How to Make Your EX Fear That They WILL LOSE YOU FOREVER, So THAT They Break NO CONTACT SOONER

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  • Опубликовано: 10 фев 2025

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  • @followsthestars
    @followsthestars 9 месяцев назад +226

    Tomorrow is 30 days NC for me. He broke NC a week and a half ago, asking me to be friends, saying he doesn’t want me out of his life, he still loves me, and apologizing for hurting me (he’s dating someone else now; we were together for 5 years). I didn’t respond to that message. I have no interest in being “friends” and am really mad at him for choosing some random person he literally just met over me and our history. But knowing him, he’ll sabotage that relationship too, and then realize I’m not around to pick up the pieces like I always am, and then he’ll regret his decision. But at that point, it will be too late. I don’t think there’s any coming back from this for us… he made his decision and now he has to live with the consequence of losing me. I’m no one’s back-up plan or second choice. 😠‼️

    • @FeliciaNkhoma
      @FeliciaNkhoma 9 месяцев назад +12

      You and me are going through the same, it's sad when someone you've been with for more than 3 years choose someone they just met over you, this is what happened to me and he married the same woman just after 8 months of dating😢

    • @a.d.b535
      @a.d.b535 9 месяцев назад +7

      I found my bfs ex visiting him before the breakup and I accused him of replacing me. He said he didn't cheat and he wasn't replacing me. Well she was there before the breakup at 7:30 am, so what should I Believe??

    • @Geenyo2025
      @Geenyo2025 9 месяцев назад +15

      That is 100 true. ❤ ❤. This will come back when you don’t need them. If you love someone so much, don’t let them go through that pain. If you want to leave a relationship. Talk to your partner and discuss how you feel about them. instead of going to other relationships before the first one ended. Whatever goes around will come around eventually. If you think you will get away with the pain you caused someone who loved you. No you won’t. You will get your karma and feel the same pain later in life.

    • @TreasureForeverOfficial
      @TreasureForeverOfficial 9 месяцев назад +6

      I’m sorry to say but yeah you shouldn’t ever talk to him again you have to realize how much more valuable you are than him

    • @followsthestars
      @followsthestars 9 месяцев назад +2

      @@TreasureForeverOfficial Thank you! I really appreciate that. 🙏 It's hard sometimes, but I'm proud of myself for standing my ground!

  • @LL-rk5lv
    @LL-rk5lv 9 месяцев назад +261

    I’m not even trying to get anyone, I got over my ex already but I can’t help it. Every time he releases a video here I am listening

    • @CatwalkPurz
      @CatwalkPurz 9 месяцев назад +17

      Same! All his content just.makes.sense and solidifies all my “moves” thus far 🎉

    • @mimiwillms3920
      @mimiwillms3920 9 месяцев назад +14

      I was in NC 2 mos and he contacted me and I’m over him now . I don’t feel the same. The break helped me REALLY SEE HIM AS THE NARCISSIST HE IS

    • @CatwalkPurz
      @CatwalkPurz 9 месяцев назад

      @@mimiwillms3920 YES! No-contact allowed me to DETACH which creates emotional disconnect and helped me to see “the ex” clearly, instead of through rose colored glasses.

    • @Kavilion
      @Kavilion 9 месяцев назад

      @@mimiwillms3920that’s the ultimate success story. I’m finally able to acknowledge the flaws in my relationship with the girl that ghosted me. Coach’s videos have helped me so much.

    • @ParisianStreets
      @ParisianStreets 9 месяцев назад +7

      I want us to work it out but their need for space is crazy! They said its their fault n no apology came. Spark is gone to see them. only anger remains. HELP!

  • @forthebigwin
    @forthebigwin 9 месяцев назад +127

    "If it hurt enough they would do something about it"

    • @hczylos2432
      @hczylos2432 3 месяца назад +1

      @@JayDinero431Dude… read your own statement. She’s not worth it, she’s toying around with you. Move on.

  • @nephewslim
    @nephewslim 9 месяцев назад +119

    She found someone else and I found myself. I’m good on her now. No contact does work, I can’t lie. Just make sure while you’re practicing no contact make sure to get back in contact with yourself.

    • @fuzzypanda1684
      @fuzzypanda1684 3 месяца назад +4

      I used to hate that people praised no contact, because I've never had a girl come back after going NC. But I'm starting to realize that the real power of NC is you getting your power back, and learning not only to live without them, but that you don't WANT them back. Because if the person you truly believed would always be there for you and would never up and leave you for someone else without warning does exactly that, then they weren't the person you thought they were, and you're better off without someone like that in your life.

    • @archangelelmo
      @archangelelmo 3 месяца назад +2

      Did your ex ever reach out to you???

    • @nephewslim
      @nephewslim 3 месяца назад +1

      @ no, but we see each other often in passing because we stay in the same small town. No words exchanged, just seeing her see me…the new me. That’s about it.

  • @keelanharper9887
    @keelanharper9887 9 месяцев назад +122

    Me and my girlfriend broke up recently for a month and a half but we are back together now thanks to your advice thank you so much!!!!!! keep strong it works

    • @ayoayuthalin8361
      @ayoayuthalin8361 4 месяца назад +2

      So happy for u, can u share in detail how that happened

    • @Sllihulkgaming
      @Sllihulkgaming 4 месяца назад +1

      Im hoping mine too i prayed to God

    • @Bruno258
      @Bruno258 3 месяца назад +1

      Hope I’m here as well

    • @WizardJulian
      @WizardJulian 12 дней назад

      How is it going now

  • @berlindabustos8824
    @berlindabustos8824 9 месяцев назад +94

    Good morning, It’s been 5 months and I’ve done good with no contact. I’ve given up hope at this point. I started something new like going to the gym and working on myself.

    • @dingguite2014
      @dingguite2014 5 месяцев назад

      Any update?? Did they reach out.?

    • @archangelelmo
      @archangelelmo 3 месяца назад

      Did your ex ever reach out to you???

  • @13sprintuser
    @13sprintuser 9 месяцев назад +66

    The MOST powerful negotiating position is being willing to walk away and MEAN IT.
    Remove your attention, that's the most valuable currency for any woman.
    Good luck gents. Stay strong.

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  9 месяцев назад +9

      True 💯

    • @MateuszStepniak-wd5pr
      @MateuszStepniak-wd5pr 5 месяцев назад +3

      Someone is a fellow Corey wayne student! Stay blessed brother

    • @13sprintuser
      @13sprintuser 5 месяцев назад

      @@MateuszStepniak-wd5pr indeed. He’s legit. Wish I would have found him sooner

  • @Gainsforeal
    @Gainsforeal 9 месяцев назад +49

    I’ve been in NC for 94 days now it’s crazy how time flies, I Do still think about her everyday but I’m now stronger than ever emotionally and stand firm in not breaking NC

    • @bash1988
      @bash1988 9 месяцев назад +4

      Me too with the feeling of not breaking it. . still think of her but it's traveling, gyming, swimming and my overall health. Her loss bro

    • @rbrasi
      @rbrasi 9 месяцев назад +2

      Same here

    • @rbrasi
      @rbrasi 9 месяцев назад +2

      I’m launching my cut and sew clothing brand in a bit here and really buckled down since I don’t have ex consuming me 🎉

    • @tysonmcvicar3829
      @tysonmcvicar3829 9 месяцев назад +5

      92 days strict NC here. Feel the same

    • @Palitomoments
      @Palitomoments 9 месяцев назад +10

      Y’all gonna be fine. It’s 369 days since I started this journey. I went no contact fully in September about five months after we broke up. Today am completely fine & have zero need to get back with her. Matter of fact am building something wth somebody new

  • @SEwrightification
    @SEwrightification 4 месяца назад +6

    You are so right. That’s the part….setting that boundary so they don’t think they can just pop in and pop out when they feel like. Set firm boundaries and stand in business.

  • @Devdesmond1313
    @Devdesmond1313 9 месяцев назад +13

    I’m over my ex now but I still like watching these video it help me so much when I was down apperciate you and Craig’

  • @shantybryant4452
    @shantybryant4452 Месяц назад +1

    U never have to pretend someone wants U Find a hobby and people will naturally come to U live your life

  • @kheicee
    @kheicee 9 месяцев назад +71

    this coming may 4, 2024 its gonna be exactly 3 months since he broke up with me and it was also our last conversation. i have been doing no contact since then. i erased myself from his life, no social media - nothing. i’m doing okay, just focusing on work and being with my family but the other day and yesterday i found myself crying again because i missed him so much. to be honest i still love him, and i miss him very dearly up to this day. i wish he would just message and fight for us again, but i am losing hope. its hard and it still breaks my heart.

    • @icequeencassandra2950
      @icequeencassandra2950 9 месяцев назад +3

      Just hang in there. You are not alone. Test the waters and call if you can, just to see how he takes the call. You are stronger now whatever outcome comes out of it. You are mature enough to take it in. Sending you love and light

    • @kheicee
      @kheicee 9 месяцев назад

      @@icequeencassandra2950 call? i cant do it. i dont have the courage to do so. especially the last message in our convo was from me, he basically just seen zoned me. it hurts but i guess he didnt value me as much as i thought he would. thank you for the message though ❤️

    • @ItsOwlKate
      @ItsOwlKate 9 месяцев назад +5

      Unfortunately, once a guy moves on, you are crossed out for good. Best to move on

    • @WhiteGhost21
      @WhiteGhost21 9 месяцев назад +14

      @@ItsOwlKate wrong

    • @ginadeniseallen2919
      @ginadeniseallen2919 9 месяцев назад +12

      ​@@ItsOwlKate This is not true.

  • @Palitomoments
    @Palitomoments 9 месяцев назад +11

    I remember how helpful this channel and other channels helped me about this time last year
    I never knew I could ever get to this point where am at now where I’ve completely moved on from her.
    Matter of fact am gradually building something with somebody new who’s way prettier and seemingly cool.
    I can say with my full chest I have no interest in getting my ex back… This validates the importance of no contacts.
    If not for no contact I could possibly be out there begging & pleading. Am grateful I came across these resource materials. God bless you all & heal y’all of any pains

  • @CK51515
    @CK51515 9 месяцев назад +37

    Coach is back!!!

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  9 месяцев назад +6

      Thanks for hanging with me

  • @Marcos0027
    @Marcos0027 9 месяцев назад +11

    This is really good information. People fall for giving their ex that attention or getting the chance to give them what they want, it gives them the sense of control/peace. But they still haven’t changed or tried to work on rebuilding the relationship with you or any type of building. You have to stand on business with what you want. If they are not giving you want you want, you have to state what you want and walk away if they’re not valuing what you want.

  • @teriliebmann5157
    @teriliebmann5157 4 месяца назад +8

    🤦‍♀️Ex's are Ex for a reason.
    Why would you take the same bumpy road when there is a new freeway 🤷‍♀️

  • @devinobrian8954
    @devinobrian8954 9 месяцев назад +15

    Please start doing content on how to navigate no contact when you have a child together! I need to set up a call!

    • @marquesstofford988
      @marquesstofford988 2 месяца назад

      On me bro I’m always looking for those videos. It’s hard when you have a child with them

    • @jellybunny5359
      @jellybunny5359 2 месяца назад

      Ok. If the child is young answer and keep things emotionally detached. If you can't than wait until you can than answer. If they are older hand the phone to your child and run to another room. Dont say one word. Do this consistently every call. If they ask to speak with you. You can say no or agree.
      Use APPclose for coparent and schedule. Remember..just the facts are shared on the app. Its free. You can enter schedule, dr. Apps, etc.

  • @mauriciohernandez324
    @mauriciohernandez324 9 месяцев назад +17

    NEVER BACK WITH YOUR EX PERIOD!!!!

  • @Beth1300
    @Beth1300 9 месяцев назад +30

    Halfway through the video I'm getting ready to stand outside his house and beep loudly, repeatedly, until he's driven to distraction 🙂

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  9 месяцев назад +15

      lol stop 😂

    • @Beth1300
      @Beth1300 9 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@blacademiclol it's tempting though

    • @monir3275
      @monir3275 9 месяцев назад +6

      Now that's hilarious 😅

    • @brittanymize3903
      @brittanymize3903 4 месяца назад +2

      just hope it doesnt take him a week to get annoyed enough 🤣🤣

    • @Beth1300
      @Beth1300 4 месяца назад

      @@brittanymize3903 I don't mind, I got as much time as needed!

  • @tifisi2000
    @tifisi2000 9 месяцев назад +38

    My ex is begging to come back, after 5 months of no contact but I don't want him

  • @BetterBeBored
    @BetterBeBored 6 месяцев назад +2

    Coach Blac also teaches us about real stoic posture - takin time when he talks, he KNOWS we'll listen cuz his words are so true.
    *beeeeeeeeep*

  • @mikep4743
    @mikep4743 5 дней назад

    “I appreciate that Mike, however I need you to know this is not me taking a break or some time apart. The trust I had isn’t the same, and due to what came up I don’t think we’re on the same page with certain values. “
    My ex last text I been in NC for 3 weeks

  • @joeydrakeward4077
    @joeydrakeward4077 9 месяцев назад +8

    My ex has to see me at work. She refuses to look in my direction but I can tell she knows exactly the direction I’m in, no matter where I’m standing. She’ll say hi to those around me but if I’m talking to someone she’d normally say hi to, she will say nothing at all. I am hoping I am that beep she can’t ignore.

  • @almab586
    @almab586 8 месяцев назад +11

    Dumper must be dumped back😂 period. I don’t take back who trashed me in thr first place. No rebound, just living my life as normal as it was. ❤

    • @karndafang6632
      @karndafang6632 Месяц назад

      Love the way u think

    • @almab586
      @almab586 Месяц назад

      @ and guess what, i found a better guy and he sees it everyday in my social media that he did stop bread crumbing me 🤭lmao and i shut down and slam the door 🚪 outta him!
      No more looking back, just living in the moment and moving forward 🫶🏻🙌🎄🙏🏽

  • @laceyloops
    @laceyloops 9 месяцев назад +7

    You’re def the best coach in the world to me ❤

  • @Tony-Rob-Wright_87
    @Tony-Rob-Wright_87 8 месяцев назад +6

    My ex reached out today she walked out of a club on Saturday because she was missing me but I feel I'm growing now and I'm enjoying the space it's funny how the power dynamic shifts

  • @namiyadeborah5165
    @namiyadeborah5165 9 месяцев назад +6

    I did no contact for 2 months and started working out.i lost 13kgs cos of stress and gym.i look very good now.X came back asking for reconciliation.😂They always come back.nway we have a kid together.its so stressful to move on

  • @lordjeb8138
    @lordjeb8138 9 месяцев назад +7

    Am I cooked for watching all of this guys videos?

  • @user-ok5ez1ls1k
    @user-ok5ez1ls1k 9 месяцев назад +11

    Boy the beeping analogy is taking a long time to get through.

  • @PARTSWHORE
    @PARTSWHORE 9 месяцев назад +3

    Being friends is ok & will work if both don’t ever want to be together again. If one person is still in love with the other in hopes for a relationship to transpire it will normally not work & is where boundaries really need to be implemented as an all or nothing situation.

  • @Teegee1387
    @Teegee1387 9 месяцев назад +8

    Round 1-28 days. She broke no contact
    Round 2- 18 days she broke no contact and called.
    I got tired of it and called her out. I can’t keep doing the imbalance! Asked to be friends. I told her farewell and no thank you. Why am I the one hurting!?😢

    • @li5043
      @li5043 9 месяцев назад +4

      Only reply to significant messages dont respond to hey how are you

    • @Ghettochild.2600
      @Ghettochild.2600 9 месяцев назад +1

      Did you tell her you wanted to be more than just friends?

    • @Teegee1387
      @Teegee1387 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@Ghettochild.2600 Yes I did. And when I told her that I wasn’t going to be just friends and that this “closure” hurt, she said she was hurt too.

  • @deb_diaries
    @deb_diaries 8 месяцев назад +4

    Love your content and the way you explain things. Also loving your great voice! ❤

  • @JorgeGonzalez-t2r
    @JorgeGonzalez-t2r 9 месяцев назад +7

    Im the one that fear of losing my wife I've been in NC for month and a half I'm trying my best not to be texting nor calling but I just want to say this I love my wife and I really don't want to lose her time will tell.

  • @fourthtunz
    @fourthtunz 6 месяцев назад

    Thanks!

  • @CGermain-s6l
    @CGermain-s6l 7 месяцев назад

    This is exactly what I have been experiencing…Nice couple of rules to follow and yes I am convinced it will work out very nicely.

  • @joeydrakeward4077
    @joeydrakeward4077 9 месяцев назад +11

    Post that last Live you had on Wednesday please!!

  • @KarinaMoel
    @KarinaMoel 9 месяцев назад +3

    Miss you coach!!! Been waiting for a new video.. its 10pm in Indonesia and about to sleep but now im gonna watch the video first 😊

  • @joshuaedwards8399
    @joshuaedwards8399 9 месяцев назад +9

    Coach the 🐐

  • @Joseph-w3t1z
    @Joseph-w3t1z 6 месяцев назад

    Yeah man I think you are the easiest person to listen too teaching a lesson, the beep analogy, on point, lafmer!!!

  • @porkrod7
    @porkrod7 3 месяца назад

    You’re a busy man no openings at the moment!

  • @JazzyThaBoss
    @JazzyThaBoss 19 дней назад +1

    Is no contact possible, if, my ex is my neighbor ? We're literally 2 doors down from each other..

  • @ernestpayne1901
    @ernestpayne1901 4 месяца назад

    I’m not gonna lie coach blac every since I’ve been listening to your podcast an doing no contact it has been working. It’s been 2 weeks and she’s giving me more attention an calling an texting more. Bit like you said plan a date if she says no then I’m busy an if she says yes game on. But still I’m not rushing. She still is guarded though.

  • @annas-n9666
    @annas-n9666 9 месяцев назад +6

    Coach Blac, this is hard. After NC from December, i said hi at the beg of April. He told me he had made the break and he was okay with that. 💔
    I thanked him for the phenomenal times and told him i would delete his number.
    Coach, he was the one i wanted to stay young with... 😔

    • @lizzie_18
      @lizzie_18 9 месяцев назад +3

      So sorry

  • @Boni049
    @Boni049 9 месяцев назад +14

    I think its just over over, we had good long yes but it was long distance now she has someone from her area.
    I dont think that anyone that had both, long and short distance relationship would ever go back to long distance. I am so dead inside. Because in the three months shes together with her new guy they can experience more than we did in 1.5 years of every day talking over the phone after this 12months relationship so overall like 2.5 years because he can just be there every day for her so our time is probably already outran by 3months. Even if its only a rebound I feel like that he is "THE" Ex she would want back after it ends than she watches your vids because of him.

    • @Pekocheers
      @Pekocheers 9 месяцев назад +1

      I can understand you, but you are the best, you are her "roof" choice, she is just your "floor" choice.

  • @rbrasi
    @rbrasi 9 месяцев назад +4

    I am solid on NC
    but she broke it after 3 months now going on 5 , it was over a credit card charge I had no idea what she was talking about so I replied a simple response with honesty , she replied to it and said she removed everyone off of it don’t know who’s everyone but idc not my problem,
    Since then she unblocked me on all social media when she reached out
    I’m not breaking , just realizing how goofy I was not seeing what was really happening
    Launching my business in a bit and couldn’t have done it with her and the tantrums along with me as the reason why her days were ruined.. I’m good.

  • @09Rewind
    @09Rewind 9 месяцев назад +6

    It's the durag for me 💪🏿🙏🏿✊🏿😆

  • @tsdy8680
    @tsdy8680 9 месяцев назад +4

    The way u tell ur strory soooo cute 😅😊

  • @MsPatriot420
    @MsPatriot420 Месяц назад

    I received a forwarded newsletter from him at 6 months. I didn't know exactly what to do. I responded briefly and politely that it looked like he was doing well. I didn't talk about myself or ask questions. No response from him at all. My fear is that I have sabotaged 6 months of No Contact, but I felt I needed to say something in the event he was trying to see if I was approachable.

  • @olaideadedamola8933
    @olaideadedamola8933 9 месяцев назад +3

    He contacted me for a meetup, only for him not to show up. Definitely going no contact again.

    • @olaideadedamola8933
      @olaideadedamola8933 8 месяцев назад +1

      I can't believe it is one month I wrote this comment, after 6years of dating and 1 month of no contact I was already replaced. It is hurtful but what can I do. It is not easy to stand by someone back from school days only for things to get better and pick someone else.

  • @WATCHMEGOBROKE
    @WATCHMEGOBROKE 5 месяцев назад

    First of all nice watch!!! Im gonna have to do a modified no contact cause she still comes over every day. We still share a mortgage,bills and a Son. NC is kinda hard when she stops by every single day. But every time she leaves it hurts again. She is one foot in and one foot out..i refuse to be a backup plan. Crazy how cold they can be after 23 years

  • @moniqueg2012
    @moniqueg2012 9 месяцев назад +12

    Hold up coach black…I’m not even here for my ex, I’m here for you!!! 😂 lol #fineblackman

  • @smokelee4307
    @smokelee4307 5 месяцев назад

    All your videos are gold brotha but this one is 🔥🔥🔥

  • @derekn9692
    @derekn9692 9 месяцев назад +8

    How does no contact work if you have a child with your EX?

  • @johnthibodeaux514
    @johnthibodeaux514 Месяц назад

    Excellent my Brother!!

  • @nathantibble2801
    @nathantibble2801 9 месяцев назад +4

    I've been following you for like 6 months now. My ex got back in contact after 2 months of no contact. We see each other every week and speak every day. She still tells people we are together when we go to the pub/clubbing, yet she tells me there is no chance of getting back together. We also have sex regularly. Believe me, I was over the moon when she contacted me, but I feel like I'm now stuck! It's going nowhere. She's 100% embarrassed to tell her mum she's seeing me again, which I think is a major problem. I kind of wish I didn't go back, to be honest. It might be time to create some distance again?

  • @SentilongJamir777
    @SentilongJamir777 9 месяцев назад +1

    I want to return her gifts i feel it's the right thing to do. I became comfortable and gave her less time and attention because i was sure to marry her and she was also ready to marry me but i never knew that she could walk away from my life after all those years and memories she said i didn't gave her much time and attention after some years so she left. I have a bad habit of drinking alcohol too much when i go out so i messed up and abused her when she asked for break. The situation became even worse because i said things i shouldn't have said but anyways i learnt a lot from this experience. I pray that she will find a man who will love her like i did maybe even more.

  • @sorin_ion8151
    @sorin_ion8151 8 месяцев назад +3

    Why do you care what your ex fear ?
    Leave them be .
    Take care of you .
    They don't care about your well being.

  • @basicinfo2022
    @basicinfo2022 9 месяцев назад +13

    Round 1 of NC: 39 days. He broke NC.
    Round 2 of NC: 49 days. I broke NC.
    Round 3 of NC: currently 1 day lol... i keep messing up on the boundaries and concealing my true feelings part when NC breaks.

    • @donovanlemos
      @donovanlemos 9 месяцев назад +4

      Glad to know I'm not the only one doing this more than once with the same person lol
      Round 1 - 30 Days, she broke.
      Round 2 - 70 days, we both just broke it
      Round 3 - (Now) 58 days and still going

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 9 месяцев назад +3

      @@donovanlemos good job! We're growing and learning as we go. Never settle for less than what you deserve.

    • @Geenyo2025
      @Geenyo2025 9 месяцев назад +7

      This not good. You should stay in no contact. If it was meant to be, they will come back and this time with your terms and you don’t take non sense from them. If they don’t come back you have already healed and ready to move on. Value yourself

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 9 месяцев назад +2

      @ifrahabi4834 being in no contact forever is the goal, but mistakes happen...

  • @williamcarroll3931
    @williamcarroll3931 9 месяцев назад +3

    Your videos are great.

  • @StevenRgonzales
    @StevenRgonzales 22 дня назад

    I try no contact but it’s hard we have kids she use to me giving in I would still by her food from her favorite spot and help her with bills it’s hard if she went rebound while I was still in the home I been out the house three months now I still pay half the rent / waterbill/ groceries when I can I feel dumb sometimes but I try n to stop giving in I need help I do therapy/ gym/church it’s helps a lot also work full time / and have s side job

  • @simplyglecy8404
    @simplyglecy8404 10 дней назад

    Its been a month of break up and 15 days of no contact.. its still heavy 😢 i cant focus on my upcoming exam.. i posted my latest photo in my fb stories, and my ex watching it and reacted a heart emoji. I didnt respond.. but im still hurting..

  • @Prettyymayy
    @Prettyymayy 8 месяцев назад +2

    How do you practice no contact when you have a child together 😟

  • @leelekes4531
    @leelekes4531 9 месяцев назад +2

    Hey coach Blac, what does it mean when my ex gives back Gifts I gave them during the relationship?

  • @1life2life
    @1life2life 9 месяцев назад +3

    Coach thanks again for everything you do. I’ve been in NC for 2 months. Her nephew passed away and they are having a memorial service for him this week. Should I go?

    • @lateashaevans4579
      @lateashaevans4579 9 месяцев назад +1

      Was you very close to her nephew? If so then you should go ,so you can say goodbye

    • @1life2life
      @1life2life 9 месяцев назад

      @@lateashaevans4579 thank you for your advise. I really appreciate it. I was close to him. His funeral was 2 weeks ago. It’s a memorial service. I really don’t want to see her and fall back.

    • @lateashaevans4579
      @lateashaevans4579 9 месяцев назад +1

      @Helafiteezhel your welcome n you just need to do what is best for you

  • @dimotrifonov5109
    @dimotrifonov5109 9 месяцев назад +2

    Very useful...., as always !!

  • @stevemorrisanamericaninasia
    @stevemorrisanamericaninasia 9 месяцев назад +7

    Reset the breaker and reset your internet connection. Works every time ...

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  9 месяцев назад +1

      lol thanks bro… I definitely need the help

  • @adirayasharahla984
    @adirayasharahla984 9 месяцев назад +8

    I do not want to manipulate him into contacting me. I want it to be organic.

    • @Colorado303Adventures
      @Colorado303Adventures 9 месяцев назад +1

      Guys can't read minds, we think different. Just tell him, unless he dumped you then he needs to say it.

    • @adirayasharahla984
      @adirayasharahla984 9 месяцев назад

      @@Colorado303Adventures He dumped me. Said I was too emotionally volatile. I was. So, I'll wait for him or simply move on

  • @TravisEmberland
    @TravisEmberland Месяц назад

    What if you have a child with your ex? It makes it almost impossible to go no contact

  • @kenyareid
    @kenyareid 9 месяцев назад +2

    Yay you got 100k

  • @taye7968
    @taye7968 14 дней назад

    I'm must say i have been the dumper in most of my relationships and when i break up i never think of them again. Immediate No contact forever years later most still call but i dnt see them in a romantic way.

  • @WilliamMensah-y8j
    @WilliamMensah-y8j 9 месяцев назад +1

    I like ur style today

  • @brandonrobertkersjes
    @brandonrobertkersjes 4 месяца назад +1

    Does NC even count when you’re blocked literally everywhere?

    • @lleahmangus2505
      @lleahmangus2505 3 месяца назад

      Yes because they eventually unblock you.

  • @samahnory3104
    @samahnory3104 3 месяца назад

    I did no contact for one year with him them I did mistake to take him back after now today back again to no contact worst mistake ever is to take him back

  • @anekekingson5141
    @anekekingson5141 4 месяца назад

    Did NC for a week, shawty decided to report me to someone about an issue we had before NC, of course the person came to me, cos we work in a close proximity, I knew her plan was for me to reach out ..but I'll double down and extend NC to a month.. I'm so busy anyways.

  • @geenethuli8744
    @geenethuli8744 8 месяцев назад +1

    I am trying to stay NC but i can not control myself.. please tell me what should I do.

  • @tashahannah
    @tashahannah 7 месяцев назад

    Coach how do I get a one on one session I really need it!

  • @ZaneleNinela
    @ZaneleNinela 2 месяца назад

    Hi id like to ask this question my ex he just broke up with me i assume 3 or 4 days ago and during a break up his still want us to meet and im not to sure if i do as he ask or i still carry on with a silent treatment pls help me what to do

  • @nasbas8449
    @nasbas8449 9 месяцев назад +2

    i’ve tried no contact but my ex always emotionally draws me back in either she’ll text me or call me than ignore me completely i’m at the point where i don’t even wanna answer her false alarms and i have her shit but she’s already said to me like 5 times she is gonna come pick it up but never comes and picks it up like wtf is going

  • @yunusabdulmusawwir2557
    @yunusabdulmusawwir2557 5 месяцев назад

    What stages should be reached before a hard boundary

  • @CarlaThomas-u6j
    @CarlaThomas-u6j 14 дней назад

    I haven’t talked to my ex in almost 5 months. No contact is what I’m all about. He can’t call me cause I blocked his number and FB and messenger. He can’t talk to me. Maybe my feelings are suppressed cause right now I feel nothing for him. I’m sure has a new supply but I’m done……with him!!!!

  • @Juice1990s
    @Juice1990s 9 месяцев назад +2

    Do you think Nc will work when she’s in a rebound

  • @Moriar7y
    @Moriar7y 9 месяцев назад +2

    Can someone tell me if I messed up? She reached out 3 weeks after the break up for shoes. But she was actually wanted to talk. We made a date one week later. But never showed up so I told her that I will drop her shoes and don't want to see her again. A week later I caved and called her to see each other. We talked, and I told her I wanted to try again. She said no, so I let it go. We spoke one more time for other things she wanted to take from my home. I will drop them to her house tomorrow will she still be in the relive stage after almost a month of no contact(except tomorrow). Or I lost her forever, and I should move on?

  • @basicinfo2022
    @basicinfo2022 9 месяцев назад +4

    I wanted to watch your recent livestream but its not posted.

    • @CK51515
      @CK51515 9 месяцев назад +1

      There was a Livestream?? When?

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 9 месяцев назад +1

      Yes, a couple days ago I think

  • @Wellsjeremy
    @Wellsjeremy 9 месяцев назад +1

    Coach, if I been posting pictures of myself enjoying life lately and my ex takes a break from social media could this be a good sign that she’s still hurting from the break up/missing me? She broke up with me after we were together for 5 years

  • @youngone6843
    @youngone6843 2 месяца назад

    My ex said I was a waist of time… I don’t think he’s coming back. It might be because he expected me to chase him from his breakup message but I just didn’t respond. Was that a mistake ?

  • @Stimmy_2_raw723
    @Stimmy_2_raw723 4 месяца назад

    My wife came to pick up the kids yesterday from me. She asked me to change her oil and can I check 3 of her tires. Mind you she went off on me a few days ago saying she doesn’t need anything from me ever again lol. Was this a test?

  • @rhondawhittaker4463
    @rhondawhittaker4463 2 месяца назад

    How do you do this if they live 1.5 hrs away? How do you "accidentally" bump into them when you don't even live in the same city?

  • @diesonata8067
    @diesonata8067 9 месяцев назад +2

    Now I don’t have money but I do have a really interesting case. For me it’s a long distance where we couldn’t meet once but have been together for almost 4 years. In those 4 years we have been together on the phone 24/7. Even when one of us were sleeping we were sleeping on the phone. The main issue was the distance and the religion. For me I would’ve fought for him but he said that he just accepted that we can’t be together. There is so much into it and I really want him to fight for us too. I could meet him in August and if not we might never have a chance again. Like I told him that too I invited him over as a friend since he wanted to stay friends but after the breakup and I recently just learned that I shouldn’t push anything. Can someone please help 🙏🏼 I also don’t really know if my no contact is the right way if no contact since like he is calling me once in a while and he is sending me reels to which I react.

  • @MegaAlsf
    @MegaAlsf 2 месяца назад

    My ex reached out after 3 months ! Had a 15 minute convo, she said she misses me and etc.. so now she is silent! Should i just wait for her to reach out again?

  • @altonharvey1545
    @altonharvey1545 9 месяцев назад +3

    I did no contact 2 times she contact me the first time and we talked about 2 weeks and we got in a argument and she blocked me again then I did no contact again then she contact me in about a week we was on good terms for bout two weeks again we got in another argument and she just block me again so do I go into no contact again or just let her go for good

  • @In4thakill
    @In4thakill Месяц назад

    Does no contact even really work to get her back or is this all just bs??

  • @Pierceserrano96
    @Pierceserrano96 Месяц назад

    I had a 2nd chance with an ex before I messed up the 2nd time after going through a bad depression. But we dated back from high school and back then I did screwed up. Years later when she came back again for a second time I just recently got out of a bad break up from another toxic ex of mine and well yea I was still in pain when I started dating again. I wished that I moved on and not think of what I was going through so I can be with someone else. Instead I became a fool not self loving and learning more about how to self care first. I pushed my ex girlfriend the one from h.s. away for not being available and not attending her bday and I blame myself for my own issues. After she broke up with me the 2nd time she came back and we talked it out. Now she has a new bf but despite what happened before I do want to write a letter on how I actually felt about our 2nd break up but I don't want her to think I was the same guy before. I did took alot of time to self reflect and all I want to do before the holidays approach is to at least send her a letter. I'm not expecting much but every little thing matters.

  • @cueclubPT
    @cueclubPT 9 месяцев назад +2

    It's been a little more than 8 months and we still text from time to time.. our record was 1 month.. i'm beginning to feel bored and i'm switching my mind to not give a f** about her. I wish i was more courageous to stop replying in the first month after BU... I'm the dumpee

  • @poemsjones4184
    @poemsjones4184 8 месяцев назад +1

    Mines hit me at 2am last night Friday, after she broke up with me it hasn't even been a week no contact here this ain't no drive thru D***

  • @romo3418
    @romo3418 9 месяцев назад +1

    I broke a month of NC in early March. Texted her life was short and she was on my mind. Negative response from her lol. NC since then. Last week at 11pm she sends then unsends a text. No response from me. It’s validating and upsetting at the same time. Onward

  • @sakshisakshi212
    @sakshisakshi212 9 месяцев назад +1

    It has been 4.5 year of our breakup now my ex wants to marry me although in these 4.5 years he have been dating other girls... Please make a video this

  • @mohanmandala7617
    @mohanmandala7617 9 месяцев назад +2

    Thanks coach

  • @joshuabenjamin1626
    @joshuabenjamin1626 9 месяцев назад +9

    Day 72 for me. I'm the dumped not the dumper. She asked if we could still be friends and I told her not to contact me unless it's an emergency.
    Also btw for the first time I cheated. I kissed a stranger when i was drunk and told her about it.
    She said she forgive me and move on but after a month she said she feels like she can't get over it.
    I've also moved away to the other side of the planet for 6 months.
    Also when I kissed that girl I was drunk and was originally trying to make sure she got home safe as we met on a train journey.
    If I was sober it wouldn't have happened. But issues with the relationship that I had surfaced during that moment.
    So she was right to finish things but still I don't know

    • @Livingmybestlife82
      @Livingmybestlife82 9 месяцев назад +3

      Not even for an emergency fuck that.

    • @KendraWalker-z4t
      @KendraWalker-z4t 9 месяцев назад +1

      U should just cut off no contract completely

    • @kenyareid
      @kenyareid 9 месяцев назад

      Nope, leave it alone

  • @DeepEnd-sm3uw
    @DeepEnd-sm3uw 9 месяцев назад +2

    So how does no contact applies of y'all have a child together, it's impossible

  • @f.burton135
    @f.burton135 4 месяца назад

    It’s hard to do no contact when you have children together.
    I don’t want to keep being a boyfriend/baby daddy, next stop.. husband or nothing.