Thank you for sharing your knowledge and thoughts. I have started a technique that's kind of like a indirect time in. If my son has not cooperated and has gone past many opportunities to cooperate I have had him do chores with me and make his dinner. We end up spending time together and speak about how we can improve.
Make sure you talk to their daycare as well about this. One of my daycare's would segregate me into a separate room and just say "stay in here until we come back to get you or something like that". Whenever I would be throwing a crying fit. Most of the time I cried when my daycare owner yelled at me or I got disciplined then I would just keep crying and not stop and be brought to a separate room. It was terrible and I never napped so it wasn't like I was getting sleep.
I agree with the logic presented, but a great deal of this approach seems to hinge on the parent somehow being able to stay perfectly calm and composed throughout this. My counterargument would be to still use time out and sometimes make it clear that this is also because you (parent) need time to calm down. Follow up with a meaningful conversation after time out. Both parties have now had a chance to calm down.
Hi Tamara You indicated that "most research points that 'time in' is a more healthy and empathetic way of connecting with your child". Can you direct me to any of this research. I have only been able to find one piece of research regarding the use of "time in' (see below). While it demonstrates some promise, it's not a very high quality piece of research and they didn't measure any parenting outcomes - behavior difficulties, parenting confidence etc. I can find a lot of parenting commentators who discuss "time in', but no genuine research (eg. RCTs). I would appreciate your help. Holden, G. et. al., (2022). Is it time for "time in"? A pilot test of the child-rearing technique, Pediatr. Rep. 14(2), 244-253
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Thank you for sharing your knowledge and thoughts. I have started a technique that's kind of like a indirect time in. If my son has not cooperated and has gone past many opportunities to cooperate I have had him do chores with me and make his dinner. We end up spending time together and speak about how we can improve.
Thanks for sharing!
Make sure you talk to their daycare as well about this. One of my daycare's would segregate me into a separate room and just say "stay in here until we come back to get you or something like that". Whenever I would be throwing a crying fit. Most of the time I cried when my daycare owner yelled at me or I got disciplined then I would just keep crying and not stop and be brought to a separate room.
It was terrible and I never napped so it wasn't like I was getting sleep.
Thank you for sharing
Like you're advices :) ❤️
I agree with the logic presented, but a great deal of this approach seems to hinge on the parent somehow being able to stay perfectly calm and composed throughout this. My counterargument would be to still use time out and sometimes make it clear that this is also because you (parent) need time to calm down. Follow up with a meaningful conversation after time out. Both parties have now had a chance to calm down.
Hi Tamara You indicated that "most research points that 'time in' is a more healthy and empathetic way of connecting with your child". Can you direct me to any of this research. I have only been able to find one piece of research regarding the use of "time in' (see below). While it demonstrates some promise, it's not a very high quality piece of research and they didn't measure any parenting outcomes - behavior difficulties, parenting confidence etc. I can find a lot of parenting commentators who discuss "time in', but no genuine research (eg. RCTs). I would appreciate your help.
Holden, G. et. al., (2022). Is it time for "time in"? A pilot test of the child-rearing technique, Pediatr. Rep. 14(2), 244-253
What is your reference(s) for “most research shows…”. Your advice is pointless if you don’t reference your research