tbh i NEVER understood neither the boob job mania nor the bbl hype. I personally LIKE it when the boobs medium or smaller. Even if your totally flat like in that videos at the beginning it's totally fine for me. There is even a fetish name "dfc" - delicious flat chest - if you are into small to very small cup sizes. Same goes for ass. But both are of course just my personal preferences. Of course there ARE also men who have a preference of large boobs or large butts. But heres the thing: Why do you care? Why do you try to switch from being the type of some men to being the type of OTHER men?! If he is not physically attracted to you, the other guy maybe is. If you are slim and have a flat ass or a flat chest - embrace it and be happy about it! Of course you may not be attreactive to some men, but NOONE is attractive to ALL men! Yesterday a friend told me he doesn't like Zendayas looks. So.... do you think she should have plastic surgery because of his opinion?! ;-)
the way they talk, walk or simply the way they react to stuff in my opinion. you help a lot of people -including me- realize how beautiful they are, you are like a big sister i neved had
That's the whole point. For them to make profits from our insecurities. And the worst thing is, female breasts are STILL taboo to exist in society (unless they're sex objects). If more women would go out shirtless more women would follow, we would see each other's breasts and realize their shape is NORMAL. Now, we only view breasts through porn and celebrities. Breast augmentation is one of the most profitable surgeries worldwide. This needs to change, our bodies are not sexual objects.
Honestly? I’m a big boob girly and my experience was still horrible. I also used to slouch to hide them, was called a sl*t and a wh*re. When I was A CHILD (literally 11 years old) people would look at my boobs instead of my face while talking to me. My family members would make comments about my breast and would make me really uncomfortable. Plus my back hurts all the time. It doesn’t matter if your boobs are big or small, society still finds the way to make you feel like sh*t. So you can just stop worrying and caring about it, cause there always will be a person who doesn’t like how you look. It’s not worth the risk in my opinion.
Same. And for me it grew so fast it left a ton of BRIGHT RED stretch marks on my boobs. I was ten at the time. The color faded over time, but the texture is still there. I had people asking "Oh did you c*t your boobs as a form of selfh*rm??" No, i didn't. It's just the way I am. And i would rather be flatter that the earth than have another bus ride turn into a free corn show.
That's really sad and I'm sorry, but to be completely polite...this video is about the problems flatter girls face. I'm glad you feel comfortable to share, but please don't undermine the problems smaller boobed girls face
YES OMG as a big chested girly (32H) i think ppl need to learn to love themselves as they are. i have scoliosis (since im tall) and with the weight of big boobs there is some serious pain i deal with. i also constantly get objectified, by guys but surprise here, MOSTLY GIRLS. i was a C in fifth grade and since then ive been getting unwanted attention from so many people, no matter what i wear since even baggy tshirts can only hide so much. the cons outweigh the pros in so many ways. im not saying ppl shouldnt get boob jobs if thats rly what they want to do, but to think that will be the solution for an insecurity i think is inaccurate.
Seeing adult men constantly sneaking looks at my 14yo daughter’s naturally large boobs, as they walked past, was repulsive. I also have naturally big boobs and remember the looks and comments I got, when I was younger. It made me feel ashamed of my body. I hope my (now 20yo) daughter doesn’t feel that way.
@@IfYouAreReadingThisILYI’ve heard if you have a baby, they get bigger, then shrink smaller than how they originally were after breastfeeding. So hoping for this outcome as an almost 18 yr old😭 maybe you won’t need one if you ever have a kid
@@anonim5750 the thing is that I am underage and often feel intimidated by those men. I am not trying to seduce them, I am literally just existing and an old guy will be staring. It's creepy
the chemicals like BPA used in cheap baby bottles and other plastic containers is what is causing early puberty and issues with hormonal change, while genetics play a part, its also bpa chemicals
Well it's the natural function of estrogen to have a curvy body while having a slim waist and body however it's true that modern trends are making standards very artificially curvy.
I was also very self conscious about my two cherries and considered surgery. When i did my research and read all the stories of women who experienced all sorts of side effects, i decided my cherries are beautiful and healthy and if i need to put my life at risk to get a man, i'd rather stay flat chested and single, thank you very much. Love your flat chests ladies! Remember, most top models and some of the most beautiful actresses also have modest bossoms!
Right?? And they were considered the most beautiful women in the world in the 90s. I feel like everything would be different if we weren't bombarded with 'beauty standards' and other people's opinions on how we should look. I think if that wasn't a thing, women and girls would be more realistic when it comes to their bodies, meaning - they might not like a thing or two but they would be more acceptive of their own looks and would actually feel good and not insecure. PS. I'm glad you've put your insecurities behind you! :)
Yeah I listened to Haley Kalil's journey and she eventually had her implants removed but she got some fat transfer done to get the desired cherries. Alexandra Girly Talk also had her implants removed because she already had a good size and the implants were causing illness as was the case with Haley and Natalie's Outlet who also hers removed.
i have natural g cups - yes, G. and theyre a curse - i wish i was flat - theyre so uncomfortable (especially in the summer), my back is gone (im young, mind you, my back should be functioning) none of my clothes sit properly on me, (the front of a shirt will always ride up, or they push fabric in a way that makes my arms look weird for some reason) also cute bras dont exist for me. you think looks trump comfort until you have to spend more than 2 hours in a bra and then youre screaming towards comfort. so the only bras i can wear are these extra support ugly and atrociously expensive monstrosities (they literally look like bomb vests) to strap myself in - otherwise my posture looks like a cashew. i cant go anywhere without a bra either, and to reiterate - it is so bloody hard to find clothes that fit me (im a medium in everything but my boobs, and im petite on top of that so the struggle to find things is REAL). - bathing suits, HA, as if, i will never have a one-piece bathing suit that properly fits me unless i get it handmaid or tailored - i cant lie on my stomache - sometimes im just tryna breathe and the effort to lift my damn chest with every breath is exhausting ive legit had days where i wanted to rip them off if only to have the freedom of small boobs i yearn to breathe and stomache-sleep with ease
@@nopenerp6862 I have natural F cups an all of this feels so real, I find myeslf crying a lot of times for the hell that I have to overcome to find clothes that suit me and actually look good. It's imposible, shirts just look like I am under an umbrella and things that have any kind of neckline just don't fit. Also, even though most girls think is the opposite, clothes are made for really small chest, more than a C would not fit in most clothes and I'm tired of hearing people say "this would look really good on me if I had yours breasts". I get mad and told them that I will prove them wrong and then I put the top/dress/whatever and they start seeing the problem. Thinking in exercising make me anxious because I have to choose between not breathing or not doing exercise (I found swimming really nice because of the lack of gravity but finding a swimsuit is really hard and may produce a lot of anxiety and discomfort). Also I have a lot of chafings under my breasts. I have developed agoraphobia because I live in a small village where there's a lot of dirty old men that have commented on my body and say really pederastic things to me since I was 11. After I started to use a D cup (at 15 years old), that went worse and I just couldn't go out using an XL sweater that covered my body. I live in Europe and this shouldn't be happening. I have developed a lot of trauma with my chest and it's really horrible, I don't feel pretty, I feel horrible, with horrible bras, horrible skin in the chest. I just want to get them out but that's a really difficult surgery. It's expensive, the recovery is so long, it really hurts, there are big scars and you will probably be unable to brestfeed your children or have sensitivity in the nipples anymore. So it's a big thing, but I'm just tired of being like this.
When you get older your breast's will probably also get bigger especially around late twenties I'd say atleast wait till then to decide because doing it early could make you not get them naturally like you could've had before. I don't know many flat chested 30 year old women
As a 16 year old, recently in school, I had some random boy in my class just comment and joke about how flat my chest was. Just out of nowhere, for no reason. I didn't know him that well, we'd talked a couple times in the past and joked about, but that was it. He just felt the need to comment on my body, for whatever reason. It genuinely sickens me when men will just say completely unnecessary, out of pocket things about women's bodies. Especially when they're commenting on a literal child's chest
If someone ever says that again, especially a man, you have the right to make a comment about their height or d*ck size. That will shut them up real quick. Depending on the person, sometimes just directly saying, “who said you had the right to judge my body?” Is enough. Other times you gotta insult them back.
Thats sexual harassement and you need to take it to the directives.I am glad you are looking at positive information to not fall in the trap to think there is something wrong with you. Small boobs are more normal than we think and are natural and alright.
@@angiec.7315 he didnt touched or did whatever happens in SA , i mean cant we even talk about surroundings , and yeah i do not support if he is directly saying to that girl , but he can say to his friend guven that the girl dosent listens. girlss too judge men on their heights so it goes both ways.
In ancient India, it was not considered vulgar for women to go topless. This practice was influenced by the climate, local customs, and societal norms of modesty and propriety, which evolved over time.Many Hindu deities, including goddesses, are depicted in minimal clothing or topless in ancient temple carvings and sculptures, symbolizing purity, fertility, and divinity. This indicates a cultural acceptance of such depictions.The hot and humid climate in many parts of India made minimal clothing practical and comfortable. This practicality influenced the norms of dress.The perception of nudity and body display as vulgar largely came with the advent of British colonial rule in the 19th century, which imposed Victorian moral standards on Indian society. Before this, Indian norms were quite different.
Get your facts right. To your kind information only women of so called "low castes " were forbidden from covering their upper part of body, they had to pay tax to cover their body so ridiculous and here you are glorifying it so ridiculous. Women had to fight for their right that were always their. Many died in those protest just so that they could save their dignity. If you don't know both sides of the history then study don't blindly those complete biased one sided article and videos online just focusing on good part and neglecting the evil side. blindly saying that our culture was and is best and need no reforms but reality is that every culture , religion or just ideologies need some reforms to be best.
hmm , so you mean that wearing cloths on upper body is a britain gift, and you want to change it , .. really excited to see topless girls in world . and yeah dont call me pervert or start abusing my family , i am just stating my point👍👍
I feel sad that so many women feel embarrassed about being flat chested when I think they look so feminine in a sleek and sophisticated way, especially with flowy clothing. Actually, most of the clothing that I like look the best on people with flatter chests!
Same! Sleek is the word I always use because they look so elegant and gorgeous. Like glass art, just so well shaped and they carry the clothes so well. Of course, there's still clothes that kind of "require" chest volume to hold the shape up, but there's plenty that work for flatter chests nowadays. I truly envy them. Own your flat chest!
It's funny how, on one side, girls are shamed when they are flat, but also, if they have bigger boobs. As a girl/woman, you're always on the losing side with your natural traits because if you are content with the way you look, not much money can be extorted from you🤷♀️
I'm a guy with body dysmorphia around my height, and while I had empathy for women's body image issues before seeing this, I'm glad to have a deeper understanding from reading all these comments. It's like some women feel like they have to constantly strike the right balance of weight, boob size, makeup, etc. for it to be "just right". And men need be one extreme as much as possible - big. Tall with big muscles and a strong jawline.
As a woman with naturally big boobies, it isn't always nice. They hurt, and when I was younger people would call me sl** or wh*re because they were naturally that way. One way or another we as woman can't win
All I’ve ever wanted was having my breast reduced but that surgery is even more expensive, and equally dangerous. Plus most doctors refuse to do it if you have not given birth.
When I was in middle school i would get bullied for being in 8th grade and still having a flat chest. I'm 16 now ab to be a senior in high school and still flat asf. It's been hard to accept myself, but looking up to women who are confident with the same body as me, makes me feel better
Hello, I’m 20. Still have a small chest. But over time you realize about what really matters in life and what doesn’t. If anything I’ve learned to embrace what I have. I’ve heard many horror stories from my big chested friends such as back pain and terrible fits of jiggling when they workout. But I don’t gotta worry about none of that. Fitting into any shirt is also a plus. Sleeping face down is another. Embrace what you have. ❤
Girl models are also small chested. And i think flat chested girls are rlly sleek and beautiful. Like so ethereal. Free from bras, no pain while jumping or running, no back pain, and clothes fit uu. Don't be insecure. Love your itty bitty titties 😝
Exactly! I hate both of those things, especially when puberty first hit. Trust me, we are so jealous of flat/small-chested girls because you have so much freedom. I love how many small chested girls have that sleek model look! We'll always feel bad about how we look until we recognize that most of us feel the same: never enough.
I suffered from my flatness for several years but now I love my body, I love my tiny little boobies and from wearing a push up bra I don't wear any bra at all. Small boobs are pretty cute!!!
Depends. Celebrities go overboard with it so yeah but if a normal person with a receding chin will get it fixed they’re most likely going to look more attractive. Plastic surgery is okay as long as you want to change one/two things about yourself to fit the rest of your face/ your body but if you want to look like a completely different person then it’s wrong and you need to see a therapist.
as a flat person dammmmn i care literally 0% what people think about it and yes i'm fine with it, i like sleeping on my stomach so it's pretty comfy xD no back pain i guess, less sweating and free from bras if u wish anyhow, women have to decide for themselves what fits them more, not the delusional society that changes trends daily
what fits women more is the breasts they were naturally born with, which are healthy and perform the functions they were designed to. no one needs a boob job.
My biggest issue with being flat chested is that I have to alter ALL my clothes. I got over how my chest looks and could not care what others think of me. That stopped bothering me a long time ago. But man the damn clothes. They never fit me properly.
The clothing industry is discriminating against anybody who is not standard shape. However that is a problem they are creating. We should not alter ourselves to fit clothes. The clothing industry needs to change (in more ways than this). Quality clothes and shoes made to fit actual humans should be the norm. Not cheap cookie cutter plastic clothes made by people who earn next to nothing only to make some disgustingly rich man even richer. Keep your perfect body. Change the clothes.
I've bigger ahem cherries for my waist size and for some reason I find it so hard to find bras and clothes that aren't too tight on my cherries and not too loose on the waist and mind you I don't have like extraordinary big cherries. I've to alter all my clothes too.
That's so many things. Makeup (chemicals), eating disorders, pregnancy and stds, sooooo many things that make women's physical health worse. not to mention mental health. we sacrifice our mental health trying to meet these impossible, crazy double-standards -- we have to care about our appearances, but not too much or we're shallow and vapid. we have to be sexually appealing and available but only in theory -- If we are actually openly sexual we're sluts. we are responsible for our own safety and if we get in a bad situation or are exploited it's our fault, but also we are supposed to give men the benefit of the doubt and not generalize them???
As someone who's smaller in size but with full breasts-which draw even more unwanted attention-I always fantasise about being flat-chested due to the sexualization I've experienced since I hit puberty. People of all genders feel comfortable commenting on my chest, which is super awkward, especially because I'm trying to hide them most of the time (I even wear binders sometimes). All of this is to say I always find it quite strange when people get boob jobs because, for me, bigger boobs equal discomfort and body dysmorphia. I guess we're never happy, huh!?
i dont like standing straight cause it feels like i want to draw attention to my chest cause theyre quite big. one of the reasons im usually slouching...
True, I like tight clothing, it’s cute and all when you see it on other people but as soon as I wear I hate how it looks on me. It’s real shitty and fact I see so much girls with smaller breast that look amazing wearing them, it makes me jealous tbh
while i understand the opposing perspective, it is very frustrating seeing TONS of comments saying ‘i don’t get it’ from people with large chests. breasts are literally the pinnacle of feminine beauty. when you grow up with media showing you only medium/large breasts as attractive or beautiful, it starts to take a toll on you when you’re small chested. i have nearly no projection of my chest, and feel awful and unfeminine. it also really sucks if you don’t have wide hips or aren’t curvy. being compared to a boy sucks. and no, not all clothes fit us. i tried wearing a tubeless top in the smallest size from pacsun and it still didn’t fit me. it made me realize my boobs are smaller than what they are. granted i believe i suffer from body dysmorphia, as i literally cannot go a day without being insecure over my size and body shape. body positivity and loving yourself the way it is seems like a chore and a joke. i feel absolutely ugly in my own body. i would take (more) back pain if it meant i could have bigger breasts.
It’s bad faith to conflate your worth as an individual with your femininity or attractiveness, it’s true that society values women based on how beautiful they are, but it’s also true that the societies we live in are corrupt, cruel and unjust. Just because having bigger boobs might be pushed by society as being more desirable, doesn’t mean that you will automatically be better off or happier if you did have them. Regardless, women are treated terribly. And even the privileges that come with fitting in the societal standard aren’t real privileges, they come with exploitative expectations and objectification. Life becomes so much freer when you realize that you are so much more than what you look like. Don’t let society pressure you into believing different.
I don't see any comments saying they don't get it. I do see lots of comments by people with large breasts explaining that large breasts have a lot of problems too not to dismiss small breasts as not a trial but to explain, because she's talking about the fact she's considered plastic surgery. I'm sorry you feel bad about your body.
I am curvy (wide hips and naturally bigger chest) and I never understood why smaller boobs or flat chest were considered unattractive or not feminine. Having or not having big breasts has nothing to do with being feminine or beautiful. I actually have some shirts in my closet that would fit so much better and look better on me if my breasts were smaller. It's all a matter of perspective; mine is - you all look freaking amazing.
It's really sad how we're made to feel unattractive just cause we're flat. Or even if we aren't "totally flat", we don't have "big enough" boobs to be considered beautiful and desirable. Boys and girls have made me feel so bad about this subject. I just wish we can someday appreciate diversity and embrace different body types. The world is a very cruel place for women right now.
also the «shame» and «guilt» of being the only flatchested in the family! I'm so sorry for my younger self, worried about those banal things and destroying my mental health in the process. I'm still learning, I have bad and good days, but well, I don't want to cry silently for hours again. I want to accept that being healthy is the only thing I should worry about, and not those beauty standars. Thanks for making this video. Send you a hug 💐
I’m an older teenager and as flat as a board- and I’m fine with that. Sport has allowed me to embrace it; I can exercise without pain or discomfort, and I love every minute of it.
@@fantasticartcraftworld7362For girls, puberty hits around 12-14, but it can also start as early as 10 or late as 16. That includes period. If youre over 17 and never had your period, I recommend going to the doctor.
Food for thought- Large breast implants can and DO reduce quality of the CPR you receive!!! Correct hand placement/ automated compression machine placement on the chest is made soooo hard by implants that don’t fall to the side like natural tissue.
I'm an aide in MRI and we often get women below the age of 60 coming in to see if their horrendous symptoms are yet again another rupture. Like, these women feel like they are dying. It is so upsetting to see how many women are getting this done.
I am also a 32A and it's very hard to find bras and dresses that fit my small chest... it made me want to get implants even a size up to B cup just to be able to buy bras lol
@@milkbread5036 your body will never be the same with implants. I went from 32B the D with silicone implants. They look nice but they don't feel natural and I can't do push ups or lay on my stomach comfortably ever again
@@milkbread5036there’s a brand called Pepper and they specifically make bras for smaller chested girlies from like double A to B I think give them a try ☺️
The thing that sucks, if you dont have big boobs youre not feminine but god forbid youre an early bloomer and get harrased and bullied over that. There is no way to win.
i've fallen down rabbit holes into fat transfer, augmentation, etc. But then when I hear about the complications (fat necrosis, issues with mammograms, etc) I decide that it is way better not to fuck with your body medically if you don't have to. and the thought of silicone ruptures, needing more surgeries to upkeep, etc. (not to mention the cost) always ends with me realizing that it is way healthier--mentally, physically, and financially--to just be happy with what you've got lol
Many of these beauty standards are perpetuated and upheld by women themselves rather than just over-sexualised media. My chest is on the smaller side and I have never felt extremely insecure about it. But there are moments that make me more insecure sometimes. Like there's a girl in my class with very desirable curves and she was making comments about models that we were watching practicing for runway ,(it was fashion week and I'm a fashion design student) ridiculing models with flat chests or small chests, and being thankful for her puberty as she doesn't look like a "teen boy". That moment made me question what she must think of me as well but I don't let such people affect me now.
Well yeah what I observe was that those masspower-champs of females actually imposed the majority of societal 'norms' (not really common sense nor anything making sense) because they're eachothers' pleaser regardless of gender. Not even having authentic 'standards' derived from their own thoughts let alone minimally subjective/more objective ones. Lol, most of nowadays society are made of dramaphiles and pickmes anyway.
Her comment comes from jealousy that she feels towards models because they get attention and money from their looks. That makes her feel less worthy so she tries to compliment her own features that she has that the models don’t.
My dad had a saying regarding breasts "anything bigger than a handful is a waist" granted it is meant to be said aloud because people will assume you're saying waste and are an itty bitty titty supremacist, but I digress. When I actually thought to ask him to explain what he meant he told me that no matter the size of the breasts on a woman they will always be a handful each, and no matter the size of a woman's waist it will always be two handfuls (as in put a hand on either side of her waist). Basically his way of saying be thankful for any handfuls a woman allows you to hold and don't get hung up on size. I hope this was at least somewhat coherent, to any ladies with small boobs reading this I hope my small anecdote in some way made you love your boobs (I know I do) even just a little.
That’s actually a pretty cool perspective. Wise man your dad is, and obviously knows how to appreciate women. Gives me an interesting insight for viewing my own body and smaller boobs now. Thanks for sharing 💗
I liked this. I don’t have much of a waist and I have a large chest so I feel like everything is in proportion…so a straight up and down😂 but I love your dad’s saying…helps with body issues😊
Thank you for making this video. As a flat-chested woman I appreciate seeing other women that look like me on social media. I don’t even talk about my insecurities anymore cos they end up being minimized or brushed off. So I felt seen watching this. Yay acknowledgement!! I’ve come to learn that as long as we’re women, our physical appearance will be judged in some way because men (ofc not all) have an obsession with putting women down and women (ofc not all) feel the need to lower other women too. If you haven’t received this treatment yet, just live long enough… they judge women for aging too 🙃
As a person with a medium sized chest I can def say that society has definitely influenced on how I look at them. When I wore closed shirts I've been called conservative, and when I've worn tight shirts or even a tank top I've been called sl**y and asking for it. I don't think it's fair how society puts these pressures on women who are just trying to live life. And I think it's so sad how underaged girls going through puberty feel sad about their bodies when every body is different and beautiful.
I struggled for a long time to finally accept myself. I had it ingrained in my mind that I am flat-chested, since I was at school. Since school, and even though I have changed physically I have distorted image of myself! This should not be the time when someone worries if they look sexy or not :( I am glad that there are youtubers like you zoe!! genuinelly makes me feel like I am not alone. Social media gaslights us to think that it is weird to be imperfect. Let us embrace ourselves!
This topic really hits home for me. While I’ve learned to find femininity in other aspects of myself, the insecurity still creeps back every now and then. It is hard to watch society place so much value on something as simple as breasts and not internalize it.
Let's be real this is crazy how normalized it became to do a chest implant. And im proud of myself that as a flat girl, i feel comfortable in society. Though ngl sometimes i had thoughts of how small they are. But then i think: it's so comfortable when they are small that i dont think of them at all. Once i met a guy that looked at chest like i have big ones and i realized that size doesn't matter 🙂 At the end of the day, with the real person you will be loved no matter how you look!
Plastic surgery in general has been so normalised??? Its crazy to me. Breast implants, bbls, all kinds of fillers, it seems like every second girl i see on social media has had her lips/chest/butt/ face in general surgically altered and im??? Speechless. How did that become so acceptable. Im all for plastic surgery if someone truly wants it but i do think we should ne a bit more critical about it, as in, maybe evaluate first what makes you dislike your body and why, and perhaps reconsider if its worth surgery, which is always invasive.
Finally a woman is talking about all this, we need more women who think that way. All women, since we were little, have felt pressured to comply with stereotypes That society imposes on us. We always try to fit into those standards and feel bad for not fitting in. But the truth is, it has taken me years to realize that we are perfect the way we are, And if we don't love each other as we are, who will? The change begins when we begin to love ourselves deeply, there is nothing wrong with not fitting those stereotypes, we are all beautiful. So, please, do not mistreat your body, do not harm it, do not hate yourself, you are divine and unique ✨ Thank u so much @zoeunlimited for this video ❤
I’m a young girl. I wont specifically be disclosing my age, but im at the time in my life where many girls start breast development. For me, there’s nothing. Ive been told Im flat and ugly so many times before. The worst part is, my mom had a b00b job, so whenever I share many struggles and she tells me my body is beautiful i can’t believe her. Because, well, she altered her OWN body for that exact reason.
Hiiii, I‘m an adult now (24) and I want to tell you to give yourself really the time to develop mentally and physically until you reach your mid twenties if you ever decide to make major changes. I‘m not you parent and the one to say no, but from my experiences I can tell you, maybe your mom talks from concerns? She knows how it feels to have these same thoughts and having to undergo these major changes plus to care afterwards. I understand your frustration, but growing up has different stages, developments and circumstances. I have small boobies too, turns out having bigger boobs is not so cool (I have a bestie who struggles with having a big chest). I encourage to have or make many female friends and to talk about all the femine things (no taboo topics really, you all should build (a healthy and protective) space for each other to talk about everything. From what I read, I assume you’re a teenager, so I want to give you a positive outlook. You’ll change, the people who are mean will change and grow up. People are different from each other. The ones calling you ugly, have their own insecurities… maturing takes time. I hope my words somehow cheer you up, being around your age is sooo ghettoooo I know (it’s the same for every generation). I hope you’ll become an awesome adult who overcomes her own struggles! To become resilient and staying a loving girl/woman is who I wish you to be in my age! Love yaaa! 🥹🥹❤️❤️
I heard a lot of these insults as a kid, especially from my adult family members. Such lovely people. Keira Knightley, Shakira, and Kate Moss always made me feel better about my small boobs.
this video really hit, especially when you talked about how you would go back and tell your younger self that she really is beautiful. being flat-chested has never been easy, and I love how you tackled the issue of the perception of beauty and it's standards. in the end, you're right. we should all choose to set our own standards. thanks for making me feel seen, heard, and accepted. much love.
All the younger folks out there, I’m over 30 and am quite flat-chested still, but I love it. It took a while to get there, but I’m also thankful I received no negative unsolicited comments growing up. Having a certain bra size doesn’t determine what type of person you are. It sucks that it feels like you can’t win in life whether your boobs are too big or too small. Screw people whose minds are socialized to expect a perfect size and comment/project onto you when you differ.
the only consequence of me not loving my shape as a high schooler was years that I spent not confident in myself and who i was. she also deserves to feel beautiful.
Filters scar me so much because it’s one thing to see someone else with a body you want but to see YOURSELF with a body you don’t have is even more harmful to your own sense of self and reality!
This world really needs more people and not just girls who don't succumb to the pressure of selling their bodies for even a shrivel of pointless outside-validation and instead grow in silence where very fewer people can take advantage of them and will be blown away by what one person can do when they stop pleasing society and instead honor themselves.
Its a never ending cycle of wanting what you don’t have even subconsciously… as a person with too much boob i’d love to be flat as a pancake, and from discussions with similar sized friends the consensus is the same we just want them gone, but i also have friends who have none and wish they did. Its a lose lose for the majority. the girlies just can never catch a break.
9:56 the one thing that Botched taught me was to get your cosmetic procedures done in the USA (t&c applied) coz Columbia, Brazil and Turkey are more hit or miss. ~ my understanding of what doctor Nassif and Dubrow said
It is so fascinating how insecurities work, some girls WANT big assets while the girls who has them wants them gone for fashion and comfort (me and my friends all-) we crave for what we dont have
Ask anyone who has had the pleasure of seeing them about how beautiful they are 😊 my husband always tells me how he appreciates the girls no matter how I feel about them
I was you a few years ago. Bought A to D bras because I was insecure. I also ended up getting implants and then removing them 3.5 years later. I can only tell you 1 thing. Love yourself. I know it’s cliche but it’s the best solution. Find outfits that make you feel good with your natural size, try different styles maybe. Smaller chests can look very elegant and sophisticated in the right clothes
Thank you so much for making this video, Im so glad someone is finally talking about this and how there are more risks to consider. It's hard to know whether you want to change how you look because it makes you "feel better" or if you are truly just doing it for approval. YOURE VIDEOS ARE THE BEST
I can absolutely relate to your experience, and I’m sorry you’ve felt so badly about something you can’t control! You are so beautiful exactly how you are
The foot binding comparison honestly hits so hard, I think it’s a great analogy. The more the long term effects of implants is known, the more people are realizing the “mutilation” reality of putting a synthetic substance in their body 🙁 I’m all for self expression through appearance, I have plenty of tattoos, but this seems next level and limits your ability to move and play freely.
I'm naturally slim and flat. Before I lost weight due to the final stages of puberty, I always wanted to be skinny. And now that I actually am, I'm just called flat. You can never win. Women and girls are always told to be thin, but also somehow have a large bust and rear. Its so hard to win.
Its really funny to me that everyone wants so desperately to have big boobs. Meanwhile in my head I always percieved myself as being flat chested or small but dissociated from the never ending growing size of my boobs. I stopped wearing real bras at 19 and so i never was conscious of my real "size". In my late 20s I got off mirena and my breasts grew like 3 cup sizes in 4 months and that was truly the last straw for me. I got top surgery this February. Went from a 30F to the equivalent of a 30A. I've never been happier. I may no longer be someone elses image of beauty and desirability but GOD doing this for ME was so worth it. I wasn't able to work out, I felt terrible in all my clothes. I couldn't wear fashion I liked without people oggling me. I had constant neck pain. I hope they never grow back.
I love this video so much. Women are being pressured into doing these kinds of invasive surgeries while men don't. People might say men are compensating on small size (of you know what) but they don't have to get surgery because no one is going to see it except for whoever they go to bed with. And I love Clara, the first girl you showed, cause she does body positivity posts on her IG even though she gets a ton of comments saying she's so flat. She's beautiful
As a girl coming from an I cup, having a breast reduction to a D cup, I'm so jealous of girls with small breasts! Mine grew back to a bigger cup and I'm considering a second reduction because they are so heavy and they don't look nice in clothes. Everything looks sexy.. So please be happy with what you have
Please don't call girls with small breasts cute, we are not children. Imagine coming here to brag about how sexy you look. You are not helping at all..
As a guy watching this video (and a ton of your other awesome content), I'm glad the times are somewhat changing. My girlfriend isn't so well-endowed as others in her family or friends, but I'm glad it doesn't bother her, nor do I think twice about it. The slùt shaming has to stop, forreal.
i'm watching this as someone who has considered getting a breast reduction bc growing up i would kill to be "flat", most models are flat and can wear so many dresses without worrying about bra situations
I am someone who has very uneven breasts. It makes it difficult to wear some clothes and I struggle to wear bathing suits because of it. It began to happen when I hit puberty, didn't think much of it. Middle school rolled around, wore really baggy clothes to hide it. Freshman year of highschool, simple padding or a push-up bra wasn't fixing anything. My mom took me to a plastic surgeon to speak about it and I was given the option of getting plastic surgery after I turned 17. We talked about the different "implant" options, and I felt most comfortable with a fat transfer. I am still debating wether or not I want to actually get plastic surgery done, and if I do it will only be on one of my boobs. I'm not doing it for other people, I'm not doing it for any sexual reasons. None of that shit. I just want to feel comfortable in my own body. I want to be able to look at my body in the mirror and not see myself as "misshapen". If me getting plastic surgery to even-out my chest makes me happy, then I'll get it. If not, then I'll grow to embrace my uneven chest and not feel ashamed of it. You can have big or small breasts, it doesn't matter. As long as you're comfortable and happy. Remember that :)
I was bullied for small chest and seriously considered an augmentation as a young teen, but later I just stopped caring about it all that much, and after than I simply rationalized why having small chest is better so well that I simply can't go back. I want to share my rationalizations with fellow flat girls to maybe help you a bit: - It's a creep repellent, I am way less s**ualized, less likely to attract corn-addicted men with unrealistic body and "fun time" standards. - Can go braless pretty much my whole life. I can't imagine having to wear that thing all the time. And buying them as often as other underwear, or even half as often. - Can sleep on my stomach no problem - No back pain - Look skinnier - Look younger - Won't sag when I get old - Easy to find clothes With all those PRO's augmentation will never make sense to me anymore. Right now if anyone says those comments about me, I genuinely think "Bad manners AND bad taste? Tragic." and not even think about it again.
I'm naturally curvy, and as a teen, it hasn't been a good experience. I always felt super self conscious about it, you can't run without feeling nasty (literally doing anything physically challenging is feels so ick), it's super awkward when you try on clothing because most shirts aren't really made for curvy girls, and it's super annoying to always have back pain. And I honestly don't feel comfortable going outside without wearing a hoodie because of my curves (but I've never wanted to surgically alter myself, I just feel uncomfie bc most girls my age aren't so curvy). Not to mention the fact that t-shirts always fit really weirdly.... Girls, moral of the story is: the grass is usually not as green on the other side as you think it is. Be yourself, no matter how uncomfortable, you are you. You are not defined by a trend!
A toxic thought I often tell myself is that it’s going to be hard to find a partner that likes my mosquito bites. I also tell myself that I should at least work on getting a booty by exercising to compensate for that. If anyone else feels like me, we need to reevaluate our values because we are so much more than our appearance. 💜 stay strong my flat girlies
I have had literally NOTHING for boobs and have had plenty of male attention and boyfriends… I even had a boyfriend that didn’t want me to get a boob job!! And I’m a 34 AA. So don’t even worry about it girlfriend!! My mom got a boob job and she regrets it… Jesus Loves you!
ive been yearning for a boob job for yrs and yrs but i rlly wanna make it right and with a good chunk of money.. but rn w 23 ive been living paycheck to paycheck, having debts and still figuring out lots of adult life, so gotta prioritize especially my financial upstanding, i see that
For me I've always been insecure about the saggy-ness of mine and I got especially more-so when I worked up the courage to ask my childhood pediatrician if it was normal for them to look like this and her response was so awful I hated that lady. I just hate how if your boobs aren't "picture perfect" you get mentally damaged in all kinds of ways
I’m a flat chested girl and I have a non cancerous breast lump (fibroadenoma), that I tried to remove surgically TWO times and it still came back every time. Got my first surgery at 19, I’m 23 now. The doctor told me I should probably get surgery again but I think it’s ridiculous at this point. And yeah a doctor once commented that I don’t really have boobs but have a fibroadenoma somehow. Yikes. But I definitely won’t get a boob job because 1) I probably can’t with my history of fibroadenomas and 2) I don’t want to ever go through a breast related surgery again. The last time I did a research (a lot of googling) I read that we don’t really know why they appear and what could make them go away other than surgical removal. But I do have some other health issues so I’m currently trying to just get healthier in general while keeping an eye on this ~situation~
Hey girl, I have one of those little assholes in my right boob as well. It also likes to hurt before my period, so double win /s. Anyway, I've considered removing it at various points but I'm also lazy with non-urgent medical stuff, so yeah.
It’s kind of interesting because I have C cup and I wear sports bras and flattening bras to call less attention to my chest. As an athlete I have wished my boobs weren’t as big sometimes 😅
Something about this video was so healing. I developed 'chesticles' at quite a young age that led to my brain building a false sense of self through the validation of men. Then I spent many years hiding myself, which created the body dysmorphia I live with even today. I wish there were more voices in my youth that told me to love myself as I was and create a strong foundation to live the rest of my life confidently. I appreciate that at least now I am able to heal and hear the voices that do do that
When I was a teenager I thought that someday I would have breast surgery and go up a size or two. As the years went by and I had friends with large breasts and I saw the problems that this entailed: back pain, discomfort, fear of wearing cleavage because of the looks, etc. In the end I did the hardest and cheapest thing: accept my body. No matter what size you are, you are fine as you are. PS: it's okay if you had the surgery and I hope you accept yourself and are happy.
I'm personally extremely insecure about my chest, but it's not just that. If I was taller, I'd be fine with being flat, and vice versa, if my boobs were bigger, I'd be fine being as short as I am. What makes me so insecure is that I'm almost 22 but I still look 13, it's mortifying to think other people might assume my boyfriend is a p*do when he takes me out on dates because I appear to be underage, even though I'm not
I just wish we all be nice to each other regardless of chest size. I think now people just hate boobs, in general. I have natural bigger boobs, but do I feel attractive with them? No. Cloths manufactures make things that are best for B or C cup. It's hard to find cloth that don't make me look like a grandmother, feeding mother or sex worker. In real life, I've only heard men say that they prefer smaller chests (I've heard not once men say that they prefer when they can fit a whole boob in their one palm). In MY opinion, men like to only look at big boobs, not to have a girlfriend with them. And my shoulders and back hurt. And if I dare complain about my struggles, people mock me. In this world we live in, there are only cons to have any boobs. That's why I just wish that every woman to be happy.
As a B cup- no, clothing is not good for me either. If it fits the boobs then it doesn't fit the shoulders/waist etc. It might be because my frame is small but trust me clothing hates anyone that isn't the "average" body type I'm convinced clothing just also hates women in general I've mostly heard guys say they want bigger boobed girls. Maybe it's a regional thing but where I live I was constantly flat shamed or compared to a child
@@HazZzel- but ig we shouldn't date guys who like you jus cuz of your body. Such guys are jus lusty, they don't know a thing about love. It's all about lust for them
@@blairxxxxxxxx real. Honestly glad for my chest sometimes because most of those kind of guys don't go after me. Man, I want a guy that loves me but also wants me. Or a girl. Hope I find someone soon 😭
@@HazZzel- yep. You will find for sure!..Someone who loves your face, body, personality and most importantly loves your heart over everything else. My way of looking for such guys is talking to only those who appreciate your kindness and beauty, not jus body. There are good people too. And we jus want one to ourselves so we can find him/her for sure.
oooh a video about flat chests and girls with bigger boobs are here to belittling our problems and make it "we have it worse" again like it is some kind of competition. i hate that
for real, most of these other comments are from girls with bigger boobs and are talking about their problems, but if you see a video about having big boobs, the most i see from the flat-chested girls will be along the lines of 'i wish'. its the same thing with videos about fat shaming vs skinny shaming, smaller girls apparently arent supposed to have problems and talk about them. the double standard drives me crazy
A lot of smaller breasted women are saying things like ‘the most beautiful women in the world have smaller chests’ and ‘there’s a reason why all of the top models have small chests’ and ‘small chests are so elegant and sophisticated.’ Women with larger breasts are often called wh*res, sl*ts, cheap, and easy simply for having boobs irregardless of their actual behavior and level of modesty. To see a bunch of smaller chested women say the same thing they’ve been told all of their lives by men, medium chested women, and small chested women is obviously going to hurt. You can’t say ‘sympathize with my issue’ and then inadvertently insult the other party. It’s ignorant.
@@bambi9609 victim mentality at its finest. I have never, ever seen ANY woman with small breast saying "there is a reason why all of the top models have small chest" because guess what? Most of them are NOT small chested. What is wrong with calling small breast elegant and sophisticated? Does it annoy you when people call big breast femine, sexy? Becuase media and most of the people has been doing that for centuries. Do women like Mila Jovovich, Mila Kunis, Natalie Portman, Emma Watson, Cameron Diaz and Kendall Jenner are not beautiful because of their small chest? Nobody is saying that they are the most beautiful because of their small chest lol.
@@bambi9609 victim mentality of its finest. Where is the insult? there is no competition of who has it worse but thanks for proving my point, lol. Nobody wants your sympathy, just leave us a pleace to breathe. ‘there’s a reason why all of the top models have small chests’, said by no woman with smaller breasts, ever. Because guess what, most of them doesnt even have small breasts? do some small chested women say that small chests are so elegant and sophisticated? Damn, how dare they? Do you have the same problem when many big breasted women and the society saying big breasts are femine, sexy, beutiful etc? The society, media, most man and A LOT of woman has been saying it for the hundreds of years. Are they saying that ‘the most beautiful women in the world have smaller chests"? Again, how dare they! Woman like Milla Jovovich, Mila Kunis, Cameron Diaz, Natalie Portman, Gal Gadot, Emma Watson, Kendall Jenner etc cant be called the "most beautiful" woman of the world because they lack big breasts, which is the biggest symbol of feminity and female beauty. Maybe a lot of woman doesn't see brests a standart of beauty, thats all. It may shock you, but women with smaller breasts are often called wh*res, sl*ts, cheap, and easy simply for being woman irregardless of their actual behavior and level of modesty too, but you probably wont belive me, since only big breasted woman can be assaulted, catcalled, right? Small breasted or flat woman can go naked and uh, nothing would happen? Are the even woman? Many of your and other big breasted woman here very muc give "ugly woman dont get s-e-ually harassed" energy, which is disgusting. I beg you to have no symphaty with me. Tho i doubt that you even have it to begin with. To see a bunch of smaller chested women say the same thing they’ve been told all of their lives by men, medium chested women, and small chested women is obviously going to hurt? What does that even mean?
What I really don't like about beauty standards is that it's shrowded in shame. I hope one day we can let go of beauty standards and acknowlege beauty without shame
What's always been frustrating to me is that, as a girl who was naturally on the opposite side of this issue by nature, I have a different set of insecurities and frustrations that stem from it. It just constantly feels like there is no winning. No matter the size, no one should ever feel like it's acceptable to comment on your breasts freely. I know as a woman on the larger side, I don't deal with the commentary, but I deal with being constantly annoyed with clothing and feeling ugly and/or out of place. A shirt doesn't fit right because it isn't made for my size boobs, so I have to go up a size, and then the rest of the shirt no longer fits, and I feel fat for having to go up a size, and the cycle of insecurity continues. I often found myself in my early adulthood wanting a breast reduction so I could feel "normal". I reiterate my original point, but it just feels like no one can win.
i really hate how trends for women are placing emphasis on the body a lot of times. our bodies should not be treated like fast fashion and expected to change along with the standard.
I've actually been thinking about getting implants for a long time. I'm not a flat chest girlie, but I have a mild case of tuberous breasts. It is my biggest insecurity and I don't think I could ever love myself with it. Everytime I look at them I cry. It's honestly depressing.
I grew up with very large breasts from a super young age (first in my school to develop, went from flat to D cup in 5th grade). At 18 I had my breasts removed for medical reasons. It's been just under a decade and I still feel like a part of the way I see myself has been taken, but breast implants scare the shit out of me so I guess I'm living with it now.
Thank you so much Zoey ❤ as a 14 year old girl struggling with this wondering why my boobs will not grow while I see mature girls in my grade has done a number on the way I feel about my chest. So thank you for making us girlies feel not alone ❤
This may sound stupid but I had insecurities about my chest when I was like nine years old and I had the dream to make me a boob job when I turned 18 but after time passed I started to love my chest, my flat chest, and I will not change it for anything
I have a pretty big chest 14/16DD - I’ve also lost a lot of weight, and now they’re saggy, I wouldn’t *never* consider surgery. There’s too many risks and negative heath effects. Saggy boobs is where I’ll be, thank you.
the sag happened to me too. i used to be very thin(maybe too thin) with small but perky tatas, then i had an insane weight gain during covid and suddenly i had curves and pretty bigger boobs, then i lost almost all the weight after sickness and now i'm back to small breasts, i'm not as slim as before and more healthy weight than i started out as, but somehow the boobs got smaller than they used to be, and they are like saggy sloppy little crêpes now🥲having saggy ones in my 20s felt kinda like there was something wrong with me. but i'm glad the hubby doesn't mind though or else i might have been more insecure about it. and these videos help. i'm way too scared to have any kinda big invasive surgeries
Im considered flat chested. Im almost 27 and my entire life ive been made fun of for it. In middle school I was bullied so bad I started stuffing my bra . Then they saw because some of the tissue slipped out under a white shirt in was wearing and bullied me more. Ive considered surgery but i cant because i have bad cystic tissue built up . Luckily im no longer interested in getting surgery of any kind . Its not worth the sacrifice
I had implants for 3.5 years. Wanted them for a decade because of social standards. After around 6mo I started developing an array of side effects like bloating, digestive issues, inflammation in my chest and face etc. Not to mention they changed my entire body and didn’t fit my slim frame at all, which after coming off the high of finally getting what I thought I wanted, made me super self conscious and uncomfortable with myself. Taking them out was the best decision ever. Haven’t looked back since
A person who grew up with a big chest and who’s still a teen, it’s very uncomfortable for me to wear tight t-shirt because boys would always stare and I had to do p.e in sweaters and hoodies (still do) I cried so many times over how I couldn’t find a normal swimsuit, it’s not worth it.
It's scary what's been coming out recently about breast implant illness (sidenote it is not yet considered an official diagnosis) but alone the rates of autoimmune disorders that correlate with breast implants is worrying, of course we don't know 100% if they're related and might just be because women are already more likely to have auto immune disorders. I reckon in a few years they'll be a lot more cases of BII , unfortunately like most women's health problems they aren't taken seriously or in many cases believed
When I was young I thought my boobs were normal, but all my friends had smaller ones, so everyone made fun of my boobs. It doesn't matter how you look, people will make fun of you anyways, so the only opinion that matters about your body is your own.
This is coming from someone who was wearing bras in 1st grade. I was jealous of those with no chest because I stood out. I got weird looks, comments, etc. It honestly doesn’t matter what size your chest is, people will make you feel like crap. However, that doesn’t matter. Please try to accept yourself so you can be confident with yourself! You deserve it hon
Funny, having large breasts just led me to be sexualised by grown men at a younger age and I ended up idolising flat chested women. At school it wasn't an issue, but I went to a girl's school and we didn't really compare or care about our cup sizes among ourselves. As an adult I've made peace with my body type, though I still want a reduction for health purposes (small back, large pain).
What do you think makes someone feminine?🤍
Chromosomes, hormones, genitals. Everything else is just social constructs.
@@jjklvr_br yup lol. having a p*ssy
a certain kind of grace who comes from the person...and you have it
tbh i NEVER understood neither the boob job mania nor the bbl hype. I personally LIKE it when the boobs medium or smaller. Even if your totally flat like in that videos at the beginning it's totally fine for me. There is even a fetish name "dfc" - delicious flat chest - if you are into small to very small cup sizes. Same goes for ass.
But both are of course just my personal preferences. Of course there ARE also men who have a preference of large boobs or large butts.
But heres the thing: Why do you care? Why do you try to switch from being the type of some men to being the type of OTHER men?!
If he is not physically attracted to you, the other guy maybe is.
If you are slim and have a flat ass or a flat chest - embrace it and be happy about it! Of course you may not be attreactive to some men, but NOONE is attractive to ALL men! Yesterday a friend told me he doesn't like Zendayas looks. So.... do you think she should have plastic surgery because of his opinion?! ;-)
the way they talk, walk or simply the way they react to stuff in my opinion. you help a lot of people -including me- realize how beautiful they are, you are like a big sister i neved had
I feel like we can't win either way... Nice boobs and you get called sl*t, less boobs and suddenly you're not feminine.
That's the whole point. For them to make profits from our insecurities. And the worst thing is, female breasts are STILL taboo to exist in society (unless they're sex objects). If more women would go out shirtless more women would follow, we would see each other's breasts and realize their shape is NORMAL. Now, we only view breasts through porn and celebrities. Breast augmentation is one of the most profitable surgeries worldwide. This needs to change, our bodies are not sexual objects.
What the heck in the judging femininity using a single, unimportant, and, in fact, neutral trait
@ville__Are you trying to immitate the behaviour you got from your parents onto others?
@ville__you care enough to go to the comment section of every video and try to rage bait kiddo 😂
Why do you call big boobs "nice boobs"? Small boobs are as good
growing up is realising your health was always more valuable than your appearance :')
And then taking steps to improve your health and watching your appearence improve as a side effect
This quote is set as my phone wallpaper. I hate the way I look and it always reminds me how pretty I am without beauty standards and procedures.
@@e_llie4life aww yes
@@hayley8907 absolutely!
I got mine augmented and I haven’t had any negative effects since
Honestly? I’m a big boob girly and my experience was still horrible. I also used to slouch to hide them, was called a sl*t and a wh*re. When I was A CHILD (literally 11 years old) people would look at my boobs instead of my face while talking to me. My family members would make comments about my breast and would make me really uncomfortable. Plus my back hurts all the time. It doesn’t matter if your boobs are big or small, society still finds the way to make you feel like sh*t. So you can just stop worrying and caring about it, cause there always will be a person who doesn’t like how you look. It’s not worth the risk in my opinion.
Same. And for me it grew so fast it left a ton of BRIGHT RED stretch marks on my boobs. I was ten at the time.
The color faded over time, but the texture is still there. I had people asking "Oh did you c*t your boobs as a form of selfh*rm??"
No, i didn't. It's just the way I am. And i would rather be flatter that the earth than have another bus ride turn into a free corn show.
That’s so sad, I’m sorry you went through that
That's really sad and I'm sorry, but to be completely polite...this video is about the problems flatter girls face. I'm glad you feel comfortable to share, but please don't undermine the problems smaller boobed girls face
Girl same.
YES OMG as a big chested girly (32H) i think ppl need to learn to love themselves as they are. i have scoliosis (since im tall) and with the weight of big boobs there is some serious pain i deal with. i also constantly get objectified, by guys but surprise here, MOSTLY GIRLS. i was a C in fifth grade and since then ive been getting unwanted attention from so many people, no matter what i wear since even baggy tshirts can only hide so much. the cons outweigh the pros in so many ways. im not saying ppl shouldnt get boob jobs if thats rly what they want to do, but to think that will be the solution for an insecurity i think is inaccurate.
It's sad how much the world pressures girls to change.
It's mostly other girls, men dgaf.
Obsessed with a prepubescent girls boobs is starting to crawl into my mind and it's gross to realize it...
@ville__ the 303people who liked her comment
@ville__ sure she did
@ville__every girl and women cares.
Seeing adult men constantly sneaking looks at my 14yo daughter’s naturally large boobs, as they walked past, was repulsive. I also have naturally big boobs and remember the looks and comments I got, when I was younger. It made me feel ashamed of my body. I hope my (now 20yo) daughter doesn’t feel that way.
As a 17 year old with a large chest; I want that reduction
@@IfYouAreReadingThisILYI’ve heard if you have a baby, they get bigger, then shrink smaller than how they originally were after breastfeeding. So hoping for this outcome as an almost 18 yr old😭 maybe you won’t need one if you ever have a kid
Lol my b00bs are not even big and I used to have the same experience.. I can imagine how worse it was for you. This makes me furious
@@anonim5750 the thing is that I am underage and often feel intimidated by those men. I am not trying to seduce them, I am literally just existing and an old guy will be staring. It's creepy
the chemicals like BPA used in cheap baby bottles and other plastic containers is what is causing early puberty and issues with hormonal change, while genetics play a part, its also bpa chemicals
It's so annoying. As a woman you are expected to be skinny. At the same time you are expected to have big boobs and a big booty.
yeah! cant have them at the same time
And no one want to talk about big boobs turns into large spaniel ears after breast feeding 🙄
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Well it's the natural function of estrogen to have a curvy body while having a slim waist and body however it's true that modern trends are making standards very artificially curvy.
@@daughteroffamouscaptain120😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 WHAT
I was also very self conscious about my two cherries and considered surgery. When i did my research and read all the stories of women who experienced all sorts of side effects, i decided my cherries are beautiful and healthy and if i need to put my life at risk to get a man, i'd rather stay flat chested and single, thank you very much. Love your flat chests ladies! Remember, most top models and some of the most beautiful actresses also have modest bossoms!
Right?? And they were considered the most beautiful women in the world in the 90s. I feel like everything would be different if we weren't bombarded with 'beauty standards' and other people's opinions on how we should look. I think if that wasn't a thing, women and girls would be more realistic when it comes to their bodies, meaning - they might not like a thing or two but they would be more acceptive of their own looks and would actually feel good and not insecure. PS. I'm glad you've put your insecurities behind you! :)
Yeah I listened to Haley Kalil's journey and she eventually had her implants removed but she got some fat transfer done to get the desired cherries. Alexandra Girly Talk also had her implants removed because she already had a good size and the implants were causing illness as was the case with Haley and Natalie's Outlet who also hers removed.
i have natural g cups - yes, G. and theyre a curse - i wish i was flat - theyre so uncomfortable (especially in the summer), my back is gone (im young, mind you, my back should be functioning) none of my clothes sit properly on me, (the front of a shirt will always ride up, or they push fabric in a way that makes my arms look weird for some reason) also cute bras dont exist for me. you think looks trump comfort until you have to spend more than 2 hours in a bra and then youre screaming towards comfort. so the only bras i can wear are these extra support ugly and atrociously expensive monstrosities (they literally look like bomb vests) to strap myself in - otherwise my posture looks like a cashew. i cant go anywhere without a bra either, and to reiterate - it is so bloody hard to find clothes that fit me (im a medium in everything but my boobs, and im petite on top of that so the struggle to find things is REAL). - bathing suits, HA, as if, i will never have a one-piece bathing suit that properly fits me unless i get it handmaid or tailored - i cant lie on my stomache - sometimes im just tryna breathe and the effort to lift my damn chest with every breath is exhausting
ive legit had days where i wanted to rip them off
if only to have the freedom of small boobs
i yearn to breathe and stomache-sleep with ease
@@nopenerp6862 I have natural F cups an all of this feels so real, I find myeslf crying a lot of times for the hell that I have to overcome to find clothes that suit me and actually look good. It's imposible, shirts just look like I am under an umbrella and things that have any kind of neckline just don't fit.
Also, even though most girls think is the opposite, clothes are made for really small chest, more than a C would not fit in most clothes and I'm tired of hearing people say "this would look really good on me if I had yours breasts". I get mad and told them that I will prove them wrong and then I put the top/dress/whatever and they start seeing the problem.
Thinking in exercising make me anxious because I have to choose between not breathing or not doing exercise (I found swimming really nice because of the lack of gravity but finding a swimsuit is really hard and may produce a lot of anxiety and discomfort). Also I have a lot of chafings under my breasts.
I have developed agoraphobia because I live in a small village where there's a lot of dirty old men that have commented on my body and say really pederastic things to me since I was 11. After I started to use a D cup (at 15 years old), that went worse and I just couldn't go out using an XL sweater that covered my body. I live in Europe and this shouldn't be happening.
I have developed a lot of trauma with my chest and it's really horrible, I don't feel pretty, I feel horrible, with horrible bras, horrible skin in the chest. I just want to get them out but that's a really difficult surgery. It's expensive, the recovery is so long, it really hurts, there are big scars and you will probably be unable to brestfeed your children or have sensitivity in the nipples anymore. So it's a big thing, but I'm just tired of being like this.
When you get older your breast's will probably also get bigger especially around late twenties I'd say atleast wait till then to decide because doing it early could make you not get them naturally like you could've had before. I don't know many flat chested 30 year old women
As a 16 year old, recently in school, I had some random boy in my class just comment and joke about how flat my chest was. Just out of nowhere, for no reason. I didn't know him that well, we'd talked a couple times in the past and joked about, but that was it. He just felt the need to comment on my body, for whatever reason. It genuinely sickens me when men will just say completely unnecessary, out of pocket things about women's bodies. Especially when they're commenting on a literal child's chest
Can tell the school you're being sexually harassed. He learned that from somewhere too. Need to find the root
If someone ever says that again, especially a man, you have the right to make a comment about their height or d*ck size. That will shut them up real quick. Depending on the person, sometimes just directly saying, “who said you had the right to judge my body?” Is enough. Other times you gotta insult them back.
Thats sexual harassement and you need to take it to the directives.I am glad you are looking at positive information to not fall in the trap to think there is something wrong with you. Small boobs are more normal than we think and are natural and alright.
@@angiec.7315 he didnt touched or did whatever happens in SA , i mean cant we even talk about surroundings , and yeah i do not support if he is directly saying to that girl , but he can say to his friend guven that the girl dosent listens. girlss too judge men on their heights so it goes both ways.
@@aspirer_ansh_"some women" You can't just make jokes abt a teenage girls body
In ancient India, it was not considered vulgar for women to go topless. This practice was influenced by the climate, local customs, and societal norms of modesty and propriety, which evolved over time.Many Hindu deities, including goddesses, are depicted in minimal clothing or topless in ancient temple carvings and sculptures, symbolizing purity, fertility, and divinity. This indicates a cultural acceptance of such depictions.The hot and humid climate in many parts of India made minimal clothing practical and comfortable. This practicality influenced the norms of dress.The perception of nudity and body display as vulgar largely came with the advent of British colonial rule in the 19th century, which imposed Victorian moral standards on Indian society. Before this, Indian norms were quite different.
This brought back memories of historically accurate fashion coloring books I enjoyed as a child. I always found that so cool.
A small correction here. The shift in the norms of dress started with the Sultans and the Mughals.
Get your facts right. To your kind information only women of so called "low castes " were forbidden from covering their upper part of body, they had to pay tax to cover their body so ridiculous and here you are glorifying it so ridiculous. Women had to fight for their right that were always their. Many died in those protest just so that they could save their dignity. If you don't know both sides of the history then study don't blindly those complete biased one sided article and videos online just focusing on good part and neglecting the evil side. blindly saying that our culture was and is best and need no reforms but reality is that every culture , religion or just ideologies need some reforms to be best.
@@iamaplant-5572 yaa thanks
hmm , so you mean that wearing cloths on upper body is a britain gift, and you want to change it , .. really excited to see topless girls in world . and yeah dont call me pervert or start abusing my family , i am just stating my point👍👍
I feel sad that so many women feel embarrassed about being flat chested when I think they look so feminine in a sleek and sophisticated way, especially with flowy clothing. Actually, most of the clothing that I like look the best on people with flatter chests!
Same! Sleek is the word I always use because they look so elegant and gorgeous. Like glass art, just so well shaped and they carry the clothes so well. Of course, there's still clothes that kind of "require" chest volume to hold the shape up, but there's plenty that work for flatter chests nowadays. I truly envy them. Own your flat chest!
@ville__ well you care enough to reply on every comment there is…?
Quite backhanded buddy, some women have naturally larger chest
Nothing about this comment was backhanded. They’re only expressing how they personally view flatter chests to look nice in certain styles.
@@SeriSeri0807 How? And no shi
It's funny how, on one side, girls are shamed when they are flat, but also, if they have bigger boobs. As a girl/woman, you're always on the losing side with your natural traits because if you are content with the way you look, not much money can be extorted from you🤷♀️
I'm a guy with body dysmorphia around my height, and while I had empathy for women's body image issues before seeing this, I'm glad to have a deeper understanding from reading all these comments. It's like some women feel like they have to constantly strike the right balance of weight, boob size, makeup, etc. for it to be "just right". And men need be one extreme as much as possible - big. Tall with big muscles and a strong jawline.
Yess it's all about money
@@MachFiveFalconI bet you have nothing going on in your life
@@ernestkhalimov748 bro, come on. What's that about?
@@happychestnut9314 Do you?, be honest
As a woman with naturally big boobies, it isn't always nice. They hurt, and when I was younger people would call me sl** or wh*re because they were naturally that way.
One way or another we as woman can't win
very true. i feel really insecure about it honestly. i think i look ugly and awkward.
I experienced the same thing😢 I would also slouch to hide it and my back hurts all the time😭
All I’ve ever wanted was having my breast reduced but that surgery is even more expensive, and equally dangerous. Plus most doctors refuse to do it if you have not given birth.
@ville__ why are replying that to everything
@@tehejuliannetehe its rage bait, I'm not giving him attention
As a guy, I’m so sorry for all of the women that get harassed by other people because of their breast size. I wish you all a great day.
Thanks man, we appreciate ya.
You dropped this, 👑
@@Beyond1904 aww ty ^^
@@Shonarina also ik that short story in ur name and its epic
cogito ergo sum
It’s not your fault ❤ your so sweet though thank you
“You will only ever be as beautiful as the standard you choose to set” is so beautiful and inspiring
When I was in middle school i would get bullied for being in 8th grade and still having a flat chest. I'm 16 now ab to be a senior in high school and still flat asf. It's been hard to accept myself, but looking up to women who are confident with the same body as me, makes me feel better
better to not listen to them i'd rather stay flat or get sick, health first
Hello, I’m 20. Still have a small chest. But over time you realize about what really matters in life and what doesn’t. If anything I’ve learned to embrace what I have. I’ve heard many horror stories from my big chested friends such as back pain and terrible fits of jiggling when they workout. But I don’t gotta worry about none of that. Fitting into any shirt is also a plus. Sleeping face down is another. Embrace what you have. ❤
too much eating meat, eh
Girl models are also small chested. And i think flat chested girls are rlly sleek and beautiful. Like so ethereal. Free from bras, no pain while jumping or running, no back pain, and clothes fit uu. Don't be insecure. Love your itty bitty titties 😝
We flat-chested girls are enough. We don't need to worry about running, or flashing anyone. I think it's a blessing.
Exactly! I hate both of those things, especially when puberty first hit. Trust me, we are so jealous of flat/small-chested girls because you have so much freedom. I love how many small chested girls have that sleek model look! We'll always feel bad about how we look until we recognize that most of us feel the same: never enough.
@@Airia16we get free padding when we lay down tho lol. I’d consider that the only plus of having big boobs😂
and then there's us with mid sized that's too small for a cup bra and too big to go bra less
I suffered from my flatness for several years but now I love my body, I love my tiny little boobies and from wearing a push up bra I don't wear any bra at all. Small boobs are pretty cute!!!
But running still hurts and Flashing is still possible if you don't wear turtleneck
The natural body is prettier than plastic surgery
yet there are scarcely any celebrity or model who has natural body
@@sir.sleepsalot2711ya got Zendaya and Ariana Grande 😊
yup
Absolutely! Nothing is as bad as a plastic body.
Depends. Celebrities go overboard with it so yeah but if a normal person with a receding chin will get it fixed they’re most likely going to look more attractive. Plastic surgery is okay as long as you want to change one/two things about yourself to fit the rest of your face/ your body but if you want to look like a completely different person then it’s wrong and you need to see a therapist.
as a flat person dammmmn i care literally 0% what people think about it
and yes i'm fine with it, i like sleeping on my stomach so it's pretty comfy xD no back pain i guess, less sweating and free from bras if u wish
anyhow, women have to decide for themselves what fits them more, not the delusional society that changes trends daily
I’m so glad that you’re happy the way you are! So many of the clothes that I love look amazing and sleek on people with flat chests!
@ville__ Apparently you do? You left more than one comment in the replies. But anyways, here's that attention you wanted.
sounds like a dream 😭*cries in back pain, sweating & bomb-vest-lookin-ass-bras-that-cost-a-mortgage*
@ville__who cares
what fits women more is the breasts they were naturally born with, which are healthy and perform the functions they were designed to. no one needs a boob job.
My biggest issue with being flat chested is that I have to alter ALL my clothes. I got over how my chest looks and could not care what others think of me. That stopped bothering me a long time ago. But man the damn clothes. They never fit me properly.
The clothing industry is discriminating against anybody who is not standard shape. However that is a problem they are creating. We should not alter ourselves to fit clothes. The clothing industry needs to change (in more ways than this). Quality clothes and shoes made to fit actual humans should be the norm. Not cheap cookie cutter plastic clothes made by people who earn next to nothing only to make some disgustingly rich man even richer. Keep your perfect body. Change the clothes.
i have to do the same thing except i’m a 32H 😭 like the other comment says, if ur not the standard it’s a bit brutal out here
Bro me too
as a 34G - i feel you 😭
I've bigger ahem cherries for my waist size and for some reason I find it so hard to find bras and clothes that aren't too tight on my cherries and not too loose on the waist and mind you I don't have like extraordinary big cherries. I've to alter all my clothes too.
“ compromising women’s health for male sexual pleasure” such an unreasonable statement to ponder on
That's so many things. Makeup (chemicals), eating disorders, pregnancy and stds, sooooo many things that make women's physical health worse. not to mention mental health. we sacrifice our mental health trying to meet these impossible, crazy double-standards -- we have to care about our appearances, but not too much or we're shallow and vapid. we have to be sexually appealing and available but only in theory -- If we are actually openly sexual we're sluts. we are responsible for our own safety and if we get in a bad situation or are exploited it's our fault, but also we are supposed to give men the benefit of the doubt and not generalize them???
As someone who's smaller in size but with full breasts-which draw even more unwanted attention-I always fantasise about being flat-chested due to the sexualization I've experienced since I hit puberty. People of all genders feel comfortable commenting on my chest, which is super awkward, especially because I'm trying to hide them most of the time (I even wear binders sometimes). All of this is to say I always find it quite strange when people get boob jobs because, for me, bigger boobs equal discomfort and body dysmorphia. I guess we're never happy, huh!?
i dont like standing straight cause it feels like i want to draw attention to my chest cause theyre quite big. one of the reasons im usually slouching...
True, I like tight clothing, it’s cute and all when you see it on other people but as soon as I wear I hate how it looks on me. It’s real shitty and fact I see so much girls with smaller breast that look amazing wearing them, it makes me jealous tbh
@@diejaykaynz3r078 same
You can always lose weight or get a reduction
while i understand the opposing perspective, it is very frustrating seeing TONS of comments saying ‘i don’t get it’ from people with large chests.
breasts are literally the pinnacle of feminine beauty. when you grow up with media showing you only medium/large breasts as attractive or beautiful, it starts to take a toll on you when you’re small chested. i have nearly no projection of my chest, and feel awful and unfeminine. it also really sucks if you don’t have wide hips or aren’t curvy. being compared to a boy sucks. and no, not all clothes fit us. i tried wearing a tubeless top in the smallest size from pacsun and it still didn’t fit me. it made me realize my boobs are smaller than what they are.
granted i believe i suffer from body dysmorphia, as i literally cannot go a day without being insecure over my size and body shape. body positivity and loving yourself the way it is seems like a chore and a joke. i feel absolutely ugly in my own body. i would take (more) back pain if it meant i could have bigger breasts.
It’s bad faith to conflate your worth as an individual with your femininity or attractiveness, it’s true that society values women based on how beautiful they are, but it’s also true that the societies we live in are corrupt, cruel and unjust. Just because having bigger boobs might be pushed by society as being more desirable, doesn’t mean that you will automatically be better off or happier if you did have them. Regardless, women are treated terribly. And even the privileges that come with fitting in the societal standard aren’t real privileges, they come with exploitative expectations and objectification. Life becomes so much freer when you realize that you are so much more than what you look like. Don’t let society pressure you into believing different.
I agree and really relate to your comment, feel hugged!
I think its the hips
Literally most of clothes don’t suit me because they have empty space for breasts.
I don't see any comments saying they don't get it. I do see lots of comments by people with large breasts explaining that large breasts have a lot of problems too not to dismiss small breasts as not a trial but to explain, because she's talking about the fact she's considered plastic surgery. I'm sorry you feel bad about your body.
I am curvy (wide hips and naturally bigger chest) and I never understood why smaller boobs or flat chest were considered unattractive or not feminine. Having or not having big breasts has nothing to do with being feminine or beautiful. I actually have some shirts in my closet that would fit so much better and look better on me if my breasts were smaller. It's all a matter of perspective; mine is - you all look freaking amazing.
I had the same thoughts!
Ur saying this as the beauty standard 💀💀💀
Everyone wants what they don’t have
@@kroxxroad814 the appeal of the breasts is canceled out by the shrimp-posture they give me
@kroxxroad814 no girl it depends where you are
It's really sad how we're made to feel unattractive just cause we're flat. Or even if we aren't "totally flat", we don't have "big enough" boobs to be considered beautiful and desirable. Boys and girls have made me feel so bad about this subject. I just wish we can someday appreciate diversity and embrace different body types. The world is a very cruel place for women right now.
also the «shame» and «guilt» of being the only flatchested in the family! I'm so sorry for my younger self, worried about those banal things and destroying my mental health in the process. I'm still learning, I have bad and good days, but well, I don't want to cry silently for hours again. I want to accept that being healthy is the only thing I should worry about, and not those beauty standars.
Thanks for making this video. Send you a hug
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I’m an older teenager and as flat as a board- and I’m fine with that. Sport has allowed me to embrace it; I can exercise without pain or discomfort, and I love every minute of it.
heya whats ur age, when did u get ur periods and hit puberty as imma still waiting for mine @ForGlove8 pls reply
@FoxGlove8
@@fantasticartcraftworld7362For girls, puberty hits around 12-14, but it can also start as early as 10 or late as 16. That includes period. If youre over 17 and never had your period, I recommend going to the doctor.
Food for thought- Large breast implants can and DO reduce quality of the CPR you receive!!! Correct hand placement/ automated compression machine placement on the chest is made soooo hard by implants that don’t fall to the side like natural tissue.
I’m flat chested and never wear push up bras anymore. I’ve learned to embrace it.
That’s good!!! 👍 😊, keep doing you!! 🎉🎉🎉
God bless you pure heart matter💛💛💛💛
I'm an aide in MRI and we often get women below the age of 60 coming in to see if their horrendous symptoms are yet again another rupture. Like, these women feel like they are dying. It is so upsetting to see how many women are getting this done.
totally understand being flat I'm a 32 A, and being flat is one of my biggest insecurities
I had the same thing 😔 I spent $8k on a pair of silicone implants...now, I obsess over other insecurities
Same! 70AA. Can't find any underwear anywhere. Smallest is 75B. Even if I had double my size that shit would still be way too large
I am also a 32A and it's very hard to find bras and dresses that fit my small chest... it made me want to get implants even a size up to B cup just to be able to buy bras lol
@@milkbread5036 your body will never be the same with implants. I went from 32B the D with silicone implants. They look nice but they don't feel natural and I can't do push ups or lay on my stomach comfortably ever again
@@milkbread5036there’s a brand called Pepper and they specifically make bras for smaller chested girlies from like double A to B I think give them a try ☺️
The thing that sucks, if you dont have big boobs youre not feminine but god forbid youre an early bloomer and get harrased and bullied over that. There is no way to win.
i've fallen down rabbit holes into fat transfer, augmentation, etc. But then when I hear about the complications (fat necrosis, issues with mammograms, etc) I decide that it is way better not to fuck with your body medically if you don't have to. and the thought of silicone ruptures, needing more surgeries to upkeep, etc. (not to mention the cost) always ends with me realizing that it is way healthier--mentally, physically, and financially--to just be happy with what you've got lol
@UTTP-142 you don't have any content
Many of these beauty standards are perpetuated and upheld by women themselves rather than just over-sexualised media. My chest is on the smaller side and I have never felt extremely insecure about it. But there are moments that make me more insecure sometimes.
Like there's a girl in my class with very desirable curves and she was making comments about models that we were watching practicing for runway ,(it was fashion week and I'm a fashion design student) ridiculing models with flat chests or small chests, and being thankful for her puberty as she doesn't look like a "teen boy". That moment made me question what she must think of me as well but I don't let such people affect me now.
never made such a long comment anywhere 😭 but yea just wanted to share lol
next time u should ask her if she thinks youre a "teen boy" i bet u her face would be priceless from realizing how dumb she sounds.
Well yeah what I observe was that those masspower-champs of females actually imposed the majority of societal 'norms' (not really common sense nor anything making sense) because they're eachothers' pleaser regardless of gender. Not even having authentic 'standards' derived from their own thoughts let alone minimally subjective/more objective ones. Lol, most of nowadays society are made of dramaphiles and pickmes anyway.
Her comment comes from jealousy that she feels towards models because they get attention and money from their looks. That makes her feel less worthy so she tries to compliment her own features that she has that the models don’t.
My dad had a saying regarding breasts "anything bigger than a handful is a waist" granted it is meant to be said aloud because people will assume you're saying waste and are an itty bitty titty supremacist, but I digress. When I actually thought to ask him to explain what he meant he told me that no matter the size of the breasts on a woman they will always be a handful each, and no matter the size of a woman's waist it will always be two handfuls (as in put a hand on either side of her waist). Basically his way of saying be thankful for any handfuls a woman allows you to hold and don't get hung up on size.
I hope this was at least somewhat coherent, to any ladies with small boobs reading this I hope my small anecdote in some way made you love your boobs (I know I do) even just a little.
That’s actually a pretty cool perspective. Wise man your dad is, and obviously knows how to appreciate women. Gives me an interesting insight for viewing my own body and smaller boobs now. Thanks for sharing 💗
I liked this. I don’t have much of a waist and I have a large chest so I feel like everything is in proportion…so a straight up and down😂 but I love your dad’s saying…helps with body issues😊
Thank you for making this video. As a flat-chested woman I appreciate seeing other women that look like me on social media. I don’t even talk about my insecurities anymore cos they end up being minimized or brushed off. So I felt seen watching this. Yay acknowledgement!!
I’ve come to learn that as long as we’re women, our physical appearance will be judged in some way because men (ofc not all) have an obsession with putting women down and women (ofc not all) feel the need to lower other women too. If you haven’t received this treatment yet, just live long enough… they judge women for aging too 🙃
As a person with a medium sized chest I can def say that society has definitely influenced on how I look at them. When I wore closed shirts I've been called conservative, and when I've worn tight shirts or even a tank top I've been called sl**y and asking for it. I don't think it's fair how society puts these pressures on women who are just trying to live life.
And I think it's so sad how underaged girls going through puberty feel sad about their bodies when every body is different and beautiful.
I struggled for a long time to finally accept myself. I had it ingrained in my mind that I am flat-chested, since I was at school. Since school, and even though I have changed physically I have distorted image of myself! This should not be the time when someone worries if they look sexy or not :( I am glad that there are youtubers like you zoe!! genuinelly makes me feel like I am not alone. Social media gaslights us to think that it is weird to be imperfect. Let us embrace ourselves!
This topic really hits home for me. While I’ve learned to find femininity in other aspects of myself, the insecurity still creeps back every now and then. It is hard to watch society place so much value on something as simple as breasts and not internalize it.
Let's be real this is crazy how normalized it became to do a chest implant. And im proud of myself that as a flat girl, i feel comfortable in society. Though ngl sometimes i had thoughts of how small they are. But then i think: it's so comfortable when they are small that i dont think of them at all.
Once i met a guy that looked at chest like i have big ones and i realized that size doesn't matter 🙂
At the end of the day, with the real person you will be loved no matter how you look!
Plastic surgery in general has been so normalised??? Its crazy to me. Breast implants, bbls, all kinds of fillers, it seems like every second girl i see on social media has had her lips/chest/butt/ face in general surgically altered and im??? Speechless. How did that become so acceptable. Im all for plastic surgery if someone truly wants it but i do think we should ne a bit more critical about it, as in, maybe evaluate first what makes you dislike your body and why, and perhaps reconsider if its worth surgery, which is always invasive.
Finally a woman is talking about all this, we need more women who think that way. All women, since we were little, have felt pressured to comply with stereotypes That society imposes on us. We always try to fit into those standards and feel bad for not fitting in. But the truth is, it has taken me years to realize that we are perfect the way we are, And if we don't love each other as we are, who will? The change begins when we begin to love ourselves deeply, there is nothing wrong with not fitting those stereotypes, we are all beautiful.
So, please, do not mistreat your body, do not harm it, do not hate yourself, you are divine and unique ✨
Thank u so much @zoeunlimited for this video ❤
The reply above me is retarded
The right partner says whatever you have is what they want.
I’m a young girl. I wont specifically be disclosing my age, but im at the time in my life where many girls start breast development. For me, there’s nothing. Ive been told Im flat and ugly so many times before. The worst part is, my mom had a b00b job, so whenever I share many struggles and she tells me my body is beautiful i can’t believe her. Because, well, she altered her OWN body for that exact reason.
Hiiii, I‘m an adult now (24) and I want to tell you to give yourself really the time to develop mentally and physically until you reach your mid twenties if you ever decide to make major changes. I‘m not you parent and the one to say no, but from my experiences I can tell you, maybe your mom talks from concerns? She knows how it feels to have these same thoughts and having to undergo these major changes plus to care afterwards. I understand your frustration, but growing up has different stages, developments and circumstances. I have small boobies too, turns out having bigger boobs is not so cool (I have a bestie who struggles with having a big chest). I encourage to have or make many female friends and to talk about all the femine things (no taboo topics really, you all should build (a healthy and protective) space for each other to talk about everything. From what I read, I assume you’re a teenager, so I want to give you a positive outlook. You’ll change, the people who are mean will change and grow up. People are different from each other. The ones calling you ugly, have their own insecurities… maturing takes time. I hope my words somehow cheer you up, being around your age is sooo ghettoooo I know (it’s the same for every generation). I hope you’ll become an awesome adult who overcomes her own struggles! To become resilient and staying a loving girl/woman is who I wish you to be in my age! Love yaaa! 🥹🥹❤️❤️
I heard a lot of these insults as a kid, especially from my adult family members. Such lovely people.
Keira Knightley, Shakira, and Kate Moss always made me feel better about my small boobs.
this video really hit, especially when you talked about how you would go back and tell your younger self that she really is beautiful. being flat-chested has never been easy, and I love how you tackled the issue of the perception of beauty and it's standards. in the end, you're right. we should all choose to set our own standards. thanks for making me feel seen, heard, and accepted. much love.
All the younger folks out there, I’m over 30 and am quite flat-chested still, but I love it. It took a while to get there, but I’m also thankful I received no negative unsolicited comments growing up. Having a certain bra size doesn’t determine what type of person you are. It sucks that it feels like you can’t win in life whether your boobs are too big or too small. Screw people whose minds are socialized to expect a perfect size and comment/project onto you when you differ.
I love your videos. There so informative and you always speak about important topics, while letting everyone Livingstone their live.
the only consequence of me not loving my shape as a high schooler was years that I spent not confident in myself and who i was. she also deserves to feel beautiful.
Filters scar me so much because it’s one thing to see someone else with a body you want but to see YOURSELF with a body you don’t have is even more harmful to your own sense of self and reality!
This video helped me realize that sexual attraction to breasts is absolutely reinforced and perpetuated by societal norma
This world really needs more people and not just girls who don't succumb to the pressure of selling their bodies for even a shrivel of pointless outside-validation and instead grow in silence where very fewer people can take advantage of them and will be blown away by what one person can do when they stop pleasing society and instead honor themselves.
Once I asked MYSELF if I really want surgery and realized I was actually doing it for other people I feel relieved
Thank you so much from a 36 year old flat chesticled woman. I too suffered when I was 16, how I wish I could have a talk with my younger self
Its a never ending cycle of wanting what you don’t have even subconsciously… as a person with too much boob i’d love to be flat as a pancake, and from discussions with similar sized friends the consensus is the same we just want them gone, but i also have friends who have none and wish they did. Its a lose lose for the majority. the girlies just can never catch a break.
Henry vi wasn’t Queen Elizabeth the firsts father, that was king Henry viii 5:24
9:56 the one thing that Botched taught me was to get your cosmetic procedures done in the USA (t&c applied) coz Columbia, Brazil and Turkey are more hit or miss. ~ my understanding of what doctor Nassif and Dubrow said
It is so fascinating how insecurities work, some girls WANT big assets while the girls who has them wants them gone for fashion and comfort (me and my friends all-) we crave for what we dont have
For every 1 insecurity you have, there are at least 5 beautiful things. Take a moment to be proud of your body and everything it does for you! 🥰
I literally just bought some padded bras because I'm insecure about my chest 😭😭
Ask anyone who has had the pleasure of seeing them about how beautiful they are 😊 my husband always tells me how he appreciates the girls no matter how I feel about them
I was you a few years ago. Bought A to D bras because I was insecure. I also ended up getting implants and then removing them 3.5 years later. I can only tell you 1 thing. Love yourself. I know it’s cliche but it’s the best solution. Find outfits that make you feel good with your natural size, try different styles maybe. Smaller chests can look very elegant and sophisticated in the right clothes
@@joonjiguk yea I am trying to find my own style
youre more than ur breast. see ur value pls
and boys also have insoles for height , dont be sad, after all its only hearts that matters🤷♂🤷♂👍👍
Thank you so much for making this video, Im so glad someone is finally talking about this and how there are more risks to consider. It's hard to know whether you want to change how you look because it makes you "feel better" or if you are truly just doing it for approval. YOURE VIDEOS ARE THE BEST
I can absolutely relate to your experience, and I’m sorry you’ve felt so badly about something you can’t control! You are so beautiful exactly how you are
The foot binding comparison honestly hits so hard, I think it’s a great analogy. The more the long term effects of implants is known, the more people are realizing the “mutilation” reality of putting a synthetic substance in their body 🙁 I’m all for self expression through appearance, I have plenty of tattoos, but this seems next level and limits your ability to move and play freely.
I'm naturally slim and flat. Before I lost weight due to the final stages of puberty, I always wanted to be skinny. And now that I actually am, I'm just called flat. You can never win. Women and girls are always told to be thin, but also somehow have a large bust and rear. Its so hard to win.
Its really funny to me that everyone wants so desperately to have big boobs. Meanwhile in my head I always percieved myself as being flat chested or small but dissociated from the never ending growing size of my boobs. I stopped wearing real bras at 19 and so i never was conscious of my real "size". In my late 20s I got off mirena and my breasts grew like 3 cup sizes in 4 months and that was truly the last straw for me. I got top surgery this February. Went from a 30F to the equivalent of a 30A. I've never been happier. I may no longer be someone elses image of beauty and desirability but GOD doing this for ME was so worth it. I wasn't able to work out, I felt terrible in all my clothes. I couldn't wear fashion I liked without people oggling me. I had constant neck pain. I hope they never grow back.
Was it expensive?
people want things they cant have. i mean even small breasted girls think its "funny" that you would want smaller boobs.
I love this video so much. Women are being pressured into doing these kinds of invasive surgeries while men don't. People might say men are compensating on small size (of you know what) but they don't have to get surgery because no one is going to see it except for whoever they go to bed with. And I love Clara, the first girl you showed, cause she does body positivity posts on her IG even though she gets a ton of comments saying she's so flat. She's beautiful
As a girl coming from an I cup, having a breast reduction to a D cup, I'm so jealous of girls with small breasts! Mine grew back to a bigger cup and I'm considering a second reduction because they are so heavy and they don't look nice in clothes. Everything looks sexy.. So please be happy with what you have
Please don't call girls with small breasts cute, we are not children. Imagine coming here to brag about how sexy you look. You are not helping at all..
As a guy watching this video (and a ton of your other awesome content), I'm glad the times are somewhat changing. My girlfriend isn't so well-endowed as others in her family or friends, but I'm glad it doesn't bother her, nor do I think twice about it. The slùt shaming has to stop, forreal.
i'm watching this as someone who has considered getting a breast reduction bc growing up i would kill to be "flat", most models are flat and can wear so many dresses without worrying about bra situations
I am someone who has very uneven breasts. It makes it difficult to wear some clothes and I struggle to wear bathing suits because of it. It began to happen when I hit puberty, didn't think much of it. Middle school rolled around, wore really baggy clothes to hide it. Freshman year of highschool, simple padding or a push-up bra wasn't fixing anything. My mom took me to a plastic surgeon to speak about it and I was given the option of getting plastic surgery after I turned 17. We talked about the different "implant" options, and I felt most comfortable with a fat transfer.
I am still debating wether or not I want to actually get plastic surgery done, and if I do it will only be on one of my boobs. I'm not doing it for other people, I'm not doing it for any sexual reasons. None of that shit. I just want to feel comfortable in my own body. I want to be able to look at my body in the mirror and not see myself as "misshapen".
If me getting plastic surgery to even-out my chest makes me happy, then I'll get it. If not, then I'll grow to embrace my uneven chest and not feel ashamed of it.
You can have big or small breasts, it doesn't matter. As long as you're comfortable and happy.
Remember that :)
I was bullied for small chest and seriously considered an augmentation as a young teen, but later I just stopped caring about it all that much, and after than I simply rationalized why having small chest is better so well that I simply can't go back. I want to share my rationalizations with fellow flat girls to maybe help you a bit:
- It's a creep repellent, I am way less s**ualized, less likely to attract corn-addicted men with unrealistic body and "fun time" standards.
- Can go braless pretty much my whole life. I can't imagine having to wear that thing all the time. And buying them as often as other underwear, or even half as often.
- Can sleep on my stomach no problem
- No back pain
- Look skinnier
- Look younger
- Won't sag when I get old
- Easy to find clothes
With all those PRO's augmentation will never make sense to me anymore. Right now if anyone says those comments about me, I genuinely think "Bad manners AND bad taste? Tragic." and not even think about it again.
I'm naturally curvy, and as a teen, it hasn't been a good experience. I always felt super self conscious about it, you can't run without feeling nasty (literally doing anything physically challenging is feels so ick), it's super awkward when you try on clothing because most shirts aren't really made for curvy girls, and it's super annoying to always have back pain. And I honestly don't feel comfortable going outside without wearing a hoodie because of my curves (but I've never wanted to surgically alter myself, I just feel uncomfie bc most girls my age aren't so curvy).
Not to mention the fact that t-shirts always fit really weirdly....
Girls, moral of the story is: the grass is usually not as green on the other side as you think it is. Be yourself, no matter how uncomfortable, you are you. You are not defined by a trend!
A toxic thought I often tell myself is that it’s going to be hard to find a partner that likes my mosquito bites. I also tell myself that I should at least work on getting a booty by exercising to compensate for that. If anyone else feels like me, we need to reevaluate our values because we are so much more than our appearance. 💜 stay strong my flat girlies
I have had literally NOTHING for boobs and have had plenty of male attention and boyfriends… I even had a boyfriend that didn’t want me to get a boob job!! And I’m a 34 AA. So don’t even worry about it girlfriend!! My mom got a boob job and she regrets it… Jesus Loves you!
ive been yearning for a boob job for yrs and yrs but i rlly wanna make it right and with a good chunk of money.. but rn w 23 ive been living paycheck to paycheck, having debts and still figuring out lots of adult life, so gotta prioritize especially my financial upstanding, i see that
For me I've always been insecure about the saggy-ness of mine and I got especially more-so when I worked up the courage to ask my childhood pediatrician if it was normal for them to look like this and her response was so awful I hated that lady. I just hate how if your boobs aren't "picture perfect" you get mentally damaged in all kinds of ways
I’m a flat chested girl and I have a non cancerous breast lump (fibroadenoma), that I tried to remove surgically TWO times and it still came back every time. Got my first surgery at 19, I’m 23 now. The doctor told me I should probably get surgery again but I think it’s ridiculous at this point. And yeah a doctor once commented that I don’t really have boobs but have a fibroadenoma somehow. Yikes. But I definitely won’t get a boob job because 1) I probably can’t with my history of fibroadenomas and 2) I don’t want to ever go through a breast related surgery again.
The last time I did a research (a lot of googling) I read that we don’t really know why they appear and what could make them go away other than surgical removal. But I do have some other health issues so I’m currently trying to just get healthier in general while keeping an eye on this ~situation~
I wish you never have to do this again, and now it only will be better from now on. 😘
Hey girl, I have one of those little assholes in my right boob as well. It also likes to hurt before my period, so double win /s. Anyway, I've considered removing it at various points but I'm also lazy with non-urgent medical stuff, so yeah.
@@believe.receive Oh it sucks, they do just shrink by themselves sometimes so I hope that could be the case for both of us some day
It’s kind of interesting because I have C cup and I wear sports bras and flattening bras to call less attention to my chest. As an athlete I have wished my boobs weren’t as big sometimes 😅
@ville__ LOL okay you’re rude 😂😂😂
I feel your pain too 😢
As a DDD, I see someone with anything more than a C and think, their poor back! Big boobs aren't worth the back pain, honestly! 😂
@ville__ Anyone who has to deal with said back pain, obviously! 🙄
Something about this video was so healing. I developed 'chesticles' at quite a young age that led to my brain building a false sense of self through the validation of men. Then I spent many years hiding myself, which created the body dysmorphia I live with even today. I wish there were more voices in my youth that told me to love myself as I was and create a strong foundation to live the rest of my life confidently. I appreciate that at least now I am able to heal and hear the voices that do do that
When I was a teenager I thought that someday I would have breast surgery and go up a size or two. As the years went by and I had friends with large breasts and I saw the problems that this entailed: back pain, discomfort, fear of wearing cleavage because of the looks, etc. In the end I did the hardest and cheapest thing: accept my body. No matter what size you are, you are fine as you are.
PS: it's okay if you had the surgery and I hope you accept yourself and are happy.
I'm personally extremely insecure about my chest, but it's not just that. If I was taller, I'd be fine with being flat, and vice versa, if my boobs were bigger, I'd be fine being as short as I am. What makes me so insecure is that I'm almost 22 but I still look 13, it's mortifying to think other people might assume my boyfriend is a p*do when he takes me out on dates because I appear to be underage, even though I'm not
I just wish we all be nice to each other regardless of chest size.
I think now people just hate boobs, in general.
I have natural bigger boobs, but do I feel attractive with them? No. Cloths manufactures make things that are best for B or C cup. It's hard to find cloth that don't make me look like a grandmother, feeding mother or sex worker. In real life, I've only heard men say that they prefer smaller chests (I've heard not once men say that they prefer when they can fit a whole boob in their one palm). In MY opinion, men like to only look at big boobs, not to have a girlfriend with them. And my shoulders and back hurt.
And if I dare complain about my struggles, people mock me.
In this world we live in, there are only cons to have any boobs. That's why I just wish that every woman to be happy.
As a B cup- no, clothing is not good for me either. If it fits the boobs then it doesn't fit the shoulders/waist etc. It might be because my frame is small but trust me clothing hates anyone that isn't the "average" body type
I'm convinced clothing just also hates women in general
I've mostly heard guys say they want bigger boobed girls. Maybe it's a regional thing but where I live I was constantly flat shamed or compared to a child
@@HazZzel- but ig we shouldn't date guys who like you jus cuz of your body. Such guys are jus lusty, they don't know a thing about love. It's all about lust for them
@@blairxxxxxxxx real. Honestly glad for my chest sometimes because most of those kind of guys don't go after me.
Man, I want a guy that loves me but also wants me. Or a girl. Hope I find someone soon 😭
@@HazZzel- yep. You will find for sure!..Someone who loves your face, body, personality and most importantly loves your heart over everything else. My way of looking for such guys is talking to only those who appreciate your kindness and beauty, not jus body. There are good people too. And we jus want one to ourselves so we can find him/her for sure.
I’m 15 and have always been very self conscious of my lack of “development” this video made me feel much better I love your content so much ❤❤❤
oooh a video about flat chests and girls with bigger boobs are here to belittling our problems and make it "we have it worse" again like it is some kind of competition. i hate that
right, same here
for real, most of these other comments are from girls with bigger boobs and are talking about their problems, but if you see a video about having big boobs, the most i see from the flat-chested girls will be along the lines of 'i wish'. its the same thing with videos about fat shaming vs skinny shaming, smaller girls apparently arent supposed to have problems and talk about them. the double standard drives me crazy
A lot of smaller breasted women are saying things like ‘the most beautiful women in the world have smaller chests’ and ‘there’s a reason why all of the top models have small chests’ and ‘small chests are so elegant and sophisticated.’
Women with larger breasts are often called wh*res, sl*ts, cheap, and easy simply for having boobs irregardless of their actual behavior and level of modesty. To see a bunch of smaller chested women say the same thing they’ve been told all of their lives by men, medium chested women, and small chested women is obviously going to hurt.
You can’t say ‘sympathize with my issue’ and then inadvertently insult the other party. It’s ignorant.
@@bambi9609 victim mentality at its finest. I have never, ever seen ANY woman with small breast saying "there is a reason why all of the top models have small chest" because guess what? Most of them are NOT small chested. What is wrong with calling small breast elegant and sophisticated? Does it annoy you when people call big breast femine, sexy? Becuase media and most of the people has been doing that for centuries. Do women like Mila Jovovich, Mila Kunis, Natalie Portman, Emma Watson, Cameron Diaz and Kendall Jenner are not beautiful because of their small chest? Nobody is saying that they are the most beautiful because of their small chest lol.
@@bambi9609 victim mentality of its finest. Where is the insult? there is no competition of who has it worse but thanks for proving my point, lol. Nobody wants your sympathy, just leave us a pleace to breathe. ‘there’s a reason why all of the top models have small chests’, said by no woman with smaller breasts, ever. Because guess what, most of them doesnt even have small breasts? do some small chested women say that small chests are so elegant and sophisticated? Damn, how dare they? Do you have the same problem when many big breasted women and the society saying big breasts are femine, sexy, beutiful etc? The society, media, most man and A LOT of woman has been saying it for the hundreds of years. Are they saying that ‘the most beautiful women in the world have smaller chests"? Again, how dare they! Woman like Milla Jovovich, Mila Kunis, Cameron Diaz, Natalie Portman, Gal Gadot, Emma Watson, Kendall Jenner etc cant be called the "most beautiful" woman of the world because they lack big breasts, which is the biggest symbol of feminity and female beauty. Maybe a lot of woman doesn't see brests a standart of beauty, thats all.
It may shock you, but women with smaller breasts are often called wh*res, sl*ts, cheap, and easy simply for being woman irregardless of their actual behavior and level of modesty too, but you probably wont belive me, since only big breasted woman can be assaulted, catcalled, right? Small breasted or flat woman can go naked and uh, nothing would happen? Are the even woman? Many of your and other big breasted woman here very muc give "ugly woman dont get s-e-ually harassed" energy, which is disgusting. I beg you to have no symphaty with me. Tho i doubt that you even have it to begin with.
To see a bunch of smaller chested women say the same thing they’ve been told all of their lives by men, medium chested women, and small chested women is obviously going to hurt? What does that even mean?
What I really don't like about beauty standards is that it's shrowded in shame. I hope one day we can let go of beauty standards and acknowlege beauty without shame
What's always been frustrating to me is that, as a girl who was naturally on the opposite side of this issue by nature, I have a different set of insecurities and frustrations that stem from it. It just constantly feels like there is no winning. No matter the size, no one should ever feel like it's acceptable to comment on your breasts freely. I know as a woman on the larger side, I don't deal with the commentary, but I deal with being constantly annoyed with clothing and feeling ugly and/or out of place. A shirt doesn't fit right because it isn't made for my size boobs, so I have to go up a size, and then the rest of the shirt no longer fits, and I feel fat for having to go up a size, and the cycle of insecurity continues. I often found myself in my early adulthood wanting a breast reduction so I could feel "normal". I reiterate my original point, but it just feels like no one can win.
i really hate how trends for women are placing emphasis on the body a lot of times. our bodies should not be treated like fast fashion and expected to change along with the standard.
I've actually been thinking about getting implants for a long time. I'm not a flat chest girlie, but I have a mild case of tuberous breasts. It is my biggest insecurity and I don't think I could ever love myself with it. Everytime I look at them I cry. It's honestly depressing.
Oh shit me too it sucks so bad
I grew up with very large breasts from a super young age (first in my school to develop, went from flat to D cup in 5th grade). At 18 I had my breasts removed for medical reasons. It's been just under a decade and I still feel like a part of the way I see myself has been taken, but breast implants scare the shit out of me so I guess I'm living with it now.
big boobs or not im sure youre still beautiful. You put your health first and thats all that matters
Just a small note, Elizabeth I is not Henry vi daughter, her father is Henry viii. Really enjoyed the video tho!
Ahhhh my b! Brain cells not braincelling
@@zoeunlimited hehe me most of the time. Love your content, thank you for creating videos I enjoy ❤️
Thank you so much Zoey ❤ as a 14 year old girl struggling with this wondering why my boobs will not grow while I see mature girls in my grade has done a number on the way I feel about my chest. So thank you for making us girlies feel not alone ❤
This may sound stupid but I had insecurities about my chest when I was like nine years old and I had the dream to make me a boob job when I turned 18 but after time passed I started to love my chest, my flat chest, and I will not change it for anything
I have a pretty big chest 14/16DD - I’ve also lost a lot of weight, and now they’re saggy, I wouldn’t *never* consider surgery. There’s too many risks and negative heath effects.
Saggy boobs is where I’ll be, thank you.
the sag happened to me too. i used to be very thin(maybe too thin) with small but perky tatas, then i had an insane weight gain during covid and suddenly i had curves and pretty bigger boobs, then i lost almost all the weight after sickness and now i'm back to small breasts, i'm not as slim as before and more healthy weight than i started out as, but somehow the boobs got smaller than they used to be, and they are like saggy sloppy little crêpes now🥲having saggy ones in my 20s felt kinda like there was something wrong with me. but i'm glad the hubby doesn't mind though or else i might have been more insecure about it. and these videos help. i'm way too scared to have any kinda big invasive surgeries
Im considered flat chested. Im almost 27 and my entire life ive been made fun of for it. In middle school I was bullied so bad I started stuffing my bra . Then they saw because some of the tissue slipped out under a white shirt in was wearing and bullied me more. Ive considered surgery but i cant because i have bad cystic tissue built up . Luckily im no longer interested in getting surgery of any kind . Its not worth the sacrifice
I had implants for 3.5 years. Wanted them for a decade because of social standards. After around 6mo I started developing an array of side effects like bloating, digestive issues, inflammation in my chest and face etc. Not to mention they changed my entire body and didn’t fit my slim frame at all, which after coming off the high of finally getting what I thought I wanted, made me super self conscious and uncomfortable with myself. Taking them out was the best decision ever. Haven’t looked back since
A person who grew up with a big chest and who’s still a teen, it’s very uncomfortable for me to wear tight t-shirt because boys would always stare and I had to do p.e in sweaters and hoodies (still do) I cried so many times over how I couldn’t find a normal swimsuit, it’s not worth it.
You are literally a man…😭😭
It's scary what's been coming out recently about breast implant illness (sidenote it is not yet considered an official diagnosis) but alone the rates of autoimmune disorders that correlate with breast implants is worrying, of course we don't know 100% if they're related and might just be because women are already more likely to have auto immune disorders. I reckon in a few years they'll be a lot more cases of BII , unfortunately like most women's health problems they aren't taken seriously or in many cases believed
If anything is fucked up in our society you can trace it back either to the victorians, edwardians or people from the 50s
When I was young I thought my boobs were normal, but all my friends had smaller ones, so everyone made fun of my boobs. It doesn't matter how you look, people will make fun of you anyways, so the only opinion that matters about your body is your own.
This is coming from someone who was wearing bras in 1st grade. I was jealous of those with no chest because I stood out. I got weird looks, comments, etc. It honestly doesn’t matter what size your chest is, people will make you feel like crap. However, that doesn’t matter. Please try to accept yourself so you can be confident with yourself! You deserve it hon
Funny, having large breasts just led me to be sexualised by grown men at a younger age and I ended up idolising flat chested women. At school it wasn't an issue, but I went to a girl's school and we didn't really compare or care about our cup sizes among ourselves. As an adult I've made peace with my body type, though I still want a reduction for health purposes (small back, large pain).