Once You Show Him You Stopped Caring, 5 Amazing Things Will Happen

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  • Опубликовано: 5 дек 2023
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  • @Enter.403
    @Enter.403 8 месяцев назад +431

    This man is literally changing my life.

    • @storm4515
      @storm4515 8 месяцев назад +11

      Every last one of us

    • @danielleadair7394
      @danielleadair7394 8 месяцев назад +4

      Truth

    • @prianka1728
      @prianka1728 7 месяцев назад +3

      Mine too!

    • @khushbooyadav1827
      @khushbooyadav1827 7 месяцев назад +6

      I agree. Father Alex is truly amazing.

    • @RainbowBandana
      @RainbowBandana 7 месяцев назад +1

      Just making you more into a manipulative person who will be humbled eventually and then the cold heart will begin❤

  • @TheAttractionTriggers
    @TheAttractionTriggers 7 месяцев назад +118

    *A strong relationship requires choosing to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other.*

  • @DS-ct8fu
    @DS-ct8fu 8 месяцев назад +114

    "Comparison strips you of your individuality"
    - Father Alex
    Now this should be on a big poster!

    • @MS-ns4ki
      @MS-ns4ki 4 месяца назад +1

      please don't keep comparing me to others...you won't find me.

  • @brittanyritenour4695
    @brittanyritenour4695 7 месяцев назад +83

    To me that’s what causes the most intense fear is watching how other people throw people away without any thought about valuing other people in society. Everything’s always better somewhere else and we loose appreciation for the people we have right here in our lives who love us.

    • @wilted_rose510
      @wilted_rose510 6 месяцев назад +1

      My fear too

    • @brittanyritenour4695
      @brittanyritenour4695 6 месяцев назад

      @@wilted_rose510 Really! Yes

    • @krystalgardiner5591
      @krystalgardiner5591 6 месяцев назад +2

      Yup and social media is making the comparisons so much easier.

    • @carmosin
      @carmosin 6 месяцев назад +6

      People who act like that eventually run right into the consequences of their own behaviour, which are the opposite feelings they are chasing after. They are trying to meet their own needs by using other people, instead of loving themselves and others.

    • @shamiebubu6412
      @shamiebubu6412 5 месяцев назад

      😊​@@wilted_rose510

  • @TracyAtwood-ft8ov
    @TracyAtwood-ft8ov 7 месяцев назад +92

    This was more helpful than the chunk of money I’ve put into therapy and leaves me feeling lighter, safer and more in tune with myself and the world around me. Wow. Thank you so much.

  • @aponytale4820
    @aponytale4820 7 месяцев назад +27

    Once we Stop needing and start wanting, it all changes.

  • @liztowers2058
    @liztowers2058 8 месяцев назад +96

    im hurting right now, i have an anxious attachment style and he was a dismissive avoidant, WORST combo..i get close, he panics and shuts it down, steps back....2 yrs of this shit, i ended it 18 days ago. im hurting, its a deep heart pain.

    • @aikoyu9815
      @aikoyu9815 8 месяцев назад +20

      You will feel better soon. Time heals.

    • @dvmn444
      @dvmn444 7 месяцев назад +3

      Moving forward you have to date someone that leans towards your attachment style...

    • @Enter.403
      @Enter.403 7 месяцев назад +12

      Man I'm going through the same thing, you aren't alone.

    • @liztowers2058
      @liztowers2058 7 месяцев назад

      its sooo rough. @@Enter.403

    • @karaclow2536
      @karaclow2536 7 месяцев назад +4

      I feel this to my core

  • @PS-hi9os
    @PS-hi9os 7 месяцев назад +22

    it took me such a long time to get to this level. it’s really takes a lot of self development

  • @carmosin
    @carmosin 6 месяцев назад +13

    If “love” is wanting other people and yourself to feel safe, secure, accepted, understood and appreciated, and “loving” is to act in a way that you and the others feel secure, appreciated, accepted, understood and safe, then you are loving them when you leave them of whatever reason. You need to leave if you find that they don’t feel safe with you, and you need to leave if you don’t feel safe with them - unless of course you can work on your love together for a deeper connection.
    Chasing, pleading, begging, manipulating, threatening and bread crumbing someone is not love imho; it’s more like using someone with the goal of releasing yourself from your own anxiety, while creating anxiety in them as well.

  • @AchiniKaravita
    @AchiniKaravita 8 месяцев назад +42

    Love how you teach Buddhist principles in meditation. I’m a Buddhist by birth and I practice the spiritual side of it Found your content so profound and practical

  • @UniCorn274
    @UniCorn274 7 месяцев назад +38

    I’ve watched many videos about this topic but no one explains it like you do. It’s like they are all copying eachother but you do your own thing. Next level. I appreciate you and the work you put in your videos

  • @NinaLuscious11
    @NinaLuscious11 8 месяцев назад +92

    I've been listening 2 years to you and I feel blessed as your advise helped me through break ups and preventing of getting played.
    But this video is one of the best, profound teachings on self mastery! Thank you so much Alex for giving to us unconditionally. Bless your beautiful soul❤

  • @BayouChicGardening
    @BayouChicGardening 7 месяцев назад +22

    I can detach easily but I think it’s because I grew up without my birth parents. The hardest thing I’ve endured was my teen son drowning. But ending romantic relationships and/or friendships don’t rock my world.

    • @asmaettazy7171
      @asmaettazy7171 6 месяцев назад +7

      i am sorry for your son..

    • @jackieallen2350
      @jackieallen2350 5 месяцев назад +2

      Me too. No parent not problem detaching... Sorry for your loss

    • @Thegoodlife4me
      @Thegoodlife4me 4 месяца назад +1

      ❤.

  • @silviapeixoto2460
    @silviapeixoto2460 8 месяцев назад +38

    Your knowledge is getting so HIGH, above any other youtube manipulation videos, cause you really explain whats behind every act. congratulations!

  • @blkbutterfly7618
    @blkbutterfly7618 8 месяцев назад +17

    All I know is you better not
    close the channel……🦋

  • @cestmagnifique7932
    @cestmagnifique7932 8 месяцев назад +16

    That's like Will Smith pretending not to be bothered by Jada's "entanglement"

  • @ladybird131
    @ladybird131 7 месяцев назад +7

    Thank you for this. It is tangible and I can actually do this. Feel calmer already ❤

  • @Empathrepublic
    @Empathrepublic 7 месяцев назад +24

    I would just buy your course at this point to support you. Because you do a lot for us , plus you are funny 💚

  • @Love01Cruz
    @Love01Cruz 7 месяцев назад +5

    You out here healing ❤️‍🩹 the collective. Bless your soul

  • @elizabethc5149
    @elizabethc5149 8 месяцев назад +14

    You know how I feel about finding your channel? Better late than never ❤ thank you so much

  • @userxoxo181
    @userxoxo181 8 месяцев назад +38

    You’ve helped me so much with my current situation. Thank you for being so dedicated to sharing your knowledge with us!

  • @dfateekh
    @dfateekh 6 месяцев назад +8

    We are not connected with ourselves thus people feel we not connected to them as they are, but we use them as object of our self esteem. And as a result they don't like us. You're genius, Dalexis! Thanks a lot ❤

  • @tillytuott9221
    @tillytuott9221 8 месяцев назад +9

    You are so consistent too!

  • @anastasijabeograd3903
    @anastasijabeograd3903 8 месяцев назад +10

    THANK YOU ALEX FOR TEACHING ❤

  • @FlowerlyF.
    @FlowerlyF. 7 месяцев назад +5

    very true. Truly liberating when you get to that point of no selfconsciousness…😊

  • @ConservativeBaddieTV
    @ConservativeBaddieTV 7 месяцев назад

    I usually only watch one or 2 channels for my relationship advice, but I’m really grateful for your perspective & that I’ve found this channel

  • @brittanyritenour4695
    @brittanyritenour4695 7 месяцев назад +14

    This socie try encourages to date around and try people out. That is just not for me. I never try anyone out, if I love someone I’m going to love them all the way or not at all. That’s who I am. I don’t believe in doing anything without a purpose and I don’t believe in dating around.

  • @user-ol6ge1ch8n
    @user-ol6ge1ch8n 8 месяцев назад +4

    Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable with us

  • @noonereally4798
    @noonereally4798 8 месяцев назад +69

    Why they always come back when you don’t give a fuck no more?

    • @mar9087.
      @mar9087. 7 месяцев назад +30

      Because they can’t get someone better than who they had

    • @mrsoctavia3392
      @mrsoctavia3392 7 месяцев назад

      Stop the cap. Ppl just hate rejection. ​@@mar9087.

    • @LoveAtkins-gk1io
      @LoveAtkins-gk1io 6 месяцев назад

      That's something that happens!I trying to understand why!

    • @mandolaa4855
      @mandolaa4855 6 месяцев назад +1

      Exactly!!

    • @925lady4
      @925lady4 5 месяцев назад +13

      People are self interested. They need someone to care about them. It has nothing to do with how they feel about you

  • @alaneparadis982
    @alaneparadis982 8 месяцев назад +16

    I've been trying to have healthier relationships and found your site. Sooo glad you are doing your thing. You explain everything so well. You are helping me to understand what and why it makes a healthy relationship 💓 Much love to you ❤️

  • @khushbooyadav1827
    @khushbooyadav1827 7 месяцев назад +1

    Yet another amazing video by our favourite Father Alex.

  • @anujasmusic
    @anujasmusic 7 месяцев назад +9

    Mind-boggling content ❤. Love from India ❤. I have been doing Vipassana for 8 years now, and meditation has brought that detachment thing in me. It's good you practice everyday. If you continue practising Vipassana, the sky is the limit.

  • @Wavyfeels
    @Wavyfeels 5 месяцев назад +1

    I can’t even put into words the amount of education I’ve received from this video. It’s in my head but I can describe it. I’m really trying to tap into myself. When you said not feeling your feet on the ground. That hit me like a ton of bricks. My mind is blown Father Alex. You have so much knowledge

  • @leezeh3034
    @leezeh3034 7 месяцев назад

    Dalexi, you’re the older brother I need ❤ thanks for all you’re advices 🎉

  • @LAbidjanaiseBlogMode225
    @LAbidjanaiseBlogMode225 7 месяцев назад +44

    Please teach us how to never start caring in the first place, its always à waste of time.

    • @carmosin
      @carmosin 6 месяцев назад +4

      Idk if that’s the way forward though. You absolutely can care about others, and you should, but don’t confuse caring with people pleasing. “Caring” is on the surface level acting in a predictable way among strangers so they feel safe, while on a deeper level finding out what someone else’s needs are so you can decide whether you have the capacity to meet them or not. If you can’t, then you care by making room for someone else who can.

    • @abenigold6219
      @abenigold6219 5 месяцев назад +7

      Just avoid men all together 😂

    • @LAbidjanaiseBlogMode225
      @LAbidjanaiseBlogMode225 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@abenigold6219 The best recipe to end up unprepared and get pregnant on your first next encourter.

    • @shaquitaalexander-ln2nu
      @shaquitaalexander-ln2nu Месяц назад

      That is the truth

    • @MT-yx5cu
      @MT-yx5cu 17 дней назад

      ​@@LAbidjanaiseBlogMode225what?

  • @TheLavenderLover
    @TheLavenderLover 7 месяцев назад +1

    The music you are playing is one of my favorite pieces 🥰. 🎶 Satie - Gymnopédie … I love the synchronicity ✨

  • @md5329
    @md5329 7 месяцев назад +1

    I think this is the best video you have ever made.

  • @emilyc5625
    @emilyc5625 7 месяцев назад +4

    This is hard bc you need to be vulnerable to see if it’s your person but then the minute your vulnerable you get screwed

  • @shininbright1315
    @shininbright1315 8 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you. I really did enjoy this. And I’m going to do body scans.

  • @winterbae420
    @winterbae420 7 месяцев назад +2

    How long have I been a fan of yours?🤔
    Feels like 15+ years thank you 🙏🏼 ❤

  • @Temporary3334
    @Temporary3334 6 месяцев назад

    This makes so much sense!! Thank you 🖤🫶🏼

  • @spiritfiyuh11
    @spiritfiyuh11 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much, this was the best advice i have gotten in a really long time! ❤ i have always wondered how sometimes i'm a magnet, especially in love... and how sometimes it seems i literally push people away without wanting to. ~ that just made soo much sense, thank you!! ✨️💎

  • @brittanyritenour4695
    @brittanyritenour4695 7 месяцев назад +8

    I disagree . Intense passion isn’t always a bad thing and people throw other people away like old pairs of shoes. That to me will never be true love to me. I’d never love someone who is not afraid to lose me and people with intense passion through pain are usually the ones who change the world. Most world celebrities or inventors were really passionate about what they believed in. They made changes. I’d love is conditional from anyone then I don’t want it and you can still love someone unconditionally without allowing someone to disrespect you.

  • @onelove8118
    @onelove8118 8 месяцев назад +3

    You are an amazing soul!! Thank you

  • @SmokyMountainStarlight
    @SmokyMountainStarlight 7 месяцев назад +3

    Maybe one of your best videos yet Alex.

  • @burgandi.c
    @burgandi.c 8 месяцев назад +2

    Great video as usual!

  • @tillytuott9221
    @tillytuott9221 8 месяцев назад +15

    I love your reaction videos, you are so entertaining to listen to while I work. I just love your voice and you are so talented and smart

    • @CeciledeLuire
      @CeciledeLuire 7 месяцев назад

      and if i were Father Alex, i'd be head over heals at this point 😀 You're beautiful

    • @CeciledeLuire
      @CeciledeLuire 7 месяцев назад

      ...and no, i'm not into women ; )

  • @IndigoWisdom1
    @IndigoWisdom1 7 месяцев назад +2

    Alex...You're the TRUTH!!! 💯 🙌🏽✨✨✨

  • @chinenyennakee1772
    @chinenyennakee1772 7 месяцев назад +1

    I really love this and am learning alot. Thumbs up

  • @shantaroberts479
    @shantaroberts479 7 месяцев назад +4

    Excellent!! Thank you

  • @TheNisiu
    @TheNisiu 5 месяцев назад +1

    "when someone tries to control you it means they can't control their own emotions. Because your actions control their emotions." This is quite accurate! I had a narcissistic mother who did this with me. As a result, it's the number 1 deal breaker for me in dating. The first sign of attempting to control me, I have to walk away regardless of how strong my feelings are.

  • @Ms26Harmony
    @Ms26Harmony 25 дней назад

    Thank you for helping me bring awareness back to my body. I appreciate this so much, I needed this today. For a long time knew I was numb in certain places in my body but didn’t know how to point it out. Thank you.

  • @gwendolynwebb8886
    @gwendolynwebb8886 6 месяцев назад +1

    This information is pure gold!!!!

  • @misfitted4874
    @misfitted4874 7 месяцев назад

    Thank You for the gems and you have a great voice. 🙏🏽😌❤️✨

  • @tracyr.6151
    @tracyr.6151 5 месяцев назад

    I love this!! Thank you for the message ❤ 🙏

  • @paulinakaneva2758
    @paulinakaneva2758 7 месяцев назад

    I liked this video and info very much. Thank you! ♥️

  • @portia547
    @portia547 7 месяцев назад

    This was super helpful, thank you!

  • @cmm867
    @cmm867 7 месяцев назад

    Father Alex - you’re the best ❤ thank you

  • @RacoonPeanutButter
    @RacoonPeanutButter 7 месяцев назад +4

    He is THE MAN! ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @ninagley8657
    @ninagley8657 7 месяцев назад

    One of your best videos. Thanks.

  • @Erinjessica828
    @Erinjessica828 5 месяцев назад

    Great video!!! Thank you Alex!!❤

  • @neemathomas6494
    @neemathomas6494 5 месяцев назад +1

    You are a freaking genius man! Only if more people understood this and practiced meditation, to heal themselves and project less onto others.

  • @michellemeekins4014
    @michellemeekins4014 7 месяцев назад

    This video is EVERYTHINGGGGGG. New follower❤

  • @Kali5000
    @Kali5000 2 месяца назад

    Gold!
    Much appreciated ❤

  • @MissPapion2U
    @MissPapion2U 6 месяцев назад +1

    Wow I am so blessed to have found this ❤

  • @ourbunkhouseboutique5661
    @ourbunkhouseboutique5661 7 месяцев назад +3

    wow, you are so gifted and wise beyond anyone else I've listened to -- I am hooked. thank you so much

  • @aquata3367
    @aquata3367 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you Alex!

  • @xstinalifecoach
    @xstinalifecoach 7 месяцев назад +12

    I love the points you made, however, when you’re with the wrong person or putting your energy into the wrong person, it’s much harder to stay within self because love requires you sacrificing your emotional self because you are tied to them in some way.
    If we were all mindful human beings then this would work but because we have that (human) side of us filled with emotions (fear, anxiety,etc) even if we meditate, if that other person isn’t on the same level, this approach will NOT work.

  • @Gigi-ui5br
    @Gigi-ui5br 4 месяца назад

    Thanks for this video, it’s really helpful

  • @Zelicious11
    @Zelicious11 6 месяцев назад

    This right here. Is some good advice! Wow wow wow

  • @gwendolynwebb8886
    @gwendolynwebb8886 6 месяцев назад

    This video just changed my life

  • @Laiylah_B
    @Laiylah_B 7 месяцев назад

    I love watching your videos , when I apply some strategies. I see improvenent

  • @theresamcdermott1111
    @theresamcdermott1111 8 месяцев назад +3

    The way you grabbed the mic 🎤 and said "Holidaaaay Special" lol haha 😂❤💯

  • @oyinemaria1940
    @oyinemaria1940 4 месяца назад

    Thank you Father Alex.

  • @sagald.4584
    @sagald.4584 7 месяцев назад

    Great video ❤❤

  • @user-ek7yc9fh7y
    @user-ek7yc9fh7y Месяц назад

    Maybe it takes a while to get over someone bc you love very deeply. Not needy, some people love big ❤

  • @sresh3792
    @sresh3792 Месяц назад

    This is what we call CONTENT
    keep going
    Love from India ❤

  • @dreamyskinbysam
    @dreamyskinbysam 5 месяцев назад

    I love your accent it actually made me want to watch your video more

  • @Janayyy1
    @Janayyy1 7 месяцев назад +2

    Helping us crack the codes lol thank you 😊

    • @Wavyfeels
      @Wavyfeels 5 месяцев назад

      Nah fr 😂

  • @ragallylou
    @ragallylou 7 месяцев назад +2

    I need to find one of those retreats because I am numb everywhere, I literally cannot feel any part of myself

  • @Wavyfeels
    @Wavyfeels 5 месяцев назад

    13:23 I absolutely love when you get in your bag! I need to watch this part daily.

  • @jennyfromthablock
    @jennyfromthablock 7 месяцев назад +2

    I know this is unrelated to the video content but I love Scarlet O’Hara!

  • @zainabrose96
    @zainabrose96 7 месяцев назад

    Love your videos!

  • @Addease
    @Addease 6 месяцев назад

    This one was excellent

  • @hadiza1
    @hadiza1 8 месяцев назад +2

    Preach! 🧡🧡🙌🏿

  • @romeliaserna1377
    @romeliaserna1377 7 месяцев назад

    the video i needed .

  • @JaccQueen23
    @JaccQueen23 7 месяцев назад

    Hey Brother! When is your meditation retreat??? Im waiting while taking notes ✍🏽✍🏽✍🏽...Oh and the music in the background is genius.🫶🏽

  • @bernadettegillen5470
    @bernadettegillen5470 8 месяцев назад +1

    Omg really. I've always thought like that I was so aware the only difference is I grew up in northern ireland.

  • @4d.4c.4b4
    @4d.4c.4b4 6 месяцев назад

    High intentions vs low attachments I need to remember this for my next date as I literally jinxed a recent one because of this high attachments😮

  • @PrepperRapperFairy
    @PrepperRapperFairy 7 месяцев назад

    oh lord Alex is soooo CUTE .. "and, dont forget we are having a holiday special". lol

  • @Americas_Angel
    @Americas_Angel 6 месяцев назад +1

    Omg I love your accent. I think it's dreamy ❤

  • @teesmith6267
    @teesmith6267 4 месяца назад +1

    I appreciate you so much Alex🫶🏽

  • @Rosel50
    @Rosel50 5 месяцев назад

    You’re awesome!

  • @dr.m6152
    @dr.m6152 8 месяцев назад +2

    I have realized father Alex video titles never do justice to the actual content so now I just watch everything 😂 like I've no interest in knowing what happens to the guy when I pull away but I do want to hear what you're talking now

  • @annapugh9262
    @annapugh9262 6 месяцев назад +4

    Professional body massage is very helpful when there is body mind disconnection .

  • @TTTarot
    @TTTarot 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you❤

  • @lalayaniqueque9030
    @lalayaniqueque9030 3 месяца назад +1

    Omggg! I’m from DR 🇩🇴 too, lov ya

  • @arsema1235
    @arsema1235 12 дней назад

    The best dating couch been 5yeats watching your videos

  • @user-ek7yc9fh7y
    @user-ek7yc9fh7y Месяц назад

    I think we all feel insecure.....and that's OK. Hard to be vulnerable with someone.

  • @TheNisiu
    @TheNisiu 5 месяцев назад

    Your illustrations are kinda brilliant, Alex.