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  • @lizziekindrew
    @lizziekindrew  6 месяцев назад +31

    ✨UPDATE: Thank you for all the lovely comments! I'm working on a new Q&A video! Have a sobriety question? Ask anything 👇

    • @lossm24
      @lossm24 2 месяца назад

      Hi! I know you said you lived with your partner during this process, so I was wondering, do they drink? I've been sober curious for a while but my partner really enjoys drinking so the temptation is kind of always there.
      If your partner did/does drink, how do you manage that?

    • @lizardwanderer
      @lizardwanderer Месяц назад

      I have the same issue. Roommate drinks, I have no willpower! If it's not in front of me, I won't seek it, but it always is.

  • @Noah-qh4ds
    @Noah-qh4ds Год назад +332

    I went out for the first time last night. Ordered non alcoholic beer of a NA menu at my local place. The bartender goes "oh the good menu!". Apparently he's been sober for two years+. It's nice to know I have another sober friend at my favorite local place!

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  Год назад +9

      I love it when that happens!!

    • @BT-be8rh
      @BT-be8rh Год назад +13

      I’m 6 months in, found NA beers to be a big help, though the further I go in this journey, the less I have the desire to have one, but occasionally it’s nice to know they’re available. That and they’re pretty good!!

    • @kfitz59
      @kfitz59 11 месяцев назад +7

      I find that I drink the NA beers less often and slower. Some of them are really great though. It’s good to know that I can still have one on a hot summer day.

    • @pdxnikki1
      @pdxnikki1 10 месяцев назад +3

      It feels amazing to have sober employees & friends at pubs. I love that part of recovery.

    • @mistafyremusic
      @mistafyremusic 7 месяцев назад

      Bartender sees first hand the pure detriment to society

  • @joemacinnis1972
    @joemacinnis1972 8 месяцев назад +139

    I'm 8 months sober and loving it. I ask God to take my hand, 1 sober day at a time. Every day I'm in the now, not worried about next week but can I get through just today. This has gotten me to my 8th month of sobriety. This is a true miracle from a man who always had a beer in his hand!

    • @SoberStPete
      @SoberStPete 8 месяцев назад +3

      Very inspiring. I long to follow your example.

    • @rja9784
      @rja9784 7 месяцев назад +1

      👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🫡

    • @rja9784
      @rja9784 7 месяцев назад +3

      @@SoberStPeteyou can do it! If you can force yourself to make it to 2 weeks, you’ve gotten through the worst part

    • @SoberStPete
      @SoberStPete 7 месяцев назад

      @@rja9784 28 days today and going strong!

    • @shannonmay60
      @shannonmay60 3 месяца назад +1

      I’m struggling. I hate it

  • @juancarlosgutierrez7974
    @juancarlosgutierrez7974 Год назад +201

    I watched your video just as I started to quit. I am encouraged to stop drinking.
    I’ve been 7 days sober. The last time I went 7 days without alcohol was 6 years ago.
    I know is shocking for sober people but for alcoholics like me it’s a fucking milestone. And after watching your video I know I wanna quit for good. Thanks for sharing.

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  Год назад +18

      7 days is a huge victory! You can do this - one day at a time to a happier life without alcohol. I believe in you!

    • @drummer_alex_martin
      @drummer_alex_martin Год назад +6

      Keep going, amigo! You can do it!

    • @mandy22f
      @mandy22f Год назад +4

      Well done. You got this! 💪🏼❤

    • @martyolson9433
      @martyolson9433 Год назад +12

      Coming from someone that can't seem to put together a few days, 7 days is huge! Keep going!

    • @seanmeehan-js5kh
      @seanmeehan-js5kh Год назад +6

      Stay strong, your head will get clearer, your body will come alive. Sleep will be more refreshing. The fog will lift 👍😊

  • @alyssatoro
    @alyssatoro 2 месяца назад +21

    I’m 11 days alcohol free ☺️ This is the longest I’ve gone since I started drinking at 18 (I’m 32). I went to an AA meeting last week, and a man with 57 years sober said something that will forever stick with me. He said, “Someone once told me that I didn’t have to quit drinking. I just had to not pick up one drink today. So still haven’t quit! I’m just not picking up a drink today.” It really is one day at a time, as I’m learning ✨ Thank you for your videos ❤️

  • @SpiritsAndDemons
    @SpiritsAndDemons 11 месяцев назад +81

    7 days ago I dumped $100 worth of whiskey down the sink. I was done. Haven't had a drop since. 2 nights ago I started sleeping. The best sleep in years!!! I feel great. I am not looking back. The first 3 days I took a robax back pain and muscle relaxer. That helped GREATLY with the cravings and anxiety. ❤ Now I don't need anything. 🥰 I had been drinking heavy for the last 5 years.

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад +3

      Good for you making the move to be finally done with alcohol!

    • @SpiritsAndDemons
      @SpiritsAndDemons 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@lizziekindrew Feeling better day by day!! 🥰

    • @lt3968
      @lt3968 6 месяцев назад +4

      Good sleeps and waking up fresh are a game-changer! Enjoy!

  • @Summerlove21
    @Summerlove21 11 месяцев назад +67

    The first year is the hardest. Going through all the birthdays, holidays, celebrations, seasons. I will also be sober two years in February and this second year has been sooo much easier. I feel so good, sleep better, look better, have more energy throughout the day and in the gym. Good luck to ever going through this journey.

  • @margieuntermeyer2832
    @margieuntermeyer2832 11 месяцев назад +50

    Love this! I'm 58 and on Day 104. Been on the roller coaster of sober stints and going back to it for years. I started my last sober stint on 9/1/23, and I'm still going! The things that have made all the difference for me this time are: play the tape forward - how are you going to feel in an hour, 3 hours, tomorrow? Once I do that in my mind, it's never worth it. I've stopped romanticizing alcohol. It only ever takes, it never does what it promises!! I also LOVE the NA alternatives, mocktails, kombucha, etc. I've now romanticized them!! Congrats to you for realizing at such a young age the dangers & lies of alcohol!! Best to you!

    • @stevecooper6515
      @stevecooper6515 10 месяцев назад

      You keep relapsing because of the Alcohol Deprivation Effect. Abstinence does nothing to treat cravings, which are the primary cause of relapse.
      Research The Sinclair Method for a permanent reversal of the addiction, at neurological level in the brain.

    • @colinrussell2017
      @colinrussell2017 2 месяца назад

      When we romanticize something, we put it on a pedestal, letting it have more power over us. When we feel deprived of something, we give it more value than it deserves. That's partly why it's so hard to escape the trap.

  • @gunngangsta
    @gunngangsta 11 месяцев назад +13

    14 days in for me. Congratulations on your success. You are very pretty.

  • @UPayISLAY
    @UPayISLAY 11 месяцев назад +26

    I’m on day 2 and the thoughts are the hardest but I’m reminding myself I got this

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад +4

      One day at a time, one hour at a time - one minute at a time if you have to! You can do hard things ❤

    • @UPayISLAY
      @UPayISLAY 11 месяцев назад +4

      @@lizziekindrew thank you so much! Tea has been my saving grace. I’m already starting to feel better

    • @albertsnijders7566
      @albertsnijders7566 3 месяца назад +2

      Was there too. Just tell yourself: Today I will not drink alcohol. Then say the same thing the next day, and the next. One day at a time works best and before you know it, a week has passed, and another week, etc. In the end your body and mind will be grateful, and not only this, all those close to you too. Good luck!

  • @shandelchallice4598
    @shandelchallice4598 Год назад +59

    I can't tell you how much these videos help me. I am 42 days sober and it feels really isolating. It's so nice to hear these stories and to know I'm not alone

    • @markg.4246
      @markg.4246 Год назад +5

      There is a whole world of recovery waiting for you, 24 hours a day, everyday! At this very moment, there are people around the world sharing their stories of sobriety. Find a "Zoom" AA meeting! You don't have to say you're an alcoholic, show your face, or even use your real name. Eventually you will become one of the people helping others. The only one keeping you isolated is YOU!

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  Год назад +5

      Videos like this were a huge help to me in early sobriety as well! Keep up the good work - I'm happy to have been any encouragement!

    • @peachesandpoets
      @peachesandpoets Год назад +3

      So proud of you!

    • @betatester9147
      @betatester9147 11 месяцев назад +2

      Feeling isolated? Remember you’ll have fewer but BETTER, CLOSER friends. 👍😉

    • @shathaway13
      @shathaway13 11 месяцев назад

      Check out This Naked Mind for support.

  • @courtneymiszczak6413
    @courtneymiszczak6413 11 месяцев назад +12

    I’m just over a month and I feel so much better!! Day by day but have a good feeling I’m not turning back. My eyes look brighter and my skin looks healthier.

  • @michellerodgersnelson8939
    @michellerodgersnelson8939 Год назад +45

    Thank you. Found this extremely helpful. Today I’m 37 days sober- so the timing of finding your channel couldn’t have been more perfect for me 🙏🏾

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  Год назад +6

      37 days is incredible!! Keep it up!

    • @megangallaher4011
      @megangallaher4011 Год назад +5

      30 days here! 👋

    • @annettewilson3291
      @annettewilson3291 Год назад +4

      Well done to u.👏👏👏

    • @laconja1
      @laconja1 11 месяцев назад

      @@lizziekindrewLiked your video am in the early stage this is the hardest I believe. I tried before and failed but I will tak😂 it one day at a time as many people have said.
      🙏💪

  • @susanmctavish6639
    @susanmctavish6639 11 месяцев назад +13

    At exactly 2 months sober I started thinking about it again for some reason. Have to remind myself all the negative effects .

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад +3

      Those thoughts always come up every once in a while! With time they get quieter for sure. You got this!

  • @andrewwalker5174
    @andrewwalker5174 23 дня назад +1

    So amazing that you recognize this at such a young age I’m 60 and I’m just starting to recognize it now and have come to the decision. I’ve spent 45 years of my life drinking.

  • @TheDaniMilan
    @TheDaniMilan 4 месяца назад +30

    You talk so well😍 I’ve fighting alcoholism even before my daughter died. I really want to stop. I felt a strong cramping pain in my lower abdomen area and IT WAS EXCRUCIATING I’m praying it’s not related to drinking I’m praying I’m okay. I’m
    One day sober. Pray for me. It’s time to End this!!!!

    • @snowbloss
      @snowbloss 4 месяца назад +4

      You’ve got this! 🥳❤️

    • @joycemansfield1108
      @joycemansfield1108 4 месяца назад

      I've quit driving and I've never regretted it.nothing good comes from it!

    • @TheDaniMilan
      @TheDaniMilan 4 месяца назад

      @@snowbloss thank you so much

    • @TheDaniMilan
      @TheDaniMilan 4 месяца назад

      @@joycemansfield1108 you’re sooo right

    • @marlenea.6465
      @marlenea.6465 3 месяца назад

      Take one day at a time and go to a support group !

  • @karencampbell2410
    @karencampbell2410 11 месяцев назад +21

    Sober for twenty nine years for me! Best decision ever. I have achieved all the goals I had set myself, had wonderful experiences and so grateful I made that commitment to sobriety. One day at a time.

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад

      What an inspiration!! Thank you for sharing

    • @kawaiicatprince
      @kawaiicatprince 6 месяцев назад

      Congrats to 29!!! That is amazing.

    • @TheDaniMilan
      @TheDaniMilan 4 месяца назад

      Wow!! 20 years!!!!

  • @luvmy9indy
    @luvmy9indy Год назад +18

    I am about 1 month in. I wouldn't say I was an alcoholic, but I felt the trend to be going in that direction. It never negatively effected my life... I have 9 amazing kids and my husband and I would enjoy drinks now and then, but now and then became more and more frequent. Alcohol greatly effects my sleep, gives me anxiety, and then the next day I'm miserable. Even with little alcohol. I think my guardian angel has helped me. It has been hard, but also not hard. I have struggled to know where I'm going with this. Would I eventually have a drink now and then? Or am I done? Well in Thanksgiving my husband and I had an OF and a another small drink. I did this to try to figure out if I could onoy have drinks on special occasions. Well, the night was HORRIBLE. I was in full blown anxiety and could not relax. That's solidified it. I'm done. I don't count those drinks as back tracking. I needed to do that to know for sure.
    With all that said, I have moments where I'm sad and feel like fun is gone. But those pass and I'm good. Some of the feelings that come with it are hard.
    However, I have greatly dove into learning about alcohol and how horrible it is for one's body. That has helped me to be done too.
    I pray my kids can just never take that first drink. I am terrified foe them. Alcohol is everything in this world it seems.
    Thanks for your tips!
    The sleep, mental health improvements, energy levels, and absence of guilt and shame are heavenly.

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you for sharing your story! I am sure only brighter days (and better sleep!!) await you. As for your children, sharing your story and recovery will be the best thing you can do for them to set them up for success!

  • @comptegoogle511
    @comptegoogle511 5 месяцев назад +10

    People, always picture the vagabond in a park with a brown paper bag when they think of an alcoholic. But look at you, you're an angel face comming from a good family...
    Keep the good habit, I don't know you but I'm proud of you.
    Simon
    Sober since 2011.

  • @carlog234
    @carlog234 13 дней назад +1

    i'm on day 33 and this video is such an inspiration! These past few weeks have been difficult and it's kinda funny because the techniques you're sharing are techniques i've picked up over the maybe 40-50 times i've tried quitting and kinda wish i saw this video sooner but here we are haha. you've nailed them! the one thing that im grateful for is i never quit quitting. thank you for making this video!

  • @TheSkite575
    @TheSkite575 Год назад +9

    Great job
    I'm a 64 yo male quit 6 years ago and Am still watching these videos lol keep it up

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад

      Rock on! I love to see it haha

  • @rrenatabp
    @rrenatabp 6 месяцев назад +16

    I have been 8 months sober and the "forget about forever" tip is the first thing I tell people who approach me wanting to talk about sobriety. Another one that I have noticed is realizing that drinking just isn't worth it - everytime I think 'oh I could just have a little glass of wine with my girlies tonight' I immediately think 'I could also just have a bit of sparkling water and that would make me feel phisically and mentally way better so lol'

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  6 месяцев назад +1

      THISSS! I have more fun with my NA drinkies AND I'll get to enjoy a hangover-free day tomorrow. It's a win-win-win!

  • @stephlovesanimals
    @stephlovesanimals 4 месяца назад +9

    I quit drinking for four months at the beginning of the year, for the first time in decades. I have been drinking again since May, and I know that it would be best if I quit again. Your tip about quitting now and not waiting for the right time, is a pretty good tip. Thank you for making your video.

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  4 месяца назад +3

      Sounds like you already know what's best for you ❤️

  • @ssmith70s
    @ssmith70s 11 месяцев назад +10

    Good work! Your suggestions are so solid.
    Alcohol has always been a huge struggle for me. I was totally sober between ages 24 and 28, and then again through the majority of the last decade.
    However, for me this has not been a linear path. I want everyone to know that one slipup won't ruin your sober path. I have had many, but the vast majority of my life now has been siber. Indeed,, the last 15 months have been clean, aside from 1 day on a bike ride when I stopped at a brewery. 423 days minus one is how I see it. You radiate beauty in your sobriety, as all sober people do.
    Keep on keeping on!

  • @Talkswithchasey
    @Talkswithchasey 2 месяца назад +3

    I am sober and so proud of myself ! I have finally started my youtube channel, started working out, meditating and living in alignment with my highest self and who i know i always wanted to be but didnt know how. Sobriety really is incredible and im so grateful to be part of this community. ❤

  • @cognachobo2320
    @cognachobo2320 8 дней назад +1

    Think I was meant to stumble on your video cos I was thinking of trying to stop drinking and finding it really hard. Your advice comes at a really important time for me. Thank you so much. I’m going to do it this time God bless you! From Marie in the UK 🇬🇧

  • @LeatherNeck0331M
    @LeatherNeck0331M 11 месяцев назад +10

    You made a huge impact in my life. I want to thank you for me making my decision. I just lost my mom and she stopped drinking about 20 or so years ago and she drank for like 40+ years. So thank you for talking about it and helping people. You are an inspiration, and I want you to know that. You are helping people be the best selves that they can be.

  • @GarretBellows
    @GarretBellows 3 месяца назад +3

    Good Great Awesome I used to drink a lot and smoked weed also . Now alcohol and drug free more than a decade. Used to keep track and eventually reached a point whereas you described the need dissipated. It’s a freedom that can’t be described. Thank you for your positive energy. Garret

  • @koskaloca
    @koskaloca 3 месяца назад +4

    3rd-day alcohol-free of many to come. Thank you for this video, I really needed it

  • @dallassukerkin6878
    @dallassukerkin6878 6 месяцев назад +7

    Two minutes in and I am already resonating :) The 'putting it off until' ... ... ... I have been stuck here for years!

  • @elainemorales7147
    @elainemorales7147 3 месяца назад +3

    You are so beautiful in your sobriety the confidence, maturity and compassion that comes from your healed soul is just inspiring. Keep the pace and know there is no going back because you have so many good experiences being sober and so much to give others now that you have accomplished such challenges in your life. You have a life worth living, a purpose in life to help others in their journey towards healing from an addiction that kills the body and the soul as well. Good vibes ❤

  • @jessemolinajr
    @jessemolinajr Год назад +11

    I am a recovering addict alcoholic with ten years clean. Now I’m also a working Professional in addiction. I Couldn’t have made a better video .Great insights! Keep going!!!!!! Ps. If you’re thinking about a career in recovery. You will do great!

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you so much!! That means a great deal to me ❤

  • @liz9657
    @liz9657 11 месяцев назад +6

    This is a perfect summary of everything that helped me in my first year! I’m almost one year into alcohol-free life and I am so happy I decided that my one month off would just continue indefinitely. Life feels so much more manageable and my sense of inner confidence is much more permanent now. As someone who’s gone through a lot of self esteem / social anxiety issues, I can say without hesitation that I couldn’t have made such progress addressing things had I not stopped drinking.

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад

      AMAZING! I'm so happy for you, what an inspiring story of your sobriety ❤

  • @lizstraub6621
    @lizstraub6621 11 месяцев назад +9

    Great video, thank you! I once achieved 11 mos. of sobriety and then went off track when I had an emotionally bad relationship get to me. I'm once again making the choice to NOT drink, and the best part in these very early days is sleeping better, dreaming again, REMEMBERING the entire previous night, and NOT waking up with that agonizing feeling of regret and failure on TOP of a miserable hangover! It's coming up on a year since my mother died, and yes, she was 87, but she was literally suffering with dementia that went on for almost a decade! My enabling father (also a drinker) told everybody she had Alzheimer's, which was a flat out lie. She NEVER would have lasted 10 years with Alzheimer's and maintained her ability to walk, which she did. It was a fall and broken ribs that led to morphine and death within two weeks. He's drinking still. I'm certain that she was suffering from alcohol induced brain damage from a lifetime of "social" drinking, fist to fist with him. I am TERRIFIED of putting my three children through that. ALL of my older siblings drink, and frankly I have to just focus on myself and getting healthy again so I can keep my BRAIN functioning. NONE of my three adult children drink, and they were SO proud of me when I stopped, so I feel like I failed them and screw that. I want their respect again and mostly, I want my self-respect back. Yes, This Naked Mind is on my nightstand and I'm reading it AGAIN! BLESS YOU AND EVERYONE TRYING. WE CAN DO THIS! HAPPY DECEMBER!💓💓💓💓💓

    • @becky5569
      @becky5569 11 месяцев назад

      That's one of my biggest fears, the brain damage I'm causing. I have zero support from my spouse, it is so hard.

  • @spoudaois
    @spoudaois 5 месяцев назад +3

    Meditation relaxes me more than alcohol. And, I get the bonus of feeling recharged after.

  • @IvanAlmada-ho1by
    @IvanAlmada-ho1by 6 месяцев назад +30

    I asked god to save me, and I feel it now, two weeks sobre ia great..feeling great..

  • @AmazingMusicalArts
    @AmazingMusicalArts 9 месяцев назад +2

    Starting again today…I keep trying and falling back but I’m going again. Thank you for the tips ❤️

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  8 месяцев назад +1

      Every time to get back up, you're learning something new that will set you up for success in the long run! Keep at it, sending you all the love ❤️

  • @pauljordan3272
    @pauljordan3272 2 месяца назад +1

    I've been 5 weeks sober which believe it or not is a significant milestone for me as I've been alcohol dependant all of my life... I found the first couple of weeks difficult, and I have had a load of stress with a relationship break up which could have spiraled into a relapse, but I didn't succumb as the one positive change to my life was stopping drinking...I have also realised that all my mistakes, arguments and destructive behaviour was linked to alcohol. I hope to quit completely, the benefits are obvious...better general health, such as clarity of mind, better sleep and I've noticed my eyes are whiter and clearer... Good luck to everyone on your righteous path to sobriety 🙏

  • @estefanialimaperez4095
    @estefanialimaperez4095 11 месяцев назад +5

    Thank you so so much! Please keep sharing! I'm trying to stay sober, I'm about to hit the one month marked and I'm so scared to be sober during Christmas dinner !! Watching this videos help not feel alone and that I'm nor wired for wanting to quit drinking! Thankyou so much ! You inspired and helped me so so much!

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад +1

      Comments like this make me want to keep sharing, so thank YOU! I have a holiday sobriety tip video to upload this evening! Check back for it or subscribe so you get notified when it's up 🫶

    • @kimwieczorek1879
      @kimwieczorek1879 7 месяцев назад

      New Years Eve always hard for me ;/

  • @zauberlu
    @zauberlu Год назад +9

    Thanks for sharing, I've been sober for almost a year now and I agree with you on every word! ❤

  • @Mindfully-me
    @Mindfully-me 6 месяцев назад +5

    Straight to the point tips. Thank you.
    I am 2 years sober now.
    I like to connect with other sober folks on youtube.
    We are growing in numbers. I love it.

  • @viviandasilva8520
    @viviandasilva8520 29 дней назад +1

    I love ginger beer.. but they’re expensive so I’m drinking lots of really cold water or cold mint tea.. I felt dizzy at first but I fight and I’m conquering..

  • @joygloriaxhuri5135
    @joygloriaxhuri5135 4 месяца назад +2

    You made me cry when you said the serenity prayer
    I’m in my day two from drinking and I pray I get the grace to keep going one day at a time

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  4 месяца назад +1

      Once you get over that first hump it gets soo much easier - I promise.

    • @joygloriaxhuri5135
      @joygloriaxhuri5135 4 месяца назад

      @@lizziekindrew thank you for being such a light and inspiration to so many souls that feel the light already died in them
      Sending you love and grace on your journey as well💐

  • @rdcowan99
    @rdcowan99 11 месяцев назад +4

    I found that keeping a daily journal helped me remain aware of the changes in me that were good. I had pains in my back and abdomen when I started, I also wasn't able to concentrate as I used to. My journal let's me take a daily checkup of what pains I feel and how my thinking is improving. It also helped keep me on-track not drinking because I looked forward to documenting the improvements I'd notice on each tomorrow...

  • @katherinecampbell3049
    @katherinecampbell3049 3 месяца назад +2

    i Was sober a year 9 months congratulations I dont want to be negative as Im far from that I had to give up as my life was being ruined and I wanted to quit 2012 I unfortunately fell off the wagon but got back on Its such good advice you have given as Im listening as thats now my mantra baby steps everyday is a blessing never say never so good to hear you put this into perspective To all quitting Its a massive journey and an amazing one I found walking my spirituality focus helped alot Many Thanks

  • @margomargo985
    @margomargo985 2 месяца назад +1

    Day one down! Wish me luck! Thanks for your video, it was very helpful:)

  • @LanceQuest
    @LanceQuest 11 месяцев назад +6

    Battling with it now, I cut down and only buy a 6 pack instead of a 12 pack, that when I hit number 6 I'm done.

    • @sheriteeter2697
      @sheriteeter2697 11 месяцев назад +3

      Find some videos that show people before and after amazing what happens to your body without the alcohol

    • @theresaimlach
      @theresaimlach 11 месяцев назад

      If you have time research Neuroscientist Dr. Andrew Huberman....He breaks down why alcohol is poisoning our neural circuits. It's easier for me to choose an alternative drink to alcohol once I realize what I was doing to my body. Our body is a gift and just like if you put the wrong gasoline in your engine, car's not going to get far.

  • @lenorelopez748
    @lenorelopez748 3 месяца назад +2

    Extremely well spoken and sincere. Thank you

  • @aubrienicolle
    @aubrienicolle 3 месяца назад +2

    I truly would love to NEVER drink again in my life, but like you said I’ll take it one day at a time!❤

  • @glasgowharleyrider
    @glasgowharleyrider 10 месяцев назад +1

    20 days in and that's a big change in itself , so determined to push on , and as you said so well, ONE Day at a time. 🙏Subbed from Scotland . Much love

  • @daniellee1722
    @daniellee1722 11 месяцев назад +16

    I'm only on day 4 and just had a pretty strong craving to say F it start again tomorrow. Your video knocked some sense into me thank you. I have to stop this internal dialog that keeps saying "Relax there's always tomorrow" or some variation of that.

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад +5

      These are the hardest days!! And that voice can be so convincing... Take it one day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at a time if you have to. Every time you get through a craving and make it another day, that voice will get quieter. You got this!

    • @Mimi-gh3fv
      @Mimi-gh3fv Месяц назад

      I’m on day 4 today too. Had very strong cravings and actually overcame it today. I always cave to to temptation when it comes on strong and start from scratch. But, I made it today 🙏🏼

  • @gusevening4910
    @gusevening4910 10 месяцев назад +2

    Great video. One thing I would add is to be prepared for intense boredom and mundane life. It passes eventually but for me took 3 months.

    • @catherinelussier1559
      @catherinelussier1559 10 месяцев назад

      Any tips /ideas to overcome that?

    • @gusevening4910
      @gusevening4910 10 месяцев назад +3

      @@catherinelussier1559 Mostly just need to power through it. Helps to distract yourself with enjoyable activities if possible.

    • @krystaperry288
      @krystaperry288 8 месяцев назад

      That's always my thing.

  • @dwdrumshdmotorcyclesvirgom7379
    @dwdrumshdmotorcyclesvirgom7379 2 месяца назад +1

    Lizzie your so pretty! i am glad you made the decision to stop drinking!

  • @k____b
    @k____b 11 месяцев назад +2

    Your first tip is what I needed to hear most right now. With the holidays coming up, the devil on my shoulder is saying to wait until after new years.

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад +1

      I've been there! But the holidays sober have a whole other special sparkle to them. You can do hard things!

  • @elijahdunmore7526
    @elijahdunmore7526 Месяц назад

    HI LIZZIE I LOVE THIS SOBRIETY VIDEO I KNOW IT IS A LITTLE OLD BUT THANK YOU FOR SHARING!!! LIZZIE I HAVE BEEN CLEAN AND SOBER FOR 4 YEARS AND 7 MONTHS AS OF OCTOBER 6-2024 I TOOK IT ONE DAY AT A TIME AND I AM STILL SOBER THANK YOU FOR SHARING AND KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!!🙏🏽❤️

  • @darrenhadden1037
    @darrenhadden1037 Год назад +4

    I have 1 month now. I feel great and will continue... You look great btw❤ One day at a time sometimes one hour really does work!🎉

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  Год назад +1

      Good for you! One minute at a time works for the hardest bits too 🤣

    • @darrenhadden1037
      @darrenhadden1037 Год назад +1

      @@lizziekindrew agreed 💯👍 😂 I look forward to future videos. Congrats on your sobriety ✨🎉

  • @Lgaucker123
    @Lgaucker123 2 месяца назад +1

    Congratulations!
    Today is day 1 for me. I’m glad I came across your video!!

  • @claudinerobins
    @claudinerobins 3 месяца назад +1

    I don’t know how this video found me. I am so grateful! Thank you for putting this out there. So helpful and reassuring. 🙏❤️🙏

  • @LadyM91223
    @LadyM91223 11 месяцев назад +2

    So happy I stumbled across your content. Day 1 (again) for me today, keep thinking that I can moderate, its incredible the alcohol creep, it happens so quickly. Its also so hard to let go of my perceived identity (party girl / champagne supanova :) ) realising that is not actually the real me, its how I thought I needed to be. That's hitting hard.

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад

      Day 1 is the most important one! I definitely understand the struggle of letting go of the identity you related to for a long time - but you get to discover a whole new version of yourself in sobriety! That's such an exciting thing to look forward too. Sending you lots of love ❤

  • @Beaboutit637
    @Beaboutit637 11 месяцев назад +1

    I am a “weekend warrior” & for the longest time, just sticking to the weekends made me believe I was okay. However, every weekend Fri/Sat/Sun is leaving me super drained. I’m a huge football fan & the two go hand in hand. But I’ve accomplished my first Sunday watching the game sober & it honestly felt good. I have 12 days today but last night I felt like crying because I wanted a beer so bad. But I held out, waking up this morning feeling proud with no hang over. Mahalo for this video!

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад +1

      And every time you get through one of those rough cravings and wake up the next morning feeling good about yourself, your confidence in sobriety grows!! I hope football becomes something you can enjoy even more without the booze. Here's to the ex weekend warriors!

    • @Beaboutit637
      @Beaboutit637 11 месяцев назад

      @@lizziekindrew yessss!!

  • @jshafer4822
    @jshafer4822 6 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you! I took notes on your tips. I'm
    48 days clean and these help me stay away from booze

  • @Robostomp
    @Robostomp 10 месяцев назад +1

    Good catch on the mantra thingy. Mine is "I want to play and look great as I did in my early twenties being sober most of the time" (sounds weird, eh?). And also I would add "I want to be capable of learning new stuff".

  • @paulalane8638
    @paulalane8638 Месяц назад

    Thank you! These videos help so many...you are absolutely right...dont wait til you are ready. JUST DO IT...FOR YOU!!!❤

  • @mchenryillinoisusedcarsale4518
    @mchenryillinoisusedcarsale4518 4 месяца назад +2

    Thank you so much for sharing your story, your tips do really help. With having past trauma & failed relationships all the while loosing connections with children I have helped raise over the years Depression & Alcoholism hit me hard & I got into trouble with the "Law". I don't have much of a Support System beside these said type of Videos online & it's extremely rough. I'd really like to attend AA, but I'm afraid of revisiting the past & things I have accepted in letting go of. People close to me Don't Truly Understand & are in Denial with the lack of experience of their own. I want to Thank you for you insight & posting @};~ keep up the good work I'm Proud of you for staying strong.

  • @rickfredrick7969
    @rickfredrick7969 11 месяцев назад +2

    Your awesome!! Thank you!! I plan to start my New Years Resolution Dec. 1st (2 days from now) instead of waiting for the New Year! Wish me luck! Gonna need it. lol. Nice to hear about the NA’s. They do help with the cravings I feel

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад +1

      You got this!! A sober holiday season is EXTRA magical!

  • @jomilliom8417
    @jomilliom8417 Месяц назад +1

    I can't even believe I'm on day 11 sober. I can't remember the last time I was sober this long. Each day I get a little less uncomfortable and a little more joyful.

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  Месяц назад +1

      Go you!! Keep it going, it just gets better x

    • @jomilliom8417
      @jomilliom8417 25 дней назад

      @@lizziekindrew I'm 40 days sober now and yes it's great!

  • @MariaNovember
    @MariaNovember 3 месяца назад +1

    Thank you so much I going to start tonight ❤

  • @ceregirl5852
    @ceregirl5852 4 месяца назад +3

    and look at your skin! sobriety = health!

  • @Mike-c6f4k
    @Mike-c6f4k 3 месяца назад +1

    Everyone one of you should be commended that take the time to speak about sobriety. Thank you 🙂

  • @emmieloub
    @emmieloub 4 месяца назад +1

    I totally get step 1 I've been doing that for ages, making a day to stop...it dosnt work, today I am detoxing, I have a massage booked in 1 hour to help me relax, then the only goal for today is to walk past the shop on the way home, little wins, 😀 💜🙏🏽

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  4 месяца назад

      A massage sounds like an amazing way to relax! Jealous!

  • @richardwhittome7712
    @richardwhittome7712 4 месяца назад

    What fantastic insights from a young person - I dont want that to be 'young-ist' but this woman has found self awareness that has evaded me for 54 years.

  • @iron_pete
    @iron_pete 2 месяца назад +1

    Awesome video, thank you so much for making it, I watched it 3 times in a row 🙏
    Do non-alcohol beer in the beginning when gettins sober, this is the best tip for me! 🤩
    Keep up the good work beautiful 😍👍

  • @hawtsawsechapina
    @hawtsawsechapina Месяц назад

    Thank you so much for your video 🙌🏼 I’ve tried multiple times to make this decision for myself but in the back of my mind my thoughts would always convince me otherwise. However as I’m finding other people who inspire me, like yourself, I’m finding the confidence to choose for myself everyday instead of my impulsive thoughts and learning to live with intention and less on reactions to my circumstances.

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  Месяц назад +1

      Wow I love this comment so much. This is so amazing for you ❤

  • @mmacias553
    @mmacias553 5 месяцев назад +1

    I'm so thankful for people like you sharing your journeys. I am a recovering alcohol, vape, and tobacco addict. I have been sober twice in my adult life. One sober break was for 5 months and my most recent one was 9 months. I felt like I was finally living life but I unfortunately relapsed. I had believed that I beat my addiction and was having 6 to 10 beers once a week and not blacking out which made me figure I had it down. However i blacked out two nights ago and I realize now that I'm done drinking forever. I know I can but the naysaying voices are in my head. This video gave me the strength I needed TODAY to tell those voices to stfu. Thank you :)

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  5 месяцев назад

      That is a powerful testimony! Sometimes we need to remember why we started the hard way. Today is the best time to make a change - you get to rewrite the rest of your story with the decisions you make right now. Keep at it x

  • @1222Angel
    @1222Angel 11 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️ I've been struggling for years and have tried many times to quit. Everything keeps getting worse and worse... I can feel it's time. I've seen a few sober videos but resonated a lot with you. Thank you. I needed this

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад

      Thank you so much - comments like this make me feel like it's worthwhile the effort to share my own journey 🫶

  • @nickwright4828
    @nickwright4828 Месяц назад

    Just saved this video to my Sobriety Inspo playlist. I relate to all the steps you mentioned and am doing the same!

  • @adamrobertson2048
    @adamrobertson2048 5 месяцев назад +3

    Thank you I binge drink every few days. I've missed work and other functions because of my hangovers and I'm just done letting myself and others down. I make it a week and then the weekend comes and I anyways cave

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  5 месяцев назад +1

      Plan ahead! See if there's a meetings you can go to on the weekend days to have some accountability, get some NA drinks to sip on when those cravings hit, avoid going places or seeing people that might make it even harder to stick to your plan. There's a future for you where you can be really, truly proud of yourself. It hard in the beginning, but it gets easier. And you can do hard things x

  • @amritaamanita
    @amritaamanita 11 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for creating this! I definitely found that the "just for today" approach is so key and applicable to any addiction or toxic habit. The two extended periods of sobriety that I had I also couldn't tell you what or when my last drink was and I look forward to it again.

  • @CoachKathiTheFitSpirit
    @CoachKathiTheFitSpirit 3 месяца назад +1

    This was amazing, thank you for your honesty!

  • @ericak456
    @ericak456 2 месяца назад

    I got talked to about my drinking/ substance use last night by my partner and it was a real wake up call. Your video is the first one I clicked on. Thank you for sharing your experience.

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  2 месяца назад

      Those wake up calls can be the start of something wonderful x

  • @TheStaniz
    @TheStaniz 11 месяцев назад

    Oh Elizabeth, Bless you. I'm in such deep trouble that strategies seem futile. I'm 74. I was an English Professor for almost 30 years. I NEVER DRANK until I retired seven years ago. I can, without hesitation, say that I loved every, single moment that I taught. Every moment. Then I retired and "it" happened. When I was teaching I NEVER DRANK! NEVER EVEN THOUGHT ABOUT IT!! There is so, so much more to this story, as you can imagine, but I will leave it here, so I don't bore you to tears. Jah Bless You. -Johnnie

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад

      There is always hope. Find something else to love again! Alcohol doesn't have to be a part of your future if you don't want it to be.

  • @stuarts2077
    @stuarts2077 3 месяца назад +1

    8 years sober. What the mind can believe it can achieve. Stay strong live your life don’t let someone else take control of it. I try and mentor others that are struggling. Stay safe, be safe.

  • @liamm8729
    @liamm8729 10 месяцев назад

    Totally agree with the tip about alcohol free alternatives. Genuinely don’t think I would be now 4 1/2 months sober without them. I agree with the forever part and the taking it one day at a time but I also think it helps to have goals (I did one month, then 2, then 100 days and my next goal is 6 months). Keep changing the goal post is something that has helped me!

  • @Kenlydford
    @Kenlydford Год назад +2

    Inspiring for sure. I find holidays are a little more difficult but the one day at a time mentality is very key. Also the serenity prayer or any simple prayer helps me in those moments when a compulsion creeps in my mind. Good video.

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  Год назад

      Thank you for watching! I am going to make a dedicated video for celebrating the holidays sober - definitely a heavy drinking season that can be difficult.

  • @tammysoto1
    @tammysoto1 5 месяцев назад +3

    I used to be a moderately heavy drinker, then I was in a relationship with an alcoholic who got clean. So I just didn't really drink anymore to be supportive, it just seemed weird to me to drink around him. Then we broke up six months ago. There has been a gradual increase in my drinking since then and last week I blacked out twice. I decided that I'm done with alcohol in my life after that. I'm too old for that behavior (mid 40's), and serves no purpose in my goals for myself.

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  5 месяцев назад +1

      Good for you noticing that behavior and realizing that it isn't for you anymore!

  • @dhughzee
    @dhughzee 11 месяцев назад +1

    Great tips. 2 weeks so far. Content like this does help a lot. Ty. Need to cut down on the sugary snacks I have more cravings for now 😊

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад

      The sugar cravings are REAL in the beginning! Give yourself some slack with that though - if a sugary treat helps you make it through the day without drinking, that can be a win for now. x

  • @djpapakuma
    @djpapakuma 11 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for sharing your story and tips! July 25, 2023 was the last day I had alcohol and have been taking it day by day. Recently it has been really difficult but I'm still making it and staying sober. Maybe I will pick up some non-alcoholic beer to help me get through these time. Just want to say you are absolutely beautiful Elizabeth, and it takes real guts to share what you have gone/going though and be vulnerable. I hope I get the courage to make videos and share myself soon too. Thanks again! ❤

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  11 месяцев назад +1

      Good for you sticking to it!! One day at a time - reach out to the community if you need that extra support!

    • @djpapakuma
      @djpapakuma 11 месяцев назад

      Thx@@lizziekindrew 😊

  • @theplasticcherries
    @theplasticcherries 11 месяцев назад +2

    Wow, this video came out on my sober day…

  • @mumtominibeasts
    @mumtominibeasts 2 месяца назад

    This is quite possibly the best video I've watched so far about sobriety!
    I'm on day one, wish me luck

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  2 месяца назад

      I am wishing you all the success!! You don’t need luck, you can do hard things x

  • @GinaEnns
    @GinaEnns 6 месяцев назад

    I have honestly been practicing quitting, taking a break, etc for FOREVER… at least 5-6 years this video makes so much sense, celebrating your small victories and not thinking about “NEVER” again is eye opening, start with 30 days and then carry on , FOREVER IS JUST sooooo daunting, thank you for shedding light on this approach, congratulations 🎉 your so young when you figured this out! AMEN. I’m 58 and going to embark on this journey today, bless you 💕

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  6 месяцев назад

      Thank you for the kind comment!! Forever is so abstract, but making a decision right now for today is much more real. I think taking it one day at a time is a game-changer!

  • @pdxnikki1
    @pdxnikki1 10 месяцев назад

    Thanks for the great tips Elizabeth. Always learn new stuff from other alcoholics that help keep me sober☺️🙏 Living Sober is another great resource. Super thin reference book w a page at most per suggestion. 1 day at a time y'all.

  • @jackfrost9433
    @jackfrost9433 4 месяца назад +2

    Thanks for the tips - best eyebrows on the web, btw

  • @KapitalP73
    @KapitalP73 5 месяцев назад

    I hear ya. I quit on a random Sunday morning. Too much prep time gives you time to talk yourself out of it.

  • @HerSuccessCoaching
    @HerSuccessCoaching 2 месяца назад

    Very inspiring! Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty!!

  • @HeySyin
    @HeySyin 2 месяца назад

    Thank you for being open about your story Lizzie! I am pushing my 4th month and getting there to the one year mark. I have planned a video when I hit there and hope to share my story for others like you!

    • @lizziekindrew
      @lizziekindrew  2 месяца назад +1

      That’s amazing! I can’t wait to see you achieve that goal x

    • @HeySyin
      @HeySyin 2 месяца назад

      @@lizziekindrew Me too! Breakups will do that kind of thing but, I love to think of it as a positive

  • @angierae403
    @angierae403 2 месяца назад

    The difference in your appearance is wonderful and encouraging!!! You are gorgeous!

  • @CK_29
    @CK_29 18 дней назад

    I love ginger ale! As well as your videos and your beautiful tapestry 😊

  • @JoRider11
    @JoRider11 3 месяца назад

    Great video. Thank you for sharing! I really like your tips and appreciate hearing about your experiences. I'm on day 3 this time. Stopped drinking for 4 months late last year, made it through the holidays but started again in Feb. My main motivation was losing weight. I lost zero pounds during the 4 months and got discouraged. I now realize it's about more than weight. Alcohol is poison and I want to live a long, healthy life. I've seen what alcohol does to others in my family so it's time for me to change for good. Love the idea to get a mantra... I need to find a good one to help me stay motivated!

  • @natalieanne3128
    @natalieanne3128 2 месяца назад

    What a fantastic video! Thank you ❤🙏 So young, so wise.

  • @TheRealAriLove
    @TheRealAriLove 4 дня назад

    I’m a social drinker only. If I’m not around people I’m 100% turned off by the even thought of drinking. The hard part for me is my “job” is being a streamer and being around an audience of people and I’ve become dependent of drinking to give me that boost of energy and bright out that “fun”. I think this just comes from having unrealistic expectations on myself. I don’t need to “fun” and “drunk” to be successful