I treated him like a king, while keeping myself at the level of a queen, and I got 7+ years of lies and betrayal. He definitely would not have died for me, even though I would have done it for him. I now realize he was placing me in the role of his mother, and expected me to forgive everything he did, all of the lies he told, and love him like nothing ever happened. I’m not his mom, I’m not Jesus. I don’t have to die for him. I am my own person with my own thoughts, feelings and needs. I have lost all respect for him and am no longer attracted to him, and if he wants that back then HE is the one that has to change. Not me. I have a son. I would expect my daughter in law to treat herself with enough dignity to not put up with any kind of emotional garbage from my son as well. If he treats her badly, then she would be right to tell him about himself and up and leave. When you enable your child’s bad behavior, you raise entitled men who think they can do whatever they want and their wives will put up with it, because that’s what their parents and society showed them... and then we see podcasts like this that tell women to just accept that men aren’t as loving and that you, as a woman, need to change to fit his needs. False. Men need to be accountable for their own shortcomings. It is not a woman’s job to mother the grown men in her life. Please. Men, I have one advice for you. Grow up before you get into a relationship. Thank you.
Just remember, you’re accountable to God, not your husband, not your girlfriends, not your parents, not your children. God. Ultimately it’s not what Dr. Emerson says, it what GOD says in HIS word. What is he commanding YOU to do? His word is clear.
@@songcasserole3773 how is this wisdom? She’s saying “it’s not a woman’s job to mother grown men” while lecturing men To “grow up” lol. How about women stop trying to change men. Stop disrespecting their husbands. If they are abusing you or your children or cheating then you have grounds for divorce, but even God can change disaster marriages. I’ve witnessed it many times. Women need to approach their husbands with a bit more respect and gentleness, instead of constantly nagging them and telling them they’re children and lazy. There is no wisdom here. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. Wisdom is found in proverbs 31, wisdom is found in Ephesians 5:22 wives submit to your own husbands as unto the Lord. Wisdom is found in the scripture, not some worldly advice from a stranger on the RUclips comment section. I used to be that women, saying I was “mothering my husband”, talking to him like a child, etc… it’s wrong, it’s unbiblical.
You don’t have to die for your husband. You have to die to yourself. We have to, we must pick up our cross daily and follow Christ. To the life surrendered to Jesus, this is our command.
At marriageable age, I have enough respect for my son that I would not still consider my son as "precious baby boy". So it is actually my HOPE that he meets a woman who will challenge him to evolve even further as a GROWN MAN.
This book is 100% true. Here is my problem. When women have to work full time and be moms we don't feel love and cherished by men. Yet most men, even Christian expect women to split the financial job as well as do the mom thing. Very hard to show respect. Both are competing for it then.
Terra Moody feminism is to blame for that one. Women want to be "equal" to men. We never expected or asked women to work. Women fought for their right to work. And the feminist agenda vilified women that were housewifes looking after their children. (Which is a very important job by the way) something society rarely does anymore (valuing raising children).
@Lyn Taylor why not? Being a housewife with children is a full time job. She should be compensated. If I were the sole bread winner the discretionary income (fun money) would be split even. In I luv Lucy Ricky gets upset about money because Lucy is supposed to use the money to pay household expenses first. The only reason that would be the case is if he's pretty much leaving Lucy in charge of the money. But because she spent the money on an expensive dress he takes over the expenses and gives her an allowance that's left over after household expenses.
@@ryanphillips5591 Society, or rather post industrial society, has never valued raising children. And women, or rather w/c women and women from other ethnicities, have always worked.
Just wanted to say thank you for this insight; it's been an absolute game changer! There are so many little things I've said or done in my relationship that have upset my partner and now I understand why, because they all boiled down to respect, which I hadn't realised was so crucially important to him. Since watching this I've had respect at the back of my mind when interacting and communicating with him and, and used the word "respect" specifically and I am already seeing improvements 🎉💥✨
The fundamentals of his book love and respect wrecked my marriage and allowed my husband to be an ab**ser. I highly recommend Sheila Wray Gregoires books instead…
I went to one of his marriage seminars. Its a wonderful thing to go to with your spouse. My husband and I went and we really are able to look at eachother and accept how God made us different.
I'm currently there. My wife is so confrontational. Talks to me exactly the same way my mother would anytime I got in trouble as a teen. I chose not to dignify her statements or questions because I feel that it is super disrespectful for someone who is supposed to be my equal to me talking to me as my mother would. My lack of response only serves to anger her even more. We're stuck in this never ending cycle.
That’s your experience. But not everyone shares your same experience. Bottom line is as Christians we are to submit to the authority of Christ, not our “experiences”. Dr. Emerson’s books have been a blessing for so many and I believe rightfully exegete the scriptures.
So much for showing respect! He keeps calling him “Emerson.” If anyone earned some respect I believe it is the DOCTOR that you invited to talk about his amazing book!
Maybe they’re friends. I don’t refer to my friends with PHD’s as “doctor” lol. How silly would that be. Or maybe Dr. Eggereich told him not to address him as such. We don’t know and it’s probably not a good idea To make a big deal about something we know nothing about.
Have the book, its Gold. Thank you so much. Me and my fiancé are reading this and it has truly opened my eyes to loving her properly and the way she longs for
Very convicting and helpful. Although, I have said/written that certain men in my profession arr admirable or that I respected their work. Those terms seemed emotionally neutral and safe to me. I'm horrified to think that I may have sent those men the wrong signal, to say nothing of my husband. Ouch!
Damn, i’ve been hating on this guy so much and now I feel so badly. He’s just messed up from watching his dad try to kill his mom and that’s where all of his ridiculous teachings come from. In his mind, he probably just thinks that if she hadn’t back talked to him or whatever, he wouldn’t have tried to strangle her. What a burden to carry. Imagine being so messed up over childhood trauma that you develop a whole ideology around it to command women to respect their spouse even when their spouse is being disrespectful to them. At least he turned his trauma into a 💩ton of money.
This is something important for women to hear. This is true men don't disrespect each other. We kill each other for that. If women do it we restrain ourselves, but we have a breaking point. Thats something we barely tolerate in other men, but women use it as a tool to win an argument, which is disrespectful in itself.
Ryan Phillips men with mental problems kill each other over being disrespected. Most well adjusted adults can compose themselves better and can let personal injuries slide off their backs.
@@bobafetttea That's a vague statement. It obviously depends on the severity of the disrespectful act. Also we have to take into account factors like environmental context and personal encroachment. Don't be so quick to blame it on lack of mental stability when there are many situations it could be warranted to escalate physically, whether it's morally accepted or not.
No, no no! I sign all birthday cards to my husband with LOVE. If I put with respect, he'd wonder what on earth I was doing. It's something you write to someone on a job application. Ridiculous.
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I treated him like a king, while keeping myself at the level of a queen, and I got 7+ years of lies and betrayal. He definitely would not have died for me, even though I would have done it for him. I now realize he was placing me in the role of his mother, and expected me to forgive everything he did, all of the lies he told, and love him like nothing ever happened. I’m not his mom, I’m not Jesus. I don’t have to die for him. I am my own person with my own thoughts, feelings and needs. I have lost all respect for him and am no longer attracted to him, and if he wants that back then HE is the one that has to change. Not me. I have a son. I would expect my daughter in law to treat herself with enough dignity to not put up with any kind of emotional garbage from my son as well. If he treats her badly, then she would be right to tell him about himself and up and leave. When you enable your child’s bad behavior, you raise entitled men who think they can do whatever they want and their wives will put up with it, because that’s what their parents and society showed them... and then we see podcasts like this that tell women to just accept that men aren’t as loving and that you, as a woman, need to change to fit his needs. False. Men need to be accountable for their own shortcomings. It is not a woman’s job to mother the grown men in her life. Please. Men, I have one advice for you. Grow up before you get into a relationship. Thank you.
Words of wisdom!
Absolutely!!! Well said!
Just remember, you’re accountable to God, not your husband, not your girlfriends, not your parents, not your children. God. Ultimately it’s not what Dr. Emerson says, it what GOD says in HIS word. What is he commanding YOU to do? His word is clear.
@@songcasserole3773 how is this wisdom? She’s saying “it’s not a woman’s job to mother grown men” while lecturing men To “grow up” lol. How about women stop trying to change men. Stop disrespecting their husbands. If they are abusing you or your children or cheating then you have grounds for divorce, but even God can change disaster marriages. I’ve witnessed it many times. Women need to approach their husbands with a bit more respect and gentleness, instead of constantly nagging them and telling them they’re children and lazy. There is no wisdom here. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. Wisdom is found in proverbs 31, wisdom is found in Ephesians 5:22 wives submit to your own husbands as unto the Lord. Wisdom is found in the scripture, not some worldly advice from a stranger on the RUclips comment section. I used to be that women, saying I was “mothering my husband”, talking to him like a child, etc… it’s wrong, it’s unbiblical.
You don’t have to die for your husband. You have to die to yourself. We have to, we must pick up our cross daily and follow Christ. To the life surrendered to Jesus, this is our command.
At marriageable age, I have enough respect for my son that I would not still consider my son as "precious baby boy". So it is actually my HOPE that he meets a woman who will challenge him to evolve even further as a GROWN MAN.
EnMode yes, Lady! Amen!
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This book is 100% true. Here is my problem. When women have to work full time and be moms we don't feel love and cherished by men. Yet most men, even Christian expect women to split the financial job as well as do the mom thing. Very hard to show respect. Both are competing for it then.
Terra Moody feminism is to blame for that one. Women want to be "equal" to men. We never expected or asked women to work. Women fought for their right to work. And the feminist agenda vilified women that were housewifes looking after their children. (Which is a very important job by the way) something society rarely does anymore (valuing raising children).
@Lyn Taylor why not? Being a housewife with children is a full time job. She should be compensated. If I were the sole bread winner the discretionary income (fun money) would be split even. In I luv Lucy Ricky gets upset about money because Lucy is supposed to use the money to pay household expenses first. The only reason that would be the case is if he's pretty much leaving Lucy in charge of the money. But because she spent the money on an expensive dress he takes over the expenses and gives her an allowance that's left over after household expenses.
@@ryanphillips5591 Society, or rather post industrial society, has never valued raising children. And women, or rather w/c women and women from other ethnicities, have always worked.
"Very hard to show respect" if you don't have any.
Just wanted to say thank you for this insight; it's been an absolute game changer! There are so many little things I've said or done in my relationship that have upset my partner and now I understand why, because they all boiled down to respect, which I hadn't realised was so crucially important to him. Since watching this I've had respect at the back of my mind when interacting and communicating with him and, and used the word "respect" specifically and I am already seeing improvements 🎉💥✨
The fundamentals of his book love and respect wrecked my marriage and allowed my husband to be an ab**ser. I highly recommend Sheila Wray Gregoires books instead…
Agreed
I went to one of his marriage seminars. Its a wonderful thing to go to with your spouse. My husband and I went and we really are able to look at eachother and accept how God made us different.
Hm
I'm currently there. My wife is so confrontational. Talks to me exactly the same way my mother would anytime I got in trouble as a teen. I chose not to dignify her statements or questions because I feel that it is super disrespectful for someone who is supposed to be my equal to me talking to me as my mother would. My lack of response only serves to anger her even more. We're stuck in this never ending cycle.
Maybe stop acting like a child and grow up?
Thank you so much for posting this video! As a woman, I find this information to be extremely helpful and eye-opening.
According to my experience, this is untrue
That’s your experience. But not everyone shares your same experience. Bottom line is as Christians we are to submit to the authority of Christ, not our “experiences”. Dr. Emerson’s books have been a blessing for so many and I believe rightfully exegete the scriptures.
So much for showing respect! He keeps calling him “Emerson.” If anyone earned some respect I believe it is the DOCTOR that you invited to talk about his amazing book!
Maybe they’re friends. I don’t refer to my friends with PHD’s as “doctor” lol. How silly would that be. Or maybe Dr. Eggereich told him not to address him as such. We don’t know and it’s probably not a good idea
To make a big deal about something we know nothing about.
thank you so much for uploading this vid!
Have the book, its Gold. Thank you so much. Me and my fiancé are reading this and it has truly opened my eyes to loving her properly and the way she longs for
this is a good advice.
My ex never showed me any respect until we split up.
Standing up for yourself is something men respect. Self respect and values.
That is the sign of a very immature, sexist man.
@@ryanphillips5591 Setting good boundaries.
Respect and honor are quite different and he doesn't seem to understand the difference.
Very convicting and helpful. Although, I have said/written that certain men in my profession arr admirable or that I respected their work. Those terms seemed emotionally neutral and safe to me. I'm horrified to think that I may have sent those men the wrong signal, to say nothing of my husband. Ouch!
Excellent. Spot on.
thanks for the revelation
Damn, i’ve been hating on this guy so much and now I feel so badly. He’s just messed up from watching his dad try to kill his mom and that’s where all of his ridiculous teachings come from. In his mind, he probably just thinks that if she hadn’t back talked to him or whatever, he wouldn’t have tried to strangle her. What a burden to carry. Imagine being so messed up over childhood trauma that you develop a whole ideology around it to command women to respect their spouse even when their spouse is being disrespectful to them. At least he turned his trauma into a 💩ton of money.
This is why men in America no wonder want to be with you liberal white feminist women and are dating international conservative women
This is something important for women to hear. This is true men don't disrespect each other. We kill each other for that. If women do it we restrain ourselves, but we have a breaking point. Thats something we barely tolerate in other men, but women use it as a tool to win an argument, which is disrespectful in itself.
Ryan Phillips men with mental problems kill each other over being disrespected. Most well adjusted adults can compose themselves better and can let personal injuries slide off their backs.
Lmfao since when do men ONLY kill other men? Y’all are so indoctrinated you forget about FACTS and HISTORY
@@bobafetttea That's a vague statement. It obviously depends on the severity of the disrespectful act. Also we have to take into account factors like environmental context and personal encroachment. Don't be so quick to blame it on lack of mental stability when there are many situations it could be warranted to escalate physically, whether it's morally accepted or not.
@@bobafettteaI’ll disrespect you in front of your wife and kids and I want you to let it slide off your back like you said here
Why though?
No, no no! I sign all birthday cards to my husband with LOVE. If I put with respect, he'd wonder what on earth I was doing. It's something you write to someone on a job application. Ridiculous.
You obviously don’t understand anything of what a man wants
Nope he wont.
This guy has not actually talked to a woman.