A woman who does not want to submit to you but wants you to provide for her is a woman you SHALL have no business with. You are a MAN not a SLAVE. Know your worth gentlemen, You’re a KING.
What is eerie to me is, in most video's she is describing exactly how I used to be when I was younger! Over the years, the media and unhappy women have persuaded me out of my natural fun, cocky, happy personality. As luck would have it I'm back on a major business success rally and ready to date again after a two year break from dating. Can't wait to be embrace being myself again, and you just confirmed another reason why I should. Chip on their shoulder man haters need not apply!
Marni, this is your most important video. If men could just internalize this advice, everything would change for them in ways they can only imagine. And you are looking better every day.
The Marni's of the world ? 🌎 🤣🤣🤣😆😅🤣🤣😂🤣🤣😅😅😅😂🤣😅 Thanks there Elmer I needed a good laugh 😅 Shallow , soulless, single, used , abused and dumped . 😆 Oh lordy that's just precious
I used to believe that there was some solvable equation for every woman and all you had to do was figure it out. This video is a great example of why it’s more about mindset and perspective than a specific combo of actions or words.
Marni, you nailed it. I did all these things naturally, without knowing it, partially because of my own success and competence, but mostly because I am naturally a nonconformist and nonconformists don't care what the crowd thinks by definition. I was continually surprised when women came on to me especially when I was NOT consciously trying to attract them. It wasn't until I started watching your videos that I learned that what who I was as a person and I was doing naturally was so attractive to women. Now I am much more careful of the signals I send.
Marni, I enjoy all your videos. You are teaching me some new things, to be sure. But some of the things you teach are things I've been doing for years, without even realizing it. At least now I am starting to understand why I've been propositioned so many times, but usually by the wrong kind of women (which is flattering, but also disappointing). I have rather strong religious values, which only adds to the challenge. I used to be a pushover. And I'm still easy going, even though that's not the same thing. I do have boundaries. And I've been called some harsh names for putting my foot down. But that just alerts me and suggests that she might not be right for me. I believe that the things you teach are the missing pieces I've been needing.
"Don't judge a man for who he is, judge of man of what he has the potential to be." If you are not as confident as you wish you are, imagine your future self being that type of confidence you wish to achieve and take steps to become that man.
I don’t think there is suck thing as confidence you take way fear, anxiety and you stop overthinking live with Boundaries what’s left is someone with self respect not confidence it ain’t a power this you and how you want to be persisted
Good stuff Marni. Another mindset for guys out there to practice Confidence: Assume and act like you're the catch. People in general are curious and make efforts to know about things (and people) that aren't too easy to be found out. And that's the start of attraction.
I've been watching your videos for a few weeks now and I'm impressed by your convictions on these topics. And your energy is super attractive and you appear to be a deep level thinker too. I also wanted to just note that you could go deeper into the psychology of the male mind in a few videos and introduce the concept that you can't just tell yourself "I am confident when I talk to women" and expect to be confident, anymore than you can tell yourself, "I'm confident in the water" even though you are just barely learning how to swim. That incongruence can not be talked through in your id, ego, and superego...maybe identify this incongruence, explain where it comes from, and teach men to understand that the only way to become congruent with women, or when interacting with anyone actually, is to learn how to be congruent within your own sense of self. And you can Only do that by taking action and putting yourself in conversations with women over and over until you can create a personal frame that is stronger than any frame you encounter, and that grows confidence. But you can't think it, you have to physically engage and do the work on the outside, to see the rewards on the inside. Just a thought, I enjoy your information and perspective.
@SeamusWardowski how do you thing can your brain tell the difference between an actual real-world experience and a thought that you vividly experience in your mind?
@@tomger1160 If you seriously believe your brain can't tell the difference between you talking with a gorgeous woman and actually talking with a gorgeous woman, you may consider yourself delusional. It's not that your brain doesn't know the difference, it's that with finely trained visualization skills you can learn to perform better and this can also result in training your subconscious to "agreeing" with what you are trying to teach it. But don't believe for a second your brain doesn't know the difference between you visualizing you are asking your hot neighbor out and actually working up the courage to ask her out in reality.
@@seamuswardowski1962 a conscious experience is just a specific spatiotemporal electrical pattern in your brain. if you were able to simulate that pattern by thought only, then please, tell me the mechanism that would allow your brain to differentiate between a real-world experience and a simulated one. as you pointed out, the main problem is the incongruence between your self-image (hold in your unconscious mind) and the way you wanna perform the ‘task’ of asking out your hot neighbor in reality. as long as this incongruence is not resolved, your unconscious mind will always confirm your self-image resulting in anxious, fearful and charmless performance no matter how often you try to ‘taking action and putting yourself in conversations with hot women’. Wouldn't it be way more effective to change your self-image by visualization since there you really can be that charming, confident, easy-going guy challenging your self-image every time you do it until you eventually change it?
@@tomger1160 I enjoy your analysis, but I don't agree with your premise. A "conscious thought" is far more complex than simply as you put it, a "spatiotemporal electrical pattern in your brain". My point with commenting on this video is that we are not able to simply simulate that pattern by thought only, as you are suggesting. Just as it takes professionals thousands of hours to train themselves to visualize what they are going to 'do' physically, and then reproduce that energy into sport, the actual 'doing' part, like driving a ball 300 yards or talking to very attractive woman and trying to flirt with her successfully, can not be accomplished simply by visualizing it. Additionally, if you've never done it successfully, how are you visualizing it accurately? It may be scientifically reduced to spatiotemporal electrical patterns, but if we want to be successful at actually performing something, anything, visualizing is good training but you must actually perform the behavior, not just visualize yourself performing the behavior.
Hi Marni. I am recently divorced for the second time. I realized that both times I settled. I am 62, and I am using your advice in pursuit of a MUCH younger woman. It seems to be working. I'll let you know when/if it works out. Thanks for all of your good work and guidance. Billy
You are right Marni, I've tried used your technique this week and got a thousand times more positive response s than before, literally , so many messages from different women,it's crazy how well this works , Thank you
I have been eating healthy and workout every morning! I have noticed the difference in my appearance! There is a girl is interested in me I can tell by her tone of voice, and she adjust her clothes in front of me!
A lot of good ideas in this video, Marni, but you said that self-trust is an action. I disagree; actions can support or reinforce self-trust, but doesn't create it. And you know who also agrees with me? You do. Because you explain toward the end of the video that "limiting beliefs" are a source of self-doubt. Indeed, self-doubt or self-trust are internal, emotional states, not a set of habitual actions. Self-trust is a kind of deep, inner security, and definitely not "fake it 'til you make it."
Your first point is a great example of what I've been suggesting in various comments boxes on your vids: learning to trust oneself = a very powerful level of self-care/healing, as it makes us stronger, more whole, more coherent! You so rock, Marni! BTW, would you consider working one-on-one with a student?
You are the best Marni... Seriously Im semi confident , just got 18/23 in the quiz, im free of my ex... Another 3 months and ill be in the best shape of my life, ill get my dream girl, just need so time with myself and my besties.... Take care x
Its like the old sallon door analogy...some people meekly open the door outwards almost asking permission to come in...then you have the others who swing the doors inwards almost announcing "here i am you lucky fuckers"
I'm 33, have enjoyed plenty of beautiful ladies in my time. Because of my military background I'm naturally confident with my conversation and also stand and walk with authoritative posture. I know I'm attractive, so I notice how ladies gravitate towards me. So with all that, you think I would have no problem. But the biggest problem, is being shy. So I'm working on breaking the ice for good conversation.
Good video. The confidence you describe is attractive to everyone, not just women. In my experience you are either confident or you're not. You can't teach someone to be confident. It's inate way of thinking that develops as early as childhood.
oh wow. Thanks. Blushing!! Do you really think they all say the same thing? I do have a central message but really hope you learn something new in each video :)
Marni...There are some repeating themes.. such as work on yourself and believe in yourself. Essentially what I gather is that being the perfect guy is overrated, embrace the quirks of oneself. Essentially be the Ishmael because chances are she’s meeting too many Captain Ahab’s and is unimpressed by their lack of genuine authenticity.
@@marnikinrys it's taken me many years to get over my sense of awkwardness I had around women. It wasn't until I was in my early thirties... That I started hearing women tell me I am hot! My confidence started to build after that. But it wasn't until the past 8 years that I started learning about who I am and what I have to offer a woman in just myself. Take away the money and the things away and what is left? I had to start LOVING who I am and trust that my heart is just as valuable as her heart is and that I am a REALLY AMAZING man that any WOMAN would love to have as there OWN. Well I started getting a very different reaction from women. First I had to understand what it means to be a man and what that looks like to a woman. Needless to say I'm now engaged to the MOST INCREDIBLE WOMAN I have ever KNOWN! OMFG Marni! She's so crazy WONDERFULLY LOVINGLY KIND. I NEVER EVER dreamed she existed and would actually love me BECAUSE of who I am and not what I can give her. And by watching your videos I started understanding what I was doing so differently that was starting to get these insanely crazy BEAUTIFUL and TOTALLY AMAZING WOMEN to like me and even be willing to pledge themselves to me even though they KNOW I'm trying to marry SOMEONE else and not them. There's so much more to my story that I'd love to tell you about because it only gets crazier and crazier but so much cooler too. Check my page out and you'll see who she is on my wall. My alternate backup account is @briankgarnes. You'll see more posts there since this is my new main account because someone hacked my old account.
@@marnikinrys oh Marni, your videos all have different content, and they Far from say the exact same thing each week. My perception is 180 degrees different from alg11297. I don't watch too many of your videos anymore, but I've watched enough to know that you Do Not say the exact same thing every week, ha. They're all helpful. Don't dougt what YOU say each week.
Dear Marni To "meee😂" your advice is pretty solid. When a woman has the sexiness to help other guys become confident and flirt with beautiful women...that's amazing😉✌️
you have hit the spot with me, i do have to be honest do, i have a beautiful lady who i am crazy about and she is crazy about me so, i don't just want to get into as many woman's nickers as possible. i only want her, i know she really wants to make this work out for us as she has made this very clear in a public place too, but my confidence is so low i could not respond to her, and when we see each other i cant approach her, and this is because of confidence being drained out of me in a past relationship, i now know i need to just go get her, thank you for this video it has helped me realise where i am and have gone wrong.
I really like this as one of my top 3 videos that you have done,,,,,Excellent,,,,,also this is the most attractive blouse/sweater I have seen you in.....that color combination is really you
These dating channels are entertaining for me to watch. Entertaining because I've gone over the top of the hill from being 65, now retired, broke, and so not really in the "dating game" anymore, which means I sit in the sideline bleachers and watch from above (sorry for the sports metaphor). On one side we have Marni telling men how to get women, and on the other side there is the REAL entertainer Ryan Patrick (daterboy) giving tricks/advice to women on "how to catch a man and hopefully get him to commit".(Just do a YT search of his name). Marni, I'm not sure where you are located; it's either So. Cal. or Florida, but here's an idea: check out Ryan (I know he's in the L.A. area, it's on his YT ABOUT section) and his page, contact him, and see if you two could trade some dating secrets, or see if you and Ryan could do a team effort, maybe a combo YT live stream. Could be interesting.........................
From LS comment, I think these are part of the 21 Laws of Miyamoto Musashi 1) trust themselves "Do Not, Under Any Circumstances, Depend On A Partial Feeling." 2) express without fear 20. You may abandon your own body, but you must preserve your honor. 3) don't try to impress anyone 10. Do not let yourself be guided by the feeling of lust or love. 4) impose personal boundaries 21. Never stray from The Way. 5) expect positive treatment 4. Think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world.
This doesn't strike me as much as advice for picking up woman as much as just life advice. Bringing this self into work is going to make you more magnetic and successful, inspiring confidence in team scenarios and from managers. It also is bound to improve all relationships be they family, friends and coworkers. Mostly though it is going to improve one's relationship with their own self.
I don't even know how/why you started showing up in my RUclips feed, but I've watched a few of your videos now. You caught me at around 03:17 pulling your sleeve down showing your shoulder; I had to rewind it to actually pay attention to what you were saying! lol
Marni, you are the appidimie of what a woman should be! YOU were supposed to be my wife! For what it's worth, I miss the memories we should've made and I remain faithful no matter what!
It's all about serotonin and dopamine. The more you have the more confident you feel. Exemple winning a race as compare to losing. The dating world is the same. Confidence is built on small victory.
Confidence HAS to come from experience! Being rejected does NOT make me feel worthless or unlovable. ALL it's done is keep me from getting the experience that would BUILD my Confidence up. I just passed my 65th birthday and STILL have no romantic prospects out there. Do YOU, (and I mean you Mrs. Kinrys), really think women will give me a chance if they see that I have no past experiences in romance?
Most men that are confident, had to start somewhere by failing first. They failed many times before reaching a point of either improvement or they just began not caring about the opinion of others. Confident men with women, have gotten rejected by women many, many, many times over. The "game," as a whole, is pure rejection. There are no "tips" and "tricks" of attracting a woman. It's based on a woman's preferences and what they individually find sexually attractive. confident men understand this, and they either don't care about women's opinions of them or have gotten enough positive feedback by women, i.e. dates and sex, that they know that lots of women find them sexually attractive. This is what these "dating gurus" don't say. There's no magic "program" or "$400+ information" that makes a man attractive to women. It's trial and error and positive feedback from women. That create these confident men. The whole "social dating game" is a "game" of preferences. Which women set the rules and price of.
100%. I have met some women who knew the moment I showed up to the date that they wanted to have sex with me (at least that's what they told me afterwards), and others who thought I was super hot looking, very funny, and very sweet but still had "no romantic connection" with me after a seemingly fun and easy conversation. Go figure?
Marni, you are absolutely right. I have 2 sales guys that worked for me that both have a line of women waiting on them. Incidentally both are divorced. Both are great sales guys, both are very confident, both have the ability to talk to anyone and get them laughing or smiling within minutes. The downside is one of my sales guys borders on cocky and arrogant and maybe a bit rude. Yet, women still line up. He gets more P pics and boob picks from women he doesn't know than anyone. I, however, am happily married for 26 years. I use your tricks to help with my sales abilities and social interactions. Thank you Marni.
Sadly, if confidence created sexiness, women would never date "bad boys", since bad boys have no confidence. What bad boys do have, is cockiness--they are ALWAYS showing off, whereas the confident person has no need--they aren't concerned what you think. They are not the same thing, and only a woman with confidence (ie, lacking in body issues) can understand and recognize true confidence. She also lacks drama in her life--an easy clue you have met a truly confident woman. That's because confidence simply does not need drama. Women don't worry a man they want betwixt their thighs may fear asking them out--the majority of dating games begin by a woman sending out signals she's attracted to a specific guy. She makes herself attractive to the guy, if he hasn't already spotted her across the room, she makes herself available to his approach (if she acts like the ice queen, she is not available but many men just ignore the obvious signs). Many women have chased alpha males--if he's confident to ask her out, she was never attracted to his confidence, it just made things easy on her. She doesn't have to act "aggressive" and be labeled a slut--she can just flirt and he does all the action. I've asked out my fair share of women out of my league--for no other reason than I never wanted to find out later I missed an opportunity. Many became a friend--for a reason or a season. A woman can become your friend because she needs something, and if you are confident, what she gets from you is your strong proverbial "shoulder" and the quiet you offer in the storm of her life. She can come to you often and complain about the bad boy she is sleeping with, having a ton of fun with due to the drama, playing "does he or doesn't he" and you will always refuse to join in the nonsense...and thus be the maturity in her life. You may even be the daddy she doesn't have. But the 300 lb bon vivant who loves food, dresses well, is a success and is confident? He will only be a friend. His confidence will be useful in her life, but she won't want to see him naked. She will still chase the bad boy, for the same reason we chase the hot mess--they both "tickle our pickle". A confident woman, who is going someplace in her life (and sadly this just isn't as common as it should be) will want an attractive, confident man to join her in that travel. They are not difficult to find past a certain age--an attractive man is a popular man, and after he's done playing the field, he's ready to settle down, and to settle down with the right woman, not all the hot messes. He will be confident enough to accept all the confident male friends in her life--because he knows, she isn't interested in having babies with them. She would have done it by now. She has choices. She knows this. And he has the experience to know this, too.
Hey guys, it´s me Clemens again! There were some guys arguing here that the men who think that men who don´t listen to Marni are fools and here is why I - as the boyfriend of a lady like her - agree... ...You know what is the most badass way to approach this topic? To listen to BOTH men and quality ladies. Why is that? Well most men think that listening to a woman is naive because they argue that a fish cannot - and more importantly - DOES NOT WANT TO - explain how it can become hooked... ...but unfortunately forget one EXTREMELY(!) important FACT/observation/insight/thought/idea/view/means of success: Not even the lady badass Casanova understands women as well as Marni does, since she experiences - unlike Casanova - her complex world everyday and is a real life proof of her own primal attraction mechanism. She experiences her advanced peripherial senses (this means she can look up to 180 degress to the side and like this is feeling men looking at her without them even noticing that they have been noticed. It´s her evolutionary physical and gene quality protection mechanism) So this means that only women can make us badass with women. But men can tell us some Red-Pill secrets which most women won´t dare to admit (for example that cheating with attractive women when with an attractive woman can actually raise your chances with that particular woman while - for most other women- the chances drop... is something only a guy would tell you (but this isn´t something which we should do to our lady unless she does it to us first). Another example: Male dating coaches often advice men - when their lady is having a bad mood towards them - to call them out on their period and say things like: "So, you have your period mood again, huh?". The male dating coaches often think it displays "masculinity"and "insight into her trouble"... ... but not noticing that this only DISCONNECTS both of them even more, making her feel dominated instead of lead (IMPORTANT DIFFERENCE!). And here is again where the power of Marni comes into play: Only Marni is able to tell you which kind of feeling and interpretation this creates in a female mind. Another important note (which is much less subtle than the one before but still 40% of them get this confused) is that male dating coaches often cannot distinguish properly between rational-binary-aristotelian logics and emotional logics and then wonder why their girlfriends leaves when they say to him after he comes home from work and asks her would he should do: "do what you want" and he then does what he wants... not noticing her HIDDEN internal need of exchanging emotional information about her day with a listening ear and that she just faked her disinterest in order to protest against his - from her view - uncaring atttiude. (which men coaches often feel much less due to their rational attitude). So you see that important subtleties can get lost when we don´t listen to female coaches.
1) trust themselves
2) express without fear
3) don't try to impress anyone
4) impose personal boundaries
5) expect positive treatment
LMAO, I love you right now! Clicked the video from my email thinking about how I can skip to the 5 things.
If only women followed the same things to
king!
Thank you!
Thanks.
1:10 - Trust themselves
3:14 - Express without fear
4:50 - don't try to impress anyone
7:00 - Impose personal boundaries
8:45 - Expect positive treatment
I did this with the boss,,, unemployed, homeless and hungry 😂🤣
ma man!!!
A woman who does not want to submit to you but wants you to provide for her is a woman you SHALL have no business with. You are a MAN not a SLAVE. Know your worth gentlemen, You’re a KING.
she belongs to street
I call BS
What is eerie to me is, in most video's she is describing exactly how I used to be when I was younger! Over the years, the media and unhappy women have persuaded me out of my natural fun, cocky, happy personality. As luck would have it I'm back on a major business success rally and ready to date again after a two year break from dating. Can't wait to be embrace being myself again, and you just confirmed another reason why I should. Chip on their shoulder man haters need not apply!
Good to hear! Never let anyone bring you down! .....I mean, unless you're a serial killer or somethin' like that 😜
Marni, this is your most important video. If men could just internalize this advice, everything would change for them in ways they can only imagine. And you are looking better every day.
I agree
Totally.
I think any guy who fails to listen to the Marni’s of the world are fools. The advice is solid and authentic.
:-)
@@marnikinrys will
Marni is a king maker
The Marni's of the world ? 🌎 🤣🤣🤣😆😅🤣🤣😂🤣🤣😅😅😅😂🤣😅 Thanks there Elmer I needed a good laugh 😅 Shallow , soulless, single, used , abused and dumped . 😆 Oh lordy that's just precious
Uncle Elmer your full of crap
I used to believe that there was some solvable equation for every woman and all you had to do was figure it out. This video is a great example of why it’s more about mindset and perspective than a specific combo of actions or words.
And how they all share the same hive mind. None of them are unique or different.
@@robludwigsen7831 All women are unique if you get to know them well enough.
Marni, you nailed it. I did all these things naturally, without knowing it, partially because of my own success and competence, but mostly because I am naturally a nonconformist and nonconformists don't care what the crowd thinks by definition. I was continually surprised when women came on to me especially when I was NOT consciously trying to attract them. It wasn't until I started watching your videos that I learned that what who I was as a person and I was doing naturally was so attractive to women. Now I am much more careful of the signals I send.
Marni, I enjoy all your videos. You are teaching me some new things, to be sure. But some of the things you teach are things I've been doing for years, without even realizing it. At least now I am starting to understand why I've been propositioned so many times, but usually by the wrong kind of women (which is flattering, but also disappointing). I have rather strong religious values, which only adds to the challenge. I used to be a pushover. And I'm still easy going, even though that's not the same thing. I do have boundaries. And I've been called some harsh names for putting my foot down. But that just alerts me and suggests that she might not be right for me. I believe that the things you teach are the missing pieces I've been needing.
"Don't judge a man for who he is, judge of man of what he has the potential to be."
If you are not as confident as you wish you are, imagine your future self being that type of confidence you wish to achieve and take steps to become that man.
Confident men don't care what others think. Not in a way that is rude but in a way that means their opinion does not effect our decisions and lives.
I agree
Really. Example: If she gets mad/pissed off/offended by something I say, then that's just too damn bad. It's HER fucking problem, not mine.
@@dogbarbill she may get upset in the short term but she will be back; had to put the boundaries down a few times
I don’t think there is suck thing as confidence you take way fear, anxiety and you stop overthinking live with Boundaries what’s left is someone with self respect not confidence it ain’t a power this you and how you want to be persisted
@@marnikinrys im not Confident with woman or dating im scare of being turned down. do you have any tips for men scared of being turned down?
Good stuff Marni.
Another mindset for guys out there to practice Confidence: Assume and act like you're the catch. People in general are curious and make efforts to know about things (and people) that aren't too easy to be found out. And that's the start of attraction.
Love it!
@val berlin my man
I've been watching your videos for a few weeks now and I'm impressed by your convictions on these topics. And your energy is super attractive and you appear to be a deep level thinker too. I also wanted to just note that you could go deeper into the psychology of the male mind in a few videos and introduce the concept that you can't just tell yourself "I am confident when I talk to women" and expect to be confident, anymore than you can tell yourself, "I'm confident in the water" even though you are just barely learning how to swim. That incongruence can not be talked through in your id, ego, and superego...maybe identify this incongruence, explain where it comes from, and teach men to understand that the only way to become congruent with women, or when interacting with anyone actually, is to learn how to be congruent within your own sense of self. And you can Only do that by taking action and putting yourself in conversations with women over and over until you can create a personal frame that is stronger than any frame you encounter, and that grows confidence. But you can't think it, you have to physically engage and do the work on the outside, to see the rewards on the inside. Just a thought, I enjoy your information and perspective.
@SeamusWardowski how do you thing can your brain tell the difference between an actual real-world experience and a thought that you vividly experience in your mind?
@@tomger1160 If you seriously believe your brain can't tell the difference between you talking with a gorgeous woman and actually talking with a gorgeous woman, you may consider yourself delusional. It's not that your brain doesn't know the difference, it's that with finely trained visualization skills you can learn to perform better and this can also result in training your subconscious to "agreeing" with what you are trying to teach it. But don't believe for a second your brain doesn't know the difference between you visualizing you are asking your hot neighbor out and actually working up the courage to ask her out in reality.
@@seamuswardowski1962 a conscious experience is just a specific spatiotemporal electrical pattern in your brain. if you were able to simulate that pattern by thought only, then please, tell me the mechanism that would allow your brain to differentiate between a real-world experience and a simulated one.
as you pointed out, the main problem is the incongruence between your self-image (hold in your unconscious mind) and the way you wanna perform the ‘task’ of asking out your hot neighbor in reality. as long as this incongruence is not resolved, your unconscious mind will always confirm your self-image resulting in anxious, fearful and charmless performance no matter how often you try to ‘taking action and putting yourself in conversations with hot women’.
Wouldn't it be way more effective to change your self-image by visualization since there you really can be that charming, confident, easy-going guy challenging your self-image every time you do it until you eventually change it?
@@tomger1160 I enjoy your analysis, but I don't agree with your premise. A "conscious thought" is far more complex than simply as you put it, a "spatiotemporal electrical pattern in your brain". My point with commenting on this video is that we are not able to simply simulate that pattern by thought only, as you are suggesting. Just as it takes professionals thousands of hours to train themselves to visualize what they are going to 'do' physically, and then reproduce that energy into sport, the actual 'doing' part, like driving a ball 300 yards or talking to very attractive woman and trying to flirt with her successfully, can not be accomplished simply by visualizing it. Additionally, if you've never done it successfully, how are you visualizing it accurately? It may be scientifically reduced to spatiotemporal electrical patterns, but if we want to be successful at actually performing something, anything, visualizing is good training but you must actually perform the behavior, not just visualize yourself performing the behavior.
Dang is this the essay comment section lol
Hi Marni. I am recently divorced for the second time. I realized that both times I settled. I am 62, and I am using your advice in pursuit of a MUCH younger woman. It seems to be working. I'll let you know when/if it works out. Thanks for all of your good work and guidance. Billy
You are right Marni, I've tried used your technique this week and got a thousand times more positive response s than before, literally , so many messages from different women,it's crazy how well this works , Thank you
Smile, nod politely, and do whatever the hell you want.
Mostly.
I have been eating healthy and workout every morning! I have noticed the difference in my appearance! There is a girl is interested in me I can tell by her tone of voice, and she adjust her clothes in front of me!
How long u been working out for?
Wished someone had given me that advice 40 years ago. So, I had to learn it the hard way. You are right Marny, your advice is solid gold!
Marni,our Wing Girl, i love you, thank you
A lot of good ideas in this video, Marni, but you said that self-trust is an action. I disagree; actions can support or reinforce self-trust, but doesn't create it. And you know who also agrees with me? You do. Because you explain toward the end of the video that "limiting beliefs" are a source of self-doubt. Indeed, self-doubt or self-trust are internal, emotional states, not a set of habitual actions. Self-trust is a kind of deep, inner security, and definitely not "fake it 'til you make it."
Your first point is a great example of what I've been suggesting in various comments boxes on your vids: learning to trust oneself = a very powerful level of self-care/healing, as it makes us stronger, more whole, more coherent! You so rock, Marni! BTW, would you consider working one-on-one with a student?
Keep running your hands through your hair. Very nice!
Really? Creeps me out. Oh, well, different strokes for different folks, as the Flower Children used to say.
If a girl gets pissed if I impose boundaries I’ll walk away from her and never look back.
You are the best Marni...
Seriously Im semi confident , just got 18/23 in the quiz, im free of my ex...
Another 3 months and ill be in the best shape of my life, ill get my dream girl, just need so time with myself and my besties....
Take care x
Its like the old sallon door analogy...some people meekly open the door outwards almost asking permission to come in...then you have the others who swing the doors inwards almost announcing "here i am you lucky fuckers"
I'm 33, have enjoyed plenty of beautiful ladies in my time. Because of my military background I'm naturally confident with my conversation and also stand and walk with authoritative posture. I know I'm attractive, so I notice how ladies gravitate towards me. So with all that, you think I would have no problem. But the biggest problem, is being shy. So I'm working on breaking the ice for good conversation.
This is one of your best videos Marni
:-)
Good video. The confidence you describe is attractive to everyone, not just women. In my experience you are either confident or you're not. You can't teach someone to be confident. It's inate way of thinking that develops as early as childhood.
I agree
It's amazing that she can put these videos together each week that all say the same thing. Plus, she seems to get better looking as time goes on.
oh wow. Thanks. Blushing!!
Do you really think they all say the same thing? I do have a central message but really hope you learn something new in each video :)
Marni...There are some repeating themes.. such as work on yourself and believe in yourself.
Essentially what I gather is that being the perfect guy is overrated, embrace the quirks of oneself. Essentially be the Ishmael because chances are she’s meeting too many Captain Ahab’s and is unimpressed by their lack of genuine authenticity.
@@marnikinrys it's taken me many years to get over my sense of awkwardness I had around women. It wasn't until I was in my early thirties... That I started hearing women tell me I am hot! My confidence started to build after that.
But it wasn't until the past 8 years that I started learning about who I am and what I have to offer a woman in just myself. Take away the money and the things away and what is left? I had to start LOVING who I am and trust that my heart is just as valuable as her heart is and that I am a REALLY AMAZING man that any WOMAN would love to have as there OWN. Well I started getting a very different reaction from women.
First I had to understand what it means to be a man and what that looks like to a woman. Needless to say I'm now engaged to the MOST INCREDIBLE WOMAN I have ever KNOWN! OMFG Marni! She's so crazy WONDERFULLY LOVINGLY KIND. I NEVER EVER dreamed she existed and would actually love me BECAUSE of who I am and not what I can give her. And by watching your videos I started understanding what I was doing so differently that was starting to get these insanely crazy BEAUTIFUL and TOTALLY AMAZING WOMEN to like me and even be willing to pledge themselves to me even though they KNOW I'm trying to marry SOMEONE else and not them. There's so much more to my story that I'd love to tell you about because it only gets crazier and crazier but so much cooler too.
Check my page out and you'll see who she is on my wall. My alternate backup account is @briankgarnes. You'll see more posts there since this is my new main account because someone hacked my old account.
@@marnikinrys I don't think they're all the same but you can't deny your looks
@@marnikinrys oh Marni, your videos all have different content, and they Far from say the exact same thing each week. My perception is 180 degrees different from alg11297. I don't watch too many of your videos anymore, but I've watched enough to know that you Do Not say the exact same thing every week, ha. They're all helpful. Don't dougt what YOU say each week.
I would rather lose the girl than lose my personal boundaries Marni.
Marni, I'd Just like to Thank You for pointing out abilities we are all born with but the Majority Never Use!!
That is a fact
Valuable information! Thank you Marni
No man can do very wrong by listening to this particular video every morning.
Dear Marni
To "meee😂" your advice is pretty solid. When a woman has the sexiness to help other guys become confident and flirt with beautiful women...that's amazing😉✌️
Don’t wank
Go gym
Eat healthy
Eye contact
Smile, laugh
If you live like a slob you will feel like a slob so go outside a talk to people
You lost me at "don't wank" 😂
It’s true tho don’t waste your life on only hands
you have hit the spot with me, i do have to be honest do, i have a beautiful lady who i am crazy about and she is crazy about me so, i don't just want to get into as many woman's nickers as possible. i only want her, i know she really wants to make this work out for us as she has made this very clear in a public place too, but my confidence is so low i could not respond to her, and when we see each other i cant approach her, and this is because of confidence being drained out of me in a past relationship, i now know i need to just go get her, thank you for this video it has helped me realise where i am and have gone wrong.
Life is a self fulfilling proficy, that's why prayer works, why training your brain leads to changing your life etc.
I express without fear Marni.
I trust myself Marni.
As an Australian , I just love your American accent but particularly the sound and pitch of your voice , I could listen to it all night long..
You are valuable, you are confident, and you are amazing. Remember that next time you say something hard on yourself 🙌
Glad I stumbled across your channel! Enjoy watching and I am learning some insights into a woman's psyche! Keep up the good work!
@Marni, one of your best: it’s working for me right now.
I really like this as one of my top 3 videos that you have done,,,,,Excellent,,,,,also this is the most attractive blouse/sweater I have seen you in.....that color combination is really you
These dating channels are entertaining for me to watch. Entertaining because I've gone over the top of the hill from being 65, now retired, broke, and so not really in the "dating game" anymore, which means I sit in the sideline bleachers and watch from above (sorry for the sports metaphor). On one side we have Marni telling men how to get women, and on the other side there is the REAL entertainer Ryan Patrick (daterboy) giving tricks/advice to women on "how to catch a man and hopefully get him to commit".(Just do a YT search of his name). Marni, I'm not sure where you are located; it's either So. Cal. or Florida, but here's an idea: check out Ryan (I know he's in the L.A. area, it's on his YT ABOUT section) and his page, contact him, and see if you two could trade some dating secrets, or see if you and Ryan could do a team effort, maybe a combo YT live stream. Could be interesting.........................
From LS comment, I think these are part of the 21 Laws of Miyamoto Musashi
1) trust themselves
"Do Not, Under Any Circumstances, Depend On A Partial Feeling."
2) express without fear
20. You may abandon your own body, but you must preserve your honor.
3) don't try to impress anyone
10. Do not let yourself be guided by the feeling of lust or love.
4) impose personal boundaries
21. Never stray from The Way.
5) expect positive treatment
4. Think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world.
She just described me to a T. Cool video I watch all the time. Keep up the good work.
This doesn't strike me as much as advice for picking up woman as much as just life advice. Bringing this self into work is going to make you more magnetic and successful, inspiring confidence in team scenarios and from managers. It also is bound to improve all relationships be they family, friends and coworkers. Mostly though it is going to improve one's relationship with their own self.
I don't even know how/why you started showing up in my RUclips feed, but I've watched a few of your videos now. You caught me at around 03:17 pulling your sleeve down showing your shoulder; I had to rewind it to actually pay attention to what you were saying! lol
Its actually around 3:23. Got me too 😍 lol
No you were right.... 3:17. 😂 See?? I lost track of time.
Ya sup with that
Great catch I noticed she edits a lot.
Yet left that ..
Intentionally
Interesting
Marni, you are the appidimie of what a woman should be! YOU were supposed to be my wife! For what it's worth, I miss the memories we should've made and I remain faithful no matter what!
hahaha. :)
Lmao!
Epitome?
Totally gonna watch this again tmrw before my 1st date.
It's all about serotonin and dopamine. The more you have the more confident you feel. Exemple winning a race as compare to losing. The dating world is the same. Confidence is built on small victory.
Marni is awesome
I loved listened. I am from Africa. We love listened. Once I had turned into USA green berets. I loved it.
Let's go girl 🕺 dive in.
And my God!!
You are Gorgeous Girl!!
❤
Thank you. Great advice. You are very attractive.
This is all true and accurate. Well done, Marni.
Insightful video. Loved the fluidity. ✴️🙏🏾
Excellent advice 👍 people worry to much about what other people think who cares like me for me or keep walking 😎🇨🇦
This is the woman i want to help me write my romance thriller. Best get your plane ticket booked for the UK Marni......
This was a surprisingly good and in depth vid. Good job.
Very clearly put. Thanks Marni. It’s starting to sink in. 😉
3:17 the shoulder show!
I'm confident which is the key to everything well said
This might be your greatest video ever thank you so much for all your help
Definitely some good advice , Marnie I think you're awesome 👍
"They trust that my neighbours next door are very loud." 😂
You caught that too, eh? That earned a good chuckle from me 😁
why they have to trust this if they already know this ????
Totally caught that too. Sometimes I've had the loud neighbors. Sometimes I've been the loud neighbors.
Damn rowdy Canadians.
Confidence HAS to come from experience! Being rejected does NOT make me feel worthless or unlovable. ALL it's done is keep me from getting the experience that would BUILD my Confidence up. I just passed my 65th birthday and STILL have no romantic prospects out there. Do YOU, (and I mean you Mrs. Kinrys), really think women will give me a chance if they see that I have no past experiences in romance?
Most men that are confident, had to start somewhere by failing first. They failed many times before reaching a point of either improvement or they just began not caring about the opinion of others. Confident men with women, have gotten rejected by women many, many, many times over. The "game," as a whole, is pure rejection. There are no "tips" and "tricks" of attracting a woman. It's based on a woman's preferences and what they individually find sexually attractive. confident men understand this, and they either don't care about women's opinions of them or have gotten enough positive feedback by women, i.e. dates and sex, that they know that lots of women find them sexually attractive. This is what these "dating gurus" don't say. There's no magic "program" or "$400+ information" that makes a man attractive to women. It's trial and error and positive feedback from women. That create these confident men. The whole "social dating game" is a "game" of preferences. Which women set the rules and price of.
100%. I have met some women who knew the moment I showed up to the date that they wanted to have sex with me (at least that's what they told me afterwards), and others who thought I was super hot looking, very funny, and very sweet but still had "no romantic connection" with me after a seemingly fun and easy conversation. Go figure?
This was a great video👍Thanks
Seriously Marnie You adjusted ur dress at 3:18. This was a lesson for the women I guess.😂😂😂
Marni, you are absolutely right. I have 2 sales guys that worked for me that both have a line of women waiting on them. Incidentally both are divorced. Both are great sales guys, both are very confident, both have the ability to talk to anyone and get them laughing or smiling within minutes. The downside is one of my sales guys borders on cocky and arrogant and maybe a bit rude. Yet, women still line up. He gets more P pics and boob picks from women he doesn't know than anyone. I, however, am happily married for 26 years. I use your tricks to help with my sales abilities and social interactions. Thank you Marni.
I’m an introvert, who can’t drive a car Marni so how in the hell am I supposed to meet women?
There is a direct correlation between guys watching my videos and attracting super models effortlessly
I think I’m entitled to positive treatment from the women I meet Marni.
Sadly, if confidence created sexiness, women would never date "bad boys", since bad boys have no confidence. What bad boys do have, is cockiness--they are ALWAYS showing off, whereas the confident person has no need--they aren't concerned what you think. They are not the same thing, and only a woman with confidence (ie, lacking in body issues) can understand and recognize true confidence.
She also lacks drama in her life--an easy clue you have met a truly confident woman. That's because confidence simply does not need drama. Women don't worry a man they want betwixt their thighs may fear asking them out--the majority of dating games begin by a woman sending out signals she's attracted to a specific guy. She makes herself attractive to the guy, if he hasn't already spotted her across the room, she makes herself available to his approach (if she acts like the ice queen, she is not available but many men just ignore the obvious signs). Many women have chased alpha males--if he's confident to ask her out, she was never attracted to his confidence, it just made things easy on her. She doesn't have to act "aggressive" and be labeled a slut--she can just flirt and he does all the action.
I've asked out my fair share of women out of my league--for no other reason than I never wanted to find out later I missed an opportunity. Many became a friend--for a reason or a season. A woman can become your friend because she needs something, and if you are confident, what she gets from you is your strong proverbial "shoulder" and the quiet you offer in the storm of her life. She can come to you often and complain about the bad boy she is sleeping with, having a ton of fun with due to the drama, playing "does he or doesn't he" and you will always refuse to join in the nonsense...and thus be the maturity in her life. You may even be the daddy she doesn't have.
But the 300 lb bon vivant who loves food, dresses well, is a success and is confident? He will only be a friend. His confidence will be useful in her life, but she won't want to see him naked. She will still chase the bad boy, for the same reason we chase the hot mess--they both "tickle our pickle".
A confident woman, who is going someplace in her life (and sadly this just isn't as common as it should be) will want an attractive, confident man to join her in that travel. They are not difficult to find past a certain age--an attractive man is a popular man, and after he's done playing the field, he's ready to settle down, and to settle down with the right woman, not all the hot messes. He will be confident enough to accept all the confident male friends in her life--because he knows, she isn't interested in having babies with them. She would have done it by now.
She has choices. She knows this. And he has the experience to know this, too.
..... Very good! Excellent video.
You kinda remind me Susanna Hoffs of the Bangles LoL thank you I am taking your advice 😀
Hey guys, it´s me Clemens again!
There were some guys arguing here that the men who think that men who don´t listen to Marni are fools and here is why I - as the boyfriend of a lady like her - agree...
...You know what is the most badass way to approach this topic? To listen to BOTH men and quality ladies. Why is that? Well most men think that listening to a woman is naive because they argue that a fish cannot - and more importantly - DOES NOT WANT TO - explain how it can become hooked...
...but unfortunately forget one EXTREMELY(!) important FACT/observation/insight/thought/idea/view/means of success:
Not even the lady badass Casanova understands women as well as Marni does, since she experiences - unlike Casanova - her complex world everyday and is a real life proof of her own primal attraction mechanism. She experiences her advanced peripherial senses (this means she can look up to 180 degress to the side and like this is feeling men looking at her without them even noticing that they have been noticed. It´s her evolutionary physical and gene quality protection mechanism)
So this means that only women can make us badass with women. But men can tell us some Red-Pill secrets which most women won´t dare to admit (for example that cheating with attractive women when with an attractive woman can actually raise your chances with that particular woman while - for most other women- the chances drop... is something only a guy would tell you (but this isn´t something which we should do to our lady unless she does it to us first).
Another example: Male dating coaches often advice men - when their lady is having a bad mood towards them - to call them out on their period and say things like: "So, you have your period mood again, huh?". The male dating coaches often think it displays "masculinity"and "insight into her trouble"...
... but not noticing that this only DISCONNECTS both of them even more, making her feel dominated instead of lead (IMPORTANT DIFFERENCE!).
And here is again where the power of Marni comes into play: Only Marni is able to tell you which kind of feeling and interpretation this creates in a female mind.
Another important note (which is much less subtle than the one before but still 40% of them get this confused) is that male dating coaches often cannot distinguish properly between rational-binary-aristotelian logics and emotional logics and then wonder why their girlfriends leaves when they say to him after he comes home from work and asks her would he should do: "do what you want" and he then does what he wants... not noticing her HIDDEN internal need of exchanging emotional information about her day with a listening ear and that she just faked her disinterest in order to protest against his - from her view - uncaring atttiude. (which men coaches often feel much less due to their rational attitude).
So you see that important subtleties can get lost when we don´t listen to female coaches.
Again, ps social feel I am. I loved loved you Marni
I have been green berets in USA
Excellent
You SEXY woman!!!! Thank you for giving us those valuable info. :) Thank you!
3:17 slightly pulling that sweater (jersey?) over her left shoulder
Thank you your amazing Marni! 🐕🚀🌝💰
I think I have a well defined sense of right and wrong Marni.
Espresso hittin just right
This is your best advice ever….
This is me…thank you.
I like my daily Marni with my morning Joe😃
If we found this channel before 1 million subs we are the chosen men to know this knowledge. Thank you Marni for another excellent video.
Wow. Thank you for saying that :-)
Thank you I love the advice
Did you see the Better Bachelor video breakdown of your other video? Keep up the good work 💪.
5.16 wise words 😶🙉🙈🙊
So true!
You dont ask a fish how to catch fish...you ask a fisherman how to catch fish fellas
"Misinterpret past experiences"...wow! That's new one.
Good lord, who needs women beating the door down. Yeash!!!
It's peaceful now.
MARMI BLACK AND WHITE REALLY LOOKS AMAZING ON YOU!❤
❤U MARMI 🌹
I only open my mouth when I’m right, always!
Follow these rules for unshakable confidence. Thanks Marni.
Oh Marni 😅; where were you in my 20s. This is a dead on balls accurate video.