I've been the person who doesn't know that their partner is cheating on them but everyone else knows, and the feeling only gets worse the longer that nobody tells you. And you start to question who actually cares about you
My thing is, if it’s still eating at you that he may not know he’s been or is actively still being cheated on , I’d say something. I would have said something right away, but since time has gone by, say something. It’s better to know than be fooled into thinking these people love me
in regards to the cheating roommate story- i would still tell him. i would have personally told him the next day. i would have recorded the sounds on my phone for proof.
30:18 I’m with Morgan. I honestly wouldn’t be able to sleep at night knowing someone could spend the rest of their life and build a family while they are blissfully unaware and trusting of someone who doesn’t deserve it. They could spend the rest of their life with this person! If they really don’t know, at least give them the power of choice in their life and relationship. If he stays and moves forward, at least it was consensual.
#4: writer is being so oblivious, and in turn entitled, when they say “i can’t move out because i can’t afford rent” but then turning around and basically implying “i want my mom to kick her roommate out, which could potentially lead him to be unhoused, and i want to continue not paying rent while also taking my mom’s rent resource”
I’m so with you on this one. The entitlement had me fuming! Not only is she not offering to pay rent to replace what would be lost for her mom but, like they said, her mom will need that roommate probably in the future as well. I imagine having a trustworthy,kind man in her home that keeps to himself might even make her feel safer. . Being a woman living alone can be a little nerve-racking sometimes, and the fact that the daughter didn’t think about any of these factors and then complained about how her family always sides with her mom makes me think she’s entitled about a lot of things .
I was so mad about this one and I really wanted the guys to go way harder on OP. OP sounds so infuriatingly entitled and like she lacks all compassion for other people. There is a person living in her old room and probably paying rent and she wants her mom to kick this person out, with no regards to how difficult it might be for that person to find another living arrangement because she feels entitled to her old room. Grow up, this is not your house.
"No, literally, what has to be wrong with you for your alarm to be going off for 30 minutes?" Me, who snoozes her alarm for 35 minutes: *Stares into The Office camera* (I laughed in good nature)
I woke up irritated the other night because my alarm had been going off for the past hour and I was hearing it in my sleep and couldn’t get it to stop, I cried in my dream over it
Story 2 - Mexico wedding: OP said she would cover any cost friend couldn’t. I took that as her expecting friend to at least cover something and I think maybe friend did too. As someone who does not ever have disposable income and have had friends treat me to more than I really felt comfortable with, it has gotten to the point where I felt rude for excepting. OP may need to come out and explicitly list out everything she is willing and happy to pay so friend doesn’t have to feel like she has to keep saying what she can’t afford.
The most dangerous thing you can do to a friendship is to move in together or start working together. Unless that is how you started out your friendship, stay far away from it.
Also, think twice before travelling together! My best friend turned into someone I see maybe once a year because as it turns out, we are not good travelling companions.
@@taylorcwimberly I was on her side until they mentioned she wouldn't be supplementing the roommates rent. Like girl be fr, you got a free place to stay, I am sure warm meals and free utilities while you finish school!! That is a blessing
It's actually so enraging Jake to hear this.Child talk about their mother's house like they own it. She moved out.The mother brought a roommate and who helps pay bills.And this girl moves back in and her main issue is that she doesn't have her own bathroom. New slash you're not entitled to having your own bathroom in your parents house that you live in for free
Retaliation for him having a loud alarm is just going to make the problem worse. Yes it’s annoying but he’s paying rent! It’s his home too, it’s not just paying for a room, he’s paying to live there. Yes you can talk to him about it, but being petty and retaliating is going to make that so much worse. Banging on his door is going to make him feel like he’s not okay in his own home. It’s about trying to get along, not trying to fight. But also, it’s ridiculous to ask the mom to kick him out
I agree and think our writer is in the wrong here. I mean this in the most respectful way, but it is a little entitled to expect your mom to pay bills alone so you can have a nicer bedroom. Your mom is not obligated to house her adult child for free and the roommate is paying bills there and has a right to feel comfortable in his own home. If you make him uncomfortable he may move and mom may have to get a new roommate, who may be worse, to cover bills.
Personally really not buying that his alarm goes off for 30 minutes straight. OP doesn’t seem like a reliable narrator. Maybe he (like many of us) snoozes his alarms several times before getting up.
@@kenzimu exactly and also, he has a right to do that? lol sounds like he really just stays to himself and isnt a bother. There’s lots of reasons it’s hard for people to wake up, I know I have a really hard time waking up and need multiple alarms when my depression is bad… if someone was slamming on my door and mad at me at the same time while I was trying to wake up during a depressive episode, I would feel SO sad and guilty
I'm 100% with Morgan on the cheating story. I can't remember the episode but THT has read a story where the person was being gaslit so much they were losing their sanity! Yes, we should all be in therapy, but to be paying professionals because you think you are losing it or have a brain tumour just because you're partner is lying! A simple letter and let him decide if he wants to investigate or ask his now wife. No further involvement is needed.
Speaking as a former bad roommate: I just got my own place. I know I can’t stay on top of dishes at all times. I just won’t make it someone else’s problem now. I hope people realize that this DOES NOT make you a bad person. Making it someone else’s problem though does.
As an inherently messy person I agree. There’s nothing wrong with not being perfectly clean. Being in someone’s way and demeaning them and thinking they’re your maid is the problem!
I'd bet money that the alarm situation is that he snoozes it and it goes off at 5 or 10 minute intervals. That point screams that the op is desperately trying to find a fault and that's literally all they could come up with
@ADWebTV yeah he pays rent her mum doesn't complain about the alarm. She can't demand changes if she doesn't pay. I'm sure her mum needs the money she didn't decide for fun, to rent out the rooms
I'm just travelin', man. Also, the third story: I don't think alerting the sleeping boyfriend/interrupting the little bed affair is "ratting them out". They chose to bring her into their affair when they had sex in front of her. It's disrespectful to everyone in the room.
25:23 i would have casually brought it up to boyfriend and politely asked if they could "not bang so loudly when I'm home" and then watch his reaction..
12:48 When she said "the reservation is booked and we paid for the deposit." I actually initially interpreted that to mean that they covered the deposit and they expected the friend to cover the rest. The rest of the story cleared up my confusion- but the friend could've misinterpreted it just like I did. It might be a good idea to have a phone call or in-person conversation instead of texting to clarify that you sent that to clear her mind and you guys are fully budgeting and expecting to pay for her trip as a part of the cost of the wedding because you see her as an important part of the wedding. It might not clear it up if there are other issues, but if she read the message the same way I did it might!
24:43 “Doesn’t involve you” and that might be true there are so many things that don’t involve or affect us as individuals that we speak out on. I do believe we have a moral duty/responsibility to look out for our fellow human, and OP would totally be in the right to reach out now (I would tell him too Morgan!!!)
I am with Morgan, I would write an email or a letter to the husband and tell him everything because if it was me I would like someone to tell me before I waste more of my time with a person like that
Story 2: the bride should try reframing it. The best friend feels guilty accepting the “gift” because it’s so much money. The bride should position it as a selfish-“I’m paying for you because I’m selfish. I want you there, and isn’t the bride supposed to get what she wants on her wedding day? I’m not going to let a little thing like money get in the way of getting my way!“
Story 2: my "best friend" was supposed to be my best man among my bridesmaids. I paid for his outfit and organized his trip for him since he lives 2 hours away. Two days before my wedding, he texted me and said he couldn't make it, because he had a job interview the next day. I set up a ride home for him to make it in plenty of time. He still refused to come. I still don't really know why to this day, but he and I never recovered from that. He apologized to me once while he was very drunk and blubbering. I hope that your friend can articulate that better than mine did. Either way, I hope your wedding is/was beautiful.
Omg I nearly had a heart attack when I heard the story about the drunk roommate. I used to be that girl that would party every other night and I did have a bf and bf best friend but once I heard that they were cheating I was like okay that’s not me. I’ve changed my ways though. 6 months sober and broke up with the terrible bf
For the room mate sleeping with the friend story . She should have taken the boyfriend aside and ask if they can please keep it down durning sex because they woke her up last night. He would have then put it together and she didnt snitch
For the Mexico wedding, when it comes to destination weddings it almost comes with the expectation people can’t come. I don’t know where in Mexico the wedding is but OP friend could be concerned for safety which is absolutely reasonable, passports are a pain in the butt to get and take time and money. She may reasonably not feel comfortable having someone else pay for her to travel.
Being early to each episode and getting to see the number of views grow so quick makes me so happy for y’all’s success! THT, FKS, and MWM are all my top fave podcasts
Story #3 I would text a friend to call my phone twice in the next 5- 10 minutes and silently place my phone in the floor with the ringer and vibrations on full blast. Turn over and pretend I’m asleep. 😂
Um for story number 2 I do see why the friend is feeling burden. It is hard to ask for help or even recieve help sometimes. It definitely is hard for me when I have people offer to do that for me. It could also be some anxiety as well. I know even if I get told that I won't have to pay them back I still feel guilty that they spend all that money on me
Maybe the boyfriend sleeping on the floor had a “I pretend to sleep while you hook up with my bff kink” along with a “hook up with strangers next to your roommate and tell me about it later” kink 😂
Wow, with story 2 I got the same exact response from my best friend of 10 years who I asked to be my maid of honor for my destination wedding in Jamaica. She backed out, after happily accepting, saying she couldn't pay for it and couldn't accept me paying for it. I took it as her ending our friendship. She's the only friend I would have at my wedding. Definitely sucks
For the wedding in Mexico story: maybe it has to do with the exact location. She might not be comfortable with some of the newly given details… maybe she’s secretly afraid to go? Maybe she heard some horror stories and she doesn’t want to tell OP and ruin her vibes but she herself isn’t comfortable going anymore. Maybe she found out that they will be celebrating outside of the tourist resorts ? That’s the only thing I can think of to why she would flip within a week.
in general, and from personal experience, living with a close friend can go very very wrong. it took me and my friend 5 years after she moved out to start working on healing our friendship again.
On the Mexico wedding one: I had to tell my childhood best friend that I couldn’t afford to go to her wedding in Mexico she called to ask a few weeks before RSVPs were due and I couldn’t yet tell her the truth so told her it was financial. I also said I’d be in town for the weekend and asked her to come see me at my parents’ house in 2 days. At that point, I told her I was pregnant with twins and her wedding was within a week of my due date. So either I’d have just given birth, or I’d have premie babies potentially in or just leaving the NICU. I apologized for lying to her, but I wanted to tell my parents first, and in person and since I lived out of state and was coming for a wedding right around the end of the first trimester, I was planning on telling them the day after the wedding. I’d planned to tell my friend at that point as well, but since she asked early, I felt I had to lie. Is it possible the friend has a similar situation? Can’t travel for medical reasons she’s not ready to share?
Adding, my friend cried and completely understood the whole thing. I’m still sad the timing worked out that way and I missed her big day, but she knows I love her and four kids later between the two of us we’re still quite close.
I don't wake up to my alarms easily until after 30 minutes because my parents constantly violently argued and fight most nights. I had to learn to tune it out to sleep
I'm honestly bothered by Jerry's consistent stance on not telling someone that their partner is cheating on them. Makes me feel like he'd be the type of friend who'd enable cheating friends and would stay silent even if they saw their friend out with another person. I hate how he justifies it as "it's their life!". Also, I don't think the bf is a pushover for sleeping on the floor. Some people just trust other people like that and would put others' comfortability over their insecurity. They were all drunk and "tired". It's possible that the bf thought that waking the bestfriend up would be selfish. I mean, some ppl literally sit for hours without moving just bc their dog/cat fell asleep on their leg. Sometimes u just make those small "sacrifices" out of genuine care.
I have to set my alarm every five minutes, for an hour, otherwise I sleep through the day. They all have different music because otherwise I get used to it. When I lived in a dormitory, my roommates told me that sometimes I sing to the alarm clock's music, but I don't get up for it.
Me too!! I could sleep through ANYTHING. One time my friends picked up my mattress and physically made me roll around on the bed and I still did not wake up lmao. Some of us have hypersomnia 😂
Hearing someone singing to the alarm in their sleep would make me laugh so much 😂😂 I wouldn't be surprised if I do that, if I'm wake I mock my alarms sounds
I feel like the wedding girl was just confused because she said she put down a deposit kind of hinting that the girl had to pay for the other part. She should have said I paid for the deposit already and will cover the rest after our stay or something.
Story 4(i think lol)- the moms roommate isnt a stranger. Hes lived there for 3 years. Thats his home now too. Its wild to expect your mom to kick him out of the place hes paid bills at and has called home for 3 years. So that you dont have to walk more than a few steps to use the restroom. You can also get a clothing rack. You say housing is high rn but you dont want to pay rent. And you want your mom to kick out her house mate so he can have a hard time finding housing as well? Girl youre living rent free. Be grateful.
@FatherKnowsSomething Yes you are, I squealed with excitement just knowing you guys are so close! 🤣 Sorry it's cold and wet. I hope you all stay warm! 🤍
40:33 how did nobody think that the roommate is taking so long to respond to the alarm because he's not in his room? I think the mom has more than a roommate situation and she doesn't want to tell her daughter.
The person living rent free in their mom’s house upset about having to use her shower… get some earplugs and be thankful your mom has someone paying rent so she doesn’t have to make you pay rent. And perhaps consider how lucky you are to be in your current situation, with a free place to stay, the privilege of education, a mom who cares enough to let you stay with her for free, jeeze.
I feel personally attacked by Justin asking what someone is doing letting their alarm ring for half an hour. :D I am worse. I go to bed too late and then need alarms for like an hour to get out of bed. Is it a bad habit? Yes. But it's been this way for probably 13 years, so it's not that easy to change. ^^ Btw, hitting the wall would not get me out of bed faster but only annoy the neighbors. :D
my cousin whos from canada is marring a Mexican man, they had their wedding in colorado kinda meeting in the middle for the families, it was small but lavish for people who couldnt go they through really nice wedding parties to celebrate, one of the parties was in mexico the other was in canada for their respective families and friends
I had a girl unnecessarily “correct” me and it drove me nuts. I was explaining to someone that they don’t leave an epidural needle in you, they put a flexible tube in. The girl told me it’s not a tube, it’s a catheter. 😒
That’s when you gotta play dumb, pretend you’ve never heard the word catheter before, and then ask them to explain it while you watch them attempt to explain what a catheter is without using the word “tube”
How do I listen to these pods early when they're posted *FKS/THT* and had NO recollection of any mention of you being in SLC tomorrow 💔 And sold out..sadiiiiies. Gonna keep an eye out if any opportunity comes up to attend ❤😢
Well… I am guilty of sleeping through my alarms. Not sure why but I have to set around 5 -7 alarms every day or i won’t wake up… maybe I have sleep apnea never thought of that lol
Why do I think the mom either is sleeping with the roommate/have a relationship of sexual sort OR he is taking advantage of her in some way whether from cash or free rent or something just seems fishy there.
I agree with Justin on the ex roommate story. I used to be like you Morgan and said it was in the name of “justice” but as I’ve grown I realized it was just being a drama seeker.
Gentle reminder guys that OCD isn't an adjective and shouldn't be used as such. This further pushes the misconception that OCD is only about cleanliness or being orderly when many people with it don't even have this OCD theme, and it undermines the true severity of the condition. It's not a quirky personality trait, it's a serious, life-ruining mental illness that most people are misinformed about. I actually push those of you curious about it to research because there are a lot interesting and dark sides to it that many don't know about. 🕵️🕵️
16:09 my sister is like this big time she is just so independent and feels too proud what I’ve done to break this is offer a different way to repay me like clean my house or something because she won’t accept any gifts 😂 but maybe this girl is like that maybe the bride can have her as a coordinator or something giving her a “job” in the wedding so it’s not felt as free charity but earned
One of my close friends in University cheated on a boyfriend a few times. She's a great woman, she was just young and stupid and made some mistakes. I don't think he ever found out, she's never done anything like that after 23 years. They married at 26 and have two beautiful kids, they are now 35 and are legitimately both happy and fulfilled today (and faithful). Not my circus not my monkeys. Just like that poster. A lot of us are shitty people when were young, many of us do grow up after having the chance to be our own people aka true adults.
i may be wrong but i think op 2 was asking more for advice how to accept her friends aren't willing to come to her wedding for anything, not so much how to make everyone else happy by having 2 weddings. 2 weddings almost for sure will be unbelievably expensive and i dont think op should put up with this just to please everyone. in my opinion these aren't her friends and there's probably a deeper problem or red flags in her relationships she's not noticing :/
In the final story, the writer said he was talking loudly on the phone before the blow-up. Maybe he was arguing with someone on the phone and took it out on the roommates?
hi that’s my write in :) after living through it and looking back, morgan was right when she said i let a lot of things slide. what it all boiled down to was him having a hard time adjusting to moving states and he is unable to accept his sexuality.
I would talk to mom and roommate about the alarm, as if she starts banging and the room mates paying mom a big rent there is no saying that mom as daughter to start paying or find another place if roommate complain.
I don't get why she's mad because she doesn't have her own bathroom, shitty room whatever like yeah girl that's annoying but you don't pay rent and you still have a place to sleep, a roof over your head and still have a bathroom to use even if its not right next to your room? Like you sound entitled? At least you have a place to stay? She offered you to live there, pay rent and she'd kick him out. You did not accept that offer so why are you mad now that the offer has been rescinded? Time has passed. Life has changed. Like I said, you still have a rent free place to stay. Like be grateful?
for the slutty roommate story, Op dont send a letter. Its not "justice" anymore as morgan puts it. It wouldve been at the time but since its the future now and theyre married, it would definitely be just trying to start drama. Not to mention yall have mutual friends so itll definitely bite you back afterwards. Just leave it and go back to not thinking about her. Not your monkey, not your circus
Maybe I'm just really sensitive right now (hormones, you know...), but what you said about the roommate with the alarm ringing for 30min felt really mean to me! I was a bit triggered, I'll admit 😂 there could be so many reasons for having a hard time getting up in the morning, but all of you just jumped to the worst possible conclusions and situations with the roommate being the potential asshole in this story. What if he has depression and can't for the life of him wake up from the alarm because he just doesn't hear it? What if he just has really bad hearing abilities in general? What if he takes supplements or medicine causing him to sleep through? Personally I also don't always hear my alarm (and I have 3 alarms going off at different times, all loud, phone in vibrating mode...). In fact, 8 times out of ten I would sleep through if it wasn't for my boyfriend poking me softly, signaling it's time to get up. Please don't be so disrespectful about conditions like that, it could be for multiple possible reasons!
I snooze my alarms, but I sleep through at least 3 as well. My body just won't wake up right away. I've even turned off my alarms in my sleep multiple times before 😅 and it was before I was supposed to go to work
@@skrip_skrip4814 funniest thing that happened multiple times to me was when my alarm went off and I grabbed the phone because I thought someone was calling me 😂
Story 3: Leave it alone. Don't get wrapped up in drama you don't need to. For all you know they all worked that our years ago or it was a horrible thing that snapped her out of her cheating ways. People change a lot from college and even if she didn't they're already married more than likely if he finds out it will cause a year or two of turmoil but they'll stay together anyway
The story about the roommate: The argument that it’s not OP’s business and she has no involvement doesn’t stand when they LITERALLY involved OP and made it her business. Especially after they already had the men conversation. And it’s not even about trying or not trying to stir up drama, it’s about doing the right thing in this scenario. You know something crucial about their relationship that could VERY much influence him, it is the right thing to do to tell him before he MARRIES this person. And if you let him knowing that, that makes you shitty and the asshole It’s just like if you witness a crime and don’t say anything, it makes you complicit and just as bad in a way. Just because moral crimes don’t have legal action, doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be treated the same
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I've been the person who doesn't know that their partner is cheating on them but everyone else knows, and the feeling only gets worse the longer that nobody tells you. And you start to question who actually cares about you
My thing is, if it’s still eating at you that he may not know he’s been or is actively still being cheated on , I’d say something. I would have said something right away, but since time has gone by, say something. It’s better to know than be fooled into thinking these people love me
in regards to the cheating roommate story- i would still tell him. i would have personally told him the next day. i would have recorded the sounds on my phone for proof.
Same. It sucked and was humiliating. I didn’t trust any of those people after that.
30:18 I’m with Morgan. I honestly wouldn’t be able to sleep at night knowing someone could spend the rest of their life and build a family while they are blissfully unaware and trusting of someone who doesn’t deserve it. They could spend the rest of their life with this person! If they really don’t know, at least give them the power of choice in their life and relationship. If he stays and moves forward, at least it was consensual.
#4: writer is being so oblivious, and in turn entitled, when they say “i can’t move out because i can’t afford rent” but then turning around and basically implying “i want my mom to kick her roommate out, which could potentially lead him to be unhoused, and i want to continue not paying rent while also taking my mom’s rent resource”
I’m so with you on this one. The entitlement had me fuming! Not only is she not offering to pay rent to replace what would be lost for her mom but, like they said, her mom will need that roommate probably in the future as well. I imagine having a trustworthy,kind man in her home that keeps to himself might even make her feel safer. . Being a woman living alone can be a little nerve-racking sometimes, and the fact that the daughter didn’t think about any of these factors and then complained about how her family always sides with her mom makes me think she’s entitled about a lot of things .
I was so mad about this one and I really wanted the guys to go way harder on OP. OP sounds so infuriatingly entitled and like she lacks all compassion for other people. There is a person living in her old room and probably paying rent and she wants her mom to kick this person out, with no regards to how difficult it might be for that person to find another living arrangement because she feels entitled to her old room. Grow up, this is not your house.
"No, literally, what has to be wrong with you for your alarm to be going off for 30 minutes?"
Me, who snoozes her alarm for 35 minutes: *Stares into The Office camera* (I laughed in good nature)
I woke up irritated the other night because my alarm had been going off for the past hour and I was hearing it in my sleep and couldn’t get it to stop, I cried in my dream over it
Story 2 - Mexico wedding:
OP said she would cover any cost friend couldn’t. I took that as her expecting friend to at least cover something and I think maybe friend did too. As someone who does not ever have disposable income and have had friends treat me to more than I really felt comfortable with, it has gotten to the point where I felt rude for excepting. OP may need to come out and explicitly list out everything she is willing and happy to pay so friend doesn’t have to feel like she has to keep saying what she can’t afford.
that was my thought, like some ppl cant even pay rent or food let alone any extra expenses that are seen as luxuries in another country
The most dangerous thing you can do to a friendship is to move in together or start working together. Unless that is how you started out your friendship, stay far away from it.
exactly why i have an ex best friend. we thought moving in together was an amazing idea….it was not 😂😂
Also, think twice before travelling together! My best friend turned into someone I see maybe once a year because as it turns out, we are not good travelling companions.
Bro she lives there for free.. the entitlement bro😂 it’s actually upsetting me
For real! The hell?!??! 😅 AH! Entitled!!!!
@@taylorcwimberly I was on her side until they mentioned she wouldn't be supplementing the roommates rent. Like girl be fr, you got a free place to stay, I am sure warm meals and free utilities while you finish school!! That is a blessing
I knew i wasnt awake in rhe middle of the night for nothing
Literally was just thinking this 🎉
Bro same I saw this b4 bed and added it to watch when I woke up 😂
It's actually so enraging Jake to hear this.Child talk about their mother's house like they own it. She moved out.The mother brought a roommate and who helps pay bills.And this girl moves back in and her main issue is that she doesn't have her own bathroom. New slash you're not entitled to having your own bathroom in your parents house that you live in for free
Retaliation for him having a loud alarm is just going to make the problem worse. Yes it’s annoying but he’s paying rent! It’s his home too, it’s not just paying for a room, he’s paying to live there. Yes you can talk to him about it, but being petty and retaliating is going to make that so much worse. Banging on his door is going to make him feel like he’s not okay in his own home. It’s about trying to get along, not trying to fight. But also, it’s ridiculous to ask the mom to kick him out
I agree and think our writer is in the wrong here. I mean this in the most respectful way, but it is a little entitled to expect your mom to pay bills alone so you can have a nicer bedroom. Your mom is not obligated to house her adult child for free and the roommate is paying bills there and has a right to feel comfortable in his own home. If you make him uncomfortable he may move and mom may have to get a new roommate, who may be worse, to cover bills.
Personally really not buying that his alarm goes off for 30 minutes straight. OP doesn’t seem like a reliable narrator. Maybe he (like many of us) snoozes his alarms several times before getting up.
@@kenzimu exactly and also, he has a right to do that? lol sounds like he really just stays to himself and isnt a bother. There’s lots of reasons it’s hard for people to wake up, I know I have a really hard time waking up and need multiple alarms when my depression is bad… if someone was slamming on my door and mad at me at the same time while I was trying to wake up during a depressive episode, I would feel SO sad and guilty
Agreed
I'm 100% with Morgan on the cheating story. I can't remember the episode but THT has read a story where the person was being gaslit so much they were losing their sanity! Yes, we should all be in therapy, but to be paying professionals because you think you are losing it or have a brain tumour just because you're partner is lying! A simple letter and let him decide if he wants to investigate or ask his now wife. No further involvement is needed.
Speaking as a former bad roommate:
I just got my own place. I know I can’t stay on top of dishes at all times. I just won’t make it someone else’s problem now. I hope people realize that this DOES NOT make you a bad person. Making it someone else’s problem though does.
As an inherently messy person I agree. There’s nothing wrong with not being perfectly clean. Being in someone’s way and demeaning them and thinking they’re your maid is the problem!
I'd bet money that the alarm situation is that he snoozes it and it goes off at 5 or 10 minute intervals. That point screams that the op is desperately trying to find a fault and that's literally all they could come up with
i am the writer of the last story and i appreciate your advice
How do I find it?
@ It submitted to the a google form so they would have to read it if they see it. I will say it was not my ideal outcome but probably for the best :)
Sorry for some reason I forgot that these were right ins and not read it stories. Wishing you all the best@@Anon-y8s
Are you willing to pay what the Roommate pays? Mum didn`t get a roommate for no reason.
OP just needs to get some noise cancelling headphones or invest in some sound control. no rent. that person about to have a tough life.
@ADWebTV yeah he pays rent her mum doesn't complain about the alarm. She can't demand changes if she doesn't pay. I'm sure her mum needs the money she didn't decide for fun, to rent out the rooms
Right? Someone’s entitled af lol
I'm just travelin', man.
Also, the third story: I don't think alerting the sleeping boyfriend/interrupting the little bed affair is "ratting them out". They chose to bring her into their affair when they had sex in front of her. It's disrespectful to everyone in the room.
25:23 i would have casually brought it up to boyfriend and politely asked if they could "not bang so loudly when I'm home" and then watch his reaction..
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Story 1: 2:58
Story 2: missed it
Story 3: 19:48
Story 4: 31:51
Story 5: 42:02
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story 2: 11:00!
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When she said "the reservation is booked and we paid for the deposit." I actually initially interpreted that to mean that they covered the deposit and they expected the friend to cover the rest. The rest of the story cleared up my confusion- but the friend could've misinterpreted it just like I did. It might be a good idea to have a phone call or in-person conversation instead of texting to clarify that you sent that to clear her mind and you guys are fully budgeting and expecting to pay for her trip as a part of the cost of the wedding because you see her as an important part of the wedding.
It might not clear it up if there are other issues, but if she read the message the same way I did it might!
I’ve been binging your episodes and i DEFINITELY didn’t see how recent this was 😭😭
24:43 “Doesn’t involve you” and that might be true there are so many things that don’t involve or affect us as individuals that we speak out on. I do believe we have a moral duty/responsibility to look out for our fellow human, and OP would totally be in the right to reach out now (I would tell him too Morgan!!!)
I am with Morgan, I would write an email or a letter to the husband and tell him everything because if it was me I would like someone to tell me before I waste more of my time with a person like that
Story 2: the bride should try reframing it. The best friend feels guilty accepting the “gift” because it’s so much money. The bride should position it as a selfish-“I’m paying for you because I’m selfish. I want you there, and isn’t the bride supposed to get what she wants on her wedding day? I’m not going to let a little thing like money get in the way of getting my way!“
Jerry and his propeller lol!!!!
Story 2: my "best friend" was supposed to be my best man among my bridesmaids. I paid for his outfit and organized his trip for him since he lives 2 hours away. Two days before my wedding, he texted me and said he couldn't make it, because he had a job interview the next day. I set up a ride home for him to make it in plenty of time. He still refused to come. I still don't really know why to this day, but he and I never recovered from that. He apologized to me once while he was very drunk and blubbering. I hope that your friend can articulate that better than mine did. Either way, I hope your wedding is/was beautiful.
Omg I nearly had a heart attack when I heard the story about the drunk roommate. I used to be that girl that would party every other night and I did have a bf and bf best friend but once I heard that they were cheating I was like okay that’s not me. I’ve changed my ways though. 6 months sober and broke up with the terrible bf
For the room mate sleeping with the friend story . She should have taken the boyfriend aside and ask if they can please keep it down durning sex because they woke her up last night. He would have then put it together and she didnt snitch
Woohooo i just started my work day! Love that this just came out 😍
i haven’t started yet, but can i just say as someone who’s 18 and has cycled through so many roommates i cannot wait for this episode
For the Mexico wedding, when it comes to destination weddings it almost comes with the expectation people can’t come. I don’t know where in Mexico the wedding is but OP friend could be concerned for safety which is absolutely reasonable, passports are a pain in the butt to get and take time and money. She may reasonably not feel comfortable having someone else pay for her to travel.
Yay I was going to bed but now I’m tuned in!
Being early to each episode and getting to see the number of views grow so quick makes me so happy for y’all’s success! THT, FKS, and MWM are all my top fave podcasts
“Morocco?” “This could be the way to remarcco”🤣🤣🤣
Story #3 I would text a friend to call my phone twice in the next 5- 10 minutes and silently place my phone in the floor with the ringer and vibrations on full blast. Turn over and pretend I’m asleep. 😂
Just woke up and happier than ever I’ve never been this early 😂❤
yeah that story about the moms roommate is INSANE. super entitled
8 MIN AGO omg this is the earliest I’ve been ever
Um for story number 2 I do see why the friend is feeling burden. It is hard to ask for help or even recieve help sometimes. It definitely is hard for me when I have people offer to do that for me. It could also be some anxiety as well. I know even if I get told that I won't have to pay them back I still feel guilty that they spend all that money on me
Maybe the boyfriend sleeping on the floor had a “I pretend to sleep while you hook up with my bff kink” along with a “hook up with strangers next to your roommate and tell me about it later” kink 😂
Wow, with story 2 I got the same exact response from my best friend of 10 years who I asked to be my maid of honor for my destination wedding in Jamaica. She backed out, after happily accepting, saying she couldn't pay for it and couldn't accept me paying for it. I took it as her ending our friendship. She's the only friend I would have at my wedding. Definitely sucks
For the wedding in Mexico story: maybe it has to do with the exact location. She might not be comfortable with some of the newly given details… maybe she’s secretly afraid to go? Maybe she heard some horror stories and she doesn’t want to tell OP and ruin her vibes but she herself isn’t comfortable going anymore. Maybe she found out that they will be celebrating outside of the tourist resorts ? That’s the only thing I can think of to why she would flip within a week.
Perfect timing ❤
in general, and from personal experience, living with a close friend can go very very wrong. it took me and my friend 5 years after she moved out to start working on healing our friendship again.
On the Mexico wedding one: I had to tell my childhood best friend that I couldn’t afford to go to her wedding in Mexico she called to ask a few weeks before RSVPs were due and I couldn’t yet tell her the truth so told her it was financial. I also said I’d be in town for the weekend and asked her to come see me at my parents’ house in 2 days. At that point, I told her I was pregnant with twins and her wedding was within a week of my due date. So either I’d have just given birth, or I’d have premie babies potentially in or just leaving the NICU.
I apologized for lying to her, but I wanted to tell my parents first, and in person and since I lived out of state and was coming for a wedding right around the end of the first trimester, I was planning on telling them the day after the wedding. I’d planned to tell my friend at that point as well, but since she asked early, I felt I had to lie.
Is it possible the friend has a similar situation? Can’t travel for medical reasons she’s not ready to share?
Adding, my friend cried and completely understood the whole thing. I’m still sad the timing worked out that way and I missed her big day, but she knows I love her and four kids later between the two of us we’re still quite close.
30:18 *hanging the washing* 👁👄👁 not busy here 😂
Morgan made the alarm sound and I said “oh no” at the exact same time she did💀💀
I don't wake up to my alarms easily until after 30 minutes because my parents constantly violently argued and fight most nights. I had to learn to tune it out to sleep
I think Jerry needs a smaller fidget toy next time 🤣
Write the note Jersey Shore style lol iykyk
Ig I'm weird? I snooze for 1h or more sometimes..
Snoozing is different from letting your alarm play out for 30 mins
I'm honestly bothered by Jerry's consistent stance on not telling someone that their partner is cheating on them. Makes me feel like he'd be the type of friend who'd enable cheating friends and would stay silent even if they saw their friend out with another person. I hate how he justifies it as "it's their life!".
Also, I don't think the bf is a pushover for sleeping on the floor. Some people just trust other people like that and would put others' comfortability over their insecurity. They were all drunk and "tired". It's possible that the bf thought that waking the bestfriend up would be selfish. I mean, some ppl literally sit for hours without moving just bc their dog/cat fell asleep on their leg. Sometimes u just make those small "sacrifices" out of genuine care.
I have to set my alarm every five minutes, for an hour, otherwise I sleep through the day. They all have different music because otherwise I get used to it. When I lived in a dormitory, my roommates told me that sometimes I sing to the alarm clock's music, but I don't get up for it.
Me too!! I could sleep through ANYTHING. One time my friends picked up my mattress and physically made me roll around on the bed and I still did not wake up lmao. Some of us have hypersomnia 😂
Hearing someone singing to the alarm in their sleep would make me laugh so much 😂😂 I wouldn't be surprised if I do that, if I'm wake I mock my alarms sounds
I feel like the wedding girl was just confused because she said she put down a deposit kind of hinting that the girl had to pay for the other part. She should have said I paid for the deposit already and will cover the rest after our stay or something.
Story 4(i think lol)- the moms roommate isnt a stranger. Hes lived there for 3 years. Thats his home now too. Its wild to expect your mom to kick him out of the place hes paid bills at and has called home for 3 years. So that you dont have to walk more than a few steps to use the restroom. You can also get a clothing rack. You say housing is high rn but you dont want to pay rent. And you want your mom to kick out her house mate so he can have a hard time finding housing as well? Girl youre living rent free. Be grateful.
Not me just now finding out you're going to be in Salt Lake City tomorrow 😭
We are in Salt Lake TODAY , Yay
@FatherKnowsSomething Yes you are, I squealed with excitement just knowing you guys are so close! 🤣 Sorry it's cold and wet. I hope you all stay warm! 🤍
40:33 how did nobody think that the roommate is taking so long to respond to the alarm because he's not in his room? I think the mom has more than a roommate situation and she doesn't want to tell her daughter.
The person living rent free in their mom’s house upset about having to use her shower… get some earplugs and be thankful your mom has someone paying rent so she doesn’t have to make you pay rent. And perhaps consider how lucky you are to be in your current situation, with a free place to stay, the privilege of education, a mom who cares enough to let you stay with her for free, jeeze.
Yo I gave Jerry those socks!!!!!!
Story one- subletting here in the uk isn’t always legal. Think it depends on the agreement so the OP should defo check that first.
I feel personally attacked by Justin asking what someone is doing letting their alarm ring for half an hour. :D
I am worse. I go to bed too late and then need alarms for like an hour to get out of bed. Is it a bad habit? Yes. But it's been this way for probably 13 years, so it's not that easy to change. ^^ Btw, hitting the wall would not get me out of bed faster but only annoy the neighbors. :D
Geez! Some people are just heavy sleepers. 38:16
Woohoo!! 🎉❤
my cousin whos from canada is marring a Mexican man, they had their wedding in colorado kinda meeting in the middle for the families, it was small but lavish for people who couldnt go they through really nice wedding parties to celebrate, one of the parties was in mexico the other was in canada for their respective families and friends
2:55 Story #1
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I had a girl unnecessarily “correct” me and it drove me nuts. I was explaining to someone that they don’t leave an epidural needle in you, they put a flexible tube in. The girl told me it’s not a tube, it’s a catheter. 😒
That’s when you gotta play dumb, pretend you’ve never heard the word catheter before, and then ask them to explain it while you watch them attempt to explain what a catheter is without using the word “tube”
How do I listen to these pods early when they're posted *FKS/THT* and had NO recollection of any mention of you being in SLC tomorrow 💔 And sold out..sadiiiiies. Gonna keep an eye out if any opportunity comes up to attend ❤😢
I thought the same. I didn't think they'd ever make it to Salt Lake. 😢
34:15 idk I'm kinda on moms side but I don't see why some adjustments can't be made
I assume roommate is paying rent? That makes a HUGE difference
Well… I am guilty of sleeping through my alarms. Not sure why but I have to set around 5 -7 alarms every day or i won’t wake up… maybe I have sleep apnea never thought of that lol
Why do I think the mom either is sleeping with the roommate/have a relationship of sexual sort OR he is taking advantage of her in some way whether from cash or free rent or something just seems fishy there.
I agree with Justin on the ex roommate story.
I used to be like you Morgan and said it was in the name of “justice” but as I’ve grown I realized it was just being a drama seeker.
Gentle reminder guys that OCD isn't an adjective and shouldn't be used as such. This further pushes the misconception that OCD is only about cleanliness or being orderly when many people with it don't even have this OCD theme, and it undermines the true severity of the condition. It's not a quirky personality trait, it's a serious, life-ruining mental illness that most people are misinformed about.
I actually push those of you curious about it to research because there are a lot interesting and dark sides to it that many don't know about. 🕵️🕵️
16:09 my sister is like this big time she is just so independent and feels too proud what I’ve done to break this is offer a different way to repay me like clean my house or something because she won’t accept any gifts 😂 but maybe this girl is like that maybe the bride can have her as a coordinator or something giving her a “job” in the wedding so it’s not felt as free charity but earned
One of my close friends in University cheated on a boyfriend a few times. She's a great woman, she was just young and stupid and made some mistakes. I don't think he ever found out, she's never done anything like that after 23 years. They married at 26 and have two beautiful kids, they are now 35 and are legitimately both happy and fulfilled today (and faithful). Not my circus not my monkeys. Just like that poster. A lot of us are shitty people when were young, many of us do grow up after having the chance to be our own people aka true adults.
The first story sounds just like my roommate 😬 I feel for her
i may be wrong but i think op 2 was asking more for advice how to accept her friends aren't willing to come to her wedding for anything, not so much how to make everyone else happy by having 2 weddings. 2 weddings almost for sure will be unbelievably expensive and i dont think op should put up with this just to please everyone. in my opinion these aren't her friends and there's probably a deeper problem or red flags in her relationships she's not noticing :/
Please add chapters dad !!!
In the final story, the writer said he was talking loudly on the phone before the blow-up. Maybe he was arguing with someone on the phone and took it out on the roommates?
hi that’s my write in :) after living through it and looking back, morgan was right when she said i let a lot of things slide. what it all boiled down to was him having a hard time adjusting to moving states and he is unable to accept his sexuality.
Noooo the one with the roommate cheating on boyfriend and now getting married?! Omg that girl better tell him😭 WTFFFF
Hello from Morocco 😅 we’ll be more than happy to have you but please dont fly your own plane 😅
Does anyone think she’s talking about who we think she is talking about maybe… or just me? What happened!?? We love you Morgan.
I would talk to mom and roommate about the alarm, as if she starts banging and the room mates paying mom a big rent there is no saying that mom as daughter to start paying or find another place if roommate complain.
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I was missing more Jerry responses. 😕
If anyone has tickets they’re not able to use for the show in SLC I’m down to buy them off you. Let me know❤️
justin and jerry are right op of the 3rd shouldn't get involved but my pettiness just wants JUSTICE AND A JUICY UPDATE 😭🖐🏻
I don't get why she's mad because she doesn't have her own bathroom, shitty room whatever like yeah girl that's annoying but you don't pay rent and you still have a place to sleep, a roof over your head and still have a bathroom to use even if its not right next to your room? Like you sound entitled? At least you have a place to stay? She offered you to live there, pay rent and she'd kick him out. You did not accept that offer so why are you mad now that the offer has been rescinded? Time has passed. Life has changed. Like I said, you still have a rent free place to stay. Like be grateful?
Story 2 I definitely think you are the asshole, mom is doing you a favor and letting you stay.. If your not happy you need to save money to move out
With how he’s reacting to the cheating stories…I feel like jerry might be a cheater himself.
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for the slutty roommate story, Op dont send a letter. Its not "justice" anymore as morgan puts it. It wouldve been at the time but since its the future now and theyre married, it would definitely be just trying to start drama. Not to mention yall have mutual friends so itll definitely bite you back afterwards. Just leave it and go back to not thinking about her. Not your monkey, not your circus
Maybe I'm just really sensitive right now (hormones, you know...), but what you said about the roommate with the alarm ringing for 30min felt really mean to me!
I was a bit triggered, I'll admit 😂 there could be so many reasons for having a hard time getting up in the morning, but all of you just jumped to the worst possible conclusions and situations with the roommate being the potential asshole in this story. What if he has depression and can't for the life of him wake up from the alarm because he just doesn't hear it? What if he just has really bad hearing abilities in general? What if he takes supplements or medicine causing him to sleep through?
Personally I also don't always hear my alarm (and I have 3 alarms going off at different times, all loud, phone in vibrating mode...). In fact, 8 times out of ten I would sleep through if it wasn't for my boyfriend poking me softly, signaling it's time to get up.
Please don't be so disrespectful about conditions like that, it could be for multiple possible reasons!
I snooze my alarms, but I sleep through at least 3 as well. My body just won't wake up right away. I've even turned off my alarms in my sleep multiple times before 😅 and it was before I was supposed to go to work
@@skrip_skrip4814 funniest thing that happened multiple times to me was when my alarm went off and I grabbed the phone because I thought someone was calling me 😂
Story 3: Leave it alone. Don't get wrapped up in drama you don't need to. For all you know they all worked that our years ago or it was a horrible thing that snapped her out of her cheating ways. People change a lot from college and even if she didn't they're already married more than likely if he finds out it will cause a year or two of turmoil but they'll stay together anyway
Girl complaining about her mom and the roommate situation....entitled brat. I can see why the mom isn't keen in getting rid of the roommate
The story about the roommate:
The argument that it’s not OP’s business and she has no involvement doesn’t stand when they LITERALLY involved OP and made it her business. Especially after they already had the men conversation. And it’s not even about trying or not trying to stir up drama, it’s about doing the right thing in this scenario. You know something crucial about their relationship that could VERY much influence him, it is the right thing to do to tell him before he MARRIES this person. And if you let him knowing that, that makes you shitty and the asshole
It’s just like if you witness a crime and don’t say anything, it makes you complicit and just as bad in a way. Just because moral crimes don’t have legal action, doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be treated the same