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@MindBuddies one important thing is, not only have self-respect which is very important, but also respect him. A statement which i miss in many of his Videos... For example don't play his mother and constantly tell him what to do, like if he where a little boy who knows nothing. Communicate your priorities and trigger his problem solving instinct such that he finds the solution your self instead of you telling him the solution.
I am so sick of games. Just love with dignity, maturity and respect. Quit the drama. Keep things fresh , light and cheerful. Leave all dark psychology out of the relationship but with your therapist
A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, period. So... If he ignores me I will step back and he will lose me. I don’t play any of these childish abusive controlling mind-games. I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me, and treats me as the Queen that I AM. Because I am a beautiful and kind and sexy and wise and magical woman: who knows my worth. Period.
I don’t think I’ve ever even met a man who could tell you what emotional intimacy, is. It’s all wrapped up into sex. 1.) sex 2.) space, when not having aex 3.) sex 4.) sex 5.) to be taken care of like a child. And sex.
Yeah but so many things are non self respecting and when people see this… why do they feel the need to disrespect? That’s not ok. People don’t have any justification to mistreat you or lose respect for you For example, someone who’s anxious puts a lot of value into her man and doesn’t want to disappoint him and wants to look perfect because she wants to be loved and appreciated. This may be seen as non self respecting because she puts him first all the time. Why do some people think it’s only natural to disrespect these people? It’s nonsense. They do this with the best intentions and they receive disrespect in return? And it’s only natural? That’s insane
I appreciate a lot your efforts and how much genuine you are when giving us your advice. You are helping me a lot with your videos and you're showing me that good men do exist 💙
I have listened to many of your videos. I’m a 55 yr old woman and to me it seems like a game us woman have to play always and do all the work on the game to satisfy the men . Why can’t everybody be them damn selves . Be kind , be real and enjoy. Why o us woman have to do it all to intense there ego’s. It’s quite exhausting and ridiculously unfair! Come on!😊
Yeah my male friend talks about the lady that didn't want to commit as his girlfriend all the time. He went out for dinner with her 6 months after they drifted apart and still nothing more than friends with benefits.... He really wants her but once he does he probably loses his interest.
Probably. Because what he is seeking, he can only find from within himself. And whatever poor girl does give in…will only get her heart broken in the end. He’s not ready for a real relationship, it sounds like.
I dont want to be mean, but I am in such a thought structure that men only want "one" thing, lol, eventhough some men assured me that this is not a fact.... but then these men (who assured me that) only have affaires. For me it souds a bit contradicted. I wounder how special sexual preferences goes with "respect"? It happens that a man recently told me, that in a good relationship a woman needs to be strangled. I was a bit shoked, but it wasnt the first time, I heard that. Well, as this was some sort of dating talk, the conversation refered towards me and I rejected this kind of preference, but then he really start to discuss... and this wasnt the first time. I havent searched about this topic yet, but I will later on. I am lucky that he told it in an early stage, but now I wounder how to get such information with other men? Somehow, I have the sensation that such sort of "preferences" get more and more comment. Also I had some trouble when the man called "normal" sexual behaviour boring. This talk was a bit uncomfortable. How do I cut such conversations? In some conversations you cannot leave immediately, and I didnt know how to act confidently. I just tried to ignore it, but he came back to this topic regularly (which would mean that he didnt respect my answer?).
I want to weigh in with an answer. For me personally I would have ended the date immediately after realizing that the person had different prerences than me and and the fact that the conversation as a whole would have have made me feel uncomfortable. I would have gotten myself home via Uber or calling a friend or requested he take home immediately in a nice way. Also, I would have confronted the issue directly by telling him something like-I notice you keep going back to that topic or discussing those particular preferences. Is that something you want in your sexual relationship with your partner or if you didnt feel comfortable asking that directly, I would have asked him if that was something that was common in his previous relationships. Even if he lied you still had the courage to ask and both questions then allow you to tell him you don't share those preferences. At that point, things come to an end or you have the chance to explain your boundaries in that area.
Whenever you are alone, remind yourself that GOD has sent everyone else away, so that there is only you and him... Do not feel lonely, the entire universe is inside you. YOU ARE THE UNIVERSE IN ECSTATIC MOTION, BABY! Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes... For those who love with their heart and soul there is no such thing as separation. You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens (It is only then, that GOD can truly totally completely fully enter)! Our greatest strength lies in the gentleness and tenderness of our heart. --- Rumi
Ish, you are only addressing "young love" relationships What about the older relationships? Yes, my man all about buying sexy night time wear for me, insisting on having sex three times a day. He "needed space" a lot. To be with his buddies and play "war games". Needed me to bring home the big money, which I did because I was management working in IT/Telecom. Take care of him, meet his needs. Clean house, home cooked meals. Once the baby came along, he was jealous of time of spent with a little baby and not him. I was the bad wife. Ish, why you not talking about this real life adventure regarding a man?
Men do this one infuriating thing: They will make plans, some life changing decisions( that affect you) that they do not even mention; they are ready to implement those changes, they tell you about it because they have to tell you. They keep all this planning a secret. Sometimes for years .Makes women furious.
Thank you for the last tip We were long distance relationship And time zones are different I came in very early morning or very late night to talk to him But when i come he is not there for two days and the third day when i asked him where he was he got mad and said that i am behaving badly and i burned everything then he said that he was with his brother i was like why did u not say that from the beginning He said i was suffocating him and to give him space where we didnt talk for at least 3 days and he was the one who was always wanting us to spend more time together
A dating coach said if you are a woman and the man stops contacting you, don't chase but put the energy back on yourself if he comes back, receive him with warmth. What do you think?
Wanna know what he’s doing, when he “leaves?” He’s out checking his alternatives… He gave her a half of a thought and continued on his endeavor…only to think, “so and so is the most attractive….I’ll go back to her.” The problem is how we socialize our young boys and girls…and it doesn’t play out until adulthood. Then. Here we are. Trying to figure it out. Chasing tails and such. Because the answer is…everyone needs to teach their kids to be genuine-regardless of gender, race, culture…etc. Just…genuine. Emotionally mature…taught that vulnerability is NOT a weakness-as it takes far more strength to show it, than it doesn’t…else, many men wouldn’t be hiding their emotions so desperately. Social constructs…MUST change…if anything is ever to. 🤷🏻♀️
What if the man isnt texting back for a week? I didn't bug him cause i thought he needed space but he hasn't given any updates on whats up w him, should i take it as a hint that he isn't interested in me anymore n that's why he isnt contacting, i dont like being neglected this way so what should i do? Ps : he's divorced n has kids for a day in a week
I suggest to wait for him to reach out. And whenever he does just ask how he's been lately. Maybe he has something going on in his life and that's why he needed space. But if he keeps disappearing like this, I personally would walk away. No one should be neglected like that as you said.
@@SaveTheMessenger yeah I texted him last night to check in on him, didn't "read" my mesg even though came online multiple times which means he's ignoring/avoiding me, should I now quit waiting on him n block him or still wait to reach out to me, I know for sure something is going on in his life but it's making me anxious atp
@@xWabbli cheers 🍻 , I did the same! N never once bothered to ask him what's up w him or was there anything I did wrong :) We should know our worth, that's it
@@SaveTheMessenger .. Trust me by watching your videos and learning from them.. I have come out of a worst phase of my life.. I confronted that person and moved on because I was sure after watching your videos that he doesn't love it's just a lust... Big thanks and hug to you brother. Stay happy 😇
Yuck. Look fuckable while you bring me something to eat. Yeah…simple, is right. However, women are not complex…simply because we require more emotional vulnerability…as we were taught the 💩, growing up. Blows my mind…if my partner asked me what I wanted to see from him, for me to be happy…it would be, simple…”so see you happy.” Humans are so lost anymore. Stg I’ll just be alone 🤷🏻♀️ chuck it in the fuck it bucket. Cause clearly I was meant to exist in the future…the patriarchy is still going far too strong for my taste. 😒
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If you let him disrespect you, you can kiss your love life goodbye. Thank you ismael❤
Best mindset 💪
@MindBuddies one important thing is, not only have self-respect which is very important, but also respect him. A statement which i miss in many of his Videos... For example don't play his mother and constantly tell him what to do, like if he where a little boy who knows nothing. Communicate your priorities and trigger his problem solving instinct such that he finds the solution your self instead of you telling him the solution.
“He only remembers the woman who has the power to walk away.”👍👍👍
It's a paradox because I walk away they want me but it becomes late.
Hmm if I walk away because a man disrespected me, the man gets offended/sulky and doesn't look at me and doesn't talk to me
If he’s going to cheat it’s because HE’S a cheater. Fixed it.
I'm with you on that.
I am so sick of games. Just love with dignity, maturity and respect. Quit the drama. Keep things fresh , light and cheerful. Leave all dark psychology out of the relationship but with your therapist
A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, period.
So...
If he ignores me
I will step back
and he will lose me.
I don’t play any of these childish abusive controlling mind-games.
I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me,
and treats me as the Queen that I AM.
Because I am a beautiful and kind and sexy and wise and magical woman:
who knows my worth.
Period.
Best mindset 💪
What Men Want:
1. Attraction
2. Space
3. Emotional Intimacy
4. Physical Effection
5. A Woman They Respect
I don’t think I’ve ever even met a man who could tell you what emotional intimacy, is. It’s all wrapped up into sex.
1.) sex
2.) space, when not having aex
3.) sex
4.) sex
5.) to be taken care of like a child. And sex.
Omg, I think it's very true😅@@valeriestramennio9722
Yeah but so many things are non self respecting and when people see this… why do they feel the need to disrespect? That’s not ok. People don’t have any justification to mistreat you or lose respect for you
For example, someone who’s anxious puts a lot of value into her man and doesn’t want to disappoint him and wants to look perfect because she wants to be loved and appreciated. This may be seen as non self respecting because she puts him first all the time. Why do some people think it’s only natural to disrespect these people? It’s nonsense. They do this with the best intentions and they receive disrespect in return? And it’s only natural? That’s insane
I appreciate a lot your efforts and how much genuine you are when giving us your advice. You are helping me a lot with your videos and you're showing me that good men do exist 💙
That's very sweet of you. Thanks.
Lone wolves don't want emotional intimacy, even if he does, he doesn't open up, he just recives. so it's not a general
So true!
When I read this, all I can think about is that "respect" may be missing in the relationship.
Right. Probably from his end. And probably toward all humans…else, why get into a relationship with someone you don’t respect?
I have listened to many of your videos. I’m a 55 yr old woman and to me it seems like a game us woman have to play always and do all the work on the game to satisfy the men . Why can’t everybody be them damn selves . Be kind , be real and enjoy. Why o us woman have to do it all to intense there ego’s. It’s quite exhausting and ridiculously unfair! Come on!😊
Lovely true video! To the point great advice for all women .
Glad it was helpful!
Your comment made me smile. Thanks 😊
Yeah my male friend talks about the lady that didn't want to commit as his girlfriend all the time. He went out for dinner with her 6 months after they drifted apart and still nothing more than friends with benefits.... He really wants her but once he does he probably loses his interest.
Probably. Because what he is seeking, he can only find from within himself. And whatever poor girl does give in…will only get her heart broken in the end. He’s not ready for a real relationship, it sounds like.
Ismael, your advice is the most clear and provide me with such clarity. Thank you. I can't wait to see your next video. Can't wait.
Your comment made me smile. I appreciate you.
I love your videos they are short and straight to the point. thank you very much for that
Much appreciated 🙌
I dont want to be mean, but I am in such a thought structure that men only want "one" thing, lol, eventhough some men assured me that this is not a fact.... but then these men (who assured me that) only have affaires. For me it souds a bit contradicted.
I wounder how special sexual preferences goes with "respect"? It happens that a man recently told me, that in a good relationship a woman needs to be strangled. I was a bit shoked, but it wasnt the first time, I heard that. Well, as this was some sort of dating talk, the conversation refered towards me and I rejected this kind of preference, but then he really start to discuss... and this wasnt the first time. I havent searched about this topic yet, but I will later on. I am lucky that he told it in an early stage, but now I wounder how to get such information with other men? Somehow, I have the sensation that such sort of "preferences" get more and more comment. Also I had some trouble when the man called "normal" sexual behaviour boring. This talk was a bit uncomfortable. How do I cut such conversations? In some conversations you cannot leave immediately, and I didnt know how to act confidently. I just tried to ignore it, but he came back to this topic regularly (which would mean that he didnt respect my answer?).
I want to weigh in with an answer. For me personally I would have ended the date immediately after realizing that the person had different prerences than me and and the fact that the conversation as a whole would have have made me feel uncomfortable. I would have gotten myself home via Uber or calling a friend or requested he take home immediately in a nice way.
Also, I would have confronted the issue directly by telling him something like-I notice you keep going back to that topic or discussing those particular preferences. Is that something you want in your sexual relationship with your partner or if you didnt feel comfortable asking that directly, I would have asked him if that was something that was common in his previous relationships.
Even if he lied you still had the courage to ask and both questions then allow you to tell him you don't share those preferences. At that point, things come to an end or you have the chance to explain your boundaries in that area.
Sorry we dont have 6-12 months to let try each time... and I know not every man want only sex. but let's be precise, 98 pct ?!
Whenever you are alone, remind yourself
that GOD has sent everyone else away,
so that there is only you
and him...
Do not feel lonely,
the entire universe is inside you.
YOU ARE THE UNIVERSE IN ECSTATIC MOTION, BABY!
Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes...
For those who love with their heart and soul
there is no such thing as separation.
You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens
(It is only then, that GOD can truly totally completely fully enter)!
Our greatest strength lies in the gentleness and tenderness of our heart.
--- Rumi
Amen sister
Best of all is you are a man giving humble and true advise❤thank you
I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.
Thank you sir
I will keep that in mind
Ish, you are only addressing "young love" relationships What about the older relationships? Yes, my man all about buying sexy night time wear for me, insisting on having sex three times a day. He "needed space" a lot. To be with his buddies and play "war games". Needed me to bring home the big money, which I did because I was management working in IT/Telecom. Take care of him, meet his needs. Clean house, home cooked meals. Once the baby came along, he was jealous of time of spent with a little baby and not him. I was the bad wife. Ish, why you not talking about this real life adventure regarding a man?
I could listen to you the all day. Just love the way you express yourself. The voice, the words you choose, your calmness... I'm hypnotized😂
Men do this one infuriating thing: They will make plans, some life changing decisions( that affect you) that they do not even mention; they are ready to implement those changes, they tell you about it because they have to tell you. They keep all this planning a secret. Sometimes for years .Makes women furious.
Thank you for the last tip
We were long distance relationship
And time zones are different
I came in very early morning or very late night to talk to him
But when i come he is not there for two days and the third day when i asked him where he was he got mad and said that i am behaving badly and i burned everything then he said that he was with his brother i was like why did u not say that from the beginning
He said i was suffocating him and to give him space where we didnt talk for at least 3 days and he was the one who was always wanting us to spend more time together
Thank you for sharing your experience with us.
My favorite part is ''soo, let's begin.''
I’m looking for the man who will sing good morning to me. Anyone who makes fun of that is sorely mistaken!!
Very clear explanation, thank you.
I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.
💎 Writing notes!
Excellent!
Thank you! Cheers!
A dating coach said if you are a woman and the man stops contacting you, don't chase but put the energy back on yourself if he comes back, receive him with warmth. What do you think?
Wanna know what he’s doing, when he “leaves?” He’s out checking his alternatives…
He gave her a half of a thought and continued on his endeavor…only to think, “so and so is the most attractive….I’ll go back to her.”
The problem is how we socialize our young boys and girls…and it doesn’t play out until adulthood. Then. Here we are. Trying to figure it out. Chasing tails and such. Because the answer is…everyone needs to teach their kids to be genuine-regardless of gender, race, culture…etc. Just…genuine. Emotionally mature…taught that vulnerability is NOT a weakness-as it takes far more strength to show it, than it doesn’t…else, many men wouldn’t be hiding their emotions so desperately.
Social constructs…MUST change…if anything is ever to. 🤷🏻♀️
Absolutely every single thing you have said is a fact no ifs or buts about it! Thank you! Positivity peace and love ♥️
I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.
My God you know to much 😊❤
Best video
I bet!!❤
Very helpful to me. Thanks. 😊
I'm glad you found my video helpful.
❤❤❤❤❤❤
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I agree! Thank you Ismael.
I'm glad you found my video helpful.
What if the man isnt texting back for a week? I didn't bug him cause i thought he needed space but he hasn't given any updates on whats up w him, should i take it as a hint that he isn't interested in me anymore n that's why he isnt contacting, i dont like being neglected this way so what should i do?
Ps : he's divorced n has kids for a day in a week
I suggest to wait for him to reach out. And whenever he does just ask how he's been lately. Maybe he has something going on in his life and that's why he needed space. But if he keeps disappearing like this, I personally would walk away. No one should be neglected like that as you said.
@@SaveTheMessenger yeah I texted him last night to check in on him, didn't "read" my mesg even though came online multiple times which means he's ignoring/avoiding me, should I now quit waiting on him n block him or still wait to reach out to me, I know for sure something is going on in his life but it's making me anxious atp
Do your thing. Date others and only choose the right guy who's willing to commit to you and make sure you want that guy.
@@shiwangeeIf he went online several times and didn't even take a minute to reply "Sorry, I have a lot going on right now", I'd just move on.
@@xWabbli cheers 🍻 , I did the same!
N never once bothered to ask him what's up w him or was there anything I did wrong :)
We should know our worth, that's it
Again a brilliant job ❤🎉
Thank you so much 🎉
@@SaveTheMessenger .. Trust me by watching your videos and learning from them.. I have come out of a worst phase of my life.. I confronted that person and moved on because I was sure after watching your videos that he doesn't love it's just a lust... Big thanks and hug to you brother. Stay happy 😇
Not gonna lie. You're doing a great job.
Thank you dear.
Correct and very clear ❤🎉
That's very sweet of you. Thanks.
“Just bring me a sandwich while wearing a sun dress” (direct quote from my husband). Men are simple, we’re the complicated ones 😂
Yuck. Look fuckable while you bring me something to eat. Yeah…simple, is right. However, women are not complex…simply because we require more emotional vulnerability…as we were taught the 💩, growing up. Blows my mind…if my partner asked me what I wanted to see from him, for me to be happy…it would be, simple…”so see you happy.”
Humans are so lost anymore. Stg I’ll just be alone 🤷🏻♀️ chuck it in the fuck it bucket. Cause clearly I was meant to exist in the future…the patriarchy is still going far too strong for my taste. 😒