5 Things You Should Keep PRIVATE For A HAPPY Life: 1. Your relationship 2. Your finances 3. Your goals and aspirations 4. Your weaknesses (you are giving people ways to attack when you are vulnerable) 5. The kind deeds that you do
4. For me, I share some weakness that I no longer experience, especially if its to help others. I don't share weaknesses that I am currently experiencing because I am vulnerable and people will use it against you and while you're vulnerable you will feel the "power" of their words. When you share past weaknesses it can no longer be used against you even if you are actively working on it, if you're content within yourself and know yourself it give their words no power, but when they do try to throw it in your face, keep a mental note of it.
@@Mikalya100 This hits me too 😭😭 I was so open about my weaknesses and people use it against me. And it looks like if I am the problem because of those weaknesses. From this day I told myself it is not their business. A Reminder for my life ,,What people not know they cannot ruin it“ period!!
@@Mikalya100 Yes to all of this! I have been learning boundaries and combating naivety and being too friendly for the past 3 years. I will agree that even if you are secure in your growth that you definitely have to watch someone who will bring up your past in any way that sets off internal alarms.
@@kanieraliapeng724 I mean sometimes it’s good to be silent but that’s how you make connections. Of course there may be things that you wouldn’t want to share. If you’re at an old job and you’re going to a new, then you can tell them when you’re about to leave. I guess it just depends on the person and their environment. If you’re leaving they may throw you a go away party.
I literally just told my daughter that I was the queen of moving in silence today! 🤣 I literally went to work, knew it was my last day because I accepted a job that pays $20,000 more per year (had the interview yesterday and the lady called me this morning and told me I got it) I didn’t say a word to anybody. I was smiling, helping people, getting my employees under me what they needed, planing meetings and trainings for Monday etc, all while knowing I would be starting my new job Monday. I left my keys, access card, etc on my desk and then blocked all of them from my phone when I got in my car! When I tell you sometimes in life you have to put yourself first and do what’s best for YOU! This is a complete career change and I am SO excited!!! 😆😆😆
At 50 I’ve found that even those who have my best interests at heart need boundaries. When I keep things between me and my Lord I’m good. Once I achieve they will all see and have opportunity to congratulate me.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Hmm what do you think about people asking how much rent you pay or when people ask how much something e.g. a pair of shoes or a handbag cost you? I'm divided about whether to share that info or not.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Loved this video! Oversharing is something I have been working on.. It is not necessary and I've realised that when I do overshare I actually don't feel too good about it afterwards. There is so much power and peace in keeping the most important things in life to yourself.
People manifest all the time and believe in saying things/sharing things to give them power to be, but when I do say the few times I do, I just don't feel good about it, I thought I was the only one
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
I feel like this came at a great time. I've always been a quiet person so it's hard to talk too much but there are several times when I feel I overshared, even with acquaintances. And it's worse when it's family, you think they have your back but those closer to you might be the ones harming you the most. Time to shut my mouth completely.
I would recommend taking time to know if someone is trustworthy first. It's good to have a few people that you can share things with. We learn from others and we can also help others. Don't let bad experiences prevent you from good experiences.
The goal part is facts. I can attest to this. I remember when I posted on social media that I wasn't active on socials as a way to self cleanse it didn't last long but when I decided to just disappear without saying a word for mental wellbeing I disappeared for 8 months straight. Same thing with going to uni. I kept saying I wanna go uni but kept putting it off but as soon as I kept my mouth shut well three years later I got my degree
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
I am a black woman & I feel like more black women need to learn the importance of silence. For some reason we always need to have a say or an opinion on things. We're always debating and arguing with others. I wish we just stop!! Alot of that shit is not even worth our time.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Agreed and I feel like some not all(I’m a black woman myself) get involved in other people’s business too. Like that’s none of your business so why do you want to be involved?
I’ve always been a very private person. Even when social media first started, I always knew that I wasn’t going to share very personal & intimate details of my life especially my relationship. I just think it’s strange when people share everything. There’s power in keeping things to yourself!
Exactly! I don’t understand that especially when it comes to “social media.” These people are total strangers and you putting ALL your business on front street🤔
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
@@olxxa4967 you can write it down so you’re able to process it and eventually clear the mind to get a solution. Trust me I have learnt it the hard way. No more talking
@@olxxa4967 JOURNAL IT DOWN. I PERSONALLY LIKE TO RECORD MY THOUGHTS IN THE CAR, I DONT PLAY IT BACK. ALSO LOOK UP FREE OR LOW COST RESOURES. BUT, JOURNALING CAN GET YOU BY UNTIL YOU CAN.
@@narcissisticabuseawareness3607 GREAT TIP. AND YES IT CAN COST YOU. SOME PEOPLE SEE YOU AS A WEAKNESS. AND PEOPLE WILL USE IT AGAINST YOU. ITS SAD BUT NOT EVERYBODY HAS GOOD INTENTIONS.
Me as a Pastor's wife...I need this. Being transparent has caused me a lot. My plans. Ideas and almost everything I want to do for the ministry and how much I have left in the bank...Lord have mercy on me.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
I used to share it did cost me alot but I began sharing with God alone, nowadays I fight so hard to be silent, sometimes I mess up but I'm on my way to perfecting it.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
As a 21 year old woman, Lucy You're channel has & is greatly contributing to me growing & glowing in this thing called life and I'm grateful to you for that🥺❤!!!!
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
You're very correct.. I love that and I'm going back to being silent. When I share my plans or anything I want to do with anyone, I noticed that I don't achieve them but when I keep quiet about my plans, I easily achieve them.thank tou so much❤❤
There's so much truth in this video! I've self-sabotaged so much in the past just by opening my mouth. I refuse to exist like the world is plotting against me, but some people just move different and want you to fail or do worse than them🤷♀I've been protecting my energy a lot more now and things have been working out in my favor.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Thank you for this video. My weakness is being open and trusting people easily and wholeheartedly. I have been betrayed & hurt several times. I just started all over again but seems I have not been keeping my resolution to share less. Thank you so much. This new month, I'll begin all over again. Please, help me God. Thank you sis.
It's good to have an open heart. Sorry that you have run into some people that don't deserve your friendship/company. My dear, there ARE people that are good and would be so happy to know you! Just take your time and pray about it and God will bring them. When someone gets to know you, let it be like they are removing petals from a rose ... slowly getting to know you. You can reveal more about yourself gradually. That also gives YOU a chance to see whether they are trustworthy or not little by little. All the best sis! I'm the same and this is something I'm working on too :-)
Great advice! My thing is, don't tell anybody anything you don't want everybody to know. If you gotta get it out, keep a journal and/or get a therapist.
I remembered when there was so much pressure on me that I do not talk, I keep things to myself too much and all.. Then I started to say everything, even things I am not suppose to say in my relationship, just because I wanted to please some set of persons in the name of respect or submission. I ended up regretting a lot, but I am healed now, now I want back to keeping private, pressure is coming again that I am not predictable and many more.. Lol.. It's not getting to me anymore.. I do not even trust anybody but my bf again anymore.. Let me not talk much.. I have learned. Thank you ma'am Lucy
I love the place she said „as a woman with Sense „ because why I love that is that , there are people who just cannot keep their mouth shut especially if you’re a woman, you should be able to keep some things to yourself, VERY IMPORTANT!!! Thank you sissy 💋🌹
Ooowwweeee this cannot be stressed enough. And please guard it from everyone! Betrayal comes from those closest to you. Also, I would add don’t tell your partner your insecurities, EVER! Not even jokingly. If you feel insecure about weight or education or whatever talk to your counselor or someone ambiguous person that is outside of your everyday life.
But if that partner is a spouse you are married to, communicate with,interact with, sleep on the same bed with everyday, aren't you two supposed to have a level of trust in your relationship?
@dee: I know the fairytale thinking can mislead us, but sharing your insecurities with your spouse is dangerous. It’s basically manifesting a new person into his life because he will consciously or subconsciously think of what his life will be like with the ‘new person’ you created. For ex. a woman with a flatter stomach, bigger butt, etc. He will also begin to notice those type of women more often. Men have wild imaginations and they also like variety so don’t make your work harder by basically inviting this new woman you created (via your shared insecurities) into your relationship. The last thing you want is to catch your husband with a woman with all the things you told him that you wanted to be.
I'm learning also that humility isn't just shutting up and not telling people ... But also how your heart looks at a person you've helped after that help... You'll be surprised that many of us can manage to keep quiet but despise the person in our hearts.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Thank you very much for this topic, I am a Zimbabwean women living in Belgium, and have gone through a rough moments of being forced to talk all about what you are saying know too, coz I am not a public figure,I am not a famous person, I am just an ordinary person, and really I don't understand with people who want to gossip or who don't mind about there own business
Iwe in ndakato betraywa nevanhu vese vandaitaurira my dreams thinking they'll be happy for me as I was for theirs even paying n sacrificing for them to help them realize their dreams they worked in cahoots to destroy me even turning my child against me while I'm slaving away in the UK while they r benefiting .move in silence ndakadzidza .
This really helped me I like to be open and transparent with everyone I meet but I learned everybody isn't genuine and that can cause jealousy unknowingly 😭
Yes,you are so correct... Everything you have spoke about is what my mother has taught me growing up!!! You must be careful about sharing any information with your closest friends too!!! Because they can and they will turn on you too!!! My mother raised me well and I listen to what my parent taught me growing up. Thank you do much for your channel!!!
I’ve always been this way(quiet) since a young girl in high school and people will literally think that something is wrong with you for remaining quiet.. like.. um…. I guess that’s what makes us different lol
I’ve also been the opposite before (naive & talkative) because of the judgements in the past about me being “quiet”. So thanks for the confirmation that i was never trippin lol. I’m good just the way i am. Reserved, chillin, filling out the vibes first before opening up.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
I've got this story too, not that talkative and reserved (with rbf) but people were making up stories in my head so I started smiling a lot and talking more to fit in
I'm so glad you made this video because a lot of people don't know and take it from me I have done all 5 and people showed me how against me they were. I had witchcraft over my life for years by close people. People that I thought were friends I don't even hear from after I became sick, disabled and homeless. I was so sensitive people used that, especially my sister. I use to always be so upset to the point I couldn't sleep at night because I was always replaying over and over in my mind the things people said or did. When the last person tried me, I had already warned her but she kept on, I finally one day very politely told her off and put my headphones back on and smiled because she was trying to tell me off and because I have hearing loss I couldn't hear nothing but sounds. I'm so secretive now my own family and ex-friends can't tell you where I live or what state, they only think they know, lol.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
I do agree that kindness can be dangerous at times...I helped a neighbor to the hospital even with the bill and 4days later they died... later on the children started accusing me that I had something to do with their death ...up until now am extra careful before being generous
Nice one here. For finances, sometimes you find out that when you show your financial status, the person you are telling wants to dependent on you for his/her needs. And you may notice them asking you how much you made from a particular venture. About the goals, if you share a lot, you tend to lose some passion for it. You need to keep it in to build the passion up.
I had to subscribe to you midway through this video. The minute people start publicizing any of these aspects, I unfollow them or distance myself from them. Everything you do in your life is between you and God.
Thank you for sharing this! I feel like being in church small groups was detrimental to my mental health. We were expected to share everything and just hear people’s sad stories but I was going in circles. I had to completely get out of it to realize I wasn’t growing.
@Sirchingsince that's because original churches were small gatherings in people's homes so they were more intimate but now you got like 500+ people and there's no group of people that a member can connect to and be visible to unless they do these smaller gatherings. At least that's the thought behind these small groups more. Small churches don't have them.
So true, I’ve overshared so much and I’m in immense regret. But all I can do is move forward and now that I know better to do better in keeping my life private.
I found this video very funny but informative. I feel like i personally needed to hear this because when I achieve my goals I always want to put it out there and this video made me realise that I don't actually set goals for myself but others. What I mean is that I only set goals to fit others expectations and sort of "prove them wrong" instead of focusing on my own personal success. Thanks Lucy for this epiphany.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Equally important to the mentioned, the other issue we undermine is health. Which I believe falls under weakness, but not really. Health is an important aspect to not just be shared with anyone.
What has helped me personally with over sharing is finding two people I can trust for real, my two best friends, and that the trust between each of us goes ways. Those are the only two people that I share things with. I still do the move in silence aspect and share the accomplishments after with them but for me overall it has helped having two supportive people that have always had my back and I can get things off my chest with rather than going to my close friends or something like I did before and sharing my thoughts
You sound like such a wise soul. I’m new to your channel but honestly everything you say really touches my heart. And I also like your sense of humour and your realness. More power to you girl! 🤗💖
I usually prefer to just not make a big deal out of things I do things to do things not really much else to it. As a blind person I tend to let actions justify the people I am willing to divulge things with. I also do take pride in the fact that if a trust is broken I can literally cut off a relationship like a cancer cell I suppose being raised by a strong foundation allowed me to realize not to deal with that crap. Also social media when you learn not to care about it you’ll feel so much better about yourself
I love this!! 🙏 Namaste 🙏I do speak about good deeds (not including names) in hopes to encourage others to become more selfless. What you say makes sense, I don't need to speak about it. The good deed will still touch people.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏.
Everything. I exchange basic pleasant generic chit chat with people and family. I keep EVERYTHING to myself. Things I might share, have already happened weeks or months ago. I give no one ammunition to use against me. I ain’t got time for drama and bs. ✌️ out
Thank you so much for the video, I just came across this video I'd say a little late kinda. I really like the part you said it's about emotional maturity. To be sincere, I thought I was a silent person but I was going through so much emotion at the beginning of the year and sincerely, I was losing it and had to burst out to people who do not even need to know. Of course, I realize other people are going through their own problem but Omo shame dey catch me for myself saying a lot. I don't know how to redeem my image again sef. Silence is very powerful I mean very powerful.
Why I don't miss your videos. You very intelligent and this conversation is deep. You can be doing somebody good and be killing them 💯 you Are right. Thank you hunnie. Sometimes is having self-control and being discipline. I pray we all have self control.
I SO AGREEE with number 5 the most. This is one thing that I learned & will try hard not to do it. God passes through people to help other people. God will not come down from heaven to help us. He make us help each other. You do not tell everyone, boast or throw it back in the person face when you help them. It also doesn't give you the green light to disrespect a person just because you helped them. You are NOT the first person in the world to help people & you will not be the last person to help people. You are NOT the only person in the world that has helped people. God, if I ever accidentally open my mouth & tell others about the kind favors that I did for a person, please forgive me.
Im still learning to keep quiet but iv been doing well. I am naturally a quiet person anyways, always been private but sometimes out of excitement we can overshare it takes real discipline to keep your mouth shut. Sometimes when people ask me personal questions or details about my life i never tell the entire truth i always just mix it with something else. So that people would not know whats actually going on in my life.
Thanks a lot for this video Lucy I really needed to hear this..... really working hard on keeping my stuff to myself alone but I think it's really not necessary tho to saying everything about yourself to just anyone especially with the social media
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏.
This is such a good video. I love you being you and showing such a good example of how to show class and elegance. I have to tell you, the example of your husband stealing your chicken almost laid me flat. You said it with such a straight face that I wonder how many women have this problem. Now I can’t stop giggling and there are tears rolling down my cheeks. Oh my… I must settle down before I continue! I really adore your content. Thank you!
I tell my mother almost everything. And she tells me everything and my daughter tells me everything. But we do keep each other secrets. I do tell anyone my plans, I just execute them.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR VALUABLE ADVICE and for spelling it out so nicely yet frankly... Well done! Also, your content is interesting and mature, and you are well spoken and well 'put together '! Keep it up!!
Lockdown in 2020 was my game changer...I met myself during lockdown and I shed off some of my old skin and got some new one and silence was one of the new pieces and I am a new being...after.going back and forth tho...m at 85% with it. Nowadays there is tht 7th sense tht always warns me ahead of time to shut my mouth...and boy PEACE is my portion now
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
I stumbled across your channel. But can't really say I stumbled bc it something I desperately needed to hear. I can't wait to watch more of your content. So amazing to learn from another beautiful woman of color😇
Hey Lucy, thank you so much for these videos. They really do help me on my journey of growth! It’s nice to have a wise perspective on these different areas of my life 🤍 So glad I found your channel, love from Australia 🇦🇺
This is the first video I’ve seen on your channel; it came up on my RUclips recommendation and I’m so glad it did! Love this video and just subscribed ❤️ thank you for the wonderful advice beautiful 🤩
You are right...I need to learn not to tell...I've told someone that I thought was my friend, about someone I loved and what was happening and she was so negative always, like finish with him, block him blablabla...I did...guess what she started talking to him and stopped talking to me
5 Things You Should Keep PRIVATE For A HAPPY Life:
1. Your relationship
2. Your finances
3. Your goals and aspirations
4. Your weaknesses (you are giving people ways to attack when you are vulnerable)
5. The kind deeds that you do
4. For me, I share some weakness that I no longer experience, especially if its to help others. I don't share weaknesses that I am currently experiencing because I am vulnerable and people will use it against you and while you're vulnerable you will feel the "power" of their words. When you share past weaknesses it can no longer be used against you even if you are actively working on it, if you're content within yourself and know yourself it give their words no power, but when they do try to throw it in your face, keep a mental note of it.
So basically everything lol
@@Mikalya100 This hits me too 😭😭 I was so open about my weaknesses and people use it against me. And it looks like if I am the problem because of those weaknesses. From this day I told myself it is not their business. A Reminder for my life ,,What people not know they cannot ruin it“ period!!
@@Mikalya100 Yes to all of this! I have been learning boundaries and combating naivety and being too friendly for the past 3 years. I will agree that even if you are secure in your growth that you definitely have to watch someone who will bring up your past in any way that sets off internal alarms.
@@kanieraliapeng724 I mean sometimes it’s good to be silent but that’s how you make connections. Of course there may be things that you wouldn’t want to share. If you’re at an old job and you’re going to a new, then you can tell them when you’re about to leave. I guess it just depends on the person and their environment. If you’re leaving they may throw you a go away party.
I literally just told my daughter that I was the queen of moving in silence today! 🤣 I literally went to work, knew it was my last day because I accepted a job that pays $20,000 more per year (had the interview yesterday and the lady called me this morning and told me I got it) I didn’t say a word to anybody. I was smiling, helping people, getting my employees under me what they needed, planing meetings and trainings for Monday etc, all while knowing I would be starting my new job Monday. I left my keys, access card, etc on my desk and then blocked all of them from my phone when I got in my car! When I tell you sometimes in life you have to put yourself first and do what’s best for YOU! This is a complete career change and I am SO excited!!! 😆😆😆
Excellent and congratulations 👏🏾🥳
@@lafemmegentille
Thanks ♥️
@@womanwithaplan8950
But why blocked them 😂
@@sanaa8367
Because most are toxic and I believe in leaving the past in the past! 🤷🏽♀️🤣
Looooool you blocked them
I always ask GOD to keep me quiet. I share too much and soon afterwards I regret but I can not stop. May GOD help me
Ncoooo 🥰....
Me😭😭 it cost me so much. I’m just too open to people around me 💔💔💔
Keep praying. God will answer you
Same😔
I’m so guilty of this, I need to stop because people is good up to the point that they know your business!
At 50 I’ve found that even those who have my best interests at heart need boundaries. When I keep things between me and my Lord I’m good. Once I achieve they will all see and have opportunity to congratulate me.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
You can never tell what's in people's hearts no matter how much they look excited about your plans
You’re so right ❤
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
The importance of keeping How much you earn or have in your bank account private can never be overemphasized. The quality of this video 🔥
Emphasis on this comment. Because people will find slick ways to count your pockets.
Do some people actually disclose this information? 😱😱
Quality indeed ❤
Hmm what do you think about people asking how much rent you pay or when people ask how much something e.g. a pair of shoes or a handbag cost you? I'm divided about whether to share that info or not.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Loved this video! Oversharing is something I have been working on.. It is not necessary and I've realised that when I do overshare I actually don't feel too good about it afterwards. There is so much power and peace in keeping the most important things in life to yourself.
you are absolutely correct my dear, i dont sleep or feel well after oversharing.
Right there with you
People manifest all the time and believe in saying things/sharing things to give them power to be, but when I do say the few times I do, I just don't feel good about it, I thought I was the only one
Absolutely.. I'm totally working on this..
We grow everyday..
I have that weakness too
1. Relationship
2. Finance
3. Future plans
4. Your weaknesses
5. The kind deed and help you render to people
Very informative
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
I feel like this came at a great time. I've always been a quiet person so it's hard to talk too much but there are several times when I feel I overshared, even with acquaintances. And it's worse when it's family, you think they have your back but those closer to you might be the ones harming you the most. Time to shut my mouth completely.
I would recommend taking time to know if someone is trustworthy first. It's good to have a few people that you can share things with. We learn from others and we can also help others. Don't let bad experiences prevent you from good experiences.
Before you think to shut it pray for that mouth.
Yes, I learned the hard way
Factsss!!!
Our families are our biggest household enemies
The goal part is facts. I can attest to this. I remember when I posted on social media that I wasn't active on socials as a way to self cleanse it didn't last long but when I decided to just disappear without saying a word for mental wellbeing I disappeared for 8 months straight. Same thing with going to uni. I kept saying I wanna go uni but kept putting it off but as soon as I kept my mouth shut well three years later I got my degree
I had the perfect shape by most standards but lately I’ve been feeling a little bigger so I definitely want to keep that check.
That's how systems are created and goals are accomplished. Congrats love!
Wow
Now this I believe... And there has to be something that derails the progress after sharing
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
You’re totally right about plans flopping after telling people and magically working out if you keep them to yourself.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
I am a black woman & I feel like more black women need to learn the importance of silence. For some reason we always need to have a say or an opinion on things. We're always debating and arguing with others. I wish we just stop!! Alot of that shit is not even worth our time.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Agreed and I feel like some not all(I’m a black woman myself) get involved in other people’s business too. Like that’s none of your business so why do you want to be involved?
I’ve always been a very private person. Even when social media first started, I always knew that I wasn’t going to share very personal & intimate details of my life especially my relationship. I just think it’s strange when people share everything. There’s power in keeping things to yourself!
Exactly!
I don’t understand that especially when it comes to “social media.”
These people are total strangers and you putting ALL your business on front street🤔
True. Just like me
You have to have mystery. That's missing nowadays.
So true, I just share random memes that don't even relate to what I am thinking or anything at all 😂
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Clearly GOD is speaking to me through these messages. Let me be quiet and learn please eh. Note to self : "Oya sit and learn" 😁
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Even me God is speaking to me as well
God has been speaking to me too
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Every time I overshared my business to the public, it always didn't end well as compared to when I kept quiet
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Also, I’m learning that whenever you have issues about your relationship talk to a couple therapists not your friends. A wealthy person told me this.
But what if there no such a thing in my country?
A therapy to the psychologist cost an arm.
@@olxxa4967 call an anonymous hotline from a fake number, give them a fake name and vent out your problem if you can’t afford therapy in the meantime
@@olxxa4967 you can write it down so you’re able to process it and eventually clear the mind to get a solution. Trust me I have learnt it the hard way. No more talking
@@olxxa4967 JOURNAL IT DOWN. I PERSONALLY LIKE TO RECORD MY THOUGHTS IN THE CAR, I DONT PLAY IT BACK. ALSO LOOK UP FREE OR LOW COST RESOURES. BUT, JOURNALING CAN GET YOU BY UNTIL YOU CAN.
@@narcissisticabuseawareness3607 GREAT TIP. AND YES IT CAN COST YOU. SOME PEOPLE SEE YOU AS A WEAKNESS. AND PEOPLE WILL USE IT AGAINST YOU. ITS SAD BUT NOT EVERYBODY HAS GOOD INTENTIONS.
Most of the time I’m naive, I share almost everything 😪😬. I’ve learned a lot from this video, thank you❤️😍
Me as a Pastor's wife...I need this. Being transparent has caused me a lot. My plans. Ideas and almost everything I want to do for the ministry and how much I have left in the bank...Lord have mercy on me.
Me too sis. It’s the good in us but we have to protect ourself
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Your not alone I always say I’m an open book, and yeaaaaa I don’t want to be open anymore
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
No bc this is the one. It's soooo so so peaceful when you mind your business and live life without unsolicited announcements. Great video, Lucy!
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Took between 5 to 6 years to learn all of this and currently applying it. Really works miracles
I used to share it did cost me alot but I began sharing with God alone, nowadays I fight so hard to be silent, sometimes I mess up but I'm on my way to perfecting it.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
As a 21 year old woman, Lucy You're channel has & is greatly contributing to me growing & glowing in this thing called life and I'm grateful to you for that🥺❤!!!!
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
You're very correct.. I love that and I'm going back to being silent. When I share my plans or anything I want to do with anyone, I noticed that I don't achieve them but when I keep quiet about my plans, I easily achieve them.thank tou so much❤❤
This is so me.....
Me too
Yep
Demonic unseen forces are everywhere. Keeping silent only allows God to speed up your breakthrough & blessings
@@jessicanhlapo9339 🥰 you can say that again. ❤❤
There's so much truth in this video! I've self-sabotaged so much in the past just by opening my mouth. I refuse to exist like the world is plotting against me, but some people just move different and want you to fail or do worse than them🤷♀I've been protecting my energy a lot more now and things have been working out in my favor.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
I tell people only what I want them to know. It's funny that sometimes they think they know alot when they know nothing...
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Thank you for this video. My weakness is being open and trusting people easily and wholeheartedly. I have been betrayed & hurt several times. I just started all over again but seems I have not been keeping my resolution to share less. Thank you so much. This new month, I'll begin all over again. Please, help me God. Thank you sis.
It's good to have an open heart. Sorry that you have run into some people that don't deserve your friendship/company. My dear, there ARE people that are good and would be so happy to know you! Just take your time and pray about it and God will bring them. When someone gets to know you, let it be like they are removing petals from a rose ... slowly getting to know you. You can reveal more about yourself gradually. That also gives YOU a chance to see whether they are trustworthy or not little by little. All the best sis! I'm the same and this is something I'm working on too :-)
Great advice! My thing is, don't tell anybody anything you don't want everybody to know. If you gotta get it out, keep a journal and/or get a therapist.
I remembered when there was so much pressure on me that I do not talk, I keep things to myself too much and all.. Then I started to say everything, even things I am not suppose to say in my relationship, just because I wanted to please some set of persons in the name of respect or submission. I ended up regretting a lot, but I am healed now, now I want back to keeping private, pressure is coming again that I am not predictable and many more.. Lol.. It's not getting to me anymore.. I do not even trust anybody but my bf again anymore.. Let me not talk much.. I have learned.
Thank you ma'am Lucy
I love the place she said „as a woman with Sense „ because why I love that is that , there are people who just cannot keep their mouth shut especially if you’re a woman, you should be able to keep some things to yourself, VERY IMPORTANT!!!
Thank you sissy 💋🌹
Ooowwweeee this cannot be stressed enough. And please guard it from everyone! Betrayal comes from those closest to you. Also, I would add don’t tell your partner your insecurities, EVER! Not even jokingly. If you feel insecure about weight or education or whatever talk to your counselor or someone ambiguous person that is outside of your everyday life.
But if that partner is a spouse you are married to, communicate with,interact with, sleep on the same bed with everyday, aren't you two supposed to have a level of trust in your relationship?
@@watchforlife right?! I don’t understand this. It’s a tricky topic
@@wshelby83 yeah, very.
@dee: I know the fairytale thinking can mislead us, but sharing your insecurities with your spouse is dangerous. It’s basically manifesting a new person into his life because he will consciously or subconsciously think of what his life will be like with the ‘new person’ you created. For ex. a woman with a flatter stomach, bigger butt, etc. He will also begin to notice those type of women more often. Men have wild imaginations and they also like variety so don’t make your work harder by basically inviting this new woman you created (via your shared insecurities) into your relationship. The last thing you want is to catch your husband with a woman with all the things you told him that you wanted to be.
@@xoxo-vp7ww very interesting. Men don't like yo hear women whinning and whinging. They want you up and popping
I'm learning also that humility isn't just shutting up and not telling people ... But also how your heart looks at a person you've helped after that help... You'll be surprised that many of us can manage to keep quiet but despise the person in our hearts.
Factssss!
That's true
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
I needed this cause I be chatting 😂😂, then get hurt ☹️. I’m a nice person that always get hurt but now I know not to just lay everything out.
I NEEDED THIS VIDEO, I always tend to overshare and won’t shut up 😭😭😭
Me too ….I’m learning
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Thank you very much for this topic, I am a Zimbabwean women living in Belgium, and have gone through a rough moments of being forced to talk all about what you are saying know too, coz I am not a public figure,I am not a famous person, I am just an ordinary person, and really I don't understand with people who want to gossip or who don't mind about there own business
Iwe in ndakato betraywa nevanhu vese vandaitaurira my dreams thinking they'll be happy for me as I was for theirs even paying n sacrificing for them to help them realize their dreams they worked in cahoots to destroy me even turning my child against me while I'm slaving away in the UK while they r benefiting .move in silence ndakadzidza .
So true! Keeping finances privately is helpful.
Transparency is very helpful regarding financial advice.
i use to tell my husband about my finances. now i dont.
This really helped me I like to be open and transparent with everyone I meet but I learned everybody isn't genuine and that can cause jealousy unknowingly 😭
"If you know they do not have your best interest at heart, keep ya mouth shut" 😍🎯
Yes,you are so correct... Everything you have spoke about is what my mother has taught me growing up!!! You must be careful about sharing any information with your closest friends too!!! Because they can and they will turn on you too!!! My mother raised me well and I listen to what my parent taught me growing up. Thank you do much for your channel!!!
Your mom was very wise.
I’ve always been this way(quiet) since a young girl in high school and people will literally think that something is wrong with you for remaining quiet.. like.. um…. I guess that’s what makes us different lol
I’ve also been the opposite before (naive & talkative) because of the judgements in the past about me being “quiet”. So thanks for the confirmation that i was never trippin lol. I’m good just the way i am. Reserved, chillin, filling out the vibes first before opening up.
I get the same thing too from people . “The quiet one” and that is me . I stay quiet and observe my surroundings.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
I've got this story too, not that talkative and reserved (with rbf) but people were making up stories in my head so I started smiling a lot and talking more to fit in
I'm so glad you made this video because a lot of people don't know and take it from me I have done all 5 and people showed me how against me they were. I had witchcraft over my life for years by close people. People that I thought were friends I don't even hear from after I became sick, disabled and homeless. I was so sensitive people used that, especially my sister. I use to always be so upset to the point I couldn't sleep at night because I was always replaying over and over in my mind the things people said or did. When the last person tried me, I had already warned her but she kept on, I finally one day very politely told her off and put my headphones back on and smiled because she was trying to tell me off and because I have hearing loss I couldn't hear nothing but sounds. I'm so secretive now my own family and ex-friends can't tell you where I live or what state, they only think they know, lol.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏.
For me keeping my relationship both secret and private is what I love
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
I do agree that kindness can be dangerous at times...I helped a neighbor to the hospital even with the bill and 4days later they died... later on the children started accusing me that I had something to do with their death ...up until now am extra careful before being generous
Wow... That's awful :/
Nice one here.
For finances, sometimes you find out that when you show your financial status, the person you are telling wants to dependent on you for his/her needs. And you may notice them asking you how much you made from a particular venture.
About the goals, if you share a lot, you tend to lose some passion for it. You need to keep it in to build the passion up.
I’ve found my favorite Nigerian auntie! And a very wise one indeed.
you actually just spilled out the wisdom of life in this video. I love you.
I had to subscribe to you midway through this video. The minute people start publicizing any of these aspects, I unfollow them or distance myself from them. Everything you do in your life is between you and God.
Thank you for sharing this! I feel like being in church small groups was detrimental to my mental health. We were expected to share everything and just hear people’s sad stories but I was going in circles. I had to completely get out of it to realize I wasn’t growing.
I agree. Those are not safe places! I wonder about the origins of "small groups". I don't see a precedent in the Bible.
@Sirchingsince that's because original churches were small gatherings in people's homes so they were more intimate but now you got like 500+ people and there's no group of people that a member can connect to and be visible to unless they do these smaller gatherings. At least that's the thought behind these small groups more. Small churches don't have them.
So true, I’ve overshared so much and I’m in immense regret. But all I can do is move forward and now that I know better to do better in keeping my life private.
I found this video very funny but informative. I feel like i personally needed to hear this because when I achieve my goals I always want to put it out there and this video made me realise that I don't actually set goals for myself but others. What I mean is that I only set goals to fit others expectations and sort of "prove them wrong" instead of focusing on my own personal success. Thanks Lucy for this epiphany.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
I don't have anyone to talk to, so I never get an opportunity to overshare. I have noticed I live a peaceful life.
Silence is golden ❤
Equally important to the mentioned, the other issue we undermine is health. Which I believe falls under weakness, but not really. Health is an important aspect to not just be shared with anyone.
Lucy! You are amazing. So humble, kind, and gentle. May God continue to bless you and your family
What has helped me personally with over sharing is finding two people I can trust for real, my two best friends, and that the trust between each of us goes ways. Those are the only two people that I share things with. I still do the move in silence aspect and share the accomplishments after with them but for me overall it has helped having two supportive people that have always had my back and I can get things off my chest with rather than going to my close friends or something like I did before and sharing my thoughts
I actually really love the character behind the truth of these words spoken. Ride on Lucy you are doing the Lord's work 🙂.
I agree with ALL FIVE things..(ESPECIALLY your finances and the good deeds)...👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
You sound like such a wise soul. I’m new to your channel but honestly everything you say really touches my heart. And I also like your sense of humour and your realness. More power to you girl! 🤗💖
I don't like when someone I've help goes out telling everyone that I'm the one who brought"help" them,I fell like that too shall stay between us.
Thanks very much,I am very carefully with what I say even to my close friends and family.I am practicing the power of silence
I usually prefer to just not make a big deal out of things I do things to do things not really much else to it. As a blind person I tend to let actions justify the people I am willing to divulge things with. I also do take pride in the fact that if a trust is broken I can literally cut off a relationship like a cancer cell I suppose being raised by a strong foundation allowed me to realize not to deal with that crap. Also social media when you learn not to care about it you’ll feel so much better about yourself
Spot on! Silence is power,it is golden ...you hit the nail...Merci beaucoup
I love this!! 🙏 Namaste 🙏I do speak about good deeds (not including names) in hopes to encourage others to become more selfless. What you say makes sense, I don't need to speak about it. The good deed will still touch people.
I really enjoy this , I was telling myself that the other day keep my mouth shut ...
Now this is what is called beauty and brain...you are brilliant gal
You are definitely right my sister! Love and peace to you and fam!
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏.
Everything. I exchange basic pleasant generic chit chat with people and family. I keep EVERYTHING to myself. Things I might share, have already happened weeks or months ago. I give no one ammunition to use against me. I ain’t got time for drama and bs. ✌️ out
Thank you so much for the video, I just came across this video I'd say a little late kinda. I really like the part you said it's about emotional maturity. To be sincere, I thought I was a silent person but I was going through so much emotion at the beginning of the year and sincerely, I was losing it and had to burst out to people who do not even need to know. Of course, I realize other people are going through their own problem but Omo shame dey catch me for myself saying a lot.
I don't know how to redeem my image again sef.
Silence is very powerful I mean very powerful.
Why I don't miss your videos.
You very intelligent and this conversation is deep.
You can be doing somebody good and be killing them 💯 you Are right.
Thank you hunnie.
Sometimes is having self-control and being discipline.
I pray we all have self control.
Thank you so much❤️
I appreciate this video, your honesty and the difficult talks that people don’t want to comprehend. Keep doing the Lords work🎉
I SO AGREEE with number 5 the most. This is one thing that I learned & will try hard not to do it. God passes through people to help other people. God will not come down from heaven to help us. He make us help each other. You do not tell everyone, boast or throw it back in the person face when you help them. It also doesn't give you the green light to disrespect a person just because you helped them. You are NOT the first person in the world to help people & you will not be the last person to help people. You are NOT the only person in the world that has helped people. God, if I ever accidentally open my mouth & tell others about the kind favors that I did for a person, please forgive me.
Just binge watched your videos and I’m so in love with everything! Keep up the good work, you’re doing amazing! ❤️
I have to work on the ' flexing ' on social media part , I am definitely the type to ' show off ' and I have been working on it. Thanks again.
Atleast you're honest about it, one step at a time dear, I promise you'll come right.
Me too 😩😩😩
Im still learning to keep quiet but iv been doing well. I am naturally a quiet person anyways, always been private but sometimes out of excitement we can overshare it takes real discipline to keep your mouth shut. Sometimes when people ask me personal questions or details about my life i never tell the entire truth i always just mix it with something else. So that people would not know whats actually going on in my life.
Before I even listen in I just want to say thank you for this video and God bless you 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 now let me be attentive 🧘♀️
Anytime Love❤️
I learned to be very reserved with my personal life details and it been a game changer, especially in my sting life!! Great video♥️🙌🏽
Finally someone did a topic on shut your mouth stop sharing your life and opinions on social media Thank you
Very true all the time I share my ideas of what I want to do with my closest friends it doesn’t work so I have decided to keep quiet
Thanks a lot for this video Lucy I really needed to hear this..... really working hard on keeping my stuff to myself alone but I think it's really not necessary tho to saying everything about yourself to just anyone especially with the social media
Madam it's me you are talking to directly,God bless you I av been on this table,I talk alot,I av learnt,this time I'll be over quite 😌
My name is Abieyuwa and I approve this message . Facts💕💕💕
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏.
I agree with all of these and this video helps me to know to keep quiet ❤️❤️🙌🏾 protecting yourself
I just found you Sis and I’m so glad I did! This was for me…. I was telling the wrong folk TOO much!
This is such a good video. I love you being you and showing such a good example of how to show class and elegance. I have to tell you, the example of your husband stealing your chicken almost laid me flat. You said it with such a straight face that I wonder how many women have this problem. Now I can’t stop giggling and there are tears rolling down my cheeks. Oh my… I must settle down before I continue! I really adore your content. Thank you!
How can I love this video for 1m times ??? I love this video and everything about it from the beginning to the end ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I tell my mother almost everything. And she tells me everything and my daughter tells me everything. But we do keep each other secrets. I do tell anyone my plans, I just execute them.
I needed to hear this today. This is the first video I am watching from you. I will definitely be coming back for more.
I WISH I WOULD OF HAD THIS ADVICE WHEN I WAS YOUNGER. THANKS SIS THIS IS GOING TO SAVES MANY.
Nice to see someone that still has sense in this world of woke people.
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR VALUABLE ADVICE and for spelling it out so nicely yet frankly... Well done! Also, your content is interesting and mature, and you are well spoken and well 'put together '! Keep it up!!
Lockdown in 2020 was my game changer...I met myself during lockdown and I shed off some of my old skin and got some new one and silence was one of the new pieces and I am a new being...after.going back and forth tho...m at 85% with it. Nowadays there is tht 7th sense tht always warns me ahead of time to shut my mouth...and boy PEACE is my portion now
Honestly this message came through at the time I needed it most♥♥thank you
You are always welcome sis ❤️
Stop telling people what you’re doing, what you’ve done and what your about to do. There is no need although society has made it seem like you need to tell someone everything going on just because they’re your ‘friend’ but this isn’t the case at all. Most the time people won’t care about what you tell them or will just get jealous just giving you all that negative energy. I just made a touching video on all this check it out and stay blessed 🙏
Enjoyed this video! I agree indeed and believe in privacy and knowing when to share and speak. It's important. Great video, well said and explained.
I stumbled across your channel. But can't really say I stumbled bc it something I desperately needed to hear. I can't wait to watch more of your content. So amazing to learn from another beautiful woman of color😇
Hey Lucy, thank you so much for these videos. They really do help me on my journey of growth! It’s nice to have a wise perspective on these different areas of my life 🤍 So glad I found your channel, love from Australia 🇦🇺
This is the first video I’ve seen on your channel; it came up on my RUclips recommendation and I’m so glad it did! Love this video and just subscribed ❤️ thank you for the wonderful advice beautiful 🤩
I’m going to watch this video over and over again until I’m satisfied with the information…. Perfect talk sis🥰💕❤️🔥
First timer here💃🏼👌💖. Seriously silence is golden, I'm still looking forward to being more silent
I've talked too much...Lord forgive me and help me in this area in my life!
You are right...I need to learn not to tell...I've told someone that I thought was my friend, about someone I loved and what was happening and she was so negative always, like finish with him, block him blablabla...I did...guess what she started talking to him and stopped talking to me
Wow!!! This is exceptionally good. I got a lot of actions points just listening to you.
I am 9 Minutes in and I am absolutely loving this video 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾.
I am glad ❤️