My husband met me without makeup and on my natural hair, he never stop staring at me through out our meeting and he told me that's what he actually prayed for "to meet his woman natural"... We are four years in marriage now
I did that 😂😂😂😂😂 I started planning the wedding in my head on the 1st date, now happily married 15 yrs and just recently we were talking and I told that he laughed so hard, I asked him why he is laughing, he said "because I was doing the same 😂😂😂😂"
These are helpful tips! I know this is a channel for women, but many men need to work on themselves. Once a woman applies all these tips, doesn’t she deserve to meet a man who has worked on himself too? In every direction we turn, there’s someone telling women what they should or shouldn’t do to attract and keep a man. Who is talking to the men, though? Do men know what they do that puts high-value women off? Some men lack the confidence to initiate a conversation with a woman. Some men can’t hold a basic conversation if there are no sexual innuendos in it. Some are selfish. Some are braggadocious, while others talk condescendingly to women. However, society keeps quiet about these because they want to “protect the male ego.” Again, who is talking to the men? Sometimes, women are single, not because they do things to put men off. It’s because they’re put off by the men they meet.
This point is HIGHLY NOTED!!! Some of the videos here relate to both genders and I am also working on something specifically tailored to the men folks. We are currently in production for some of them and we will be rolling them out soon. Thanks for pointing out all these.
Yea Winnie, your tips are very correct. As for me, I don't like ladies that are boring. One of the great attributes of an ALPHA Lady is enthusiasm and magnetism. There are many giants sleeping in men's brains, it takes enthusiastic and magnetic women to wake them. A boring woman can never ignite the fiery conflagration of success in her man and vice versa. If you are a lady/guy and you don't have this natural ginger, this is the ripe time to start practicing until it becomes your second nature. Everything in this life is learnable. Secondly, truly speaking, there is not really a shy person but a lazy person who has not spent enough time to increase knowledge. Whenever it is time for them to talk or contribute to a pertinent discussion, their brain is empty because no stored materials to pick from. Readers are leaders. Ladies should build their brain library like Winnie and equip it with books, audio and videos instead of wasting time building and flexing their hips muscles. Guys also are no exception. As nutritionists believe you are what you eat, authors believe you are what you read. Invest in knowledge today. You can start now. Ok?
Thanks Winnie for making out time to teach these things. Today I've learned to: 1) Stop being the one calling. 2) Stop being over available. 3) Stop being late to wherever I'm supposed to be. Men are watching. 4) Make sure I'm always organized, no excuse. 5) Always look good, no matter the circumstances. I have no problem with others.
1.Over demanding 2,you are always right 3, tell everyone you are dating him when he has tell his closest friend that he is dating you 4, posting him on social media 5, secretive 6, dating any of his friends 7, talking excess alcohol (you went out with him and you run 2,3 or 4 bottles of alcohol) 8.accepting you know most hotels if he ask..( like have you been to this hotel? and your answers are yes yes yes) Etc
I stumbled upon this video at the right time. After being single for almost 2 years, I'll be meeting a guy for the first time ever and at the end of this month and I consider this very helpful. Honestly, this is beautiful 😍 Thank you Winnie ❤
Wow Winnie everything you are saying is true. I have been practicing it and it’s really working for me I was someone who will text him every free time I get but now I don’t text him and he called me telling me how much he’s missing me 😊
YT recommended your channel & video to me today & as a new subscriber ...i must confess that you're an intelligent, amazing & awesome human being! God bless you!!!
1. I’m good to go 2. I don’t do that 3. I’ve started working on that 4. I don’t do that 5. I don’t do that 6. I’m not overly available 7. I’m conscious of the pictures i post. 8. My personal hygiene is paramount. 9. I would rather keep quiet and learn from what others are saying before making my own comment. 10. I put effort in anything i do. A bit independent. 11. One of my favorite house chores is arranging the house. 12. I learnt being on time in China 🇨🇳 no African time 😂 13. I’m not a makeup 💄 fan, team eye pencil and lipgloss. 14. There’s a way you communicate you’re high maintenance without saying it, intelligent conversation goes a long way. 15. Most of the people I’ve hanged out with always don’t want to leave. No boring moment with me. Now here’s my checklist 😂 hope i pass the cutoff mark.
My favorite parts of the video is when Winnie shakes her head and says “Don’t do that, Don’t do that” 😂😂.. my colleague and friends are in trouble, I will be saying Don’t do that, don’t do that 😂
Waoh what a lesson especially the being shy part. I was an introvert and I used to expect guys to understand that but woloolo.. I had to work on it because I even used to cancel dinner dates just because I didn't have the confidence to sit and eat in a hotel😂😂😂 But I promise anyone reading this there is need 💯 to work on your shyness and be able to express yourself
I have seen relationships come to an end due to not picking calls and most times not available. A searching man will always replace you for someone that can be available for him.
True, and i thought ladies posted photos of themselves in swimsuit and whatever on social media because they want to.I never thought anyone posted to get a man's attention. 🤔
Thank you so much winnie, this is very educative.my favourite point of all is A man should chase not the other way round, and not being bossy in communication as a woman.submision is attractive but make sure you say yes to a man who is worth your submission.cos it can be dangerous if you submit to a tyrant or psychopath.
I'm so disorganized o!! That's my weak point 🤣☝️ but I have a truly amazing man who really encourages me to organize my things with so much love and even helps me out 🥰.. My hubby is truly the best for me..
Thank you Winnie, actually I'm a victim of most of the points mentioned but I have learnt a lot from this video. Am always the one calling, quick reply to his messages in fact he actually told me to visit him in Abuja this break that's when I have finished my exams and I had plans to go there. Thank you so much for this🙏.
unfortunately i recently lost him because of all these reasons listed above but good enough i have learnt a lot through this video, i hope to get another one suitable for me🙏🙏
All the reasons you gave here is so true. To be honest, I knew this for sure. This video only confirms it. I am a lady who grew up with five brothers, and I observe men how they talk and view things. I could have taught ladies these lessons too. Many thanks.
Thank you Winnie ❤️❤️🥰 I were directly talking to me on the number 1 tips 😌😌 I was so embarrassed 🙈 listening but I learned, I made that mistake just some weeks ago and he ran 😂 it’s hurts though but now I know better…. Moving on
I love this video!!! This is my first time seeing you on YT and I love the content! I must speak to the point about being boring. Even as a woman trying to make friends with other women, some women have absolutely NOTHING to say if it doesn't pertain to junk TV shows, pop culture, make up, hair, etc. I'm in a few groups online where women are looking for female friends and they can't manage a conversation past "hello". Conversation is a lost art and can easily be learned. I'm so glad I was taught how to actively listen at a young age. It comes naturally to me and people tend to have a hard time NOT talking in my presence because they feel comfortable and heard.
Thank you winnie, l started watching your videos yesterday, and l was so eager to be back to watch this particular episode and l must confess, there's so much knowledge in here..... I am already thinking elegantly and l hope to be my best version soonest. Thank you
Thanks very much Winnie 🥺this has taught me a lot as a young adult 😊so many of these mistakes I've made but I'm glad I've come across ur channel 🥰you're a role model
I was desperate for marriage, always available for him and I never want to miss his calls...so he told me that what is turning him off is my desperation... like I want to meet his family...I should make him feel comfortable to introduce me to his family
As you aptly said, "17:43, "there is a thin line between depriving a man of your attention and saying you are not available because you are busy.", I feel ladies should use more of their wisdom and discernment for this. The key word here is "very thin line." and being busy with your self-growth. As much as it seems too much of attention can turn a man off, I feel lack of attention can also turn a man off as well. Not every man has the long patience to pursue a love interest at the detriment of pursuing other things in his life. Once lack of communication seems to be a consistent habit from the lady, the man may move on and think she is not interested. Ladies, Kindly flip it the other way round as well, imagine he is always busy for you, what would you naturally make that behavior to be? Very insightful video btwn. Thanks for sharing.
While not disputing anything you said, there’s an actual difference between depriving a person of attention and actually not being too available. The difference is in the strength of the conversations and attitude of the person and the frequency. Take for instance, you call me this morning after a date last night, I ignore your calls and messages, not call back and then you call me again later in the afternoon or evening and I take your call without acknowledging the previous calls and message and probably not even explain why and then the conversation is dry and boring that is plain deprivation and it sends a strong message to back off. On the other hand, we go on a date and I miss your call the following morning, I could give you a quick call back or a text to tell you how I am engaged in some activity and not able to talk at the moment but will call you as soon as I can and also acknowledge that I had a great time yesterday. Then when we eventually get to talk in the evening the energy is high and conversation fun. I haven’t made myself available to you all day but I have given you something to look forward to which is that I have things I’m doing that are very important for and to me however, I also enjoy spending time with you and I give time to everything that is important in my life not putting one above the other. The man right here will miss you a lot but will know he isn’t being ignored.
@@maychukwu4024 Thanks for sharing your thoughts. This is very apt and such an interesting scenario you've put up to buttress your points. This angle you have brought to light also seems to be something I might have said on the flip side to my initial comment, save for the fact that I was just trying to just pass a point without looking to dissect into the more correct way to "being unavailable". I must say your perception and interpretation of the "not available" thing is quite brilliant. I hope we all learn and continue to grow.
My first time but I like everything you said and am going to work on myself because as am talking to you now, lack of communication and self-confidence is ruining my relationship now and my relationship is about breaking down because he's fed up with me 😢 Thank you very much for your video 🙏🏼🙏🏼
I won't lie l do this or already seeing how both of us will be a good match 😂 or have a beautiful home together 😅😅 then after 2 or 3 occasions, and l will be like huh no no no. I can't have a family with this person 😅 still in my little head oo😂😂😂😂 Thanks winnie for this
You don't have to rush the move on..accept the pains..feel it..don't still think there is hope..let yourself accept it gone.. And don't block him, it might take time but it will be fine..
I love this ,,,as for I think have done all this and it has lead to seperation with my ex in just three months of dating,, this is very true I'm with you,, thanks for this class Winnie 😊I'm taking notes and I believe it will work for me for the next relationship which I'm waiting for Gods time,,,,
I appreciate this video!. Without an understanding of what high value(s) mean, it would never matter to both genders. In the case of allowing a man to pay bills and a woman offers to pay. It puts the man off because it seems as if the woman is trying to prove she can take care of herself but there is another angle to this, some women didn't grow in a household where it was modeled that a man should take responsibilities in every area including catering to his woman. Here, the woman's upbringing is the one shaping her thinking. If a woman grows in a household where her father pampers her mum, she has come to the understanding that her man should do that and even go beyond for her.. However for most women, exposure and all helps them to upgrade their standards overtime.
Wow,,,,, am in my 20 's and for sure I've learnt a lot,,,,,, I was doing all the DONT'S while dating but thank you because am now a changed high value woman🎉
You know what, this channel is where I learn to become a better lady and a better person. Anytime I'm doing something I'm like what would Winnie have done
Thank🙏 you so much winnie,few of your options are really what have been doing mostly my shyness and building up my self confidence more. i really love your contents ❤❤
Very correct ma’am. I actually didn’t even know about this but possesses all. Am grateful to God that you displayed all of my features here. Wawu I was so right in my behavior that even when I try to make my ex’s live right to my standard and it didn’t work Omor I move. And at the end I always leave my ex’s missing me. And today my husband is grateful that they didn’t act to my expectations and that made me live them and today he has me all to himself 🥰
Love you winnie, some points are for me. Thanks for the knowledge. But I'll like more explanation on point 14 because most time d person is just been herself. Thanks ma, more grace.
Just got in a new relationship with an Igbo guy and I’m from Botswana we both live and work in England and I must say I’m really loved but I tend to forget myself cause I’m excited 😂😂😂 this Nigerian man loves me and spoke about marrying me twice ever since we started dating but I still want to remain on that spot where he still has to chase me, so thank you Winnie I needed to hear this message ❤
Thank you Winnie,this video is very helpful to me ,it is so informative indeed they are many issues thqt you touched which one might fall trap to which might chase a man away.At times you feel too much excited to have a man in your life ,one will even become possessive.
Thanks so much Winne , I now understand why relationships doesn't last for long , i like your encouragement cheers to you ❣️. Have learnt alot keep it up dear.
I make these mistakes a lot ( especially the first one , being shy n a complete introvert ) . maybe that's why i always ended up being single. When i love someone so much i always show it i can't pretend n at the end i always loose them. But then after some months they'll come back begging but then I've already lost interest in them coz i can love you so deep n dislike you the next minute.
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My husband met me without makeup and on my natural hair, he never stop staring at me through out our meeting and he told me that's what he actually prayed for "to meet his woman natural"... We are four years in marriage now
Amazing, glory to God 🙏🏾❤
Woohoo great..but can every man behave like your man?
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We ladies have alot to learn not just for a man but to become the better version of ourselves
Thank you
I did that 😂😂😂😂😂 I started planning the wedding in my head on the 1st date, now happily married 15 yrs and just recently we were talking and I told that he laughed so hard, I asked him why he is laughing, he said "because I was doing the same 😂😂😂😂"
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Oooh wahooo❤❤❤
Everyone destiny is not same. Most of these things she is saying are wrong are working for others
@orevamoses112 Yes, I know you're 100% right!
Awwwwww🎉❤😂😂😂😂can be heart breaking for the vice versa 😢
Honestly when you meet the one you don't need all this hard work
These are helpful tips! I know this is a channel for women, but many men need to work on themselves. Once a woman applies all these tips, doesn’t she deserve to meet a man who has worked on himself too?
In every direction we turn, there’s someone telling women what they should or shouldn’t do to attract and keep a man. Who is talking to the men, though?
Do men know what they do that puts high-value women off? Some men lack the confidence to initiate a conversation with a woman. Some men can’t hold a basic conversation if there are no sexual innuendos in it. Some are selfish. Some are braggadocious, while others talk condescendingly to women. However, society keeps quiet about these because they want to “protect the male ego.” Again, who is talking to the men?
Sometimes, women are single, not because they do things to put men off. It’s because they’re put off by the men they meet.
This point is HIGHLY NOTED!!! Some of the videos here relate to both genders and I am also working on something specifically tailored to the men folks.
We are currently in production for some of them and we will be rolling them out soon.
Thanks for pointing out all these.
Word
Your last paragraph 👌👌
Where is the lie?? And dese men go on to become incompetent husband's and fathers
God bless you for this, apt asf.
Yea Winnie, your tips are very correct. As for me, I don't like ladies that are boring. One of the great attributes of an ALPHA Lady is enthusiasm and magnetism. There are many giants sleeping in men's brains, it takes enthusiastic and magnetic women to wake them. A boring woman can never ignite the fiery conflagration of success in her man and vice versa. If you are a lady/guy and you don't have this natural ginger, this is the ripe time to start practicing until it becomes your second nature. Everything in this life is learnable. Secondly, truly speaking, there is not really a shy person but a lazy person who has not spent enough time to increase knowledge. Whenever it is time for them to talk or contribute to a pertinent discussion, their brain is empty because no stored materials to pick from. Readers are leaders. Ladies should build their brain library like Winnie and equip it with books, audio and videos instead of wasting time building and flexing their hips muscles. Guys also are no exception. As nutritionists believe you are what you eat, authors believe you are what you read. Invest in knowledge today. You can start now. Ok?
Ok
Well said Gbenga
On point 👍 though
The details...
Okay sir
Thanks Winnie for making out time to teach these things. Today I've learned to:
1) Stop being the one calling.
2) Stop being over available.
3) Stop being late to wherever I'm supposed to be. Men are watching.
4) Make sure I'm always organized, no excuse.
5) Always look good, no matter the circumstances.
I have no problem with others.
I don't have a man in my life
@@lisayima9321and you don't need?
Thanks so much Winnie ,I now understand why relationship doesn't last for long, infact you are really helping we the ladies the most.Thanks
1.Over demanding
2,you are always right
3, tell everyone you are dating him when he has tell his closest friend that he is dating you
4, posting him on social media
5, secretive
6, dating any of his friends
7, talking excess alcohol (you went out with him and you run 2,3 or 4 bottles of alcohol)
8.accepting you know most hotels if he ask..( like have you been to this hotel? and your answers are yes yes yes)
Etc
@@naomiesilas7379 😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Proud of your teaching
Thisss 😊😊
no 4
I am sincerely blown away by your tips. I'm a guy and I can relate to your points. Keep it up. Winnie. Thank you
I stumbled upon this video at the right time. After being single for almost 2 years, I'll be meeting a guy for the first time ever and at the end of this month and I consider this very helpful. Honestly, this is beautiful 😍 Thank you Winnie ❤
@@NgwaNgwa-kc6do thank you 😊
Awnnnnn
Good luck sis..can't wait too for mine..may we not mismarry.
Hey😢 thank you so much...l learnt a lot
Hello Sis… how about you tell us the outcome 😊
I need to work on
1.time keeping
2.making effort
3.not being boring
The others am okay but this 3 are my main challenges
Wow Winnie everything you are saying is true.
I have been practicing it and it’s really working for me
I was someone who will text him every free time I get but now I don’t text him and he called me telling me how much he’s missing me 😊
YT recommended your channel & video to me today & as a new subscriber ...i must confess that you're an intelligent, amazing & awesome human being!
God bless you!!!
Thank you so much for this kind comment.❤️❤️ It really has made my day. God bless you!🙏🏽
1. I’m good to go
2. I don’t do that
3. I’ve started working on that
4. I don’t do that
5. I don’t do that
6. I’m not overly available
7. I’m conscious of the pictures i post.
8. My personal hygiene is paramount.
9. I would rather keep quiet and learn from what others are saying before making my own comment.
10. I put effort in anything i do. A bit independent.
11. One of my favorite house chores is arranging the house.
12. I learnt being on time in China 🇨🇳 no African time 😂
13. I’m not a makeup 💄 fan, team eye pencil and lipgloss.
14. There’s a way you communicate you’re high maintenance without saying it, intelligent conversation goes a long way.
15. Most of the people I’ve hanged out with always don’t want to leave. No boring moment with me.
Now here’s my checklist 😂 hope i pass the cutoff mark.
Ok so did u get your high value man yet.."?😂😂😂😂😂
Thinking you are good enough (too much self confidence) can make you make mistakes without realizing, so watch out lady.😊
My favorite parts of the video is when Winnie shakes her head and says “Don’t do that, Don’t do that” 😂😂.. my colleague and friends are in trouble, I will be saying Don’t do that, don’t do that 😂
Lol 😂😂
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Aswear 😅😅
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Waoh what a lesson especially the being shy part.
I was an introvert and I used to expect guys to understand that but woloolo.. I had to work on it because I even used to cancel dinner dates just because I didn't have the confidence to sit and eat in a hotel😂😂😂
But I promise anyone reading this there is need 💯 to work on your shyness and be able to express yourself
Please can you share some tips with us here, on overcoming shyness.
It can be so annoying most of the time 😊
@@faithapoede9902 for real
@@faithapoede9902 I agree
Sallyyyy boo share some tips Pls lol
So me... I'm still battling with it
Also please make a video for college students starting their elegant journey who can't afford a lot to change their wardrobes.
*Being aware of what can deter men is essential for a successful relationship. Let's use this knowledge to grow and improve.*
I have seen relationships come to an end due to not picking calls and most times not available. A searching man will always replace you for someone that can be available for him.
Av been searching for dis comment
True
What I can say is,try to understand your relationship and do what is best for it.being available and not depends with your person period.
True, and i thought ladies posted photos of themselves in swimsuit and whatever on social media because they want to.I never thought anyone posted to get a man's attention. 🤔
Thank you so much winnie, this is very educative.my favourite point of all is A man should chase not the other way round, and not being bossy in communication as a woman.submision is attractive but make sure you say yes to a man who is worth your submission.cos it can be dangerous if you submit to a tyrant or psychopath.
I'm so disorganized o!! That's my weak point 🤣☝️ but I have a truly amazing man who really encourages me to organize my things with so much love and even helps me out 🥰.. My hubby is truly the best for me..
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Wow! This is highly educative. Thank you so much Winnie, I really learnt so much from this video 👏👏👏
Winnie I love how you articulate serious things in a funny way
Wooow. I'm a guy but I love your understanding of these matters. Certainly love your delivery also. Thumbs up
Am new to Winnie's platform.. interesting lady and funny 🤣 cant stop laughing cz i make such mistakes
Wow! You're beauty and brains Miss Winnie!
So educative,corrective and informative..
Ladies must learn these.
Thank you Winnie, actually I'm a victim of most of the points mentioned but I have learnt a lot from this video. Am always the one calling, quick reply to his messages in fact he actually told me to visit him in Abuja this break that's when I have finished my exams and I had plans to go there. Thank you so much for this🙏.
unfortunately i recently lost him because of all these reasons listed above but good enough i have learnt a lot through this video, i hope to get another one suitable for me🙏🙏
All the reasons you gave here is so true. To be honest, I knew this for sure. This video only confirms it. I am a lady who grew up with five brothers, and I observe men how they talk and view things. I could have taught ladies these lessons too. Many thanks.
Then what are you waiting for?
You don't have to be perfect in it, just start and let it flow and you will be fine.
Don't be afraid of starting.
I was so quick to admire a guy first and he's now beginning to feel in a way I don't like, thanks for this video
Lol.he’s full of himself
Thank you Winnie for this video ❤️ you’ve made elegance a beautiful journey 🤍
I admire you sooo much Winnie❤ thanks for all you teach.the sisterhood is safe because of your elegance lessons 😊😊.
Thanks Winnie
I learn a lot of things here, will apply this in my next relationship. I’m ready for a new relationship 🥰🥰🥰🥰
“Cry if you must cry”🤣🤣
Thanks for the tips ma’am ❤️
I just realize my mistakes here, thanks a bunch Winnie ❤️💝
Lol.. does not mean you should stress me o cos I'm about to shoot my shot if Winnie agrees
Wonderful God bless you for the advice.
Thanks so much, Winnie
This is super helpful for me.
I can be overly forward and glamour most time.
Thank you Winnie ❤️❤️🥰 I were directly talking to me on the number 1 tips 😌😌 I was so embarrassed 🙈 listening but I learned, I made that mistake just some weeks ago and he ran 😂 it’s hurts though but now I know better…. Moving on
You
Same situation.. Was addicted to him. I couldn't spend a day without calling him like 5 times and above. He ran away 😢
😂😂😂😂
Same here but I really liked him
I feel so embarrassed now but I've learnt
I love this video!!! This is my first time seeing you on YT and I love the content! I must speak to the point about being boring. Even as a woman trying to make friends with other women, some women have absolutely NOTHING to say if it doesn't pertain to junk TV shows, pop culture, make up, hair, etc. I'm in a few groups online where women are looking for female friends and they can't manage a conversation past "hello". Conversation is a lost art and can easily be learned. I'm so glad I was taught how to actively listen at a young age. It comes naturally to me and people tend to have a hard time NOT talking in my presence because they feel comfortable and heard.
U're right even me I was like that but no hooo😅
Please can you share this group with me 😊
@ could you kindly introduce the group to me
You could be a listen but not someone who instigates a conversation
🎉
Thank you winnie, l started watching your videos yesterday, and l was so eager to be back to watch this particular episode and l must confess, there's so much knowledge in here.....
I am already thinking elegantly and l hope to be my best version soonest.
Thank you
OMG. This is so helpful...Thank you always, Winnie❤️❤️
Thanks very much Winnie 🥺this has taught me a lot as a young adult 😊so many of these mistakes I've made but I'm glad I've come across ur channel 🥰you're a role model
Thank you very much ma,you’re now my mentor ❤I Show so much love in a relationship 😢and that hurt me so much 😭
I love this lady ❤
She is saying the truth😊
So much to learn here
I just realised reason my relationship doesn't last
Thank you so much for this Winnie❤🙏
Ah....Winnie I love youuuu ❤️
The most amazing blend of beauty, elegance and a right sense of humor.
I'm thoroughly inspired. Thank you 🌹
I was desperate for marriage, always available for him and I never want to miss his calls...so he told me that what is turning him off is my desperation... like I want to meet his family...I should make him feel comfortable to introduce me to his family
You are fortunate he even gave you reasons. Some would simply ghost you and leave you very disappointed.
As you aptly said, "17:43, "there is a thin line between depriving a man of your attention and saying you are not available because you are busy.", I feel ladies should use more of their wisdom and discernment for this.
The key word here is "very thin line." and being busy with your self-growth.
As much as it seems too much of attention can turn a man off, I feel lack of attention can also turn a man off as well.
Not every man has the long patience to pursue a love interest at the detriment of pursuing other things in his life. Once lack of communication seems to be a consistent habit from the lady, the man may move on and think she is not interested. Ladies, Kindly flip it the other way round as well, imagine he is always busy for you, what would you naturally make that behavior to be?
Very insightful video btwn. Thanks for sharing.
I like this
Very well said... Thank you 😊
While not disputing anything you said, there’s an actual difference between depriving a person of attention and actually not being too available. The difference is in the strength of the conversations and attitude of the person and the frequency. Take for instance, you call me this morning after a date last night, I ignore your calls and messages, not call back and then you call me again later in the afternoon or evening and I take your call without acknowledging the previous calls and message and probably not even explain why and then the conversation is dry and boring that is plain deprivation and it sends a strong message to back off. On the other hand, we go on a date and I miss your call the following morning, I could give you a quick call back or a text to tell you how I am engaged in some activity and not able to talk at the moment but will call you as soon as I can and also acknowledge that I had a great time yesterday. Then when we eventually get to talk in the evening the energy is high and conversation fun. I haven’t made myself available to you all day but I have given you something to look forward to which is that I have things I’m doing that are very important for and to me however, I also enjoy spending time with you and I give time to everything that is important in my life not putting one above the other. The man right here will miss you a lot but will know he isn’t being ignored.
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts. This is very apt and such an interesting scenario you've put up to buttress your points.
This angle you have brought to light also seems to be something I might have said on the flip side to my initial comment, save for the fact that I was just trying to just pass a point without looking to dissect into the more correct way to "being unavailable".
I must say your perception and interpretation of the "not available" thing is quite brilliant. I hope we all learn and continue to grow.
Thanks dear.... you have really helped me to recognize one of my weakness, I have picked up ways to make an immediate correction
Just came across this channel today. Like wow 🤩 I have lots of information in my head already from two videos. Appreciate the time and effort👏🏽🥂
Thank you Winnie. I'm starting to work on myself right away
Me too
Will certainly recommend this channel anytime. Your number one follower of your channels. 🤗
My first time but I like everything you said and am going to work on myself because as am talking to you now, lack of communication and self-confidence is ruining my relationship now and my relationship is about breaking down because he's fed up with me 😢
Thank you very much for your video 🙏🏼🙏🏼
I just found your channel and absolutely love it! Ha! This is my second video and I cannot get enough of you!❤
When it comes to relationship advance
I love to listen and learn 😊
I appreciate you ma
God bless you
It’s the first point for me😂😂😂😂
Planning the wedding on the first date.
Nice video
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I won't lie l do this or already seeing how both of us will be a good match 😂 or have a beautiful home together 😅😅 then after 2 or 3 occasions, and l will be like huh no no no. I can't have a family with this person 😅 still in my little head oo😂😂😂😂
Thanks winnie for this
@@winniesschoolofelegancewhat can I do i think i have a problem of bossy communication... One man told me i talk like a receiptionist 😢
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Everything you spoke out here is 💯 TRUE❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love your teachings ma, they are really educative n i subscribed after few minutes listening to u
Thanks for this Winnie came right exactly when I needed most of these tips
I got a lot of value for your content... thanks so much Winnie.
I appreciate you
thanks
Hi Winnie, please do a video of dealing with a breakup for a lady that still loves the guy. How to control the thought of shared memories.
I'm still dealing with this
I think I need this too
You don't have to rush the move on..accept the pains..feel it..don't still think there is hope..let yourself accept it gone..
And don't block him, it might take time but it will be fine..
@@emem5965you have said it all😊
I need this to. It's not easy
I love this ,,,as for I think have done all this and it has lead to seperation with my ex in just three months of dating,, this is very true I'm with you,, thanks for this class Winnie 😊I'm taking notes and I believe it will work for me for the next relationship which I'm waiting for Gods time,,,,
Thanks a lot for this video because I'm also just starting a relationship with a high value man as well who is like doing almost everything for me.
I appreciate this video!. Without an understanding of what high value(s) mean, it would never matter to both genders. In the case of allowing a man to pay bills and a woman offers to pay. It puts the man off because it seems as if the woman is trying to prove she can take care of herself but there is another angle to this, some women didn't grow in a household where it was modeled that a man should take responsibilities in every area including catering to his woman. Here, the woman's upbringing is the one shaping her thinking. If a woman grows in a household where her father pampers her mum, she has come to the understanding that her man should do that and even go beyond for her.. However for most women, exposure and all helps them to upgrade their standards overtime.
True
Thank you Winnie❤️
I've gained a lot from this and I'm going to work mostly on my self confidence.
This is so elegant.
So on point
Wow,,,,, am in my 20 's and for sure I've learnt a lot,,,,,, I was doing all the DONT'S while dating but thank you because am now a changed high value woman🎉
You're super amazing Winnie. Love from Kenya🥰
Thank you!❤❤
Ngori 😂🎉
You know what, this channel is where I learn to become a better lady and a better person.
Anytime I'm doing something I'm like what would Winnie have done
Hihihi. Manor
Thank🙏 you so much winnie,few of your options are really what have been doing mostly my shyness and building up my self confidence more. i really love your contents ❤❤
Very correct ma’am. I actually didn’t even know about this but possesses all. Am grateful to God that you displayed all of my features here. Wawu I was so right in my behavior that even when I try to make my ex’s live right to my standard and it didn’t work Omor I move. And at the end I always leave my ex’s missing me. And today my husband is grateful that they didn’t act to my expectations and that made me live them and today he has me all to himself 🥰
I like the way you say "No, Don't do that"😅
Sincerely I have a victim of 1 or 2 of all these. I’m so glad I came across this and thank u for empowering women 🎉
She talked Abt initial phase of dating, for how long is the initial phase
😂😂😂 me too learnt my lesson
I learned my lesson from this video thank you so much ma'am
❤ur tip's so correct
I never knew that offering to pay for meals can be a turn-off for men. I've learned a lot. Thanks.
Point of correction, she said at the beginning of your first date with him..
Thank you very much , Winnie. Very insightful video. Will be looking forward to the business ideas video. You look stunning as always 😍😍
You are welcome! Vidoe coming soon!❤
Love you winnie, some points are for me. Thanks for the knowledge. But I'll like more explanation on point 14 because most time d person is just been herself. Thanks ma, more grace.
Just got in a new relationship with an Igbo guy and I’m from Botswana we both live and work in England and I must say I’m really loved but I tend to forget myself cause I’m excited 😂😂😂 this Nigerian man loves me and spoke about marrying me twice ever since we started dating but I still want to remain on that spot where he still has to chase me, so thank you Winnie I needed to hear this message ❤
Oh wow! You are speaking wisdom, thanks for sharing.
I'm disorganised and always late...I am always late... I'm working on it though
My 1st time here! It’s your elegance for me! I’m definitely going to imbibe these tips. Thanks Winnie 😊
hello🥰 I can introduce you to a spiritualist who re-unite me and my ex after a breakup, all thanks to him write him 👇
I love this video, i have learned alot from it. Indeed i got value. Thank you for sharing this.
I think I have learnt my mistake now thanks so much ❤
I love you Winnie🥰. Your poise, your intellect, your firmness tho still feminine, your fairness on these points… 💯 for me 😊
Hi sister winne , thanks alot for another lesson . Lots of love from Tanzania
Thank you Winne, I can't wait for you to share those business ideas. 😊😊😊
Thank you Winnie. Much love this really helps. 😍
You are absolutely welcome!❤️
This was fun, educative and wholesome. I have just subscribed!
Same here!☺️
First time here 😊 really enjoyed your teaching, keep it up sis
the tips are indeed so helpful. thank you winnie
Winnie you've really changed me so much I can now accept who I am and correct where I have been wrong. I am energised now 💪💪
Thank you Winnie,this video is very helpful to me ,it is so informative indeed they are many issues thqt you touched which one might fall trap to which might chase a man away.At times you feel too much excited to have a man in your life ,one will even become possessive.
Thank you sis.This video just. Opened my eyes
Thank you Winnie for the tips ❤
This is so insightful. This is my first time of coming across you on this space. I love this and I sticking here. Thanks for sharing ma
Thanks so much Winne , I now understand why relationships doesn't last for long , i like your encouragement cheers to you ❣️. Have learnt alot keep it up dear.
I make these mistakes a lot ( especially the first one , being shy n a complete introvert ) . maybe that's why i always ended up being single. When i love someone so much i always show it i can't pretend n at the end i always loose them. But then after some months they'll come back begging but then I've already lost interest in them coz i can love you so deep n dislike you the next minute.
@Maharu Haruna sorry I don't want any of my exes , i don't eat my vomit
That's me 😂😂😂 anyway ave learnt a lesson
@carotari 😂😂 this is me
We are both on the same page
The same here. When they come back I feel like slapping the hell out of them🙄🙄
Thanks. Very good points. I love your videos.
You've earned yourself a new sub,,I love it here,,your aura, energy!!!this is a channel for me❤
❤..... you're a genius sis
I love the way you speak.....I wish to cultivate it
Thanks for the real talk...love it!
You are welcome!❤️❤️
Thanks Winnie! This is very informative! I needed this honestly!
Yeah Winnie u have taught me alot. thanks so much i have got a relationship for 8 months I hope I will keep it lovely and clean through your teaching