@@AxelAxe I am sure they will. But even good women get their hearts broken. I just don’t think it’s ok to intentionally play with a woman’s heart. At the end of the day, manipulation is manipulation. It’s still negative act commited regardless of who is on the receiving end of it. Its like saying murder is ok because the victim was a bad person. If you’re such a high value man, why engage in something so negative and shallow? And forgive me I am not saying you are doing that, but just speaking in general. Both of you come of as very mature men, especially you. However, I think Justin preaches some things that I find hard to believe he even follows himself.
Make a list on notes on your phone, of everything wrong with the person you were in a relationship. All the things that you didn’t like, their behaviours, the way they treated you. Every time you think about them read that list and remind yourself why that person wasn’t the right person for you. Worked for me. I was over it within a month.
Nice trick mate, but I don't think this gonna work out for me cuz I genuinely want to keep all the good things and memories of her, also wishing the best for her even when the breakup hit, she blamed it all on me. The last thing i said to her was : Thank you for everything. Then 2 week later i blocked all social connection to her and our mutual friends that i know i rarely see them again. It been three months now, i don't want to beg,try to get back or anything like that, i still love her i know but this is the time i need to learn to love myself first. i haven't get over the breakup yet but i know i will, eventually.
@@hoangdo1539 Why would you want to keep good memories of her if she blamed you for everything!? If I read that correctly, that don't make no sense! Like, yeah I get the "taking the high road" mentality; but you can't let someone have power over you. Meaning, you got to not think about them and move on. Ik it is hard as fk, but you got to TRY to not remember her especially if she blamed you for everything! So what if you don't see her friends or her posts anymore. If you truly care about your mental health and yourself; please don't put anymore power into thinking about someone who obviously blamed you for everything. Unless she was right to do so, then that is different. You need to give this up to Jesus my friend and keep doing you. As ez as it is to say, somethings happen for a reason and probably best that way!
I separated from my wife 6 months ago. It was so hard. I begged her to stay. I was very weak. But now I’m getting over her. She has parties and slept with random guys. While I have set up a business. Gone back to college, gym, read books, no coffee, I have started making smoothies
Keep working on yourself and don’t worry about anything else. You will think about her but eventually that will fade away. Don’t stop growing man. There is so much to Life that you can experience if you keep on that path
@@fireblade8905 I’m in the same situation, but with time your thoughts will change towards the things that now matter to you and you will move ahead. Thanks for sharing and being honest man. I appreciate your time
@@fireblade8905 trust me, her time will come sooner than later. Especially when you get younger woman and have more kids with her, unfortunately your other set of children might also get jealous but that’s the game
Remember the long game, brother. I am in the same boat - separated 2 months ago, but no kids. I'm sure she slept with at least 1 random guy as well. Remember, the long game: focus on where she will be in 5 years and where you will be in 5 years. Women with body count are a depreciating asset, whereas you're an appreciating asset assuming you do things right
11 years ago I got dumped by my first girlfriend of 3 years which sent me into a spiral of depression for 6 months, which I came out of a completely different much stronger person and have used all the pain, grief and loss as a catalyst to completely transform myself into a very financially successful man with a very respectable job, a great husband and a son who takes care of any problems his parents have with money. Some of the worst things that happen to you can be complete life changers if you can find yourself in the chaos, it's almost like the old you dies and you're reborn again with a new mission in life. Remember, energy can never be destroyed only converted, turn the extreme negative into incredible positive.
This logic applies to any woman you're in love with, wether you're together or not. It's going to be hard as hell to let her go, because in your heart you know you're letting go of all the dreams you had about her, all the futures you wished for. But as a man you have to reconcile with the fact that your dream for yourself as a man with a legacy with honor and pride, that if she is actively going against that for whatever reason, if she isn't chasing you rather than you chasing her. That's a wrap, it's already over, the dreams you had with her are already dead you just haven't realized it or don't want to swallow that pill. The sooner you remove yourself from that equation and move on, the better off everyone will be. You don't have to be spiteful or angry about it even though that is indeed how you might feel, ultimately exiting with class will position you in the best place you can see yourself looking back on it all. And how you see yourself in all of this is truly all that matters.
great post, this is why i suffered so badly in 2019 from my previous r/s which my Ex completely shattered me and broke me. i'm in a new r/s and recently i accessed my google drive backup and saw so many old photos and videos of us and all the memories came back and my brain was playing tricks on me with the good memories only. Took me awhile before i had to think back of all the nasty memories and sad times i was dealing with alone whilst i was in the r/s too. it's painful thinking back about the what if's moments but crazy that hald a decade has passed since that happened
So true brother. Well said. Sometimes you gotta recognize when to walk away, know that it’s already over like you said. Gotta be a man about it and not let the fantasies of what could have been creep into your emotions. 💪
When i had my first break up i was such a miserable bet@ I kept trying to get her back. Now i realized this one thing. If a woman leaves you she is basically saying. I can find someone better than you. When i realized this breaking up was no longer an issue. I showed that woman they won't find someone better by outworking all her potential partners. Out of all 4 break ups 3 tried to get back with me instead😂
@@maureenpether5265its not the money women are after, its the dignity and respect you get by upgrading and following your dreams, things u likely lacked when she left you, but that just shows all women are the same and u can be happy with any of these
I have always practiced this very good advice, never go back or look back, straight forward. Break ups should be very short. “ It’s just not a good fit”, never explain why, then leave and never look back.
Walking away from someone I'm deeply in love with is the most difficult thing I have ever done. However, it's what I must do in order to find my destiny. Strength, heal, and move on. I love the full episode. Thank you for an incredibly invaluable message. 🙏🏻
Thanks for sharing Collin. You’re right it is difficult and that shows you actually had massive love. Don’t let that keep you from living in the future. Keep ahead and build yourself. 🙏
@@ericmartin-t2n you need to let go. It’s the hard truth but if you haven’t already then it’s for the best of the both of you. I learned this the hard way trying to fix my relationship for months and eventually I split up with her. Sent her a message a week after saying I wish you the best and truly do not wanna be on bad terms. She says u did everything u wouldn’t and I said sorry. End of. Sometimes loving someone means letting go bro
You've got to be a man. Even though it hurts don't show any emotion. If you show emotion you lose they will never call you back. Even if she doesn't call you back, she won't forget you.
@@Mr.McWatsonYes and most guys nowadays will beg, plead and chase after a breakup. So you not only walk away with your dignity, you show her that you have strenght and stand up from the crowd.
Same situation rn, and I'm dealing this heartbreak really in a hard way since 2 weeks and I cant eat properly, I cant do my job properly and day by day being haunted by memories, this video somehow boost my shattered ego.
Same thing happen with me . Just leave it on the table and let it eat your old self . There is no food on the table to feed on . Died . U Reborn your new version.
My thoughts are with you David stay strong and be there for your daughter. I know from experience that the next few months will be extremely difficult for you man. But turn pain into fuel, and use that fuel to improve as a man.
@@AxelAxe thank you for the advice and the video. I honestly think my emotions would have gotten in the way if it wasn’t for this. I am forever grateful. I have always been there for my daughter and always will be. I’m determined to win my rodeo this time around. The sky is the limit for this cowboy now.
Good for you bro my wife was from Columbia i told her to watch our for American woman they are jealous and will ruin a good thing. Anyways after 4 years of marriage and building her career up and her credit etc....she decided to come home one day and NOT tell me where she was. I did not ask but i let it be a test to her... Guess what she did not come home again hahaa jokes on her i immediately changed the locks. No contact NOTHING. Watch out guys woman are smart they want to keep the door open to get help from you example help her fix her auto, fix her home, give her financial advice etc... Please guys don't be a SIMP cut them off COLD let them figure out life's problem on there own. Woman now just need to sleep with a lawyer,accountant,mechanic and keep them all in friends mode so they can come up NO WAY do that let them suffer on there own
I'm in the same boat, wife left with daughter. How do you overcome bitterness and jealousy? I workout until I want to throw up, but the negative thoughts are inevitably
I used this advice this last week, ole girl left but wanted me to beg for her back the next day when she texted me, i told her straight up “if you want to leave, leave i wont hold you back” and reacted the same way as said in this video
4:15... I wish I had heard that a few months ago. Great advice. For anyone going through a breakup, this part is golden. The pain is real, but it will be exacerbated if you persistently try to reach out to her.
Getting my heart robbed a few years ago was unimaginable pain, and it made me so much more kind when dating and leaving women. No one deserves it in vane.
Been through the emotional rollercoaster and properly indoctrinated within college programming…now, I’m looking forward to the colder, lonelier and service oriented path of my masculine journey. Thank you for the advice.
I did this twice in my life. I am glade someone out there is spreading the same message. We all want our women to be better, but when they start to disrespect and go their own way, it is time for seperation. I know the feeling and difficulty it has become for people, but it feels ten times better when you know you are living a better life after a long journey of self improvement. Let her know from your stories and pictures that you are doing just fine without her. Make sure you are having the fun and awesome things she misses. It is not for revenge, it is for yourself and motivation to move into a new part of your life. Just like Justin said, if she comes back, it is up to you to do the right thing. Make up a tight rule for her, make her undestand she has to pay double the price to enter back in your life. People need to be accountable!
@@elielsaban8218 thats something very personal for you to decide. Just be careful and aware of all the issues you had before and make an assessment with a calm mind whether or not those issues have been resolved. There is no denying that in the back of your head you will always be questioning if you’re making the right choice and that might sabotage any chance for the relationship
@@elielsaban8218 If she comes back to you, you have to make her pay double the price. Either the money, or something that hurts her in the guts to sacrifice for you. I am not talking about revenge, I am talking about responsiblity and opportunity cost. She needs to pay for that cost so that she can get hold of YOU! If someone wanted something from you, ask for the price, then bail, then comes back after a few month after the market price rise for 20%, do you want to sell to her for the original price or 20%? Of course not!
Love this. I’ve had 3 months of heartbreak after doing this. She wanted to break, so I gave it her. Said I didn’t agree but I love myself as much as I love her so I’ll let her go. Dropped her off, she wavered but still left. Blew me a kiss, that was 3 months ago. No contact, and I never will. A girl who’s been a massive part of my life for 10 years and an inspiration to be a better and more successful man. I’ll use this to do even better again. It’s tough but I’m strong enough. Thanks again and good luck guys. Fork the UK cowboy
The future will smile upon you and you will find so much more to life. I’m happy you have stayed strong and hope you continue growing and having good thoughts around the relationship.
I'm 56 and I was living with my girlfriend for a year, we where together for 3 years before and I proposed 8 months ago. I started calling out her BS/double standards, not in a rude way, but with open communication and with examples. I checked all the boxes she said she wanted in a man, came home 4 weeks ago and got blindsided with a letter that basically said "that we are a love story, not a life story " and how she loves me, basically 5 sentences of BS. I read it and looked at her and only said "okay" pack my stuff up and was gone in a hour. I haven't talked to her since and won't, but I left with my self respect/dignity. She my not want to be with me, but she'll remember that exit...Stay strong men..
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
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People don’t tell you what you need to hear but this right here told me what I needed to hear because I was that dude blowing her up asking for closure asking why she doing this and it came to a point where I stop calling an this video was the reassurance that I needed to know that I was doing the right thing by letting her
Breakup rules for every man (just my opinion, of course): Rule #1 - No sad breakup playlists for more than 48 hours. 🎶 After that, it’s strictly pump-up jams only. Rule #2 - Avoid texting her ‘just to check in’… your phone isn’t a boomerang, it won’t bring her back. 📵 And Rule #3 - Get a haircut. You’re not officially reborn after a breakup until you’ve had a fresh fade. 💇♂️
I’ve always said to any of my past GF’s when they have decided or myself to end the relationship that once this boat sets it sails it never comes back. Being able to walk away at any given second is the most power a man can ever obtain no matter how attractive or cool she is. If you don’t respect yourself why should she have respect for you.
Walking away is for quitters, shows extreme weakness. Nothing will ever work for you if you continue being a quitter. It is not a super power to be cold and disrespectful by leaving someone you claim to love.
@@danbaker7640 Yes because if your women is cheating on you for 2 years it’s better to listen to her to better why she cheated on you, why she is right and you are wrong and how she’s liking it and she should continue while you cut your balls off. So much courage
Really appreciate you saying that. Sometimes we think we are the only ones dealing with this but I’m finding so many men learning to navigate this. Hope you watch the full episode too. Thanks for your time 🙏
Same. Thanks for sharing the stuff ain't easy but just like rodeo even if not an 8 a second ride, the trick is to not bust your face on the gate because it's essentially the same thing. Lots of these relationships are a loaded gun/a bucking bull waiting to stomp on ya once they throw ya off.... ain't no point in reasoning. Ya ever, EVER, see a cowboy go try and reason with the bull once they're bucked thefck off?! No! They run for the gate and let the clowns deal with em instead and try to even when injured ride and exit with style but still get out with the guts to ride again next time with more know how than before
@@AxelAxe I'm a student right now actually, I'm preparing for an important exam... So i just started taking my studies seriously again after the breakup.
I was stoic during the breakup 2 months ago. I walked away. Last month she had contacted me. I was stoic and wanted to flush her out. I disappeared. A friend of mine told me gf ex gf had a backup guy. Go away and preserve yourself even if you seem like the nicest girl in the world.
My gf/mother of my daughter left me after 15 years together! All because i work nights and didnt put in as many hours as her. I worked, picked up every extra shift possible to pay the bills. I paid the DTE & WIFI bill every single month for the past 14 years. It hurts so bad inside. I feel 💔. I did all the laundry in the house. I cleaned, i washed her work clothes every single night so she didnt have dirty work clothes when she woke up after working the night shift i would get home and make sure her n our daughter had clean clothes for the morning. She threw me away like trash when i showed her love, gave her attention, put my whole heart into her. Always asked how her day was. Just a month ago on my birthday she was talking about having another baby! Now she kicks me out in the cold, not even 2 weeks into our "break" i find out she was sleeping with our downstairs neighbor! I feel like this breakup is so 1 sided. I feel broken inside while she acts like nothing bothers her and she lives this amazing life smh i always thought after 15 years together that she would think of me or have SOME love in her heart for me. I havent spoke to her since. She abandoned me & replaced me as if she never met me! I dont get it. Sorry for the long rant guys. Jus need advice bad. 15 years jus for her to forget about me and have no love for me after that many years and a kid together! I just do not get it
Now the only person that should matter to you is your daughter. Make sure she sees you strong and building yourself back up. You must find a way to leave that job and move to a daytime gig. You need to sit down today and write down 3 things you want to accomplish to feel like a beast. Use this pain as fuel to get up and go make more money and become way more successful than that **s neighbor and show your ex from afar who she is missing. You will not have weakness in you. You will only move forward. You will win.
The advice above is poor. What you aren't understanding is men feel like because they put food on the table she will stay. You literally just said she left because you were not there, not emotionally for her. You maybe there financially and physically but you didn't marry her did you. 15 years and she's still your gf. I've been trying to explain this to men. Women want a man who is emotionally there for them. The lack of vulnerability will ruin your relationships. You said you had an amazing 15 years together to you. She wouldn't have left then. You were not fulfilling her emotional needs as a woman. She went to the person who was there and listened to her. What is there not to understand?.
@@cha9165 there is a lot of truth in what you’re saying but you’re also missing the point of view of a man. We give love as providers and protectors. It goes both ways.
@@cha9165 Yes yes it's always the man's fault. He needed to change and be there for her cause she was perfect for 15 years. There wasn't anything she needed to work on, correct? Her flaws weren't a deal breaker for him but the guy downstairs was for her because he was going to make all her problems just disappear, right? Give me a fking break!!
The Iron Mind 🤯 Every man needs to hear this.. what a wake-up call.. 😅 If you don't respect yourself, a woman never will 👊 It's hard, fellas. I'm going through it right now..
@kindredspiritzz66 meet someone new, better & more compatible. After a breakup, we always tell our selfs that it will be hard to meet someone. I focused on myself my body, my finances, and most importantly, NOT LOOKING FOR LOVE!!... Instead, when I least expected it... love found me. Focus on you first! The rest will fallow. 👍
@@MrOKECBON good for you. I just broke up with my gal but I know if I give it a year I'll be in a better place in life. Not sure I wanna find someone else, at 58 there's not much of an upside to women anymore
We were together for 2 years. She was it for me. Unfortunately her trust issues and insecurities got the best of her and ruined us. She strung me along with I don’t know or how can we fix this? I stayed I fought for us. But once she gave be the definite “yes, we’re breaking up” that was it. I didn’t respond. It’s the hardest thing I’ve done but it’s what needs to be done.
Sorry to hear that Jon. It’s truly difficult man. It’s one of the most common things that happen specially with guys who are capable and successful. I hope you can stay strong and keep ahead brother.
I agree with most of this, except that "there's no pain greater than heartbreak". Been through that and also been through health issues. Depending on the issue, health issues can be a much stronger pain. Fortunately, I overcame it. Also, the pain of being poor in an environment with none to little opportunity where you have your family going hungry etc.. i imagine that's even a stronger pain
The problem for me is when you have shared attachments such as small children. This for me has been so challenging and difficult having a young child that is a victim of a breakup
I was seeing this great girl for nearly two and a half years. I had come to love her, but never showed it, I couldn't face it. She loved me but didn't want to delude herself that I loved her, so she moved onto another man behind the scenes during the last six months of us seeing each other. I had to walk away after finding this out. It's killed me, and her.
Next time don’t be afraid to show your love when you feel it. Although if she went either way another man I don’t think she loved you as you think. Just my opinion and I don’t know the details. Hope you move through the pain and find love soon. I’m sure you will. Trust me you will.
My ex broke up with me right before finishing medical practice to obtain my license. I was so depressed and sad. Out of the blue she reached out to me a few months after when her grandfather passed away. I sent my condolences through text, and she got angry with me for not attending the funeral. But the reality was that I just wanted to move and focus on my career. I still feel sad and guilty for not attending, but she made her choice to end things. I have new job and nice salary. Once girls at local gym knew I finished medical practice they started leaving thier numbers in my car window its kind of surreal. I always spent time being nerd 🤓 now I feel like a rockstar.
Thanks for sharing that Robert. I think you did the right thing and moved on. It’s very difficult and what women don’t understand is that we can’t be friends with someone we were romantic with. I’m sure you will find a great woman for you soon and congratulations on completing med school. Are you taking a specialty next?
@@AxelAxe Thank you so much for the reply its a bit of relief hearing from someone with experience past relationship to give me a positive affirmation for that decision I made. Currently trying master the mental discipline of moderation when it comes to eating. My excercise follow through is on point though 👌 My interest is surgery in area gastroenterology [stomach area] or maybe maybe if Im bold the Cardiovascular[heart area] maybe I can fix my broken heart 💔 lol.
@@roberth4350 go for cardio surgery and you will be always fixing broke hearts everywhere lol. Honestly that’s great to hear that you’re interested in surgery. All my family are doctors but I went the film route. Best of luck Robert
A girl I was with told me that she didn’t wanted to be with me anymore because personally she feel lost in terms of what she want to do or what she want in life and she said that is not okay for me. She said that she look at the fact that I know what I want in life which is and amazing thing and it’s very inspiring to her. She said that I am puzzle piece in her life. She said that she is confused with herself and she is sorry for all her confusion and how confused I am with her. I am wondering if she does want my help or she doesn’t want to to be with me because she doesn’t want her lack of direction in her life and baggage to come in my life. This is making me really think right now.
That is something very common, and the best thing you can do is let her know that you care about her deeply and you understand. Clean break up without any drama. In a few months she will probably reach out to you, but still unclear if what she wants. She will want to be in your life again, but you won’t desire the same. You need to focus on yourself and keep following your purpose.
@@AxelAxe she told me this before and she is telling me again, just randomly after a week of not taking to each other. She told me based on the fact that I am doing amazing and successful things she doesn’t want her baggage to come in my life and that’s not fair for me. So the best thing I think I should do is walk away.
Agree 100% here. My wife left me after 16 years (she was having an affair)4 years ago. I did exactly as Mr Waller says ( off my own back) Roll on just over 3 years and i met an amazing girl and have never looked back. And guess what? the ex now calls and texts frequently as is said here!. Im in great shape but always remember your self respect and dignity, sometimes you just go to turn the other cheek, and dust yourself off. Yep you will feel like shit for a couple of months but work on yourself, physically and mentally Oh and this vid was a random one that came up!
My soon to be future wife left me out of the blue, like a month ago. We were not perfect, but i wanted it to make it work. She showed me red flags in the past, but i kept sticking by her side. How foolish was i. Till this day, i feel like everything around me just froze. But i am trying to get through. All this month, just improving on my self. No parties, no junk food, no girls, no nothing. Just me and my self. No support around me. it's extremely hard, but i know i will thank my self in the future.
Focus on what you can control and give yourself the time to refocus on what matters to you. Sit down and write a few lines about the life you want to live. Ponder on that, and dream a life so incredible that it sounds impossible. Then decide with every fiber of your being to become that man.
I face this and I did it, I said bye and walked away. After a week I was weaker than her and I respond to one of her wpp stories, being alone in other country, with non support group played games with my mind. I don't feel proud, after this we end up in a video call, and same story I told her the same. Lets take some distance. I thought because was me braking up was going to be easier, but I was wrong. I comment this cuz now I realize what was my error, why I contacted her again. I took the decision but I started doubting. So my advice if someone is facing the same thing so doesn't make the same mistake is... Understand why you walked away, put it on paper, I don't write a lot, but putting in on paper believe me it helps a lot. Also write how this decision is going to help you in the long run, and read it any time you start doubting. And work on yourself, and enjoy the process of becoming better.
Well said Bruno. I hope you can remain strong and build yourself up. I would add to call a close brother or friend when you start having doubts. Someone who can remind you of why you’re making that decision in the first place
I was dating a chick recently who i really liked. She sent me a message recently essentially saying how she doesnt like that i dont approve of her having guy friends and that apparently she isn’t in that part of her life to have a relationship (i.e ‘i think i can do better’), which is straight cap based on her convos. I didnt argue, i just sent her “im sorry its come down to this, so much about you im going to miss”. She sent me a response saying how she doesn’t want to stop talking to me, its just that is her boundary and where she stands etc etc. Cold. No response. Not watching her stories. Hurts, but if she doesn’t have genuine burning desire - whats the point
You did the right thing. Continue to grow as a man and focus on building yourself. The right woman will come on your path. And your ex will most likely regret it
@@Chauffageheate she posted me on her story as part of her “January Recap collage”. I saw that by previewing the story, but other than that I didn’t watch her stories for two weeks and whenever I posted something, she was first to see it. She hasn’t reached out, I havent reached out. If she ever reaches out, will demand a genuine heartfelt apology from her. Funny enough, on my explore page I see her liking photos and videos on “how to find a high quality man”😁😮💨she’s blind lol But yeah. Apparently she likes to gamble and thinks she can do better, so not much I can say on that. Its her life, her choices. Forgive and forget. I’ve moved on as its easy for me to find another. But no matter what, I definitely left a lasting impression considering she has a lot of male friends in her orbit which she cucked. Probably isn’t used to getting rejected
Beautiful advice from the both of you, this video pertains to what I'm going through now. So much love to you guys, thank you for speaking from a profound perspective at which we all find ourselves in at one point or another. Thank you, truly.
Hope you take the advice to heart and you can get past this bad time. Remember you will always come out winning if you focus and prioritize your growth over everything
Me and my girl just split after 4 years. Met at 17, now 21. Not no puppy love. I dreamt of her before I ever met her. God sent her my way. Now I’m alone and looking to find the best version of myself. I have all the puzzle pieces, but there’s no picture to put together. I don’t want it all if I don’t have someone to share it with
That‘s crazy, happened to me too. Always had dreams of her before i met her. It did end in the dreams after several years being and living together. One month ago we split after just two happy years, it feels so wrong. But i guess i am going into a future which may suprise me because i dont have any future vision dreams… wish you the best my boy
Just recently broke up with my girlfriend after 8 months. Overall, it was a great, I still care about her and we even considered giving it another shot, but realized that there really was no going back. We were trying to ice skate up hill to make it work and it could never get going like it did the first time together. I've accepted that we had a good run, but I know I have to focus on me now and trust that everything else will eventually fall into place in time.
My heart is completely destroyed right now..i meat this girl a year ago and we started dating..the chemical was fantastic in every way, physically, mentally and emotionally..now she has suddenly decided to move to japan living me here...every night it's only pain, sadness and regrets
@@AxelAxe you're absolute right but I'm leaving with the doubt that I might have been used by her and I feel so stupid about it.. she's leaving me with no hesitation or remorse, knowing very well that my life is here...I'll move on! this is a promise to myself! ....never trust a woman, never!
This is great advise for a woman too. Say you crossed a line, I'll miss you but there are plenty of fish in the sea (and chocolate!). Leave the phone off the hook walk away. Thanks! Women can move on quicker I've seen it in every couple who have broken up, they process better become more philosophical and pragmatic
@@AxelAxe It happens. Usually good times at that. I'm sure most people don't mind. Premiere Pro and Davinchi 18 have mouth noise filters just as a heads up. Great interview again.
I’m the one that caused the damage, and then was too far into a cycle of self-pity that I couldn’t bring myself to work on myself or us. She called it a day. I’ll admit I’ve been through the wringer these past few months. We’ve kept contact and had conversations, mostly because of her two kids…they still want me to show up for them as a role model, and I certainly don’t want to be the man who bailed on them. But, when it comes to their mother…goddamn it I’m gonna have to just walk away. If I don’t, I’m gonna be unhappy for the rest of my life. This really sucks…feels like I’m walking into a burning building. I never wanted any of this
I’m sorry you’re going through that Michael. Hope you find peace soon. It will get better the fastest you cut off the toxicity and get to work on your self. We win up to your failures and just work to become better
I begged, I cried, I brought up past happy memories with her. I tried everything and the more I tried the more she looked down on me and lost respect. Trust me it’s going to hurt like hell, but Justin is 1000% right here. Just say sorry it did not work out send that last text and WALK AWAY!
My ex cheated on me with her co-worker, I supported and cared for her when she was working as a cashier, but when she started work in bank, she told me, people change, I deserve better than you, the guy I went is much higher than you, I deserve him and not you, she said and went with her co-worker that is 5 years older than me that works there, I got my heart broken. That week I got accepted in a University in Germany, that she didn't believe that I will work there, also I will start soon working in gaming company that I will make double of money that they make. What I love about the heartbreak is the energy that it gives you, hurts your ego, like that mthf is better than me? I will make her regret every second she left.
Oh boy you got exactly what you need to take that opportunity and make it the best thing it ever happened to you. Go ahead and make sure you maximize your opportunity and come back to that bank to make a big fat deposit
@@AxelAxe Truee, this breakup really gave me a lot motivation, now I'm work 2x times harder than before. She took a bet on my future and with this behaviour she told me my future will be better without you. Time to prove her wrong, and do what you said, if she will not be fired from that job lol
I wish I had heard my old man. He told me just this and I ignored it because I felt like she was the love of my life so I needed to do everything within my reach to get her back. Her 2 sisters and her mom reached to me and I told them to help me because I loved her so much and I also talked to an older woman witch is my friend and also hers. It’s been almost a month since the break up (8 years and 7 months of relationship). Idk if that strategy would work but probably would do way better than what I did. Today she sent me a message saying we’re adults and we shouldn’t involve other persons in our problems, so what I did only made her feel more confident and mature. It was when I finally understood and said goodbye… Idk what the future is going to be for “us”, but right now I just went ghost on every social media and I’m fully committed on self improvement. I guess I should be better to get better things because what she did with me was a proof of her no-love for me and that it was only a passion.
Probably one of the hardest things you will experience in your life, but there will ne a lot more you will learn from this. I’m happy you’re approaching it the proper way now and have found a new direction. Focus on that path and get better. Don’t worry about what could have been different. Only focus on the future
hey bro when its done its done there is no going back. if you go back to girl who disrespected you she will do again evenmore until you become door mat which other man enter her house stepping on your weak feelings . so move on there are 4 billion woman in the world find who really loves and respects you
She said she would wait for me to change, and she would use her time to heal. We were together for 2 years. A month after we broke up she got with another dude. It sucks.
Then hurry up and do your healing, your building and your growth. Is all up to you to prove her that you’re the better man. And I promise you a wonderful woman will come to your life when you least expect it and it will be like nothing ever happened.
Ghosting a woman or abruptly quitting a relationship without a real conversation is emotional abuse. If you as the man want to leave her for your own reasons and she treated you good- then leaving her in a cold way via phone or short convo - isn't a " G " move...but a coward move. Many men aren't capable to communicate rightly and leave. .however if the woman treats him whole time bad then of course he should leave...but men dont understand the mental damage of ghosting or a short words break up....its a selfish act and should ONLY be done if you were abused as a man.
Once u make the decision and will not be convinced otherwise, there s no point in meeting up with a cold attitude to rub it in the other persons face that u dont want them nd have them get emotional nd/or shocked asking for a chance. I think its kinder to use a phone call or text. Then after if the other pesron wants an explanation or asks to talk in person then u may consider it.
In this case we were talking about the moment where a woman has clearly stated she doesn’t want to be with you or has found another man. The real conversation has been had and she has decided to leave, therefore the best thing to do is to acknowledge that and peacefully say that you love her, will miss her and want the best for her. After that, is not ghosting, it is just carrying on with the fact that the relationship is over.
@@AxelAxe thanks for adding more information and I misunderstood it. It wasn't obvious to me since English isn't my mother's tongue...anyways- I think the best thing you can do as a man is also just to react peacefully and get directly into the no contact rule to protect yourself as a man from getting more hurt. And your version is great too. Sorry for my wrong assumption
Wow Justin just describe my life , I am 22 year old truck driver trying to build a legacy, gf of mine of 3 years left me .. she was a gem and my only friend
My soon to be ex said get out the house, so i packed up and left. Still tried making it work, but i wasn't going to let opportunities pass by. I moved 890 miles away to a new job for a year, then the next year went back overseas. Now im back in filling for divorce. Probably should have done this sooner, but out of sight out of mind. I was chasing that next adventure.
How long did it take until it was totally out of mind? Young guys suffer over the first couple months and think it will last forever. Give them some hope
@AxelAxe . Maybe 3 months. As soon as I was around people that were driven and with a goal and that were stoic and humble, it was a 180 turn around. Then I dove into work, my son, getting out of debt, and just pushing forward. She never filed and we never talked and I was chasing life, making memories. So it was easy to forget. Now I'm sure that somehow that isn't healthy or noble in some way. I was just so beaten down when I left I just wanted to get back to a higher functioning version of myself.
@AxelAxe I'm also in my 30s. And isn't my first divorce but definitely the most frustrating. So I knew as soon I started making moves the pain and embarrassment would stop.
@@Grunt-vn4gt hope you keep on that same path man. I’m sure you will find all your goals becoming a reality and a woman in your future who complements you
Thanks for advice that's exactly what I needed to hear took like 3 to 4 major hits by life hard to the face nearly gave up because they literally happened one after another in less than 30 days. Somehow pulled myself up off the ground because I'm not a loser anymore I'm in the fight of my life. For you guys this time I'm going to "WIN." And myself.
1st Corinthians 7:15"But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace."
@@AxelAxe here is the NIV translation 1st Corinthians 7:15 "But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace." 1st Corinthians 7:22" For the one who was a slave when called to faith in the Lord is the Lord’s freed person; similarly, the one who was free when called is Christ’s slave." It's the greatest honor to be Jesus Christ and God Almighty's Slave.
@@AxelAxe We are God's slave because we obey God's will and not our own as real Christians. 1st John 2:17" The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever."
This video takes me back, I had a beautiful girl give me that ultimatum probably 20 years ago now, it’s either me or the military. My father told me to never make a life decision because of a woman. We used to listen to that song in the barracks and talk about all the women who bailed on us.
@AxelAxe When Waller described letting a girl know 'I'm really gonna miss you...take care.' That is some cold truth regarding an optimal action which is very difficult.
I am 29 male, she 31 female. We were almost 10 years together in relationship. She broke up with me 1 month ago. I can't get over it she is telling me not to call her and see her. I regret that i didn't propoused her or have kids, we weren't grown so much for our years. I cant i so regret but third person enters her friend. And she didnt want to give up on him
Im glad i found this video today. Broke up ... wait for it.... 18 MONTHS AGO! 🤦♂️🤦♂️ Kept in contact for the first 10 months, we kinda "helped" each other through it. She met her new man 8 months ago so i told her "I will always love you, but im blocking all communications now" I was fine, was training like an animal, no drinking, nothing else either, then 2 weeks ago i go on a fucking major bender, have a catastrophic neurochemical crash and contact her. Got unbelievably so low, fucking dangerously suicidal, it was ridiculous. I still love this girl, even though there was quite a bit of abuse in the relationship from her to me but ffs i still love her. It now feels like she left just yesterday when in fact it was 18 months ago and shes with someone else now. How fucking retarded can i be? I am ashamed at how weak i am in this area of my life. I "almost" never drink or do drugs, im early 40's, self made multimillionaire from being homeless at age 15 and a very abusive childhood. Im physically fit, kickboxer, weights, no#1 in my game internationally Ive managed to show strength in other areas of my life under terrible circumstances, why the fuck am i such a fucking pussy ass bitch in this situation? Its a total fuck up.
this message right here... you should read your own f*cking words every single time you feel tempted to even think about her. is time to stop and go ballistic on yourself. You are DONE. from now on you will never look back.
@AxelAxe Thank you brother 🙏 two week on, I'm back together 100%, just a big bump in the road. Business is cranking, training is cranking, my team are absolutely on fire & a 5 hour blast down country in the 991.2 Turbo always helps! 🤘🤘🤘 The human brain is a fucking riddled thing to be sure, I don't regret writing my first comment above because it's true & I meant it. I will remark on how unbelievably different my headspace is now. You are doing good work brother 🙏🍾💯
@@anthonyprice3353 that’s the way to go Anthony. So proud of you man and I’m happy this video could help a bit. Stay growing and stay in touch. If you’re ever in LA hit me up
When this girl whom I was dating for a few months broke it off with me (we weren't quite official) recently, I reacted badly and told her about another girl who was my girlfriend (I exaggerated it to upset her). I've since reached out to apologise, clear the air and explain but she hasn't responded but hasn't blocked me. I feel awful as I hurt her.
I’m going through it really bad right now. Really really bad rn. I feel lost. I’m strong, I’m 22, I hit the gym like crazy for years now, I have a stable job, and yet I still feel like shit because of how she made me feel. Sometimes it just feels like I can’t anymore.
We have all been there brother. It takes time, but you are capable of so much, you will find love in the arms of someone who respects you and honors you. Do not think for a moment that this is the end. This pain is only temporary. You have all the time in the world. I promise you in the future this moment will be just but a memory and how you act today will determine the outcome. Please keep me updated. Every month message me and let me know how you’re doing. You got this man
U need to talk to urself bro why do u think u needed her to be loved when did that start bc it usually comes from childhood if u loved urself more and we’re comfortable for it in the end ofc it wouldve hurt but ud be fine bc u know u love urself
Adios mi amor 🖤
Amor God will give you two daughters 😉
@@ellamedic8963 and they will be amazing
@@AxelAxe I am sure they will. But even good women get their hearts broken. I just don’t think it’s ok to intentionally play with a woman’s heart. At the end of the day, manipulation is manipulation. It’s still negative act commited regardless of who is on the receiving end of it. Its like saying murder is ok because the victim was a bad person. If you’re such a high value man, why engage in something so negative and shallow? And forgive me I am not saying you are doing that, but just speaking in general. Both of you come of as very mature men, especially you. However, I think Justin preaches some things that I find hard to believe he even follows himself.
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What is the name of the song ?
Make a list on notes on your phone, of everything wrong with the person you were in a relationship. All the things that you didn’t like, their behaviours, the way they treated you. Every time you think about them read that list and remind yourself why that person wasn’t the right person for you. Worked for me. I was over it within a month.
That has worked for me as well. Works like a charm.
Just made mine and it is good reading material.👌
great advice - thanks
Nice trick mate, but I don't think this gonna work out for me cuz I genuinely want to keep all the good things and memories of her, also wishing the best for her even when the breakup hit, she blamed it all on me. The last thing i said to her was : Thank you for everything. Then 2 week later i blocked all social connection to her and our mutual friends that i know i rarely see them again. It been three months now, i don't want to beg,try to get back or anything like that, i still love her i know but this is the time i need to learn to love myself first. i haven't get over the breakup yet but i know i will, eventually.
@@hoangdo1539 Why would you want to keep good memories of her if she blamed you for everything!? If I read that correctly, that don't make no sense! Like, yeah I get the "taking the high road" mentality; but you can't let someone have power over you. Meaning, you got to not think about them and move on. Ik it is hard as fk, but you got to TRY to not remember her especially if she blamed you for everything! So what if you don't see her friends or her posts anymore. If you truly care about your mental health and yourself; please don't put anymore power into thinking about someone who obviously blamed you for everything. Unless she was right to do so, then that is different. You need to give this up to Jesus my friend and keep doing you. As ez as it is to say, somethings happen for a reason and probably best that way!
“Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner”
Tough way to live life.
Heat, is such a fire movie.
That’s a heat quote, Robert deniro
@@millionairebully indeed
@@frankielyman8769 Was hoping someone would notice 😂
I separated from my wife 6 months ago. It was so hard. I begged her to stay. I was very weak. But now I’m getting over her. She has parties and slept with random guys. While I have set up a business. Gone back to college, gym, read books, no coffee, I have started making smoothies
Keep working on yourself and don’t worry about anything else. You will think about her but eventually that will fade away. Don’t stop growing man. There is so much to Life that you can experience if you keep on that path
@@AxelAxe thank you I need that comment. We have kids together so I can’t not see her. But i know that I’m on the right track for self improvement
@@fireblade8905 I’m in the same situation, but with time your thoughts will change towards the things that now matter to you and you will move ahead. Thanks for sharing and being honest man. I appreciate your time
@@fireblade8905 trust me, her time will come sooner than later. Especially when you get younger woman and have more kids with her, unfortunately your other set of children might also get jealous but that’s the game
Remember the long game, brother. I am in the same boat - separated 2 months ago, but no kids. I'm sure she slept with at least 1 random guy as well. Remember, the long game: focus on where she will be in 5 years and where you will be in 5 years. Women with body count are a depreciating asset, whereas you're an appreciating asset assuming you do things right
11 years ago I got dumped by my first girlfriend of 3 years which sent me into a spiral of depression for 6 months, which I came out of a completely different much stronger person and have used all the pain, grief and loss as a catalyst to completely transform myself into a very financially successful man with a very respectable job, a great husband and a son who takes care of any problems his parents have with money.
Some of the worst things that happen to you can be complete life changers if you can find yourself in the chaos, it's almost like the old you dies and you're reborn again with a new mission in life. Remember, energy can never be destroyed only converted, turn the extreme negative into incredible positive.
Thats the way to go!!! It is hard at first but you will become better and better
How long did it take you to move on?
@@PrashantSingh-rp6mf he said 6 months
This logic applies to any woman you're in love with, wether you're together or not. It's going to be hard as hell to let her go, because in your heart you know you're letting go of all the dreams you had about her, all the futures you wished for. But as a man you have to reconcile with the fact that your dream for yourself as a man with a legacy with honor and pride, that if she is actively going against that for whatever reason, if she isn't chasing you rather than you chasing her. That's a wrap, it's already over, the dreams you had with her are already dead you just haven't realized it or don't want to swallow that pill. The sooner you remove yourself from that equation and move on, the better off everyone will be. You don't have to be spiteful or angry about it even though that is indeed how you might feel, ultimately exiting with class will position you in the best place you can see yourself looking back on it all. And how you see yourself in all of this is truly all that matters.
That’s very well articulated
great post, this is why i suffered so badly in 2019 from my previous r/s which my Ex completely shattered me and broke me. i'm in a new r/s and recently i accessed my google drive backup and saw so many old photos and videos of us and all the memories came back and my brain was playing tricks on me with the good memories only. Took me awhile before i had to think back of all the nasty memories and sad times i was dealing with alone whilst i was in the r/s too. it's painful thinking back about the what if's moments but crazy that hald a decade has passed since that happened
So true brother. Well said. Sometimes you gotta recognize when to walk away, know that it’s already over like you said. Gotta be a man about it and not let the fantasies of what could have been creep into your emotions. 💪
@@universeturtle I believe that we choose the wrong person. Bc we accept the type of love we believe we deserve.
@universeturtle not easy when there's kids involved
When i had my first break up i was such a miserable bet@ I kept trying to get her back. Now i realized this one thing. If a woman leaves you she is basically saying. I can find someone better than you. When i realized this breaking up was no longer an issue. I showed that woman they won't find someone better by outworking all her potential partners. Out of all 4 break ups 3 tried to get back with me instead😂
That’s the way to go. Be polite and always a gentleman. Then outwork everyone
would you say its a money thing.
@@maureenpether5265 Mine was a money thing.
This si fucking true
@@maureenpether5265its not the money women are after, its the dignity and respect you get by upgrading and following your dreams, things u likely lacked when she left you, but that just shows all women are the same and u can be happy with any of these
“I'm sorry it's come down to this
There's so much about you that I'm gonna miss” 🔥🔥🔥
Adios mi amor
Take care
just did if with my ex who dumped me
Hurts af
I used the same lines
But it's the right decision
I have always practiced this very good advice, never go back or look back, straight forward. Break ups should be very short. “ It’s just not a good fit”, never explain why, then leave and never look back.
Difficult but is the best for both parties
Walking away from someone I'm deeply in love with is the most difficult thing I have ever done. However, it's what I must do in order to find my destiny. Strength, heal, and move on. I love the full episode. Thank you for an incredibly invaluable message. 🙏🏻
Thanks for sharing Collin. You’re right it is difficult and that shows you actually had massive love. Don’t let that keep you from living in the future.
Keep ahead and build yourself. 🙏
@@AxelAxe thank you king. 👑
Real love is letting themselves go when they want to leave. That version of you had to die so new version of you can be created.
@@supernotnatural word
@@ericmartin-t2n you need to let go. It’s the hard truth but if you haven’t already then it’s for the best of the both of you. I learned this the hard way trying to fix my relationship for months and eventually I split up with her. Sent her a message a week after saying I wish you the best and truly do not wanna be on bad terms. She says u did everything u wouldn’t and I said sorry. End of. Sometimes loving someone means letting go bro
You've got to be a man. Even though it hurts don't show any emotion. If you show emotion you lose they will never call you back. Even if she doesn't call you back, she won't forget you.
Imprint yourself in their minds forever. Always a gentleman, always the best man they have ever come across.
i agree.its just doing it
I think that either if you want to heal as soon as possible or get her back strategy should be the same. Accept the breakup and walk away.
One of the hardest things to do, but after you go through it once you will be ready forever.
You're right, and for a dude it's the only path that is open, which keeps your self-respect intact.
@@Mr.McWatson word
@@Mr.McWatsonYes and most guys nowadays will beg, plead and chase after a breakup. So you not only walk away with your dignity, you show her that you have strenght and stand up from the crowd.
@@roger9162 exactly
Absolutely true. Have done the breakups with girls my whole life like this and was always respected for this over a long time after the breakup.
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Same situation rn, and I'm dealing this heartbreak really in a hard way since 2 weeks and I cant eat properly, I cant do my job properly and day by day being haunted by memories, this video somehow boost my shattered ego.
I know how you feel brother.
Watch my [dark mode] video. It will help
Get laid with other women
How are you now bro?
@@PrashantSingh-rp6mf hopefully he's good but im finished bro
Same thing happen with me . Just leave it on the table and let it eat your old self . There is no food on the table to feed on . Died . U Reborn your new version.
I just did this minutes ago. My wife and daughter have moved out.
Glad I was able to cowboy up. Thank you.
My thoughts are with you David stay strong and be there for your daughter. I know from experience that the next few months will be extremely difficult for you man. But turn pain into fuel, and use that fuel to improve as a man.
@@AxelAxe thank you for the advice and the video. I honestly think my emotions would have gotten in the way if it wasn’t for this. I am forever grateful.
I have always been there for my daughter and always will be.
I’m determined to win my rodeo this time around. The sky is the limit for this cowboy now.
@@davidlr7665 100%% David. Replay this whenever you’re feeling down brother. We are here for you man.
Good for you bro my wife was from Columbia i told her to watch our for American woman they are jealous and will ruin a good thing. Anyways after 4 years of marriage and building her career up and her credit etc....she decided to come home one day and NOT tell me where she was. I did not ask but i let it be a test to her... Guess what she did not come home again hahaa jokes on her i immediately changed the locks. No contact NOTHING. Watch out guys woman are smart they want to keep the door open to get help from you example help her fix her auto, fix her home, give her financial advice etc... Please guys don't be a SIMP cut them off COLD let them figure out life's problem on there own. Woman now just need to sleep with a lawyer,accountant,mechanic and keep them all in friends mode so they can come up NO WAY do that let them suffer on there own
I'm in the same boat, wife left with daughter. How do you overcome bitterness and jealousy? I workout until I want to throw up, but the negative thoughts are inevitably
I used this advice this last week, ole girl left but wanted me to beg for her back the next day when she texted me, i told her straight up “if you want to leave, leave i wont hold you back” and reacted the same way as said in this video
Is very interesting how they will leave but still want for us to chase them. Adios
Take care
4:15... I wish I had heard that a few months ago. Great advice. For anyone going through a breakup, this part is golden. The pain is real, but it will be exacerbated if you persistently try to reach out to her.
We all have to experience it to learn that lesson
Getting my heart robbed a few years ago was unimaginable pain, and it made me so much more kind when dating and leaving women. No one deserves it in vane.
Very true
Been through the emotional rollercoaster and properly indoctrinated within college programming…now, I’m looking forward to the colder, lonelier and service oriented path of my masculine journey. Thank you for the advice.
Doesn’t have to be lonelier. Make sure to add good brothers to your pack man. It makes a huge difference in life
I did this twice in my life. I am glade someone out there is spreading the same message. We all want our women to be better, but when they start to disrespect and go their own way, it is time for seperation. I know the feeling and difficulty it has become for people, but it feels ten times better when you know you are living a better life after a long journey of self improvement. Let her know from your stories and pictures that you are doing just fine without her. Make sure you are having the fun and awesome things she misses. It is not for revenge, it is for yourself and motivation to move into a new part of your life. Just like Justin said, if she comes back, it is up to you to do the right thing. Make up a tight rule for her, make her undestand she has to pay double the price to enter back in your life. People need to be accountable!
You said it perfectly
You say it perfect❤
Do you think it's okay to allow her back into your life if she does?
@@elielsaban8218 thats something very personal for you to decide. Just be careful and aware of all the issues you had before and make an assessment with a calm mind whether or not those issues have been resolved. There is no denying that in the back of your head you will always be questioning if you’re making the right choice and that might sabotage any chance for the relationship
@@elielsaban8218 If she comes back to you, you have to make her pay double the price. Either the money, or something that hurts her in the guts to sacrifice for you. I am not talking about revenge, I am talking about responsiblity and opportunity cost. She needs to pay for that cost so that she can get hold of YOU! If someone wanted something from you, ask for the price, then bail, then comes back after a few month after the market price rise for 20%, do you want to sell to her for the original price or 20%? Of course not!
Love this. I’ve had 3 months of heartbreak after doing this. She wanted to break, so I gave it her. Said I didn’t agree but I love myself as much as I love her so I’ll let her go. Dropped her off, she wavered but still left. Blew me a kiss, that was 3 months ago. No contact, and I never will. A girl who’s been a massive part of my life for 10 years and an inspiration to be a better and more successful man. I’ll use this to do even better again. It’s tough but I’m strong enough. Thanks again and good luck guys. Fork the UK cowboy
The future will smile upon you and you will find so much more to life. I’m happy you have stayed strong and hope you continue growing and having good thoughts around the relationship.
Every man. Needs to hear this. Thank you.
Thanks for your time listening 🙏
I'm 56 and I was living with my girlfriend for a year, we where together for 3 years before and I proposed 8 months ago. I started calling out her BS/double standards, not in a rude way, but with open communication and with examples. I checked all the boxes she said she wanted in a man, came home 4 weeks ago and got blindsided with a letter that basically said "that we are a love story, not a life story " and how she loves me, basically 5 sentences of BS. I read it and looked at her and only said "okay" pack my stuff up and was gone in a hour. I haven't talked to her since and won't, but I left with my self respect/dignity. She my not want to be with me, but she'll remember that exit...Stay strong men..
A true gentleman
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
" I am really going to miss you, but I am never going to be your back up plan or any plan " !
LOVE IT!!!
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People don’t tell you what you need to hear but this right here told me what I needed to hear because I was that dude blowing her up asking for closure asking why she doing this and it came to a point where I stop calling an this video was the reassurance that I needed to know that I was doing the right thing by letting her
Now you will never make that mistake again
Hell no
Breakup rules for every man (just my opinion, of course): Rule #1 - No sad breakup playlists for more than 48 hours. 🎶 After that, it’s strictly pump-up jams only. Rule #2 - Avoid texting her ‘just to check in’… your phone isn’t a boomerang, it won’t bring her back. 📵 And Rule #3 - Get a haircut. You’re not officially reborn after a breakup until you’ve had a fresh fade. 💇♂️
Going to watch this everyday to remind me about my decision
That’s exactly why I asked this question. Having this reminder is going to be a life saver.
Thanks
Appreciate you Dale
I’ve always said to any of my past GF’s when they have decided or myself to end the relationship that once this boat sets it sails it never comes back.
Being able to walk away at any given second is the most power a man can ever obtain no matter how attractive or cool she is.
If you don’t respect yourself why should she have respect for you.
Can you sleep with her sometimes just for control?
Walking away is for quitters, shows extreme weakness. Nothing will ever work for you if you continue being a quitter. It is not a super power to be cold and disrespectful by leaving someone you claim to love.
@@danbaker7640 Yes because if your women is cheating on you for 2 years it’s better to listen to her to better why she cheated on you, why she is right and you are wrong and how she’s liking it and she should continue while you cut your balls off. So much courage
This is some of the best 8 minutes I’ve ever seen on the internet.
Really appreciate you saying that. Sometimes we think we are the only ones dealing with this but I’m finding so many men learning to navigate this.
Hope you watch the full episode too.
Thanks for your time 🙏
Same. Thanks for sharing the stuff ain't easy but just like rodeo even if not an 8 a second ride, the trick is to not bust your face on the gate because it's essentially the same thing. Lots of these relationships are a loaded gun/a bucking bull waiting to stomp on ya once they throw ya off.... ain't no point in reasoning. Ya ever, EVER, see a cowboy go try and reason with the bull once they're bucked thefck off?! No! They run for the gate and let the clowns deal with em instead and try to even when injured ride and exit with style but still get out with the guts to ride again next time with more know how than before
@@hellbentholland1008 that metaphor is the perfect way to explain this. You nailed it
Might be the greatest advice I’ve received through my break up
Talking from experience it definitely works
After one year of my breakup, This makes so much sense.
how do you feel now after 1 year?
@@AxelAxe It get's better as the time passes by, I'm talking to a new girl... She's beautiful, Trying to focus on my career also.
@@bhati938 that’s good to hear What’s your career?
@@AxelAxe I'm a student right now actually, I'm preparing for an important exam... So i just started taking my studies seriously again after the breakup.
I was stoic during the breakup 2 months ago. I walked away. Last month she had contacted me. I was stoic and wanted to flush her out. I disappeared.
A friend of mine told me gf ex gf had a backup guy. Go away and preserve yourself even if you seem like the nicest girl in the world.
This information is precious and will surely save a lot of lives and homes. This is god sent. Thanks.... glad i subscribed
Thanks
This is priceless advice.
Th aka Tommy. What was your favorite section?
My gf/mother of my daughter left me after 15 years together! All because i work nights and didnt put in as many hours as her. I worked, picked up every extra shift possible to pay the bills. I paid the DTE & WIFI bill every single month for the past 14 years. It hurts so bad inside. I feel 💔. I did all the laundry in the house. I cleaned, i washed her work clothes every single night so she didnt have dirty work clothes when she woke up after working the night shift i would get home and make sure her n our daughter had clean clothes for the morning. She threw me away like trash when i showed her love, gave her attention, put my whole heart into her. Always asked how her day was. Just a month ago on my birthday she was talking about having another baby! Now she kicks me out in the cold, not even 2 weeks into our "break" i find out she was sleeping with our downstairs neighbor! I feel like this breakup is so 1 sided. I feel broken inside while she acts like nothing bothers her and she lives this amazing life smh i always thought after 15 years together that she would think of me or have SOME love in her heart for me. I havent spoke to her since. She abandoned me & replaced me as if she never met me! I dont get it. Sorry for the long rant guys. Jus need advice bad. 15 years jus for her to forget about me and have no love for me after that many years and a kid together! I just do not get it
Now the only person that should matter to you is your daughter. Make sure she sees you strong and building yourself back up.
You must find a way to leave that job and move to a daytime gig.
You need to sit down today and write down 3 things you want to accomplish to feel like a beast.
Use this pain as fuel to get up and go make more money and become way more successful than that **s neighbor and show your ex from afar who she is missing.
You will not have weakness in you.
You will only move forward.
You will win.
The advice above is poor. What you aren't understanding is men feel like because they put food on the table she will stay. You literally just said she left because you were not there, not emotionally for her. You maybe there financially and physically but you didn't marry her did you. 15 years and she's still your gf. I've been trying to explain this to men. Women want a man who is emotionally there for them. The lack of vulnerability will ruin your relationships. You said you had an amazing 15 years together to you. She wouldn't have left then. You were not fulfilling her emotional needs as a woman. She went to the person who was there and listened to her. What is there not to understand?.
@@cha9165 there is a lot of truth in what you’re saying but you’re also missing the point of view of a man. We give love as providers and protectors. It goes both ways.
@@cha9165 Yes yes it's always the man's fault. He needed to change and be there for her cause she was perfect for 15 years. There wasn't anything she needed to work on, correct? Her flaws weren't a deal breaker for him but the guy downstairs was for her because he was going to make all her problems just disappear, right? Give me a fking break!!
It is the game, you stand by your guns and if they test you…..you never look back. Hurts but it’s the right thing to do 👊
Give a couple warning shots first.
@@AxelAxe yes, if they deserve them 👍
Just trying to find what ever power left in me and fight after 4 years break up.
Give me your prayers brothers I need them
You will find a way!!
That's self respect... 🔥
Word
The Iron Mind 🤯 Every man needs to hear this.. what a wake-up call.. 😅 If you don't respect yourself, a woman never will 👊 It's hard, fellas. I'm going through it right now..
Stay strong brother.
I walked away last April and never looked back, how r u dealing with all this man? Stay strong!
Walking away & letting Go when you dont want to is hard AF! Ive already sent 2 text in 2 weeks. I guess im putting the phone down now! 👍
You’re totally right it is very hard. But you can do it and it will get easier with time.
11 months later give us an update. I always say give it a year and life will be totally different and usually better.
@kindredspiritzz66 meet someone new, better & more compatible. After a breakup, we always tell our selfs that it will be hard to meet someone. I focused on myself my body, my finances, and most importantly, NOT LOOKING FOR LOVE!!... Instead, when I least expected it... love found me. Focus on you first! The rest will fallow. 👍
@@MrOKECBON good for you. I just broke up with my gal but I know if I give it a year I'll be in a better place in life. Not sure I wanna find someone else, at 58 there's not much of an upside to women anymore
We were together for 2 years. She was it for me. Unfortunately her trust issues and insecurities got the best of her and ruined us. She strung me along with I don’t know or how can we fix this? I stayed I fought for us. But once she gave be the definite “yes, we’re breaking up” that was it. I didn’t respond. It’s the hardest thing I’ve done but it’s what needs to be done.
Sorry to hear that Jon. It’s truly difficult man. It’s one of the most common things that happen specially with guys who are capable and successful.
I hope you can stay strong and keep ahead brother.
Thanks brother. I don't know if I needed the encouragement to stay the course, but it sure as hell doesn't hurt
We all need it to stay the course. Stay strong man
I appreciate how you always break things down!
Thanks Anna. Hope you get to see some of the other episodes
I agree with most of this, except that "there's no pain greater than heartbreak". Been through that and also been through health issues. Depending on the issue, health issues can be a much stronger pain. Fortunately, I overcame it. Also, the pain of being poor in an environment with none to little opportunity where you have your family going hungry etc.. i imagine that's even a stronger pain
I think other than the pain of mourning the death of someone you love, heartbreak is up there
Ever tear an ACL
The problem for me is when you have shared attachments such as small children. This for me has been so challenging and difficult having a young child that is a victim of a breakup
And that will be something you have to deal with for a very long time. It gets easier with time once the children grow up and understand
I was seeing this great girl for nearly two and a half years. I had come to love her, but never showed it, I couldn't face it. She loved me but didn't want to delude herself that I loved her, so she moved onto another man behind the scenes during the last six months of us seeing each other. I had to walk away after finding this out. It's killed me, and her.
Next time don’t be afraid to show your love when you feel it. Although if she went either way another man I don’t think she loved you as you think. Just my opinion and I don’t know the details. Hope you move through the pain and find love soon. I’m sure you will. Trust me you will.
wow.thats bad.sorry man but your better off without her
How are you going now brother? In a similar kind of boat at the moment
Bro, just did that for the first time a week ago
Ur giving me the best news ever
You’re past the worst week.
My ex broke up with me right before finishing medical practice to obtain my license. I was so depressed and sad. Out of the blue she reached out to me a few months after when her grandfather passed away. I sent my condolences through text, and she got angry with me for not attending the funeral. But the reality was that I just wanted to move and focus on my career. I still feel sad and guilty for not attending, but she made her choice to end things. I have new job and nice salary. Once girls at local gym knew I finished medical practice they started leaving thier numbers in my car window its kind of surreal. I always spent time being nerd 🤓 now I feel like a rockstar.
Thanks for sharing that Robert. I think you did the right thing and moved on. It’s very difficult and what women don’t understand is that we can’t be friends with someone we were romantic with.
I’m sure you will find a great woman for you soon and congratulations on completing med school.
Are you taking a specialty next?
@@AxelAxe Thank you so much for the reply its a bit of relief hearing from someone with experience past relationship to give me a positive affirmation for that decision I made.
Currently trying master the mental discipline of moderation when it comes to eating.
My excercise follow through is on point though 👌
My interest is surgery in area gastroenterology [stomach area] or maybe maybe if Im bold the Cardiovascular[heart area] maybe I can fix my broken heart 💔 lol.
@@roberth4350 go for cardio surgery and you will be always fixing broke hearts everywhere lol.
Honestly that’s great to hear that you’re interested in surgery. All my family are doctors but I went the film route.
Best of luck Robert
@roberth4350 how are you doing now Robert?
A girl I was with told me that she didn’t wanted to be with me anymore because personally she feel lost in terms of what she want to do or what she want in life and she said that is not okay for me. She said that she look at the fact that I know what I want in life which is and amazing thing and it’s very inspiring to her. She said that I am puzzle piece in her life. She said that she is confused with herself and she is sorry for all her confusion and how confused I am with her.
I am wondering if she does want my help or she doesn’t want to to be with me because she doesn’t want her lack of direction in her life and baggage to come in my life. This is making me really think right now.
That is something very common, and the best thing you can do is let her know that you care about her deeply and you understand. Clean break up without any drama.
In a few months she will probably reach out to you, but still unclear if what she wants. She will want to be in your life again, but you won’t desire the same.
You need to focus on yourself and keep following your purpose.
@@AxelAxe she told me this before and she is telling me again, just randomly after a week of not taking to each other. She told me based on the fact that I am doing amazing and successful things she doesn’t want her baggage to come in my life and that’s not fair for me. So the best thing I think I should do is walk away.
@@evaldowhitehorne3387 yes. You should move on. It will be sad but it has to be done.
Agree 100% here. My wife left me after 16 years (she was having an affair)4 years ago. I did exactly as Mr Waller says ( off my own back) Roll on just over 3 years and i met an amazing girl and have never looked back. And guess what? the ex now calls and texts frequently as is said here!.
Im in great shape but always remember your self respect and dignity, sometimes you just go to turn the other cheek, and dust yourself off. Yep you will feel like shit for a couple of months but work on yourself, physically and mentally
Oh and this vid was a random one that came up!
That part at the end of your comment is the key. You will feel terrible but is only temporary.
Great advice. I'm starting to like this Justin Waller fellow.
The so for checking out the clip. We have a full 1h episode that you might find very interesting
Where can I listen to the full podcast ? Amazing advice !
just click on my channel name and is the pinned video at the top
My soon to be future wife left me out of the blue, like a month ago. We were not perfect, but i wanted it to make it work. She showed me red flags in the past, but i kept sticking by her side.
How foolish was i. Till this day, i feel like everything around me just froze. But i am trying to get through. All this month, just improving on my self. No parties, no junk food, no girls, no nothing. Just me and my self. No support around me. it's extremely hard, but i know i will thank my self in the future.
Focus on what you can control and give yourself the time to refocus on what matters to you. Sit down and write a few lines about the life you want to live. Ponder on that, and dream a life so incredible that it sounds impossible. Then decide with every fiber of your being to become that man.
@@AxelAxe Thank you, sir.
I face this and I did it, I said bye and walked away. After a week I was weaker than her and I respond to one of her wpp stories, being alone in other country, with non support group played games with my mind. I don't feel proud, after this we end up in a video call, and same story I told her the same. Lets take some distance.
I thought because was me braking up was going to be easier, but I was wrong.
I comment this cuz now I realize what was my error, why I contacted her again. I took the decision but I started doubting.
So my advice if someone is facing the same thing so doesn't make the same mistake is...
Understand why you walked away, put it on paper, I don't write a lot, but putting in on paper believe me it helps a lot.
Also write how this decision is going to help you in the long run, and read it any time you start doubting.
And work on yourself, and enjoy the process of becoming better.
Well said Bruno. I hope you can remain strong and build yourself up. I would add to call a close brother or friend when you start having doubts. Someone who can remind you of why you’re making that decision in the first place
This is so inspiring man going through this shit right now and it absolutely helps thank you guys
You’re going to have a couple weeks of pain, but it gets better
I needed this, this week.
Glad to be of help
my god bless you men for helping me and other blokes like me through this
The future will be bright if you stay strong and focus on building yourself. Trust me it will be a lot better than your past.
I was dating a chick recently who i really liked. She sent me a message recently essentially saying how she doesnt like that i dont approve of her having guy friends and that apparently she isn’t in that part of her life to have a relationship (i.e ‘i think i can do better’), which is straight cap based on her convos. I didnt argue, i just sent her “im sorry its come down to this, so much about you im going to miss”. She sent me a response saying how she doesn’t want to stop talking to me, its just that is her boundary and where she stands etc etc. Cold. No response. Not watching her stories. Hurts, but if she doesn’t have genuine burning desire - whats the point
You did the right thing. Continue to grow as a man and focus on building yourself. The right woman will come on your path. And your ex will most likely regret it
@AxelAxe appreciate it 👍
@@HOTSHTMAN53 what happends since ?
@@Chauffageheate she posted me on her story as part of her “January Recap collage”. I saw that by previewing the story, but other than that I didn’t watch her stories for two weeks and whenever I posted something, she was first to see it. She hasn’t reached out, I havent reached out. If she ever reaches out, will demand a genuine heartfelt apology from her. Funny enough, on my explore page I see her liking photos and videos on “how to find a high quality man”😁😮💨she’s blind lol
But yeah. Apparently she likes to gamble and thinks she can do better, so not much I can say on that. Its her life, her choices. Forgive and forget. I’ve moved on as its easy for me to find another. But no matter what, I definitely left a lasting impression considering she has a lot of male friends in her orbit which she cucked. Probably isn’t used to getting rejected
Beautiful advice from the both of you, this video pertains to what I'm going through now. So much love to you guys, thank you for speaking from a profound perspective at which we all find ourselves in at one point or another. Thank you, truly.
Hope you take the advice to heart and you can get past this bad time. Remember you will always come out winning if you focus and prioritize your growth over everything
Wow, learnt a lot from this!
Glad to hear it! What part hit you harder?
Me and my girl just split after 4 years. Met at 17, now 21. Not no puppy love. I dreamt of her before I ever met her. God sent her my way. Now I’m alone and looking to find the best version of myself. I have all the puzzle pieces, but there’s no picture to put together. I don’t want it all if I don’t have someone to share it with
I know how you feel man. But trust me you will find that vision and you won’t recognize the man you are today 4 years from now
That‘s crazy, happened to me too. Always had dreams of her before i met her. It did end in the dreams after several years being and living together. One month ago we split after just two happy years, it feels so wrong. But i guess i am going into a future which may suprise me because i dont have any future vision dreams… wish you the best my boy
Just focus on yourself,if they're want you, they will come, don't Chase.
Very true
Just recently broke up with my girlfriend after 8 months. Overall, it was a great, I still care about her and we even considered giving it another shot, but realized that there really was no going back. We were trying to ice skate up hill to make it work and it could never get going like it did the first time together. I've accepted that we had a good run, but I know I have to focus on me now and trust that everything else will eventually fall into place in time.
You sound like you’re on the right path. Focus on yourself and the right things will happen in time.
I want the non simp country music playlist 💪🏾
I’ll subscribe to that and I don’t even like country lol
You always break things down so perfectly!
Appreciate that
4:03 is SO powerful
🙏
I needed this video. Breakups are hard
Don’t let it break you
My heart is completely destroyed right now..i meat this girl a year ago and we started dating..the chemical was fantastic in every way, physically, mentally and emotionally..now she has suddenly decided to move to japan living me here...every night it's only pain, sadness and regrets
Why are you having regrets? You’re lucky you had those amazing times with her. Enjoy the memories and stand up strong like the man you are.
@@AxelAxe you're absolute right but I'm leaving with the doubt that I might have been used by her and I feel so stupid about it.. she's leaving me with no hesitation or remorse, knowing very well that my life is here...I'll move on! this is a promise to myself! ....never trust a woman, never!
You sound pathetic
how aare you now ?@@luomodiporlock3758
This is great advise for a woman too. Say you crossed a line, I'll miss you but there are plenty of fish in the sea (and chocolate!). Leave the phone off the hook walk away. Thanks! Women can move on quicker I've seen it in every couple who have broken up, they process better become more philosophical and pragmatic
Applies to everyone.
Bruv, I see you man. Keep killing it
My dude!!!!! Thanks so much. Whenever you’re in LA hit me up bro. We need to grab some food and catch up.
This is helping me a lot.
Glad to hear that. What are your goals for this year?
@AxelAxe is getting back in the gym and getting my life back on track.
The audio guy has to run a filter to take out those mouth sticky noises. Great interview
Dry mouth
We were drinking way to much coffee
@@AxelAxe It happens. Usually good times at that. I'm sure most people don't mind. Premiere Pro and Davinchi 18 have mouth noise filters just as a heads up. Great interview again.
@@Moist_yet_Crispy I’ll have to look into it. Goa story like the show Corey 🙏🙏
He ALWAYS sounds like this. I can only imagine what his breath smells like.
I’m the one that caused the damage, and then was too far into a cycle of self-pity that I couldn’t bring myself to work on myself or us. She called it a day. I’ll admit I’ve been through the wringer these past few months. We’ve kept contact and had conversations, mostly because of her two kids…they still want me to show up for them as a role model, and I certainly don’t want to be the man who bailed on them. But, when it comes to their mother…goddamn it I’m gonna have to just walk away. If I don’t, I’m gonna be unhappy for the rest of my life. This really sucks…feels like I’m walking into a burning building. I never wanted any of this
I’m sorry you’re going through that Michael. Hope you find peace soon. It will get better the fastest you cut off the toxicity and get to work on your self. We win up to your failures and just work to become better
I begged, I cried, I brought up past happy memories with her. I tried everything and the more I tried the more she looked down on me and lost respect. Trust me it’s going to hurt like hell, but Justin is 1000% right here. Just say sorry it did not work out send that last text and WALK AWAY!
100% true
Needed this! Going through it now. Had the woman I wanted to spend the rest of my life with walk out. Hit her with the one text and walked away.
It’s going to be a difficult few months, but I promise you if you focus on yourself and becoming better you will find success in all areas.
Literally just had to send that text today. She knows what ahe did on this day.
Time to go dark
My ex cheated on me with her co-worker, I supported and cared for her when she was working as a cashier, but when she started work in bank, she told me, people change, I deserve better than you, the guy I went is much higher than you, I deserve him and not you, she said and went with her co-worker that is 5 years older than me that works there, I got my heart broken. That week I got accepted in a University in Germany, that she didn't believe that I will work there, also I will start soon working in gaming company that I will make double of money that they make. What I love about the heartbreak is the energy that it gives you, hurts your ego, like that mthf is better than me? I will make her regret every second she left.
Oh boy you got exactly what you need to take that opportunity and make it the best thing it ever happened to you. Go ahead and make sure you maximize your opportunity and come back to that bank to make a big fat deposit
@@AxelAxe Truee, this breakup really gave me a lot motivation, now I'm work 2x times harder than before. She took a bet on my future and with this behaviour she told me my future will be better without you. Time to prove her wrong, and do what you said, if she will not be fired from that job lol
You are a g bro 💙
I wish I had heard my old man. He told me just this and I ignored it because I felt like she was the love of my life so I needed to do everything within my reach to get her back. Her 2 sisters and her mom reached to me and I told them to help me because I loved her so much and I also talked to an older woman witch is my friend and also hers. It’s been almost a month since the break up (8 years and 7 months of relationship). Idk if that strategy would work but probably would do way better than what I did. Today she sent me a message saying we’re adults and we shouldn’t involve other persons in our problems, so what I did only made her feel more confident and mature. It was when I finally understood and said goodbye… Idk what the future is going to be for “us”, but right now I just went ghost on every social media and I’m fully committed on self improvement. I guess I should be better to get better things because what she did with me was a proof of her no-love for me and that it was only a passion.
Probably one of the hardest things you will experience in your life, but there will ne a lot more you will learn from this.
I’m happy you’re approaching it the proper way now and have found a new direction. Focus on that path and get better. Don’t worry about what could have been different. Only focus on the future
@@AxelAxe thanks G, I really appreciate your advice 🙏🏻
hey bro when its done its done there is no going back. if you go back to girl who disrespected you she will do again evenmore until you become door mat which other man enter her house stepping on your weak feelings . so move on there are 4 billion woman in the world find who really loves and respects you
Facts
I really appreciate this video. Thank you
Glad it was helpful!
He’s giving free game
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She said she would wait for me to change, and she would use her time to heal. We were together for 2 years. A month after we broke up she got with another dude. It sucks.
Then hurry up and do your healing, your building and your growth. Is all up to you to prove her that you’re the better man. And I promise you a wonderful woman will come to your life when you least expect it and it will be like nothing ever happened.
@@AxelAxe thank you for the wise words.
Ghosting a woman or abruptly quitting a relationship without a real conversation is emotional abuse. If you as the man want to leave her for your own reasons and she treated you good- then leaving her in a cold way via phone or short convo - isn't a " G " move...but a coward move. Many men aren't capable to communicate rightly and leave. .however if the woman treats him whole time bad then of course he should leave...but men dont understand the mental damage of ghosting or a short words break up....its a selfish act and should ONLY be done if you were abused as a man.
Once u make the decision and will not be convinced otherwise, there s no point in meeting up with a cold attitude to rub it in the other persons face that u dont want them nd have them get emotional nd/or shocked asking for a chance. I think its kinder to use a phone call or text. Then after if the other pesron wants an explanation or asks to talk in person then u may consider it.
In this case we were talking about the moment where a woman has clearly stated she doesn’t want to be with you or has found another man.
The real conversation has been had and she has decided to leave, therefore the best thing to do is to acknowledge that and peacefully say that you love her, will miss her and want the best for her. After that, is not ghosting, it is just carrying on with the fact that the relationship is over.
@@AxelAxe thanks for adding more information and I misunderstood it. It wasn't obvious to me since English isn't my mother's tongue...anyways- I think the best thing you can do as a man is also just to react peacefully and get directly into the no contact rule to protect yourself as a man from getting more hurt. And your version is great too. Sorry for my wrong assumption
@@jchula no worries. Thanks for your very thoughtful comment and for watching our videos. It really means a lot to us
Pyro chula lmao foh 😂
Wow Justin just describe my life , I am 22 year old truck driver trying to build a legacy, gf of mine of 3 years left me .. she was a gem and my only friend
Your whole life is ahead of you. I know you will be very happy in the future. It sucks now, but it will be only a memory of the past
@@AxelAxethank you I appreciate it a lot
The good news is that I’m sure I won’t have to worry about a break up ever again because I won’t have a relationship ever again.
That’s the wrong way to think about it. The good news is that now you will know how to handle it when it happens again in the future
My soon to be ex said get out the house, so i packed up and left. Still tried making it work, but i wasn't going to let opportunities pass by. I moved 890 miles away to a new job for a year, then the next year went back overseas. Now im back in filling for divorce. Probably should have done this sooner, but out of sight out of mind. I was chasing that next adventure.
How long did it take until it was totally out of mind?
Young guys suffer over the first couple months and think it will last forever. Give them some hope
@AxelAxe . Maybe 3 months. As soon as I was around people that were driven and with a goal and that were stoic and humble, it was a 180 turn around. Then I dove into work, my son, getting out of debt, and just pushing forward. She never filed and we never talked and I was chasing life, making memories. So it was easy to forget. Now I'm sure that somehow that isn't healthy or noble in some way. I was just so beaten down when I left I just wanted to get back to a higher functioning version of myself.
@AxelAxe I'm also in my 30s. And isn't my first divorce but definitely the most frustrating. So I knew as soon I started making moves the pain and embarrassment would stop.
@@Grunt-vn4gt I feel you man. I had a similar experience.
@@Grunt-vn4gt hope you keep on that same path man. I’m sure you will find all your goals becoming a reality and a woman in your future who complements you
A very rich man told mee.
Life is like a boxing match sometimes it takes 12 rounds most important dont overextend and you will win
Very true
What does overextent in boxing mean?
@@djkadlubek-sp2lq going to fast too soon to strong. You need to pace yourself to last 12 rounds
@@AxelAxe thnx for explanation, i m from Poland
Thanks for advice that's exactly what I needed to hear took like 3 to 4 major hits by life hard to the face nearly gave up because they literally happened one after another in less than 30 days. Somehow pulled myself up off the ground because I'm not a loser anymore I'm in the fight of my life. For you guys this time I'm going to "WIN." And myself.
1st Corinthians 7:15"But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace."
What does it mean by enslaved?
@@AxelAxe here is the NIV translation 1st Corinthians 7:15 "But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace." 1st Corinthians 7:22" For the one who was a slave when called to faith in the Lord is the Lord’s freed person; similarly, the one who was free when called is Christ’s slave." It's the greatest honor to be Jesus Christ and God Almighty's Slave.
@@AxelAxe We are God's slave because we obey God's will and not our own as real Christians. 1st John 2:17" The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever."
@@ulisesbernales5969 I’m no space of anyone
This is a great video
Thanks for your time and checking out the episode
This video takes me back, I had a beautiful girl give me that ultimatum probably 20 years ago now, it’s either me or the military. My father told me to never make a life decision because of a woman. We used to listen to that song in the barracks and talk about all the women who bailed on us.
I learnt that lesson the right way. Now I’m 100% there with you. Never make major decisions based on women
Can anyone tell me or help me find the video they are talking about in the beginning? The some million views one about Justin? Much appreciated
Search justin Tristan gentleman game and you will find it
@@AxelAxe thank you my friend!
Excellent advice here 💯
Appreciate that. What specific part hit you stronger?
@AxelAxe When Waller described letting a girl know 'I'm really gonna miss you...take care.' That is some cold truth regarding an optimal action which is very difficult.
@@nomad3A word. That realization is the pure truth. You wont just stop thinking about her. You will miss her, but from far away
@AxelAxe I need to implement that myself. The truth is often uncomfortable.
@@nomad3A is a constant battle man
I am 29 male, she 31 female. We were almost 10 years together in relationship. She broke up with me 1 month ago. I can't get over it she is telling me not to call her and see her. I regret that i didn't propoused her or have kids, we weren't grown so much for our years. I cant i so regret but third person enters her friend. And she didnt want to give up on him
Im glad i found this video today. Broke up ... wait for it.... 18 MONTHS AGO! 🤦♂️🤦♂️
Kept in contact for the first 10 months, we kinda "helped" each other through it.
She met her new man 8 months ago so i told her "I will always love you, but im blocking all communications now"
I was fine, was training like an animal, no drinking, nothing else either, then 2 weeks ago i go on a fucking major bender, have a catastrophic neurochemical crash and contact her.
Got unbelievably so low, fucking dangerously suicidal, it was ridiculous.
I still love this girl, even though there was quite a bit of abuse in the relationship from her to me but ffs i still love her.
It now feels like she left just yesterday when in fact it was 18 months ago and shes with someone else now.
How fucking retarded can i be? I am ashamed at how weak i am in this area of my life.
I "almost" never drink or do drugs, im early 40's, self made multimillionaire from being homeless at age 15 and a very abusive childhood.
Im physically fit, kickboxer, weights, no#1 in my game internationally
Ive managed to show strength in other areas of my life under terrible circumstances, why the fuck am i such a fucking pussy ass bitch in this situation?
Its a total fuck up.
this message right here... you should read your own f*cking words every single time you feel tempted to even think about her. is time to stop and go ballistic on yourself.
You are DONE. from now on you will never look back.
@AxelAxe Thank you brother 🙏 two week on, I'm back together 100%, just a big bump in the road. Business is cranking, training is cranking, my team are absolutely on fire & a 5 hour blast down country in the 991.2 Turbo always helps! 🤘🤘🤘
The human brain is a fucking riddled thing to be sure, I don't regret writing my first comment above because it's true & I meant it.
I will remark on how unbelievably different my headspace is now.
You are doing good work brother 🙏🍾💯
@@anthonyprice3353 that’s the way to go Anthony. So proud of you man and I’m happy this video could help a bit.
Stay growing and stay in touch. If you’re ever in LA hit me up
When this girl whom I was dating for a few months broke it off with me (we weren't quite official) recently, I reacted badly and told her about another girl who was my girlfriend (I exaggerated it to upset her). I've since reached out to apologise, clear the air and explain but she hasn't responded but hasn't blocked me.
I feel awful as I hurt her.
Learn from that mistake and make sure you never do that again in the future
Once im gone im gone. Blocked deleted purged. Never existed. Bye. Dont try. You will, but its futile.
Bye bye bye
How can you hate this man, deadset stud of a guy, I’ve listened to that song 10 times now 🔥
Those who hate usually just haven't heard Justin in a long form interview
I’m going through it really bad right now. Really really bad rn. I feel lost. I’m strong, I’m 22, I hit the gym like crazy for years now, I have a stable job, and yet I still feel like shit because of how she made me feel. Sometimes it just feels like I can’t anymore.
We have all been there brother. It takes time, but you are capable of so much, you will find love in the arms of someone who respects you and honors you.
Do not think for a moment that this is the end. This pain is only temporary. You have all the time in the world. I promise you in the future this moment will be just but a memory and how you act today will determine the outcome.
Please keep me updated. Every month message me and let me know how you’re doing. You got this man
U need to talk to urself bro why do u think u needed her to be loved when did that start bc it usually comes from childhood if u loved urself more and we’re comfortable for it in the end ofc it wouldve hurt but ud be fine bc u know u love urself