How To Test For High Quality Women
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- Опубликовано: 27 мар 2017
- Guys keep asking me how to make better choices with women, and how to test them for a potential relationship, here are 3 shit tests you can use on women to see if they deserve your attention longer term.
1. Get her to buy you a coffee
2. Saying no to something you aren't interested in
3. Have the prenup talk.
It all boils down to how they respond, watch the video, and leave a comment below to let me know what you think.
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"Women understand women and they hate each other."
- Al Bundy
Amen my boy, yous right on point imo
Whos al bundy
Lol
@@roberttraverso7352 ha
great comment!
Did the coffee test on my last girlfriend... Did not go well...
Pulling up into Starbucks parking lot... "Hey, before I take you out, I've got to respond to some business emails. Can you run in and get me a regular coffee with cream?" "Sure! Give me some cash..." already failed, handed her a 20. She came back with a 20 syllable latte for herself, a regular coffee with no cream for me, and a new travel mug. No change. Broke up with her the next day.
@Brotato Chip Nah, take the coffee and THEN leave her ass.
Why giving her the money in the first place 😂 20$ for coffee is crazy
I’m soo doing this!
@@redpillthinking6043 Take HER fancy coffee and then leave her ass. After all, you paid for it.
@@GoonRider19 no smaller bills at the time probably.
You forgot the waitress test. Find a restaurant, place your orders, conveniently head to the bathroom to wash your hands, and quietly ask the waitress to tweak your date's order (tip her ahead of time). Not drastically, but like the side salad got the wrong dressing on it or whatever.
Watch your date's treatment of the waitress (or waiter, no preference). How she treats a service worker is indicative of her arrogance or humility. The easiest way to reveal an entitled, abusive person.
Very true
Damn this is actually good. I was with a girl on a couple of dates and she did treated the service workers like shit. I should have picked it up then but didn't notice. You can guess what kind of person she was.
You could also just let her work with a Computer, with slow Internet.
R V - frfr. check this out tho.
check this test out. ask your girl to make you a sammich sometime... if she comes back with a sloppy ass thing on cheap white bread, and an American single, and hardly any mayo or nun. "deep 6" da chick!
now, if she come back with a nice hoagie roll, dressed up perfectly with the good ingredients and all the toppings you like (if she knows).... then she loves you! you should keep her around
Yep. There's a girl I know that I WILL NOT date for this exact reason. We've been out in group settings on multiple occasions, and more often than not, there is a problem, and she handles it to the point of embarrassment for the rest of the group. There is major "tension" between us, but I refuse to get involved...
I did the coffee test on my girl. She bought the coffee, got me a croissant I liked and texted me if I wanted anything else?
lol she watched your youtube history
@@Gnnesh yeah lol delete your history bro
I had just bought a new car and was picking out air fresheners for it. I was texting back and forth the guy I was dating and he told me which ones are his favorite. They were sold out but I went to Costco and they had big packs of them...so I bought one for him and one for me. I give them to him on our dinner date (which was our first date)...he asked me how much he owed me for them and I told him nothing and I bought us coffees at the end of the date. He still got to pick me up and take me home, open doors, pull my chair out, pay for dinner and feel like a man while I was able to make him feel appreciated. Win win 🙌
@@ellar6491 bless the win-win mindset ryt there
@@Gnnesh So, even if she passes the test she's still in the wrong? I know that was joke, but reading some comments there is no wonder there are so many single, unwanted people when they need a youtube tutorial in order to avoid dating assholes. And that goes for both genders. What happened to common sense?
I dont hate gold diggers. I just cant afford them.
NOTE: I can afford them now.
Me too lol
I dont hate Gold Diggers. I hate Gold Givers. Cant hate someone who wants a free handout. Shit who wouldnt want free pussy. Gold Givers are the ones responsible for making Gold Diggers.
So Guys make sure your Balls are in your Pants and not in your wallet.
It's the other way around for me.
gg
I just pop the question to my ex-girlfriend: "if you want to get married, we need to sign the prenup". She started shaming me for not trusting her and for thinking about divorce already. Then, I asked her: "Do you love me or my money?". "You of course" she replied. Then, I said: "so if you love me, why do you protest signing prenup that separate our finances?" Bitch immediately said ciao. Dodged a bullet right there!
Bro I did the same thing twice, and both times they failed. That is the ultimate test to see their true intentions.
Exactly. What’s sad is now days due to alimony etc.. woman know they have the upper hand “if” you get divorced so when you get married men have no leverage and woman know it. What is sad and I see it a lot guys talk to each other is woman do not know how to be a good “wife” anymore.. woman think being pretty and being a stay at home mom who goes to target and meets her friends for coffee and sorry woman that’s not a wife. Be a partner and stop shaming men that everything wrong in a marriage is their fault or owe you happiness in life. It’s not a one way street
I agree with a guy asking for a prenup because i would do the same, (but if a man have second thoughts because he's afraid of losing his things to me he's thinking about the marriage not lasting b4 it began.) "Asking for a prenup just in case is different."
I'm a tad behind for a younger guy but
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What's "ciao" lol
@@rydarryiandees3969 means goodbye in Italian
As a mom of two successful, kind young men~ also a single woman~ I wholeheartedly agree. The art of loving your man seems to have diminished. If a women is selfish in the beginning, hold on to your pants because she is a spoiled taker😁
BOOM!
@shawn mendrek Don't be fooled. Shes a single mom.
@@fleeboredom4629 loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool
@@mahkelharris339 I wasn't supposed to be taken by surprise. The great Mojo JoJo's never taken by surprise.
@Ayyy Lmao Widowed?
I’d just like to shout out to all the quality women (wives, girlfriends etc) out there who truly love their men and demonstrate it. We do appreciate you and recognize you as a cut above the chaff.
Yes.
@MrPerfect1986 You ain't perfect either so stop looking for a woman without a single flaw. No man can say his woman has no negative side. Same way you can not be perfect for any woman. Stop being a cry baby
H B he's spittin fax tho
Have you met this person?
The Bible explains exactly how husbands and wives should treat each other.
Dumped my ex straight after I went into hospital, she only came once to visit, when I called she said she had no money, I said ok I'll come to reception and I'll pay for the taxi..... you guessed, didn't come.... got better, came home and I told her to move out... gotta whole lot of abuse, tears blah blah... never looked back
Good for you... she showed her true colors
Apocalypto1 what were you in the hospital for?
You lived?...She was counting on that life insurance policy to pay out.
Been a year...did ya take her back ?....lol....
I like you
My wife still makes me breakfast in bed almost every morning, after 27 years...
Robert Phelps thats solid right there
Quite cool my boy
Take care and spoil her a bit my man
You sir are the luckiest man on earth
@@user-kq3ch8mq1x lmfao u idiot!! haha
Wish I seen this 18 years ago would of saved me a lot of pain, money and time
That's what life is all about: challenges and obstacles. Hang on big boy, chin up and look forward. You learned from it, got a thicker skin, and the next one sure as fuck ain't gonna trick you!!
Well, the maker of this video is divorced, no? Its easy being general after the battle.
@@Qlicky
A burned child is wary of fire.
Same
I test them before I even start dating them. When I see a good looking girl, I walk up and say do you wanna do it? If she says my place or yours, I say look, if you gonna start argueing this early, just forget it.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Wtf dude
I dont think this is the "right way" to test one of those chicks
@@joaop4585 dawg it’s a joke..
you're hilarious
Lmao
The best way to attract a quality woman is to be a quality man... The reason you put up with bad behavior from others is because you don't respect yourself.
Agreed.
I agree with you wholeheartedly.
I think what you find here are a bunch of old boys, not men. Nagging, moaning, bitching, stinking and blaming anyone but themselves for their own failures! If I had a daughter, these old rotten boys would be the ones I’d warn her to stay away from.
All I see here is stupid comments from sad and depressed old men, who cannot believe it takes two to screw up a marriage.
ArcadeesGrimm 69 - Awww, you are precious, and very special no doubt! Here is a ballon, now go play alone in the park if you can bring yourself to face the day light!
ArcadeesGrimm 69 Agreed.
Does quality products attract quality customers/people? No. Then you mix attraction with dealing with people that are already in relationship.
I know where you coming from. When women see that you wont put up with their shit they might not want to date you. Unfortunately opposite is true. The "evil/bad quality" women will see you as a beast to tame. And they will do everything in their power to do so. But if they will keep failing and you wont let them tame you then they will turn rogue. If they succeed, you are not beast anymore so they leave to find another. It is illogical from them but thats how a lot of women are.
Best way to find women is to be "quality men" who wont put up with bad behavior AND be educated about human psychology. Looking for red flags, testing her and being more honest with her. You will attract a lot of shitty women when you are quality men.
Three test I used to use, when I actually dated:
1. How does she manage her finances, wants vs needs.
2. How does she react to high profile divorces, and ridiculous alimony/child support judgements.
3 Ask about her previous break ups, does she take ANY blame for failed relationships.
Its funny how much can be revealed when you ask her about why they broken up with exes. You could usually smell half truths and blaming of the partner, but when she says I am the perfect I did nothing wrong, run away. Unless you can manage a relationship with narcistic b!tch.
@@DontbeF00Iish I wouldn't even ask tbh. It's none of my business. Everyone can have bad relationships. If they bring it up and are over- critical of the other person, or claim to be entirely innocent, then yes that's a red flag.
@@DontbeF00Iish dealing with that now and trying to heal and learn the red pill life
Oh good luck on number 3!! They will never admit any wrong other than they just" loved too much".
Had my first wife sign a prenup and was so glad I did. I remember when I had her sign it she said she would not try to take my money or house, and I said that is great, then you should have no problem signing the prenup. She reluctantly signed it. She still tried to take everything when we divorced, but the prenup saved me.
“I make the mistakes so you don’t have to.”
- Rich
saving some lives with this video here
Thx, it's what I do ;)
Hi can you do a show over how long is normal to wait before you have sex with a woman?
i used to be patience about that. but nowadays. hell no. if i dont get it within 1 weeks im gone.
why. i dated a woman she was a virgin ( which she was) but i waited for 3 or 4 years,. but after me. all the others guys only waited max. 2 or 4 days.
eversince my norm has change
Great topic Tyrone, I'll put something together.
PumpChasers Lol yes sir
Entrepreneurs in Cars ayyyyy Chris jones!
I'm 45 and I've had quite a few girlfriends over the years. When I bought my place I decided to remain single for a while and get my shit together. That time allowed me to get my head and my finances straight. Last year I met a real diamond and I'm so glad I took that timeout. Don't ever be afraid to be single, it was the best decision I ever made!
truth
memo heap congrats, yet its easy to attract supposed diamonds being well funded home owner.
Been single for about 8 years. Working towards some great things.
memo heap. I'm going to completely open here. I went through divorce (factor, we had a child). I learned a lot, good & bad. Here's the "being open part"... I've hit rock bottom & have been single for almost 6 years now. My focus is my daughter, education & complete self dependency (fixing my TERRIBLE downfall). So all I'm saying here, is that I agree. Don't be afraid to be single, even if it's for a while ladies & gents.. :)
memo heap Good going, way to go! I hope things are working out for you two! Don't take these idiots too seriously they're jealous when another guy succeeds where they have failed, they're jealous... There are gold diggers out there in numbers no doubt, but there are good ladies out there too, I know, I'm married to one, she's a real peach too! In fact, she's the one who's got most of the money, but she considers it ours, she treats me great, I love her endlessly & wouldn't ever want to be without her right by my side! Congrats on your home and your lady... enjoy them and don't pay attention to these guys and by all means avoid MGTOW, they're ridiculous, aggressive and destructive!
The test of all tests is look at her mother looks and attitude. That's what your going to get.
Sometimes not the case
not true
gg , I already felt it from some Eastern Euro girls
I saw some girls have status but her single mom . Lol
So always look at her mom , thats what I will get after . gg
Have A buddy talk you down while you are out of the room.
See if she defends you Ect?
She better.
I was dating a woman and one of my friends talked me down because he wanted to date her. She came to me and told me to be careful that he was not a friend to be trusted. We eventually got married and for 27 years she made me a very happy man ... sadly she died of ovarian cancer.
@@mrbill2600 this made me smile really big and then frown really big in a matter of seconds. I'm sorry, man. You got a good one. I'm happy you were able to have a girl like that in your life.
Bill Colbert your one of the lucky dudes out there restored my hope for marriage thanks
@@mrbill2600 I'm sorry for your loss brother
As a woman, I thought I would hate this video, but you are obviously a high quality man.
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
1.Glib
2. Narcisisstic
3. Shallow
4. Covertly hostile
That's high quality to you? Wow.
@@mariemason4252 - where exactly is he demonstrating those traits?
Back up your claims, or don't make them.
@@mariemason4252 didn't watch the video
@Billy Bob not interested
@@mariemason4252 I agree. This man is 🤮🤮🤮
I don’t know how I stumbled upon this video but I’m glad I did, sending this to my brothers right now 👍🏼 they’re genuinely caring, motivated young men, and as a women I know how self-serving many young women can be.
Youre a good sister Lindsey
Damn you dropped this 👑
@@footballbrainer279 lol
Higher quality great job young lady
Thank god, finally a good one
01:37 - 1. Get her to buy you a coffee
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02:38 - 2. Saying "no" to something you aren't interested in
04:47 - 3. Have the prenup talk.
Thanks
👏🏽
As a woman, I agree completely with this video & it’s awesome advice!! I have a lot of guy friends & my husband also has a lot of friends that definitely need to do this!! They’re lives would be so much easier
I use the napkins test. Go to a food place but not a restaurant, a place where you get food, get your own napkins, sit and eat.
Order food, pay for your and hers (this is kind of important) and conveniently forget to take napkins before sitting down. At some point she will notice there are no napkins and can do one of the 3 things:
1) get up get napkins for herself but not for you (red flag, you have to re-test her)
2) get up and get napkins for both (she will tell you that they are for both) GOOD SIGN!!!!!
3) ask you to get napkins (dump her immediately without finishing food. You paid for it, the least she can do is to get napkins)
I like this one.
@@RoseMarieMullins I've known several who have, before I learned my lessons.
Nah, I used to f@ck with absolutely crazy slut who passed this test initially. After 2 weeks she tried to subdue and manipulate me, so I ghosted her.
The test is good, but not a 100% guarantee, it might just be a demonstration mode from experienced female. The younger she is, the more reliable this test is - great for teen-early 20s, and by 30 it's not enough.
You don't go on dates, let's be honest here.
GOLD !
A good woman is supportive and nurturing. If yours isn't making your life better and happier then dump her and be single.
scanspeak00 solo True!!!
sooo
scanspeak00 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 truth!!!
Exactly
Indeed, just make sure you do your male role (provision and protection) as well. It goes both ways.
My suggestion would be to keep the prenup test till the very very last and use it only if necessary. My wife passed every possible test while we were dating and past every one with flying colours and more! Bringing up a prenup would have put our relationship back 10 steps into the negative. When you do bring it up it is questioning trust. If that has already been established there is no need for it. I got married at 22 and we just celebrated our 43 anniversary! The best decision I ever made!!
Been married 42 years to the second wife, I get sex anytime I want and sometimes when I don't. She says she gets a tickle in her tummy when she sees me arrive home from work. I'm a happy man.
God bless your marriages guys, being a young guy but starting to approach that time of your life when big decisions have to be made, I hope I can find a woman that satisfies me as much as yours do. Cheers to you brothers from other mothers!
It’s not questioning trust. You can still trust someone right now but you just never know what the future may hold. Also just because you trust doesn’t mean they can’t betray (don’t say that). But yeah, got to make sure of the prenup if you have much more money than she has. The risk is just too high. Ask the thousands of men that have found out the hard way.
Bringing up a prenup is not questioning trust. It involves the PERCEPTION of trust, but it's all about prudently managing risk. If she has an issue with that, adios.
Yeah, the 70s were a LOT different from today, I can tell you that much...
As a divorced male over 40 it makes sense to say no when you really do not want to go. It also makes sense to expect the woman to pay in relation to her ability to pay, and to go to places that are within your resources. At this age many women have made bad choices and do not have two nickles to rub together. However, a woman that offers to pay for a meal or a coffee or actually makes food for a day trip is way better than one that has the ability to pay and still has the attitude that she deserves a free ride. Case in point: I dumped a six figure woman who refused to offer to pay after the second date.
Another woman was really pissed off when I once left my wallet in the car glove box, not as a test. It was ridiculous in relation to all the other times I paid - needless to say it opened my eyes. She was gone too.
Cindy Lou
I see your point. But, women want equality, which means she needs to pay her way. Think of it like this, a guy pays on the first date, but many guys don’t get to second dates. Think how much they end up having to spend?
@Cindy Lou Both men and women have the same jobs nowadays, and are making in average around the same salaries in the west. It is a traditional gender role for the man to pay. You have an expectation for the man to pay (credit tho you are not demanding large expenditures) because it is his role. But what is the expectation of women? I do not mean sex or intimacy btw. But can you see from the man's perspective the issue here? He is just expected to dump money, invest in a woman in date after date. Some women take advantage of this, most women will not build a connection with the man, so forgive the guy if he becomes abit jaded or stingy with his money sometimes, it is not unlimited.
You could even say that if you did not make money a big deal and offer to chip in on such occasions you described the guy would feel at ease bc you have proven yourself not to be a woman who would turn his nose up at him so easily.
@Cindy Lou eating at a restaurant is a complete waste of money.
Yeees! I approve of these tests of this entrepeneur and I *am a woman and a feminist.* Men have a right to protect themselfes. If you don't treat your girlfriend/fiance/wife like an object (aka like an accesoire to your life, instead of a real person to share your life with - very big difference), you have every right to test her.
These tests he is talking about aren't even real tests, they should be just normal male behavior. Every women should bust her wallet out from time to time to pay for coffee, having a boyfriend does not entitle her to force him to go to boring movies/ art galleries, and prenups are just the sensible decision if you "marry down" financially as men often do. So guys don't worry, these test are feminism-approved.
I lately notice a wierd characterisation of feminism on the internet, especially by right-wing youtubers. Like we are the plaque, here to kill the white mans masculinity, but most feminists are actually not like that. Can someone explain this to me?
I pay my own bills but money is tight. If all I can afford is to make a home cooked meal would that be good enough?
if a woman won't love you at your weak moments she is not for you
"If a woman doesn't want you at your worst, then she doesn't deserve you when you are at your best!"
well she might not want you at your worst lol but she could probably tolerate your worst if she loves you
This is the ultimate test Jen! I've alwats told friends that their weakest moments are the best time to meet someone that matters.
I am not sure if I agree with this, you attract what you are, so if you are at your worst, you will likely attract someone at their worst/does their worst/thinks their worst is an acceptable way to behave regularly. Maybe a friend, but a partner? I would think doing your best and being the best you can that day (your best will vary day to day, todays best might not be equal to next weeks best bc maybe you are sick). However, I like to seek out people that will make be better so I seek that and attract that, and drop the rest. When people go through low times I do not mean cut them out of your life but they might need some alone time to straighten themselves out anyways
"What you are" as an individual, as a character or "what you are" in terms of for example health or financial situation? There are plenty of ways to be weak. Maybe your company just went bankrupt. If you just met someone right after that you won't look the part of a strong provider. Later, perhaps. If you're already in a relationship and she's packing her bags because she's used to another lifestyle - that is a fair weather friend. Now, if you've gone psycho because of a bankruptcy or a a bad break up, people won't wanna deal with you. I can't see, however, why your gorgeous and sexy therapist won't see the potential in you ;)
I really trust this guy, because he’s older, bald, but still has a badass beard and he goes to the gym. Man i must be easily convinced
Lolll
Guys that grow amazing beards oftentimes have DHT sensitive hair follicles on their scalp, hence the hair loss most notable in the superior and frontal region. But it also means he has good testosterone levels.
Male pattern baldness can happen to any guy even with low T 😆
@@The_Kirk_Lazarus EXACTLY... I've always had a thing for bald/ shaved head and beards - long before it was popular. Primal instincts.
@@CommanderDiggusBickus That's not pattern baldness.
The only women in the comments saying to forget the tests are the ones terrified, knowing they would fail them and be alone.
they're saying "don't be artificial and transparent about it bc it'll just be awkward and weird" instead of having situations like that arise naturally (talking about the wallet thing). and don't be artificial about the "saying no" thing because people, in general, don't expect their dates to say yes to everything, so you should be saying no to certain things anyway, but also giving an effort to do other things your date enjoys. they're saying "look for signs by getting to know them, instead of engineering situations to test them."
@@vessessa Well being transparent about it would defeat the purpose. On date number 2 or 3, assuming you've lightly discussed how things should be payed for, I don't see a valid reason to not intentionally misplace your wallet when you go somewhere cheap like to get a smoothie somewhere. It's nothing to do with the cost, but the attitude attached. I see what you're saying though.
Guys. You need firstly stop to see a woman as a monster and listen. If several women say this is not a good strategy, you should try to understand why. Obviously it is a good thing to filter the relationships, everyone does it or should do it. But if a guy " forgets" his wallet and we are just getting to know each other. Id think twice of keep seeing him. Not because i dont want to pay, i dont mind sharing. But in my last relationships ive been with guys that never worked and I was always stuck with the bill. So each person is a different case. A relationship is about building bridges not burning them or to act in a bitter and inflexible way. If the guy refuses to know and share my personal interests, why will I be with him? He could say better: i can go, i dont like it, but you can later then go with me to watch a soccer game. It should be an exchange. So yes those advices are not good
You don't even go on dates. What do you know?
@@nicolep9493 You're right I don't. I only take girls I care for deeply out on dates. I generally skip dinner and go right to dessert without issue
Best test i've ever heard of:
About 20 years ago i met a male who told me that if he or his mates ever got really serious about a woman, they'd set up a situation where their best looking mate would attempt to seduce the potential mate..... you can guess the rest... And this was 20 years ago...
Yall still single?
This is a dumb test with multiple obvious problems. This is the kind of thing you'd see the clueless male characters do on a sitcom.
@@thevoxdeus so, excuse my cluelessness, but what are the "obvious problems"
@@thevoxdeus what problems?
Women will hire very attractive women to do the same thing to test their man.
not saying I just heard bad ideas but, I spend a lot of time making sure my wife's needs and wants are met daily. I prioritize her. In return she provides my needs and wants, I'm prioritized by her. I've been happily married to my wife for almost 25 years now. 4 daughters, 2 granddaughters, I'm a Happy guy. It's simple guys, you BOTH enjoy each other's company and EACH of you priorities the other. If that's not how it is, move on. But ask yourself one question, am I ready, able and mature enough for a great relationship ?
Hope you and your wife stay happy like that till the end of your days! I wish this type of relationships were more common, even if both individual weren't married.
Thanks so much for your good story, sometimes people are full of negativity here in the comments. I wish you a happy life!
Exactly! A balanced relationship! Hope you have many years ahead together!
Then why is Fatmax watching a MGTOW video?
"Then why is Fatmax watching a MGTOW video?"
Well why not? You don't need to be a psycho to enjoy a murder story, do you?
We all have different ideas of high-quality women
Personally, I mostly overlook physical appearance
A good women
1- Is responsible.. if she has nothing she is interested in professionally(housewife), she should AT LEAST be able to do tasks and chores around the house
2- A women should respect your dreams, and your passions.. she should NEVER want to deter you from achieving your goals.
3- If she is able to stay with you through the bad times.. she deserves to be there in the good times.
agree with all that but i don't see why the guy can't help around the house either, maybe you meant that too
Sandra Markovic in the case that the wife works and is the primary income source for the household.. than yes.. the guy should do the house chores, however.. if he were to refuse.. than that is a warning sign that he does not like responsibility and/or discipline.
Household chores can be easily passed down to children therefore no parent would have to do them
...household chores would be minimum wage jobs at best.. therefore, if one dislikes doing the grunt work of a minimum wage job.. how would they be beneficial when it comes to more serious responsibilities such as investing, finding a real job, and managing finances for the family?
You can say the partner’s love more than compensates for any financial burdens.. but in the long term, that is certainly not the case.
Passed down to children, not all of it I hope ... although I feel it could really help some of them, I know way too many messy borderline dirty students unable to keep their apt clean...
+Tech49
Not necessarily. You can split chores to help each other. Personally, me and my wife split chores to save time for both of us so we can spend a quality time with a kid. We cook together, we clean the house together, we do grocery shopping together.
Most wives have jobs these days (at least where I live) and are STILL expected by their husbands to clean and cook and look after the kids - which I think is extremely unfair. I do know a few husbands who cook and clean as well as working but they are in the minority here.
I see a lot of upset women and some upset cucks in the comments. To me this is very simple. If a woman has an issue with paying for guys coffee ones, one should run away from her as fast as possible. If she can't sometimes take a "no" for an answer, one should run away from her as fast as possible. This is just common sense. He is not suggesting to leave your girlfriend in the woods to survive as a test or even "shit test" them all the time. These are very simple and easy tests. I might be lucky, but I am shocked a woman could even fail a "coffee test" or a "no test". What kind of person would fail that?
Leaving her in the woods is actually not a bad idea though. Let's call it the "Caveman Test". She has to survive a week on foraging and scavenging for food, building a shelter, and making a fire from rubbing sticks together. If she passes, keep her.
@@TheBeardedBlueberryFarmer
"If she passes, keep her.
" - make sure she gets a bath first and shaves her beard!
@@TheBeardedBlueberryFarmer LMAOOOO
Some women who go out with their females hold back on paying their share too.
@@TheBeardedBlueberryFarmer The problem with that is 99% of men today wouldn't pass that test themselves.
Thank God I saw this video before getting into serious relationships.
Really helped me find the right girl for me.
I did these three tests and some others and all came back positive.
I’m thinking about proposing.
I know your against marriage, but I want to have kids and it’s better for kids to grow up in a stable home with parents who are together.
you're right hendricks. there's nothing wrong with marriage, unless you marry the wrong kind of person
Hope you married. Marriage is wonderful.
Just don’t get married with the government involved. Or even better don’t get married in America
Married? Still married? Get a Prenup?
Notice how your lady acts toward wait staff in restaurants and in similar situations. If she is not respectful with them - good chance you are in for some shit.
Yeap, i've seen this to be true.
absolutely! my wife is nice to waitstaff, and sometimes in other situations she is a complete pushover, and I have to tell her don't take shit!
lightpixel Well, just from a practical standpoint, if someone is dumb enough to be rude to the people handling their food, you should really reconsider having personal involvement with them.
Wash that thang.
that's a good one!
I used to drive a JUNK TRUCK. I could afford better, but that was my filter test. Gold diggers stayed away from me in droves. But I found one who didn't judge me for the car I drove, or the clothes I wore. ( I wore work clothes a lot). No tests required because they judged the cover of the book before opening it. I just had my 26th wedding anniversary. Now I drive nicer cars and wear nicer clothes. None of them are perfect but neither am I. So I'm just sayin' "don't look for perfection because none of us humans are."
david mundy congrats brother! Wise words
david mundy You can also be finding women that have no discernment. So, more tests are necessary.
I also drove a basic truck, primered gray no stereo no power windows no a.c. but i still pulled great looking women. 😎
Kris P. Bey Ken Thats great.
But beside the point.
@@jakesmith2984 true, i get it. Makes for another whole other topic though👌😌
Fraud protection caused my card to decline at a pizza place in a bad neighborhood. My girl stepped up with cash to cover. Took me many years, but I think I’ve found a keeper!
Funny how low our standards are. I’ve had strangers do that for me. Felt unbelievably indebted to them, but the fact they were genuine about it meant I couldn’t pay them back or ever see them again. The little things really make a tremendous difference for us men.
@@bathemeinchampagne because we don’t live in fear.
EXTREMELY helpful video - I just subscribed (and turned on the notification bell)... That car test from "The Bronx Tale" is VERY accurate. I tested it on a this "gorgeous" female, who I really liked and cared about, and she failed, but I still ended up getting engaged to her - TERRIBLE DECISION, lol! I called it out after she caused serious emotional (and physical) damage (She turned out to be a sociopath).
You’re describing women with NPD. Narcissistic personality disorder. I’m a female and it runs rampant with women today. I’ve had to terminate so called friends because of this very thing.
How smart are you so good to hear you say that
@@evilco.8496 Remember, porn is fake, and women are in fact as hairy as men. Yes, women do have butt hair.
@@Brandon-pj8vc you need to see a psychiatrist
Terminate them? seems a little extreme, Lol.
Just left my wife of five years for NPD ... emotional abuse and stonewalling ... not to mention much more. I like the No test which often reveals the selfishness of NPD
Of course a decent honest woman would buy a coffee for you. Agree if she tries to shame you it’s bad. Agree on prenups too.
Finally one woman said this. Thank you! I mean, it is sad that one has to even discuss such a thing. What kind of creature wouldn't buy a coffee for a date?
Women should do prenups too. Not all women depend on men.
Glimmering Sea
Prenups are easily thrown out in courts.
Don’t rely on them!
@@glimmeringsea5105 Not all women depend on men, some depend on the state to force men to support them.
Misha Pravdov conversely I dated a guy that was so cheap he got pissy w me over an 89-cent Icee. Mind you, he had no problem digging into the $75 dinner I’d bought, schlepped over AND cooked for him that weekend. We didn’t last long 😂
Omg, I was just talking to my sister about pre-nups... I don’t care about the money I just want to love someone and give em my all!
Really 🤔
Hey boys look. It’s a damn unicorn.
They all say that...."I don't care about money" but after getting use to a certain lifestyle in the end they always ask for money.
Must be a very young woman. Once women figure out that marriage isn't about their man covering them with melted chocolate all day long, that's when they turn angry and decide to fuck over the dumb SOB who crushed their little girl dreams. You know, the one they were dying to marry five years ago.
Where can i find someone like you?
I am the nice guy who always ended up getting run over because I said yes to everything. Since discovering the word NO, every woman good or bad ALWAYS show their true colors when I say it! It'll keep you out of trouble 9 times out of 10!
That goes for everyone
Most of the channels I'm subbed to talk about how women test men. About time a channel switched it around!!
YourReputationIsOutThere.com They asked for equality. Ask and they shall receive
Women's test: Are you the ugliest bitch who has gotten his attention? If so, he is a keeper.
Some of my tests :-
A: Caring Test : If she dismisses a suggestion or opinion, go quiet, see if she notices
B: Patience Test : Out walking slow down to notice something, does she keep in sync or becomes inpatient
C: Team Test : Any job. Start cleaning up, does she help or just watches you work.
D: Lazy Test. Ask her to an early breakfast, see if she wants to reschedule to later.
E: Fakeness Test. Arrange a casual activity, see if she dressed appropriately light/no make-up
F: Princess Test : Take her out of her comfort zone. MMA Fight. Paint Ball, Controversial Speaker
G: Friends Test: Politely disagree with her friends. see how much influence they have over her.
Used to date a this older guy (same income as me) who never paid for anything, never bought groceries or cooked a single meal, only agreed to go to museums/ galleries or events if I paid for it, because he was happy just doing free stuff. I had an honest conversation with him telling him how I'd really appreciate it if he made a bit more effort and contributed every now and then, doesn't have to be expensive stuff, maybe pay for coffees or call and offer to pick some groceries up on the way home etc.. He had a boy strop, called me shallow and then didn't talk to me for a week.
Obviously didn't work out. I clearly should have shit tested him, when he kept forgetting his wallet for months, or going to the toilet every time the bill arrived.
Yes, you should have.
For some reason I think your story is bullshit because its so polarizing.
The Knee what part are you finding hard to believe? A guy using the opportunity to financially lean back on a woman, or the fact that a woman is naive enough to keep financially supporting a guy and not getting anything in return?
MeesNukk
Second part. You made him sound so awful it begs the question how you even got into a relationship.
@@MeesNukk Well based on what you said regarding that older guy who took advantage of you, I think you should go out with me and I would happily pay for dinner :) You sound like the elusive Unicorn so many guys are searching for. Let's talk sometime. I promise no shit test hahaha
If she doesn't let go of her phone or refuses to go anywhere without it and wont let you look through it at anytime besides search history. That there is a major issue, she shouldn't have anything to hide.
That's just a general thing not a gender specific thing, it should apply to you too
@@coolfred9083 I don't see guys grasping on to their phones as for dear life constantly unless they're feminine at that. I have had dozens of dinners and party sessions where I collect guests phones in a bin and its always a female who is reluctant to give it up acting as if its more than two feet away they will die. Especially 90% of the women I dated refused to even hand me their phone unlocked.
@@JackJonValois About the guests thing, that sounds more like they're worried it would be stolen or damaged which I would be too.
_"unless they're feminine at that"_ - lol what ok
@@coolfred9083 You assume im a criminal or a crook? Im a fashion designer and investor, No one from my appearance has any reason to suspect that nor has ever mentioned that when being bothered and no that was not the case in their worry, people are addicted to their phones these day and common decency at the dinner table is not to use your phone. Besides that point most don't wash their phone cases and they take it to thousands of places and even in the bathroom for some, I do not want that at my dinner table, whatever floats your boat that you do.
@@JackJonValois I'm not saying it's anything specific about you, I just wouldn't want anyone taking it regardless of what their appearance is, I honestly wasn't trying to suggest anything about you. It's me.
Another good test is for the man to state one normal, widely known difference between men and women like “Women have a tendency to be more emotional than men.” And if she starts going off about toxic masculinity and third wave feminism then you need to drop her.
Can't tell if trolling or not, but hesitant thumbs up...
Anna Henderson with that comment she’ll probably drop him first
@@MsFashionFeline Thank god
oh boi
@@VanillaCracker I thumbed her down, the smell of bullshit is overwhelming.
But what if she goes with you to a football game (which she hates), wouldn't you, for equality, go for the date at the art gallery to please her?
Mary Novati Assuming YOU insisted for her to go to the game for YOU, then it makes sense to reciprocate.
duhhh .what woman does something she hates ..ever ?
wacka2 to please her s/o
Yeah I was thinking the same....if am doing it for him then I would naturally be sad if he doesn't Putin efforts.
wacka2 every good Mother EVER
Any other women watching this because you’re curious? 😂
Lol...we getting lecturers now🤣😂😅we cant be played no-more!!!
@@omphemetsechake2839 you mean; you (women lol) can't be playing no more : time to be fair huh? hahah
Yes.
Yes
@@omphemetsechake2839 must have npd
As a 28 y.o. single woman (never married, no children), your videos have opened my eyes for the better. Thank you for sharing your experiences for the betterment of those, like myself, who are willing to digest and apply it.
Annabella, with 28, it's time to get yourself a really good guy with a good value base and found a family. All the best for you!
@@apollontheintp3257 Thank you for your sweet comment! All the best to you, too!
@@annabellawr My father told me this when I turned 30. He was right. All the best!
Make sure u preserve ur value and don't engage in promiscuity if u havethen ur value has been damaged. After 34 or 35 u might not have a chance. Ur only chance is now at 28.
#1. Don't jump into bed too fast, you'll be thinking with the wrong head. Take the time to get to REALLY know her... and a week or two will NOT suffice. #2. How does she treat her family? Her friends? Strangers? Is she kind, considerate, thoughtful? Does she put herself before others, or is she always considering others first? This will tell you more than almost any other test. #3. What are her closest friends like? Do they have a social conscience, or are they all about themselves. Big loud WARNING bells should be sounding if her friends are useless.. this is what she's attracted to. #4. LISTEN TO HER CAREFULLY. No, seriously, listen to the content and context of what she says. Nobody but nobody can keep up the "i'm an angel" bit for long..cracks ALWAYS appear. #5. Listen to your GUT feeling. That's the warning sensor that we all to easily ignore..because we KNOW her... after 5 or 6 dates.... or a month or two, and she's fantastic in bed..so what? Many of them are great in bed, but they have no heart or soul...it's all about them. Carefully consider this. How long did you know your best bud before you felt that you could truly trust him? I'll bet it wasn't a few days or even weeks. It takes TIME to really get to know someone...anyone, get used to that idea. If she's REALLY the one time will tell, and time doesn't lie.
Wow Frank, you would have hurt my feelings if I let the opinions of a clown bother me...LOL You choose a woman with your methods and i'll trust the woman that I have chosen by my methods. I'm in it for the long haul, not a 10 minute dalliance. This is just common sense if you're looking for a spouse, or long term partner, one that you can build trust in and have an honest relationship with.... if that's important to you.
Steve T , don't let Frank bring ya down. He clearly doesn't understand what long-term relationship material is. You, on the other hand, do pretty well. If Frank wants fast women with no value beyond her breasts and vagina...let him chase that around for the rest of his life and live the regretful consequences of interacting with those kinds of women.
You got your head on straight and know what kinds of things to look out for. That will carry you far in life and in a relationship. Keep moving forward, let Frank deal with his opinion, don't fuse with it. Just dust on your shoulder, brush it off and keep living life according to your own wisdom, morals, and values. 👍 💪 🙏
+Grizz Lee... Thank you Grizz, it's good to know that there are "thinking" men out there who know what's important in looking for a relationship. I've done the "pick up" scene and there is nothing of value there beyond a physical attraction. I've watched friends make the same mistake time after time after time, with no appearance of changing their methods and then they wonder why it always falls apart, or why their bored after a few months. Go for substance instead of mere appearance, you won't regret it in the long run.
YOU should make a video. Good advice, buddy.
I don't understand why single men won't take the advice of men who have successful, happy relationships. There's so many fast-talking, ageing dating gurus that are failing with women themselves , but lining their pockets with the money of gullible idiots.
Three great tests to determine the character of the person you are dating. I’ve never had to do these on purpose. In almost every relationship I’ve been in, they’ve come up in one way or another. The key is paying attention to how your partner reacts. Some women freak out if the man doesn’t pay for everything - so forget about her ever paying for you. The ultimate test is the “No” test. I’ve exposed many female narcissists by just being honest about my true feelings. If they try and shame you or use the silent treatment - run, do not walk, for the exit.
@Bronze Cop you need to leave school first
The coffee test is very efficient and powerful. And during this test, you can ask the girl to protect the coffee in her hands while you are driving so it does not spill nowhere. Bad women will grudgingly accept, or tell you right away, don't you have a cup holder. (if she says that, I 100% guarantee you with my life she will be an horrible wife)
Bollocks. I want a woman not a servant. WTF are you talking about.
I don’t think asking for a cup holder would be bad cuz she is using basic logic
The Key test still works. You open the door, let her in, walk around, and see if she opens your door. Still happens.
I’m a woman and agree with all three.
Regarding number 2-if my husband had a hobby or something that interests him and wanted me to be there for support or just to experience it with him I’d go.
When a woman fulfills my emotional needs, my whole world brightens. So guys, besides sex, those are the 2 reasons we need and want women. For soothing us and allowing us to fulfill our need for emotional intimacy. There is no substitute for a woman’s feminine powers. None. That is why we bother.
Noah brandini Can't believe dude hearted your "you complete me" crap.
If your chief goal is to get laid, a true sign that you are unable to choose and attract quality women and have a fear of intimacy.
Noah brandini When it comes to women I'd rather be lucky than good. My last one jaded me so bad. It's been over 3 years and I have no idea which way is up with women anymore and life itself is extremely difficult. So that's my perspective. Your's is clearly better but I have no way of achieving that. Thanks for the reply though.
Sean Hammer it must suck being that dependant of women
Kevin Campos It sounds like he's never had the rug yanked out from under him or been cheated on.
My personal favourite test: Keep the first date cheap.
If she's low quality she'll get mad that you're not treating her to a fancy dinner.
Fast food/local coffee shop every time.
$1 pizza baby!!!!
Thank god I discovered this channel when I was 15. I'm 16 and still watching these videos
Same here, Dating this blonde swiss girl for two years and because I wasn't paying attention she was suddenly picking between me and this other guy she knew for 2 weeks. I have never felt worse that month. June 15th 2021, I remember it so well. I wasn't going to be picked over, so I left. She pushed and pulled with him for 2 months, the guy then finally used her and stopped talking to her. Someone ruined what felt like my entire life in 4 weeks. That was hard to get over, I applied these things before (which she previously said was mysoginistic). I got manipulated and smacked over the head with absolute deceit. She manipulated me into thinking I was the bad guy. I always thought she was a good woman, did everything right. Looking back on it, I wanted to change myself to fit her perfectly, boy was that a mistake. Always stay on your own path, on your own success. Find a teammember, not a liability.
Too many dudes think with the small head and not the big one.
Dude I got a small head and a big dick and it's a fucking rollercoaster bro
I mean....that is the head that continues your genes so it's a good one to follow.
David Cooper by that logic using a condom would be a stupid idea.
Alex König no...your penis leads you to make decisions to further your gene's and your brain leads you to decisions based on current abstract ideals. On average those with children are happier than those without. OP says men need to use their brain over their penis. If I had to choose just one to follow I'd pick the one leading to my genetic survivability and on average chance of higher happiness.
Also my statement was a half joke. I know men need to be selective with their penis's desires.
Bipolartorecovery “just listen”? No... why? it’s simple, you don’t listen to women, you watch them, compare what they say to how they act and 99% of the time their words and their actions won’t match.
I am a woman and I say *these tests are actually the good kind of tests*. Not because "i am not like the other women, i am better, blah blah blah" but because it is only logical to recognize that there are shitty women, as there are men and we should be cautious about who we are devoting our time to.
So, back to the tests. I deem them great because they are not these pointless tests that will irritate your date. More specifically, they test with a discreet way if:
1) she respects your private space, if she has manners
2) she isn't in it for the money, but because she likes you. and she is petty and if she can't give some dollars for a coffee
3) she sespects what you like and what you don't . I would like my bf to come to me in a lot of places I woud like to be, but I wouldn't be happy if he didn't enjoy himself. What is the point of two ppl going somewhere to have fun if one if their lover (i mean the second person) doesn't enjoy it?
4) - i am sorry, i can't comment well enough for the prenup :P
I know a girl who once dropped her pen and called her bf from the other side of the room to come and pick it for her (he came and picked it, idk why). She thought it as a test to his loyalty. There is a limit in testing and must be done with respect to the other person. The only thing that this test proved was that she had a shitty personality.
Jay Barker good one. lmfao.
I agree. I would also add that these are good tests regardless if you're applying them to a man or a woman.
1. cup of coffee test. 2. art gallery test (no test) 3. prenuptial test....got it
1. Pretend to forget your wallet and see how she reacts to cover you, if she gets angry, cusses you or shames you, bye Felicia.
2. Disagree with one of her interests and see how she reacts, if she uses shaming tactics, bye Felicia.
3. Mention your money management and how you will not be sharing your life savings with your partner hypothetically, if she reacts badly...
Need to write down
Any decent woman would walk after number 3. And so they should. Grow up.
Bye Felicia 😀
I made up the "nap test". For some reason women freak out when they find out that you just laid around and took a nap in the middle of the day. It's like they expect you to be a workhorse and not rest when you're tired. I experienced this once and thought it was just that one girl, but I've seen it several times now. So if a woman can't respect your need for R&R, she needs to go. We aren't packmules to serve women.
Johann Wilder well said
fuck that's so accurate
i am a woman and i'm getting naps whenever i have time. i don't understand what's bad in it.
Johann Wilder my ex used to do this
Johann Wilder ill cuss a bitch out if she wakes me up from a nap for reason. only woman that can pull that shit off is my mom
Something I tried is the beater car test. Iv got several seriously nice cars but iv also got a little gas saver car I bought for my daughter when she gets license. I rolled up on first date in that gem and parked right up front. But this girl never flinched. On about third date when I opened garage she was really smiling then. We still dating and we laugh about it now.
Classic move!
I did the shit test in 1983, not knowing a shit test would even exist at that time, and it was for a movie!... well she paid and passed. We were together for 33 Amazing years ! However she passed away in 2015...my best friend.
So it works men.
Passing was common then?
I recently started dating an actual nerd girl and she asked me out on the first day. When the bill came she grabbed her purse and was going to pay (It was our first date so I paid) Second date we went to a mongolian bbq and she looked at me and said "It's my turn. You already paid for the first date." And she paid.
3 years later: how'd that go?
@@jessipanda two months later, sounds like he was dating a feminist, so I'd say not that well.
One of the best ways in how I see if she's a good match for me is to ask questions about people that are in her life. What do you think about your Dad? Do you have a Best Friend and hear what she has to say. Does she bad mouth others? Just ask questions and wait. Be funny and always be positive in my view. Don't bring up bad ideas. If she start to bad mouth her Dad, her BF, or EX. DONT ADD TO IT! Just hear what she says and go off that and if you don't like it then you can leave.
Again great Channel man 👍
K.O.
You don't have to ask her. Usually, the very first thing she'll start talking about is how bad her ex-boyfriend was, how bad her friends are, etc.. You can bet she'll be speaking about the same way!
Be a 3% man What if her dad was a DB? Maybe go for her best friend instead
*Chaitanya Reddy*
"Daddy issues" and "mommy isdue" are nothing more than old shitty Freudian theories.
*Chaitanya Reddy*
Uhmm...when you say "daddy issues", what do you mean?
A concrete example.
Listen ladies always offer to pay the tip especially if he's paying the bill. If he continually says no to doing something that you like to do however, don't continue to date him. Relationships are about give and take on both ends; he should be willing to spend sometime doing things that you like to do and you should be willing to hear a no once in a while too. Ladies most of all have your own life, your own hobbies, read books, exercise and keep your business private!
Daniela Daniela I totally agree! I think it’s important for both partners to be given the chance to be generous.
The earlier parts of a relationship show signs of future behavior. If a potential partner isn’t willing to contribute early on maaaaybe, if they’re smart, they’ll take it as a sign that they may be selfish, uncooperative, unwilling to make sacrifices, and unwilling to compromise.
More often than not, people’s behavior has a pattern. Weather you’re a man or a woman, this is important. Women nowadays are socialized to be selfish and entitled. TRUE equality as individuals is important for a healthy relationship.
I always pay the second or third date. I always offer the top. I go get a gift card ahead of time if I have to. I haven’t had a date in years though. Thank goodness for my dog!!
Daniela Daniela When I first dated my husband I would either offer to pay or pay for myself. That's real feminism!!! Being confident and yet respectful to men. I don't believe in any of this shit on either side. It's mind games and feels so unnatural. I agree with this guy. Men, and women, need to make better choices in the people they have relationships with. But these tactics I don't agree with. For example, with the car key trick. What if the girl is really shy, sweet and extremely nervous? She may not even think of unlocking the door. I wouldn't have. How about noticing if the person will do things for others? Are they polite? Or any of the other values that are important to you. See if you are truly compatible. Do stressful tasks like a locked room game or go camping with little equipment. Something that may show someone's true colors. But overall, I really dislike these mind games.
Daniela Daniela so the secret is to attain balance on both sides.. interesting. Maybe that's why I feel like a living corpse most of the time when I'm with my gf. I spend so much time helping her and mending her broken wings but the minute I look after myself she panics. After numerous conversations about it I'm pretty sure she is unwilling to change.
You should offer to pay for more than just the tip. Doesn't mean you should have to right up front but eventually pay for the entire thing, or split or just the tip. Pay your fair share until you're married.
"I make bad choices so you don't have to" - love it!!
The "no" and "prenup" test works amazingly 👌 That reaction the "no" always is a good tell tale sign
My favorite test: take her somewhere where there will be alcohol served and attractive men. Watch how she interacts with other men and treats you in that context once her inhibitions are slightly lowered.
A good girl will not embarrass you, make you jealous, or make you question her. In fact, she'll do things to avoid that.
MrShysterme that's a good one. And it's been around forever. The trick is to PAY ATTENTION.
it's actually a good one. Must be a very uncomfortable situation to stomach if she does behave inappropriately though. How has this test been working for you so far?
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@@gbessone It caused me to leave my last GF. So, it's working exactly as it should.
@@MrShysterme are you happily married?
I'm a pretty independent male. Soldier with multiple combat tours. That being said it's a good idea to do things sometimes which you think you might not be interested in...what's wrong with an art gallery. Expand your horizons.
siciliangamer thank you for your service
siciliangamer Art is not the point, sweetie.
Cynthia explain...to be honest just getting back from another combat tour (as I am now) I like to do new and different things to take my mind off the war...
siciliangamer I believe Mr. Cooper was merely using an art gallery as an example. The point is to do the 'shit test.' So say your girl suggests a trippie-poo to the art gallery. If you want to go do something new or different, by all means. But to do the 'shit test' you gotta pick an invitation or request of hers, where you say no. That's the whole point.
siciliangamer well, art can make you feel how small you are and big boys dont want to be small, they want big guns so that they don't have to settle for a target...
I don't get some the hate in the comments. The stuff he is saying can save ur life.
Love the advice!Saying NO is the greatest tester to both man and woman .Its also the easiest check of narcissistic characteristics and definitely run far if the answer is rage.
Just remember there's an exception to every rule. Sometimes a woman won't reach over to unlock the car door because she's so shy she kind of freezes. And once in a while, go ahead and do something she really wants to do even if you have zero interest because it would thrill her to share it with someone like you. My girlfriend loved Opera and invited me to a show, and even though I hate that shit I went anyway because: a) I knew it meant a lot to her, and b) I could experience something new, say I did it, and never have to do it again.
I don't think he meant not once and a while experiencing something new. I took it as, say no to a movie once after seeing 5 other movies and see if she freaks out. Kind of like the prenup test, you should only have to bring up prenups once.
Pussy
+owlcu
Maybe it is a good idea to avoid dating frozen people?
Seriously, though, a person like probably needs mental health services, and romantic partners are just about the worst candidates for that. Someone who is that shy probably needs to take smaller steps before jumping into the dating pool.
"A Bronx Tale" (1993) - what a great movie, and I remember that test vividly!
That test is obsolete now with the invention of automatic door locks...lol.
Yes great movie
The car door test never lies. Still valid in the days of key fobs, be a gentleman open her and wait and see
My boyfriend of 11+ years did this to me in the beginning of our relationship (unbeknownst to me and the car was an older Jeep Wrangler so no power locks) and I guess I passed!!! 😁
It's hilarious how livid some women become when they learn they actually need to put in effort to keep a man around.
Prenup ALWAYS!!! You worked your ass off , that’s your money not anyone’s else money. That’s so mess up after divorce ,the person who did you wrong or just because things didn’t went right, have half of your money! If both worked together and made the money together it’s another thing. That’s fair. Me personally , all these tests you said, I do the same when I start to talk with a man. I totally agree!
P.S: Sorry about my grammar, English is not my primary language. Hugs from Brazil 🤗
Even if she's cool with you poo pooing the art gallery initially, are you never planning on compromise? Are you cool with her never being the hottie with you at the game that she came along only to support you? Pretty sure if you're never willing to compromise, she won't either and dump you for someone who will at least be supportive of her interests now and then. #2 test will cause an otherwise happy marriage to fail. There are way better ways to find a solid woman.
beanschlager1
Yes, shows some openess and curiosity to go along to the exhibition with her, you might be surprised that you find something that actually appeals to you in one way or another. I wouldn't want to spend time with a man who says a flat NO to everything he has decided don't fall within his prescribed circle of interests.
+beanschlager1
Why not do things you both like together, and things you don't both enjoy apart? What is gained by compromising in this way? It seems to me that the only thing this will do is train both of you to think of the time you spend together as a chore to get over with, rather than something to look forward to and remember fondly.
I think that test was to find out how she dealt with disappointment, not getting her way....
I think he just means make sure you can still be you, you should be able to say no to your partner and not have it be an issue
I agree completely. Just when you think you know it all, life throws you a curve. If you never go, you'll never know!! Of course if one is a scared insecure child who thinks a beard makes a man instead of his values and integrity, well....they're the ones missing out 😀
Speaking as a woman, this is 100% true. Most women can't help but want to fulfill our basic instincts, which is find the best provider, and some women (actually a lot) are selfish bitches when it comes to that.
A couple of other tips for you guys out there wanting to avoid the bad ones:
- If she gets offended when you make little jokes/comments and starts going off on some feminist rant, say bye.
- If she never compromises, apologizes or admits when she's wrong, leave.
- If every time you get into an argument, she starts to cry and make it out to be your fault, you're being manipulated. We women can cry on command and we know it upsets you.
hrgirl26 ? I can't cry on demand.
hrgirl26 thisbisnprobably the first time I've ever heard decent advice from a woman you're definitely right those are all bad signs I notice most women never apologize and always play the victim even when they're the ones who did something wrong I got sick of apologizing for nothing and giving in the first argument or disagreement can tell u a lot
You are fat Darla! Bad mouthing other women won’t make us find you attractive here! I am wondering why are you here anyway?
You are absolutely right Artemis. But this woman comes over here smashing other women for reasons I don’t understand! We men don’t do that to each other by the way! The only reason I can find for a man to come to a ladies forum and bad mouth other men is because that man wants the ladies to see him as a rare catch between a bunch of douchebags. I think this applies to Darla here as well. Sabotaging others to appear cool yourself is not nice.
Darla Shaw thx fam, there's still hope
The first time my husband and I hung out, I brought him stones... the pretty kind... crystals and such.
First date, he didn’t have any cash on hand and his friend wanted to have sushi. I said I have lunch it’s okay. He said no I’m sorry but that is embarrassing I asked for his wallet and put 150$ in his wallet handed it back and said, there, no embarrassment and kissed his cheek.
And the dream I had chanting his whole family’s college chant, war eagle war eagle 🦅.... when I had no idea about Auburn tigers or the eagle they send over the felid and chant before every home game.
He said in every instance that happened. I was that girl that lifted the lock on that car door.
He had never experienced this before. He was a professional photographer, the woman he was surrounded by were 09’s, and mostly 10’s. He said the bonus points with me just kept coming. My unwarranted criticism never came. I always always think of the other person. Doesn’t matter what I need in those moments. Because I live life to be of service to others, and then myself.
We have had some difficulty in our relationship yet I stuck through it, brought his feet back to the earth and grounded him. He is quite humble for my actions, because most would have divorced him and would be living off the alimony. Not I. I lived through five marriages with my mother.
I watch the twisted thing she would do to these poor men. I saw her give out abuse as much as they gave too... was always tit for tat relationships, i’m so thankful for watching witnessing and learning what not to do.
She not only did this to her lovers she would even do it to friends. Deep down it was hard to love someone that treated others like trash. But a stepfather that ruled me with an iron fist. I’m one tough bitch because of him. And I’m extremely kind and bighearted even though growing up it’s was military time in our home. Every second of the day.
So when things got greedy with him. I called haul pass. He could have all the fun he wanted. He left for a job and my blessings. Fear hit him. He was about to lose his diamond in the rough, over his little head that loved to play.
I knew my worth, I knew my strengths... and I did have fun, and Peter if you didn’t dear John me because you were fearful of love as the love of your life left, we would be together to this very day. Yet, life needed to go as it has.
Because my husband and I are strong today. The respect ✊🏻 I have and the love I receive as well I too reciprocate, is amazing!
Been together 19 years, married 16.
He told me the move I took made him straighten out. That the people he chased could not stand in my shoes and he would have the greatest loss of his life if he did lose me.
I’m so grateful we are together. I wanted nothing more than to be his wife and care for him in his elder years. He has 15 years on me... and I’m glad I listen to my inner voice. That mistake can happen. And forgiveness take time but can mend a relationship without having to break it apart. It was my dream to marry once. Or as until death due us part. Thankful he supports my dream... and that’s to be loved and appreciated!
Story is too long. Sorry.
I was dating a girl for nearly 4 years. I told her I wouldn't marry her until we had been together 10 years and she would have to sign a prenup. She got all offended when I said that. In hind sight I am so glad it didn't work out. I now see how hard she was dragging me down as well.
~ I feel that we need to sort among the people we date. But if you would lie about that you forget your wallet, I think half of the women would know that it is a lie. So it can have the wrong effect. It is a 50/50 chance that she will sort you out as a liar. If you ask her to pay this time for lunch however, that could be a better test. Be authentic. Also women go to meet your family, watch action movies and sport all the time to support her man and be able to spend her time with him. So you would want to the same if you are a high quality man. If you say no all the time to this she will probably think that you don't love her and are not serious about the relationship. A better test is to go with her on the romantic movie, and see if she freeks next time you ask her to se a hockey game with you. And if she freaks asks why. Communication could solve most of your problems! ;-)
I think he was going off do this one time, you are right about the don't lie, just toss it up, hey can you front this bill, but i personally wouldn't mention that i was fronting the bill before, just to avoid guilt tripping her, just plainly ask.
The No test is more or less, dont always say yes, toss in a no once in a while, and see if she respects your viewpoint, if she tries to shame you (which is a red flag in itself), that is the reason to leave. But spending time with your SO doing things you like, and doing things she likes, is important, to balance anyways. If one has to sacrifice more than the other, as you said, communication, if that fails, time to leave.
I like the idea of a prenup talk, esp if you are the primary earner.
Of course this applies to both genders, not just men. Just a personality check.
Women also lie. Lying isn't just a male trait. Women can lie about not having their wallet too, also lying about having birth control, also lying about not having kids and other things. but still want to call men out for protecting themselves from dishonest people and so i feel it is necessary for everyone at the Start of a New Relationship to really investigate in any way they can to see if she is truly kind and loving like she should be.
To be honest, lying in general, is not a great way to get into a good relationship, as a healthy relationship relies on trust, sure not everyone can tell you lied about not having your wallet, some will, and that will look bad, even if it was meant to help weed nasty people out. If you find a woman who has been lying repeatedly to you, i would bounce, the same can be said if a man lies too many times.
When you can get the same information by not lying, why would you lie. The whole, can you front this bill, is a more direct way of doing things, at that point you listen to see how they respond to this, and then make a call on stay or run. ofc you are doing this multiple times not just once (more than just fronting bills), thats the whole purpose of dating, to find out if A you can respect this person, and B do they respect you in return.
At no point was it stated that only men lie, As you stated this is a trait both genders use, the trick is, to not lie at all or keep it to a minimum as that would sort you (male/female) as a dishonest person, and that is not a desirable trait. Irregardless of your own gender.
Deadman Blues ~ I don't think we should look for "an agreeable and nonsuspicious good-natured" partner, if we are not "nonsuspicious and good natured" ourselves. The whole testing thing seems very egocentric. We can sort among partners by observing how they act towards us and how that makes us feel, and also observe how they act towards others. But these tests seems very malicious and manipulative, where you go to war instead if making love and building a foundation for a healthy relationship. And people that play games would only make their more loving partner in to a co-dependant in a very destructive relationship. If we are so insecure that we need to put our future love through games we are playing, we are probably not ready for a healthy relationship just yet. We might need to work on becoming more awake and aware. Also to how we feel. You where talking about shame, and no one can make you feel ashamed if you are not already ashamed yourself. Look into yourself, is your moral code shaming you to pay for your partner? Get aware of these things and calibrate yourself into a more healthy and grown up attitude and you will heal yourself and make yourself ready for a equally healthy partner! ⚘
About the saying no test ... the point isn't that you have to always say no, it's that sometimes you will have to, and what matters is the reaction then. If you say no and someone gets angry or guilt trips, that is a sign of a really basic and selfish person. It is what a young kid does, and if an adult does it it means they are still a child mentally. It is equally true of men and women, would any woman want a man who reacted that way if he got angry when she said no to doing something?
Hey you Canadian hipster, I do confess, that is good advice even for a 51 year old divorced yank.
Thanks Rich 👊 This popped up in my feed after reaching out for advice this morning. Funny how that works. Will be watching old videos all day. I recommend it guys...It will help. 👌
These are VERY reasonable tests! How are women mad at this? My woman shit test would be much harder than this to pass,lol.
I''m sorry to barge in on these guys threads but I only do because I feel like I can offer something. I've been married for 20 years and we are very happy and very much in love.
#1 test- one of my favorite things to do when we started dating was cooking or baking for my husband, then boyfriend. And I loved bringing him any kind of food, drink, anything. A woman who can't bring coffee is a woman who has no interest in taking care of a man. I'd take it a step further to shit test her. Mention your favorite cookie or dinner and see if she wants to make it for you. If she doesn't know how, is she willing to try?
#2 I think it's awful when women drag men to things. I was raised old school. My dad never did women crap like going to the mall or anything like that. I never did that to my husband when we were dating or now. I go alone, with friends, my mom anyone. That's a control freak who needs the man there all the time. Further shit test.....can you hang out with your friends or do a hobby alone? Is she one of those girls that has to be one of the guys? My husband's friends all went to a strip club for a bachelor party. There were 5 guys and one guy brought his wife. I don't care if he asked her to go or not. Any woman willing to go to guy's night or won't let a man have his own hobby without her is far too needy and high maintenance.
#3 this is reasonable as well. When we got married we were both broke and in our 20s so it was easy, lol. But fair is fair and any money or assets a man had before meeting me should be his. What empire we build together is ours. And yes it's hard because a traditional woman meeting a successful man will know she's not going to be bringing money to the table but she should be bringing something of more value. Taking care of a man, showing him respect, loyalty, giving him a lifetime of companionship, a good sex life, good meals and making his home a place he wants to come home to will be value in itself. I'd still have no problem with a prenup.
2019 shit test...does she support the Me Too movement, lol.
Does she like songs, movies or stories about a woman getting revenge on a boyfriend? I hate that stuff. If a man cheated or does a woman wrong, then leave. I loathe stories of women who burned his collection of something or keyed his car. It makes me think he was justified in cheating.
Is she super competitive? Does she have to win at everything?
I'm a female myself, and a lot of things that you said, make a lot of sense, and are very logical. If a women freaks out for you not wanting to go to a romcom; or freaks out bringing up money in a conversation, when your trying to being logical about the situation just to gather insight. Then of course shes not going to be date worthy (or marriage worthy). If I look at it in male's perspective, I wouldn't want some crazy broad mooching off of my hard earned money, or waste my time in something that I wouldn't enjoy. Even as a female I wouldn't want those said things either. And as for paying for food/coffee for someone who left their wallet at home, then I don't see the problem with it. My friends and I help each other out all the time, even to just loaned them a few dollars here and there for something to eat.
Finally a woman who got it right
I'll second that
I bet you're not like other girls too. You even call yourself a female 😑
I still dont trust these species
That is true too
I don't have any problems going to things I don't want to go to, I see it as they are trying to share their interests with me, and that's great, but if they won't reciprocate, big problem. If a girl won't go to the shooting range with me at least 2-3 times a year, they have no interest in me.
Took me a while a to find someone talking rationally in this comments section. Videos like this really bring out the toxicity in people.
Solid Advice! Keep up the great work Rich! You are helping thousands of men navigate through life!!
There is à RUclips video were à pro basketball player was getting married they agreed on a prenup the wedding is about to start and she still hasnt signed the prenup hes said he wasnt going to marry then the pastor and family said get married anyways he looked at them and laughed and perceeded to walk out the door and called off the wedding....Perfect
Time is the best test. I knew my wife as a platonic friend for 2 years before we had a relationship. Two years in that relationship, and I knew she was who I wanted to spend my life with. Our marriage was a happy one and lasted 27 years. Spending a long time before committing lets you see how that person responds to life over the long term.Also, having sex too soon, especially great sex, creates a bond that will blind each other to obvious danger signs.
Time is a really good test. A lot of women need the "chase", the bad boy tingles, the emotional highs and lows. If instead, you are Mr. Nice Guy, she'll probably friend zone you. Of course, that's the test, isn't it - to see if she is interested in you, or the tingles/$$$/status/fun you can bring to her.
The time test did not work for me. I was best friends with a chick for 5 years before we started dating. She did a complete 180 after we started dating and I lost everything to her spending. Yet when we were friends she was very frugal and always had a job that she worked very hard at... I dunno where I am going with this but yeah you can never be sure...
David Muth Very true David Muth.
David Muth
@@genetix191 "I lost everything to her spending" translation: I chose to buy whatever she wanted, even though it was a bad idea.
Getting blindsided with greed like hers sucks, but it's not like you didn't have a say in the matter, since it was your money. I hope you find a more humble woman.
I am so down for a pre nup agreement. It's a safety measure for both parties. It's good to feel in control of your own affairs and know you have your own worth without leaching off a man for it.
humanityandme stop saying things like that or I'll be forced to ask you out!!
Prenups get thrown out by judges all the time. Look it up. If you really want to impress the RUclips comment section, then agree to a private contract drawn up and agreed upon by both parties. That way it can't be thrown out by a divorce court judge.
And what is the difference between a pre-nup and a "private contract"?
A private contract is not subject to the stipulations of a legal marriage. Prenups can be invalidated by judges that feel that a female doesn't have to follow the law. A private contract offers no such protection as it would be formatted like a business contract. Labor for full legal custody of the children would be a fair trade. If a woman signs a contract that gives up all legal custody of the children that she produces while within the limited time of the contract then there is nothing a court could do to in effect force custody upon her when she had legally stated and agreed to forego any custody privileges. A private contract is much safer for a man since he and his partner would have to set up and agree to the other's terms before signing. The vast majority of men do not read the full extent of the marriage laws in their state before signing that legally binding contract that guarantees her roughly 50-80% of his life long assets in the (likely) event of a divorce. You could also look up these terms on Google in the same time it took you ask a question you could have answered yourself. You're welcome.
+ Piereio Zashier....Correct, and it's even more binding if it's embedded in your existing Trust (if you have one set up that is). In my jurisdiction, covering it in the Trust ensures protection down to the "Township" level (Ex: Fed, State, County, Township)......Disclaimer - I'm not a lawyer, it varies by location.
Damn bruh logged back in only to hit the subscribe button. This is good stuff!
Always get a prenup. But a better decision with your life is to not get married in the first place.
My attorney told me that women often claim the prenup was signed under duress and get it tossed out. So yeah, it's a good idea but it's not bulletproof by any means.
Yeah, don’t get married. There’s no point these days.
J Shepard sorry what is a duress. Sorry I’m not familiar with anything lawsuit wise
There is a balance in relationships. A certain amount of, "taking one for the team," is somewhat reasonable, but that hopefully should work both ways. But if your partner is always coming up with stuff you don't want to do, that may be indicative of a bigger incompatibility issue. With that said, however, there also shouldn't be a problem with saying "no" to some things. And that is his point. Find something to say "no" too and see how she reacts to it. If she can't handle being told "no" to a museum, how the heck will she react when it's something that actually matters?
You are very right. But most men ignore good women because it would require him to be a better MAN. Many men are not into that
how ridiculous can you get
Just how dumb can you get
@@rogerdale4800 He/She is right tho
CD M So true. Men and women default to the easy solution instead of working for a partner.
r/nicegirls
Oh my the door lock has always stuck in my head!! Its so true though most people don't get it..😁
You have a great quality of self reflection and self honesty which alot of people lack in this world sadly.