I think it might be more accurate to say that one should assume that others are more benevolent and forgiving, rather than they are also anxious. That things are more likely to go right than we expect. I appreciate the video nevertheless and your content.
This is interesting. I made topic on reddit social anxiety forum labeled as "Everyone has social anxiety" and my point was that during growing up, all kids have some certain level of social anxiety- and kids in functional homes and healthy environment came up with solution and fix-ups that helped them process social anxiety from exploding. While traumatic kids, children with someone who is criticizing them all the time missed to form persona and learn the lessons how to deal and manage with people who are difficult. Also another point was that people who appear confident and without anxiety - that these people wear mask, they are mostly narcissistic and they actually have huge social anxiety beneath the acting surface that appears confident. The more aggressive, loud, desperate for attention - the more anxiety is inside, inferiority complex being covered up with superiority complex. And I got a lot of negative comments from socially anxious people there that this is not true. They could not believe that someone who acts without anxiety could have anxiety issues, such as social anxiety. Yet - if someone is difficult, uncaring, without empathy - these people are actually over-compensating and try to appear strong. Which is interesting phenomena. We all heard about Michael Jackson or Cher having social anxiety issues - yet they both claimed that when they are on stage, the anxiety is gone and they perform - nobody would notice or think that they suffer from social anxiety, being in the spotlight and in the public. I believe that loud obnoxious people, people who trigger our social anxiety: difficult people, screamers, hysterical ones, along with people who appear extremely confident - they all are covering up something, it is act of over-compensation, they wear a mask, they react to some trauma and they are fake. Social anxiety is natural at certain level. It is normal to experience shame and guilt and embarrassment and fear. Without it, something is not right - there is imbalance. Conclusion is: Normal people are abnormal. Carl Jung: “As a consequence there are many people who become neurotic because they are only normal, as there are people who are neurotic because they cannot become normal. For the former the very thought that you want to educate them to normality is a nightmare; their deepest need is really to be able to lead "abnormal" lives.”
I think it might be more accurate to say that one should assume that others are more benevolent and forgiving, rather than they are also anxious. That things are more likely to go right than we expect. I appreciate the video nevertheless and your content.
This is interesting. I made topic on reddit social anxiety forum labeled as "Everyone has social anxiety" and my point was that during growing up, all kids have some certain level of social anxiety- and kids in functional homes and healthy environment came up with solution and fix-ups that helped them process social anxiety from exploding. While traumatic kids, children with someone who is criticizing them all the time missed to form persona and learn the lessons how to deal and manage with people who are difficult.
Also another point was that people who appear confident and without anxiety - that these people wear mask, they are mostly narcissistic and they actually have huge social anxiety beneath the acting surface that appears confident. The more aggressive, loud, desperate for attention - the more anxiety is inside, inferiority complex being covered up with superiority complex.
And I got a lot of negative comments from socially anxious people there that this is not true. They could not believe that someone who acts without anxiety could have anxiety issues, such as social anxiety.
Yet - if someone is difficult, uncaring, without empathy - these people are actually over-compensating and try to appear strong.
Which is interesting phenomena.
We all heard about Michael Jackson or Cher having social anxiety issues - yet they both claimed that when they are on stage, the anxiety is gone and they perform - nobody would notice or think that they suffer from social anxiety, being in the spotlight and in the public.
I believe that loud obnoxious people, people who trigger our social anxiety: difficult people, screamers, hysterical ones, along with people who appear extremely confident - they all are covering up something, it is act of over-compensation, they wear a mask, they react to some trauma and they are fake.
Social anxiety is natural at certain level. It is normal to experience shame and guilt and embarrassment and fear. Without it, something is not right - there is imbalance. Conclusion is: Normal people are abnormal.
Carl Jung:
“As a consequence there are many people who become
neurotic because they are only normal, as there are
people who are neurotic because they cannot become
normal. For the former the very thought that you want
to educate them to normality is a nightmare; their
deepest need is really to be able to lead "abnormal"
lives.”
Thank you very much for your videos, they help a lot!