Cold Shadow of Brother's Fame Covers Child Star | Aaron Carter Case Analysis

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  • Опубликовано: 7 ноя 2022
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Комментарии • 1,6 тыс.

  • @janmarchand7294
    @janmarchand7294 Год назад +1169

    I watched an episode of his reality show in which his dad stopped by with his new girlfriend. The dad looked like a homeless person as did his 'girlfriend,' Aaron was overjoyed to see him and immediately rushed into his arms but the feeling wasn't reciprocated at all. Later his dad joked about how they called Nick their own personal ATM machine and I could see Nick pulling away physically and mentally. In that moment I felt so bad for him as obviously that's all he meant to his parents, a cash machine.

    • @andreaxleste
      @andreaxleste Год назад +42

      Most things are staged in reality shows!

    • @maeahem
      @maeahem Год назад +229

      @@andreaxleste yeah it can be staged. But the fact they could be so comfortable with that narrative means there is a precedent for similar past behaviour.

    • @CatalinaFOIA
      @CatalinaFOIA Год назад +196

      "Cash Cow" is what their parents called their 2 boys. Especially Aaron because the parents were managing his money. 😬 The parents set all their children up for failure and didn't take their mental health and drug use seriously.

    • @janmarchand7294
      @janmarchand7294 Год назад +26

      @@CatalinaFOIA I agree!

    • @janmarchand7294
      @janmarchand7294 Год назад +63

      @@andreaxleste True, but it really seemed authentic on Aaron's part, especially his face when his dad said that.

  • @Arielle1Celeste
    @Arielle1Celeste Год назад +630

    I personally think people like Robert Downey Jr & Macaulay Culkin are excellent examples of people who hit absolute rock bottom but took the years of self-development to work themselves out of the holes they fell into. It's not easy but it is possible. It just takes a long time.

    • @mstea3232
      @mstea3232 Год назад +32

      Steven Tyler and Joe Perry too. Sadly I lost my son because he didn't get or week help. It devastates me as a mom to see another person my son's age, due if addiction. Because there's no closure for family. 😔

    • @broncotia3125
      @broncotia3125 Год назад +48

      Drew Barrymore too. Another example. My heart breaks for Aaron. He was a precious little boy who had zero guidance and support. He turned into a out man looking for love, support and approval. I hope he is at peace now. This didn't have to happen. It was terrible watching him self destruct 💔😔.

    • @jenniecaverley4781
      @jenniecaverley4781 Год назад

      @@broncotia3125 He was another Justin Bieber.... How did Biebs get thru it? Religion? And perhaps a better family support? So sad to see this stuff keep happening...hollywood ain't all it looks to be. It's cruel and nasty and evil.

    • @melissabaliva2989
      @melissabaliva2989 Год назад +23

      @@mstea3232 I'm so sorry for your loss😢!!! I'm 33 and I've been clean 5.5 years now! My parents almost lost me a few times due to my addiction! I relapsed over and over and I really believed there was no way I would ever make it to 30 years old!!! Addiction is very tough on the addict and the addict's familiy members. I regret all the hell I put my poor family through! I hope I never go down that road again! I am sorry your son didn't make it and I hope he is at peace now. I can't even imagine how hard it is losing a loved one in such a way!

    • @k.c.r.5974
      @k.c.r.5974 Год назад +9

      I was hoping Aaron could do it but I also knew the crazy amount of work and luck and sheer time it would have taken for him to break free of himself and his past and his surroundings.

  • @robertnobles8189
    @robertnobles8189 Год назад +632

    Substance abuse is no substitute for fame. It is a substitute for a loving family.

    • @Nylak-Otter
      @Nylak-Otter Год назад +16

      I mean, if you're an individual that enjoys family so much that it gives you a super endorphin high whenever you're around them, I guess. I am personally not one of those people, but I suppose there are some.
      The last thing I feel when I go home after visiting my family is, "Hot damn! When can I scratch up enough gas money to go visit again?! I'm gonna quit my job and rob a bank to go visit them again RIGHT NOW SO HELP ME GOD"

    • @angela3524
      @angela3524 Год назад +36

      Wow! Your statement stopped me in my tracks. 😮 I’ve struggled with being abandoned when I was 7 and abuse by ALL of my family members. I have NO family. And I have struggles with addiction for years. Thank you for your comment

    • @queenofpentacles1580
      @queenofpentacles1580 Год назад +11

      100%

    • @erikkasepiphany
      @erikkasepiphany Год назад +16

      Very true! He claimed to be a Mama’s boy, his mother seemed to be codependent and their father ruling the family with fear seemed to be a narcissist. He sounded a lot like Britney’s Dad buying boats, houses and golf carts.

    • @oregonsnob31
      @oregonsnob31 Год назад +17

      Damn. So poignant
      You win the internet today imo

  • @erikkasepiphany
    @erikkasepiphany Год назад +122

    His parents are the one’s who didn’t pay Aaron’s taxes, all the money he made when he was little. He became responsible when he turned 18 and discovered the mismanagement of his money. He was then forced to file bankruptcy. Very sad, horrible parents, was definitely used and abused by his father. Nick wrote a book stating his father ruled their home growing up using fear.

  • @imcharming4808
    @imcharming4808 Год назад +525

    I followed this story for the last several months-it was quite easy because Carter was posting every day and doing other peoples’ podcasts. The internet sentiment while he was alive was “oh my god look at this train wreck! He looks like he’s strung out on meth! He can’t stop lying! Aaron just stop!” Whole accounts were devoted to tracking his nonsensical statements and criticizing everything about his existence. I saw almost zero evidence of empathy towards the person. Now, it’s “oh my god RIP. I wish you could’ve received the help you needed. I will always remember your music!” I understand mourning a death, but that’s quite the turn.

    • @terenarosa4790
      @terenarosa4790 Год назад +68

      I don't think those are the exact same people saying opposite things.

    • @onlyeyeno
      @onlyeyeno Год назад +29

      I'm not saying that this is the case. But it is quite possible that the people "virtually rubbernecking" and possibly even encouraging the "trainwreck" by their mere attention are not the same people that are now commiserating it. After having their attention brought to it by his demise. Just a thought.
      Best regards.

    • @imcharming4808
      @imcharming4808 Год назад +18

      @@terenarosa4790 I believe that, just interesting to see the shift en masse.

    • @roguenerdd
      @roguenerdd Год назад +17

      i was a big fan of Arron as a girl. It her me to see how is life was going so I looked away. i didn't like the hate he was getting and thought his attitude needed checking and i could tell he was loving and needed love. i try to stay out of celebrities personal lives and I'm not a troll so i wouldn't have been a person seen harassing him. maybe there are others like me. my heart is broken for Arron and his family and i was watching his no jumper interview the day before he passed and was wishing he could heal. just saying... i agree with you, but maybe there are fans like me who like his brother couldn't watch him hurt himself. RIP Arron

    • @tyeishaleisure
      @tyeishaleisure Год назад +8

      That’s essentially why I never really could keep up with him. I knew he was trouble just from a few interviews I had seen, but I just gave up keeping up with him because I knew it would all be biased and just well look what Aaron‘s doing now, Trainwreck strikes again... and now it’s all RIP.

  • @ecamille1542
    @ecamille1542 Год назад +367

    I don't think it's fair to say he wasn't a fan of paying taxes. He filed for bankruptcy because of back taxes from when he was a minor before he had control of his finances. It's sad. These child stars are exposed to so much and worked way too hard. This guy never had a chance.

    • @ASMRBarbie
      @ASMRBarbie Год назад +62

      Especially since Aaron has just passed 😢I don’t think it’s fair to make jokes about him,that part in this video was extremely distasteful!

    • @MarvinDavenport
      @MarvinDavenport Год назад +5

      Gary Coleman (Webster) comes to mind…

    • @noam2315
      @noam2315 Год назад +20

      @@ASMRBarbie extremely distasteful.

    • @OneBentMonkey
      @OneBentMonkey Год назад +5

      @@MarvinDavenport Those were two different actors

    • @jennyekstrom8470
      @jennyekstrom8470 Год назад +27

      "Dr. grande" making jokes and titling this video what he did was extremely trashy

  • @animula6908
    @animula6908 Год назад +472

    I never loved this guy’s music but it’s always sad to hear of people dying of things other than old age

    • @chrissearer1896
      @chrissearer1896 Год назад +12

      Watching it in SLO MO was awful.

    • @canileaveitblank1476
      @canileaveitblank1476 Год назад

      Like dying of ‘old age’ is good? Have you ever watched someone languishing, without control of basic bodily functions, unable to feed oneself, for years? No idea who your family is… die in a nursing home?
      No thanks.

    • @jenniej0an
      @jenniej0an Год назад +19

      Appreciate the compassion. Aaron was a tortured soul, it was incredibly sad to watch his descent into madness. May his soul rest in peace ☮️

    • @nkmcfrln
      @nkmcfrln Год назад +10

      @@jenniej0an Oh, yeah! Abusing his dog. Abandoning the dog or killing it. The poor, little, low-life.

    • @xminusone1
      @xminusone1 Год назад +9

      I vaguely know his name. I know I heard about him somewhere but that's pretty much it. I feel didn't feel like I'm missing something. Hearing about him beating his dog, arguing with neighbours desperately seeking public attention doesn't seem very likeable to me. He was likely a douchebag.

  • @bt4582
    @bt4582 Год назад +303

    I know that Aaron did a lot of strange things but the reason he owed money for taxes and declared bankruptcy was because he gave all of his money to his parents at a young age so that his parents would not face issues since they owed a lot of money on their taxes. So say what you want but he did give all his money to his parents to help them early on before he had more troubles.

    • @desiderata333
      @desiderata333 Год назад

      No. His greedy pig parents STOLE all of Aarons money. Every dime!!

    • @teijaflink2226
      @teijaflink2226 Год назад +47

      How isn't it criminal for his parents to manipulate and steal their kids money? I thought there existed rules for child stars to prevent situations like this.

    • @tjones3393
      @tjones3393 Год назад +17

      @@teijaflink2226 there is some real weak laws out in Cali where they now have to save like something like 10 or 20 percent of the child's income for them when they are 18. But no one enforces it and it isn't much money. Pretty sure it is only in Cali too. Any money made elsewhere doesn't matter.

    • @luluszahir
      @luluszahir Год назад +29

      His parents destroyed their kids' lives!
      They were never adults, didn't know how to manage money or anything for that matter!
      I feel so sorry for him...

    • @shh5627
      @shh5627 Год назад +14

      He's been a drug addict for years, I'm sure that cost him a tidy sum of money.

  • @Jeanninecomeau
    @Jeanninecomeau Год назад +18

    The last line was heavy Dr. Grande. I think tattooing one's face makes it hard for the public to believe there aren't issues going on and that's pretty permanent as well.

  • @ebg3624
    @ebg3624 Год назад +231

    Overdose is the leading cause of death for people between 18-49 right now. This unfortunately includes my own brother this year. I’m afraid for our youth.

    • @SLa-pb1gg
      @SLa-pb1gg Год назад +15

      Mine too. Lose my brother in Jul to an accidental fentanyl death.

    • @ebg3624
      @ebg3624 Год назад +13

      @@SLa-pb1gg mine too, he thought he was doing heroine 😓 this September.
      Prayers for your family, it’s unbelievably difficult and unexpected

    • @SLa-pb1gg
      @SLa-pb1gg Год назад +13

      @@ebg3624 mines thought he was doing coke. It was laced with fentanyl. My heart goes out to you and yours as well

    • @ebg3624
      @ebg3624 Год назад +7

      @@SLa-pb1gg SO SAD! I mean had they gotten what they intended they would still be with us. It’s so out of hand. My heart breaks for you. I have a 12 year old and I’m so fearful as he enters the experimental years.

    • @SabiAll
      @SabiAll Год назад +20

      Dear all - saying a prayer to your departed loved ones. Addiction is such a tragedy. I refuse to villainize addicts, no matter how off limits it goes. I hope each and everyone of you finds the peace you deserve.

  • @1957jmhiser1
    @1957jmhiser1 Год назад +19

    Aaron’s death is such a tragedy. Just a few weeks ago he made a short saying how he relentlessly bullied about his tattoos, his weight. Everything. You could tell he was depressed. I hope Aaron went straight to heaven where he’ll have love

  • @ShanKatOD
    @ShanKatOD Год назад +277

    worlds we never wanted to see crossed…Dr Grande and the Carterverse. Aaron was the ultimate victim of being born into an unfortunate family, essentially bred to perform after his parents realised how profitable his older brother was. His addiction to substances and social media was at once fascinating and horrifying to watch, his progression was visible to all, and he was so damaged he seemed unable to discern who was worth trusting in his life…possibly no one ever was.
    A truly tragic ending for a truly sweet and genuine young man, just an absolute shame, well done as always Dr Grande, RIP Aaron Carter 🕊♥️🌵

    • @jenniecaverley4781
      @jenniecaverley4781 Год назад +5

      Well said....cuddling his new son while sharing it on social media and then allowing the public to give opinions on his interactions with his son was cringe-worthy.... Very messed up.

    • @__jadedmuse__
      @__jadedmuse__ Год назад +4

      Beautifully said. RIP Aaron

    • @KatJ3st
      @KatJ3st Год назад +1

      Agreed

    • @SuperCrazyPsycho731
      @SuperCrazyPsycho731 Год назад +3

      Yeah I've been through all of that stuff and then some and I didn't kill animals or do the other things he did so enough with the crutches

    • @amaderbotya
      @amaderbotya Год назад +1

      Agree!

  • @TipTheScales27
    @TipTheScales27 Год назад +30

    I wish you would’ve brought up his parents. They were leeches to both him and Nick! It’s so messed up too that his parents told him they were divorcing the day of the shooting of mtv cribs. He had to act like living there was amazing while he had to contend with knowing that he was going to loose it all 😢 I blame his parents for his death. They did nothing to protect him as a kid and instead preyed on him

  • @oceancat0450
    @oceancat0450 Год назад +46

    This is what happens when you’re so wanted, successful, wealthy before you can legally drive.
    These child stars hit a plateau at 20 years old, and all of that fame is gone.
    I can only imagine what what that does to someone’s mind.
    We’ve watched this speeding runaway train for a long time now, knowing it was going to go off the tracks, and sadly, it went off the tracks a few days ago.

    • @benm3382
      @benm3382 Год назад +7

      Especially when they aren't setup to think about life outside of the fame. The Carter family was clearly determined for fame, mainly centered around the boycrush next door thing... So when his fame plateaued there was nothing else worth believing in. Nick is lucky that he became famous in a stable group that's still together now. His fame is tied to a very grounding force of people and a genuine passion for music.

  • @SLa-pb1gg
    @SLa-pb1gg Год назад +111

    I don’t ever doubt someone’s claim that a family member SA them. It happens way more often than you want to believe, sadly. The Carters remind me so much of my own family. Dysfunctional, abusive, codependent, traumatized, and broken.
    Big oof that his neighbors said they’re sad he died but relieved he’s out of the neighborhood.

    • @CatalinaFOIA
      @CatalinaFOIA Год назад +37

      Aaron was known to terrorize his neighbors. Blaring loud music, repetitive beats through all hours; especially at night... with his windows open. He also spraypainted all over his driveway and garage floors creating a mess and a stain on the neighborhood. He often disturbed the peace with loud music, loud vehicles, loud ATV's, etc... Also there was an incident recently where Aaron was sitting on his porch (front) brandishing firearms while the sounds of young children were outside. Aaron also drove while intoxicated. It was just a matter of time before he hurt or killed an innocent person.

    • @tyeishaleisure
      @tyeishaleisure Год назад +17

      @@CatalinaFOIA goodness gracious! Totally understand his neighbors feelings.

    • @BucketHeadianHagg
      @BucketHeadianHagg Год назад +18

      Thank you for your very important comment. The most hurtful part of SA, is not being believed or protected

    • @kixboizgizmo132
      @kixboizgizmo132 Год назад

      @@CatalinaFOIA Damn..
      He was a Menace....
      To the Neighborhood..
      Just Not Dennis...
      Thanks for all that information.
      Along with all the other stats given 👍🏽🙏🏻
      "Bless His Soul O Lord We 🙏🏻 Pray"
      Cuzzzz🤔
      Hell is Real👺
      And
      So is Heaven🌈

    • @jasonwebb5964
      @jasonwebb5964 Год назад +5

      Aaron was the abuser

  • @Messy_Mermaid
    @Messy_Mermaid Год назад +116

    I don’t think this kid ever had much of a chance. RIP to him and I wish the best for his son.

    • @robd1329
      @robd1329 Год назад

      How does a person rest when they died in sin?

    • @mamacito1795
      @mamacito1795 Год назад +9

      @@robd1329 hahaha oh man. But for reals how do you not die "in sin"? Everyone is born and die a sinner...even saints don't get made saints til they're good and dead 😆

    • @Joelswinger34
      @Joelswinger34 Год назад +1

      He had lots of chances, much more than the average addict. And he blew it.

    • @BlackGrave
      @BlackGrave Год назад

      @@Joelswinger34 he should of stuck to weed and alcohol n no hard drugz

    • @kellyfarrar6639
      @kellyfarrar6639 Год назад

      HE Sure didnt

  • @KrystyneY
    @KrystyneY Год назад +24

    You didn't mention the horrible parenting by his mom. She stole his money. He never stood a chance with his upbringing. Nick went through bad times, but he had four "brothers" to put him back on the path. They raised him, not Jane Carter.

  • @Frosth15
    @Frosth15 Год назад +132

    I remember seeing parts of House of Carter, they really targeted him to do something bad as raging or getting enraged. Those people bullied him and those were family

    • @mamashanshan2772
      @mamashanshan2772 Год назад +3

      Absolutely. This is so sad. Awareness needs to become more aware of.

    • @angelaholmes8888
      @angelaholmes8888 Год назад +2

      Yeah Aaron was targeted it was hard watching that

    • @Daysleeper1000
      @Daysleeper1000 Год назад +4

      @@angelaholmes8888 betrayal by family is the worst. Baiting him to trigger him is disgusting.

    • @angelaholmes8888
      @angelaholmes8888 Год назад +3

      @@Daysleeper1000 yeah it is sadly I know what it's like to be betrayed by family

    • @tlindsay1007
      @tlindsay1007 Год назад +3

      How awful! That's just pure meanness.

  • @david3188col
    @david3188col Год назад +60

    Not enough people around him to put him in the right path when he was on top. Some people just need one person to bring them back down to earth.

    • @elizabethwarman9028
      @elizabethwarman9028 Год назад +1

      Yes

    • @robd1329
      @robd1329 Год назад +5

      Same with Elvis. Its a shame his crew didnt give him tough love

    • @shh5627
      @shh5627 Год назад +3

      Sometimes not even that one person is enough to save someone.

    • @david3188col
      @david3188col Год назад +1

      @@shh5627 doesn't seem like he had anyone

  • @eternal.faith408
    @eternal.faith408 Год назад +10

    it’s just so sad when he was alive everyone laughed at him while he was burning alive and now he’s gone people have so much empathy

  • @kungfupanda1705
    @kungfupanda1705 Год назад +7

    Me during most of the video: "this so sad"
    Me after hearing neighbors reported him for animal abuse and then the dog went "missing": " is the dog ok!!!!!!!

  • @karinamonje9078
    @karinamonje9078 Год назад +216

    I feel so bad for his 11 mo old son. I hope his family is there for him in a positive way. Thank you Dr. Grande for this video and your insight. 🙏🏼🤗

    • @humanipulationnation
      @humanipulationnation Год назад +5

      Prince is now king I guess

    • @supercoolyguy
      @supercoolyguy Год назад +12

      I'm relieved for his son. Sounds like ole AC needed an old fashion BDown.

    • @m.brooks7776
      @m.brooks7776 Год назад +6

      ugh I did not know he had a son. so very sad :((((((

    • @floresnashvilledrummer
      @floresnashvilledrummer Год назад +1

      Wait. Some poor girl let that trainwreck impregnate her?

    • @Blakpepa
      @Blakpepa Год назад +5

      I don't think the family will interact with that kid and the mother. Everyone is at peace now

  • @Petequinn741
    @Petequinn741 Год назад +11

    This is a heart breaking story.. bad parenting, mental health and drug addiction, bullying... really sad...

  • @Busyhriehfjeje
    @Busyhriehfjeje Год назад +9

    I had a crush on him as a kid. I just feel so horrible for Aaron and his siblings. He deserved good parents, love and support. Heartbreaking.

  • @sarajanereid4598
    @sarajanereid4598 Год назад +15

    Many of us grew up in dysfunctional families, mistreated, abused, and neglected. That doesn't mean we need to make excuses over bad choices. Life is a series of choices from your first remembrance. My spiritual life changed. T age 26. Life didn't change much but my coping skills improved. I didn't feel alone after that time. I got into acting - in California. Now, nearing my 8th decade I look back and see those choices I made weren't perfect, but I was watched over and cared for by God.

    • @miserycodebeats1722
      @miserycodebeats1722 Год назад

      Toss in serious mental illness and it’s a different story . Logic isn’t the same

  • @michellehertz870
    @michellehertz870 Год назад +23

    Very accurate analysis. First- he was to young to be viewed as a “sex symbol”. He was only 8 years old when he stArted his career. 2nd-when he was on the Doc show, they told him he needed to take a break from showbiz, and concentrate on his healing. Obviously he didn’t. Being famous and rich and “known” was his number one priority. He had been to rehab multiple times, it’s not like he didn’t have help. He had a rough life, but HE choice his path. His brother nic was on drugs too. He got off the drugs, cleaned up his act, got married and now has 3 beautiful children. I don’t blame nic and his sister for putting up healthy barriers. Even with family, sometimes enough is enough.

    • @tracymarquez6875
      @tracymarquez6875 Год назад +3

      Exactly, if you associate with an addict/alcohol or violent person you can become like them, as the Bible says: "Bad associations ruins good habits" and Aaron needed to stay away from smokers/potheads/addicted types but he just didn't practice enough self care, as Nick later realized and he had to get a restraining order to keep Aaron away, also did his twin sister Angel. That angered/depressed Aaron and made his guilt feel more overwhelming, but it didn't stop his dependence on drugs

  • @masterofwit339
    @masterofwit339 Год назад +29

    Aaron suffered from mental illness, unhealed childhood (and adult) trauma. He lived in the shadow of his more famous (and less burdened) brother. He suffered from active addiction and all that comes with that. He suffered from bad behavior and paranoia bc of everything listed above. It’s all very sad. His soul (I hope) is now at peace 🕊

    • @ginayoung130
      @ginayoung130 Год назад +4

      Nobody "suffers" from bad behavior. He was a grown man and he had plenty of chances to make positive decisions and change the direction of his life. He was a victim, but he was also a perpetrator and he hurt a lot of people and animals and his kid. It's pathetic to be in your mid 30s and still can't grow up and be responsible for your own actions.

    • @masterofwit339
      @masterofwit339 Год назад +1

      @@ginayoung130 I see your point and he did act like an absolute raging a$$ the last few years but bf that he wasn’t that person.

    • @ginayoung130
      @ginayoung130 Год назад +1

      @Master of Wit yeah, I believe that. And if he had gotten sober and changed he mightve went back to that person but well never know now. I've struggled with addiction for over 20 yrs and I did a lot of things that I would never do now, but some of the things he did are inexcusable whether he was high or not. It's a sad situation all around.

    • @masterofwit339
      @masterofwit339 Год назад

      @@ginayoung130 I identify ♥️

  • @oneofmanykats
    @oneofmanykats Год назад +13

    Had me almost cry at the end. The stupid reckless things I did when I was using are so hard to look back on but they certainly remind me how lucky I am to be alive. Sobriety is difficult but if you're struggling please remember that sobriety is possible.

  • @mamashanshan2772
    @mamashanshan2772 Год назад +18

    His family dynamics at the beginning, began killing him, meaning, ignored, he was crying out for help, and he was talented, he simply, I deeply feel, always felt last.

  • @youtubeuserzzzz
    @youtubeuserzzzz Год назад +167

    Thanks for this video. Aaron had a "cold soul". I don't mean this in a negative way. Being the brother of...or the sister of anyone (in the spotlight) can be tough.
    I worked Airport Security in 2001 (prior to 9/11). Aaron and his "Crew" came through. He was so nice to my Co-workers that were Fans, giving Autographs. I myself heard his music but it was more for my nieces and nephews.
    Over time I learned about his life history. I believe he was a victim of circumstances. True he made various poor choices but being so young and seeing how his Mom was with his finances was troublesome. He really didn't have a chance.
    In the end, I really hope he is at peace. His soul was so cold and lost (due to life's cruel ways) I kind of knew, he wouldn't recovery.
    Seeing the episode of House of Carters (when his Dad visited), made me think that he is with his Dad (eternally) again and happy.
    RIP AC. You had such a fast and challenging life. You truly deserve peace now.

    • @s.melonita4454
      @s.melonita4454 Год назад +19

      I have the same thoughts. He's hopefully at peace now, reunited with his sister, who died of an overdose in 2012, too.

    • @marisawoods
      @marisawoods Год назад +11

      I know what you mean. I feel that cold feeling, too.

    • @jenniej0an
      @jenniej0an Год назад +4

      💜💜💜

    • @__jadedmuse__
      @__jadedmuse__ Год назад +2

      💛

    • @ImperialMJG
      @ImperialMJG Год назад +1

      Believe what you Want but he isnt reunited with anyone. Its total blackness. I know cause I was almost there. I have been in a coma and there is nothing. No guiding lights, No "dreams", nothing. Its pitch black.
      And that makes me feel at ease with death. Knowing its eternal rest.

  • @pamelamays4186
    @pamelamays4186 Год назад +28

    Being a sibling of a well known celebrity can be difficult. Andy Gibb, the youngest of the Gibb brothers had his own struggles. The only Jackson sibling who managed to have their own successful music career is Janet.
    Many former child performers have difficulty maintaining their celebrity status once they reach adulthood. Unfortunately some begin abusing alcohol and drugs.

  • @soulovelee_2433
    @soulovelee_2433 Год назад +37

    "Crazy little party girl" was my jam back then at 10 yrs old.. even though I asked myself what does this kid, born the same yr as me, know about parties?😅 But at the end he really looked terrible, his inner brokenness showed all over his face and eyes. So sad man.R.i.p.

    • @diamondgirl5299
      @diamondgirl5299 Год назад +3

      Inner brokenness-great term. I hope he rests in peace. Praying for his son also.

  • @KatJ3st
    @KatJ3st Год назад +5

    As soon as the face tattoos start crawling all over his face, that's the real slide down. Saddest cry for help without actually drawing blood

  • @rejaneoliveira5019
    @rejaneoliveira5019 Год назад +49

    I feel that life alone is already difficult to navigate, adding drugs and fame just worsen everything. It’s utterly sad how so many people have fallen prey to the destructive powers of substance addiction.
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Dr. Grande!❤
    And thank you for the shorts, the bite size information from you makes my day so much brighter. 😊

  • @tinasparkles2434
    @tinasparkles2434 Год назад +12

    I would say the break down of Aaron's family unit was the most major initial contributing factor to his inability to maintain his sobriety as well. It was a regular theme he would personally make reference to in interviews of what he was hurt by. His parents divorce, having to perform through that, the death of his sister in now similar circumstances, and a sense of abandonment from his other family members.
    He was a child star, who was arguably used as a cash cow by self-interested parents and other parties, and he was aware of it. The worst thing that happened to him was that he found fame so young, and didn't have reliable guardians around him acting in his best interests. By his own testimony, the conditioning had already taken place at a formative age - he was surrounded by enablers, users, and proverbial "parasites".. as with so many child stars.. but Aaron was clearly of a soft-hearted disposition, and in his adulthood seemed to struggle with the ability to act as his own agent. Arguably he got a point of being too weak to get himself out of the void without help, and was probably sceptical of the motives of any truly well-meaning people left in his life to accept help.

    • @tracymarquez6875
      @tracymarquez6875 Год назад +2

      Exactly, very on point! Teens/young adults usually don't have the mental/emotional capacity to deal with and endure family issues, DV/financial problems, so they tend to withdraw into their own worlds shutting more and more people out, even those trying to help them, or they hurt themselves with eating disorders/drugs/violently lashing out/taking big risks, while many commit suicide which is the 3rd cause of death among very young people, violence is #2, and horrific car crashes is the #1 leading cause of injury/death. Aaron's mother is an alcoholic who attended rehab when Aaron did, his father was likely addicted to alcohol and his cause of death was labeled unknown, or the family sealed the father's autopsy records. Through it all Aaron said his mother was the love of his life and that he still loved his brother Nick, but he said he hated his twin sister Angel, and he couldn't forgive her for trying to have him committed to an institution on a psych hold

  • @elisamastromarino7123
    @elisamastromarino7123 Год назад +21

    His sister Leslie died of a drug overdose, and I'm sure he did, too. I know the cliches about money not buying happiness, but I think too much too fast seems to literally buy misery. This story is becoming "age old." Maybe when they're so young they don't always die, but the young ones that succeed seem too commonly to go off kilter in one form or another.
    Thank you, Dr. Grande. 👍🌹

  • @Loverofartsandmusic
    @Loverofartsandmusic Год назад +8

    That smells like a betrayal of parents who only want you to perform and then keep your money. Imagine feeling betrayed, not emotionally connected to your family, feeling frustrated about getting the same fame you once had, and feeling alone. That would really end up with nasty things in life. Also, though I love Nick, but I am not sure if he has helped Aaron so much and built the emotional connection and attention Aaron needed, the help he needed. I feel like Aaron then just wanted to grab his brother's attention so he lied, and accused those who are close to him. I'm sorry that Aaron wasn't able to make his life much better. :(

  • @christopherleadholm6677
    @christopherleadholm6677 Год назад +20

    "Being clean is a reward" you say?...
    Life can still suck whether you're sober or not.

    • @eadweard.
      @eadweard. Год назад +4

      Well it can suck whether you have cancer or not. But on balance not having it is a good thing.

    • @Nylak-Otter
      @Nylak-Otter Год назад +16

      Gotta tell ya, being clean is f*cking amazing. Life sucks, but when you aren't hobbled by horrible health and an addiction's claws buried in your shoulder and neck like a really badly trained falconry bird, you can finally try and make your life better and actually *want* to.
      Feeling happy hormones again without using a substance is crazy nice, and not being trapped in a barely functional husk is crazy nice, too.

    • @masterofwit339
      @masterofwit339 Год назад

      @@Nylak-Otter 👏♥️

  • @rayross997
    @rayross997 Год назад +37

    We never really know what any given person is going thru. It is tragic he never got help and found peace in life.

    • @samanthafairweather9186
      @samanthafairweather9186 Год назад +1

      💯!

    • @tracymarquez6875
      @tracymarquez6875 Год назад +1

      Aaron was in big denial and loved the effects of drugs too much! He often pushed loved ones away/caring fans or they did, because many could see his reckless behaviors and often denying that he seriously needed help

  • @22quietmouse
    @22quietmouse Год назад +25

    It’s sad all he ever wanted as a kid was his parents love and quality time. His family only cared about money and took advantage of their own children spending the money nick and Aaron earned. That’s already gonna mess the kids up, between that and the drugs it’s so sad what happened. I hope now he is happy and at peace

    • @tashaawesome6297
      @tashaawesome6297 Год назад +6

      It's nice to see someone acknowledge that Nick was just as much a victim as Aaron. The Carter parents are awful in my opinion. Seeing people blame Nick is ignorant and disgusting. Aaron always blamed Nick for leaving him alone with his parents and the worse Aaron felt the more he blamed Nick even making up horrible things about him to threatening Nicks pregnant wife. What people forget is Nick was also used and abused by his parents and being older he was able to get away sooner. Nick has done so much therapy to get where he is and should never be blamed for distancing himself from the insanity. IMHO Nick having his band members unlike Aaron being solo probably gave him a huge advantage and support.

    • @tracymarquez6875
      @tracymarquez6875 Год назад +1

      @@tashaawesome6297 So true, Aaron had friends, but they often had to distance themselves to keep their sanity because they also knew he was heavily addicted, and he would have anger outbursts or not show up to record music/follow through on tour dates. Sadly, he was married to his drugs as many are these days, and paid with his life

    • @bellasue02
      @bellasue02 Год назад

      He always said Nick bullied him and he even did it on camera. So no tell ing what happen when cameras were on

  • @missannethrope01
    @missannethrope01 Год назад +263

    Let's not forget all of Aaron's animal abuse, burning a turtle, beating dogs and they constantly kept mysteriously disappearing. Luna, Mufasa, Spirit, Nala, Bam Bam and the list goes on. Anyone that tried to help him was called a hater or BSB(Backstreet Boy) gangstalker. Begging for money from his "disabled cuties". He threatened to kill Nick's wife and unborn baby, so they took a restraining order out on him, he brought this on himself yet blamed everyone else. Huffing duster and nodding out online but his "fans" excused it as he was just tired, or he was trolling everyone, all those "yes" people have played a part in his demise.

    • @Here.Be.Dragons
      @Here.Be.Dragons Год назад

      And sending d.. k pics to a 15 year old when he was 24. He knew how old she was.

    • @janeoleary8454
      @janeoleary8454 Год назад

      He can rot in hell

    • @peekaboots01
      @peekaboots01 Год назад +78

      Nothing and I mean nothing, absolutely nothing in my eyes is more despicable and disgusting than hurting and abusing a sweet innocent animal. I did not know this. I was feeling sad for him but now I don't anymore. I hope he burns in hell.

    • @lightasafeather9750
      @lightasafeather9750 Год назад +37

      Damn you woke up and chose facts today shit

    • @happywanderer2874
      @happywanderer2874 Год назад +61

      The animal abuse really got to me. Only a horrible human being tortures innocent animals. I’m glad he’ll never get to do it again.

  • @jessicasmith5728
    @jessicasmith5728 Год назад +19

    Aaron Carter's story was so tragic. Sadly, drug use seems to run in his family. His older brother Nick, who was apart of the Backstreet Boys, was hooked on drugs at one point too. Their sister Leslie, who was a year older than Aaron and Angel, died from a drug overdose in 2012 when she was just 25. It's sad that his life went the way it did. Recently, I watched some old videos of him from the late '90s and early '00s. I can't help wondering how he went from a tween idol to someone who hit rock bottom. May he RIP. 😔💐

  • @dianelake7802
    @dianelake7802 Год назад +29

    You said something that opened an aha for me.
    You said that drugs gave Carter the closest thing to the high of fame.
    Such an insight because I've never heard anyone really say something like that.
    And it makes me wonder if the heavy drug use that so many celebrities get addicted to (and it seems to increase as fame slips away) is a substitute for fame or the high of applause.
    That if they are not being adored in public or getting applause they use to capture that high - even if it is for a few days away from the spotlight. Because they need the fame fix daily

    • @jijowajaknxanma3439
      @jijowajaknxanma3439 Год назад +3

      I read an article about Justin beiber, he said exactly that - that he used drugs to cope with his childhood fame. “Because you’re so used to the highs of crowds and going up and down all the time”.

    • @MarinaMiniatures
      @MarinaMiniatures Год назад +2

      That's actually really interesting! I never thought of that

    • @dianelake7802
      @dianelake7802 Год назад +1

      @@MarinaMiniatures I never did until I watched this video

  • @cleopatra444
    @cleopatra444 Год назад +8

    I feel like fame and money is a very dark and deceiving journey and not everyone knows how to navigate it , especially “star children” whose money hungry parents only see dollar signs , very rarely ends in a good note , Britney Spears , The Olsen twins, Jennette Mc Curdy and so many others , look them up .
    thankyou for the video Dr Grande , very sad indeed , may Aaron Carter finally rest in peace 🤍🌹🌵🕊

    • @tracymarquez6875
      @tracymarquez6875 Год назад +2

      Of course greedy relatives/friends show who they truly are when money becomes the all consuming important thing, like the bible says 'Money is the root of all evil' and the song 'The love of Money' by the 1970's O'Jays group says "People will cheat from their mothers/sons, they don't care who they hurt or beat up", they steal/betray, and stab in the back for the love of money

  • @patrickburton1401
    @patrickburton1401 Год назад +13

    This dudes been toxic non-stop online ever since tiktok has taken over. Still sad to hear of his passing. People don’t just “drown” in a bathtub. Substance abuse and childhood fame claim another soul.

  • @couz10
    @couz10 Год назад +39

    I think you are bang on on this one Doc! Addiction is a strange animal. It makes people justify damaging behaviour in the interest of avoiding facing the real issues. Wishing all who read this a wonderful day! 😊

  • @natashasays
    @natashasays Год назад +78

    The animal abuse reports are abhorrent and make it very hard for me to feel sorry for him. I do have sympathy for his younger self, though. He definitely had NPD and BPD, and perhaps a psychotic disorder. Too bad he never got the right help.

    • @tyeishaleisure
      @tyeishaleisure Год назад +1

      I don’t like that either. That sadly is usually in a sign of a much bigger and more serious problem. I dida report on John Nash, a very famous mathematician and a genius. He had schizophrenia and he did things to animals as a child. Jeffrey Dahmer also killed animals with chemical. None of these cases are justifiable, andI’m also not saying that Aaron Carter would’ve turned into someone like Jeffrey Dahmer. Just saying that this was a sign of either his already present mental health issues or symptoms of something not yet diagnosed. I wish things could’ve been different for him and that his circumstances were different. Even if he had gotten proper help for his problems, he sadly would still struggle. I have a friend who has several mental illnesses, and despite having medication and going to therapy, he still struggles. tTe trauma is still there. He’smore self aware than Aaron and can recognize when he’s saidor done something wrong and will apologize to those he hurts, but he’ll tell you that the medication and therapy are fixed or cures.

    • @ladybuggs11
      @ladybuggs11 Год назад +20

      From a personal and professional view it is hard to treat schizoaffective disorder. I lost my sister to mental illness. I watched her slowly die, until one day I received the notification I always knew would come. She wouldn’t take the medications because she could no longer hear God’s voice. She believed God was punishing her for taking the medications. She saw my dog as the devil and I caught her choking him. We as a family did everything we could. She was hospitalized numerous times, but after release the cycle would start over. She would threaten us and call us names. That was not my sister.
      In my 20-years of taking care of patients some thought the medications were poison. Paranoia runs rampant, as does delusions and hallucinations.
      You can’t apply rational thought to an irrational individual. I wouldn’t wish what I saw with my sister on anyone.

    • @natashasays
      @natashasays Год назад +10

      @@ladybuggs11 I completely agree with you if that is the case. I do not get the impression that Aaron was abusing animals because of hallucinations or delusions, though. It seems more like he had poor impulse control and was irresponsible. If I'm wrong then I rescind my what I said.
      I am so sorry about your sister. That sounds like a tough life and I hope she is at peace now.

    • @ladybuggs11
      @ladybuggs11 Год назад +6

      @@natashasays Thank you. I believe she finally found the peace that eluded her so long on this Earth. ✌🏻

    • @macie8571
      @macie8571 Год назад +5

      how he handled his newborn was heartbreaking on top of the animal abuse

  • @TheNewsAnchorYouTrust
    @TheNewsAnchorYouTrust Год назад +15

    The best he could have done to himself is getting a better education as an adult. He was highly intelligent and could pick up new things quite quick. It's tragic no one showed him the way to education a long time before. That would have given him stability. Also Aaron suffered physical violence from Nick as could have been seen on tv. Aaron deserved much better. Melanie tried to help him - but unfortunately they met way too late.

    • @tracymarquez6875
      @tracymarquez6875 Год назад +1

      Very true, Aaron said Nick bullied/hit him a lot likely due to Nick's addictions to alcohol/drugs and sibling rivalry, but Aaron still looked up to his older brother, as Nick was leading a cleaner life and revived his own singing career. Later when Nick seemed to have kicked the drug habit Aaron rebelled more and more spiraling into the drug world, which lead to his horrible demise

  • @yespls4184
    @yespls4184 Год назад +60

    He was so incredibly angry and bitter in his last few years.. if you look at videos from 6-7 years ago he seemed like a different person. He was completely caught up in his own lies and denial. As they say, "you can't change what you don't acknowledge".. Unfortunately I don't think that he could acknowledge how he'd become an abuser himself, how he was deemed an unfit parent, and couldn't care for his pets properly.. the drugs made him believe that he hadn't fallen as far as he had and he deluded himself into thinking that he could talk himself out of any confrontation and was always "right" in a situation. Can't say I really liked him as a person in the past few years from what I saw, but seems like he had the capacity to be a nice person many years ago.

    • @MelanieRful
      @MelanieRful Год назад +7

      His drug addiction wasn’t him. I saw a young boy suddenly a young man alone - crying out for help and being kicked down by others that stigmatize. I saw a young boy that was used and forgotten when he wasn’t that little boy anymore, left to survive on his own with NO role models in his family. The accusations against him stated above are not clear and some proven false. Everything is analyzed and twisted with no regards to what he may have been suffering and living with. Can we imagine Aaron having a healthy childhood? To be a healthy adult, one must have a stable, healthy childhood and the ability to get help. He seemed to have tried. It’s noticed in some of his wording but the words are mixed and anyone in this field can almost sense his anxiety just by listening to him speak. I strongly believe and see that he was neglected. If you’re in the field you would know the wording should be, “I dislike the substance disorder” Again, he was young and had parents that struggled with addiction and his siblings did too, including Nick. Except Nick took harder drugs and alcohol. Aaron was vulnerable and honest. He cried for help. His videos showed this. Where was his support? He didn’t seem to have a huge support system. When anyone is so young and a substance abuser whom felt loved by fans and all of those around him while growing into growth spurts, feeling as if he had it all and was validated - to then suddenly finding it being taken away, the change is not only in his career but also C-PTSD and suddenly predisposed to genetic addictive behaviors, the chances of hitting bottom is higher in Hollywood. Huffing cans vs heroin is a big difference. He admitted he thought it wasn’t so dangerous. The Xanax use can take anyone. Xanax doesn’t discriminate. The abandonment that he received, abuse, bullying, and the stigma did not help this young man. He needed his loved ones and he didn’t have any because they are all not well either. Unfortunately the addiction took his life. It’s a terrible tragedy. I see his family speak of him with kind words but where were those words when he asked for them? Why weren’t those words showcased in social media while he was alive? Instead he was humiliated by his siblings publicly. I wouldn’t want to shame his family but I hope his death helps others see that neglecting your loved one, shaming them, and wanting nothing to do with them is a choice but when they die and now they speak up, bringing up all of his great qualities and heart, it makes me feel sick. This support was what he needed while alive, not dead.

    • @yespls4184
      @yespls4184 Год назад +4

      @@MelanieRful Yeah I understand-- it wasn't him that I disliked, but the addiction. i definitely agree that he needed his loved ones, but in a family as dysfunctional as that I understand why his siblings disconnected.. perhaps they were afraid of being pulled back down into *their* addictions and wanted to protect their new families. I definitely believe that he did need his family and it's so sad to see how lonely he really was. The cruel comments certainly did not help him and I think conditioned him to constantly be on the defense and in denial of the consequences of his own actions. It seems like he became obsessed with livestreaming so he could deliberately respond to the cruel comments and deny, deny, deny.. I can see someone who was a fun, warm person in him, but he became extremely combative it seems to protect himself. Just imaging the mental battle he dealt with is exhausting in itself.. I hope he's at rest and in peace in the afterlife.

    • @samanthafairweather9186
      @samanthafairweather9186 Год назад

      @@MelanieRful exactly! And people also forget his many diagnosed mental health issues.

    • @peppermint6382
      @peppermint6382 Год назад +1

      @@yespls4184 Yes, completely agree. And I was wondering why he didn’t ignore mean comments on livestreams or have moderators boot them out. It was almost as if he felt he’d be able to vindicate and “win” the argument against him with every stream. He wasn’t able to see how it was a focus on the negativity which probably added to the negative perception of him. As he spiraled, more concern (rightly so) but also more mean and dehumanizing comments were made to him, which I think always put him on the defense and made him agitated and angry (drugs probably can do that too, depending on the type). But I also think he was live-streaming to look for connection too, because at least from the outside his life looked lonely, but it wasn’t good for him. All these negative elements (addiction, mental illness, mean spirited comments, loneliness, perhaps feeling unloved, his rocky and abusive relationships) all seemed to work in a cycle he wasn’t able to break. What a sad story for all involved.

  • @Virtualfantasy1999
    @Virtualfantasy1999 Год назад +19

    The saddest part of this was all the people taking advantage of him during his mental health crisis all the interviews were just excuses to humiliate him for views

    • @tyeishaleisure
      @tyeishaleisure Год назад

      Seems like all he was to people was a person to take advantage of and exploit. That’s disgusting that they exploited his mental health crisis.

    • @caramelbilquees
      @caramelbilquees Год назад +1

      I don't know his best friend seemed very humble the Arab guy he seemed like he really cared about him.

    • @samanthafairweather9186
      @samanthafairweather9186 Год назад +1

      That's why those around him didn't do anything to help him. The more erratic and messy he was, the more money the could make from interviews.

    • @Virtualfantasy1999
      @Virtualfantasy1999 Год назад +1

      @@samanthafairweather9186 Adam22 interviewed him four days before he died

    • @samanthafairweather9186
      @samanthafairweather9186 Год назад

      @@Virtualfantasy1999 And probably made a lot of $$$ in the process. Proves the point you were making.

  • @7thangelad586
    @7thangelad586 Год назад +8

    Becoming a child star disrupts all aspects of life, most notably maturity. It’s a shame he died so young, but it seemed that he was tumbling inevitably toward the outcome for a decade or more.

  • @LeeDee5
    @LeeDee5 Год назад +9

    He was my age so I’d always hope he would seek help and stick with it. I used to have his posters on my walls. My childhood self would ve never imagined this happening.

  • @Opelteanit
    @Opelteanit Год назад +7

    About a year ago I watched a video of Aaron Carter arguing with some trolls on Instagram. He was accused by one of having BPD and he replied, "yeah, that's one I've been told I have. And?" Looking at this whole train reck of a situation, I can see why someone would say he has BPD. I feel bad most for his son though, he will grow up without knowing his father.

    • @tracymarquez6875
      @tracymarquez6875 Год назад +1

      Exactly, Aaron seemed mostly happy/sad-happy/mad-calm/manic and those are the high/lows of BPD which is a huge horrible emotional roller coaster state of mind

  • @melmel4712
    @melmel4712 Год назад +20

    I was a huge fan of his brother Nick (as well as BSB), never cared for Aaron. However, his tragic life is truly heartbreaking. Their parents created a toxic & abusive home, they were the type of people who never should have been allowed to raise children. Aaron, Nick & the rest of their siblings were robbed of a stable childhood.

    • @wesleyalan9179
      @wesleyalan9179 Год назад

      I never cared for that garbage "music" or any of those "pop tarts". I thought it was just weird, with no real artistry, imagination. It's just BS that makes money. They're all dancing about on your paycheck. It's garbage, it was garbage then and it's garbage now.

  • @siouxd799
    @siouxd799 Год назад +8

    Thank you Doctor.
    I am a recovering drug addict and have been clean for over 20 years. It is true what you said that “sobriety is it’s own reward”, yet hard when you cannot share that victory with society. Aaron Carter was prepared to share that with the world…yet, as you say no one cared/ and others would not have believed him. I feel he did not have the real joy of Sobriety and this way why he was jaded, because he was hiding behind a false narrative.
    Thank you for allowing me to give myself a Pat on the back for my hard work of not giving into temptation🎉😊❤

    • @benm3382
      @benm3382 Год назад +2

      Not only is it its own reward, but it's one you sow later like a crop. Some people struggle with the benefits of being sober over time versus the instant gratification of drugs, especially when those drugs are replacing fame and attention which were also instant gratification.

    • @goodenoughgirl8102
      @goodenoughgirl8102 Год назад +1

      Good for you! Wow 20 years.☺️

  • @CBrown86
    @CBrown86 Год назад +14

    I had an ex partner like this. Serious problems with drugs and alcohol and only got clean when he wanted to appear superior to others or brag about his personal “will power” and how supposedly healthy and fit he was. He never wanted to get cleaned up for the regular and obvious reasons. Its very narcissistic.

    • @miserycodebeats1722
      @miserycodebeats1722 Год назад +1

      So what ? If that’s what made him feel good then good for him . Getting clean could have possibly adjusted his attitude .

    • @CBrown86
      @CBrown86 Год назад +2

      @@miserycodebeats1722 except for he never did for any more than a few weeks at a time and refused to seek any treatment including therapy.

    • @jontiu1161
      @jontiu1161 Год назад

      @@CBrown86 I find it hard to stay sober for extended periods of time as well because the drugs and alcohol release chemicals in the brain that temporarily make you feel good. Once you quit regular life gives you no pleasure. It’s like having an itch you can’t scratch and drugs and booze are the only thing that scratches that itch. At least that’s my experience.

    • @tracymarquez6875
      @tracymarquez6875 Год назад +1

      @@jontiu1161 Maybe true for some, but that itch and scratch eventually turns into a gigantic festering wound like advancing cancer that takes many lives, even productive ones!

  • @susien7323
    @susien7323 Год назад +15

    I remember seeing their mother do an interview decades ago. She was pretty upset that her son Nick was being managed by somebody else and someone else was making a lot of money off of Nick, she decided to self manage and promote Nick. I don’t know if Nick wanted it or not but he didn’t have a choice at that young age

  • @m.f.richardson1602
    @m.f.richardson1602 Год назад +16

    A sad story.
    Drugs are a wicked mistress.
    Thank you
    Peace 💕🇺🇲

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson Год назад

      MF - Nice metaphor!

  • @WhoTookMyMirr
    @WhoTookMyMirr Год назад +9

    No idea he died. I lost a friend to overdose, can't imagine what his siblings are going through, even if they were estranged. His parents ruined him.

  • @MsLeonor1968
    @MsLeonor1968 Год назад +6

    May Aaron Rest In Peace and may his family learn to make peace with one another ❤️

  • @KS-PNW
    @KS-PNW Год назад +13

    I remember seeing him in "the Boyband Con" trying to defend Lou Pearlman, "without Lou I don't want to imagine where I'd be today."
    All I could think was "well not sure you could be doing any worse than you are..."
    Sad story

  • @paulfranklin4650
    @paulfranklin4650 Год назад +6

    Fame is no shield from susbstance abuse disorders. In fact, I bet it attracts these disorders. Could you analyze the 2013 death of Gabriel Fernandez, eight years old?

  • @cottontails9003
    @cottontails9003 Год назад +7

    Good morning Dr Grande. What a tragic situation. Fame and fortune came at a high price for this young man. I wonder if he tried to out do his brother, instead of enjoying his own success. The mental health issues and loss of his family wouldn't have helped. Thank you Dr Grande. Excellent analysis. Tragic outcome and informative topic.

  • @nerfworthy218
    @nerfworthy218 Год назад +12

    Hello Dr Grande, thank you for covering Aaron's case. I've been sad since I heard about this death over this past weekend. I normally am relatively unaffected by celebrity deaths, but this one is different for me. Aaron Carter was my first celebrity crush when I was just a little girl, he was 2 years older than me. My first concert was seeing him live when I was 12 yo with my mom. I listened to his album over and over on my little CD player under my covers as a little girl trying not to wake up my parents. He had a troubled life and seeing it end like this is devastating to me. It only strengthens my resolve to live a full, long life myself however. RIP Aaron Carter. You deserved better.

  • @eveapple4928
    @eveapple4928 Год назад +4

    A young man in a lot of pain, who couldn’t see a way out of the woods he got truly lost in. Some people with substance misuse issues just don’t make it 😢 hope Aaron is at peace now xx

  • @pearlgracestillpearl7441
    @pearlgracestillpearl7441 Год назад +5

    Thank you for honesty and not romanticizing his passing as most are doing now. I get that some may not know any better but many news outlets are even contradicting their own previous reports with rose colored lies.

  • @jlkitz1775
    @jlkitz1775 Год назад +17

    If your family already has issues adding money & fame is the worst "add water" ever 😐. It's hard transitioning from early fame into adulthood if/when their minds & money aren't well- managed. Dad 😕

  • @sylviacarlson3561
    @sylviacarlson3561 Год назад +4

    This was very informative Dr. Grande. The part where you talked about how a person, as did Aaron, become delusional with their future endeavors due to their substance abuse really rang true for me regarding someone in my family who looking back now did that very same thing. I'm sorry that he couldn't get past his drugs, truly sorry, but I'm even more sorry for the baby boy he left behind.

  • @Blakpepa
    @Blakpepa Год назад +8

    I think it's sad that he was so problematic that the neighbors didn't care how he got out of the neighborhood

  • @lauren9667
    @lauren9667 Год назад +33

    It’s always sad to lose anyone so young - especially when having to “live with demons” for so long. One thing really got my attention: Lancaster, CA. Having spent many long weeks at the NASA facility in Palmdale, my impression of Lancaster was “meh.” When I googled it, I was told that it’s a nice place to “start over” and had some serious cons (like the ex-cons from the prison). It seems like a weird location for a star to call home.

    • @desiderata333
      @desiderata333 Год назад +3

      Probably could afford a larger home in Lancaster.

    • @nunyafawkingbiz
      @nunyafawkingbiz Год назад

      Yeah when they say things like that about a town it's probably not the best place to live

    • @desiderata333
      @desiderata333 Год назад +2

      @Rita Jo Wow! Thanks for that info. XO

    • @lauren9667
      @lauren9667 Год назад +2

      @Rita Jo I knew there had to be some nice areas because of the number of contractors attached to the AF base and NASA, but not ritzy areas. What you say makes sense (and is obviously the truth) - and I haven’t been there in over 20 years. It lovely up there. Thanks for correcting me!

  • @humanipulationnation
    @humanipulationnation Год назад +13

    The moral: Don’t do huffer, folks.❤

    • @cuneyt3830
      @cuneyt3830 Год назад +1

      iv done it for over 4 years and im fine moderation is key. self control over anything

    • @humanipulationnation
      @humanipulationnation Год назад

      @@cuneyt3830 cool what do you recommend we do in a healthy manner?

    • @natashasays
      @natashasays Год назад

      @@cuneyt3830 I'm not sure I believe anything but psychedelics, marijuana, and maybe coke for some can be used responsibly. Regardless, I'm sure he abused everything he used. I'd be more inclined to think he relapsed and overdosed on something, probably opioids.

    • @juliestrom412
      @juliestrom412 Год назад +1

      Yeah that huffing will give you lifelong heart and brain damage. More common is heart damage 😔

    • @brittanyrothmann7536
      @brittanyrothmann7536 Год назад

      @@cuneyt3830 and you sir are the problem.

  • @Mmmcalber
    @Mmmcalber Год назад +26

    He did not have 5 yrs clean , sorry but that was very false

    • @yardenaschrier6059
      @yardenaschrier6059 Год назад +7

      He lied about everything pass year

    • @Itsjustme5853
      @Itsjustme5853 Год назад +5

      He claimed to be 5 years sober but “cali sober”

    • @tracymarquez6875
      @tracymarquez6875 Год назад +2

      @@Itsjustme5853 Cali sober likely means partially sober

    • @Youdatguy
      @Youdatguy Год назад

      Weed is fine bro. He wasn’t doing hard drugs like X and shrooms, acid, coke all that party BS he was prally doing🤷idk tho

  • @tron.44
    @tron.44 Год назад +67

    It seems Aaron never got over his brothers fame and the issues with his siblings as a child. He was always lying about something and seemed paranoid, but that was probably the drug's effect. At least now he can rest permanently and not be tormented by his own mind.

    • @robd1329
      @robd1329 Год назад +3

      How can he rest when he died in sin?

    • @someoneout-there2165
      @someoneout-there2165 Год назад +1

      I had a friend that was obsessed with Aaron Carter when he had music career. I always thought Aaron had a bigger career, at least in the beginning, Nick was a member of a small group.

    • @Here.Be.Dragons
      @Here.Be.Dragons Год назад +3

      @@someoneout-there2165 no, BSB had huge success since 1996 all over the world. Aaron was never that popular.

    • @robd1329
      @robd1329 Год назад +4

      @spiritsafeok...keep saying that to yourself

    • @belamoure
      @belamoure Год назад

      @@robd1329 Alas he was one mental healt sick patient of a gigantic size. Drugs, beating animals etc. His face was ravaged by malnutrition and excesses. You do not last long when mental health is at the helm. RIP if he f did not believe in anything he is a dissolving collection of atoms getting reunited with other collections of atoms. herbs, water, whatever.

  • @judgesaturn507
    @judgesaturn507 Год назад +3

    I think we need to have a long conversation as a society about child performers and what we put them through. If this doesn't bring us to do that, nothing will, and that's so sad. How many more young people have to suffer?

    • @ojgsk8ter
      @ojgsk8ter 7 дней назад +1

      Yeah exactly we need much stricter laws and much more attentive regulation re: child stars. I’m of the mind that no kids should be permitted to engage in entertainment careers until they hit a certain age but that’s of course unrealistic. Social media fame for kids definitely scares me though. We already have a lot of labor and caretaking laws for kids engaged in professional acting, musical performing, etc. but they’re clearly not enough / are too easy for caretakers to ignore. There are no such laws right now for kids who get famous on social media unfortunately. Those kids can make absurd amounts of money and are regularly exploited by their families. I can’t imagine being 12 and being considered the primary bread winner for your family. Wanting to quit social media and being manipulated by your parents by them saying that if you do your family will lose their house, siblings will have to change schools, management team will all lose their jobs, etc. it’s an incredibly toxic situation. We’re seeing some OG social media child stars hitting adult age now and a lot of them are doing just as poorly as Hollywood child stars.

  • @LDiamondz
    @LDiamondz Год назад +7

    Sad news. I was really hoping Aaron would make it through, to the other side of sobriety, one day. Same hope I have for anyone addicted. RIP Aaron, and the millions of others. 💙❤

  • @jenniecaverley4781
    @jenniecaverley4781 Год назад +7

    Yeah I think Aaron's parents squandered his money. In addition, the 'adults' in Aaron's life where not there for him when he was younger and this lack of guidance and healthy 'processing' of fame leaked through to his adulthood...he had no 'tools' to deal with himself as an adult. I feel so bad for these people who are used by their families then abandoned as soon as the party is over:(

    • @tracymarquez6875
      @tracymarquez6875 Год назад +1

      Exactly, as intelligent as Aaron sounded, he just didn't have the maturity or know how to handle the greedy entertainment world or his disfunctional family issues, so he used escapism from reality too often until sadly he drowned himself in heavy drug use

  • @torstenscholz6243
    @torstenscholz6243 Год назад +9

    Great analysis as always. I think the main thing that broke him was that he is another sad example of what being a child star can do to you when you become adult. You have way too much burden on your shoulder way too early and don't know how to deal with it, and when you become adult and your success becomes less, you're destined to have a difficult life. Just look at other examples of child stars and what became of them as adults. Just look at what became of Michael Jackson as a result of having his childhood taken from him, just look what became of Macaulay Culkin, Drew Barrymore, Lindsay Lohan, etc, when they became adults.

  • @wickster2121
    @wickster2121 Год назад +7

    I remember watching the family's reality show and how disrespectful the siblings acted toward each other.

  • @katemaloney4296
    @katemaloney4296 Год назад +5

    "I'm sorry he's dead, but I'm glad he's gone from the neighbourhood" has to be one of the saddest epitaph ever spoken.

    • @tracymarquez6875
      @tracymarquez6875 Год назад +1

      Some of Aaron's neighbors were Karen types and picked fights with him or called police to Aaron's house. One male neighbor even called him a washed up entertainer, which provoked Aaron to verbally defend himself

    • @bellasue02
      @bellasue02 Год назад

      He'd probably say the same about you mister

  • @whatsthestorymorningglory61
    @whatsthestorymorningglory61 Год назад +24

    Thank you! Clear, well-structured and calm analysis as usual!

  • @bobdecarlo7778
    @bobdecarlo7778 Год назад +4

    Dear Dr, there are such obvious(maybe)and serious lessons in the lives of those who self-destruct. I think it is very positive that you relate them. I like an old maxim that goes- "learn from the mistakes of others, you don't have time to make them all yourself."

  • @letsgotravel6724
    @letsgotravel6724 Год назад +8

    I was so shocked when i heard that he Passed away . I remember him when he was a Child when he starts his Music Career he was so cute and a Happy Kid . I think he suffer being in the Shadow of his Brother Nick who Manage his Career untill now with his Boyband while People have foregotten him, he wanted to be Famous again like when he was a Child Touring arround Europe and US whe he cudn't have that the Drugs became his Bestfriend Untill he died.. The last 3yrs i saw or heard about him was the aligation that he made to his Family as u Mentioned nothing Positive about him until that Day came..

  • @patrickosmium733
    @patrickosmium733 Год назад +6

    Its only a matter of time before Dr. G is makin cameos in feature films. Has he been on family guy yet?

  • @redsofaanimation
    @redsofaanimation Год назад +5

    Amazing Doctor! It’s sad how Aaron went and how his life went downhill. I hope he is peace now 😢

  • @andreasrau2161
    @andreasrau2161 Год назад +14

    Thank you for sharing your insights to another interesting case of human behavior, Dr. Grande. I think that your analysis regarding Aaron is spot-on: He had too much too soon, shot his wad and couldn't regain his earlier momentum. Drugs enhanced his delusions of grandeur and in the end couldn't bear that he was no longer an idol and that his career was finished. His story reminds me of Bad company's "Shooting Star," although I can honestly say I never heard of him before you posted his story.

    • @SabiAll
      @SabiAll Год назад +1

      what a sad yet beautiful tune! checked it out after reading this...

  • @elizabethwarman9028
    @elizabethwarman9028 Год назад +3

    Excellent video Dr. Grande. My Granddad always said " Fame is a deadly mistress, and drugs a deadly friend."

  • @marisawoods
    @marisawoods Год назад +8

    It's heartbreaking when people become a slave to drugs. Addiction destroys lives. God help those who are without strength.

  • @Jared_Wignall
    @Jared_Wignall Год назад +4

    Very sad. I hadn’t heard about Aaron Carter in years and when I do hear about him again, it’s regarding his passing. I hope his family is doing as well as can be. Thank you for the video Dr. Grande, keep up the great work!

  • @chloewolf9201
    @chloewolf9201 Год назад +8

    I often wonder if qualified psychiatrists make these diagnosis? I also wonder if substance abuse leads to mental health issues or mental health issues lead to drug abuse or is it a mixture? It’s also concerning that so many child stars who become so successful so young with so much money seem to pass away way to young . Then if it all disappears they are lost souls. It’s very sad. Drug induced phycological problems seems to be a major concern in this day and age.

    • @vickykulig5080
      @vickykulig5080 Год назад +2

      I’m a social worker and addiction has a lot of factors in it, genetics, family history, peer pressure etc. i just hope he’s at peace

  • @StarlaBizarre
    @StarlaBizarre Год назад +2

    Man when I was a kid I had such a huuuuge crush on him, I had every piece of merch and I had every poster, every cassette tape, VHS', unlicensed books, every single thing. I was so obsessed with this man. It really breaks my little heart to see this happen :(

  • @whatsthestorymorningglory61
    @whatsthestorymorningglory61 Год назад +22

    Actually, I would be highly interested in your opinion on dissociative identity disorder.

    • @hannahbanana570
      @hannahbanana570 Год назад +2

      Same

    • @daniellavaladez7820
      @daniellavaladez7820 Год назад +1

      I second this!

    • @Throatzillaaa
      @Throatzillaaa Год назад +1

      Same; I get the impression that he doesn't believe it exists, really. Or maybe more specifically, that the disorder hasn't been properly studied enough and therefore, the idea of it and the symptoms and implications of it (as they are written in the DSM currently) aren't properly contextualizing the disorder. I could be WAY OFF though. I'm just speculating what Dr. Grande thinks of a disorder like DID

    • @desiderata333
      @desiderata333 Год назад +1

      Same!

    • @EmeraldAussie
      @EmeraldAussie Год назад +2

      It seems from several of his videos that he doesn't believe DID exists. It's lovely when a doctor tells you your lived experience doesn't exist. And then the psychological community wonders why DID is so under reported...

  • @Vamatt99218
    @Vamatt99218 Год назад +6

    Im glad you brought back personality profile by using the 5 factor model. I was just watching your old videos and felt you did a terrific job

  • @janetmclachlan9780
    @janetmclachlan9780 Год назад +9

    You are always so on top of every event. You are so hard working and an inspiration.

  • @SFVGIRL
    @SFVGIRL Год назад +13

    Ngl, I couldn't stand Aaron. However, I do understand addiction and narcissism. I admit I was watching some of AC, a couple of years ago, and I'm surprised he lived to 34. I've never seen anyone as bad as AC.. He was a very sick man. I'm glad he's at peace. I really honestly hate his mother, Jane. I'd like to see Dr. Grande do a video on her!! What a manipulating horrible mother!!!

    • @desiderata333
      @desiderata333 Год назад

      Evil Jane is a greedy sow. She is a horrifying mother and used, manipulated and all her children, especially Aaron and Leslie. I hate his mother so much.

    • @benm3382
      @benm3382 Год назад +2

      He was really hard to watch. I admit to sometimes watching "trainwreck" people out of fascination, but all the clips of him were too hard to watch. I might be wrong for saying this but I do think that sometimes people break behind repair, with the wrong mix of trauma and drug abuse. There are people who aren't coming back, they are a husk. I live in a really bad neighborhood full of drug abuse and despair, and Aaron was behaving like someone I step over on my way to work in the morning.

    • @tracymarquez6875
      @tracymarquez6875 Год назад +2

      @@benm3382 Exactly, I also can't watch Aaron's videos when he was angrily ranting, scolding his girlfriend Melanie, and using too much profanity/cuss words. His videos that show him sober, intelligent, and sounding sane are very interesting to watch

  • @McFlurryMachineIsDown
    @McFlurryMachineIsDown Год назад +4

    #7 is definitely what I felt he saw his situation as. When he did get clean at times he thought everyone would be like "yay, you're clean let's get you to the top of the charts again" but when you're grown nobody responds how it would be when you're younger. It's sad. It turned him into the type to brag about how much he had when he had less and didn't brag when he had everything. Was a huge fan growing up but up until the last few years you could tell then drugs took its toll on him and changed him as a person. This dude was not arrogant at all when he was young. At least from the old interviews I watched growing up. I literally watched him grow up from the beginning of his career and you can tell he wasn't gonna stop using it if he didn't blow up again. In my own opinion I think if Aaron stayed as famous as he was he would be alive today. Rest easy 🙌🎙️

  • @baileycuervo
    @baileycuervo Год назад +10

    Thanks for the variety of topics and people that you cover Dr Grande

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson Год назад +1

      Yes. Never dull or predictable!

  • @margin606
    @margin606 Год назад +4

    I believe you perform a service by highlighting, time and again, the dangers of substance abuse.

  • @lhourigan1
    @lhourigan1 Год назад +3

    Thanks for your work, always enlightening 😊

  • @zsmith4853
    @zsmith4853 Год назад +14

    Thank you for your time and effort in making this video possible, as always.

  • @Okbroski
    @Okbroski Год назад +14

    I feel bad for Aaron. He was clearly a lost soul like many of us just trying to find where he fit in. This is even sadder knowing he just had a son, and that he really wanted to change. I was deeply saddened by the news because now we never will see who Aaron could’ve become. Rip Aaron carter.