How To Be Alone | 4 Healthy Ways
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- Опубликовано: 20 сен 2024
- It’s very important that people know how to spend their time alone in a healthy way, and not seeing it as a punishment but rather as an opportunity to grow as a person.
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Did you catch @2:33 exactly that the loneliness of a piece of tomato was thrown out of the group? LoL
Hi. Great video as always. Question for you; where did you get the buddha ornament with candles? Very cool.
@@3basketliving 0
Because I hate people I do not hate being alone.
Be your own best friend and then you will never be alone 👍
I love being alone. Some days I miss having a partner but I felt more alone in toxic love than alone.
Amen!
Totally agree Krystal.🦋
Very true 🙏🏽
Thats the worse to feel alone with other people , hope you repaired and forgave yourself for whatever is holding you down , being with a toxic person is like hell glad you got out of it.
Ikut sep mung laaa...malah doh aku Caro...kiki
Sedih + tekan kawe nihhh...huhuhu..
I love being alone. It's being around people I find hard. Can do it. I can be friendly and confident, but it's draining.
For me being around other people constantly is mentally exhausting. I am charismatic and everything, but I rather be by myself.
Same here!
we all suffer something. to me being around others is suffering
@@anaidceniceroscruz6752 Same here :)
You are lucky. :(
1. Be your own host
2. Realise that we are always connected.
3. Sit with it.
4. Chase your dreams.
We not always connected that’s man creation I belong to God
you forgot "clean your room". most important.
@@taneekasmith5782 God is what you are connected with though. dont let Christianity fog your vision. it is ALL God.
"i am that, i am"
caplin Grey hahaha Yes!
I didn't get the 2nd. How can the fact that realising that everything is made up of electron, protons etc make me feel good?
I love being alone. I cook myself beautiful meals, decorate my home in the style I love. Read whenever I want. Do whatever I want. I feel so much love in myself and my environment.
Of course ....
To live alone is try your best loving yourself and you belong to yourself as you always did.
As we say master of your own mind.
Me too. My friend said she’s never met someone who is so content in solitude. I took that as a great compliment
Sounds similar to me...
👍👍👍👍
Funny how I never really feel “lonely” until I’m surrounded by a bunch of people
So fuckin true 👍
damn...now that you mentioned....cant disagree lmao. Relatable.
Shit bro same.
Same
Thats because you found the wrong people,which you have nothing in common with..If you we're to find the exact match for you,i believe you would enjoy friendships more,but thats not easy ik.
I’m going through life alone. I have no friends or family. I love my own company. But having to go through serious problems alone, like illnesses, is a nightmare.
LittleLulubee my life experience
Hmm... I think it's valuable if you can enjoy your own company. On the other hand: no one is an island... Perhaps find a group of good people to connect with?
Wow! That is absolutely correct. Seriously. Iam very very introverted and always been aloof by nature. I cherished my solitude. But once I developed chronic pain... that solitude morphed into intolerable, melancholic loneliness.
@@Humanaut. mine too.
Couldn't relate more.
Is there anyone here who's gotten so used to being alone that now being around people feels draining ??
I feel you man!
that’s called being an introvert
Yes
I got so used to be alone that I feel I would waste my time if I would spend time with other people
maybe your an empath
Tidy the home, our surroundings. Be nice to ourselves. Pamper ourselves. Have a meaningful goal, and pursue it.
Perfectly said 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Way to Go Stay busy for yourself not for someone else.
hello, I have a cool channel on the topic of motivation, if you are interested, come and watch it
Well said.
I don't miss meeting people, I miss having that one special person with me...
Me too
I feel you, but with that person I felt more lonely than I do now.
@@SNFXVlogs damn, that hit close to home
I felt this on a spiritual level
Too true
*Avoid social media, looking at "how happy" other people are together doesn't make it better for you.*
Only looking memes on social media, it is way better
"Happy"? There is only bad news on social media nowdays
@@anthonysykes7081 but don't you resonate with people because you're miserable? Or are you miserable because you don't resonate with people?
@YHWH faking their lifestyle? Yes. I agree
To the point...it is never social
The man that can't be alone, will never have time to reflect and grow
@blah blah man i was about to call BULLSHIT ON HIS COMMENT & i read the examples in your comment and you make a point 🤔
That was nicely put.
A lot of lonely people spend their time building up a facade even though they are just stewing in their own anger
eggzachlee
1:53 1 Be you own best host
3:18 2 Realize that we are always connected
5:17 3 Sit with it
6:27 4 Chase your dreams
2:33 learn to cook (but not like in video, I couldnt stop laughing at that yeeted tomato)
Silence is my best friend who will never betray me; silence is golden.
Damn you satamo, now I've got the Tremelos, buzzing around in my head......
Yes
SIlence is golden, but when it threatens your freedom, it's yellow.
satnamo after being alone for a long time in my own best friend i get lost in my head and ye
A dog is my best friend who will never betray me, a dog is golden.
I think the hardest part about being lonely is when you have a tough problem and you need help, or even just someone to talk to. It's difficult to be content alone when you feel overwhelmed. It's important to have at least one other person who genuinely cares.
I agree with this, I went over this video in the back of my mind thinking that there must be something wrong because none of these solutions help me with why I feel so alone. People that have been through things have more work to do than meditation and focusing on hobbies.
Hmm its important that person is a genuine one, not someone faking it.
I agree! I feel most lonely when I don’t have someone I can talk to about things going on, otherwise I’m pretty content with being alone.
Agreed
With the emphasis on GENUINELY CARES. Finding that is the hard part.
My wife of almost 3 years divorced me and I've never felt more alone. But i need to be ok without having someone to say good morning and goodnight to. I always lived for her but i need to live for me
I’m sorry to hear that man
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That must've been a real punch to the gut... sorry to hear it bro.
Can you give us an update please, if that's okay? Hope you're doing better than before brother x
you can do it, king
The vital difference between being lonely and being alone: with loneliness, we look at what we want, but lack; with being alone, we see what we have, and treasure it.
Wholeheartedly agree with you. If i may add another comment to your last part, i would love to share my treasures WITH another very exclusive person. Food shared is calories halved; happiness shared is joyfulness doubled. Cheers.
Wow, that is inspired.
Good insight on your part 👍
The truth is being alone doesn't always mean being lonely, most of the times, it can make you so much happy. No fake people, no expectations, just you.
Exactly! Of course I love spending time with my family and friends, but coming home and closing the door behind me feels so good...
AMEN
No fake friends. So relatable😄😅😢
@@rhythmdarlami1051 Not many left now huh.😜
@@Filippenzen413 not many what?
“So plant your own gardens and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.” Jorge Luis Borges
My favourite poem.
A fine addiction to my collection...
é brasileiro?
Amanda argentino
I know that's right!
Walk in silence
Speak to few
Confide in less on what I do
In silence I can ease my pain
In silence I can calm my brain
I never listen for a praise
I never speak to boast
Just go on working quietly
For those I love the most
I love it ❤
Beautiful ❤
But she never give at least one like our comments, because she totally deep in the circle of loneliness, that is not healthy in any way. Finding a company is different thing, but first finding few different colours in yourself is the real sign of healthy loneliness. Rest I'm sorry if unintentionally I hurt you.
Fareen Mohamed rad
Solitude or Your time would be a good name for that poem
I feel like a lot of people take this practice too far. This isn’t about becoming so fine with being alone that you dread interacting with other people or creating a meaningful connection. This is about becoming comfortable with yourself, so if you have to be alone you don’t fall apart. Having a true connection with someone is one of the things that makes life great. Find balance in everything.
Agreed. But true connections are very rare. I’ve had, maybe, two in my 70 years.
No.
Agree. The magic of a spontaneous connection with someone that comes into your life is great. It doesn't necessarily have to be a forever friend, it may come and go, or not, but its all good.
@@Me97202 those two are better than the hundreds of fake ones people experience. If you’re strong enough to love and lose without losing yourself, the world is yours.
Worse than being alone is being with people who make you feel alone
Absolutely absolutely ☺️
TRUE WORDS SPOKEN HERE
That's why I don't hang out with family anymore. We have nothing in common, I'm better off on my own.
Robin Williams said that in Rolling Stone.
Amen
Being alone is different when you have the choice. When you have no friends or family it's quite different
@Clayton Warner I wish I had your situation, lucky fuck 😉
You have to embrase solitude, learn to enjoy the time, when it's all yours. To eat when you're hungry, to sleep when you're tired, to love what you do, and meeting yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. Life never promised you, that it will be easy.
@Clayton Warner im about to turn 26 in November and im in the same boat. Never had a girlfriend. Always keep your expectations low and if something happens eventually then it's a bonus. I started attaining some hobbies to keep my self preoccupied
Make friends with nature_ your being_your thoughts_perfect strangers are great friends_lot of hype round family
exacly, people who come to videos like this one claiming being alone is so great and relaxing etc. don't really know what being alone really is.
5 years of being single and living alone, I've gotten so comfortable with myself and love myself so completely, made myself whole. I've learned to love it with all my heart, that I can't imagine being with someone else again because I'm so happy on my own. Being alone is the life lesson to see what real happiness is and how it comes from within yourself. Being with someone or others is Just an Illusion, the only relationship that has value, is the relationship with yourself.
You don’t miss being around people sometimes ? Like literally just being around people, not talking to them or looking at them but just other peoples presence. Just curious. Not judging at all
@@drvgxn6846 biggest reason why I don't want to be around people is, because they all have bad character and lack of qualities.
Lady snake84 what do you mean
Is happiness only real when shared? Chris McCandless thought so.
@@j.a.8970 chris mcandless was in search of truth while also trying to escape elements of his life. Until that can be resolved/accepted, one cannot have sustained fulfillment/bliss/happiness.
I love being alone!! When I am around people I cannot wait until I can be with just myself. Time with myself is hands-down my favorite time of all
People try to rescue you from their own limitless and intrude on our peace and personal space. If you let them in you come to realize they have no value to your life. I am maybe friendless but the values I have are what they seek to validate theirs. I don't people please or expect anything from anyone and quite frankly, I don't miss a one of them! Sweet freedom is what we create for ourselves and their emptiness is theirs to live, not ours. Keep up in mind, they will guilt trip you, feel rejected and eventually slander you and reveal why you removed you from your peace.
"You may think you poop alone, yet many people in the world are pooping at the same time" -Confucious
Imma put this quote on my grave
Scoop Diddy whoop
Woah you just made my day
"You may think you poop alone, yet many people in the world are pooping at the same time" - Cocaine
A man shall not live by pooping alone. - saint margaret of pontification🤔 Is it blasphemous to take the words of jesus and put pooping where bread should be?
Nope, religiosity misses the point🌼🌻
Man shall not live by bread alone but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God.🐙🐛
The mystery is never the words but what they indeed point to. 🐡🌈
🙏Shalom comrades, namaste and all other salutations from spiritual practise. 🙏 Poop in peace dear ones.
*Solitude is the single most important state for learning about thyself*
Introspection is a must for understanding who you are, finding your passion and forming a clear picture of life in general.
I see you everywhere bro.. see you in heaven,nirvana or whatever it is..
@@anonymousguitarist9096 yeah me too...how does he do that
@@anishtheodore5010 maybe we are searching and having the same interest in spiritual aspect.. 😊😊😊
Yes much harder however when you're 55 , female,
and failing health.
@@anonymousguitarist9096 hahaha....I was about to make the exact same comment!
It's not that i dont like people but I'm just happier when they aren't around
I actually don’t like people 😆
I agree
almost bukowski
I hate myself for feeling this way...the only time when i am happy is when i am in my house or wherever alone
I have learnt to love being alone. It can be so much more rewarding than being around someone who doesn't value you.
I used to hate being alone. Now, it's the best thing I discovered. I don't engage just anyone. I deal with who I want, when I want. There is no drama and chaos in my life and I feel I have more control.
"The sum of a man's problems comes from his inability to sit alone in a silent room."
Blaise Pascal
Pascal?
@@davidohmart1336 Seems like it. I probably couldn't remember when I originally wrote the comment.
Ya that can work against you meditation Just dont listen to that iner voice
It was Kafka, not Pascal.
@@antoinesubitlescoups338 Nope. Google it.
I am alone 24/7. I don’t know why. There are times when it’s unbearable, but most of the time I’m fine. I like my own company. In my time of solitude, I’ve taught myself many things, including music. All alone is all we are. So be it.
Nirvana
Join a club, 27/7 Is unhealthy.
Sounds more like you're okay with being lonely, not that you enjoy solitude. If you have a strong mental make-up, there's no way solitude could be unbearable. With that being said, don't lose hope. Face your fears and sadness, work through them with all your heart and soul, and one day you might just come to understand serenity, even when you are alone.
@@chickedeedee292 Maybe 27/7 is unhealthy indeed ;). But 24/7 sounds doable to me. Similar here, and I'm fine, too.
There is literally nothing better than chilling alone in your cozy bed and reading a good book while listening to some relaxing lofi and drinking a hot cup of chocolate.
Nasu wooahh hahaha I literally just did that and can fully attest to this
Doesn't sound very good to me it would drive me insane
It's a rare pleasure to find someone else who also enjoys doing that! and I drink tea instead of chocolate. It helps me relax . :)
It sounds nice, but after a couple of hours I'd want to move it move it.
I call that "my favorite". I love it! Reading transports you to another world, and the characters are like real people that you get to know.
Being a widow at the age of 62 I thought I could find another man as good as my husband was, but it looks like good older men with commitment mentality is nowhere to be found, especially, the ones who are “married” to their children. Because of that, I have chosen solitude, celibacy, and peace.
"If you are lonely when you are alone, you are in bad company."
It's similar to the quote "If you're bored, it means you're boring". If someone knows where this quote comes from, chime in. Someone chided me with this quote years ago, when I complained about being bored. And that cured me; when I'm bored now, I look within. If we stay curious, we'll never be bored or lonely. There's always something to explore, whether it's within us or surrounding us.
I listen to Bad Company.
Dude if I’m alone for too long I will literally kill myself
Calvin Yee ha nerd
I used to hang out with delusional crystal-meth addicts and homeless people in my 20s. (GOD I’m SO glad that’s over with!!) I’d say that quote is true.
Lonely and alone. Two different things. I dont feel "lonely" when Im alone.
Well said, I agree.
This aloneness is worth more than a thousand lives.
This freedom is worth more than all the lands on earth.
To be one with the truth for just a moment,
Is worth more than the world and life itself.
"Rumi"
@@tade5003 Lovely!
Super
2:33 Man yeeted one of his tomatoes. 😂
Edit: Came back to this 8 months later and it still kills me. 😂👌
😂😂😂
It's fucken gone
I was wondering if I was the only one who saw that!😂
That tomato really wanted to be alone
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I love seeing comments of people who like being alone, just like I do. It makes me feel that I'm just normal and it's ok to love being alone. I absolutely love solitude. It's so peaceful. It's just about me. It's full of energy. I love myself with all my flaws.
"I love myself with all my flaws" --- loved that... wish you all the best...!
The biggest trap is happiness. Once you stop thinking you need it, you always have what you need.
Less is more
Facts!!! We are the telepathic aliens!!!
Can YT let me save this comment?
It's a great quote. Thank you. I will write it down. Is it yours?
Now explain how do one stop thinking u need happiness when we all know it's the only source we need to numb the pain in this cruel world?
Big difference between solitude and loneliness. I enjoy the company of friends and smart/good people. But I also need my daily dose of solitude.
Same here.
Everyone does..
Be kind to yourself when you’re alone, value and accept that time
I have been married twice, and in both of those marriages, I felt more lonely than when I was single. In fact, I have found being single to be more fulfilling and stress-free than being married
I'm never alone, I'm my best friend. But comfort and quality mean a lot. In furniture, in food, in coffee, in books. Indulging in whatever makes me feel good. I like going out and meeting friends, but coming home I think: 'thank God for freedom and my own bed'.
Someone : "I want to be alone."
Covid-19 : "Let me introduce myself."
True. I had tons of alone time and I was enjoying it but i miss being able to go out without the fear of catching a virus. I even miss school...and i hated school my whole life but somehow i miss it now.. sadly no school here for at least 5 more months so.. :/ I guess i have to keep being alone for a looong time.
@@xFlared How so? The whole world is suffering from something that does not exist?
If you can keep to yourself, it's unlikely you will catch covit
@@MCrystalMaidenn Good point.
@@absoluttchamp Don't do it
I am 35 now, spent all my life in pleasing ppl, doing what makes them happy n close to me no matter I like it or not, just did it for them. The return is 0. When you do all this ppl start taking you for granted and as a temporary person. They don't value you. It's better to please our ownself, value ourself and make ourselves happy by keeping ourself busy in good n positive things. Even if we fell ill, we should keep in our mind that the whole world is finished I am the only one left so I have to take care of myself by my own. God is with everyone. If luckily we find someone worthy of us then it's good but if we don't then it's not an issue or a loss.
And sti if we don't find any other way, we should watch videos like this, and in comments we should write everyyyything what's going on with our life, in our heart and mind.
Take a deeeep breath and exhale.
High-five to all of you and to the make of this video.
👍🏼
You are right, people take for granted. I am 25 but I am scared of my own company due to my thoughts.y thoughts haunt me.
Worst thing of being alone is not be able to share beautiful moments with someone...
Alone is what i have, alone protects me. ~Sherlock Holmes.
Jakob Nunez
Um the only Jacob I ever met could care less if I lived or died
He watched crazy bad people rip us his best friends Ford Escape and could care less
Um no Jacob definitely does not protect me
I don’t even like that person
God Protects me I have many “ ANGELS “
Some walk some ride Bikes lol
Angels everywhere
Which novel/story does he say it?
@@Kevin-cy2dr tbh I don't really know I was just referring to the show on bbc.
I truly love my solitude.. I love seeing my friends and having fun.. but solitude is what recharges my battery’s.. 🌸🐾🌸
“I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity.”
“Out of My Later Years” by Albert Einstein
As a genius, it is even nice to be alone
beautiful quote.
I miss my wife and son more than anything I thought my purpose in life was to be the best husband and father that I can be. These videos have really helped me with coping and moving on.
Im with you, wife walked out with 7 and 10 year old. The legal system is so slow its been 10 months alone and still no clear timeframe of getting partial custody
When I’m alone is when I fell I have the most freedom
How do you do that?
I'm desperate. I don't know what to do because I can't be calmed when I'm alone. I need people to distract me and it's not even because I enjoy their company. Being alone makes me anxious and nervous. I need to didtract myself
@@helenagutierrez284 You need to love yourself above all else, genuinely. You need to love your accomplishments, your goals and value your ideals and I put emphasis on genuinely, if you try to fool yourself into loving yourself it will not work. Once you begin on the path of self-actualization the only truest and most enjoyable time will be the time spent by yourself.
@@Cneqq i really appreciate your advice :)
But i dont know if the problem is my conception about myself. I dont hate myself and i am concious I have good things, but i dont know why i need other people. Just to Keep busy from my thoughts because they can be very annoying and a little overwhelming. Well what im trying to say is that i constantly see myself as good and i am proud of some things i have, but that does not seem to help me from being not ok alone. Iam sorry if i said too much but it makes me ilussion that maybe someone of you that likes being alone can find an alternative for me.
I know how it feels
Helena Gutierrez I use to be a bit like you. I always felt the need to be around friends or be out of the house and keep busy around people, when I was at home, alone and with no one around, depression would kick in. So I found a solution, I love being alone now and I enjoy it, of course I keep my friends and see them once or twice a month but to love being alone you have to learn to love yourself, right? And to love yourself you have to work on finding out who you are as a person, right? So when you find yourself alone, work on figuring out who you are, and by that I mean, start a new hobby that you’ve always wanted to try out. I started painting, drawing and learning photography. I find that having a hobby helps you develop as a person. Also, you have the internet at your finger tips, study subjects you’ve always found interesting. I started reading up on Greek mythology, cinematography, stoicism, movies, the Bible, music, music production, and many other subjects. I found that, the more I learn about what I’m interested in, the more I figure myself out as a person and the best time to learn about yourself and other things, it’s when you’re alone. So in short, to be ok with being being alone you have to love yourself, and to love yourself you have to figure out who you are, and to figure out who you are YOU have to take interest on different subjects and see what you like and don’t like. Don’t let others define who you are as a person or don’t let others choose what you like and don’t like. Also, don’t base your happiness off of other people’s presence. If you base your happiness off others, you will always be disappointed. Make the foundation of your happiness YOU, not others. (Sorry for the length of this comment 😬)
One is born alone and dies alone.
I live by this quote
Actually I mean to say that u are born as a individual,with a unique identity and u live ur life independently till ur death.Also I want to allude u that ur responsible for ur own karma and its results.
You are the one, who closes your eyes and go to sleep.
I think Sherlock quoted this? Can't remember. Hehe
what about twins?
1. Be your own best host i.e. treat yourself with love and respect. Establish order and happiness in your own environment, from cooking to clean bedroom.
2. Realise that you are always connected to the world. You are not coming to this world, you emerge from it as its interlinked part, like the wave from ocean.
3. Sit with it. Being alone is good for introspection. Observe your thoughts and physical sensations. Once direct your attention at the thoughts you'll realise how fast they dissipate, and how insignificant most of them are.
4. Chase your dreams. Solitude is a great vessel for creating. Present is a source for joy of creation.
I used to be alone and I never noticed that because I'm always happy being alone doing all my stuff and things everyday. But, after getting into a long relationship when she left me that's the moment where I feel to be alone lost all the my focus, I'm shattered and empty. Now I'm here watching this hoping to get back my old self who used to be alone.
"...if we cook ourselves a nice meal with the same love as we would do for others"
*flings tomato into oblivion*
YEET
I noticed that too!
Coming out of a relationship and dealing with a heart-broken breakup, I've realized that I've grown codependent on my ex and now I'm working on trying to not feel lonely when I'm alone. I'm going to start going for walks in the park and just sitting by myself reflecting on who I am and who I want to become. This video was super informative and helpful. Thank you!
@Ash I'm doing so much better. With time being an essential healer to all breakups, life is really good. I'm so incredibly lucky to be alive and have my friends and family by my side. I just had to keep my head up. Thanks for checking in! :D
I'm in the same spot. Fuck.
Currently goin with this same thing :(
@Ash Sorry I never replied to your comment about this, but thank you so much. I really appreciate your kindness! Likewise with you of course! I hope you're doing well! Only wish you all the best :D
@@musicgaines7170 sorry to hear that! I hope things are better for you now!
I love being alone and have found I have almost no need for friends. I have no problem making friends, I have traveled the world and people usually want to hang out with me and get close to me, which always makes me feel uneasy because I know I have no interest in being their friend LOL. Majority of people are boring and redundant, unoriginal and predictable. Everything I love to do I enjoy best while alone as well.. playing music, reading, writing, drawing, meditating, exercising, cooking, etc. There are definitely people who thrive being alone and I happily am one.
I now realize that being alone helps me figure myself out and I actually became drama free, problem free, and toxic free. I now see why I miss being up in the mountains by myself.
I was once happy in loneliness but now I feel insane...
@@TubBunnyChews Who knows...
You should live your life; talk to people you're interested, do what makes you happy, etc. without concern of society (unless you want to do something illegal). To hell with the world man. We all have our purpose and one way we can find them is by following our heart.
Siamo nella stessa situazione.
@Luz Renteria why fat though? 😂😂
@@Waykian Il web è piccolo
I always used to cry and feel bad for being alone because I have very few friends like 1 or 2 but 2020 made me realize that being alone was best and it is a gift to learn about yourself and also love yourself , yes I am alone and i don't feel bad. In future I will also have lots of friends but at the end we are by ourselves also thank you for giving me an advice it will help me a lot in life. Great job!
Your lovely 😊
Thanks for sharing Varsha. Personally I found it's about letting certain people go, and realising expectations have no base in certainty. Being alone has also taught me self respect and understanding, and that it is difficult to love anything/anyone when you don't love yourself - or if you're not at peace with yourself. People, friends, colleagues, even family can't always give you the understanding you need, or rather they have trouble returning the love you give them.
Great quote from May Sarton: "Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self". Peace be with you :)
Ya be alone and *MEDITATE* 🧘
It's easier to dwell in the subconcious when alone
2020 best year in my life.
Solitude came to my rescue when I was struggling through the hardest time. And since then, I've embraced it. It changed me, and I don't regret losing my older version, it's just that I enjoy the company of my current version. Many people say I'm weird and anti social, and they think I'm being hard on myself when the fact is, solitude made me realize who I am and what I desire. Looking at the world this way is so calming.
I have been so much into it that I don't feel the need to share my life with other people.
Agreed✌🏻
We are a growing Breed !!
@@indiafixergurus9400 🤘🤘
I can relate. I too been labeled anti-social due to the fact I like being on my own.
Not anti social , it's self love respect for yourself ,hope your good x
Right out the gate you nailed it. One time my friend called and asked what I was doing. I said I'm making pasta, drinking wine with a movie ready to go. She asked if I'm with a date and I said no, I'm by myself. She remarked that I'm such a loner and I took that as a great compliment
I love having lots of alone time! I enjoy my company.
I can only deal with people in small doses.
Ditto
@@bluemoon9530 probably we could try
Lol dream weaver you loser 😄
Love to give small dose of my life well said 🙏🏻🙏🏻
@@laneblack9420 be nice
What gets me is when you hear someone brag about how much they enjoy being alone - how they prefer their own company - how productive they are when there's no one around etc etc, yet they fail to mention the fact that ninety nine point nine percent of the time they are anything but alone. Usually these people that you hear talk like this are the ones that come from big families with a multitude of friends in their lives. The truth is, they don't have a clue what loneliness is. They should try going through life with absolutely no one to turn to be it family or friends for a few years before they preach to the rest of us how great it is to be alone. Of course, they enjoy their solitude. I would too if I was in the company of friends and family most of the time. These people are in no position to be telling the rest of us how we should be enjoying our "own company."
Thank you for your comment I couldn't have said it better myself.sometimes I just feel like screaming when I hear people say they just love being alone and by themselves for the same reasons you said everyone enjoys a little rest in time off. But when you are alone everyday due to disability and have no friends and family alone time can drive you to loneliness
It means PHYSICALLY ALONE and away from someone. Of course we all have phones and are an sms away from being connected. Otherwise orphans would be the happiest people
You miss the whole point of the video
Also it's better to be alone then to live in a toxic relationship of any sort
@@snowleopard9907 then what is the point?
Try to find a healthy balance of being social/solitary, as in *try* to interact with people but on the hand keep a good distance and still rely on yourself. Find time to be social and solitary. Being completely isolated/secluded and being absolutely surrounded and dependent on others both leave you feeling bad and alienated, I've been both and those weren't good times in my life.
Very wise perspective. Everything in balance.
I am alone and it is very peaceful. I am amazed at how much family drama afew of my friends have. When i hear them talk about the drama, disrespect or abuse i realize how much peace i have living alone. I am grateful for my peace.
I want to thank you so much for making this video. My girlfriend of the last 2 years who I was deeply in love with left me suddenly because one of the biggest reasons was that I liked to spend time alone and she always wanted to be around people. I started to feel like a freak or that something was wrong with me after she left me. This video reassures me and gives me back some of my lost confidence. I rarely felt lonely when I was alone and I preferred solitude to the company of people. It's great to finally get some validation. The key, I believe lies in finding a balance between being alone and with others.
God bless us all.
My ex-wife was the same way. I loved being in solitude when she wasn't around, she never heard from me and that bothered her. She didn't value alone time like I did and that was one of her complaints that she felt I had my own little world and then her on the side.
@@chrisallen6362 I feel you, brother.
Same here my gf of almost 3 years whom i loved dearly leaves me coz i needed some dose of alone time to reflect on my own problems n figure it out for the sake of both of us.... Can't rely on anyone these days. However i choose solitude over any external comfort.....i feel less lonely now.
So why didn't you express that to her???
Same shit with me. I have been with someone who loves to go out and spend time with each other most of the time, but I love being alone and spend time in the comfort of my home and that led us to part our ways.
People who don't like being alone is because they can't entertain themselves
Babatunde Swana that’s very true.
And they don't like themselves. ..
@@victoriapalmer5146 Usually, women cannot be alone. Most men can deal with solitude as long as they plan their day and goals.
Being alone feels wonderful. People suck the POSITIVE vibes from my energy. I just can't stand people. Never could.
majority of people are energy vampires...
I feel the same way a 100%.
Yet here you are with a bunch of people.
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If you have a true love of nature, you’re never alone.
Sadly, other people can be manipulative, selfish, and untrustworthy. True friends get more difficult to find the older one gets, and women keep their husbands on a short leash. I enjoy other people in small doses, and every time I feel loneliness I remember what a pain in the ass and how devious others can be. Worse still is to be stuck with a partner who eventually makes your life miserable and you are lonely in a different way (I believe Robin Williams had a comment to this effect). It is easy to get into a 'relationship', but getting out of it is difficult and often fraught with expensive legal complications. The reward of solitude is freedom.
There's a lot and i mean A LOT of truth in your comment. Respect ,. S
Did you read my journal 🤗
Robin Williams got it figured out.
So much truth. It is refreshing.
How did you know my ex so well?
This quarantine was a cake walk because I loved being alone...in trouble when I have to go back to the open world dealing with people 🤣
I can relate
And everybody would say that I'm insane, asking how do I cope with being alone for so long lol
Agree
I am alone but I am not lonely. I have felt lonely in a crowd. Nothing worse than that. Now, I am not lonely in a crowed because I have me. I don't only have me but have me to give.
And as Hillel said, "And if not now, When?"
It was definitely hard at first but now I enjoy the solitude and still know that I'm connected with other people even if they're not physically around ❤️
“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” -African Proverb.
I believe in this and spend much of my time alone under my own volition. The thing is, when I'm with friends or family, the love I feel trumps all.
That's very, very true, but a lot of commenters in this section seem to have been betrayed and left. That's quite sad if all of your trust is gone.
@@reneekatz So do I. Hopefully they'll stay with me 'til death, because I'll be there for them.
The more I learned about people by being among them, the greater my appreciation of the animal and plant worlds grew.
100% ☺
Solitude is addictive, amazing and underrated. When you are among people it´s like being in a stream of water. It´s always pulling you in a certain direction, wether you want to or not. You can still go whatever direction you want, but any other than the direction of the flow will require effort and energy that could be better spent elsewhere.
When you are alone, on the other hand, it´s like being in a tranquil sea. There is nothing pulling you in any direction other than you´re own passion. There is no one judging you, no interferences, no distractions, no one trying to change you and no one trying to enforce their opinions on you. There is just you and endless possibilities. There is the peace and serenity necessary to truly discover yourself. There is the silence to truly hear your own thoughts. There is the time to do the things you truly want to do. You can find your passion and drive, you can chase your dreams, reach your goals. You can become who you were meant to be without any outside influences. Solitude is freedom.
Being alone teaches you a lot. Yet finding love is beautiful. They’ll come. Love will come.
Love is to give and lust is to receive
Love is a temporary high
Nah fam. I have been betrayed in life so many times that i dont think love exists.
The only way to find true 'love' is experience it within yourself. You can find 'love' while being alone. Most People talk about 'finding love', while they actually mean 'finding a person' with whom they can share their life with.
Toxic ignorant optimism
Thank you. I found out that my mother passed away this morning.
Your video upload gives me comfort.
Thank you
Robert Fraser Stay Strong! Sorry for your loss
Hi Robert.. I'm sorry to hear that. Stay strong and I wish you all the best.
I can see why this might be comforting. But I am very sorry for the loss of your mom.
So sorry for your loss.
I am a woman and I lost my mom 15 years ago.
A piece of me went with her I've never been the same.
I felt lonely so I got on tinder met someone we been talking for almost 3 months an I actually feel more lonely , feeling like I’m giving more than they give back ... taking a break from people an working on bettering myself. I’d truly rather be alone then be in a toxic dead end relationship.
Talking for 3 months on Tinder? Seems like such waste of time and effort. He/she may be a Nigerian Prince.
People with highly introverted personalities, like myself, truly enjoy being alone. Being alone charges and rejuvenates me. People who are more extroverted may perhaps not do as well in solitude. It really depends on the person. When the pandemic hit, I saw all these extroverts having meltdowns left and right, while I was comfortable and right at home...pun intended.
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I love to being alone. But I utilized my loneliness to the fullest by reading, meditating and watching this kinda of videos.
I absolutely thrive in solitude.. when you spoke of friends influencing your behaviour and steering you in a direction you don’t necessarily want to go , you are absolutely right.. I’ve recently finally started taking better care of myself- eating better, exercising 5 days a week and cut my drinking down to 2-3 drinks/week from 6-7 drinks/night.. I have some co-workers who are trying to sabotage my progress. They’re definitely all doomers .. drugs, alcohol video games and porn all day. They’re really trying to get me to slide into old patterns, It’s like they prefer me do be a depressed lump.. the other day I was headed to the gym and they asked to go out for a pint...we had 3 each and I skipped the gym. I don’t want to be that person anymore, I’m starting to feel so good that I don’t want to slide back into the doomer state of mind again.. I think it’s time to part ways.. your channel and huMAN are really helping me to get on track and enjoy my life again.. many thanks sir!
I've been where you are and am where you're going. I changed my life 8-years ago. I stopped smoking after 20 plus years, all but quit drinking, changed my nutrition, how I ate and got back into the gym.
I recently obtained a personal trainer certification.
When a person changes their lifestyle their circle of friends will change too. While I still have a few of those close friends still in my life, I don't hang out with them very often. A few of them are like brothers to me. I've known them for a long time.
However, I still keep my distance. They started off just like you say your friends do by not understanding, thinking it was a phase or mid-life crisis, and expecting me to fall back to who I was. Even my family struggled with the changes I was making.
I still hang out from time to time, but it's not the norm and I'm nothing like I was in the past. While they initially gave me a hard time, even became angry with me at times, they finally realized this change was for real. They now respect who I have become and what I have done. What's more, they became curious about what made me change so drastically and I've become a positive influence on them.
It's made them think about themselves and their own well being.
So, while initially distancing yourself from them is a good idea, you don't necessarily have to completely cut ties. I guess it depends on how close you've been with them.
Just keep going in the direction you are.
It only gets better.
Then start mastering Telekinesis 😉
Jeff Mcilroy
It sounds like you're making fantastic forward progress 👍
I just now realized that I started out shy.. became very social and outgoing then over time, I’ve become a recluse/ hermit.. when I ask myself “what happened?!” I always tell myself that people happened. People can be downright cruel sometimes so I support being alone. If you live your whole life without “love” or getting married yada yada yada... I think you could live a fulfilling, prosperous and joyful life.
It’s great to hear your own thoughts, and relax and not have to please other people. I remember as a kid I would always just draw one person alone, it mystified me. I understand it now. But I travelled alone for a year and planned it for 4 years, never told anyone. I went to discos alone as a teen, spent 10 years with a partner seeing each other about 4 times a year. Flew back alone to my parents funerals, traveled alone and I love it. Travelled with family last year and it threw me in a loop. Very stressful.
Being alone is a fact. It means no other body present. A fact is a fact. A fact is never the problem.
Loneliness is a concept. A concept is not a fact, it is based on thoughts. The thoughts make up a story and the story is the problem. The story of loneliness is for example: people don't like me, don't love me, don't need me, don't see me, don't want me, don't recognize me. So that must mean I'm not good enough, unimportant, invisible, not missed, unwanted, worthless, abandoned, deserted, cut off, nonexisting.
Without the story, there would be just a fact. Just like the fact that one tree stands alone and another stands in the forest.
Question your story, question your thoughts.
Don't believe your story because you feel shitty. You feel shitty because you believe your story, not because it is true.
Don't believe your story because you have a past to prove the story. Your past are thoughts, not truth now. The past has happened, you have no choice over that now. But you have choice wether to carry it into your story of now or not.
Don't know why I took time writing this down as a comment here. Hopefully it us helpful for someone...
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Brilliantly put! Thank you, Wilma!
Thank you for this...truly thank you
WOW ... I think I am going to copy that and hang it where I can read it every day until it sinks in
It was life-changing for me. That my past is just a thought. Thank you.
@@zureyaodula5348 I believe our history or our past is part of who we are today.
”spending time alone in a tidy house as a better impact on our mood, than spending time alone in a mess”
That's literally me, I've been alone right from childhood and it turned me into an obsessed NEAT FREAK. I find myself very happy when I'm always neat. ;)
I hear that. Cleaning a house creates tranquility and the act of doingitcan be a meditation in itself.
I'm sure some know the quote: "Being alone is dangerous, because it is addicting and peaceful."(or however it goes)
Being alone is truly addicting. Being alone is truly peaceful. Being alone IS dangerous, because you don't need company.
Daniel Ziri
Ok weirdo
care to elaborate ?
Dan you are not alone in feeling that way...
Addictive*
I like solitude, introspection and discovering my authentic self. I like not having to compromise - listening to whatever music I want to listen to, eating what I want to eat whenever I want, watch whatever RUclips videos I want to watch , sleep whenever I want to. Solitude is freedom for me, not having to compromise. Total freedom.
Yes!
Balance is key. Socializing can bring multiple benefits like emotional support, bonding, broader perspectives, and connections to opportunities, but in excess it can be draining and prevent one from getting to know oneself. Spending time alone can lead to fruitful exploration of the self, but in excess, the prison of the mind can be hell. Learning to be alone is important, but so is learning about other people and interacting with the broader world.
The Dhammapada-
"Look at your body-
A painted puppet, a poor toy
Of jointed parts ready to collapse,
A diseased and suffering thing
With a head full of false imaginings."
That was a nice bit of verse
What does THAT mean?
Torgo1969 ❤
I suppose it highlights the fact that people, with varying degrees, see themselves as more than they actually are. We as humans don't often take the time to look at reality, but rather live within our own bubbles or ideologies.
Just my interpretation.
the Buddha, as always, exposing the Truth....
This year in 2019 taught me loneliness. It taught me pain and it taught me self love and self respect. It hurt alot and still does to be alone. Sitting with it
Me too 2019 was the most awful year of my life. Still shocked, still hurting and trying to survive and heal. Work in progress but so hard at times :-( then came the Global Pandemic it just gets more unbelievable how my life has changed
These comments are from so long ago but here I am August 25 2024
I am becoming sober, staying away from sin and being strong in this world full of good and evil. I’m battling demons daily and this time around …they have fully defeated me.. I’m at my lowest of lows but with faith in god and myself. I pray to overcome this adversity that has been set upon me. this video has gave me clarity about being in solitude ,it helps me find my true self. I hope everyone makes it thru the their troubles of life . There is always hope… I send all my love to the people of earth. It’s not about how hard you fall ,it’s how u get back up and be stronger than ever
As an extrovert, I used to dread being alone. Always looking external for validation and happiness, I would hate moments where I am forced to be alone. Yet even in groups I would sometimes feel lonely. "Why?" I wondered...
Through this current quarantine and social distancing, I am starting to develop a relationship with myself. I am embracing it and finding joy. Thanks for this video it help me to stay on this path of getting to know myself which I neglected for so long. To anyone else feeling lonely, this can be a great opportunity to be a self sustaining, strong, and beautiful you. May your days be blessed.
I've been in solitude for several months now. I uninstalled all social media and basically cut off all contact with anyone I was talking to at the time. Several of them texted me thinking I was dead. To be honest, at the start it was hard. I constantly had FOMO and was tempted to install social media again. But FOMO was the exact problem I wanted to fix. I wanted to be satisfied with myself, and act in my own best interest. I used to modify my personality to impress other people, but now I cringe at my past self trying to 'blend in with the crowd'. Who cares about what other people think of you. As soon as you care about what other people think of you, you lose
Anyways, being in solitude really helped me learn about myself. I've also gained many skills during this time. But it is hard. Some nights I get so lonely and depressed that I'm literally unable to sleep. I've even had suicidal thoughts, but then the next day I feel completely fine. Recently my friends actually contacted me asking if I want to hang with them. I'm honestly excited by the prospect
If you're having suicidal thoughts, then that's not good bro... You might wanna talk to somebody about that.
It is incredibly hard to find the one that connects with your soul and body nowadays in this society!
Another beautifully crafted video. You're 100% spot on about working on a project in solitude and recognising you're completely in the present moment, it's pure bliss.
One thing I used to get confused is that being alone is not the same as being lonely, as soon as I figured that out I just took a lot more comfort in solitude
solitude is dangerous learn social skills even tho it is probably uncomfortable and draining. you have enough time to be alone and probably also always can.
Spending my time alone makes me learn to achieve my targets and goals fastly and changed my perspective from achieving targets by seeing others to achieveing by myself and with my own motivation...so now im sure that i don't need any external motivation,,,,, because i will get my motivation myself by spending time alone...Great vedio as always 👌👌
I thrive!
I travel alone;
Always.
I love my own company!
I work with people at least 3-4 days a week.
I ❤️ being its just Me!!
My home is tidy.
And Saturday night alone and cooking a meal is just a delightful evening!!!!!
Please do enjoy your self.
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Nearly 6 years without a hint of romantic love has taught me a lot. At first it feels totally normal, everyone needs some time to themselves after a breakup. The loneliness hit me, but not in an existential way. The middle years were rough, I'd constantly compare my lack of a partner to all my friends and it only made me miserable
During covid I was fortunate to have lived with my parents during a time where so many people had nobody to spend time with. The past year was where the growth really happened, I can say I now am almost always fine with spending time by myself. The tough part is having that ever present desire for a loving partner but feeling stuck finding one.
This channel and others have helped me recognize that feeling while not letting it consume me. Meditation is one hell of a drug
While channels like this helps me currently a lot and yes MEDITATION to overcome my suffering from my break up, I'd like to encourage you to really become proactive in finding a partner, as you surely have spent enough time on selfdeveloptment on your own. I know it sounds cliché but try to engage in group activities of whatever could be of interest to you. Go walk your dog in new places and if you don't have one, go to a shelter. Many shelters are happy to let people walk those poor animals that wait for a home. That way you already better the day of someone! It's easier to get in touch with people at least in my opinion when walking my dog.
Or go join a club! Go to meetups, be aware of your surrounding while doing daily tasks outside. Try the online dating thing maybe even but don't obsess over it - it can work and funnily enough most couples I now know met online, but it shouldn't be the main focus.
I personally don't believe in finding a partner while you're "not even looking".
Funny enough existentialism changed me for the better