1. bodycount on Internet/in personal life 2. material purchases/ things that you buy 3. past mistakes 4. career journey/ finances 5. arguments/fights you have with your partner
Please could you cover topics like : How to build a relationship with yourself How to talk to people or engage in conversation without over sharing How to build consistency and dealing with overcoming things you’re self aware of
Same here... But if I practice over and over in my head to not say anything it works... I don't no how to manufacture a lie on the spot... I had to ask my pastor how to go about it... He said to practice pause before speaking and to be intentionally slow while speaking...
Agreed! Did you know that all these practices you said for living a happy life is also advised and encouraged in islam? Our Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) told us that we shouldn’t share any moment which is special to us cuz of the evil eye. It’s so real. And when there’s a conflict btw a spouse you’re not supposed to gossip and tell his bad stuff. In islam both spouses are like a garment for each other. Whatever is said in the house will stay in the house. You don’t go to people and tell your private details. - so girl all what you said are etiquettes and manners in islam❤
What if you’ve been an over sharer and you’re recently trying to become more private, but you’ve made a mistake of sharing certain private details of your life and you regret it, how do you go on from there? What’s the next step?
Hi Tracy, Firstly, you do not own anybody any information. You can change your mind at anytime and that’s ok. This is your life You can always create new boundaries and become consistent with them. Some examples that you can say : I no longer want to discuss this situation or event. I have moved on from this situation or event, let talk about something else. Hope this help
Forgive yourself, now you know better, you were in ignorance, but now you have the knowledge And hey, we all make mistakes, I've had instances where I overshared and regretted but I didn't let shame make me feel down
Lucyy. the last point about not tellling your arguments with your partner to you friends and family is just soo true. I experienced this before, infact we had not even gotten into an official relationship and we had a big disagreement. I did not know how to handle it and I told my friends and till date they literally hate this person and see him as black as satan whereas he is not. I have tried so much to explain that he is not what they think he is but they would not budge. And fact is I never painted him as black to them. I simply only told them his view on that topic and now they literally hate him.
I have learned to close my ears or to redirect the conversation when my friends or family try to offload to me about the issues they have with partner for this exact reason. I get a bad taste in my mouth over them then the next thing I know that friend/family member is back to being happy again in their relationship because they have now sorted things out but I'm still left with the previous image of them that was painted to me and can't shake it. Now, I want to stay out of what is not mine to be in, so as much as I want to be there for my friends/family, if it is of a nature where they are relaying details to me of arguments/issues in there relationships, I literally have a "drop me out" mentality. We don't just have to be careful about what we say, we have to be careful about what we listen to also.
I have learned to close my ears or to redirect the conversation when my friends or family try to offload to me about the issues they have with partner. I get a bad taste in my mouth over their spouse due to what I was told, then the next thing I know that friend/family member is back to being happy again in their relationship because they have now sorted things out but I'm still left with the previous image of them that was painted to me and can't shake it. Now, I want to stay out of what is not mine to be in, so as much as I want to be there for my friends/family, if it is of a nature where they are relaying details to me of arguments/issues in there relationships, I literally have a "drop me out" mentality. We don't just have to be careful about what we say, we have to be careful about what we listen to also.
Makes me think about David and his brothers in the bible.. he told them his dreams and he went through hell from jealousy . Had he kept that dream & vision to himself he might’ve not went through as much
What I’ve learnt as growing up is that let something about you be sacred to yourself and with your partner. I still stand that relationship and familiarity life should be kept off social media.
I Love How You Pointed Out Certain Topics To Not Discuss About. I Am A Working Progress To Stop OVERSHARING With People. Like You Stated “It’s Unnecessary “ When You Do Because People Could Really Be JEALOUS , UNHAPPY , And Or Plain Out ACT FUNNY…
What you buy or you don’t, or what you do for a living is personal . Some people think you have to answer unless one is at an interview then I tell the interviewer. Society tries to normalize answering questions we do t owe anybody explanations.
I’m glad you you brought back this series. I really enjoyed this video. I found the simulation sections a bit distracting. I prefer when it’s you speaking in your natural setting.
Thats why on my social media, i only have people that i can actaully talk to in person. But not everything i can share with them but only the results of specific things that i know might inspire others.
Great advice& it is something I need to be work on practicing in which is why no believe I get blocked from stuff due to evil eye .. they watch my RUclips & the next is hell or hate emails sent from fake FB accounts etc
I really enjoyed this video Lucy, thank you. I have definitely shared on points 2 - 5 in the past and had it go left real quick so I whole heartedly resonate with this video and am working on ensuring that going forwards I am not just more private, but also more "selective" over who I share what with. It's ok to share, but know "who" it is that you are sharing with. Everyone is not entitled to these details of your life just because they are in your life. And likewise, if you're sharing is coming from a place of bragging, then take accountability that you were after some kind of attention in that moment. It's not that we don't deserve attention, but just keep it real with yourself and ask yourself why you feel you need the attention/validation from others. And sometimes it's not even that, sometimes you just want to share your good news with others simply because you're happy and THAT'S OK. Stay blessed, stay learning, stay growing x
Your thoughts helped me come to terms with my late teen early adult years. The saying loose lips sink ships is exactly what I did to some people. Sometimes there is no restitution. These people are not in my life--too much time has passed-- but even saying I am sorry cannot undo the destruction. I never saw this when I was young but I see it now.
Hiii… as an upcoming influencer… I do not brag but sometimes when I want to create content maybe a lifestyle content n I get to show around my house n lifestyle I feel like pple are having insights in my life and I don’t like it. I am too private I don’t even want someone to know what my bed looks like. What can I do about this
Hi, the fact that you don't like it shows that you should stop it. At least don't give too much information on what your house looks like. Don't show them your bed if you don't want them to see it. Stick to providing value and entertainment in other ways.I wish you the best on your journey.
Lucy I support u for d past mistakes ,I told my boyfriend wat I did in d past to feed but I already put a stop to it but at d end of d day till now he still uses it against me or make reference to it. The part of even talking about past relationships pls don't
Please I have a journal I write everything in and with that I feel it very safe than talking to ppl anf I feel safe and able yo pour out everything in it n it makes me feel I have someone I talk to Us it okay too?
I agree with all the video, I just think that there's nothing wrong with your partner o potential partner asking you your body count, you don't owe him an answer but he has the right to ask
I made the mistake of telling someone about my man when we had a lil fight and guess who heard it? My man🥹 like I’m in awe of how the gist spread so much because she doesn’t even know him. I’m still living with the shame but I decided to stop talking because I did not even tell her that he knows about it
1. bodycount on Internet/in personal life
2. material purchases/ things that you buy
3. past mistakes
4. career journey/ finances
5. arguments/fights you have with your partner
Thank you
💯 agree, what people don't know they can't destroy 😊
From a former oversharer, learn to keep your mistakes to yourself
because once someone sees it
They can't unsee it o
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I just love how Lucy is pointing out that you could really be an influential person and still maintain your privacy! This is great advice
I completely agree
Hi sis, I agree with you and would say that Beyoncé is a prime example of this.
@@justalina_S Exactly :)
My guesses before watching the video:
1. Relationships
2. Money
3. Any good news
4. Future plans
5. Any hardships
I'm not sure why I've always felt the need to SHARE things.. this was so helpful, wish I had learned this sooner.
Better late than never sis, life is a marathon not a race! We got this 🫶🏽
Please could you cover topics like :
How to build a relationship with yourself
How to talk to people or engage in conversation without over sharing
How to build consistency and dealing with overcoming things you’re self aware of
I’m way too honest 😢 when put on the spot, the only thing that comes out is the truth 😭
Feel this oneeee
Same here... But if I practice over and over in my head to not say anything it works... I don't no how to manufacture a lie on the spot... I had to ask my pastor how to go about it... He said to practice pause before speaking and to be intentionally slow while speaking...
I love this. I have learned this recently. Most of my struggles were caused by projections from other people. Privacy is best.
Same.
Same
Been in this transition as well.
Agreed! Did you know that all these practices you said for living a happy life is also advised and encouraged in islam? Our Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) told us that we shouldn’t share any moment which is special to us cuz of the evil eye. It’s so real. And when there’s a conflict btw a spouse you’re not supposed to gossip and tell his bad stuff. In islam both spouses are like a garment for each other. Whatever is said in the house will stay in the house. You don’t go to people and tell your private details. - so girl all what you said are etiquettes and manners in islam❤
What if you’ve been an over sharer and you’re recently trying to become more private, but you’ve made a mistake of sharing certain private details of your life and you regret it, how do you go on from there? What’s the next step?
Hi Tracy,
Firstly, you do not own anybody any information.
You can change your mind at anytime and that’s ok.
This is your life
You can always create new boundaries and become consistent with them.
Some examples that you can say : I no longer want to discuss this situation or event.
I have moved on from this situation or event, let talk about something else.
Hope this help
@@carinebelle4356 thank you so much belle it was so helpful❤️
Forgive yourself, now you know better, you were in ignorance, but now you have the knowledge
And hey, we all make mistakes, I've had instances where I overshared and regretted but I didn't let shame make me feel down
@@dorahmulinge3800 thank you for this
I've been like this. Don't look back, from now on moving forward you keep it private.
Lucyy. the last point about not tellling your arguments with your partner to you friends and family is just soo true. I experienced this before, infact we had not even gotten into an official relationship and we had a big disagreement. I did not know how to handle it and I told my friends and till date they literally hate this person and see him as black as satan whereas he is not. I have tried so much to explain that he is not what they think he is but they would not budge. And fact is I never painted him as black to them. I simply only told them his view on that topic and now they literally hate him.
Bruh this happened to me too now I’m so low-key and I don’t say anything in relation to my relationship
I thought Satan was red
I have learned to close my ears or to redirect the conversation when my friends or family try to offload to me about the issues they have with partner for this exact reason. I get a bad taste in my mouth over them then the next thing I know that friend/family member is back to being happy again in their relationship because they have now sorted things out but I'm still left with the previous image of them that was painted to me and can't shake it. Now, I want to stay out of what is not mine to be in, so as much as I want to be there for my friends/family, if it is of a nature where they are relaying details to me of arguments/issues in there relationships, I literally have a "drop me out" mentality. We don't just have to be careful about what we say, we have to be careful about what we listen to also.
I'm middle eastern myself but Black woman are so wise,I learn so many stuff from them.thank you
Even though I’m relatively private, I learn so much from these videos ❤. People exude the wildest energies out here…
Kindly, talk about how to protect or put a boundary on your personal space with friends and family
I have learned to close my ears or to redirect the conversation when my friends or family try to offload to me about the issues they have with partner. I get a bad taste in my mouth over their spouse due to what I was told, then the next thing I know that friend/family member is back to being happy again in their relationship because they have now sorted things out but I'm still left with the previous image of them that was painted to me and can't shake it. Now, I want to stay out of what is not mine to be in, so as much as I want to be there for my friends/family, if it is of a nature where they are relaying details to me of arguments/issues in there relationships, I literally have a "drop me out" mentality. We don't just have to be careful about what we say, we have to be careful about what we listen to also.
Makes me think about David and his brothers in the bible.. he told them his dreams and he went through hell from jealousy . Had he kept that dream & vision to himself he might’ve not went through as much
I think you mean Joseph.
David was more singer for the lord and then became king.
@@ItsHerLizzy yes I absolutely did mean joseph 🤦🏽♀️ Ty for correcting that
You have no idea how much I’ve grown from these kind of conversations you have with us🥺. You’re truly God sent and appreciated ❤️
Outside energy can throw off goals 🎉
What I’ve learnt as growing up is that let something about you be sacred to yourself and with your partner.
I still stand that relationship and familiarity life should be kept off social media.
I Love How You Pointed Out Certain Topics To Not Discuss About. I Am A Working Progress To Stop OVERSHARING With People. Like You Stated “It’s Unnecessary “ When You Do Because People Could Really Be JEALOUS , UNHAPPY , And Or Plain Out ACT FUNNY…
Lucy is the big sister we didn’t know we had 💕💕
Lucy 100 percent I agreed with silence just that some people have not gotten to that point to understand silence
Exactly what I was thinking about this morning. You can’t trust ppl with your information 📌
Omg Lucy this is 💯% true especially the fight with your partner. It just feels like you’re speaking directly to me. Thank you so much for this video
Thank you for this bc we should all know this as early as possible. Privacy is really a powerful thing.
What you buy or you don’t, or what you do for a living is personal . Some people think you have to answer unless one is at an interview then I tell the interviewer. Society tries to normalize answering questions we do t owe anybody explanations.
You’re a gem girl 💎👏🏾
I’m glad you you brought back this series. I really enjoyed this video. I found the simulation sections a bit distracting. I prefer when it’s you speaking in your natural setting.
I've made mistakes by sharing everything that you mentioned in the video. Thanks for the tios; now I know why it's important to keep quiet 😊
Thats why on my social media, i only have people that i can actaully talk to in person. But not everything i can share with them but only the results of specific things that i know might inspire others.
Big sis came through as I start in a new journey of my life
They don’t consider as your past I truly believe they hold it over your head
Always a pleasure watching and listening to you lucy
Love you so much Lucy,you’re my unpaid therapist fr❤
I love that we think alike!! Something I’ve been saying for along time people on the low be pocket watching you like crazy 7:30.
Past mistakes love that part ❤❤
Thank you , listen to you talk it’s like receiving advice from a close one❤
This is a lesson am trying to implement in my life.
This should also be for RUclips influencers as well as every day people.
I love this! As a chronic over-sharer
Great advice& it is something I need to be work on practicing in which is why no believe I get blocked from stuff due to evil eye .. they watch my RUclips & the next is hell or hate emails sent from fake FB accounts etc
Who are you gurrrrllllll? You are 💯 right, and I absolutely agree with you. Please keep up the good work
Hi, I’m a new subscriber I just came across this video. Thanks and these are true facts!
They say that a fish with it's mouth closed never gets Caught...
I really enjoyed this video Lucy, thank you. I have definitely shared on points 2 - 5 in the past and had it go left real quick so I whole heartedly resonate with this video and am working on ensuring that going forwards I am not just more private, but also more "selective" over who I share what with. It's ok to share, but know "who" it is that you are sharing with. Everyone is not entitled to these details of your life just because they are in your life. And likewise, if you're sharing is coming from a place of bragging, then take accountability that you were after some kind of attention in that moment. It's not that we don't deserve attention, but just keep it real with yourself and ask yourself why you feel you need the attention/validation from others. And sometimes it's not even that, sometimes you just want to share your good news with others simply because you're happy and THAT'S OK. Stay blessed, stay learning, stay growing x
Your thoughts helped me come to terms with my late teen early adult years. The saying loose lips sink ships is exactly what I did to some people. Sometimes there is no restitution. These people are not in my life--too much time has passed-- but even saying I am sorry cannot undo the destruction. I never saw this when I was young but I see it now.
Hey girl you’re basically the older sister I never had🥺❤️
May I ask where u got your watch from, I really like it
Everything you said in this video is true! Thank you Lucy for always keeping us on your our toes. 🫶🏾
Hiii… as an upcoming influencer… I do not brag but sometimes when I want to create content maybe a lifestyle content n I get to show around my house n lifestyle I feel like pple are having insights in my life and I don’t like it. I am too private I don’t even want someone to know what my bed looks like. What can I do about this
Hi, the fact that you don't like it shows that you should stop it. At least don't give too much information on what your house looks like. Don't show them your bed if you don't want them to see it. Stick to providing value and entertainment in other ways.I wish you the best on your journey.
Thanks Lucy I agree with you with number 5 😍
Lucy I support u for d past mistakes ,I told my boyfriend wat I did in d past to feed but I already put a stop to it but at d end of d day till now he still uses it against me or make reference to it.
The part of even talking about past relationships pls don't
This is spot on Lucy ✨
Am happy hearing this from you
Let God use you
i love this series!
I agree with every single point you made on these one Big sis,thank you fr, such an impact ❤
This was proper sis. Definitely wanting to be a lot more private
Please I have a journal I write everything in and with that I feel it very safe than talking to ppl anf I feel safe and able yo pour out everything in it n it makes me feel I have someone I talk to
Us it okay too?
Thank you so much Lucy, you are such an amazing soul! Keep shining ❤
This was a much needed watch! Thank you Lucy for this❤
Well said,Lucy!
You're literally my therapist❤.
Thanks for your wisdom Lucy ❤
New subbie, girl I thoroughly enjoyed this. You’re so funny. 😂❤
This is spot on! Thank you for this Lucy 🩷
Thank you Ma❤
I wish I found you earlier, it’s so true the things you say!!
Lucy and brains❤ love ur sit down videos❤ my 1st time commenting 😅
God bless you
Subscribed. Love the video ❤️
Everything is spot on Lucy! ❤️
i am a sucker for this series
Love every single point mentioned.
Thank you, Lucy. This was helpful.
I agree with all the video, I just think that there's nothing wrong with your partner o potential partner asking you your body count, you don't owe him an answer but he has the right to ask
Too true
Just came across this channel and everything you’ve said is apt 👌🏾
one cold drink for you , everything is on point 💯
Hi Lucy this is off the topic your hair looks beautiful who did it
I made the mistake of telling someone about my man when we had a lil fight and guess who heard it? My man🥹 like I’m in awe of how the gist spread so much because she doesn’t even know him. I’m still living with the shame but I decided to stop talking because I did not even tell her that he knows about it
Powerful, thanks for sharing 👏👏
Absolutely 💯
😂I laughed so hard at this because you were speaking to me.
Your content is AMAZING. thank you for this one.
Thank you so much for sharing of
You are so wise mamas ❤ learning so much from you😊
Amazing video super helpful points thank you so much for this video ❤
Just discovered your channel and I love it
I love your reasoning behind each point you make❤️❤️❤️❤️ I love the canvases in the background. Can you share the link?
Trueeeee 😊
I love your content ❤ and you right about evil eye!
Thanks for this series Lucy
Everything said is very true, thank you for your video
You're teaching me honestly!
Thank You darling 💕
Insteresting thanks for sharing
Amazing topic ,yet again Lucy ❤
So true !!!
My favorite series so far 💖🤭
I really enjoyed this and learned a lot ❤❤
You are literally the best..