Andrew, this is one of the best videos I have watched about narcissism. And, I have watched hundreds over the last 10 years. You nailed it, down to the lack of hygiene, holes in the shirt, leaching off of others after I stopped taking care of him. Seriously. I appreciate the confirmation and wisdom that you bring. I was married to the toxic ex narc for 32 years! Slowly made my way out and have been free for 8 years. Still healing and reclaiming myself. Thank you.
WHEN YOU FIND OUT THE ONE YOU THOUGHT HAD YOUR BEST INTEREST AT HEART IS IN FACT YOUR ENEMY, SLEEPING IN THE SAME BED WITH YOU, PRETENDING TO LOVE YOU.TIME WILL SHOW YOU THEY'RE FAKE AS A THREE DOLLAR BILL,THEY HATE YOU BECAUSE OF WHAT YOU HAVE INSIDE OF YOU,THESE PEOPLE ARE EXTREMELY JEALOUS, ENVIOUS, ACTRESS,MANIPULATOR,YOUR GREATEST HATER, GOSSIPER,LIER,CHEATER,NO MORALS, INSTRUMENT OF THE DEVIL, FAMILY IS INVOLVED WITH THEIR DEMONIC ACTIVITY, THEY'RE WAITING FOR YOU TO DIE SO THEY CAN CLAIM YOUR RESOURCES IF YOUR MARRIED TO THEM,THEY WILL SUCK YOU DRY OF ENERGY SLOWLY, YOU'LL FEEL LIKE YOUR ALONE IN THIS RELATIONSHIP, ISOLATED, THE BEST YOU CAN DO IS WALK AWAY & SEEK A DIVORCE GO NO CONTACT IGNORE THEM,THEN START HEALING FROM THIS SPIRITUAL ATTACK ON YOUR LIFE,YOU CAN'T UNSEE WHAT YOU'VE SEEN WITH YOUR OWN EYES
See it now it’s so hard to accept.. I see how she with my son and daughter,bouncing in and out of they lives cold one month and loving and asking if they need anything it’s disgusting I only hope they will see it for what it really is which is toxic
@@georgesontag2192 she wasn't and she does. Behind the mask the narcissists are all energy vampires and ungrateful to others, only caring about themselves.
I have been divorced for 36 years and will never get what a fool I was...I wasted my youth and love and energy on a soulless Demon..I have never trusted another person in my life...I was ruined..
I know exactly what you mean. I did not choose wisely nor did I get out of the relationship when I was young enough to start over. I didn't want to break up the family, but it was broken all along because he was always somewhere else, if not physically at least mentally and spiritually.
It was the same for me only 32 years. The part that really breaks my heart is that he 'poisoned' my children to not talk to me. It's been 15 years now. As a mother, not a day goes by I don't think about my daughter's. I believe their husbands are also narcs like their father. 😢
Reminds me off myself your story but Yoo always AV summat in your tank to lift you resilience respect don't forget there was nothing rong wiff you it twas the monster Yoo was with
When you grow up in that environment you really feel you have to be the caretaker, the peacemaker, the secret keeper, the financial hero, and all you wanted was to be loved. Nothing was ever enough for people like this. I can’t wait for the day I can heal from this. I am very grateful for finding this channel and community. Thanks to Andrew, I feel hope to become stronger to walk away from all toxic relationships. 🙏 I think there’s a lot of narcissistic people who have no idea the harm they have done. As time goes by so fast, I would really love to find peace and move on. 🙏🦋sending love and prayers to everyone here!
I still can't comprehend it even after 53 years, family, friends, romantic relationships etc but it's true, total indifference, they don't care. What kind of world becomes when total indifference prevails?
i’m 50 years old, married for 25 years, i’m in this situation circumstances also.. anxiety and heart broken every day, just learned about narcissism less than 2 years, i’m so grateful.
In the last days,the hearts of many will WAX cold..its like waxing a piece of furniture well,you spray some water on the waxed area ,the water does not peneterate the furniture, it just runs off..
@@hibiscus1974 you are going to make it. Many people of this world are not who you thought they were. I am more than convinced that this is all part of Gods bigger plan for us. It’s heartbreaking, because I can’t see that pain in my ex wife’s eyes. Yet, she can’t accept that she is a narcissist. She is still now, controlling and scheming and abusive. I am starting to see these things in my daughter and I hope she can be saved. Even my eldest son is obsessed with her because she sexualised her relationship with him. Her own son! He yielded because his mum brainwashed him into thinking that he shouldn’t have a girlfriend or sex until he is married. We were like best mates pre discard, until she love-bombed him with clothes and seductive cuddles in her nighty. Sick individuals they are all cut from the same cloth. Watching channels like this saved me from the madness of it all. A spiritual awakening and finding God, who was with me the whole time & will be for eternity.
Today (after 16 months of no contact) I receive a letter in the mail from Mr. N wanting to 'talk to me on the phone' - NOT A CHANCE! I am Andrew Strong!
The fact is they aren't capable of love. What a horrible existence. It has nothing to do with us. They aren't capable. Remind yourself this when you struggle.
When you realize they never cared, it sets you free! No possibility to salvage the relationship, no chance that the new supply will be any better off than you. You lost nothing when the relationship ended because they didn’t give you anything at all. Focus on yourself- you survived living with them, you will thrive living your life without them!❤
Whilst I agree, the main narc in my life is my adult daughter who has and keeps full control of my only grandchild. My healing journey has been aided by physical and emotional distance for sure, but that one tie remains, and hurts like crazy. My beautiful 7 year old granddaughter.... and what her future holds..... 😢
@@joysachs9032 This is truly the worst situation, especially since there is little you can do- as long as she doesn’t physically mistreat your granddaughter. I had to co-parent with my soon to-be ex husband and it was a nightmare. I‘m sending you and your granddaughter lots of love and best wishes. Stay strong!
Realizing they never cared, is not the same as ACCEPTING that reality and being free and able to let go once and for all. Radical self-honesty is a must. Blessings!❤❤
this is the best youtube channel regarding narcissism Andrew is helping thousands heal this channel is so true, so real, and so pure its the best it changed my life
I taught they cared about me , but now i realize that they didnt give a damn about me, i stay away from these narcisist monsters that aré out to get you if you Let them.
"Out to get you if you let them!" I now understand my dreams as a young child! I was trying to fly away but 'she' my Mother caught my feet and pulled me down to take backing trays out of my arms!!! It was a nightmare. Thank you for your comment🙏💫
Yes, disturbing. Narcissists really do their best to "read" people. The ex-Narcissist that was in my life said he could not "read me." Of course, because I'm a bright-shining light/ positive empath and unlike many others he been with!!!💯🤷🏻
Your not alone welcome to your new and better family 🙏🏼❤️ Mine was and still are incredibly cruel, but 2 1/2 years of no contact has been such a blessing 👍
Took me out of a horrible narc relationship to realize my own mother is also a narcissist. It’s been 2 years, I’m slowly healing and waking up. Boundaries are so important. Choose you.
Andrew calls it a lightbulb moment. It took a while, but my mind finally allowed me to see the truth. When I could clearly see the actions of indifference, cruelty and disgust. all done with purpose.
I realize my ex narc always cared around the 1st of the month when he had lost his job, running out of money and needed somewhere to go. Sick of these types of people! DONE ✌🏾
The worst devastation of betrayal that caused me to question everything I believed in trusting. A fireman from church...my husband.the narc!!! Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
Mine was a 28 year police officer and they named a flipping street after him......😮😮😮😮 The first wife died while he was at his girlfriend's house his brother had to go find him. 2nd relationship lasted until her inherited funds ran out. The third lasted until she had terminal cancer. Sh#t why didn't I find this out until after I confronted the flying monkeys.
The narcissistic abusive cycle makes you question so many things. You are so brave for finding the answers. His biggest loss ever. Exactly what Andrew says.....its so true. ❤
I dropped mine a decade ago and she’s tracked my new addresses and places I’ve resided despite the fact I went FULL NC and she’s blocked. Also notwithstanding the fact I’ve had my lawyer mail her cease and desist letters, I have filed police reports over her unsolicited communication, and my attorney has stated many, many times to her that I will be petitioning the court for an OoP. Narcissists-family or not-hate the word “NO.” They think we’ll change our minds and snap like twigs. They underestimated our resilience and strength. I’ve long moved on, but the narcissist clearly hasn’t. She was an alcoholic who physically verbally and in many other ways abused my dad. Can’t forgive anybody who wields a knife on my father. I asked him years later why he never pressed charges.. he regrets it now but he told me he said “I needed a mother” despite the fact I had my grandmother, aunts, etc. She never cared how I felt. Remarried a piece of dirt one year after divorcing my dad, adopting a dog a year after our beloved 17 year old cat died, let strangers invade my privacy and space. The narcissist is a control freak and she was no exception
It’s so painful, to experience and wonder when it ends, losing hope and trying to get it back, this is a hard existence to overcome, to learn how to trust again, to accept help, and believe someone could love you, one day at a time.
Please know you're not alone, my own brother is a narc and almost killed me. So, I feel your pain. But you ARE loved. God helped me, he can help you too.
@@camelotenglishtuition6394 I’m sorry, and I empathize, this is so difficult, and know one should have to be going through this, people are not meant to be treating people this way, it’s truly heartbreaking, why are people like this, money and greed? What is it all about, what does anther gain on someone’s pain..
Great message! It is very painful when you find out they really never cared for you, but at the time they tell you what they really think of you, think of it as the greatest gift they ever gave to you, and then you will be on the healing path. We can heal, I do not believe they can. We can have a happy day without hurting someone.
I was under a spell for 20 of my 27 years married 🤪 I found this channel and it was amazing to learn I was not crazy ! Andrew you are always there for us ! Thank u 💕
Worked for a business for 31 years. Started the business actually. 6 years in the owner got sick and sold the business. New owner that I worked for, for 25 years. About 6 months ago I woke up and realized that she was without any empathy. She said "I Don't look at employees as people". I am a passionate and empathic person and I couldn't understand how cold she was at times. Why I had to remind her that it was important for her to acknowledge those that make it possible for her to live the life she lives. Eventually something clicked and I lashed out and told her she was a narcissist. From that point until June of this year she began a campaign of abuse, provocation and bullying. Eventually she was able to provoke me to the point where she had a legal reason to fire me. She took everything from me. My life's work. My joy. My job. My income. I am beginning to understand why it happened. It is because I told her that I recognized who she really was.
Sometimes, we can't HELP, but call these sick, demons out!!! Especially after, "reactive abuse." Andrew reminds us to not call them out. That we will be their next target, they'll just play the victim or, throw it back in our face! They're everywhere!! Sorry that happened to you.😔❤
Listening to this as I stare out at the mountains in my happy place..realizing that I did have to go through what I did to be where I am now.. and as I continue to heal, it is only going to get better..Thank you for the awesome message!
took me to adulthood to realize my own parents never gave a shit. Spent decades grieving....then physically sick. I feel like I've wasted my life and so much energy to forgive...it is a constant prayer because I want to be free of the grief and pain. I'm stuck still, 60 and still hating it all. Lord please forgive me for I've wasted what you have given me.
Turn your way of thinking around to make all good. Don't be miserable, we all have lessons in life to learn here on earth. Wishing you a wonderful happier future ❤
Transcending Warriors We Are,,we're doing the hard work and learning,growing and evolving ,keep believing in your inner strengths,Look how Far We Have Come,God bless each of us, 🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ t.y. Andrew❤️❤️✨✨
They dont care as long as they get what they want youre good. They waste the best years of your life then discard you when theyve had enough. Sad to realise that.
I was born into a narc family. As the only daughter, went through he'll. My golden brothers and son were all favored, they don't understand what I went through, nor do they like me. I was the scapegoat of the whole dysfunctional mess. I'm now no contact and doing great!! Thanks Andrew!
They are fantastic actors and slick, conniving manipulators! It's a lot to wrap your head around when you realize they never cared. When the fog is lifted, you definitely see things clearly and get those aha moments.
I SO appreciate your affirmations! After being beaten down and neglected for 25 years, it's so encouraging to hear that I am valuable! Thank you for your videos. : )
Those birds sound so sweet 🕊️ beautiful chatter. None of it was real, sometimes that frightens me in the sense that I placed myself in a very vulnerable and precarious situation....he is the lowest form of life.....as healing progresses I feel such warmth in my heart and deep contentment....my life is mine at last 💜😊
You are right, if I tell you what she is doing now! You would not believe me! No ones of my support net have heard that story! I did radical acceptance, bud I would like to have answer to all my questions I found the true, despite it hurts me. But today I have a smile in my face!
My nex didn't as far as hygiene and living in squalor. He needed me to keep things tidy like a mom. He lost all of his teeth and rarely showered. And, as he got older, he became a hypochondriac. The dining room table was full of his prescription bottles. He insisted on keeping them there instead of in the bathroom out of sight. He was actually proud of taking at least 15 different pills daily.
The long line of narcs come to mind. The list automatically populates over many months Past, present over the past 3,5 years. Lots of tears, therapy, prayer, lots of solitude necessary. Bosses, friends, family members. Very overwhelming and spellbinding! Thankfully, not all at once do these realizations come. Jan 2021 it started and is still going up until recently. I a m forever changed as a person! Can't explain it in words. Thanks, Andrew.
It is an amazing journey & thank you for your share. It's all an investment in loving oneself & wish you the very best as you continue healing. 👍💥🙏❤ 🌈🎀😘
My narc mom passed away six months ago. When I became an adult she was always telling me that she loved me but her actions always said the complete opposite. When I was a child she rarely told me I love you and her actions proved she didn't. After 61 years still coming to terms with the fact that she never cared about me. It was all a lie because she wasn't capable of love. 😢
I was in the 6th grade when I realized my mother detested me. I remember it was an overcast day, I saw a reflection in my school window of an old woman from the knees down. I looked around but no one was there…the person in the window was me! My mother dressed me in ugly matronly clothes and it hit me that she hated me. I was devastated. I started babysitting in the 7th grade and started buying my own clothes…so my mother stopped paying for anything for me from then on. She is 89 now and still demanding and critical of me, and expects to be taken care of because in her words “that’s why I had children”. Last week she threatened to punch me in the face…it never gets better.
Sometimes the hardest part about leaving the narc is having feelings of emptiness and sadness, feeling all used up, dried up and sad because no one loves me. I had to find my self-love and self-worth again. Nobody else is gonna pick up the pieces for me, and that's real hard, but I have to do it myself; I don't have anyone else.
It’s gut wrenching, but when you sit back & look at the person for who they really are, you may feel a bit of a fool but you are not the fool, they are & in the end they are the one that is alone. If your lifestyle allows it, get a dog, it’s unconditional love from a new family member, put the energy into a being who returns your love.
You have helped me a lot! I left my narcissistic ex a couple of weeks ago after finding out about what it means. She cheated on me and planned it all at the same music festival I was at. Cheated multiple probably too. Was using me to help pay rent for her “girl trips”. I gave her my heart and trust for 3 1/2 years. I woke up and left and went no contact. I am currently healing. Thank you for what you do!
Good for you!!! 🎉Don't go back, don't ever go back!! 💯 You deserve a woman who won't do that to you!! Should've been enjoying the festival, together!! Smh, They're CRAZY people!
Wow!! That's shocking !!! I know someone at my church who experienced the exact similar thing!! They were trying to sell their house because she was the primary breadwinner and out of nowhere her husband comes out and says during 25 years of marriage I've been cheating on you with another woman in our house during our whole marriage because she was satisfying me more sexually!!!!! These narcs are the devil's agents!!! Psychos!!!!?!!
Thank you so much Andrew. My own parents used to gaslight and neglect me emotionally. I went on to have an alcohol addiction, I am in recovery and therapy, something happened lately and I didn't want to believe it was going on. I am a loner but a very kind heart, I no longer can sacrifice my soul in people pleasing.
Great topic today Andrew! So true and we can always tell the motives of someone based on the conversations and the way they treat other people. Seeing narcissistic people put others down to make themselves feel superior is the worst thing to experience because they use their title/position and wage to make others feel less and it's a sad sight. The aging narcissist will always get worse day x day
My mother was a extreme narcissist. I had to fight her from the day I was born. I understand that she was sick...but it was even beond that ...dhe actually hated me.... and she tried to destroy me to her very end when I was grown up. I met her in a dream a few years after she died...she was swiping glass from a broken window in my bedroom. She was very angry like usual... I told her to get the hell out of my life and my mind. I HAve never seen her sfter that...but she took so much from me. She made my family turn away from me. But I am alive still
That's sad 😔 I bet you're a wonderful, strong, resilient woman through it all. I have learned through my own experiences & education that, people of Narcissstic family's & other relationships are some of the warmest, most kind, empathic, loving people you'll ever know.💯 We want to be nothing like those Narcissist's in our lives or, of the past! Bright-shining lights! ✨🙂✨
It's been two years since I discovered narcissism. I've watched every single video by Andrew and other channels, and I've done extensive research on narcissism from its origin. Nowhere have I found anyone who says that narcissists can change. They never change; change is not in their DNA..
Martin Appelo is a Dutch psychologist who's also a narcissist (and openly admits it). He mentions, together with some other coaches that they can change, but they have to realize their attachment issues root from their childhood, and how. They need to WANT to change. They need to often lose someone in their life that makes them "reset" their behavior and want to actively work on these traits, to safe their own future and keep their happiness. Which only happens when they meet someone/people they can't lose.
@@douwe4254I like this and agree. It all goes back to their childhood and ACKNOWLEDGING & RECOGNIZING their wounds. How many lives and relationships do they have to ruin, destroy & blow-up before they realize they need to change their ways??!! Smh
My list of narcissists in my life gets longer every day as I am new to this channel. I am joining the dots and suddenly my life makes sense to me. It is a grim reality. My mother father and two brothers are narcissists. I have had a narcissist bestie for 16 years who was very abusive. Then a romantic relationship which nearly killed me when he discarded me out of the blue. I’m still here and still healing from them all. Yes narcissists are prevalent on this planet. I have no contact with narcissists now. I have my old friend of many years who is now my live in partner. We both work hard to heal and support each other. I also have Lenny and Harry🐈⬛🐈⬛ fur family !! Thankyou Andrew. Your work is of huge value.🙏💜🌺🌈👏
The narcissist NEVER cared… they NEVER will. For me, breaking that spiritual tie has been the toughest and most essential piece in breaking through to the freedom that lies beyond the illusion that they ever cared…. even one iota. TY for another powerful video, Andrew 🙏🦋🫶
Realizing this truth gave me the conviction to discard certain people in my life that were harming me and using me. I held onto the relationships until that very moment when I realized that they never cared. I cut them out of my life and I have never wanted any contact with them ever again. Don't chase those who hurt you.
He works where I live and I do my best to stay away from him and his current new supply. But when I do see him I get triggered and get sad. It’s hard to believe they NEVER cared but it’s getting easier. For me out of sight-out or mind really works. I really don’t want to see him at all but sometimes I will and lately he keeps showing up-driving by when I’m out with my dog or cruising through my cul de sac way to often for me. I’m trying to figure out how to deal with that. He’s never tried to engage me in a conversation or anything but seeing him at all doesn’t work for me. The fact that he didn’t care hurts. At one time I thought I was “the one who got away.” And it was very hurtful when I realized that. It’s not him, it’s the idea of having a loving, fulfilling and caring relationship and I thought he was it until it wasn’t. And I don’t want to have to limit when and where I walk and come and go. 😤
Oh my, that’s a very difficult situation but you can do this. Keep listening to Andrew. Keep plugging into the our community. Keep your head up and walk strong. You can do it!
@@lggig534 I have to pass where his office is when I come and go from my complex and he parks where he can watch traffic coming in and out. I don’t pay attention to him. Last I knew he was with his new supply. I see her occasionally.
Thank you. Andrew. My Narc has planned my destruction for 8 months, she has broken me emotionally financially,. 4 months ago my mum got aggressive cancer I became mums career mum died in 11 weeks my Narc abandoned me 2 months ago so i lost both women I loved, I woke up too late get out people don't end up in a broken ball always crying, I have been contemplating leaving this mortal coil I wouldn't I love life, but my pain is just crushing me all alone,,, men get abused too, cheers Andrew it all helps love n light
The despair and darkness feels bleak- I feel the same way. Actually allowed the word suicide to enter my mind-messed up. I love life and will heal but the problem is you want the fantasy of their passion back and I make myself ill knowing I am still under his spell. This is when I found Christ and my happiness is returning-stay focused on your father let him hold you support you and love you. Friend From
"Lift up your eyes and look beyond, dark clouds to heaven's blue. The shadowed moment soon will pass, the sun still shines for you." au "The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the LORD delivers him out of them all." - Psalms 34:18-19 God hears and He helps. 🙏
This video is like a daily hymn….Thank you for putting your voice on air. I know it, you know it, they know it. Watching all their drama from the sidelines is the best seat in the house 😂🎉 Thank you Andrew!
each time i consume Andrew's videos: i cry. because i'm going through this .. and i cannot wait to be the bright beautiful star i used to be. thank you :)
This is the stage I’m stuck on currently. This is a sticky one. The mask is so real. It’s so freaking incredibly real. I really believe she did but if she did, she wouldn’t have treated me like her little unpaid and uncompensated servant. Nothing was ever enough. Nothing was ever good. She was never happy because nothing is ever enough. More more more. There’s no peace in that.
Thank you Andrew So appreciate your support Year in a half ago I started my education with you- listening late at night - giving me the strength to make a plan. Not giving up. 6 months free now I’m still listening This is a journey Real love is all around you like the birdie that was supporting us in Andrew’s video today. This is a well kept secret - so many people that look happy are not. They need a voice. We need life to be what we want it to be. Full of love Have a wonderful day You are worth the journey ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
It's just all too much. His mom's birthday is today. My mom's birthday was yesterday. I would give anything for her to be here with me right now. His entire family has abandoned me, like I never existed. 😭
This was the hardest pill for me to swallow . I loved her unconditionally.. but in the end she clearly showed she didn’t care at all . Acted as loyal and caring and loving , said the words . But the actions didn’t match completely . 😢
Thank you, Andrew ~ beautiful video, background and bird songs. After I removed myself from the narc by going no contact, my clarity began to return, as painful as it was it was evident to me that the narc never cared. By implementing the: toxic trauma bond, future faking, triangulation, not being present when together or out for dinner, making lame excuses why he was busy, persistent lying, odd phone behavior, actions not matching his words, promises that never came to fruition and on and on it goes…when out of the narc fog you can see things you never did before… May you all heal and go onto your best life, never looking back 🙏🏻💜🦋✨☀️✨💖✨🌷
Struggling with this. My ex was awful to me at the end. Left me for someone else after four and half years and after i moved across the country to her home state after she finished college. I struggled hard to find work for a bit and had to ask for help from family and my ex paid more of the bills for a month or two. Now im back living with my parents. No money but at least i have an interview monday. Reallt struggling feeling like i was a narcissist too 😢 She called me a parasite. I only struggled with work for a couple months after moving so far away from everyone and everything i knew...the first two years before we moved never struggled with work.
Andrew I really appreciate all your videos. You have no idea how hard its been dealing w something like this solo. My friends & family cant comprehend how hard it is to maintain a positive outlook after going though the abuse. Im choosing me everyday and my light is growing brighter and brighter everyday! Prayers to everyone going forward. 🙏🏽
Thanks as ever Andrew. Having a narcissistic mother has really has taken a toll on me, and I'm still healing. Your videos help so much and I'm truly grateful.
I can’t even watch this one Andrew. The title alone brings back everything I went through when I realized that I had made up my sister because she was NOTHING like who I found out she really is! At first I was sad that it was over and then it got worse when I realized she was never even real. That I crested who I wanted her to be and ignored EVERYTHING for over five decades, to the degree that the illness I got from their stress, when I was twenty, has almost killed me six times in 45 years. And the worst one of all, because it was my entire family, was my sister because she’d always been MY BEST FRIEND.
It took years of therapy and work to realize that I wasn't unlovable. I was just raised by people incapable of loving or caring...it took years to understand what a healthy, loving relationship is. They did their best to destroy me and I'm still standing. ..
I took your advice brother. never open the door . she came up to me while walking and wanted to talk . i said i’m all good have a great life and kept walking
yes toxic like a bad nightmare. Within 1 year of a 54 yr marriage to a Narcissist he said he never meant to marry me. I thought he was kidding at that time.
Wow, spot on. My ex-husband diagnosed narcissist fell apart after being married 6 years and our son was born. I left him when my son was 4. No regrets! Ex is in prison. My son is a senior firefighter. His dad hated he wasn't front and center getting all resources and attention.
Andrew, this is one of the best videos I have watched about narcissism. And, I have watched hundreds over the last 10 years. You nailed it, down to the lack of hygiene, holes in the shirt, leaching off of others after I stopped taking care of him. Seriously. I appreciate the confirmation and wisdom that you bring. I was married to the toxic ex narc for 32 years! Slowly made my way out and have been free for 8 years. Still healing and reclaiming myself. Thank you.
Welcome..💜🙏😌🙌
Agree 😎😎😎
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone agree. Been watching you for months age this one was unique. Really touching. Thank you
So glad you are free and reclaiming yourself! I am doing the same. It was 5.5 years for me. I can't imagine 32 years!
WHEN YOU FIND OUT THE ONE YOU THOUGHT HAD YOUR BEST INTEREST AT HEART IS IN FACT YOUR ENEMY, SLEEPING IN THE SAME BED WITH YOU, PRETENDING TO LOVE YOU.TIME WILL SHOW YOU THEY'RE FAKE AS A THREE DOLLAR BILL,THEY HATE YOU BECAUSE OF WHAT YOU HAVE INSIDE OF YOU,THESE PEOPLE ARE EXTREMELY JEALOUS, ENVIOUS, ACTRESS,MANIPULATOR,YOUR GREATEST HATER, GOSSIPER,LIER,CHEATER,NO MORALS, INSTRUMENT OF THE DEVIL, FAMILY IS INVOLVED WITH THEIR DEMONIC ACTIVITY, THEY'RE WAITING FOR YOU TO DIE SO THEY CAN CLAIM YOUR RESOURCES IF YOUR MARRIED TO THEM,THEY WILL SUCK YOU DRY OF ENERGY SLOWLY, YOU'LL FEEL LIKE YOUR ALONE IN THIS RELATIONSHIP, ISOLATED, THE BEST YOU CAN DO IS WALK AWAY & SEEK A DIVORCE GO NO CONTACT IGNORE THEM,THEN START HEALING FROM THIS SPIRITUAL ATTACK ON YOUR LIFE,YOU CAN'T UNSEE WHAT YOU'VE SEEN WITH YOUR OWN EYES
WHAT HURTS EVEN MORE IS WHEN THEY ARE FAMILY 😭
For me that's the worst , when that narcissist in your life is close family. I have one , and that's tough
Yes😢
@@lmcwill0502I have several. I was and still am a bit devastated and definitely disappointed and heartbroken.
Yes, agreed. It takes a long time to get comfortable leaving them where they are and moving forward with your own life.
My sister, when she died, all I could feel was relief.
Realizing that they never cared freed me to STOP caring.
It is betrayled, ugley people.
Oh yes me to
See it now it’s so hard to accept.. I see how she with my son and daughter,bouncing in and out of they lives cold one month and loving and asking if they need anything it’s disgusting I only hope they will see it for what it really is which is toxic
It just made me really sad and made me feel like an idiot
Me too. Thanks for telling the Truth because I Blamed myself for being Tricked and going back for years.
The narcissist is incapable of caring about others. No matter what you do, its never enough. They are already looking for a new suppy.
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Yes, if she is attractive, she has real power over men and his money.
@@georgesontag2192 she wasn't and she does. Behind the mask the narcissists are all energy vampires and ungrateful to others, only caring about themselves.
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The type that never apologizes for extreme rudeness. Then acts like you’re causing the issues by pointing out their behavior.
Thankx for pointing that out. My ex narc would always accuse me of insulting him when I pointed out his abuse. So bizarre!
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I have been divorced for 36 years and will never get what a fool I was...I wasted my youth and love and energy on a soulless Demon..I have never trusted another person in my life...I was ruined..
I know exactly what you mean. I did not choose wisely nor did I get out of the relationship when I was young enough to start over. I didn't want to break up the family, but it was broken all along because he was always somewhere else, if not physically at least mentally and spiritually.
Time flies very fast. Never waste your youth on people who don't care about us. Youth and time are things that we can't get back once it's spent.
It was the same for me only 32 years. The part that really breaks my heart is that he 'poisoned' my children to not talk to me. It's been 15 years now. As a mother, not a day goes by I don't think about my daughter's. I believe their husbands are also narcs like their father. 😢
You have so much value and worth. Feel it , embrace it. Your partner never deserved someone of your calibre. Never, ever settle again. Well Done!
Reminds me off myself your story but Yoo always AV summat in your tank to lift you resilience respect don't forget there was nothing rong wiff you it twas the monster Yoo was with
Beyond not caring, knowing he enjoyed hurting me was devastating. Evil.
I'm actually glad they never loved me because it means I never lost anything because I never had it in the begining and now I've found myself again .
That is what hurts me the most. Realizing that my mother never loved me. 😢
Not your fault.
My mother totally hates me😢
That's so sad! I'm so sorry. I love my kids & grandkids so much! It has been heart-wrenching to see my daughter & grandkids go through this!!
That's awfully screwed, but that was her shortcoming, not yours. You are still worthy of love all of the same.
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That is so sad. We all deserve to be loved.
That's what hurts the most. When you give 100% and they gave 20%.
Was 1% for me at the end maybe 0
When you grow up in that environment you really feel you have to be the caretaker, the peacemaker, the secret keeper, the financial hero, and all you wanted was to be loved. Nothing was ever enough for people like this. I can’t wait for the day I can heal from this. I am very grateful for finding this channel and community. Thanks to Andrew, I feel hope to become stronger to walk away from all toxic relationships. 🙏 I think there’s a lot of narcissistic people who have no idea the harm they have done. As time goes by so fast, I would really love to find peace and move on. 🙏🦋sending love and prayers to everyone here!
I still can't comprehend it even after 53 years, family, friends, romantic relationships etc but it's true, total indifference, they don't care. What kind of world becomes when total indifference prevails?
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i’m 50 years old, married for 25 years, i’m in this situation circumstances also.. anxiety and heart broken every day, just learned about narcissism less than 2 years, i’m so grateful.
In the last days,the hearts of many will WAX cold..its like waxing a piece of furniture well,you spray some water on the waxed area ,the water does not peneterate the furniture, it just runs off..
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@@hibiscus1974 you are going to make it. Many people of this world are not who you thought they were. I am more than convinced that this is all part of Gods bigger plan for us. It’s heartbreaking, because I can’t see that pain in my ex wife’s eyes. Yet, she can’t accept that she is a narcissist. She is still now, controlling and scheming and abusive. I am starting to see these things in my daughter and I hope she can be saved.
Even my eldest son is obsessed with her because she sexualised her relationship with him. Her own son! He yielded because his mum brainwashed him into thinking that he shouldn’t have a girlfriend or sex until he is married. We were like best mates pre discard, until she love-bombed him with clothes and seductive cuddles in her nighty. Sick individuals they are all cut from the same cloth.
Watching channels like this saved me from the madness of it all. A spiritual awakening and finding God, who was with me the whole time & will be for eternity.
Today (after 16 months of no contact) I receive a letter in the mail from Mr. N wanting to 'talk to me on the phone' - NOT A CHANCE! I am Andrew Strong!
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Get the letter out of your place. Then, you won't reread it endlessly. Free up your space.
A letter in the mail?
Don't go back. Even a simple phone call can lead to reconciliation. It did for me, and each episode with a narcissist is worse than the one before.
The fact is they aren't capable of love. What a horrible existence. It has nothing to do with us. They aren't capable. Remind yourself this when you struggle.
Yet they seem to love their kids
It's a tough pill to swallow.
Remember to always protect your peace.
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When you realize they never cared, it sets you free! No possibility to salvage the relationship, no chance that the new supply will be any better off than you. You lost nothing when the relationship ended because they didn’t give you anything at all. Focus on yourself- you survived living with them, you will thrive living your life without them!❤
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@@wickedwisdom6088 Thank you 🙏🏻
Whilst I agree, the main narc in my life is my adult daughter who has and keeps full control of my only grandchild.
My healing journey has been aided by physical and emotional distance for sure, but that one tie remains, and hurts like crazy. My beautiful 7 year old granddaughter.... and what her future holds..... 😢
@@joysachs9032 This is truly the worst situation, especially since there is little you can do- as long as she doesn’t physically mistreat your granddaughter. I had to co-parent with my soon to-be ex husband and it was a nightmare. I‘m sending you and your granddaughter lots of love and best wishes. Stay strong!
@@sandyberger-r9j 🙏❣ with thanks for your understanding. You take care as well.
Realizing they never cared, is not the same as ACCEPTING that reality and being free and able to let go once and for all. Radical self-honesty is a must. Blessings!❤❤
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, 🙏true but very hurtful
this is the best youtube channel regarding narcissism
Andrew is helping thousands heal
this channel is so true, so real, and so pure
its the best
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Once you realize Run.
I taught they cared about me , but now i realize that they didnt give a damn about me, i stay away from these narcisist monsters that aré out to get you if you Let them.
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"Out to get you if you let them!" I now understand my dreams as a young child! I was trying to fly away but 'she' my Mother caught my feet and pulled me down to take backing trays out of my arms!!!
It was a nightmare. Thank you for your comment🙏💫
They are takers. They love what we provide & not for being us. Time to start taking care of ourselves. Thank you & greet the singing birdy💫
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I worked with a narcissist.
He told me he liked to study people, to find their weaknesses.....disturbing to say the least.
Yes, disturbing. Narcissists really do their best to "read" people. The ex-Narcissist that was in my life said he could not "read me." Of course, because I'm a bright-shining light/ positive empath and unlike many others he been with!!!💯🤷🏻
My mum, dad, and sister were full on narcissists I grew up alone. It was so lonely
Me too, chin up.
❤🌹❤ If you have a heart that can be wounded, you have a heart that can heal and grow. ❤🌹❤
Your not alone welcome to your new and better family 🙏🏼❤️
Mine was and still are incredibly cruel, but 2 1/2 years of no contact has been such a blessing 👍
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Wishing you all the best! Healing and getting stronger!
Thank you for your content! He never cared about me, he couldn't care about me, he only cares about what he wanted from me.
Nailed it. ❤🌹You're worth so much more.
Exactly!
Correct. They are only interested in what you can do for them because they think you are their slave.
Very well put! This is exactly the case!!
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I like how they consistently enjoy attempting to future faking.
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I hate that part.
@arsenelupiniii8040 Same here.
Took me out of a horrible narc relationship to realize my own mother is also a narcissist.
It’s been 2 years, I’m slowly healing and waking up. Boundaries are so important. Choose you.
Never believe a liar.
Amen!!!!
If they lie in small things.... a liar is a liar.
Andrew calls it a lightbulb moment. It took a while, but my mind finally allowed me to see the truth. When I could clearly see the actions of indifference, cruelty and disgust.
all done with purpose.
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Brilliant video ❤
Its devastating when its your child, and they say they don't love you anymore, and pretend you dont exist. 😢
Thank you for this wonderful video.
I understand this all too well!
Andrew, even the birds agree with you!
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Liking someone and caring about them are two very different things.
For most of us they go hand in hand, but not for the narcissist.
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I realize my ex narc always cared around the 1st of the month when he had lost his job, running out of money and needed somewhere to go. Sick of these types of people! DONE ✌🏾
Same here; I always came home to a hot plate of confusion & complaints.
The worst devastation of betrayal that caused me to question everything I believed in trusting. A fireman from church...my husband.the narc!!!
Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
Betrayal is the right word. Take care.
Mine was a 28 year police officer and they named a flipping street after him......😮😮😮😮 The first wife died while he was at his girlfriend's house his brother had to go find him. 2nd relationship lasted until her inherited funds ran out. The third lasted until she had terminal cancer. Sh#t why didn't I find this out until after I confronted the flying monkeys.
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The narcissistic abusive cycle makes you question so many things.
You are so brave for finding the answers.
His biggest loss ever. Exactly what Andrew says.....its so true.
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Dumping my narcissistic Mother took 60 years but wisdom finally arrived 😌
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Thank you, Andrew, for sharing your healing message.
Sad!!.
I dropped mine a decade ago and she’s tracked my new addresses and places I’ve resided despite the fact I went FULL NC and she’s blocked. Also notwithstanding the fact I’ve had my lawyer mail her cease and desist letters, I have filed police reports over her unsolicited communication, and my attorney has stated many, many times to her that I will be petitioning the court for an OoP. Narcissists-family or not-hate the word “NO.” They think we’ll change our minds and snap like twigs. They underestimated our resilience and strength. I’ve long moved on, but the narcissist clearly hasn’t.
She was an alcoholic who physically verbally and in many other ways abused my dad. Can’t forgive anybody who wields a knife on my father. I asked him years later why he never pressed charges.. he regrets it now but he told me he said “I needed a mother” despite the fact I had my grandmother, aunts, etc.
She never cared how I felt. Remarried a piece of dirt one year after divorcing my dad, adopting a dog a year after our beloved 17 year old cat died, let strangers invade my privacy and space. The narcissist is a control freak and she was no exception
@@MattyNelson-rs3ik kinda is but she is a miserable human being. Being the oldest sibling( Man ) the pre ordained doormat ✌🏼
It’s so painful, to experience and wonder when it ends, losing hope and trying to get it back, this is a hard existence to overcome, to learn how to trust again, to accept help, and believe someone could love you, one day at a time.
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Please know you're not alone, my own brother is a narc and almost killed me. So, I feel your pain. But you ARE loved. God helped me, he can help you too.
@@camelotenglishtuition6394 I’m sorry, and I empathize, this is so difficult, and know one should have to be going through this, people are not meant to be treating people this way, it’s truly heartbreaking, why are people like this, money and greed? What is it all about, what does anther gain on someone’s pain..
@@camelotenglishtuition6394 I can relate, I want to get safe and away from it all, that’s all I pray and beg for everyday.
Great message! It is very painful when you find out they really never cared for you, but at the time they tell you what they really think of you, think of it as the greatest gift they ever gave to you, and then you will be on the healing path. We can heal, I do not believe they can. We can have a happy day without hurting someone.
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I was under a spell for 20 of my 27 years married 🤪 I found this channel and it was amazing to learn I was not crazy ! Andrew you are always there for us ! Thank u 💕
Worked for a business for 31 years. Started the business actually. 6 years in the owner got sick and sold the business. New owner that I worked for, for 25 years. About 6 months ago I woke up and realized that she was without any empathy. She said "I Don't look at employees as people". I am a passionate and empathic person and I couldn't understand how cold she was at times. Why I had to remind her that it was important for her to acknowledge those that make it possible for her to live the life she lives. Eventually something clicked and I lashed out and told her she was a narcissist. From that point until June of this year she began a campaign of abuse, provocation and bullying. Eventually she was able to provoke me to the point where she had a legal reason to fire me. She took everything from me. My life's work. My joy. My job. My income. I am beginning to understand why it happened. It is because I told her that I recognized who she really was.
Better to be free away from this person. Wishing you all best for future happiness. Karma is a real thing.
Sometimes, we can't HELP, but call these sick, demons out!!! Especially after, "reactive abuse." Andrew reminds us to not call them out. That we will be their next target, they'll just play the victim or, throw it back in our face! They're everywhere!! Sorry that happened to you.😔❤
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This was absolutely the hardest part about it. Acceptance of this
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Listening to this as I stare out at the mountains in my happy place..realizing that I did have to go through what I did to be where I am now.. and as I continue to heal, it is only going to get better..Thank you for the awesome message!
Relatable. Awesome insight
took me to adulthood to realize my own parents never gave a shit. Spent decades grieving....then physically sick. I feel like I've wasted my life and so much energy to forgive...it is a constant prayer because I want to be free of the grief and pain. I'm stuck still, 60 and still hating it all. Lord please forgive me for I've wasted what you have given me.
It's never wasted. Our stories will help someone going through it. And God will make it all up for us, no matter our age
Turn your way of thinking around to make all good. Don't be miserable, we all have lessons in life to learn here on earth. Wishing you a wonderful happier future ❤
Release that shame and guilt, it's not yours. It was programmed into you. Sending you love and healing ❤
Transcending Warriors We Are,,we're doing the hard work and learning,growing and evolving ,keep believing in your inner strengths,Look how Far We Have Come,God bless each of us, 🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ t.y. Andrew❤️❤️✨✨
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YeH…. But the démange is unforgivable
great message so true the spiritual tie is the worst one to overcome
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone welcome anytime sir.
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone welcome anytime sir.
They dont care as long as they get what they want youre good. They waste the best years of your life then discard you when theyve had enough. Sad to realise that.
What happened to you is not who you are & can NOT CONTAIN who you will strengthen TO BE in your narc free future!
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I was born into a narc family. As the only daughter, went through he'll. My golden brothers and son were all favored, they don't understand what I went through, nor do they like me. I was the scapegoat of the whole dysfunctional mess. I'm now no contact and doing great!! Thanks Andrew!
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They are fantastic actors and slick, conniving manipulators! It's a lot to wrap your head around when you realize they never cared. When the fog is lifted, you definitely see things clearly and get those aha moments.
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I SO appreciate your affirmations! After being beaten down and neglected for 25 years, it's so encouraging to hear that I am valuable! Thank you for your videos. : )
Those birds sound so sweet 🕊️ beautiful chatter. None of it was real, sometimes that frightens me in the sense that I placed myself in a very vulnerable and precarious situation....he is the lowest form of life.....as healing progresses I feel such warmth in my heart and deep contentment....my life is mine at last 💜😊
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Took me 30 years of financial and emotional trauma, nervous breakdown and burnout, to realise what caused it.
They really don’t even care for themselves.
Tricky. They do: they only care for themselves. They just don't realise that this leads to their own destruction.
Completely True- If you are with one for long enough it becomes very clear ..
You are right, if I tell you what she is doing now! You would not believe me! No ones of my support net have heard that story! I did radical acceptance, bud I would like to have answer to all my questions I found the true, despite it hurts me. But today I have a smile in my face!
Good one that you are very right my friend 😮
My nex didn't as far as hygiene and living in squalor. He needed me to keep things tidy like a mom. He lost all of his teeth and rarely showered. And, as he got older, he became a hypochondriac. The dining room table was full of his prescription bottles. He insisted on keeping them there instead of in the bathroom out of sight. He was actually proud of taking at least 15 different pills daily.
Narcs don't love you. They love what you can do for them.
The long line of narcs come to mind. The list automatically populates over many months Past, present over the past 3,5 years. Lots of tears, therapy, prayer, lots of solitude necessary. Bosses, friends, family members. Very overwhelming and spellbinding! Thankfully, not all at once do these realizations come. Jan 2021 it started and is still going up until recently. I a m forever changed as a person! Can't explain it in words. Thanks, Andrew.
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It is an amazing journey & thank you for your share. It's all an investment in loving oneself & wish you the very best as you continue healing. 👍💥🙏❤
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My narc mom passed away six months ago. When I became an adult she was always telling me that she loved me but her actions always said the complete opposite. When I was a child she rarely told me I love you and her actions proved she didn't. After 61 years still coming to terms with the fact that she never cared about me. It was all a lie because she wasn't capable of love. 😢
I was in the 6th grade when I realized my mother detested me. I remember it was an overcast day, I saw a reflection in my school window of an old woman from the knees down. I looked around but no one was there…the person in the window was me! My mother dressed me in ugly matronly clothes and it hit me that she hated me. I was devastated. I started babysitting in the 7th grade and started buying my own clothes…so my mother stopped paying for anything for me from then on. She is 89 now and still demanding and critical of me, and expects to be taken care of because in her words “that’s why I had children”. Last week she threatened to punch me in the face…it never gets better.
Sometimes the hardest part about leaving the narc is having feelings of emptiness and sadness, feeling all used up, dried up and sad because no one loves me. I had to find my self-love and self-worth again. Nobody else is gonna pick up the pieces for me, and that's real hard, but I have to do it myself; I don't have anyone else.
It’s gut wrenching, but when you sit back & look at the person for who they really are, you may feel a bit of a fool but you are not the fool, they are & in the end they are the one that is alone. If your lifestyle allows it, get a dog, it’s unconditional love from a new family member, put the energy into a being who returns your love.
What an inspiring video. The birds are a sign from God. I needed you and found you Andrew ❤️
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I just found that about my narcissistic family. I was the scapegoat. Been 3 years in therapy. Iam 44 now. Stronger than ever. Thanks man
Good for you!!! 🙂🎉🙂
He acted like a "spiritual seeker" but I finally realized he was just looking for new ways to manipulate people.
You have helped me a lot! I left my narcissistic ex a couple of weeks ago after finding out about what it means. She cheated on me and planned it all at the same music festival I was at. Cheated multiple probably too. Was using me to help pay rent for her “girl trips”. I gave her my heart and trust for 3 1/2 years. I woke up and left and went no contact. I am currently healing. Thank you for what you do!
Good for you!!! 🎉Don't go back, don't ever go back!! 💯 You deserve a woman who won't do that to you!! Should've been enjoying the festival, together!! Smh, They're CRAZY people!
Lowest blow ever !
after 23 years and 7 children he said I never loved you.😢
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Let people love on you here,
many of us understand.
Blessings Sweetie 👍💥🙏❤
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Wow!! That's shocking !!! I know someone at my church who experienced the exact similar thing!! They were trying to sell their house because she was the primary breadwinner and out of nowhere her husband comes out and says during 25 years of marriage I've been cheating on you with another woman in our house during our whole marriage because she was satisfying me more sexually!!!!! These narcs are the devil's agents!!! Psychos!!!!?!!
My heart goes out to you. We the community love you, as does God. Jesus is the way, the truth and the light. God bless you.
Don't forget he is a soulless Demon , and NEVER DESERVED YOU
Thank you so much Andrew. My own parents used to gaslight and neglect me emotionally. I went on to have an alcohol addiction, I am in recovery and therapy, something happened lately and I didn't want to believe it was going on. I am a loner but a very kind heart, I no longer can sacrifice my soul in people pleasing.
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Good for you, Linda!!! 😃🎉🎉 I'm proud of you!! Having a kind heart ❤ is the greatest gift we have! We MUST protect it! 💯🙂✨
Great topic today Andrew! So true and we can always tell the motives of someone based on the conversations and the way they treat other people. Seeing narcissistic people put others down to make themselves feel superior is the worst thing to experience because they use their title/position and wage to make others feel less and it's a sad sight. The aging narcissist will always get worse day x day
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They are very good actors!
The silent treatment. Can't hear no, disrespects your boundaries.
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My mother was a extreme narcissist. I had to fight her from the day I was born.
I understand that she was sick...but it was even beond that ...dhe actually hated me.... and she tried to destroy me to her very end when I was grown up.
I met her in a dream a few years after she died...she was swiping glass from a broken window in my bedroom. She was very angry like usual... I told her to get the hell out of my life and my mind.
I HAve never seen her sfter that...but she took so much from me. She made my family turn away from me. But I am alive still
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That's sad 😔 I bet you're a wonderful, strong, resilient woman through it all.
I have learned through my own experiences & education that, people of Narcissstic family's & other relationships are some of the warmest, most kind, empathic, loving people you'll ever know.💯 We want to be nothing like those Narcissist's in our lives or, of the past! Bright-shining lights! ✨🙂✨
I still have moments of disbelief that my ex-wife during the whole time of the Marriage, Did Not Care or Love Me....
But thats the Ways of the Narc!
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Yes exactly
Now everone that approaches me all loving dovie, I think another one, doent even no me. Our name is caution.
It's been two years since I discovered narcissism. I've watched every single video by Andrew and other channels, and I've done extensive research on narcissism from its origin. Nowhere have I found anyone who says that narcissists can change. They never change; change is not in their DNA..
The change only the mask they wear (Andrew’s told) which is true
Martin Appelo is a Dutch psychologist who's also a narcissist (and openly admits it). He mentions, together with some other coaches that they can change, but they have to realize their attachment issues root from their childhood, and how. They need to WANT to change. They need to often lose someone in their life that makes them "reset" their behavior and want to actively work on these traits, to safe their own future and keep their happiness. Which only happens when they meet someone/people they can't lose.
I wonder....does anyone else ever wonder?
Betrayed is the Word...by everyone...😢😢😢😢
@@douwe4254I like this and agree. It all goes back to their childhood and ACKNOWLEDGING & RECOGNIZING their wounds. How many lives and relationships do they have to ruin, destroy & blow-up before they realize they need to change their ways??!! Smh
My list of narcissists in my life gets longer every day as I am new to this channel. I am joining the dots and suddenly my life makes sense to me. It is a grim reality. My mother father and two brothers are narcissists. I have had a narcissist bestie for 16 years who was very abusive. Then a romantic relationship which nearly killed me when he discarded me out of the blue.
I’m still here and still healing from them all. Yes narcissists are prevalent on this planet. I have no contact with narcissists now. I have my old friend of many years who is now my live in partner. We both work hard to heal and support each other. I also have Lenny and Harry🐈⬛🐈⬛ fur family !!
Thankyou Andrew. Your work is of huge value.🙏💜🌺🌈👏
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The narcissist NEVER cared… they NEVER will. For me, breaking that spiritual tie has been the toughest and most essential piece in breaking through to the freedom that lies beyond the illusion that they ever cared…. even one iota. TY for another powerful video, Andrew 🙏🦋🫶
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That bird at the end was happy, doing his thing and sounded like he was laughing…that’s what we should be doing. Beautiful message ❤
Thank You , you read my life everytime i listen to you , Sweet Jesus is the only reason i survied
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Realizing this truth gave me the conviction to discard certain people in my life that were harming me and using me. I held onto the relationships until that very moment when I realized that they never cared.
I cut them out of my life and I have never wanted any contact with them ever again.
Don't chase those who hurt you.
He works where I live and I do my best to stay away from him and his current new supply. But when I do see him I get triggered and get sad. It’s hard to believe they NEVER cared but it’s getting easier. For me out of sight-out or mind really works. I really don’t want to see him at all but sometimes I will and lately he keeps showing up-driving by when I’m out with my dog or cruising through my cul de sac way to often for me. I’m trying to figure out how to deal with that. He’s never tried to engage me in a conversation or anything but seeing him at all doesn’t work for me. The fact that he didn’t care hurts. At one time I thought I was “the one who got away.” And it was very hurtful when I realized that. It’s not him, it’s the idea of having a loving, fulfilling and caring relationship and I thought he was it until it wasn’t. And I don’t want to have to limit when and where I walk and come and go. 😤
Oh my, that’s a very difficult situation but you can do this. Keep listening to Andrew. Keep plugging into the our community. Keep your head up and walk strong. You can do it!
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I have to pass where his office is when I come and go from my complex and he parks where he can watch traffic coming in and out. I don’t pay attention to him. Last I knew he was with his new supply. I see her occasionally.
Very True Again....
Thank you! Beautifully expressed... 👍👍👍
Thank you. Andrew.
My Narc has planned my destruction for 8 months, she has broken me emotionally financially,. 4 months ago my mum got aggressive cancer I became mums career mum died in 11 weeks my Narc abandoned me 2 months ago so i lost both women I loved, I woke up too late get out people don't end up in a broken ball always crying, I have been contemplating leaving this mortal coil I wouldn't I love life, but my pain is just crushing me all alone,,,
men get abused too, cheers Andrew it all helps love n light
It is crushing but it gets better soon they won’t even cross your mind this life is worth living.
The despair and darkness feels bleak- I feel the same way.
Actually allowed the word suicide to enter my mind-messed up. I love life and will heal but the problem is you want the fantasy of their passion back and I make myself ill knowing I am still under his spell.
This is when I found Christ and my happiness is returning-stay focused on your father let him hold you support you and love you.
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"Lift up your eyes and look beyond, dark clouds to heaven's blue. The shadowed moment soon will pass, the sun still shines for you." au
"The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the LORD delivers him out of them all." - Psalms 34:18-19
God hears and He helps. 🙏
Jesus is the answer he saved me from the narc
Stay strong! You can do this. Therapy really helps. And dear, forgive yourself
This video is like a daily hymn….Thank you for putting your voice on air. I know it, you know it, they know it. Watching all their drama from the sidelines is the best seat in the house 😂🎉
Thank you Andrew!
each time i consume Andrew's videos: i cry. because i'm going through this .. and i cannot wait to be the bright beautiful star i used to be. thank you :)
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This is the stage I’m stuck on currently. This is a sticky one. The mask is so real. It’s so freaking incredibly real. I really believe she did but if she did, she wouldn’t have treated me like her little unpaid and uncompensated servant. Nothing was ever enough. Nothing was ever good. She was never happy because nothing is ever enough. More more more. There’s no peace in that.
So True!!! Keep on swimming!!! Love this Community! Gratitude to you Andrew for these videos.
Thank you Andrew
So appreciate your support
Year in a half ago I started my education with you- listening late at night - giving me the strength to make a plan. Not giving up.
6 months free now
I’m still listening
This is a journey
Real love is all around you like the birdie that was supporting us in Andrew’s video today. This is a well kept secret - so many people that look happy are not. They need a voice. We need life to be what we want it to be. Full of love
Have a wonderful day
You are worth the journey
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Thank you Andrew and community, love and blessings for you all ❤🙏🙌
It's just all too much. His mom's birthday is today. My mom's birthday was yesterday. I would give anything for her to be here with me right now. His entire family has abandoned me, like I never existed. 😭
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This was the hardest pill for me to swallow . I loved her unconditionally.. but in the end she clearly showed she didn’t care at all . Acted as loyal and caring and loving , said the words . But the actions didn’t match completely .
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Anyone can say anything to make you believe it deceit runs deep on this earth of behaviour like that
We are on the healing path.
omg you are so right . they research people. they never play by the rules
Thank you, Andrew ~ beautiful video, background and bird songs.
After I removed myself from the narc by going no contact, my clarity began to return, as painful as it was it was evident to me that the narc never cared. By implementing the: toxic trauma bond, future faking, triangulation, not being present when together or out for dinner, making lame excuses why he was busy, persistent lying, odd phone behavior, actions not matching his words, promises that never came to fruition and on and on it goes…when out of the narc fog you can see things you never did before…
May you all heal and go onto your best life, never looking back 🙏🏻💜🦋✨☀️✨💖✨🌷
Narcissists are excellent at portraying themselves as angels around your family!.They are very skilled at faking rhey care.
Struggling with this. My ex was awful to me at the end. Left me for someone else after four and half years and after i moved across the country to her home state after she finished college.
I struggled hard to find work for a bit and had to ask for help from family and my ex paid more of the bills for a month or two.
Now im back living with my parents. No money but at least i have an interview monday. Reallt struggling feeling like i was a narcissist too 😢
She called me a parasite. I only struggled with work for a couple months after moving so far away from everyone and everything i knew...the first two years before we moved never struggled with work.
Andrew I really appreciate all your videos. You have no idea how hard its been dealing w something like this solo. My friends & family cant comprehend how hard it is to maintain a positive outlook after going though the abuse. Im choosing me everyday and my light is growing brighter and brighter everyday! Prayers to everyone going forward. 🙏🏽
You are a virtuoso. A gift and support xxx
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Thanks as ever Andrew. Having a narcissistic mother has really has taken a toll on me, and I'm still healing.
Your videos help so much and I'm truly grateful.
I can’t even watch this one Andrew. The title alone brings back everything I went through when I realized that I had made up my sister because she was NOTHING like who I found out she really is! At first I was sad that it was over and then it got worse when I realized she was never even real. That I crested who I wanted her to be and ignored EVERYTHING for over five decades, to the degree that the illness I got from their stress, when I was twenty, has almost killed me six times in 45 years. And the worst one of all, because it was my entire family, was my sister because she’d always been MY BEST FRIEND.
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It took years of therapy and work to realize that I wasn't unlovable. I was just raised by people incapable of loving or caring...it took years to understand what a healthy, loving relationship is. They did their best to destroy me and I'm still standing. ..
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I took your advice brother. never open the door . she came up to me while walking and wanted to talk . i said i’m all good have a great life and kept walking
Good job, Andre!!!🙂
Six months no contact, same house, church mouse!!!!! SIX MONTHS!!!!😮
Your a great speaker. You say all the spot on right things. Thank you! 💞
Another EXCELLENT description! How did we not know? It's hard losing the 'dream"...a toxic, toxic dream...
yes toxic like a bad nightmare. Within 1 year of a 54 yr marriage to a Narcissist he said he never meant to marry me. I thought he was kidding at that time.
Wow, spot on. My ex-husband diagnosed narcissist fell apart after being married 6 years and our son was born. I left him when my son was 4. No regrets! Ex is in prison. My son is a senior firefighter. His dad hated he wasn't front and center getting all resources and attention.
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The birds sense your presence and sound happy again 😊
They totally do!!! 🐦❤🐦