1. We don't like mind games (we know what you are doing and can sense your motives, esp INFP-As) 2. No Fakiness (we can sense that too) 3. Don't try to change us; we don't need fixing just because we aren't like you. 4. If you want to befriend us for 'taking advantage' purposes, just walk away; we would never do that to you. It's taken me 5 decades to really feel comfortable in my own skin and to finally feel proud of who I really am, and worthy. We really are great. Embrace who you are and please don't change or hide your light to make others feel comfortable. We don't owe anyone anything.
INFPs can be VERY open and extravertish. Most introverts seem to be a bit neurotic, but many INFPs who are doing what they like lose all neurotic tendencies and then it is really hard to recognize the I, even when it is very strong and far from E.
I came here to gather some information for I am working on a pokeball to capture me some INFPS. Got to catch them all for they are my precious. -a slightly evil INFJ
Plank Tonn, I know what you mean, I too am an INFJ that likes the INFP people, some of my closest friends are INFP people, their like special little snowflakes, but, unlike you, I don't want to capture them, I just want to tell them that they are special, that they do matter, and they deserve love, caring, understanding, respect, and lots of hugs, even if they claim that they don't want any hugs, I know that is bullshit, because, everyone likes hugs, even the people that claim they hate it, because, I know they secretly like hugs, they just don't want to admit it, because, they see affection as a sign of weakness, when in reality, admiting that you like hugs an effection is one of the strongest things you can do.
@@LunaDarkNightwerewolf Thank you for writing me, nobody wrote me in a long time. The device that I capture INFPs with is not a prison, but my heart# they all have a place in my heart.
@@LunaDarkNightwerewolf I'm working on expanding my heart so that they can all fit in. If the universe keeps expanding all the time, why can't my heart?
I’m an infp and I was diagnosed with a personality disorder too last year (borderline) and I only have one friend that I would call my best friend and that I trust completely cuz I know she has my best interest in mind and she’s loving and supportive (she’s an entj) I love her more than I love anyone in my life :)
Bobby Adams you’re not alone. I also have Bpd and I’m an infp... interestingly enough I was watching on this reddit post the mbti of people with Bpd and inXX types are very common 🤔
I'm not an INFP, I'm an INTP but I am very confident I have Avoidant Personality Disorder. I am also trying to become close with an INFP with social anxiety. This should be interesting, wish me luck. I am planning on getting officially diagnosed soon. I am starting therapy which is very terrifying
All this time I always thought that there's problem with me because I'm actually picky when it comes to finding my own circles of friends, but because of watching this vid I realize that it's just normal for an INFP to do that. I'm always afraid of being criticized by others being judged by them, and I also don't trust people easily. Watching your videos Ms. Me an INFP makes me feel better, like I'm not alone anymore and there's finally someone I can relate with. I feel so happy 😊
The inconsistency thing is so accurate. I tend to shut people out if they don't seem consistent. I think the avoidant personality thing goes hand in hand with the INFP personality.
Me, an ENFP did all of it to a INFP girl...now she is my BFF. We know each other for over 4 years now, and we never ever had an argument. She's just the best 🖤
The "Im not going to want to be friends with you" is said a lot, and as an INFJ its hard to understand how INFP's don't want to be judged but have very strict criteria for them to have even the slightest interest in wanting to be a friend. "You either have it or you don't." it creates so much anxiety, because its like walking on eggshells to avoid insulting them. Idk this threw me way off 😂
I agree with you 100%! I'm an INFJ and the compatability between INFP/INFJ is way off! I find the INFP self centered, self serving... and empty shell... and the type borders on covert narcasism! I will never get involved with an INFP ever again... walking on eggshells around them borders on ridiculous and inauthentic!
"quality time and non-judgemental attitude". That's totally true. I'm an hsp infp myself and I may appear very extraverted (I consider myself in the ambivert spectrum) but to really get to know me I can be a shell hard to open up. Thanks for your reflections, they do help to improve myself!
Yesss, I relate so much! The one on one thing is very true! I clam up so much in groups >A< and yeah, I’m not very initiative esp with conversations, but I try to :(( and when ppl would tell me not to be so quiet, I just feel like wanting to be more quiet tbh :/
@@kijetesantakaluSokete To be fair their are famous INFP I would never even want to meet, forget be friends with. I will give you just such a one, Johnny Depp, I feel he has irreversibly embraced one of his shadow aspects and is deeply disturbed. There are roads that go one way and from which there is no return.
(INFP) Will counter that Non-consistency does not make INFP's hypocritical. It's the fact that someone else can demonstrate what we have difficulty doing ourselves that stands out. Be you! Your vibe will attract your tribe... even if the tribe is 3 or 4 people deep. ; )
Great points im isfp and resonate with alot of what you said. The big difference is I dont care if I feel safe. I want freedom to do what I want or freedom to be me which i think is linked to Se/Ni
This is such sweet video🤗... as an INFP myself I relate to everything you’ve said here!!! Consistent, trustworthy, and authenticity is incredible important in building any type of relationship really!! And yes, one on one conversations have always been by favorite way to get close to someone! It’s SO refreshing to hear how much we’re similar👏🏻Thank you SOo much! 🙏🏻🍁✨
What is so amazing about this video is how much you actually look like me. It is like I am watching a video that I made. You have my same look! But you look like me about 20 years ago when I was younger. I'm an infp as well. Not all infps look that similar, but I find there are some ways in which we do often share characteristics, whether in appearance or how we act.
I absolutely love you for sharing this. As an INFJ I have made an amazing INFP friend on line and her friendship means the world to me! I am so afraid to do or say the wrong thing to her because I value our friendship so much. I have learnt so much from this! Thanks so much!
Hello community of INFP, very great information, been going through the vids about what it means to be one, from bot the textbook, and real people, and ur vid so far makes me feel normal.. and im not the only one with weird ways of doing things, dont feel so alone ... not that i mind being alone.. just glad that, its actually a thing .. So thanks for sharing ur wisdom..
Yes an INFP can have wildly different values, but also many similar traits. I concur wholeheartedly about your "one of the main things", we desire to spend time with those we value. Your presence is the best presents to us, especially the unwrapping ... sorry I will try and avoid the double entendre (I did mean, in depth of understanding as well, so I was only being half bad). But more seriously, I agree consistent and persistent time spent, if we are desirous, is most approbo. But I agree, you also must temper it by not being cloying or needy, we need time to acclimatize to you and give you our trust. Cancel on us to many times, and we will assume you are only agreeing out of a sense of obligation, and we do not want to be a burden so will let you go and not seek to spend any more time with you. If we were lookin forward to our time with you and you cancel to many times you will deeply wound us, and you will need to prepare a special balm to apply to our injured soul ... I dated a girl who could not just enjoy the time and get to know me, everything was about pushing her agenda. And not what you might think I daresay ...did you think long term relationship or marriage? Understandable that one might make that conclusion, but you would be wrong, she just wanted carnal involvement. I was still a virgin and had been a christian about 9 years at that point, I was baptized in the Spirit about 2 years, and spoke in tongues. I hade made a vow at age 19 when I was first saved. I took a vow of celibacy, that I would not fornicate, I would wait for marriage. She was not having any of that, sadly for me. More than anything I wanted to accommodate her, but I can not, and will not betray my own values. The Bible says "Better that thou shouldest not vow, than that thou shouldest vow and not pay." To betray my vow was unthinkable, although I did think about it, and came precariously close. I really thought she was the one for me, but then she said something, "I could never be faithful to you", and that was the denouement of that relationship. In parting I actually hoped for the best for her, my feelings of love were not gone, but I could never accept unwillingness to a full lifelong commitment. I never broke that vow ;-p. It is not that I do not want to have sex, but moreover, I want to have it with someone I can share a deep meaningful connection that will evolve into a life interwoven and intertwined, two colours mixed on the artists pallet, red and blue becomes purple, the colour of kings and majesty. If you want to ride the river Styx, my friends, you must pay the ferryman Charron, to take you to the other side. True love is a deep well, and those who bring no bucket and rope, shall go away thirsty. Out Te hates criticism if we feel it is unfounded or a betrayal of something we value deeply. Yes the written word over the spoken word, unless that spoken word is memorized and repeated verbatim. Our Ne makes spoken and unrehearsed words, chaotic and we will digress at every turn. Sometimes even when we write lol. I did make a rap on the fly once though for my coworker. See you digressed when you said "I do not know how I got on this one point", very INFP of you. I agree, we are responding not initiating, if we initiate and you blow us off ... never expect that to happen, ever again. The ball is back in your court, serve or go play with someone else, darn double entendre again, sorry I really tried. We are not messy! We are discerning in what we choose to organize and when ... we can be great organizers when our Si kicks in, but if we are in Fi and or Ne, then you will just have to wait, or better yet, offer to help us, if we like you we will appreciate it more than you think. If you judge us then Te kicks in and we will let you know how we feel about it in no uncertain terms, if you beat on our Te, beware because you do not want to meet our Ti demon function, you will not like us when we are mad. We are not quiet, our minds never shut up, we are just thinking about all the things we could say if we felt like it. You are right, safety and trust are synonymous. If we trust you we will feel safe enough with you to open up. Sometimes I get a good feeling about people and open up before they have proven trustworthy, I am usually right, but when I am not, feels bad man. I always try and keep my word, there are times I have done what I said at great cost to myself, like helping someone even when I was up 24hrs or more, a few times even 36 hrs. But they mattered enough to me that I was willing to make that sacrifice, exhaustion can be quite the impediment to fulfilling an obligation let me tell you. Other times I was there in cases of actual danger, not willing to abandon someone I care for in such a time. I actually talk a lot once i get to know and trust and like you, then you will wish I would shut up for a bit. If you are not willing to risk greatly, you will never know the true depth of love. Love suffers long is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not proud; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Yes even 3 is a crowd, we like mono a mono. I have talked with people and had an entire day dissolve into night, and at times into day once again. This is proof your INFP is fascinated. It does not of course denote physical desire, but for that to ever occur you must first win our hearts and minds. Then you might be able to pay the price, if you feel it worth the cost, to take things to the next level. Each person added to the mix diminishes our voice, knowing each person will alleviate our consternation. But even then we will often single out one person to banter with, not of course ignoring others if they chime in, we would never exclude you (assuming we like you) if we can avoid it and you initiate. We just find it preferential to dig deeper into one archeological site at a time, people can be a treasure trove of unique and precious relics of personality and knowledge, and we are fond of just such spelunking. It is true, not all personalities can mesh. Shared interests, chemistry, shared values. Ideological compatibility or a confluence of the right place and right time. If we are in a bad place emotionally, or already took on more then we have time and energy for, we might not have time to share or engage. We prefer to do so on a deeper level, and that requires more not less, to whom much is given much is required. INFP have a bad habit of taking on more than they can handle, and then they are forced to isolate and recharge. If we make room for you in all that, you are special indeed. Thank you for sharing your insights even if I am late to the dance.
Me an infp watching this in hopes to make friends with an infp that I know, who is friends with my friends but we don't talk much although I feel like we'd gel well.
Absolutely correct the girl I के ow she's improving on her bad sides she's more aware of her weakness and it helps me alot but this will help me take care of her
Ah man, this is way too true for me. It's so much easier making friends online but even that can be kinda iffy. I did however meet my husband on a game so that worked out nicely... lol. But ever since I moved to Canada, I haven't made any friends in the past 5yrs. And the one person who took the time try to get close to me was just trying to get me into a pyramid scheme thing. So yay! Haha. But my resolution is to try to be more outgoing/initiate things to make friends. Hope your studying abroad went well! Glad I watched your vid. :)
I've had quite a few infp friends. I definitely think enfjs and infps get along really well. We communicate well with one another and understand each other even when we are different. I think that's what makes the friendship easy is just a general understanding of the other person. -enfj
I think the Judgement part was so on Point. Just did a Scan of all my close frnds and realised that they are all people who do what they want / think is right and also donot poke their figures into random people's Business unless it bothers them. So yeah true
The hole why are you so quiet bit made me flash back to when I was in school and this one person asked why I didn't talk and I didn't think of how it would sound and just said because I have nothing to say to you. The hole class erupted in OOH! And I shocked because it wasn't ment to be a burn, it was just that I literally didn't have anything to talk about.
Me as an INFP, in my circle of friends, I'm one of the noisiest but I don't talk out my deep side with them. If you want to know my deep side and be closer, talk to me one on one instead, then if you passed and receive my trust, I'll share myself to you more.
An INTJ here. Doing my research for this INFP girl I like. She seems JUST SO PURE and innocent. I want to protect her. But sadly, people say ENTJ and ENTP is what an INFP likes. So I don't know if I should proceed with this... Am I the wrong person for her as an INTJ?
INTJs and INFPs can go well together if both are healthy. 😊 The right INTJ is probably one of the best Thinker matches for an INFP. If she likes you, go for it! Good luck 🙌🏻 Protect that innocence 😭
as an INFP girl that likes an INTJ guy, I like that he's also interested on some things I like, he also gives me diffrent perspective on things that I have may not thought otherwise, the only problem is that I don't think I can get close to him because he always puts this facade even tho I can see right through it, I have an anxious attachment style and he has avoidant so it really hurts me when he ignores me and comeback as if nothing happened, so what I want to say is, if you want some time for yourself please tell the INFP beforehand because she might blame herself and overthink that she had done something wrong😊
Ok so I'm an infj and I kinda like this girl that is an Infp and somedays shell talk to me but sometimes she'll just stop talking to me for days so I guess my question is would it be better to just wait till they respond or should I keep texting every few hours cause I really like this girl and don't wanna mess it up so what's your thoughts?
Thank you for this. So clearly expressed. The point of being less judgmental really nice to hear. I also have wondered about how slow can be the process of developing a great new connection if there are conditions that don't seem to support it. Are we both Introverts? I general as we try and function in that ESTJ world, as Eric Thor speaks about, mutual perceptions are distorted from the beginning. When we run into a co-worker, let's say, it is can be awkward, beyond a greeting, since we're actively "sorting," one kind of judging. Our perspectives seem a little too different. Mutual boxes go up. Of course, that's good, necessary in order to protect our core values, and so forth. But how much does the judgment we feel affect our ability to quietly just love and respect them, do you sense? How do people progress in this area of relationships, as an INFP? Love to hear your take.
But... but... a cluttered room is... Ok, first let me say I'm INFP and the clutter can accumulate in my house. But I will recognize it starts to bug me, costing energy and hampering focus. At some point I will take time to unclutter, and feel better afterwards (sometimes even entering an uncluttered room just to enjoy the tidiness 🤣). So there is a wisdom behind that particular judgment. People can be pricks, that's not ok. My point is that a bit of a self-reflective response is healthy in case of judgment. This video is about what other people can do for an INFP. But there's a reverse. I think INFP's would help themselves if they are open to the idea of good intentions for instance behind behaviors of others that we perceive as judgemental. For them it may simply be a 'helping remark'. Or when the person is just looking and not saying anything, they're already trying to be nice 😅. I could be a person looking around like that, just for a moment before I realize I'm doing it, and then obviously stopping as I'm aware of how judgemental it comes across. But my thoughts would be about self-love, self-image, self-development, trauma, energy, focus, you know, the whole works. I'm telling my kids a cluttered room is never a good thing. It isn't. I will hurt you by saying it, I guess. There's no way around that. I could not say it. But I don't want to do the INFP thing of typing a long message and then not posting it. We INFP's see potential (in others) and that motivates us. So that's why this post. INFP's can be 'not nice'. 🙄 Argh the inner struggle just typing this...
I can be very judgemental... but it depends on the person. If a person is being completely and utterly obnoxious, stupid etc. then they get judged and rightfully so, and I'm not going to pretend otherwise. However, let's say I want to get to know an INFP... well chances are I'm starting off from a position of already knowing something about them in advance (otherwise I wouldn't approach them in the first place) and already having some kind of positive impression of them. In that instance, I'm less likely to be judgemental of silly little things they may do or minor issues (which usually minor issues are like negligible anyway) because I already have that positive overall impression of them. This means if they see me being judgemental to others, it's not a reflection of how I'd act to them because I treat people differently based off their own merits. If I treat one person differently to others, it's not fakeness, it's actually genuine esteem and interest. Thing is though, irl, I'm actually very rarely judgemental because I'm indifferent to like 99% of people so irl an INFP would be less likely to observe me being judgemental. If I am judgemental of someone then it's for very good reason - though if I am ever wrongfully judgemental then I would actually want the INFP to challenge me on it. Not that I'd be a wilting flower and back down immediately, but it would display a very rare strength of character that would be very attractive and more likely to make me care about them (it would show them as an equal). Not only that but if they make a good enough case, they may even change my mind. However, I would be careful of observing some behaviour and assuming they act the same to everyone as some people can be more complicated than they first appear (says me, the INTJ... yes, I do get the irony of me saying that -.-). Pride and Prejudice was a very accurate little tale on such things.
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8:33 this is the most important thing for me as an INFP... I need to feel secure in my friends... cause it's so hard for me to befriending judgemental people.
Thank you for this. The INFP that I’m interested in seems to have trouble initiating things with me. What would be a good timeline to keep in touch but not overwhelm him?
I'm also an infp and honestly, I think it depends on how much he likes you whether he's willing to make time in his schedule, but I think you should give him options with 1-2 weeks apart to offer flexibility. So you could say "are you free next weekend or the week after that? Which is better for you, Saturday or Sunday?" Let him choose so he feels like he has some say in the matter rather than that he's being pushed into it.
i don't understand how can there be a "social" infp.Wouldn't that make you an enfp instead then??? or else what's the difference between enfps and so called "extraverted" infps??
Hi, I like a woman and she is infp. After reading about infp's I am a bit scared. Looks like constant work to keep them happy. I took a test and it said I am isfj.... Really confused what to do.
I am your nemesis the ENTP (btw just kidding ... my best friend is ISFJ) my gf is INFP ... is it "constant work"? it depends on your definition does she need constant validation? yes does it feel like "work" ? not to me... her smile melts me everytime so its worth it
Lars Drakblod I don’t remember what I was watching when I filmed this, but currently I’m watching Merlin and finished rewatching the 1995 Pride and Prejudice. I watch a variety of different shows.
...oh wow, that explains a lot of things. did a 16 personalities test a couple of years ago and never thought about it much until recently. though I don't fully graps the difference between type A and type T. I'm type T btw
alpha alpaca it really depends. Yes us infp’s are very sensitive, but the undeveloped ones can be toxic and expect everyone else to understand them only. Intjs + infp’s can be a good match (I’ve read on many successful pairings involving both) but it will take work. If you get close with an infp, be gentle. That’s all. And remember not all infp’s are exactly the same like she stated.
@@BEE-lq2nh thanks for your answer. these infps want to be understood, without showing them selfs, right? the things we intjs say can sometimes sound harsh and cold... now the infp in my life doesnt answer the phone. now i just want an open and honest talk, but i dont know if its possilbe any more.
@@alphaalpaca7779 We can be a bit overly sensitive some times but we also appreciate honesty. It´s not so much what people say as how they say it, if that makes sense. Like if people have some critisism against us we can take it if they deliver it in a reasonable and constructive way,but if they just sort of bark it out aggressively and make it sound like we´re super dumb or smth just cause we made some mistake, then it´s just gonna feel like a personal attack especially if the mistake wasn´t that serious anyway. Think of it like the difference between saying "person x is overweight" and "person x is a damn fatso". They both mean the same but the first is kinda neutral, the second sounds like it´s intended to be nasty.
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1. We don't like mind games (we know what you are doing and can sense your motives, esp INFP-As) 2. No Fakiness (we can sense that too) 3. Don't try to change us; we don't need fixing just because we aren't like you. 4. If you want to befriend us for 'taking advantage' purposes, just walk away; we would never do that to you.
It's taken me 5 decades to really feel comfortable in my own skin and to finally feel proud of who I really am, and worthy. We really are great. Embrace who you are and please don't change or hide your light to make others feel comfortable. We don't owe anyone anything.
INFPs can be VERY open and extravertish. Most introverts seem to be a bit neurotic, but many INFPs who are doing what they like lose all neurotic tendencies and then it is really hard to recognize the I, even when it is very strong and far from E.
Top 1; Don't be fake.
I can tell, and it feels creepy.
(Be honest, and i can at least respect you for that.)
I came here to gather some information for I am working on a pokeball to capture me some INFPS. Got to catch them all for they are my precious.
-a slightly evil INFJ
Haha
Plank Tonn, I know what you mean, I too am an INFJ that likes the INFP people, some of my closest friends are INFP people, their like special little snowflakes, but, unlike you, I don't want to capture them, I just want to tell them that they are special, that they do matter, and they deserve love, caring, understanding, respect, and lots of hugs, even if they claim that they don't want any hugs, I know that is bullshit, because, everyone likes hugs, even the people that claim they hate it, because, I know they secretly like hugs, they just don't want to admit it, because, they see affection as a sign of weakness, when in reality, admiting that you like hugs an effection is one of the strongest things you can do.
@@LunaDarkNightwerewolf Thank you for writing me, nobody wrote me in a long time. The device that I capture INFPs with is not a prison, but my heart# they all have a place in my heart.
@@daniii3915 you're welcome, and you must have a really big heart in order to store all those INFP type people in it.
@@LunaDarkNightwerewolf I'm working on expanding my heart so that they can all fit in. If the universe keeps expanding all the time, why can't my heart?
I’m an infp and I was diagnosed with a personality disorder too last year (borderline) and I only have one friend that I would call my best friend and that I trust completely cuz I know she has my best interest in mind and she’s loving and supportive (she’s an entj) I love her more than I love anyone in my life :)
Bobby Adams you’re not alone. I also have Bpd and I’m an infp... interestingly enough I was watching on this reddit post the mbti of people with Bpd and inXX types are very common 🤔
I'm not an INFP, I'm an INTP but I am very confident I have Avoidant Personality Disorder. I am also trying to become close with an INFP with social anxiety. This should be interesting, wish me luck. I am planning on getting officially diagnosed soon. I am starting therapy which is very terrifying
All this time I always thought that there's problem with me because I'm actually picky when it comes to finding my own circles of friends, but because of watching this vid I realize that it's just normal for an INFP to do that. I'm always afraid of being criticized by others being judged by them, and I also don't trust people easily. Watching your videos Ms. Me an INFP makes me feel better, like I'm not alone anymore and there's finally someone I can relate with. I feel so happy 😊
I felt that on a spiritual level. 😭😭😭
The inconsistency thing is so accurate. I tend to shut people out if they don't seem consistent. I think the avoidant personality thing goes hand in hand with the INFP personality.
Me, an ENFP did all of it to a INFP girl...now she is my BFF. We know each other for over 4 years now, and we never ever had an argument. She's just the best 🖤
The "Im not going to want to be friends with you" is said a lot, and as an INFJ its hard to understand how INFP's don't want to be judged but have very strict criteria for them to have even the slightest interest in wanting to be a friend. "You either have it or you don't." it creates so much anxiety, because its like walking on eggshells to avoid insulting them. Idk this threw me way off 😂
I agree with you 100%! I'm an INFJ and the compatability between INFP/INFJ is way off! I find the INFP self centered, self serving... and empty shell... and the type borders on covert narcasism! I will never get involved with an INFP ever again... walking on eggshells around them borders on ridiculous and inauthentic!
"quality time and non-judgemental attitude". That's totally true. I'm an hsp infp myself and I may appear very extraverted (I consider myself in the ambivert spectrum) but to really get to know me I can be a shell hard to open up. Thanks for your reflections, they do help to improve myself!
I agree tooooo
Saaammmeeee!!!! I feel called out! Lol. 🤣🤣🤣
Yesss, I relate so much! The one on one thing is very true! I clam up so much in groups >A< and yeah, I’m not very initiative esp with conversations, but I try to :(( and when ppl would tell me not to be so quiet, I just feel like wanting to be more quiet tbh :/
8:00 holy crap, thats probably why I, as an infp, have never actually been friends with someone I would guess is an infp lol poop
tfranc347 😂 I don’t think I have either except maybe the Internet.
Let us all INFPs be friends
Yes let’s connect our digital hands around the globe! The internet is our safe space lol
@@kijetesantakaluSokete To be fair their are famous INFP I would never even want to meet, forget be friends with. I will give you just such a one, Johnny Depp, I feel he has irreversibly embraced one of his shadow aspects and is deeply disturbed. There are roads that go one way and from which there is no return.
Totally spoke to my soul! I just want to attach this video to myself so people get me more (and that's coming from a more social/ extroverted INFP).
(INFP) Will counter that Non-consistency does not make INFP's hypocritical. It's the fact that someone else can demonstrate what we have difficulty doing ourselves that stands out.
Be you! Your vibe will attract your tribe... even if the tribe is 3 or 4 people deep. ; )
I sense a hint of foreshadowing of a story to tell of the London experience....I'm on edge. Also, this outro is just so good.
Great points im isfp and resonate with alot of what you said. The big difference is I dont care if I feel safe. I want freedom to do what I want or freedom to be me which i think is linked to Se/Ni
My top 3 love languages are Quality Time, Gift Giving, and Acts of Service... i, an INFP, agree with this video 100%
Tatum me tooo I’m quality time and gift giving
This is such sweet video🤗... as an INFP myself I relate to everything you’ve said here!!! Consistent, trustworthy, and authenticity is incredible important in building any type of relationship really!! And yes, one on one conversations have always been by favorite way to get close to someone! It’s SO refreshing to hear how much we’re similar👏🏻Thank you SOo much! 🙏🏻🍁✨
Shaun Russell It’s nice that you relate to these as an INFP too! Thank you 😊
Yeah, thank you! I really do relate to everything you’ve said here🙏🏻😅
Consistent and persistent. Yes. ♡INFP
What is so amazing about this video is how much you actually look like me. It is like I am watching a video that I made. You have my same look! But you look like me about 20 years ago when I was younger. I'm an infp as well. Not all infps look that similar, but I find there are some ways in which we do often share characteristics, whether in appearance or how we act.
I found we've big eyes and they look super cute like kitties
Haiiiiiiii.
Hello fellow INFP
Looked like Hawaii for a second there. LOL
Really enjoyed this one, looking forward to your next video already! :)
- a fellow INFP
I absolutely love you for sharing this. As an INFJ I have made an amazing INFP friend on line and her friendship means the world to me!
I am so afraid to do or say the wrong thing to her because I value our friendship so much. I have learnt so much from this! Thanks so much!
Awww you’re welcome! I hope your friendship with the INFP stays strong ☺️
As an infp with an infj friend I hope your friendship goes strong. :) The overthinking can go both ways too!
Wow your eyes, I can tell you are an INFP :) Very expressive, dreamy eyes. It's like looking in a mirror, weird!
Hello community of INFP, very great information, been going through the vids about what it means to be one, from bot the textbook, and real people, and ur vid so far makes me feel normal.. and im not the only one with weird ways of doing things, dont feel so alone ... not that i mind being alone.. just glad that, its actually a thing ..
So thanks for sharing ur wisdom..
I'm an INFP too, and I totally agree with you!
I love how this video just doesn't have any dislikes
Yes an INFP can have wildly different values, but also many similar traits. I concur wholeheartedly about your "one of the main things", we desire to spend time with those we value. Your presence is the best presents to us, especially the unwrapping ... sorry I will try and avoid the double entendre (I did mean, in depth of understanding as well, so I was only being half bad). But more seriously, I agree consistent and persistent time spent, if we are desirous, is most approbo. But I agree, you also must temper it by not being cloying or needy, we need time to acclimatize to you and give you our trust. Cancel on us to many times, and we will assume you are only agreeing out of a sense of obligation, and we do not want to be a burden so will let you go and not seek to spend any more time with you. If we were lookin forward to our time with you and you cancel to many times you will deeply wound us, and you will need to prepare a special balm to apply to our injured soul ...
I dated a girl who could not just enjoy the time and get to know me, everything was about pushing her agenda. And not what you might think I daresay ...did you think long term relationship or marriage? Understandable that one might make that conclusion, but you would be wrong, she just wanted carnal involvement. I was still a virgin and had been a christian about 9 years at that point, I was baptized in the Spirit about 2 years, and spoke in tongues. I hade made a vow at age 19 when I was first saved. I took a vow of celibacy, that I would not fornicate, I would wait for marriage. She was not having any of that, sadly for me. More than anything I wanted to accommodate her, but I can not, and will not betray my own values. The Bible says "Better that thou shouldest not vow, than that thou shouldest vow and not pay." To betray my vow was unthinkable, although I did think about it, and came precariously close. I really thought she was the one for me, but then she said something, "I could never be faithful to you", and that was the denouement of that relationship. In parting I actually hoped for the best for her, my feelings of love were not gone, but I could never accept unwillingness to a full lifelong commitment. I never broke that vow ;-p. It is not that I do not want to have sex, but moreover, I want to have it with someone I can share a deep meaningful connection that will evolve into a life interwoven and intertwined, two colours mixed on the artists pallet, red and blue becomes purple, the colour of kings and majesty. If you want to ride the river Styx, my friends, you must pay the ferryman Charron, to take you to the other side. True love is a deep well, and those who bring no bucket and rope, shall go away thirsty.
Out Te hates criticism if we feel it is unfounded or a betrayal of something we value deeply. Yes the written word over the spoken word, unless that spoken word is memorized and repeated verbatim. Our Ne makes spoken and unrehearsed words, chaotic and we will digress at every turn. Sometimes even when we write lol. I did make a rap on the fly once though for my coworker. See you digressed when you said "I do not know how I got on this one point", very INFP of you. I agree, we are responding not initiating, if we initiate and you blow us off ... never expect that to happen, ever again. The ball is back in your court, serve or go play with someone else, darn double entendre again, sorry I really tried. We are not messy! We are discerning in what we choose to organize and when ... we can be great organizers when our Si kicks in, but if we are in Fi and or Ne, then you will just have to wait, or better yet, offer to help us, if we like you we will appreciate it more than you think. If you judge us then Te kicks in and we will let you know how we feel about it in no uncertain terms, if you beat on our Te, beware because you do not want to meet our Ti demon function, you will not like us when we are mad.
We are not quiet, our minds never shut up, we are just thinking about all the things we could say if we felt like it. You are right, safety and trust are synonymous. If we trust you we will feel safe enough with you to open up. Sometimes I get a good feeling about people and open up before they have proven trustworthy, I am usually right, but when I am not, feels bad man. I always try and keep my word, there are times I have done what I said at great cost to myself, like helping someone even when I was up 24hrs or more, a few times even 36 hrs. But they mattered enough to me that I was willing to make that sacrifice, exhaustion can be quite the impediment to fulfilling an obligation let me tell you. Other times I was there in cases of actual danger, not willing to abandon someone I care for in such a time. I actually talk a lot once i get to know and trust and like you, then you will wish I would shut up for a bit.
If you are not willing to risk greatly, you will never know the true depth of love. Love suffers long is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not proud; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Yes even 3 is a crowd, we like mono a mono. I have talked with people and had an entire day dissolve into night, and at times into day once again. This is proof your INFP is fascinated. It does not of course denote physical desire, but for that to ever occur you must first win our hearts and minds. Then you might be able to pay the price, if you feel it worth the cost, to take things to the next level. Each person added to the mix diminishes our voice, knowing each person will alleviate our consternation. But even then we will often single out one person to banter with, not of course ignoring others if they chime in, we would never exclude you (assuming we like you) if we can avoid it and you initiate. We just find it preferential to dig deeper into one archeological site at a time, people can be a treasure trove of unique and precious relics of personality and knowledge, and we are fond of just such spelunking.
It is true, not all personalities can mesh. Shared interests, chemistry, shared values. Ideological compatibility or a confluence of the right place and right time. If we are in a bad place emotionally, or already took on more then we have time and energy for, we might not have time to share or engage. We prefer to do so on a deeper level, and that requires more not less, to whom much is given much is required. INFP have a bad habit of taking on more than they can handle, and then they are forced to isolate and recharge. If we make room for you in all that, you are special indeed. Thank you for sharing your insights even if I am late to the dance.
Me an infp watching this in hopes to make friends with an infp that I know, who is friends with my friends but we don't talk much although I feel like we'd gel well.
your eyes are very pretty and thank you for this video as an infp we are very vast it varies from person to person but all you said was pretty true
Absolutely correct the girl I के ow she's improving on her bad sides she's more aware of her weakness and it helps me alot but this will help me take care of her
LEGIT!!!! So true! You're fabulous! (and so beautiful and smart too!)
Thank you! 🥰
Ah man, this is way too true for me. It's so much easier making friends online but even that can be kinda iffy. I did however meet my husband on a game so that worked out nicely... lol. But ever since I moved to Canada, I haven't made any friends in the past 5yrs. And the one person who took the time try to get close to me was just trying to get me into a pyramid scheme thing. So yay! Haha. But my resolution is to try to be more outgoing/initiate things to make friends.
Hope your studying abroad went well! Glad I watched your vid. :)
Everything makes sense to me now thank you so much for this video 🙏
On the pluse side im a infp on the bad side im loanly hardly anyone likes me depression and anxiety.
I've had quite a few infp friends. I definitely think enfjs and infps get along really well. We communicate well with one another and understand each other even when we are different. I think that's what makes the friendship easy is just a general understanding of the other person. -enfj
As a fellow INFP, very relatable
I think the Judgement part was so on Point. Just did a Scan of all my close frnds and realised that they are all people who do what they want / think is right and also donot poke their figures into random people's Business unless it bothers them. So yeah true
I need to find more infp's are you into INFP's? 😜 Your voice is so soothing I can listen to it for hours 🤘💙
The hole why are you so quiet bit made me flash back to when I was in school and this one person asked why I didn't talk and I didn't think of how it would sound and just said because I have nothing to say to you. The hole class erupted in OOH! And I shocked because it wasn't ment to be a burn, it was just that I literally didn't have anything to talk about.
Me as an INFP, in my circle of friends, I'm one of the noisiest but I don't talk out my deep side with them. If you want to know my deep side and be closer, talk to me one on one instead, then if you passed and receive my trust, I'll share myself to you more.
An INTJ here. Doing my research for this INFP girl I like. She seems JUST SO PURE and innocent. I want to protect her. But sadly, people say ENTJ and ENTP is what an INFP likes. So I don't know if I should proceed with this... Am I the wrong person for her as an INTJ?
INTJs and INFPs can go well together if both are healthy. 😊 The right INTJ is probably one of the best Thinker matches for an INFP. If she likes you, go for it! Good luck 🙌🏻 Protect that innocence 😭
@@MeAnINFP Thank you so much! Yes, I will protect her and everything about her!
as an INFP girl that likes an INTJ guy, I like that he's also interested on some things I like, he also gives me diffrent perspective on things that I have may not thought otherwise, the only problem is that I don't think I can get close to him because he always puts this facade even tho I can see right through it, I have an anxious attachment style and he has avoidant so it really hurts me when he ignores me and comeback as if nothing happened, so what I want to say is, if you want some time for yourself please tell the INFP beforehand because she might blame herself and overthink that she had done something wrong😊
@@meow_nyannn got you! Thanks!
Thank you for this video!
Ok so I'm an infj and I kinda like this girl that is an Infp and somedays shell talk to me but sometimes she'll just stop talking to me for days so I guess my question is would it be better to just wait till they respond or should I keep texting every few hours cause I really like this girl and don't wanna mess it up so what's your thoughts?
Can totally relate as an INFP, Thanks for the video :) London sounds like a great place to study abroad!
Couldn't help but notice your desk behind you and the trash can. So, INFP. I have a video about this trait. Cheers!
Very good advice! But I don't like pp that eager to know an infp T.TMe crying inside.
Oh I relate to the safety, trust and be authentic add a bit romantic and you have a STAR ✨ 😂
Excellent
Thank you for this. So clearly expressed. The point of being less judgmental really nice to hear. I also have wondered about how slow can be the process of developing a great new connection if there are conditions that don't seem to support it. Are we both Introverts? I general as we try and function in that ESTJ world, as Eric Thor speaks about, mutual perceptions are distorted from the beginning. When we run into a co-worker, let's say, it is can be awkward, beyond a greeting, since we're actively "sorting," one kind of judging. Our perspectives seem a little too different. Mutual boxes go up. Of course, that's good, necessary in order to protect our core values, and so forth. But how much does the judgment we feel affect our ability to quietly just love and respect them, do you sense? How do people progress in this area of relationships, as an INFP? Love to hear your take.
Great video. Hope you are enjoying the UK 😊
My time is going by quickly here that's for sure!
But... but... a cluttered room is... Ok, first let me say I'm INFP and the clutter can accumulate in my house. But I will recognize it starts to bug me, costing energy and hampering focus. At some point I will take time to unclutter, and feel better afterwards (sometimes even entering an uncluttered room just to enjoy the tidiness 🤣). So there is a wisdom behind that particular judgment. People can be pricks, that's not ok. My point is that a bit of a self-reflective response is healthy in case of judgment.
This video is about what other people can do for an INFP. But there's a reverse. I think INFP's would help themselves if they are open to the idea of good intentions for instance behind behaviors of others that we perceive as judgemental. For them it may simply be a 'helping remark'. Or when the person is just looking and not saying anything, they're already trying to be nice 😅.
I could be a person looking around like that, just for a moment before I realize I'm doing it, and then obviously stopping as I'm aware of how judgemental it comes across. But my thoughts would be about self-love, self-image, self-development, trauma, energy, focus, you know, the whole works.
I'm telling my kids a cluttered room is never a good thing. It isn't. I will hurt you by saying it, I guess. There's no way around that. I could not say it. But I don't want to do the INFP thing of typing a long message and then not posting it. We INFP's see potential (in others) and that motivates us. So that's why this post.
INFP's can be 'not nice'. 🙄 Argh the inner struggle just typing this...
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Very week stated. Nailed it.
I can be very judgemental... but it depends on the person. If a person is being completely and utterly obnoxious, stupid etc. then they get judged and rightfully so, and I'm not going to pretend otherwise. However, let's say I want to get to know an INFP... well chances are I'm starting off from a position of already knowing something about them in advance (otherwise I wouldn't approach them in the first place) and already having some kind of positive impression of them. In that instance, I'm less likely to be judgemental of silly little things they may do or minor issues (which usually minor issues are like negligible anyway) because I already have that positive overall impression of them. This means if they see me being judgemental to others, it's not a reflection of how I'd act to them because I treat people differently based off their own merits. If I treat one person differently to others, it's not fakeness, it's actually genuine esteem and interest. Thing is though, irl, I'm actually very rarely judgemental because I'm indifferent to like 99% of people so irl an INFP would be less likely to observe me being judgemental. If I am judgemental of someone then it's for very good reason - though if I am ever wrongfully judgemental then I would actually want the INFP to challenge me on it. Not that I'd be a wilting flower and back down immediately, but it would display a very rare strength of character that would be very attractive and more likely to make me care about them (it would show them as an equal). Not only that but if they make a good enough case, they may even change my mind. However, I would be careful of observing some behaviour and assuming they act the same to everyone as some people can be more complicated than they first appear (says me, the INTJ... yes, I do get the irony of me saying that -.-). Pride and Prejudice was a very accurate little tale on such things.
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If i wasn't Crackin Up from It Being TOO Relatable, i was Cheezin the rest of the Time from The Heart
You should have a Guzzillion more Likes
Thank You
Wow...I feel like such a freak after watching this, no wonder I have no friends...So scary accurate!
8:33 this is the most important thing for me as an INFP... I need to feel secure in my friends... cause it's so hard for me to befriending judgemental people.
Yes, feeling safe and accepted is so important for us INFPs.
13:06 is facts I’m not going to talk to just talk especially if Ik u don’t really care14:05 was so weirdly accurate😂
I am also an INFP but male version
Thank you for this. The INFP that I’m interested in seems to have trouble initiating things with me. What would be a good timeline to keep in touch but not overwhelm him?
I'm also an infp and honestly, I think it depends on how much he likes you whether he's willing to make time in his schedule, but I think you should give him options with 1-2 weeks apart to offer flexibility. So you could say "are you free next weekend or the week after that? Which is better for you, Saturday or Sunday?" Let him choose so he feels like he has some say in the matter rather than that he's being pushed into it.
I’ll give this a try. I appreciate you.
RON, RON...RON WEASELY
What if you got aggressive when confessing your feelings and they ghost you? Give up?
Very contradictory.. So everything should be on your terms?
Did deep shower thoughts inspire you to make this video lol Wet hair
Get them drunk! But the downside is that they can't stop talking 😁
Are you in England in this video? I can't help but notice the British electrical sockets in the background
Okay, you explained it literally two seconds after I commented this. 😂
Yes I was studying abroad in London for a semester!
Oh hi mate! was wondering why your room looking very much like a UK dorm room, how is it to live in London?
I'm INFP
i don't understand how can there be a "social" infp.Wouldn't that make you an enfp instead then???
or else what's the difference between enfps and so called "extraverted" infps??
To sum it up. We’re high maintenance?
It is impossible 😁
Hi, I like a woman and she is infp. After reading about infp's I am a bit scared. Looks like constant work to keep them happy. I took a test and it said I am isfj.... Really confused what to do.
You might find it beneficial to look at my “INFP and ISFJ” videos. I have an ISFJ best friend and we get along really well together!
I am your nemesis
the ENTP (btw just kidding ... my best friend is ISFJ)
my gf is INFP ... is it "constant work"?
it depends on your definition
does she need constant validation? yes
does it feel like "work" ? not to me...
her smile melts me everytime so its worth it
What are you watching on Netflix?
Lars Drakblod I don’t remember what I was watching when I filmed this, but currently I’m watching Merlin and finished rewatching the 1995 Pride and Prejudice. I watch a variety of different shows.
...oh wow, that explains a lot of things. did a 16 personalities test a couple of years ago and never thought about it much until recently. though I don't fully graps the difference between type A and type T. I'm type T btw
I did a video on the differences! ruclips.net/video/SPanVTKAu0Y/видео.html
oh nice, thanks!
Agreed about the flakey people
what i learnt from this: getting close to an infp is walking on eggshells... im not sure, if its worth it, or better be alone... (im an intj)
alpha alpaca it really depends. Yes us infp’s are very sensitive, but the undeveloped ones can be toxic and expect everyone else to understand them only. Intjs + infp’s can be a good match (I’ve read on many successful pairings involving both) but it will take work. If you get close with an infp, be gentle. That’s all. And remember not all infp’s are exactly the same like she stated.
@@BEE-lq2nh thanks for your answer. these infps want to be understood, without showing them selfs, right?
the things we intjs say can sometimes sound harsh and cold... now the infp in my life doesnt answer the phone. now i just want an open and honest talk, but i dont know if its possilbe any more.
@@alphaalpaca7779 We can be a bit overly sensitive some times but we also appreciate honesty. It´s not so much what people say as how they say it, if that makes sense. Like if people have some critisism against us we can take it if they deliver it in a reasonable and constructive way,but if they just sort of bark it out aggressively and make it sound like we´re super dumb or smth just cause we made some mistake, then it´s just gonna feel like a personal attack especially if the mistake wasn´t that serious anyway. Think of it like the difference between saying "person x is overweight" and "person x is a damn fatso". They both mean the same but the first is kinda neutral, the second sounds like it´s intended to be nasty.
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Thank you, you’re beautiful for leaving such a compliment! 🤍