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Dealing With Sexual Trauma and Psychological Impacts
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- Опубликовано: 15 авг 2024
- Sexual trauma affects every aspect of a survivor’s life, from emotional well-being to personal relationships and beyond. In this video, we discuss various strategies for coping and healing, providing practical advice and heartfelt encouragement. We also share stories of resilience from sexual assault and abuse survivors who have found their path to recovery.
Whether you have experienced sexual harassment, abuse, or assault, the psychological impacts can be profound and enduring. Our goal is to create a safe space where survivors of sexual assault and abuse can find understanding, support, and hope.
Healing from sexual trauma is a deeply personal process, and it's important to remember that you are not alone. By addressing these difficult experiences openly and honestly, we aim to break the silence and stigma that often surround sexual trauma. We hope this video offers comfort, validation, and inspiration for anyone on their healing journey.
#healing #trauma
Writer & Narration: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Music: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Amy Arendolff
Thumbnail Design: Sun Biscuit
RUclips Manager: Cindy Cheong
I think that, from all the psych2go videos that I've watched, this is the one that I needed the most. Glad I found it. I've been ignoring the sexual abuse that I suffered in childhood for years, and now I'm finally doing the work to unpack the feelings and understand how it impacts my life.
Sorry to hear that. We hope this video helped you!
You are such a strong person🩵🫂 It takes a lot of strength to take that on and open those memories we all tried so hard to forget. Sending all my love your way, and I pray you can find your peace❣️
💜🌷 I'm sorry. Me too.
I've been struggling with the effects of being SA'd by my ex brother in law when I was about 14. . I'm so depressed and angry about how this damaged me and my life. What bothers me most is that it effed me up so much that it inadvertantly and negatively affects my two teens. I still am full of self hatred and shame. I thought I'd put this all away but I was triggered about three years ago. I found out that my mom ( who I was super close and enmeshed with) new all along what had happened to me so many years ago and did nothing about it. Never once asked me if I was ok. Never told my dad ( my hero) I didn't know she knew all along and when I found out it broke me and brought it all back. I felt betrayed and so hurt and shocked. It changed my relationship with my mom. She's almost 92 now. There was nothing I could do or say. I couldn't hold her accountable she's too old and I know she didn't intend to hurt me. I think about it every day and try to figure out why I'm so dysfunctional still. I'm 58 and it's killing me on the inside. No one ever acknowledged what happened to me and that hurts as much or more than the actual SA. I absolutely cannot manage my emotions . Im silently full of anger. Thanks for letting me vent.
@@nancyayotte2297I hear you. I'm dealing with my own issues and I seem to be surrounded by people dealing with their own SA. It is very hard to talk about. When people get triggered they tend to just drift away in shame. 💜
Shout out to my men who have been too scared to say anything all their lives, and my women who need the same level of help too
Thanks bro
Thanks blud I needed that
I needed to hear that
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thank you
As a male who got SAed by my two female cousins who are sisters when I was a kid, I couldn't even remember how old I was when that happened cuz I just realized that I've been trying to forget about it and hide it deep down in my mind but no matter how hard I tried to forget, the flashbacks still haunts me. The first time that it happened is when the older cousin babysitted me along with my grandma. I couldn't remember where my parents and my sister are that time but I remember it was the three of us; me, my cousin, and my grandma. So the three of us are sleeping together in one bed and my cousin gave me a candy and SAed me while grandma is sleeping and told me to be quiet. The second time that it happened is when she was giving me a shower. I don't want to talk about it in full detail but yeah I still remember how it happened. The third SAed I experienced is with my cousin's younger sister who babysitted me as well. She took me in our guest room and it all happened there. For years that went by I felt alone and I didn't talk about it to anyone even with my parents nor my sister cuz I didn't know if they would believe me if I told them. Until we got to leave our country and live abroad when I was 17 and when I turned 18 that's when I told my mom everything that happened. All she did was cry while she listened to my stories. Now I'm 23 years old and I'm doing much better now but I'm still healing slowly day by day. It is not an easy thing to go through especially in childhood years. I wouldn't even expect to even share this online like even now I'm fighting my tears to type this story. I may forgive and heal but I can never forget that ugly and disgusting experience. It is just like a wound that heals but leaves you with an ugly scar.
Edited: Thank you for the nice and uplifting comments❤️
You are so brave for sharing it. You have people in your life that will support you. I'm sorry you went trough all of that
I have no idea who you are but your story brought me to tears. You should have never experienced that and man I hope you heal and just flourish dude.
You will get through this, I believe in you!
@@diananeeley865658 thank you I appreciate it❤️
I understand and I'm so sorry you've suffered these wounds too.
I send virtual feelings of support and solidarity from afar.
I'm F 29, and have dealt with a number of instances from 5 to 26, the recent patches from the first partner I trusted to begin the process of physical intimacy. I stated clearly having trauma in those areas and needing to take things slowly, I blocked out for a year that he ignored me but didn't know why I was ever able to say no or enforce a line again until my memories came back. Once I remembered and talked through it he was really shocked that what he'd done was assualt and ended up sobbing because he realised he'd done that at some point in basically every relationship he'd had.
I hope he got his head right and takes consent seriously, but I know I can't hold myself responsible for teaching people what consent is, they should care enough and understand the prevalence enough to self educate and communicate.
If you have any issues with partners in the future, I want you to know that's fully on them. You deserve people who see your safety as sacred. I strongly recommend following some sex therapists on social media (the expansive group on insta has really helped me).
You always deserved better and I'm very glad you're away from these people now. This is always serious and should never happen to any children or anyone.
I’m a gay guy that went through this at the hands of my 3 year relationship with a guy I thought was my world, he destroyed me in so many ways and left me to pick up the pieces
Your suffering should never have been silenced and I’m so sorry you had to go through something like this-it breaks something and no matter what you do you always feel that crack deep down that you can’t fix, but you are a trooper, your still here alive and fighting, don’t repress these memories out of fear of judgement, sharing a problem halves it, trusted friends or family members or even strangers on the internet like you’ve done now-you’ve managed to come a long way and not let it define you it doesn’t define any of us. There are sadly just some terrible people in the world and they take advantage of weakness,kindness, trust and loyalty hold your head up high knowing you lived to tell your story and that your experience didn’t completely consume you. Keep hanging in there bud we got this shit
“Was it my fault?” Asked the short skirt.
“No, it happened to me too” replied the burka.
The diaper in the corner couldn’t even speak.
-Darshan Mondkar
My favorite quote on this topic.
Hearing some of your stories makes me wonder about what we’re teaching people (or not teaching) to make anyone think non consensual interactions are okay. It’s not about men or women at this point. This is about humanity. And it’s a terrifying world to live in.
Never seen that quote before, simple and to the point, thanks
Man the fact that this quote is literally true makes it even more sad and terrifying 😢
Truth
That quote hits me so hard, I'm in tears, thank you for sharing it..
@@jesterennard6797 take care of yourself ❤️
Sexual assault is so hard to talk about, it’s caused me to be hyper sexual at a very very young age. It also caused me to still be hesitant to anyone and everyone. Anytime I would have any sexual intimacy I would have a breakdown, I would have uncontrollable anxiety attacks and shut down. It’s easier now, but I’m in therapy and I am doing my best to get help. It’s hard but it’s possible, I believe in everyone to be able to find closure and peace, whether it happens now or later.
I became hyper aroused at an unnaturally young age as well. Thank you for sharing, I thought I was a pedo or something. No, I never assaulted anyone, but knowing I was sexual when I shouldn't even have noticed my intimate parts yet, yes that made me feel like a weirdo and a pedo. So, thank you for sharing.
Thank you for sharing this. It seems like your story has resonated with others as well.
I also became hyper aroused at an early age and break down during sexual activity. I think the worst part of being a victim in this situation is if you tell the wrong person about what happened, they’ll do it all over again. My ex did that to me and I haven’t dated anyone since. I’m keeping my eye out for a real man.
i feel exactly the same, and have been experiencing very similar things. im so sorry.
Hello ander 101. Your newest video really portrayed it very well!
Why is it so underrated? Like, I watched this video not because I have experience, but to understand that problem better
Why do you think it's underrated?
We hope this video is helpful! I wonder if it got flagged by RUclips due to the sensitive nature of the topic
Nice ofp
maybe because it was released 13 minutes ago
Same
It doesn't even have to be non-consensual to mess you up, being too young, impaired, toxic behaviors, and many other things will also impact you. This topic needs much more awareness spreading, thanks for doing the good work.
So so true. Thank you for this comment
Those are all forms of non-consent. Minors can’t give legal consent. NO ONE impaired can give legal consent. Depending on what you mean by toxic behaviors, if they’re behaviors to get sex out of someone who doesn’t want to consent… then it’s not consent.
Ty for saying this I'm someone who has been taken advantage of and lured into doing sexual activities even though i didn't want to...i experienced toxicity as well
Completely agree! I have for a long time been blaming myself, and felt so ashamed of it. Even though it was never my fault, because I was too young to understand. They are the ones that are taking advantage of you, they are the adult and the one's that manipulating you into it... I want you to be aware though that even if it kinda "feels" like it was "consensual", it never was..! Because a child CAN'T EVER give consent! they're too young to do that. So the blame is ONLY on the perpetrator, and NEVER the victim.
Sending you love
yea, for me, it was communication issues. I was focusing too much on a clear yes or no I ignored every other way ny ex tried to signal to stop. I was devastated when I realized what I had done. we talked it out and came to the conclusion it was a communication error, months go by and everything was alright. then beginning of this year, I found out they told one of their friends during the time it happened (I'm not mad, nor do I blame them, they don't have the best mental health), and that friend of theirs blurted it out to a group of people I'm not well acquainted with, for lack of better words. and after that I just broke it off because it was too much weight for me.
please do be careful with bodily signals and don't completely focus on a clear yes or no, be aware of everything, especially if they suffer from mental issues and can't communicate clearly.
My girlfriend has had SA and after she told me about all of this I understood that she needs more affection than I have been giving her. I love her and I don't want to see her tears form because of this. I don't want her to suffer. I didn't want her to go through this alone. I have been telling her it wasn't her fault. And because of my relationship with her, she got herself back up and started therapy to get herself back up more and make her believe that she is not to blame for this. I am there for her and am making her days special by being who I am the best, a caring partner.
When I get a girlfriend one day, I’m going to do the same. You’re doing the best you could and I’m proud of you.
@@catperson96im so happy for you and hope you two will stay happy together forever😚
@@catperson96That's truly wonderful, having each other support one another, lovingly. Keep going strong, and supporting each other. I hope the best for yall ^^
I am in the same position as you. But how do I be better? How did you try to help her and get her help? What can I do?
Hello, an incest survivor here!
I had to suffer in silence because I can't open up to people about my SA experience, my mom did this when I was 5 months old, and then again at 12, I didn't tell anyone because I know that they will downplay my trauma or joke about it saying "Mother-Daughter incest doesn't exist" or something like that, I'm 13 and I still have to live with mom, I am trying to protect my little sister from SA and I am also trying to heal from my trauma despite my abuser being here
Oh my god 😟😟 thats so sad. Do your father knows this??
You ARE believed. I believe you. I am sorry. 😞
I’m so sorry to hear this. U are heard
Thank you so much ya'll, I am okay
Keep fighting on honey and protect your sister. Hope all goes well to you, you are very brave and strong. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
I was sexually assaulted when I was a young boy, by my brother and it still hurts me to this day. I have never told anyone about this or the problems its caused me the main problem its caused is I developed problems with people touching me. A lot of people don't know that sexual assault can happen to man and not many people know it can happen to young boys. Its not just woman of young girls it happens to everyone and it happens without warning. if you've been sexually assaulted when you were young know that your not alone.
I’m so sorry that happened to you. ❤
I hope you are doing well and I am so sorry that happened to you. Can't really covey this with words, but yeah, I wish you the best.
@@AroAceGaming2116 Thank you for sharing your experience. It can be encouraging to many sufferers who have been afraid to tell their story. You have a purpose.
Yeah, it happens to anyone regandless of gender and it should be recognized more.
It can happen to anyone at anytime I was sexually assaulted when I was 10 by my “brother” I don’t think he’s is now after the possibility of me being pregnant with his kid
I have persistent depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, ptsd, adhd, and autism. I am a victim of childhood SA. It wasn't r*pe but only because I escaped by a miracle. This video hit hard and is so true. I have sexual avoidance and pain if I try.
I went through a traumatic experience during a past relationship related to sex. Now, I even question my sexuality because I lost interest in any form for the opposite sex
You just told my story exactly. God bless you 💜😇
I think the one that I fought my way out of probably impacted me the hardest. Just because they were not successful does not mean it shouldn't impact you or as much.
I still find myself minimizing it or re-framing it as 'other people didn't have a chance to fight or to resist'.
And sometimes I still wonder if I would have been a different person for these last 18 years, if I had let it happen, or pushed myself to comply with the woman's advances before she recruited two other people - all whom I thought of as friends - to assist her in drugging me and then attacking me.
What really hurts is that I was actually so happy leading up to when she arrived, as the other two arrived one by one and brought me 'gifts' - I can remember thinking wow, this is so nice, these people are being nice to me and brought me things and like me enough to do so. I was smiling and happy and at that point, it meant a lot to me and I thought I was having a really good day
@@elizabethmariavasquez6464 It makes it so confusing sometimes.
@@Murdoch-ck8mv I'm so sorry that happened to you. You're strong and valid.
As someone who was sexually abused at the ages of 4, 10 and 14 years old. It is a traumatic experience that can affect the rest of your life, if you are not aware of it. You must practice developing the awareness of how the trauma may have affected you. Because otherwise, you will be unconsciously responding to the trauma.
So true. What happened to me was too much, and I repressed it all for a long time. Even thought I wasn't thinking about it or aware of it, the fallout from the abuse was clear, and I had a host of mental illness problems that I wasn't properly accepting or adapting to. Now I know why I make the choices I do, and how to steer it better.
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@@fen4554❤😢
Thank for sharing your thoughts on it! I clicked to understand better. What I can say from myself is that after processing anything severe happening to you, you gain much power afterwards and resilience. It surely takes time. 💚
I also suffered from this in my childhood My own cousin brothers and My uncle used to sexually assault me and now they behave like nothing is wrong with them.. The same uncle tries to SA my small sister but I immediately recognize it and tell my parents about it. They just get angry but never confront him because of a damn shame. I never tell them about myself but I can't stand the same thing happening with my sister.. I also feel so threatened and suffer from nightmares from time to time. I still fear them I don't want to sit with them but I have to see them and smile.
It hurts worse when you're told filing a report won't do anything. There will be no investigation. There will be no justice. If you do file, expect a lot of insensitive questions from the police.
After dealing with it, we have to do the work and heal. We are the ones who have to undergo this change, but not the person who committed the crime.
Also, when people say, "you're so strong for surviving." NO. Please, stop saying that. It hurts so much. It sounds like a badge of honor we received. We are not strong because we survived this situation. We were ALWAYS strong - long before we were harmed.
I can relate. I’m sorry it went down that way for you too. It’s a nightmare and it’s all unfair. ❤
Police don't care and will mock you and make it clear they have no intent on doing anything about. It more times than not they all protect each other than actually seek justice. The women in high roles are worse bc they get a pick me status for helping men get away with the crimes and will get promotions and more slack in other areas where other men wouldn't get bc of this bc women defending male abusers seems crazy and really heightens the protection in the mix of the messed up things.
Sexual abuse keep the system going. Most people do most crimes bc of past sexual abuse. Courts would be cleared out if they actually reacted to sexual abuse and pedophilia properly. The abusers no they will get away with and the odds of any sort of consequences of any sort are significantly higher than anything occuring.
This is a very important topic. Many would call it taboo, but it should NOT be seen this way.
Every victim of SA of any form , any gender , any age is valid.
Thanks for the support. We will work on more videos like this.
I can't believe I've been grieving my younger self all these years and i didn't notice it. When i became an artist and i used a ton of my childhood shows as my inspiration. I didn't know i was subconsciously soothing myself, i was just using them to get better
I was sexually assaulted by 4 women, 2 of them family, one a caregiver, mostly between 3 and 6.
You are alone. Nobody will help you. Learning the lesson that screaming only excites the predator is one of the hardest things to go through. I don't even have a therapist I can open up to and I have 2. Offenders get a release date, we do not.
i’m so sorry. its not much but im sending u love and healing energy💗
@@hicknopunk That is intensely painful. I hope you will find a safe person to open up to. I know it isn't easy. But going it alone is not the way out.
@@victoryamartin9773 i do have 5 online friends. 2 I can talk to about what happened, but they are as damaged as I am
Thank you for sharing. It's never easy. So sorry this happened to you. You didn't deserve any of what happened to you. As a survivor of years of sexual abuse by people who were suppose to love and protect me, I emphasise with you.
It hurts, it really hurts and being alone and no one to talk to makes things seem worst.
I hope you find someone , a therapist you can click with. Keep going until you can find that person. Baby steps, in your own time, your younger self needs you to be strong enough for the both you ❤ Take care
you are not alone
I was sa'ed when I was 11 by my uncle. It actually opened my mind after everything. I remember praying before everything happened. I talked and said to God, "Please, protect me from any devils and harm while I'm sleeping". But then, things happened and it made me lost my faith. I remember feeling guilt, shame and dirty after. I also tried to h4ng myself but my mom caught me.
I also suffered from this in my childhood My own cousin brothers and My uncle used to sexually assault me and now they behave like nothing is wrong with them.. The same uncle tries to SA my small sister but I immediately recognize it and tell my parents about it. They just get angry but never confront him because of a damn shame. I never tell them about myself but I can't stand the same thing happening with my sister.. I also feel so threatened and suffer from nightmares from time to time. I still fear them I don't want to sit with them but I have to see them and smile...
Don't lose hoope We can't hurt ourselves because of some lusty monsters
@@Messy1111 You can call CPS and report this anonymously if you want. They can remove these monsters so you can be safe.
Seems like God couldn't do anything.
Sadly, God doesn’t take away anybodies free will, even if they are choosing to do something bad with it…He can’t stop a bad person from making a bad choice.
But I know God would’ve cried with you and felt your pain and it probably breaks his heart when he sees his creations being horrible to others. A misconception about God is that he can and should stop all evil in the world, but he can’t. But evil will face the consequences eventually.
God still loves you and is there to help you heal from things. He doesn’t stop things but he can and does comfort you and help you deal with them.
It was not your fault, you aren’t dirty, and your uncle is a horrible person to do that. I hope you’ve been able to heal and learn to deal with things, no matter if you ever turned back to god or not.
@@IAmNot-Everywhere-God can’t take away the agency of others to make a choice. He is bound by the free will he gave to man-he gave us the gift of choosing for ourselves, but unfortunately people choose evil instead of good sometimes. So yeah, he couldn’t stop the bad choice of a bad man….but not because he’s not there or not powerful enough. It’s just because he can’t step in and stop every single bad thing. That’s why he sent Jesus to give us a way to be resurrected and healed from all the bad things that happened to us.
I've been SA'd both physically and verbally a few times over the last few years. No actual cases of intxrcxxrse but it still hurts. I tried to tell people but nobody did anything, people shut me down saying "no, you weren't", "you're a man, not a girl" or "to man up". I wouldn't say I'm "traumatised", more so "emotionally numbed". At this point, I haven't bothered telling anybody about it since the last time, because nothing gets done. :/
The worst bit is I don't even know who the people were, so even if someone would listen, they'll never actually be held accountable for their actions... I just hope they don't do it to someone else...
The only real "common sign" I have is just an aversion to touch in general
That’s so fucking disgusting,they seriously think girls can only get SA‘ed?
I wish you luck on healing❤
Btw,You have such a cute PFP:D
What animal is that in your PFP?
Thank you for putting C-PTSD first in the list of possible impacts of SA. It's so awful that it's in the ICD-11, but because it's not in the DSM, the USA hardly recognizes it. This means that children who grow up with SA and survivors of long term intimate violence don't get the help we really need.
my ex suffers from such trauma during her teenage years, i saw how a flashback can drastically impact ones behaviour, how SA ruined both her past and our relationship along with her trust issues, not just to others but also herself. All of the self blaming, anorexia. uneased feeling, hatred toward intimacy...and not to mention the pain she bared, one cant imagine such a young girl having to carry that weight on her back. To her i would say sorry for not being to support her in any meaningful way. And i wish you will be able to not only heal but also better your current and future life, remember it was not your fault in any way, shape of forms
i do ot have any sexual trauma but when Psych2go said these "it was not your fault", "you are not to blame" a tear fell down. i hope people who experience these trauma i hope you will love yourself and heal even if its slow dont give up you are worth it anda you are precious and there are people maybe not many but there is someone who will be there for you adn listen to your worry and troubles. english is not my first language and im not a very comfroting person but just know that all im saying is dont give up
Thank you so much ❤
It’s been 9 years and I still have flashbacks, and still think of it everyday. But I got a good ending, it took four long and shitty years, but I got my abuser in jail
as a minor who was assaulted at the age of 9, thank you. It’s heartbreaking to hear ‘are you sure?’ ‘It was a girl she didn’t do that’ and ‘that didn’t happened’. It broke me for so long and I struggled with s/h by the age of 10. I constantly get asked ‘why didn’t you pull away if you didn’t want it?’ Because I couldn’t. I was held against my will.
I was 9.
hey, i just wanted to tell you that you are not alone. Your comment resonated with me. It was a girl, and I was 9 too. I never said no and years later when the realization started hitting, i could not even trust myself. The words of others didn't help, they told me the same things as you. I'm sorry for you, i hope you're better now
ps : i'm not a native english speaker, sorry if i made any mistake
I don’t know about yall.. BUT THIS-
A guy groomed me in Snapchat and girl start being mean to me in discord..
I'm sorry you went through that honestly I don't think some people should be able to breathe I hope both of you have luck healing you deserve the best
Thank you for not excluding men. We have no place to turn when it happens to us. Being seen means the world.
❤❤ you are seen.
Hello I am Cherri, I am a member of a system. This video triggered me to the front, and I fronted for the host to watch this video to protect them from unwanted memories. I am a survivor of SA and Ash (the host) does not know about this. I try my hardest to shield them from it. They do not remember and nobody knows about this trauma, I keep it to myself. You don’t need to read this by the way, this is for Ash to read. It was in a preschool playground, their ex-friend pulled them behind a wall and kissed them, restraining them so they could not get away. This time in their life is very important because the entire system is starting to process these so called “false memories” and even me myself am not sure if these things ever happened. I am aware that an unwanted make out session is not the worst form of SA but it should definitely be acknowledged.
Sincerely, Cherri
Good luck all
@@sadrabbit53 ty
Thank you for opening up about this experience. I've gone through something similar and I often cannot take myself serious that I'm so "hung up" on it. I hope this form of SA will be more spoken about and acknowledged with time.
@@yokhonart Same here. It feels like, I don't deserve to hurt, compared to everyone. And when I opened up to someone I trusted, I was told to get over it. It's so blurry. That's the worst part. It's so "little" and I barely remember it that I doubt myself. All these "would've, should've"s just don't leave. But I hurt all the same like everyone else.
I've been crying since the moment I saw the notification,this means so much for me. The fact about the mental consequences and the part about hypersexuality - sexual avoidance, made me so relieved to understand. For the first time I don't think there's something fundamentally wrong with me so thank you again.
Please ignore this, I'm already very greatful for this, but does this also apply to victims of long-term sexual harassment/assault victims as well?
As an autistic trans woman; S.H and S.A. have been a big part of my life ... I often feel broken,alone, desperate, help/hopeless
Thank you for this video ♡
I was SA'd by an abusive ex for two years, when I was 13-14 and he was 17-18. I'm a bit older now, have been in a healthy relationship with a wonderful guy for almost a year but my trauma still affects me to this day. I thought I had done a great deal of healing, but when I'm in a situation where I want to say "no" to the person I love, even knowing that he's my safe space and will always respect me, I feel scared. He makes me feel so loved, appreciated, comfortable, respected and secure, but sometimes I still feel scared, for something that happened long ago. It's so frustrating. Thank you for talking about this.
I'm happy that you're better and I hope you get better. Take care of yourself 🫶🏽
@@Data_nothuman I'm trying my best to heal and know what I deserve, thank you for that! ❤️
Knowing there are people who invalidate the horrors of SA and the traumas with them is sickening. I honestly validate those pains. The horrors are real and denying them is ridiculous.
do u count porn as sexual trauam
@yungdemonslayer888 Yeah, it can depending on the situation.
my own therapist did that when I was 12
NO ONE EVER DESERVED ABUSE!!!
EVER!!❤❤❤❤❤
But sadly I got groomed from Snapchat
Groom means sexual from little children’s and girls or boys.
Thank you. This helps me understand my girlfriend a little more. It's not easy, but I'm here for her
She's lucky to have a parter who is willing to understand her.
We need more people like u, understanding and kind
One of my biggest fears is to fall in love with someone and they kick me out of their lives because I'd been SA'ed. Your comment gives me comfort that one day, it's possible that someone will love me and not blame me for it
You are heaven sent for her💯
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Timestamps
1). Sex 1:34
2). Complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) 2:56
3). Trust and intimacy issues 3:34
4). Depression and anxiety 3:57
5). Self-esteem and body image 4:24
6). Dissociation and emotional numbing 4:43
7). Sexual dysfunction 5:09
8). Flashback and triggers 5:47
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
❤❤❤TE AMO HAPPY PRIDE FOR LIFE FROM YOUR FAVORITE SEXY ASS DJS LOVE IN & OUTTA DA CLUBS
I struggle to talk about this with anyone because I’m afraid it doesn’t “classify” as SA. When I was younger 7-10 my parents would do the “deed” while I was on the same bed. This occurred several times, and I lost trust within myself. I felt numb and disgusted with myself, and I struggle to get close with other people, including my own family. I’ve always hated physically touch, like hugging other people and stuff. I never knew why but only till this year I only realized why I hated it. Thank you for helping me feel heard and understood. If you relate to my story, I’m always here to hear others stories.
That certainly classifies as SA, it can be very harmful to be exposed to such things at a very young age, I am so sorry this happened to you. Hope you're doing well and can heal.
@@334...4 thank you sm for the support, and yes Im healing in the process .
@lw9515 thank you for the response, this helps me understand why I’ve always felt like this. Thanks again.
Honestly, I love how psych2go goes in depth with each lasting effect and what it does to a person. Especially the symptoms and how sexual violence can be by literally *anyone.*
I was a victim of SA at the age of thirteen my stepdad started abusing me in this way. It went for three years before I told people what he was doing on a semi regular basis. It can get better you all are amazing people and you deserve so much more
Are you okay now
Are you okay now
@@17spaghetti8fries yeah I'm doing better
Are you ok?
I have a close personal friend who experienced this, and while I developed feelings for her, I've agreed to stay platonic to be the friend she needs right now outside of romance. I try to get her to talk about it with me sometimes, but it's very hard for her, and we can't talk long. Part of that is because I'm a guy, and she doesn't trust guys, but part of that is the cptsd of bringing up her trauma again. Last time we talked about therapy, she said she couldn't keep affording it, apparently even with her insurance. I've offered many times to listen to her, and sometimes she does share, but she doesn't want to let herself trust me with everything and she doesn't have many others at all willing to help her. She's in a very difficult space financially and emotionally, and I often feel powerless to help her. I feel selfish for liking her because of my own emotional needs. I wish I could fix everything for her, but I can't even if I could. She's trying to do it all alone, and it breaks my heart.
Stop trying to make her talk about it dude. Please.
@nataliaalfonso2662 I'm just trying to support her as best as I can. If it were me, I'd need to talk it out, so I guess that's why I go that route. She does talk about it sometimes, which I think may help, but mostly it bothers her too much, or she doesn't trust me enough to say what's really bothering her.
@@joshclark44 Keep doing what you're doing...patiently. She needs you to be her friend. She may never want more, but if she does, respond to her cues. Don't ever push her into more or you will lose her.
Not everyone needs to talk tho, if she wants to, let her talk.
Theres also a huge difference between talking to a professional and a friend. It can help to do it with either one but some prefer a therapist cause its more neutral/clinical. And she might wanna keep some things inbetween her and a professional.
Dont push her too hard or she might distance herself from you.
It can take a long time to deal with these things.
As long as you dont expect her to tell u everything theres nothing wrong with trying to help.
Put her wishes first when trying tho.
@victoryamartin9773 she's already told me she doesn't want anything more. It's hard to accept because while she avoids relationships, I subconsciously am desperate for one. But I have eventually come to the conclusion that she needs a friend more than a lover atm and if I really loved her I'd do what she needs me to be even if it's not what I want for her. I'm trying to move on, because I do appreciate her as a friend. It's just hard sometimes because she's one of the few girls I really thought I had something with and I just read it wrong yet again...
It’s been almost 5 years and sometimes I still grief, and have flashbacks. It’s so hard not to feel guilt because I feel like none of this would’ve happened if I didn’t get with him. It doesn’t help at all when he would keep showing up at my job I had at the time as well. I just pray that he doesn’t find out where I start my new job at.
@@itsnotabby101 You trusted a man who betrayed you. There's no guilt in that. Only a loss of innocence. A lesson to learn from.
I don't know the full details of your story but there's one thing I do know: it wasn't your fault.
In my experience, I feel guilt because at the time I said yes, but I only did because I knew he'd get upset and threatening if I didn't. It was still manipulation and abuse.
You're not alone. Your experience and your emotions are valid. You're NOT guilty in any way for what happened to you. You didn't deserve that.
thank you, it’s so hard getting flashbacks from the past and thinking about what i could’ve did if i never let him do it, im hyper sexual and i can’t stop thinking about the past so vividly and it hurts.
Thank you for this; as someone who is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse leading into almost all my adult life of abuse, I needed this. It took up to the last 4 years to start working on myself. I still have setbacks, and I do beat myself up about it, but I know that I can't hold it against myself either; it's a journey that I will always be healing from.
Speaking as someone who was healing from Sexual Trauma and had been retraumatized fairly recently, I appreciate the topic being tackled with respect. I still remember how most of it happened, and I felt upset with myself that I didn't recognize what was going on... But... Then I realized that, this video is right, no one deserves for that situation to happen to them, and to be gaslit by people around them to the point they wonder if they are just overreacting. Those are feelings you have, and it's fine. They are for you to work through.
Wish I'd had this info 20, 30, 40 yrs ago.
Thanks for putting this out now, tho, for the myriad of victims out there.
Sad that the one video that should have hundreds of thousands of views has 53. Thank you for making this video though!
My notification of this video just popped up at 9:35am July 12th, 2024 so maybe after today it’ll grow in numbers
@@angelajensen5442it definitely will🩵
It was unlisted bro 💀
We have a feeling that it may be flagged due to topic sensitivity topic.
@@Psych2goStupid RUclips and stupid censorship rules. There should be laws in place to prevent the censorship of such vital information that shouldn’t even be taboo and most definitely not silenced. Makes me so angry.
Then at the same time RUclips will happily promote to everyone, these so called “Mukbangers”, that are slowly eating their life away. They show that to everyone , including young people!!
I would be boycotting RUclips if it weren’t for the great educational content that’s so accessible… For example on this channel.
(Excuse the angry rant.. Sorry, not sorry xP )
I've disassociated a lot in my childhood, so I've had lots of amnesia as a result... I don't remember anything extremely explicit, but I remember this nervousness that ran so deep. I don't consider myself a survivor because I don't even remember, and I don't want to dismiss people who have gone through it. I'm sure it's difficult for people to go through it and speak about it. Especially coming out of the shell of denial and saying 'that was wrong'!
Had to figure out how to deal with it on my own. I’ve come a long way, but it’s never been easy
Im 15 and a survivor of SA at the ages of 5 and 8, I highly appreciate this video because it helps me understand my problems more and now I can work on to fix them:D
Its really sad to know how many people experience this. This disgusting thing shouldn't be this common!! And most of the time the abuser dosent get any punishment. 2 people SA'ed me at 2 different ages and none of them got in ANY trouble. My close relative whom I told about this is still close friends with one of the abusers. Its not fair.
Bro our stories are nearly identical, except I was younger, and my abuser was my brother, and he had a history of doing the same thing to my older sisters(at the time it was only known about my oldest sister) and knowing it could have been prevented makes my blood boil, especially since he's in jail(for drugs) and my mother who knows what he did still sends him sooo much money, while we're barley holding up
@@beary4999 thats just disgusting! How can they just not get punishment for it. He didnt even go to jail for his acts. How unfair
i havent experienced s/a, but one of my closest friends has, so i feel compelled to watch this with all my focus
your such a good friend ❤
I was SA’d by a member of my own family when I was 6-7. I still remember everything. And yet I still had to see this person every day of my life up until I was 18, when I moved abroad. I feel I’ve never developed normal relationships and friendships since, though I’ve suffered many other additional childhood traumas I think this one has impacted me the most as a person. I wouldn’t wish this on anybody
I’ve been coming to terms with the fact that I was a victim of SA years ago and it’s been absolutely devastating and jarring to relive the memories, the triggers, and certain things like smells that would literally make me sick. There were so many enablers of my abuser that have told me to stay quiet to “not cause a scandal” or “if you come forward everyone’s going to know it’s you”. I’ve decided that I’m going to come forward now even though I’ve experienced healing and forgiveness. There still needs to be Justice and protection so no more potential victims are made or harmed.
As a survivor of SA I grew up with my abuser and it happened for many years. We're actually working on getting diagnosed with DID due to this. I'm sure there's more abuse I endured but I don't remember it all. It's hard and I'm here for anyone here.❤️
I can't believe how many people struggle with SA no matter how old they were in these dark days. Please guys, remember you're not alone and this wasn't your fault! There are so many people who love you, you changed someone's life! You matter and nothing is over for you. People: you're created to fight because you're strong. Keep going because one day your future self will smile remembering how much you have been through and you're still here giving a reason for someone ( maybe yourself too) to live!
I honestly cried... i wished i heard this years ago, its a really grounding video...
As a survivor of multiple SA as a child, i still struggle with nightmares about my SA, and i feel like the hardest thing I've conquered in life was finally telling my family about what happened and receiving support. i used to act out and be violent when i was younger, and yes, it was a pathetic cry for help, but i was a child with a disability trying to understand why. Anyone who is an SA survivor male female nonbinary you are not alone, and it wasn't your fault ❤
I deeply appreciate the awareness this video brings. As an SA survivor myself, it is comforting to see videos openly speaking about it and comment sections talking about shared experiences. Too many people deny the horrors of SA and trauma it brings, so im glad that this exists as a safe space for people to open up about this.
I was sexually abused for a year by my first boyfriend. I was so traumatising, and then everything came back when I had brain surgery five years later. That brain surgery has left me with emotional problems and intensified my autism. Along with that; a second relationship last year resulted in a suicide attempt. That has seriously left me feeling that only friends should be had.
I hope you're doing alright and I am so sorry for what happened. I get the thing with friends too, it's so hard to trust people.
Oh man! Felt so overwhelming the moment I saw the thumbnail... I'm currently in my late teens. It happened may be a decade ago. For the first time, it was a street vendor and for the second time it was a teenage guy and a neighbor for thr third time... God!! It's been a lot of time but the things and thoughts keep coming back. A lot of shit at home keeps happening and in the end I get blamed, my own parents say that the fault is in me... Had a miserably bad relationship for 2 years. This lead me towards severe depression and several anxiety disorders. It's been a year I've been diagnosed. And my parents say why don't u just be okay it's been a lot of time since ur medication and all... Huh... Man!! How!!
This is a lot of trauma to process. I've forgotten how it feels to be normal. Just hope it gets better someday and i feel *normal* atleast.
:)
My Girlfriend shared this channel with me a few days ago. She showed me a video that related to my own trauma growing up.
She suffers from sexual trauma. She hurts so much and I don't really know how to help her. I'm here for her and I'm going to see if she will watch this video with me tonight. I want to always be here for her.
That is a TRUE boyfriend right there😔✊🏼✊🏼✊🏼
@@Jujuonthatbeat777 I'm a girl, too :)
@@searchwoman529 oh…. sorry it tends to to assume things😭😭😭
@@searchwoman529🏳️🌈❤️🔥🧡🤍💗❤️
This needs to be sent out to others.
Yesterday, a longtime friend of mine confided in me about an assault she recently experienced a few days ago and as a survivor, had to set the boundary of taking a brief step back from the conversation to keep myself grounded and set a time for us to revisit the topic since we both became triggered.
I’ve been in recovery for a year almost two and am grateful to have been met with support at the time of coming out, but sometimes I have random flashbacks and attacks that feel excruciating.
this video was really comforting to me. i’ve been dealing with sexual trauma for abt a year and a half now. it’s nice to remind myself that it wasn’t my fault even tho i can go down a rabbit hole of shame and guilt. ofc i feel sorry for myself but deep down inside me i feel sorry for the other person, i feel like i did something to them for this to happen, making myself believe i deserved it bc i of what i may or may not of done to them. sexual trauma is hard for everyone. no matter your sex everyone struggles. i’ve tried to heal from what happened but already being a pretty anxious person, the sexual trauma doesn’t help. i hope no one has to go thru anything like this and mourn the people who do. i’m here for anyone who has gone thru it, i love you ❤️
Thank you for covering this. You never think it will happen to you when it does. The betrayal hits hard. You don’t always react like you imagine you would. No one is prepared for it.
Almost four years later I have finally started to heal. Take the time you need to recoup. ❤ Much love to fellow survivors. ❤
It is crazy when you said that if you have difficulties to trust other to take your time and do it at your own pace I just started sobbing and I realised that I expected you to say something like “Work on yourself and if you struggle, work harder!” Being greeted with your empathy and kindness made me realise again how hard I can be with myself…
Thank you so much for this video ♥️♥️♥️ especially for mentioning and explaining hyper sexuality. People often think that survivors are no longer or less interested in sex but often we tend to treat our body and mental health like it was treated by the predator, like it isn’t worth something to keep safe and sound…
Im someone who i cant really say that its SA more like Sexual manipulation or grooming to say... its a really traumatic experience, its really hard to talk about it with people, especially your close families. The shame, guilt and embarrassment weighs heavily, for me that is because i was blamed for saying "yes" to it... so its hard to open up to people around it, because you are the victim but you were blamed, its sad...
That is still SA, if you were groomed into saying yes, but didn't truly want it, that hurts you too. I've been in that situation, I had a shitty friend and I've been invalidating my own feelings for a long time because we were 13 ,but I recently talked with my sister about it and she pointed out that it really wasn't my fault. If someone abuses your fragile mental state, the power they hold or keep twisting your words until you say yes ,that is sexual coercion and is still SA. I am so sorry for what happened to you, hope you're alright
Exactly. Coercion is not consent, not feeling safe to say no is not consent. Took me a long time to heal from my own that involved this, and to recognize it as such. I hope you are able to heal too. ❤️
@@334...4 I hope they start teaching this in schools. That coercion is not consent.
I'm sharing my story:
I was SA when i was three years old and the person who SA'd me was the one person i trusted the most a family member of mine and it was life changing for me opening up was difficult for me since no one understood or blamed me for the event but i forgave my abuser even though it affected me tremendously I'm ready to move on. Remember you're not alone and your trauma is valid
I started crying happy tears at the end when you were telling us it’s not our fault, this video made me see things differently and I’m crying right now thank you so much I hope the best for you.
Thank you for talking about this
I suffered AS as a child I would always pee the bed because of it I found out the reason why I was peeing the bed so much was because of what was happening to me. children who are young do not have good control over their bladder, so that’s what happened to me. but for anyone who else suffered, you’re definitely not alone and it’s NOT our fault and we did not deserve what happened to us. NO ONE ever deserves this no one!! Definitely Try talking to someone you absolutely trust Even sometimes you can heal yourself a little bit. I had no one to talk to, and I found a way to heal some of my wounds on my own
I saw this and let out a long sigh as one of my friends are currently going through that but I’m in England/ the uk and they’re all the way in America so I have to just listen and can’t do anything about it so I’ve promised them that as soon as I’m able to I’ll go and find them. And I plan to keep it that way. I’ll try and try again. I don’t care if I have to go through things I’m terrified of (flying,socialising and facing my depression) just to find and help them. I genuinely threw up when they told me because I was so worried and disgusted to the point I’ve been throwing up almost every day. I’ve been watching this channel a lot recently. I’m gonna send this video to them today.
Thanks for helping me understand myself better. I never realize how much it actually affected my process of growing up. I knew what my abuser did but never really thought anything about it and kept it at the back of my mind but recently I’ve just started to think about more seriously and how fucked up it is. I’m 100% sure she definitely did it but at the same time it’s like my mind is trying not to accept that fact? I don’t know how to explain but it’s that kind of feeling whenever I think about what my abuser did as if like everything that happened is not real. I thought I was not valid because I didn’t receive any trauma from being sexually gr00med other than hypersexuality and because I didn’t experience the same common symptoms like other victims. Like I didn’t feel, grossed out thinking about it. After this video and some connecting I think it’s because I was socially bullied and because of that so my kid self just shuts down my ability to feel emotions or connect with others? I frequently ask myself if I’m born unable to do all that but this video answers it. I don’t know when is it though that I lost my ability to feel and connect with others, it’s been years. This also make senses why I don’t really remember my childhood at all like I know they treated me bad but I don’t remember what they did, etc. Not related to what I said before but can anyone just tell me what to do. I don’t know anymore I just wanna disappear. I genuinely can’t do this anymore it’s been long enough
I think this video was one of your best so far: informative, compassionate, gentle, with powerful images (like the puzzle pieces) and words (“You will find home in yourself again”). I think you handled this sensitive subject in a beautiful and very respectful manner. My heart goes out to survivors
Thank you so much for this video. I just turned 21, it happened when I was 16 with my first boyfriend. Covid happened literally 3 months after it, and without even realizing until a few years ago, I spent about 2.5 years ruminating on what happened due to being locked up all the time. I'm still struggling, this video means so much more than you could imagine. Thank you.
Thank you for this. I'm currently getting therapy for my depression and anxiety. I think a lot of what I feel is because of the sexual abuse I've suffered throughout my life. Each time was by someone I knew or loved. It's been hard to accept, and I've been going through the stages of grief even though it's been years. Therapy is good, and I think it's necessary no matter how long since the trauma occurred. Don't push it to the past or try to diminish what's happened to you. It will come back in some way. Work through it with a professional. We deserve peace.
I guess the algorithm doesn’t want this out, we’ll change that. Who’s ready to, take a trip, to their HQ.
This video felt like the hug and comfort I needed long ago. It felt warm to my soul, I wish it existed a year ago when guilt and rumors made me feel like the loneliest human being in the world. Thank you so much for this psych2go, really.
Thank you for making this video. I am a survivor of sexual violence. All this makes sense to me. I feel so alone.
Didn’t realize how much this video would hit so hard to hear until I started crying near the end. I really appreciate the soft tone in which you speak about this topic specifically and tell us we are not to blame and didn’t deserve it. Think that’s what hit me hardest
This video is so important! I had an older man put his arm around me, put his face close to my neck and put his hand on my thigh when I was around eight or nine or ten which I don't think counts but this video strangely gave me a lot of comfort. Thank you, Psych2Go for posting this!
Me and my gf both have experienced SA at some point in our lives. I went through life feeling broken or damaged (and still occasionally do cause of my trauma disorder) but finding speaking to others who had gone through such horrible things made me feel less alone and isolated
Also, this video, among other things, has shown me just how much I still need to work on my trauma as I was heavily dissociating throughout the whole video. So hopefully at some point I'll actually get to a point where I can freely watch and fully resonate with the message of this video
Without any memory and any flashbacks i have the effects… always thought if this happened to me, so confused :( thank you
Me too. I know how you feel.
@@VintageMemory ❤️☀️🌙
Thank you for this video. I forgot how much healing I had done over the years that watching this video showed me just how far I have come after experiencing SA in my young adult years. Thank you. There is hope. We are not what we have experienced.
The day I realized I was healed was when I experienced being triggered and then realized that, I am now safe. I no longer am in the toxic relationship I was in. I am not in the same place where I was assaulted. I have a support network around me of care providers, for my mental and physical health. I am on a path of healing. I am healthy because of my choices.
It felt like a simple shift in perspective but it brings about lasting change.
Heal and then renegotiate yourself in spaces again. Let love in again and again.
💞peace and love
this video was by far the one that touched me the most from all of your videos. i've been SAed by my neighbor when I was 7. even though I've been in therapy for over 2 and a half years now, i still suffer from sexual avoidance, trust and intimacy issues and mourning my old self. I identify as aro-ace spec, but I always wonder wether it's just sexual aviodance and maybe someday, when I'm finally fully healed, I'm gonna experience sexual attraction in a common way. something that makes me angry is that everything that doesn't include r*pe gets downplayed as "not traumatizing enough" or people just don't acknowledge it as SA in the first place. I just wish people could see how we suffer every day and be more compassionate
Crazy that I came across this little video today- I met with a psychologist this morning about this very subject. Thank you
Honestly, talking about my experience very openly has helped me make peace very well.
Thank you for making a video disscussing this topic. With how influential your channel is, this really is a positive impact.
I like to say Thank you I needed this, I’ve always ignored the sexual abuse that had happened to me in my childhood I’ve never opened up to my friends cause I was scared they were gonna judge me until I met my boyfriend who had helped me from the bottom to the top and you’re video helped even more and showed me a more understanding and more ways to help me heal from the sexual abuse that had happened to me so I wanna say Thank you!!! And to everyone else who been through sexual abuse remember It’s not your fault, believe me I use to think that and I felt like shit
I told my friends bf multiple times to stop his unwanted sexual behaviour and even explained to both him and my friend that I freeze up and laugh even though I don't mean too.
They got annoyed with me and sick of me, mostly because I had no one else as a support system and had to keep coming to them, didn't take his 'advice' and I thought because they both were nice to me, I just was ungrateful, especially since they both did so much nice things for me, even though the bf in particular suggested 'rewards' everytime he did these nice things for me in a joking way.
I kept shrugging off that it was a problem to straight up denying it until it got too much to handle, and I felt my safety was at risk with not only them but with other horrible stuffs going on I was dealing with on top of that.
My sister had to intervene as I was barely functioning, I couldn't move much as my joints felt rigid and my mind just refused to work when I needed it, I had a feeling what the bf was doing was wrong, but I thought I was just being dramatic. I'm autistic for extra context.
So It almost cost me my life, and I had to stay with my sister and mum for a bit.
I am by no means a victim, I left her in that situation with a bf that treats her like a slave with his other gf to save myself.
I enabled some other stuff by just being there and failed to open my mouth when it counted regarding my friends treatment from her bf, only behind bfs back to try to hint something might be off. It wasn't enough.
No matter what I do, I can't be mad at her, and she's left a hole behind, I still care for her very much, I constantly worry how she is and I really hope she's doing better or will get better.
Being a victim doesn't change much in your situation, so don't feel bad about leaving your friend, you had to save yourself. I am autistic too and man it can be so hard to be assertive when it comes to the people you love. I feel for you. Also that guy is sick and a total manipulator, I am so glad you got out of there. Much love to you.
Thank you for this video. I would like to ask, if possible, could you make a video either for coping with or understanding being a product of a sexual assault? And maybe adding how that could effect a person? Thank you for never being scared of talking and analyzing topics so many people are too scared to even mention. You've helped me through a lot and I always enjoy your videos (as educational or as a way of being seen).
I am a survivor of molestation done by a doctor when I was in a behaviour center at the age of 9. I never realized what happened to me until I got older. Mostly because the doctor told me he was doing a physical. I was confused and never realized I had trauma from it until I was 17. This video helps and reassures me and plenty of other survivors that we are not alone, and are not to blame. Thank you, Physch2go.
Somthing that also isn’t spoken about ( in this subject) is the fact that the aftermath can last a lifetime you would assume after a few months it would get better but with those who have ptsd or c-ptsd one little bump into SOMONE can ruin your intime week and this goes on for years and never stops. Five years ago I was sa’d now I’m 14 and I used to cope with sh i even attempted to un-alive myself a year ago but I am on a path to closer and I hope one day I will be fully healed
I'm a survivor of SA in childhood. Thank you for touching on this.
I am suspect SA might have happened to me.
I am not certain cause I can’t remember, but the fact that I relate so much to so many of these points, and that I have panic attacks when ever intimacy reaches a certain level, even if I genuinely want to experience that intimacy, has had me suspecting it for a while.
Idk, I heard somewhere that when experiencing intense trauma the brain might intentionally forget the memory to spare itself from pain. Maybe that’s what happened, so now I’m just left with the consequences of something I don’t even remember, but I don’t know. I am not a psychologist.
For a long time I lied to my self about what happened to me. What my bullies did to me in the bathroom, what my own mother did as her own demented form of punishment. For such a long time I avoided physical contact without understanding the why, until the day I tried to be intimate with my partner. Every touch felt like a scream to a thousand needles over my body, I had never felt more robbed in my life. That the most basic thing in life had been completely shattered for me, before I could ever understand. Recovery is slow, but it does get better. Somethings will never change, and you’ll need to learn to work around them. Sadly it takes allot of self will and work to make it past some of the simplest things. Keep trying even if it feels impossible.
The way I healed was after I learned my body had completely renewed my cells, I felt relief that my entire body was one that wasn't touched in those ways without my consent, I told my partner, already been years since the event before I met them, and they stood by me, letting me set the pace of our relationship. She understood my hesitation to open to her in anyway. It feels nice to have someone like that.
I'm so happy I watched this video.
I've been suffering in silence for years, I've had to. if my family knew what happened they would blow. I've told my partner about everything tho, and a lot of time I joke about it. most of the time I joke about it because it just feels better. I've suffered more then SA but most of it was SA. I've had problems telling my partner things during our special time, for some reason it feel wrong. it feels so wrong talking about it, especially when I know it's gonna be serious. this video helped me realize that I need to take things seriously. the things I see and hear, the random panic attacks. it all makes sense. all I have to say is thank you. this video has been eye opening, thank you.
I needed this the most. I have been suppressing this emotion for a long time now. I though for a while before entering to this video. And am glad i did watch it. i cried after watching it. for a long time i though that the problem was me. It have not happen once or twice neither from one or 2 person, have happened multiple times. So a teen brain i though something must be wrong with me, that's why this thing is happening to me only. I don't blame myself very often now. But the guilt and shame is eating me up. This video helped me touch my core which i have been fearful to see for a long thing. thank you psych2go team. Lots of LOVE from me❤.
I'm not well after watching the video, and I mean that as a compliment.
I needed this. It was my final push to realize that what I went through was traumatic, despite how nuanced and gray. I'm not proud to say I'm 10/10 on all the mentioned symptoms, but there's no denying it now.
Aside from my current emotional distress, I am very happy I came across this video.
Thank you.
Thank you so much for this video. a year ago i was SAed by my boyfriend. i was 15 and he was pretty much an adult. He made me feel like it was normal. It was pretty much a one sided relationship for his pleasure. the first time happened 3 days into our relationship. i was too scared to breakup with him since it was so early in our relationship. this went on for months until my friend gave me the strength to break up over the phone. He threatened to self harm and do worth to himself so i stayed a bit longer in fear. i finally broke up with him and blocked him everywhere. i had intense flashbacks and trauma from him. even though this was a year ago i still suffer. i now suffer from hypersexuality and this video really helped me realize that this is a process i will go through and how to overcome it. im very sorry for anyone also going through this. just know it will be better and dont punish yourself. it was not your fault.
One of my past best friends is a victim, it happened when she was just around 12 years old by a family relative, over multiple years without really noticing.
She told me about all of it two years ago, and the worst thing for me is, I actually already knew her back then directly after everything happened as well as the Perpetrator and I permanently felt like I could've done so much more to help
Maybe I could've noticed sooner, idk
You sound like a great friend. I hid my SA from my bestie too but she comforted me just by being my friend and she didn't even know it. Maybe your friend feels the same. Just knowing how much it bothers you speaks volumes of your compassion. ❤
I can't tell you how much I wished someone helped me when I was SA'd. It damaged my entire life. It set me off on a bad note and I stupidly created my own problems since then. I'm hurt, angry, confused and full of shame. This happened when I was about 14 and now I'm 58. Bothers me more now than ever. Sometimes I wish I could tell the person that did this to me just how much they effed me up . Now IDK how to change and be the woman, Mom I want to be I'm angry no one acknowledged what happened to me or even asked if I was ok. I had a very loving family. My mom knew after the fact but did nothing and that added to the damage. I'm angry and confused with her too even though I know she didn't do it on purpose. I hate myself and the person I've become. 🌷
@@nancyayotte2297 I'm sorry for what you went though (and also, you're the first person over 50 I'm talking with on RUclips)
Her mom did the same, even said "it's normal for siblings to _touch_ each other" and it's honestly a surprise to me how she still is alive.
Murder might be bad and end the life of a person right in a moment, but SA completely ruins a person's life for as long as they're still living.
I honestly don't know what would be worse.
It’s gonna sound hard to tell this but I want to share this. I was young when I had my first time. I was not ready but I was scared to say this my at that time older partner, it was an act of manipulation. There were things said like if you don’t take part in this you don’t love me. At that time I felt extremely alone loosing someone could mean the end. This is not the most extreme story.
But for young people here pls make sure you feel 100% comfortable and talk with someone before you go in to it.
I’m okay now I sometimes feel incredibly anxious or stressed during sex making it all except enjoyable. I’m lucky to have a grand partner now that makes it a lot better.
I was 8. Maybe 9.
It was my dad. I knew what was happening, but I didn’t try to stop it at the time. I didn’t want him to be mad, and I didn’t want to get in trouble. I’ve never told anyone, ever. I’ve never spoken about it.
Watching this video made me genuinely cry, and not in a negative way. I was sexually assaulted when I was 6, 9, and 11. I have been blaming myself for years, even though I know I couldn't have done anything to stop it. I am 13 now, I'm still recovering. I'll never truly be the same. Whenever someone says "it's not your fault" I immediately start crying. Why? I havent the slightest clue. But video's like these remind me I'm not alone. Thank you for making this video, genuinely. 🙏🏻
As a guy who was sexually assulted by my moms boyfried when i was a kid i really needed to hear that it wasnt my fault it happened thank you ❤