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The Exjw Family
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Hey! We're Kayleigh and Paddy. We spent 30 years of our lives in the high control group known as Jehovah’s Witnesses.
In 2019 we escaped the grips of the cult and started a new life with (and for) our kids.
Welcome to the rawness of life post-cult.
THIS is our journey.
In 2019 we escaped the grips of the cult and started a new life with (and for) our kids.
Welcome to the rawness of life post-cult.
THIS is our journey.
Making Channel Changes
What next? Reflecting on 5 years since leaving the Jehovah's Witness cult and making big decisions on how we have evolved and how this channel will evolve.
#exjw #jehovahswitnesses #lifestyle #trauma #traumarecovery #
#exjw #jehovahswitnesses #lifestyle #trauma #traumarecovery #
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Welcome to the Vault
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Join us for a chat and a bit of a dive into all things Fallout looking at the parallels we've drawn from our own experience of exiting the Jehovah's Witness cult. #falloutseries #fallout #trauma #traumarecovery #cult #exjw
Do You Have Traditions?
Просмотров 2535 месяцев назад
In this video we discuss what new traditions we've built as a family since leaving Jehovah's Witnesses and why these traditions are important to us. ........................................................................................... #jehovahswitnesses #exjw #watchtower #escape #ptsd #trauma #cult
Trigger Happy - 5 Trigger Words After Leaving the JW Cult
Просмотров 5815 месяцев назад
Join us for a cuppa and some chit chat about a few words associated with the cult that tend to trigger a trauma response in us. It may be 5 years since leaving the Jehovah's Witnesses, but the triggers still catch us out. #exjw #jehovahswitnesses #cult #watchtower #elder #pioneer #trauma #ptsd #triggers #escape
5 Years of Cult Freedom - Where Are We Now?
Просмотров 6 тыс.6 месяцев назад
A look at the last 5 years since leaving Jehovah's Witnesses. Cult recover is not so easy. We take a look at life post-cult through the lens of the five stages of grief. #exjw #jehovahswitnesses #cult #watchtower #elder #pioneer #trauma
It Didn't Go To Plan
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We're unexpectedly back in Ireland after some European travel. Just a short video to say hello and have a little catch up.
Secret Past Unearthed
Просмотров 3,3 тыс.2 года назад
While packing boxes in preparation for our upcoming travels to Bali, we unearthed some cult paraphernalia we didn't realise we still had lurking in the closet. As mentioned in the video, we've set up an Instagram account to facilitate anyone who would like to chat further. You can find us on instagram @theexjwfamily As always, thanks for the support and we're always here with a listening ear.
We ARE alive. We Promise!
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Sorry we've been on the DL folks. We explain why in the video!
Your Field Service Stories - Doorstep Serial Killer
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We read some of your stories, and they're so good...and some are very scary too :O
You Win Some You Lose Some - ExJWs and Friendship
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Looking back, a lot of friends were lost during our journey into, thought, and out of the cult. That might seem a bit depressing...and that's because it is. However, every cloud has a silver lining. In this video, we talk about different ways ExJWs can rekindle relationships and how this can actually be a good method for healing when you leave the cult. As always, tread with caution. Just becau...
A Blessing in Disguise
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Did you guys leave before Caleb and Sophia and the foray into video? If you weren't that fortunate, what did you think of these twisted little animations?
So UNGRATEFUL!
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We were talking the other day about how it was difficult to be truly grateful for anything when in the cult. We were told that this world is temporary...that we shouldn't invest in it because the new system will come soon. So, we subdued a lot of things including our appreciation and gratitude. These are things we've been working on since we've left and it's definitely a work in progress. I kno...
THAT is the ExJW Question...
Просмотров 2,1 тыс.2 года назад
As Ex JWs it's only natural to want to wake folks up. HOWEVER! Are they instances when we shouldn't wake someone up? Even someone we live? It's a tricky answer and we don't think there is a right or wrong answer. But we share our thoughts on the matter here along with an experience of someone we thought would never leave Watchtower...and we didn't want to wake them up...at least initially...but...
This is What Happened After We Left
Просмотров 3,5 тыс.2 года назад
You don't need us to tell you how crazy it is leaving the cult. But something we've found is often overlooked is what people get up to after they leave and move on. We think it's important to talk about that because it gives folks still going through the motions hope that there is more to life that the grief and stress that comes with leaving. Things do improve and CAN improve drastically when ...
Getting Baptized Too Young & Disfellowshipped
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Getting Baptized Too Young & Disfellowshipped
5 Things You Should Know - When Waking Up
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5 Things You Should Know - When Waking Up
They Don't Save Lives - They Take Them Away
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They Don't Save Lives - They Take Them Away
Why I Left - Elder's Wife & Pioneer
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Why I Left - Elder's Wife & Pioneer
Why I Left - Former Elder & Pioneer
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Why I Left - Former Elder & Pioneer
I can only imagine what that was like. I left as a second generation JW back in 2009. I had not spouse or kids. I stepped away from my family due to drama alone. I had no support but I'm blessed that I made friends very easily. What hurt me... I was aimless. I didn't know my purpose anymore I started studying philosophy through Jordan Peterson. (yeah I know) I read Martin Luther Kings sermons, A knock at Midnight and the Strength to Love which is my favorite book! These people inspired me that humans were mostly good. I dedicated myself to helping the people around me. I dedicated myself to challenging myself to make my career the best I can. I went back to school in 2021 thanks to reimbursement for my company. I know I will be an engineer. That's my purpose. Find your purpose too.
Do you have social media?
Life's worse for me twenty years out than the first few years after leaving Watchtower. If I wasn't shunned I could get happier. Zero family.
Good Job🙏👏👍
this "woman" never loved the truth - she loved her human family more than God or Jesus - she never realized that Jesus said to the adulteress woman to "sin no more" as this spiritual adulteress woman has no respect for authority
Deal with it at the time . Hating kids is untrue ..But I wasn't in your congregation,did you visit other congratulations? Deal with it at the point of time stand up as a father and a mother that's your God given responsibility...Ah yes let the kids rule the parents ! .weak
Their daughter’s instincts were correct. Just a baby, but a full grown spirit.
Welcome to your new life xx so pleased for you all. There WILL BE MANY MORE THAT WILL WAKE.
All the best!
When I think of a cult, I guess only consider one factor in trying to define whether it is or isn’t. That is, how free/painless is it for someone to leave? I had no idea it was this difficult for JWs to leave their religion. I grew up Mormon, and while there is some difficulty in leaving, it seems far far more difficult for JWs. I’m glad you were able to come to a knowledge of the truth, and even more glad you were able to do it with your family. God Bless.
I love your experience and i am grateful for your sharing your experience, however your can't say the elders made you am apostate. No one can make you do anything. You yourself choose to be one. Own it 👏👏 Also, that elder who broke down crying on your couch, he is a victim himself of an abusive cult, it may have been his only safe space to talk and he wanted some compassion. I hope you at least made him a cup of tea. Hurt people hurt people. End the cycle and be the bigger person
Thank you for sharing what a emotional story there are so less woman who shares the story there are my daughter what’s the first who doesn’t want anyone a jw on here 14 e aged and I respect her decision. In 2018. She wanted to live now and do nice things. Than my husband he was a servant he don’t want anything anymore stop being whit meeting. So I think I don’t want in paradise Whiteout my husband and daughter. And I have been inactive from 2019. In 2024 came the documentaire named van God los in the Netherlands 🇳🇱 they showed child abusing and how they handled that’s sort of things I was shocked. Than I read crisis of confidence from Raymond franz. That was my decision to finally quit eternally ❤️
Beautifully delivered. Thank you.
Something to note is when the first president of the Watchtower Corporation C T Russell was preaching Pyramidology through his magazine Zion's Watchtower and his book(s) , he proclaimed himself a true worshipper and faithful slave to Jehovah and his son Jesus Christ. Through this nonsensical theology he proclaimed that Jesus took to his heavenly throne in 1874 and that 1914 was likely the year of Armageddon and yes he made money from these publications particularly after his public speeches . True Christians are to listen carefully to what people who claim to be Christian preachers, to see if their teachings are inline with what the bible says and how Jesus himself instructed. If they are going beyond was written or given to say, they are false prophets/profits $$$ and to be shunned , disfellowshipped from association. 1 John 4:1 ....... Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world. Adherent true Christians should also be aware of how condemning a false prophet is in god's eyes as Revelation 20:10 says .... 10 And the devil, who deceived them, was thrown into the lake of burning sulphur, where the beast and the false prophet had been thrown. They will be tormented day and night for ever and ever. There is NO redemption or forgiveness for false prophets , even worse people who make money from their false apostate teachings. I was brought on this religion and I don't hate JWS rather I truly love and care about their well being, I still have family in this pretentiously corrupt religion.
I don't know the exact numbers but someone wrote there was approximately 20,000 pedos in the jws pedophile database that they refused to hand over to authorities. These never got investigated by police. This is my understanding. Its a very dangerous cult for children. Protect your kids, stay away from jws. Between that and deadly blood doctrine. Yikes. Run.
Just discovered your channel. What you said Kate about not liking change and change to routines linked with childhood difficulties really struck a chord with me. Good to know we're understood and not alone. Looking forward to watching your other videos...starting from oldest onwards...x😊
They never force you to pioneering
Oh really? well sign me up! I just have to ignore the global child sex abuse cover ups. All the dead from suicide and blood doctrine. What's NOT to love.
I was a very active witness for 41 years , I remember the word apostate being said like a really horrible word. They are APOSTATE! Like a cuss word. When I finally woke up? I looked up the word in a dictionary I cracked up. Its just a change of opinion but the way its said? It's like your for sure going to die! Geez. Lol
Is it any wonder why some Jehovah's Witnesses leave Jehovah? So did Adam and Eve rebelled. Was Jehovah a bad parent? GENESIS 3:6 So did Jehovah's own chosen people betrayed Him. DEUTERONOMY 7:6 / PSALMS 78:40-41 So did Judas betray Jesus. Was Jesus a bad teacher? MATTHEW 27:3 So did many Angels leave heaven. Is heaven so bad? JUDE 6, REVELATION 12:9
You may decide to ask a friend to be a moderator for your channel. I did that for another exjw channel for a year and a half. A moderator can answer simple questions.... perhaps questions that you've aleady answered before. And a moderator can alert you if there is a time-sensitive or urgent post. A moderator can direct a person to one of your videos that answers a particular question. I'm starting a very small Bible study group, so I'm not moderating any youtube channel currently.
You seem like such a nice couple. I'm glad you both woke up from Watchtower together. But, sorry to mention this, I'm having trouble hearing you on your video. I have to put my ear to my tablet's speaker, and then I can't see you. Please raise your volume next time.
God has saved you. It happened to me and many others. Holdfast to the truth of the Bible and don't lose sight of the book of John. Just don't use the nwt. Many excellent word for word from Greek and Hebrew translations include NASB 2020, and the New Living Translation, and the ESV. Let the Holy Spirit guide you, just as it is written. We worship in Spirit and Truth, not needing any human to teach us anything but only the Holy Spirit Himself and true scriptures. Keep going, and holdfast to Jesus as He is the way., just as it is written. Please don't give up on Him x
We dont have to give theses knowingly liars a letter. May you have peace
Showìng theìr immaturity. Jesus said 1 or 2 in his name...Jesus in their mist PLEASE IT IS JW WHO ARE APOSTATE.
You all take care..xx
Elders were in need of behaving...not to mention perving. I would stand in a court and argue all of stat. I believe in Father and Jesus..but having read the Shepherd book and Branch manual,,They are a joke. And if you read Jeremiah 23 and Ezekiel 34,etc... We go to the Father and /Jesus..not uneducated immature males
You ignore them ..Keep away..Chriand Father direct us...Not tweedle twith males and females.
Using your brain of course. Jw is the apostates. Yes my friend saw fist fights after heavy drinking...Australia-whats expected
Trauma informed therapy (somatic, EFT, etc) can really help.
yes you had no free will its all everyone els fault
True that. That's life in a cult.
36 years ago - after 15 years serving the WTS - I was praying and had a real awareness that Jesus Christ was so much more than I had been taught (that he was the Archangel Michael - do they still teach that?). I just knew that I had encountered Jesus and he very quickly led me to another bible translation I had in the house and spoke to me from it. It was amazing and I’ve never looked back. I disassociated very quickly and after listening to many testimonies recently I realise just how fortunate I was - I didn’t really have a ‘waking up’ period but went from a deep sleep to being totally awake all in a few hours. My husband never joined the JW’s and my children were just 13 and 10 at the time so I didn’t lose family members but of course I lost friends. It’s wonderful to see so many people leaving these days, probably due to all the online information. I would love to see my old friends again even after all these years. Thank you for your story, it was really interesting.
I am so happy that you have escaped Satan’s cult with your children!!! God has great plans ahead for you. This is a wonderful channel and you both are made for the camera and media. Please double down on your efforts the expose the demonic group known as JW. Do not respect those who stay in JW, they are being nurtured by Satan and his demonic leaders- they have chosen which side they benefit from, hell is their final destination. To really grow away from the cult you must realize the millions of people who have been sexually abused, psychologically abused and led to suicide. God Shall have his day with this JW organization- shout it from the highest mountain tops!! You are the luckiest people on earth. Well Done!
Wow! can't believe the elders said you should pioneer just because you didn't have a job! Encourage you maybe but say you HAD to. That's outrageous. Wow; was your congregation somewhere most of us might consider as 'rough;? and therefore lots of members from rough families because the way that elder behaved by pushing you out when your child was being noisy was OTT. some of what you say is based on the congregation and one can't judge a whole religion on the behaviour of one congregation as humans are very fallible and some congregations go astray - just saying. Not saying that you are wrong about the organization just saying how certain people are in a congregation isn't in itself a good way of judging a whole religion. But child abuse in the organization wow I found out about that maybe a year ago, I had no idea and it is so shocking; not that it happens but how the elders weren't stopping it or protecting children.
I truly wish you both great success ❤. Good for you guys.
Is this a no to Christmas and women's lib?
For those born into the cult the best quote about the JW organization I have ever heard: "They were the very first abusers in your life." The abuse from them was all encompassing, all aspects of your life. So very hard to get over.
Its just more fear mongering being pushed by the top GB men who know the actual member numbers are sliding dramatically in recent years. A few government intervention regarding human rights has propped up and influenced to some JWS that see the great tribulation is just around the corner, so expect persecution brothers and sisters. The WTS/JWS opposed Jesus in most of its doctrines going back to the late 1800's , they were and are the false prophet apostates that the bible warns about and is a very severe sin without redemption or salvation as Revelation 20:10 says .... 10 And the devil, who deceived them, was thrown into the lake of burning sulfur, where the beast and the false prophet had been thrown. They will be tormented day and night for ever and ever.
What on earth is your tshirt about?
It is no accident that Christ said, “By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another” (John 13:35). He did not say they will know you by your politics, your simple living, or your dress. None of these things are primary, outward distinguishing marks of Christians. Neither do we look alike, eat alike, or speak alike. But there is something that marks Christians outwardly. What is the distinguishing mark of the Christian community? It is gospel love-unfettered, abounding, sacrificial, giving love.
My dear girl you overworked yourself .God only expect what can you CAN do. The little girlcould learn the truth about thatwhen she could understand. You have no beef with the truth.
Good decision there is so much life after the escape ….;100% a great idea on the footage would be a good watch
Might have to change the name to attract a diff/bigger audience
We've been think about this although we've not come to any specific name decisons yet :)...why is choosing a name so difficult?!haha
@@TheExjwFamily Your channel name should be: free at last!
make longer videos
This is definitely something we'd like to do :)
Happy to hear about all you want to share. Its great that you are thinking ahead for what you can share with your kids. Its hard as a parent to get across all the life lessons they can benefit from. If you make these videos, they can learn the lesson without you coming across to them as lecturing, because that never works. Its always beneficial to fully process all the things that are bothering you. It helps to realize that you were learning from negative experiences, its part of the life journey & let go of any blame for making mistakes. Its the secrets that cause fear, not the truth.
Such wonderful words of wisdom there, thank you. So much to learn on this journey called life.
I’ve been following your channel since the very beginning & although I’m no longer in a relationship with no children I’m sure I will benefit from your experience, honesty & love. Your ending reminded me of a song from Celine Dion & Luciano Pavarotti entitled “I Hate You Then I Love You”, please give it a google lyrics & melody if you’re not familiar. 😅 I think it’s every couples anthem. Unfortunately it didn’t remain “Our Song” as the Cult’s indoctrination interfered with our remaining together, you were very fortunate to have left “together”. Life goes on….I just thought I deserved better, refusing to be subjected to their treatment of someone who simply left because I changed my mind! Unconditional Love is what we are all deserving of! Take care cause I care! ♥️🥰
Thank you for your kind words. Unconditional love is so important, and making that decision for yourself knowing you deserve better than what you were receiving is something we can all learn from. Thank you for sharing this with us. We are so very grateful that we managed to make it through leaving the cult together, I know this is not the end result for so many. Sending love :)
Great idea!! Love it!!
Thank you! 😊
After I got my hands on the book " shepherd the flock"....it opened my eyes to a lot of stuff...I'm still shocked to be quite honest.
That book definitely open our eyes to so much, too. Very shocking.
Is there any watchtower literature ,old or new , that made you question the jehovah's witnesses religion? This is a question for everyone. I buy any books that can help me to witness to any jehovah's witnesses who has doubts about their own religion. Please let me know so I can add it to my collection. Thanks
I love how wholesome you two are ☺️ what's your business called? I'd love to check out your games etc!
We're just a couple of mad hatters :D Our games business is Penny Dragon Games, you can mainly find us on tiktok @pennydragonofficial and our website is www.pennydragon.games
@@TheExjwFamily great! I'm also thinking given your location you might actually know the brother who studied with me 😂 there's another trigger 🫢
I'll look for the show now. I love your accents.
Thanks a mil for putting up with us haha :)
Don’t forget that while they originally made it look like the vaults were for a “just in case” scenario, their plan was actually contingent on the destruction of all other humans, as it was the only way they could see an end to all the badness in humans to end. That’s when the JW connection really hit for me!
A resounding YES to this!