I love the fake friend content. It not only made me realize how fake some of my ex friends were, but also helped me stop doing things that make me a bad friend.
if you have fake friends, please distance from them as soon as possible. 8 years with fake friends that i stayed with, and now struggle with severe anxiety from all those years. Definitely myy biggest regret, dont waste your life with bad people
Relate! 2023 is the year to change dat shit no more bad vibes no more bad energy around only positive auras positive attractions and positive vibes stay bless! Jah love
I will tell u the signs..bc I m someone who don't easily mingle keep to myself i saw people who are dramatic dramatic ones wants you to join them for talks they want to initiate it's always one way and mostly they doesn't care your side of story .it's always about their house family night outs food luxury blah blah...another one is taking the charge .this one is maniac and wanna dominate in everything..let it be deciding a party spot . holidaying movies..you can't cross them coz somehow they ll be loud and they act they know almost about everything..third types are toxic ..they will get closer to you for few days and soon after the job is done they completely sideline you and latch in to someone else..and ll make sure that makes you feel indifferent and bad .i feel these three types none would love to be with..I am a little passive aggressive and cold hearted person so i remain unflinching..but it does affect th sensitive people for sure .and pls trust that these groupism and friendship, ganging up are overrated...real happiness is in your family ..and yourself ..
"Fake friends are like shadows. They always seem close to you and follow your every situation, but when darker moments in your life will happen, they're nowhere to be found. Almost like they were never there. But if you'll find yourself some real friends, live with supportive people, even in darker times the light will be with you, and those "shadows" won't even notice you. You'll just became shadow for them." - My wiser older brother.
0:32 freeloader 1:09 one-upper 1:44 drama magnet 2:13 the gossip mongers 2:48 the fair-weather friends 3:19 the one way friend 3:56 the negative nellies hope this helps ❤ Have a blessed night or day wherever u are ❤❤❤
@@sakonan4883 ive commonly had one-uppers and drama magnets, and one fair-weather friend, not very fun to deal with... they're not in contact with me anymore!
I've been, myself, the "One-Upper" my whole life and, even noticing, I never understood why I do that. I'm talking with friends and, in a minute, everything turns to be about me and my problems, my achievements. I feel bad doing this, but can't stop. Thanks to this video, now I know it's because of the self-esteem problems. Like, the need to feel valuated. Gonna tell this to my therapist.
It’s great that u decided to say this aloud,I tend to do it too, but I also feel like it’s cause my friend always tries to downplay me or out do me at everything
Real friends will be ready to correct you when you do wrong and lift you back up when you're feeling down. If you don't have any good friends, become that good friend. Keep your head up and stay strong 💪
become a good friend for what? trying to be a good friend is a waste of time either you attract self centered people, narcissists, neglectful people or all the above. Or NO friends rather just find good friends instead of becoming one or else you'll waste your time like my efforts are only reserved for those i personally think would deserve it. Tired of having other ppl robbing my time and attention being self centered, only taking about their interests. But when i talk about my interests, they become indifferent to them.
@@rural_girl555you just haven’t found your people that reciprocated back. True ones will acknowledge your efforts and will support your back. I’ve luckily befriended those who could not fit in with other groups and we have great chemistry and try to be as genuine as possible
Finally a smart person here. Thank you. Nothing is all that black and white as so many of these videos try to make them seem. While I guess I appreciate this video for how much it helps others, NEVER trust the "therapists", "doctors", "professionals", etc. the most, just because they have their "education". The real education are the life experiences we get. The best judgement is usually the one we can make ourselves. I have to say that for a lot of these types of fakes friends listed here, in this video, a LOT of them stem from people's own issues and insecurities. And some, aren't even fully true. The best friend you can be, is to be an open minded friend. Willing to consider all or as many sides of any given topic as possible. Don't leave a person doing something, even if they seem like a fake friend to you just because. Not without talking to them about it first and trying to understand their side too. That's the best kind of person you can be for others.
I don't have any friends any more. I'm 33 and it just seems impossible to make any new friends now. It feels like everyone is "set" in their friendship groups now, and you just can't develop those friendships when you're older it seems. I've tried everything from the gym, to hobbies and classes, to even join a friend making app but it just isn't happening. I'm alright being alone most of the time, but sometimes it would be nice to have a friend. It gets lonely sometimes.
Please don't say that. 33 is still a young age. And I can attest that what you're feeling is a widespread issue. Even people much older than you are struggling with this. Don't give up hope and focus on self-love first. Friends may come from a place you never expected. Like this comment section, for example. Sometimes you don't even need to try too hard... 🙂 By the way, cute cat. Is that yours? What's his/her name? 😃
@@freconsbo Thanks for replying! You're right of course. Its my mother's actually! She's called "Tabby" :) A very friendly cat. What brought you to this video, same issue?
When I was in high school, I was so scared to be alone that I hung out with a group of guys I thought were cool. No matter how hard I tried to be a great friend, it always felt like a one way street when they'd exclude me from stuff, use me when they needed something, and talked bad about me behind my back. I feel ashamed of engaging with these "fake friends" in my youth and now 25 yrs old, I still feel worried that my mistakes have allowed me to miss out on so much that others with true friends get to experience.
I've had to cut off some "friends" before. My mental health improved after doing so. One group, I had to walk on eggshells around them all the time. They always looked for reasons to be uncomfortable or offended by things. For example, someone shared a photo of their new gaming PC, and someone else got offended because they couldn't afford such things and that they "need to show restraint and not flaunt stuff like that." Another group was so obsessed with sharing negative news, ragebait, politics, and other people's drama. They constantly nitpicked and magnified flaws of people they didn't like. If you have people in your life who just bring you sadness and negativity and have no plans on changing, cut them off. You will be glad you did. Surround yourself with positive people. ❤
You forgot one more, the friend that changes their attitude towards you when they're around others. They are all nice and sweet when you are on your own with them. However, immediately become a jerk when they're with their other friends towards you.
Yup. Like I have this bestie named- calling her J, She would always be nice and kind to her other friend, but when J is talking to me, she is like "Ugh, can you stop annoying me? I've talked to you a lot!" When she talked to her other friend more. :(
After watching this video, I realized my “ friend “ acts exactly like all of these. She always tells me about drama even though I asked her to stop, especially with gossiping. I had told her a secret and she told everyone she knew and I was then mocked. She would always ignore when I was going through something. It’s quite upsetting, but this video made me realize I shouldn’t be friends with her anymore. Feel free to vent or share a similar if you want, I hope you guys have good friends :)
I had a tumultuous friendship in middle school for similar reasons. Glad you're seeing it now rather than layer. I didn't realize mine was a problem until after she moved away, and neither of us had social media at that time.
I have a friend like that . And other ditch me . If u friend gossip about her . She will gossip about you. . It doesn't take genius to figure out I mentioned it, and she replied to me , "I don't care, so u have to accept it if u want Maitland friend or u live. we all think that we are good friends to a point.
Tell her sayonara (goodbye forever), she deserves it. I had a friend that was like the number 7 and I realised that she was toxic and not a good friend yeeears after I stopped talking to her. This video would've come in handy years ago, to open my eyes sooner
Great reminder that you have to be careful who to trust. I just kicked out two fake "friends", and it was a real freedom when you don't have to deal with them anymore, But you have to remember that people change over time. 😊
My former class was full of gossip mongers. I always tried to trust them, only to be backstabbed by them. I always felt uneasy, but couldn't really explain why. It wasn't until I came to a realization and distanced myself from people that I became more calm. I also had dealings with a drama magnet, but it was more like they would blow up over the smallest things... Only to then belittle and shame me when I needed to rant. It was draining. I cut all of them out of my life, and I'm thankful for it.
This’ll actually help me in the future when I want to make friends. Well in the past I got fake friended twice, So I figured this video will help me maintain my friendships and let go of the bad ones.
A majority of people that I met while I was still in high school fit into at least one of these categories that were discussed in this video. I'm glad that I no longer have to worry about encountering them everyday and in some cases, never again (or for a long time at least).
I used to have someone I called my best friend who turned out to increasingly be a one-way/fair weather friend. I hit a rough patch when a family member died and it had consequences on my career and that's when this "friend" chose to end our friendship all of a sudden. It was a year ago and I still hate how betrayed I've felt since.
Yup. That's just how it goes. Most individuals want people who are "perfect" and never have any problems. Whenever anyone shows signs of weakness, struggles, or non-common traits, the fake people ALWAYS bail. Always. Ultimately, 90% of humanity is simply using one another to get what they want. They've ZERO legitimate interest in others. The moment they detect that no more resources, information, nor "usage" can come from having them around... they'll cut 'em loose. :) Again, it is what it is.
Fake friends basically just drain your energy. It’s like you hold their hand, making sure you don’t let go, while on the other hand, they hold your hand carelessly. They let go when you need them the most.
I clicked on this expecting that I only wanted to listen to this to watch out for the next school year for people like this. But what I did not expect was that I could be easily described as this, specifically the drama magnet and the gossiper. Now realizing this and how much of a red flag it is so I’m starting to plan out how to reduce and avoid being those types around precious friends both from present and future while still being and feeling myself and not bottle things up only to later cause more distress.
This is such a great timing. I've been struggling with some friends lately and I have no idea wether or not it's good for me to fix the relationship. So thanks! P.s: Turns out I'm on a "Fair Weather" situation, life is beautiful :D
I had a few negative friends. They were friends of a friend who moved. We played on Xbox for a while, but when summer break came along, they stopped talking to me. One of my friends who also played with them said they didn't want to talk to me because I wasn't funny. I haven't talked to them since.
I think it is also important to take these with a grain of salt, since Everyone is different, people with Shizoid PersonallityDisorder will often appar uninterested or simply not emotional available, then there is peopple with emotional dysfunctional where they react completely opesitte from what they feel or people with autisme can also seem to try to "up-do" you when thy try to relate etc.
How sweet, huh.. If it only wasn't so fake, just like those fake friends. You DO lose and you lose a lot. You lose a part of yourself. Of your trust in others, self-confidence, maybe even self-esteem.
As I watch this I had a thought strike, it is very important to recognize these fake friends however; when one becomes really comfortable in a relationship or friendship it is easy to become this type of person as well without realizing it. Be mindful and vigilant when you are dealing with your personal relationships and remember to be your friends' cheerleader as well as them being yours
Thank you. I learned this in my youth. I devoted my time to being there for those who needed me when nobody else was there for them. Yes, things might not go MY way,but to help others was almost as good
i have a fake friend, and it was pretty disappointing, especially after we had been friends since kindergarten. she had found these girls and decided to be friends with them, which was fine, but in that whole class year and the next, we had barely talked, and whenever I asked to be partners with her in a project, she constantly said " sorry, no, I’m gonna be partners with [ girl ] " and, I realized that if she wasn’t going to speak to me, then why bother talk to her anyway.
In terms of the “one-way friend”, especially for us people on the spectrum. Don’t end up like me. Don’t let those few people who you asked to hang out with or be there for you in a dark moment or for some reason grew apart with you stay in your head rent free. True friends KNOW and will find a way eventually to catch up and know they need to get back to you and reply. And yeah, everyone is busy or has some things going on but eventually you’ll be able to tell who’s just never gonna reply. They may be active on social media at least a little bit but at some point you’ll have to accept you’ll never get the closure you need to move on from the feeling of being abandoned. Some of us spectrum people are sensitive and get lonely very easily… just know when to give up on someone who’s ghosting you, even though it’s hard
Had friends of 20 years and called them sisters but when life went downhill and I started letting them into the truth of my situation, they accused me of always being negative with them and wanted to hear "about the positives" in my life. This was at a time where homelessness loomed and I struggled to feed my family. It's not that I was talking too much about negatives, its that they couldn't handle being supportive and available during crisis.
That must have been such a painful and difficult experience to go through when you were already in crisis. I'm so sorry they weren't there for you, especially when you once considered them sisters, my heart goes out to you, that's so sad. I hope you're finding much better friends now, you deserve them and I hope that things are better in your life, too.
This topic is a bit hard for me as all of them are true but sadly, those are the only people I've met from the start and until now, I have none. Sad but that's reality. Thanks for the message in the end as well as these videos. They really help.
You may be suffering from CPTSD and/or an empath and are accidentally attracting and permitting these type of ppl into your life. I humbly suggest researching those topics and narcissistic abuse. It opened my eyes a great deal. And helped with an understanding of the importance of boundaries.
I really feel guilty because I feel like the freeloader "friend" my friends always buy me things and I don't have money and can't afford to buy them things so I just feel extreamly guilty because the most I can offer is mental and emotional support which feels like it isn't even repaying them!
@@strauqq1 I judt jow relaised I worded that extreamly wrong, what I was ment to say was that they always offered to buy me stuff I felt like I couldn't repay them back properly because I wasn't in the financial position to, but yeah, it did suck, a year later so here's an update: I realised that my friends were toxic (They talked bad about my best friend behind her back and the last time it was me and my two ex friends I was ignored and they talked between them, not even bothering to include me in the conversation) I got myself better friends and I don't feel that guilt anymore because when I say "Oh no, don't worry about it!" They actually listen :)
.. Wow, yeah.. I had a guy like this too. To this day, I think what they had done and blamed me for is really them trying to deflect their own fault and put it on me. Sure, one of the things they accused me of was true and it was horrible what I did. But the other, was really not. The worst part of it all though, is that to this day, because of this one guy from a couple of years back, I keep losing friends I have had, because they spread both of these bad things about me around, one of which being entirely not true. No one who has heard from them what I did and supposedly "did", has ever cared to listen to my side of the story. They just.. Left. Those are the true, fake friends. And I really despise a lot of them. I hold a deep grudge for them, especially that one guy who keeps doing this stuff to me. I can only hope they just leave me alone and stop ruining my life for once someday.
Wow this video really showed me about my so called "friend" She was the only friend i had at school. But after seeing this video, i notice that nearly half of the things are true about her... 😔💔 Wishing everyone a true friend ^^💜
i often find myself getting very confused around people…who are nice, yet there rude? it confuses me, because i think it’s just me, or maybe they had a bad day…because there nice the next day. this is still toxic, and my therapist told me…i should start paying attention to not there words…but there actions. sometimes actions speak louder than words. ❤
I dont know about my 2 friends I met this year :/ Always gossiping, not finding humor in my other sweet friend, telling me what to do. The least I can do is hope to not have any classes with them.
I’ve been slowly realizing that I have both a “fair weather” friend and a “one upper” friend in my life. They’re actually best friends with each other long before I met them, and they seem genuinely happy together, but when I’m invited it only seems to be for paid gigs for the Fair Weather and One Upper constantly overshadowing any conversation I try to have with Fair Weather. I felt so isolated, and it actually turned me into a Negative Nelly around them because I just don’t have positive experiences with them. I’ve distanced myself from Fair Weather since (and my wallet is thanking me!) but One Upper still tries to ask why.
Recently an old friend of my childhood friend group joined our group chat , I don't hate her but ever since she joined I felt a weird imbalance in the group
Me having social anxiety and miss reading cues. This will really help me out. I am that type of friend that is your friend but I don't really go out too much. So i'm always worried that I become a fake friend
Yep. It happened to me a lot in high school. Now that I learned a lot about fake friends. I stand up for myself as a college student. I stop talking to someone if they don't even try to communicate with me. I have one college friend that is good at communicating with me it's to the point where that other person starts the conversation. The ones in high school just talks to me once and then they don't want to talk to me like I'm a stranger.
Ngl though, here in the Philippines, drama friends are the best because it shows that they value your opinion and always goes to you when they are feeling down because of their lover being trash. It's exhausting when it happens alot but it's fun.
My ex-best friend was the Freeloader and One-way friend mixed together. I was almost always the one to reach out to her. And she never wanted to hang out, unless we were going shopping and/or going out to eat, where she could guilt me into paying for everything. If I got a gift card for somewhere, she would be like "Let's go spend it!" She used me and then would be MIA for awhile. It took me so long to see her for what she really was.
Every single friend you ever make in life, even family will have at least some shades of these traits, sure they’re being labeled “fake traits” but it doesn’t mean that they’re not worth keeping as a friend which are important bc as an adult you will very rarely ever make friends again
I used to have a friend where during the summer we were best friends, we were inseparable, but then as soon as school rolled around they completely ignored me and avoided me, then summer would come around, we would be besties again, and the cycle continued. Eventually that friendship became far too painful to keep holding on to and I would say that that probably happened 4-5 times before I started distancing myself, luckily we both moved pretty far away from each other so that made it easier, but I still have really bad abandonment issues because of him
Yes this is true , they only appear if you have something they want , can help them in anyway , or see you so they can look down on you and feel better blut themselves .. And my drama magnetic who shouts cries and shouts cos she so stressed all the time .. I try to chill her down, mm fairweather also too am afraid.. I do sometime needs support .. as I give I become empty !! Love to all harm to none 💜🏆 4
I had a lot of one way friends, I was always reaching out, it also applies to family too. I was always the first to reach out and if I don't for a while they blackmail me by saying why don't I communicate more?, why don't I reach out? And I am like communication is a 2-way street, not a monologue. The emotional blackmail was so real.
When I was in elementary school,4th grade or something like that I believe, I had this friend. One day, he came over to hang out at my house. We had lots of fun and played lots of games. Next day at school… I was sitting right behind him. He didn’t know. He was talking with his other friends. As he was loudly bragging to them about how he went to my house JUST to play the videogames we had. To this day it hurts to remember. That betrayal, even at a young age, really affected me. Thankfully the principal saw everything that happened. I don’t know what happened with him, but what I do know, is that he let me go play with the school dog. That definitely cheered me up.
to be honest as a person I could relate to a little bit of it, what I still congratulate my friends, yes, I would still be happy for them, I would not ever let them be negative with in their celebration moments, but it always felt like that should have been me and some cases I should have been thriving along side but it has always felt like I've been left behind i felt jealous and never let them know it but this doesn't mean i wasn't happy for them I just had my negative emotions whenever they had something happy going for them i was a person who love to gossip but i was the only person who actually never told anyone's business instead, my business was told I feel like people like to give speculations that the gossiper is always the one delivering the business when surprisingly, it's not always the gossiper, I'm a gossiper, and I've never felt the urge to talk behind anyone's back now as for the drama magnate this is one of the main reasons why I decided to separate myself not only from the school, but from past friends that I decided to leave behind it's because I was a drama magnet I could not get people to stop unnecessarily having problems with me and as much as someone wants to say that it can be negative, dealing with these types of people, keep in mind that it is not always these types of peoples fault that they always have negative emotions and feelings, because you never know when someone is going to wrong you that's why whenever I see drama magnets, I don't necessarily point the finger at them extremely fast leave because no one is craving for problems all that much in their life, especially in the type of we're, are we living in today, everyone has their own problems to deal with and they have yet to crave a problem with somebody else most of the time
Timestamps 1). The freeloaders 0:31 2). The one-uppers 1:06 3). The drama magnets 1:41 4). The gossip mongers 2:12 5). The fair-weather friends 2:48 6). The one-way friend 3:19 7). The negative Nellies 3:55 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
All my friendships and relationships were toxic for over 12 years of my life. I weeded my garden and became my own best friend and I find more healthy positive people are coming into my life. I’m cautious to not jump in with two feet but take each other step at a time until I find that special friend and romantic partner. It takes time to weed, plant and yield that harvest off healthy relationships you want. Hang in there! With the best intentions it will come to you❤
I spotted number 4 once, I told one of my childhood best friend private things, and when I look at them from afar, it feels like their spreading the secret. Also great video, keep up the amazing content!
Sometimes i feel like my friend is a drama magnet. For example , I was just doodling with her . The next minute , she started talking about small problems , like about a girl who she didn't like . I just wanted to enjoy stuff with her , but most of the time it ends up her talking about her issues. This video was very helpful though .
Wow, I've actually been through multiple friendships like these. I guess I must have realized they weren't the best friendships, because I'm not still friends with any of them.
I've cut off the 'fake' or 'toxic' friends. Now I'm alone, but I don't regret it tho. I also realised how I'm doing the same thing and I'm working to stop it and improve myself as a better person..
Experienced a fair few of these in romantic relationships in the past! Great video reminding me that the decision for it to remain ended was the right one
The fair-weather friends say they can't deal with never-ending drama even if it was just one thing, when one of my kids got kidnapped by the babysitter a l l of my friends and the majority of my family accused me of being nothing but drama.
We have a famous poem in Arabic: If you honor the generous, you will make him your king, And if you honor the mean, he will rebel Generousity for me filters people...
Thank you so much Psych2Go, I have struggled with a gossipmonger for a while now and hence struggled with trust but felt bad letting that friend go. Because of this video I have realised that they are a fake friend and not worth my time, thank you
Recently ive realized that most, if not all of the friends ive ever had were fake, and its kept me in a pretty dark place. Ive started to feel jealous for ppl that have friends, but then get mad at myself for that, bc it doesnt feel right. Ive spent my whole life trying to get ppl to care, that knowing i failed that, hurts to see others succeed so easily. Wut can i do? All my joy came from my “friends”
Yes , friends who only call you when they need your services; after you provide your services you never see them again but when you call them for help they’re NO where to be found! Last best friend I had ran-off with my girlfriend! I currently have NO friends and don’t want any friends!
This video has been helpful to make sure my circle hasn't been draining on me. I do have a hard time seeing the drama magnet as a fake friend. More like a friend with terrible social habits and self awareness. Rest of video is spot on!
I only have fair weather and one way friends. It is very lonely. I just want a couple really great friends. I once had a "friend" tell me to my face that she just can't find anybody good enough to forge a deep relationship with.... It stung. I feel defective in the friendship department.
I'm glad to realise I basically throughout my whole life only had "real friends" apparently, naturally staying away from "fake friends". Of course some are more close than others, but that's fine for me. Then again, could be because I was usually unsocial half of my life and introverted, so I guess only people who were actually interested in me sticked with me 😅 Also, I also realised I could actually be a better friend, sometimes I'm genuinely interested in a friend, but hold myself back from texting/talking to them because I think they would think it's annoying 😅 (spoiler alert: when I do have enough courage to speak out it always has a positive outcome. But of course my brain instantly forgets that)
Friends have always felt tricky. There are times we’re I’ve been used. Times when they weren’t there in my time of need. Times where they felt one sided. The dramatic ones seem to love me.. The one uppers usually don’t even make it in but one or two have snuck in before. Met plenty of negative ones too. If you want experience all the worst friends like I have, you should try online friends! 90% of them won’t process you as a human. Though the 10% also exist and tend to be great. Which comes to the problem. I’ve met the 10% of solid people online from time to time but I can’t seem to hold them as a friend. Is it my depression? A simple of lack of social skills? Me disappearing sometimes due to that depression? My general exhaustion? I’m not really sure. Which is why it’s tricky. There are times where all I spout to someone is negativity. There are times where when people need me and I am stuck in bed. There are many many times where when people want to hang out I Decline because of how draining it can be for me. I typically have to be in a good mood to do that. So, how do we know when it is us being toxic and not them? Or maybe a bit of both? Relationships aren’t sided after all. Im not sure. So like I said before.. friends are tricky.
I actually used to be friends with this girl I met (her names Abigail idk how you spell her name.) I met her somewhere (I don’t wanna tell) and she was pretty funny and stuff. But my bff told me she didn’t even like me which shattered me, but not shattered enough for me to cry. She quote on quote “wanted to keep a secret so I wouldn’t get offended.”
This video hit me when u reached negative nellies, no matter what I do my friend would say something encouraging but it has something condescending immediately after, it’s been happening for years and when I address it he gaslights his way out. He even tries one upping, its such a narcissistic tendency but he will never admit it
I’ve had people who befriended me under false pretenses. They played up to me untill I joined the church, then they dropped me. That is very sacrilegious.
I don't have much friends. But after watching the video, I'm glad that the friends I have doesn't fall in any of these categories. It's not about the quantity, it's about the quality ❤️
I may be a bit overcompetitive sometimes but that doesn't mean i hate it while my friends succeed. Even if it is just only oneway friend i am still say congrats.
It’s so hard. All my life I have had fake friends or relationships that don’t last. After 5 years of dealing with every type of person on this list it seems real friendship doesn’t exist. It’s so hard to be open again after being betrayed or left hung out to dry. I understand I shouldn’t let people close easily, but it’s also hard to be on guard all the time. It’s tiring. I’m scared to be hurt again. I’m scared of being used. I’m scared of people being exploited. I’m not sure what I should do.
Yeah, most of these were the reasons why I broke up with a fake friend. Ugh. His lack of self-awareness was shocking. What a deadweight. I feel so relieved and lighter tbh that I don't have to speak to him anymore.
After being disappointed by variations of the kind of people listed here I find I am much happier going my own way. It has its drawbacks but many fewer let downs. Growing up we were an Air Force family and moved at least every five years, often less. It wasn’t hard to make connections as kids, find ways to earn a little money mowing the small lawns, washing windows and so on. It could be I kept people at the superficial level because we knew we weren’t going to be permanent friends.
Just recently I've stopped contact with a close friend of mine of 8 years. We had our ups and downs, but I always put everything on hold for her, was the shoulder to cry on and I listened to her problems. Even though she never gave support back to me like I did for her, and when she did it felt sorta half-assed, but I didn't care. She was my friend and I didn't care if she wasn't able to reciprocate the support. At some point, she would be there for my lowest point too....right? Wrong. When an incident finally happened to me,where it clearly shows I was a victim as having a bad high, she didn't have my back. Even though I told her about my experience and how i felt about, she told me that she thought it was bullshit. She didn't even give it a 2nd thought. 8 years with this One Way friend,who called me a sister, completely shattered me.
Suprisingly most of these sound like some of my friends' behavior..... but thank god I'm not that much close.. but whenever i am, they make me feel like the worst person in the world without even me knowing how.
What about the friend that clings into you, seeks for exclusivity, relies on you on everything but when they find a boyfriend/girlfriend neglect you completely?
I have had a friend that would guilt trip me, shame me, control me and insult me but would justify it as “being a good friend” She was very toxic and harmful, causing me to self-doubt myself, giving me anxiety and stealing my confidence. She would talk behind my back and would act nice, give obviously backhanded compliments and then comment on my appearance. I have tried cutting ties with her but when she does she says things like “KYS!” “ITS UR FAULT” or “Your NOTHING WITHOUT ME!”” And always blamed EVRYTHING ON ME! I cut ties with her and stopped texting and calling and talking to her. I found a more loyal and funny real friend who cares about me! But that girl still left a scar..
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I love the fake friend content. It not only made me realize how fake some of my ex friends were, but also helped me stop doing things that make me a bad friend.
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The latter is the main reason I watched, but also where to potentially draw the boundaries on who I consider a friend or just someone I talk to.
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if you have fake friends, please distance from them as soon as possible. 8 years with fake friends that i stayed with, and now struggle with severe anxiety from all those years. Definitely myy biggest regret, dont waste your life with bad people
True.
Agree! The sooner the better. It took me a couple of years too. Now I constantly worry about people thoughts and intentions....
Relate! 2023 is the year to change dat shit
no more bad vibes
no more bad energy around
only positive auras
positive attractions
and positive vibes
stay bless! Jah love
True. Fake friends resulted me in unable to trust anyone and thinking that everyone that I talk to is a “fake friend".
I will tell u the signs..bc I m someone who don't easily mingle keep to myself i saw people who are dramatic dramatic ones wants you to join them for talks they want to initiate it's always one way and mostly they doesn't care your side of story .it's always about their house family night outs food luxury blah blah...another one is taking the charge .this one is maniac and wanna dominate in everything..let it be deciding a party spot . holidaying movies..you can't cross them coz somehow they ll be loud and they act they know almost about everything..third types are toxic ..they will get closer to you for few days and soon after the job is done they completely sideline you and latch in to someone else..and ll make sure that makes you feel indifferent and bad .i feel these three types none would love to be with..I am a little passive aggressive and cold hearted person so i remain unflinching..but it does affect th
sensitive people for sure .and pls trust that these groupism and friendship, ganging up are overrated...real happiness is in your family ..and yourself ..
"Fake friends are like shadows. They always seem close to you and follow your every situation, but when darker moments in your life will happen, they're nowhere to be found. Almost like they were never there.
But if you'll find yourself some real friends, live with supportive people, even in darker times the light will be with you, and those "shadows" won't even notice you. You'll just became shadow for them."
- My wiser older brother.
So a fake friend is a hokage?
Wanna trade brothers?
Your older brother sounds really cool, thanks for sharing his words, it meant a lot to read them. ❤️
Dang yiur older brother is smart.
UR BRO IS SMARTT OMG
0:32 freeloader
1:09 one-upper
1:44 drama magnet
2:13 the gossip mongers
2:48 the fair-weather friends
3:19 the one way friend
3:56 the negative nellies
hope this helps ❤
Have a blessed night or day wherever u are ❤❤❤
When most of your friends have been this…
"Guard Your Mental Health: Spotting 7 Fake Friends"
@@sakonan4883 ive commonly had one-uppers and drama magnets, and one fair-weather friend, not very fun to deal with... they're not in contact with me anymore!
@@pd_heart that’s great. I personally cut contact with some of them.
Thank you for tracklisting 🙂
I've been, myself, the "One-Upper" my whole life and, even noticing, I never understood why I do that. I'm talking with friends and, in a minute, everything turns to be about me and my problems, my achievements. I feel bad doing this, but can't stop. Thanks to this video, now I know it's because of the self-esteem problems. Like, the need to feel valuated. Gonna tell this to my therapist.
My goodness thank you for your vulnerability!
uhh yeah lol thats everyone lol the worlds a competition lol.
I’m struggling with that too,now with the awareness it won’t be a struggle.
Whats important is that your realizing your faults and attempting to improve yourself :D
It’s great that u decided to say this aloud,I tend to do it too, but I also feel like it’s cause my friend always tries to downplay me or out do me at everything
Real friends will be ready to correct you when you do wrong and lift you back up when you're feeling down.
If you don't have any good friends, become that good friend. Keep your head up and stay strong 💪
Facebook has made people fakes. There are no genuine people anymore just fakes.
become a good friend for what?
trying to be a good friend is a waste of time either you attract self centered people, narcissists, neglectful people or all the above. Or NO friends
rather just find good friends instead of becoming one or else you'll waste your time
like my efforts are only reserved for those i personally think would deserve it.
Tired of having other ppl robbing my time and attention being self centered, only taking about their interests. But when i talk about my interests, they become indifferent to them.
@@rural_girl555you just haven’t found your people that reciprocated back. True ones will acknowledge your efforts and will support your back. I’ve luckily befriended those who could not fit in with other groups and we have great chemistry and try to be as genuine as possible
There's no such thing as perfect friends, but if they drain your energy more than give you energy, then probably better to avoid them.
Finally a smart person here. Thank you. Nothing is all that black and white as so many of these videos try to make them seem. While I guess I appreciate this video for how much it helps others, NEVER trust the "therapists", "doctors", "professionals", etc. the most, just because they have their "education". The real education are the life experiences we get. The best judgement is usually the one we can make ourselves. I have to say that for a lot of these types of fakes friends listed here, in this video, a LOT of them stem from people's own issues and insecurities. And some, aren't even fully true. The best friend you can be, is to be an open minded friend. Willing to consider all or as many sides of any given topic as possible. Don't leave a person doing something, even if they seem like a fake friend to you just because. Not without talking to them about it first and trying to understand their side too. That's the best kind of person you can be for others.
I agree! No ones perfect! :)
Exactly
I don't have any friends any more. I'm 33 and it just seems impossible to make any new friends now. It feels like everyone is "set" in their friendship groups now, and you just can't develop those friendships when you're older it seems. I've tried everything from the gym, to hobbies and classes, to even join a friend making app but it just isn't happening. I'm alright being alone most of the time, but sometimes it would be nice to have a friend. It gets lonely sometimes.
Please don't say that. 33 is still a young age. And I can attest that what you're feeling is a widespread issue. Even people much older than you are struggling with this.
Don't give up hope and focus on self-love first. Friends may come from a place you never expected. Like this comment section, for example. Sometimes you don't even need to try too hard... 🙂
By the way, cute cat. Is that yours? What's his/her name? 😃
@@freconsbo Thanks for replying! You're right of course. Its my mother's actually! She's called "Tabby" :) A very friendly cat. What brought you to this video, same issue?
@@BlueOstinato Tabby looks friendly and fierce! Please send her my regards... 😁👍🏻
Yeah, sad to say, I'm no stranger to these fake friend types. 😅
@@BlueOstinato Btw, if your day ever feels too lonely to bear, don't hesitate to reach out (by replying here), okay? You're not alone, buddy! 🙂
When I was in high school, I was so scared to be alone that I hung out with a group of guys I thought were cool. No matter how hard I tried to be a great friend, it always felt like a one way street when they'd exclude me from stuff, use me when they needed something, and talked bad about me behind my back. I feel ashamed of engaging with these "fake friends" in my youth and now 25 yrs old, I still feel worried that my mistakes have allowed me to miss out on so much that others with true friends get to experience.
I've had to cut off some "friends" before. My mental health improved after doing so.
One group, I had to walk on eggshells around them all the time. They always looked for reasons to be uncomfortable or offended by things. For example, someone shared a photo of their new gaming PC, and someone else got offended because they couldn't afford such things and that they "need to show restraint and not flaunt stuff like that."
Another group was so obsessed with sharing negative news, ragebait, politics, and other people's drama. They constantly nitpicked and magnified flaws of people they didn't like.
If you have people in your life who just bring you sadness and negativity and have no plans on changing, cut them off. You will be glad you did. Surround yourself with positive people. ❤
Most of my family members make me feel that way too. Family members are included in these scenarios too!
You forgot one more, the friend that changes their attitude towards you when they're around others. They are all nice and sweet when you are on your own with them. However, immediately become a jerk when they're with their other friends towards you.
Yup. Like I have this bestie named- calling her J, She would always be nice and kind to her other friend, but when J is talking to me, she is like "Ugh, can you stop annoying me? I've talked to you a lot!" When she talked to her other friend more. :(
After watching this video, I realized my “ friend “ acts exactly like all of these. She always tells me about drama even though I asked her to stop, especially with gossiping. I had told her a secret and she told everyone she knew and I was then mocked. She would always ignore when I was going through something. It’s quite upsetting, but this video made me realize I shouldn’t be friends with her anymore. Feel free to vent or share a similar if you want, I hope you guys have good friends :)
I had a tumultuous friendship in middle school for similar reasons. Glad you're seeing it now rather than layer. I didn't realize mine was a problem until after she moved away, and neither of us had social media at that time.
@@sweaterweatherlady oh goodness! It does seem rather similar. I’m glad you’ve gotten through yours. :)
I have a friend like that . And other ditch me . If u friend gossip about her . She will gossip about you. .
It doesn't take genius to figure out
I mentioned it, and she replied to me , "I don't care, so u have to accept it if u want Maitland friend or u live. we all think that we are good friends to a point.
Tell her sayonara (goodbye forever), she deserves it.
I had a friend that was like the number 7 and I realised that she was toxic and not a good friend yeeears after I stopped talking to her. This video would've come in handy years ago, to open my eyes sooner
@@natalielefebvre1628 I’m so sorry! I’d just leave her, you’ll find true friends soon! Keep your head high :)
Great reminder that you have to be careful who to trust. I just kicked out two fake "friends", and it was a real freedom when you don't have to deal with them anymore, But you have to remember that people change over time. 😊
One big red flag is if you feel manipulated if you feel that you probably are being manipulated. Trust your gut always.
My former class was full of gossip mongers. I always tried to trust them, only to be backstabbed by them. I always felt uneasy, but couldn't really explain why. It wasn't until I came to a realization and distanced myself from people that I became more calm.
I also had dealings with a drama magnet, but it was more like they would blow up over the smallest things... Only to then belittle and shame me when I needed to rant. It was draining.
I cut all of them out of my life, and I'm thankful for it.
This’ll actually help me in the future when I want to make friends. Well in the past I got fake friended twice, So I figured this video will help me maintain my friendships and let go of the bad ones.
everyones fake to everyone lol thats the definition of civilization lmao.
A majority of people that I met while I was still in high school fit into at least one of these categories that were discussed in this video. I'm glad that I no longer have to worry about encountering them everyday and in some cases, never again (or for a long time at least).
I used to have someone I called my best friend who turned out to increasingly be a one-way/fair weather friend. I hit a rough patch when a family member died and it had consequences on my career and that's when this "friend" chose to end our friendship all of a sudden. It was a year ago and I still hate how betrayed I've felt since.
Yup. That's just how it goes. Most individuals want people who are "perfect" and never have any problems. Whenever anyone shows signs of weakness, struggles, or non-common traits, the fake people ALWAYS bail. Always.
Ultimately, 90% of humanity is simply using one another to get what they want. They've ZERO legitimate interest in others. The moment they detect that no more resources, information, nor "usage" can come from having them around... they'll cut 'em loose. :) Again, it is what it is.
Fake friends basically just drain your energy. It’s like you hold their hand, making sure you don’t let go, while on the other hand, they hold your hand carelessly. They let go when you need them the most.
I clicked on this expecting that I only wanted to listen to this to watch out for the next school year for people like this. But what I did not expect was that I could be easily described as this, specifically the drama magnet and the gossiper. Now realizing this and how much of a red flag it is so I’m starting to plan out how to reduce and avoid being those types around precious friends both from present and future while still being and feeling myself and not bottle things up only to later cause more distress.
The fact that you recognize yourself means you are open to growth. Good for you!
@@NightMystique13 Thank You!
I'm so glad you're self-aware enough to recognize this is something you need to change. I'm proud of you. Keep working on yourself. ❤️
@@LadyGoddessSephiroth Thank you so much for this! It helped motivate me a lot! You have my thanks once more❤️
This is such a great timing. I've been struggling with some friends lately and I have no idea wether or not it's good for me to fix the relationship. So thanks!
P.s: Turns out I'm on a "Fair Weather" situation, life is beautiful :D
Honestly, this feels like all of my friendships and relationships. Even from family. I go alone solely cause I’m tired of being hurt.
I had a few negative friends. They were friends of a friend who moved. We played on Xbox for a while, but when summer break came along, they stopped talking to me. One of my friends who also played with them said they didn't want to talk to me because I wasn't funny. I haven't talked to them since.
I think it is also important to take these with a grain of salt, since Everyone is different, people with Shizoid PersonallityDisorder will often appar uninterested or simply not emotional available, then there is peopple with emotional dysfunctional where they react completely opesitte from what they feel or people with autisme can also seem to try to "up-do" you when thy try to relate etc.
Yes.
Also, no-one's perfect and a lot of us have moments where we're selfish, distracted etc etc.
In the words of Joan Jett, "You don't lose when you lose fake friends."
How sweet, huh.. If it only wasn't so fake, just like those fake friends. You DO lose and you lose a lot. You lose a part of yourself. Of your trust in others, self-confidence, maybe even self-esteem.
As I watch this I had a thought strike, it is very important to recognize these fake friends however; when one becomes really comfortable in a relationship or friendship it is easy to become this type of person as well without realizing it.
Be mindful and vigilant when you are dealing with your personal relationships and remember to be your friends' cheerleader as well as them being yours
I got a fake friend who constantly tries to bring me down and tell me that im crazy.i dont trust friendship anymore
Thank you.
I learned this in my youth.
I devoted my time to being there for those who needed me when nobody else was there for them.
Yes, things might not go MY way,but to help others was almost as good
i have a fake friend, and it was pretty disappointing, especially after we had been friends since kindergarten. she had found these girls and decided to be friends with them, which was fine, but in that whole class year and the next, we had barely talked, and whenever I asked to be partners with her in a project, she constantly said " sorry, no, I’m gonna be partners with [ girl ] " and, I realized that if she wasn’t going to speak to me, then why bother talk to her anyway.
In terms of the “one-way friend”, especially for us people on the spectrum. Don’t end up like me. Don’t let those few people who you asked to hang out with or be there for you in a dark moment or for some reason grew apart with you stay in your head rent free. True friends KNOW and will find a way eventually to catch up and know they need to get back to you and reply. And yeah, everyone is busy or has some things going on but eventually you’ll be able to tell who’s just never gonna reply. They may be active on social media at least a little bit but at some point you’ll have to accept you’ll never get the closure you need to move on from the feeling of being abandoned. Some of us spectrum people are sensitive and get lonely very easily… just know when to give up on someone who’s ghosting you, even though it’s hard
Had friends of 20 years and called them sisters but when life went downhill and I started letting them into the truth of my situation, they accused me of always being negative with them and wanted to hear "about the positives" in my life. This was at a time where homelessness loomed and I struggled to feed my family.
It's not that I was talking too much about negatives, its that they couldn't handle being supportive and available during crisis.
That must have been such a painful and difficult experience to go through when you were already in crisis. I'm so sorry they weren't there for you, especially when you once considered them sisters, my heart goes out to you, that's so sad. I hope you're finding much better friends now, you deserve them and I hope that things are better in your life, too.
This topic is a bit hard for me as all of them are true but sadly, those are the only people I've met from the start and until now, I have none. Sad but that's reality. Thanks for the message in the end as well as these videos. They really help.
You may be suffering from CPTSD and/or an empath and are accidentally attracting and permitting these type of ppl into your life. I humbly suggest researching those topics and narcissistic abuse. It opened my eyes a great deal. And helped with an understanding of the importance of boundaries.
I've known many of these, and been a few. Please don't stop making these videos. They're very helpful.
I really feel guilty because I feel like the freeloader "friend" my friends always buy me things and I don't have money and can't afford to buy them things so I just feel extreamly guilty because the most I can offer is mental and emotional support which feels like it isn't even repaying them!
That kinda sucks
@@strauqq1 I judt jow relaised I worded that extreamly wrong, what I was ment to say was that they always offered to buy me stuff I felt like I couldn't repay them back properly because I wasn't in the financial position to, but yeah, it did suck, a year later so here's an update: I realised that my friends were toxic (They talked bad about my best friend behind her back and the last time it was me and my two ex friends I was ignored and they talked between them, not even bothering to include me in the conversation) I got myself better friends and I don't feel that guilt anymore because when I say "Oh no, don't worry about it!" They actually listen :)
this couldve been nice before spotting my fake best friend who turned the entire friend group against me
THIS^^^^
.. Wow, yeah.. I had a guy like this too. To this day, I think what they had done and blamed me for is really them trying to deflect their own fault and put it on me. Sure, one of the things they accused me of was true and it was horrible what I did. But the other, was really not. The worst part of it all though, is that to this day, because of this one guy from a couple of years back, I keep losing friends I have had, because they spread both of these bad things about me around, one of which being entirely not true. No one who has heard from them what I did and supposedly "did", has ever cared to listen to my side of the story. They just.. Left. Those are the true, fake friends. And I really despise a lot of them. I hold a deep grudge for them, especially that one guy who keeps doing this stuff to me. I can only hope they just leave me alone and stop ruining my life for once someday.
Wow this video really showed me about my so called "friend"
She was the only friend i had at school. But after seeing this video, i notice that nearly half of the things are true about her... 😔💔
Wishing everyone a true friend ^^💜
i often find myself getting very confused around people…who are nice, yet there rude? it confuses me, because i think it’s just me, or maybe they had a bad day…because there nice the next day.
this is still toxic, and my therapist told me…i should start paying attention to not there words…but there actions. sometimes actions speak louder than words. ❤
I dont know about my 2 friends I met this year :/ Always gossiping, not finding humor in my other sweet friend, telling me what to do. The least I can do is hope to not have any classes with them.
I had a "best friend" that has all of these qualities, becareful when you choose friends guys. hope you all find real good friends. have a good day.
I’ve been slowly realizing that I have both a “fair weather” friend and a “one upper” friend in my life.
They’re actually best friends with each other long before I met them, and they seem genuinely happy together, but when I’m invited it only seems to be for paid gigs for the Fair Weather and One Upper constantly overshadowing any conversation I try to have with Fair Weather. I felt so isolated, and it actually turned me into a Negative Nelly around them because I just don’t have positive experiences with them.
I’ve distanced myself from Fair Weather since (and my wallet is thanking me!) but One Upper still tries to ask why.
Recently an old friend of my childhood friend group joined our group chat , I don't hate her but ever since she joined I felt a weird imbalance in the group
Me having social anxiety and miss reading cues. This will really help me out. I am that type of friend that is your friend but I don't really go out too much. So i'm always worried that I become a fake friend
I just want to say that your voice is so soft and gentle and that it has helped me when I am having bad anxiety
Thank you now I know which is my fake friends 😞
Yep. It happened to me a lot in high school. Now that I learned a lot about fake friends. I stand up for myself as a college student. I stop talking to someone if they don't even try to communicate with me. I have one college friend that is good at communicating with me it's to the point where that other person starts the conversation. The ones in high school just talks to me once and then they don't want to talk to me like I'm a stranger.
Ngl though, here in the Philippines, drama friends are the best because it shows that they value your opinion and always goes to you when they are feeling down because of their lover being trash. It's exhausting when it happens alot but it's fun.
My ex-best friend was the Freeloader and One-way friend mixed together. I was almost always the one to reach out to her. And she never wanted to hang out, unless we were going shopping and/or going out to eat, where she could guilt me into paying for everything. If I got a gift card for somewhere, she would be like "Let's go spend it!" She used me and then would be MIA for awhile. It took me so long to see her for what she really was.
Every single friend you ever make in life, even family will have at least some shades of these traits, sure they’re being labeled “fake traits” but it doesn’t mean that they’re not worth keeping as a friend which are important bc as an adult you will very rarely ever make friends again
I used to have a friend where during the summer we were best friends, we were inseparable, but then as soon as school rolled around they completely ignored me and avoided me, then summer would come around, we would be besties again, and the cycle continued. Eventually that friendship became far too painful to keep holding on to and I would say that that probably happened 4-5 times before I started distancing myself, luckily we both moved pretty far away from each other so that made it easier, but I still have really bad abandonment issues because of him
Middle school friend crisis. Some of my friends were like that. I feel like a therapist/immature psychologist around them
Yes this is true , they only appear if you have something they want , can help them in anyway , or see you so they can look down on you and feel better blut themselves .. And my drama magnetic who shouts cries and shouts cos she so stressed all the time .. I try to chill her down, mm fairweather also too am afraid.. I do sometime needs support .. as I give I become empty !! Love to all harm to none 💜🏆 4
I had a lot of one way friends, I was always reaching out, it also applies to family too. I was always the first to reach out and if I don't for a while they blackmail me by saying why don't I communicate more?, why don't I reach out? And I am like communication is a 2-way street, not a monologue. The emotional blackmail was so real.
When I was in elementary school,4th grade or something like that I believe, I had this friend. One day, he came over to hang out at my house. We had lots of fun and played lots of games.
Next day at school… I was sitting right behind him. He didn’t know. He was talking with his other friends. As he was loudly bragging to them about how he went to my house JUST to play the videogames we had.
To this day it hurts to remember. That betrayal, even at a young age, really affected me. Thankfully the principal saw everything that happened. I don’t know what happened with him, but what I do know, is that he let me go play with the school dog. That definitely cheered me up.
to be honest as a person I could relate to a little bit of it, what I still congratulate my friends, yes, I would still be happy for them, I would not ever let them be negative with in their celebration moments, but it always felt like that should have been me and some cases I should have been thriving along side but it has always felt like I've been left behind i felt jealous and never let them know it but this doesn't mean i wasn't happy for them I just had my negative emotions whenever they had something happy going for them i was a person who love to gossip but i was the only person who actually never told anyone's business instead, my business was told I feel like people like to give speculations that the gossiper is always the one delivering the business when surprisingly, it's not always the gossiper, I'm a gossiper, and I've never felt the urge to talk behind anyone's back now as for the drama magnate this is one of the main reasons why I decided to separate myself not only from the school, but from past friends that I decided to leave behind it's because I was a drama magnet I could not get people to stop unnecessarily having problems with me and as much as someone wants to say that it can be negative, dealing with these types of people, keep in mind that it is not always these types of peoples fault that they always have negative emotions and feelings, because you never know when someone is going to wrong you that's why whenever I see drama magnets, I don't necessarily point the finger at them extremely fast leave because no one is craving for problems all that much in their life, especially in the type of we're, are we living in today, everyone has their own problems to deal with and they have yet to crave a problem with somebody else most of the time
Timestamps
1). The freeloaders 0:31
2). The one-uppers 1:06
3). The drama magnets 1:41
4). The gossip mongers 2:12
5). The fair-weather friends 2:48
6). The one-way friend 3:19
7). The negative Nellies 3:55
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Nice work, a55a55n17.
@@sbplankton_1999 thanks for the compliment
@@A55a551n only if a true friends we need
All my friendships and relationships were toxic for over 12 years of my life. I weeded my garden and became my own best friend and I find more healthy positive people are coming into my life. I’m cautious to not jump in with two feet but take each other step at a time until I find that special friend and romantic partner. It takes time to weed, plant and yield that harvest off healthy relationships you want. Hang in there! With the best intentions it will come to you❤
My whole life.. Ive noted many things throughout the journey.. Fake friends usually act cool with others while embarrassing you.. They also lied ..
There is 8: the one that says they never talk behind your back and supports you but be mad at you for small reasons in the past
If there's anything I learned over the years it's when things get real then you know who haves your back
I spotted number 4 once, I told one of my childhood best friend private things, and when I look at them from afar, it feels like their spreading the secret.
Also great video, keep up the amazing content!
Sometimes i feel like my friend is a drama magnet. For example , I was just doodling with her . The next minute , she started talking about small problems , like about a girl who she didn't like . I just wanted to enjoy stuff with her , but most of the time it ends up her talking about her issues. This video was very helpful though .
Wow, I've actually been through multiple friendships like these. I guess I must have realized they weren't the best friendships, because I'm not still friends with any of them.
I've cut off the 'fake' or 'toxic' friends. Now I'm alone, but I don't regret it tho. I also realised how I'm doing the same thing and I'm working to stop it and improve myself as a better person..
Experienced a fair few of these in romantic relationships in the past! Great video reminding me that the decision for it to remain ended was the right one
The fair-weather friends say they can't deal with never-ending drama even if it was just one thing, when one of my kids got kidnapped by the babysitter a l l of my friends and the majority of my family accused me of being nothing but drama.
Once I had a friend that cut all contacts with me when I was at my lowest and in a massive crisis
DONT FORGET THE ONE WHO WANTS TO BE UR #1 BESTIE AND HATES UR OTHER FRIENDS-😭
And this helped me soo thanks!
We have a famous poem in Arabic: If you honor the generous, you will make him your king,
And if you honor the mean, he will rebel
Generousity for me filters people...
I clicked on this so fast bcs this is exactly what I've been wondering for the past month
My friend were so toxic and i wished I knew all of these things sooner
Ive had too many one-way friends in my life that I can’t take it anymore that now I feel so detached from society
I’ve never really thought too much about it, but i never realized how many freeloaders are my friends. Thank you psych2go :)
Thank you so much Psych2Go, I have struggled with a gossipmonger for a while now and hence struggled with trust but felt bad letting that friend go. Because of this video I have realised that they are a fake friend and not worth my time, thank you
Recently ive realized that most, if not all of the friends ive ever had were fake, and its kept me in a pretty dark place. Ive started to feel jealous for ppl that have friends, but then get mad at myself for that, bc it doesnt feel right. Ive spent my whole life trying to get ppl to care, that knowing i failed that, hurts to see others succeed so easily. Wut can i do? All my joy came from my “friends”
Yes , friends who only call you when they need your services; after you provide your services you never see them again but when you call them for help they’re NO where to be found! Last best friend I had ran-off with my girlfriend! I currently have NO friends and don’t want any friends!
This video has been helpful to make sure my circle hasn't been draining on me. I do have a hard time seeing the drama magnet as a fake friend. More like a friend with terrible social habits and self awareness. Rest of video is spot on!
It's better to have no friend than to have a fake friend.
Are you talking from your own life experience?
I only have fair weather and one way friends. It is very lonely. I just want a couple really great friends. I once had a "friend" tell me to my face that she just can't find anybody good enough to forge a deep relationship with.... It stung. I feel defective in the friendship department.
Facts Facts and more Facts periodt 💯. Thank you for this video
I'm glad to realise I basically throughout my whole life only had "real friends" apparently, naturally staying away from "fake friends". Of course some are more close than others, but that's fine for me. Then again, could be because I was usually unsocial half of my life and introverted, so I guess only people who were actually interested in me sticked with me 😅
Also, I also realised I could actually be a better friend, sometimes I'm genuinely interested in a friend, but hold myself back from texting/talking to them because I think they would think it's annoying 😅 (spoiler alert: when I do have enough courage to speak out it always has a positive outcome. But of course my brain instantly forgets that)
Love the Mean Girls Thumbnail, really relates to the topic of the video
I wish you a lof of RESPECT, TRUST AND MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING. It's better to spend time alone, than with a fake friend.👍🙋💙
Friends have always felt tricky. There are times we’re I’ve been used. Times when they weren’t there in my time of need. Times where they felt one sided. The dramatic ones seem to love me.. The one uppers usually don’t even make it in but one or two have snuck in before. Met plenty of negative ones too. If you want experience all the worst friends like I have, you should try online friends! 90% of them won’t process you as a human. Though the 10% also exist and tend to be great. Which comes to the problem.
I’ve met the 10% of solid people online from time to time but I can’t seem to hold them as a friend. Is it my depression? A simple of lack of social skills? Me disappearing sometimes due to that depression? My general exhaustion? I’m not really sure. Which is why it’s tricky.
There are times where all I spout to someone is negativity. There are times where when people need me and I am stuck in bed. There are many many times where when people want to hang out I Decline because of how draining it can be for me. I typically have to be in a good mood to do that.
So, how do we know when it is us being toxic and not them? Or maybe a bit of both? Relationships aren’t sided after all. Im not sure. So like I said before.. friends are tricky.
I actually used to be friends with this girl I met (her names Abigail idk how you spell her name.) I met her somewhere (I don’t wanna tell) and she was pretty funny and stuff. But my bff told me she didn’t even like me which shattered me, but not shattered enough for me to cry. She quote on quote “wanted to keep a secret so I wouldn’t get offended.”
This video hit me when u reached negative nellies, no matter what I do my friend would say something encouraging but it has something condescending immediately after, it’s been happening for years and when I address it he gaslights his way out. He even tries one upping, its such a narcissistic tendency but he will never admit it
I’ve had people who befriended me under false pretenses. They played up to me untill I joined the church, then they dropped me. That is very sacrilegious.
I don't have much friends. But after watching the video, I'm glad that the friends I have doesn't fall in any of these categories. It's not about the quantity, it's about the quality ❤️
I may be a bit overcompetitive sometimes but that doesn't mean i hate it while my friends succeed. Even if it is just only oneway friend i am still say congrats.
It’s so hard. All my life I have had fake friends or relationships that don’t last. After 5 years of dealing with every type of person on this list it seems real friendship doesn’t exist. It’s so hard to be open again after being betrayed or left hung out to dry. I understand I shouldn’t let people close easily, but it’s also hard to be on guard all the time. It’s tiring. I’m scared to be hurt again. I’m scared of being used. I’m scared of people being exploited. I’m not sure what I should do.
Ngl I’ve just stopped talking to new people because of my previous experiences with trusting people
Yeah, most of these were the reasons why I broke up with a fake friend. Ugh. His lack of self-awareness was shocking. What a deadweight. I feel so relieved and lighter tbh that I don't have to speak to him anymore.
After being disappointed by variations of the kind of people listed here I find I am much happier going my own way. It has its drawbacks but many fewer let downs.
Growing up we were an Air Force family and moved at least every five years, often less. It wasn’t hard to make connections as kids, find ways to earn a little money mowing the small lawns, washing windows and so on. It could be I kept people at the superficial level because we knew we weren’t going to be permanent friends.
Just recently I've stopped contact with a close friend of mine of 8 years. We had our ups and downs, but I always put everything on hold for her, was the shoulder to cry on and I listened to her problems. Even though she never gave support back to me like I did for her, and when she did it felt sorta half-assed, but I didn't care. She was my friend and I didn't care if she wasn't able to reciprocate the support. At some point, she would be there for my lowest point too....right?
Wrong.
When an incident finally happened to me,where it clearly shows I was a victim as having a bad high, she didn't have my back. Even though I told her about my experience and how i felt about, she told me that she thought it was bullshit. She didn't even give it a 2nd thought.
8 years with this One Way friend,who called me a sister, completely shattered me.
Suprisingly most of these sound like some of my friends' behavior..... but thank god I'm not that much close.. but whenever i am, they make me feel like the worst person in the world without even me knowing how.
Ever since I moved to Arizona my only “friend” is one of those guys that come to school 5 times a year 😐
What about the friend that clings into you, seeks for exclusivity, relies on you on everything but when they find a boyfriend/girlfriend neglect you completely?
I have had a friend that would guilt trip me, shame me, control me and insult me but would justify it as “being a good friend”
She was very toxic and harmful, causing me to self-doubt myself, giving me anxiety and stealing my confidence.
She would talk behind my back and would act nice, give obviously backhanded compliments and then comment on my appearance.
I have tried cutting ties with her but when she does she says things like “KYS!” “ITS UR FAULT” or “Your NOTHING WITHOUT ME!”” And always blamed EVRYTHING ON ME! I cut ties with her and stopped texting and calling and talking to her.
I found a more loyal and funny real friend who cares about me!
But that girl still left a scar..
1:27 #2 isn't always about one upping. It can be about conceived equivalencies
The fair-weather friend hurts so much. Like you've expected them to be there
I was betrayed by a friend that I truely believed, but she tells my secret to all of the others.I can't feel that pain.😢