When to walk away
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- Опубликовано: 9 июн 2024
- At its heart, it’s about asking ourselves a fundamental question: Is this situation good for me, or should I move on? It’s a simple question, but, for many, extremely difficult to answer.
Video: When to walk away
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00:00 Introduction
01:18 The difficulties of walking away
04:36 The economics of walking away
10:38 Walking from, walking to
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I walked away from a career in medicine. 13 years, gone in an instant. People thought I was insane. But it was the best thing I've ever done in my life.
Can I ask what you decided to do instead? I am in healthcare but would have no idea what to do instead
@@ameanstoanend12It'd be hard to pinpoint but in general an MD has more options than an RN. But RN's I've seen become nursing home or care home owners(incl temp post-op residents), staffing agency, teach. MD's I've seen do the same above but also own the allied health schools they teach in or have other RN's or MLS's teach.
edit: forgot about owning the medical offices they rent out to fellow MD's
Time is the only resource. Spend it wisely.
"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." --Diamond Dragons (Armageddon's Ballad)
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I've been trying to figure that out for the past 10 years... Bouncing around between a variety of things. All I know is I was miserable before, despite supposedly "having direction". @@ameanstoanend12
But why?
Walking away from people doesn’t mean you don’t love them, it simply means that relationships doesn’t bring you happiness anymore, only chaos. You can love them and still walk away!
thanks for sharing, this meant a lot. the last sentence.
@@tiddliewinkse2952 you are welcome ❤️
Self love must come first. Very well Said Mss.
Always be ready to walk away from a female.
@@CitiesOfAsh hey if they disrupting your peace-RUN 😂
Walking away from toxic people last year helped me breathe easier this year.
ive done it more times than i can count.
same here buddy. same here.
Same. I've been doing better for myself ever since
How can one do this if they rely on the other for provision
@@nidaeshaque you have to weigh things out then. if what your getting outweighs the amount of bs a narc dumps on you, so be it. your life, your misery.
I have one life. I will not stay in a bad situation that is resilient to any attempts of changing it. That energy, I will rather use it for something else more worthwhile. The only attachment I have is the love of my indipendence and freedom.
Exactly. Reflection is key. Time is limited. And so, when one is about to cross beyond the void veil... one should Reflect carefully.
"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." --Diamond Dragons (Armageddon's Ballad)
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I love that you understand this. I have tried so many times to explain this to people
independence and freedom from ignorance.
I am in such a situation, with my business. It’s really hard to do so. Also the reason why i come across this vid…
@@aavon2316i had a very successful business, and walked away from it due to circumstances, just like that. you state that its "hard to do so", you have come to the conclusion its not time to walk away yet.
I just walked away from an extremely toxic work environment after seven years of hell. Free at last!
❤ God bless you !
Well done...I salute to you and I am absolutely positive it was a smart move. May G-d give me power to do the same.
Well done to you you've shut that door a new life awaits you
Same - seven years, as well!
"The things you own, end up owning you."
Smartphones lol
Between angels and insects
@@afreen5058I don’t think that’s what it means. More like once you become accustomed to having nice things (expensive$$) you are trapped maintaining that difficult standard. It works with jobs, relationships too. That insta model wife is a full-time job to keep. Also, having possessions weighs you down and stresses you out, you have an inventory in your brain to care about.
@@cowoverthemoo Papa Roach was ahead of their time 😉
Tyler Durden in the house
Leaving a job, friendship, or marriage that's making you unhappy and won't change doesn't make you a "quitter." It makes you an adult.
If you walk away from a marriage without trying to work it out...youre a scumbag.
Dont get married if you feel its not going to work out.
You do more harm to the child if you have kids.
Women if you do walk away...do not ask for alimony.
Have you done any of these in your life so far?
Leaving a marriage. It makes you a selfish quitter who damages the lives of your children and affects the extended family. It usually isn't better on the outside and it isn't usually just the other person's fault (regardless of how you choose to frame it to justify your selfishness). Trust me. Been there.
The more you have to explain and justify yourself or your situation, the more likely you should walk away.
Yikes. I do this often
Very deep
Will take note
I dont agree you need someone who will hold you accountable for your actions, not everyone, is a hater, some people should question you you need them people
Let's say I see my friend doing something I know is not good for him I will definitely question him and get him to justify himself so he understands the error without people like this you will have alot of troubles in life your friends should of got you out of. By walking away your looking for trouble, this sounds like a comment by someone young and not responsible 🤔
Walking away from Toxicity is Winning.
Walking away depends on understanding who you are. Self doubt can be your greatest enemy, more than anything else.
can you stfu please just listen to this video. You are irritating me
This could be because we have had many people telling us in our lives what we should do ?
@@Raven4508I think it is more about listening to them.
YES! I had so much self doubt since December of 2023 until today. I realized it is the messed up, dysfunctional way the company I work in is run. Planning the escape now.
ממש נכון !
30th January 2024. Walked away from the business I founded. The relief was indescribable. I had no idea I would feel that relief until after the event. Sometimes the right thing to do is not blindingly obvious, yet withthe benefit of hindsight, we wonder why we continued in that environment.
Well done. Cheers
As long as you got “paid” when you left…. right
Yes! I did that in 2015. The burden was becoming unbearable. After closing the relief of the weight gone saved me.
I begged my husband for years to walk away from our small business that he hated. When he finally did a decade later, he was so relieved, he got physically healthier, noticeably happier, and we actually became more financially well-off.
Was your business still profitable? I'm thinking of walking away from my business, but it is still profitable and the time:money ratio is very good compared to any job I qualify for
I walked away from an abusive marriage. It was difficult. Years of emotional pain. Yet………. My life is so much better for that choice. Stand your inner knowing. Walk the difficult path. Your only cost will be growth, independence, self respect, and opportunity. I highly recommend the walk of bravery.
Same. I should have never married. And even the next gal whom I thought might actually be a true teammate was yet another psychotic, toxic narcissist. After 30+ years of solid, heartfelt, intelligent attempts to find a legitimately awesome partner, there's just been too much jank, junk, and garbage. But now, tranquility and fulfillment are mine--via solitude. 💪😎✌️ I actually love it, too.
I walked away (more than once), but life unfortunately has not been great. The older I get, the harder it is to start again, I am tired and far less hopeful. Money gives you choices and power to escape and be more comfortable and successful. I'd like you to do a video about how to cope with feeling that you have messed up in life, whether through our own fault or no fault of our own. Thank you for a wonderful channel and always very professional and on-point videos/presentation.
I totally feel you. At some point, for me, I feel I'd rather just have an end to things and suck in as much smoke as possible rather than go through all the pain and struggle to start over, once more.
I agree. The video makes out like there are lots of houses out there....pick one (you got the money?) Same with opportunities. Lots of opportunities..just pick one (without the recent experience or particular degree?) I am now 65, divorced 7 years ago from a toxic marriage. Starting over again has been really, really tough and then to top it off, I was bullied out of my last 2 jobs (too old, I guess). I look at my life and think this is nothing like how I planned it to be and because of other people's actions, I had a choice of toxicity...or the hand-to-mouth uncertainty I now have. It is a fairy tale that the whole world is out there with houses and jobs and friends there for the taking.
I'm in the same spot. 59 and so many toxic jobs, people, family...starting over and over and over. I think I've moved 57 times!!!! I don't think I can start over again, but thankfully I finally have a safe place to live at least. I'm resting and I've pretty much walked away from everyone and everything. Like the t-shirt says, "I like my dog and MAYBE one other person'...if that.
Best thing I ever heard on this (I've done it myself) is the wake doesn't drive the boat.
Leave the past in the past. Some of the stuff that at the time was terrible turned out to have huge positive effects on my life.
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Nobody messes up, you have been indoctrinated into an individualistic mind set, the answer is far more collective.
You are capable, useful and valuable. If society is failing in providing you
the opportunity to be happy or worse exploiting you, then its society that has failed you.
The individual doesn’t fail the collective, the collective fails the individual.
ive never regretted walking away from anyone/anything, ever.
Me neither. I have never understood how people don’t walk away instantly from toxic environments (friendships, workplaces, intimate relationships). Time is the greatest asset in our lives, what are some extra thousands of bucks worth if you contract cancer or some other terrible mental/physical disease soon. Only cowards don’t have the courage of walking away from these places.
@@davidleon4052 its something you mention cowards. out present day society is full of them, narc, and non narcs alike. was with my narc gf for 8yrs off, and on. i would never tolerate her bs, but took her back 4x because i loved her. her last f up was it, all done. i could have lived the rest of my days w the good aspects of her, but those bad ones eventually overruled the good.
Best thing Ive ever done is walk away from my toxic family.
I try too
I know what you did was right, the worst enemies are to be found in the family.
Yes, I can relate. Especially when they try to convince you they are "Christians" yet there is no love or support, only finger-wagging, criticism, and shame. I don't think they read the same New Testament as I did.
WALK AWAY !!! And if you can RUN !!!!
that's cool and all but it must be also noted how to find new relationships
Better yet, flying 🛫 away is much faster than walking and running😂😅
Walking away becomes considerably easier when, even if you don't know what will happen, you know you can count on your own mind and your resilience. This mental resilience is what I'm trying to build 🙏
I think the hardest part is when your own family does not support you, then you feel totally alone.
@@jkphotography9757 you are not alone, you have your self.
@@kiavaxxaskew I need to learn to enjoy being alone. 💔it is not easy
It's too expensive and additionally stressful to keep up with the health effects of chronic stress.
Walked away from my toxic family situation (mom, dad and sister) and never been more 'at peace'.
The stillness, sense of calm, and contentment I feel without them is indescribable.
A dysfunctional family environment is just not worth staying in. It took me 3 years and saving up a lot of money to 'escape'.
I am so proud of myself for eventually mustering the courage to leave.
I left a life of material luxuries (7 Bedroom McMansion with Pool and In-House staff). But all those material comforts meant nothing when they came with constant insults, misbehaviour, emotional abuse, manipulation, etc. at the hands of so-called family...
I admire your act
You're brave
Good on you mate.
Stay at peace. Many of us struggle down that path. I walk towards that peaceful place. ❤
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Learning to walk away has been one of the best things I've done.
I really love the message of this video.
Think of it this way, life’s like a closet. Sometimes, you’ve gotta clear out the old stuff to make space for the cool new finds.
Walking away? It’s kinda like decluttering. You're just making room for the awesome new experiences and friendships that are waiting to pop into your life.
So don’t sweat saying bye to the old, it’s your hello to the exciting and new :)
Thanks for the video!
3 months ago i walked away from my former best friend and lover. she was the closest relationship i’d had in my life so far in life and taught me a lot about myself and the world and other people. After a while we stopped being compatible with one another and we tried to fight for so long but eventually the smoke in our house became too suffocating. I felt so guilty for so long about leaving her because she wanted to stay for me, but i know now i made the right decision. I still have love for her but in order to become who we are meant to be we can’t be with each other anymore. It’s been one of hardest journeys i’ve had to face in life, the pain has been great and i’m still mourning, but I know i loved her enough to save both of us from the smoke before it got worse.
I really felt what you said here. Sometimes, we walk away and take a hard choice for benefit of both yourself and her, since the smoke is continuing to rise.
It's a corny saying but true. It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, and stay away from country music! Throw all their stuff out.
I can feel ur pain as I am walking away from a similar relationship after 6 years of dating and one year of marriage my life took another turn and put too much strain and responsibilities on me and I could no longer be happy or see eye to eye with my best friend and husband. I decided to walk away since our lifestyles and values have changed and made us no longer compatible. We had no conflicts or fights but we both suffered in silence. It is really painful when you are the one who make that decision it takes a lot of courage and responsibility as u will always have that guilt!
Nah Blood. You truly Love That Girl. And we Let the ones We Truly LOve go at the end of the day. Stay Blessed. Jesus Loves You.
If something is not worth fighting for then it's time to walk away. But when someone you know is going through a rough moment, don't walk away. Be supportive and help them get over it.
I love your videos.
Every single ex that didnt give a shit when I had a rough time... just one sad mood and they're gone even if you supported them 20times.
Losing hope in this world
What if that person is in a perpetual cycle of rough moments?
Some people play the victim in order to keep you around. Discernment is necessary. Don't throw you life away for perpetual victims.
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There are people who are ungrateful. Hopefully, you will find someone who treats you with the respect and support you deserve.
@@mikec2822 Ha! that's practically everyone these days....
Many people do not walk away when they should because of peer pressure. Family and friends encouraging and even pushing you to stay in a certain job you don't even like because your peers do not understand that your inner world is up in flames, slowly burning away into sadness and depression as you waste your life somewhere, in some situation where you know you don't belong.
I walked away from my first ever job this year because I felt mistreated, I wasn't given the full payment, I was made to work every single day of the week a few times (that would be 63 hours a week) doing hard physical labor inside the cold of a fridge, being pulled 10 different ways at once by different managers working at the place, I got sick to the point of having to take 5 types of medicine. It was my decision to walk away, and I still think it was a damn good decision. Everyone gave me the side eye which made me feel bad, but I decided I'm not gonna let other people's opinions stop me, even if these are people that care about me and do the things they do for love.
When situations get out of control and dealing with people becomes unbearable, then its a clear sign that you need to Walk Away!
Yes. Face your fears. The worst thing that can ever happen is death. Once you lose this fear of death, you are free. For one thing.
Death is not the worst thing that can happen. A man made myth. There are so many things much worse.
death is freedom from the test of life.
the only bad thing about death is that it could never entail what happens after it.
I was just laid off and really needed to hear this. Thank you.
It's gonna be ok.
You didn't go away by your own choice, so it's something completely different. You can't now talk yourself into it as if you left voluntarily
it may or may not be okay. you may or may not die, but that's okay. it is what it is.
I am walking away from people that called themselves my friends, but are always put me down with little deprecating comments. Even if it is in a form of a joke it is not. Walk away!
You need to learn to have some thick skin and stop taking yourself so seriously.
I absolutely resonate with this! ❤
@manikyum and you need to learn to just stfu when you dont know the full story
I just recently committed to quitting my dead end job of 9 years, and now I finally feel ok about it. Thank you.
You the best, people who walked away from something that just bring more pain than benefits is a Beast!
The burning house is a wicked metaphor for all this. Main reason why so many people likely don't walk away from such soul sucking relationships or jobs, is because they may have rushed into something like a mortgage for a house or they have kids, or both, so they feel like they're stuck. But even if they wanted to walk away, it might feel too risky from a money standpoint. A sort of rock and a hard place situation. We're all burdened with ideals from young, "Get a job - a mortgage - a house - a partner - kids", With the way things are nowadays, I'm glad I learned quite early to not rush straight into all that crap...
Walking away is much more powerful and destructive than fighting. It is the definite and irrepairable breach of loyalty. People will forgive an argument but for walking out on them they will resent you for the rest of their lives. And it is amazing how few will try to make amends once you're gone. As if nothing mattered anyway.
Sometimes you need to cut your loses . And walk away
Sometimes the best thing you can do is walking away and never looking back
יפה !
Anybody has a problem with the concept of walking 'away', think of it as walking towards something better
The unknown IS better than an openly toxic/harmful environment, and the unknown is the potential to wander upon something greater~ Better than being stuck in a cesspool.
Walking away is great advise to people who are in desperate situations. Both emotionally and physically. The downside is minimal I would think. What have they got to lose really?
The reality is that most people do not fall into this situation. They are not desperate but rather discontent with life. The job pays the bills but stressed and bored with it. Family adds a whole differnent dynamic to not walking away. For most people, it's too risky to walk away at some point. We settle. Even at the cost of our contentment.
People live lives of quiet desperation not matter how good it looks for them from the outside. Suffering and insecurities seems to be a default to living. All the gold in the world will not solve this. Hopefully most of us can find enough positive and pleasure to make life tolerable. Dont beat yourself up. It's not your fault.
I lived comfortably in a job/work environment that took my mental health and zest for life slowly over more than a decade. It was incremental, to the point I didn't notice how far I slipped into apathy.
One has responsibilities, but they should never be at the cost of mental and physical wellbeing. It is hard to escape the trap of familiar comfort while ignoring what it's costing you. When you no longer enjoy life, feel trapped, or are too tired to do things you enjoy in your free time, it really is time to reevaluate where you are in life. It's never easy starting fresh, but that said, you likely will find the desire to chase it successfully once you change paths and break the cycle you were once in.
Most of walking away has to do with people. I don’t like them very much anyway. I like living alone. Humans have fantasy expectations about life because we believe in lies.
I was living in my bosses guest house rent free all I had to do was yard chores, clean the pool and run errands. Sweet....right?
After 1 year he showed his true sociopathic personality and my LIFE WAS IN DANGER.
I had no money, no other jobs and no family or friends.
Luckily I escaped and spent 2 years in a crummy HOMELESS SHELTER...bad people and bed bugs. BUT....that's where I met the love of my life with whom I spent 13 happy years.
And the time spent in that shelter was an education in human behavior.
A pretty good trade.
I moved across country to be closer to my 10 year best friend. We wanted to live in the same city again for years and years. Just like you, I thought it would be safe and perfect. I mean we have a best friend tattoo. I travel for work and was only there a few days a month so what can go wrong. She became jealous, mentally abusive, and tried to financially abuse me. I ran as fast as I could. I was lucky enough to almost immediately find a host job in a national forest (childhood dream) as a temporary thing. I stayed there for 8 months. It was worth it. 1000%. A mutual friend mocked me and called me homeless even though I make 6 figures. Being “homeless” saved me from abuse and control. Thank you for posting your story
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Thanks to you as well. You are a strong intelligent soul. ✌ & 😄
@@rachreid8746sometimes it takes us time to see certain peoples true colors and their intentions. You are a strong person and good for you for putting your safety and mental well-being first before anyone. Sometimes we grow apart from others and that’s ok.
Sorry you were homeless , you showed immense courage and I hope you're in a great place now ❤
@@andyp8464
Everything is good now but, sadly my companion left Earth 9/2021. My section 8 apartment is heaven. Those 2 years in the homeless shelter turned out to be a blessing
Hi, this is a reply to everyone who has watched this and still feels sadness. I understand, I'm in my 50s and not in the best place, but to all of you, please keep going, please don't give up. It does feel harder to start again the older we get, but remember that we also have more experience to draw on to help us keep going. Believe me, this positivity coming out of me right now is as much (okay, more) for my benefit than for anyone reading this, but when I push aside fear and disappointment and I'm honest with myself (and listen to my friends, too) I know that there's still so much to achieve, experience and be proud of if I can let go of the head stuff. I hope you can all find that something in yourselves to keep fighting for. Surround yourself with your friends, make friends if you don't have any, and keep going. I believe there is ALWAYS something else, we just have to seize those moments when the come by. All the best to you, truly. ❤
Thank you
Always follow your free will and call from your soul over "putting up" with bad circumsatnces. Even if it leaves you worse off financially or less secure.
It's better to stand against tyranny than comply with it. If you don't and no one else does then what will be the outcome? Complying with authority, appeasing it, negotiating with it, these things only ever give authority more power over you.
Always walk away and keep your personal sovereignty, at least your next choice will be yours to make, even if it's from the confines of the next situation.
Freedom is inherent, it isn't earned. Money is earned, but money cannot buy freedom.
Wow, this video really hit home for me. Asking ourselves whether a situation is truly benefiting us or if it's time to move on is something we all struggle with at some point. It takes courage to walk away from something that's not serving us, but sometimes it's the only way to truly grow and thrive. Thanks for the thought-provoking content, it's conversations like these that make me love this channel even more!
Exactly! Maybe something that your channel can talk about as well!
I walked away from a VERY toxic work environment of 9.5 years in September 2017. It was one of the BEST decisions of my life. In August 2018 I ended up finding the BEST work environment I have ever experienced in my life, and right before my one year anniversary I ended up moving to a house that is a 10 min walk from my office and a 2.5min drive, BEST work commute of my life in August 2019. This coming August 2024 is my 6 year anniversary at my work and my 5 year anniversary at my house and I could not be happier. I absolutely LOVE and appreciate everyone that I work with, they feel like a beautiful family. And my boss is the BEST boss I have ever had. She is also a wonderful friend, she truly cares and appreciates everyone that works for her. I feel so incredibly blessed 🙌 😇
How exactly was it toxic can you please explain
This video found me today. I have been stuck for years in a country and job that is stagnant and dead-end. Fear has been the reason for me not walking away. Thank you for this video. Just what I needed to hear!!
I’ve had to walk away from my toxic older brother and his toxic wife recently. After watching this video, I feel more confident that I’ve made the right choice. I don’t know if it’s forever that I’ve walked away, but I know it’s the right thing to do for now. Thanks for always helping bring clarity in my life, Einzelganger!
I just walked away from my toxic family. They will be there when they needed you and will disappear when you needed them. They would turn things around like everything is my fault. I've been very patient with them for so long and yesterday I just couldn't take it anymore. This video came at the right time when I needed it the most. Thank you.
relatives.. family is different 🖤
@@kalbsleber Only God can judge me 🖤🏳🖤
@@kalbsleber well that explains it okay Heathen hypocrite, Jesus still Loves you. all you have to do is repent.
@@Scarhead_Ed "Relatives are people who are related by blood or marriage. A family is a group of people, typically consisting of two parents and their children, living together as a unit". In my case its family.
I'm 30 years old now and I have never have strong attachment to something or anyone. I'm content with life since I was in my 20's. I still do have goals and ambitions I want to achieve.
Never get too dependent on anyone other than yourself, then you will have
fewer disappointments.
Bro you are preaching. I'm literally dealing with this with my current job/career I'm ready to walk away however this job market hasn't been the best.
You have already talked yourself out of it and this video isn’t ’preaching’….. you can do anything anytime. The trick is…. plan / set up your next move
The job market has never been the "best" or "worst", in all fields. What defines "best" or "worst"? There will always be a worse time and there will always be a better time.
What market are you in?
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@@NigelHyphenJones You are also giving up any seniority and perhaps, for a time, benefits. You will also be the first laid off because you are the most junior. There is a lot to consider when job hopping and much of it is totally out of your control.
I did it from my narcissistic mother after two decades of pleading and it’s the best decision I have ever made
Same
Thanks for the video Einzel, i walked away from a toxic relationship at the end of last year, many things have happened since then, but i've "opened" a door of so much self-improvement, i am happy of where i am, and i truly have to say, i may be alone in my house right now, at least it is full of fresh air and it feels good to be alive, cheers!
One of the fears is imagining a healed and healthier life but without the person you just loved and gave your all to. You finally made it but he didn’t make it with you.
I love how in the beginning he mentions walking away for financial reasons. I befriended a family who was nice to me and fairly appreciative but I had to pay for everything. It was like I was renting friends but basically I was. It was even "Like I was." So I ghosted them. What would I tell them. I have a problem with them being broke or not offering to pay. Then I started pocket watching. Where, they can't at least put down a tip at the restaurant but just went to the movies yesterday. I walked away.
I walked away from everyone in my family, including my adult children. I can’t do the toxic gaslighting, bullying and mind games anymore.
Good on you. Recognizing the cause and effect of such behaviors is vital for ones well-being.
Walking away is never easy, thanks for shedding some more light on the positives.
Almost every comment here is a person leaving a toxic work environment or a toxic relationship...what does this tell you about our society?
My guy, you have no idea how timely this video is.. thank you! ❤
“It’s only when we’ve lost everything, we’re free to do anything” Tyler Durden.
Sometimes walk away and sometimes walk up to. Life is short. Follow your heart otherwise you'll become heartless.
Needed this more than you know. Thank you.
Me too
"Walking away is the easy part, standing up is the hard part"
Sometimes walking away is just as hard
From my own experience leaving three jobs and one relationship I did do some serious soul searching for a couple of months each time. The clearest signals (smoke) I got from my body. A bad back, gone in a day after I quit. Losing sleep no more after I quit. Drinking less after I quit. So my advice is to sense the accumulation of smoke if your body is giving you signs. It does require self knowledge. And the other thing is money, if you are in debt then walking a way is way more difficult. So if youre young please save for a rainy day, it will come in drops or in showers.
Tennessee Williams said something like you should leave sometimes even when theres nowhere to go.
I have a feeling a lot of people walked away from him. I love his writing, have read it all, but he was seriously alcoholic like many writers in his time. .
It's 90% gray area. What are the absolutes that determine walking away? It's a mixed bag then walking into another mixed bag. Life is shitty usually, no perfect answers, an illusion of reasonable happiness changing from minute to minute.
I’ve walked away from so many things. I have abandonment issues but knowing to throw in the towel has helped me grow immensely. My public accounting career, a distant and unsupportive parent… and until recently a partner I knew I’d grow to resent because he didn’t love me the way I needed to be loved. I had to let it all go and I’ll never stop reinventing myself.
Lost a wallet with my ID and bank cards too, in a foreign country.
Being a loser has never felt so scary and liberating. 😂
Don’t feel bad twin…we are simply human. Keep on chuggin.
-Lost my visa, ID, and social within 2 weeks.
-Just walked away from another narc
-No contact with toxic family
-Bad abandonment issues
You are not a loser. Never say that ♥️
@@SayaddinaBeneGesserit oh my word! Are we the same person? I've also stopped trying to justify my needs to friends and other people. I'm tired of carrying the cross of feeling unloved by the very people who put me on this Earth. I'll just have to give myself all this love I know is in my heart. The compassion. Thank you for your comment🥰
Soon gonna walk away from everything
Omg don't kill yourself
Chill bros, I'm not so much coward that I'll unalive myself. I'm just walking away from every relationship I made or got into. I'm just leaving bcz these fake relationships don't mean anything to me anymore
I'm not depressed about my life, just frustrated so much about earning more money
@@istoppedlaughing5225 Don't be frustraded, in fact when I started to calculate each outcome from my friendships noticed that they relied for 2-3 things - my presence for giving very good and FREE advices and giving them money and my FREE time when needed. At the end they just proved their animal side, so I threw some truths in their faces waiting for animal to intelligent response. Former won in around 10:1, including those of my dad and mom (1 point for intelligent came from a very good person, still living with abusive relatives)
Then checked what money gave me, and literally they provided me a home, food, access to knowledge (especially for human social behavior) and highest freedom
PS: Interestingly those people still talk behind their backs which is at least hilarious
Walking away isn't cowardly, isn't just giving up because the situation/person is too difficult. It's discernement whether the situation is worth investing in or not. I gave up on sick relationships, even with family and significant others, and started over elsewhere. Best decisions ever. I rebuilt my way. Don't listen to the haters and jealous who want power over you, I.e. the narcissists.
leaving the marriage would be hard, but not impossible, but leaving the kids...who need me so much...that is the hard bit....those innocent little people need their dad!
Eventually we all have to walk away... from life. Time is the real currency of life not money.
"Time is money."
I just really love all the thoughts I'm reading in the comments, I can't think of anything to add.
Your videos have such a high degree of synchronicity in my life. I've been absolutely mulling over moving cities. It's only a 3 hour drive - and just an unbelievable painful 'aha' moment the other day: I will *never* be able to afford to comfortably live without room-mates in the city I currently live. Too expensive. Good to type that out.
There are time's, and perhaps they are _most_ of them, when we should just "let it go" - when we should walk away. But there are also times when the personal cost of doing so is simply too high, and we should stay. ☯︎
I cant walk away, we share 6 dependents and I have no way of supporting them and I cannot leave them
Thank you for yet another thought-provoking and considered video! I look forward to your videos and often re-watch older ones. This video was particularly relevant for me. Several months ago, I was confronted with walking away or rather being walked away from. My longest standing friendship (over 35 years) has always been a difficult one. My friend‘s and my lives paralleled each other but also sometimes we lost touch. Four times over the course of the friendship, my friend hurt me deeply - her words can be very toxic. She is very eloquent and enjoys the power that comes with harsh pronouncements. After each of these four events, I would try to defend myself or would try to fight back, which always led to her breaking off contact for a while. The fourth time was about 6 months ago. I criticized her for not supporting me and my efforts even though I had always tried to be supportive of her (no one is perfect but one tries). Long story short - she has cut off all contact with me and I still don‘t understand why. All I can do (and have done) is to keep the communication „door“ open. But, over the past 6 months, I have thought a lot about why, although it was my feelings which were hurt, she never apologized and just lashed out at me. I came to the conclusion that, although this is my longest standing friendship and we have shared a LOT of experiences, in the end it was a toxic friendship. Because of my background (moving every 2 years as a kid), keeping friendships seemed the most important thing and I guess I just accepted any behavior as OK in order to maintain the friendship.
Thanks to your videos and a lot of thinking, I am ok letting go of her friendship. I hope she is OK and content with her life. Now I have extra time I can spend on other people or other activities. Letting go can indeed be freeing.
Again, thank you so much for your videos!!!
I let go of a long friendship similar to yours as well. it was three years ago and worth it in the end. And also, even though your ex-friend cut the contact, I still think that you’re the one that’s walking away from her because you’ve shut the “friendship door”. Shutting the door means loving and respecting yourself by only allowing good people into your life. I think you should be proud of yourself 😊
@@charlielinnell ♥️🙏
It isn't easy because sometimes everything we have or possess is available in a specific space. Moving away also means leaving everything behind.
Your videos are such a light in the midst of darkness. I truly appreciate your content!
I am safer physically and emotionally walking away from my 23 year long toxic marriage as well as my toxic family of origin. HOWEVER, I will never recover financially. Both parties screwed me over with hidden accounts and taking inheritances and at my age I can never earn back anywhere close to where I should be. Hearing my then-husband threaten to bankrupt me in court kept me in the marriage longer than I wanted.....
Thanks Einzelganger - this quote by C.Day-Lewis “walking Away” I keep in my journal and read it often. Quite apropos I dare say:
“How Self-hood begins
With the walking away,
And love is proved
In the letting go.”
I'm glad I found your channel. You post almost at the exact times I need them. 🙏🏽
this is very timely. i really want to walk away and quit my job, but i am so scared since thats my only source of income and i have bills to pay, i support my father, medicines to buy… 😭 i want to quit but i have responsibilities and i cant be selfish… but man… the urge to call by boss and say i quit is strong.
Hi...maybe u could apply for a new job,once that new job is secured,then u can tell your boss to fly kite!!
This knowledge is the real wealth. My cravings got satisfied for today!
Just to include some personal perspective in case someone can benefit from it, for me, the decision to leave my job two months ago, was not quite based on an economical calculation, but an emotional one. I finally realized that my boss was an abusive person.
It’s easy to say know, but it took me the best part of a year to come to terms to the idea that sometimes, in live and also in the workplace, one will meet a manipulative person that doesn’t want your benefit. It’s no ones fault, that’s just life. I’ve learned that the psychology has reached to the conclusion that 1 of 20 people is inside of the dark triad of perverse personality.
After that understanding, I knew that the promises of my boss about my future and also the plans I had for the position, will never be fulfilled because he was dishonest. All the attachment I had for the position I’ve earned with hard work, just vanished and the perspective of a finding a new job come natural.
Today, I think it was the best decision I’ve ever made.
Thank you for the video, I love the channel ❤
My wife walked away from our marriage and our son for someone who beats her, got her addicted to fentanyl and made her homeless. I took her back and she wasn’t the same anymore. Even then, she would invite her prison bound ex boyfriend while I’m at work. This time I kicked her out for good. And I’m walking away so far I’m moving to Europe.
Walk away at the right time, don't accept that you can't do anything about it.
Thanks!
Every act you undertake is out of fear or love.
Idk.. sometimes I'm courteous too. 😊
@@vicmorrison8128 I would say being courteous is an act of love.
Where did you get this from?
@@levity90 conversations with God.
Walking away for me is actually the best at least I don't regret it even one bit. I'm actually happy, peaceful at heart and collected.
The only problem with walking away is almost everywhere you go there will always be difficult people. You have to say to yourself im not going to tolerate them anymore. I found by watching Dan oconner videos has helped me to stand up for myself without having to react but to respond. 😊
I had started walking away before Dad was killed, but after his murder I thought Mom and I could establish a healthy relationship. I already knew she was trouble, but I owed it to Dad to provide her time and comfort, and perhaps we could develop a positive relationship, which we had never really had. It simply wasn't to be.
Ultimately, after 46 years experiencing mental, physical, sexual and spiritual abuse from our mother, I finally understood that everything I said to or did for her would be misconstrued and used against me. It seemed the purer my thoughts, statements, or intentions, the greater an opportunity for her to make me look like a horrible person, and to make herself appears as a victim. In my opinion, she was "Miss Information, the Queen of Envy".
Yes, it was painful to walk away, but I gained tremendous peace while, according to my siblings and their children, she projected the guilt of the abuse she'd poured out all those years while also continuing to play the victim. Her life was a tragedy of her own making.
Professional bridge burner here, I feel seen! 😅
Lol 😂
But why do you do it
Brilliant as always. So relevant to the prevailing narrative on valuing yourself and never sacrificing your joy for money. Thank you!
I loved this video, but it made me think of the flip side. That is, how quickly people today seem to discard things. It feels that we are always on to greener pastures, and we don't give things time to bloom.
Walked away from my family. best decision of my life. Toxic people will tear you apart for their personal gain.
I know people on work places don't have value.Value don't exist anymore.Exist how to joke you for money and buling.Gosip,buling,and joke to take your money.Value is for the person who do this.
Why Walking Away Is Good:
1. Boundaries: Walking away establishes and maintains healthy boundaries, safeguarding your mental well-being from toxic situations.
2. Self-Reflection: Stepping back allows for introspection, fostering a deeper understanding of your emotions and needs.
3. Reduced Stress: Removing yourself from a negative environment can significantly lower stress levels, contributing to better mental health.
4. Empowerment: Choosing to walk away empowers you to prioritize your mental health and take control of your life.
5. Perspective Shift: Distance can provide a fresh perspective, helping you see situations more objectively and make informed decisions.
Thank you for this. I am going to be migrating to another country soon and the feeling of separation anxiety hits me so early but this video helped me a lot to understand my situation and gave me new insights.
I really struggle to leave my families farm. I work here for 12 years now and things between me and my parents, especially my father get worse and worse. I already told them that I want to go multiple times, but they just don't take it serious. They are 68 and 64 this year and I feel guilty to go, but nothing will ever change around here and I am stressed out for no reason just being around them. They don't do this on purpose, but in the end it is the same for me. I stay this year to make sure they are financially secure, but after that I do not really see a future where this relationship changes. It feels like I threw away my best years here and I do not really have a plan what to do after, but I also don't want to continue like this..... although my mood changes all the time around this topic. I would leave my home knowing that there is a big chance that I will regret this later.....between a rock and a hard place.....is that how you describe this situation in english?
Perfect timing ,thank you
Thank you. I needed to hear this.
Thank you so much for making this video. I never seen such a informed approach / framework to make such hard decisions
I'm currently walking away from a business I founded which was taking everything from me, and a relationship with someone who is great but I know isn't right deep down. It's hard and painful but to continue for a day longer is even worse. Do what you have to do.
I spent over 10 years in the army and law enforcement, where being strong in tough times, putting your own needs away and not giving up on others was needed.
I fell in love with a girl that turned out to have borderline, and everything inside me wants to not give up, knowing when she’s pushing me away it’s not her “actual self”
So here I am, opening my heart out to strangers, watching videos on RUclips trying to cope with it.
I think I know exactly what you went through with that girl.
The more you tried, the more you did… the less it worked, right? Pure agony.
I’m happy you are out of that situation.
Consider yourself lucky. Run as fast as possible away from that girl
@@manikyum thank you for this. Unfortunately, it wasn’t or isn’t that easy. My mind is saying 1 thing, and my heart a different.
it can be one of the most euphoric experiences in life when you finally walk away from something not right for you.
Needed this so much. Thank you.
The secret to contentment isn't never giving up, it's knowing WHEN to give up.