A "nice" guy will find a "nice" girl and they'll be happy. Any girl that doesn't appreciate a nice guy deserves the kind of guy she ends up with. When you're growing old with someone, kindness, stability, and loyalty is what it is all about but hell, what do I know?
Exactly! Why would I want a woman who is not "nice?" I am a Nice Guy and have no trouble finding Nice Women. They're everywhere. You just need to stop looking for the arrogant "I'm too cool for you" Bad Girls who want the Bad Boys -- and allowing them to abuse you.
@@David-lx4yb nah all women want the same type of guy. They work on feelings not logic. One woman i dated didn't like it when I informed her that only sluts look for sparks and chemistry. I'm not a spark/ chemistry type of person.
@@marksherrit5874 Yes. And not all men look for the same type of woman. Personally, I do not give a slut (or a former slut) the time of day. Women who have that type of past are just not someone I want in my life as a partner. Of course, I certainly realize that they would likely have no interest in someone like me either, and that's fine since we are so different.
NOTES 1. Trying to be liked (1:13). Of course you want to be liked, but if your sole purpose is to please the girl, it makes you look needy and unworthy. Express yourself in a natural and authentic way instead. 2. Having a transactional attitude (3:35). Being nice with an agenda is not really nice. Niceness doesn't even trigger attraction in the first place. Trigger attraction first. 3. Being overly impressed by beauty (5:06). 4. Filtering words (6:20). Even if you say something inappropriate, it shows carefree confidence. 5. Not setting boundaries (8:00). Fear of breaking rapport and getting rejected. Don't be a doormat. A guy with strong boundaries shows assertiveness and high self-respect. 6. Avoiding escalation (9:43). General theme: Inauthentic behavior is a turnoff
If your a nice guy. Don't change because of what people tell you. Woman normally don't know what they want. And in the end they are ones who will regret saying that he was too nice. If your being nice without anything in return just keep doing it. Be strong men 👌
My take, if you're a nice guy, reserve your niceness to those who have earned it, i.e your family, friends. With anyone else be CALCULATING. NO FREE LUNCH.
That is true, the key difference there is to be nice and authentic but not a wannabe trying too hard. Do something nice for someone because you mean it, not because you expect something in return.
If you bet on social agreements and “traditional” behaviours, over nature when it comes to her attraction, you’re going to lose. Repeating what a submissive society tells you, in lock stock fashion will simply cause more of the same dust trails. Have to be willing to be the outcast. Occupy states of being few are willing to go. Primal. Most wont even try. She’s craving it...
Guys not escalating is not only about a fear of rejection. Some men are afraid a woman will call them a creep and tell all their friends about this horrible experience.
Yes, men may "slut shame" but women "creep shame". I have seen women call a man a creep for doing nothing more than politely asking her for her phone number or touching her hand.
@@prismbrandingrealestatebra6301 This answer is as old as people have been asking the question: If a woman is approached buy a guy she thinks is HOT, it's a good approach and will succeed. If she does NOT think you're hot, you're a CREEP for even TALKING to her. If Brad Pitt walked up to a woman and acted like an introvert and insecure, the approach would still work. The ugliest guy can have supreme bad boy confidence and a woman will still call him a creep.
I've heard this from numerous amounts of people of the years...and as soon as I became comfortable being single, well...still nothing has changed and it's been almost 3 years now 😅
TRUTH! As soon as I stopped caring about “us”, took my power back, and refocused on making my life the priority, almost immediately, exciting things happened in my life.😎
I have been and nice guy all my life. That's how I was raised. To respect a Women. Yes, I have been walked on and stepped on, but those women don't deserve you. I got played in High School by a girl that I fell in Love with. I was her boyfriend and she had (3) other guys on the side. Never had a clue. She apologized many many years later and regretting that she left me. Now she sees my life and said I could of had a good life, but ended up with a Bad Boy, Kids, and Divorced. I worked as a DJ at a Strip Club and learned a lot about women during that time. The Manager said, you can't be nice to these women or they will walk all over you. And it was true, but not all where like that and I was there to do a job. Just be confident and be yourself. Your gut feeling will let you know that that women is not for you and it's time to move on. DTB!!! Don't waste your time buying her things expecting something in return. She will just take advantage of you and your kindness. You're wasting your money. DTB!! I have been with my wife for the last 22 years because I'm a "Nice Guy".
I had been in a relationship for about 2.5 years. I was always a nice guy with her. I never pretended anything I was not. I was totally genuine before her. Despite that I started noticing slow and gradual change in her behaviour from November '21 and in Feb '22 she told me that she was seeing someone else and would like to get married to him. Recently she got married to that man in June '22. Cut to September '22: I got her message on WhatsApp just two days back and she was regretting getting married to that boy and leaving me. She wrote me in message that he was a narcissist. He checked her mobile everyday. She asked me to call her at some specific time. I was a nice guy but not stupid. I still have her snaps in my mobile but I'm not going to call her ever. I will never see her again in person or call her.
the only thing I get from this video is that- "falling in love/having a relationship" is a pain the ass. And thanks to you I get another motivation , that is not to fall in love ever.
I agree with you, my friend; a pain in the ass. However, this woman seems to blame all relationship problems on "nice" men, while she gives jerks a free pass. And I'll go even further than that. Nowadays, when it comes to making new female friends, LET THE WOMAN INITIATE AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. This way there is no confusion, no games, and mutual attraction, love, respect, and appreciation. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I'm a nice guy because I can remember the days my mother would get beaten maybe three times a week. This lady sounds like a gold digger she either needs a hiding or a twenty thousand dollar ring. I'm guessing she took the ring from a guy who's a door mat.
All good points and worthy of considering. Bottom line: believe in yourself, do not need the other person and have confidence in yourself that you will be fine no matter what happens. Just roll with things.
Yeah but im not confident and nor are 90% of people, so wtf do 90% of men do ? what you said boilds down to be attractvie, great advice and what if you are not ?
@@mcpartridgeboyI am probably the most insecure person I know but coz of the way I am people think I'm really confident but in reality I'm cripplingly shy but in social situations I always end up being the centre of attention because I have a cracking sense of humour and women are drawn to that which is lucky as its the only thing I've got going for me...well that and an 8 and a half inch c-ck that I always mention at the beginning of any conversation with a lady lol 😜
It’s attitude and chemistry. If the woman isn’t connecting to you as a person, then move on. No matter what you do, that right person will present themselves without having to making it an algebra problem. These channels specifically are helpful but targets the actuality of making “all women are perfect” and it’s the man who is the problem. Keep in mind, women too has inadequacies, social problems and identifiably misrepresented. If the woman fails to see you for who you are, cancel her out and move on. Rejection is protection.
Nailed it. Sex? Escorts where legal. Enjoy sex. LJBF? Nice guy? Just don't give a flying fuck. Pay and be done with it. No strings attached, too. Then, when you finally meet the right one, it will turn into love.
Your NOT wrong, it's just unfortunate that WE have been made to believe that WE are the problem for being a Good, Decent, Nice person. It's their loss, Stay Focused and stay strong. Let these 304s return to the streets and have their High body counts and destroy their lives with Pookie and Rayray. Live Well Bro.
I read 'No More Mr. Nice Guy. Your second bulletpoint was called a 'covered/covert contract'. This was a weakness of mine. Thank you for your videos, you are helping alot of insecure men out there! You've been a big help!
It's easy to tell someone to stop being a "door mat" but for some of us it's hard to quit doing something or being something that we were raised to do. I was always told growing up women were always right, happy wife happy life, never argue with your spouse if you want to be with them for the remainder of your life. Always treat women like royalty. It's been drilled so deep into my head I don't think I can forget it.
Kindness is one of the greatest virtues. If anyone man or woman does not see the value in your kindness then they are lower beings and not worth associating with.
'Kindness is one of the greatest virtues' Spot on Mark! What a lot of people would really like is someone who cares about them! What else but kindness can you show a person you care about or love! And if that kindness and caring is shown in return then you've got it made!, Ask any woman or man who's in an abusive or toxic relationship what they would like and i think 'Kindness' and 'Someone who cares' would be high up on the wish list!, Man or Woman? Show them you care about them?, Show them kindness?, Make them laugh?, And you've cracked it!, You always remember kind person and you never forget the ones who hurt you!
Single life is as much attractive to a guy, as food is to someone who just ate! It's only enjoyable while your full! The fact is, we are humans, and the purpose of the human, just like any creature, is to mate and reproduce! No matter how much you enjoy being single, you're going to get hungry again eventually
Being nice, in general, isn't the reason why you're "instantly killing" attraction with women. It's actually because you're either not good-looking enough for her or not tall enough for her.
Maybe it's men attitude and energy what makes a girl look a man as good-looking... What comes first the egg or the chicken. When a woman see a man, and selects him without knowing him, what is she selecting ? A couple of preconcibed ideas about what is good looking and bad looking learn by how we were tought and the culture and publicity says us what is beauty and what is not ? Are they picking a photography of a man ?... I think this is was the system wants us to think, but that's not true at all... I think a woman is craving to fell alive in the most inner part of her being and it doesn't matter at all the look of a man to make a woman feel alive.
@Gleb Mikhalev Well man… What your are saying it’s just an opinion you have, it’s not a objective fact you know… It’s an opinion and I also think it’s a really tragic and sad limiting belief you made up or it’s a story bought from someone else… You know boy, nazis and spartans decided who was acceptable and who was not based on physical features… Do you wanna be part of a world where people will accept and love someone only based in his physical looks ? I really don’t want to be part of that miserable shit, it’s a just a sick toxic way of perceiving how we people relate. I think it serves the system, the cosmetic and publicity industry, but it don’t really serves our heart at all… Anyway... who decides which physical features are acceptable or not... Are those who have social power ? it's just a made up story to disempower people and not take action and use the full potential of our inner self, because if 90% of men don't match the ideal physical look, as I think it happens, then you have a 90% of men population that are mind controlled and that don't value themselves... I think we are co creators of the world we live in… if you want to feed that point of view in which people should be accepted, loved and considered attractive only if they posses a certain physical look, well go ahead… but please take a moment to review how you want to live your life with health, purpose and power, because that belief man, it’s really dragging you down… please, if you love yourself then come out of that well in which you are stuck, come out of the spell and create your own reality. I believe that the strength to live on our own terms is the most attractive thing a woman can see in a man.
@Gleb Mikhalev @Gleb Mikhalev I don't think there is such a thing as the actual reality. We make the reality and it's not the the reality it's being made on it's own. I really don't care about statistics, because how can a number show the multiple infinite layers of a human being... If you are not interested in the world you want to live in, then you are livinig in a world where others tell you what is true and what you should do. You are letting others impose you what they want and you don't compromise and take responsability for your desire in life, that is living a life of a victim, obedient and submitted to others
@Gleb Mikhalev frankly if I think as you I would blown my brain with a gun many years ago. I choose to believe that I have the power to cocreate my reality. And I think we choose to be submitted to someone or not.
These sound like 6 things a psycho female demand & expect, especially the "avoiding conflict" part. Nice guys are that, NICE, not violent & angry & conflictive. Not nice guys are usually abusive, manipulative, and demanding. I've been with the same girl since 1997, I have given to her everything I can. I made a commitment to her that she "holds my leash" because she has seen me get so violently angry that I've broken my own bones in an attack. So, I told her she is my center as well as my control. We have 2 children together (she had to convince me to have kids) and I love them very much. So, I defy this list because it's the list from a high school girl's desire to have drama in their lives, and my wife agrees.
It’s amazing how much she’s honed in on all of my behaviors regarding women. I am the person she’s describing and that’s why I’m 39 and haven’t been on a date since 2013.
I'm 67 and I have been single for 35 years. I had a long-term off again on again relationship with a woman who finally dumped me for Mr. Bad Guy that was cheating on his wife. They now live together in a camp trailer. I own 7 acres and a 3-bedroom home on a hill overlooking the valley. All the women I know say I am a great catch. Well, why aren't women casting the bait my way? It's because I have Mr. Nice Guy Syndrome. That's like the plague only worse. I see all these homeless people that have women partners living in a tent with no money and the women being treated like crap, yet there they are, still with Mr. Bad Guy. And here I am, single and lonely.
@@offgridcabin1557 You assume because they are female that they are default deserving of love etc. Most US women now days are not worthy of a good man and a loving relationship. Yeah just look at all these so called hot girls (especially social media sites) yet damn nearly all of them are single or in off an on again relationships. Just remember that biblical passage from Isaiah : In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, “We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!” Yeah more an more women are ending up single or multiple women dating the same man.
You’re better off. Get your life right with Jesus, live the best and most fulfilling life you can and stop worrying about women. Anything ( sex ) outside of marriage ( which I’m sure you don’t desire) is a sin in God’s eyes anyway. Trust me, it’s your best path at your age. I’m 57 and am totally happy and content without any woman in my life.
Dont feel too bad many millions of men make the same mistakes, i did all my life and i never had a date and now im 45 !! a lot of men never get a date, its mostly because women have so much power now its almost impossible to compete, and seconldy all the bad advice women give like be a nice guy when that is the exact opposite of what she wants, its that mixture that means most men never stood a chance
🤷🏼 if she says I’m “too nice” that’s her perception. Maybe she can’t handle a guy who knows how to treat a woman right and she never deserved me in the first place.
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. I have been in such a situation. Having a woman be attracted to jerks and reject nice men is a form of codependency and a sociopathic disorder. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph"). When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Spot on.....Stay Focused bro....Let them continue to be Ran Through by Pookie and Rayray and have their lives destroyed. Being a Nice Guy is not Evil if they don't respect that leave them to the streets.
How does this even do that? This stuff is super pathetic. It's like Hitch but way worse, it's like you're getting life coached on the most trivial thing on the planet (mating rituals) LOL this is the type of shit us guys started caring about? For what, chasing a person you don't even know if you have feelings for her other than "wow she's hot" why are dating coaches a thing nowadays is beyond me.
I'm always to I'm to much of a gentlemen or a nice guy. I don't even know how I'm doing that. I never thought being nice was something that would punish me so much in my life.
I understand your frustration. This woman seems to blame all relationship problems on "nice" men, while she gives jerks a free pass. Here is a pointer that I give to all young men. Nowadays, when it comes to making new female friends, LET THE WOMAN INITIATE AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. This way there is no confusion, no games, and mutual attraction. Also, she is in control, so she can't complain; and you get to feel accepted, loved, and appreciated just the way you are. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Thanks Marni, this video has shown me that you must be yourself, not to be something that your not, to try to impress them.I understand, that you must have more confidence.
These are tips on how to "get a girl"....... If you're stuck in an adolescent mindset they may be of some use. If you're interested in developing a meaningful relationship with an independent, mature woman, they're not likely to be of much help. Healthy, mature women appreciate a mutual relationship without the game playing, because they know a relationship built on honesty, integrity, and trust stemming from ;mutual self disclosure and support will grow, where one based on games & gimmicks will lead to boredom and stagnation. Additionally, not all women want the same things and all men don't want the same things!!!
I partially agree with your statement. Tips on "getting the girl" ARE an adolescent mindset, and this does come across to me as "game playing". However, I think this video makes some good points about behaviours that an independent, mature woman is likely to perceive as unattractive. For example, letting her walk all over you and not setting boundaries is likely to come across as you having low self-esteem, because that is probably exactly what is going on. It may not be- for example, I tend to be very tolerant and understanding, but this does not mean that this will be understood by others. They will just think I have low self-esteem. I avoid stating my boundaries (for example, don't tell me you are coming over tomorrow and then not even text me until 2 days later) even though they are waaaaaaay "back there" and low- but my avoiding this is due to not wanting to be am additional source of stress to her life. If I do not say anything though, I will likely be perceived as a doormat and thus treated as such- which is why taking this presented information into consideration can be beneficial, even with a mature woman. You make an excellent point with your last sentence. For example, in another video, she mentions all women want a lot of foreplay- clearly she has never dated a female Aries. Their idea of foreplay is "take your clothes off", if they even bother making that much effort. Your sentence "a relationship built on honesty, integrity, and trust stemming from mutual self disclosure and support" is dead-on and well-stated. Anyhow, thanks- what you wrote got me to write this and I think I know how to proceed with the "example" I listed above. LOL
I agree with you, Marty. This advice is pretty juvenile. And I like older women (40+) as well. However, this woman seems to blame all relationship problems on "nice" men, while she gives jerks a free pass. Here is my advice to all young men. Nowadays, when it comes to making new female friends, LET THE WOMAN INITIATE AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. This way there is no confusion, no games; and mutual attraction, love, respect, and appreciation. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
@Luke White-Dunn. Well said brother! Let the women do some work for once and experience a little bit of the rejection that every dude has encountered in his life. What's fair is fair, and they all claim they want gender equality, so let's see if they really mean it.
I think she's absolutely spot on. It doesn't mean you can't be a good guy. I was a nice guy once. That taught me all the lessons I needed. Good advice if you're out there looking.
I’m literally constantly nice. I’m the happiest I hav ever been with a girl I love. Find a girl who wants you to be nice to them. Don’t stop being nice
Don't you just love how Marni, and women in general, downplay the emotional pain of being rejected that every man on this planet has endured at some point in their life. As if it's no big deal. All these entitled women never experiencing rejection themselves, and enjoying all that validation from interested men, telling us that rejection is no big deal. What nerve. Women really are the spoiled, entitled sex. They do nothing, yet millions of us have to endure these dating advice channels to learn how to relate to women successfully while they sit back and enjoy all that male attention. So much for gender equality in 2021!
For one thing a woman needs to know if the man can take care of himself as well as her, on a personal level another thing is that some women take feminism a bit too far.
I recently began seeing someone I met on a dating site. I set up my profile with as honest a representation of me as I could think of and also described my "perfect match" in as much detail. I'm sure I got passed over by dozens of women who either didn't want someone who liked the things I mentioned or didn't think she matched my "perfect match". Why would I want somebody like that anyway?
Marni, your bluntness is highly appreciated. As a Christian, we're taught to help your fellow man. But I completely agree: never be a doormat. Do not tolerate disrespect. If someone puts you down, or does not respect your time, or sleeps around, or all of it, make it clear that you won't stand for that behavior. Doormats are for wiping off the dirt from your feet, not living a good life.
The tables have kind of turned now. Now when the 30-somethings beg for the man they rejected after riding the CC the men just say "I would date you, but you are just too used up."
Right on, my friend. These females who rejected nice men will reap what they sow. However, this woman seems to blame all relationship problems on "nice" men, while she gives jerks a free pass. Here is my advice to all young men. Nowadays, when it comes to making new female friends, LET THE WOMAN INITIATE AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. This way there is no confusion, no games; and mutual attraction, love, respect, and appreciation. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I was told by many women that I was too nice. I found this to be ridiculous so I ignored them for years and years (be yourself, do unto others, etc). Then a girl finally explained it to me when I was around 38.
First of all when I say women I mean “women of value.” They’re attractive, intelligent, have a good personality, have their lives together, and take care of themselves. These women do not like pushovers or guys who’ll do anything for them. They like a man who’s a bit of a challenge. They even go so far as to date men with serious problems as the challenge is to fix them. What they don’t like is Peter Perfect or the guy who says YES to everything. Not only does this man bore them, but they don’t even respect him; he comes off as less of a man to them.
Marni, nice revelations. As a naive youngster I was crushed by this. It just created fear in me. I always placed the entire blame on myself, just felt inferior.
I recently learned about codependency. This summed up the nice guy thing and is a lot of what she is talking about in this video. It was an eye opener for me. Now I am working on my codependency problems. I recommend others to look into that as well.
Funny thing about boundaries and respect...I had the misfortune of giving off "nice guy" vibes and was immediately called an s$$hole because as a "nice guy" I stood up for myself. I guess I was just supposed to put up with 💩 for sake of having a date
This is a problem I find with both men and women. When you go and stand up for yourself or decide you won't take their bs, nobody else is looking at it that way. Whoever you decide to stand up to will take it as a personal affront so if you think you will win their begrudging respect, don't count on it. Be prepared to argue and defend your argument tirelessly against that person once you start standing up for yourself. And possibly be ready to cut them off if they refuse to accept that they were doing you harm in the first place.
I have evolved from a “nice guy” to a kind guy. And it pays off a lot. I have had great dates. Unfortunately I think a some women feel that I’m a nice guy. But there is a huge ass difference here. It still sucks getting rejected sometimes. 😅
I've watched 5 or 6 clips now and this is the first one I clicked "Like." It's because she didn't waste time with a whole lot of hype and chatter, she didn't hock a product. She (for the first time) cut right to the chase. I didn't slip into chatter fatigue and tune out. She was concise. You should be more like you are in this clip Marni all the time. You're much more interesting this way. Good job!
I’ve been watching Marni for a while She’s awesome. To sum up her entire course Grow a pair Be your self ( deliberately separate) Talk to her Respectfully and/or playfully tell her what you want
Marni, youve changed my life. i was with the same woman for 15 years and now that we're divorced i was ill equipped to interact with the women i desired. the couple of programs ive bought and the videos you put out have allowed my confidence to return. thank you so much!
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph"). When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
This is where women are so consistently myopic, even to their own disadvantage. In the first instance, a woman will very often interpret a man's behaviour through the lens of her own experience, assumptions and expectations. However, this can often result in a faulty analysis on their part, as men simply do not think, or behave as women do. A women cannot conceive of how, or why a man should need to view reality in any way that is different to the way she sees it. In such circumstances, a woman can only accommodate this incongruence, by assuming the man's judgement, or value system must be flawed and therefore 'wrong', since she is always right. (Of course she is, ask any married man) A man's behavioural motivation, instincts and reactions are very different from that of a woman's. But surprisingly, women continue to make this very basic error of judgement often to their own cost, not only in their 'interpretation' of a man's behaviour, but also in the way they 'expect a man to respond' in any given circumstance. So, with this in mind, let's move-on to the matter at hand. A woman views 'being nice' as merely a strategic mechanism for her getting what she wants from a man. Like a monkey that has learned to push a button to gain a reward, it is a behavioural tactic that she learned from a very early age and continues to practice into adulthood, For her, it is simply an 'adopted' means to an end and nothing more. She only sees value in her 'being' nice' when it suits her to control & manipulate a man to her own advantage. She can (and often does) turn it on & off like a tap. and because of her acquired cynicism with regard to her own willingness to prostitute this characteristic of 'being nice', she has come to no longer value, or respect 'being nice' as a good, or worthy native character trait, especially when she is confronted with it in a man. as it only serves to highlight the perversity and shamefulness of her own manipulative behaviour. Far from it being viewed as a virtue; a man's propensity towards being intuitively 'nice' is viewed by a woman as little more than a naïve, simple-minded weakness, often to be disrespected, exploited and abused. The suggestion that nice guys should be taught by a 'Wing Girl' to modify their behaviour to accommodate what is in essence a woman's problem, for the sake of the 'the dating life you dreamed of' is just plain ridiculous. This is just another woman attempting to foist her value system upon men, using invalidation & ridicule If any change is required here it is that woman should seek to re-examine their own behaviours, not men. There will be no accommodation, we are doing just fine thanks and we certainly don't need life lessons from some sanctimonious hectoring Wing Girl.
Wow what interesting reading. I like the remark. they can turn it on and of just like a prostitute. And santomonis. Being a gentleman is a gift. It shows integrity. Thank you. I will carry on being nice. Right of to buy them flowers.
Interesting: I was just about to start listening to your bantering guide ... And then in this video comes this tip about "being natural ", LOL. I guess how I will integrate those two things, is I will listen to the bantering guide for things that are not only fun for her, but also fun for me! (Aside: I love your F-Formula course :) Re' this video in general: great tips, and I would add that there is one authentic target, that nice guys are intending, but not exactly hitting, when they are being nice: kindness. Applying the tips in this video, does not interfere with being kind.
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph"). When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Just treat the woman you like as one of your guy friends. Meanwhile, keep pursuing your dreams and improving your life (work/investments and hobbies). Invite her to join you if she fits into our schedules. Also say no to her every now and then:)
Yeah thats not true, if you dont esculate, and even if you do if you dont esculate correctly at the right time you wownt get the woman, theres loads of women saying if you dont show us you are interested in a relationship you are going to get friend zoned, so no, dont do that, you need pick up skills to get any woman sadly.
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph"). When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I am a nice guy. And I really want to watch this. But as I try, I accept, if she does not accept me as kind hearted or worse if she is abusive of my kind heart, she has no place in my life and home.
Love her confidence, nothing more! !! This is teaching drama. Not healthy secure relationships!!! She is addicted to drama, was probably bored in the past.... as is most others... I LOVE nice, sweet respectful guys, not drama. I genuinely nice guy is melting my heart. First time in a long time I can see my future with a man. I love genuinely nice and respectful guys, it makes me melt, so give who are nice... do NOT GIVE UP!!! Do not turn to drama. Be real... no BS... but be someone we can trust, no games. or else you will attract drama addicted women.
You have a good point. However, this bimbo wants to scapegoat all men whom she considers to be "too nice. This female is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. She seems to blame all relationship problems on "nice" men, while she gives jerks a free pass. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. This video may be outdated because many good, kind, loving men are checking out of romantic relations, and "going their own way". Thus, leaving females to ask "Where are all the good men?". Women had better step up and do their part. They need to clean up their act and stop expecting men to do anymore for them. After all, we have been doing our part to change and please them for the last 50 years. Now women need to grow and change. Here is a pointer that I give to all young men. Nowadays, when it comes to making new female friends, LET THE WOMAN INITIATE AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. This way there is no confusion, no games, and mutual attraction. Also, she is in control, so she can't complain; and you get to feel accepted, loved, and appreciated just the way you are.
@@michaelkeudel8770 I agree to an extent.. But the "games" are inevitable! You gotta play the game! The secret is simply to mentally position yourself as the prize of the game, not the chaser!
@@waynedonoghue4071 no the games aren't inevitable if you just avoid women completely, and I do. Haven't dated or bothered in over 7 years, and I do as I please, whoever I want, and with who I want, and it's a peaceful life I'll never again let someone else burden.
Hi , appreciating all your points of views and respecting all , but why many games and startegies , to achieve consideration n love , when love is a wonderful thing,
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph"). When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I literally laughed out loud when Marnie complained about "transactional attitude." Pot meet kettle. Her videos are literally built on a transactional attitude. $$$$
I understand your frustration with her hypocrisy. This woman seems to blame all relationship problems on "nice" men, while she gives jerks a free pass. Here is a pointer that I give to all young men. Nowadays, when it comes to making new female friends, LET THE WOMAN INITIATE AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. This way there is no confusion, no games, and mutual attraction. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
*One major mistake many nice guys make is overextending themselves without expecting anything in return. It's essential to balance kindness with self-respect. Setting boundaries can help create more meaningful connections and prevent being taken for granted.*
These videos just prove all the stereotypes men have about women eg emotionally compulsive, unable to think, can't distinguish between lust and love, etc
@@johnjones5821 They simply want what they can't have. There in lies there biggest issue. If they can have a guy fulltime, then he is not worthy in their 5th grade brains.
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph"). When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Some of these comments are hilarious. As a former "nice guy" I can state that all 6 of these are true. Long story short fellas: Be your genuine self. You can't find love trying to be what you think she wants. There is no future in attracting a female who only likes you for who you are APPEARING to be. Don't put her on a pedestal and let her treat you any way she wants. She will not respect you and you will be miserable in the end, no matter how good the sex is at the time, selling your true happiness for some physical pleasure is a no-win situation. She is a human being. Not a prize to be won by accumulating enough Nice Guy points. She is as imperfect and flawed as you are. Be you, let her be her, and try to make something real.
Being nice has almost nothing to do with a girl liking you... Having her be attracted to your looks and personality means everything if she just isn't dating a man because of the income he makes.. Being nice and making the girl always feel comfortable around you is expected and shouldn't have to be said......
What doesnt make sense is women will often say you need to act proper and right to start seeing results yet this video asserts that transactional mindsets are bad? Having to act a certain way to get what you want is exactly that. Regardless of whether one admits it or not, it's a transaction. The only difference is self awareness. Some do it knowing it, and others do it subconciously, but it's the same thing.
I agree with you. But don't be taken in by this woman She is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. This woman (and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, accepting, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out, gentlemen! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I agree, confusing indeed. Talk about mixed signals. I understand your frustration. Here is a pointer that I give to all young men. Nowadays, when it comes to making new female friends, LET THE WOMAN INITIATE AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. This way there is no confusion, no games, and mutual attraction. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Ladies,a man who opens doors for you is a tell tell sign that he could be the one instead of the one who doesn't.Nothing wrong in being a real true gentleman.
There's truth to that, regarding chivalry. With me, my Girl's mom & sister noticed and told her nice things about me. That's a sure in. I wasn't trying to get her, she was already with me.
Nice guys finish last? More like nice guys get left over, chewed up, washed up garbage. Nice guys should just focus on getting rich and just using women but never marry them or date them.
Yea I found out first hand, nice guys gotta make up they’re mind, you gonna say “ hey , it’s be great to take you on a date sometime! How bout Saturday? Are you free! That’s all it really takes, I was or am still, in love with this girl for years, figured she would never go out with me, kept helping her out when she was in a jam, one time I said I was jealous, and after that she let me know she was interested very subtlety, I didn’t really pick up on it , til one time she met me for lunch and said “well what’s up “ and I dodged her, she called the next day, to tell me she had a date with a new guy, I could tell she was nervous, that was my last Chance, I did nothing, that just made the new guy seem sooo much better, they are getting married after COVID, true story, you can’t believe how stupid and wimpy I feel, she is sooo cute! So yes nice guys, just ask for that date and make it a simple date, no flowers or queer stuff, just try n stay calm and get her home in ONE PIECE. Don’t be a wimp like me, a coward dies a thousand deaths, a brave man only one !
But it's true if you're overly nice it's fake because they try so desperately to be everything she wants because of an overwhelming need of the girls approval and cater to her every whim meaning he becomes a yes man i can agree believe me what she's saying is dead on be yourself be authentic be comfortable with being you
Excuse me dear, people must be as they want to be and feel comfortable with themselves. True personality means being as YOU want and not as someone else wants
Exactly but she won't reply to a post like this, one minute it's be yourself the next minute it's be slightly rude and slightly in opposition to turn her on.. what if I'm naturally a nice person, that would be fake to act like an asshole if im not one
I’ve been told that I was too nice, until I would lose it when I got friendzoned. I handle it better now. I went from bitter and lonely to aloof and indifferent. Whenever I set normal boundaries, they’d get butthurt. I only know how to be me.
From these videos, my takeaway is that you either got it naturally or you really have to master the mental gymnastics involved. I do have the freedom as I certainly don’t care as much as I once did. Do I wish things were different? Sure, but I would not trade my life with anyone.
it's important to remember that being nice is never a bad thing. It's all about finding someone who appreciates and values your kindness. A dating coach might have their own perspective, but ultimately, being true to yourself and treating others with respect will attract the right person into your life.
Best video so far. As a Guy I really appreciate feminine Woman and well dressed. For example, while approaching a girl, well dressed, I would say "I really like your dress.... Pauze. Where can I buy this one (with a laugh)" it's unbelievable, how Women start to talk about shoes, dresses. Within 5 minutes I usually know everything. Cup size, colour of their thong, no underwear... At some point, I did not have to bother to ask their phonenumber, they just gave it to me or just ask if they could come to my place. What also works very well, is social approval. You go with a very hot girl together in a club, bar, whatever and be sure to be noticed by a bunch of other Girls. It's crazy. Once you understand this and behave like this. Scratch the word "sorry". Become a leader, say NO, if you do not agree. No compliments, not buying flowers. Just hang out, let her wonder. "Is he in to me or not". More and more you will be on her mind. The rest is so damn easy, they start chasing You. They can not help themselves. That's, how Women are wired. Nice Guy 0% Chance, the Man with values, goals, options, leader, that's the one they want, but can not have.
@@marnikinrys Very talented at what you do! Much respect! And if I didn't have females figured out like the route from my living room to my kitchen, I'd definitely follow you! 👍😂
Lol why do everyone try to tell nice guys that THEY have to change their behaviour? If a girl meets one of those who is nice, not toxic, well behaving guy with hobbies and life goals, and she rejects him because "he is TOO nice", so this is just her loss and she didn't deserve such man while she couldn't appreciate him the way he was. It is what is is
When you reject yourself, you'll attract people that will mirror that. Only when you go within and truly appreciate the whole Divine Being you are, will the mirror bring those reflections and women that are constantly hitting on you. In true non-duality, you are the only one down here. What do you want the mirror to reflect?
pray and be patient kindness is king spread love to all people, it's all love just be yourself and be kind if you are looking for a significant other if you keep hope you'll find it but watch for there are those who are evil but don't seem evil, always keep your guard up,
don't worry about being too nice. People who don't appreciate you don't deserve your time. You'll find someone who appreciates you. Just keep being yourself.
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph"). When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
@@crazyralph3585 I half agree with you that there is nothing wrong with thte men, but the problem is women have ALL the power so unless we step up we wownt get what we want which is a date, the reason she doesnt ask women to improve themselves is because they dont need to, women are getting 1000 likes A DAY thats like 8.7 million likes from the age of 16-40 plus they never face rejection so they have an advantage over men by nearly 10 million not including the fact they dont get rejected and some men get reajected 100% of the time so if you x 8.7 million by 100 you come to a near 1 billion% advantage for your average woman over a guy, so although it is sexist to xpect men to always be better the hard truth is if they dont do it they wownt get a date ! Men with power and money are at the top for relationships for sure, but then dominant abusive alpha males and top pick up artists also get women when they dont have status, im not suggesting either is an easy way to get a date, to be the dominant abusive alpha male is a nighmare of a life and you have to mistreat a woman you lovve too, which most men are not nasty enough to do, but it is possible, also being a top pick up artist taakes decades of shard study and many many hundreds of thosands of rejetions and poor treatment by women but eventually it does start to work, but thats not easy either, but there are the alternatives to money and power to get women.
There is a book by Dr Robert Hare called "Snakes in Suits" . It educates about the psychopath in the corporate world and the "five phase model" of how a typical workplace psychopath climbs to and maintains power. Re-reading this I saw the similarities of how modern American woman operates in their relationships. For any man that is wanting to build empowerment, read this book, & educate oneself about these manipulations skills. One can take the premises of this book and apply it to the modern woman in a relationship scenario. American women also dump good men because they get bored. This is where chad comes in.
@ Crimson Thinking - ya know, the one I'm getting tired of seeing on here.....the one where she gets caught fixing her lipstick and then says...."Ya know, the common mistake most men make, when approaching women?"....Lol
so basically: "no complimenting, no caring, no helping" because feminism-women think that's needy. Can't stop laughing here. Women can choose who they want, if they prefer picking the douchebag, we end up with this kind of divorce rates. Children are the victims
Gabriel you need to call women out on their B.S. If they dislike you for that, to Hell with them. Here is how I overcame my fear of rejection: I remind myself that it is THEIR DECISION and THEIR LOSS. Also, this woman seems to blame all relationship problems on "nice" men, while she gives jerks a free pass. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
If a man wants "coaching" or advise on how to do whatever to attract the girl of their dreams, then ask a woman, not a man. Marni, you're the greatest.
I quit dating about 7 years ago. Self confidence went up. Self improvement went up. Networth went up. Closer to that "inner peace" thing, and so on. Makes me wonder if sex was ever worth it.
I’ve never had trouble being a nice guy and dating. I’ve been turned down, but all men get turned down. The one thing I won’t do is be someone I’m not to get someone to date.
Don't be taken in by this woman She is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. This woman (and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, accepting, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out, gentlemen! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
She probably is single. And if she is married, I would like to ask her husband what he thinks of her. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I think it should be taught as part of psychology and getting along with people. I read the comments here from guy’s who are failing regularly with women and getting nowhere and it seems it takes many a long time to understand obvious truths. Many come here arguing for failed beliefs and are not ready to adopt Marni’s suggestions which are really obvious and totally accurate.
My mother gave me the best advice...If you want to be broke & miserable, get a girl. If you want life long loyalty, unconditional love & a best friend, get a dog.
Secret thought when do. She already made her mind when she sees how short you are. Doesn't matter if you're the only guy in the room. If a taller guy walks in they will drop you in an instant.
I’m doing better with boundaries. A date didn’t show on Monday and I wrote and asked if she was okay. She said she forgot, then claimed I did not confirm, which I did. I tried to reschedule, but got lame responses, or no response, so I let the person go.
I have a seemingly counter intuitive revelation for people who don't know. Sometimes a guy doesn't escalate because he's afraid of rejection, like she said. But in my case and probably many others, I'm afraid she'll say yes. Because, then what? I never had an issue with rejection. But being with someone and then things start to get more intimate... I freeze with terror.
I discovered Dr Robert Glover's "No More MR Nice Guy" early last year and it has radically changed my life for the better! Thank you for this video Marnie, as it reconfirms where I'm at and how far I've come since that realisation. It's an ongoing recovery and these 6 things require vigilance and awareness to navigate and i's great to have them grouped together so as to be able to refer to them if necessary, great work!
I am a really nice guy. I’ve also been passed by many many times from online dating sites. I am amused when women want the “bad boy” the foul talking, bad attitude, tall tales kind of guy. They aren’t actually bad boys but insecure guys. Someone that has to cuss every other word, drink a lot, loud mouth. None of that is “manly” What is manly? Spending time with your lady. Actually listen to them. You aren’t punchy, meaning you aren’t quick to fight over a few words. You’re strong when you need to be. You don’t have to always push out your chest so to speak. I partially agree with her list. In the early world, everyone is different, every date is different
When I was young I made nearly every one of these mistakes thinking pretty girls were unapproachable. Growing up in the 1950s just my brother and me. When I first encountered pretty girls in my second grade class- from then on I was smitten. The fear of rejection or disappointing a girl was a powerful issue. I thought girls were all perfect. A pretty girl? Venus and as easy to approach and talk to as the planet Venus. I’m a fairly macho guy, but I was so vulnerable to a pretty girl. Over the later years I finally learned to set boundaries! But I’d taken a lot of mistreatment prior to hitting a wall of “no more!” The good news, I ended up with a beautiful wife and beautiful children. Great advice she’s given!
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Just focus on your goals and dreams. Chasing these type of women are dream killers. Quality women will gravitate to you when its right
Exactly
You are correct.
You still have to make it happen once she gravitates to you though. Dudes have to know this.
Preach it Tony A~ don't chase women, chase excellence ~ the women can smell it on you.
So... I got money and a solid education... a brand new car... where’s the women? Lmao.
A "nice" guy will find a "nice" girl and they'll be happy. Any girl that doesn't appreciate a nice guy deserves the kind of guy she ends up with. When you're growing old with someone, kindness, stability, and loyalty is what it is all about but hell, what do I know?
Exactly! Why would I want a woman who is not "nice?" I am a Nice Guy and have no trouble finding Nice Women. They're everywhere. You just need to stop looking for the arrogant "I'm too cool for you" Bad Girls who want the Bad Boys -- and allowing them to abuse you.
I totally agree but women never make sense
@@David-lx4yb nah all women want the same type of guy. They work on feelings not logic. One woman i dated didn't like it when I informed her that only sluts look for sparks and chemistry. I'm not a spark/ chemistry type of person.
@@marksherrit5874 Yes. And not all men look for the same type of woman. Personally, I do not give a slut (or a former slut) the time of day. Women who have that type of past are just not someone I want in my life as a partner. Of course, I certainly realize that they would likely have no interest in someone like me either, and that's fine since we are so different.
exactly nice guys are for nice girls end of story hahaha
NOTES
1. Trying to be liked (1:13). Of course you want to be liked, but if your sole purpose is to please the girl, it makes you look needy and unworthy. Express yourself in a natural and authentic way instead.
2. Having a transactional attitude (3:35). Being nice with an agenda is not really nice. Niceness doesn't even trigger attraction in the first place. Trigger attraction first.
3. Being overly impressed by beauty (5:06).
4. Filtering words (6:20). Even if you say something inappropriate, it shows carefree confidence.
5. Not setting boundaries (8:00). Fear of breaking rapport and getting rejected. Don't be a doormat. A guy with strong boundaries shows assertiveness and high self-respect.
6. Avoiding escalation (9:43).
General theme: Inauthentic behavior is a turnoff
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I bet there's a list as the top comment
Dude thank you for this
Thank you
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If your a nice guy. Don't change because of what people tell you. Woman normally don't know what they want. And in the end they are ones who will regret saying that he was too nice. If your being nice without anything in return just keep doing it. Be strong men 👌
My take, if you're a nice guy, reserve your niceness to those who have earned it, i.e your family, friends. With anyone else be CALCULATING. NO FREE LUNCH.
Hell no ahahahahahah
@@pastordonkoh7692 Amen to that. Exactly what I've been doing for a while now.
That is true, the key difference there is to be nice and authentic but not a wannabe trying too hard. Do something nice for someone because you mean it, not because you expect something in return.
I would have been a virgin forever following this advice
It’s sad how being a gentleman isn’t appreciated these days
If you bet on social agreements and “traditional” behaviours, over nature when it comes to her attraction, you’re going to lose.
Repeating what a submissive society tells you, in lock stock fashion will simply cause more of the same dust trails.
Have to be willing to be the outcast.
Occupy states of being few are willing to go.
Primal.
Most wont even try.
She’s craving it...
@@exoticspeedefy7916 Nah would rather be single
Being a gentleman is fine, don't be a door mat, there is a huge difference.
@@markp8263 wierd world...
Treat em like sh*t and get gains!💪
Guys not escalating is not only about a fear of rejection. Some men are afraid a woman will call them a creep and tell all their friends about this horrible experience.
Or when she says “oh I don’t do social media” as a polite way of saying fuck off
Exactly 😂
Yes, men may "slut shame" but women "creep shame".
I have seen women call a man a creep for doing nothing more than politely asking her for her phone number or touching her hand.
@@prismbrandingrealestatebra6301 This answer is as old as people have been asking the question:
If a woman is approached buy a guy she thinks is HOT, it's a good approach and will succeed.
If she does NOT think you're hot, you're a CREEP for even TALKING to her.
If Brad Pitt walked up to a woman and acted like an introvert and insecure, the approach would still work.
The ugliest guy can have supreme bad boy confidence and a woman will still call him a creep.
And the worst fear is that she will call police...
Nothing is worse than being a rape accused , even if he did nothing..
Polite men don't always say something, not out of fear but out of respect.
well said
Yup...dead on sir !
Yes absolutely.
You Give your respect away easily and no one respects it!.
And the problem is few women under the age of 30 respect a polite man. They want the idiot in the room who disrespects everyone including them.
The funniest thing is; the moment I became comfortable and ok with being alone, things started to happen for me.
@Ryu Hassan Can I ask why. You will find someone that repects and admires you for you. Just be yourself
Exactly
I've heard this from numerous amounts of people of the years...and as soon as I became comfortable being single, well...still nothing has changed and it's been almost 3 years now 😅
@Ryu Hassan me to
TRUTH! As soon as I stopped caring about “us”, took my power back, and refocused on making my life the priority, almost immediately, exciting things happened in my life.😎
I have been and nice guy all my life. That's how I was raised. To respect a Women. Yes, I have been walked on and stepped on, but those women don't deserve you. I got played in High School by a girl that I fell in Love with. I was her boyfriend and she had (3) other guys on the side. Never had a clue. She apologized many many years later and regretting that she left me. Now she sees my life and said I could of had a good life, but ended up with a Bad Boy, Kids, and Divorced. I worked as a DJ at a Strip Club and learned a lot about women during that time. The Manager said, you can't be nice to these women or they will walk all over you. And it was true, but not all where like that and I was there to do a job. Just be confident and be yourself. Your gut feeling will let you know that that women is not for you and it's time to move on. DTB!!! Don't waste your time buying her things expecting something in return. She will just take advantage of you and your kindness. You're wasting your money. DTB!! I have been with my wife for the last 22 years because I'm a "Nice Guy".
That's an amazing story! Thanks for sharing 💙
I had been in a relationship for about 2.5 years. I was always a nice guy with her. I never pretended anything I was not. I was totally genuine before her. Despite that I started noticing slow and gradual change in her behaviour from November '21 and in Feb '22 she told me that she was seeing someone else and would like to get married to him. Recently she got married to that man in June '22.
Cut to September '22: I got her message on WhatsApp just two days back and she was regretting getting married to that boy and leaving me. She wrote me in message that he was a narcissist. He checked her mobile everyday. She asked me to call her at some specific time.
I was a nice guy but not stupid. I still have her snaps in my mobile but I'm not going to call her ever. I will never see her again in person or call her.
So have i
Exactly! Thanks for this!
the only thing I get from this video is that- "falling in love/having a relationship" is a pain the ass. And thanks to you I get another motivation , that is not to fall in love ever.
The message from this whole thing is not to try too hard, do things because you mean doing them, not because you seek something in return.
It’s really kind of sad but true.😞
Its a pain in the ass for the guy, the woman has a great time, so its only half true, or if you are a guy i guess its 100% true !
I agree with you, my friend; a pain in the ass. However, this woman seems to blame all relationship problems on "nice" men, while she gives jerks a free pass. And I'll go even further than that. Nowadays, when it comes to making new female friends, LET THE WOMAN INITIATE AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. This way there is no confusion, no games, and mutual attraction, love, respect, and appreciation.
BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I'm a nice guy because I can remember the days my mother would get beaten maybe three times a week. This lady sounds like a gold digger she either needs a hiding or a twenty thousand dollar ring. I'm guessing she took the ring from a guy who's a door mat.
All good points and worthy of considering. Bottom line: believe in yourself, do not need the other person and have confidence in yourself that you will be fine no matter what happens. Just roll with things.
Yeah but there has to do some work and ready to level up because if you’re doing it then you’re stuck just transcend on your own.
Yeah but im not confident and nor are 90% of people, so wtf do 90% of men do ? what you said boilds down to be attractvie, great advice and what if you are not ?
@@mcpartridgeboyI am probably the most insecure person I know but coz of the way I am people think I'm really confident but in reality I'm cripplingly shy but in social situations I always end up being the centre of attention because I have a cracking sense of humour and women are drawn to that which is lucky as its the only thing I've got going for me...well that and an 8 and a half inch c-ck that I always mention at the beginning of any conversation with a lady lol 😜
It’s attitude and chemistry. If the woman isn’t connecting to you as a person, then move on. No matter what you do, that right person will present themselves without having to making it an algebra problem. These channels specifically are helpful but targets the actuality of making “all women are perfect” and it’s the man who is the problem. Keep in mind, women too has inadequacies, social problems and identifiably misrepresented. If the woman fails to see you for who you are, cancel her out and move on. Rejection is protection.
Thanks!
Very well put. Thank you.
No they won't. Be prepared and willing to be alone.
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Nailed it.
Sex? Escorts where legal.
Enjoy sex.
LJBF? Nice guy?
Just don't give a flying fuck. Pay and be done with it. No strings attached, too.
Then, when you finally meet the right one, it will turn into love.
I've learned to treat the women I find attractive and might be interested in like I do the ones I don't find attractive and are not interested in
There is a lot of truth to this!
Really::;like to not try to seduce a pretty woman treat her like plain jane
But it's sad that you would have to do that.. they like the guy that's mean to them or the asshole more than a guy who's sweet and nice
Hell yeah it is @@learnpianofastonline
Your NOT wrong, it's just unfortunate that WE have been made to believe that WE are the problem for being a Good, Decent, Nice person.
It's their loss, Stay Focused and stay strong. Let these 304s return to the streets and have their High body counts and destroy their lives with Pookie and Rayray.
Live Well Bro.
I read 'No More Mr. Nice Guy.
Your second bulletpoint was called a 'covered/covert contract'. This was a weakness of mine.
Thank you for your videos, you are helping alot of insecure men out there! You've been a big help!
It's easy to tell someone to stop being a "door mat" but for some of us it's hard to quit doing something or being something that we were raised to do. I was always told growing up women were always right, happy wife happy life, never argue with your spouse if you want to be with them for the remainder of your life. Always treat women like royalty. It's been drilled so deep into my head I don't think I can forget it.
Kindness is one of the greatest virtues.
If anyone man or woman does not see the value in your kindness then they are lower beings and not worth associating with.
This is a nice way of trashing this video lmao
'Kindness is one of the greatest virtues' Spot on Mark! What a lot of people would really like is someone who cares about them! What else but kindness can you show a person you care about or love! And if that kindness and caring is shown in return then you've got it made!, Ask any woman or man who's in an abusive or toxic relationship what they would like and i think 'Kindness' and 'Someone who cares' would be high up on the wish list!, Man or Woman? Show them you care about them?, Show them kindness?, Make them laugh?, And you've cracked it!, You always remember kind person and you never forget the ones who hurt you!
Hell yeah it is @@kenchino0161
Women can't create a functioning society.
It's would be run by psychopaths and narcissists
Stay single life is so simple guys you need to appreciate you're peace and quiet once that's gone you won't get it back.
That is why jedi are single....
Well said.
@@chankongsun guess why Anakin turned sith to huh
Single life is as much attractive to a guy, as food is to someone who just ate! It's only enjoyable while your full! The fact is, we are humans, and the purpose of the human, just like any creature, is to mate and reproduce! No matter how much you enjoy being single, you're going to get hungry again eventually
Amen
Being nice, in general, isn't the reason why you're "instantly killing" attraction with women. It's actually because you're either not good-looking enough for her or not tall enough for her.
Somewhat true
Lol
Maybe it's men attitude and energy what makes a girl look a man as good-looking... What comes first the egg or the chicken. When a woman see a man, and selects him without knowing him, what is she selecting ? A couple of preconcibed ideas about what is good looking and bad looking learn by how we were tought and the culture and publicity says us what is beauty and what is not ? Are they picking a photography of a man ?... I think this is was the system wants us to think, but that's not true at all...
I think a woman is craving to fell alive in the most inner part of her being and it doesn't matter at all the look of a man to make a woman feel alive.
@Gleb Mikhalev Well man… What your are saying it’s just an opinion you have, it’s not a objective fact you know… It’s an opinion and I also think it’s a really tragic and sad limiting belief you made up or it’s a story bought from someone else…
You know boy, nazis and spartans decided who was acceptable and who was not based on physical features… Do you wanna be part of a world where people will accept and love someone only based in his physical looks ? I really don’t want to be part of that miserable shit, it’s a just a sick toxic way of perceiving how we people relate. I think it serves the system, the cosmetic and publicity industry, but it don’t really serves our heart at all…
Anyway... who decides which physical features are acceptable or not... Are those who have social power ? it's just a made up story to disempower people and not take action and use the full potential of our inner self, because if 90% of men don't match the ideal physical look, as I think it happens, then you have a 90% of men population that are mind controlled and that don't value themselves...
I think we are co creators of the world we live in… if you want to feed that point of view in which people should be accepted, loved and considered attractive only if they posses a certain physical look, well go ahead… but please take a moment to review how you want to live your life with health, purpose and power, because that belief man, it’s really dragging you down…
please, if you love yourself then come out of that well in which you are stuck, come out of the spell and create your own reality. I believe that the strength to live on our own terms is the most attractive thing a woman can see in a man.
@Gleb Mikhalev @Gleb Mikhalev I don't think there is such a thing as the actual reality. We make the reality and it's not the the reality it's being made on it's own. I really don't care about statistics, because how can a number show the multiple infinite layers of a human being... If you are not interested in the world you want to live in, then you are livinig in a world where others tell you what is true and what you should do. You are letting others impose you what they want and you don't compromise and take responsability for your desire in life, that is living a life of a victim, obedient and submitted to others
@Gleb Mikhalev frankly if I think as you I would blown my brain with a gun many years ago. I choose to believe that I have the power to cocreate my reality. And I think we choose to be submitted to someone or not.
These sound like 6 things a psycho female demand & expect, especially the "avoiding conflict" part. Nice guys are that, NICE, not violent & angry & conflictive. Not nice guys are usually abusive, manipulative, and demanding.
I've been with the same girl since 1997, I have given to her everything I can. I made a commitment to her that she "holds my leash" because she has seen me get so violently angry that I've broken my own bones in an attack. So, I told her she is my center as well as my control. We have 2 children together (she had to convince me to have kids) and I love them very much.
So, I defy this list because it's the list from a high school girl's desire to have drama in their lives, and my wife agrees.
It’s amazing how much she’s honed in on all of my behaviors regarding women. I am the person she’s describing and that’s why I’m 39 and haven’t been on a date since 2013.
Me too. Im 41 and the last date I had was in 2013.
I'm 67 and I have been single for 35 years. I had a long-term off again on again relationship with a woman who finally dumped me for Mr. Bad Guy that was cheating on his wife. They now live together in a camp trailer. I own 7 acres and a 3-bedroom home on a hill overlooking the valley. All the women I know say I am a great catch. Well, why aren't women casting the bait my way? It's because I have Mr. Nice Guy Syndrome. That's like the plague only worse. I see all these homeless people that have women partners living in a tent with no money and the women being treated like crap, yet there they are, still with Mr. Bad Guy. And here I am, single and lonely.
@@offgridcabin1557 You assume because they are female that they are default deserving of love etc. Most US women now days are not worthy of a good man and a loving relationship. Yeah just look at all these so called hot girls (especially social media sites) yet damn nearly all of them are single or in off an on again relationships. Just remember that biblical passage from Isaiah : In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, “We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!” Yeah more an more women are ending up single or multiple women dating the same man.
You’re better off. Get your life right with Jesus, live the best and most fulfilling life you can and stop worrying about women. Anything ( sex ) outside of marriage ( which I’m sure you don’t desire) is a sin in God’s eyes anyway. Trust me, it’s your best path at your age. I’m 57 and am totally happy and content without any woman in my life.
Dont feel too bad many millions of men make the same mistakes, i did all my life and i never had a date and now im 45 !! a lot of men never get a date, its mostly because women have so much power now its almost impossible to compete, and seconldy all the bad advice women give like be a nice guy when that is the exact opposite of what she wants, its that mixture that means most men never stood a chance
Don’t go overboard don’t go underboard....just show up as authentically yourself and let nature do the rest. If it fits it fits...if not walk away! ✌🏽
🤷🏼 if she says I’m “too nice” that’s her perception. Maybe she can’t handle a guy who knows how to treat a woman right and she never deserved me in the first place.
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. I have been in such a situation. Having a woman be attracted to jerks and reject nice men is a form of codependency and a sociopathic disorder. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Spot on.....Stay Focused bro....Let them continue to be Ran Through by Pookie and Rayray and have their lives destroyed. Being a Nice Guy is not Evil if they don't respect that leave them to the streets.
I feel like I'm becoming smarter with every video I watch...it's so relaxing and boosts my mood and confidence
However dont foget to go out and put into practice otherwise it doesnt mean nothing.
How does this even do that? This stuff is super pathetic. It's like Hitch but way worse, it's like you're getting life coached on the most trivial thing on the planet (mating rituals) LOL this is the type of shit us guys started caring about? For what, chasing a person you don't even know if you have feelings for her other than "wow she's hot" why are dating coaches a thing nowadays is beyond me.
I'm always to I'm to much of a gentlemen or a nice guy. I don't even know how I'm doing that. I never thought being nice was something that would punish me so much in my life.
I understand your frustration. This woman seems to blame all relationship problems on "nice" men, while she gives jerks a free pass. Here is a pointer that I give to all young men. Nowadays, when it comes to making new female friends, LET THE WOMAN INITIATE AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. This way there is no confusion, no games, and mutual attraction. Also, she is in control, so she can't complain; and you get to feel accepted, loved, and appreciated just the way you are.
BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Thanks Marni, this video has shown me that you must be yourself, not to be something that your not, to try to impress them.I understand, that you must have more confidence.
simply put:
DONT SIMP DONT SIMP DONT SIMP
These are tips on how to "get a girl"....... If you're stuck in an adolescent mindset they may be of some use. If you're interested in developing a meaningful relationship with an independent, mature woman, they're not likely to be of much help. Healthy, mature women appreciate a mutual relationship without the game playing, because they know a relationship built on honesty, integrity, and trust stemming from ;mutual self disclosure and support will grow, where one based on games & gimmicks will lead to boredom and stagnation. Additionally, not all women want the same things and all men don't want the same things!!!
I partially agree with your statement. Tips on "getting the girl" ARE an adolescent mindset, and this does come across to me as "game playing". However, I think this video makes some good points about behaviours that an independent, mature woman is likely to perceive as unattractive. For example, letting her walk all over you and not setting boundaries is likely to come across as you having low self-esteem, because that is probably exactly what is going on.
It may not be- for example, I tend to be very tolerant and understanding, but this does not mean that this will be understood by others. They will just think I have low self-esteem. I avoid stating my boundaries (for example, don't tell me you are coming over tomorrow and then not even text me until 2 days later) even though they are waaaaaaay "back there" and low- but my avoiding this is due to not wanting to be am additional source of stress to her life. If I do not say anything though, I will likely be perceived as a doormat and thus treated as such- which is why taking this presented information into consideration can be beneficial, even with a mature woman.
You make an excellent point with your last sentence. For example, in another video, she mentions all women want a lot of foreplay- clearly she has never dated a female Aries. Their idea of foreplay is "take your clothes off", if they even bother making that much effort.
Your sentence "a relationship built on honesty, integrity, and trust stemming from mutual self disclosure and support" is dead-on and well-stated. Anyhow, thanks- what you wrote got me to write this and I think I know how to proceed with the "example" I listed above. LOL
I agree with you, Marty. This advice is pretty juvenile. And I like older women (40+) as well. However, this woman seems to blame all relationship problems on "nice" men, while she gives jerks a free pass. Here is my advice to all young men. Nowadays, when it comes to making new female friends, LET THE WOMAN INITIATE AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. This way there is no confusion, no games; and mutual attraction, love, respect, and appreciation.
BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I think it's about time the ladies start asking the men out 2021 .
@Luke White-Dunn. Well said brother! Let the women do some work for once and experience a little bit of the rejection that every dude has encountered in his life. What's fair is fair, and they all claim they want gender equality, so let's see if they really mean it.
Right! LOL
Says the guy with the hyphenated last name. 🙄
@@nickelsworth7097 yo I would've never realized that lmao
Well they do want equality
I think she's absolutely spot on. It doesn't mean you can't be a good guy. I was a nice guy once. That taught me all the lessons I needed. Good advice if you're out there looking.
I’m literally constantly nice. I’m the happiest I hav ever been with a girl I love. Find a girl who wants you to be nice to them. Don’t stop being nice
Let us know how this works out next year with your niceness.
@@LadyTee751 life is still great 👍
@@Dom-lj2dw are you still going strong ?
@@Inferno415 yea, no…
@@Dom-lj2dw same hahaha…. This year everyone is breaking up its so weird. So what happened in your case bro ?
Don't you just love how Marni, and women in general, downplay the emotional pain of being rejected that every man on this planet has endured at some point in their life.
As if it's no big deal.
All these entitled women never experiencing rejection themselves, and enjoying all that validation from interested men, telling us that rejection is no big deal. What nerve.
Women really are the spoiled, entitled sex. They do nothing, yet millions of us have to endure these dating advice channels to learn how to relate to women successfully while they sit back and enjoy all that male attention.
So much for gender equality in 2021!
But one problem is that once men get what they want, they change...so maybe women are tring to make sure you are right one...I dont know
For one thing a woman needs to know if the man can take care of himself as well as her, on a personal level another thing is that some women take feminism a bit too far.
Younger men fear rejection. By age 30 not so much. Most stress in life is female related .
@@fillthefeeder most stress in life is female related. yep. and unfortunately they expand and exacerbate the remaining stress.
How do you think unattractive women feel?
Thanks for communicating this. I know I’m a decent guy but I’ve always been afraid my flaws would define me in the eyes of others.
I recently began seeing someone I met on a dating site. I set up my profile with as honest a representation of me as I could think of and also described my "perfect match" in as much detail. I'm sure I got passed over by dozens of women who either didn't want someone who liked the things I mentioned or didn't think she matched my "perfect match". Why would I want somebody like that anyway?
Marni, your bluntness is highly appreciated. As a Christian, we're taught to help your fellow man. But I completely agree: never be a doormat. Do not tolerate disrespect. If someone puts you down, or does not respect your time, or sleeps around, or all of it, make it clear that you won't stand for that behavior.
Doormats are for wiping off the dirt from your feet, not living a good life.
You named several of my past behaviors this was quite humbling
The tables have kind of turned now. Now when the 30-somethings beg for the man they rejected after riding the CC the men just say "I would date you, but you are just too used up."
What does “CC” mean?
@@bloodaonadeline8346 COCK CAROUSEL. And every young lady this side of the Mississippi has had a ride!
LIES
@@LadyTee751 nah its not lie. All you have to see is the long line of older women asking where are the good men at. Men are moving on imo.
Right on, my friend. These females who rejected nice men will reap what they sow. However, this woman seems to blame all relationship problems on "nice" men, while she gives jerks a free pass. Here is my advice to all young men. Nowadays, when it comes to making new female friends, LET THE WOMAN INITIATE AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. This way there is no confusion, no games; and mutual attraction, love, respect, and appreciation.
BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I was told by many women that I was too nice. I found this to be ridiculous so I ignored them for years and years (be yourself, do unto others, etc). Then a girl finally explained it to me when I was around 38.
What did she tell you?
Explained WHAT to you ?
First of all when I say women I mean “women of value.” They’re attractive, intelligent, have a good personality, have their lives together, and take care of themselves. These women do not like pushovers or guys who’ll do anything for them. They like a man who’s a bit of a challenge. They even go so far as to date men with serious problems as the challenge is to fix them. What they don’t like is Peter Perfect or the guy who says YES to everything. Not only does this man bore them, but they don’t even respect him; he comes off as less of a man to them.
Marni, nice revelations. As a naive youngster I was crushed by this. It just created fear in me. I always placed the entire blame on myself, just felt inferior.
I recently learned about codependency. This summed up the nice guy thing and is a lot of what she is talking about in this video. It was an eye opener for me. Now I am working on my codependency problems. I recommend others to look into that as well.
When I was a machinist I always let the chips fall where they may. Good thing to remember.
Funny thing about boundaries and respect...I had the misfortune of giving off "nice guy" vibes and was immediately called an s$$hole because as a "nice guy" I stood up for myself. I guess I was just supposed to put up with 💩 for sake of having a date
I have had that happen as well. That is their way of trying to keep you in your established "nice guy" place. They never call real a$$holes a$$holes
They try to manipulate you and stay the same guy you used to be!
This is a problem I find with both men and women. When you go and stand up for yourself or decide you won't take their bs, nobody else is looking at it that way. Whoever you decide to stand up to will take it as a personal affront so if you think you will win their begrudging respect, don't count on it. Be prepared to argue and defend your argument tirelessly against that person once you start standing up for yourself. And possibly be ready to cut them off if they refuse to accept that they were doing you harm in the first place.
Nope, pump and dump just like the assholes do. Hit it and quit it. Pop it and drop it. Beat it then beat it (Michael Jackson not Ike Turner).
Same exact situation
I have evolved from a “nice guy” to a kind guy. And it pays off a lot. I have had great dates. Unfortunately I think a some women feel that I’m a nice guy. But there is a huge ass difference here. It still sucks getting rejected sometimes. 😅
I've watched 5 or 6 clips now and this is the first one I clicked "Like." It's because she didn't waste time with a whole lot of hype and chatter, she didn't hock a product. She (for the first time) cut right to the chase. I didn't slip into chatter fatigue and tune out. She was concise. You should be more like you are in this clip Marni all the time. You're much more interesting this way. Good job!
I’ve been watching Marni for a while
She’s awesome.
To sum up her entire course
Grow a pair
Be your self ( deliberately separate)
Talk to her
Respectfully and/or playfully tell her what you want
Of course there’s more but really that’s it
Marni, youve changed my life. i was with the same woman for 15 years and now that we're divorced i was ill equipped to interact with the women i desired. the couple of programs ive bought and the videos you put out have allowed my confidence to return. thank you so much!
"I'd date you but you're not rich enough."😂
gold digging vibes I've been thru it
I can deal with being told this- at least shes being honest !!! I cant stand all the lieing , game playing drama .
Or tall enough. Or social enough. Or outgoing enough. Or funny enough.
@Apparently You’reTheAsshole yes, at 55 there is no woman my age I want to see naked.
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
This is where women are so consistently myopic, even to their own disadvantage.
In the first instance, a woman will very often interpret a man's behaviour through the lens of her own experience, assumptions and expectations. However, this can often result in a faulty analysis on their part, as men simply do not think, or behave as women do. A women cannot conceive of how, or why a man should need to view reality in any way that is different to the way she sees it. In such circumstances, a woman can only accommodate this incongruence, by assuming the man's judgement, or value system must be flawed and therefore 'wrong', since she is always right. (Of course she is, ask any married man)
A man's behavioural motivation, instincts and reactions are very different from that of a woman's. But surprisingly, women continue to make this very basic error of judgement often to their own cost, not only in their 'interpretation' of a man's behaviour, but also in the way they 'expect a man to respond' in any given circumstance. So, with this in mind, let's move-on to the matter at hand.
A woman views 'being nice' as merely a strategic mechanism for her getting what she wants from a man. Like a monkey that has learned to push a button to gain a reward, it is a behavioural tactic that she learned from a very early age and continues to practice into adulthood, For her, it is simply an 'adopted' means to an end and nothing more. She only sees value in her 'being' nice' when it suits her to control & manipulate a man to her own advantage. She can (and often does) turn it on & off like a tap. and because of her acquired cynicism with regard to her own willingness to prostitute this characteristic of 'being nice', she has come to no longer value, or respect 'being nice' as a good, or worthy native character trait, especially when she is confronted with it in a man. as it only serves to highlight the perversity and shamefulness of her own manipulative behaviour.
Far from it being viewed as a virtue; a man's propensity towards being intuitively 'nice' is viewed by a woman as little more than a naïve, simple-minded weakness, often to be disrespected, exploited and abused.
The suggestion that nice guys should be taught by a 'Wing Girl' to modify their behaviour to accommodate what is in essence a woman's problem, for the sake of the 'the dating life you dreamed of' is just plain ridiculous. This is just another woman attempting to foist her value system upon men, using invalidation & ridicule If any change is required here it is that woman should seek to re-examine their own behaviours, not men. There will be no accommodation, we are doing just fine thanks and we certainly don't need life lessons from some sanctimonious hectoring Wing Girl.
That is one of the most insightful things I’ve ever seen
Wow what interesting reading. I like the remark. they can turn it on and of just like a prostitute. And santomonis. Being a gentleman is a gift. It shows integrity. Thank you. I will carry on being nice. Right of to buy them flowers.
Great post
Interesting: I was just about to start listening to your bantering guide ... And then in this video comes this tip about "being natural ", LOL.
I guess how I will integrate those two things, is I will listen to the bantering guide for things that are not only fun for her, but also fun for me!
(Aside: I love your F-Formula course :)
Re' this video in general: great tips, and I would add that there is one authentic target, that nice guys are intending, but not exactly hitting, when they are being nice: kindness.
Applying the tips in this video, does not interfere with being kind.
Great advice. This is how you end up in toxic relationships with Type B personality guys.
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Just treat the woman you like as one of your guy friends. Meanwhile, keep pursuing your dreams and improving your life (work/investments and hobbies). Invite her to join you if she fits into our schedules. Also say no to her every now and then:)
Have you seen how these nerds talk to each other? That's not good advice for these toxic males.
Yeah thats not true, if you dont esculate, and even if you do if you dont esculate correctly at the right time you wownt get the woman, theres loads of women saying if you dont show us you are interested in a relationship you are going to get friend zoned, so no, dont do that, you need pick up skills to get any woman sadly.
Me not escalating any more just means I really don't care any more. It's beautiful
Escalating can be risky.
@@learnpianofastonline legally too.
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I am a nice guy. And I really want to watch this. But as I try, I accept, if she does not accept me as kind hearted or worse if she is abusive of my kind heart, she has no place in my life and home.
Well spoken. Her long monologue about how to be attractive was to me unattractive.
Love her confidence, nothing more! !! This is teaching drama. Not healthy secure relationships!!! She is addicted to drama, was probably bored in the past.... as is most others... I LOVE nice, sweet respectful guys, not drama. I genuinely nice guy is melting my heart. First time in a long time I can see my future with a man. I love genuinely nice and respectful guys, it makes me melt, so give who are nice... do NOT GIVE UP!!! Do not turn to drama. Be real... no BS... but be someone we can trust, no games. or else you will attract drama addicted women.
Many of the traits you mentioned would turn off anyone, including friends.
You have a good point. However, this bimbo wants to scapegoat all men whom she considers to be "too nice.
This female is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. She seems to blame all relationship problems on "nice" men, while she gives jerks a free pass.
BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
This video may be outdated because many good, kind, loving men are checking out of romantic relations, and "going their own way". Thus, leaving females to ask "Where are all the good men?". Women had better step up and do their part. They need to clean up their act and stop expecting men to do anymore for them. After all, we have been doing our part to change and please them for the last 50 years. Now women need to grow and change.
Here is a pointer that I give to all young men. Nowadays, when it comes to making new female friends, LET THE WOMAN INITIATE AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. This way there is no confusion, no games, and mutual attraction. Also, she is in control, so she can't complain; and you get to feel accepted, loved, and appreciated just the way you are.
10:50 I don't chase ladies anymore. They get my number and if they call/text, that's great. If not, that's great too.
I stopped caring, I don't date anymore and have no interest in women's games anymore, not worth the time or energy.
Birdup4life.. My man 💯! Never put a girl on a pedestal! You're as much a prize as she is
@@michaelkeudel8770 I agree to an extent.. But the "games" are inevitable! You gotta play the game! The secret is simply to mentally position yourself as the prize of the game, not the chaser!
@@waynedonoghue4071 no the games aren't inevitable if you just avoid women completely, and I do. Haven't dated or bothered in over 7 years, and I do as I please, whoever I want, and with who I want, and it's a peaceful life I'll never again let someone else burden.
Hi , appreciating all your points of views and respecting all , but why many games and startegies , to achieve consideration n love , when love is a wonderful thing,
F these rules, be nice, be respectful, be yourselves fellas. She doesn't want to date you, walk away.
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
I literally laughed out loud when Marnie complained about "transactional attitude." Pot meet kettle. Her videos are literally built on a transactional attitude. $$$$
This has to get more likes!! It's the Most Underrated Comment!! 💯
I understand your frustration with her hypocrisy. This woman seems to blame all relationship problems on "nice" men, while she gives jerks a free pass. Here is a pointer that I give to all young men. Nowadays, when it comes to making new female friends, LET THE WOMAN INITIATE AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. This way there is no confusion, no games, and mutual attraction.
BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
@@dalmediatube I wonder if some comments like this get blocked by the poster.
You being a lady yourself, and helping men? Thanks a lot, you do have a big heart.I believe every word you say.who knows women more than women?
Helping men?... at a cost!! All of her videos lead to online sales promotions!
*One major mistake many nice guys make is overextending themselves without expecting anything in return. It's essential to balance kindness with self-respect. Setting boundaries can help create more meaningful connections and prevent being taken for granted.*
These videos just prove all the stereotypes men have about women eg emotionally compulsive, unable to think, can't distinguish between lust and love, etc
Exactly.. it's like they have emotional mental problems. If I have to treat you bad for you to like me something is wrong with that!!!
@@johnjones5821 They simply want what they can't have. There in lies there biggest issue. If they can have a guy fulltime, then he is not worthy in their 5th grade brains.
Spot on
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Make eye contact and speak your truth. She's just an imperfect human being like the rest of us.
Some of these comments are hilarious. As a former "nice guy" I can state that all 6 of these are true. Long story short fellas: Be your genuine self. You can't find love trying to be what you think she wants. There is no future in attracting a female who only likes you for who you are APPEARING to be. Don't put her on a pedestal and let her treat you any way she wants. She will not respect you and you will be miserable in the end, no matter how good the sex is at the time, selling your true happiness for some physical pleasure is a no-win situation. She is a human being. Not a prize to be won by accumulating enough Nice Guy points. She is as imperfect and flawed as you are. Be you, let her be her, and try to make something real.
One of the best comments and advice I have ever read!
Being nice has almost nothing to do with a girl liking you... Having her be attracted to your looks and personality means everything if she just isn't dating a man because of the income he makes.. Being nice and making the girl always feel comfortable around you is expected and shouldn't have to be said......
That comment!!! Agreed!! 💯 Needs way more likes!!!
What doesnt make sense is women will often say you need to act proper and right to start seeing results yet this video asserts that transactional mindsets are bad? Having to act a certain way to get what you want is exactly that. Regardless of whether one admits it or not, it's a transaction. The only difference is self awareness. Some do it knowing it, and others do it subconciously, but it's the same thing.
I agree with you. But don't be taken in by this woman She is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. This woman (and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, accepting, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out, gentlemen! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Question if the girl rejects you and then puts their head on the guy’s shoulder what is the guy supposed to do?
I agree, confusing indeed. Talk about mixed signals. I understand your frustration. Here is a pointer that I give to all young men. Nowadays, when it comes to making new female friends, LET THE WOMAN INITIATE AND MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. This way there is no confusion, no games, and mutual attraction.
BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
Ladies,a man who opens doors for you is a tell tell sign that he could be the one instead of the one who doesn't.Nothing wrong in being a real true gentleman.
There's truth to that, regarding chivalry. With me, my Girl's mom & sister noticed and told her nice things about me. That's a sure in. I wasn't trying to get her, she was already with me.
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I cant imagine not opening or holding doors for people, either male or female.
LIES. "nice" guys pretend to be gentlemen when they have an agenda. Stop being delusional.
@@LadyTee751 No delusion my friend.You sound much like the player type.Just my professional opinion.
Nice guys finish last? More like nice guys get left over, chewed up, washed up garbage. Nice guys should just focus on getting rich and just using women but never marry them or date them.
Yea I found out first hand, nice guys gotta make up they’re mind, you gonna say “ hey , it’s be great to take you on a date sometime! How bout Saturday? Are you free! That’s all it really takes, I was or am still, in love with this girl for years, figured she would never go out with me, kept helping her out when she was in a jam, one time I said I was jealous, and after that she let me know she was interested very subtlety, I didn’t really pick up on it , til one time she met me for lunch and said “well what’s up “ and I dodged her, she called the next day, to tell me she had a date with a new guy, I could tell she was nervous, that was my last Chance, I did nothing, that just made the new guy seem sooo much better, they are getting married after COVID, true story, you can’t believe how stupid and wimpy I feel, she is sooo cute! So yes nice guys, just ask for that date and make it a simple date, no flowers or queer stuff, just try n stay calm and get her home in ONE PIECE. Don’t be a wimp like me, a coward dies a thousand deaths, a brave man only one !
You aren't a coward.
These are actually really good. Most people hear nice guy and think good guy. They are different.
I am definitely guilty of #6. Can't even tell you the number of women out there wondering why I didn't ask for number when I clearly should have.
When all the shrews are alone and their biological clock is ticking, then they'll remember the "nice guys".
Hahahaha that's Classic
Only an Idiot would give them the time of the day
Their clock is ticking and they see the Wall moving fast towards them at full speed...hahaha
Man that’s true, am the one who really experienced that,,, am still following her
But it's true if you're overly nice it's fake because they try so desperately to be everything she wants because of an overwhelming need of the girls approval and cater to her every whim meaning he becomes a yes man i can agree believe me what she's saying is dead on be yourself be authentic be comfortable with being you
And they start to remember when???? mmmm im right
Excuse me dear, people must be as they want to be and feel comfortable with themselves. True personality means being as YOU want and not as someone else wants
Exactly but she won't reply to a post like this, one minute it's be yourself the next minute it's be slightly rude and slightly in opposition to turn her on.. what if I'm naturally a nice person, that would be fake to act like an asshole if im not one
I’ve been told that I was too nice, until I would lose it when I got friendzoned. I handle it better now. I went from bitter and lonely to aloof and indifferent. Whenever I set normal boundaries, they’d get butthurt. I only know how to be me.
I found freedom and peace when I stopped caring.
From these videos, my takeaway is that you either got it naturally or you really have to master the mental gymnastics involved. I do have the freedom as I certainly don’t care as much as I once did. Do I wish things were different? Sure, but I would not trade my life with anyone.
I have stopped validating attractive women and I no longer give them free attention.
That has helped tremendously. I have more self-respect.
it's important to remember that being nice is never a bad thing. It's all about finding someone who appreciates and values your kindness. A dating coach might have their own perspective, but ultimately, being true to yourself and treating others with respect will attract the right person into your life.
Best video so far. As a Guy I really appreciate feminine Woman and well dressed. For example, while approaching a girl, well dressed, I would say "I really like your dress.... Pauze. Where can I buy this one (with a laugh)" it's unbelievable, how Women start to talk about shoes, dresses. Within 5 minutes I usually know everything. Cup size, colour of their thong, no underwear... At some point, I did not have to bother to ask their phonenumber, they just gave it to me or just ask if they could come to my place. What also works very well, is social approval. You go with a very hot girl together in a club, bar, whatever and be sure to be noticed by a bunch of other Girls. It's crazy. Once you understand this and behave like this. Scratch the word "sorry". Become a leader, say NO, if you do not agree. No compliments, not buying flowers. Just hang out, let her wonder. "Is he in to me or not". More and more you will be on her mind. The rest is so damn easy, they start chasing You. They can not help themselves. That's, how Women are wired. Nice Guy 0% Chance, the Man with values, goals, options, leader, that's the one they want, but can not have.
Marni you are awsome in dating coaching.i cant wait to get your f formula❤
Nice!
@@marnikinrys Very talented at what you do! Much respect! And if I didn't have females figured out like the route from my living room to my kitchen, I'd definitely follow you! 👍😂
Lol why do everyone try to tell nice guys that THEY have to change their behaviour? If a girl meets one of those who is nice, not toxic, well behaving guy with hobbies and life goals, and she rejects him because "he is TOO nice", so this is just her loss and she didn't deserve such man while she couldn't appreciate him the way he was.
It is what is is
When you reject yourself, you'll attract people that will mirror that. Only when you go within and truly appreciate the whole Divine Being you are, will the mirror bring those reflections and women that are constantly hitting on you. In true non-duality, you are the only one down here. What do you want the mirror to reflect?
this video deserves an award🔥
pray and be patient
kindness is king
spread love to all people, it's all love
just be yourself and be kind
if you are looking for a significant other if you keep hope you'll find it
but watch for there are those who are evil but don't seem evil, always keep your guard up,
don't worry about being too nice. People who don't appreciate you don't deserve your time. You'll find someone who appreciates you. Just keep being yourself.
Yeah thats not true, i never found anyone aand nor will millions of guys, thats just rubbish advice sorry
I agree with what you are saying, and I understand your frustration. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph").
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
@@crazyralph3585 I half agree with you that there is nothing wrong with thte men, but the problem is women have ALL the power so unless we step up we wownt get what we want which is a date, the reason she doesnt ask women to improve themselves is because they dont need to, women are getting 1000 likes A DAY thats like 8.7 million likes from the age of 16-40 plus they never face rejection so they have an advantage over men by nearly 10 million not including the fact they dont get rejected and some men get reajected 100% of the time so if you x 8.7 million by 100 you come to a near 1 billion% advantage for your average woman over a guy, so although it is sexist to xpect men to always be better the hard truth is if they dont do it they wownt get a date ! Men with power and money are at the top for relationships for sure, but then dominant abusive alpha males and top pick up artists also get women when they dont have status, im not suggesting either is an easy way to get a date, to be the dominant abusive alpha male is a nighmare of a life and you have to mistreat a woman you lovve too, which most men are not nasty enough to do, but it is possible, also being a top pick up artist taakes decades of shard study and many many hundreds of thosands of rejetions and poor treatment by women but eventually it does start to work, but thats not easy either, but there are the alternatives to money and power to get women.
There is a book by Dr Robert Hare called "Snakes in Suits" . It educates about the psychopath in the corporate world and the "five phase model" of how a typical workplace psychopath climbs to and maintains power. Re-reading this I saw the similarities of how modern American woman operates in their relationships. For any man that is wanting to build empowerment, read this book, & educate oneself about these manipulations skills. One can take the premises of this book and apply it to the modern woman in a relationship scenario. American women also dump good men because they get bored. This is where chad comes in.
one video just ONE video and hopefully I'll stop seeing your ads on my FB page every single day, just ONE!!!
@ Crimson Thinking - ya know, the one I'm getting tired of seeing on here.....the one where she gets caught fixing her lipstick and then says...."Ya know, the common mistake most men make, when approaching women?"....Lol
so basically:
"no complimenting, no caring, no helping" because feminism-women think that's needy.
Can't stop laughing here.
Women can choose who they want, if they prefer picking the douchebag, we end up with this kind of divorce rates. Children are the victims
I never compliment them and I basically ignore them
I did the same thing
Thank you
Facts
If you compliment a woman because you have an agenda and disguise it as being nice, you deserve all of the rejection you get in life.
I've found that calling girls out makes them dislike me. I'm definitely guilty of a few of these, especially the fear of rejection.
Gabriel you need to call women out on their B.S. If they dislike you for that, to Hell with them. Here is how I overcame my fear of rejection: I remind myself that it is THEIR DECISION and THEIR LOSS. Also, this woman seems to blame all relationship problems on "nice" men, while she gives jerks a free pass.
BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
now everything makes sense, this is pure gold
You “nailed it” with this video Marni!!
Men can so easily put a woman on a “pedestal” when they are extremely physically attracted to her.
If a man wants "coaching" or advise on how to do whatever to attract the girl of their dreams, then ask a woman, not a man. Marni, you're the greatest.
Only exceptions is the how to succeed with women stuff by Ron Luis and David Copeland. Those books helped me really appreciate Marni's stuff actually.
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I quit dating about 7 years ago. Self confidence went up. Self improvement went up. Networth went up. Closer to that "inner peace" thing, and so on. Makes me wonder if sex was ever worth it.
Corrrect
I am not above paying a professional. I will not chase after sex.
Cap 🧢
I’ve never had trouble being a nice guy and dating. I’ve been turned down, but all men get turned down. The one thing I won’t do is be someone I’m not to get someone to date.
Don't be taken in by this woman She is a poisonous snake in the body of a beautiful woman. This woman (and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, accepting, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out, gentlemen! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
so many advises by you , and I can feel that you are a spinster.
She probably is single. And if she is married, I would like to ask her husband what he thinks of her. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. The woman in this video is just using her beauty and charm to peddle bogus dating advice. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them.
Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself.
What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A NICE BOY OR BAD BOY. When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.
@@crazyralph3585 wow, what an extensive insight .
This should be a school subject 😅
That is for sure.
Every guy would actually take the class really seriously.
@@spongebobsquarepants2533 dont tell like this if this happens we have to try too hard to attract girls
I think it should be taught as part of psychology and getting along with people. I read the comments here from guy’s who are failing regularly with women and getting nowhere and it seems it takes many a long time to understand obvious truths. Many come here arguing for failed beliefs and are not ready to adopt Marni’s suggestions which are really obvious and totally accurate.
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My mother gave me the best advice...If you want to be broke & miserable, get a girl. If you want life long loyalty, unconditional love & a best friend, get a dog.
Really great advice... nowadays, things are upside down... sounds like you need to be a secure, confident butthole to be liked by women...
@@rickherrera149 Truth
@@rickherrera149 Thank you, yes. Watching this I just learned about the type of woman I'm not looking for.
Secret thought when do. She already made her mind when she sees how short you are. Doesn't matter if you're the only guy in the room. If a taller guy walks in they will drop you in an instant.
So so so true
I’m doing better with boundaries. A date didn’t show on Monday and I wrote and asked if she was okay. She said she forgot, then claimed I did not confirm, which I did. I tried to reschedule, but got lame responses, or no response, so I let the person go.
I have a seemingly counter intuitive revelation for people who don't know. Sometimes a guy doesn't escalate because he's afraid of rejection, like she said. But in my case and probably many others, I'm afraid she'll say yes. Because, then what? I never had an issue with rejection. But being with someone and then things start to get more intimate... I freeze with terror.
I discovered Dr Robert Glover's "No More MR Nice Guy" early last year and it has radically changed my life for the better! Thank you for this video Marnie, as it reconfirms where I'm at and how far I've come since that realisation. It's an ongoing recovery and these 6 things require vigilance and awareness to navigate and i's great to have them grouped together so as to be able to refer to them if necessary, great work!
When she said im too nice to be with her, i started to speak a curse words in front of her. Now, im still single af
I am a really nice guy. I’ve also been passed by many many times from online dating sites.
I am amused when women want the “bad boy” the foul talking, bad attitude, tall tales kind of guy. They aren’t actually bad boys but insecure guys. Someone that has to cuss every other word, drink a lot, loud mouth. None of that is “manly”
What is manly? Spending time with your lady. Actually listen to them. You aren’t punchy, meaning you aren’t quick to fight over a few words.
You’re strong when you need to be. You don’t have to always push out your chest so to speak.
I partially agree with her list. In the early world, everyone is different, every date is different
6:02 ... Anddd here goes the QUOTE OF THE DAY 😂🔥
But that's true BOYS !! She's being LEGIT There !
When I was young I made nearly every one of these mistakes thinking pretty girls were unapproachable. Growing up in the 1950s just my brother and me. When I first encountered pretty girls in my second grade class- from then on I was smitten. The fear of rejection or disappointing a girl was a powerful issue.
I thought girls were all perfect. A pretty girl? Venus and as easy to approach and talk to as the planet Venus.
I’m a fairly macho guy, but I was so vulnerable to a pretty girl. Over the later years I finally learned to set boundaries! But I’d taken a lot of mistreatment prior to hitting a wall of “no more!”
The good news, I ended up with a beautiful wife and beautiful children.
Great advice she’s given!