Thanks so much for this series! I'm gonna listen to it over again. I was familiar with IFS before I listened to this. I wanted to comment that initially the reaction to parts can be skeptical or trepidatious. But when one does it a couple of times it starts to flow and become more natural. It's pretty amazing. It's can also be, that the thought is scary that we are all these parts. But it becomes freeing as one does it more. At least for me at has worked that way. It like before If I have had a bad feeling reaction to something I would just try to deal with the feeling. But now I think "are you a part". And as it becomes more fleshed out as having a life of it's own....it actually starts to feel less stressful and more spacious inside. It's all very fascinating:))
I'm from *sigh* ruzzia and I stuff myself with food uncontrollably whenever there's stress or unfamiliar emotions. That's related to relationship to food in my family. My mom comes from such a materialistic soviet family, where her narcissist mom would totally neglect emotional needs of her chidren, expect her own emotions to be catered to by her children, but since it was considered that to have children is to feed and to dress them so they don't feel hungry (back in the 70's) and they weren't poor, but had jobs related to military, she would focuse on that. But emotionally that family was poor. And my mother absorbed that relationship with food and other external things, where it replaces emotions. Food was treated as way too important, but other things that didn't relate to external normalcy went completely unnoticed. I think, maybe that's also some kind of intergenerational collective trauma related to food in our country, that you should always be fed whenever slightly hungry and to the point where the dish is clear and never leave any leftovers, maybe something to do with hunger in older generations. Also obsession with different products that became available after the fake fall of the USSR (like in that Simpsons episode). There's no more hunger, but I keep repeating same behavior, where the food is #1 priority and is overvalued in a weird peculiar way 🤪
Thanks so much for this series! I'm gonna listen to it over again. I was familiar with IFS before I listened to this. I wanted to comment that initially the reaction to parts can be skeptical or trepidatious. But when one does it a couple of times it starts to flow and become more natural. It's pretty amazing. It's can also be, that the thought is scary that we are all these parts. But it becomes freeing as one does it more. At least for me at has worked that way. It like before If I have had a bad feeling reaction to something I would just try to deal with the feeling. But now I think "are you a part". And as it becomes more fleshed out as having a life of it's own....it actually starts to feel less stressful and more spacious inside. It's all very fascinating:))
This was so great!
I'm from *sigh* ruzzia and I stuff myself with food uncontrollably whenever there's stress or unfamiliar emotions. That's related to relationship to food in my family. My mom comes from such a materialistic soviet family, where her narcissist mom would totally neglect emotional needs of her chidren, expect her own emotions to be catered to by her children, but since it was considered that to have children is to feed and to dress them so they don't feel hungry (back in the 70's) and they weren't poor, but had jobs related to military, she would focuse on that. But emotionally that family was poor. And my mother absorbed that relationship with food and other external things, where it replaces emotions. Food was treated as way too important, but other things that didn't relate to external normalcy went completely unnoticed. I think, maybe that's also some kind of intergenerational collective trauma related to food in our country, that you should always be fed whenever slightly hungry and to the point where the dish is clear and never leave any leftovers, maybe something to do with hunger in older generations. Also obsession with different products that became available after the fake fall of the USSR (like in that Simpsons episode).
There's no more hunger, but I keep repeating same behavior, where the food is #1 priority and is overvalued in a weird peculiar way 🤪