“I learned that accepting others and accepting myself are two sides of the same coin; you can’t love and accept yourself without doing the same for others.” - Steve Pavlina
@@OriginalKingRichTv I’ve frequented here/there / that place before. It’s like I’m automatically set to do that, meditating has helped me control those intrusive thoughts that try to interrupt the flow of things.
the only brand on youtube that really give genuine practical advices. Like the lessons Chris is sharing is just superb. I wish more people would be inspired to learn and change for the better 🤩
I’ve made so many pivotal changes in how I do business thanks to your advice. I went from charging a moderately low fee for my music features to a substantially higher fee because of your videos encouraging me to know my worth. It took me out of being in a pool of people that I wasn’t really excited to work with to people that I was extremely excited to work with. I’ve been paid more times than I have imagined at the price I’ve set this year following your advice. My channel is growing because of it, narrowing my scope of who I work with has been freeing of my time and energy. I used to apologize for a lot of things as well, I’m doing that less, if not at all now. Thank you for being a motivator to move my music business in a better direction
I really want to thank you Chris Do and thefutur team for being a stepping stone to who I am today. I have been earning at least $2k monthly (It's huge for a 3rd world country Philippines). I'm not quite there yet on the $10k goal but Man, my college course is not even related to my expertise let alone did I even graduate. I learned all my skills from RUclips and mostly from YOU. I hope this message reached you guys. Thank you thank you for opening the door of opportunities
Unapologetic expression from a place of grounded authenticity - it’s truly the game changer and have likewise noticed its power when presenting publicly. Thank you, Chris!
"I am not going to apologize for being me." I love this so much! It's something all of us need to remember in this world. Thanks for sharing that, Chris.
So many are trying to blend in that they just echo whatever else other's want from them. I appreciate you for standing in who YOU know you are, not how others perceive you to be. We need more of that.
💯Superb message! Really inspires me to double down and focus on MY journey. Letting go of what others think is crucial to find out what YOU think. Only way to really become your true authentic self. Thanks for the great content all these years✊🏾
Yes!!! I love this. I have been sharing my story on Facebook as I went through breast cancer and begin honestly sharing my experience even though I could barely make sense sometimes. The challenges before breast cancer were also huge. Growing up in a cult overseas, leaving that cult after getting to the top, finding myself designing for a new cult (of spammers pre CAN-SPAM Act of 2003), and then found that my marriage was a cult, leaving that, and learning to build a new life. Then the cancer. I have no more bandwidth for letting others define me. I may be messy and organic, but there is a brilliance that has given me resilience, and I talk to the people who see THAT. It's a learning process, but how liberating. The journey continues. Thank you, charming razor blade, for inspiring me to reclaim my brilliance in strategic thinking and designing robust solutions that have helped me SURVIVE with almost nothing to my name, over and over again. This time, all that momentum, is directed into what I know is true. No matter how others try to define me. Real stuff! Thank you!
I like how you give yourself the freedom to be your own person instead of buying into the game of constantly avoiding yourself in order to avoid being perceived as rude by someone who is not deep enough to realize that you are not being rude, you are just being you.
I didn't realize how much I needed to hear this. Design is my whole life and identity. My family doesn't really get me, and forever I wanted nothing more than their approval. I thought when I started getting successful I'd achieve that. When I didn't, I realized it isn't my responsibility to win their approval, and it isn't theirs to give it. When I stopped worrying about my identity in the sense of how I was perceived, I became who I was all along. Unapologetically me.
Well said, Chris. I immediately noticed that edge of yours a handful of years ago when I first saw you on RUclips. I'm glad that I judged you by the value of your content and not by my assumption of your intention.
@@thefutur After watching you on YT all these years, I know you can take anything! 😄 Back then I was struggling, so I / my ego wanted to believe you were a fraud, just trying to get views. But after watching a few more videos, I realized unless you have to illustrate a point, you just want to cut the crap and get right to it! Maybe it's an Asian or 1st/2nd generation immigrant thing, but I realized that's exactly what I do as well, especially with things that I'm certain of and can make a real difference for others. Anyway, really appreciate you! At the very least, you've saved me a ton of time onboarding new/young designers - I just direct them to your stuff.
You are completely stranger to me, but with your videos I think that I am better man in everything with you advices and tips. You helped me and still do, better then anyone in my environment. Really, thank you Cris, God bless you and your family. Greetings from Serbia.
I remember making friends with unique and some similarities as Chris, and I learned a lot from them and myself. This reminded me of who I am, and to be great at whatever IM doing as ME! Yay I found it for now 😅
Charming Razor blade… would have never described Chris that way… but I see it. I love that Chris is a ‘what you see is what you get kinda guy’ He’s deep, he knows how to connect and he Tells you the truth in the chillest voice… Basically… he’s got swagger. (That’s a good thing) 😎
Just a quick note to let you know ... You've inspired me this morning 🥳😄... traits of a brilliant teacher✨️ Love the "charming razorblade" description ... I've been told i have a similar skillset 😂
I used to apologize for everything in the past. About my art and my career. Until about February this year. It might sound weird, I lost 11kg since then. Started my second RUclips channel and exploring web design and creating semi-realistic digital art. I’m spending more time improving myself and finding my own voice. Majority of what I was apologizing for were made up imaginations that were not true. No one cared about what I was doing, they were living their own lives. I just have to live my own life and be the best version of myself.
Your edge attracts me to futur, I am intrigued by the game you have. Certainly, you don’t have to apologize because you are where you are by being who you are. My dream is to have the confidence that gets a stagnant design business, to achieve a steady stream of the higher value Clients to match my worth and value of the services I provide. I am not traditionally educated as talent cannot be learned but skills can. I will not apologize for being a natural creative. As God is a Designer, it holds dear to my ❤️, I AM that I AM!
when i 1st started watching you back in the skool days, my priority was how to be a better designer, over time it was less about that and more about am i who i think i am in regards to my career, what soft skills can i improve to better communicate with coworkers, managers & stakeholders, how does my process help build trust & confidence with clients & its because of that why im a more efficient & effective designer, not just better thank you
It’s amazing how much pride people take in doing things people used to do without questioning. Does anyone think it ever crossed Davy Crockett or Picasso’s mind to say “I’m not going to apologize for being me.”?
@@thefutur hey, I got a quick question, I haven't seen you cover yet, but if you have I'm interested to listen to it. I would have a lot of clients who actually don't pay after days of design. They'll just keep quiet once I show them the finished product. Should I really charge a deposit before starting the design?
Chris is Chris, don't try to change him to someone else because we watch this channel because it is Chris. As far as I know, Chris never ever attacked anybody personally. Sometimes people translate confidence and boldness as cocky. It is not, and it's wrong.
we thank you so very much for posting this Mr. Chris Do, and, we understand and start to realize that getting to a point to where finding/expressing/re-puzzling ourselves is not the "liability" it once was; is an incredible aim and under-stance • • i think persons generally understand you very well, and then experience an enhanced understanding of themselves • but it's like something new'ish to them at the same time - and it feels like friction expressed as (you mentioned) "oh do it this way" ...when it's actually "seeing Chris initiate a particular something • ← inspires 'me' to (try something new) ask Chris to modify/adjust → and that's that you know? heh' ▼ For example: in the past i may have asked someone like you to try and be a Loud Introvert, then i realized that's just something about myself i've come to enjoy hanging out with ▲ i still worry about other people.. yet it just gets decorated with love from a distance. Thank you Sir, for being realer and realer through design; G*d is a designer.
My only complaint ever was with the people who can’t use illustrator and I find myself yelling at the screen along with Chris as he tries to get them to move an object without the need for 3 arms to do CMD+C
Man I really admire you... I would love to know the brand and model of your microphone and headsets... they are almost as awesome as you... Anybody knows?
Hey Chris, love the message. Do you have any advice for how to go about this as someone who is earlier on in their career, or still trying to work their way up into a design position? I try to abide by Jordan Peterson's advice: "Don't say anything that makes you weak" But, given the proclivity people have towards reading offense into pointed statements, it feels difficult to unabashedly be myself in the workplace. Especially in a position where I definitely still need to worry about money, I don't want to run afoul of coworkers who often remind me that since I'm not a designer, my opinion carries little to no weight, or that having ideas for how to improve things is "not my place/not what I'm paid for." Thanks for the great content, and thanks for reading all this. I know your time is extremely valuable.
Noah, it's one thing to be yourself, grounded in both the good and bad of who you are, with high self awareness and being rude to others. often times, people will start off by saying, "just to be honest, and then be completely rude." There is a big difference between being direct, using non-violent language and just telling people off. it takes skill. when you are younger, focus on developing one key skill that is aligned with who you are, what gives you joy, and what you'd like to develop. when you get good, though practice, you'll discover new pockets of confidence. you can build your identity on this. then you'll care less and less about the opinions of other people. let me know how it goes.
I’m such a long time fan, and wanted to let ya know that I respectfully disagree with you on this one. As an individual with ASD, I need to constantly apologize and shape myself how others would rather see me. I can’t make eye contact with others, the sensation is too intimate. I’ve been accused of not caring or just not listening because I wouldn’t look at people.
I still apologize for who I am, but I think in my case it is easier to justify. I have no skills, I have too many family obligations to work on myself, and I have no friends or colleagues. I don't think I'll ever be a razor blade.
“I learned that accepting others and accepting myself are two sides of the same coin; you can’t love and accept yourself without doing the same for others.”
- Steve Pavlina
That's my problem. I accept others but never accept myself
@@OriginalKingRichTv I’ve frequented here/there / that place before. It’s like I’m automatically set to do that, meditating has helped me control those intrusive thoughts that try to interrupt the flow of things.
the only brand on youtube that really give genuine practical advices. Like the lessons Chris is sharing is just superb. I wish more people would be inspired to learn and change for the better 🤩
Thank you. Thank you.
I’ve made so many pivotal changes in how I do business thanks to your advice. I went from charging a moderately low fee for my music features to a substantially higher fee because of your videos encouraging me to know my worth. It took me out of being in a pool of people that I wasn’t really excited to work with to people that I was extremely excited to work with. I’ve been paid more times than I have imagined at the price I’ve set this year following your advice. My channel is growing because of it, narrowing my scope of who I work with has been freeing of my time and energy. I used to apologize for a lot of things as well, I’m doing that less, if not at all now. Thank you for being a motivator to move my music business in a better direction
I really want to thank you Chris Do and thefutur team for being a stepping stone to who I am today.
I have been earning at least $2k monthly (It's huge for a 3rd world country Philippines). I'm not quite there yet on the $10k goal but Man, my college course is not even related to my expertise let alone did I even graduate. I learned all my skills from RUclips and mostly from YOU.
I hope this message reached you guys. Thank you thank you for opening the door of opportunities
well done JM. it's me Chris.
Excellent!! This is liberating
Unapologetic expression from a place of grounded authenticity - it’s truly the game changer and have likewise noticed its power when presenting publicly.
Thank you, Chris!
Thank you 🙏!
"I am not going to apologize for being me." I love this so much! It's something all of us need to remember in this world. Thanks for sharing that, Chris.
So many are trying to blend in that they just echo whatever else other's want from them. I appreciate you for standing in who YOU know you are, not how others perceive you to be. We need more of that.
Thank you
The way this video swooped into my feed right when I was needing this message. Thank you as always Chris and the Futur team!
You’re very welcome
💯Superb message! Really inspires me to double down and focus on MY journey. Letting go of what others think is crucial to find out what YOU think. Only way to really become your true authentic self. Thanks for the great content all these years✊🏾
Yes!!! I love this. I have been sharing my story on Facebook as I went through breast cancer and begin honestly sharing my experience even though I could barely make sense sometimes. The challenges before breast cancer were also huge. Growing up in a cult overseas, leaving that cult after getting to the top, finding myself designing for a new cult (of spammers pre CAN-SPAM Act of 2003), and then found that my marriage was a cult, leaving that, and learning to build a new life. Then the cancer. I have no more bandwidth for letting others define me. I may be messy and organic, but there is a brilliance that has given me resilience, and I talk to the people who see THAT. It's a learning process, but how liberating. The journey continues. Thank you, charming razor blade, for inspiring me to reclaim my brilliance in strategic thinking and designing robust solutions that have helped me SURVIVE with almost nothing to my name, over and over again. This time, all that momentum, is directed into what I know is true. No matter how others try to define me. Real stuff! Thank you!
I like how you give yourself the freedom to be your own person instead of buying into the game of constantly avoiding yourself in order to avoid being perceived as rude by someone who is not deep enough to realize that you are not being rude, you are just being you.
Okay. The L&O style audio stabs on the intro were so good. Oh, the message too.
Being comfortable with who you are is the best feeling! 💯
it sure is Harry.
I didn't realize how much I needed to hear this. Design is my whole life and identity. My family doesn't really get me, and forever I wanted nothing more than their approval. I thought when I started getting successful I'd achieve that. When I didn't, I realized it isn't my responsibility to win their approval, and it isn't theirs to give it. When I stopped worrying about my identity in the sense of how I was perceived, I became who I was all along. Unapologetically me.
Stop chasing people ,who don't care about you.🙏🏾
Yes! Live your truth, be kind and honest, including with yourself.
Thank you for being you, Chris!
Well said, Chris. I immediately noticed that edge of yours a handful of years ago when I first saw you on RUclips. I'm glad that I judged you by the value of your content and not by my assumption of your intention.
thanks for hanging in there with me. what did you perceive my intention to be Ether? you can tell me straight. I can handle it.
@@thefutur After watching you on YT all these years, I know you can take anything! 😄 Back then I was struggling, so I / my ego wanted to believe you were a fraud, just trying to get views. But after watching a few more videos, I realized unless you have to illustrate a point, you just want to cut the crap and get right to it! Maybe it's an Asian or 1st/2nd generation immigrant thing, but I realized that's exactly what I do as well, especially with things that I'm certain of and can make a real difference for others. Anyway, really appreciate you! At the very least, you've saved me a ton of time onboarding new/young designers - I just direct them to your stuff.
I wanna know too
I have to credit Chris 40% of my growth has come from the knowledge gained from you. Thanks for always providing the most value!
My pleasure
this one hits different 🤯. Knowing yourself is the most important thing to do.
The timing of this video couldn't be any better.. thank you
Thank you so much for being yourself!
You are completely stranger to me, but with your videos I think that I am better man in everything with you advices and tips. You helped me and still do, better then anyone in my environment. Really, thank you Cris, God bless you and your family. Greetings from Serbia.
I remember making friends with unique and some similarities as Chris, and I learned a lot from them and myself. This reminded me of who I am, and to be great at whatever IM doing as ME! Yay I found it for now 😅
Thank you for sharing. I am just getting into that feeling of just being me Unapologetic. That's my brand. 💖🇯🇲
So is the 🇯🇲 restaurant
near me that always unapologetically says “We nuh have dat” 😤
Charming Razor blade… would have never described Chris that way… but I see it.
I love that Chris is a ‘what you see is what you get kinda guy’
He’s deep, he knows how to connect and he Tells you the truth in the chillest voice…
Basically… he’s got swagger. (That’s a good thing) 😎
Appreciate it Barbie. Swagger is a term I'm adjust to. ;)
Congratulations on finding yourself, I wish more people would just be themselves and stop apologizing.
YES!!!!!! THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU!!!!! THIS!!!!!!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Appreciate it
Needed to hear this. Thank you Chris. I heard what was said and what wasn't said. Thank you for being you sir, and never change.
Thank you Carel
another great video. an undeserved apology does more damage than good for everyone involved.
THANK YOU. I really needed to hear this. You're awesome.
I’m not even in design but I love your content - keep it up!
Just a quick note to let you know ... You've inspired me this morning 🥳😄... traits of a brilliant teacher✨️
Love the "charming razorblade" description ... I've been told i have a similar skillset 😂
Thank you so much.
I used to apologize for everything in the past. About my art and my career. Until about February this year. It might sound weird, I lost 11kg since then. Started my second RUclips channel and exploring web design and creating semi-realistic digital art. I’m spending more time improving myself and finding my own voice.
Majority of what I was apologizing for were made up imaginations that were not true. No one cared about what I was doing, they were living their own lives. I just have to live my own life and be the best version of myself.
Thank you Chris for all the advice and help in my process. You are awesome
Thank you
I am not willing to apologise for it anymore either. 🙏🏼
Exactly when I needed this. Thank you!
The world wants us all to be vanilla. Great job for not being that. Many of us are here because you are not. ❤️
Your edge attracts me to futur, I am intrigued by the game you have. Certainly, you don’t have to apologize because you are where you are by being who you are.
My dream is to have the confidence that gets a stagnant design business, to achieve a steady stream of the higher value Clients to match my worth and value of the services I provide. I am not traditionally educated as talent cannot be learned but skills can. I will not apologize for being a natural creative. As God is a Designer, it holds dear to my ❤️, I AM that I AM!
Love you Chris. You inspire me massively
Thank you for your advice.
Chris, the people who know you, they know you!
Thank you Chris!
when i 1st started watching you back in the skool days, my priority was how to be a better designer, over time it was less about that and more about am i who i think i am in regards to my career, what soft skills can i improve to better communicate with coworkers, managers & stakeholders, how does my process help build trust & confidence with clients & its because of that why im a more efficient & effective designer, not just better
thank you
Brilliant! genuine I really dig this. Thank you so much
Thank you
Thank you. ❤️
Great info cause it's only one YOU and it not a yes or No it's YOU!!
This is very helpful, thanks.
Thank you so much for this
YES!!!!! personally i still have to build the money career part but i'm working on that too
good luck Frank.
It’s amazing how much pride people take in doing things people used to do without questioning. Does anyone think it ever crossed Davy Crockett or Picasso’s mind to say “I’m not going to apologize for being me.”?
Please can you be more explicit, I'm struggling to get your point, thank you.
True
@@lyrical_doa5538 Many people in society today are neurotic.
Needed this ❤
Just loved the idea!
One question, what if it's a constructive criticism instead of a harsh criticism? How should I response then?
Thank you!
Amazing content !!! Want to see more and more videos from you !!
More of this format!
Beautiful.
Thank you for your perspective!
My pleasure
The knowledge I gained here feels like I just came out of a $300 seminar.
Thank you 🙏
@@thefutur hey, I got a quick question, I haven't seen you cover yet, but if you have I'm interested to listen to it. I would have a lot of clients who actually don't pay after days of design. They'll just keep quiet once I show them the finished product. Should I really charge a deposit before starting the design?
Inspiring
really helpfull video thanks
It's amazing.. Man you're a quite perfect motivater
Appreciate it
Chris is Chris, don't try to change him to someone else because we watch this channel because it is Chris. As far as I know, Chris never ever attacked anybody personally. Sometimes people translate confidence and boldness as cocky. It is not, and it's wrong.
Thank you
we thank you so very much for posting this Mr. Chris Do, and, we understand and start to realize that getting
to a point to where finding/expressing/re-puzzling ourselves is not the "liability" it once was; is an incredible aim and under-stance
•
• i think persons generally understand you very well, and then experience an enhanced understanding of themselves
• but it's like something new'ish to them at the same time - and it feels like friction expressed as (you mentioned) "oh do it this way" ...when it's actually "seeing Chris initiate a particular something
•
← inspires 'me' to (try something new) ask Chris to modify/adjust → and that's that you know? heh'
▼
For example: in the past i may have asked someone like you to try and be a Loud Introvert, then i realized that's just something about myself i've come to enjoy hanging out with
▲
i still worry about other people.. yet it just gets decorated with love from a distance. Thank you Sir, for being realer and realer through design; G*d is a designer.
Please make a video about how should we future proof our career as designers after the introduction of DALL-E 2 by open AI.
Join me Thursday on LinkedIn audio
Yo! This spot resolving the identity crisis and walking in your authentic self is a superpower 🦸♂️
Chris! Chris! Chris! Chris!! 😃 🙌🏼👏
Chris this is well said
Appreciate it
NIcknames are a badge of honor. Good on you to be building confidence
Brilliant
Love it, Stay you
My only complaint ever was with the people who can’t use illustrator and I find myself yelling at the screen along with Chris as he tries to get them to move an object without the need for 3 arms to do CMD+C
Haha
Besides of your good videos I love this green lighting in your videos, what light do you use?
Quasar science tube light rgbw
Man
I really admire you...
I would love to know the brand and model of your microphone and headsets... they are almost as awesome as you...
Anybody knows?
Well... That's the lesson for today. I no longer will apologize for being me... :D
Hey Chris, love the message.
Do you have any advice for how to go about this as someone who is earlier on in their career, or still trying to work their way up into a design position?
I try to abide by Jordan Peterson's advice: "Don't say anything that makes you weak"
But, given the proclivity people have towards reading offense into pointed statements, it feels difficult to unabashedly be myself in the workplace.
Especially in a position where I definitely still need to worry about money, I don't want to run afoul of coworkers who often remind me that since I'm not a designer, my opinion carries little to no weight, or that having ideas for how to improve things is "not my place/not what I'm paid for."
Thanks for the great content, and thanks for reading all this.
I know your time is extremely valuable.
Noah, it's one thing to be yourself, grounded in both the good and bad of who you are, with high self awareness and being rude to others. often times, people will start off by saying, "just to be honest, and then be completely rude." There is a big difference between being direct, using non-violent language and just telling people off. it takes skill.
when you are younger, focus on developing one key skill that is aligned with who you are, what gives you joy, and what you'd like to develop. when you get good, though practice, you'll discover new pockets of confidence. you can build your identity on this. then you'll care less and less about the opinions of other people. let me know how it goes.
Request, Please make another channel for the podcast no audio but also videos podcast.
Video podcast channel?
🌱🙏🏾🎨 thank you
I’m such a long time fan, and wanted to let ya know that I respectfully disagree with you on this one. As an individual with ASD, I need to constantly apologize and shape myself how others would rather see me. I can’t make eye contact with others, the sensation is too intimate. I’ve been accused of not caring or just not listening because I wouldn’t look at people.
I respect that Jason.
I like it
Chris Do, the charming katana🗡
Haha
Where can I find the full episode?
Search for Carlos segura asks tough questions.
@@thefutur Thanks!
Can anybody tell where can i see the full podcast?
Search Carlos Segura. I’ll update the description soon.
@@thefutur Thanks👌👌
ruclips.net/video/_oE_sCepq1g/видео.html
At the end of the day, we are worm food. Don't apologize for your opinion to anyone.
Yep
❤
Do you accept that maybe of the desert your knowing becomes, is a grain of truth?
Yes
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🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 ME GUSTA !!!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Nickname : business genius artist
Haha.
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 LIKE !!!!!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
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I still apologize for who I am, but I think in my case it is easier to justify. I have no skills, I have too many family obligations to work on myself, and I have no friends or colleagues.
I don't think I'll ever be a razor blade.
I hope things change for you. Even still, learning to accept yourself is key.
The Loud Introvert.