Ive been getting more bursts of anger lately when I feel overwhelmed by something I was angry when I clicked on this video but your voice has calmed me
The story of the teacher connects so well with me. I once yelled so hard at my students...to the horror of every one around. Sure they calmed me n all but the embarassment I have felt since makes me wish I had never done that. Anger got me fired twice....it's not worth getting into....thanks for such a comprehensive explanation.👍
Please can you share how you got rid of anger. Am in that phase now, am so embarrassed - Therapy quiet expensive and so I searched you tube and got this content!
I have broken so many things and feel like I'll die an early death from a heart attack from all this anger. I don't think being a chef is a good career for me, the high stress is making my anger worse. I was doing good in quarantine but have been getting angrier ever since I went back to work and it's been super busy. This video helps a lot, thank you for putting things into perspective
@@jonathanoseguera9116 yeahhh in the moment it makes me feel good to get out my anger but almost always immediately afterwards once I do get it all out I feel extreme guilt for making a fool of myself by getting so mad over basically nothing
I had a high stress job, with lots of pushing to get more out of us. Over the years, in the evenings, I would review what happened during the days and how I might preempt some of those problems, or make more preparations. Helped some, but not total.
I was angry so I watched this... After about 3 minutes of watching, I fall asleep. Got up now. Well my anger has gone. Thank you. This video really does work.
When you described the "toward" and "away" emotions it gave me all the answers I needed to know as to why my friend never talked me to again, and it gave me immense closure to hear a precise explanation that she herself would never have given me, and I am very grateful for that.
I get angry because I have a submissive personality, I submit to my friends and others aggression, then when I'm taken advantage of for my soft demeanor I burst out into anger. So I'm either one or the other, no middle ground.
Don't know if this is helpful but as it's so hard to do the breathing when you go from 0-10 you would want to practice other times when it's easier. Practising daily when you're calm, then when you're a bit annoyed. If you wait till you're really angry it will be hard.
@@Krrle4250 very true. I do weekly breathing sessions its called conscious connective breathing. Look it up it can really help aswell as other therapies. But yes when your angry... you dont breath!!
glad to see a video with some practical solutions to anger management. I think some people get triggered and are not aware of how, why, or what to do about it... often regret it later. One thing that I see amiss in our upbringing today is the de-emphasis of sports and physical excercise in schools. It is a natural defuser of tension, and the disciplined athletes that I have known are often the best at managing anger. I remember being in grade school with a gym teacher,, way before his time. He had a way of getting participation at all levels, personal records of achievement, and there was never any humiliation of anyone. I can remember a little girl struggling at doing any chinups. Gradually she accomplished (2) and the whole class cheered with support and excitement. Depends on how it is taught.
My 6th day without SNRI today. Having major problem with anger and spontaneous crying fits. Found your video and it totally stole my focus away from my own emotions for a moment. Which is absolutely wonderful! Thank you for an interesting video!
Verrry nice video. I've been trying to help my coworker/best friend person who has a very extreme anger that manifests every day. He refuses to see a therapist, he even is convinced that breathing techniques do the opposite effect that they do on "normal people" This video has given me some ideas and perspectives of what I can do to help.
Omg you hit the nail on the head!! You described what I have been feeling in a way I could never express! I feel like I have been dealing with anger for years and years as a result of my childhood and you said exactly how I feel! I’m definitely going to try some of your techniques I’ve sometimes not been able to stand myself! Thank you so much for this video
I always recall a time I was mad and it makes me raged. I can’t help but hurt and throw things when I’m mad. I’ll be happy and one second I wanna hurt something. It’s ruining my relationship I really need help. Been like this for years
I had a violent childhood and every action had a reaction. I've had a life of learning body language to protect myself but react as if my life depended on it when the situation is minimal. My anger takes my dignity from me and it can be a very lonely place at times.
I watched this for a counseling act for our assignment :> and man it's good since I do have anger issues too. I shout every time when someone is trying to talk or ask me... I just feel annoyed. Thanks for this.
5:40 “Getting very angry very often is a bigger predictor of early death through heart disease than smoking, bad diet, and lack of exercise put together.” 😵
its interesting what you say about sighing, natures way of calming things down,i`ve done EFT for many years. and thats what happens when its working for me,. i`m tapping then i start sighing heavily
Y'all please pray for me and my girlfriend Jasmine. I have mistreated her with verbal abuse and I pushed her after a big fight. I'm working as hard as I can and praying everyday. Ask that God restores us please, ONLY if I have changed into a better person.
Anger can be a good thing not a bad thing. It clears the air and let's people know where you stand. It aids clear communication and better understanding.
I was molested and abused by my parent, when I was a child. Until I was a young adult, one of my parents had substance abuse issues and would go into enraged fits of anger where they would scream, belittle me, and throw things around the house for hours. On top of that, I was bullied for being a poc who didn't 'act black enough' and had gay parents with substance abuse problems. The anger that I used to experience was overwhelming, at times. I kept trying to find help, but none of the health providers took what I told them seriously. I took martial arts classes and that helped me learn to recognize my patterns of thinking and feeling, as well as channel it into physical fitness, but damn is it tough sometimes. This isn't meant to be a woes me story. I'm just tired of holding onto such terrible experiences.
Although the experiences that I have done through might have not been as bad in terms of severity as yours, but I myself experienced a lot of belittling and emasculating and humiliating behaviour from my parents and at school. I sometimes cannot think if I can ever live as a normal human being, even when I have good days I know the anger, sadness and despair are lurking around and wait to get me. I do suffer from nightmares as well, sometimes I feel like a zombie... I really feel for you and sympathize with you, hope you'll get better
I don't get angry often but when I do it's that burst of angry emotions which makes me loose my senses and I end up doing things or saying things I regret for 10 days after . Tho I say sorry within the first hour of getting angry .
All rich hard Why what I’ve found effective is just writing it out. Write it out physically if you can, if not just type a note on your phone and say why you’re angry. You come to realize why you acted the way you did - and it’s okay if some of the reasons aren’t acceptable - but recognize you are accountable for how you respond to things and realize other people aren’t perfect either.
Mindfulness ! I m practicing mindfulness while I think something. Sometimes even though we are busy conciously still we feel distracted bcz thoughts keep running into the bck of our head. If we are aware of anger n such bursting moments we ll hve more control over ourselves. That's what I think n m practicing. Hope tht helps you 🌼in some way
1. 7-11 breathing technique 2. Describe image of the anger. 3. Approach is to help with less absolutist thinking. Use Socratic questioning (e.g. Can it be possible that others did not have any intention of hurting us? Is it possible that you can be smart yet behave stupidly?)that is nuanced to show our expectations that people should be able to read our minds.
I have a highly sensitive anger 'sense'. My anger is healthy and powerful and provides me with excellent confidence. When I get irritated or offended, I experience a minor stress with the opportunity to accept the new change with a positive outlook in beneficial outcomes. I look forward to practicing anger therapy as a tactic to help others and friends.
It's funny.. My anger comes out when I'm disrespected.. I treat every one with respect... Maybe I shouldnt. I don't know.. Any advice would help greatfuly
It goes like this: Hello how are you oh no thank you no no thank you I said no thank you, why don't you leave me the hell alone!? It's like somebody trying to kidnap you, you SHOULD resist... That is necessary anger/self preservation. Just leave them alone after they leave you alone...
i had for the last 40 years so much stuff that put me in a angry mode, now its overwhelming and it can ruin my day easy. with all that i dont know if i have BPD or antosocial disorder with that but i can tell you its hard to live like that.
Holistically you have to change the inner to control the outer. Becoming angry when needed is normal. But as I tell my own subscribers--staying in that state is not. Suffering from chronic anger causes a few problems. First it impedes your progress. By draining your energy that you should be using to advance yourself. Ever been angry all day at work then skipped that night workout? That's probably why. But it also isn't physically healthy and can lead to long term effects on the heart and doctors now think future cancer as well. Not to mention high blood pressure. There are two simple methods I tell my own people how to control anger. One you have with you--your breathing. You can breathe in a meditative state while walking down the street. You picture a coil slowly unwinding as if you were breathing through your stomach. Slow and in and out. Wind the coil and let it go slowly. It calms you down and if you do it every few hours for maybe ten reps then it keeps you calm. Second--reflect on what you are growing angry about. Is it really going to affect you even four months from now? You'll find many times it won't. So I would use these techniques to minimize anger so you can only progress forward. Hope that helps someone out there---Charles
This is my best solution: Every time life thinks its gonna annoy me, i write it down on my phone. at the end of the day i look back at my notes and for every time life pissed me off, i will go out into my block at night and vandalise something (windows, lifts, doors, lights etc) I havent yet figured out why this works, but i've been systematically doing this now for a month or so, and it has solved the issue of me breaking things in my own house. I guess it kind of feels like every time life throws something at me that i dont like, i can just deflect it onto the cleaner of the block by making his day harder, so ultimately when life tries me, its only upsetting someone else in the long run
@@Linkzero38 Yeah I've thought that to myself loads of times. But its helping to prevent a much bigger issue, i was having to fork out a lot of money to keep replacing shit that I'd destroyed. With this method now at least my home and furniture are safe. If life didnt make me angry i wouldnt have to do it 🤷♂️
Raymond W. Novaco coined the phrase "Anger Management." "We all experience anger; anger only becomes a serious concern when an individual is angry too frequently, too intensely, and for too long." Raymond W. Novaco, 1984
I think my anger stems from me thinking people should be able to do jobs as well as me because I see them as 'easy'. After I've told them the best way to get it done and they still don't get it I just blow up. At them but also just get hot myself and worked up. I don't get paid fuck all in my line of work but the people I work with get a really good wage, time off etc. I get frustrated that they are being paid so much but can't perform the job to my standard knowing that if I was being paid that much I'd expect myself to work as hard as possible to improve myself. Reading that paragraph back it sounds like I'm trying to ask too much from other people and need to mentor more when things don't go to plan. This is an issue as my people skill aren't and never will be a strength. Any pointers or glaring things I've missed
People can't improve if you explode at them. Angry people have been screaming at me expecting me to improve but all they did was made me afraid and resentful. People learn better when they're approached humanely.
I remember getting a tattoo , associate of mines told me he would never get a tattoo like That, I took offense to I got mad a told don't disrespect me, he assured me he ment no disrespect, I realize I was over reacting
I am angry at everything everyday. I play bowls as a hobby and I just snap at everything, we get beat I have to say how angry I am. I swear more. I try gaming to relax and I get riled up at the game and losey temper. My wife says it's a game which triggers me more and I snap at her
i disagree. just because someone has slow thought processes doesn't mean that feeling comes first. theres a study that was done on the effects of physical harm and the reaction time of thought process and emotional response. they found that even when the person wasnt looking, they seemed to know to register thoughtfully to say ouch. im sure the doco was - 'how far down the rabbit hole'
Anger has such a bad reputation. Why do we think that all anger is about aggression and rage. It is not. Anger is a loss reaction and therefore triggered by our values.
Ive been getting more bursts of anger lately when I feel overwhelmed by something I was angry when I clicked on this video but your voice has calmed me
The story of the teacher connects so well with me. I once yelled so hard at my students...to the horror of every one around. Sure they calmed me n all but the embarassment I have felt since makes me wish I had never done that. Anger got me fired twice....it's not worth getting into....thanks for such a comprehensive explanation.👍
How did you get rid of the deep seated anger? Therapy?
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You should be a Drill Sergeant
Please can you share how you got rid of anger. Am in that phase now, am so embarrassed - Therapy quiet expensive and so I searched you tube and got this content!
Dude, i dont know why i started crying halfway into this video. lol.
I have broken so many things and feel like I'll die an early death from a heart attack from all this anger. I don't think being a chef is a good career for me, the high stress is making my anger worse. I was doing good in quarantine but have been getting angrier ever since I went back to work and it's been super busy. This video helps a lot, thank you for putting things into perspective
Does the anger feel 'good'?
@@jonathanoseguera9116 yeahhh in the moment it makes me feel good to get out my anger but almost always immediately afterwards once I do get it all out I feel extreme guilt for making a fool of myself by getting so mad over basically nothing
I had a high stress job, with lots of pushing to get more out of us. Over the years, in the evenings, I would review what happened during the days and how I might preempt some of those problems, or make more preparations. Helped some, but not total.
I've shown this video to my probation officer and my violence prevention program, thank you very much for this video.
I was angry so I watched this... After about 3 minutes of watching, I fall asleep. Got up now. Well my anger has gone. Thank you. This video really does work.
When you described the "toward" and "away" emotions it gave me all the answers I needed to know as to why my friend never talked me to again, and it gave me immense closure to hear a precise explanation that she herself would never have given me, and I am very grateful for that.
I get angry because I have a submissive personality, I submit to my friends and others aggression, then when I'm taken advantage of for my soft demeanor I burst out into anger. So I'm either one or the other, no middle ground.
Same! And I also get passive aggressive because of it 😓
Well , work in progress at least.
@@annialm3766 Yeah,1 step at a night to change ur persona
noooo wayyy
You might appreciate the Karpmam’s triangle. It explains the mechanisms behind this sort of thing.
I go from 0-10 in seconds. How do I get time to breathe. I don't even have time to think🤔
Don't know if this is helpful but as it's so hard to do the breathing when you go from 0-10 you would want to practice other times when it's easier. Practising daily when you're calm, then when you're a bit annoyed. If you wait till you're really angry it will be hard.
I feel you...
@@Krrle4250 very true. I do weekly breathing sessions its called conscious connective breathing. Look it up it can really help aswell as other therapies. But yes when your angry... you dont breath!!
Practice the CBT steps that he mentioned - the goal is to go from. 0-10, then with practice, 0-9, more practice, 0-8. etc.
THIS!!
I scream and yell at my brother. This video made me realize that he won't pull my hair if I deal with him calmly. Just a teenager working on herself😊🤧
Respect to you trying to work on yourself at a young age 👊🏽
Yeah I'm too angry i want to punch my sister
Another wonderful post Mark. Thank you so much for your observations and experience. The world is a better place for it.
LOL Two swords length. A new meaning to "social distancing"
I know right!!! I will use social distance even after this pandemic end❤️
you just said what i was saying in my head befor i watched the video. it gave me peace and calm ,, ty
I woke up this morning and I was absolutely livid..!
glad to see a video with some practical solutions to anger management. I think some people get triggered and are not aware of how, why, or what to do about it... often regret it later. One thing that I see amiss in our upbringing today is the de-emphasis of sports and physical excercise in schools. It is a natural defuser of tension, and the disciplined athletes that I have known are often the best at managing anger. I remember being in grade school with a gym teacher,, way before his time. He had a way of getting participation at all levels, personal records of achievement, and there was never any humiliation of anyone. I can remember a little girl struggling at doing any chinups. Gradually she accomplished (2) and the whole class cheered with support and excitement. Depends on how it is taught.
My 6th day without SNRI today. Having major problem with anger and spontaneous crying fits. Found your video and it totally stole my focus away from my own emotions for a moment. Which is absolutely wonderful!
Thank you for an interesting video!
Verrry nice video. I've been trying to help my coworker/best friend person who has a very extreme anger that manifests every day.
He refuses to see a therapist, he even is convinced that breathing techniques do the opposite effect that they do on "normal people"
This video has given me some ideas and perspectives of what I can do to help.
Wonderful observation about media outlets.
Omg you hit the nail on the head!! You described what I have been feeling in a way I could never express! I feel like I have been dealing with anger for years and years as a result of my childhood and you said exactly how I feel! I’m definitely going to try some of your techniques I’ve sometimes not been able to stand myself! Thank you so much for this video
Yes childhood, my dad was so mad all the time now I see myself repeating histo
Your videos have helped me immensely.
all these tips are useful for depression too i'll bet. really any kind of spiraling emotion, rage, sadness, etc. really helpful.
Very well presented and the information is golden. Thank you Mark!
Many many thanks for posting this video , it’s really helpful.
Like your channel. There are so many crappy psych channels. You are a breath of fresh air. Thank you.
I Should have seen this video long ago . I needed this! i have destroyed a lot because of anger. I`m glad i found this video!
I always recall a time I was mad and it makes me raged. I can’t help but hurt and throw things when I’m mad. I’ll be happy and one second I wanna hurt something. It’s ruining my relationship I really need help. Been like this for years
Same
Very informative.
I had a violent childhood and every action had a reaction. I've had a life of learning body language to protect myself but react as if my life depended on it when the situation is minimal. My anger takes my dignity from me and it can be a very lonely place at times.
I watched this for a counseling act for our assignment :> and man it's good since I do have anger issues too. I shout every time when someone is trying to talk or ask me... I just feel annoyed. Thanks for this.
Can't thank you enough for this!
5:40 “Getting very angry very often is a bigger predictor of early death through heart disease than smoking, bad diet, and lack of exercise put together.” 😵
Define very often 😅
Thank you ♥️
I enjoyed watching video. Thanks for sharing knowledge on how to deal
with anger.
Great explanation, really useful for therapists dealing with this kind of clients!
Thanks a lot! Keep up with the great work
Yupp..This is really precise and hatsoff to trainer .Given complete insight on Anger..Gud One guys!!
Such a good video thank you.
Very useful, thank you very much!
Remarkable breakdown!
Your videos are great! Keep up the good work...
Waiting for new ones
Thank you so much
This is perfect. 👌🏾
I think this will work for me
Omg!!! Thank you so much!! So useful. Absolutist thinking is my problem.
Well explained sir ! Thank you
its interesting what you say about sighing, natures way of calming things down,i`ve done EFT for many years. and thats what happens when its working for me,. i`m tapping then i start sighing heavily
Amazing vedio and u Dono how ur selfless vedio,the info u have shared. have been trying to save me andy kids and my family. Thx
Y'all please pray for me and my girlfriend Jasmine. I have mistreated her with verbal abuse and I pushed her after a big fight. I'm working as hard as I can and praying everyday. Ask that God restores us please, ONLY if I have changed into a better person.
You dont need prayers. You need anger management. And dont be in a relationship if you're a threat to them.
Excellent
I absolutely love the video :) Really enriching ^_^
I hope this helps me 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Anger can be a good thing not a bad thing. It clears the air and let's people know where you stand. It aids clear communication and better understanding.
This is fantastic
I was molested and abused by my parent, when I was a child. Until I was a young adult, one of my parents had substance abuse issues and would go into enraged fits of anger where they would scream, belittle me, and throw things around the house for hours. On top of that, I was bullied for being a poc who didn't 'act black enough' and had gay parents with substance abuse problems.
The anger that I used to experience was overwhelming, at times. I kept trying to find help, but none of the health providers took what I told them seriously. I took martial arts classes and that helped me learn to recognize my patterns of thinking and feeling, as well as channel it into physical fitness, but damn is it tough sometimes.
This isn't meant to be a woes me story. I'm just tired of holding onto such terrible experiences.
Although the experiences that I have done through might have not been as bad in terms of severity as yours, but I myself experienced a lot of belittling and emasculating and humiliating behaviour from my parents and at school. I sometimes cannot think if I can ever live as a normal human being, even when I have good days I know the anger, sadness and despair are lurking around and wait to get me. I do suffer from nightmares as well, sometimes I feel like a zombie... I really feel for you and sympathize with you, hope you'll get better
I don't get angry often but when I do it's that burst of angry emotions which makes me loose my senses and I end up doing things or saying things I regret for 10 days after . Tho I say sorry within the first hour of getting angry .
I’ve never felt more attacked by one man😂
I already have learned all of these. Are there more techniques for calming down in the moment? Thanks!
Also how to forgive yourself after an angry outburst :(
theycallmenicool that’s what I want to know , I haven’t got an answer for that one ,good question I’m going to google that one
All rich hard Why what I’ve found effective is just writing it out. Write it out physically if you can, if not just type a note on your phone and say why you’re angry. You come to realize why you acted the way you did - and it’s okay if some of the reasons aren’t acceptable - but recognize you are accountable for how you respond to things and realize other people aren’t perfect either.
Mindfulness ! I m practicing mindfulness while I think something. Sometimes even though we are busy conciously still we feel distracted bcz thoughts keep running into the bck of our head. If we are aware of anger n such bursting moments we ll hve more control over ourselves. That's what I think n m practicing. Hope tht helps you 🌼in some way
Lily Official thank you so much 😊 it did!
Do you recommend any books for anger management and CBT?
1. 7-11 breathing technique 2. Describe image of the anger. 3. Approach is to help with less absolutist thinking. Use Socratic questioning (e.g. Can it be possible that others did not have any intention of hurting us? Is it possible that you can be smart yet behave stupidly?)that is nuanced to show our expectations that people should be able to read our minds.
Thank you.
You’d make a good supervisor! Great work thank you 🙏
I have a highly sensitive anger 'sense'. My anger is healthy and powerful and provides me with excellent confidence. When I get irritated or offended, I experience a minor stress with the opportunity to accept the new change with a positive outlook in beneficial outcomes. I look forward to practicing anger therapy as a tactic to help others and friends.
Thanks
I lost like 10 hours of progress on blood borne from Sony bricking my PS4 and this corrupted my save file.
i woulda lost my shit
It's funny.. My anger comes out when I'm disrespected.. I treat every one with respect... Maybe I shouldnt. I don't know.. Any advice would help greatfuly
Loved it!
Hi, do you offer virtual therapy sessions? Thanks
It goes like this:
Hello
how are you
oh no thank you
no no thank you
I said no thank you, why don't you leave me the hell alone!?
It's like somebody trying to kidnap you, you SHOULD resist...
That is necessary anger/self preservation. Just leave them alone after they leave you alone...
Thanks Jesus ,there are still good people on Earth like you.
My new year resolution Sir thanks
Hows it going ☀️
Tanks a lot; this lectures are very helpfull. Question in wich format are the hipnosis kit? Are they shipped overseas?
Culturally biased. Any Americans here?
Bro my hand are trembling of anger no lie ☹️..... I kinda got light headed is that normal
Happens to me when it’s at its worst.
i had for the last 40 years so much stuff that put me in a angry mode, now its overwhelming and it can ruin my day easy. with all that i dont know if i have BPD or antosocial disorder with that but i can tell you its hard to live like that.
Seek help mate someone can help you and if you work hard you can get over it. It’s about habit changing
What are the references you mention here as reference 1,2, etc.?
Holistically you have to change the inner to control the outer. Becoming angry when needed is normal. But as I tell my own subscribers--staying in that state is not. Suffering from chronic anger causes a few problems. First it impedes your progress. By draining your energy that you should be using to advance yourself. Ever been angry all day at work then skipped that night workout? That's probably why. But it also isn't physically healthy and can lead to long term effects on the heart and doctors now think future cancer as well. Not to mention high blood pressure. There are two simple methods I tell my own people how to control anger. One you have with you--your breathing. You can breathe in a meditative state while walking down the street. You picture a coil slowly unwinding as if you were breathing through your stomach. Slow and in and out. Wind the coil and let it go slowly. It calms you down and if you do it every few hours for maybe ten reps then it keeps you calm. Second--reflect on what you are growing angry about. Is it really going to affect you even four months from now? You'll find many times it won't. So I would use these techniques to minimize anger so you can only progress forward. Hope that helps someone out there---Charles
Saw that Mark Twain quote for the first time, wow what a gorgeous way of wording it.
This is my best solution: Every time life thinks its gonna annoy me, i write it down on my phone. at the end of the day i look back at my notes and for every time life pissed me off, i will go out into my block at night and vandalise something (windows, lifts, doors, lights etc) I havent yet figured out why this works, but i've been systematically doing this now for a month or so, and it has solved the issue of me breaking things in my own house. I guess it kind of feels like every time life throws something at me that i dont like, i can just deflect it onto the cleaner of the block by making his day harder, so ultimately when life tries me, its only upsetting someone else in the long run
Bro this is so messed up 🤣
@@Linkzero38 Yeah I've thought that to myself loads of times. But its helping to prevent a much bigger issue, i was having to fork out a lot of money to keep replacing shit that I'd destroyed. With this method now at least my home and furniture are safe. If life didnt make me angry i wouldnt have to do it 🤷♂️
yeaaa I don't think that's healthy. Please seek help.
I only have management issues when my father is present. I get super irritated by everything he does
6:47 first 10:39 1 12:13 2 14:11 3
I just wish I could turn the clock back
You can with Jesus. I am praying for you, stranger. God bless you.
My anger,. Get quiet get even. That's my management.
Silent treatment?
@@SFgamer That still doesn't resolve the issue.
Amazing !!
True
Raymond W. Novaco coined the phrase "Anger Management."
"We all experience anger; anger only becomes a serious concern when an individual is angry too frequently, too intensely, and for too long."
Raymond W. Novaco, 1984
CBT stands for ?
Cognitive behavioral therapy
Coc-
Oh right... Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
I think my anger stems from me thinking people should be able to do jobs as well as me because I see them as 'easy'. After I've told them the best way to get it done and they still don't get it I just blow up.
At them but also just get hot myself and worked up.
I don't get paid fuck all in my line of work but the people I work with get a really good wage, time off etc. I get frustrated that they are being paid so much but can't perform the job to my standard knowing that if I was being paid that much I'd expect myself to work as hard as possible to improve myself.
Reading that paragraph back it sounds like I'm trying to ask too much from other people and need to mentor more when things don't go to plan. This is an issue as my people skill aren't and never will be a strength.
Any pointers or glaring things I've missed
People can't improve if you explode at them. Angry people have been screaming at me expecting me to improve but all they did was made me afraid and resentful. People learn better when they're approached humanely.
I send this video to a woman who called me a racist for no reason. I hope it helps her.
When you are older than 17 it will be ok.
English is my 2nd language i would appreciate simplified language and choice of word.
nice video. thanks
I remember getting a tattoo , associate of mines told me he would never get a tattoo like That, I took offense to I got mad a told don't disrespect me, he assured me he ment no disrespect, I realize I was over reacting
What comes first, thought or feeling 😳
Sometimes thought, sometimes emotion. They affect each other.
🔥🎸🔥
Who's watching this while being angry???
Man I wish I’d found this yesterday before I yelled at neighborhood kids throwing stuff at my car and made the whole neighborhood gate us.
I am angry at everything everyday. I play bowls as a hobby and I just snap at everything, we get beat I have to say how angry I am. I swear more. I try gaming to relax and I get riled up at the game and losey temper. My wife says it's a game which triggers me more and I snap at her
If you never get angry or can't wrap your brain around what anger is all about, there is something wrong with you.
I have twelfth sense
Telling me to breathe just pisses me off more
there was no cbt tho
what a scam
i disagree. just because someone has slow thought processes doesn't mean that feeling comes first. theres a study that was done on the effects of physical harm and the reaction time of thought process and emotional response. they found that even when the person wasnt looking, they seemed to know to register thoughtfully to say ouch. im sure the doco was - 'how far down the rabbit hole'
They say there is a genetic component to anger, rage and violence.
Some people ARE slow, dumb and stupid. It is a set-up for anger if I ever did see it.
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Anger has such a bad reputation. Why do we think that all anger is about aggression and rage. It is not. Anger is a loss reaction and therefore triggered by our values.
Personally, I prefer genital flogging to control my anger
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