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The quality of this video is awesome! 🙌🏻

Thank you for that great video. It was really interesting.

Thank you so much Dr.Thomas for this valuable content ❤ . RUclips suggested your channel a few weeks ago, it was one of the best suggestions ever 😀 & I didn't stopped watching your videos since 😍. Your videos are very helpful and authentic. Thank you again 💓 💖 and keep making more videos 😎👌🤞🤞👏👏👏👏👏👏 بجد شكرا اوى 😊. 정말 고맙습니다 😊.

wonderful content!! thank you!!!!!

I'm interested in the self fidelity diary exercise

5:16

And surrounding yourself with people that suports you really helps

How can you be true to yourself if you don't know who you are?

I don't really filter myself in conversations. I say what I want to, but I still cringe at everything I say and feel like my friends don't like me. I have no reason to be confident.

I think confidence is the ability to be vulnerable and acknowledge your weaknesses. It’s a fully acceptance of oneself.

"What if I told you that self confidence isn't what you think it is?" Well, then I would say that you used an ancient rhetorical device to create tension and curiosity.

This is a wonderful video Doctor. I will be sharing this. Thank you for great content!

Summary: Be really authentic

knowing who you are, and owning it. these words are more helpful than we thought.

very helpful. Thank you Dr. Thomas

thanks

I need to watch this for a 2nd time. Great video, Doc.

Thanks for making content …

I can't emphasize enough how high-quality this video is. Not only is it so well researched and educational, but the edition is also incredibly entertaining. 😁 Plus, I love that you put the sources in the description.👌

Your background “music” is horrible. Your content is interesting but also repetitive.

You’re attractive so keep showing up on my feed and I’ll fall in love

your face just got redder on the icon

Thank you for sharing! I am I'm sure many others are experiencing similar things

Yes. But you cant see that without interaction. Beauty is still objective

I watched a guy do a peaky blinder skit, where he pretended to be a person trying to be like Thomas Shelby and then he also played the friend of the guy trying to be like Tom and it was so wild to see how much more attractive he was when he was trying to be Tom

''I want to have perfect body, I want to have perfect soul'' hits different now

Theory proved. This is my first video i watched from you. At first i was thinking well, you look kind of bad, but by the end of the video you just seemed completely normal. Im a man tho so no homo.

Some criminals are attractive

Yet Other Coaches Are Discouraging "Kindness" saying you'll be Disrespected and Idiot Chump essentially.

Very interesting! Thank you for sharing! 🙏☺️

Science is hot <3 such a comprehensive explanation of the research behind it

I’ve always been repelled by men who are born into privileged families but very attracted to self-made men

But their rating about physical attractiveness was self-reported right? So people graded these faces after being told the descriptions? I see how smell and background beauty can be tested in this way because people don't realize they are being tested on that. But of course I am going to rate the nice person higher on physical attractiveness. I want to do nice things back or I want to signal my own virtue by saying I am more physically attracted to more virtuous people. Or there might be some other factor at play, maybe the nicer personality makes the people appear "weaker" and the person knew that would happen so they try and compensate for that effect but compensate the other way around. The fact that this is self-reported makes me doubt the validity of the research rather a lot.

I catfished by pretending to be a girl on a dating app and got hundreds of matches in just an hour, but when I'm a guy, I get very few matches, almost to none.

Is this why racists look ugly? You can see it on their faces. Katie Hopkins is a good example of this.

What are you talking blah blah blah blah…. No a point at all! Lost too much time here

The problem is some people are better at faking kindness and warmth than others

The Halo effect is that having one positive attribute leads people to assume you have others, not spefically about being attractive.

Hi Thomas, I appreciate the researched back video. I used to be so fascinated on why some people are attractive and why some are not. As I noticed how people around me are so obsessed with beauty. I was not that impressed by it but my family always make commenst about who is beautiful who is not, watching beauty pageants and being impressed by specific features. I based my 1st research paper on What makes someone beautiful. I did find a lot of symmetry topics and standards of what is the trend at the moment. Some of the most common for women are LOng Black hair, Creamy white skin, Perfect set of teeth and proportioned facial features on th female body they just mentioned that the hip to waist ration is the most attractive. I noticed how we are all just following what the media dictates. What the society says. After the research I stopped caring much about it and even explored local showbizness internships and became part of the fashion and modeling world, which was unfortunately a sad place. Almost everyone is insecure, exploited or underpaid. The more I am around the "goodlooking people" the more I saw that it was not important. I grew up being me and I am aware of my flaws, scars and everything nice or not so nice about me but I like me. I love how you ended your video highlighting that. LIkeability factor is something that comes out naturally aftre a while. In the end everyone may not like you but it would be great if you like yourself :)

I tried to listen, but music and all visual effects are too distracting. I given up

This is some extremely soft science. The claim is that by improving your personality you can look more physically attractive. It could be that people like to like nice people, not that they actually find them more attractive. It’s easy and meaningless to rate pics of nicer people more attractive, they are, after all, more attractive overall and there may be no way to separate that. Do nicer people get more dates? Or do nice guys finish last. That’s really the measure.

Beauty is subjective,and can not measured by numbers like golden ratio, 1) looking at disturbing photos can make you look less attractive 2) poor hygiene, if you smell bad you appear less attractive 3) trustworthy and good behaviour can make you look attractive 4) integrity and honesty, warmth and kindness, helpfulness

Question for you sir. I struggle with Parkinson's disease and I'm curious if this process that you're explaining to youtube would work for that condition? I'm a very simple man. So lot of your explanations was kind of over my head. I'm curious if this would work and help me to seek out the positive rather than the negative in simple terms. Thank you

Why do i need to appear more attractive? I've been married 19 yrs to a wonderful wife who loves me deeply and already finds me attractive.

I used to go fishing with my father when I was around 12-13 and not into boys yet. I saw a man that I can say some 40 years later was one of the most beautiful men I've seen. In retrospect, he looked like the statue of David: a deep bronze tan, curly dark brown hair, shirtless with white shorts and a thin gold chain. He spoke to my father and I but aside from his physical perfection, he was there with his elderly father and spoke very kindly to him and gently helped him cast his line into the water which highlighted kindness.

Dating advice... meh. Don't call it social anxiety. These are just tips to get into other people's pants. Use better titles for your videos. Very misleading.

6:08 1- Integrity and Honesty; 2- Warmth and Kindness; 3- Helpfulness and Generosity

This is super advice. I could tell I was crashing at work… and booked 2 weeks leave - my boss was not happy (I felt a lot of guilt over that), but he approved it (i’m on leave now - half way) it was really challenging the first week, I brought my laptop with for a few things to do for work, which somehow stressed me out even more than being at work. By Wednesday… I broke down into tears, and Thursday again after being asked to do small tasks for work. Letting go was hard, but on me, maybe thinking they won’t need me when I get back?? or feeling self important, like the company will stop functioning without me?? Since then I seemed to have released a lot of stress and enjoying a wonderful time. I know I’ll be more creative and productive when I get back. Thank you for this video.

This is my favourite video. I do exactly this!! And just hearing someone talk about it, helps so much. Thank you 🙏🏻

This is so true!