Time in instead of Time out | How to discipline your child effectively

In this video one of our Child Clinical Psychologist from Private Therapy Clinic Discusses how to discipline your child effectively. The famous "timeout" is a well know strategy used with children, but how do you use it effectively? Research how found that the "timein" is more effective than the time out. In this video Tamara talk about how to be with your child throughout trying to discipline them and why this strategy is far more effective. Timein allows you child time to calm down from their anger and then you can start a dialogue with your child to help communicate with them. This strategy helps validate what your child is thinking and feeling which will help build their self esteem. Timein offers your child a safe place to grow and to start to verbalise at a very young age what they were feeling at a particular time. Tamara is available at Private Therapy Clinic to discuss this technique further with parents.
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[@parentingandlife858]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge and thoughts. I have started a technique that's kind of like a indirect time in. If my son has not cooperated and has gone past many opportunities to cooperate I have had him do chores with me and make his dinner. We end up spending time together and speak about how we can improve.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Thanks for sharing!

[@Taradays]

Make sure you talk to their daycare as well about this. One of my daycare's would segregate me into a separate room and just say "stay in here until we come back to get you or something like that". Whenever I would be throwing a crying fit. Most of the time I cried when my daycare owner yelled at me or I got disciplined then I would just keep crying and not stop and be brought to a separate room.
It was terrible and I never napped so it wasn't like I was getting sleep.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Thank you for sharing

[@jessiehernandez4304]

Like you're advices :) ❤️

[@SciTear]

I agree with the logic presented, but a great deal of this approach seems to hinge on the parent somehow being able to stay perfectly calm and composed throughout this. My counterargument would be to still use time out and sometimes make it clear that this is also because you (parent) need time to calm down. Follow up with a meaningful conversation after time out. Both parties have now had a chance to calm down.

[@michaeljherd]

Hi Tamara You indicated that "most research points that 'time in' is a more healthy and empathetic way of connecting with your child". Can you direct me to any of this research. I have only been able to find one piece of research regarding the use of "time in' (see below). While it demonstrates some promise, it's not a very high quality piece of research and they didn't measure any parenting outcomes - behavior difficulties, parenting confidence etc. I can find a lot of parenting commentators who discuss "time in', but no genuine research (eg. RCTs). I would appreciate your help.
Holden, G. et. al., (2022). Is it time for "time in"? A pilot test of the child-rearing technique, Pediatr. Rep. 14(2), 244-253

[@KarpucMotoring]

What is your reference(s) for “most research shows…”. Your advice is pointless if you don’t reference your research