Pick Up Lines & Personality | Which Lines are the Most Effective?
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- Опубликовано: 2 июл 2024
- This video answers the questions: Can I discuss the personality factors behind pick up lines? Can pick up lines indicated certain personality characteristics like extraversion, agreeableness, narcissism, psychopathy, or Machiavellianism? Which pickup lines are most effective?
Senko, C., & Fyffe, V. (2010). An Evolutionary Perspective on Effective vs. Ineffective Pick-up Lines. Journal of Social Psychology, 150(6), 648-667.
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The smirk in the thumbnail was priceless.I had to watch the rest.
I thought exactly the same, hahahah
They're all terrible. Your ability to deadpan however is awesome!
True.
@James Black That's too bad. Jane and Eve decided he was spot on.
Nah, most of them are just hilarious. We all get it.
Got this story from my niece, as she was at a pub in Ireland (this was in the late 1990ties):
Just sitting at the pub, enjoying her pint of beer, off from work and ready to party with her friends. Guy comes up:
"Nice legs. When do they open?"
She stood up, and emptied almost a pint of beer over his head. He'll never do that again 😂😂😂
It's like those that send d/(*picks. You either get really annoyed or laugh it of. Unless it's your daughter that gets that, it's not funny.
What do you mean?...
”I’ll kick myself all night if I don’t come over here and meet you”
Dear Lord If I was the woman, In this scenario, I would interpret that as (meat) MEAT YOU... I think you might rephrase your quote of “thinking this as the best pick up line”...
Of course this is my own opinion,
I may be taking the statement out of context, please advise...
instaBlaster...
"Hi I watch Dr Grande's show" - most effective pick up line.
“I’ve heard this one a number of times” - Dr Grande!! Are these pick up lines that people are using on you!!???
Maddie that's hilarious!
Haha
I wasn’t expecting this topic 👀 A fun and informative surprise ☺️ This channel just gets better and better 👌
You can even learn pick up lines from Dr. Grande
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Hahahahahahaha who knew!
The most amazing compliment I ever received from a man was when he sincerely said that he loved the sound of my laughter; not that he liked to hear me laugh so much as that he truly love the sound of it. It was the best compliment I received ever, I still remember it to this day. I liked the one with the alphabet.
iamlight -I think the alphabet line was the cutest.
The line about "what I want for Christmas" comes across as objectification. In the UK, there was once an animal welfare campaign that used the line "A dog is for life, not just for Christmas," which shows the problem of reducing the potential for a caring relationship with another being by re-interpreting it as seasonal gift acquisition.
My 2 favorite pickup lines ever used on me were:
1. Can I buy you a drink or would you just prefer the cash? (I cracked up laughing- humor is a good lead-in even if this is a tad obnoxious.)
2. I can tell you your complete birthday and what happened to you today by studying the lines on your right hand.
- Naturally I'm intrigued. So I give him my right hand. He turns it over and starts lightly tracing the lines. And then he says "Ah you're a New Year's Day baby and today you got promoted at work!" I laughed and said "Wrong and wrong!" He replied "Well I may be wrong but I'm still a winner because I just got to hold your hand for 5 minutes." Perfection personified in my opinion for a pickup line.
Lol. Goes to show how different people interpret lines differently. Both of these sound awful to me. The first is super insulting. Do I look like a prostitute to you? Do you begrudge the money? Keep your money. No thanks. The second one is creative, but has a creep factor, touching your hand. For safety I never let a stranger in an ambiguous social setting (i.e. not a work conference) take my hand. Someone can overpower you that way. In this example he brags that he essentially tricked you into letting him hold your hand. Yeah... again, no. These guys must have been really good looking for these to go over well. They’re basically saying that they see this as transactional or a matter of “winning.” No offense but neither of these guys seems like a nice respectful person.
@@esmereldapinchon1422 That's why I like these. If someone doesn't find them funny, I wouldn't be interested in pursuing them further anyway.
@@KingNast just saying they give a glimpse into the person’s psychology. Anyone on the receiving end of these lines should pay attention.
@@esmereldapinchon1422 I'm with you. I wouldn't even respond to someone who asked me if he could buy me a drink or if I'll just take the cash.
1st line is horrible, giving her cash yes that sounds soooo respectful :-/ She's probably reply to the 2nd line by letting you study her right hand after she gave you a nice slap ! How about the great classic "Did you get hurt?" "No, why?" "I'm so glad you didn't get hurt, when you fell from heaven" :-)
I'm screaming 😂😂 Dr. Grande, a.k.a. the love doctor, scientifically breaking down pick-up lines and analyzing their relationships to personality disorders. I wouldn't expect anything less from this channel.
Now, I can psychoanalyze my next romantic suitor more effectively.
Congrats on the 100k subs doc, you deserve it.
and 100k more
@@lawrence6715 900k more
True story-I once had a rude man with no couth try a crude “pick up” line with me:
Rude Man: “I want to get in your pants”.
Me: “Um, why? I already have an asshole”.
Me-1 Man-0
😃 😂
Anyways, congrats to Dr. Grande on 100k subs! You deserve it.
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Is that a ladder in your tights, or a stairway to heaven ? 🚶🏃🕺
For some reason, your scientific analysis of pick-up lines was hilarious to me!😂😂😂👍🏽👍🏽
And here we see the elusive Dr. Grande smirk... it’s a wholesome smirk, the exact opposite of a sociopathic smirk...
*saves for reference*
Dr Grande, you look amazing in that shirt. Is that boyfriend material?😉
That was really good! Did you think that up?
No, I can’t take credit for all of it. It came out in conversation with friends.
That absolutely ROCKED. ..I'm going to steal that.
also hilarious
Nice package, mind if I unwrap it?
What about “how much does a polar bear weigh? Enough to break the ice!” 😂
Oh, you win!
😂😂😂
I'm cracking up!!
I actually like this one. It doesn't make me feel objectified and it's so overused that all it says is "I'm interested in you, and I'm not sure what to say but I'm outgoing and confident enough to come talk to you anyway."
Thank you Dr. Grande.
This topic made me smile. It was good to take a break from all those "heavy" topics.
That sarcastic looking grin for the thumbnail and then your sober and calculated evaluation of different types of pickup lines and their efficacy (or awfulness!) made me laugh because I'm used to seeing guys in the PUA community talking about this trying to sound studious or academic about their "craft" ...hahaha.
Priceless! I needed a few giggles during this triple digit stretch of heat with no AC! Thank you Dr. Grande!
Whatever happened to "Hi, I'm (name), may I buy you a drink?" LOL
Right? I was kinda waiting for that one, too!
Yesss
Julie A.
Yes :) simple and polite 😎
@@astrol4b hahahahahahaha
Julie A. Bill Cosby happened.
The Santa pick-up line... 🤦🏼♀️
Santa is usually asked for toys, so if someone is asking Santa for me, that would make me feel objectified. Interesting topic! I hadn’t given much thought to pick-up lines in the context of personality, or pick-up lines in general... Thanks! Another great topic to challenge my thinking! ❤️😁
Forgive me for asking but wouldn't you like to be, or might we all like to be objectified occasionally?
(I hope my attitude doesn't land me in the dsm)
Are you very young? I could imagine wanting to feel this in my 20- 30s but not older. Interesting!
Dr grande. You're so serious, you're funny. I'd love to see you laugh. You're intriguing.
Well this was fun to watch.
I didn't even know some of these pick up lines existed. They're so bad they're funny!
The most unusual pick up line I heard was "Tell me something interesting". I didn't say anything because I felt he was the one who should be telling me something interesting, especially because he was Irish and they're great communicators... but he was highly intoxicated. It was a no go.
Hmmm. Sounds like you ran into an inebriated Irishman I once knew. Or maybe there's more than one.... 🥴
I can't believe you are giving a critique on pick up lines, more mind blowing is that you can analyse them with OCEAN. Next time a man asks me for the time I will admonish him for his Machiavellian tactics !! On the plus side I must remember the google one, seems like a winner to me;))
Congratulations dr Grande for achieving 100k subscribers! I’m studying psychology in Brazil, and I find your videos very helpful, with excellent content and clarity ! Been watching them for a long time!keep going!👍🏼
What is your Instagram?
Another favorite Dr. Grande video. It’s totally relevant always.
Dr . Grande you always seem so serious, what makes you laugh
I've never used any pickup lines, but can confirm self-confidence and sense of humor work pretty well. If somebody needs to be impressed with one liners etc, in order to make them interested, they're not that interesting to begin with. So, if I'll find myself single again, I'm going to stick to my trusty "Hi, how are you" and see if they like me and vice versa.
hi nomo sapiens im humanimal...have we met before?
sorry I just couldn't resist!!!
@@HumanimalChannel we're relatives, so don't get any funny ideas!
@@HumanimalChannel btw you're not a superconductor, are you?
@@NomoSapienss I'm scared to look...but ok give me your punch line..
Surprising video and really enjoyed it. Imagine someone delivering a chat up line like Dr. Grande? Winner in my books
Never used "pick-up" lines, intentionally. Always thought them as hokey. 😆😆Great video though!
Even better....
Yeah, I was always more concerned (in my head) about what was going to be left unsaid ( my words or their's) upon a first meeting. That, to me was embarrassing enough, and needless to say, having a corny one line opener to mess it up more. I never did anything like the "bar scene" though.
Right? Probably having a normal conversation is a high enough bar these days.... 🥴
Wasn't this information needed: Much obliged, Todd! :D
Smirk in the thumbnail says it all, haha.
I was drawn by that too..lol
Well this is an interesting video, I never thought this was a thing that people studied. I was in the military being one of three women in a battalion so I blew a lot of them off. However I meant my husband over 20 years ago online. We never showed our faces just our cars IE I'm a car person. He had a nice clean straight car you can tell alot about people but how they maintain and keep their cars. We had talked for 3 years online and I had never seen this face. He drove 5000 miles to meet me and we've been married ever since. Very very interesting video. It was pretty fun
Instant smile when getting this notification.
Just what i needed! Thanks Doc!
A smile in the thumbnai, now thats new!:)
I think it was the end of a laugh because it looks like a smirk...which is really uncharacteristic. ..
This is what the internet was made for. Dierctly useful information not otherwise available unless you dig through a great many writings. Thank you
This is content we didnt know we needed
Your micro expressions crack me up!
Once I was staring at this wonderful creature, tripped, had to save myself and said: "You're as beautiful as I fell!" It wasn't meant to be a pick up line, but I told the truth. :D
the open and direct lines are best. ...with spontaneous wit...yes yes yes. (lol).
He smiles as the champion of pick up lines
Thank you. 😃 What a great start to my day.💕
When I watched this last week I was interested in seeing if your thoughts would agree with mine. As Jane, I meet a lot of Tarzans. This past weekend I met a woman called Eve. Our conversation went to this video, which she'll be watching soon, and we agreed that your choices in pick-up lines seemed spot on for us. You really are amazing at what you do, Dr. Grande! 💜
"You're so beautiful i forgot my pick up line" was the first thing my previous boyfriend said to me. We were in a serious relationship for a year. Then i found out he has a wife.
Oh hell
There are some things a funny pick-up line cannot fix. 🤨
@@ShaareiZoharDaas Lock him up.... ☻
@@tuck-brainwks-eutent-hidva1098 ?
@@tuck-brainwks-eutent-hidva1098
I think pranks are better.
Borrow a kid that resenbles him somewhat...
Back when Myspace was a thing, I'd be the one who my friends relied on for some good lines. I would message them as if I'm my friend, and hit em with some shit lol. My favorite line was; "do you have any police officers stalking you?". They'd reply with a confused response, and I'd explain like "Naw I was just wondering if something already cuffed you." This is back when the term "cuffing" was used alot. Boy I thought that was a hot line.
Dr. Grande vs. Pick-up Lines!!!! OMFG! PRICELESS!!!!! :)
I love your dry humour Grande. ^^
Cool topic! =D I think asking for directions is a good pick up because it allows for more interaction than a one liner. It's worked on me, at least. Any of the obvious ones are an immediate turn off/no go, even if I initially liked the look of someone. Thanks for the video.
This was worth watching just to hear Dr. Grande say all these pick up lines 😂
I’ve not heard the first few pick up lines you quoted, but I was immediately unimpressed!😆 As a female, I’ve found what a man initially has to say has very little impact on whether I feel an attraction to him. The tone and inflections in his voice are much more captivating, and how he uses his words-grammar, enunciation, laughter and the pace of his speech pattern, for example. However, There is ,ultimately, a much greater unspoken force at work when two people meet. I immediately focus on his face and his eyes. There are volumes of information being communicated by the eyes and facial expressions. I will know within a minute or two whether I feel an attraction to him, and probably within another few minutes whether the attraction is mutual. I believe I would struggle to report back what his first words were to me the next day. if I’m attracted, or not, the first verbal exchanges are absolutely unimportant. Good to remember- both people may be incredibly nervous! For many years I was so attracted to a man I knew, it was difficult for me to talk to him at all! About anything! 10 years later, I still struggle talking to him- and yes, I’m still attracted to him, but he’s not available so I do my best to avoid him. He probably thinks I don’t like him at all, which is hilarious at this juncture. We are complicated creatures, are we not?
hear hear.
Some of these are less bad than others. But you are really funny.
Pickup lines can be so funny when there terrible. Good topic, Dr. Grande. Thanks.
Speaking of personality i’d love to see your thoughts/beliefs/ opinions on MBTI. Love your channel nonetheless.
....it's not real science :)
He made a video awhile back on the topic, he types as INTP
It sure gave me a laugh! I can't imagine Dr Todd saying any of these, thank heavens 😁 Pick up lines are immediately spotted as insincere, just be you. 😊
altho we just heard him say all of them, lol, except not with intent ;-) the ones he seems to approve of are the direct ones, not the snotty ones and not the evasive ones.
@@watcherwlc53 yes, those one's seem more like conversation starters rather than pick up lines 😊
*the direct ones 😊
"Do you have the time?" (Takes off pants)
Direct and honest, always best.
Good topic. Thanks Dr. G
I just looked up "Fun And Cheesy Lines" and there were several about vegetables that were pithy, and if said with humour would probably get my attention. But my all time favourite was: My lips are like Skittles. Wanna taste the rainbow? 😄🤣😂🤗😂 I laughed so hard I almost fell off my bed.
Nice subject Dr Grande. I think as long as people are themselves (and themselves are not aholes😄) there sholdnt be a need for lines.
Thanks, doctor. 😄🌹👍
Great topic 👍
You are one good doctor
These chat up lines made me giggle didn't know Dr Grande was a comedian ..heehee!
I like the “I’ll kick myself all night if I didn’t talk to you” one.
Yes!
☺️🦋 good job on this topic
‘Hey, How are you?’
‘Hey, My name is… ?’
‘Hey, how’s it going?’
Best pick up lines ever.
Pick up lines are so dumb. A guy came up to me and said"Do you have a quarter? I want to call my mom and tell her I've met the girl of my dreams."
Pick up lines make me roll my eyes. Ive heard
1. Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?
2 . You must be tired cuz youve been running through my mind all night.
3. Are you religious, because you just answered my prayers.
I like a simple, " Hi, my name is...... " pick up lines turn me off because i instantly feel like the guy is to smooth for my liking. I cant imagine Dr. Grande saying any pick up lines to a woman. He's just to intelligent for all that.
Very good!
I'm female and if I was in a club where I didn't know anyone I'd say, in all seriousness but with a smile on my face, "Do you come here often?"
It's a great opener.
Thanks for your informative videos.
I had no idea so many people had so many problems. ❤️
Keep in mind that most women have heard all of these and many more multiple times. I would suggest you start a conversation by talking about someone's shoes. I'm not good at relationships but I'm okay at starting a conversation usually because I have autism and I start talking to someone because I have a question that is something I actually wonder. I have seen a lot of women wearing cool shoes just incidentally and so I just tell them that their shoes are cool and ask them where they got them. Obviously, I can't tell how uncomfortable someone is exactly but most people seem to talk to me a lot more and say hi to me if they see me later when I've started a conversation by talking about their shoes.
If you're at a bar, asking what someone else is drinking when you go up to order a drink works well on anyone. You can ask them why they like that drink too. I started doing this because I was at the bar and didn't know what to order so I saw someone nearby with an interesting looking drink and asked them about it. I'm only attracted to women but I ask both men and women this question because I really am interested and I often do try the drink.
I doubt this would work too well if you just wanted to hook up but if you get to know a lot of people, maybe you'll find that you and one of those people click and, if not, well, maybe you'll have a friend. I know this bums a lot of guys out because most of my best friends are guys, but a lot of women actually do consider dating friends seriously because then you become someone they know and have a good time hanging out with. Now, I don't know if anything I say should ever be followed because I have failed at every single relationship closer than a friendship in my entire life. Not only have a failed terribly, but I have failed quickly and, to be honest, I'd really rather have my friendship back with those people who completely left after I ruined everything. You can laugh off a misunderstanding of non-verbal communications between friends but anyone closer gets upset so it seems like there's no point hurting myself or anyone else. Of course, I'm human and so I fully expect to bludgeon myself again with this absurdity as soon as I've forgotten how very terrible I am at it and how much unnecessary pain it causes all around.
This is hilarious. .... its like you are reading my mind.
I think the whole dating process is really strange... but dating is like assessing for relationship to avoid people with personality disorders... and maybe can you do a video on the kinds of people attracted or feeling victimized by PD's ... What is the safest way to relate to people who lack boundaries? (Not trying to rescue but just to have a healthy relationship)
Great suggestions! Scary out there, but then maybe I watch too many Dateline shows!
@James Black what is ABS?
@James Black great idea... my new mantra "ABS" ....these pick up lines are lined right up with love bombing... as soon as I hear a line or superficial flattery... the hairs on the back of my neck raise... I guess the love bombing and lines gets what people are after at least some of the time.... but they are not going away. Even NPD ir BPD woman use them on woman to develop new friendships and I just say no to anything that looks too easy... if its too good to be true it probably isn't.
@James Black It's 1:41 pm ... why? ;-)
A late lunch? Didn't you eat already? Besides that ... I live in a remote town on an island in Canada.
"At first this line is a little revolting, but then when you look at it it doesn't seem as bad."
Hey, just like me!
Oh, this is going to be good! ☺
This was a super interesting video! Hearing Dr. Grande break down the mechanics of pick up lines was informative as well as entertaining. ☺
Probably the last thing I would ever ask a mental health clinician is about a pick up line! It never even occurred to me.
I love the thumb nail you choose for this video, Doctor! **Mischievous smirk** 😁
I prefer direct and honest: "It makes sense to me that you and I would have met." Likely better for long-term relationships.
Who care about your prefers , you are not a girl:))
Thanks for the amusing topic.
Are pickup lines different than openers?
This reminds me of the ol pickup lines when I was a teenager/ early twenties...”is that a mirror in your pocket because I can see myself in your pants” or “ I may not be Barney Rubble but I can make your bedrock”....yes, a bit narcissistic but funny when you look back at these lines to impress your mates for a laugh. Some of them were so pathetic they even worked 🤪
The best pick up line to use is:
"Welcome to my Scientifically informed, Insider look at Mental Health Topics. Hello this is Dr. Grande..."
"The more that's added to the word 'no' the worse things get."
😂😂😂
Dr. Grande, I believe the reason why the innocuous pick-up line is favoured by women is because it shows some vulnerability. It also allows the woman to follow up if she’s interested or to move away and brush it off if she’s not without either party losing face so to speak. It doesn’t put her on the spot and also lowers the risk of annoying a male who is interested in you. Both of the other types are very direct. It really puts you on the spot and women often worry about upsetting strange men by refusing their advances directly.
Unexpected topic. I like to he direct approach 😉
I had a guy say “beautiful day aren’t you “ it made me laugh
free meow that’s actually a good one.
@@attheranch873 lol I thought so I think it s from a movie ?
Of the clever ones that’s actually good. It makes you think...
innocuous .. reminds me of my friend with social anxiety disorder
Did you hurt yourself when you fell from heaven
You can't be serious, how can you keep a straight face? Was this video the consequence of playing Truth or Dare?
😅😅😅
Actually that could be a hillarious pick up line!!
He is the consummate professional. That is a trait that not everyone has...straight, focused attentive with no tells of wanting to crack up. That, I think is an art...,Unless he did a thousand takes.
Ok, if you want to see him almost lose it -- check out the lizard aliens on the video about delusional thinking, or his video on how not to be creepy! ☻
@@tuck-brainwks-eutent-hidva1098
Will do...😃
Ice breakers are ok imo, as long as they're not cocky or pushy! Some can be hilarious 😂
Interesting topic. Thank you Dr Grande 😊
This is a pickup line that a man used in a bar on me. "What's a sweetheart like you doing in a dump like this?" Of course it's a verse from a Bob Dylan song, but I it did make me smile and start a conversation with the guy! Dr. Grande, your sarcasm is hilarious!
How about, 'hi, how are you doing (today, tonite, here)', but not with the Joey Tribbiani tone! This is the most genuine, simple approach as,far as I can see. 'Do you want to dance', 'are you having a good time (here, tonight), etc. just basic and real. And easy for the other person to respond.
"why is a beautiful woman like you still single?"
How are you supposed to respond to that!
I'm single because currently there is no better alternative at this moment. When being not single is a better for me than being single, then I will no longer be single. I guess thats a Mackavalian response but I dont really know what else to say about that.
God I hate that one!
@@kaylap.1191 ba ha ha .... next time I hear that... I will try that. Because honestly... when I hear this pick up line... I am hearing... "you look ok but because you are single, there must be something wrong with you." When a guy says this, my response is that i think its not a match so it doesnt matter what I say now... the game is already over.
@@kaylap.1191 that made NY night, as a former correctional.officer...that is just wicked.
Ooh -- I like the prison one. (Maybe your boyfriend -- or girlfriend -- is in prison - ?) Maybe < no ingles >. Or if you have a little sarcastic edge, "Clearly it's because I haven't met YOU yet."
Maybe you should take that question serious, and try to think hardly about it. We all need to revise our personality from time to time
Lol!! This was entertaining for sure !!:)
This video is up there, second only to the lizard people!
It's a direct approach is almost always better
The one about "how do you like the band" isn't too awful, it's never really out of place to start a conversation about the topic at hand. you could say that to anyone you want to chat with, not just someone you want to date. It's like talking about class just to see if people are friendly and talkative.
Pick up lines usually give sleazy vibes. I think the problem is people trying to force wit is uncomfortable.
Lines that have sexual components are a Turn Off . We don’t want to know at least at first about your sexual desire for us .It ruins the mystery the fantasy the courting excitement in my opinion
EMS 76 yeah all that courting is sooo dangerous better to get straight to f&cking
I feel wit and humour always works the best.
Innocuous is the one with the least amount of 'failure factor' thereby giving an opening that can be reciprocated in a receptive fashion or rejective fashion, without having to display a lot of vulnerability.
Dr Grande what about a video on workplace bullying. who does it, to whom, the effects, etc
I prefer the innocuous type because it provides an opportunity to test responsiveness and act according. Women are often subjected to unwanted attention and rejection aggression. An innocuous comment doesn’t just protect the man from rejection, it protects the woman from anxiety about how he will react to rejection. It offers engagement without expectation or entitlement. A man who can read social cues displays high social emotional intelligence which is probably why it’s preferred for long term relationships.
Would be awesome if you would do some reaction videos to PUA's on RUclips like RSD, AMS. Best regards from Romania!