Submission… It’s Easy to Get It Wrong with Feminine Not Feminist
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- Опубликовано: 5 сен 2024
- Why is the word “submission” so taboo in today’s society? What does submission actually look like according to God’s word? Formerly known as Feminine Not Feminist on IG, today we hear from Anneliese as she recounts her struggles with submission early on in her marriage. From an unhealthy view of submission, to learning how to respect her husband, Anneliese shares how she relied on God’s word to shape her understanding of this biblical mandate. Whether single, engaged, or married, we truly believe all women can benefit from this encouraging and edifying conversation. Enjoy!
Anneliese's Instagram: / im_anneliese_
“The curse hasn’t activated yet” is so true and something you can only really understand in hindsight, at least that’s how I feel lol. I’m coming up on six year of marriage this year and boy oh boy, we often joke about us living through lol 40 years of marriage in these short six years because of everything that has been thrown at us either as a couple or as an individual, but glory to God because we are finally seeing the lights through the storm and it has brought us both to a place of humility and understanding that these issues cannot be solved by us alone but through the power we have in Jesus and amen for that. And all of the things that become issues in marriage are hardly ever issues while you’re dating lol
Such a gem of a saying! Praise God
So when I was a kid, I would talk to my father and he just wouldn’t answer me sometimes. It’s a huge trigger point for me when I’m talking to my husband (or anyone for that matter )and he takes a few minutes to respond. Time and time again I have asked him to let me know he’s thinking about a response but when he just stays quiet and thinks it triggers me to think I’m getting ignored! I am definitely going to work on being more patient and letting him have his train of thought instead of rushing response :) thank you for that wisdom!
She is so wise for her age! I'm nearly 37 and I struggle so much with many of the topics she is talking about. Especially with how we converse with our partners and allowing them to get their train of thoughts through. It's a form of disrespect I haven't quite gotten past.
I don't gasp at much.... but when I tell you I GAAASSSPPED when I saw this thumbnail. 🙌🏽
Milena , you going back to your natural hair is so GORGEOUS on you!!!!! I’m so glad you embraced your heritage and God given color, it suits your skin tone and eyes and really enhances your beauty !
Agreed!
This was one of my favourite podcast episodes you've done for sure! I really loved what Anneliese touched on at the end about how temptations change after marriage, its so true. Marriage is such a gift but the enemy does try to make certain things difficult. Its so important to pray for yourself as a wife and even more so for your husband as you both navigate the early days of marriage♡
Come on Milena 👏👏 New follower here. But I LOVE when you said “witnessing her living her life for Jesus VERSUS talking about all the things” aka nagging him lol. Love that. I’ve definitely held onto that verse during my marriage. I did the opposite and our marriage suffered. Now Im learning from that- praying for him and respecting him and things are MUCH better
Wow that is amazing!
I used to follow her on Instagram and really enjoyed her posts, no longer have instagram so I'm excited to listen!
Same!
Same!
The spiritual leadership conversation is SO GOOD! And needs to be preached so much more because I think so many younger women are disappointed when a man doesn’t express his faith in the same way they do. Yet men in general are different and spiritual leadership is not emotional worship style.
This was so good! As a single person, I'm so grateful for what you both shared in this episode! God bless you!!
We need a longer episode lol
I wish women weren’t painting as the monster in Christian marriages. There were good points in this episode. But some just made me personally feel horrible.
I feel like these points are what keeps women in abusive marriages. Husbands are painted as perfect, have it all right, knows the best. And women are painted as horrible naggers, who just cause their husbands bones to rot. Can’t we praise women for being good wives? Can we acknowledge that some husbands are just NOT good husbands and it’s simply NOT the wife’s fault? Some women are beat into submission and told to submit anyway because husbands know the best. That is basically telling the wife “well, you must’ve deserved it because you didn’t submit.” That is horrible.
Would love to see an episode where husbands talk highly on their wives and focus on their flaws in a marriage too.
I have gotten damaging advice from Christian’s about marriage and such and it has only developed more harm than fruit.
1000% I feel like there's massive internalised misogyny. Countless videos about being grateful for your husband when he disrespects the home and your time by making huge messes and never cleaning them up, ignoring when you respectfully and calmly ask him to do a task, taming your tongue when you disagree with something and learning to be silent as if women can't have opinions or make their own choices. There was a video with Nava where they spoke about loving a man 'so hard that he stops watching porn', and the entire video demonised women and wives, painting idle and porn addicted men as the wise leaders of the household, and that women should be led by them? I'm so confused by the concept of being led by someone who sins regularly.
I also saw Christians commenting under one of Milena's posts urging a woman to pray that her husband stops abusing her, but not to leave him?? 'It's not in your control how someone sins against you, it is your control how you react and if you sin back'.
This is content for women about self improvement as women. We can’t change our husbands. We can only change ourselves.
Typically this type of content is geared towards women in healthy marriages. If you’re married to an abuser the advice doesn’t apply. Women being abused need to immediately seek help and not stick around trying to obey their husbands but this isn’t content for those women.
Most of the femeninety content I have seen starts with disclaimers stating that the advice is for women married to GOOD men. If you’re married to a bad man this advice isn’t for you.
The internet is FULL of plenty of content praising women and saying how amazing they are etc. This content is meant to help women take a look in the mirror and make improvements to themselves instead of having a chip on their shoulder and thinking they’re perfect and amazing simply for being women.
@@bintshanda1 unfortunately, lots of abuse is disguised or not obvious until you're out of it, so lots of people in abusive marriages will follow this advice not knowing they're being abused.
@@thiswildelifex I can totally see where you’re coming from but I don’t think this content should be taken off of the internet because of that. I personally enjoy this type of content as I’m married to a great husband and I enjoy improving myself for myself and for him just as he improves for himself and for me. Maybe a short disclaimer at the beginning of the video could be helpful to women in those types of situations.
@@bintshanda1 I also think some of the things do enable abusive relationships. Encouraging women to stay with porn addicts or cheaters or men who yell at them, and saying that if they improve themselves enough and pray, their husbands will change. Put up with blatant disrespect as it's a chance to improve your patience (things like disregarding a meal you've made, going against what you want for your children or deliberately messing up the house you spent all day cleaning with 0 regard for your time or energy). These are all examples that milena has said that the women need to improve on, rather than healthy, kind communication discussing how you feel.
I appreciated her comment in the end about even if someone isn’t Christian, when certain roles are fulfilled, the fruit is still produced.
I’m had that thought a while ago and it’s the Lord being faithful to His promises ❤ she’s so spot on and the Holy Spirit is absolutely with her. I definitely feel like these episodes are like mini fellowships ❤
It goes both ways.. husbands also need to listen to their wives and not start an argument already thinking that their wife is wrong.
If both people in the marriage approach conversations and decision making like this then both people in the marriage will feel respected and loved.
This way of approaching a convo with your partner isn't just for wives it's for husbands as well!
Thank you so much for this I also struggle to submit to my husband but understanding how differently marriages get attacked and yes pray for me sisters to respect and honor and love my husband as I should I really want to be able to be the best wife I can be to him ❤ thank you sisters and I am thankful for this podcast and this messaged has blessed me
I would love a podcast on family relationships while being married/boundaries and what’s actually biblical! And what does it look like to honor your father and mother as an adult?
Wow she is so wise🫶🏼 I loved to watch this video, thank you. I totally agree with her about the topic when she said that a marriage between a believer wife and not believing husband can be happier marriage than between two Christian’s. I’ve been witnessing the same in my own marriage and other people’s marriages. It’s so funny because we talked about this topic with my husband last night. I’ve witnessed so many times a Christian married couple how many husbands for some reason are embarrassing their wives. For example I’ve seen so many times when a husband is raising his voice saying “I am the head of this family” or “I am the man” Usually their wives will be silent afterwards, but their resentment will build up in a long run. I would love to see a podcast where Milena and Jordan talks about this topic whether it’s right or wrong and their thoughts about it.
Never saw this crossover coming!!
You talked about what submission is not and to get better at submitting, but not much about what submission IS. I would have loved to have listened to your perspective.
It's a great reminder to fully listen to your husband and to have a 'heart posture' towards your husband that always wants the best and to respect him in your words and tone. I believe it absolutely goes both ways, husbands need to fully listen and respect their wives this isn't just for christian couple but all couples! This is where I have a huge issue with the term 'a nagging wife'. When someone uses this term it shifts the blame (eg. the husband did not fully listen to the wife and respect what she asked of him so she had to ask again and again) onto the wife. The term nagging immediately puts the wife in the wrong even though she was the one not being listened to or respected in the first place. Please be cognizant of this when you use the term nagging. I don't think it should ever be used to describe a wife. A woman deserves the same amount of respect in a relationship as a husband.
Oh my GOODNESS. Praise the Lord! I love Annalise, this is a match that is truly from the Lord. I cannot wait to hear the wisdom you two are going to speak!
Accidentally ended up here by auto play after a pints with Aquinas episode ended, sorry to intrude ladies, but here some oft overlooked insight from the masculine perspective. Woman is called to submit because man is called by God to to give of himself, to lead, to protect even to the loss of his own life. Now leading is giving of himself mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and as such is taxing in those areas. To protect is primarily to give of himself physically; however, while physically taxing, it is invigorating mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. The focus is often on the lady submitting to and expecting leadership from her husband, which is good, holy and beautiful, but she shouldn’t neglect to submit also to her husbands protection. Even little things like asking for help with the heavy luggage help strengthen his will to conform to his duty before God.
What a lovely conversation! You both are beautiful ❤
Thank you 🤍
Great job, guys! Submitting to your husband as a woman is just like submitting to the Lord. One thing I have learned on my walk with Christ is that you have to treat Christ like a husband before he can give you one!❤
We are his bride. Stay blessed
Loved the practical side of this! I felt this was really missing in your other videos about this topic
Great point on the listening to him, let him finish before we form our opinion. ❤
So happy you had her on your podcast!!❤️
Was so excited to see this! ❤
What happens when the husband does ask a wife to sin or keeps asking her and probing her into temptation that she doesn’t want to take part in? Assuming she is respectful, godly and listening. What if he doesn’t recognize God within her. How to unify that relationship and not fall into discouragement.
I was so pumped when I clicked on this video! Two of my FAVORITE women!
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I'm a Christian wife married to an unbeliever and 1peter 3v1 is a prayer that I have over my life. I have already seen some great changes in my husband. ❤
Great episode!
Can someone explain to me a little more in depth about when she says “the curse isn’t activated yet”, I get in but kinda don’t. Does it say it somewhere in the bible? I need more info plz!! Lol
No it does not say that in the Bible but in marriage it can be more apparent for a woman, how she has a desire to rule over her husband than when the two were dating 😊
Ohhhh 😮this has totally blessed me 🎉❤
I love Anneliese 😭😭😭
I liked this video before it even loaded 😂
I wish all your podcast videos were lomgggerrrr. ): they end too short! Haha I wanna hear MORE 🩷
Haha so glad you enjoyed it!
What’s her Instagram?
It's @im_anneliese_ 😊
loveee Annalise! this was so sweet and encouraging to watch! felt like i was listening in on a facetime call. best one yet!! 🥹
ahhh I’m so excited to see Annalise on the channel, I’ve loved her account for years🩷🩷