*Confidence isn’t just about how you carry yourself - it’s about knowing your value, staying calm under pressure, and respecting others without seeking validation. That’s what sets confident men apart.*
You know what women really want, the guy they actually can not have. That guy is on his own path, focusing on his goals, career, passions, sport... This guy is not really interested in a relationship, but very good around women, being genuinely confident. A bit like a wild Mustang. It's very hard to hang on, and this guy will say "NO" if he has other obligations, no matter how good-looking the woman is. He will not reschedule his appointments for any woman. It's totally the opposite of a simp. He also does not need female validation cause he knows his own worth. He takes care of himself, fitness, and sports. Such a guy is irresistible.
This reinforces the importance of friends. Having options, or the belief of options, gives people baseline confidence. Just like when making friends, being shy and afraid actually repulses people more than it evokes sympathy. People and women will like you more if you are disagreeable than if they think you are hiding something.
The opposite of shy is assertive. You are saying confident, but you are describing assertiveness. And assertiveness is not a virtue. This is why there are so many men who are players. You can easily fake assertiveness. You are not being a good wing-girl, because you are hooking your buddy up with a girl that is going to make his life a misery, because most women who want an assertive man, are players just like the men. They enjoy the challenge of breaking men.
When you cannot think of what to say to a woman you just met, think of the surroundings and ask something more deep about her. Always works, every woman likes to talk about herself. And you get points for listening. And one more thing. Let's say she is a perfect 10, never say to her she is beautiful without adding something more 'interesting'. based on what you observe. She is fed up about this simp atitude.
@@marnikinrysjust you were right, all others Just don't care about sensible decisions confident Men Take in any conversation are Best in Logical Points of Truth.
Yes avoid giving her physical compliments. Instead say you like her necklace or bracelet or something. Stay away from you have the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen. She's heard that a thousand times.
The most crucial element that ties it all together is this: don't worry. The less worried you are, the more you will naturally excell in not just these 3 areas, but social interaction as a whole. The best way to interact with people is to think about it as little as possible when you're doing it. If you want to think about something, think reaffirming statements. Thinking "just relax," "if I mess up, no biggie," "just breathe and have a good time," etcetera. In fact, when you try to control specifically your actions, you will always fail. The truth is that if you learn to steer your mind, the actions you desire will come naturally. If you want to be more smooth in social interactions, use not only the above affirmations, but also identity statements, such as "I am a charismatic person" and "I am naturally relaxed when communicating with others". It may seem unusual at first, but that's because it's new and your brain isn't sure how to feel about a new identity. Just do it like crazy, and your brain will get the memo and you will become the person you want to be.
@@the1337fleet I got you bro. You're a champ, and you're gonna end up with the girl of your dreams, easy. And don't argue with me on this one, I'm right. You're a beast and you just have to accept it. Just get yourself out there and let it all fall into place
Relax but not too much. I equate it to playing 8 Ball pool for money. Worry too much and you mess up. Don’t worry enough and you scratch. You must find that focused coolness zone and channel your positive energy. It’s not easy but it gets easier with practice. Makes sense to me but I may be a head case.
I think you're right about this, I lowkey did this a couple times in life without knowing at first, with my confidence at an all time low and being insecure when it comes to my smile, I found myself repeating in my mind during most of my daily interactions "I'm that guy" or "relax bruv" or I would sing something to boost my confidence a little, and there was always a positive outcome. I do still struggle to this day with women and relationships and have been told that I'm not a bad looking guy, so I'm just putting trust in the father above and myself. There's this very beautiful woman at work and I call her the "most beautiful woman on the island" and I believed she loved it because she gives me the sweetest smile and wave when she sees me. I don't talk to her much and I keep my distance, plus she has a bf, but every now and again I try to interact a little with her. Nervousness gets the best of me sometimes, like yesterday I saw her held her hand and asked how she was and she smiled and replied but pulled a way 1st, but I didn't think too much into it seeing as workmates were around, I told her I had something to tell her but chickened out and missed my chance. I could message what I wanted to say to her since she did give me her number a little while back but like I said...we don't talk, and I'm just going to wait for the right time in person...maybe today or Sunday, we'll see. Sorry for my rant guys. Just wanted to share that there's still hope guys because I consider this woman way out my league....just don't over think things boys
I have hold myself from talking complete strangers because am so curious about the human conditions from all walks of life to the point I'll say anything to anyone doesn't matter the gender and as far as confidence goes I have enough to fuel 10 worlds and key to me you can't ever be afraid to be who you really are or ever be afraid to speak up when necessary ...
She is describing a psychopath. Psychopaths do not feel emotions. They don't get nervous. They will suck up all the air in the room. They insist on having the last word. In fact, if you talk, they will have to say something after you do. They make everything about themselves. If a girl wants to dive into that 'stuff' great. If you are not a psychopath, or perhaps a narcissist (very similar symptoms), you are not going to out-psychopath or out-narcissist a psychopath or a narcissist. The best thing to do, find your own circle of interests, pursue your interests. Then you are a kind of quasi-leader in that circle. No matter how nerdish, geekish, or whatever, some girl will wonder into that circle, and she'll be intrigued with you for who you are. Also, always just be kind, fun loving, and considerate and you will do just fine. You do not want to compete with a psychopath to get a girl that is attracted to psychopaths because they never get nervous, and always seem confident these are people that also have no moral code. You want a girl who is smart enough, wise enough, to look around and realize there are things that should be valued, and sucking up all the air in the room for the purposes of denying air to others is not a virtue worth associating with. If you are in a room with these kinds of psychopaths, then you are in the wrong room. If you are in a room with psychopaths and girls wanting to get with the biggest psychopath, you are definitely in the wrong room. Thank your lucky stars if the psychopath walks off with the girl you first thought was cute. She is a liability. Find the smart sensible girl and have a conversation with her.
😄 you made some really good points there. I have seen that phenomenon myself but I don't think Marni is talkin about how to attract those kind of bimbos or fools. I think she's just trying to give some friendly advice to help the shy and awkward guy to get a girlfriend who is fairly normal.
Perhaps, behaviorally speaking there may be a similarity, but internally different things might be happening between psychopaths who behave in this way and non-psychopaths who behave similarly. Plus, she’s just listing what women find attractive irrespective of whether the person is a psycho or not, so just because psychopaths can exhibit these behaviors doesn’t automatically discount this claim as to what women find attractive. I do think you bring up a good point though in saying that a sophisticated woman is someone who can spot a genuinely good man versus one who is pretending.
Went to a gentlemen’s club & got hit in the eye w/ a stiletto trying to make it rain. she didn’t have the right size & flew off. Now it’s case of if the shoe’s fit you must acquit vs if the shoes doesn’t fit you must quit.
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s. It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others. But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm. Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend. So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel. I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life. And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction. Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not? Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't. I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long. Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction. Guys, men, have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk and stand a certain way, breathe a certain way, have a certain lifestyle, because leading or taking the lead is something that is behavior based, skill based, think a certain way, and many more things, that i either don't know or forgot. Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating. One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard. So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
I totally agre with you that us guys have it much harder when it comes to dating as we are the ones being told that we need to shape up and have to do all the chasing. Good on you for meeting someone. The reason why women spout that nonsense about men having it easier is because they are the women that wasted their twenties running around after the hot bad boys. When they turn 30, they want to settle down and get married and of course none of those guys are interested. The problem is that they are now doing it on a timeframe as they want to be married and have a baby by the time they are in their mid thirties and they have left it very late (it takes 2 years now to arrange a wedding if you want a decent venue and of course they have to meet the man and have a courtship first). As men don't have the same biological drive as we remain fertile pretty much for our whole lives we are not under the same pressure and often we have gotten so used to being single that we are more concerned about dating the wrong woman than not dating at all. I have been on dates where it was a like a job interview and dates were the woman straight up told me she wanted me to commit fully to her on the first date as she wanted to settle down. Of course there were no second dates in those scenarios. While it really sucks for us that we are always the ones being told we have to change and adapt in order to get a woman, it does kind of put us in good stead later on down the road. The problem for women seems to be that they don't think they have any responsibility and don't have to change and so when they are in their thirties they find themselves being aged out of the casual dating market and are unable to offer guys who do want to settle down what they want and so just become bitter and resentful.
At times I could relate to those feelings too. Many of us were late bloomers on this sexual Marketplace. There were times I resented I was alone. But you just need to move on and get into the present. You can't change the past and what happened the best you can do is learn from it and learn from your mistakes. Feeling bitter about it it's just a waste of time and emotional energy. Yeah just seem right now that all these relationship counselors seem to say that it is always the men that have to act a certain way, say certain things, have particular postures, even breathe the right way and so on. At times it seems like we're the ones that it's demanded that makes the adjustments, but maybe that's because there are more men trying to find out how to pick up women than there are women asking how to get and keep a man and what they are doing wrong and need to change. This might be true especially for the women after 30. So it may seem that women have it easier but that may be because men might be more bold about asking for advice. I don't know I'm just speculating
I remember that feeling. I never had a "real" relationship until I was over 30. Since then I've had several. My best advice, never ask to move in and never offer for them to move in. And keep watching Marni.
@fev9034 yeah I get bitter over being a late bloomer because I feel like I didn't grow up having a normal youth because of that, hate how I didn't get to have a relationship around the time most people do. Even though most people will say don't compare yourself to others or they will say comparison is the thief of Joy yes I've heard that phrase thousands or millions of times already or some people will say that everyone's timeline is different. But it's no doubt always been part of the human psyche to wish you got to experience certain things in life before you actually did
@marnikynris so do you still hold the opinion that actions and behaviours that can be perceived as sexual harassment are fine when they come from an attractive man, but 'creepy' when they come from a man who is not (as you said in of your earlier podcast)?
This Three things are important for man. Being shy is normal habit for man. For me before conversation I need more space and beautifully eye contact and touch softly. Beginning of speaking need to smoothly and gently into deep understand each other take time to be relaxing. After catch up and politely conversation make man wonderful 😊 what I like to do. Catch up smoothly or gently explain my desire openion. Bswell😊
But what if you're actually interested in a specific woman because you legitimately care for/about her; and don't just want any woman who will add another notch to your bed post? Which is basically what you're saying that guys who can simply move on to the next girl/woman without a care or thought are doing.
That's because in your mind you've made a movie of you and her in which she reacts and acts in a desirable form. But that's not reality. I have a girl in my life, we go out 2 times a month and have fun.... In former times I'd "love" her, we're in contact as friends but never more. After years she had enough from her "choices" and decided she wants me!! At that time my ltr has ended and she gave all her interest to me. After some months i indeed feel sparks again ... and i give it a try.... and guess what.... For me it isn't like in my former dreams😑 and it was over for me in 2 weeks..... Now we are still friends, she hope for more, but i had experienced!!!! THAT MY FILM ISN'T REALITY... So my experience is, DON'T imagine something, as long you've made REAL experiences with that girl. Your film might be a good film, but it's not reality. I was very disappointed when i find it out with this girl/woman but i managed that we stay good friends.
I know exactly what you mean. I am looking for a meaningful conmnection too and not just a notch on my bed post too. However, her advice is right. One of the best pieces of advice I was ever given was that if you want to be able to speak to a girl, go out and practice speaking to any woman that you can (woman you are attracted you, women you aren't, old ladies, etc). Once you are used to chatting to women, then it is so much easier to talk to a woman you really like. If you fixate on one woman you really like, you get so nervous and so fixated on saying the right thing that you will likely mess it up. It all starts with a conversation. If two people can't enjoy simply chatting to one another, then nothing else will ever happen. Anything you can do to make it more relaxed will make it easier and hopefully you will be able to have that connection.
@@thomasdee1980 great advice! You stole my thunder. You took the words right out of my mouth. I wanted to give the same advice. It really does work and helps. The more women you talk to regardless of who they are or what they look like and excetera the easier it becomes to talk to an attractive woman that you do like because you already used to talking to women about just anything.
I've tried having confidence, but I still get nowhere! It's hard to keep up any sort of confidence level when women will have nothing to do with you at all.
Pardon me for interrupting, but are you talking about players (you know, the guys who are 6 feet, have 6 packs and make 6 figures) or the invisible, decent men (80 -90% of the male population) who are basically ignored by women? I sure like to just how many of your male audience has had the success in finding a permanent female partner using your advice. Maybe you should do a poll on that?
Life is short, and will feel, upon reflection, as it flew right by. Why? REGRET!!! Every time you convince yourself, "next time", just brings your lonely ass that much closer to sticking your foot into your final resting place.😢😮 Don't be that guy. I have seen very few women that were untouchable. And that was only because I knew that financially I'd be broke or divorced. Be aggressive going after your goals. But be polite and respectful while doing so. Good Luck
You can be as confident as you want, but if you're short, poor, and not handsome, while you'll have female friends, none of them will be attracted to you.
My greatest failure in dating was not having confidence and what I found out was that no woman is going to tell me to be confident or teach me confidence because in the end confidence is an inner game. You either are confident or not but if you are not you will be steamrolled in the game of love because without confidence you are a big loser.
You are wonderfully optimistic, but shyness is not a habit, it's a personality trait. Small talk is difficult for many people, including Mr. D'Arcy. I agree you have to move on when someone obviously doesn't like you, but for each women who is not interested, there are another hundred women who are also not interested. I specialise in this.
Yes, but practically, it's something that can be changed, like a learned or developed habit (but YES, it's NOT a habit exactly.) As someone who has been shy, I will say, it is a personality trait that can be modified. A professional performer for decades, I had tp learn to overcome "shyness", by assimilating some of my performing into my day to day. Eventually, I realized I could be outgoing *If I wanted to be*, though people DO tire me out, and I often need to recharge. (This might be perceived as shy, but it's not, just like people who feel they have to chill after work, which I rarely feel.)
If you label yourself "shy" then you already lost the battle before it started. Too many people label themselves and use it as an excuse. I'm shy too but I learned how to make a switch inside my head to temporarily turn that off. Nothing is truly innate and impossible to break out of.
😂 I know how you feel. Been-there-done-that. It's that mindset which sets the Trap. You are thinking about the hundred that won't be interested instead of the hundred that will be interested. Even if it's only 10 that will be interested think about that instead of the hundred that will not. But you're right about shyness, I also think it's a personality trait instead of a habit. I think it's due to either being burned before or just being unsure of yourself around women because maybe you haven't been around that many in the past. A pretty face can make you forget at times that they're just human beings like you are. They can be mesmerizing.
I am willing to bet Marni's conversation about the farmers market was filled with laughter and cheeky comments, push and pull, and some amount of tension. Not everyone, especially shy people with confidence issues are not going to be able to pull this off just by talking about what they find interesting or are passionate about. Rather, it will be a friendly conversation a woman walks away from feeling no interest. Not the best advice from Marni.
Marni I have an idea about a future video for you. My wife is a Spanish speaker and I am an English speaker. That means we could not at first communicate with each other very well. I was thinking our relationship can not work. However, She was very attracted to me and I was very attracted to her. Long story short, I think attraction is the the key. We are still married and she does speak better English and I also speak Spanish too. Thoughts?
you sound salty. Maybe you should work out and make more money. Might help to change your attitude while you're at it. Idk how you're going to get taller though.
Or the really sorry guy who is constantly getting into trouble with the law, who can't keep a job, and who backstabs and steals from his friends who the girls think is good looking. He attracts the girls who want to change and reform a man. The kind of women who want to save a man.
We don’t feel comfortable because we are so used to rejection by the “pretty” women, and we don’t wanna come off as “creepy” or the “asshole”. 🤷♂️ I don’t mind being disliked, but what I don’t like is when I get passed on for the dbag who they say they don’t like or want . Makes zero sense 🤦♂️😂
Hey Marni, I wanted to get you credit on the Anson Belt purchase I want to make. I entered your /marni tag but nada. Same at checkout, no way to give you a plug so I stopped. What's up? By the way, you look amazing today!
These are great tips, but when you think about them... if a man does these 3 things well, isn't there also a good chance he is just very good at dating. As in.. he practiced a lot.
I’ve purchased several wing girl method products over the past couple of years and I’ve had 0% improvement in my interactions with women and yes, I’ve tried to apply the techniques explained in the material. Some men aren’t meant to be good with women. Sorry to say it guys.
I purchased the F Formula and How to Become a Man Women Want and they are so long it's like memorizing a couple of 150 page books. I got my money back. It's funny this video is about confident guys and how Women find those guys sexy, then she'll do a video about how Women like shy guys. I don't know. Read 3% man and lister to Bobby Rio. Much better in my opinion.
@@bratwurstmitbiryani I purchased the F Formula, Become a Man Women Want, How to Master Online Dating, The Approach Blueprint, The Banter Guide and a Masterclass. Don’t know why I kept purchasing programs. I guess I was clinging to false hope. I tried writing Marnie about my experiences but she wrote me back and said “I need to get my head straight and go retry the material again.” Whatever that means. Idk🤷♂️
I’m shy. I have phobias. I have to take drugs in order to be confident. I would however be confident enough to ask you what is that black thing between your mams in this video
Back in the day I certainly looked better, but wasn't as confident as I am now at 50 by far (very unfortunately, but let's not digress 😉). Meanwhile, talking to & 'flirting' with women has become sort of a 'second nature'. I even watch myself in order to holding back when it comes to so called flirting and (subtle) touching, for it's become an almost unconscious proces. I.e. (real) confidence (eventually) should come naturally, without trying (too hard). 🤔
I'm a woman watching out of curiosity and I don't agree with the Taking up Space in conversation. I feel a man who can listen to be extremely attractive. A man who just takes up space talking about himself is a complete turn off.
Yea but how about no matter what you just aren’t good at talking in front of people no matter how much you practice. Charisma can’t be taught, none of it. You either have it or you don’t. Doubt lack of confidence is a habit
When I was young I used to wonder how these loser guys got more women than I got. Over the many years of failure I found that it really isn’t what you are but what you think you are. Women are more attracted to the janitor who thinks he’s all that than the lab technician who knows in the grand scheme of things that he basically knows nothing. As for being able to accept rejection, it all depends on how long your rejection streak runs. I’ve gone at least 5 years without a date several times in my life and YES it feels like you’re never going to meet anybody! Finally I agree with the “say anything you like” attitude. It might not get you a girl you want but at least you can root out ALL the idiot chicks out there (which is most of the single women).
Or whatever Marni does a video with some advice it's always nice to write down notes. Yes, I take notes whatever Marni drops a video on anything. As for your program goes that is a pass.
They dont laugh you just say you need to stop sucking that lemon daring if the wind changes you will stay looking like that you do a big laugh and walk away laughing
Such shallow sayings sound nice but demonstrate false equivalency. Women aren't fish and she has a good amount of insight as to what she's talking about. Lol
Your channel is great so dont think im nocking you you Can't make someone confident it comes with time age and practice you need to stop worrying about what your saying and what is the worst thing that can happen there is a billion woman in the world all of them gorgeous
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Quite on us guys please? Your preaching prosperity Were is a guy you can show is marryied from your system of dating?
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*Confidence isn’t just about how you carry yourself - it’s about knowing your value, staying calm under pressure, and respecting others without seeking validation. That’s what sets confident men apart.*
You know what women really want, the guy they actually can not have. That guy is on his own path, focusing on his goals, career, passions, sport... This guy is not really interested in a relationship, but very good around women, being genuinely confident. A bit like a wild Mustang. It's very hard to hang on, and this guy will say "NO" if he has other obligations, no matter how good-looking the woman is. He will not reschedule his appointments for any woman. It's totally the opposite of a simp. He also does not need female validation cause he knows his own worth. He takes care of himself, fitness, and sports. Such a guy is irresistible.
I've never heard a workaholic called a wild mustang. Interesting.
As a confident man. These 3 things are very accurate!! Sometimes I watch certain titles just to see how accurate the ‘expert’ is. This is Spot on!
This reinforces the importance of friends. Having options, or the belief of options, gives people baseline confidence. Just like when making friends, being shy and afraid actually repulses people more than it evokes sympathy. People and women will like you more if you are disagreeable than if they think you are hiding something.
The opposite of shy is assertive. You are saying confident, but you are describing assertiveness. And assertiveness is not a virtue. This is why there are so many men who are players. You can easily fake assertiveness.
You are not being a good wing-girl, because you are hooking your buddy up with a girl that is going to make his life a misery, because most women who want an assertive man, are players just like the men. They enjoy the challenge of breaking men.
When you cannot think of what to say to a woman you just met, think of the surroundings and ask something more deep about her. Always works, every woman likes to talk about herself. And you get points for listening. And one more thing. Let's say she is a perfect 10, never say to her she is beautiful without adding something more 'interesting'. based on what you observe. She is fed up about this simp atitude.
Love this
@@marnikinrysjust you were right, all others Just don't care about sensible decisions confident Men Take in any conversation are Best in Logical Points of Truth.
Yes avoid giving her physical compliments. Instead say you like her necklace or bracelet or something. Stay away from you have the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen. She's heard that a thousand times.
The most crucial element that ties it all together is this: don't worry. The less worried you are, the more you will naturally excell in not just these 3 areas, but social interaction as a whole. The best way to interact with people is to think about it as little as possible when you're doing it. If you want to think about something, think reaffirming statements. Thinking "just relax," "if I mess up, no biggie," "just breathe and have a good time," etcetera.
In fact, when you try to control specifically your actions, you will always fail. The truth is that if you learn to steer your mind, the actions you desire will come naturally. If you want to be more smooth in social interactions, use not only the above affirmations, but also identity statements, such as "I am a charismatic person" and "I am naturally relaxed when communicating with others". It may seem unusual at first, but that's because it's new and your brain isn't sure how to feel about a new identity. Just do it like crazy, and your brain will get the memo and you will become the person you want to be.
Interesting advice. I'll try to keep this in mind. Thanks for sharing
@@the1337fleet I got you bro. You're a champ, and you're gonna end up with the girl of your dreams, easy. And don't argue with me on this one, I'm right. You're a beast and you just have to accept it. Just get yourself out there and let it all fall into place
@@DistortedShelf0 I just have to accept it... Thank you man, this really means a lot! I appreciate the kind words
Relax but not too much. I equate it to playing 8 Ball pool for money. Worry too much and you mess up. Don’t worry enough and you scratch. You must find that focused coolness zone and channel your positive energy. It’s not easy but it gets easier with practice. Makes sense to me but I may be a head case.
I think you're right about this, I lowkey did this a couple times in life without knowing at first, with my confidence at an all time low and being insecure when it comes to my smile, I found myself repeating in my mind during most of my daily interactions "I'm that guy" or "relax bruv" or I would sing something to boost my confidence a little, and there was always a positive outcome. I do still struggle to this day with women and relationships and have been told that I'm not a bad looking guy, so I'm just putting trust in the father above and myself.
There's this very beautiful woman at work and I call her the "most beautiful woman on the island" and I believed she loved it because she gives me the sweetest smile and wave when she sees me. I don't talk to her much and I keep my distance, plus she has a bf, but every now and again I try to interact a little with her. Nervousness gets the best of me sometimes, like yesterday I saw her held her hand and asked how she was and she smiled and replied but pulled a way 1st, but I didn't think too much into it seeing as workmates were around, I told her I had something to tell her but chickened out and missed my chance. I could message what I wanted to say to her since she did give me her number a little while back but like I said...we don't talk, and I'm just going to wait for the right time in person...maybe today or Sunday, we'll see.
Sorry for my rant guys. Just wanted to share that there's still hope guys because I consider this woman way out my league....just don't over think things boys
Thank you, wing girl!😊
That one of the best tops I have seen in a long time. Kudos
Marni you are WEARING that top!
I don't really need the advice I just like watching marni talk 😅
Charisma Gold. Thx Marni!
"Talk as much as you like" just not about yourself boys stay humble
Love your videos, Marni. Keep up the great work.
She is so mesmerizing. Advice is great too.
I have hold myself from talking complete strangers because am so curious about the human conditions from all walks of life to the point I'll say anything to anyone doesn't matter the gender and as far as confidence goes I have enough to fuel 10 worlds and key to me you can't ever be afraid to be who you really are or ever be afraid to speak up when necessary ...
Why are you watching this video then? 😂
Love your personality Marni❤. Thanks for the video😊
There is a difference between confidence positive, and arrogance negative. Line is blurred
Thanks for this Knowledge it will help me
Marni you are the best
Great advice
She is describing a psychopath. Psychopaths do not feel emotions. They don't get nervous. They will suck up all the air in the room. They insist on having the last word. In fact, if you talk, they will have to say something after you do. They make everything about themselves. If a girl wants to dive into that 'stuff' great. If you are not a psychopath, or perhaps a narcissist (very similar symptoms), you are not going to out-psychopath or out-narcissist a psychopath or a narcissist. The best thing to do, find your own circle of interests, pursue your interests. Then you are a kind of quasi-leader in that circle. No matter how nerdish, geekish, or whatever, some girl will wonder into that circle, and she'll be intrigued with you for who you are. Also, always just be kind, fun loving, and considerate and you will do just fine. You do not want to compete with a psychopath to get a girl that is attracted to psychopaths because they never get nervous, and always seem confident these are people that also have no moral code. You want a girl who is smart enough, wise enough, to look around and realize there are things that should be valued, and sucking up all the air in the room for the purposes of denying air to others is not a virtue worth associating with. If you are in a room with these kinds of psychopaths, then you are in the wrong room. If you are in a room with psychopaths and girls wanting to get with the biggest psychopath, you are definitely in the wrong room. Thank your lucky stars if the psychopath walks off with the girl you first thought was cute. She is a liability. Find the smart sensible girl and have a conversation with her.
😄 you made some really good points there. I have seen that phenomenon myself but I don't think Marni is talkin about how to attract those kind of bimbos or fools. I think she's just trying to give some friendly advice to help the shy and awkward guy to get a girlfriend who is fairly normal.
Perhaps, behaviorally speaking there may be a similarity, but internally different things might be happening between psychopaths who behave in this way and non-psychopaths who behave similarly. Plus, she’s just listing what women find attractive irrespective of whether the person is a psycho or not, so just because psychopaths can exhibit these behaviors doesn’t automatically discount this claim as to what women find attractive. I do think you bring up a good point though in saying that a sophisticated woman is someone who can spot a genuinely good man versus one who is pretending.
Went to a gentlemen’s club & got hit in the eye w/ a stiletto trying to make it rain. she didn’t have the right size & flew off. Now it’s case of if the shoe’s fit you must acquit vs if the shoes doesn’t fit you must quit.
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s.
It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others.
But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm.
Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend.
So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel.
I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life.
And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction.
Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not?
Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't.
I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long.
Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction.
Guys, men, have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk and stand a certain way, breathe a certain way, have a certain lifestyle, because leading or taking the lead is something that is behavior based, skill based, think a certain way, and many more things, that i either don't know or forgot.
Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating.
One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard.
So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
Stay in that victim mentality! Stay an incel! More woman for me 😅
I totally agre with you that us guys have it much harder when it comes to dating as we are the ones being told that we need to shape up and have to do all the chasing. Good on you for meeting someone.
The reason why women spout that nonsense about men having it easier is because they are the women that wasted their twenties running around after the hot bad boys. When they turn 30, they want to settle down and get married and of course none of those guys are interested. The problem is that they are now doing it on a timeframe as they want to be married and have a baby by the time they are in their mid thirties and they have left it very late (it takes 2 years now to arrange a wedding if you want a decent venue and of course they have to meet the man and have a courtship first). As men don't have the same biological drive as we remain fertile pretty much for our whole lives we are not under the same pressure and often we have gotten so used to being single that we are more concerned about dating the wrong woman than not dating at all.
I have been on dates where it was a like a job interview and dates were the woman straight up told me she wanted me to commit fully to her on the first date as she wanted to settle down. Of course there were no second dates in those scenarios.
While it really sucks for us that we are always the ones being told we have to change and adapt in order to get a woman, it does kind of put us in good stead later on down the road. The problem for women seems to be that they don't think they have any responsibility and don't have to change and so when they are in their thirties they find themselves being aged out of the casual dating market and are unable to offer guys who do want to settle down what they want and so just become bitter and resentful.
At times I could relate to those feelings too. Many of us were late bloomers on this sexual Marketplace. There were times I resented I was alone. But you just need to move on and get into the present. You can't change the past and what happened the best you can do is learn from it and learn from your mistakes. Feeling bitter about it it's just a waste of time and emotional energy. Yeah just seem right now that all these relationship counselors seem to say that it is always the men that have to act a certain way, say certain things, have particular postures, even breathe the right way and so on. At times it seems like we're the ones that it's demanded that makes the adjustments, but maybe that's because there are more men trying to find out how to pick up women than there are women asking how to get and keep a man and what they are doing wrong and need to change. This might be true especially for the women after 30. So it may seem that women have it easier but that may be because men might be more bold about asking for advice. I don't know I'm just speculating
I remember that feeling. I never had a "real" relationship until I was over 30. Since then I've had several. My best advice, never ask to move in and never offer for them to move in. And keep watching Marni.
@fev9034 yeah I get bitter over being a late bloomer because I feel like I didn't grow up having a normal youth because of that, hate how I didn't get to have a relationship around the time most people do.
Even though most people will say don't compare yourself to others or they will say comparison is the thief of Joy yes I've heard that phrase thousands or millions of times already or some people will say that everyone's timeline is different.
But it's no doubt always been part of the human psyche to wish you got to experience certain things in life before you actually did
I love the top you chose for this clip...
@marnikynris so do you still hold the opinion that actions and behaviours that can be perceived as sexual harassment are fine when they come from an attractive man, but 'creepy' when they come from a man who is not (as you said in of your earlier podcast)?
Lol
The 3 secrets:
1. Man Spread
2. BS small talk
3. DGAF
10% of the time these work 100% of the time…but only if you are good looking to begin with.
Yeah nothing works in reality
First comment- good stuff Marni
I work in sales. A lot of what you cover here can be applied to cold calling.
Is this really you, Marny?
@@Official-marnikinrys
I am alwayswith you
Thankingfor your best coaching
Beautiful Marni.
Hi Marni , love all your advice and I have learned so much! I am curious, what is the dark spot on your chest? Is it a tattoo?
Ok so I love this woman her advice is gold
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@@Official-marnikinrys ok
This Three things are important for man.
Being shy is normal habit for man. For me before conversation I need more space and beautifully eye contact and touch softly. Beginning of speaking need to smoothly and gently into deep understand each other take time to be relaxing. After catch up and politely conversation make man wonderful 😊 what I like to do. Catch up smoothly or gently explain my desire openion. Bswell😊
6 foot plus, 100k muscular build plus a nice car, every woman will be attracted.
This is actually solid job interview advice. 😂
Ty! Love this channel. 💕
:-)
But what if you're actually interested in a specific woman because you legitimately care for/about her; and don't just want any woman who will add another notch to your bed post? Which is basically what you're saying that guys who can simply move on to the next girl/woman without a care or thought are doing.
That's because in your mind you've made a movie of you and her in which she reacts and acts in a desirable form.
But that's not reality.
I have a girl in my life, we go out 2 times a month and have fun.... In former times I'd "love" her, we're in contact as friends but never more. After years she had enough from her "choices" and decided she wants me!!
At that time my ltr has ended and she gave all her interest to me. After some months i indeed feel sparks again ... and i give it a try.... and guess what.... For me it isn't like in my former dreams😑 and it was over for me in 2 weeks.....
Now we are still friends, she hope for more, but i had experienced!!!! THAT MY FILM ISN'T REALITY...
So my experience is, DON'T imagine something, as long you've made REAL experiences with that girl.
Your film might be a good film, but it's not reality.
I was very disappointed when i find it out with this girl/woman but i managed that we stay good friends.
I know exactly what you mean. I am looking for a meaningful conmnection too and not just a notch on my bed post too. However, her advice is right. One of the best pieces of advice I was ever given was that if you want to be able to speak to a girl, go out and practice speaking to any woman that you can (woman you are attracted you, women you aren't, old ladies, etc). Once you are used to chatting to women, then it is so much easier to talk to a woman you really like. If you fixate on one woman you really like, you get so nervous and so fixated on saying the right thing that you will likely mess it up. It all starts with a conversation. If two people can't enjoy simply chatting to one another, then nothing else will ever happen. Anything you can do to make it more relaxed will make it easier and hopefully you will be able to have that connection.
@@thomasdee1980 great advice! You stole my thunder. You took the words right out of my mouth. I wanted to give the same advice. It really does work and helps. The more women you talk to regardless of who they are or what they look like and excetera the easier it becomes to talk to an attractive woman that you do like because you already used to talking to women about just anything.
@@thomasdee1980 Good point. Looking at it in that context I can see her point.
Love this post and thread. I hope things work out for you Jason, you sound like a solid guy.
Marni. Your videos are the best❤
I could listen to the way you say button all day. “Buddon”. Hilarious
Marni is 🔥
luv ya marni
I've tried having confidence, but I still get nowhere! It's hard to keep up any sort of confidence level when women will have nothing to do with you at all.
Pardon me for interrupting, but are you talking about players (you know, the guys who are 6 feet, have 6 packs and make 6 figures) or the invisible, decent men (80 -90% of the male population) who are basically ignored by women?
I sure like to just how many of your male audience has had the success in finding a permanent female partner using your advice. Maybe you should do a poll on that?
Life is short, and will feel, upon reflection, as it flew right by. Why? REGRET!!!
Every time you convince yourself, "next time", just brings your lonely ass that much closer to sticking your foot into your final resting place.😢😮 Don't be that guy. I have seen very few women that were untouchable. And that was only because I knew that financially I'd be broke or divorced. Be aggressive going after your goals. But be polite and respectful while doing so. Good Luck
Useful suggestions
Thank you Marnie
@@Official-marnikinrys oh
You can be as confident as you want, but if you're short, poor, and not handsome, while you'll have female friends, none of them will be attracted to you.
My greatest failure in dating was not having confidence and what I found out was that no woman is going to tell me to be confident or teach me confidence because in the end confidence is an inner game. You either are confident or not but if you are not you will be steamrolled in the game of love because without confidence you are a big loser.
Damn,🤔 Im crazy about someone who is completely out of my league,But there, I said it.🤔
@@Official-marnikinrys and your definitely "NOT" her.😳🤔
You are wonderfully optimistic, but shyness is not a habit, it's a personality trait. Small talk is difficult for many people, including Mr. D'Arcy. I agree you have to move on when someone obviously doesn't like you, but for each women who is not interested, there are another hundred women who are also not interested. I specialise in this.
Exactly, shyness doesn’t equate to confidence. Confident people do take up space.
Yes, but practically, it's something that can be changed, like a learned or developed habit (but YES, it's NOT a habit exactly.) As someone who has been shy, I will say, it is a personality trait that can be modified. A professional performer for decades, I had tp learn to overcome "shyness", by assimilating some of my performing into my day to day.
Eventually, I realized I could be outgoing *If I wanted to be*, though people DO tire me out, and I often need to recharge. (This might be perceived as shy, but it's not, just like people who feel they have to chill after work, which I rarely feel.)
If you label yourself "shy" then you already lost the battle before it started.
Too many people label themselves and use it as an excuse. I'm shy too but I learned how to make a switch inside my head to temporarily turn that off.
Nothing is truly innate and impossible to break out of.
😂 I know how you feel. Been-there-done-that. It's that mindset which sets the Trap. You are thinking about the hundred that won't be interested instead of the hundred that will be interested. Even if it's only 10 that will be interested think about that instead of the hundred that will not. But you're right about shyness, I also think it's a personality trait instead of a habit. I think it's due to either being burned before or just being unsure of yourself around women because maybe you haven't been around that many in the past. A pretty face can make you forget at times that they're just human beings like you are. They can be mesmerizing.
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I am willing to bet Marni's conversation about the farmers market was filled with laughter and cheeky comments, push and pull, and some amount of tension. Not everyone, especially shy people with confidence issues are not going to be able to pull this off just by talking about what they find interesting or are passionate about. Rather, it will be a friendly conversation a woman walks away from feeling no interest. Not the best advice from Marni.
Marni I have an idea about a future video for you. My wife is a Spanish speaker and I am an English speaker. That means we could not at first communicate with each other very well. I was thinking our relationship can not work. However, She was very attracted to me and I was very attracted to her. Long story short, I think attraction is the the key. We are still married and she does speak better English and I also speak Spanish too. Thoughts?
@alfreyost7972 Dude its the perfect time to bond learning and make the bond stronger she teaches you Spanish you teach her English !!
Just be over 6 foot, muscular build, and make 6 figures a year. That's all.
you sound salty. Maybe you should work out and make more money. Might help to change your attitude while you're at it. Idk how you're going to get taller though.
Or the really sorry guy who is constantly getting into trouble with the law, who can't keep a job, and who backstabs and steals from his friends who the girls think is good looking. He attracts the girls who want to change and reform a man. The kind of women who want to save a man.
Massive hog doesn't hurt either.
Women might think they need these things to be happy, but that’s not true.
Facts 😅
With Ryan Gosling being literally me, I was curious what you had to say
We don’t feel comfortable because we are so used to rejection by the “pretty” women, and we don’t wanna come off as “creepy” or the “asshole”. 🤷♂️
I don’t mind being disliked, but what I don’t like is when I get passed on for the dbag who they say they don’t like or want . Makes zero sense 🤦♂️😂
The first advise is golden..
Take up space- am always better with women each week I listen to Marni ..
Proud to be a Marni-holic
Just look like Ryan Gosling, got it.
5:52 ...they do not care. thats why.😏
Thanxxx❤
Hey Marni, I wanted to get you credit on the Anson Belt purchase I want to make. I entered your /marni tag but nada. Same at checkout, no way to give you a plug so I stopped. What's up? By the way, you look amazing today!
These men that you talk about have no problem getting women, aren't they just players Why would you want to be with a player?
That is a good question because in many cases that's true.
Guys need to act the same way around pretty girls that they do around ugly girls. Guys are not intimidated by ugly girls.
here's the best deal is most women can stop playing head game's cuz real men don't want that and if we have to chase or purse u is it worth our time
These are great tips, but when you think about them... if a man does these 3 things well, isn't there also a good chance he is just very good at dating. As in.. he practiced a lot.
I’ve purchased several wing girl method products over the past couple of years and I’ve had 0% improvement in my interactions with women and yes, I’ve tried to apply the techniques explained in the material. Some men aren’t meant to be good with women. Sorry to say it guys.
I purchased the F Formula and How to Become a Man Women Want and they are so long it's like memorizing a couple of 150 page books. I got my money back. It's funny this video is about confident guys and how Women find those guys sexy, then she'll do a video about how Women like shy guys. I don't know. Read 3% man and lister to Bobby Rio. Much better in my opinion.
@@ChristianCMC I’ll give it a try. Thanks
Lmao, how many? How did you not learn your lesson after the first one?
@@bratwurstmitbiryani I got my money back.
@@bratwurstmitbiryani I purchased the F Formula, Become a Man Women Want, How to Master Online Dating, The Approach Blueprint, The Banter Guide and a Masterclass. Don’t know why I kept purchasing programs. I guess I was clinging to false hope. I tried writing Marnie about my experiences but she wrote me back and said “I need to get my head straight and go retry the material again.” Whatever that means. Idk🤷♂️
I’m shy. I have phobias. I have to take drugs in order to be confident. I would however be confident enough to ask you what is that black thing between your mams in this video
I know someone that never shuts up. He has to dominate the conversation (That's wrong).
Back in the day I certainly looked better, but wasn't as confident as I am now at 50 by far (very unfortunately, but let's not digress 😉).
Meanwhile, talking to & 'flirting' with women has become sort of a 'second nature'.
I even watch myself in order to holding back when it comes to so called flirting and (subtle) touching, for it's become an almost unconscious proces.
I.e. (real) confidence (eventually) should come naturally, without trying (too hard). 🤔
We also need to see this applied IN THE FIELD and by VERY AVERAGE Joes
Hey marni are u reachable for one on ones…
I'm a woman watching out of curiosity and I don't agree with the Taking up Space in conversation. I feel a man who can listen to be extremely attractive. A man who just takes up space talking about himself is a complete turn off.
I can’t do any of these 3 things.
Give US a like if you think Marni should give up and QUITE!
Can someone summarize the three habbits?
Didn't Mystery cover all this back in 2007?
Where are you ?
Yea but how about no matter what you just aren’t good at talking in front of people no matter how much you practice. Charisma can’t be taught, none of it. You either have it or you don’t. Doubt lack of confidence is a habit
When I was young I used to wonder how these loser guys got more women than I got. Over the many years of failure I found that it really isn’t what you are but what you think you are. Women are more attracted to the janitor who thinks he’s all that than the lab technician who knows in the grand scheme of things that he basically knows nothing. As for being able to accept rejection, it all depends on how long your rejection streak runs. I’ve gone at least 5 years without a date several times in my life and YES it feels like you’re never going to meet anybody! Finally I agree with the “say anything you like” attitude. It might not get you a girl you want but at least you can root out ALL the idiot chicks out there (which is most of the single women).
@@Official-marnikinrys Well it’s not French. Le Chat?
It is funny how the number of these secrets varies from 1 to about 12, ha ha ha.
A Truly confident Man would Never recommend you to anyone.
So Marni, there's this farmer's market down the road from my castle here in Barcelona... :^)
Their mind goes blank bc subconsciously they know she’ll be the death of them.
I am confident, so far every chick has disliked me. 🤣
Or whatever Marni does a video with some advice it's always nice to write down notes. Yes, I take notes whatever Marni drops a video on anything. As for your program goes that is a pass.
Notes are all you need!
@@marnikinrys And an overthinking mind that has one positive and that's absorb a shit ton of information.
Heheheh well i asked my crush out she said ew
What about six pack?
And a 10 inch caulk. 😂
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@@tacituskilgore8747 what 10 inch
They dont laugh you just say you need to stop sucking that lemon daring if the wind changes you will stay looking like that you do a big laugh and walk away laughing
Never ask a fish how to catch it
Such shallow sayings sound nice but demonstrate false equivalency. Women aren't fish and she has a good amount of insight as to what she's talking about. Lol
Your channel is great so dont think im nocking you you Can't make someone confident it comes with time age and practice you need to stop worrying about what your saying and what is the worst thing that can happen there is a billion woman in the world all of them gorgeous
Bo hi Marty, you left me a voicemail. I don't know when you left it. Cause I'm terrible at checking on things like that. I just want you to let you know. And I appreciate it's fact you're okay with my name, kid.
I talked to my phone and never gets it right? It's k IT it's the proper nickname for Christopher. I've been called that all my life's. And if it bothers you, you can call me Christopher. I don't really eat. I don't know why women love the name Christopher so much.That they do did anyway.Thank you very much for your call.And i'm sorry I missed talking to you
More practical and resultative approach is How to make women to want YOU 😜
Bcz I AM that man. They just don't know about it 😉
Thank god for my Asbergers Syndrome and Jedi Mind tricks talk is cheap and worthless .
Nooo, Marni, don’t tell me “loud” men are attractive now?
They’re soo annoying
Hi Marni, your techniques worked a little bit 😉 maybe you could do a video on how to win over a girl that is not very single 😁
It's really hard to concentrate on what you're saying while you're wearing that shirt. Come to think of it, I don't remember you even talking.
😂 I know what you mean. It can be easy to Lose Yourself in lusting. Stayfocusd bro keep your mind on the task and remember she's married.
someone is a lucky man. so lovely
"Only a matter of time before you meet someone who likes you. THis is how confident men think, and how you should too"
No, because I'm not delusional.
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I'm distracted, I don't know about yall lol
@@Official-marnikinrys your not her