Okay, I was not expecting this video to blow up this much😳 Now there are more than 2,000 of you lovelies🥹💞!!! I am so grateful, and I hope I can continue to make these videos for you lovelies for a long time🥹. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤, I will forever be grateful. Please take care of yourselves, and please don't hesitate to use any of the resources in the video descriptions. 💞
U just scratched something in me. It's nice when u run into a stranger that reminds u of ur true self, of what u could attain, of what lays deeply in u. Growing up, i faced so many situations that, gradually, dragged me down: from the good-at-everything, socially relaxed, sets-her-boundaries, speaks-her-mind but also considerate little girlie to a self-sabotaged, socially awkard, anxious, constantly-on-alert teen who, additionally, suffers from uncontrolable stuttering. Still, i want to thank u for popping in my fyp and all other not-so-known creators. u make it easier to reflect on the tough to vocalise things i carry inside. Thank u againn
Sometimes you have to get dragged down to see all the choices you have from above. Your experiences change you, and a changed person changes their choices of who they want to be and what they want to do. You may be different now, but you will also be different later on in life. As long as you are making the best choices for you, then you are doing just fine. I am so happy that this video was able to resonate with you, and I am happy that watching it changed something in you the same way making it and reading your comment changed something in me. I wish you nothing but the best 🥰❤️!!!
I had a difficult time with people and school as a child. I was expected to stay down and be the ugly duckling that represent the "low bar". I was used to make ppl look better. At 19, I left my country and started a new life. Today, almost 10 Years later, I have my dream carreer. No one expected it. Not even my family. Stop giving a single fuck about other people opinion. They are tinted with they own insecurities anyway. You are worth it.
Sometimes the people around you don’t want the best for you. It’s really important for you to want the best for yourself. I’m proud of you for creating the change you needed in your life. I hope you continue to do what’s best for you☺️🫶🏽💞!!
I rarely leave comments but…I just found your channel and binged several of your videos and wowww the topics and feelings you discuss are SO relatable! From one 23 year old-anxious-vegetarian-cat mom to another, your videos are much appreciated 🤍 I think I just found my new comfort channel 😊
omg i resonated with the MD thing 😅 i became a nurse but im considering going back to med school after encouragement from others. i still want to be a provider, but i feel like not aspiring for an MD makes me feel less than :( truthfully i’d be okay with being an NP or PA but the way people perceive mid levels makes me fear others opinions even if i work super hard to attain them. the rejection piece, goodness :( i hate it honestly. i both crave the attention of being a high achiever but also recoil when people compliment it. it gives me so much anxiety that i never know what to do with myself
Going to med school is a very big decision to make. If it's what you truly want, then it's a no brainer! Just make sure being okay with being a NP or PA doesn't come from the fear of going back to med school, and it comes from you genuinely wanting to be those things. This decision should be yours only, so don't let others opinions influence that decision. Regardless, who you are now is more than enough and I know you'll make the decision that's best FOR YOU. ❤️
Thank you for posting this, I really struggled with this problem it really interfered with my ability to work! Thank you so much for sharing your journey, I know I can get into the same place as you as I allow myself to be perceived! ❤
I feel it about the useless degree. I don't have the excuse of having a family to feed to just take any job and not try to get a job coherent with my studies, so right now I just look like a failure to not be able to get the dream job and I want to hide
Let them think you're a failure. You get the privilege of taking your time, and you honestly deserve it because YOU are the one who worked for the degree and your future. Post-grad is such a crazy transitional period and people who haven't been in your shoes will never understand and probably won't even try to. I am two years post grad and I still don't have my dream career or have a job related to my degree, but that degree helped me in ways beyond a job. Take your time and be proud of how far you've come, and understand you will go farther in life. It takes time to go farther distances in life :)
My parents are passed away And I don't want to put up with the constant bullshit ,hurtful labels, insults, and bullshit that people love do to me. Being alone is much better than this world's abusive assholes
I deserve to be seen and get attention and praise for positive stuff. I always wanted attention but felt like I didn’t deserve or hate how people say I’m not humble. Especially being black and fat and woman and dark skin.
This was such an excellently made video, thank you ❤ The part where you discussed the fear of change and discomfort particularly resonated with my life at the moment
I relate so much to the first point. lately ive been conflicted about my major and was debating on switching to premed because people generally "respect" you more. deep down I feel like its probably not something I want to do. Hopefully this year I can find my calling! This video was amazing and very informative!
Admitting that it’s not something you want to do is the first and biggest step! I’m proud of you for making it🥹 I know that this year you’ll find what you’re looking for!!
NOTES/ANNOTATIONS FOR ME: 1:56 understanding the path that is right for you, not what others perceive your path to be(1:39 doctor example) 2:16 people are not on your journey that they wanted you to be on, you are mostly alone for the good and bad 3:38 desire to impress: self-worth you want to get from others like your parents, 4:11 especially when dealing with an unbearable weight, 4:42 see the freedom within yourself 6:10 why some don’t want to be perceived: protecting your true self 7:40 not every will like you no matter what you do, so don’t strive for perfection 9:45 be okay bunny uncomfortable 9:54 because you are more ready than you think and are worthy than others 13:02 change your mindset of “what if everything goes wrong?” To “what if it works out?” By trying things 13:40 Let go of the things that no longer serve you and accept the new 16:53 Process over Outcomes: 16:49 to achieve dreams, have goals (17:06 example), 17:24 focus on who you are/what you do today not who you are not yet, 17:37 the outcome that you want may not even come it’s a possibility 19:06 comfort/being stagnant creates a chain reaction with a negative impact (19:22 with examples) 19:53 take small steps, atomic habits mentioned (20:01 communication examples)
Ma'am, You don't know me and you don't know how I feel or what I feel or even how badly it feels. I appreciate you for trying to help, but I'm more than capable of speaking for myself, you can't speak about something or someone you don't know
Then the video obviously isn't for you? Am I missing something? You decided to click on and watch a video that didn't resonate with you, that's a you issue not an issue with the creator. She's speaking to the people who this WILL resonate with. Not all content is made with you as an individual in mind. Go find what you need and leave the rest to those who's needs are different than your own. Remember, there are other people who are very different than you, just because something doesn't fit in with your situation doesn't mean it doesn't fit for others. Isn't that sort of obvious when navigating something as vast as the internet, not everything is going to be your cup of tea, and that's okay.
Okay, I was not expecting this video to blow up this much😳 Now there are more than 2,000 of you lovelies🥹💞!!! I am so grateful, and I hope I can continue to make these videos for you lovelies for a long time🥹. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤, I will forever be grateful. Please take care of yourselves, and please don't hesitate to use any of the resources in the video descriptions. 💞
“I let the fear of people not liking me into not liking myself” whewwwwwwww IMMEDIATELY SUBSCRIBED!
IMMEDIATELY LOVED❤️welcome to our safe space🥹🫶🏽!!
U just scratched something in me. It's nice when u run into a stranger that reminds u of ur true self, of what u could attain, of what lays deeply in u. Growing up, i faced so many situations that, gradually, dragged me down: from the good-at-everything, socially relaxed, sets-her-boundaries, speaks-her-mind but also considerate little girlie to a self-sabotaged, socially awkard, anxious, constantly-on-alert teen who, additionally, suffers from uncontrolable stuttering. Still, i want to thank u for popping in my fyp and all other not-so-known creators. u make it easier to reflect on the tough to vocalise things i carry inside. Thank u againn
Sometimes you have to get dragged down to see all the choices you have from above. Your experiences change you, and a changed person changes their choices of who they want to be and what they want to do. You may be different now, but you will also be different later on in life. As long as you are making the best choices for you, then you are doing just fine. I am so happy that this video was able to resonate with you, and I am happy that watching it changed something in you the same way making it and reading your comment changed something in me. I wish you nothing but the best 🥰❤️!!!
I had a difficult time with people and school as a child. I was expected to stay down and be the ugly duckling that represent the "low bar". I was used to make ppl look better. At 19, I left my country and started a new life. Today, almost 10 Years later, I have my dream carreer.
No one expected it. Not even my family.
Stop giving a single fuck about other people opinion. They are tinted with they own insecurities anyway.
You are worth it.
Sometimes the people around you don’t want the best for you. It’s really important for you to want the best for yourself. I’m proud of you for creating the change you needed in your life. I hope you continue to do what’s best for you☺️🫶🏽💞!!
They are tinted with their own insecurities anyways is a amazing quote.
I’m so proud of you. I’m also familiar with much bullying.
Powerful message! I broke my fear by posting my first RUclips video today, haha :)
@@HenrysPath I’m so proud of you🥹!! Your video was great!! I hope to see more of your videos in the future❤️
I rarely leave comments but…I just found your channel and binged several of your videos and wowww the topics and feelings you discuss are SO relatable! From one 23 year old-anxious-vegetarian-cat mom to another, your videos are much appreciated 🤍 I think I just found my new comfort channel 😊
You are so kind❤️ it is truly a honor to be your comfort channel🥹🫡💞
omg i resonated with the MD thing 😅 i became a nurse but im considering going back to med school after encouragement from others. i still want to be a provider, but i feel like not aspiring for an MD makes me feel less than :( truthfully i’d be okay with being an NP or PA but the way people perceive mid levels makes me fear others opinions even if i work super hard to attain them.
the rejection piece, goodness :( i hate it honestly. i both crave the attention of being a high achiever but also recoil when people compliment it. it gives me so much anxiety that i never know what to do with myself
Going to med school is a very big decision to make. If it's what you truly want, then it's a no brainer! Just make sure being okay with being a NP or PA doesn't come from the fear of going back to med school, and it comes from you genuinely wanting to be those things. This decision should be yours only, so don't let others opinions influence that decision. Regardless, who you are now is more than enough and I know you'll make the decision that's best FOR YOU. ❤️
Thank you for posting this, I really struggled with this problem it really interfered with my ability to work! Thank you so much for sharing your journey, I know I can get into the same place as you as I allow myself to be perceived! ❤
i’ve been in therapy for a while now and many aspects that u mentioned have also been discussed in my therapy!! keep up the good work
Omg that’s crazy!! I was just talking about things from my personal experience. Also, thank you! I wish you nothing but the best💋🫶🏽
girl you ate
i feel called out and inspired at the same time
this video came at the right time for me, thanks for sharing this
I’m so glad that the video was able to resonate with you🥹💞🫶🏽
I feel it about the useless degree. I don't have the excuse of having a family to feed to just take any job and not try to get a job coherent with my studies, so right now I just look like a failure to not be able to get the dream job and I want to hide
Let them think you're a failure. You get the privilege of taking your time, and you honestly deserve it because YOU are the one who worked for the degree and your future. Post-grad is such a crazy transitional period and people who haven't been in your shoes will never understand and probably won't even try to. I am two years post grad and I still don't have my dream career or have a job related to my degree, but that degree helped me in ways beyond a job. Take your time and be proud of how far you've come, and understand you will go farther in life. It takes time to go farther distances in life :)
@@lexybbylol thank you so much for you words, I've never felt so understood
I relate to this so much
My parents are passed away
And I don't want to put up with the constant bullshit ,hurtful labels, insults, and bullshit that people love do to me. Being alone is much better than this world's abusive assholes
my college basically gave me the same advice but this was definitely a helpful video!
I deserve to be seen and get attention and praise for positive stuff. I always wanted attention but felt like I didn’t deserve or hate how people say I’m not humble. Especially being black and fat and woman and dark skin.
Any space that you're in is a space you deserve to take up!!
This was such an excellently made video, thank you ❤ The part where you discussed the fear of change and discomfort particularly resonated with my life at the moment
No thank you for watching it🥹 the fact that it had an impact on you brings me so much joy😭🫶🏽
I'm glad you made this, I'm sure it'll get a lot of people started. Great work!
Those words mean so much🥹🫶🏽 thank you!!!
Thank you for posting this I needed the inspo 💜
Facts. Appreciate the vulnerability & honesty!❤
This is exactly what I needed to hear. You are so well spoken and engaging❤️
Thank you, your words are so sweet🥹💞
this video found me at the perfect time. thank you.
Thank you so much! I really needed this even if I didn't know I needed it. I will try to push myself. Your words are captivating and inspiring.
really appreciated this video thank u 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
I relate so much to the first point. lately ive been conflicted about my major and was debating on switching to premed because people generally "respect" you more. deep down I feel like its probably not something I want to do. Hopefully this year I can find my calling! This video was amazing and very informative!
Admitting that it’s not something you want to do is the first and biggest step! I’m proud of you for making it🥹 I know that this year you’ll find what you’re looking for!!
You can get into medical school with any major, obviously science course help but not required
Thanks for sharing❤
Wow thank you for this ❤
Thank you for watching☺️🫶🏽❤️
wow this was so good this is something going to stick with me
You literally just made my day🥹❤️🫶🏽
this is meaningful. thank you
Thank you for the reminder ❤
Beautiful video luv it💕
thank you for this, this was extremely insightful
i hope you have a beautiful day!
No, thank you for watching🥹💞! I wish you nothing but the best!!!
I LOVE this! Helped me fr. Thank you!
I’m so happy it helped🥰!!
Girl what do you mean dont tell me you look it? 23 is young!
I know😭!! Some days I forget how young 23 actually is lol
The first one is real
I never related with every sentence that a person said like GIRL
I've been rejected all of my 50 years plus
NOTES/ANNOTATIONS FOR ME:
1:56 understanding the path that is right for you, not what others perceive your path to be(1:39 doctor example)
2:16 people are not on your journey that they wanted you to be on, you are mostly alone for the good and bad
3:38 desire to impress: self-worth you want to get from others like your parents, 4:11 especially when dealing with an unbearable weight, 4:42 see the freedom within yourself
6:10 why some don’t want to be perceived: protecting your true self
7:40 not every will like you no matter what you do, so don’t strive for perfection
9:45 be okay bunny uncomfortable 9:54 because you are more ready than you think and are worthy than others
13:02 change your mindset of “what if everything goes wrong?” To “what if it works out?” By trying things
13:40 Let go of the things that no longer serve you and accept the new
16:53 Process over Outcomes: 16:49 to achieve dreams, have goals (17:06 example), 17:24 focus on who you are/what you do today not who you are not yet, 17:37 the outcome that you want may not even come it’s a possibility
19:06 comfort/being stagnant creates a chain reaction with a negative impact (19:22 with examples)
19:53 take small steps, atomic habits mentioned (20:01 communication examples)
How would you know 😂
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Ma'am, You don't know me and you don't know how I feel or what I feel or even how badly it feels. I appreciate you for trying to help, but I'm more than capable of speaking for myself, you can't speak about something or someone you don't know
Then the video obviously isn't for you? Am I missing something? You decided to click on and watch a video that didn't resonate with you, that's a you issue not an issue with the creator. She's speaking to the people who this WILL resonate with. Not all content is made with you as an individual in mind. Go find what you need and leave the rest to those who's needs are different than your own. Remember, there are other people who are very different than you, just because something doesn't fit in with your situation doesn't mean it doesn't fit for others. Isn't that sort of obvious when navigating something as vast as the internet, not everything is going to be your cup of tea, and that's okay.
I feel so aligned with your words, thank you for bringing up this type of content🫶🫶🫶
No thank you for watching and aligning with my video! It bring me so much joy that something I made had an impact on you🫶🏽