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SarruhTonin
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Добавлен 20 окт 2021
Mental Health and Wellness
BPD Awareness and Recovery
Personal Development
Hi, I'm Sarruh! I'm 32 years old and have been in remission from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) for over 2 years. I was misdiagnosed for 12 years because the condition is so misunderstood, so I hope to combat the stigma and misinformation by sharing my knowledge and experience.
This channel is not only focused on BPD or BPD recovery. As listed above, I'll also be primarily discussing general mental health and wellness, as well as self improvement. I'll touch on some other hobbies and interests of mine, too. I'm hoping there will be a little bit of something to help anyone here.
Please subscribe to the channel and turn on notifications. Doing that (and liking, commenting on, and sharing my videos) really helps the success of the channel and my ability to reach more people who could benefit from the content. I appreciate the support!
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BPD Awareness and Recovery
Personal Development
Hi, I'm Sarruh! I'm 32 years old and have been in remission from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) for over 2 years. I was misdiagnosed for 12 years because the condition is so misunderstood, so I hope to combat the stigma and misinformation by sharing my knowledge and experience.
This channel is not only focused on BPD or BPD recovery. As listed above, I'll also be primarily discussing general mental health and wellness, as well as self improvement. I'll touch on some other hobbies and interests of mine, too. I'm hoping there will be a little bit of something to help anyone here.
Please subscribe to the channel and turn on notifications. Doing that (and liking, commenting on, and sharing my videos) really helps the success of the channel and my ability to reach more people who could benefit from the content. I appreciate the support!
*As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
What are People with Borderline Personality Disorder REALLY Like? More BPD Misconceptions
In this chapter of my "Borderline Myths and Misconceptions" series, I break down common misconceptions about personality traits and other characteristics of people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
Misdiagnosis and Stereotypes
A lot of people with BPD get misdiagnosed because of stereotypes and misinformation. Misdiagnosis can delay getting the right treatment, and since BPD is treatable, this can be a big problem. Stereotypes also lead to negative views about BPD, which can affect how people with the disorder see themselves and hinder their recovery.
Debunking Common Myths
Myth 1: Lack of Self-Awareness
One myth is that people with BPD aren’t self-aware. In reality, many people wit...
Misdiagnosis and Stereotypes
A lot of people with BPD get misdiagnosed because of stereotypes and misinformation. Misdiagnosis can delay getting the right treatment, and since BPD is treatable, this can be a big problem. Stereotypes also lead to negative views about BPD, which can affect how people with the disorder see themselves and hinder their recovery.
Debunking Common Myths
Myth 1: Lack of Self-Awareness
One myth is that people with BPD aren’t self-aware. In reality, many people wit...
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The Truth About the Cure for Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
Просмотров 8554 месяца назад
In this video, I delve into a sentence that's been bothering me lately: "There’s no cure for BPD." While it's true that Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) doesn't have a straightforward "cure" like some other medical conditions, the statement can be misleading. I discuss what "cure" actually means in medical terms and how it applies to conditions like bacterial infections versus chronic illn...
Stop Believing these BPD Misconceptions! 5 Borderline Myths Debunked
Просмотров 1,2 тыс.5 месяцев назад
This video is the first in a series breaking down common BPD myths and misconceptions which lead to Borderline Personality Disorder being one of the most misunderstood and highly stigmatized mental health conditions there is. It's crucial to challenge these beliefs since they can have so many detrimental effects, including: - Stigma and Discrimination: This perpetuation can lead to social isola...
8 Dimensions of Wellness: Stop Settling and Start Thriving
Просмотров 7386 месяцев назад
In this video, we explore Wellness in Eight Dimensions - a widely accepted model by Dr. Margaret (Peggy) Swarbrick that is currently utilized by various organizations, including The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA). Whether you're a wellness enthusiast or someone seeking positive change, this video is for you. The 8 Dimensions of Wellness apply to everyone, and...
Reviewing Self Help DBT Workbooks - Learn Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills at Home
Просмотров 1,5 тыс.7 месяцев назад
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is a form of talk therapy that is most well known for its efficacy in Borderline Personality Disorder treatment. Despite its popularity for BPD treatment, it has also been found effective for treating other conditions such as depression, anxiety disorders, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Substance Use Disorders (SUDs...
Intro to Dialectical Behavior Therapy and DBT Skills
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What is DBT? Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is a form of talk therapy that helps treat many different mental health issues, especially related to emotion regulation and impulse control, but it’s most well known for its efficacy in Borderline Personality Disorder treatment. Although some stigma and misunderstanding still remains, before DBT, BPD was generally accepted to be completely untrea...
5 Quick Tips for Managing Holiday Stress or Depression
Просмотров 2108 месяцев назад
If feeling stressed or depressed is getting in the way of your holiday spirit this year, this video’s for you! The holidays can cause anxiety even for those who don’t usually have mental health issues. It can be very overwhelming to try to handle all the tasks, activities, and events this season - especially on top of everything else we need to manage. It’s important to use healthy coping skill...
How to Be More Productive: To Do List Mistakes & A New Success Strategy
Просмотров 3168 месяцев назад
Do you feel the holiday stress coming on? Your to-do lists are probably filling up, and they may be unknowingly doing more harm than good. Although we make them to increase productivity and focus better, to do lists can cause anxiety and depression, decrease motivation, and make it harder to get things done. In this video, I discuss the problems with our to-do lists, how we can modify them to m...
Better Than Medication - Improve Your Life Using the Power of Gratitude Practice
Просмотров 4008 месяцев назад
This week is Thanksgiving, but in this video I discuss why we should all be practicing gratitude 365 days a year. Gratitude practice is incredibly underrated despite being one of the most powerful tools available to improve our quality of life. It's impossible to list all the benefits of gratitude practice in a short video, but I discuss some of the positive effects it has. If the effects of gr...
The Reality of BPD Remission - How Far Can Recovery Go?
Просмотров 7 тыс.9 месяцев назад
*TW - (non-graphic or detailed) mention of personal experience with SH and SI It’s the two-year anniversary of my BPD remission! Even though Borderline Personality Disorder is usually noted as a lifelong condition with no known cure, remission is very common especially as patients grow older. But how far can recovery go? Can BPD symptoms go away, or do we just learn how to cope with and manage ...
How to Manage Stress and Regulate Emotion Without Depending on Others - Self Soothing 101
Просмотров 9229 месяцев назад
Self soothing techniques are vital for distress tolerance, interpersonal effectiveness, reducing anxiety, and improving overall mental health and quality of life. Self-soothing is a coping strategy that allows us to regulate emotions and calm ourselves without the help of others, especially when experiencing stress or overwhelming emotions. Even if you have a support system, depending too much ...
Abandonment Issues and Insecure Attachment in Relationships - Understanding and Overcoming
Просмотров 5209 месяцев назад
Fear of abandonment is a common anxiety that can make it difficult to form and maintain close, healthy, secure relationships. Although abandonment issues and insecure attachment can stem as far back as early childhood, and can be difficult to even recognize in some, they can be overcome. Awareness and understanding is key to working though this fear, so in this video I talk about common causes ...
MORE Advice for Overcoming BPD Symptoms and Traits - Borderline Personality Disorder (Part 2)
Просмотров 1,4 тыс.9 месяцев назад
This video contains BPD advice for people with Borderline Personality Disorder symptoms - from someone who's currently in BPD remission. This is part 2 of a collection of general advice for anyone with Borderline symptoms or traits (whether they’re diagnosed or not) who want to understand themselves better and start on their own road to recovery. In Part 1 of this video (ruclips.net/video/BdU29...
Advice for People with BPD Symptoms or Traits (Part 1) - Borderline Personality Disorder
Просмотров 2,9 тыс.9 месяцев назад
I’ve been in remission from Borderline Personality Disorder for almost 2 years, and since I stay involved with online BPD communities, I see a lot of people with similar questions, concerns, or misconceptions about their BPD diagnosis or BPD symptoms. This is a collection of general advice for anyone with Borderline traits (whether they’re diagnosed or not) who want to understand themselves bet...
Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder - BPD Symptoms and Diagnosis (DSM-5)
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What is Borderline Personality Disorder? The DSM-5, which licensed professionals use to diagnose mental health conditions, defines BPD as “a pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts,” and lists 9 symptoms that makes up those patterns - an individual must mee...
Simple Breathing Exercise for Anxiety and Self-Criticism - Inhale My Friend; Exhale My Friend
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Simple Breathing Exercise for Anxiety and Self-Criticism - Inhale My Friend; Exhale My Friend
5 Basic Tips for Getting Through Hard Times (I'm Depressed)
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5 Basic Tips for Getting Through Hard Times (I'm Depressed)
Preface to My Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Videos
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Preface to My Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Videos
The Key to True Change and Self Improvement
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The Key to True Change and Self Improvement
Welcome to My Channel! [Introduction]
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Welcome to My Channel! [Introduction]
Your videos are the best ive found on BPD. Keep up the amazing work.
Wow, thank you so much! That means so incredibly much to me. I'm going to be focusing on some non-BPD-specific videos for a little (like this one), but I think they'll still be helpful to other people on their journeys. I need to focus on topics that are more currently relevant to where I am right now, but there will definitely be more BPD content down the road.
I’m glad that you are back. I’ve missed your positive perspective.
Aw, thank you so much! I've been on a break while I work through some things in my life, but I'm in the beginning stages of a new video. I appreciate your continued support 😊
Thank you. This was very validating and helpful! I’ve been misdiagnosed and masking my symptoms for so long because of the stigma. Now that I’m finally coming to terms with it I’m embracing the gift of emotional sensitivity while learning that I can change and I’m not a bad person. 🙏🏼
Hi! I'm so glad you found this video helpful! It's fantastic that you're working through the diagnosis like that - it can be difficult rewriting our long-held understandings of ourselves. Emotional sensitivity seems to be the main building block for BPD. I haven't found anyone with the diagnosis yet who hasn't had emotional sensitivity from a young age (although some had to learn to suppress emotions in their environments). So yes, even without having symptoms of BPD anymore, that emotional sensitivity remains. It can feel like a curse, but as you say, it's also a gift, and you can absolutely learn to embrace it and use it to your advantage. I'm super excited for you on your journey. I seriously love hearing stuff like this, so I appreciate you commenting. I hope you'll stick around and check out my other videos. I think you'll find them helpful as well! Best of luck with everything.
This is a great video. Thank you for making it. At 37 I am learning to heal. These are all great suggestions and absolutely on point. 😊
Thank you! I'm so glad you found it helpful! And congratulations on choosing the path of healing - it's not always the easy choice, but it's absolutely worth it to build the life you deserve. I hope you find some of my other videos helpful as well! I'd love to hear from you again ❤️
What about the masking though? My bpd ex said she wore a mask 99% of the time. I have no idea who she was
My response depends on what kind of mask she was referring to. Masking as in not showing symptoms externally while experiencing them internally? Or wearing a mask as in pretending to be a different person due to a lack of identity? People (with BPD or not) wear "masks" for many different reasons. Either way, I'm sorry you feel that way with your ex, that's really difficult to deal with.
@SarruhTonin she said to be what she thinks other people want. I honestly think shes npd & bpd
I wondered about remission, just recently diagnosed at 52 years of age I wondered if remission was possible for someone as old as me.
I'm glad you found the channel, then! I absolutely believe it's possible at later ages, and I've seen first hand accounts of people who have been through it. It can of course be more difficult to undo the behavior patterns if they've been set in and reinforced for so long, and there can be extra trauma to have to heal from because of the extended experience of symptoms (and their effects) before reaching that point. Even as you get better, it can be difficult not to resent those years that seem lost. But "better late than ever" couldn't be more true, and you have the opportunity to make something of the suffering. You can use the new diagnosis to better understand yourself, get appropriate treatment, transform your life, and finally align with your core self and fulfill your life's true purpose. It's not easy work, but it's beyond beyond beyond worth it. I wish you the best of luck and hope you'll subscribe if you haven't and check out my other videos. Even the topics that aren't BPD specific have somehow contributed to my overall recovery journey.
I'm still looking for what a psychotic break or breakdown looks like on a pwBPD.
Hello! I don’t get into in-depth descriptions of those episodes since it can be very triggering, but I’m positive there are others who do. I hope you find other content in my videos helpful, though.
Missdiagnosed for decades, with depression. Diagnosed one year ago and it was a big relief for me. Now I know why I am "odd"..
I'm sorry you dealt with the long misdiagnoses as well, but I'm really glad you were able to figure it out and found it to be a relief like I did. I wouldn't say "odd," though! Unique! We all have our differences, but I like having a thorough understanding of why I am how I am.
There are a few loyal, loving people out there. Youll know them by their gentle persistence and refusal to exploit but rather have an instinct to protect. Give them some trust and be very logical, dont allow any emotions to make a decision, ask them how they feel about you and what they want for and with you, then believe them!
Sarruh can you please describe what it feels like when people are trying to reach out and help you? For me, living with someone with BPD it was like dealing with someone that was a back hole or bottomless pit. Anything I did was consumed and reciprocated back less and less.
Hi, that's a great question - but a very difficult one to answer. Beyond looking for emotional support, compassion, and company, I usually didn't feel like anyone else actually *could* help me. I often felt like something was broken inside me and if there was any chance that it could be fixed (which I frequently doubted), it'd have to be by my doing. I also have a history of being a people pleaser and defining my worth by what I could do for others - and had relationships where this was reinforced - so I felt guilty for wanting help and often tried to make up for it by giving more. So I think this question really depends on the person. Support, understanding, and compassion can go a long long way, but if someone is not getting professional help and/or working on themselves, the type of help others do try to provide won't necessarily be truly helpful. There's a fine and often unclear line between supporting and enabling. I'm sorry for your experience, but it is nice that you wanted to help. It sounds like it was either not the type of help they needed (not necessarily your fault) or they weren't open to accepting help.
@@SarruhTonin Wonderful and insightful answer Sarruh! I greatly appreciate the response :)
Thank you for these insightful videos
Thank YOU for watching and commenting!! I really appreciate it, and I’m so glad you like them.
@@SarruhTonin I admire your courage to help others understand the condition
Hey Sarruh!!! I've got to say, your voice is so calming and cool. It makes listening to painful stuff much more bearable.
Ah thank you so much! Thats such a nice compliment. I’m so glad you enjoy it and find it comforting and helpful ☺️
So. How did you "cure" yourself of BPD?
Hi, thank you for watching and commenting! I don’t like to use the term “cure” - please watch my previous video if you want more info on that - but there’s no simple answer to how I’ve gotten to this point in my recovery, either. My approach has been (and continues to be) holistic. A big reason I made this channel is so that over time, I can cover a wide range of different topics that have contributed to my overall growth, healing, and improvement. I hope you find them helpful!
I appreciate how real you are. Even the heavy topic break!!
Aw thank you so much! These heavier videos are challenging. I have so much empathy for other people who are affected by this disorder, and discussing these topics can stir up some unpleasant memories and emotions for myself as well. I’m fortunate it’s in the rear view mirror for me, but I still have plenty of healing to do ❤️ the next video will NOT be as heavy though, and it’s not going to be BPD specific. Im in a big growth period right now and want to focus on some concepts currently relevant to my journey for a bit.
I did it in the street...now I need a Dr..no...ok...was just hoping...yeah. that's a foreign word to us. Really need a hand up...not expecting anything Except to have to crawl out of hell on my own... please...I'm tired..ReA w BPD... partially in remission. Need a Dr..?!
Hi, I'm sorry for whatever you're going through, and I hope you find the help and support you need. You'll get through this.
My favorite family member comment by her family. About my ex's BPD. "She seams fine, she's just trying to get attention" This after her 3rd, crisis related hospitalization. (About one week each)Due to Her anger directed inward over her self-sabotaging and impulsive, financially delusional actions. Years of miss diagnosis😂 and others minimizing her symptoms as everything from childishness to poor nutrition. It's bad enough fighting BPD, having to fight with miss diagnosis and stereotypes, sucks. It just makes it harder to come out the other end intact
It really is a shame, and unfortunately a lot of people don’t take these symptoms seriously until it’s too late. It’s nice that you could at least see the truth of her experience even if her family couldn’t. I really hope my content can help some people better understand the condition and reduce that invalidation and stigma.
That's a funny name indeed :) Accepting fixable things as inevitable is a big problem across the board, and it's always sad to see. Thank you for trying to undo that!
I don’t believe most people don’t truly want to improve - I think they just don’t believe they really can. Far less is hardwired in us than a lot of people think. It’s all about that growth mindset!!! Thanks for watching and commenting 😊
I kinda liked the black screen tho😇
Haha oh good! I ended up keeping it 😋
Hope U feel better it's a tricky thing bpd anything can set it off
Self soothing beats self defeating behavior for sure tyou😊
I couldn't agree more!
Whom can tell the difference? Which is which? Seperating prize fighters bent on killing the host. BD and BPD that is.
Kloing!! 😂 But on the sad side; i just found out i have quiet bpd along with anxiety and depression…at age 56 this is a bit of a shock and needs time for new selfcare routines…thanks for this info and good luck! ✊🏽🙏🏽👍🏽
Thank you for sharing and good luck on your continued journey. You're doing important work for yourself and other. Thank you.
Thank you so much. I hope you’ll subscribe if you like my content. I’ve been posting less frequently lately, but there’s plenty more to come!!
Hello! New subscriber here. I've been binging your videos. Thank you for making them. I strongly suspect I am Borderline and have consumed a lot of BPD and mindfulness info. Currently reading through "I hate you, don't leave me" which has been really helpful. I plan on finding a therapist soon and starting DBT. I have a lot of work to do still but wouldn't have gotten to this point where i'm comfortable with seeking therapy, were it not for people like you who have shared their progress. Your care and attention on these wellness topics is appreciated 🤘
Welcome!!! Thanks for commenting! I’m so glad you’re finding my content helpful. It’s great that you’re trying to better understand yourself and your symptoms, and that you’re seeking professional help. Best of luck on your journey. I’m rooting for you and hope to hear from you again!!
Sarah is the best bpd person she lives it.and also lot of other videos out there I've learned so much..tyou all❤❤
Good to see Sarah,is fatigue +depression a bpd symptom?
Hes a Weasel!
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I might have an answer!
@@SarruhTonin The comment was supposed to be "witty staging". on another link... Is your mother named Uma? then... She named you like 7 names. ...& then ...l was all like "Can you believe that is all one baby?" -Weird Beaner ...because retrofitted lentils -Weird Beaner
My mother has been gone for a long time now, but she was borderline. I wish that something had been done for her for her sake and mine.
I’m so sorry for your loss, and for the effects her condition must’ve had on you both.
@@SarruhTonin Thank you.
Really well ✅ done. Thank you
Thank you! I’m glad you liked it
Okay, I watched this video last week and had to come back. I have actively been able to pull myself out of a crying spell using this! Rather than feeding into the sadness, I was able to flip the switch. I was mourning the loss of a friend, mid cry I remembered this video and was able to speak everything I was grateful for in meeting them etc. Thank you(:
@41y554 Thank you so much for commenting this. I got really bad news today about a friend who means a lot to me who has been battling cancer for many years, and I’m currently crying in my bed. I’ve cried a lot today. I know it’s okay to feel what I’m feeling, but I’m going to lean into gratitude instead of totally losing myself in the sadness. I’m glad I could help you, and thank you for helping me in turn at the exact time I really needed it.
Hi Sarruh, thank you for taking the time to make this video. I just ordered Self-Directed DBT Skills through your affiliate and looking forward to going through the workbook.
Aw thanks for the support, and I’m really excited for you! Please let me know what you think of it.
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