Why you can’t seem to get over your EX, and what you can do about it.

“Let’s talk about why you can’t seem to get over your ex-and what you can do about it.”
Breakups can feel like a never-ending loop, right? One moment you’re fine, and the next, you’re replaying old conversations, checking their socials, or wondering if they’re thinking about you. If you’re stuck in that cycle, let me tell you-you’re not alone. But there’s a reason it’s happening, and once you understand it, you can start to move forward.
First, here’s the hard truth: getting over your ex isn’t just about missing them as a person. A lot of times, it’s about what they represented to you. Maybe it’s the future you imagined together. Maybe it’s the validation you got from being loved by them. Or maybe it’s just the routine-you got used to texting them, seeing them, and now there’s this huge void in your life. It’s not just them you’re grieving-it’s the life you thought you’d have with them.
Another reason you might feel stuck? You’re romanticizing the relationship. You’re only focusing on the highlights, the sweet moments, the “what ifs.” But let’s be real-if the relationship was perfect, you wouldn’t be here. Remind yourself of the full picture, not just the parts your mind is clinging to because it’s easier to hold onto the fantasy than to face the pain of letting go.
So, what can you do about it? First, cut the cord. That means no checking their socials, no re-reading old texts, and definitely no “just one quick look” to see what they’re up to. Every time you do, you’re reopening the wound. Think of it like this: you can’t heal from a paper cut if you keep picking at the scab.
Next, focus on rediscovering you. What did you love doing before you met them? What parts of yourself did you put on hold while you were together? Start pouring energy into those things. Pick up hobbies, spend time with friends, or even just take yourself out for coffee. It’s about rebuilding your sense of self, outside of the relationship.
And finally, give yourself grace. Healing isn’t linear. Some days, you’ll feel on top of the world, and other days, you’ll want to crawl into bed and cry. Both are okay. Just don’t get stuck in the story that you’ll never get over them-because you will.
Here’s the thing: getting over your ex isn’t about erasing them from your memory. It’s about letting go of the version of them and the relationship you’re still holding onto. It’s about making peace with what happened and choosing to move forward, even if it’s hard.
The sooner you start focusing on your growth, your happiness, and your future, the sooner you’ll realize: they weren’t the whole story. They were just a chapter. And you’ve got so much more left to write.
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