Coming Clean: Our Hardest Life Lessons We Had to Face
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- Опубликовано: 3 окт 2024
- From trying to save everyone to accepting the ebbs and flows of life, we reveal some of the biggest pills we’ve had to swallow in life. Tell us: What’s been a hard life lesson you had to come to terms with?
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What’s been a hard life lesson you had to come to terms with?
Stop caring about what people think of you
That you can please everyone !!
That I will probably never meet Garcelle, she's so adorable do genuine and kind. I just love her
Don’t be naive!
1) Some people are only in your life for a season and its just meant to be that way. Let them go appreciating what was and what you learned from them.
2) Pretending to be what your not is exhausting and unhealthy. Learn how to be your authentic self.
I red this on Facebook and it hits home:
"Life won't treat you good just because you're a good person".
This just hits me!!! 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ Wow!
Message 🙁💯 not fair but it's life!
Read
So true
Wow
I'm 40 now and my hardest lesson was naively believing that because I genuinely wanted good things for other people (friends) they also wanted good things for me too.
Felt this one in my soul!!
I’m only 20 and I don’t have much life experience but that’s also something I’ve learned, especially after my first year of uni. People will take advantage of you if they can and that’s sad. I had to stop expecting me from other people
For me it was that someone can have more than you and still be jealous of you😒
Preach!
@@omphilemoerane2569 Yes, that part too
I’m here for Loni’s hair 🤩
Me to it has come a long way
Soooo here for it!! 🙌🏽
Same 😍
Yes and that sweater is a hitter as well ! 😻
Im here for the whole look😍
That if a man wants to be loyal to you they will. There won’t be no excuse.
I looove how Loni always calls Adrienne "munchkin" 🥰🤗
@Mo Money my God I hope that is a positive vibe we on here talkin about not spreading negativity and being positive and you write a comment like that God bless you and your family and everything that you touch. Positivity is contagious negativity is debated please ask yourself what kind of Life do you want to live?
The hardest life lesson Ive learned is that hard work won’t always pay off. And being a good person won’t stop bad things from happening. Self care, Learning to let go and when to pivot are crucial for mental health.
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Agreed well said!
I think the hardest one for me so far was having to come to terms with that some people are in your life for a season... there are people I’ve been ride or die for and tried to be loyal to and prove that like hey I see you I hear you and I’m there for you but the moment I need them it’s like they show their true colors and aren’t around... so when people show you who they are , take notes and treat them accordingly
Exactly..learn to observe how you are treated too in the relationship and adjust accordingly.
Hardest pill for me is that the human mind can conceive such evil. Also that I can’t save anyone!
EXACTLY...the human mind! DISPICIBLE!
The hardest lesson I have learned is just because I treat people with kindness does not mean they’ll be kind back. Some people only care about themselves. I have no time for it. Have a nice life!
Same
Mine is similar to Adrienne!!!! Giving people the benefit of the doubt and trying to see the good in them hurt me.
Same!
Literally mine is exactly the same as Adrienne
Hardest life lesson is toxic people, family or not has no place in your life. Always choose peace of mind.
Yes! We give “family” too much credit sometimes. Just because we’re blood related doesn’t mean I gotta tolerate you any longer than somebody else.
SAY IT AGAIN FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK! #Truth
My lesson was, things will happen for you on its own time, as it's supposed to happen for you. And that you define your own version of success.
not everyone will like you.. and that is totally ok.. people come and people go.. the ones God ordained to be in our lives forever will be we wont have to force it or people please to keep people around..let them go💯
So true
I definitely agree with people coming and going. That’s why I don’t get attached to people anymore, I just keep everyone at a distance because you dk how long they’re gonna be there for!
@@unnderneath right that true, but be careful not to miss out on amazing friendships and relationships because your heart was too guarded and closed off to being close with people😊
Loni makeup on point today. This is best her makeup ever looked.
That people are not fair. That they will often determine their perceptions and feelings of you based on things you have no control of, sometimes things that are entirely superficial. And that's why it's fruitless to try to make them like you.
I feel like I have learned so many but the main two would be your can’t please everyone and the second one was what Adrienne said when someone show you who they are believe them!!!!!
Just because you’re passionate about your stance, doesn’t mean you’re right about it.
Adrienne became so deep. i love it.
I think it's overall maturing and also her marriage I'm not trying to give anybody personal growth to someone else but I can say one thing I have been listening to her husband music and preaching since about 2000/2001 he is a really deep person he was like that way before they were even dating
These eye shadows Jeannie has been giving us as of lately is everything 👌👌👌🔥🔥🔥
YYYYASSSS I am in love
Love comes with loyalty, consistency and commitment not just with attraction. Anyone can find you attractive or cute , but a man or woman who doesn’t put the effort in and doesn’t value you for who you are isn’t worth it anyway NOMATTER how much you would’ve loved them.
My hardest pill was learning that not all Christians stand up for truth and are just like everyone else who will lie and manipulate to change a story. MORAL OF THE STORY? Dont trust a soul but God
Yes amen
Yes the Bible even says that
Psalms 118:8-9
It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man
Preach
That no matter how kind or good hearted you are, people can twist your intentions to suit their own narrative of how people perceive you. The one's who believe the lies said about you, never had good intentions in the first place.
Self preservation is key.
That family do not necessarily have your back just because they’re family
Amen
There’s no magic pill to class that teaches you everything you need to know to survive in this world. You learn as you go
First: There’s a difference between working hard & forcing something (at a job, in a relationship, or whatever it is). Second: family is very important but blood is not always thicker than water.
I learned that everybody loves differently. And that can be hard sometimes you think you love them more, because they’re not doing things the way you do it to show love.
Congrats on your marriage jeanie
"I can't be captain save-a-ho". lmao
I thought she was going somewhere else with that comment lmfao
Intelligence in academia does not prepare you for life. At all.
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I feel like something has happened in the real that is making the vibe a little weird
It is sad. I love the show. I do not want it to be canceled😔
Was thinking exactly the same thing
Maybe dealing with covid guidelines and stress from their daily lives 👀 idk I think they are good I don't sense any weird vibe or maybe that's just me
@@melissalitus8879 the zoom was supposed to be for sometime and I think it's hard without the audience, the human contact. Or the ladies know it's not gonna be renewed and are just over it. Adrienne and Jeannie not even in LA. Something is up🤔
Totally. Thats exactly what it seems like
Honestly, I’m trying my best now hitting my 30s... to be MORE SELFISH. I realised selfish people WIN. And just because you do for others, they take it for granted and they DONT do it back. Boundaries, selfishness and cutting people off when I need to for my health are my new mottos. NO MORE 2nd CHANCES!
I am a selfish person. Myself first over anyone. Strong boundaries, and no second chance. Drama free and living myself and achieving my dreams one by one.
I've learned so many. To move Quietly. Not everyone wants the best for you and not all people wish you well or want you to succeed. You can't take everyone with you. It's ok to downgrade your friends to acquaintances.
You can't controls people behaviour and what they think about you. I've learnt that very young and living by it. So s good !
I had to learn that I have to be okay with being alone. Sometimes the only people around you are toxic, so sometimes it’s just best to be alone and be comfortable with that. Don’t let others drain your energy and keep your peace.
Thanks ladies. Really needed this
Hardest lesson was realizing that just because someone is in your circle doesn’t mean that they’re in your corner there’s a difference
True
Mrs Jenkins I loooove you. Always have since the Style Network days. Learnt style from you. Please write a book about your personal growth.
I feel like they could of went a little deeper with this convo but love you ladies ❤️
It is and it's passionate so we appreciate the show 💯
I feel and off energy between This ladies lately .
I learned there is an answer out there to every problem and to always seek multiple sources. Never rely on one person for anything. In the end, you have to be strong for you.
Jesus Christ is The ANSWER to everyone's problems!
its ok to let toxic people go even if its family
Finding out I had cancer.....but I survived
This show has kinda become a snooze fest
Just what i needed today..thank u ladies ❤
Am I the only one who wonders where they get they're tops from?
I'm feeling that sweater Loni has on 😻
@@BreeBrog right 😍 Loni's style never ceases to impress me
@@keniahcannon7896 yaaas!! It's so easy to spread negativity but hard to spread positivity, I'm thankful we both had something positive to say about another woman 😻
@@BreeBrog yes ma'am. Always 💜
Jeanie looks and acts like she's done with the show.
Adrienne and Loni’s responses are low key directed to Jeannie (the wedding situation...). It’s the same for Jeannie, her response is directed to Loni and Adrienne. It’s ok to be just co-workers and not fake friendship anymore.
Stop assuming.
@@michaelamitchell1603 I don’t think I’m wrong though
You sound so bitter shut the hell
Up‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
Y’ALL ALWAYS TRYING TO GET WOMAN TO RIVAL AGAINST ONE ANOTHER ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
I feel like Jeannie be trying a little to hard to be deep sometimes - that it come across long winded 😩
😂😂😂 agree
But she is naturally long winded lol we’ve dealt with this for seven seasons 😂😂
@@MajesticMyronn not everyone has watched all 7 seasons
i’m here for jeannie’s wisdom 🤩🥰
That you may love someone but they might not love you like that. That life's journey is made up of boomerangs not arrows. That you have to let go of some people and some things to preserve your peace.
Spot on Ladies!!!😊❤
Every pill is blended ...we all have our own concoction of what they are saying ...
Your past is your Mother, Your future is Grandmother...So don't fear the future. It will be more Gentle than your past.
I don’t think I was ever naive to know that there is bad and good people in the world. Growing up with a dad like mine I knew lol. Anyways I love what they said. I think for me is being an adult isn’t what I thought it would be. It’s a pain in the ass every damn thing cost $ literally the amount of stress. Ugh. But there are good days and I try to focus on that.
Jeannie got her glow on!!!!
Loni lost weiiiiggghhhhttttt!!!!!!!!
I’m not the ONE that usually leaves a comment, but I must say that this was a well needed conversation. As a 23 y/o young woman, I received insight and valuable wisdom from women, who experienced life longer than I. I think that sometimes it’s all about seeing someone overcome their trauma, and to know that life goes on and it will all be OK .. someday! Well spoken ladies and the Real. I agree with Adrienne & Loni .. those are my hardest pills to swallow.
I didn't think that family members would turn on you for no apparent reason and expect you to kiss their butt.🧐🧐🧐🤨
That I will never look good again to my standards. I work out and eat right and I’m still thick. I don’t like it and I don’t like my new body but genetics suck
I felt this 😰 dealing with this currently
Just keep trying. You got this!
My body has been always perfect, still is ( 4vme) but my face is coverd with melasma and it's hard to accept knowing it won't go forever
@@selamyemane1640 dang I have the exact opposite problem I hate my body right now but my face is thriving
Wow... Loni's wig and makeup looks good
Love Loni's Hair
sorry but i find it hard to believe that Loni was ever an engineer
Thank you ladies for making getting older not seem so scary anymore to me.
The hardest pill I had to swallow is you cannot take everybody with you. Not everybody was meant to be great and some of those that are choose not to be.
I cannot dampen my Sunshine so I won't outshine them.
I'm with Adrienne on that one
For me it was realizing how much weight I gained during the pandemic. I traveled home for the first time in 1 and a half years last year and them plane seats and some clothes will humble you.
I feel you Garcel! Adrienne too 🙌🏼
Wow. Needed to see this today!
Hardest lesson for me is that not everybody has to like/ be nice to you and visa versa.
I can't help but think back to kindergarten and how many times the teachers would make me and the person I had a problem with say sorry and to forgive each other.
But I didn't fully forgive them and I never new why I had to forgive them and sent us away to go play
I just love you 4 together ..a reunion would be nice as well especially with Tameras goofiness and Tamar lol.
Loni...hook a Sis up with the hair connect please!!! Not even joking. Help!!!
Ummm seriously!!!
I’m 21 and let me tell you.. I’ve already started picking how I want my life to be and already seeing who’s fake and not
Love love your look Loni😍😍
That coworkers are just that, coworkers. I am learning that I can't get mad when I'm not invited to an event or get together. Not everyone is going to like you like that and you just have to accept that and move on. This is something I'm currently working on, it'll take a little time for me to fully accept this but once I do I know it'll make me stronger because I won't let things like that bother me. After all, we're just coworkers and we don't talk outside of work. I'm ready to accept this and move on, it's just hard when you have anxiety because you just keep thinking about stuff over and over.
Hehehe hehehe when parents said time to pay rent 🤪🤣😅😜😆😂🤪🤣nononono hard 💊 to every single kid realty check time to get together hehehe hahaha.
Is this about your wedding? Haha I love you Jeanie and I found The Real while looking for you 😍 you've lost your sparkle being on this show sorry ladies I love you all but Jeanie looks miserable
I have learnt the hard way ..don't ever give 150% of uself to anyone...esp a man!!!!
Mine is trying to accept even though you were once close to some you grow apart or outgrow one another and that does not mean you have to write some one off and also knowing it’s ok to not be liked by everyone and there is no reason behind it your just not that someone’s cup of tea and that’s ok!
Still not sure what was Jeannie's hardest pill to swallow??? But I agree with Adrienne especially and the other ladies!! When somebody shows u who they are....believe them sis!!
That title made me think something else 😂
I’m learning you don’t always get your way
I am capt'n save them all..it is hard
Loni isn’t here for the real anymore. It’s like she’s just there for a paycheck
Que sira sira... Put that Que on. All y'all answers are astrologically based. So is mine. I couldn't think of any. I understand the hard lessons are bad times or disappointing situations. But Modesty, makes it seem easy. Truth actually makes it easy. A light burden. Like a paper cross to carry. But its still wood. Learning is fun. Presuming or expecting something and being wrong or not getting what you want may be hard to swallow. Especially if you're used to being unchallenged in these categories. Terminologies and accepted rhetoric... are surpassed greatly by a superior way of life, love and learning. So it's the high expectations countered with a not so high reality, I believe would sum it all up. Humble beginnings, a strong foundation, a respect all fear none upbringing makes everything after that a cakewalk. So far... And I just do what I do. I am what I am. Doesn't get any easier than that. But it's hard as can be to try to. Peace
I agreed with Lonni. I try to teach my boys that life is not flowers and rainbows because that's Not a reality. Life is really hard sometimes. And I want my boys to know that life is hard but so are they 💪🏽💙💙
♥️ love you ms Loni. .. thanks for understanding..
love this part so much. needed this totally, the part of conversation i needed for ten years but never had
The comment section has many gems
Fmlll same Adrian. We must stop giving people that benifiet
I Love This Topic It’s So Deep I Agree With All The Ladies ❤️
Finally someone told Loni about her lash! It was bugging me!.. Loving her hair
Hi
Hi dear
❤️ Loni. She's wise
FAAAAAACCCCTSSSSSSSSSSSSS
Loni looks gorgeous
Well said Jeannie!
Definitely when someone shows you who they really are…
Its so nice to hear from these Women. 🌏💖🙌🏾