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I feel like good manners are wasted on a lot of people these days, you can hold doors open for people and they just walk through and dont say thank you, ive stepped in to the gutter to allow mothers with push chairs through on the pavement.no thank you. Even my own father would just shove me out of the way instead of saying excuse me! I took him to task on it i said you expect to be treated with respect and dignity but you never recipricate it. He just glared at me. The woman on the supermarket check out scowling at me and being friendly to other customers!! Even though i am polite to her? She said you cant take that shopping basket outside!! I said i have no intention of taking it outside! Why would i be walking down the street with a shopping basket. I mean what the hell was she going on about. If you cant be respectful then keep it zipped🤐🙋‍♂️

Agreed, my channel is small as an AuDHD creator but I'm trying desperately to focus more on being authentic and myself than a super edited version of me just to get views. I enjoy videos like yours and I'd rather feel like I'm sitting down to have a conversation with someone than watching a flashy soundbite.

For me a lot some of my stims were and are self harming. That's the caveat i would add. I am a skin picker and hair puller (as well as a leg shaker and finger tapper). I have many memories of siting in the school secretary's office with a finger in hot salt water as i would anxiosly pick at my cuticles causing nasty infections. I also pulled out all my eyebrows and they've never grown back ( thank goodness for mcroblading and makeup!). Not sure whether these stims should be encouraged. Be interesting to see what the advice is on this...maybe gently redirecting the hands/focus to another self soothing activity...

Your channel is so unique in the autism community - Christian Autism is so rare!! I value your content so much more because of it so please never underestimate how God is using you to help others. You are so lovely and relatable. Thank you for all you do and please keep going ❤

I admit that my favourite RUclips videos right now are of autistic people being open and authentic. This was a really good example of that. Thank you. And, having grown up with horses, I love the zebra metaphore you created so, so much. It is spot on as an analogy.🎉

Stay authentic, EmJ-- it's your best version, and it's the version that helps the rest of us the most. Thank you for being committed to being genuine. We need that. And yes, you and the rest of us are valuable because we are children of God!

I totally relate to this EmJ!❤the outfit. Love it! Wear it somewhere. Thank you for mentioning how God plays into it also! Yes, we are a child of God. But with people it's difficult. We try too hard to impress others. How about we not?😂

Hi EmJ! I like you, just the way you are! That is a lovely jumper, by the way. Let's keep encouraging one another to be our authentic selves. Yes, it is so hard to hold on to our own identity when we are around others! It is just part of our autism, isn't it? I got the official diagnosis last year too, for the same reason. Amen! Forever you will be His beloved child. Holy and dearly loved. By the way, it is very bold to share videos like this with us. You go girl. I love moving, walking, dancing, running, swaying, even standing. These are my stims and I am learning to celebrate them. I think that it is part of autism to feel different and to have difficulty accepting ourselves. We are just so different, and we know it. And it hurts. And we are obsessive by nature too, so of course that is going to bleed into our RUclips experience. Let's pray for each other that we keep giving it up to God for His purposes. But also accept that we are sometimes going to get obsessive. It is authentic for an autistic person to get obsessive. Thanks for your transparency EmJ! You are joy and I am glad we are friends!

Hello dear EmJ! Thank you for bringing glory to God by sharing His Loveliness. He made us, just as we are. And I am delighted to be part of this community with you. Lord, may we discern and "tune in" to Your Voice. Yes Grace! When our conscious condemns, He is greater than our hearts! What Amazing Grace! I read this quote today, "There God always is, covering you. Not with some withering leaf, but with His everlasting Love." (Rachel King). Covered and Loved. Yes! Thank you EmJ. Keep Shining!

I'm always wary when people say that they have told me about something and that i know about something and have agreed!. I have a good memory so if they have told me i would remember because i would be ruminating on what they have asked of me right up until the day🙋‍♂️🦂

It's great when you can find a good church😊 It is hard for me to go socially but I go anyway bc I know afterwards I always am glad I went❤ And yes on lockdown....i think as autistic people we probably enjoyed it most.

Very well stated-- the wrong language can cause any autistic person to be unfairly discounted, no matter their support needs. I usually am not too strict on the use of language, but I think in this case, it is important.

I thought this would be a short, I thought anything under 3 minutes would just become a short 🤔

Great video and I relate to much of what you expressed. I just recently started a channel as well for the same reasons after receiving my diagnosis this year! I would love to connect with you!

I struggle a lot like you do when something unexpected gets thrown on my plate! I don't have any useful advice as this also has a tendency to dysregulate me, some times all the way into a meltdown. I did want to share though that I also struggle with seasonal issues and started taking a Vitamin D supplement last winter to help my brain combat it. I think it helped! I wasn't as depressed last winter as I have been in past winters.

I was very shy too and clung to my mother as a young child, until I learned she wasn't a safe person for me. I certainly didn't have that language as a child, though. I don't think of myself as shy anymore, but I do consider myself an introvert with a small handful I can happily be extroverted with. I do force myself to do social things I don't always want to do, but I usually (not always) wind up having a good time.

So how do you learn these skills?

Oh my word you have described everyday life! PS. I have changed all the light bulbs in my house to "Daylight Temperature/Spectrum." It helps enough for me to notice, though slightly. Demand initiated melt downs seem to take me longer recovery time - multiple days, not just 2 days - than even sensory overload melt downs. Which is saying a lot. Just this morning, I was thinking of no longer thinking of being "High Masking;" but, rather, "High Faking!" Feels like it sometimes! Carry on the good work!

I very much relate to you have shared. Unexpected tasks or changes to my routine can really throw me off and I am especially thrown off by unexpected company or company showing up later than I expected them to arrive. I can get overwhelmed by these things and it often takes me days to recover. I need to stick to my routines to function well and you are right about the importance of prioritizing our need for rest and recuperation after times of stress. I usually feel better on sunny days also. Those of us who live at northern latitudes can easily be affected by the shorter days of late fall and winter. I try to get as much natural light as I can during the winter months and spend at least a few hours outdoors even in the coldest weather. Some people find full-spectrum artificial lighting helpful during the season of short daylight and darker days. I hope that you that you get through the gloomy weather season ahead as well as you possibly can. Just know that you are not alone in your challenges. Thank you for your video.

I'm still that painfully shy kid and i'll be 46 next month. And i share my birthday with jeff buckley who went swimming whilst wearing heavy boots! 🙋‍♂️

Thank you EmJ! You are a brave soul. :) It has taken me a long time to tell people. I started with my immediate family and then I've worked my way outwards. LOL you've gotta a lot of views on this! It's exciting when a channel grows! I enjoy your content.

You seem like a lovely woman to me. Very easy to talk to. Then they say I'm neurodivergent. This did traumatise me at first, even though I knew I was different. Deep down I've always believed but turned my back several types because of hurtful experiences in church. Not having the connections I crave does hurt and has stopped me from attending church at times. Thank you for your encouragement and enthusiasm. You are not in the least bit intense

The whole process right from making the initial appointment is demoralising😮‍💨🙋‍♂️

Yes EmJ i dont like it at all, when your in the barbers there's always men waiting to get there hair cut sat behind you as your getting your hair cut looking in the mirror at you😬. And one barbers i used to go to his mates would come right up to the barbers chair and talk to the barber as he was cutting my hair😬 and in hairdressers salons ive had a chap cutting my hair and his hands were badly shaking !😬 also a chap who used to cut my hair would always be walking off every 2 mins when he was supposed to be cutting my hair ! Not to mention the barage of questions they fire at you 😬. I Ihavent been for 11months 🙋‍♂️

I had a water spot as a child too! It was on a neighbor's property. I would jump the fence and walk to the pond. I called it My Thinking Spot. I loved the water and the ducks. I could hide out there for what felt like hours!

I also thought I'd be able to stick to a recording schedule when I started my channel. Spoiler- I couldn't!😅

Thank you for being brave and sharing! I've struggled with knowing who is safe to disclose my diagnosis with, including close family members. It feels scary. But your video gave me hope I could do something similar! Maybe for my 1 year mark in November.

I can relate to so much of what you have said, understanding what is happening is liberating and being able to understand past events. You're so fantastic for sharing what you are experiencing and have experienced. I am not diagnosed and I am still deciding on whether I will get assessed, I probably will but right now I feel a bit overwhelmed by it all. I did tell my close friend that I was pretty sure I am autistic and her response was "no sh*t sherlock"! Hahaha! Maybe that's all the validation I need right now, but I'll see how I feel in the near future. Keep sharing! x

It's womderful to find another Autistic Christian woman here on RUclips! You are a rarity. Thank you for loving Jesus enough to not be embarrased/ashamed to proclaim your faith at the very real risk of facing condemnation and persecution. I noticed your cross necklace at first and I could see that there was something special about you that sets you apart. You have a glow and serenity about you. I'm going through your videos now from the beginning and resonate with so much. I'm 50 and was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 47 and am awaiting an autism diagnosis. I have been misdiagnosed all my life and have learnt to mask really well but at a cost to my health. I look forward to getting to know you over RUclips. Thank you for being here. God is using you to be the light and the salt in this community ❤️🤗

Yes EmJ iv'e always struggled to take in information in an academic enviroment. 🙌🙋‍♂️

I have a question how did your husband say or feel after the diagnosis.

I like food except for shrimp, but I'm not a big fan of the texture. Everything else I'm good. The one thing I do love a lot is crossaint😂😂. If I eat too many I'll have to go on a diet.

I told my bestie and her husband said of course she has Autism and ADHD it's so obvious😲😲😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂.

Love the video😻😻. I have a question since you have the diagnosis do you feel so tired every day. Since my diagnosis I've been so tired and want to sleep, and I realized that I have been masking for 54 years🤦‍♀🤦‍♀. I'm done masking.

Yes EmJ i can definately relate to using up all my spoons, like you say tasks that other people take for granted are very energy sapping for us. Another great video EmJ. You asked for future video ideas! Err autism and agoraphobia? I struggle to leave the house it takes a lot of effort, i have an autistic neighbour who has it a lot worse than me she hardly ever leaves her house😟. 🙋‍♂️

Very insightful. Is it harder for people without formal diagnosis to disclose?

Thank you for the video EmJ . Such a shame how girls and women go under the radar so much regarding diagnosis.🙌🙋‍♂️

I totally relate to your experience of wanting others to know that you are autistic. Most of the people who know me have been informed now about my autism awakening journey but it has been more of drawn out process taking over two years to tell my family and friends. Your video was a great idea and you explained your experience in the best way possible. I believe that other people who are learning about their own autism will be greatly helped by watching your sharing video. I love your wonderful attitude! God bless.

Yes EmJ im very sensitive to noise its difficult to cope with and there are so many triggers through the day and it all adds up to draining my energy, also smells are ovewhelming to me as well. Hope you are keeping well. Thank you🙌🙋‍♂️

A woman from the local council came to my house a few years ago and one of the first things she said is we are all on the spectrum! I think comments like that dilute the difficulties autistic people face everyday. Very well said EmJ.🙌🙋‍♂️

Yes iv'e had a few people say to me i have mild autism! There is nothing mild about it at all, it's so frustrating🙌🙋‍♂️

5:23 could it be semantic agnosia ?

'I'm not going to waste my time with people who are not going to waste their time with me' - good thinking!

These things all add up to drain our energy and i'ts so hard to navigate our way through it. And we need to get back in to an enviroment where we can let it out without masking any longer. Aww i really felt for you watching this🙌🙋‍♂️