Are you SURE you're an INFP - the dreamy idealist?
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- Опубликовано: 26 июл 2024
- Are you an INFP - The Mediator? Strategies for Growth
INFPs are one of the most misunderstood types, and one of my favorite of the MBTI personality types! The Mediator has 4 cognitive functions that show up in specific ways - let's talk about INFP growth!
0:00 Intro
0:49 Convert four letters to Cognitive Functions
3:52 What is Fi?
4:48 What is Ne?
6:06 What is Si?
6:54 What is Te?
7:38 Why you need to be an ambivert
9:10 You're being too introverted
12:16 Your style of extroversion #1
13:44 Your style of extroversion #2
16:54 Your unique gift to the world
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Thank you. I am INFP and you explaining many that I was not understand about my self
Thank you. This is gold!
I believe it's an Infp thing that every time we are stuck in a fi-si loop we always tend to dream in leaving this crazy society and live a peaceful life in the middle of a meadows nowhere.
this.
100% this
Small hut with single tree nearby, in the middle of nowhere that is full of colorful flowers and surrounded by the mountains beneath the blue sky with few white clouds.
What a beautiful place. (INFP here)
literally told my friend some days ago that i wanna live in a cottage in the country side, be self sustaining, and paint everyday😅
think ab this every day… this society is a lot to handle
As an INFP using Te is like Mario getting the ⭐️ lol Just a brief period of productivity, then back to La La land ☁️ love your vids
so funny...right before i saw your comment, I just said to my partner “I was really lazy today. I’m telling myself it’s okay and I earned it, since I socialized the entire day yesterday” (saw my family the whole day lol) 😂
Omg this had me SCREAMING 🤣🤣
Hahaha I feel you bro
So funny you said that because I also think of my productive periods like Mario getting the 🌟 lol
YUP
INFP here. As I get older I feel more and more like this isn't the kind of world I'm supposed to live in.
I am an unhealthy INFP who is always searching for things on the internet to explain myself back to me. I've taken all of the quizzes, done all the research, looked into all of my astrology, the list goes on. I'm just always looking for something that tells me how and why I am the way that I am. So when I say this I'm almost fed up with myself, because I always find things that I relate to and see myself in but I never do anything about it lol. But I honestly have never been so called out so perfectly as I have been by this video lol. Absolutely everything was on fucking point. I've been in the loop for quite some time now. And I've been working a 9-5, soulless, excel-ridden existence for the last 3 years and I've hated every second of it. And I've stuck with it because I tell myself, it pays well and has benefits and you don't have to worry about your next meal or how you'll pay rent. But I'm fucking miserable and addicted to shit I shouldn't be addicted to because it gives me this false sense of excitement in a life that has none. Part of my problem is that I can't decide what I want to do. I'm really drawn to music and singing, but I've recently gotten really into movies. And I've actually signed up for an acting class at a local theatre and the first class is tomorrow night and I'm so fucking nervous and all day today my mind was thinking of reasons to back out. But I've finally reached a point in my life where I understand that if I don't do something that I'm obviously drawn to, I'm going to keep thinking about it incessantly until I just fucking do it. So, it's 2 AM and I've had a little bit too much drink and I'm nervous as fuck to go to this class tomorrow night. But I'm going to make myself suck it up and go, because I know deep down I really want to. I've just been in my comfort zone for so long now that it's so scary to think about getting out of it. But I know it will be good for me. And I have this gut feeling that I'm going to like it a lot more than I can even imagine
If no one else does, I believe you can do it! try it out for a little while and if it doesn't work out, so be it, but you can say you gave it your best shot. -Fellow INFP :)
This describes me. I don’t know the answer but you’re not alone 💕
Wow, definitely forgot about this comment. I’ve got this terrible habit of over sharing with strangers on the internet when I’ve had too much to drink 😅 I appreciate the kind replies ♥️
This. Every word of it. Is my life. Support to you! What's the update on the acting class?
@@marissiatiller2397 I really enjoyed it. I only completed half of the classes that I paid for because it was just really taxing for me, emotionally. I just didn’t know how to cope with how I was feeling. So I told the director of the class how I was feeling, and thankfully she was very kind and understanding. I’d really like to go back at some point but I need to be in a better headspace. A more self assured, confident headspace. When I was there doing the exercises with the class it was so jarring for me, but in a good/meaningful way. I think the biggest thing was that I liked the position I was putting myself in and I liked what I was doing and I liked my performance, but because it was soooo far removed from my comfort zone and I’d never been in that kind of environment before, it just really took it out of me and I just didn’t know how to deal with it. But all in all, it was a really good experience and I fully anticipate doing it again sometime in the near future
I am an INFP and the reason I am proud of being one is because when I was younger I was pretty lonely. I cry a lot I have barely any friends and I barely know myself. But once I know I am an INFP I started researching about my personality and I started to know myself which is very exciting for me. I started to know my weakness’s and started to improve in mentally and I am pretty happy now. :)
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Sometimes I wish I was a turtle with memory foam in my shell.
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lmao...
THIS IS ME!!! I have big artistic dreams but I’m too shy to actually do anything about em. I take singing lessons and singing is my passion and I love it (and luckily I’ll be able to continue singing in college) but I got super pessimistic thinking I wasn’t good enough because I’m too introverted. Luckily I’ve gotten so much better, but the biggest part that I’ve had to work on with singing is confidence.
Edit: the whole loop think hits home. Playing video games, bad eating happens, pessimism and living a small life. But what’s funny is that I broke out of that loop without realizing I did. I still do some things like video games, but not to the extent. I do more stuff that’s different and new and I’m more extroverted (sort of).
YES!! 🎉
I know right.... Dude, your whole comment literally me these days
I wanted to be a singer when I was younger but I've sort of lost the desire because of how hard it is to be well-known and big in the industry. I just gave up on it. I also wanted to be a writer/screenwriter. I loved watching shows and creating fan fictions. whenever I don't understand how I feel, I write it down to understand it.
wow... I feel confident as to plan out my entire life... and trust me I have my life planned from the get go... im planning on becoming a famous youtuber then going on and leaping to become an actor and from there build up a company that will help humanity all in all from a small plan of mine... the infp in my keeps telling me that I have predicted the future and that I am sure that this will happen... but I am not sure... at least I get 1k subscribers... now I have 20 million left to go!
This is one of the most concise and comprehensive explanations of INFP cognitive functions I've ever seen. Loved the practical examples you gave also. There were some gaps in my own knowledge and understanding of the functions, and you've definitely filled the gaps with this video. You are gifted teacher. Subbed and looking forward to watching all your videos!
This. This is exactly how I feel about this video.
Yes, she's so good! I'm usually a lurker on RUclips, but I had to leave a comment because I was impressed haha.
Yep. Exactly. The best I've ever watched, period.
My thoughts exactly. Definetly tailored to INFP way of thinking. The first time I got the grasp of how the Xi/Xe relate to one another. I've watched plenty of Frank James videos but I haven't gotten the hang of it from those. Thanks, Alexis. 😃
I'm an INFP and I am an Engineer, going through engineering training really helped me grow and become more logical, precise and plan oriented person, I don't chase dreams like before but now I'm more focused on solving real problems and achieve ideals through action, no dreams can be achieved through dreaming only
I feel like this too! I'm not an engineer tho (I went to agricultural-school and now I work on a farm)
Really cool reading this. I'm an INFP too, and I've experienced something similar. I entered university declaring mechanical engineering straight out of high school, but things played out to where I ended up returning to university at a later time, now pursuing a career as a social scientist. Learning about research methodology helped solidify my understanding of the importance of structure, which in turn allowed me to hone in on how I should structure my own life to do what I want to do in life.
Man, that felt long winded through my fingers. Alright, anyways, hope things are good with you, thanks for sharing
All I want to do is paint and Counsel people…I can’t even imagine engineering as INFP
Agreed! For me I want to become an urban planner of some sort
Wearing a Nirvana t-shirt while Kurt Cobain was an INFP making a vid about INFPs😲
Wow I have always thought about myself as an introverted extrovert, this explains why. I enjoy social things but I am definitely more comfortable in the introvert zone and tend to stay there. This analysis hit on so many things that I have been thinking about recently
The way you demonstrate how to analyze is very organized and precise. The best video so far for INFP. Thanks, dear.
I chase my dreams too much...
me too. we need to reduce our time spending too much on daydreaming.
The interesting question to ask is what is a small life? I mean, as an INFP I've written over 100 books set up community groups and done a range of different things from running a marathon to parasailing in Tunisia, but I still prefer just to sit in the house and binge-watch Netflix and RUclips videos like this and passively investing money in the stock market to fund my scholarship fund that I want to set up to promote the values and principles of community education - that's me using Te in the service of my Fi, by the way. As far as i can understand the collective unconscious of our species, it seems you can only live a big life in the eyes of others if most people know your name whereas I think a big life is one where you pursue your own goals despite the pressure to conform to society's norms. To be authentic in a world that wants you to be inauthentic seems the bigger lifer to me.
Ya I think a "big life" is one where you reach your subjective potential and one in which you feel no regret at the end of your life based on your standards and what you feel is your life purpose. A "small life" is one in which you make fear-based decisions and allow fear to cause inaction which leads to regret on one's deathbed, whether they admit to themselves or not. (Basically fear vs. courage)
Amen
I never thought anyone could understand me this much. It's officially confirmed that I am an INFP. I shut away all my poetry and writing because I had to focus on studying. I was eventually even convinced that my writing was not up to the mark, so I thought it was better to stop. It's been two years, and thanks to you, I am gonna start again. Thank you
I bet you're an amazing poet/writer. Good on you for starting up with it again. ❤️
For the first time I've understood the cognitive functions :) I have been stuck in a comfort zone Si mode for the past few years, thanks to depression and controlling family issues. Time to get my Fi-Ne back :)
Now I know why I have been living that way =') Never really going after my dreams. But having this creativity inside of me ! I am definitely going to be working on my Te more !!
LOVE IT!! GO FOR IT!! 🎉 🎊
Girl holy crap I have never watched a video that made it so easy to comprehend infp. I kept thinking omg that makes sense, okay so does that… and that lol this video helped me realize I 100% am an INFP. Thank you!
I was thinking that... I'm an infp but when i start writing something... I start by writing i think instead of i feel... does that mean i am thinking one or a feeling one.? That's a big confusion to me.... what do you feel about it as you too wrote as " I think" instead of using "i feel" or something else.
I’m dropping in a bit late to give my experience! I am an INFP and discovered the functions a few years ago. I learnt that I was stuck in a nasty Fi-Si loop - living at home, smoking a lot of 🍃 and drinking, with big artistic dreams but doing basically nothing besides a part time receptionist job … and I partly consciously, partly subconsciously put my Ne into gear .. I moved to a more exciting city into a small room in a shared house, I started a small business on Instagram and worked some low paying but enjoyable marketing jobs, and really started stepping out into the world. That was in 2020 too, during the pandemic and all! Three years later I do my small business (I make jewellery and other stuff!) and live in an apartment with my partner. So things have definitely turned around for me and I’m really proud. I do still battle with addiction and food addiction can be added to the list now … I still struggle with Fi-Si Loop in other words. Im glad I’ve come back to the world of MBTI especially this more Jungian function version. It’s opening my eyes up again to the importance of me using that beautiful Ne function of mine that got me to where I am in the first place!!
This is the most eloquent and validating video I've ever seen on INFPs. I'm going to come back to it again and again. What you said about us, that we are "meant to invent" was spot on. I always say to people that I want my job to entail creating things that have never existed before. I feel like I have an insatiable need to create and I get bored with any type of routine very easily. Thank you for your motivational words and encouragement for us INFPs to actually put our art and our inner thoughts out into the world.
On the dreams things..... So, I've found that as an INFP, when I give up on a dream, a new one usually comes and takes it place. Which, sometimes ends up in me looking like I quit on one, because my mind will keep circling back, and eventually I'm just like okay. I give up on this one, I go back to this one I guess? And that's the long story short on how I went from wanting my own salon as licensed hairstylist to deciding to go back to school for nursing in only a year. I will also say, the client interactions as a stylist killed me. I can not people that directly without being a perpetually too exhausted pigeon.
As an INFP, I have no trouble maintaining the creative drive, plugging away at the artistic stuff - but the mundane, day-to-day stuff falls by the wayside - until there's a crisis - then I force myself to stop the creative stuff for, yes, sometimes months at a time, in order to get the practical stuff back under some minimal control. And, no, haven't had much success with either.
Same here 😢
@@minagica sigh, i really can relate
Wow, you described INFPs perfectly. And especially for someone who isn't an INFP. And you're so right about having to show the world what we can achieve. Getting stuck in the INFP Fi-Si loop isn't great.
I find infps really intriguing. Although I'm not convinced they actually exist lol -istp
We exist, my Virtuoso friend. 😊 I married an ISTP, and really love your type. You keep our heads from floating away too far. 💕
@@EarthenCavy Thanks for the nice reply, man 👍
Thank you, that was really motivating. Also, the way you explained everything was so different and new, it made so much sense. Thanks for believing in us INFPs, I’ll try my best, don’t worry 🙃
i found out i'm an INFP maybe two weeks ago, i've been watching videos about INFPS and the MBTI test in general since and i feel like this video was at the same time brutally honest and the best thing i could hear, i've been in this loop of bad habits for a while, smoking weed a lot, playing video games and just meeting with some friends from time to time, always thinking to myself that i have no purpose at all in existing, litteraly the exemple you gave, and i'm so glad i found your video, because in all the videos i've watched on the subject so far it's all about how INFP's are compassionate caring great listener etc etc, your explanations with the help of your graph are crystal clear on what i'm doing wrong with my life, and what i should do to improve
i want to change myself, and i feel more or less ready for it, i just need to find the key now, a lifeline in a way, something that will motivate me to wake up every morning
great video :D
i love ur honesty, and i related too u so much❤ first time watcher (definetli not the last!) just found out about this test and had many of the same feelings. hold on ur not alone inn this confusing world🥰
I came here wanting to know more about my personality type. I didn’t expect to leave so motivated after your video by learning about my cognitive functions and how to use them better. Turns out I was very unhealthy INFP in constant Fi-Si loop perhaps in my whole teenage years that caused me depression and even made me occasionally suicidal because of exactly what you said, lack of meaning and purpose. And it was Ne and a little bit of Te that got me out of it and finally took the first step to seek help from those that I can trust. It was a real and painful hardwork but it was worth it. I can say I’m in a better place now and am still working on myself. I wish I could’ve watched your video several years ago to save me some pain (but what is life without pain? okay, my Ne is exploring randomly again). Anyway, I don’t write comments that much but this one I had to write because I’m just happy that you and your videos exist and can help people out there who need it so thank you. ❤
I’ve taken several MBTI tests, and I’m a bigtime INFP. I’m an artist for a living, I HAVE to be alone, my whole life is practically a daydream, and I’m fictosexual. I’m also a massive crybaby over pretty much everything. 🤣 I’ll talk your face off about stuff that interests me, but if you slight me, I ghost like a MF. 🤣 Soooo INFP.
I LOOOVE INFPs!!
Omg the fictosexual thing I never heard that is amazing
@@loisrabies8713 right?! Does that orientation not just SCREAM INFP? 😂
@@EarthenCavy lol now to tell my husband
You are me and I am you
I love having my personality completely layed out on a table. You described my exact tendencies and thoughts. I feel violated. Great video.
I daydream a lot, like my whole life revolves around daydreaming. Even if I am at work or working on a deadline, daydreaming is something that I do unintentionally. I have many hobbies growing up. I don't ask questions if I don't know something else. I just do research on it. I find researching by myself more fruitful than asking others. I love reading people's actions and demeanors. It is one thing that I am proud of because most of the time, I am right. Not really sure if I am an INFP, but I think I relate more to this MBTI.
YeahYa, I agree with ‘INFP voices’ comment. This is an exceptional video. I absolutely love how you have woven a golden thread of protecting the INFPs dreams through it all. Brilliant and intuitively empathetic. ❤️🔥
Thank you so much!
‘INFP voices’ ? I can not recall hearing that?
@@PowerRedBullTypology hi, it's been a minute since I wrote this. But I am referencing how much she admires their once as artists or writers. Seen you around, think I like all your comments that I've seen, but don't know your type. ?
@@glueball214 Oh i see thanks. I am an INTP and you?
@@PowerRedBullTypology INTJ, envious of observed INTP mirth XD
as an infp whose gotten through nicotine addiction, and have worked two unsuccessful jobs (because they were too draining), I can promise you I will never give up on my dreams no matter how confusing or wacky they get.
I believe our strength comes out when we have structure in our lives, for me that looks like working at a warehouse from 4:30am-9am loading packages in trucks. This isn't many hours, but it gives me a sense of purpose and opportunity to execute how great my work ethic is, and it's gotten my body used to more exercise which has made me want to try more things!
The hours also allow me to explore my hobbies and learn how to manage my money.
I couldn't be any more excited about the future, after overcoming nicotine addiction, you literally are unstoppable.
Another INFP here saying that you described my life! I’m really trying to get into a consistent routine of doing art almost everyday. In the past I did exactly what you said-I’d pick up my art and work on something for a few weeks to a month (I do pointillism so one project takes a while 😉). Then I’d be done and do zero art for months. The consistency is so hard to do but I’m going to keep fighting. I’ll revisit this video when I need a pick-me-up. 😁
ngl kinda watched this for shits and giggles (on myself) but honestly whaaaat. i really learnt something from this, given me some stuff to reflect on, thank you!
"But they didn't give it a fair shot." Wait, that's so true! I've never realised that.
Wise. You’re… This is so… I’m so impressed and thankful. I love everything you’ve said in this video. - Carter C. the INFP
I’ve returned. Still stuck in the introverted loop, need to *focus* on exploring/expanding my *Ne.*
This video was so good, it helped a lot. My friend is INFP and he has exactly this problem of having a goal but having no structure, organization, or scheme to get there. I am an INTJ and Te is my co-pilot and I was thinking to make him stronger in that function. This video is a blessing, it gave me a further confirmation that my guess may be correct! Thank you, thank you so much!
Up until now, the only videos I've seen about INFPs were ones that labelled or categorized us. This is the first one I've found that points to how to grow, to conquer unhealthy habits, and make motivating, healthy goals. Thank you!
I think part of the problem is that INFPs REALLY need someone to believe in them; to encourage them, give feedback, help them see past the previous/current situation. A typical difference between teenagers and adults is that teens often can't conceptualize the big picture and adapt to it. INFPs tend to keep that limitation, so they come across as self-centered crybabies, when really they just feel like they're living blind. This doesn't have to cripple them, but it can without long-term support.
Ideally that would be great. One alternative could be affirming videos like this. 😊
I’m a 17yr old INFP. I’ve been into MBTI for a while now and have been curious to learn more about cognitive stacks. Hearing the bit about the Fi-Si loop we can get stuck in was crazy. I’m homeschooled and spend so much of my time just rotting in my room. I don’t go out and make friends, and I blame it all on the fact that I’m homeschooled, meanwhile there are plenty of kids at my school who have friends. I’ve always just told myself that I have no choice in where my life takes me, at least right now. I’m comfortable doing the same thing everyday, but I hate it. I hate being alone most of the day. I hate that I’m not productive. Like you said, I hate that what I do has no meaning or purpose. I want to be a writer so bad, but I’m not putting in the work because it’s uncomfortable and hard. I can get so discouraged when I feel like my effort is going nowhere.
I’m going to try to work on those things now. Amazing video.
Middle-aged INFP here and so much of this connects with me. No conspiracy theories for me, though (thankfully) - although in certain moments I do feel like liquidating everything I have and buying a small place out in the desert where I can just be alone in solitude and perhaps find some peace. I got started in a cubicle and worked my way up in the ranks, pretty much suppressing my natural tendencies - or at least I was lucky in finding bosses that appreciated how I looked at things. I attained a fairly senior position, and then was spit out from the corporate world after 30+ years. Since then I have reconnected with a feeling there is a more creative path I should be on. I definitely identify with having big dreams (or even smaller goals) and not knowing “where to even start!” I’ve thought/said that more times than I’d ever be able to count. I struggle with the “you have to prove it to people” part - assertiveness and boastfulness are not strengths of mine. I love your analogy of a mosaic! I use that analogy (and countless others) all the time. I think I live my life through analogies! I’ve been told numerous times that I am a perfect example of the expression “Still waters run deep,” I also keep editing this comment because as I watch the video there is more that I identify with. You are reading my mind! Thanks for the video!
how can you be sure that your theories are not conspiracy? Always when I hear that phrase, I wonder where is it specified what is allowed to think without being labelled as a conspiracy theorist? And can you be 100% sure that your thoughts are not 'conspiracy' territory in the eyes of some other person? As an INFP you probably are a bit airy fairy compared to average ESTJ's and starting from that point I have noticed many sensing oriented types tend to label anything abstract or philosophical as a conspiracy theory and not worth of existing as it's not proven neither by science nor their 5 senses.
passed my si-fi loop
best feeling ever
Literally have spent all morning taking notes on your video. Hearing you say most of this is kind of scary. For as long as I remember I have felt misunderstood and as I get older the contrast only grew more stark. It seems that the fact is tho, I am understood, just not by most people out there 🙂 Definitely gives me some sort of comfort and motivation to continue the creative journey. Thanks for all the details and the excellent sharing/format.
In our Fi-Si loop with our Ne shouting at the back of the car we tend to go through MBTI test and take test for how many times just to see that glimmer of optimism once more.
A good thing I watched this, I really thought I'm a different type again due to my emotional fluctuations from Fi-Si. Also the practical examples really helped!!! Thank you so much!
Thank you so much!!
As an INFP I want to thank you not only for the tips being quality but also the way you presented. For me (and I’m sure many other INFP’s), I struggle with typical learning bc of how much jumping around and “assumed” parts of ideas teachers just skim over while I’m still trying to understand their last 5 sentences, but the way you presented this was perfect for me being able to follow along. I just love how you broke everything down and made things very clear-cut, it made it not only tolerable but also enjoyable
Wow! you have to make a video about how cognitive function map on to different regions of the brain!
Thank you so much. I finally understood cognitive functions and how it's used. Really well presented video. Keep up the good work!
What an excellent, excellent insightful video. Thank you so much
As INFP male, I really like and appreciate your content. You are awesome.
ugh, that Te. So you're basically saying I'm bad at traditional work environments AND bad at achieving my own goals. I already knew this of course, but now I know why.
Hi there. Thank you. This information has been so valuable and there is a lot of concrete steps that can be taken.
what an amazing video, really enlightening.
Never heard it said more clearly. So glad I found this. Profound information and advice. ❤ instant sub
Most understandable explanation I've heard so far! Thanks, Alexis!
So glad I stumbled upon you!! I am def an INFP. You clarified so much. Now, heres the thing....can living with another person (husband) push an INFP to go into that comfort zone where they go inward, cling on to unhealthy habits, become fearful, live in their feelings and memories...even though they have aspirations of becoming an artist and being joyful, active, and healthy?? I feel that whilst I was balanced in my 20's (to a degree - partying took preference over everything else), after getting married (and having kids) I feel that my husband actually doesn't draw the best out of me. Its like his type forces me to be unbalanced and in that Fi / Si loop!! I comfort eat, have bad eating habits and am lazy. I have lost the zest I used to have in my 20's before meeting my husband (married 23 years). You described my artistic goals at the end of the video to a T! (btw, we are in the process of separating! I would love to get him to do they test but I think it may be a bit late for that plus there is no way in hell he would now).
This is so spot on you just sobered me up
Just wanted to say that I appreciate your work. This video is so informative. Thank you.
TY so much!!!! This was the most clear & straight forward explanation of the cognitive functions and being INFP, I really needed this pep talk at this point in my life & the encouragement made me want to cry. Again, Ty so much!✨
One the best breakdown of the subject I've seen so far on RUclips. Simple and easy to understand, thank you
Wow, you are really good at explaining! No unnecessary information, very clear and concise explanation, and great use of graphics, too! I didn't even have to keep rewinding the video because I didn't get distracted at all. I was so focused haha. Thanks for this video!
Thoughts on the video:
- The 1st and 3rd function loop really got to me. That's where I am right now. :( I never thought I was being unhealthy. I thought it was normal for INFPs to feel that way.
- I would usually feel so hopeless for a few weeks, then I would feel bursts of optimism (my Ne, which i just learned from this video hehe), but then I would just go back to being too introverted. Ahh, the cycle repeats itself.
- Oh, my goodness. I rarely use my Te, AHHHHHHHHH so frustrating :( I make a lot of plans, I create these really intricate daily schedules and routine, I would spend hours mapping up my future but I rarely follow through. I really don't use my Te a lot.
- THAT STORY SOUNDS LIKE MINE??? WHAT THE HECK. I'm so inconsistent wow
Hi, I'm not sure if you'll see this comment but I hope you can do an in-depth video on how to become a healthy INFP and give us practical tips. I'm really struggling right now :(
Wow thanks alot. I've been so inspired to bring out my creativity to the world from watching this video
This was years worth of therapy insights you just gave me. Thank you!
I got tears in my eyes when you talked about the loop. It did happened. It DOES happen. It's happening. It's euphoric in a sense that I feel like I can be sure that I truly am INFP because of how much it speaks to my feeling. And it's sad that I did wasted my time, and it's sad that I had to give up dreams that I felt like were flimsy dreams, dreams that because of this loop, I am reminded by words that people said to me. All this time, I thought that I got INFP and found happiness just because it describe personalities that I aspired to be but not necessary who I am, and because I didn't get far, I blamed myself for not being creative enough, and finally thought that I have no talent in creativity. I resigned to my fate even though deep down I struggle with it as I refused to bring myself to do the job that I am expected to be doing. I get into bad cycles and rumination and decided that I may as well perish on my bed with the past self that extinguished with my aspiration. Thank you. This might be the wake up call I need to be able to be proud that I AM exactly who I thought I was and hot giving up hope.
Great vid, thank you Alexis. Really well broken down and solid advice. I'll watch it again to get my head round the different functions. I've learnt in the last year to put creativity at the forefront of my life, having given up on it before thinking it wasn't important. Wish I knew this stuff when I was younger. I'm a dad, my name is Alexis too and it turns out my daughter is infp so hopefully I can encourage her towards her real potential.
Wow. Your descriptions and suggestions are completely on point. As an INFP I've realized that constant improvement has always payed off in contrast to the times where i'll have burst of creativity and then sudden voids of aspiration. This definitely the most direct video i've watched on the topic so far, making it the hardest to not watch lol. Thank you!
You are insanely smart and I just learned an insane amount in 20 minutes. I know about cognitive functions and like every personality type but the way you just broke down everything down was crazy.
thank you. This is the advice I’ve needed as an infp, it’s usually hard to find something that speaks to me like this
i've always wanted to leave an impact ever since i was small, but i kept doubting my skills.
i love drawing, and even planned to make my own cartoons, comics, but i'm self-critical.
i love singing, i even think i'm quite decent if i had more practice, but i was afraid to embarrass myself and i couldn't do it in front of most people.
i love writing, i want to write my own books, whether it'd be stories or poetry, i wanted to express myself and somehow help people, but i feel that my grammar is too bad or my story is too cliche, badly written.
i wanted to act, be the center of the attention, but i hate attention when i get it, and i've never had proper experience in it so i did badly.
my family and friends support me through it, but i couldn't help but feel i'm not doing enough.
i make most of my accounts public so people can access my content, but due to my lack of motivation and art blocks, i never want to tell people about the accounts. i hoped people can stumble upon them accidentally and stay for more. i know that will never work, but i keep doing it.
now, i'm trying, despite thoughts that said i will fail. i tried pushing my confidence, find my motivation. i'm trying new things, and i've been improving what i have as of now.
thank you for making this video, i truly appreciate it. it helped me understand myself a bit more.
Well geez. Thank you! I legit relate to so much of what you said and I've been mired in the loop for a while and sinking deeper. That IS exactly the type of artist I want to be. And I am stuck, alone. Lol, addicted to youtube and twitter. You just gave me things to think about to get out of it. Thank you.
This is explained so well from the get-go. Wish I ran into this sooner. I was having trouble with the code until I sat down and thought it over and finally got it. This confirmed the exact way I could understand how to figure out the functions and why.
The breakdown of all the functions and how they relate to each other is done so well with the visual writing and comparisons and examples
Your videos are amazing- explained so well, accurate, and helpful! Thank you!!
You are so accurate about INFP. First time I have found this much details.
Wow! I never fit into boxes but this was spot on for many of my positive and challenging quirks. Thank you for sharing this. I've been doing a lot of post pandemic reflection and trying to come out of my cave to rejoin the world more. This analysis has helped me understand some of my conflicting thoughts and quirks (I've always been an introverted extrovert with an interest for making music and writing while working as a talented but struggling programmer / analyst / project manager) and confirms that I'm on the right path.
One of the best videos I came across as an INFP.
Thank you for this. Great video and concise, easy explanations. I think I spent so many years of my life doing the things other people did because it just what I thought I was supposed to do, but it always felt boring, and I felt incomplete. For the past 10 years I wanted to write a novel series, and I've slowly been working my way there while doing my boring job stuff too. Fits and starts is completely right! But over the past 2 years I've been fairly consistent, so I think I'm going to finally get the first book done, yay. Thanks for the extra motivation. I definitely need it. BTW, I'm 43, so it might take awhile, INFPs, just keep plugging away at it.
Wow, explained my life perfectly, especially the spurts of productivity. Thankyou for posting some guidance how to become more purposeful 😊
I've watched so many videos of people explaining cognitive functions and this is definitely the most easy to understand video i've watched!
This was by far the best video I’ve seen for MBTI
This is very true and a great explanation. I was stuck in that "loop" for years after losing my father and it just is a terrible bad-coping/self-protective thing. As hard as it can be, forcing yourself to do new/fun/helpful things and socialize is the best way for INFP's to feel less stuck in life.
Wow this resonates with me so much! Subbed
It is so much easier to stay safe instead of going for it. This is an excellent breakdown on how I function...thanks so much...You have hit the nail on the head....I needed this.
I like how you analyze this type and appreciate them. I think it's amazing to learn about other types. I still haven't figured out if I'm INTJ or ENTJ. I have been reading books on both.
thank you for this video, I feel like it provided a better scope of the reasons for my actions and thoughts, especially why I can't seem to achieve the goals I set in my life.... It was very insightful and has inspired me to improve myself as a person, so thank you!!
Ouch. Touched a nerve. It's amazing how you eloquently put my thoughts out there. Really appreciate you making this video because it has given me clarity and I'm actually nervous because I know I just have to put things in action if I even hope to get out of this rut. Thank you for helping me and for making me felt seen and heard.
Thanks for making these videos! It's especially good that you show your "working out" during the first 2 minutes to explain how we can understand the cognitive stack after reading the 4 letters.
Wow, this video made me realize why I'm so miserable in my day-to-day life even though outwardly everything is fine and well. I'm in a serious Fi-Si loop that has lasted for years. I'm afraid to get out of my "comfort zone", which in reality is not comfortable at all but very unhealthy and stifling. But I don't know how I can get out of that loop.
I very much appreciate the insights of this video!
It’s really important that you utilize your Ne if you want to get out of the Fi-Si loop. Some of the best ways to mature/grow your extroverted intuition function are to 1. get out into the world and explore new places, 2. meet new people, and 3. engage in new hobbies.
This is so clearly explained and affirming! I’m not just a head in the clouds INFP like I’ve heard all my life. Thank you 🙏
This is really insightful. Most vids on the subject seem to be bots all reading from the same script. Thank you.
INFP here. joined the army 🥲
This is the best video about the infp that I’ve seen. And it’s crazy accurate.
Best video on the topic I have seen so far.
Very INFP t-shirt by the way.
This was soooooo great ! So inspired! I encourage both my INFP sons to go for their dreams !!!!
Thank you for this. I didn't expect such good advice that really felt tailored to me. I have massive dreams but struggle to pick which to pursue and have a constant fear of I should just do the 9 to 5 and stop being "lazy" by not doing so. Really helped me today. Wanting to study but it just seems like so much. I like the "in reality you need to grind for 20 years to live well for after that" and just "push for 5 years, you'll give yourself a good shot at it". Thank you for that, is what I needed to hear today.
Brilliant video. Thank you so much, from a dreamy, creative, lost, INFP. You have just described who I AM, down to a 'T'.
Yes, I am. 100%. Thanks for explaining the small letters, it makes a lot more sense now :) It was very helpful to see how the cognitive functions interact and what I should focus on to grow. I got pretty good at using my intuition and exploring outside of my comfort zone, but fear, anxiety, negative overthinking loops and unhealthy behavior patterns are still holding me back from following my dreams. Finding lasting motivation and discipline is a problem. It's very hard to dedicate any consistent effort to any hobby because my interests shift quickly and I work in short spurts, only when I'm in the mood. When I get randomly excited for something, I pour my heart and soul into it but if I run out of interest or energy before the project is done, or if it's not met with the positive reaction I expected, I'll probably never finish it, get depressed and discouraged and stop for months to years. But art is my calling and the more I try to run from it, the more unhappy I am and it always catches up to me eventually. I know I can't settle for a "small" life and a boring meaningless job if I want to be truly happy so I don't have a choice. To my fellow INFPs with big dreams but small drive, it's really hard but don't let your dreams stay only dreams
Wow that was awesome, it totally outlined the obstacles and also the strengths I've noticed in my life. From an early, early, age I've loved creative writing and also singing and those two things have been obsessions. I've had those troughs and peaks of aspiration despite always having a strong belief in self and potential. One of the primary obstacles I've noticed is that I struggle far too much with allowing myself to isolate and hide away, and not reveal myself vulnerably regardless of whether what I create or express is 'perfect' and the irony is that I recognize that it's a great hindrance to the sort of exposure of experience that feeds that creativity. Thanks for the in depth and empathizing video, it's much appreciated insight.
Extroverted thinking understands you need to grind consistently to get there. 😮 ok consistency here I come! You are amazing 🤩 thank you 😊
Scary accurate video... learned a lot about myself from a perfect stranger. Wow. Good stuff and subscribed. Thanks Alexis.
Awesome vid. Thanks!! Evrth spot on. I loved the part about the healthy INFP. It was like you were describing my music.😁
I know I missed the train by a couple of years on this one...lol. I'm an INFP and even though I've known my type and have been studying personality types for 20+ years, I was still at a loss of why I do some of the things that I do until now. I'm an adventurous and fairly successful person as far as reaching goals I've set for myself. I just realized why I had a tendency to go from my comfort zone to living outside of my box and then back into my comfort zone to re-energize. I knew that I needed to stretch the boundaries of where I felt comfortable to be able to grow as a person but I always thought that isolating myself from the world at times was a bad thing and now I know it's something I needed in order to stay healthy. Thank you very much for this video. It has gone a long way to understanding myself.