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I enjoyed the animation and felt kinda a relief, that this topic appeared once again, because elsewhere I have no chance to hear or talk about such stuff.
Hi Psych2go I know this is a whole different topic But I was wondering if you have video with tips how to boost a child's self esteem. My son is going to start middle school and will I do see he's gaining a little more confidence since I have some challenges for him at home, I am terrified any bullying or negativity will cause mental harm to him that can result to consequences that can't be taken back. For me, it's hard to figure it out since I came from a long line of abuse and still deal with itnbut shelter my children from it. Thank you so much
Same here, I fantasize about a guy and we have really hot s*x but we're so completely in love with each other too. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ And we always look at each other while we have s*x.
For me the effect of loneliness is twofold. I fantasize more overall and also a lot about romance like you do. But when my fantasies tend more towards the explicit stuff, they also become more extreme the more lonely I feel that day. (I doubt I can go into any kind of detail here.)
The video did not say that… it said that if you have fantasies with a focus on romance and passion, you might have some clingy tendencies. Emphasis on the word “might”.
As a teenager, I was extremely introverted due to being homeschooled, heavily repressed, and not really having any friends. I developed some strong online roleplay kinks. For me, it was a way to safely escape and explore things that were 'wrong' and exciting, all while doing it in a quasi-social way. It gave me what I had been missing in my life.
I dont know why but my cat was watching this video for some reason. (I clearly said this as a joke but my cat is pregnant now💀) So basically the situation rn is that my pregnant cat had two babies but both kittens were killed by other male cat so thats pretty sad 13/Oct- she is pregnant again by a ginger cat. I hope nothing goes wrong this time ☺ 3/nov- So the above stories refers my black cat. Her name is ‘Lorraine Elizabeth lily hargrave IV’ she is pregnant since 2 weeks I guess. Today morning she went away and I was definitely a bit worried but in the evening she returned home. My black cat stays at my aunts house. I have another cat at my parents house who's name is ‘Agnes’ who has a baby of 5-6days old. I named the kitten ‘Leah’ 29/Dec- So its been a while and I met my cat (Lorraine Elizabeth) but she is acting weird now. She is pregnant again and she is kinda walking weirdly, she does not let me touch her anymore nor does she greet me. There is some white substance coming from her left eye and she can't correctly open/close her eye.
@@mattbrown7935 the eternal battle between inside cats and outside cats isn't discussed enough ; I think people just aren't ready for that conversation
Gotta love how everything is highly validating and relatable without aspects of shame - and then in the end they hit you with the "If you like romance, you're insecure."
I mean, you may have taken that one personally because it speaks to you... But... All of them were a bit unconforting to hear. "If you like being dominant, then you might be feeling a lack of control". "Fantasizing about treesomes might signify craving attention", "Being submissive might be a coping mecanism for trauma".
@@philcollinslover56705 Which explains my extensive use of terms like "Might be" and "Could possibly signify". I rarely generalize, and that goes for pretty much almost anything that isn't math.
The last one is definitely broad brushing something that is generally normal, I think it was a miscommunication on their part. As someone who studied psychology at university, I was with them the whole video until they tried to paint something that was the norm for most of modern human history as being something you fantasize about because you are needy or anxious. They should have prefaced that by saying "While passionate, romantic fantasies are generally normal, fantasizing about highly idealized story-like/disney style romances like Cinderella or Beauty and the Beast can be due to feeling lonely, insecure, etc." which is true.
I've always fantasized about a sweet, cozy relationship. I want to snuggle up an watch a show, lay down and talk, or just feel a tender, cozy warm love. I've never felt that kind of love before, for someone to want me to be around because they feel safe, warm and in love. 😅
@@wheresmygrasses1549 I dont know. Who would want marry an disproportionate girl from our point of view? Love is created it seems as time goes by. Lust is transformed into love. Thats what i ve always seen.
In my mind, there is nothing wrong with sexual fantasies. It only becomes problematic in any way when you take negatively impactful actions based on your fantasies. Separating fantasy from reality is important! It's also important to communicate your kinks and desires with your partner for a healthy sex life!!
Not sexual, but when if comes to romance, the idea I idealize is quite simple: Closeness, just closeness, I want to be able to hug that special someone, do things for them to be happy, comfort them... I don't think I want to be loved as much as I want to love someone.
Thank you for the video, it was very enlightening. You forgot at least one type of fantasy: Getting hugged and hearing "It's gonna be ok. Whatever pain life throws at you tommorow, I know you can endure it. And if you can't, I'll split it with you ." Don't need it to be romantic, or even particularly fun or positive. Want someone who'd never hesitate to help me fight for my dreams, no matter how painful the fight might be and how impossible victory might seem. And of course, I'd always do the same for her. That's my fantasy.
Why is it so freaking cute to see these little guys in bdsm gear?? How does it somehow feel wholesome still when they literally have a collar and leash on 😂
About romantic fantasies: Yes, I used to be anxious and escaped into those fantasies a lot, but recently I have started to view them as a tool for healthy self-regulation. I was m0lested as a kid, then got into relationships with abusive partners so s3x and love are quite muddled up in my head. Fantasies where I am loved, respected, pampered by healthy lovers allow me to gradually and safely unpack my feelings and trauma, explore what I like and don’t like, get back in tune with my body, as well as practice voicing my needs. I just want to share my perspective for my fellow romantics bc some could take what was said in this video as “having romantic fantasies means you are needy and lonely”. That might not be the case for you and please don’t feel ashamed even if it was. God knows you’ve been through enough
This is such a cute statement ♥️ I think being needy is not terrible per se, it becomes toxic in extremes, being needy of love and affection in a healthy way is not bad at all!
Do I have a fantasy? Of course. I dream of lying in the soft embrace of grass beside a beautiful girl, our shoulders brushing gently as we gaze up at the ever-shifting clouds. Butterflies dance in the air like fleeting dreams, and we lose ourselves in the quiet magic of the moment, wrapped in a serene melancholy that feels as timeless as the sky itself.
Although I understand most of what this video is saying I wouldn’t necessarily consider romantic and passionate fantasies as fetishes or kinks because to me that is like the most normal thing imo
Not to everyone tough. To people like me who were raised in toxic environments, romantic sex seem strange, because it require to be in control of both type of sexdrive at once, focusing on mindful presence and excluding dissociation. In today's messed up world, damaged individuals are not such a minority anymore.
@@X_Star_Sprinklez_X No problems, those are interesting questions to ponder. Human sexuality is complex and come in many variant, but that complexity is what make it worth studying it. Just like people.
By that reasoning, heterosexual isn't an orientation. Regardless of how 'normal' or wudrly accepted a certain fantasy is. If it us about how you enjoy sex, it's a sexual fantasy.
I learned that I am very introverted, lack control, and might be a little messed up in the head lol. But this video not only helped understand myself, but helped me understand my boyfriend just a bit more. Thank you
Based on my experience, this video is accurate and each fantasy I have fits perfectly into what my personality is. I have no dating life, thus I live sex and intimacy just through my vivid fantasies (to the point that I don't even need pornography). I've been an incurable daydreamer since I was a child, and it remains my only way to something I feel unachievable in real life.
@@carloz3273 yeah ikr. You feel mentally exhausted with all the pre cum and cannot think or do anything for a while. Cant even think. The best next course of action would be to listen to music.
I can somewhat agree on the last one i feel like i would be a clingy type but i dont have the feeling they will abandon me, i want to cuddle someone while doing it
My ex was a powerful businesswoman. She travelled around the world doing presentations and oozed confidence. In the bedroom though, she adored being conpletely dominated (handcuffs etc) and felt the rougher and more dominating I was, the better. She just felt like it was because she spent her whole life planning and being in charge, so saw it as a massive release. I just helped her out with what she wanted lmao. I was happy either way. I definitely thought I'd be the one getting dominated when we first got together, judging from her personality.
if she wanted to be lazy and let you lead then it;s about anxiety and releasing control but if she wanted to be abused and humiliated it's because she;s another women living in patriarchy.. you won't understand because you are a man but women are conditioned to feel worthless and guilty
I relate with the last one the most, about romance and passion. The reasons are exactly what I would’ve thought as well. I’ve been betrayed by people my whole life, so whenever I’m with someone I truly love and care about, I show them that love and care that I’ve constantly been denied myself. I want both of us to experience what it truly means to be at peace and to know that love between us really does exist.
Same here :,) I think going through something like that makes you learn to value real romance and passion even more in relationships. It feels unfair and frustrating to always have to experience something like this. For me this has led to hopelessness in finding a partner who loves me just as much as I love them because well.. this never happened and I’ve always been unlucky, sadly. It is really important to be in harmony with yourself and not blame yourself for it. I hope you will find the special someone you’ve been looking for for so long, you definitely deserve this!
@@phoenifox I think “unlucky” is what ultimately makes this situation both easier and harder to deal with. Easier because it’s not necessarily our fault that we can’t find the right person who feels as strongly as we do, it’s just the hand we’ve been dealt. Sometimes it’s just about being at the right place at the right time, and we don’t know when or where that will be. But also harder because it means there’s not a whole lot we can do, and it’s completely unfair that many others know what it truly feels like to be loved for who and what they are as if it was handed to them on a silver platter. They were the “lucky” ones in that scenario. I don’t blame myself for what’s been done to me, at least not the majority of it. I’ve made my own mistakes along the way, I’ve never been perfect, but I don’t believe I deserve the abandonment I’ve received. I can’t say “I love myself”, but I have respect for myself and I live by my own standards. Unfortunately not all that long ago, someone who I genuinely thought might have been my special someone, ran away from my life without even properly saying goodbye. Hence my continued feeling of always being betrayed. I’ll find someone in the future who will make me happy and I them, I have no doubt about it. I’m just currently still in the process of moving on from my most recent heartbreak. It doesn’t help that I’ve developed issues with building trust too, but at least I’m aware of it. Thank you for your kind words. I hope you can find peace within yourself and find someone who wishes to be a part of you as much as you wish to be a part of them.
The good people tend to be taken and the people who are available and show interest are doing so because they're the type to jump from partner to partner. If it's any consolation.. In my case I rejected people in my life who I had put on a pedestal because they're obviously out of my league and ended up "slumming it" as my friends said. So yeah naturally with low self esteem you're not likely to find a good match. That's just my personal experience and observation being in the same boat though.
@@mildacha8050I know people like us exist out there, but at the same time more and more younger generations are getting into rougher and more hardcore stuff (likely due to porn being as easily accessible as it is, and the type of porn that’s popular) and it’s made more people a lot kinkier than they used to be. The ratios are becoming less balanced and romance is unfortunately feeling more like a fairy tale to a lot of people. I still believe in love, I still believe in romance, and I still believe in showing someone else what it truly means to feel those things. I still have my kinks for sure, but they still revolve around me showing them acceptance and comfort in a caring way. I look forward to one day being able to experience that with someone.
I can’t remember the last time I had an outright sexual fantasy. I daydream about someone I can just be affectionate with. I just want someone that will give me a hug and care enough to ask how my day was.
I mean... y'all definitely nailed me down. I'm very introverted and submissive, so what y'all said...makes more than enough sense. Honestly, I kind of just feel good to be understood. As much as I want to be special in life, what I really want is to be special in someone's life. Seeing this video makes me feel less like a strange anomaly and just...more like a person.
man, I just want to be loved, is that fantasy? not that I'm complaining, tbh I'm currently repairing my life (gym and stuff) and I'm so fucking happy I never had a gf, she would have the worst guy back then
Honestly same, I'd be the worst guy if I had a bf a year ago, but I've still been following that grind, and ive improved. Honestly it's good to have a long period of time to focus on yourself and your career before trying to find partner
Who else has "extremely" violent sexual fantasies? Bdsm isn't the way I would describe it. Mine are about women who are strong, aggressive, and dominant; I'm not their love interest, I'm their victim. I had more here, but it wasn't appropriate.
There’s always someone out there to fit the missing puzzle piece, I’m someone who’s more femme and I’m into the opposite end of those things. People like me are usually seen as inherently dangerous though because some people can’t seem to understand we can separate the bedroom from our daily lives :( There’s no fun if the “victim” isn’t enjoying themselves in the end! Never would I push something on someone who hasn’t given me full consent on an exact plan.
Honestly, I have it too. I don't understand because I'm a very compassionate person in real life and it's pretty violent. I would be grossed out if it happened in real life but in made up scenarios it's something else...Maybe it's a combination of wanting to be strongly desired and self-loathing...Also wanting to lose control maybe.
What u are describing is prob just extreme bdsm, u would be the submissive one. And if u havent, look up the difference between s&m and bdsm and youll see what I mean.
me, but in my case I am the victimized, which is ironic since I tend to be more submissive and compassionate on my day to day and I don't like real people going through real victimization. In my case I am sure is a compensation for lack of powerlessness combined with sexual frustration. My fantasies tend to become more vanilla when things are going well. Especially when Im in love
Wow. I always felt emasculated because of the sexual fantasies I had of a woman dominating me. But after watching this video and considering the things I went through when I was young, It makes alot more sense.😅 thanks for making this. ❤
I'm number 1 (submissive) and 2! I agree with your points, I get stressed really easy and this video feels very relatable! (esp to know you're not alone) 4:14 I'm an Introvert. I agree on this too!
I have to say Brandon, you're doing amazing! There are some big shoes to fill being another voice on the channel, and you're doing very well. You have my respect as a man respecting a master of their craft, and as a voice actor.
Not all sexual fantasies are due to insecurities for filling in the gaps in ones love life. Sometimes one will dream of their deepest desires in the dream time as it's a secret and not for public consumption of the masses. I'm a debutant... I roleplay alot cos it makes me feel sexy..period!. I'm creative and artistic so it carries over when I dream. Since society can be very condensending, hypercritical , very rigid thinking ... and very judgemental.. some personal secrets are best kept left quiet and personal. And it adds to the mystic as well...lol. in my inner dreamworld I can be my real self and discovery new things about myself as well...adding more creativity...new ways to be passionate..more feminine even..more alluring, more provocative... to create a better version of my authentic Self and my persona. A type of interspection to further learn and grow in the realm of the authentic Self ... to gravitate not just in the things of light but also my dark shadow self and to bring balance to my darker half by merging and transmuting the dark half . Also to be true to self and not be false and bond/yoked to society dictates and conformity to the masses which stunts my inner personal growth and inner journey.. and of further discovery to what truly works for self. Confronting both aspects of self as well therefore becoming whole and complete via the inner landscapes and inner journey ..on the path of self discovery and finding my true authentic self... also to find what works for me personally and what doesn't and needs to be tossed to the curb as it were.
I’ve always just fantasized of me coming home from my 14 hour shift that I do and just to come into my home with my wife just sitting there, we make eye contact and pretty much immediately get into romantic stuff I probably shouldn’t list on a RUclips comment but this low key makes a lot of sense with how many people have abandoned me in my 19 years of life. It’s almost scary how real that shit hit 😭😭😭
dude throughout the video i was like 'but my fantasies are about characters and another !' and then they showed up 😭 it made me laugh so much it made my day
That last part man.... hits deep. Imma write all my fantasies into a book and make people cry so hard so at the end when the protagonist finally connects deeply with THE ONE, the satisfaction is through the roof
i know i dont NEED to be so personal on here but like, for me, 4:27 , i feel like i just like seeing ppl happy too. like im open to ALMOST everything, unless its morally wrong and or illegal, i dont rly care. like if that makes u happy, im down^^ im willing to try everything and if it doesn't fit me, it doesn't fit
Personally, a big self discovery experience was roleplaying online. As someone who is very emotional, I "feel" other people's (and fictional characters´) emotions. So, I kind of feel as if I were the character I am playing. This led to a lot of self discovery, including my bi-sexuality!
That sounds really interesting.. . how do you find places to do roleplaying online? I'm very new to this idea, as in, just now hearing about it! LOL I imagined this kind of thing would be found maybe in an online game, and I guess 'meeting' someone in a separate discussion or chat .. but even then, I've never done that.
Alot of these "fantasies" are just examples of having severe ego problems. At the very least it reveals how broken ppl are. Im broken but i ain't a freek. Im glad this video basically reiterated that these ppl are attention seeking. It all stems from ego.
This was really good and insightful. I took a test once that identified my attachment style as "insecure" or "disorganized" and this informed me that I may actually be a "sub" in a power dynamic situation. Also the observations about introvert and extrovert orientations were interesting.
You wouldnt believe how many people I knew long ago even today are into roleplay. Its as if they become completely different people in their own way. Like, almost sociopath different. I myself am sort of one, i struggle to talk in my day to day life due to anxiety and mental quirks, but in my roleplay state I become articulate and it can honestly scare myself.
The last fantasy resonates with me a lot! I feel it to the core. I left relationships because I felt pressured from them, a lot of friendships were broken off because they abandoned me when I needed them the most and in general, I feel like I'm being avoided! So I have a need to hold someone close to me, hug them and kiss them, not letting go... still insecure as I see... can't cope with solitude, huh... Oh well!
Hello! What did you guys think of this video? Did you enjoy the animation? What about the writing? Sound off in the comments- we’d love to hear your feedback!❤
I enjoyed the animation and felt kinda a relief, that this topic appeared once again, because elsewhere I have no chance to hear or talk about such stuff.
Hi Psych2go
I know this is a whole different topic
But I was wondering if you have video with tips how to boost a child's self esteem.
My son is going to start middle school and will I do see he's gaining a little more confidence since I have some challenges for him at home, I am terrified any bullying or negativity will cause mental harm to him that can result to consequences that can't be taken back.
For me, it's hard to figure it out since I came from a long line of abuse and still deal with itnbut shelter my children from it.
Thank you so much
@@Psych2go still can’t figure out how to get friends, but it was great
I think this is the first one of your videos that rings very thinly researched and hard to believe. Has Dr. Lehmiller's work been peer reviewed?
Uh yeah, 14% is way more than 1 in 14
Friend:"So what's your sexual fantasy?"
Me:"Sometimes I fantasize about having a girlfriend"
That's a good fantasy for sure
Encountering ppl doing sex and launching a rocket them, im weird, im ace too
Me but instead I want a boyfriend
Thats beyond delusional. All women have a boyfriend in 2024, so just give up palm
Skill issu tbh
my fantasy is to find someone who wants to talk to and spend time with me
Mood, brotha, mood
😔🤜🤛😔
Same
This comment hits hard
Real 😭
Last one. Loneliness causes my fantasies to always have lots of passion and romance and a deep relationship
Thank you for sharing that, how did you feel about the video?:)
@@Psych2go It was fascinating seeing how much connection there is between fantasies and personalities!
Same here, I fantasize about a guy and we have really hot s*x but we're so completely in love with each other too.
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And we always look at each other while we have s*x.
Same. I did not need to be called out like that by chibi plant people
For me the effect of loneliness is twofold. I fantasize more overall and also a lot about romance like you do. But when my fantasies tend more towards the explicit stuff, they also become more extreme the more lonely I feel that day. (I doubt I can go into any kind of detail here.)
"If you like romance, you're insecure."
did i just get insulted for being human
The video did not say that… it said that if you have fantasies with a focus on romance and passion, you might have some clingy tendencies. Emphasis on the word “might”.
Hmm. Sounds like you're insecure.
Nah fam. You're not being insecure. Next time if a female says you're insecure, just tell them that insecurity arises cuz of girls like you.
@@firebolt3626coming on a little strong here but I get the message
id like to say im human and am disgusted by romance.
As a teenager, I was extremely introverted due to being homeschooled, heavily repressed, and not really having any friends. I developed some strong online roleplay kinks. For me, it was a way to safely escape and explore things that were 'wrong' and exciting, all while doing it in a quasi-social way.
It gave me what I had been missing in my life.
Yo no way, it's like the for me bro... It's just kinda lonely yk.. anything would be plenty
- “98% of people had atleast one sexual fantasy”
- Internet: That’s *IT!?!*
Internet: Did you mean "98% of people had atleast one sexual fantasy PER MINUTE"? xD
I mean asexuals exist
Tumblr: * laughs in Blue Hellsite *
98% of people REPORT to have sexual fantasies, an important dinstinction
The other 2% are liars.
I dont know why but my cat was watching this video for some reason.
(I clearly said this as a joke but my cat is pregnant now💀)
So basically the situation rn is that my pregnant cat had two babies but both kittens were killed by other male cat so thats pretty sad
13/Oct- she is pregnant again by a ginger cat. I hope nothing goes wrong this time ☺
3/nov- So the above stories refers my black cat. Her name is ‘Lorraine Elizabeth lily hargrave IV’ she is pregnant since 2 weeks I guess. Today morning she went away and I was definitely a bit worried but in the evening she returned home. My black cat stays at my aunts house. I have another cat at my parents house who's name is ‘Agnes’ who has a baby of 5-6days old. I named the kitten ‘Leah’
29/Dec-
So its been a while and I met my cat (Lorraine Elizabeth) but she is acting weird now. She is pregnant again and she is kinda walking weirdly, she does not let me touch her anymore nor does she greet me. There is some white substance coming from her left eye and she can't correctly open/close her eye.
🙀
They're taking notes for the next time that stray you don't know about visits
@@mattbrown7935 the eternal battle between inside cats and outside cats isn't discussed enough ; I think people just aren't ready for that conversation
We know
Attention seeker
Gotta love how everything is highly validating and relatable without aspects of shame - and then in the end they hit you with the "If you like romance, you're insecure."
I mean, you may have taken that one personally because it speaks to you... But... All of them were a bit unconforting to hear. "If you like being dominant, then you might be feeling a lack of control". "Fantasizing about treesomes might signify craving attention", "Being submissive might be a coping mecanism for trauma".
@@davileite780tbh, sex is so varied that all of these could be true in some circumstances, and all of them could be false in others.
@@philcollinslover56705 Which explains my extensive use of terms like "Might be" and "Could possibly signify". I rarely generalize, and that goes for pretty much almost anything that isn't math.
The last one is definitely broad brushing something that is generally normal, I think it was a miscommunication on their part. As someone who studied psychology at university, I was with them the whole video until they tried to paint something that was the norm for most of modern human history as being something you fantasize about because you are needy or anxious. They should have prefaced that by saying "While passionate, romantic fantasies are generally normal, fantasizing about highly idealized story-like/disney style romances like Cinderella or Beauty and the Beast can be due to feeling lonely, insecure, etc." which is true.
Hahaha, it's pretty silly when you put it that way
My fantasy:
Being hugged and cared for. Being whispered words of encouragement, knowing everything is ok.
(They call them fantasies for a reason)
Whyyy🥲
Man, I completely see myself in this comment. Like, 100%.
The animation makes this so kid friendly yet not entirely kid friendly at the same time
Yes, it's cute and sus at the same time 😂
I've always fantasized about a sweet, cozy relationship. I want to snuggle up an watch a show, lay down and talk, or just feel a tender, cozy warm love. I've never felt that kind of love before, for someone to want me to be around because they feel safe, warm and in love. 😅
That is deep i feel
Relatable AF.
Agreed. I question if love is even real. But I can’t really answer that if I haven’t even looked for it.
@@wheresmygrasses1549 and even when you look you might not find it. Maybe someday
@@wheresmygrasses1549 I dont know. Who would want marry an disproportionate girl from our point of view? Love is created it seems as time goes by. Lust is transformed into love. Thats what i ve always seen.
1:00 "if you like it rough" (bdsm)
2:27 "roleplay or cosplay" -
3:47 "sweetest taboo"
4:45 "foot fetish"
5:49 "romance and passion"
5th one gang🤚
@@geometric_erik 1st gang for me.
All of the above?
Bust?.. or~.. maybe i take it ALL!!
The 1st and 2nd
In my mind, there is nothing wrong with sexual fantasies. It only becomes problematic in any way when you take negatively impactful actions based on your fantasies. Separating fantasy from reality is important! It's also important to communicate your kinks and desires with your partner for a healthy sex life!!
Just by this comment alone I believe you deserve the title of [just] alpha like your surname implies.
By existing,i know that common sense is uncommon,so you truly live up to your name.
From what experts tell me, reinforcing a problematic fantasy increases your desire to act it out irl every time.
@@OmegaFalcon But what do you describe as problematic?
@@justalpha9138 I only used problematic cuz you used it. What I said applies to any sexual fantasy
Not sexual, but when if comes to romance, the idea I idealize is quite simple:
Closeness, just closeness, I want to be able to hug that special someone, do things for them to be happy, comfort them...
I don't think I want to be loved as much as I want to love someone.
Thank you for the video, it was very enlightening.
You forgot at least one type of fantasy: Getting hugged and hearing "It's gonna be ok. Whatever pain life throws at you tommorow, I know you can endure it. And if you can't, I'll split it with you ."
Don't need it to be romantic, or even particularly fun or positive. Want someone who'd never hesitate to help me fight for my dreams, no matter how painful the fight might be and how impossible victory might seem. And of course, I'd always do the same for her.
That's my fantasy.
😭😭🤌🏼
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Why is it so freaking cute to see these little guys in bdsm gear?? How does it somehow feel wholesome still when they literally have a collar and leash on 😂
Vvv
Vvvv
We often have this image that BDSM is always rough, and spiky and painfull
This drawings are made to be cute so that breaks the usual portrayal
Psych2go has the huge power to make anything look innocent.
Ur voice is way too cute to explain all of this 😭😭
@starpodsessions dang 😞
Bro ikr when he started talking about feet I died 😂
you don't have rizz 💀
@@ShadowsK.Y imma show u rizz, I'm outside ur window rn
@@ShadowsK.Yif you joined like, 10 years ago then it’s giving “I wanna be hip with the kids by saying, ‘you don’t have rizz, minor💀”
shit i just wanna hug somebody man…
Huggggsss😊
I will be praying for you brother!!!! If I was in your presence. I would want to give you a hug!!!!
We all need a mandatory hug
I'm single with no family and touch deprived. I'm tired of hugging pillows.
Skill issue
My biggest fantasy is to see the roman empire back again and rule the world trough their glorious light, the light of Rome!
Hell yeah
Ave imperium!
So basic and boring.
You’re in New Rome right now or you didn’t notice?
@@DirtyDwarfFTW goofy ahh discord mod
6:21 ...i feel very targeted at the moment
Same
SAMEEE!!!!...
As an introvert, I feel CALLED OUT 😭
😅😂😂😢
Imagine that I got the notification and immediately clicked.
Same
Lmao same
And I usually don’t
I was hesistant but went ahead ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Omg Frfr same
About romantic fantasies: Yes, I used to be anxious and escaped into those fantasies a lot, but recently I have started to view them as a tool for healthy self-regulation. I was m0lested as a kid, then got into relationships with abusive partners so s3x and love are quite muddled up in my head. Fantasies where I am loved, respected, pampered by healthy lovers allow me to gradually and safely unpack my feelings and trauma, explore what I like and don’t like, get back in tune with my body, as well as practice voicing my needs.
I just want to share my perspective for my fellow romantics bc some could take what was said in this video as “having romantic fantasies means you are needy and lonely”. That might not be the case for you and please don’t feel ashamed even if it was. God knows you’ve been through enough
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Just a quick check in: how have you been over the last few months?
Does this apply to cuddly happy sex? I was kinda looking for where that'd fall in and the romance/passion one seemed like the closest fit.
@@deadaimusic1889I would say it applies, yeah
This is such a cute statement ♥️ I think being needy is not terrible per se, it becomes toxic in extremes, being needy of love and affection in a healthy way is not bad at all!
Do I have a fantasy? Of course. I dream of lying in the soft embrace of grass beside a beautiful girl, our shoulders brushing gently as we gaze up at the ever-shifting clouds. Butterflies dance in the air like fleeting dreams, and we lose ourselves in the quiet magic of the moment, wrapped in a serene melancholy that feels as timeless as the sky itself.
that's great and as it should be if you are healthy
It's incredible how everything makes sense
Also I love how characters in animation itself are so ">:3"
0:18 why the hell did the captions go from hindi to English💀
You mean Hindi to English
@@laxialechu2613 yes
Hindi
Happens at 32 sec
Huh.
Roses are red
Violets are blue
I am lonely
How about u
yay I’m famous
I like turtles
Me too
I like trains
kinda lonely bro but im kinda used to it
I like pjo
Respect & Consent a good communication is a key to talk about our fantasies.
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Neither of which u will get from a lot of people today which is sad. The respect to keep things private is rare for most of women.
2:27 PSYCH2GO IS A CHILDE X ZHONGLI SHIPPER?? LOLLL
I SCREAMED
@@misxqa OMGMGGGG CHUUYA PFP LETS GOOOOO
@@haripriya5423 YESSS
@@misxqa ARE YOU UP TO DATE WITH THE MANGA RN?
😂😂😂
I HATE HOW TRUE THIS VIDEO IS AAAAAA
Although I understand most of what this video is saying I wouldn’t necessarily consider romantic and passionate fantasies as fetishes or kinks because to me that is like the most normal thing imo
Not to everyone tough.
To people like me who were raised in toxic environments, romantic sex seem strange, because it require to be in control of both type of sexdrive at once, focusing on mindful presence and excluding dissociation.
In today's messed up world, damaged individuals are not such a minority anymore.
@@Galatorm oh yeah that makes sense now, I’m sorry I should have known that
@@X_Star_Sprinklez_X No problems, those are interesting questions to ponder. Human sexuality is complex and come in many variant, but that complexity is what make it worth studying it. Just like people.
By that reasoning, heterosexual isn't an orientation. Regardless of how 'normal' or wudrly accepted a certain fantasy is. If it us about how you enjoy sex, it's a sexual fantasy.
@@Galatorm there were even more of damaged people back then too imao...
What I found out about myself after watching this is that I just want to be loved 😅
I didn’t know if I wanted this on my watch history but curiosity got the best of me
Dang, I've been everywhere.
I felt every single thing you explained.
I learned that I am very introverted, lack control, and might be a little messed up in the head lol. But this video not only helped understand myself, but helped me understand my boyfriend just a bit more. Thank you
I was nervous about watching this but I’m glad I did, I actually learned a lot about myself
That’s super good to hear. Learning about topics we are personally afraid of can help us grow stronger.
is it just me or Phsych2go have been making more of these videos than the wholesome ones from further back
Nope, the other %60 fee the same
Is this a bad thing to you?
No she’s been trash the whole time. Her and her ableist bullshit
Yeah it always felt like they related to my life issues but now the themes have changed a lot 🥹 not saying it's bad just different
They put the Psych! in Psych2Go
The way my face dropped when i was called out for being desperate and needy at the end
Great! Now I know that I have fear of abandonment, want to escape from reality, and that I'm more anxious about this topic!
Well.. I’m cooked
Me too bro...
brothers i am also on the same pot
im beyond cooked. nothing is off the table for me😂
Fr
Money money, ur aren't completely cooked ur a bag of chips commenting so ur about to be eaten🗣️
Based on my experience, this video is accurate and each fantasy I have fits perfectly into what my personality is. I have no dating life, thus I live sex and intimacy just through my vivid fantasies (to the point that I don't even need pornography). I've been an incurable daydreamer since I was a child, and it remains my only way to something I feel unachievable in real life.
Same
Me too
Relatable.
Man, ur literally me, at anytime i can i daydream, sometimes incontrolably when im too bored.
Ofc i try to avoid it but at least im not alone 😂
@@carloz3273 yeah ikr. You feel mentally exhausted with all the pre cum and cannot think or do anything for a while. Cant even think. The best next course of action would be to listen to music.
The absolute bars at the start 🗣️🗣️🔥🔥
Roses are red, violet are blue
@@Psych2gowhat you're attracted to says a lot about you 🗣️🗣️🔥🔥
2:28 omg thats childe
@@tomas_the_composerhahhahaha right i noticed too
I can somewhat agree on the last one i feel like i would be a clingy type but i dont have the feeling they will abandon me, i want to cuddle someone while doing it
My ex was a powerful businesswoman. She travelled around the world doing presentations and oozed confidence. In the bedroom though, she adored being conpletely dominated (handcuffs etc) and felt the rougher and more dominating I was, the better. She just felt like it was because she spent her whole life planning and being in charge, so saw it as a massive release. I just helped her out with what she wanted lmao. I was happy either way. I definitely thought I'd be the one getting dominated when we first got together, judging from her personality.
if she wanted to be lazy and let you lead then it;s about anxiety and releasing control but if she wanted to be abused and humiliated it's because she;s another women living in patriarchy.. you won't understand because you are a man but women are conditioned to feel worthless and guilty
“There is no man alive who can comprehend my sèxúal preference”
"Alucaaaard!!!"
"I was a chick in the 40's" lol
@@kittywolf8081 then I must go on a great anime quest of self discovery with a good story driven plot.
@@thelinelife3495''my boss is a woman and i hated everyone equally''😂😂
This comment is the greatest thing ever and I never knew I needed this comment thread in my life till now. Thank you. 😂🤣🤣🤣
I relate with the last one the most, about romance and passion. The reasons are exactly what I would’ve thought as well.
I’ve been betrayed by people my whole life, so whenever I’m with someone I truly love and care about, I show them that love and care that I’ve constantly been denied myself. I want both of us to experience what it truly means to be at peace and to know that love between us really does exist.
Same here :,)
I think going through something like that makes you learn to value real romance and passion even more in relationships. It feels unfair and frustrating to always have to experience something like this. For me this has led to hopelessness in finding a partner who loves me just as much as I love them because well.. this never happened and I’ve always been unlucky, sadly.
It is really important to be in harmony with yourself and not blame yourself for it. I hope you will find the special someone you’ve been looking for for so long, you definitely deserve this!
@@phoenifox I think “unlucky” is what ultimately makes this situation both easier and harder to deal with.
Easier because it’s not necessarily our fault that we can’t find the right person who feels as strongly as we do, it’s just the hand we’ve been dealt. Sometimes it’s just about being at the right place at the right time, and we don’t know when or where that will be.
But also harder because it means there’s not a whole lot we can do, and it’s completely unfair that many others know what it truly feels like to be loved for who and what they are as if it was handed to them on a silver platter. They were the “lucky” ones in that scenario.
I don’t blame myself for what’s been done to me, at least not the majority of it. I’ve made my own mistakes along the way, I’ve never been perfect, but I don’t believe I deserve the abandonment I’ve received. I can’t say “I love myself”, but I have respect for myself and I live by my own standards.
Unfortunately not all that long ago, someone who I genuinely thought might have been my special someone, ran away from my life without even properly saying goodbye. Hence my continued feeling of always being betrayed.
I’ll find someone in the future who will make me happy and I them, I have no doubt about it. I’m just currently still in the process of moving on from my most recent heartbreak. It doesn’t help that I’ve developed issues with building trust too, but at least I’m aware of it.
Thank you for your kind words. I hope you can find peace within yourself and find someone who wishes to be a part of you as much as you wish to be a part of them.
The good people tend to be taken and the people who are available and show interest are doing so because they're the type to jump from partner to partner.
If it's any consolation..
In my case I rejected people in my life who I had put on a pedestal because they're obviously out of my league and ended up "slumming it" as my friends said. So yeah naturally with low self esteem you're not likely to find a good match.
That's just my personal experience and observation being in the same boat though.
And yet, why for us it is so hard to meet someone else ALSO the same. :(
@@mildacha8050I know people like us exist out there, but at the same time more and more younger generations are getting into rougher and more hardcore stuff (likely due to porn being as easily accessible as it is, and the type of porn that’s popular) and it’s made more people a lot kinkier than they used to be. The ratios are becoming less balanced and romance is unfortunately feeling more like a fairy tale to a lot of people.
I still believe in love, I still believe in romance, and I still believe in showing someone else what it truly means to feel those things. I still have my kinks for sure, but they still revolve around me showing them acceptance and comfort in a caring way. I look forward to one day being able to experience that with someone.
6:21 oh so I'm cooked
According to your pfp - absolutely
@@kuala3840 nah I don't like Tails or Cream like that in the slightest if anything I'm more attracted to SSchara
@@jakethesnake140 Ah, okay. That's relieveing
Don't worry about it. You'll mostly go out of it when your mind feels like it
That timestamp is hilarious.
I can’t remember the last time I had an outright sexual fantasy. I daydream about someone I can just be affectionate with. I just want someone that will give me a hug and care enough to ask how my day was.
This topic needs its own series, naming many more and what they mean!
"Too much information is bad even if the intention is good"
--Sun zu (The art of war)
....good one dude
Everyone who read this: You are awesome how you are. Have a fun day!
Ayee!!! Thanks Rinko11!
Thanks so much! Really needed it
U too and speaking of fun there's no such fun thing exists in the internet so I recommend u to go outside and do something 😂
This video speaks so much to me that im one of the first to watch and comment
2:33 bro tried slipping in Charlie and thought we wouldn’t notice smh😔😔
4:15 Why is that so true
I thought you were an asexual
I mean... y'all definitely nailed me down. I'm very introverted and submissive, so what y'all said...makes more than enough sense. Honestly, I kind of just feel good to be understood. As much as I want to be special in life, what I really want is to be special in someone's life. Seeing this video makes me feel less like a strange anomaly and just...more like a person.
man, I just want to be loved, is that fantasy?
not that I'm complaining, tbh I'm currently repairing my life (gym and stuff) and I'm so fucking happy I never had a gf, she would have the worst guy back then
Honestly same, I'd be the worst guy if I had a bf a year ago, but I've still been following that grind, and ive improved. Honestly it's good to have a long period of time to focus on yourself and your career before trying to find partner
I'm working out too 💪 and fantasy is something that u think Abt and feel a bit relieved and 😁
3:04 blud is Batman
JUSTIIICE. FOR GOTHAAAAAM!!!!
Jonkler
Got an English exam tomorrow and im here learning why I'm like this . 💀🎧📈
1:25 thanks for calling me out 💀
You're not alone bro
Real af
Who else has "extremely" violent sexual fantasies? Bdsm isn't the way I would describe it. Mine are about women who are strong, aggressive, and dominant; I'm not their love interest, I'm their victim. I had more here, but it wasn't appropriate.
There’s always someone out there to fit the missing puzzle piece, I’m someone who’s more femme and I’m into the opposite end of those things.
People like me are usually seen as inherently dangerous though because some people can’t seem to understand we can separate the bedroom from our daily lives :(
There’s no fun if the “victim” isn’t enjoying themselves in the end! Never would I push something on someone who hasn’t given me full consent on an exact plan.
Honestly, I have it too. I don't understand because I'm a very compassionate person in real life and it's pretty violent. I would be grossed out if it happened in real life but in made up scenarios it's something else...Maybe it's a combination of wanting to be strongly desired and self-loathing...Also wanting to lose control maybe.
And they probably squeeze your testicles and beat them right?
What u are describing is prob just extreme bdsm, u would be the submissive one.
And if u havent, look up the difference between s&m and bdsm and youll see what I mean.
me, but in my case I am the victimized, which is ironic since I tend to be more submissive and compassionate on my day to day and I don't like real people going through real victimization. In my case I am sure is a compensation for lack of powerlessness combined with sexual frustration. My fantasies tend to become more vanilla when things are going well. Especially when Im in love
my cousin went in my room in 0:58😭😭😭
…💀
Womp womp
BRO😭🙏
NO AMOUNT of explaining can save bro🙏🙏🫡🫡
Sounds like a chance. Is your cousin cute?
Wow. I always felt emasculated because of the sexual fantasies I had of a woman dominating me. But after watching this video and considering the things I went through when I was young, It makes alot more sense.😅 thanks for making this. ❤
what did you get through? that would be interesting to share.. of course if you were anonymous
I'm number 1 (submissive) and 2!
I agree with your points, I get stressed really easy and this video feels very relatable! (esp to know you're not alone)
4:14 I'm an Introvert. I agree on this too!
How’d this get recommended to me in the middle of NNN? What timing xD
I have to say Brandon, you're doing amazing! There are some big shoes to fill being another voice on the channel, and you're doing very well.
You have my respect as a man respecting a master of their craft, and as a voice actor.
This video was spot on when it comes to me being an introvert and my desires.
Not all sexual fantasies are due to insecurities for filling in the gaps in ones love life. Sometimes one will dream of their deepest desires in the dream time as it's a secret and not for public consumption of the masses. I'm a debutant... I roleplay alot cos it makes me feel sexy..period!. I'm creative and artistic so it carries over when I dream. Since society can be very condensending, hypercritical , very rigid thinking ... and very judgemental.. some personal secrets are best kept left quiet and personal. And it adds to the mystic as well...lol. in my inner dreamworld I can be my real self and discovery new things about myself as well...adding more creativity...new ways to be passionate..more feminine even..more alluring, more provocative... to create a better version of my authentic Self and my persona. A type of interspection to further learn and grow in the realm of the authentic Self ... to gravitate not just in the things of light but also my dark shadow self and to bring balance to my darker half by merging and transmuting the dark half . Also to be true to self and not be false and bond/yoked to society dictates and conformity to the masses which stunts my inner personal growth and inner journey.. and of further discovery to what truly works for self. Confronting both aspects of self as well therefore becoming whole and complete via the inner landscapes and inner journey ..on the path of self discovery and finding my true authentic self... also to find what works for me personally and what doesn't and needs to be tossed to the curb as it were.
I’ve always just fantasized of me coming home from my 14 hour shift that I do and just to come into my home with my wife just sitting there, we make eye contact and pretty much immediately get into romantic stuff I probably shouldn’t list on a RUclips comment but this low key makes a lot of sense with how many people have abandoned me in my 19 years of life. It’s almost scary how real that shit hit 😭😭😭
"98% have a fantasy at least once..."
I've had like 8 this morning and i've only been up for an hour. I'm having one right now.
2:28 Zhongli and Childe got lost??? 😭
Ahhh 😭
dude throughout the video i was like 'but my fantasies are about characters and another !' and then they showed up 😭 it made me laugh so much it made my day
BRO FR
THEY ARE SO CUTE IN THAT ARTSTYLE 😍😍🥰🥰🥰🖤🖤🖤
I love narrators voice, such an adorable accent and calm tone ❤
it's fascinating how accurate this is!
That last part man.... hits deep. Imma write all my fantasies into a book and make people cry so hard so at the end when the protagonist finally connects deeply with THE ONE, the satisfaction is through the roof
as an introvert i can fully say this is true
what if my fantasy is to be loved unconditionally?
Hampter's based, as allways
😅
Well there is a reason why the word fantasy exists...
That’s mine ! sadly people only want to offer me the sexual fantasy :(
i know i dont NEED to be so personal on here but like, for me, 4:27 , i feel like i just like seeing ppl happy too. like im open to ALMOST everything, unless its morally wrong and or illegal, i dont rly care. like if that makes u happy, im down^^ im willing to try everything and if it doesn't fit me, it doesn't fit
I think my sexual fantasies are totally normal and as "vanilla" as they get, but I feel like a complete freak with them. Really weird.
Would you be comfortable elaborating?
00:00 - 0:57 intro
0:58 - 2:24 ''if you like it rough"
2:25 - 3:46 "roleplay or cosplay"
3:47 - 4:43 "sweetest taboo"
4:44 - 5:47 "foot fetish"
5:48 - 6:20 "romance & passion"
6:21 - 6:39 outer.
Your welcome 🌝
This is my favorite art style in this channel
The animation and images in this epsiode are so cute! Love every second of it
Thanks for mentioning the foot fetish. This preference is constantly overlooked and ridiculed, even though it is quite common 💯👍🏻
Bless all those Dom's out there!
Thank you?😭
Funny how that giving myself up to someone else is freeing me from stress and makes me feel loved.
5:50 This is also me pretty spot on
Personally, a big self discovery experience was roleplaying online. As someone who is very emotional, I "feel" other people's (and fictional characters´) emotions. So, I kind of feel as if I were the character I am playing. This led to a lot of self discovery, including my bi-sexuality!
That sounds really interesting.. . how do you find places to do roleplaying online? I'm very new to this idea, as in, just now hearing about it! LOL
I imagined this kind of thing would be found maybe in an online game, and I guess 'meeting' someone in a separate discussion or chat .. but even then, I've never done that.
Harley Quinn in this vid... I feel called out
Alot of these "fantasies" are just examples of having severe ego problems. At the very least it reveals how broken ppl are. Im broken but i ain't a freek.
Im glad this video basically reiterated that these ppl are attention seeking. It all stems from ego.
If you don't want attention during sex, that's call masturbation.
This was really good and insightful. I took a test once that identified my attachment style as "insecure" or "disorganized" and this informed me that I may actually be a "sub" in a power dynamic situation. Also the observations about introvert and extrovert orientations were interesting.
5:24 WHY IS THIS LOWKEY CUTE THO, AM I CRAZY?!?!?!??!
0 JUDGMENT IF THIS SECTION APPLIES TO U BUT LIKE, ITS KINDA CUTE?!?!?!?!??! TELL ME IF IM CRAZY
@@grin9lyYou're not but that's because the whole video is cute
@@grin9ly YOURE PROBABLY NOT BC IT ACTUALLY MAKES SENSE
Go back to directing movies, Mr. Tarantino
was that Sabrina carpenter in the thumbnail
edit: it was changed lol
That's what I thought too😅, lol.😂It sure does look like her.😄
It is for sure lmao even the kiss in the shoulder pls
@@msilva1999fr it was the first thing i thought of 😭
Yeah true lol
I can still see her, like a cartoon version of the Short n sweet cover
You wouldnt believe how many people I knew long ago even today are into roleplay. Its as if they become completely different people in their own way. Like, almost sociopath different.
I myself am sort of one, i struggle to talk in my day to day life due to anxiety and mental quirks, but in my roleplay state I become articulate and it can honestly scare myself.
this video just called me anxious in 20 different ways
4:45 flashbang right there
The animations for this one is really cute! Keep up the goodwork!
I definitely feel called out in this one
This channel is going on that path now clearly 💯
The last fantasy resonates with me a lot! I feel it to the core. I left relationships because I felt pressured from them, a lot of friendships were broken off because they abandoned me when I needed them the most and in general, I feel like I'm being avoided! So I have a need to hold someone close to me, hug them and kiss them, not letting go... still insecure as I see... can't cope with solitude, huh... Oh well!
0:28 what about the other 2% they are locked in all the time or what ?
We have the same Fantasy, most men in the West
We want to be with someone who is tender and kind