Wow EmJ and Sam, this was so lovely, transparent, and real. Sam, thank you for your vulnerability. "A person just thinking I was a bad human." "...and the diagnosis filling in the gaps." "Creating a more autistic friendly way to living." Yes! Controlled stimulation; yes, that is what I need too, but never thought of using that term. Yes, let's all take a step back and remember, "I don't need to do that." And people not understanding is really hard. I appreciated how you both emphasized that the ADHD and Autism can be at war at times. Negative default passageways... yes, plasticity enables us to create new competing networks... let's all support one another toward that end. Thanks so much EmJ and Sam, I am commenting as I watch and will stop now so I don't keep writing and writing (I am only 9 minutes in!).🧡💛🧡
Aww, this is such a lovely conversation to listen in to, and there's certainly lots here I can relate to. Thank you both for sharing and allowing yourselves to be vulnerable. This is such a great concept, EmJ - looking forward to seeing more! 🧡
I really enjoyed this video EmJ, i could relate to so many of the things you both talked about in the video. Well done and thank you to you both for an excellent video. 🎅🙋♂️
This was a great interview, EmJ! I'm glad you're starting this series. Most of my favorite videos are interviews and collaborations. Like Sam, my main issue is overwhelm and has been since childhood. I understood what she meant when she was talking about how, because she was late diagnosed, that she had basically set up a life that is "not autistic." I also liked her comment, "I'm not oversharing if I'm talking to the right people."
Thanks Hunter. Maybe we struggle so much with overwhelm because we weren't allowed to regulate our feelings properly as children. We were maybe only taught to regulate the emotions we were allowed to have. Teaching a child to "shut down" their emotions doesn't calm them down, it numbs them. If we don't sit with our feeling and try to process them then we don't learn to regulate them and grow to be overwhelmed adults because we try so hard to avoid these feelings. Do you think there might be truth to that?
@@zebranothorse-EmJ Oh, I agree totally, and that was my childhood experience. I was taught to think that my feelings weren't valid, so I repressed them, leading to them adding up inside, resulting in overwhelm. Never a good thing. And I was always rushed to process feelings quickly, when it usually takes autistic people more time to process things than most people.
Sorry guys I don't know why the intro is soooo slow. Stupid editing on my part. And I look like a light bulb... Gosh 😎🥴
Wow EmJ and Sam, this was so lovely, transparent, and real. Sam, thank you for your vulnerability.
"A person just thinking I was a bad human." "...and the diagnosis filling in the gaps." "Creating a more autistic friendly way to living." Yes!
Controlled stimulation; yes, that is what I need too, but never thought of using that term. Yes, let's all take a step back and remember, "I don't need to do that." And people not understanding is really hard.
I appreciated how you both emphasized that the ADHD and Autism can be at war at times.
Negative default passageways... yes, plasticity enables us to create new competing networks... let's all support one another toward that end.
Thanks so much EmJ and Sam, I am commenting as I watch and will stop now so I don't keep writing and writing (I am only 9 minutes in!).🧡💛🧡
Great point about 'controlled stimulation'.
Aww, this is such a lovely conversation to listen in to, and there's certainly lots here I can relate to. Thank you both for sharing and allowing yourselves to be vulnerable. This is such a great concept, EmJ - looking forward to seeing more! 🧡
Thanks Lizzie. I look forward to recording more in the new year.
Thank you, EmJ and Sam. 🥰 I found your conversation comforting and validating.
Glad you clicked on and thank you for leaving a comment. I really enjoyed doing this with Sam and she seems some really good relatable nuggets.
I really enjoyed this video EmJ, i could relate to so many of the things you both talked about in the video. Well done and thank you to you both for an excellent video. 🎅🙋♂️
@@jamesnock5572 thank you for watching. Glad it was relatable.
This was a great interview, EmJ! I'm glad you're starting this series. Most of my favorite videos are interviews and collaborations. Like Sam, my main issue is overwhelm and has been since childhood. I understood what she meant when she was talking about how, because she was late diagnosed, that she had basically set up a life that is "not autistic." I also liked her comment, "I'm not oversharing if I'm talking to the right people."
Thanks Hunter. Maybe we struggle so much with overwhelm because we weren't allowed to regulate our feelings properly as children. We were maybe only taught to regulate the emotions we were allowed to have.
Teaching a child to "shut down" their emotions doesn't calm them down, it numbs them.
If we don't sit with our feeling and try to process them then we don't learn to regulate them and grow to be overwhelmed adults because we try so hard to avoid these feelings. Do you think there might be truth to that?
@@zebranothorse-EmJ Oh, I agree totally, and that was my childhood experience. I was taught to think that my feelings weren't valid, so I repressed them, leading to them adding up inside, resulting in overwhelm. Never a good thing. And I was always rushed to process feelings quickly, when it usually takes autistic people more time to process things than most people.
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