I appreciate that you provide value before asking for “likes” and subscribers. Most RUclipsrs seem to do it up front before they’ve said anything. It’s like going in for a kiss before the date even started.
Ya, I was dealing with a girl who would message me but when I message back she replies it days or even weeks later, if I ask her a question she doesn't answer it. I got really fed after about 2 months, and stopped messaging her. She's still texting me though, but I just reply one or sometime just completely ignore her. I'm tired of the mind games that women play, so I don't even try anymore. I'm just enjoying my single life, traveling the world and doing whatever I want. I know I'll eventually find a good woman
@@franciswoodcock9169 when you’re trying to get a girl, that girl will not be interested in you. When they know they can easily have you, they will play games. You have to act indifferent and not give them attention.
Women know very quickly if they are into a guy.. If a girl doesn't like you for who you are, nothing that you can say matters. If she is affended or doesn't respond to something like "good morning", then save your money. She's not worth it. No girl is worth chasing. The simple fact is that women decide and will let you know despite what you say...
That's not entirely correct. Most girls play hard to get even if they are attracted to men. So chasing to make sure is not a worst thing but about money spending I'm on opposite side.
The good morning texts are probably okay once in a while but too often just makes u look too available.. everybody wants what they can’t have or things that are a little more scarse
Just had the same chat with a friend. Were coming to the conclusion that the risk isn't worth the reward. He told me he's banking $500 a month since being single. It ask the question why buy when you can rent? lol. Almost nothing and if you don't get it right on to the next. Was this too long, oh wait your a guy, its ok.
@@Franatomy I basically argued that men shouldn't feel like they need a woman to be happy - there are PLENTY of rewarding pursuits that don't require forfeiting such a humongous chunk of money, time, and peace of mind to please a woman. Also, there's already WAY too many people on the planet - we certainly don't need more children.
This lady is very sharp I wish I would have seen this 20 years ago because it took me a lot of pain and misery to learn what she is saying... You young men pay attention and your life will be better for it.
The girl needs to win me over as well. This is all very good for the guys who are interested in a specific girl. In reality, it needs to be a 2 way street. I love your videos and know some guys who really need these.
Exactly.. These are good tips that I already know, but without this being presented in a way that includes the two way street.... It becomes this thing where women are sitting on a throne and everything we do or say is subject to judgment.. and we better watch out or we are going to lose them. They've been given this power for so long by men in general that they think it's normal.
Marni, I agree with you normally about most everything. This was over the top. If a woman is annoyed that I said good morning, or text because I had a thought knowing she’d answer when she had time, or if I had to worry about word count as to not get on her nerves. If she is that irritable about texts, it doesn’t look good because life is way harder than that. This is game playing and trying to make a man jump through hoops. What does she do to get my attention. I don’t do a thing if it isn’t reciprocated. Ever.
Sometimes women can have boring conversations as well, it's not always the guys. If she don't have any interesting topics to talk about, than that can be a turn off as well.
Hmmm....did not know that saying good morning....or good afternoon or evening....would be a turn off. Did that on messages that I sent out when I was.on on-line dating sites. Have to remember that. Thanks for the info, Marnii!
You are like my new best friend. I am a clueless 54-yr-old divorced guy and a gorgeous woman gave me her phone number and asked me to call her. I binged a bunched of your videos and mustered the courage to call and expressed confidence. It went well. Thank you!! If you ever pass through central Ohio lets meet for coffee so I can say thanks in person.
Marni... you've got a brilliant and innovative show, and your delivery and warmth help us be OK with delicate topics. Just stop touching your hair all the time.
Not had much success with this dominant/commanding attitude/approach eg alpha male - most women need to know where, when, what's it like, what type of food, how's she going to get there - and back - being an older guy I'd rather make sure that her needs are equally satisfied/considered - probably having a daughter of my own makes me more aware of what women have to put up with?
1: good morning text 2: triple text 3: the emoji overloaded texts 4: the hey text 5: closed ended questions 6: the essay text 7: the dick pic 8: 'send nudes' text 9: the ask out text 10: the indicisive text 11: the interrogation 12: hopeless romantic text 13:
Watch her video on that. They want you to pay for it. Lol. I'm tired of all this . I tried some of these techniques but women are too complicated. I am who I am and could give a shit if a girl wants me or not. Too old for this.
Its better to talk to her in person so you can look into her eyes and tell whether or not she is into you. Texting is a big waste of time for both parties.
it is if you're trying to have conversations .. texts are useful for setting up the meeting so you can 'look into her eyes' and have those in person conversations ... or better yet call .. but a lot of people are used to texts now so that's that
Here's a tip, use #13 BUT Text her all this sentimental stuff, emotional attachment stuff and when she replies indifferently, you then text her "ha, I was just playing. I bet you were getting scared" and watch how she grows even more attached. Again, this isnt gonna work on someone you just met or on someone you know very well (knows your shenanagins by now or has that emotional connection with you already). This works on the women you're JUST dating, maybe a few dates, but hasnt gotten too serious yet. I stumbled upon this one. Works so nicely.
Basically, the key is to not send anything unnecessary just to be polite (boring filler is not attractive), be the leader as men are expected to lead, not give her attention that she doesn't deserve, not be childish (there's a difference between childish and playful), not take a huge amount of time out of your day to text her, and of course not be a pervert. These are all values of a high-value man.
Wow You actually have hit a list of things I have never done before!!! Usually your video show how dumb and clueless I am.. This was a first for me but I will continue watching your videos and learn!!
I believe it is best to think about the woman you are interested in and save polite phrases for married women or women you are not interested in. There is nothing wrong with being polite. Some guys, like myself, are more introverts. We are not the outgoing celebrity types who may appeal to the women we are interested in. Just relax and be yourself. Don:t try to be someone you ate not or use phrases you would never use. It won't come across like you want it to....
Im going to assume you were joking, but.... If you have to flash your credit card to a woman, youre better off with an escort - might as well pay for exactly what you want than rolling the dice on a gold digger.
"Hey" is such a common slang term ro start a conversation nowadays I hear it every where. So can understand if someone starts with that and continues the text. And you just used that same word in an example when said "Hey let's go drinking tonight." So I think that word does have it's place then
What makes her day is that a new guy who does not yet eat in her hand is interested to her. If she realizes you are too interested or too available she will move on and stop answering
I have come to the conclusion that if I can’t be freaking courteous with my introduction without being viewed as too forward, that chivalry is being murdered and not just dying. Either that or women are just crazy. It’s probably both, it’s both right?
The funny thing about the triple text is that it is almost risk-free. If you have been ignored twice, there are just two explanations: 1) She missed the first two, 2) she does not want to respond. In scenario 1, a third probably won‘t hurt, and in scenario 2 it won‘t change anything anyway. So don‘t be afraid to text a third time, I have turned conversations around with the right third message. Once, for instance, the woman had not responded earlier because she literally was embarrassed that she had not responded for so long, and it took another message to get her to do so.
I would agree with some of these lists, not all of it, and I am a woman. Problem is majority of these issues is discussible or easy to speak up about the problem later on if it's getting overboard. Hence going silent which I am obviously guilty of the silent part. Too busy trying to hold my anger back if it was not appropriate or possibly disturbed or fearful. * [1] Confusing about #1 but I do understand there is a balance about these good morning/goodnight texts. I do admit I rather have phones calls or a voice chat (a substitute as a phone call at times), but I am traumatized by video chats ever since my first serious relationship. I think its taken over 10 years to finally be OK with basic video chat requirements but long-term not too much. I know this is subjective for everyone. I don't mind texts of good morning or good night every once in a while but you are right if the relationship is serious officially and not a first time meeting or there has been no establishment of a relationship between the two of you. Of course, if someone complains about "You never text me a good morning" or a goodnight or worse if someone guilts you to missing a 'personal text' just one time then it's best to move on. * [2] Triple text is subjective for me, because it may depend a lot how it's being said. I don't think it is a big deal to me, as long it's not rude nor controlling. Though if it is rude and controlling then run, run far away. I cannot recall "needy", but yes for controlling and rude versions. I know women and men have their moments to be frankly honest when someone is insecure or worried. Plus I had moments my cellphone did have reception issues or as you said one gets very busy in life. Majority of the time a triple text for my experiences was due to concern. Not saying this is a good first time impression of course, especially if you just met so I get that it would be a turn off. * [3] Overload emojis, sure I can agree about this. I cannot say it zips up my v-part, but yes it is a major turn off all together when see too many emojis in one text. It's fine with basic emojis, but I am behind the times for these and rather keep it minimal or none. Emojis do help paint a picture but it certainly doesn't replace reality. * [4] Sure, can agree about the "Hey" text only. It confuses my mind every time when anyone does this to me only in text or it scares me sometimes, haha. In real life I don't care to be honest. Not a big deal to me so it's subjective. I just assume anyone says "Hey" to get my attention, not a conversation starter per say. * [5] One ended closed questions, depends what it is. Not a big deal to me to be honest. Some days people are chatty and some are not. I cannot judge too quickly since I am guilty of either being this way too or I become a chatter box. Guys are usually simple anyway, so it's not a big deal but if you meant a way to get a conversation going then do this in real life or a phone call. So, a text version of a closing question, sure it may not be always appealing. It's hard to avoid of course. * [6] You may not like essay texts so in your statement "no girl" can handle it but I am honestly the opposite. And I am no girl either. I prefer it far more in person when a lot of deep thinking or detail discussion occurs or a phone call is acceptable. I know not everyone likes a detail text. I would hope the person would speak up right away instead of tolerate it until one snaps, but it doesn't bother me. As long it's not rude nor controlling, go ham detail with me. Again in person or a phone call is far better of course, but I don't mind the text version either as long it's appropriate. Not the venting kind about my ex talk, that is a major no if I am trying to get to know a man unless this means an obvious red flag of being unavailable to begin with which they may be doing a major favor for anyone. Be a good listener but don't pull a double-standard either for this spectrum. I am sure everyone is guilty once in their life texting too much of something, even if that was one detailed text sentence. So I only agree depending what is being said and how serious the relationship is. Even if you are friends, assuming you two have a healthy communication about it. And if that friend has a spouse or a serious relationship, then please be honest with them and don't have secrets when going into a detail text mode with that friend of yours. * [7] The below the belt photo from a guy, 100% agree with you. I certainly would be seeing it as a way to break things off if meeting them for the first time or even few times. And I don't want that no matter how good of a relationship it is. I'm not into porn and I rather respect a man, not be the opposite. Plus it disrespects me majorly in a heartbeat. * [8] Oi at #8. Similar to what was said about #7 with inappropriate photos. There's enough pain and anguish about this topic, unfortunately I see this common with some guys who are into porn and it's just disheartening when you get that foolish request of a question. Even if I liked or 'loved' the guy, speaking in current times, I wouldn't want this regardless. There needs to be respect, not desperation and low-self esteem. * [9] I think it's a bit subjective with #9. Usually I seen shy guys act this way often. It does not mean it's ill intention or unattractive all the time. You bet if a guy were super confident it be like "Oh yes, please! I definitely want to do this with you." I had one guy in my life who was confident but it turned out as not meant to be together. Thank God and I mean that towards Him. I think it's understandable for the shy ones out there, because of inexperience or maybe bad experiences on their end with past relationships themselves. Sometimes one needs to give a little lee-way for a first time, as long it's appropriate. And it's not hard to know if you are interested of a man or you know it's not going to work out. Unless this is one of your reasons to not be interested then fair enough. Not going to lie, it's attractive to be with a confident man, even when he makes mistakes and admits it calmly or foolishly in a healthy fun way. Shy guys can be the same way too, but you are right it helps to see if the guy is able to lead or does he only allow you to make the decisions? I prefer a balance versus one-sided person making all the decisions every time is not too attractive. I would hope the guy is not submissive, but cooperative and hope he places his real two cents in if he was not certain. It's OK at times when there is uncertainty but sure one has to reach a point in life to be confident and lead on. Especially when it's required. When it is necessary. I get it though, not every woman out there wants a man to be always indecisive, and neither do I. And if the first impression became indecisive, it's up to the lady (or sir) to decide if they want to take the next step of interest or not. Or in other words whomever is the confident one and who is willing to take the next step. * [10? 11? 12?] I got lost at these numbers? I miss a lot of something. I think I am at #12, I hope, which I very much agree with this. It's extremely a turn off or painful to deal with an instant, paranoid text questions. Happened to my first serious relationship and he ended up cheating on me three times, while I had done zero. I don't take infidelity lightly. Constantly stalking questions is not a wise move for anyone. It shows how majorly insecure you are and possibly lack trust whom you are with. If someone is that paranoid, just don't start such a relationship or end the relationship for goodness sake. It's torture for both the lady and the guy or whomever. * [13] Yes, you are right about this #13 if the lady is not even close to the level of romance in early stages of the relationship. Worse is in a month or less. Love bombing happens on both sides if you probably knew each other as far away people or acquaintances for years. If he says a deep profound love in early stages it is a scary feeling due to not wanting to disappoint the guy you just started to get to know with. Worse, don't place a woman (or any guy) on a pedestal when falling hard on them so quickly. It's frankly not fair to the lady or the guy because everyone has flaws, we are human and if someone is committed so quickly in a month or less and assuming they barely know you at all, it's a huge red flag. Be gentle and ease away or be honest and say "Whoa we should try to slow down here." If anyone allows this in person for a serious deep conversation, avoid the text unless have to. It is better to say it in person but it's not good either in just text alone. Actions need to match what you say, otherwise words meaning absolutely nothing. And a lot of love bombing in early stages in a text and in person can be related to a deeper wound whomever you are or 'were' with. It can happen quickly for some people which I don't discredit those out there. I say don't quickly place all yours eggs in one basket in a love bomb text nor with any person in such a short amount of time. It's not a game, and if someone has a deep wound from a past ex then slow it down. It's true, it's usually a quick silent run away if someone does a love bomb text and vice versa in real life too. Either work it out assuming no one is dealing with a recent break up and just slow it down or well, the person who is listening to their gut has to end it right there. Especially if it's about a past ex you are not aware about, and this someone sends a deep, thoughtful romance in text and/or in person. I think text alone would make me run away to avoid players. Oh wait, it has made me run away by text and in person... Some good points regardless Marni. Also, some do vary for everyone too. I get it though if it's just meeting the guy for the first time or been on very few dates. Agreeable on certain points here, but not all of it.
Fun. So lets close the loop. Here are texts women should not send: 1. picture of their dog, cat, the woods, the beach, their car, getting coffee or attending a kid's gradution or wedding 2. copies of poems, quotes, or other smarmy stuff women think are important and of course, men do not 3. pictures of them with their 'gal pals' men think such women are high-schoolish 4. playing an obvious game of too hard to get...there is a balance and if a lady does not send back a reply within two days, they are history 5. smarmy flirty messages like "you are so handsome" or "I bet you have to beat the girls off with a stick" remember, the ladies can be needy too and its just as much of a turnoff 6. an unsolicited phone number or email address (let the guy offer, then ask for it) 7. any comment that sounds like or is an insult, put-down, snarky, stuck-up, or bitchy...a clear signal she has emotional issues.
@@the1337fleet Literally none of these are fine. If you are female then you are who I am talking about. Texting snotty responses is a no-no female to male.
@@speedomars I'm male 1. Pics of their daily life is cute and gives you something to talk about and shows she wants to connect 2. Poems and quotes not always "smarmy" and you can try to learn something from the poem or quote 3. Same as 1 4. Feel free to move on from those who aren't interested enough, but it's possible to be playful and reengage 5. What's wrong with compliments? Giving compliments does not mean needy 6. Depends on the girl. Nothing wrong with proactivity 7. Sarcasm is an art form, and you should be so lucky to talk to someone who is fluent. I love sarcasm. Very humorous and powerful when done right. If she's insulting you seriously rather than teasing, then fine, draw a boundary You sound judgmental, negative, and like you're seeking a very specific kind of woman. Their behavior is a reflection of yours, so the best way to improve their behavior is to improve yours.
@@the1337fleet You must be a Beta male then... cutesy pictures are a kind of narcissism, overly sentimental (if you don't understand these terms ask someone). The same goes for sending out quotes and poems...sloppy, overly-sentimental and childish. We may all have favorite quotes, but quoting others is an indication of a non-creative mind. If she wants to connect, then let her talk about the here and now, something relevant...something specific to who she really is or what she is looking for and what she wants in a man. Directness. When someone you just met or are trying to develop an adult relationship with lays a fat compliment on you early, that is a WARNING signal. Not a good thing. It is an attempt to manipulate. These are not tough concepts. If you are not aware of these things then you will become a victim of them. I like Marni because she tells it like it is...she is always on point and lays it out there raw...if you LISTEN to her you will be better off.
ok. couple things here. 1. i found this in my reccomendations wondering if it is was just mee who got this in the rcommendations or if anybody else got this in their recommendations???? and 2. why the hell am i not subscribed here??? ima subcribe the hell of it.
One more. Women are notorious for being indecisive - especially where to eat. It’s ironic that you’re saying that she despises a man for not knowing exactly where to go initially knowing da*n well that she wouldn’t known if it she had hours to figure it out. All these rules. How can people ever love one another if men have to tiptoe around a women’s feelings and annoyances. Men, be yourself and be strong in it. If she’s annoyed, let her be annoyed. If she ghosts you - who cares? It’s the one that doesn’t play this silly sh*t that gets the guy. A hassle free feminine girl is every man’s dream.
To all the guys complaining that this is too complicated, etc., it really isn't. The underlying premise of all of these rules is to project confidence & masculinity, and to use the texts to facilitate meeting up in person. Show that you're the leader instead of asking her. Don't overuse cutesy emojis. Have long conversations in person instead of doing the essay text.
@@jeremywheeler8417 If it’s not money then it’s your sperm. Once they have what they need and have a few kids they will be done with you. We are commodities to them.
That is wonderful. Ofcourse do all that. But that will at best get you shallow sexual encounters. Because no matter how much you workout you will lose your looks and health can suffer any moment. No matter how good a job, you can lose it or your business can crash and no matter how much you work on yourself you are still human with all human frailties. If a woman cannot accept a man with his vulnerabilities then it's not worth it.
@@ezcast4818 It is equally bad if not worse in urban India today. Men in their 30s getting dumped if they are balding or go out of shape. The sexual dynamics are so skewed here that a woman fat, pimple faced and make up coated can get young dudes while the guy who shows first signs of aging is baggage.
It just really isnt as complicated as Marni tries to make it fellas....thank God the quality women I have enjoyed time with in this life were not as crazy as she
The overall quality of women these days has taken a serious dive and turn for the worse. I agree, it is not that complicated and never has been if she is interested and she wants you, she definitely let you know point blank.
I went to that link. I got bored with "the sell" and clicked off. Way too many words, lines and reasons why I "need" that product, which tells me I probably don't need the product. My philosophy: less is more. I give her the gift of missing me. It makes THEM reach out 9 out of 10 times.
I have difficulty with complex rules for myself. Simple guy here. I try to just work on my, ‘intent’ when in a muddling on through situation with women. I try to focus only on my own intent and avoid any intent to control in liesu of focusing my intent on having fun.
I always say good morning and good night to my girl over text (Long distance for the last 6 months), and 50% of the time she'll beat me to it due to time zone differences. I know you said 'girls you're not going out with yet' but still, I thought I'd add that in for balance. We also ask each other how each others day was, it just shows interest and care. She also actively requests essay length messages once in a while, she says she reads it hearing my voice and imagines me there saying it all to her in person. Personal tastes for every individual I guess. I have however, made the mistake of pouring my heart out to her way too early in the beginning. It made her pull back a little and made her worry that I would be disappointed if the situation and feelings changed. But after talking about communication, worries and timing, we made it through in the end. I still have to bite my tongue regularly when emotions take hold, and thats quite unfair in my mind, but once I realize Im in danger of making a mess of things, I can pull myself up in time..
I wish this came sooner like on Saturday. My first one night stand apparently but I didn’t even realize it. Didn’t want to have sex because I wanted to salvage a relationship with her and I sent her a hopeless romantic text because we bonded pretty well and quickly. Let’s just say she isn’t responding to my texts anymore lmao. To be fair, I haven’t had a lot of experience so I learned from my mistakes and will get better in my next outings.
I wouldn't give up hope just yet. You might send her one more text apologizing for acting all gushy and acknowledging you might have scared her away telling her what you thought she wanted to hear. Reassure her that while you enjoyed your time together, you're completely okay with not seeing her again if that's her wish. Accordingly, you won't be contacting her again. Thus assured you're not a psycho stalker (as she might be paranoidly thinking) she might start relaxing about you and thinking she shouldn't call it quits on you just yet. She might then surprise you within a week or two with a text.
You definitely took the correct approach, if your goal was to establish a lasting relationship with her. You represented yourself as a high quality individual. If you have only known her for a short time, keep in mind that she may not be what she seems. She may have given you a great first impression, but that is similar to the saying "don't judge a book by its cover". You would like to think that all women are virtuous, but a few are just horn-dogs and would fool around with you and ten other guys in the same week. I knew a woman like that, who seemed great at first, but ultimately turned out to be a run of the mill ho. If you don't hear from your girl, just chalk it up to experience, and move on. Once again, you are taking the right approach to relationships. Build it up over time for a lasting one. Relationships that started from the get go with having sex are usually VERY short lived. Anyways, good luck!
At my personal experience so long she dont say specific she dont want you to contact here ever again you should be able to fix it. it maybe is a back to start process and take some time. but in the end it will work so long she dont say specific she dont want you to contact here ever again. there is still hope.
@@Bman-qo9sg thank you all for the comments. Really good insight! I messaged her again and she replied back so we will see where it goes. I’m looking at it like I shouldn’t put all my eggs in one basket because that’s what makes me hyper focus on one girl. So I want to take it easy and not expect anything to happen with us
I got in trouble from a girl We weren’t even dating, we dated once. She said it won’t work because I never even sent a “Good morning” text. This was day three. I think I dodged a bullet
Little note on #10: it might be OK to let her decide where to go, especially if you're new in town and she's not. But do it in a decisive way. I've had success saying something like "I'm free on Monday from 6pm on I'll go for drinks with you anywhere around neighborhood X, but I need your help picking the place". Then she sent me a link to the Instagram page of the place she chose and I gave her my honest opinion on it (yes, that looks nice and it's a short walk).
I got the “good morning” text from the most recent girl I dated every morning. It didn’t turn me off. It made me happy that she was thinking of me. That’s the sane, rational way to look at it.
No actually it’s not. Just because we as guys like a thing doesn’t mean women like the same thing for the same reasons. We as guys don’t have women always pursuing all the time with the same one liners…
I did have a girl specifically ask me to start texting her good morning and goodnight shortly after we became intimate. Not sure what that was about. I think women have an idea of what a healthy relationship looks like on paper. But if you do all those things you turn into a woman yourself and they are no longer atttacted.
For the first one, what if she sends it first? The woman I am interested in has sent me a good morning quite a few times. Even as early as 5 am. (I do get up at 5 am before work.)
These tips kind of perpetuate the "all girls are the same" myth. Sort of like those how to get any woman books or videos. People are like snowflakes, no two the same. Want to find a girl that's interested in you? Be YOU! Don't follow a set of rules. Just be yourself and say what you think or feel.
"yourself" is a result of societal programming, family trauma and any mistakes your parents made -- know yourself and become the best version of yourself THEN be that.
#9: how about never invite a woman out via text at all. Be a man, grow a pair and call her or speak to her in real life. These are really just ways to be an adult, not complicated at all.
It’s like a constant game of minesweeper. One wrong move and you’re out. And I don’t think it’s Marnie’s fault either. Maybe she’s trying to help us find a clear path.
If kindness and truth lose to attitude and ego it's just fine to run solo, in fact there isn't a biscuit that makes it worth it to be ruled by the whisker biscuit😊
Marni I love most of your videos but this one doesn't resonate with my personal experience..... maybe my awesomeness just outweighs all of my bad texting habits (and ill close with a bunch of exclamation points) !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! .... Do love your videos keep doing what you do.
Hey marni, im like 90% sure the type of guys sending the dk pick are not here on this side of the tracks of youtube. Those guys are playing fish 🎣 and they know girls dont like it but 1-2 girls out of every 1,000 will like it and thats good enough odds for them.
Makes me wonder about Sigmund Freud on " Penis Envy" which is why women will purchase hairspray in a phallic shaped container . What do women want ? I give up.
Hey if I send three texts as one statement at one time, instead of a three sentence text like this question is becoming, is that seen as a triple text or understood as a single message in fragments?
This whole game is a huge turn off for me. I have plenty of fun mini conversations with random women during the course of my day. I end up smiling and they end up smiling. But if I gotta consult the queensbury rule book on texting and walk on egg shells when it comes to asking a woman out, oh hell no. Nothing makes a woman less attractive to me than playing games.
What about a long voicemail msg explaining things that happened, that were out of your control, being the reasons you waited a long time to get a hold of a woman?
@@johno6224 Oh ok I see. I would leave a voice message BUT I would keep it short, simple and to the point IF you feel like u was in the wrong.... I am sorry for x, I would like to talk to you about it in person, I can better explain myself as words can be misunderstood over texts, hope to hear from you soon. IF u do not hear from her let it go, another text or voice message just gonna get u blocked. That's what i would do in regards to your question or what I understood of it :).
@@NightLifeDJs1 I definitely know and agree more than one text or voicemail will get you blocked. You make a good point and reminder of what I lost sight of, which is to fight the urge to over explain or be long winded. I also know it's good to let it go if they don't respond. Shit in life gets in the way too much at times you know? Anyway thanks for the advice etc. I do appreciate it.
Marni - aka wing girl. I like your vids, they are thought provoking & I’ve subscribed to your channel, the hair thing is very distracting as a viewer, I don’t mean to be harsh or rude but I’ve also seen others make the same observation.
I understand that the not liking the needy guy thing. I’m into fitness and boxing so I had a history of having to deal with two younger guys that wanted to hang out too much so even as a guy I understand and I’m not even into guys.
Hi, I'm 42 and disabled from a heart condition since birth and living on a small fixed income. I dont really have money to spend on a date. So together it makes me less confident. How do I overcome this?
Take care of yourself first. There is no woman in the world more important than your health and well being. I understand your desire and I wish you find someone who'll see your goodness and not spending capacity. If you come across someone like that pursue her and be honest.
My way to avoid the hey where do you want to go to eat conversation. I say, "Guess where I'm taking you for dinner." And I pick the first thing she says.
*If its too much effort, use that energy to better yourself. Thats what i’ve learnt!*
The best text is: "I will stop texting", to regain my selfrespect.
I appreciate that you provide value before asking for “likes” and subscribers. Most RUclipsrs seem to do it up front before they’ve said anything. It’s like going in for a kiss before the date even started.
Nice well explain
Most of them do not say anything at all…………other than a sales pitch with some useless froth
It’s better to not say anything at all…
Everything we say pisses them off…
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@@damanybrown5036 Well…
It’s true, for the most part…
@@CrimsonSurvival hence why it no longer bothers me when I "piss them off"!!
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*Understanding what not to say is just as important as knowing the right approach.*
Pro tip : Guys...if the girl is not interested in you ..or gives you late reply then don't talk to that girl ever
Move on to another one
For their replaceable, and can only choose the men, who first choose them.
Ya, I was dealing with a girl who would message me but when I message back she replies it days or even weeks later, if I ask her a question she doesn't answer it. I got really fed after about 2 months, and stopped messaging her. She's still texting me though, but I just reply one or sometime just completely ignore her. I'm tired of the mind games that women play, so I don't even try anymore. I'm just enjoying my single life, traveling the world and doing whatever I want. I know I'll eventually find a good woman
@@franciswoodcock9169 when you’re trying to get a girl, that girl will not be interested in you. When they know they can easily have you, they will play games. You have to act indifferent and not give them attention.
@@adamcramm Ya Bruh that's what I'm doing now. I don't really care anymore, I don't go out of my way to please women anymore.
@@franciswoodcock9169 - your not the only one who's tired of the games. The only game I'm interested in is a game of tonsil-hockey, Lol.
Women know very quickly if they are into a guy.. If a girl doesn't like you for who you are, nothing that you can say matters. If she is affended or doesn't respond to something like "good morning", then save your money. She's not worth it. No girl is worth chasing. The simple fact is that women decide and will let you know despite what you say...
That's not entirely correct. Most girls play hard to get even if they are attracted to men. So chasing to make sure is not a worst thing but about money spending I'm on opposite side.
Good morning is a kind gesture, I don't understand why this is a red flag on the list.
The good morning texts are probably okay once in a while but too often just makes u look too available.. everybody wants what they can’t have or things that are a little more scarse
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Crazy how we have do all this and the women do almost nothing. The more I watch Marni, the more I ask myself, are women really worth it anymore
Just had the same chat with a friend. Were coming to the conclusion that the risk isn't worth the reward. He told me he's banking $500 a month since being single. It ask the question why buy when you can rent? lol. Almost nothing and if you don't get it right on to the next. Was this too long, oh wait your a guy, its ok.
RUclips just deleted my two-paragraph response. I guess it didn't agree with my position.
@@nathan2813 Yeah same here lol
@@nathan2813 Can you condense it please?
@@Franatomy I basically argued that men shouldn't feel like they need a woman to be happy - there are PLENTY of rewarding pursuits that don't require forfeiting such a humongous chunk of money, time, and peace of mind to please a woman. Also, there's already WAY too many people on the planet - we certainly don't need more children.
This lady is very sharp I wish I would have seen this 20 years ago because it took me a lot of pain and misery to learn what she is saying... You young men pay attention and your life will be better for it.
Guilty of only one! The “good morning”. You’re right, I can see how it’s too early & too intimate. Thanks great advice on this…
I'm so glad that I can confirm from my own experience over the years that you're absolutely right on all the other points you made.
Gotta like that comment up cause l we see is negativity
The girl needs to win me over as well. This is all very good for the guys who are interested in a specific girl. In reality, it needs to be a 2 way street. I love your videos and know some guys who really need these.
Exactly.. These are good tips that I already know, but without this being presented in a way that includes the two way street.... It becomes this thing where women are sitting on a throne and everything we do or say is subject to judgment.. and we better watch out or we are going to lose them. They've been given this power for so long by men in general that they think it's normal.
Yeah. I find that we have to do everything, and girls sit back and want us to do all the work...
Marni, I agree with you normally about most everything. This was over the top. If a woman is annoyed that I said good morning, or text because I had a thought knowing she’d answer when she had time, or if I had to worry about word count as to not get on her nerves. If she is that irritable about texts, it doesn’t look good because life is way harder than that. This is game playing and trying to make a man jump through hoops. What does she do to get my attention. I don’t do a thing if it isn’t reciprocated. Ever.
Welcome to dating
there is nothing wrong with anything you said. She's the problem.
@@Redreefmedia that's not dating that's shit
Well said, If a woman does not have the basic respect to communicate like an adult, then most likely it is an indication of the BS likely follow
YEAH!!! What's in it for ME?
Sometimes women can have boring conversations as well, it's not always the guys. If she don't have any interesting topics to talk about, than that can be a turn off as well.
Hmmm....did not know that saying good morning....or good afternoon or evening....would be a turn off. Did that on messages that I sent out when I was.on on-line dating sites. Have to remember that.
Thanks for the info, Marnii!
You are like my new best friend. I am a clueless 54-yr-old divorced guy and a gorgeous woman gave me her phone number and asked me to call her. I binged a bunched of your videos and mustered the courage to call and expressed confidence. It went well. Thank you!! If you ever pass through central Ohio lets meet for coffee so I can say thanks in person.
I just say good morning because I think it’s the polite way to talk to a person no matter the gender
Marni... you've got a brilliant and innovative show, and your delivery and warmth help us be OK with delicate topics. Just stop touching your hair all the time.
It means she likes us...
Good thing about channels like this is there will never be rehashed content
Not had much success with this dominant/commanding attitude/approach eg alpha male - most women need to know where, when, what's it like, what type of food, how's she going to get there - and back - being an older guy I'd rather make sure that her needs are equally satisfied/considered - probably having a daughter of my own makes me more aware of what women have to put up with?
Marni your the best. I got my crushes number yesterday. I'm sure this video will be just as helpful, if not more. Thanks again.
1: good morning text
2: triple text
3: the emoji overloaded texts
4: the hey text
5: closed ended questions
6: the essay text
7: the dick pic
8: 'send nudes' text
9: the ask out text
10: the indicisive text
11: the interrogation
12: hopeless romantic text
13:
14: The text that uses words
@@ozymandias5449 😂😂
REAL MVP. Thanks broski
Watch her video on that. They want you to pay for it. Lol. I'm tired of all this . I tried some of these techniques but women are too complicated. I am who I am and could give a shit if a girl wants me or not. Too old for this.
In other words, just be a complete jerk.
Thanks Marni , basically never be needy
Using your advice as I type this... just met someone this morning. Good luck to me!
I agree about hey! It's not an introduction or a greeting ,,it's an eclamation
Many of them are never satisfied. It shouldn’t be this complicated. It’s pathetic.
Its better to talk to her in person so you can look into her eyes and tell whether or not she is into you. Texting is a big waste of time for both parties.
it is if you're trying to have conversations .. texts are useful for setting up the meeting so you can 'look into her eyes' and have those in person conversations ... or better yet call .. but a lot of people are used to texts now so that's that
I always start with "I like knives, do you like knives?"
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WIFES WITH KNIVES, Investigation Discovery
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Knives then I'll be like do you like blades I loooove blazes 🤭🤭
Hahahaha, and what about this one: "I bet for 100 dollars, you don't like me".
Here's a tip, use #13 BUT Text her all this sentimental stuff, emotional attachment stuff and when she replies indifferently, you then text her "ha, I was just playing. I bet you were getting scared" and watch how she grows even more attached. Again, this isnt gonna work on someone you just met or on someone you know very well (knows your shenanagins by now or has that emotional connection with you already). This works on the women you're JUST dating, maybe a few dates, but hasnt gotten too serious yet.
I stumbled upon this one. Works so nicely.
How about no texts and no social media?
old school I can dig it .. but sadly we're not going back to that
This just makes texting that much harder now thanks
Basically, the key is to not send anything unnecessary just to be polite (boring filler is not attractive), be the leader as men are expected to lead, not give her attention that she doesn't deserve, not be childish (there's a difference between childish and playful), not take a huge amount of time out of your day to text her, and of course not be a pervert. These are all values of a high-value man.
Marniiiii!!! No 11 is missing!!! What should I doooo???? I have a note book full of your advices, maybe n0 11 was the most important!!!
I knew all this and I've never done any of them before. I'm so proud of myself.
Wow You actually have hit a list of things I have never done before!!! Usually your video show how dumb and clueless I am.. This was a first for me but I will continue watching your videos and learn!!
I believe it is best to think about the woman you are interested in and save polite phrases for married women or women you are not interested in. There is nothing wrong with being polite. Some guys, like myself, are more introverts. We are not the outgoing celebrity types who may appeal to the women we are interested in. Just relax and be yourself. Don:t try to be someone you ate not or use phrases you would never use. It won't come across like you want it to....
I'm been sucking at this texting thing. Thank you Marni❤
In the dating game, as soon as we leave, memories slowly fade, and new flirtations arise.
How about a picture of my unlimited American Express card is this a turn off?
Im going to assume you were joking, but.... If you have to flash your credit card to a woman, youre better off with an escort - might as well pay for exactly what you want than rolling the dice on a gold digger.
Love your help, great suggestions. But there were only twelve
New to RUclips but I find your site interesting. Your information is helpful to many men.
"Hey" is such a common slang term ro start a conversation nowadays I hear it every where. So can understand if someone starts with that and continues the text. And you just used that same word in an example when said "Hey let's go drinking tonight." So I think that word does have it's place then
I sent a “good morning” text to someone who I never met in person and never even spoke on the phone to. She said that me saying that made her day
What makes her day is that a new guy who does not yet eat in her hand is interested to her.
If she realizes you are too interested or too available she will move on and stop answering
I have come to the conclusion that if I can’t be freaking courteous with my introduction without being viewed as too forward, that chivalry is being murdered and not just dying. Either that or women are just crazy. It’s probably both, it’s both right?
both
The funny thing about the triple text is that it is almost risk-free. If you have been ignored twice, there are just two explanations: 1) She missed the first two, 2) she does not want to respond. In scenario 1, a third probably won‘t hurt, and in scenario 2 it won‘t change anything anyway. So don‘t be afraid to text a third time, I have turned conversations around with the right third message. Once, for instance, the woman had not responded earlier because she literally was embarrassed that she had not responded for so long, and it took another message to get her to do so.
I would agree with some of these lists, not all of it, and I am a woman. Problem is majority of these issues is discussible or easy to speak up about the problem later on if it's getting overboard. Hence going silent which I am obviously guilty of the silent part. Too busy trying to hold my anger back if it was not appropriate or possibly disturbed or fearful.
* [1] Confusing about #1 but I do understand there is a balance about these good morning/goodnight texts. I do admit I rather have phones calls or a voice chat (a substitute as a phone call at times), but I am traumatized by video chats ever since my first serious relationship. I think its taken over 10 years to finally be OK with basic video chat requirements but long-term not too much.
I know this is subjective for everyone. I don't mind texts of good morning or good night every once in a while but you are right if the relationship is serious officially and not a first time meeting or there has been no establishment of a relationship between the two of you. Of course, if someone complains about "You never text me a good morning" or a goodnight or worse if someone guilts you to missing a 'personal text' just one time then it's best to move on.
* [2] Triple text is subjective for me, because it may depend a lot how it's being said. I don't think it is a big deal to me, as long it's not rude nor controlling. Though if it is rude and controlling then run, run far away. I cannot recall "needy", but yes for controlling and rude versions. I know women and men have their moments to be frankly honest when someone is insecure or worried. Plus I had moments my cellphone did have reception issues or as you said one gets very busy in life.
Majority of the time a triple text for my experiences was due to concern. Not saying this is a good first time impression of course, especially if you just met so I get that it would be a turn off.
* [3] Overload emojis, sure I can agree about this. I cannot say it zips up my v-part, but yes it is a major turn off all together when see too many emojis in one text. It's fine with basic emojis, but I am behind the times for these and rather keep it minimal or none. Emojis do help paint a picture but it certainly doesn't replace reality.
* [4] Sure, can agree about the "Hey" text only. It confuses my mind every time when anyone does this to me only in text or it scares me sometimes, haha. In real life I don't care to be honest. Not a big deal to me so it's subjective. I just assume anyone says "Hey" to get my attention, not a conversation starter per say.
* [5] One ended closed questions, depends what it is. Not a big deal to me to be honest. Some days people are chatty and some are not. I cannot judge too quickly since I am guilty of either being this way too or I become a chatter box.
Guys are usually simple anyway, so it's not a big deal but if you meant a way to get a conversation going then do this in real life or a phone call. So, a text version of a closing question, sure it may not be always appealing. It's hard to avoid of course.
* [6] You may not like essay texts so in your statement "no girl" can handle it but I am honestly the opposite. And I am no girl either. I prefer it far more in person when a lot of deep thinking or detail discussion occurs or a phone call is acceptable.
I know not everyone likes a detail text. I would hope the person would speak up right away instead of tolerate it until one snaps, but it doesn't bother me. As long it's not rude nor controlling, go ham detail with me. Again in person or a phone call is far better of course, but I don't mind the text version either as long it's appropriate. Not the venting kind about my ex talk, that is a major no if I am trying to get to know a man unless this means an obvious red flag of being unavailable to begin with which they may be doing a major favor for anyone.
Be a good listener but don't pull a double-standard either for this spectrum. I am sure everyone is guilty once in their life texting too much of something, even if that was one detailed text sentence. So I only agree depending what is being said and how serious the relationship is. Even if you are friends, assuming you two have a healthy communication about it. And if that friend has a spouse or a serious relationship, then please be honest with them and don't have secrets when going into a detail text mode with that friend of yours.
* [7] The below the belt photo from a guy, 100% agree with you. I certainly would be seeing it as a way to break things off if meeting them for the first time or even few times. And I don't want that no matter how good of a relationship it is. I'm not into porn and I rather respect a man, not be the opposite. Plus it disrespects me majorly in a heartbeat.
* [8] Oi at #8. Similar to what was said about #7 with inappropriate photos. There's enough pain and anguish about this topic, unfortunately I see this common with some guys who are into porn and it's just disheartening when you get that foolish request of a question. Even if I liked or 'loved' the guy, speaking in current times, I wouldn't want this regardless. There needs to be respect, not desperation and low-self esteem.
* [9] I think it's a bit subjective with #9. Usually I seen shy guys act this way often. It does not mean it's ill intention or unattractive all the time.
You bet if a guy were super confident it be like "Oh yes, please! I definitely want to do this with you." I had one guy in my life who was confident but it turned out as not meant to be together. Thank God and I mean that towards Him.
I think it's understandable for the shy ones out there, because of inexperience or maybe bad experiences on their end with past relationships themselves. Sometimes one needs to give a little lee-way for a first time, as long it's appropriate. And it's not hard to know if you are interested of a man or you know it's not going to work out. Unless this is one of your reasons to not be interested then fair enough.
Not going to lie, it's attractive to be with a confident man, even when he makes mistakes and admits it calmly or foolishly in a healthy fun way. Shy guys can be the same way too, but you are right it helps to see if the guy is able to lead or does he only allow you to make the decisions?
I prefer a balance versus one-sided person making all the decisions every time is not too attractive. I would hope the guy is not submissive, but cooperative and hope he places his real two cents in if he was not certain. It's OK at times when there is uncertainty but sure one has to reach a point in life to be confident and lead on. Especially when it's required. When it is necessary.
I get it though, not every woman out there wants a man to be always indecisive, and neither do I. And if the first impression became indecisive, it's up to the lady (or sir) to decide if they want to take the next step of interest or not. Or in other words whomever is the confident one and who is willing to take the next step.
* [10? 11? 12?] I got lost at these numbers? I miss a lot of something. I think I am at #12, I hope, which I very much agree with this. It's extremely a turn off or painful to deal with an instant, paranoid text questions. Happened to my first serious relationship and he ended up cheating on me three times, while I had done zero. I don't take infidelity lightly.
Constantly stalking questions is not a wise move for anyone. It shows how majorly insecure you are and possibly lack trust whom you are with. If someone is that paranoid, just don't start such a relationship or end the relationship for goodness sake. It's torture for both the lady and the guy or whomever.
* [13] Yes, you are right about this #13 if the lady is not even close to the level of romance in early stages of the relationship. Worse is in a month or less. Love bombing happens on both sides if you probably knew each other as far away people or acquaintances for years. If he says a deep profound love in early stages it is a scary feeling due to not wanting to disappoint the guy you just started to get to know with.
Worse, don't place a woman (or any guy) on a pedestal when falling hard on them so quickly. It's frankly not fair to the lady or the guy because everyone has flaws, we are human and if someone is committed so quickly in a month or less and assuming they barely know you at all, it's a huge red flag. Be gentle and ease away or be honest and say "Whoa we should try to slow down here."
If anyone allows this in person for a serious deep conversation, avoid the text unless have to. It is better to say it in person but it's not good either in just text alone. Actions need to match what you say, otherwise words meaning absolutely nothing. And a lot of love bombing in early stages in a text and in person can be related to a deeper wound whomever you are or 'were' with. It can happen quickly for some people which I don't discredit those out there.
I say don't quickly place all yours eggs in one basket in a love bomb text nor with any person in such a short amount of time. It's not a game, and if someone has a deep wound from a past ex then slow it down. It's true, it's usually a quick silent run away if someone does a love bomb text and vice versa in real life too.
Either work it out assuming no one is dealing with a recent break up and just slow it down or well, the person who is listening to their gut has to end it right there. Especially if it's about a past ex you are not aware about, and this someone sends a deep, thoughtful romance in text and/or in person. I think text alone would make me run away to avoid players. Oh wait, it has made me run away by text and in person...
Some good points regardless Marni. Also, some do vary for everyone too. I get it though if it's just meeting the guy for the first time or been on very few dates. Agreeable on certain points here, but not all of it.
Well Said
I’m glad I seen this video today. Yep…I’ve definitely made some mistakes. Thanks for the advice !
do not go by this. just be decent guy and that all girl want
Fun. So lets close the loop. Here are texts women should not send: 1. picture of their dog, cat, the woods, the beach, their car, getting coffee or attending a kid's gradution or wedding 2. copies of poems, quotes, or other smarmy stuff women think are important and of course, men do not 3. pictures of them with their 'gal pals' men think such women are high-schoolish 4. playing an obvious game of too hard to get...there is a balance and if a lady does not send back a reply within two days, they are history 5. smarmy flirty messages like "you are so handsome" or "I bet you have to beat the girls off with a stick" remember, the ladies can be needy too and its just as much of a turnoff 6. an unsolicited phone number or email address (let the guy offer, then ask for it) 7. any comment that sounds like or is an insult, put-down, snarky, stuck-up, or bitchy...a clear signal she has emotional issues.
Literally all of these are fine if you know how to handle it. Seems like you're the stuck-up one
@@the1337fleet Literally none of these are fine. If you are female then you are who I am talking about. Texting snotty responses is a no-no female to male.
@@speedomars I'm male
1. Pics of their daily life is cute and gives you something to talk about and shows she wants to connect
2. Poems and quotes not always "smarmy" and you can try to learn something from the poem or quote
3. Same as 1
4. Feel free to move on from those who aren't interested enough, but it's possible to be playful and reengage
5. What's wrong with compliments? Giving compliments does not mean needy
6. Depends on the girl. Nothing wrong with proactivity
7. Sarcasm is an art form, and you should be so lucky to talk to someone who is fluent. I love sarcasm. Very humorous and powerful when done right. If she's insulting you seriously rather than teasing, then fine, draw a boundary
You sound judgmental, negative, and like you're seeking a very specific kind of woman. Their behavior is a reflection of yours, so the best way to improve their behavior is to improve yours.
@@the1337fleet You must be a Beta male then... cutesy pictures are a kind of narcissism, overly sentimental (if you don't understand these terms ask someone). The same goes for sending out quotes and poems...sloppy, overly-sentimental and childish. We may all have favorite quotes, but quoting others is an indication of a non-creative mind. If she wants to connect, then let her talk about the here and now, something relevant...something specific to who she really is or what she is looking for and what she wants in a man. Directness. When someone you just met or are trying to develop an adult relationship with lays a fat compliment on you early, that is a WARNING signal. Not a good thing. It is an attempt to manipulate. These are not tough concepts. If you are not aware of these things then you will become a victim of them. I like Marni because she tells it like it is...she is always on point and lays it out there raw...if you LISTEN to her you will be better off.
@@the1337fleet dude, you’re gay...
ok. couple things here. 1. i found this in my reccomendations wondering if it is was just mee who got this in the rcommendations or if anybody else got this in their recommendations???? and 2. why the hell am i not subscribed here??? ima subcribe the hell of it.
One more. Women are notorious for being indecisive - especially where to eat. It’s ironic that you’re saying that she despises a man for not knowing exactly where to go initially knowing da*n well that she wouldn’t known if it she had hours to figure it out. All these rules. How can people ever love one another if men have to tiptoe around a women’s feelings and annoyances. Men, be yourself and be strong in it. If she’s annoyed, let her be annoyed. If she ghosts you - who cares? It’s the one that doesn’t play this silly sh*t that gets the guy. A hassle free feminine girl is every man’s dream.
To all the guys complaining that this is too complicated, etc., it really isn't. The underlying premise of all of these rules is to project confidence & masculinity, and to use the texts to facilitate meeting up in person. Show that you're the leader instead of asking her. Don't overuse cutesy emojis. Have long conversations in person instead of doing the essay text.
I refuse to even consider that digital (texting) skills can project masculinity.
100% true 👍
@heinrichcorneliusagrippavo1135 have fun jerking it then. You have no game.
I would probably do the indecisive text to a woman without realizing that I’m actually doing it.
I Love ❤️ You Marni, you'r advice is actually "Spot-on" TY
Good job girl!🚀
Go to the gym, work on your finances and educate yourself. Don’t chase woman and let them go after you.
All you'll be good for is your money. That's all they want
@@jeremywheeler8417 If it’s not money then it’s your sperm. Once they have what they need and have a few kids they will be done with you. We are commodities to them.
That is wonderful. Ofcourse do all that. But that will at best get you shallow sexual encounters. Because no matter how much you workout you will lose your looks and health can suffer any moment. No matter how good a job, you can lose it or your business can crash and no matter how much you work on yourself you are still human with all human frailties. If a woman cannot accept a man with his vulnerabilities then it's not worth it.
@@ezcast4818 It is equally bad if not worse in urban India today. Men in their 30s getting dumped if they are balding or go out of shape. The sexual dynamics are so skewed here that a woman fat, pimple faced and make up coated can get young dudes while the guy who shows first signs of aging is baggage.
thank you so much for this vid. it really opened my eyes Marni
Just TALK TO THEM! Texting does NOT convey emotions, and just gets you in trouble
Thankyou Marni, Really Look Forward To Learning From Your Preperation
It just really isnt as complicated as Marni tries to make it fellas....thank God the quality women I have enjoyed time with in this life were not as crazy as she
The overall quality of women these days has taken a serious dive and turn for the worse. I agree, it is not that complicated and never has been if she is interested and she wants you, she definitely let you know point blank.
I went to that link. I got bored with "the sell" and clicked off. Way too many words, lines and reasons why I "need" that product, which tells me I probably don't need the product. My philosophy: less is more. I give her the gift of missing me. It makes THEM reach out 9 out of 10 times.
I have difficulty with complex rules for myself. Simple guy here. I try to just work on my, ‘intent’ when in a muddling on through situation with women. I try to focus only on my own intent and avoid any intent to control in liesu of focusing my intent on having fun.
Thanks for the advice Marni!
I always say good morning and good night to my girl over text (Long distance for the last 6 months), and 50% of the time she'll beat me to it due to time zone differences. I know you said 'girls you're not going out with yet' but still, I thought I'd add that in for balance. We also ask each other how each others day was, it just shows interest and care.
She also actively requests essay length messages once in a while, she says she reads it hearing my voice and imagines me there saying it all to her in person. Personal tastes for every individual I guess.
I have however, made the mistake of pouring my heart out to her way too early in the beginning. It made her pull back a little and made her worry that I would be disappointed if the situation and feelings changed. But after talking about communication, worries and timing, we made it through in the end. I still have to bite my tongue regularly when emotions take hold, and thats quite unfair in my mind, but once I realize Im in danger of making a mess of things, I can pull myself up in time..
I wish this came sooner like on Saturday. My first one night stand apparently but I didn’t even realize it. Didn’t want to have sex because I wanted to salvage a relationship with her and I sent her a hopeless romantic text because we bonded pretty well and quickly. Let’s just say she isn’t responding to my texts anymore lmao. To be fair, I haven’t had a lot of experience so I learned from my mistakes and will get better in my next outings.
I wouldn't give up hope just yet. You might send her one more text apologizing for acting all gushy and acknowledging you might have scared her away telling her what you thought she wanted to hear. Reassure her that while you enjoyed your time together, you're completely okay with not seeing her again if that's her wish. Accordingly, you won't be contacting her again.
Thus assured you're not a psycho stalker (as she might be paranoidly thinking) she might start relaxing about you and thinking she shouldn't call it quits on you just yet. She might then surprise you within a week or two with a text.
@@nathan2813 good advice
You definitely took the correct approach, if your goal was to establish a lasting relationship with her. You represented yourself as a high quality individual. If you have only known her for a short time, keep in mind that she may not be what she seems. She may have given you a great first impression, but that is similar to the saying "don't judge a book by its cover". You would like to think that all women are virtuous, but a few are just horn-dogs and would fool around with you and ten other guys in the same week. I knew a woman like that, who seemed great at first, but ultimately turned out to be a run of the mill ho. If you don't hear from your girl, just chalk it up to experience, and move on. Once again, you are taking the right approach to relationships. Build it up over time for a lasting one. Relationships that started from the get go with having sex are usually VERY short lived. Anyways, good luck!
At my personal experience so long she dont say specific she dont want you to contact here ever again you should be able to fix it. it maybe is a back to start process and take some time. but in the end it will work so long she dont say specific she dont want you to contact here ever again. there is still hope.
@@Bman-qo9sg thank you all for the comments. Really good insight! I messaged her again and she replied back so we will see where it goes. I’m looking at it like I shouldn’t put all my eggs in one basket because that’s what makes me hyper focus on one girl. So I want to take it easy and not expect anything to happen with us
I got in trouble from a girl
We weren’t even dating, we dated once.
She said it won’t work because I never even sent a “Good morning” text. This was day three.
I think I dodged a bullet
@ Joseph Izzo - oh lordy....🙄
U did
Hi Marni! I purchased your Banter Guide back in 2020, how to I purchase your Conversation Sniper guide?
Very informative she Rocks. some really great advice
Little note on #10: it might be OK to let her decide where to go, especially if you're new in town and she's not. But do it in a decisive way. I've had success saying something like "I'm free on Monday from 6pm on I'll go for drinks with you anywhere around neighborhood X, but I need your help picking the place". Then she sent me a link to the Instagram page of the place she chose and I gave her my honest opinion on it (yes, that looks nice and it's a short walk).
Love You Marni Gorgeous !!!😘💜💯
What happened to #11? (sorry this question probably violates #12 lol)
Your video was enjoyable and very much appreciated.
13 points not to text on the 13th of the month.
🤔 mmm ⁉️
I got the “good morning” text from the most recent girl I dated every morning. It didn’t turn me off. It made me happy that she was thinking of me. That’s the sane, rational way to look at it.
No actually it’s not. Just because we as guys like a thing doesn’t mean women like the same thing for the same reasons. We as guys don’t have women always pursuing all the time with the same one liners…
Love you're work winggirl😍
I did have a girl specifically ask me to start texting her good morning and goodnight shortly after we became intimate. Not sure what that was about. I think women have an idea of what a healthy relationship looks like on paper. But if you do all those things you turn into a woman yourself and they are no longer atttacted.
I am in a relationship with someone who does not use text how do I talk to them outside of answering the phone with them or calling them on the phone
say good morning dudes. don't listen to this.
yes, double text. max.
Texts lefts: "no, maybe and thanks" better keep fantasy for choosing the ice cream tastes 😂
Lol about to say the same thing
For the first one, what if she sends it first? The woman I am interested in has sent me a good morning quite a few times. Even as early as 5 am. (I do get up at 5 am before work.)
These tips kind of perpetuate the "all girls are the same" myth. Sort of like those how to get any woman books or videos. People are like snowflakes, no two the same. Want to find a girl that's interested in you? Be YOU! Don't follow a set of rules. Just be yourself and say what you think or feel.
Agreed. Too many rules. What ever happened to just being yourself?
@@at3970 Women don't want you to be yourself. At all. They want you to be the fantasy they have in their mind.
"yourself" is a result of societal programming, family trauma and any mistakes your parents made -- know yourself and become the best version of yourself THEN be that.
#9: how about never invite a woman out via text at all. Be a man, grow a pair and call her or speak to her in real life. These are really just ways to be an adult, not complicated at all.
It’s like a constant game of minesweeper. One wrong move and you’re out. And I don’t think it’s Marnie’s fault either. Maybe she’s trying to help us find a clear path.
If kindness and truth lose to attitude and ego it's just fine to run solo, in fact there isn't a biscuit that makes it worth it to be ruled by the whisker biscuit😊
Always appreciate your work Marni. Keep at it.
this is all common sense crappola!! Guessing it's helpful for beginners though, lol
Marni I love most of your videos but this one doesn't resonate with my personal experience..... maybe my awesomeness just outweighs all of my bad texting habits (and ill close with a bunch of exclamation points) !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! .... Do love your videos keep doing what you do.
Hey marni, im like 90% sure the type of guys sending the dk pick are not here on this side of the tracks of youtube. Those guys are playing fish 🎣 and they know girls dont like it but 1-2 girls out of every 1,000 will like it and thats good enough odds for them.
Makes me wonder about Sigmund Freud on " Penis Envy" which is why women will purchase hairspray in a phallic shaped container . What do women want ? I give up.
And do you have 1 or 2 good examples for nr.5 with the questions ?
Hey if I send three texts as one statement at one time, instead of a three sentence text like this question is becoming, is that seen as a triple text or understood as a single message in fragments?
I hate girls texting me when we are at the same party, I always text back "what do you want" haha she gets so angry.
loving your videos, i get what you ladies r saying x
Thanks for sharing this❗👍🤙
This whole game is a huge turn off for me. I have plenty of fun mini conversations with random women during the course of my day. I end up smiling and they end up smiling. But if I gotta consult the queensbury rule book on texting and walk on egg shells when it comes to asking a woman out, oh hell no. Nothing makes a woman less attractive to me than playing games.
Swear to god like let me be a regular human being
Idk how it can get more complicated?
What about a long voicemail msg explaining things that happened, that were out of your control, being the reasons you waited a long time to get a hold of a woman?
The thing is the video is about texting, not voicemails
@@NightLifeDJs1 I understand, just throwing it out there since no one has ever brought that up or included that in a video.
@@johno6224 Oh ok I see. I would leave a voice message BUT I would keep it short, simple and to the point IF you feel like u was in the wrong.... I am sorry for x, I would like to talk to you about it in person, I can better explain myself as words can be misunderstood over texts, hope to hear from you soon. IF u do not hear from her let it go, another text or voice message just gonna get u blocked. That's what i would do in regards to your question or what I understood of it :).
@@NightLifeDJs1 I definitely know and agree more than one text or voicemail will get you blocked. You make a good point and reminder of what I lost sight of, which is to fight the urge to over explain or be long winded. I also know it's good to let it go if they don't respond. Shit in life gets in the way too much at times you know? Anyway thanks for the advice etc. I do appreciate it.
I like to read essays. where can I find the girls that write long texts and will lap up all the long(fish) texts that I send?
Marni - aka wing girl. I like your vids, they are thought provoking & I’ve subscribed to your channel, the hair thing is very distracting as a viewer, I don’t mean to be harsh or rude but I’ve also seen others make the same observation.
I use a laptop when texting, hardly realizing if I have sent la ong text since evrything is in a big screen.
I understand that the not liking the needy guy thing. I’m into fitness and boxing so I had a history of having to deal with two younger guys that wanted to hang out too much so even as a guy I understand and I’m not even into guys.
Thank you for sharing this.
Hi, I'm 42 and disabled from a heart condition since birth and living on a small fixed income. I dont really have money to spend on a date. So together it makes me less confident. How do I overcome this?
Take care of yourself first. There is no woman in the world more important than your health and well being. I understand your desire and I wish you find someone who'll see your goodness and not spending capacity. If you come across someone like that pursue her and be honest.
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Thanks for your update!
My way to avoid the hey where do you want to go to eat conversation. I say, "Guess where I'm taking you for dinner." And I pick the first thing she says.