Over mothered and under fathered ... In some cases, this syndrome happens due to unhealed childhood trauma or abuse, abandonment wounds, childhood emotional neglect or narcissistic abuse. We often see things and navigate relationships at the point we had the most trauma so imagine if most of their trauma was experienced at a very young age. They will become emotionally stuck at that age until they heal the trauma, abuse or abandonment wounds/injuries. Disclaimer: it’s not your job to fix them; for one you can’t because it’s an inside job. You need to fix the toxic patterns within yourself that allowed you to entertain him.
Blue Eyes Absolutely not. You can’t fix it!! That’s an inside job. Maybe I need to add that as a disclaimer. It’s not your job to fix it. You have to focus on your own inner work & healing especially if you entertained a Peter Pan.
Thank you oh how I have identified these toxic patterns that allowed me to entertain these type of MEN. I have been on a journey of healing my own childhood wounds and discovered that I was an empath and the same man had the same wounds that attracted. You see journaling is a wonderful thing and I had to identify what was toxic with each man and how it identified with me. Yes it is an inside job and I'm still on that journey within.
I was married to a narcissistic Peter Pan, never again. He was terrified of growing old. He now has a pickmesha and they’re living happily ever after, and so am I with my protector/provider.
Codependant and narcisst. A woman who does too much (almost everything) in the relationship. And a boy in an adult body who wants to be a 3 year old untill his death
@@iinlove118 Facts, I had to have a child with a guy with a Peter Pan syndrome before I saw that I was working myself to the bone for someone who was not willing to do the same.
As a forty year old straight man, I can tell you I refuse to be friends with guys like this! These guys don't just ruin partner relationships, they also ruin friendships. Glad to see so many women refuse to put up with these guys for partners. They ruin everything.
@@uunnoov Sure. They have no drive, and they become jealous of any and all of my accomplishments... They drone on and on with their long list of excuses for never accomplishing anything in life. Seriously, I do not want to hear a bunch of excuses... They say crazy, misogynistic things about women. And if you are not careful, you might start actually believing them... They never have money to do anything or go anywhere. Or, they complain about the price of anything from a ticket to a ball game, to the price of a drink... They have no actually hobbies or interests that don't involve reminiscing about their glory days and/or playing video games... They are just a bore to be around. There is a lot of good in this world, if you actually look for it.
Yessss omg they do. What’s worst, its like these type of men have extraordinary psychic powers to sniff out empathic women. They are true predators by nature.
Yes that does appear to be true, but they are never satisfied and will forever be searching. Their life is a never ending cycle of them chasing could've's, would've's and should've's.
Dating in 2020 is like war.. ladies are literally out here dodging bullets.. Chole’s videos are part of my survival kit and keep me peeped to the game.. Thanks sis.. 😘
Are these the same men dedicated to dogging women over the age of 30? I'm in my 20s but still disgusted by older men feeling entitled to women my age. As if they think they'll be young studs forever... It's hilarious and also ANNOYING.
Girl, I'm 32 and I was texting with a 50 year old divorced father of 2 and he told me "I like that you are older and great personality" like he was "settling" with a woman who is not in her 20s because I was "really cool".
1000%... this was my ex and I was conditioned for 3 years but I woke up and LEFT!!! Whew so glad I got out of that and I woke up to the web I got sucked into. Ladies.. if a man is stingy, he is typically stingy in ALL ways... financially, emotionally, sexually. Do not attach yourself to a stingy man.
The narc ex/son’s father conditioned me for 3 years too. However, 2020 was when I consciously washed my hands of his weak ass. I already have a son, I don’t need another.
Woah woah hold up I'm stingy but that's cuz I have to pay for college and rent and car and insurance even if I work 40 hours a week I don't spend nothing outside of what I can afford mam
I feel like that's why I used to hate when my ex played video games...he would be so immersed in them, going crazy when he couldn't pass a level in the game talking about "my team needs me" while I'm sitting on his bed feeling helpless... after we broke up I swore to myself that I would never date a guy who playes video games but these days I think every guy in my age (20's) is playing them...idk what else to say
And yet falling for them lol. I deal with mental health victims from these adventures. Unfortunately the vid is spot on with the type of population racial profile my clinic deals with a lot ay. Sry.
Yes! There's literally a guy on another video all in the comments with the username Peter Pan and the cartoon character as his profile pic. He was very disrespectful and ignorant with his comments. Talking about a 30 year old woman is "old".
A lot of them are narcissistic and lack empathy and remorse. Be careful with these types of people. Some are sadistic. When they realize that you are not the illusion they made up in their head, or after they get what they want, they can get real sinister. Don’t deal with them at all.
This is absolutely true. When you attempt to hold them accountable for their emotional abuse, they would embark on an never ending pursuit of revenge. Don’t ever underestimate the demons in these degenerates.
I was stuck in my comfort zone of work even after my mother who was 73 died when I was 30 after that I fell into weed and then deeper into alcoholism months later after work stress. Being sheltered I desperately wanted a connection with everyone that I met to the point of like over sharing sensitive information and giving my life story to everyone perhaps for some sort of validation or so people could understand me. Responsibility and discipline are a given because I did not have the self-confidence to feel I was responsible for anything I didn't even think I was man enough to own a damn dog. My girlfriend of over 2 and 1/2 years from February 16th 2022 to September 27th 2024 she was is overweight disabled and lives with her mom in a hoarder house I have add a anxious overachiever on the Spectrum afraid of success over sheltered and still learning to be financially responsible in my late twenties into my early 30s just remembering when and how to cash checks. My ex didn't want to be emotionally attached or responsible to a bachelor Manchild that was growing increasingly inconsiderate rude smelled like liquor late for dates and probably resented that I was by myself in the house that was filthy and falling apart
I have dated Mr. Peter Pan and my brothers were groomed to be them... over mothered and under fathered. Smh. Thank God I don't attract those types anymore!
I don't see a difference other than 1 is a psychology term and the other is a slang term. Both are self centered, lack empathy and immature. Seems like an issue with that person's spirit moreso than the people they target to use and abuse.
@@teeb2681 Oedipal complex is not the same as the NPD. The starting point of these deviations is at different age in life. Peter Pan is reversable with therapy, NPD is not.
Witnessed a peter pan with two clearly weak minded parents. His parents are getting older and are sick and working full time while he who is 30+ sits at the house makes grandkids and asks what's for dinner. And I really don't feel bad for his parents at this point, that is what they allowed.
I just got rid of my Peter Pan! This syndrome is definitely tied to narcissist personalities. Don’t ever say that this term is overused. It is underused!
Just had someone like this try me & I slowly walked away, didn’t even say a word because I don’t have time to explain myself to a man who clearly wants to act however he chooses & thinks I will tolerate this behaviour 🙄
This is exactly how I ended a one and a half year relationship with a peter pan. I just blocked him with no conversation. He drained my life, if I stayed any longer I would have slept one day and not wake up.
I met a guy like this when I was 18 and we where at a vocational school. He seem fun and chill at first but once we where done with the course and it was time to find jobs I realized that he didn't want anything out of life. He would rather play video games all day rather than find a job meanwhile I already had a job and was saving for college. This guy never took me on a date or done anything for me but as soon as I started making money he wanted me to buy games for him! Imagine that. I am just glad I was smart enough to never do so and I jumped head first out of that relationship. A lot of young guys now a days are like that.
Haha 😂😂😂 Now? 2003 killed all hope for me. And he was almost a black belt. Told me his plan after HS was just to chill and live of mom. My ex husband did that too, refused to leave his parents, then ended up needing me to speak to some deportation judge. I kindly texted mommy 😊 number, seems like he forgot who his real wife was.
Chloe you are consistently ON POINT DAMN!! My father is knee deep in the Peter Pan syndrome. He cannot keep a job for long and I’m done giving a 55 year old man money, he is no longer talking to me as a result of course. Thank you for the video! You articulated the Peter Pan red flags so well 🌈
Another sign of men that women should avoid is a man who never lead any important decisions in his life, girl has to initiate a marriage, initiate finding a good job, initiate a separation and finally initiate a divorce.
My ex is everything in this video. He’s moved on to a younger girl...I’m sure because she’s too naive to see what’s happening to her. I’m single trying to work myself so that I attract my ideal man, a man of value!
This is my daughter’s spermdonor to the T.... 5 year relationships with this dusty! I had his first child and he never step up either ... I’m glad I walked out when my daughter was 6 months, she met him when she was 8 years old and her first impression was “ wow mom really... you could’ve done sooo much better !”
Harvey Smith that I saw potential in a dusty man child and I removed myself once I acquired discernment of knowing what type of man deserves loyalty... I’m not triggered Why are you?
Harvey Smith and it implies how my single parenting despite it’s being challenging its effective ...a 8 years old was able to have the discernment to know what a real man figure is. So if you thought your little comment was going to hurt me try again satans minion. Look into why YOU are triggered by my comment, last thing In know you aren’t said sperm donor... so do not come for my shortcoming when you are to meek to explore yours!
The benefit of now is access to information. It was a mess then but with no feminine communities for those of us not fortunate to have mothers or aunties who could teach us better. We were 100% on our own.
Thanks Chloe! When I first came across your channel last week...I promise you I thought you were a professor of Feminity and/or Hypergamy. This needs to be taught in classrooms.
My older brothers are all bums, I always wondered why so many women were having children with them. Fortunately, we have diff moms but unfortunately share the same Peter Pan dad... ugh, my parents are divorced because my dad, not surprisingly, has been a selfish jackass the last 30 plus years... Chloe is right they never grow up. My oldest brother is turning 52 and 14 all at once this year 🤪🙄 with a quarantine baby on the way by some idiot woman my age (30-ish). I’ve already blocked her 😤 I don’t wanna be friends. I’m good 💅🏾
@tag line yesssss!!! The one I had is still living his "immature adult" teenage life running around cheating, and doing high school shit!!! I had too dump his ass!!!!🤬🤨
May i also add that I was at the nail shop the other day. There was a married couple getting pedicures together and i believe she was getting a fill. The total came to 130 i believe and he starts yelling across to her saying he would not do that again and wasnt bringing her back there. I was embarrassed for her because he kept saying it as she was getting a fill. It just disgusted me how he embarrassed her. Sad.
I’m an empath but there are empaths with boundaries. There’s nothing wrong with being one. Being an empath doesn’t mean people pleaser. Just means you can feel other people’s energy. If anything this can give us an advantage of sniffing out these Peter Pan or narcissistic men.
I dated a guy like this before. He use to throw tantrums when I refused to give him money or explained to him that it's not right for men to depend on women. Crap was stressful and they're very good at making you feel bad for not doing what they want. Chloe is right, he would always forget my birthday and claimed he didn't celebrate Valentines Day!! I'm literally shaking typing this because I could've swore that was my soul mate, just foolish. Ladies heal, please do. Talk to someone, face your darkness and move on and up. I wouldn't wish such an experience on my worse enemy. So much more I can say that he did that is just absurd now that I'm out of the relationship. Don't believe that whole connection crap either, that's how they get you then swallow you.
@@enigma6451 ohhh wow!! I hope you know that you deserve way better than that. They are pros at excuses so I can only imagine what was said to why he didn't.
Damn you described who I used to be. I’m glad I broke the cycle my mother put me in. My ex reached out because he’s now feeling the burn of me walking away for GOOD !
Peter Pan a special type of Dusty -Addicted to immaturity , rejecting all things adult , irresponsible mama's boy, spongers, taker's, blamers, thick layer of narcissism and low opinions of women, conveniently forgets special events to condition you not to expect gifts, selfish to the core, me-me-me, expecting female coddling and breastfeeding, emotional child trapped in an adults body (man-child). This dynamic is truly unfortunate and rooted in the tragic lack of fathering. I believe the answer is for men to seek mentor-ship and surrender themselves to grooming and accountability to a well rounded provider male.
This is why I never believe in spoiling boys. Love and spoiling are two different things. I'm an empath but don't get it twisted I will cut them off🤣🤣🤣
Spot on! I just left this kind of guy that i had a relationship with.. my gutt instinct was telling me that there's something wrong with this guy (pretending confused, doesn't like to think about future, wasn't properly raised on how to be a man)... I just really did the right decision of leaving this person.
Peter Pan guys probably also have a severe porn masturbation problem to avoid having to go through the ups and downs of a relationship…getting spiritual in some way shape or form would definitely help in finding enlightenment
Yup, dumped my Peter Pan Man (didn't know he was until recently) by the end of the fourth month. And this video showed me I am the feminine who dared to walk away. Dang, I love my life now!!!
Wow Chloe🥺 had someone gave me these gems I wouldn’t have forfeited my twenties and early thirties and dreams of having a large family. Grateful for you. Thank you. Never again.
Wow! You described my children's father to a t. It took me 3 years to finally understand that he was comfortable with role reversal. It wore me out. I went from being vibrant, sexy and full of life, to becoming dull, boring and depressed. I kicked him out 2 years ago, and it was the best decision I made. You are spot on, girl 👌🏻.
@@catmouse2882 I have a son and I’m raising him to look after his wife when he’s married but wait until he’s over 30 before he gets married and I’m saving for his first car and pay for his driving lessons when he’s older. Him to go to college and uni and be prepared to be a grown up and sole purpose to find his future wife in life and not throw his youth away. I will advise him to be with a mature woman who won’t just be wanting to use him as well someone faithful and have a happy life together. It’s crazy how dating in todays age is so stressful and you have to be so careful. I think it’s how a woman raises her son. Yes I know there are bad women out there and you wouldn’t want them for your son educate themselves on them type of women aswell but to find a lovely wife who will look after him aswell. It’s a balance. I understand woman and men shouldn’t settle down too quick so they can enjoy their life and be immature while their young but when their 30 should be looking to settle down
This all just sounds too familiar .. these type of men will bread crumb you and when u ask for more they will hit you with all the things they feel your doing wrong in the relationship to make you feel unworthy of better treatment! Drove me crazyyyy. Had me doing the most to to prove my worth so he could treat me better but he only got worse 🥲. I couldn’t understand wth I was going thru and y he didn’t see my value or why he treated me the way he did. Till finally It clicked and I now understand that I will nev understand.. and it set me free 🕊
This sounds like my father. My mom is the “mom replacement” who loves to be needed, and he never grew up. Left her to raise my sister and I alone, while he was out on drugs and living his life. He always needed his mother for things, always needs a woman to care for him. I wouldn’t have even noticed he was the Peter Pan archetype! I have a little cousin like this too. My mom’s sister takes care of her 30 yr old son as if he’s still a child. They will always be losers 🤦🏽♀️ thanks for the insight Chloe!! I’m learning to release the masculine ways my mama has instilled in me 😌
My word!!!! This is everything. I've been married to this man for 16 years. I am a giver, and a work with a Brotha! Working on me, reclaiming my femininity. Whew Chile! I was his ride or die! All of this! All of it!!!!
Thank you for this video. Just had to cut my brother off today. He is pampered by everyone and I as the girl am the man of my house. But that ends today. My role is very minimal and I will be keeping that way
*Sweetheart you have described most of these male relationship teaching RUclipsRS to a T!!! They have whole charts, strategies, groups etc on how to screw and live off of females without investing time or money! Thank you for teaching the game.*
GIRL YOU ARE AMAZING! It's so remarkable how on point this is.. & I'm speaking from a Family Standpoint. I have seen these men in my family ... Which is why I create as many BOUNDARIES I CAN!!
I dated Mr. Peter Pan and it was the worst experience I’ve ever had in my life. He was a RUclipsr 🤦🏽♀️ and he didn’t believe he needed to get a job and he’s in his 30s. He had no income except for Welfare and he was ok with that. He would actually wake up out of my sleep just to yell at me. I signed with a modeling agency and he yelled at me. I got a job and he would yell at me. i couldn’t even afford my hair products living with him. The relationship ended with me actually running from him and getting on a train as he was screaming in my face. Literally RUNNING. Perfect track form “ear to pocket” RUNNING. Fast forward, he’s homeless. He lives in the woods! Still refusing to get a job in his late 30s. I will never be in that situation again! That was my first lesson of valuing myself.
Girls i am married to one of them. You are 1 billion %right but guess what😂 I reversed and started to play and practice his abuse on him 😂 It's working i started to play Cinderella and I started to receive lots of small gifts which I pretend sometimes I don't like, like a little girl. Honestly I will not stop and now he feels like a father, he even told me but to be honest I am ignoring everything and I will continue to do this to him until he gets reeaaaaly tired. Oh no for 10 yrs suffering i am finally found solution against this Peter pan dude and thank you again
54 years old and hid his age from me. I'm 31. Didn't want to work.. imagine. He never had a relationship longer than 6 months and had no idea why. He wasn't a narcissist, just a completely lost highly immature person. It never became a relationship.
Blazed and scorched down to the bone. I appreciate this balanced breakdown between male and female immaturity. Head exploded, I'm done with RUclips for today ;)
Thank you so much for your straight forward no nonsense information. This is true wisdom. Its not that women don't want the best for our men.. its that we don't want to be taken for granted. I'm not continuing the cycle.
I have to say I searched for this video two years ago after hearing you reference it in another video, but for the life of me, I couldn't get it to come up. This morning it was like at the top of my feed and I'm like oh wow. Listened to it three times. So many nuggets. I mean all this rings true. Understand the assignment, Movin' on❤🎉
So true. I grew up in Jamaica and the eldest child and daughter my mother was extremely strict and made the girls do all the work! She coddled our brother and even told us she only has 1 son. So now we're all adults and she is now still texting me to tell her son to call her. Guess what?? He never does and he is grown 40 yr old man!
I just broke up with somebody this video describes. Ladies: stick up for yourself and have respect for yourself because no man is worth ever putting up with this kind of bullshit
The beauty of the Peter Pan syndrome man is that after dating 1 you'll NEVER look their way again b/c they help awaken you to your worth....if it wasn't intact pre manchild era of your life.
I have been looking for this TERM. I could never put a term to my brother behaviour all i could say was childish but now i know he's a peter pan. Its sad because all i want my family to do is sit him down in an intervention and tell him YOU ARE NOT ACTING YOUR AGE. because it makes me feel sick sometimes. these are all the things ive noticed - he's 33 and dresses like he's still in high school, swags his pants and everything - acts like he's still hip/ can club/ and party with no other responsibilities - always loud and plays video games 24/7 no joke - anytime he gets a job he finds and excuse to leave or gets himself fired - doesn't have a passport, bank account, no cards, absolutely nothing of his ownership - lives in out moms basement with no intention to ever leave.... lastly its the no recollection of stupid behaviour. at 30's years of age why would you think its smart to consistently take a 400 loan form money mart and spend it on video games. I need to move out because being around this energy is frustrating! and im only 19
I have met, talked, meet, seen lots of Peter Pans. It is sad to see a high value woman dealing with the Peter Pan, and she feels like he is the prize. 😂
Oh my gosh, a few years ago I was engaged to a man-child who had all of these traits... Thank goodness I saw the red flags and left! Best thing I ever did! ☺️
This video brought up a lot of painful memories for me, but I'm happy, because I learned my lesson before it was too late. It wasn't that I was necessarily attracted to these types of men, they were just the only types of men I was attracting myself at the time. Being young, I didn't really know much of anything, least of all femininity, because my mother was very masculine. Thanks for another great video, Chloe!
Over mothered and under fathered ...
In some cases, this syndrome happens due to unhealed childhood trauma or abuse, abandonment wounds, childhood emotional neglect or narcissistic abuse. We often see things and navigate relationships at the point we had the most trauma so imagine if most of their trauma was experienced at a very young age. They will become emotionally stuck at that age until they heal the trauma, abuse or abandonment wounds/injuries.
Disclaimer: it’s not your job to fix them; for one you can’t because it’s an inside job. You need to fix the toxic patterns within yourself that allowed you to entertain him.
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Blue Eyes Absolutely not. You can’t fix it!! That’s an inside job. Maybe I need to add that as a disclaimer. It’s not your job to fix it. You have to focus on your own inner work & healing especially if you entertained a Peter Pan.
Thank you oh how I have identified these toxic patterns that allowed me to entertain these type of MEN. I have been on a journey of healing my own childhood wounds and discovered that I was an empath and the same man had the same wounds that attracted. You see journaling is a wonderful thing and I had to identify what was toxic with each man and how it identified with me. Yes it is an inside job and I'm still on that journey within.
I was married to a narcissistic Peter Pan, never again. He was terrified of growing old.
He now has a pickmesha and they’re living happily ever after, and so am I with my protector/provider.
Pickmesha 😆
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Christina M Thank you, I thank God daily 😇
Trust, they're not living happily ever after, she's sick of his bottom feeding ass! When she'll dump him is another topic.😉
#goals 🙌🏾🙏🏾
We live in a society that supports the production of Mr. Petter Pans. They are all over.
Fax
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Codependant and narcisst. A woman who does too much (almost everything) in the relationship. And a boy in an adult body who wants to be a 3 year old untill his death
@@iinlove118 Facts, I had to have a child with a guy with a Peter Pan syndrome before I saw that I was working myself to the bone for someone who was not willing to do the same.
Society raises women but coddle men. Men are never held accountable, especially in the black community.
I literally cannot be in the same room with men like this. They give me a headache.
@@osmosisjones4912 You sure and the hell don't I will gladly leave lbdas.
LMAO any channel that speaks of women & men dynamics. There you will find Osmosis Jones 🤣
They’re super obnoxious.
Do they bite or something?
@Morgan Taylortrue. Either way.
As a forty year old straight man, I can tell you I refuse to be friends with guys like this! These guys don't just ruin partner relationships, they also ruin friendships. Glad to see so many women refuse to put up with these guys for partners. They ruin everything.
@@uunnoov Sure. They have no drive, and they become jealous of any and all of my accomplishments... They drone on and on with their long list of excuses for never accomplishing anything in life. Seriously, I do not want to hear a bunch of excuses... They say crazy, misogynistic things about women. And if you are not careful, you might start actually believing them... They never have money to do anything or go anywhere. Or, they complain about the price of anything from a ticket to a ball game, to the price of a drink... They have no actually hobbies or interests that don't involve reminiscing about their glory days and/or playing video games... They are just a bore to be around. There is a lot of good in this world, if you actually look for it.
Good for you
Yea these guys are always self serving and never an actual friend.
But they always find someone else to replace the ones who walk away. They actually never grow up.
Facts! It’s really scary actually.
Yessss omg they do. What’s worst, its like these type of men have extraordinary psychic powers to sniff out empathic women. They are true predators by nature.
N. C. Yes they are and it is scary AF!
Yes that does appear to be true, but they are never satisfied and will forever be searching. Their life is a never ending cycle of them chasing could've's, would've's and should've's.
They will never be truly happy, that’s the sad part
Dating in 2020 is like war.. ladies are literally out here dodging bullets.. Chole’s videos are part of my survival kit and keep me peeped to the game.. Thanks sis.. 😘
You speak for all of us sis , literally👏
The younger generation of women better take notes and apply accordingly because she is speaking the truth. So many women didn’t have this information.
Big Facts!!!!💯💯💯💯
Best comment!!!
Ameen 🤣
Are these the same men dedicated to dogging women over the age of 30? I'm in my 20s but still disgusted by older men feeling entitled to women my age. As if they think they'll be young studs forever... It's hilarious and also ANNOYING.
Yep! They looking for a purse and a nurse!
I agree with you . Like I would obviously want someone at that age like ewww . They really feel entitle 🥴
I’m over 30 and I don’t want these old men either l! So I feel you girl when I was your age I didn’t want men in their thirties either 😝.
Girl, I'm 32 and I was texting with a 50 year old divorced father of 2 and he told me "I like that you are older and great personality" like he was "settling" with a woman who is not in her 20s because I was "really cool".
dusty, broke and been divorced two or more times and now they're mgtow🙄
1000%... this was my ex and I was conditioned for 3 years but I woke up and LEFT!!! Whew so glad I got out of that and I woke up to the web I got sucked into. Ladies.. if a man is stingy, he is typically stingy in ALL ways... financially, emotionally, sexually. Do not attach yourself to a stingy man.
CC Preach 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
CC I know exactly what you’re talking about
The narc ex/son’s father conditioned me for 3 years too. However, 2020 was when I consciously washed my hands of his weak ass. I already have a son, I don’t need another.
Woah woah hold up I'm stingy but that's cuz I have to pay for college and rent and car and insurance even if I work 40 hours a week I don't spend nothing outside of what I can afford mam
I'm stingy because I want the money I have to be spent on things that make a difference
I can’t help but perceive that a lot of these “prank” channels are full of men with the Peter Pan syndrome 🙄 and ion like that
So trueee
They only appeal to children. Honestly the fact that they're grown adults doing that is just strange.
For real! Punk'd, Impractical Jokers, Jackass... all shows created and hosted by grown ass boys!
@@astateofserenity1022 Right! My 7 year old nephew loves them.
I feel like that's why I used to hate when my ex played video games...he would be so immersed in them, going crazy when he couldn't pass a level in the game talking about "my team needs me" while I'm sitting on his bed feeling helpless... after we broke up I swore to myself that I would never date a guy who playes video games but these days I think every guy in my age (20's) is playing them...idk what else to say
On point! Especially the strategically forgetting your birthday and holidays..to condition you.
Stay feminine ladies!
@Sandra Mrewa Yes! Especially if you have kids with him and he starts forgetting their birthday too.
You can spot these types in the manosphere easily. They are the ones saying they are the prize and they expect women to chase them.
Yesssss
And yet falling for them lol. I deal with mental health victims from these adventures. Unfortunately the vid is spot on with the type of population racial profile my clinic deals with a lot ay. Sry.
Peter Pan would also come to your RUclips channel and leave ignorant/unintellectual comments. 👀😁
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Right! 😆😆
Yup, they be the lurkers... on here instead of trying to become a better provider!
Yes! There's literally a guy on another video all in the comments with the username Peter Pan and the cartoon character as his profile pic. He was very disrespectful and ignorant with his comments. Talking about a 30 year old woman is "old".
MsZoomification yup
A lot of them are narcissistic and lack empathy and remorse. Be careful with these types of people. Some are sadistic. When they realize that you are not the illusion they made up in their head, or after they get what they want, they can get real sinister. Don’t deal with them at all.
This is absolutely true. When you attempt to hold them accountable for their emotional abuse, they would embark on an never ending pursuit of revenge. Don’t ever underestimate the demons in these degenerates.
N. C. Omg u are so on point with this comment
N. C. Literally what I went through, it was like a demon possessed them.
Iyesha Sheriff yes I’m currently going through this with my son’s father/covert narc. Run away and never look back from these men.
It’s true
They are stuck to their comfort zones/ addictions. Avoiding connection, responsibility, discipline and growth.
Speak for yourself 🙄 🖕
I was stuck in my comfort zone of work even after my mother who was 73 died when I was 30 after that I fell into weed and then deeper into alcoholism months later after work stress.
Being sheltered I desperately wanted a connection with everyone that I met to the point of like over sharing sensitive information and giving my life story to everyone perhaps for some sort of validation or so people could understand me.
Responsibility and discipline are a given because I did not have the self-confidence to feel I was responsible for anything I didn't even think I was man enough to own a damn dog.
My girlfriend of over 2 and 1/2 years from February 16th 2022 to September 27th 2024 she was is overweight disabled and lives with her mom in a hoarder house I have add a anxious overachiever on the Spectrum afraid of success over sheltered and still learning to be financially responsible in my late twenties into my early 30s just remembering when and how to cash checks.
My ex didn't want to be emotionally attached or responsible to a bachelor Manchild that was growing increasingly inconsiderate rude smelled like liquor late for dates and probably resented that I was by myself in the house that was filthy and falling apart
I have dated Mr. Peter Pan and my brothers were groomed to be them... over mothered and under fathered. Smh. Thank God I don't attract those types anymore!
Sounds like he also had Small Man Syndrome if he had an issue with you making better money than he does. Sorry you had to go through all that.
There is a very fine line between Peter Pan and a narcissist!! 🤷🏽♀️ Either way run cuz they are energy vampires.
I don't see a difference other than 1 is a psychology term and the other is a slang term. Both are self centered, lack empathy and immature. Seems like an issue with that person's spirit moreso than the people they target to use and abuse.
@@teeb2681 Oedipal complex is not the same as the NPD. The starting point of these deviations is at different age in life. Peter Pan is reversable with therapy, NPD is not.
@@teeb2681 Me too tee b
Witnessed a peter pan with two clearly weak minded parents. His parents are getting older and are sick and working full time while he who is 30+ sits at the house makes grandkids and asks what's for dinner. And I really don't feel bad for his parents at this point, that is what they allowed.
That's why Chloe says ppl that do that are enablers. i wouldn't feel bad for them either.
His parents created a monster. Unfortunately when they pass away, He'll find a woman to take advantage of Its a disgusting cycle.
@@pinkbouquet1955 and honestly I wouldn't have a ton of sympathy for her either. He would scream dusty from a mile away.
I just got rid of my Peter Pan! This syndrome is definitely tied to narcissist personalities. Don’t ever say that this term is overused. It is underused!
I agree with you it's only when people became aware to the disorder that they started seeing it around them hence the assumption that it is overused
My Silhouette Bingo! 👍🏾
Yes underused
Period
THANK YOU!!!!! I say this all the time, the term is highly underused!
So basically a man child lol I’m sooo glad I’m not nurturing and I’m materialistic so I can’t be responsible for being a mans mother.
I'm trying to be less nurturing too😩 only those who will deserve it the most, my future kids
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I need your strength sis
Then you hit 40 and wonder where the men are at and think we just hangin on trees 😂😂😂✌
@@jackfrost326 no, we just weed out men like you. buh bye ✌🏾
I know this is off topic but how do I increase my vocabulary and learn to speak more eloquently like you, I love the way you speak.
I am very proud of you for wanting to increase your vocabulary and speak eloquently. :)
Just had someone like this try me & I slowly walked away, didn’t even say a word because I don’t have time to explain myself to a man who clearly wants to act however he chooses & thinks I will tolerate this behaviour 🙄
We done explaining sis we just walking away! 💪🏾
Good for you, sis. Just make sure they don't follow you to your car or nothing like that.
@@Natalia-lk7hw 911
This is exactly how I ended a one and a half year relationship with a peter pan. I just blocked him with no conversation. He drained my life, if I stayed any longer I would have slept one day and not wake up.
I met a guy like this when I was 18 and we where at a vocational school. He seem fun and chill at first but once we where done with the course and it was time to find jobs I realized that he didn't want anything out of life. He would rather play video games all day rather than find a job meanwhile I already had a job and was saving for college. This guy never took me on a date or done anything for me but as soon as I started making money he wanted me to buy games for him! Imagine that. I am just glad I was smart enough to never do so and I jumped head first out of that relationship. A lot of young guys now a days are like that.
Haha 😂😂😂
Now? 2003 killed all hope for me.
And he was almost a black belt. Told me his plan after HS was just to chill and live of mom.
My ex husband did that too, refused to leave his parents, then ended up needing me to speak to some deportation judge. I kindly texted mommy 😊 number, seems like he forgot who his real wife was.
Chloe is the truth! She’s uncovered ideological of most men in 7 mins
Chloe you are consistently ON POINT DAMN!! My father is knee deep in the Peter Pan syndrome. He cannot keep a job for long and I’m done giving a 55 year old man money, he is no longer talking to me as a result of course. Thank you for the video! You articulated the Peter Pan red flags so well 🌈
Another sign of men that women should avoid is a man who never lead any important decisions in his life, girl has to initiate a marriage, initiate finding a good job, initiate a separation and finally initiate a divorce.
My ex is everything in this video. He’s moved on to a younger girl...I’m sure because she’s too naive to see what’s happening to her. I’m single trying to work myself so that I attract my ideal man, a man of value!
This is my daughter’s spermdonor to the T.... 5 year relationships with this dusty! I had his first child and he never step up either ... I’m glad I walked out when my daughter was 6 months, she met him when she was 8 years old and her first impression was “ wow mom really... you could’ve done sooo much better !”
Lol your daughter sounds like a LEGEND!
Harvey Smith that I saw potential in a dusty man child and I removed myself once I acquired discernment of knowing what type of man deserves loyalty... I’m not triggered Why are you?
Harvey Smith and it implies how my single parenting despite it’s being challenging its effective ...a 8 years old was able to have the discernment to know what a real man figure is. So if you thought your little comment was going to hurt me try again satans minion. Look into why YOU are triggered by my comment, last thing In know you aren’t said sperm donor... so do not come for my shortcoming when you are to meek to explore yours!
Yep this was my entire relationship. If only I knew these things ahead. Better late than never because am out.
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Better late than never. I'm almost 40. We got this
Same
Same
I’m really jealous of women who were dating in the early 00’s-10’s. Dating now is a cesspool lol.
Dating was a cesspool then, it’s a latrine now.
Same!
Girrrllll😒 It's tiring
Don’t be ... it wasn’t any better. Ya just know more now.
The benefit of now is access to information. It was a mess then but with no feminine communities for those of us not fortunate to have mothers or aunties who could teach us better. We were 100% on our own.
Abstaining from sex is absolutely Paramount.
Thanks Chloe! When I first came across your channel last week...I promise you I thought you were a professor of Feminity and/or Hypergamy. This needs to be taught in classrooms.
Welcome.
The last guy I dealt with 🤦🏾♀️
Edit...And Yep...I definitely embody these unhealthy codependent traits.
My older brothers are all bums, I always wondered why so many women were having children with them. Fortunately, we have diff moms but unfortunately share the same Peter Pan dad... ugh, my parents are divorced because my dad, not surprisingly, has been a selfish jackass the last 30 plus years... Chloe is right they never grow up. My oldest brother is turning 52 and 14 all at once this year 🤪🙄 with a quarantine baby on the way by some idiot woman my age (30-ish). I’ve already blocked her 😤 I don’t wanna be friends. I’m good 💅🏾
I was dealing with a 51 year old MAN CHILD!!!!🤨🤨🤨🙄😳😳
Yeaa even older men are full of it too !! I've seen it first hand.
That's just sad. You think you will get maturity with an older person but they acting like little boys too.
@@lexielovingu206 yessss !!! It's so damn sad🤬🤬🤬😳🙄
@tag line yesssss!!! The one I had is still living his "immature adult" teenage life running around cheating, and doing high school shit!!! I had too dump his ass!!!!🤬🤨
Whew Chile my heart goes out to you. They become more malignant in their toxic traits when they get older.
May i also add that I was at the nail shop the other day. There was a married couple getting pedicures together and i believe she was getting a fill. The total came to 130 i believe and he starts yelling across to her saying he would not do that again and wasnt bringing her back there. I was embarrassed for her because he kept saying it as she was getting a fill. It just disgusted me how he embarrassed her. Sad.
I so want to secretly send this video to a person I met and ghosted recently. 😂
As a person, you'll attract all types of people. It's just inevitable. The thing is who we choose to engage with and to never break our own hearts.
"The Peter Pan dusty is as common as a summer house fly"
HOT tea cousin Chloe🍵
I’m an empath but there are empaths with boundaries. There’s nothing wrong with being one. Being an empath doesn’t mean people pleaser. Just means you can feel other people’s energy. If anything this can give us an advantage of sniffing out these Peter Pan or narcissistic men.
I dated a guy like this before. He use to throw tantrums when I refused to give him money or explained to him that it's not right for men to depend on women. Crap was stressful and they're very good at making you feel bad for not doing what they want. Chloe is right, he would always forget my birthday and claimed he didn't celebrate Valentines Day!! I'm literally shaking typing this because I could've swore that was my soul mate, just foolish. Ladies heal, please do. Talk to someone, face your darkness and move on and up. I wouldn't wish such an experience on my worse enemy. So much more I can say that he did that is just absurd now that I'm out of the relationship. Don't believe that whole connection crap either, that's how they get you then swallow you.
I was married one too babe. I got married to him at age 19 and I'm 28 now and I've never received a gift from him. Like never
@@CriticalThinking-ql2hh I'm so sorry for your experience hun. It's crazy how they survive. At least now, we're on a better path.
@@enigma6451 ohhh wow!! I hope you know that you deserve way better than that. They are pros at excuses so I can only imagine what was said to why he didn't.
This sounds just like someone I know. I wasn't sure how to put it into words, but this is spot on! 😉👍
Unbelievable how honest & candid she is
@@sophisticatedmm3632 she does it so effortlessly!
My ex and my Dad are Peter Pans. Glad I got a few therapist. I no longer attract those types of men. Thank God!
I need a therapist for me and my daughter. Good job. You recommend yours ?
Damn you described who I used to be. I’m glad I broke the cycle my mother put me in. My ex reached out because he’s now feeling the burn of me walking away for GOOD !
My notification didn't show up but guess what? I'm still here 💚😏
Peter Pan a special type of Dusty -Addicted to immaturity , rejecting all things adult , irresponsible mama's boy, spongers, taker's, blamers, thick layer of narcissism and low opinions of women, conveniently forgets special events to condition you not to expect gifts, selfish to the core, me-me-me, expecting female coddling and breastfeeding, emotional child trapped in an adults body (man-child). This dynamic is truly unfortunate and rooted in the tragic lack of fathering. I believe the answer is for men to seek mentor-ship and surrender themselves to grooming and accountability to a well rounded provider male.
F u
@ how old are you?
I’m highly interested in learning more about this Cinderella fantasy! Do a video ❤️
Excellent vid.
The PP also will not say ‘please’ or ‘thank-you’
This is why I never believe in spoiling boys. Love and spoiling are two different things. I'm an empath but don't get it twisted I will cut them off🤣🤣🤣
Loving and spoiling are the same. Raising and compelling are a way to help them grow.
Me as well. I rather spoil my daughter than son.
The Peter Pan syndrome is such a turn off. Many of these type men are the typical Dusty and many think they're still thugs in 30's and 40's
I'm so happy that you broke down PETER PAN SYNDROME. I tell many people about it but people look at me crazy.
We make men without chests and expect from them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honor and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. - C.S. Lewis
Chloe this is the epitome of tough love! You’re out here saving women’s lives and breaking generational curses
Awful sex. Then at 38 he decides to pursue a rap career. I ran!
Babyyyyy! I love your content. It's simple, broken down and straight up, no chasers.
Avoid these men at all cost‼️ 🏃🏾♀️ 🏃🏾♀️
Run for the hills
Make sure you find your own happiness and health ladies...that has been my focus and I love it💋
Lord have mercy! I needed this 7 years ago. My ex is all of this - Peter Pan to the core.
Spot on! I just left this kind of guy that i had a relationship with.. my gutt instinct was telling me that there's something wrong with this guy (pretending confused, doesn't like to think about future, wasn't properly raised on how to be a man)... I just really did the right decision of leaving this person.
Peter Pan guys probably also have a severe porn masturbation problem to avoid having to go through the ups and downs of a relationship…getting spiritual in some way shape or form would definitely help in finding enlightenment
Yup, dumped my Peter Pan Man (didn't know he was until recently) by the end of the fourth month. And this video showed me I am the feminine who dared to walk away. Dang, I love my life now!!!
Wow Chloe🥺 had someone gave me these gems I wouldn’t have forfeited my twenties and early thirties and dreams of having a large family. Grateful for you. Thank you. Never again.
The picture at 4:12 took me out I am hollering!!!!!!😂😂😂😂😂😩😭😵🤮🤮🤮😒😂😂😂😂😂Sis looking at him like You aint shi*!!!!! Dusty Boogerwolf 🤦🏾♀️👀
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@tag line ctfu! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😩Hilarious!
Wow! You described my children's father to a t. It took me 3 years to finally understand that he was comfortable with role reversal. It wore me out. I went from being vibrant, sexy and full of life, to becoming dull, boring and depressed. I kicked him out 2 years ago, and it was the best decision I made. You are spot on, girl 👌🏻.
@@catmouse2882 why are yall marrying them??? my mom did the same with my inmature dad and now she resents me
@@catmouse2882 I have a son and I’m raising him to look after his wife when he’s married but wait until he’s over 30 before he gets married and I’m saving for his first car and pay for his driving lessons when he’s older. Him to go to college and uni and be prepared to be a grown up and sole purpose to find his future wife in life and not throw his youth away. I will advise him to be with a mature woman who won’t just be wanting to use him as well someone faithful and have a happy life together. It’s crazy how dating in todays age is so stressful and you have to be so careful. I think it’s how a woman raises her son. Yes I know there are bad women out there and you wouldn’t want them for your son educate themselves on them type of women aswell but to find a lovely wife who will look after him aswell. It’s a balance. I understand woman and men shouldn’t settle down too quick so they can enjoy their life and be immature while their young but when their 30 should be looking to settle down
This all just sounds too familiar .. these type of men will bread crumb you and when u ask for more they will hit you with all the things they feel your doing wrong in the relationship to make you feel unworthy of better treatment! Drove me crazyyyy. Had me doing the most to to prove my worth so he could treat me better but he only got worse 🥲. I couldn’t understand wth I was going thru and y he didn’t see my value or why he treated me the way he did. Till finally It clicked and I now understand that I will nev understand.. and it set me free 🕊
This sounds like my father. My mom is the “mom replacement” who loves to be needed, and he never grew up. Left her to raise my sister and I alone, while he was out on drugs and living his life. He always needed his mother for things, always needs a woman to care for him. I wouldn’t have even noticed he was the Peter Pan archetype! I have a little cousin like this too. My mom’s sister takes care of her 30 yr old son as if he’s still a child. They will always be losers 🤦🏽♀️ thanks for the insight Chloe!! I’m learning to release the masculine ways my mama has instilled in me 😌
My ex never had money around my bday 🙄🙄🙄
Good video Chole 👍👍.. it’s sooo many Peter Pan men in thier 40s it’s pathetic smh 🤦♀️
Guuurrrrl, you aint said nothing but a word
@@acopeland8248 ughh super annoying
My word!!!! This is everything. I've been married to this man for 16 years. I am a giver, and a work with a Brotha! Working on me, reclaiming my femininity. Whew Chile! I was his ride or die! All of this! All of it!!!!
Thank you for this video. Just had to cut my brother off today. He is pampered by everyone and I as the girl am the man of my house. But that ends today. My role is very minimal and I will be keeping that way
*Sweetheart you have described most of these male relationship teaching RUclipsRS to a T!!! They have whole charts, strategies, groups etc on how to screw and live off of females without investing time or money! Thank you for teaching the game.*
GIRL YOU ARE AMAZING! It's so remarkable how on point this is.. & I'm speaking from a Family Standpoint. I have seen these men in my family ... Which is why I create as many BOUNDARIES I CAN!!
2,5 years together with this guy… lived together for 1,5 years, but better late then never. It was though very hard to go away…
These men don’t see men as head of the house going up. That’s the issue. I still don’t care. I’m not your mother.
Wow I deal with a Peter Pan... it’s definitely time to level up while I’m still young 😭😪
Boy you really hit the nail on the head with this one!
im a man child.. 28.. and I was never allowed to hit a nail on the head :'(
I dated Mr. Peter Pan and it was the worst experience I’ve ever had in my life. He was a RUclipsr 🤦🏽♀️ and he didn’t believe he needed to get a job and he’s in his 30s. He had no income except for Welfare and he was ok with that. He would actually wake up out of my sleep just to yell at me. I signed with a modeling agency and he yelled at me. I got a job and he would yell at me. i couldn’t even afford my hair products living with him. The relationship ended with me actually running from him and getting on a train as he was screaming in my face. Literally RUNNING. Perfect track form “ear to pocket” RUNNING. Fast forward, he’s homeless. He lives in the woods! Still refusing to get a job in his late 30s. I will never be in that situation again! That was my first lesson of valuing myself.
that's too much even for a peter pan.it's more like narcissism i'd say..
Girls i am married to one of them. You are 1 billion %right but guess what😂
I reversed and started to play and practice his abuse on him 😂
It's working i started to play Cinderella and I started to receive lots of small gifts which I pretend sometimes I don't like, like a little girl. Honestly I will not stop and now he feels like a father, he even told me but to be honest I am ignoring everything and I will continue to do this to him until he gets reeaaaaly tired. Oh no for 10 yrs suffering i am finally found solution against this Peter pan dude and thank you again
54 years old and hid his age from me. I'm 31. Didn't want to work.. imagine. He never had a relationship longer than 6 months and had no idea why. He wasn't a narcissist, just a completely lost highly immature person. It never became a relationship.
Blazed and scorched down to the bone. I appreciate this balanced breakdown between male and female immaturity. Head exploded, I'm done with RUclips for today ;)
speaking from scarily spot-on experience.....every ounce of this video is true. RUN ladies!!!
Thank you so much for your straight forward no nonsense information. This is true wisdom. Its not that women don't want the best for our men.. its that we don't want to be taken for granted. I'm not continuing the cycle.
I have to say I searched for this video two years ago after hearing you reference it in another video, but for the life of me, I couldn't get it to come up. This morning it was like at the top of my feed and I'm like oh wow. Listened to it three times. So many nuggets. I mean all this rings true. Understand the assignment, Movin' on❤🎉
So true. I grew up in Jamaica and the eldest child and daughter my mother was extremely strict and made the girls do all the work! She coddled our brother and even told us she only has 1 son. So now we're all adults and she is now still texting me to tell her son to call her. Guess what?? He never does and he is grown 40 yr old man!
Went through this. Grateful for Clarity
I just broke up with somebody this video describes. Ladies: stick up for yourself and have respect for yourself because no man is worth ever putting up with this kind of bullshit
The beauty of the Peter Pan syndrome man is that after dating 1 you'll NEVER look their way again b/c they help awaken you to your worth....if it wasn't intact pre manchild era of your life.
I have been looking for this TERM. I could never put a term to my brother behaviour all i could say was childish but now i know he's a peter pan. Its sad because all i want my family to do is sit him down in an intervention and tell him YOU ARE NOT ACTING YOUR AGE. because it makes me feel sick sometimes. these are all the things ive noticed
- he's 33 and dresses like he's still in high school, swags his pants and everything
- acts like he's still hip/ can club/ and party with no other responsibilities
- always loud and plays video games 24/7 no joke
- anytime he gets a job he finds and excuse to leave or gets himself fired
- doesn't have a passport, bank account, no cards, absolutely nothing of his ownership
- lives in out moms basement with no intention to ever leave....
lastly its the no recollection of stupid behaviour. at 30's years of age why would you think its smart to consistently take a 400 loan form money mart and spend it on video games. I need to move out because being around this energy is frustrating! and im only 19
I have met, talked, meet, seen lots of Peter Pans. It is sad to see a high value woman dealing with the Peter Pan, and she feels like he is the prize. 😂
These are the guys that I used to date until I woke up, never ever again I’d rather be alone 😩
Oh my gosh, a few years ago I was engaged to a man-child who had all of these traits... Thank goodness I saw the red flags and left! Best thing I ever did! ☺️
Chloe the shade is so BRIGHT. Love it!
"A woman should protect her virtue until the man has earned your trust".
I was married to a Peter pan for 12years n had to end it eventually... Thank to you chloe for opening my eyes...
Same
This has been the best one I’ve heard in a very long time. Love it 🙌🏼😍😍😍
This video was articulated and illustrated so accurately!
Omg....I was rejected by a guy who led me on for a year.I thought it was me but now I know the real reason.Everything checks...
Chloe your speaking voice is amazing!!! I love listening to you!
I was in a relationship with my first Peter Pan for 14 months. 🤦🏽♀️ I didn’t know how to label him until now. My “Aha” moment has finally arrived.
This video brought up a lot of painful memories for me, but I'm happy, because I learned my lesson before it was too late. It wasn't that I was necessarily attracted to these types of men, they were just the only types of men I was attracting myself at the time. Being young, I didn't really know much of anything, least of all femininity, because my mother was very masculine. Thanks for another great video, Chloe!