U Right bro 👍🏾💯 it takes real action to happen for some of them. But I'm by myself so I won't have to go through none of that. What do u think about those stay at home dads tho?
It's best when a person (girl or guy) recognizes their own worth. Hunting for someone to appreciate you is pointless if you don't even recognize your own worth. The greatest love is love that you have inside of you. When you know what you bring to the table, you will be fine with eating solo in your own company.
I left him for real - no contact for 2 years. Then we crossed paths & gave it another try (no sex I'm a Christian now). Of course, he reverted back to being the low-effort person and so I left him for the 2nd time forever. Glad I didn't let him get the best of me this time. They never learn.
You are so correct Stephan. I dated a man who lost his job after us dating for a while. Would ask him gently during dinner but saw him not putting effort & getting depressed until I saw he was complacent, doing nothing. I left him after a while because it felt so unnaturally balanced. Felt I was becoming masculine. Hurt to leave him but I wasn't going to be the main breadwinner in my home with a man already in his late 50's just paying meager bills, cheap, stingy, didn't want to work, living in the past, & looking for a woman to take care of him. I work too hard for what I have & expected reciprocity. Shocked him when I broke up with him - wouldn't accept it, playing the victim. He lives with his sister like Joe with Madea. Now I am wiser in vetting men thanks to your videos. 😊
I've became strong enough to not look back. Life is short and there is too many people in this world for me to keep allowing someone to keep playing me. When I say "I am done" I don't go back! It was hard at first! They don't fight for you at first because they believe that you're just upset. Never be someone's doormat! Hope you all realize how special you are 💯💕
@LovePink. I agree with you . It's the same with us guys. A woman can take a good guy for granted. Maybe because she's not use to someone sincerely loving her . And then when the guy leaves, she notices the difference of having that good love that present vs not having it
Yes absolutely, I've been dating a man the past 3 weeks and he makes one excuse after another about calling me at least once a day. He says he hasn't reached out because he works 12 plus hours a day and overtime.... he keeps blaming it on the fact that his car has to get fixed etc. It's all a bunch of crap. He puts no effort , I got rid of him
It's crazy how I met him.... I was walking out of a Cafe and he says "hey babe can I get your number "? I was like lemme give it a shot with this guy and see what happens. He was definitely looking for just sex cos he couldn't believe what I was wearing🤣
This is the straight up truth! I had to file for divorce for him start caring but it was too late by then!!! U never miss your water until your well runs dry ✌🏾
When I was single I had a boyfriend who left me 3 times . My mother’s psychiatrist told me that he was taking advantage of my kind nature and that I should stand my ground and not have him back because he will keep on doing it over and over again . I listened to the psychiatrist and told my ex that I would not be having him back for good . It was the best decision I ever made .
After 4 years I have gracefully released my ex boyfriend. He has tried to get me back for a few weeks now but too much has happen and I am not the same woman anymore. I learned so many lessons and am so much stronger and so much wiser. It’s all done. Moving forward is a freedom I wholly embrace and appreciate. Thank you
Exactly 💯 I can relate. I am a completely a different woman than I was when I was dealing with the guy. For me once I realized my worth, put boundaries in place, the guy no longer had a place in my life.
I was with a guy for almost 4 years and found out he was contented with having nothing and living in his dad’s house, having his mom controlling his life and she also tried controlling me. He sold his big dreams to me, got financial issues and wasn’t working towards his dreams. I have moved on and after two years, he is still the same person he was when I left. Know your worth and never settle
Honestly, woman know when it's over seriously. When I went through this a few years back, I showed him, and did not care if he wanted me back.. I had recognized my worth and still focusing on self awareness and self care. It humbled me, in a way that made me learn from it 🙏
So true. We have to make our yes mean yes and our no mean no. Stand on what you truly mean or you will not only fall for anything but you will not be taken serious. Games should not be played when it comes to our feelings. This is why so many people end up being hurt. Keep it 110% with yourself so you can keep it real with others. Stay true my people’s.
100% on point. Don't say you will not do this or that, then do it the next day. Even kids push it when we do that, stick to your words, don't say it until you're ready to act as you say. If a man/woman is not afraid to lose your by their poor actions, reciprocity then move on. I personally think that when someone truly loves they would do what it takes to keep you 💯
🤣 This is raw truth. 😂 My ex husband was just that type of man. Not sick but not ready to work and provide but wants to rule, manipulate and control. I am glad that I finally left him. I now have a peaceful and happy life. 🙌🏾
I don’t want a man who cares and starts wanting to do right when my foot is hitting the door. I’m good on that I always choose my peace of mind and self respect.✌🏾 My ex knew he was depressed and had anxiety when I said okay what are you going to do about it . It’s not healthy to let those things fester and and suggested he get therapy. Mannnnn that man almost cussed me out .😮💨
Yes, my exact story. Video games up late at night.....refused to work as we were facing eviction.... multiple times >>>> tried to do this for 3 years... finally gave up. Yes they need to get help. He refused. No he wasn't trying to fix it.... tGod removed him from my life. Levels raised. Never again. 🙏
Yes......I used to tell my ex I was getting a divorce....year after year and I guess because of me just saying and not acting on it....he thought I was just saying it.....wellll eventually I had the courage to file for divorce......when he was served , he was shocked. Then he started begging for me to reconcile. Never did......he missed the water after the well run dried.
Ladies, if it gets to that point where he takes you for granted, he never loved you in the first place. You were just something to use at his disposal. He never deserved you to begin with. Know your worth! Mirror his actions back. You deserve someone that treats you right from day 1.
I let him go. It hurts but it had to be done. He required so much from me but yet didn't reciprocate, especially when he didn't have a pot to p××× in...and of course he played the victim and said I'll never find another love like him, he's right, i don't want anyone like him lol thanks stephan
I agree about depression. I feel that a lot of it has to do with changing diet and lifestyle. A lot of the things we are eating are causing major physiological problems. We also have a lot of deficiencies that can lead to lethargy etc. Now we are seeing through new studies, that they are saying that depression isn't caused by a chemical imbalance as was previously thought.
Unconditional love is psychological self-harm. It says beat me, beat my children, disrespect me, steal, lie, cheat...And I will still love you. It lacks self-respect and smacks of desparation. Love SHOULD be conditional. Based on mutual respect and honesty at the very least. The idea that unconditional love is the apex of love is immature and myopic. A road into abusive relationships of all kinds.
That tendency to always push the envelope, in order to see how far you can go or what you can get away with still feels a lot like being taken for granted and who really likes the feeling of being taken for granted and unappreciated 🤷♀️
I don't like people are justifying their behaviour, because they have depression and so on! Like you said Stephan, you have to do things, to better yourself! I too,don't like to be medicated, I believe in having healthy diet, and everything else, that keeps you well!🙌
I think someone needs to hold classes for these men because they need to understand upfront that their behavior determines everything. They shouldn't even WANT to be in a position where a woman has to beg them to step up. They know when they're not pulling their weight, and them acting like women are just nagging is really stupid logic that they need to abandon. The truth is that their ego is big af, and they would rather gas themselves up by lying to themselves that women are just complaining for nothing. It's old now. They need to give it up because we're not their mothers or their maids. 😒
No free pass. We still have a choice. Counseling, Therapy, medical attention. CBT Therapy, Volunteering, Reading, Prayer, Church, all of the above. Exactly.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌❤️🙏🏽
These are facts ! Excellent advice. Women must be willing to walk away if there are no behavioral changes in their partner. Absent that, be prepared for more of the same poor treatment you’re already receiving.
I learned this through a very very tough love lesson!! Now I know what “worth”means it took a broken heart but I wouldn’t change it!! Thanks for the video very informative
Not always because I don't tilorate people treating me any way and they all decide to not deal with me in a living manner because I set boundaries and won't allow to be walked over and disrespected
My ex never thought I was going to leave him and I left him and he was in chock, after 18 years of repeating the disc I finally step out and is been almost a year and never had a thought of going back heck noooo
This is why you pay attention to his actions in the beginning and dip most of the time guys do things to get you but don't try to keep you they get comfortable
😢 I feel so bad it has taken me so long to let go. I’ve embarrassed myself 😢 but all the signs were there, intuition etc. we were married for 26 years nine years after the divorce I have had enough. Thank you for helping me face the truth.
Love watching your videos but as a mental health advocate & have experience myself…. Diet and exercise is not the only solution. Sometimes medication is the first and only option to live a better life. When you are at a low point you may not be able to try to get better. It takes time. I would be patient as long as necessary until I see the signs you are pointing out that there is no effort after seeking help. People do abused the term depression & for those I agree with you. But for the people with true mental health issues patience & understanding may take some time. Myself personally still have uncontrollable episodes at time and this can make work and life challenging.
Insightful guy, well rounded advice. People who don't care, don't make an effort, they don't love you! People who take, take, take and are users have no self respect or are sociopaths of some sort.
Oh, Snap. You are too funny. Nice to hear you use humor. I'm living it, Stephan. First video, I have been laughing. The video is great cuz I told my past male I was going to block him off FB in a week and I DID! He was shocked. I warned him. So, yes, you are so right, as usual!! Lol
Current situation for sure! It took him (finding out somebody else wanted me) for him to finally deciding to change. I’m emotionally withdrawn! Mentally withdrawn! Mentally drained!
Im in the same situation with my husband. He is stressed and taking it out on me. After the stress finishes and he is still acting funny he will see my true self. I will be preparing myself for anything
My mama taught me that if a man doesn’t want you, there is nothing you can do about it. Let him go. It works the same for women. That can be for so many reasons.
Be careful what you tolerate as you are teaching someone how to treat you!! I’ve finally walked away and tolerated too much so lesson learned. Never again
Wow your speaking the truth my brotha bless you and you family …🙌🏾🙌🏾💪🏾💪🏾I’m not married yet but I’m waiting patiently on that special day. As far as me and my household we serve the Most High. We eat clean foods and of course Natural home health remedies works best for our Temple
I did it I packed the house up moved out to an apartment then bought my own home. Have my job I left. He then text I love you I want you I will marry you, no i didn't go back.
Thanks Stephen, you made it funny and cool, but I know it's not. I am going through this with my husband right now, and I really appreciate your advise! Thank you.
I LOVE THIS MAN. I just finished watching only 2 of his videos and I feel I'm back. I got my crown back today. Thank you God, this man, and RUclips. 🩷🌻👑
I’m the type of woman once i say something that’s what i mean, it’s the brain of a boy i can’t deal with always in playing mode, not thinking your not going leave or getting there act together when you do leave that’s to much playing for me only boys do this
New subscriber!! Appreciate the gems you are dropping 🤞🏾 working on my marriage life 🥰 Are you married? I'm only asking because advice from married men & women on how to stay happy is what I'm here for 💕
Have been LDR going on 4 years. Hes married but separated. Divorce pending. Now he tells me his feelings for her AND me are neutral. But he wants to come see me. We live over 1000 miles apart. I have fallen in love with him. We have talked and shared most everything in our daily lives. Calls, text, FaceTime and intimate pics. Neither of us are sexually active . I want to see where our relationship goes. Am i being foolish ?
Yeeeeeeees. This is so true. What are you doing for your downfall / short comings 🤔. If you’re depressed, are you trying to fix it ? This has been my point far too long. NOT MY PROBLEM.
Sadly, he is completely correct. Even with Gay men, this is a correct approach. I’m my recent dating years, I’ve found that dudes don’t like to loose in ANY way, so once you show that you are done, they will eventually come back. It’s up to you if you want to deal with them from there or not.
My ex treated me like crap and became abusive. He blamed his bipolar but refused to get help for it. I finally got tired and left. My kids and I were homeless for a short time because of that. Once I had my own place he suddenly started begging me to get back. I'm never going back to him. Abusers don't just change.
Have you done a video on a man being in a codependent relationship, women too. But I see young men dealing with wounded young women, seeing that she has some good qualities yet she sabotages the relationship.
Depression anxiety and bi polar and all these mental disorders people if they dont have them have no idea how hard life can be I know cause my son is on meds trust me it doesn't solve everything. I have been diagnosed with four mental disorders and I don't take meds nobody is perfect in life and they never will be . And the medicine can cause more issues also and then if it helps one thing it causes another health issue
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As a mental health nurse, you completely lost me with downplaying mental health issues. Good for you that you have never suffered enough to understand what clinical depression is, and why it is.
No I'm going to disagree with you my ex didnt care so I have too cut him off he was the type wouldnt say he was sorry so I ask god for me to unlove him and heal my heart he never did what he supposed to do he lost his job I still was there for him I'm done
I'm going to be real my ex had no remorse what he did to me I was down with him when he couldnt get a job I never stop caring about him my faith was strong in god he was always treating me like I was nothing. I allow god to get me out that bad situation he didnt love me anymore so it was time to cut him off I'm so happy god stared heal my heart I am free now it all about me and my jesus please dont settle I know I'm worth more🙏🙏🙏🙏❤
This is EXACTLY why I no longer believe in lifelong commitments. How can a person NOT think that you're not going anywhere when you have made a vow before God and witnesses to stay for the rest of your life? They have no motivation to act right! It is a form of slavery, man-made and never intended. We have sold our souls! Instead, people need to EARN the right to stay in your life, like you do with an annual performance review at work.
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U Right bro 👍🏾💯 it takes real action to happen for some of them. But I'm by myself so I won't have to go through none of that. What do u think about those stay at home dads tho?
No matter how bad they treat you they never think you will leave until you do! Always know your worth if they don't recognize it someone else will 💛💪😊
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I really needed this today
It's best when a person (girl or guy) recognizes their own worth. Hunting for someone to appreciate you is pointless if you don't even recognize your own worth.
The greatest love is love that you have inside of you.
When you know what you bring to the table, you will be fine with eating solo in your own company.
@@FreeSpirit47 🙏Amen. Absolutely 💯
Yeeeeeas....
Ladies. If you have to resort to leaving a man to take your needs seriously doesn’t deserve a place in your life. Just leave that clown 🤡
I left him for real - no contact for 2 years. Then we crossed paths & gave it another try (no sex I'm a Christian now). Of course, he reverted back to being the low-effort person and so I left him for the 2nd time forever. Glad I didn't let him get the best of me this time. They never learn.
Nope will always be the same
You are so correct Stephan. I dated a man who lost his job after us dating for a while. Would ask him gently during dinner but saw him not putting effort & getting depressed until I saw he was complacent, doing nothing. I left him after a while because it felt so unnaturally balanced. Felt I was becoming masculine. Hurt to leave him but I wasn't going to be the main breadwinner in my home with a man already in his late 50's just paying meager bills, cheap, stingy, didn't want to work, living in the past, & looking for a woman to take care of him. I work too hard for what I have & expected reciprocity. Shocked him when I broke up with him - wouldn't accept it, playing the victim. He lives with his sister like Joe with Madea. Now I am wiser in vetting men thanks to your videos. 😊
You did the right thing!
What happened to equal opportunity?
@@Kurio71 What happened to common sense and self worth? A human being without such becimes a pawn constantly caught up in their own victimhood.
@@carrington2949 This just shows female nature
@@Kurio71 She shows a human who knows self love and self respect. Masculine is to provide...not the other way around. 👏👏 for her!
I've became strong enough to not look back. Life is short and there is too many people in this world for me to keep allowing someone to keep playing me. When I say "I am done" I don't go back! It was hard at first! They don't fight for you at first because they believe that you're just upset. Never be someone's doormat! Hope you all realize how special you are 💯💕
@LovePink. I agree with you . It's the same with us guys. A woman can take a good guy for granted. Maybe because she's not use to someone sincerely loving her . And then when the guy leaves, she notices the difference of having that good love that present vs not having it
Yes absolutely, I've been dating a man the past 3 weeks and he makes one excuse after another about calling me at least once a day. He says he hasn't reached out because he works 12 plus hours a day and overtime.... he keeps blaming it on the fact that his car has to get fixed etc. It's all a bunch of crap. He puts no effort , I got rid of him
It's crazy how I met him.... I was walking out of a Cafe and he says "hey babe can I get your number "? I was like lemme give it a shot with this guy and see what happens. He was definitely looking for just sex cos he couldn't believe what I was wearing🤣
The past two weeks the communication has been way off balance he makes one excuse after another I said im so done with this guy
Needed this today ❤ thank you
This is the straight up truth! I had to file for divorce for him start caring but it was too late by then!!! U never miss your water until your well runs dry ✌🏾
Right....leave him in the desert 🏜
@@beefaye6861 I know that’s right!!
Me too. My ex husband didn't take me seriously until I presented him with a box and said,"Now pack!"
It takes a lot for a woman who loves a man to finally lose hope. And when we’re done, we’re done.
When I was single I had a boyfriend who left me 3 times . My mother’s psychiatrist told me that he was taking advantage of my kind nature and that I should stand my ground and not have him back because he will keep on doing it over and over again . I listened to the psychiatrist and told my ex that I would not be having him back for good . It was the best decision I ever made .
After 4 years I have gracefully released my ex boyfriend. He has tried to get me back for a few weeks now but too much has happen and I am not the same woman anymore. I learned so many lessons and am so much stronger and so much wiser. It’s all done. Moving forward is a freedom I wholly embrace and appreciate. Thank you
Never be with a man that long....bounce after a year ✌
Released!! Good choice of words sis!!
Exactly 💯 I can relate. I am a completely a different woman than I was when I was dealing with the guy. For me once I realized my worth, put boundaries in place, the guy no longer had a place in my life.
How much time did it take for him to realize and tried to get you back?
I was with a guy for almost 4 years and found out he was contented with having nothing and living in his dad’s house, having his mom controlling his life and she also tried controlling me.
He sold his big dreams to me, got financial issues and wasn’t working towards his dreams. I have moved on and after two years, he is still the same person he was when I left.
Know your worth and never settle
Ewww.....bum status ✌
Same I left someone that wasn’t doing nothing and years later still the same and I moved out of state .
Honestly, woman know when it's over seriously. When I went through this a few years back, I showed him, and did not care if he wanted me back.. I had recognized my worth and still focusing on self awareness and self care. It humbled me, in a way that made me learn from it 🙏
I have said I want a divorce and I have filed for one and that still did not change him , so it’s time to heal and move on 🤷🏽♀️
So true. We have to make our yes mean yes and our no mean no. Stand on what you truly mean or you will not only fall for anything but you will not be taken serious. Games should not be played when it comes to our feelings. This is why so many people end up being hurt. Keep it 110% with yourself so you can keep it real with others. Stay true my people’s.
100% on point. Don't say you will not do this or that, then do it the next day. Even kids push it when we do that, stick to your words, don't say it until you're ready to act as you say.
If a man/woman is not afraid to lose your by their poor actions, reciprocity then move on. I personally think that when someone truly loves they would do what it takes to keep you 💯
Agreed amen
“ he knows what he has, and wasn’t afraid of loosing you”
🤣 This is raw truth. 😂
My ex husband was just that type of man. Not sick but not ready to work and provide but wants to rule, manipulate and control.
I am glad that I finally left him. I now have a peaceful and happy life. 🙌🏾
I don’t want a man who cares and starts wanting to do right when my foot is hitting the door. I’m good on that I always choose my peace of mind and self respect.✌🏾 My ex knew he was depressed and had anxiety when I said okay what are you going to do about it . It’s not healthy to let those things fester and and suggested he get therapy. Mannnnn that man almost cussed me out .😮💨
See....they never want help....too much pride....but want to dump that crap on a woman....I cant save u dude ✌
@@beefaye6861 exactly we are NOT rehabilitation centers man go unpack on that on somebody’s couch.
@@beefaye6861 for real! Gone wit all that
I dodged a bullet myself, as well. 😂🤣
This also happens to couples who have been together for a while you have to do this every once in a while
Yes, my exact story. Video games up late at night.....refused to work as we were facing eviction.... multiple times >>>> tried to do this for 3 years... finally gave up. Yes they need to get help. He refused. No he wasn't trying to fix it.... tGod removed him from my life. Levels raised. Never again. 🙏
Yes......I used to tell my ex I was getting a divorce....year after year and I guess because of me just saying and not acting on it....he thought I was just saying it.....wellll eventually I had the courage to file for divorce......when he was served , he was shocked. Then he started begging for me to reconcile. Never did......he missed the water after the well run dried.
Ladies, if it gets to that point where he takes you for granted, he never loved you in the first place. You were just something to use at his disposal. He never deserved you to begin with. Know your worth! Mirror his actions back. You deserve someone that treats you right from day 1.
I let him go. It hurts but it had to be done. He required so much from me but yet didn't reciprocate, especially when he didn't have a pot to p××× in...and of course he played the victim and said I'll never find another love like him, he's right, i don't want anyone like him lol thanks stephan
I agree about depression. I feel that a lot of it has to do with changing diet and lifestyle. A lot of the things we are eating are causing major physiological problems. We also have a lot of deficiencies that can lead to lethargy etc. Now we are seeing through new studies, that they are saying that depression isn't caused by a chemical imbalance as was previously thought.
I have a huge tolerance for pain due to abuse and neglect as a child.
I really hope that you have a Satan-free, issue-free, drama-free life from this day forward. I'm sure that you're worth it & much more! 🌸🌸🌸
Me too. Have you gotten therapy?
I feel this
Love is unconditional. Relationships are very much conditional.
Unconditional love is psychological self-harm. It says beat me, beat my children, disrespect me, steal, lie, cheat...And I will still love you.
It lacks self-respect and smacks of desparation.
Love SHOULD be conditional. Based on mutual respect and honesty at the very least.
The idea that unconditional love is the apex of love is immature and myopic. A road into abusive relationships of all kinds.
No such thing
Love is conditional in a romantic relationship. Stop with the narrative of unconditional love.
how can I like this twice!
That tendency to always push the envelope, in order to see how far you can go or what you can get away with still feels a lot like being taken for granted and who really likes the feeling of being taken for granted and unappreciated 🤷♀️
'Thick or thin whatever I forgot the words'....am cracking up...seriously I forgot them too right before I served him the divorced papers....🤣
That part was hilarious!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣 This video is much needed. Stephan knows his stuff.
@@AB_1211 indeed 🤣
The hardest thing to accept , I think, is when someone is convinced that they don't deserve to be in Love. it crushes you, but honor what they want. 💔
I don't like people are justifying their behaviour, because they have depression and so on! Like you said Stephan, you have to do things, to better yourself! I too,don't like to be medicated, I believe in having healthy diet, and everything else, that keeps you well!🙌
I think someone needs to hold classes for these men because they need to understand upfront that their behavior determines everything. They shouldn't even WANT to be in a position where a woman has to beg them to step up. They know when they're not pulling their weight, and them acting like women are just nagging is really stupid logic that they need to abandon. The truth is that their ego is big af, and they would rather gas themselves up by lying to themselves that women are just complaining for nothing. It's old now. They need to give it up because we're not their mothers or their maids. 😒
No free pass. We still have a choice. Counseling, Therapy, medical attention. CBT Therapy, Volunteering, Reading, Prayer, Church, all of the above. Exactly.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌❤️🙏🏽
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These are facts ! Excellent advice. Women must be willing to walk away if there are no behavioral changes in their partner. Absent that, be prepared for more of the same poor treatment you’re already receiving.
Yep. Filed. Ive been invisible for years. Over it. NEXT! Im done being invisible to the individual that I give my heart to. Period.
Wow... don't make them feel like you will never leave no matter what. Interesting insights, thanks Stephan
I learned this through a very very tough love lesson!! Now I know what “worth”means it took a broken heart but I wouldn’t change it!! Thanks for the video very informative
The way you love yourself is how others will show their love to you!
💙RUclipsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
Not always because I don't tilorate people treating me any way and they all decide to not deal with me in a living manner because I set boundaries and won't allow to be walked over and disrespected
My ex never thought I was going to leave him and I left him and he was in chock, after 18 years of repeating the disc I finally step out and is been almost a year and never had a thought of going back heck noooo
Why have a relationship with someone if u have to go through b.s. and ultimatums with them.
This is my current situation. Couldn’t have come at a better time. Thank you ❤
Once I stop caring it's too late
This is why you pay attention to his actions in the beginning and dip most of the time guys do things to get you but don't try to keep you they get comfortable
😢 I feel so bad it has taken me so long to let go. I’ve embarrassed myself 😢 but all the signs were there, intuition etc. we were married for 26 years nine years after the divorce I have had enough. Thank you for helping me face the truth.
You spoke straight to my situation. Thank you.
Love watching your videos but as a mental health advocate & have experience myself…. Diet and exercise is not the only solution. Sometimes medication is the first and only option to live a better life. When you are at a low point you may not be able to try to get better. It takes time. I would be patient as long as necessary until I see the signs you are pointing out that there is no effort after seeking help. People do abused the term depression & for those I agree with you. But for the people with true mental health issues patience & understanding may take some time. Myself personally still have uncontrollable episodes at time and this can make work and life challenging.
Insightful guy, well rounded advice. People who don't care, don't make an effort, they don't love you!
People who take, take, take and are users have no self respect or are sociopaths of some sort.
Oh, Snap. You are too funny. Nice to hear you use humor. I'm living it, Stephan.
First video, I have been laughing. The video is great cuz I told my past male I was going to block him off FB in a week and I DID! He was shocked. I warned him.
So, yes, you are so right, as usual!! Lol
This so true..I appreciate you Stephan 💙🙏🏾
Amen!!! And I LEFT PERIOD!! I Trust God has better.
Current situation for sure! It took him (finding out somebody else wanted me) for him to finally deciding to change. I’m emotionally withdrawn! Mentally withdrawn! Mentally drained!
Unconditional love is not unconditional tolerance learn that!
Thank you brother for being a beacon of light and truth for us ladies! You are appreciated much, blessings. 🙏😊
I don’t repeat I block and move tf on
Im in the same situation with my husband. He is stressed and taking it out on me. After the stress finishes and he is still acting funny he will see my true self. I will be preparing myself for anything
The signs that God has been sending me
My mama taught me that if a man doesn’t want you, there is nothing you can do about it. Let him go. It works the same for women. That can be for so many reasons.
Be careful what you tolerate as you are teaching someone how to treat you!! I’ve finally walked away and tolerated too much so lesson learned. Never again
This was my life.. smh.. empty threats. They take you for granted. Then beg you when it's really the last time.
I needed this message. Thank you.
Wow your speaking the truth my brotha bless you and you family …🙌🏾🙌🏾💪🏾💪🏾I’m not married yet but I’m waiting patiently on that special day. As far as me and my household we serve the Most High. We eat clean foods and of course Natural home health remedies works best for our Temple
I did it I packed the house up moved out to an apartment then bought my own home. Have my job I left. He then text I love you I want you I will marry you, no i didn't go back.
So true. Going thru this right now
Thanks Stephen, you made it funny and cool, but I know it's not. I am going through this with my husband right now, and I really appreciate your advise! Thank you.
This is an amazing video and could not have come at a better time. Thank you so much for the incredible advice
When we don't get support & attention we stop responding & find another ways
I LOVE THIS MAN. I just finished watching only 2 of his videos and I feel I'm back. I got my crown back today. Thank you God, this man, and RUclips. 🩷🌻👑
I’m the type of woman once i say something that’s what i mean, it’s the brain of a boy i can’t deal with always in playing mode, not thinking your not going leave or getting there act together when you do leave that’s to much playing for me only boys do this
I could never understand how a 40 something man still thought like a boy. It is really mind-f-ing.
@@beegee5305 it’s never about age it’s about there level of maturity
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Right. On. Time. Per usual!
New subscriber!! Appreciate the gems you are dropping 🤞🏾 working on my marriage life 🥰 Are you married? I'm only asking because advice from married men & women on how to stay happy is what I'm here for 💕
I agree with you 100%
thank you 🙏🏼 💜
I left the east coast and moved to the west coast; and my soon to be ex husband still doesn’t get it.
Have been LDR going on 4 years. Hes married but separated. Divorce pending. Now he tells me his feelings for her AND me are neutral. But he wants to come see me. We live over 1000 miles apart. I have fallen in love with him. We have talked and shared most everything in our daily lives. Calls, text, FaceTime and intimate pics. Neither of us are sexually active . I want to see where our relationship goes. Am i being foolish ?
Oh shoot, didn't know you just posted. I was just thinking about you Steph
Yeeeeeeees. This is so true.
What are you doing for your downfall / short comings 🤔. If you’re depressed, are you trying to fix it ?
This has been my point far too long. NOT MY PROBLEM.
Love the message 🥰🙏💯
Sadly, he is completely correct. Even with Gay men, this is a correct approach. I’m my recent dating years, I’ve found that dudes don’t like to loose in ANY way, so once you show that you are done, they will eventually come back. It’s up to you if you want to deal with them from there or not.
PREACH SIR 👏👏👏
My ex treated me like crap and became abusive. He blamed his bipolar but refused to get help for it. I finally got tired and left. My kids and I were homeless for a short time because of that. Once I had my own place he suddenly started begging me to get back. I'm never going back to him. Abusers don't just change.
Have you done a video on a man being in a codependent relationship, women too. But I see young men dealing with wounded young women, seeing that she has some good qualities yet she sabotages the relationship.
Thanks!
thank you ❤
Thank you
Preach!
Agree 100%
Thank you ! For this 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Amen, Hallelujah!
Depression anxiety and bi polar and all these mental disorders people if they dont have them have no idea how hard life can be I know cause my son is on meds trust me it doesn't solve everything. I have been diagnosed with four mental disorders and I don't take meds nobody is perfect in life and they never will be . And the medicine can cause more issues also and then if it helps one thing it causes another health issue
Thank you❣️❤️🌟👑
❤️ my pleasure
You Speakin this here Truth na!💜
Either Step & or then keep stepPin
Yes ahk-my brother- “Level of Ability” is the way of narrowing our path
“Level of Ability” is a lifestyle.
Trustworthiness. Praiseworthiness.
Prevent Smartly, &Lovingly.
#totalTEMPLE#lyfesTyle
#winwin #thereforeGUIDEthyHeart.
Yes Lord
Say what you mean, and mean what you say.
As a mental health nurse, you completely lost me with downplaying mental health issues. Good for you that you have never suffered enough to understand what clinical depression is, and why it is.
Oh snap! He helped me pack lol
My heart hurt bad iam in alot of pain right going to a hospital to night
I agree 💯.
The problem is sometimes she listens to the Felisha's (negative people) that has always been trying to destroy someone else's marriage
Exactly you don’t need medication that makes it worse cu what happens if your not on it? Nope that’s a red flag to me..
Why coz it's happening to me now
No I'm going to disagree with you my ex didnt care so I have too cut him off he was the type wouldnt say he was sorry so I ask god for me to unlove him and heal my heart he never did what he supposed to do he lost his job I still was there for him I'm done
I'm going to be real my ex had no remorse what he did to me I was down with him when he couldnt get a job I never stop caring about him my faith was strong in god he was always treating me like I was nothing. I allow god to get me out that bad situation he didnt love me anymore so it was time to cut him off I'm so happy god stared heal my heart I am free now it all about me and my jesus please dont settle I know I'm worth more🙏🙏🙏🙏❤
You shouldnt have to play games
This is EXACTLY why I no longer believe in lifelong commitments. How can a person NOT think that you're not going anywhere when you have made a vow before God and witnesses to stay for the rest of your life? They have no motivation to act right! It is a form of slavery, man-made and never intended. We have sold our souls! Instead, people need to EARN the right to stay in your life, like you do with an annual performance review at work.
Wish I knew about this before the divorce...