. Denied. No second chances.

  • @letitiahughes5683
    @letitiahughes5683 Год назад +3

    Your past is your past and sometimes that includes an ex. Especially narcissistic ones. They don’t believe they are that way due to it being second nature to them. Anything from your past is supposed to stay in the past that’s why it is called the past. Narcissists when you leave them feel they have lost control and power because you gained your power back. So they wait or try to replace you but end up with someone that is worse than them and then realize the mistake they made and if you are a child of God they pay heavily for what they have done to you. When all is said and done it’s to late. Treat the next one with respect

  • @KCNYC
    @KCNYC Год назад +17

    Treat them right and they always always call back, just had one contact me after 30 years lmfao

  • @stephanieg3554
    @stephanieg3554 Год назад +4

    Unless they A Narcissists Then They Just simply won't come back because they DON'T CARE NEVER DID NEVER WILL OR WANNA MAKE YOU SUFFER MORE BY EITHER COMING BACK OR STAYING AWAY💯 They too messed up to even admit they have feelings hurting you and losing you is better than admiting they have feelings 💯

  • @SelenaSecretShow
    @SelenaSecretShow Год назад +14

    Let's not forget the third and final reason.
    Superficial Charm.
    When your ex comes back this will be because of a physical change in appearance, gain in money or assets, or you are happy with someone and this hurts their ego.
    When it comes to superficial charm the only reason the person comes back its to see if they can use you one more time.
    Remember they are an ex. Because they are past their expiration date.

  • @rommelkho4527
    @rommelkho4527 Год назад +5

    Facts!! Happening to me right now. 😂

    • @gabriellebraboy8143
      @gabriellebraboy8143 Год назад +1

      Exactly same now I'm confused on my ex true intentions frfr 😂

  • @jessmaynard8477
    @jessmaynard8477 Месяц назад +1

    They come back when they’ve run out of supply, simple as that!

  • @LaylaBenson-xu3tx
    @LaylaBenson-xu3tx Месяц назад +14

    With a heart full of joy i thank you Dr oluwaseun for restoring my relationship again with the chants, you're the only sincere one l've seen❤😊

  • @nickolaszissimos1189
    @nickolaszissimos1189 Год назад +3

    Once they become an ex, they already lost me, so they will most likely possibly have both, then I will make sure the realization sets in that I am gone for good and will never go back to them. I am fine alone and on my own, other human beings hinder that less they are people I value.

  • @timahawk3220
    @timahawk3220 Год назад +2

    And when they fail to replace u 💯

  • @miamoon69
    @miamoon69 2 месяца назад +1

    saving this because i swear to god this is the only vid that helps me get through no contact

  • @silvania969
    @silvania969 4 месяца назад +19

    I don't really know how to thank Dr OLUWASEUN, you're sure a wonderful spiritualist ... thanks for bringing back my boyfriend🥰❤

    • @silvania969
      @silvania969 4 месяца назад

      He’s on Facebook page….

  • @OYEYEMI-hm8yo
    @OYEYEMI-hm8yo Месяц назад +14

    I can't thank you enough DR OLUWASEUN for the spell you casted for me🥺❤️ I will forever be grateful😇

  • @Pinkchopstix
    @Pinkchopstix 8 месяцев назад +2

    I simply sent an apology for my shortcomings and my toxic ways. I opened the door for new love in my life. Wish him and his new family the best ❤

    • @ULTIMATEUNITED2000
      @ULTIMATEUNITED2000 7 месяцев назад

      Great attitude and comment. All you can do.

    • @jr5993
      @jr5993 3 месяца назад +1

      This is it. No animosity. I did the same thing.

  • @rubenlopez2656
    @rubenlopez2656 Месяц назад

    I’ve been down so bad brotha. This video was just meant for me to see. I’ll be back in a month. I’m bossing up my life.

  • @Mohaz114
    @Mohaz114 Год назад +4

    It's been 7 months since I got into NC. We've bumped into each other twice this week, said hi & passed her.

  • @tiffi271
    @tiffi271 Год назад +2

    It’s hard to be afraid or have pain for someone who wasn’t treating you well

    • @greatnesss104
      @greatnesss104 11 месяцев назад

      I Cant thank #Divinelovespell02 for bringing back my partner after 2years of separating. this is a miracle;;

  • @redkaderli52
    @redkaderli52 Год назад +2

    Mannnn I really needed to hear this thank you you’re my Hero right now!

  • @olaideadedamola8933
    @olaideadedamola8933 Год назад +5

    Love shouldn't be hard