Hey James, thanks for being vulnerable. I’ve been sober for four years. I went to rehab December 22. I’ve been watching your channel since the beginning. I’m an 58 year old rock ‘n’ roll singer that sings jazz now(the great American songbook). Yes the picture is from 12 years ago. I love classic style. Thank you for the work that you’re doing to encourage young and old men another alternative to be there true style self. Happy holidays. 🎄🎊
Merry Christmas, Peter and happy sober birthday of 50 years. I don't usually comment on videos, but I found this one Christmas, and as someone who is free of all substances short of caffeine, I applaud you. I will have 2 years in February.
This literally perfect timing! the past 3 years have just been a growing problem of addiction and reliance on alcohol. I've lost relationships and been close to losing jobs. I want to stop drinking all together but too scared to lose the relationships and places I've become comfortable in. I know if I set up a 2-3 drink rule I'll break it first chance I get
I know this isn't a religious channel, but as a Christian, I particularly like this metaphor as we disapprove of usury with money - how much more I ought disapprove of the usury of my own happiness and wellbeing.
Excellent video James thank you. You and I are 30 years apart and I love watching the channel because it gives me hope for the future. This particular video will get a lot of comments but I will tell you this in short.... What I have learned in my experience is that when it comes to alcohol..... To interfere with our own senses and instincts is to court disaster and misery.....period. Keep up the good work! Thank you.
Congrats James! I decided to abstain at 27 and at 72 I'm happy I made a great decision. Also the "stigma " of not drinking has been absent in my life. Great personal decision for anyone to make.
Hey James, just wanted to take time to acknowledge the high quality and insightful videos you create. They are fantastic, especially since I’m 18 and many men my age have really lost the ability to demonstrate gentleman characteristics and has in turn created weak, lazy men. Your channel is a hidden gem. Thank you
James: I am happy for you and proud of you. One of the many benefits is less cost at a restaurant. The cost of one cocktail is often to the cost of one appetizer or one dessert (which can/should be shared). A gentleman can then be able to explore the various fun desserts and coffee because of the money saved on alcohol purchases. It is a tastier move! And it is nice to be in full control and awareness of the delicious evening! Best wishes to you.
This is spot on. You just shared twelve years of knowledge in under twelve minutes. I can relate to many of the things you said here. The first time I got sober, most people's reaction was " I didn't know you were an alcoholic, or had a drinking problem:.
James, I appreciate your approach to this and want to share my story with you, and the community, as well. I was never interested in alcohol or its taste much--quite frankly, I'm a very proud featherweight when I do have a glass or two. But a long time ago, through dating the wrong people and bending to societal pressures, I always carried this shame that I couldn't hold my booze or have the crazy drunk stories all the "cool people" had. I was so full of FOMO that I put myself on the worst possible mission: to prove that I could be just as "good" as they were. And for a few years, boy did I try. I tried getting into the drunk nightlife culture, throwing up what I couldn't hold in, hanging out with the crowd whose only idea of a good time was to get so blasted they couldn't remember what happened the night before. But it was scary, and it was stupid. Every time I picked up a shot it was to feed the FOMO lords the idea that I could fit in, too, and I physically and mentally felt horrible afterward. It wasn't until I started dating the right partner and connecting with the right friends that I gradually realized it's okay to be me. I was more interested in building our net worth, achieving the healthiest body I could, dressing well, collecting watches and honestly, building a future for us. And the more I worked on myself, the more my true stance on alcohol and crazy nightlife actually strengthened me and gave me confidence about who I am and what I stand for. Does this mean I've gone completely abstinent? Nope, but my relationship with alcohol now is every once in a long while during social gatherings, and I stop at max two drinks (I really just nurse the second one so kind of 1.5 to be fair). Now I'm able to appreciate a well crafted drink while looking across the room at hangovers and toilet huggers in the making, smiling to myself that I've made it past that phase in my life :) Happy holidays, everyone, and wishing you all a successful 2025!
Well done sir. I stopped drinking 13 years ago and my life improved immensely. Wish I had quit in my twenties rather than my fifties. Imagine how much more I could have accomplished.
I’m not a gentleman. I’m a lady. But you’re still like your channel and I love this message. It starts with four weeks of sobriety and then you find yourself years later so detach from the thought of ever drinking again. Sobriety is a slippery slope into a better lifeand like you I also never had a problem. I never really even drank that much except for occasional weekends. But still.
Having had a complicated relationship with alcohol over the years, I fully understand your decision. I have thought of doing this many times, and have abstained for lengthy periods including an entire year at one point. Now that I am 65 and ever more focused on how to prolong my good health and mental acuity, I am seriously contemplating the same step. Fortunately my wife is wanting to do this. (She watches some of your videos as well). I'll let you know in the GentZ community if we set our cocktail shaker aside, but we applaud your decision as a role model/influencer to this community.
Good man. I was not only instrumental in the sales of premium wine and alcohol most of my adult life and blessed with working in some of the most exciting countries and cities in the World because of my association with premium brands but also a bit gluttonous. Im 63 now and ten years ago I gave it up and it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. Most of it is over rated and can be rather self destructive. By embracing a very proactive and disciplined daily workout regime I’ve gained strides in my health and have lost my tolerance and desire for bad food, drink and even premium cigars.
James, first of all, congratulations on your decision to abstain from alcohol. I myself do not drink (nor do I really comment on RUclips videos much, but this topic is close to my heart), and am coming up on 2 years of being clean & sober in February. My reasoning for sobriety wasn't actually alcohol, as I never really drank much, but to avoid all substances because I had an unhealthy relationship with cannabis. You really hit the nail on the head with a couple things; no alcohol means you can wake up early in the morning, not having to recover from the night before. I also find that I have MORE confidence when sober, not less compared to being stoned/drunk. As for non-alcoholic drinks, I made a bizarre choice to enter the restaurant service-industry AFTER going clean, where I encounter alcohol regularly, including wine/liquor education classes. I have found that without sipping at all, I actually have to learn more and note more about the details of a specific drink because I HAVE to, as I don't have anecdotal experience with the drink myself. Finally, a large part of my openness and willingness to learn about wines, liquors, cocktails, is the current manager of our bar program where he respects my sobriety, and even created a number of new, zero-proof cocktails (we try to call them zero-proofs rather than mocktails as they take the same amount of craftsmanship), which I greatly appreciate. Cheers on your new journey, love all your videos, and Merry Christmas!
I'm a huge fan of Ian Fleming. I've read several biographies on him,all the Bond novels,and I listen to his recorded interviews. He died at age 56. Largely due to his excessive consumption of alcohol. He should have had decades more, to enjoy his success,and to bless us with his talent.
Hi James. I think you have made the right choice on quitting alcohol, at least for a little while to see how it goes from there. I do drink alcohol and I actually enjoy it and I also live in Ireland where a lot of the craic and fun activities involve alcohol. However, to prevent any excess of consumption I practice collective sports. I currently play on a Sunday football league which forces me to stay away from alcohol since I have trainings 3 times a week (plus extra time I spend in the gym) and we usually have a match on the weekend. I think sports are a great way to keep you out of drinking, especially if you are in a competitive league (even in amateur level), simply because teammates, coaches and a few supporters rely on your performance and to do so you need to be on the best possible shape and you don't really want to let anyone down. Not to mention how much money you will save in the short and long term and how many health problems you will avoid in the future. I know as in Ireland and the UK, drinking in the US could be very expensive while public healthcare is practically inexistent. In any case, I would recommend anyone to drink with moderation and to do so slowly and to adopt a more healthy and sacred relationship with alcohol (like French have with wine or Scots with whisky) and especially I would strongly recommend avoiding binge drinking. Seriously, that is not nice.
Great video! I’m 57 and a very stressful job (ER doctor). Not an alcoholic as you have described, but alcohol has been way too important in my life for far too long. And if I had one drink, it would be 3….or 4. A good buzz, but never sloppy drunk or mean. But as a doctor, I know it’s unhealthy. It’s poison for the brain and body. I’m on day 83 now of no alcohol. It feels great. Will I never drink again? Probably will. I do love my scotch and there is the social aspect of it. But right now, I’m enjoying this break from alcohol. If it turns out to be permanent, then great. But for now, I’m happy to keep this streak going. Looking forward to seeing day 100 which is not too far off. Cheers!
@ So much alcohol related destruction of lives. Not just liver failure and personal medical problems. But also so much alcohol related domestic violence and the destruction of families. And depression and suicide.
I understand your point of view about feeling bad a whole day because of drinking too much the night before. That’s a waste of time and I also hate that. I love trying new drinks, or even make drinks by myself, due to my job because I am a bartender. But wasting time is definitely something I hate. That’s why each year, generally after my birthday, I completely stop drinking for a month. And that’s working so well to feel better. So, i encourage you guys to take sober time and sometimes quite alcohol.
In the right moment video for me. Struggling last few months with almost everyday drinking problem to "get in the mood" type of thing. Feeling awful tomorrow morning but at the evenings I just continue the process... Need remove it for good!
I did the same ,as Petermaurer, at your age…. and never regretted it at all, and no hangovers… I occasionally do, but very rarely have a beer with food, and limit that to one because it accompanies the meal in some cases… congratulations young man, and keep up your good work!!!
The labels, "Alcoholic", or "Problem drinker" don't really matter. If the issues with alcohol that are being discussed here are evident at 26, there's a strong likelihood the pattern will continue...but get worse with time. I admire your decision, and wish you all the best.
James; you seem to have wisdom greater than your apparent years. Great advice and timely -and if we can follow your advice now we can follow it through any time. (I like the tie by the way)
I don’t think I can ever quit alcohol. It’s all about balance, it’s something I enjoy doing socially and sometimes at home after a long stressful day. It’s true you can say stupid things while intoxicated, but it can also create some of the best times of your life if enjoyed responsively. But to each their own and good luck!
Keep going! I'm coming up to 3 years without drink. I never had a problem with it, but I was never at my best when I had a drink and had trouble stopping at 'just one.' Giving up has enabled me to get a lot fitter by being able to train more consistently, to be more present and probably to be a better person. One of the best decisions of my life.
Good for you! I stopped drinking over 5 years ago. I wouldnt say it’s made my life dramatically better in an exciting way, but it is simply better overall. My health and fitness have improved, and the best part is waking up every day with a zero percent chance of a hangover.
What a brave thing to do on your blog! Being so self aware is a great position for you to achieve your goals. Good luck. At about your age, I had a similar realization. It seemed like such a small adjustment at the time, but it has served me well.
I was brought up a teetotaler. However, I’ve tried to partake as an adult, but never enjoyed the experience, the taste, or the aftermath. Similarly, with experiments with smoking (mostly pipes), it seems like a part of the old gentleman vibe that can be questioned. Given modern information about the health downsides, the sober gentleman seems like a fine model for the future. And I also feel the same about that social pressure. It’s good to be confident in one’s own path and not succumb.
Hi James, firstly I really enjoy your channel and look forward to your uploads. Not drinking is the best thing any man can do. You are handsome and take care of your body and mind. Alcohol is a thief of time. It ages a mans appearance an£ destroys his mind. Well done James.
Alcohol is absolute poison, I did quit a some time ago. Never been a problem for me as I didn't drink much in the first place. To be honest I drink once in a while, like once a month max. I prefer in general smoking over alcohol, I love sigars or just siggs, but again with moderation. After all proud to have you join us!
Good decision! I just turned 26 as well and haven’t had more than one drink (a glass of champagne or a pint of beer) on special occasions 2-3x a year since I was 22. I never drank regularly before, but drank to excess on a few occasions in my youth and did not enjoy the loss of control. Even in the rare cases that I have a drink, I don’t enjoy drinking alcohol and just do it to drink a toast to the occasion when alcoholic drinks are automatically provided for everyone for this purpose. I have been the only one not drinking alcohol on many occasions, but don’t mind it at all since I never feel like I am missing out.
My grandpa on my dad’s side was a chronic drinker and by the time he died, he managed to live to 80 surprisingly, however because of bad drinking habits throughout his life his liver turned to stone and died as a result. My dad also followed suit and I got cross with him cause he drinks a lot too and had his gallbladder removed as a result of that and poor diet. Good on you James for stopping when did!
This video inspired me to stop drinking Abisinthe & burgundy on a regular basis. Thank you James, keep the great content coming... Merry Christmas in advance....
Good for you to notice it wasn’t a necessity and feel the negatives of it. I’m 23 and a recent college graduate and slowing down/quitting for a while has been well noticeable. I’ve enjoyed quitting since then, won’t go back.
Generally I'm partial to a drink or two. There’s nothing wrong with the occasional pint or a little dram or cocktail every once in a while. Moderation is key. But since I also need to drive, alcohol only plays a very minor role in my everyday life. But if anyone chooses to not have alcohol, that’s perfectly fine - I don’t understand why some people make such a fuss about not wanting alcohol. There were times where people only ever left you alone and stopped trying to persuade you to have „just one, come on!“ if you were either the designated driver, were on some medication or pregnant. When an adult tells you No, then it’s a No. But some seem to take it as the start of a negotiation. Which I find irritating. That said, hangovers are just a waste of time and should be avoided whenever possible. If that means for you to quit alcohol altogether, then that’s great. I will respect that and won’t ever pressure anyone into drinking. For those who do drink alcohol: I definitely feel that I am not 18 anymore. At 43 I know that when I get really drunk, it might take me two days or more to be restored completely. That’s another one of those „If you know, you know“ things. There are some mitigation strategies but there is an almost 100% chance that the next day will not be particularly enjoyable. And it’s also very rarely worth it, if ever. Today I can say with confidence that I know my limits and I know never to go beyond them. I don’t become aggressive or violent or anything. I just become very tired. And the next day will be agony. As soon as drinks stop tasting good, I know I need to stop *right now* and go home - even one more sip, let alone „one for the road“ will be too much. But it’s been almost a decade since the last time I was in that state. I intend to keep it that way.
I drank alcohol heavily after being traumatized. It became a problem for me very fast. There was a time i could take it or leave it. I have 8 years of sobriety now. I will never drink again. I wouldn't want the misery back.
Coming up to 5 years sober and I love it. Everything about life has improved. There are many positive changes that I would not have anticipated, such as life becoming simpler and easier to manage, increased energy, confidence, awareness, improved memory, improved balance, improved sleep, improved mental ability and more. Life is just great.
So it was a personal choice granted I did not have a drinking problem, but I have personally not touched a drop of alcohol in over a year and I feel it is one of the best decisions I have made good for you, James bravo sir
Alcohol induced confidence is not real confidence. Being sober and in control of your faculties is a great advantage. You've made the right decision and should be proud of yourself.
Good for you! I recommend looking into the work of Andy Rammage and other people in the "sober-curious" movement. I'm looking forward to your 365 day update 😊
I had a similar revelation at 27. I had things I wanted to do (competing in strongman and building wealth) and realized alcohol, though not a problem, wasn't helping. I went cold turkey for a while, and now I have a drink once a month at most. You're doing great. The benefits will only compound from here.
At age 37, I haven't had an alcoholic drink in nearly 20 years and very happy about it. I tried alcohol a few times when I reached legal drinking age (16 at the time, in my country), but never liked it. The only downside for me is that most restaurants and bars don't have great non-alcoholic options, so I'm more or less forced to drink sugary drinks like cola, or water. It's like they focus entirely on offering a huge selection of great wines, special beers and spirits, they tend to forget non-alcohol drinkers appreciate a finer drink with their delicious meal too.
Bravo - As a Libertarian, what one decides to put into one's own body, is one's own business. Many moons ago, some of the most fun I had at Frat parties was stone cold sober. Watching people get increasingly drunk, .......then doing some of the things we all have done in public whilst drunk :) Related - as a pilot we have a 2 drink rule. One DUI/DWI - and a pilot license is at best suspended for X years, and career, over. Federal law requires that one self-report a DWI conviction, on pain of a felony charge. The law also requires no alcohol within 8 hours of flying - most airlines increase this to 10 to 12 hours.
I stopped more than 10 years ago, at the age of 23, because it’s always a roulette you can only lose. Lose your health, wealth, mind and money, social aspects. My children have never seen me drinking or drunk.
Congratulations James. I am also a man who don’t drink at all. I’m made fun of as a man and some believe I’m not masculine because of that. You have more control of yourself at all times. Surround yourself with people who respect your decisions. A man who has true control of himself is better than a man who can control a thousand man. Shalom and blessings to you James
James, you know yourself best. If that's best for you, don't care what others say. I have no problems with moderation, I may have a beer or wine once a month or even less frequent, but I am not you. And I am close to 50 yrs. old :-)
Don't brag about it Just do it Healers of addiction don't promote themselves This is showy offy and ungentlemanly and we don't KNOW YOU we are not there if you relapse and your credibility you are hoping to build will be laughed at Gentlemen don't show off and most have many role models that LIVE THEIR REAL LIVES AROUND THEM and maybe even a dad. This site is ENTERTAINMENT only We do not KNOW YOU. I have been in entertainment for 5 decades the people who work within it seek professional advice from outside the entertainment industry rather than visa versa. I do agree with your anti tattoo stance and no beard political agenda and I am thus a loyal supporter
I don’t drink alcohol for a few reasons. I know my health and wallet are better for this. I also know AlphaM, Antonio from RMRS, and Courtney Ryan don’t drink, either. Thank you for sharing this stage in your personal development.
Hi James, I’ve continued to drink for years believing it to be a social lubricant and a means of bonding with people. Drink never seems to agree with me, less so as I get older, so encouraged by people such as yourself I’ve decided to quit!
As a similar all or nothing drinker, I have spent months sober, but I relapsed. Drank far too much at my office party just over a week ago and made a fool of myself. Now I intend not to drink again.
That sucks. And you can’t take that back. But what you can do is be grateful. It was the last straw and taught you a lesson and now you’re do e with alcohol. Maybe that had to happen. And over time, that even will fade into distant memory of those who were there. Take a deep breathing. It’s over and it’s now in the past. On to the future you.
I think its more manly to realize and adapt to personal limitations than to just do it because everyone else is. Theres also many horrible effects alcohol can have no one talks about such as causing cancer
One of Hollywood's hardest drinkers was John Wayne it was not uncommon for him to have a drink with his breakfast his favourite whisky was Wild Turkey. Another hard drinker was Oliver Reed who once drank 100 beers in 24 hours then did a handstand on a bar. Drinking culture is based on a real man image Hollywood films glamourised it along with smoking if they knew the dangers it was swept aside. John Wayne died of stomach cancer maybe due to his heavy drinking lifestyle. I stopped drinking in 2017 after health problems seemed odd to start with but don't miss it I live in the UK bar prices are high now even without health problems I wouldn't be able to afford it anyway.
A month from now I'll be at 4 years no alcohol. It's a big problem for society that people don't really realize. Look at countries that generally consume less alcohol. Crime tends to be lower. Not always. But there seems to be a correlation
james, 18 yo, never drink before, i think its great that you re in ours camp now, but also save an opportunity to drink in a unique occasion which i think very healthy
James, I bet this video wasn’t sponsored by Maker’s Mark! Perhaps you could make a video on how to deal with social pressure like a gentleman. Either if you aren’t drinking or if you are simply done drinking for the night (for example, my max is 2, my minimum is 0), there are often invitation to a glass either from friends, bartenders, waiters, etc. A simple “no, thank you, I’m fine” works wonders, but sometimes it’s not enough. Also, for those who are used to hold a glass or a beer bottle in one hand, they might benefit from a tip or two on how to position themselves without it. Just ideas I thought could be useful. It was a pleasure meeting you this summer in the marina.
Tom Selleck, and his brother, were told by their father, that he would give each a Rolex if they refrained from tobacco and alcohol until they were 21. Guess who had to buy two Rolex watches.
I was exposed to wine, beer and cider at the dinner table, by my parents during my teenage years so it has no real fascination or hold over me. It was never forbidden and therefore I can take it or leave it. I think this is very-much the European approach. I love a single malt or a fun cocktail but I know my limits. I don't really get hangovers but then I also don't get drunk that often.
James, you have no idea of how many benefits you going to have after stopping drinking alcohol at the young age of 27. I quit drinking alcohol 02 years ago when I was 47 after being diagnosed with colorectal cancer. I survived by a miracle after a very successful surgery that took the tumor completely out of my body. Since then I studied everything about nutrition and I now I know that alcohol is one of the most effective substances to start inflammation in your body that causes cancer. Do this if want to live a long and healthy life: eat fruits, vegetables, reduce red meat, exercise and control stress.
No alcohol means saving money, less risk of regrettable behavior, and genuine connection with people.
I don't know, here in Spain a beer is cheaper than a coke...
You forgot less fun...
Also health.
It feels great to read these supportive comments, gentleman. Keep them coming! Thank you
Hey James, thanks for being vulnerable. I’ve been sober for four years. I went to rehab December 22. I’ve been watching your channel since the beginning. I’m an 58 year old rock ‘n’ roll singer that sings jazz now(the great American songbook). Yes the picture is from 12 years ago. I love classic style. Thank you for the work that you’re doing to encourage young and old men another alternative to be there true style self. Happy holidays. 🎄🎊
I also gave up alcohol at age 26. I’m now 76. As of Christmas this year, I will have been sober for 50 years.
Merry Christmas, Peter and happy sober birthday of 50 years. I don't usually comment on videos, but I found this one Christmas, and as someone who is free of all substances short of caffeine, I applaud you. I will have 2 years in February.
Bravo! I started with a 30 day break, for a change of pace. Today is day 985. Never had a good reason to start again. Best wishes in your new journey!
This literally perfect timing! the past 3 years have just been a growing problem of addiction and reliance on alcohol. I've lost relationships and been close to losing jobs. I want to stop drinking all together but too scared to lose the relationships and places I've become comfortable in. I know if I set up a 2-3 drink rule I'll break it first chance I get
Good for you, James. You should be proud.
Thank you very much
Glad to see you come around to this. Even if you don’t have a “problem” it’s still best not to drink
Alcohol is merely borrowed happiness paid back with high interest.
Great analogy, Ethan
I know this isn't a religious channel, but as a Christian, I particularly like this metaphor as we disapprove of usury with money - how much more I ought disapprove of the usury of my own happiness and wellbeing.
Excellent video James thank you. You and I are 30 years apart and I love watching the channel because it gives me hope for the future. This particular video will get a lot of comments but I will tell you this in short.... What I have learned in my experience is that when it comes to alcohol..... To interfere with our own senses and instincts is to court disaster and misery.....period.
Keep up the good work!
Thank you.
Congrats James! I decided to abstain at 27 and at 72 I'm happy I made a great decision. Also the "stigma " of not drinking has been absent in my life. Great personal decision for anyone to make.
Knowing that we made this decision at a similar age and you have stuck to it for all these years is very encouraging. Thank you
Really, there’s a stigma for me that if you drink you’re a loser
Hey James, just wanted to take time to acknowledge the high quality and insightful videos you create. They are fantastic, especially since I’m 18 and many men my age have really lost the ability to demonstrate gentleman characteristics and has in turn created weak, lazy men. Your channel is a hidden gem. Thank you
James: I am happy for you and proud of you. One of the many benefits is less cost at a restaurant. The cost of one cocktail is often to the cost of one appetizer or one dessert (which can/should be shared). A gentleman can then be able to explore the various fun desserts and coffee because of the money saved on alcohol purchases. It is a tastier move! And it is nice to be in full control and awareness of the delicious evening! Best wishes to you.
This is spot on. You just shared twelve years of knowledge in under twelve minutes. I can relate to many of the things you said here. The first time I got sober, most people's reaction was " I didn't know you were an alcoholic, or had a drinking problem:.
James, I appreciate your approach to this and want to share my story with you, and the community, as well. I was never interested in alcohol or its taste much--quite frankly, I'm a very proud featherweight when I do have a glass or two. But a long time ago, through dating the wrong people and bending to societal pressures, I always carried this shame that I couldn't hold my booze or have the crazy drunk stories all the "cool people" had. I was so full of FOMO that I put myself on the worst possible mission: to prove that I could be just as "good" as they were. And for a few years, boy did I try. I tried getting into the drunk nightlife culture, throwing up what I couldn't hold in, hanging out with the crowd whose only idea of a good time was to get so blasted they couldn't remember what happened the night before. But it was scary, and it was stupid. Every time I picked up a shot it was to feed the FOMO lords the idea that I could fit in, too, and I physically and mentally felt horrible afterward. It wasn't until I started dating the right partner and connecting with the right friends that I gradually realized it's okay to be me. I was more interested in building our net worth, achieving the healthiest body I could, dressing well, collecting watches and honestly, building a future for us. And the more I worked on myself, the more my true stance on alcohol and crazy nightlife actually strengthened me and gave me confidence about who I am and what I stand for. Does this mean I've gone completely abstinent? Nope, but my relationship with alcohol now is every once in a long while during social gatherings, and I stop at max two drinks (I really just nurse the second one so kind of 1.5 to be fair). Now I'm able to appreciate a well crafted drink while looking across the room at hangovers and toilet huggers in the making, smiling to myself that I've made it past that phase in my life :) Happy holidays, everyone, and wishing you all a successful 2025!
Thank you for sharing this.
Happy holidays!
I've been sober for 16 months, I'm 60 and should have done this long ago. Good for you, and I enjoy your content.
Well done sir. I stopped drinking 13 years ago and my life improved immensely. Wish I had quit in my twenties rather than my fifties. Imagine how much more I could have accomplished.
I’m not a gentleman. I’m a lady. But you’re still like your channel and I love this message. It starts with four weeks of sobriety and then you find yourself years later so detach from the thought of ever drinking again. Sobriety is a slippery slope into a better lifeand like you I also never had a problem. I never really even drank that much except for occasional weekends. But still.
Having had a complicated relationship with alcohol over the years, I fully understand your decision. I have thought of doing this many times, and have abstained for lengthy periods including an entire year at one point. Now that I am 65 and ever more focused on how to prolong my good health and mental acuity, I am seriously contemplating the same step. Fortunately my wife is wanting to do this. (She watches some of your videos as well). I'll let you know in the GentZ community if we set our cocktail shaker aside, but we applaud your decision as a role model/influencer to this community.
Good man. I was not only instrumental in the sales of premium wine and alcohol most of my adult life and blessed with working in some of the most exciting countries and cities in the World because of my association with premium brands but also a bit gluttonous. Im 63 now and ten years ago I gave it up and it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. Most of it is over rated and can be rather self destructive. By embracing a very proactive and disciplined daily workout regime I’ve gained strides in my health and have lost my tolerance and desire for bad food, drink and even premium cigars.
James, first of all, congratulations on your decision to abstain from alcohol. I myself do not drink (nor do I really comment on RUclips videos much, but this topic is close to my heart), and am coming up on 2 years of being clean & sober in February. My reasoning for sobriety wasn't actually alcohol, as I never really drank much, but to avoid all substances because I had an unhealthy relationship with cannabis. You really hit the nail on the head with a couple things; no alcohol means you can wake up early in the morning, not having to recover from the night before. I also find that I have MORE confidence when sober, not less compared to being stoned/drunk. As for non-alcoholic drinks, I made a bizarre choice to enter the restaurant service-industry AFTER going clean, where I encounter alcohol regularly, including wine/liquor education classes. I have found that without sipping at all, I actually have to learn more and note more about the details of a specific drink because I HAVE to, as I don't have anecdotal experience with the drink myself. Finally, a large part of my openness and willingness to learn about wines, liquors, cocktails, is the current manager of our bar program where he respects my sobriety, and even created a number of new, zero-proof cocktails (we try to call them zero-proofs rather than mocktails as they take the same amount of craftsmanship), which I greatly appreciate. Cheers on your new journey, love all your videos, and Merry Christmas!
Thanks!
Thanks for watching!
I'm a huge fan of Ian Fleming.
I've read several biographies on him,all the Bond novels,and I listen to his recorded interviews.
He died at age 56.
Largely due to his excessive consumption of alcohol.
He should have had decades more, to enjoy his success,and to bless us with his talent.
Hi James. I think you have made the right choice on quitting alcohol, at least for a little while to see how it goes from there. I do drink alcohol and I actually enjoy it and I also live in Ireland where a lot of the craic and fun activities involve alcohol. However, to prevent any excess of consumption I practice collective sports.
I currently play on a Sunday football league which forces me to stay away from alcohol since I have trainings 3 times a week (plus extra time I spend in the gym) and we usually have a match on the weekend. I think sports are a great way to keep you out of drinking, especially if you are in a competitive league (even in amateur level), simply because teammates, coaches and a few supporters rely on your performance and to do so you need to be on the best possible shape and you don't really want to let anyone down.
Not to mention how much money you will save in the short and long term and how many health problems you will avoid in the future. I know as in Ireland and the UK, drinking in the US could be very expensive while public healthcare is practically inexistent.
In any case, I would recommend anyone to drink with moderation and to do so slowly and to adopt a more healthy and sacred relationship with alcohol (like French have with wine or Scots with whisky) and especially I would strongly recommend avoiding binge drinking. Seriously, that is not nice.
Great video! I’m 57 and a very stressful job (ER doctor). Not an alcoholic as you have described, but alcohol has been way too important in my life for far too long. And if I had one drink, it would be 3….or 4. A good buzz, but never sloppy drunk or mean. But as a doctor, I know it’s unhealthy. It’s poison for the brain and body. I’m on day 83 now of no alcohol. It feels great. Will I never drink again? Probably will. I do love my scotch and there is the social aspect of it. But right now, I’m enjoying this break from alcohol. If it turns out to be permanent, then great. But for now, I’m happy to keep this streak going. Looking forward to seeing day 100 which is not too far off. Cheers!
being an ER doc u must see tons of alcohol related pathology...
@ So much alcohol related destruction of lives. Not just liver failure and personal medical problems. But also so much alcohol related domestic violence and the destruction of families. And depression and suicide.
I understand your point of view about feeling bad a whole day because of drinking too much the night before.
That’s a waste of time and I also hate that.
I love trying new drinks, or even make drinks by myself, due to my job because I am a bartender.
But wasting time is definitely something I hate.
That’s why each year, generally after my birthday, I completely stop drinking for a month.
And that’s working so well to feel better.
So, i encourage you guys to take sober time and sometimes quite alcohol.
In the right moment video for me. Struggling last few months with almost everyday drinking problem to "get in the mood" type of thing. Feeling awful tomorrow morning but at the evenings I just continue the process... Need remove it for good!
I did the same ,as Petermaurer, at your age…. and never regretted it at all, and no hangovers… I occasionally do, but very rarely have a beer with food, and limit that to one because it accompanies the meal in some cases… congratulations young man, and keep up your good work!!!
The labels, "Alcoholic", or "Problem drinker" don't really matter. If the issues with alcohol that are being discussed here are evident at 26, there's a strong likelihood the pattern will continue...but get worse with time.
I admire your decision, and wish you all the best.
Great James, it takes a lot to share challenges we encounter in our daily lives. I appreciate the content of your presentations. Thank you!
James; you seem to have wisdom greater than your apparent years. Great advice and timely -and if we can follow your advice now we can follow it through any time. (I like the tie by the way)
You are a great role model, James. I wish for you, you have a great family to share it with.
I don’t think I can ever quit alcohol. It’s all about balance, it’s something I enjoy doing socially and sometimes at home after a long stressful day. It’s true you can say stupid things while intoxicated, but it can also create some of the best times of your life if enjoyed responsively. But to
each their own and good luck!
40 years later and you're looking good!
Never drank, nor ever took drugs and never smoked.
Keep going! I'm coming up to 3 years without drink. I never had a problem with it, but I was never at my best when I had a drink and had trouble stopping at 'just one.' Giving up has enabled me to get a lot fitter by being able to train more consistently, to be more present and probably to be a better person. One of the best decisions of my life.
Good for you! I stopped drinking over 5 years ago. I wouldnt say it’s made my life dramatically better in an exciting way, but it is simply better overall. My health and fitness have improved, and the best part is waking up every day with a zero percent chance of a hangover.
What a brave thing to do on your blog! Being so self aware is a great position for you to achieve your goals. Good luck. At about your age, I had a similar realization. It seemed like such a small adjustment at the time, but it has served me well.
I was brought up a teetotaler. However, I’ve tried to partake as an adult, but never enjoyed the experience, the taste, or the aftermath.
Similarly, with experiments with smoking (mostly pipes), it seems like a part of the old gentleman vibe that can be questioned. Given modern information about the health downsides, the sober gentleman seems like a fine model for the future.
And I also feel the same about that social pressure. It’s good to be confident in one’s own path and not succumb.
Hi James, firstly I really enjoy your channel and look forward to your uploads.
Not drinking is the best thing any man can do. You are handsome and take care of your body and mind. Alcohol is a thief of time. It ages a mans appearance an£ destroys his mind.
Well done James.
I quit alcohol and still go to the pub on weekends and order non alcoholic drinks
Alcohol is absolute poison, I did quit a some time ago. Never been a problem for me as I didn't drink much in the first place.
To be honest I drink once in a while, like once a month max.
I prefer in general smoking over alcohol, I love sigars or just siggs, but again with moderation.
After all proud to have you join us!
Thanks very much. I agree that nicotine is, for me, a better drug. Nobody ever made a bad decision because they smoked a cigar!
@@Gent.Z So true indeed! As a mater of fact you do even make better decisions while taking your time by smoking a good one.
@@Gent.Zyup indeed. No hangovers. Just need to watch how you cough because you can’t inhale. Watch how you breathe in that cigar
Good decision! I just turned 26 as well and haven’t had more than one drink (a glass of champagne or a pint of beer) on special occasions 2-3x a year since I was 22. I never drank regularly before, but drank to excess on a few occasions in my youth and did not enjoy the loss of control. Even in the rare cases that I have a drink, I don’t enjoy drinking alcohol and just do it to drink a toast to the occasion when alcoholic drinks are automatically provided for everyone for this purpose. I have been the only one not drinking alcohol on many occasions, but don’t mind it at all since I never feel like I am missing out.
My grandpa on my dad’s side was a chronic drinker and by the time he died, he managed to live to 80 surprisingly, however because of bad drinking habits throughout his life his liver turned to stone and died as a result. My dad also followed suit and I got cross with him cause he drinks a lot too and had his gallbladder removed as a result of that and poor diet. Good on you James for stopping when did!
Definitely excellent choice James
Personally I never drank any and always encourage people not to buy it
Too many lives get ruined by that drug
Whatever floats your boat. I rarely drink to excess (anymore). But I do enjoy a fine Irish or scotch once a week or so.
This video inspired me to stop drinking Abisinthe & burgundy on a regular basis. Thank you James, keep the great content coming... Merry Christmas in advance....
Good for you to notice it wasn’t a necessity and feel the negatives of it. I’m 23 and a recent college graduate and slowing down/quitting for a while has been well noticeable. I’ve enjoyed quitting since then, won’t go back.
Generally I'm partial to a drink or two. There’s nothing wrong with the occasional pint or a little dram or cocktail every once in a while. Moderation is key. But since I also need to drive, alcohol only plays a very minor role in my everyday life. But if anyone chooses to not have alcohol, that’s perfectly fine - I don’t understand why some people make such a fuss about not wanting alcohol. There were times where people only ever left you alone and stopped trying to persuade you to have „just one, come on!“ if you were either the designated driver, were on some medication or pregnant. When an adult tells you No, then it’s a No. But some seem to take it as the start of a negotiation. Which I find irritating.
That said, hangovers are just a waste of time and should be avoided whenever possible. If that means for you to quit alcohol altogether, then that’s great. I will respect that and won’t ever pressure anyone into drinking.
For those who do drink alcohol:
I definitely feel that I am not 18 anymore. At 43 I know that when I get really drunk, it might take me two days or more to be restored completely. That’s another one of those „If you know, you know“ things. There are some mitigation strategies but there is an almost 100% chance that the next day will not be particularly enjoyable.
And it’s also very rarely worth it, if ever. Today I can say with confidence that I know my limits and I know never to go beyond them. I don’t become aggressive or violent or anything. I just become very tired. And the next day will be agony. As soon as drinks stop tasting good, I know I need to stop *right now* and go home - even one more sip, let alone „one for the road“ will be too much. But it’s been almost a decade since the last time I was in that state. I intend to keep it that way.
I drank alcohol heavily after being traumatized. It became a problem for me very fast. There was a time i could take it or leave it. I have 8 years of sobriety now. I will never drink again. I wouldn't want the misery back.
Coming up to 5 years sober and I love it. Everything about life has improved. There are many positive changes that I would not have anticipated, such as life becoming simpler and easier to manage, increased energy, confidence, awareness, improved memory, improved balance, improved sleep, improved mental ability and more. Life is just great.
So it was a personal choice granted I did not have a drinking problem, but I have personally not touched a drop of alcohol in over a year and I feel it is one of the best decisions I have made good for you, James bravo sir
Good for you, James!
Good for you James!!
I quit drinking when many people start.
I was 17 when I quit.
Fortunately, I never have started, and never will. Stay strong Gentlemen
Shit tastes disgusting. You’re better off.
Alcohol induced confidence is not real confidence. Being sober and in control of your faculties is a great advantage. You've made the right decision and should be proud of yourself.
Good for you! I recommend looking into the work of Andy Rammage and other people in the "sober-curious" movement. I'm looking forward to your 365 day update 😊
The thumbnail💀💀 rare Gent Z crashout?
I had a similar revelation at 27. I had things I wanted to do (competing in strongman and building wealth) and realized alcohol, though not a problem, wasn't helping. I went cold turkey for a while, and now I have a drink once a month at most. You're doing great. The benefits will only compound from here.
congrat brother from gentleman7 love your videos.
I went sober recently as well (December 6th) definitely not gonna miss the hangovers lol. I’ve been much more productive since I went sober :)
I’m 5 years and six months free of alcohol. It has proven to be the best decision I ever made, period.
Can't forget Denzel, who was drinking two bottles of expensive wine, every day. He stopped about 10 years ago and is not shy about talking about it.
At age 37, I haven't had an alcoholic drink in nearly 20 years and very happy about it.
I tried alcohol a few times when I reached legal drinking age (16 at the time, in my country), but never liked it.
The only downside for me is that most restaurants and bars don't have great non-alcoholic options, so I'm more or less forced to drink sugary drinks like cola, or water. It's like they focus entirely on offering a huge selection of great wines, special beers and spirits, they tend to forget non-alcohol drinkers appreciate a finer drink with their delicious meal too.
I am 26 and i never drink alcohol
Bravo -
As a Libertarian, what one decides to put into one's own body, is one's own business.
Many moons ago, some of the most fun I had at Frat parties was stone cold sober.
Watching people get increasingly drunk,
.......then doing some of the things we all have done in public whilst drunk :)
Related - as a pilot we have a 2 drink rule.
One DUI/DWI - and a pilot license is at best suspended for X years, and career, over.
Federal law requires that one self-report a DWI conviction, on pain of a felony charge.
The law also requires no alcohol within 8 hours of flying
- most airlines increase this to 10 to 12 hours.
I like your philosophy, Marc. Interesting to hear how you must be conscious of your consumption due to your job.
I stopped more than 10 years ago, at the age of 23, because it’s always a roulette you can only lose. Lose your health, wealth, mind and money, social aspects. My children have never seen me drinking or drunk.
You're a good Father.
Happy holidays.
@ happy holidays!
Congratulations James. I am also a man who don’t drink at all. I’m made fun of as a man and some believe I’m not masculine because of that. You have more control of yourself at all times. Surround yourself with people who respect
your decisions.
A man who has true control of himself is better than a man who can control a thousand man.
Shalom and blessings to you James
Thank you
Hit the nail on the head when you labeled it as "A Net Negative".
Good for you. Smart
"Almost anything can be preserved in alcohol, except health, happiness, and money."
- Mary Wilson Little
Ooh! Good one!
James, you know yourself best. If that's best for you, don't care what others say. I have no problems with moderation, I may have a beer or wine once a month or even less frequent, but I am not you. And I am close to 50 yrs. old :-)
Great move, James. My experiences have been the same as yours.
Congratulations. It will make a difference.
Don't brag about it
Just do it
Healers of addiction don't promote themselves
This is showy offy and ungentlemanly and we don't KNOW YOU
we are not there if you relapse and your credibility you are hoping to build will be laughed at
Gentlemen don't show off and most have many role models that LIVE THEIR REAL LIVES AROUND THEM and maybe even a dad.
This site is ENTERTAINMENT only
We do not KNOW YOU.
I have been in entertainment for 5 decades the people who work within it seek professional advice from outside the entertainment industry rather than visa versa.
I do agree with your anti tattoo stance and no beard political agenda and I am thus a loyal supporter
I don’t drink alcohol for a few reasons. I know my health and wallet are better for this.
I also know AlphaM, Antonio from RMRS, and Courtney Ryan don’t drink, either.
Thank you for sharing this stage in your personal development.
Hi James, I’ve continued to drink for years believing it to be a social lubricant and a means of bonding with people. Drink never seems to agree with me, less so as I get older, so encouraged by people such as yourself I’ve decided to quit!
As a similar all or nothing drinker, I have spent months sober, but I relapsed. Drank far too much at my office party just over a week ago and made a fool of myself. Now I intend not to drink again.
That sucks. And you can’t take that back. But what you can do is be grateful. It was the last straw and taught you a lesson and now you’re do e with alcohol. Maybe that had to happen. And over time, that even will fade into distant memory of those who were there. Take a deep breathing. It’s over and it’s now in the past. On to the future you.
I think its more manly to realize and adapt to personal limitations than to just do it because everyone else is. Theres also many horrible effects alcohol can have no one talks about such as causing cancer
I made the same choice when I was 21. I heard a still small voice from God. Now I am 65 and I know it was the best thing for me.
One of Hollywood's hardest drinkers was John Wayne it was not uncommon for him to have a drink with his breakfast his favourite whisky was Wild Turkey. Another hard drinker was Oliver Reed who once drank 100 beers in 24 hours then did a handstand on a bar. Drinking culture is based on a real man image Hollywood films glamourised it along with smoking if they knew the dangers it was swept aside. John Wayne died of stomach cancer maybe due to his heavy drinking lifestyle. I stopped drinking in 2017 after health problems seemed odd to start with but don't miss it I live in the UK bar prices are high now even without health problems I wouldn't be able to afford it anyway.
A month from now I'll be at 4 years no alcohol. It's a big problem for society that people don't really realize. Look at countries that generally consume less alcohol. Crime tends to be lower. Not always. But there seems to be a correlation
Congratulations on sobriety!! I chose to be dry at the age of 8. I’m 37 and haven’t had a drink yet. 👍
Cutting back on alcohol is an investment for your future self's health.
It's a lot more fun being the sober person in a room full of drunks then one of the drunks. I speak from experience. 😁
You think so? I cant stand most drunk people and
Straight edge - forever, beverage - never
james, 18 yo, never drink before, i think its great that you re in ours camp now, but also save an opportunity to drink in a unique occasion which i think very healthy
Yes abstinence and cold turkey is much better/ easier than moderation
James, I bet this video wasn’t sponsored by Maker’s Mark! Perhaps you could make a video on how to deal with social pressure like a gentleman. Either if you aren’t drinking or if you are simply done drinking for the night (for example, my max is 2, my minimum is 0), there are often invitation to a glass either from friends, bartenders, waiters, etc. A simple “no, thank you, I’m fine” works wonders, but sometimes it’s not enough. Also, for those who are used to hold a glass or a beer bottle in one hand, they might benefit from a tip or two on how to position themselves without it. Just ideas I thought could be useful. It was a pleasure meeting you this summer in the marina.
Yesterday, I have six years of sobriety. One of the best decisions I have ever made.
I stopped two years ago for similar reasons (at 48). One of my best decisions ever.
Sobriety is a powerful advantage.
Cops,club security,and bouncers all agree.
Thanks Sam. I’ve also found that women in bars find it surprisingly refreshing to meet a man who is at his full mental capacity and judgement
@Gent.Z
"...full mental capacity and judgment".
That says it all.
Sobriety is the real-life "Limitless" pill.
Frank Sinatra said, He felt sorry for people who didn't drink because when they woke up in the morning, that was the best they would feel all day.
Tom Selleck, and his brother, were told by their father, that he would give each a Rolex if they refrained from tobacco and alcohol until they were 21. Guess who had to buy two Rolex watches.
i never started drinking. tried it once and decided it wasn't for me. by once i mean a single glass of wine
weed works for me. it does what i want/need
Fellow teetotaller here, once you’ve broken free from the demon drink you feel sorry for those who are still enslaved by it
Yes.
I was exposed to wine, beer and cider at the dinner table, by my parents during my teenage years so it has no real fascination or hold over me. It was never forbidden and therefore I can take it or leave it. I think this is very-much the European approach. I love a single malt or a fun cocktail but I know my limits. I don't really get hangovers but then I also don't get drunk that often.
James, you have no idea of how many benefits you going to have after stopping drinking alcohol at the young age of 27.
I quit drinking alcohol 02 years ago when I was 47 after being diagnosed with colorectal cancer.
I survived by a miracle after a very successful surgery that took the tumor completely out of my body.
Since then I studied everything about nutrition and I now I know that alcohol is one of the most effective substances to start inflammation in your body that causes cancer.
Do this if want to live a long and healthy life: eat fruits, vegetables, reduce red meat, exercise and control stress.