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First thing you definitely don't look like your in your 60,s. I'm so sorry for what you went through. I do understand I'm 45 and I don't have any friends at all. I have my husband and my cat's. God bless you and take care.🙏

🌴🌴🌴 By the age of 58 I basically lost all of my best friends 😢. All of them passed away way too soon 😢. My friends were so much fun and I laughed with them every time I was with them. 10 friends overall 😢. I miss laughter in my life 😢. I’m now 63 and haven’t made any new friends. Life is tough. I got ripped off ❗️ I had no idea that these kind of videos were out there. I’m going to start crying if I keep going on 😢. Thank you for letting me sound off here. Blessings from Paso Robles California, Carlos

The universe works 💪🏾 in mysterious ways i had lost everything due to betrayals, but currently i have gotten my health back ♥️ and i am working on starting a new Amazon fba business i needed a video like this 🎉❤

The people who hurt me the most were women especially the boy/men crazy 🤪 women i keep a distance am careful with the kinds of women i keep as friends the good girls and nice girls i keep them at a distance the housewife types is not my type but the ambitious, entrepreneurship driven women are my types .😂🎉🎉

I stopped being friends with a married woman because she has no self development and no future plans her energy is so draining i just blocked her and i felt like she settled for the wrong man just to avoid her issues .

Thank you so much for doing this channel I just found your site and I must say it is so heart warming to hear what you are saying I will continue watching

Be your own best friend.

Your friend that did that to you...I think it's rooted in some type of jealousy insecurity and a need to "humble" you. Unfortunately, I think that has also been at the root of some of my "strong" female friendships that ended in a negative way. The most hurtful at this point in my life (mid 30's) occured when I was 17 and my best friend at the time slept with my boyfriend. We were like sisters, inseparable. Basically, in each others skin. She'd actually tried something similar with another guy, but it didn't "happen" and I didn't take is seriously because I didn't really care about the guy. But once she did actually do it later, I was so hurt. Her reaction to me confronting her was so strange. A total lack of care and accountability. It made me so sad. It felt like someone had died. I've had some close female friendships since, but none that I would consider my "best friend" or really let them into my life. If I get a hint of resentment, a tone of jealousy, a sense that the person is digging for info etc. I pull the hell back and bring it back to surface level. Not all of that is necessarily due to that one particular incident, some of it is due to a general observation of people...many just cannot be happy that you're happy, and that's not for me.

Exactly my story with a demanding friend……thats passive aggressive and mean, after 10 years on and off i fell back in with this friend two years ago and over time the patterns started, three weeks ago she was demanding, judgmental and mean….i walked out and have not heard from her not even an apology, she plays the victim …im done !

I’ve known my friend for 10 years, had fall outs twice and did not speak for 3 years, she contacted me and a long story short we got back together, its been two years and just 3 weeks ago i was judged and made to feel i dont do much for her, i have always been there for her, picked her up when she had an eye op and made sure she stayed with me ect…..im the good friend until her other good friend comes along then im left out, we both in our 60s , she is very demanding, i was shocked when she judged me and made me feel so bad, i have not heard from her, if she has not apologised by now im guessing she wont and i don’t care im done, tied of being the door mat, she loves playing the victim! PS came across your channel last week and it has helped me thanks.

Dorset UK 😊

I am really struggling and have no one to turn to except God. I love my husband but boy do I feel alone. I so wish I had good relationships with my divorced parents, a sibling, a friend. My husband is wonderful but it’s not enough. I so long for a good quality female relationship via family or friendship. I have been feeling so down for months now. I feel like every time I try to navigate through something painful I am alone. I’m in my late 40’s with 2 teens and a little boy and I love them dearly but I am just worn out. There is nobody to go to. I am part of a “friend group” in my neighborhood that is nice to be able to do things once on a while but I know they are not good friends. The queen of the group also treats me bad. I can’t get out of it because I live near all of them and then I would have nobody.

You know what I’m jealous of? Everybody having better relationships than me. Every woman I know has better relationships with their mother, sister, father, friends. It honestly kills me and I have to limit my time of Facebook because of it because it makes me so so sad

I’m 43. I think I’m taking notes. I don’t trust anyone as much as I used to. Friends? How many of us have them? I have maybe 2 and I’m ok with that.

“When you get really close to someone, they know your heart” Yeah, but that doesn’t mean they VALUE it. Sometimes a person loves the benefit of you, but because you’re a source of what they covet, you’re a reminder of what they can’t/don’t have, so instead of gratitude, you get resentment and duplicity. But you likely won’t find out right away because oftentimes the gettin’s too good to quit. Also, some people only stick around because you’re the best choice, not out of love for you or who you are. This is also true in relationships, a common trap for a try-hard. I’m not judging, as I used to be one🤦🏻‍♀️ This is a really hard lesson that I learned from relationships, that could carry over into friendships: Say in a relationship, you tell someone for the first time that you love them. They say it back. That’s great, but…. If you make the assumption that because they said I love you back, that it means that the love they have for you in return is MATCHED, YOU WILL set yourself up to get hurt. It’s not enough to hear they love you, you’ve got to find out how much. If we could change this to a business partnership, you proposed the idea for a venture and shared how much you were willing to invest. And they agreed, and assured you they had money to invest as well. Come time for the final contract signing, you’ve got your money on the table. Before you sign, you ask where their stake is, all they say is that they have it. Going over the paperwork, you gasp in shock to see that all they put down for an investment is a nickel. Worst still: you ask them and they get incredulous, “I don’t see a problem, I told you I had money to invest, it’s not like you asked me how much.” 😑

What about people from your past who you like but are not local or close friends anymore but you touch base with them maybe once a year to catch up - i’m getting the impression that people think that is not worth doing and to put energy into only good friends?

Such a beautiful painting I love the delicate detail in his work, thank you for sharing. I live in the highlands of Scotland. Hope you are enjoying your visit here.

Very nicely explained.thanks

False friends are intel agents. Intel agencies and the people they work for have ruined the entire world.

I started a new job and an was put with a mean girl to be trained by

The one friend that did that to me .....did it twice. There were no third time 😎 I told her goodbye and why. Guess what.... I was the mean girl 😅😅😅😅 she made sure that was me . My fault. To everyone.

Hello ❤❤❤ Laura

I realized recently that I have been taking my friendships more seriously than I needed to. I would feel disappointed when I wound find out they had a gathering with everybody but me. Another moved out of town but didn’t say a word. I lost my mother but I didn’t get the support even though I immediately made calls and rushed to their side when they were in similar situations. I was ill but they didn’t check on me. I feel good about my life now because I don’t have to be that plugged in to be listening to their issues or going out of my way for relationships that are not reciprocated.

I can see you have a lot of energy and probably needed to be busy to use up the energy. And I think being around people takes more energy. You have a whole new way of life to discover being with only yourself.

My best friend of 40+ years couldn't be bothered to attend my son's funeral. I assisted and supported him over the years when his life was in the toilet. But the day before the funeral, he left town on a pleasure road trip where he admitted he didn't even have a specific destination in mind; just a trip to get out of town... His father and mother in law showed up as if to say 'we're sorry he is not here.' At the reception after the funeral, I looked around and had an epiphany; I realized the most toxic people in my life had come disguised as friends and family. These people have long been edited out of my life and I am very, very selective as to whom I let into my life now. At almost 70 years of age, life a lot better with fewer people in my life adding baggage and drama to my existence. I've always preferred solitude. Now I live it completely.

My Mom doesn't call, doesn't text. I used to send her pictures and updates about the kids every day quite literally but i stopped and she doesn't seem to have noticed. She's constantly on her phone, even around me and her grandkids. She misses so much. I think her sense of duty has her physically present whenever i need her but her mind and heart are elsewhere. She gives all kinds of energy to her friends and her phone but can't carry on any kind of meaningful conversation with her children.

I have a firm belief that mean women are desperately lonely and hateful. After I married, I realized my husband's mom was a mean girl who was much older. She has almost no friends, and her family relationships are very strained. I could tell by how she spoke of others she thinks she is superior. One day, a relative of my Husbands spoke of my mil. They said," She is a lonely and bitter woman and nobody is good enough. " I think that can be true. They view themselves as superior to others, and nobody is genuinely loved by them. It comes across that mean women are confident, but they are really insecure. My mil doesn't have any true friendships. It is really sad....but I do think mean women do this to themselves. Also, I have noticed that many mean women do this as something they can control. They may have had something in their past that hurt them and they had no control....but we all can control how we treat people. Sometimes, I think, mean women are really just over- compensating for control. Mean women may appear to have everything, but they aren't happy. You can not be happy mistreating people. My mil is very mean to her " friends" behind their backs and to family. She is extremely miserable. It is a sad way to live. Instead of having love and joy, mean women are always upset with someone. I loved this video.

Hello from Wiltshire Laura😊🌹

Retirement in solitude has been the best "career" I have ever had. Scary? Not a bit. I worked my whole life for this.

I only have 3 really good friends that I’ve been with for years. My best friend I’ve known since age 5. I’ve never been much of a friend collector. There have been many times over the years where I’ve envied people who have a large friend group. I don’t need to declutter friends but my closet is a different story. 😂 Your brother in law is very talented. Thank you for sharing his beautiful painting with us.

What a beautiful property and greenhouse

Just because i have free time doesn't mean I'm available.....love that

Thank you Laura I agree i decluttered people out of my life they weren't there when i Needed them

Welcome to Scotland ❤

Hi Laura and thank you for sharing your wisdom ❤

Did you get to see the Kelpies? I love your content btw xoxo

Great video mom!

I kindof did this once. The gal was in a Bible study i joined for a time. She was in a somewhat unhappy marriage with young kids and her husband worked away for weeks on end. I was taken in by her sob stories and offered to help her several times in various ways. She never would accept the help but continued to complain about the weight of everything so i just stopped reaching out. She also had a minimalist IG account but constantly bought things, shared them on IG, then would go on massive decluttering purges and it just made me feel like she was so fake... a consumerist pretending to be minimal. It rubbed me wrong.

You never said what she did to hurt you so badly 😮

When ending some friendships, I remember the good times. I personally like not having a lot of friends at present. At some point we were not so nice people. At some point, someone wasn't so nice to us. Don't prolong anything that is visibly unhealthy.

I enjoy your Utube and watched you first - there is another utube that has copied you and also, doing the one friend or best friend issues - I have been fortunate, I have an old friend that we have been at least 50 years - totally different personalities., I am blessed to have her.

If you`re big busted and prone to spilling, a white blouse is a threatening terror. I have a series of traumatic memories...

I realized in recent years how much of my life was spent volunteering. I am over it. It is always the same people that "volunteer" for things as well. Some people never donate their time for anything. I hope you enjoyed your trip. My Dad's parent's were from the West coast (Ayrshire) and we still have family there that we are close too. My ankle surgery made my trip there not possible this year!

Thank you so much for this introspective video - Im not the best at letting go of treasures! - but thanks to your words of wisdom - I reached out to 2 older friends to attend an Art Affair coming up in November 2 & they all agreed to go! Really trying to encourage old friends who need a new positive day trip! I'm hoping for the best experience! 💕 i reached out to 2 older

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Exactly!

I got all of them out of my life!

love it!

Whenever you feel that feeling of hesitation when you see their name on the phone, listen to your inner voice and take appropriate action. Release the stress and anguish from your body. I spent almost 6 months dodging my half-sister's phone calls instead of dealing with my issues with her the first moment of uneasiness. Once I explained to her how I felt and could articulate my awkwardness, the phone calls/texts stopped and she is essentially a Facebook friend. Nice greenhouse and your brother-in-law is talented.

Wonderful advise to declutter - I’ve dropped a few friends & have been wondering what to say when they call. Hmmm the phone has not been them. Perhaps the feelings were mutual…. Happily noted