Emily Spence
Emily Spence
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Practicing AND Not Or // Actioning Abundance Part 4
Hey friends! Here is the fourth part of my actioning abundance series! In the video I discuss the simple tool I call 'AND not OR' and how this helped me in my recovery journey. I really hope that you find my sharing on this topic helpful and thank you, as always, for your love and support :)
Please note: everyone's recovery journey is unique and it may be that the points I make in this video are not accessible and/or relevant to you so please, as always, take what helps and leave the rest.
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Видео

Taking ACTION // FOOD First // AUTISM and ED Recovery / Q&A with FI HOLLINGS
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Really excited to share with you this Q&A with the WONDERFUL Fiona Hollings (or as you may know her, Fi) where I ask her the following three questions: 1) What are the 3 most important things you learnt/did in your recovery? 2) If you had to pick one recovery related topic to do a passion project on, what would it be? And what key things would you want people to know/hear about this topic? 3) W...
Feeling LOST in Recovery // Don't know who I am? Only focussed on food? Fear
Просмотров 98714 дней назад
Hey friends, in this video I explore the topic of feeling lost in recovery and share with you five of the things that most helped me to navigate this in my journey. I hope that you find it helpful and thank you so much for watching :) 00:00 Introduction 01:08 Show yourself kindness and compassion 02:25 Know that you are not alone 04:40 It's ok that your body is focussed on recovery right now 06...
Ghosts of CONDITIONAL Permission // Compensation, Disordered Rituals & Needing to be HUNGRY enough
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Hello friends! In this weeks video I explore five ghosts of my conditional permission that I had to identify and call out in my recovery journey in order to reach a place of full ED freedom. I really hope that you find my sharing here helpful and BIG thanks to Roka's friends Bonnie and Hudson for featuring as the stars in this videos spooky-themed thumbnail. What absolute cuties they are! :) x ...
STOP the little plates... EAT from the Bag, Bar, Box, Tin & Tub // Actioning Abundance Part 3
Просмотров 88828 дней назад
Hey friends! Here is the third part of my actioning abundance series! In the video I discuss something that was an absolute game changer in my recovery journey... eating from the bag/bar/box/tin/tub etc. I really hope that you find my sharing on this topic helpful and thank you, as always, for your love and support :) Other videos about my Abundance Approach... About the approach: ruclips.net/v...
How My Recovery Buddies Helped Me Get Fully ED Free // Supporting Recovery
Просмотров 785Месяц назад
Hey friends! In this video I share with you five of the most helpful things that my recovery buddies did to support me in getting fully ED free. 1) Providing brutal honesty and an anchor in reality. 2) Standing their ground against ED... Emily's best friend = ED's worst enemy 3) Holding space for the fact that I, Emily, was not my ED 4) Lots of very practical support: eating out/food shopping/s...
REWIRING at a Higher Weight // Being BOLD // Is recovery worth it? / Q&A with BECKY FREESTONE
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Really excited to share with you this Q&A with the LOVELY Becky Freestone where I ask her the following three questions: 1) What are the 3 most important things you learnt/did in your recovery? 2) If you had to pick one recovery related topic to do a passion project on, what would it be? And what key things would you want people to know/hear about this topic? 3) What's being recovered like? And...
Eating MORE Than Others // Actioning Abundance Part 2
Просмотров 895Месяц назад
Thrilled to be back with the second part of my actioning abundance series! In the video I discuss the practical ways in which I challenged restrictive comparison by eating when others were not. 1) Listening to MY body (this was the foundation of this aspect... dropping the judgement and committing to listening to my body and honouring my hunger). 2) Ensuring that I ate regularly and consistentl...
What Will YOU Do With Your One Wild & Precious Life
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"Tell me, what do you plan on doing with your one wild and precious life?" Quote from a poem called 'A summers Day' by Mary Oliver. Remember friend, you cannot change what's been, but you do have power in the now, and you can use this to change the trajectory of today, tomorrow and the rest of your life. Sending love, strength and anything else that you need xx Please note: everyone's recovery ...
5 Things I Do EVERY DAY That My ED Would Have HATED // ED Recovery
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Hey friends! In this video I share with you five things I now do every day that my ED would have hated/VERY much disapproved of. I wanted to share these to provide a little window into the reality of recovered life from the perspective of my personal, lived experience and hope that you find it helpful :) 1) I no longer live my life by a to-do list 2) I eat without any restriction every single d...
Five Ways You can Work on BODY & SELF Acceptance TODAY // Body Image // Recovery
Просмотров 8582 месяца назад
Hey Friends! In this video I share some of my thoughts around body image in recovery, and outline five practical things that can be done in the here and now to work on cultivating a more accepting relationship with your body and self. I apologise for the poor quality of this vide but I was out with Roka and had a spark of passion about this topic that I just really wanted to share with you. Sen...
The IMPORTANCE of REST in Recovery // Why I needed to STOP to HEAL Physically, Mentally & Socially
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Hey friends! Join me for a casual sit down video where I share some of my thoughts on the importance of stopping and resting in recovery. This is a topic that I am incredibly passionate about and learnt a LOT about first hand in my own recovery journey. I hope that you find it helpful and thank you again for all your love and support :) x ps: Doesn't little Nora look adorable in this thumbnail ...
Ten of My FAVOURITE Recovery Activities that YOU Can Do Right NOW // ED Recovery
Просмотров 1,4 тыс.3 месяца назад
Hey friends :D In this video I share with you ten of my favourite recovery activities! 00:00 Hello! 01:03 List of ED disapproved foods 03:03 Reframe your ED's common suggestions 05:11 Daily and/or weekly recovery reflections 06:53 Make a personal list of recovery affirmations 09:36 Build your storm sitting tool-kit 13:32 Get clear about what's going on your shelf 14:50 Make a tin/tub of abundan...
I Didn't WANT to... But I Just HAD to // Doing What You HAVE to Do in Recovery // Eat, Sit & Shelve
Просмотров 1,8 тыс.3 месяца назад
A little reminder from me that often in recovery, in order to continue pushing forwards towards that place of ED freedom, you have to do things that you don't really want to do. I learnt this HARD in my recovery journey: I had to EAT things I didn't want/fancy/like, I had to SIT when I quite literally wanted to be doing anything other than sitting, and I had to SHELVE things that I wanted to ke...
Simple SELF SOOTHING Exercise // Sitting Through The Storm // Recovery
Просмотров 5533 месяца назад
Hey friends! In this video I share with you a simple self-soothing exercise which combines slowing your breathing and focusing your attention. By combining the concentration of the hand movement with slow rhythmic breathing (ideally through your nose, but whichever feels best to you works) this exercise helps to regulate your nervous system and ground you in the here and now. I learnt this exer...
GO and BUY the FOOD! // Listen to CORE YOU and Rebel Against the ED BS // Get it. Eat it. Repeat!
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GO and BUY the FOOD! // Listen to CORE YOU and Rebel Against the ED BS // Get it. Eat it. Repeat!
Signs I was Still HUNGRY & Needed to EAT MORE // ED Recovery
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Signs I was Still HUNGRY & Needed to EAT MORE // ED Recovery
FIVE Foods My ED Said I DIDN'T Like // TOTAL ED BULLSH*T // ED Recovery // Quit Quasi
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FIVE Foods My ED Said I DIDN'T Like // TOTAL ED BULLSH*T // ED Recovery // Quit Quasi
But I'm NOT Hungry?! // Navigating Low Appetite in Recovery
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But I'm NOT Hungry?! // Navigating Low Appetite in Recovery
Join me for a FAB weekend in LONDON // My RECOVERED Life Vlog
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Join me for a FAB weekend in LONDON // My RECOVERED Life Vlog
ED's as an ADDICTION to ENERGY DEFICIT // My Thoughts on this Book by Helly Barnes
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ED's as an ADDICTION to ENERGY DEFICIT // My Thoughts on this Book by Helly Barnes
Is this YOU? Feeling BEHIND? Feeling LOST? // ED recovery
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Is this YOU? Feeling BEHIND? Feeling LOST? // ED recovery
Recovery Challenge with ME // Childhood & Pre-ED Favourites // ED Recovery
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Recovery Challenge with ME // Childhood & Pre-ED Favourites // ED Recovery
Recovery is NOT a Hobby // It's Something You DO to Get DONE // ED Recovery
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Recovery is NOT a Hobby // It's Something You DO to Get DONE // ED Recovery
The Recovery Road Trip: You're the DRIVER (ED's Passenger) & You're on a Journey to ED FREEDOM
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The Recovery Road Trip: You're the DRIVER (ED's Passenger) & You're on a Journey to ED FREEDOM
CHILLED Sunday with ME | Slow day with Pancakes, Sunshine & Pets | RecoverED vlog
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CHILLED Sunday with ME | Slow day with Pancakes, Sunshine & Pets | RecoverED vlog
Tackling BODY judgement in PHOTOS // ED Recovery // Changing Perspective and Challenging ED
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Tackling BODY judgement in PHOTOS // ED Recovery // Changing Perspective and Challenging ED
What I'd say to the ME who had EXTREME HUNGER // Reassurance & Encouragement // ED Recovery
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What I'd say to the ME who had EXTREME HUNGER // Reassurance & Encouragement // ED Recovery
How to Deal with People not ACCEPTING/RESPECTING your Recovery Journey // ED Recovery
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How to Deal with People not ACCEPTING/RESPECTING your Recovery Journey // ED Recovery
30 Reasons to RECOVER // FOOD freedom, peace in STILLNESS, brain space & BODY TRUST // ED Recovery
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30 Reasons to RECOVER // FOOD freedom, peace in STILLNESS, brain space & BODY TRUST // ED Recovery

Комментарии

  • @RomyVandermeulen
    @RomyVandermeulen Час назад

    Hi Emily, Hi Emily, I started all-in recovery from anorexia for 4 weeks because eating lists are no longer possible. my problem is that I have already eaten a whole cake or pie every day this week, plus 10 croissants, cookies and chocolate. Loafs of bread every day I feel like I'm not doing it right and that I'm developing other eating disorders. I'm also afraid that I'm eating for food's sake and not listening to my body. I already feel my body changing and I gained a lot like a lot. When I eat I can’t just eat 1 cookie I want every cookie or the whole cake. I’m afraid I’m developing a divergent disorder. I think I’m mentally so hunger and I don’t know if I’m binging really need your advice.🥲

  • @therumowa
    @therumowa Час назад

    The last point is great. I notice that if I get used to former Fear Foods, they become new Save Foods, and I would routinely now have this new save food reasoning that I have to repeat eating my fear foods after all. Stacking something I am actually afraid of on top is a great idea to get out of that loop ( and I have got a huge amount of noise in my head now already 😁 ) Thank you! :)

  • @brookeponder6258
    @brookeponder6258 19 часов назад

    I cant stop eating.Been binging for 3 months straight on whole pizzas,bags of cookies and 2 bags of chips all in one day.Every day.Will this stop or have i developed binge eating now?Im worried as the weight gain is fast and its mentally been just hard

  • @buzzbeeplays7922
    @buzzbeeplays7922 2 дня назад

    this is so helpful im now a healthy weight but ive been recovering for 3 months now and i still get extreme hunger and i worry that im not actually hungry and should i actually be eating this much? I dont know if im just eating lots of biscuits and cereal for no reason? or is this just my ed speaking?

  • @paulinefoster172
    @paulinefoster172 5 дней назад

    How beautiful you both look, relaxed faces with all the AN stress and anxiety left behind. You give strength to my hopes for my daughter and she, today, found strength from you both. Thanks Emily and Fi.

  • @MeredithCollet
    @MeredithCollet 6 дней назад

    You have no idea how much I needed this exact message today. Thank you for all that you do!

  • @teresaobrien8187
    @teresaobrien8187 6 дней назад

    So great you are doing talks in hospitals

  • @oeilemay885
    @oeilemay885 6 дней назад

    This made my day. Thank you so so much for this video. It truly gives a lot of hope and a feeling of being heard 🫶

  • @hackedthegate9803
    @hackedthegate9803 7 дней назад

    Will you be uploading this series as a podcast at all? I love listening to your stuff whilst driving x

  • @PatsyStone-cl3px
    @PatsyStone-cl3px 7 дней назад

    Most treatment programs are not well suited for people on the spectrum. I remember asking for an hour of 'downtime' in treatment to make being around so many people all day everyday tolerable, and they had a problem with it.

    • @mummytrolls
      @mummytrolls 7 дней назад

      me too i’d tell them i was upset and needed to be alone in my room for a bit and they’d be like ‘you’re not engaging in the program how do you expect to recover or make friends here if you sit alone in your room’

    • @dancingpixie74sb
      @dancingpixie74sb 6 дней назад

      So how I feel my daughter as well!

  • @maritameling5235
    @maritameling5235 7 дней назад

    ❤❤️‍🩹 Thanks, this gives me some hope that I too can get out of the hell / cage!

  • @RomyVandermeulen
    @RomyVandermeulen 8 дней назад

    Hi Emily, Hi Emily, I started all-in recovery from anorexia for 3 weeks because eating lists are no longer possible. my problem is that I have already eaten a whole cake or pie every day this week, plus 10 croissants, cookies and chocolate. I feel like I'm not doing it right and that I'm developing other eating disorders. I'm also afraid that I'm eating for food's sake and not listening to my body. I already feel my body changing and I gained a lot like a lot. When I eat I can’t just eat 1 cookie I want every cookie or the whole cake. I’m afraid I’m developing a divergent disorder. I think I’m mentally so hunger and I don’t know if I’m binging really need your advice.🥲

  • @PatsyStone-cl3px
    @PatsyStone-cl3px 10 дней назад

    Very true. And the longer you were in deficit, the longer it can take for nutritional rehabilitation.

  • @noramuller6334
    @noramuller6334 11 дней назад

    i have had this question today when i was listening to a podcast about the origins of " calories " as meassurement and the original purpose - to get people into work and make them " tamed" . i recognizied me being utterly focused on qualities i can put into relation. like meters , hours of movement, food intake , salery. and this started in schoo with marks . i question mysrelf how do i changnge my brains perception on the qualities i want to have in live when i find ( unfullfilling shorttime ) security in " measurable " things?

  • @helendavies8306
    @helendavies8306 11 дней назад

    So so glad I’ve found you. You are a true inspiration and helping me to clear my pathway even more to my recovery. Thank you for keeping it real Much love ❤

  • @melissa-jh4wb
    @melissa-jh4wb 12 дней назад

    Thank you❤

  • @philipforan8309
    @philipforan8309 13 дней назад

    Thank you Emily for such a inspiring and well informed video which helps so much in putting into such eloquent words the real doubts and worries of being in recovery and thank you Emily for showing I can challenge the temptation to give into fear and flee from the going all in to recovery. Thanks again Emily X.

  • @paulinefoster172
    @paulinefoster172 13 дней назад

    Thanks as always Emily. A question for you...did you have feelings of doing something wrong when you allowed yourself to eat in the beginning of recovery? If so, can you remember how you overcame those (powerful) thoughts?

  • @marishalo2092
    @marishalo2092 13 дней назад

    Thank you as always thank you thank you

  • @nicolapettman8310
    @nicolapettman8310 14 дней назад

    Roka🥰 Thanks Emily another great video x

  • @barborasvobodova3760
    @barborasvobodova3760 14 дней назад

    Thanks Emily :)

  • @LunAirSol.
    @LunAirSol. 18 дней назад

    Merci mille fois Émilie.. c’est très dur.. Mes phases de faim extrême s’espacent.. il y a 3 semaines j’en avais tous les 3 jours maintenant c’est une fois par semaine.. Je viens littéralement de manger une moitié de miche de pain… 400g de yaourt… deux parts de tarte fine. Et cela après mon dîner déjà complet… J’ai déjà pris 3 kilos avec la faim extrême mais je ne suis pas encore à mon poids de forme… Cependant c’est très dur de continuer de ressentir cette faim +++++. Mon corps est rassasié (mon ventre est lourd) mais j’ai encore envie de manger….😟 Courage à ceux qui vivent cela aussi.. c’est nos corps qui reprennent vie..❤️‍🩹

  • @enough425
    @enough425 19 дней назад

    Isn’t it responsible to have conditions around your eating so that you don’t end up getting things like diabetes and heart disease though?

  • @priscillaanderson2949
    @priscillaanderson2949 20 дней назад

    These are all thongs I do, I have to put the dishes away first, then I find more ao I have to do those, now my food is cold so I have to heat it up, now I need to use the bathroom again! Now I cant find my favorite spoon, someone else used it! I think i'm going crazy!

  • @priscillaanderson2949
    @priscillaanderson2949 20 дней назад

    This is me so much! I have to put these clean dishes away first, then I find another mess somewhere I have to clean up, now my food is cold so I have to heat it up, niw I have to use the bathroom again so I won't feel too full, irs al just a circle!😮😮

  • @samcatstorko
    @samcatstorko 20 дней назад

    It's so helpful to hear you talk about these things! I do have an awareness of some of the strange conditions I have around eating but hearing someone else share the exact same rituals/criteria really brings to light how abnormal it is and reminds me that these are things I tolerate from my ED that don't actually have to be entwined in my day if I challenge them

  • @sivanshapira6710
    @sivanshapira6710 20 дней назад

    Story of my life...

  • @recyclefiiish7753
    @recyclefiiish7753 20 дней назад

    Thank you so much for sharingg🫶🏻All of these “weird” ocd/ED need-to-do things are so real💀 Thank you for your humility and constant encouragement🖤🧡🎃 also the thumbnail

  • @marishalo2092
    @marishalo2092 21 день назад

    You are so wise and your videos are so so helpful! ❤Thank you for saying all this, it is quite rare to hear these specific aspects of an eating disorder but I relate to many of them. That feeling of restlessness and the need for being "productive’’ still is intense for me. I try to plan everything ahead even when to listen to friends voice memos so that I can do something ,,productive" while listening to them. I feel like whenever I start doing one thing I already feel like I should be doing the next thing…it’s like I can never fully commit and enjoy doing one thing cause I feel like I need to get enough stuff done. Maybe you could talk about that more in a future video? If you relate. I am looking forward to more of these videos, they are eye-opening. Thank you a lot

  • @vforcetitans
    @vforcetitans 21 день назад

    The 5 Ghost of the ED Hopefully one day they will be the Ghosts of EDs past

  • @annasfogliatelle3907
    @annasfogliatelle3907 21 день назад

    Im so confused because I thought it was a me tick that my food has to be piping hot and I always need to go to the toilet before consuming a meal.

  • @lilyp9983
    @lilyp9983 21 день назад

    Hi Emily, do you have any thoughts about navigating the world of ‘ultra-processed foods’ in recovery? The topic seems to be everywhere at the moment about how the UK food system is harming us with unnecessary additives in food, even bread! Sparked by the book ultra processed people; but it seems to be all over social media and goes against the idea ‘all food is good food’

    • @scintillabloom
      @scintillabloom 20 дней назад

      ruclips.net/video/18FYfZyv5KI/видео.html maybe this will help, tabitha talks abt it here

  • @maike5227
    @maike5227 21 день назад

    What a lovely picture of the ghost-dogs 😂

  • @tuesdaytrainer
    @tuesdaytrainer 21 день назад

    Fantastic message (as always)! You've helped me SO much with recovery and I thank you. Question - do you have any videos about the middle to late stages of recovery? In terms of returning to exercise or walking? I've cut it out completely for the past 6 months and I'm able to eat anything and rest completely now. I don't want to reintroduce movement too soon but I'm looking for advice as to when it would be a solid choice.

  • @hayleysmiley6226
    @hayleysmiley6226 23 дня назад

    Emily, I’d love your wisdom on this: Earlier this summer I knew I needed to make a big push to get out of quasi. But doing that, paired with postpartum blues, sent me into a major depression. I simply had to let myself get out for a walk with my baby or dance for fun. I genuinely don’t know how I’ll ever be able to really REST as recovery requires and not be depressed. And if that’s the case, why should I put the effort into all the eating?? ED black & white BS, but it’s put me into a corner. I find myself slipping back into ED behaviors without hope of being to say YES to recovery. Do I simply wait until the baby blues pass?? How do I press on? Thank you for all you do!

  • @enough425
    @enough425 24 дня назад

    How do I know if my beliefs are true or not I have followed all the plant-based doctors and they have ingrained me that eating animal protein is harmful to my health. I am having trouble unknowing that belief because what if it’s true and years down the road, I end up with cancer because I ate animal protein.

  • @samantharichards7420
    @samantharichards7420 25 дней назад

    At lunch today with my baguette I decided to take the BIG BAG of crisps and ate them all 😮I’m assuming in parts of your recovery, you had guilt after eating large amounts… I guess the answer is repeat repeat repeat until it doesn’t take over your head space after… 😢

  • @RomyVandermeulen
    @RomyVandermeulen 25 дней назад

    Hi Emily, Hi Emily, I started all-in recovery from anorexia this week because eating lists are no longer possible. my problem is that I have already eaten a whole cake or pie every day this week, plus 10 croissants, cookies and chocolate. I feel like I'm not doing it right and that I'm developing other eating disorders. I'm also afraid that I'm eating for food's sake and not listening to my body. I already feel my body changing and I really need your advice.🥲

    • @Em.jay.00
      @Em.jay.00 17 дней назад

      Hiya. I'm not Emily and thus my advice will not at all be as brilliant and spot on as hers would be, but I wanted to chime in to your question if I may. So I'm not fully recovered yet, however I remember vividly multiple times when I was re-fed from particularly horrific years of anorexia - I could literally eat the kitchen out and then again and feel like it wouldn't even scratch the surface of my hunger (despite being SO beyond full and yes body changes quite quickly during those times). One of those times after coming out of hospital, I remember going through the same as what you are writing. I honestly felt I'd lost what was left of my brain and everything felt so wrong. In retrospect - if I'd seriously just pushed through, felt ALL of the fear and everything else that mentally/emotionally AND physically came along with it - I guarantee you I would have fully recovered then. Instead of prolonging the relapses then getting okay ish then relapses etc. My point being - as scary and physically uncomfortable as it can be, the way out is through. Get totally honest with yourself, you really do know the authentic way through for you/your mind/body/soul for total freedom. Trust yourself and your mental and/or physical hunger. Especially when it feels so wrong/going against the eating disorder cognitions. You got this!!! (Sorry for the ramble)

    • @Em.jay.00
      @Em.jay.00 17 дней назад

      Oh - and, yep the body will highly likely change/grow/expand. But when we think about it - why wouldn't it? And also - it literally just wants to get you to a place of homeostasis. And it won't happen at all overnight. The damage we do to our bodies with eating disorders - it only makes sense that our bodies will do whatever they need to do, in order to do as well as they can. And it will look like whatever it needs to, for you. My advice with body changes are to really be tough with yourself in terms of avoiding as much as possible the comparisons and body checking/whatever else your fear-of-weight-gain-cognition is trying to throw at you. Avoid as much as possible the judgement you may have of it all - I promise you life is too short for it. Again - you got this 🤩

    • @Em.jay.00
      @Em.jay.00 17 дней назад

      I'm so sorry for another blurb here - I didn't address the eating for foods sake and not listening to your body bit you mentioned. Even if you're eating for foods sake - so what? Seriously. So what? I get it, I understand the fear (like i say, I'm not yet fully recovered from decades of AN mixed with BN, but I'm a heck tonne closer to full recovery than I have been before). So seriously, try to enjoy the process. Allllll of the fears will come. Punch them away, flick them off. Even loudly announce them to go away! Whatever works. Any eating is ALWAYS fine. Fabulous, in fact. And listening to your body - don't get caught up in any intuitive jargon stuff (especially not now). Carry through with full recovery and without doing anything for it, your mind and body will find its own intuitive place. But you won't even need to think about it. Seriously. Keep it simple. That's what helps me. Food and rest are fabulous. Your body will sooner or later (whenever it deems time) find a state of homeostasis (and this will also fluctuate by the way - that's entirely normal for every human). Sorry, I'm shutting up now. You'll get there - trust yourself. Don't overthink. Embrace Netflix.

    • @RomyVandermeulen
      @RomyVandermeulen 8 дней назад

      @@Em.jay.00hi thank you for your response. It’s almost been 4 weeks and if eaten 10000 kcal every day and I don’t know what to do it’s all been pies and cakes and cookies and chocolate and my body is really different. I feel like I’m binging

    • @Em.jay.00
      @Em.jay.00 8 дней назад

      @@RomyVandermeulen I hear you, and my response is go back and read my earlier responses :) gotta let go of judgement around bingeing. Keep it simple (honestly!): the body literally just wants to do its thing/whatever it needs to do to thrive and to maintain a range of homeostasis (which will also fluctuate throughout our lives as we're all human). You're hungry for whatever you're hungry for, however much you're hungry for and at whatever time you're hungry for it. The body has no hidden agenda, truly. Recovery can be scary as f*ck, but that's likely due to all our judgement and all such jazz. You got this!!!

  • @nicolapettman8310
    @nicolapettman8310 28 дней назад

    I love the way Roka was watching you eat the biscuits!!🤣

  • @myrtheweehuizen3209
    @myrtheweehuizen3209 28 дней назад

    I’m trying but the problem is that I purge and it has become so easy that I can’t seem to stop myself. I eat, then the hunger hits and I eat more and I can feel strong and even calm and then there’s a switch and I go either straight to purging or I eat even more, knowing I can because I will purge. It’s exhausting, I wish I had never started purging.

    • @emilyspence2961
      @emilyspence2961 28 дней назад

      Firstly I'm really sorry to hear that you are currently navigating this, purging is indeed a very dangerous and addictive restrictive behaviour and I strongly encourage you to seek support in disengaging from it. Beyond that remember that fundamentally in ED recovery restriction is the problem, and permission is the solution. Sending love, strength and all my best wishes your way xx

  • @Lifeonmarz8
    @Lifeonmarz8 28 дней назад

    After years of restriction I now find myself literally bingeing on everything to the point I can’t breathe 😢😭please help

    • @emilyspence2961
      @emilyspence2961 28 дней назад

      Hey there, firstly thank you for sharing and I send lots of love and strength your way. Understandably, this isn't a space for personal recovery advice, but please know that you are not alone in this experience and I encourage you to explore the topic of reactive hunger/extreme hunger as this is a very commonly shared physiological response to starvation xx

  • @guga19870609
    @guga19870609 29 дней назад

    The other day I put a fork in my backpack and left home. I went to shop and got Colin the caterpillar cake. I went to park, sat on a bench, took the fork out and ate the cake like there was no tomorrow 😁 as if it was a slice, but it was the whole cake 👍😊 that was pretty cool :) did that again with a carrot cake, instead of getting a slice from a bakery 4 bloody 50 pounds for a slice 😩 I got the whole cake in a supermarket and just digged in with my fork (BTW since that Colin situation I always carry a fork with me 😂 you never know when you'll need a "slice" of cake... 😉). Also, speaking of ice creams and chcolate bars in that matter as well, I NEVER buy sticks, or cones or whatever (I mean single serving ice creams) and same with chocolate - 90/100g bar is minimum. Why? I just actually find it annoying that someone decided that this amount of ice cream /chcolate you are gonna have! No! I get tub and I eat as much as I feel like, I open a chocolate bar and eat as much as I want. Quite frankly, when it does happen that I got a magnum I had to have 2, because A. One is not enough and B. I found it irritating that one is meant to be it. Crisps? I mean come on.. The small bag of crisps is a joke, you can barely see any at the bottom of the bag. So, anyway, bigger is not always better!! Unless it comes to certain food choices ;)

    • @emilyspence2961
      @emilyspence2961 28 дней назад

      A huge YES to all of this! Thank you so much for sharing and here's to food freedom, one bold step (and fork attack) at a time! :)

    • @janaicr9629
      @janaicr9629 27 дней назад

      It is not an exaggeration to call you an ABSOLUTE LEGEND. We need more badassery like yours😂👏🏾🎂🌈🎉 Also, big yes to no single servings! They're small even for being based on the inadequate RDA. I've seen the calories slapped on small packaging 5+ times, nvm the repetition of "low x" and "high y". If you were at a party and gave someone one of those measly "single servings" they'd rightly assume you hated them. Why else would you be so stingy when there's plenty more? Clearly, brands just want to make money in the here and now, and maintain the bs rhetoric around calories for easy marketing in the future. 💗 Don't make their jobs easier 💗Make your eating disorder's job harder.

  • @BramKendrick
    @BramKendrick 29 дней назад

    What would your advice be for someones who doesn't desire tubs of cookies or stacks of pancakes or whole birthday cakes anymore (mental hunger has finally toned down) but still has a lot of ED rules?

    • @emilyspence2961
      @emilyspence2961 28 дней назад

      Hey, thank you for this question: what I personally found most helpful when navigating situations like this in recovery was focussing my energy and attention on taking bold, opposite, actions to all of my remaining ED rules :)

    • @BramKendrick
      @BramKendrick 28 дней назад

      @@emilyspence2961 thank you! So in this situation you would for example take the higher kcal choice if you had to pick something just to break the rule of "I'm only allowed this many kcal" or even though you're not hungry but it's been 2 hours ago since you last ate and you have a rule to have a minimum of exactly 2 hours that needs to be between meal/snack times you would than eat 5 min earlier so that there is 1:55h in between just to break the "timing" rule.

    • @emilyspence2961
      @emilyspence2961 28 дней назад

      @@BramKendrick Yes, those are two really good examples of how you could challenge those ED rules :) I encourage you to use your core self's wisdom and get doing, remembering that repetition and boldness are key in rewiring disordered rules/behaviours.

  • @Tony-qx9vo
    @Tony-qx9vo 29 дней назад

    Thank you. For everything. You’re making my recovery progress sooooo much easier and faster. I love watching your video whenever I feel discouraged.

    • @emilyspence2961
      @emilyspence2961 28 дней назад

      Super pleased you found it so helpful Tony, and thank YOU for your support of my sharing :)

  • @RtSd-y2z
    @RtSd-y2z 29 дней назад

    I can't heal or want to heal disabilitys of other people ...to much poison in people that I can't filter out

  • @EmmaRich0206
    @EmmaRich0206 29 дней назад

    How do you know when you can stop doing all of these recovery actions? How do you know when you are nutritionally rehabilitated?

    • @emilyspence2961
      @emilyspence2961 28 дней назад

      Hey Emma, thank you for this question and I have actually just added this topic to my list of videos to do as I think it would be a good one to explore in more detail (especially the second part about nutritional rehabilitation). For now though, please know that permission to eat without restriction has no finish line and so actioning your unconditional permission to eat is something you do both in recovery and beyond xx

  • @annikaneumann8408
    @annikaneumann8408 Месяц назад

    Hi there, is anyone willing to get in contact to support each other in recovery?🙏

  • @gavinpikky
    @gavinpikky Месяц назад

    Feeling called out at 8:10, literally just woke up hungry and ate a banana 😂, thanks for these tips feels good to know im not the only one

    • @emilyspence2961
      @emilyspence2961 28 дней назад

      Happy to help shine that light and really pleased that you have found the tips supportive :) x

  • @philipforan8309
    @philipforan8309 Месяц назад

    Hi Emily, thanks so much for illuminating such wonderful truths for supporters and sufferers, my family and I found this video so helpful in helping me to continuing my recovery journey. Thanks so again Emily:)

    • @emilyspence2961
      @emilyspence2961 28 дней назад

      I'm really pleased that both you and your family found this video topic helpful Philip, sending love and my very best wishes your way :)

  • @amber_lynn_johnson
    @amber_lynn_johnson Месяц назад

    Hi Emily. TY for video… how long did it take you in your recovery to truly feel like you could fully recover? ♥️

    • @emilyspence2961
      @emilyspence2961 28 дней назад

      Super glad you found it helpful Amber :) In response to your question, I personally held a deep sense of hope that full recovery could be possible from fairly early in my journey and whilst my belief in this fluctuated, taking recovery aligned action and leaning into the stories of those who had walked the path ahead of me really helped me to stand firm in this truth xx

    • @amber_lynn_johnson
      @amber_lynn_johnson 28 дней назад

      @@emilyspence2961 TY! Leaning into those who came before. ❤️ Your story is helping mine. TY!!