One thing that I do is praying/worshipping/listening to my Bible while I'm being productive and getting things done. I try to bring the Lord with me during my day.
Now imagine the effect of your idol on to your audience. This is why I had to quit and delete my socials as I realized my "well thought" and innocent idols were becoming others because of how I was presenting them. But praise God for His mercy.
My dear sister, you may need more than a month. I had my 5th baby 18 months ago, and we are still adjusting and figuring out life 😂 and 2 of my boys are literal adults at ages 19 and 20 taking care of themselves and my husband and i are just over here surviving 😂 praise God for slow living
not a wife or mom yet but both are desires and so i thank you for being such a Godly influence in this season i feel like God is preparing me for and refining me in
I feel the same way. I'm 16 and really find these videos very helpful and encouraging, especially since majority of my school environment is worldy and secular (Also by no means am I judging; you just notice it a lot more when you are saved and let go of your old self). I'm nowhere near ready to be and mother or wife right now😅, but I pray I will be both in my future. She is like a big sister that is leading us down the right path. 💕
I just turned 20 and also just found out i’m pregnant! i’m so excited but so nervous about motherhood but i’ve been watching your videos for awhile now, I didn’t think i’d be pregnant so soon but your videos have been so helpful :) thankyou milena!🤍
Wow this is EXACTLY what I needed! I have been wrestling with perfectionism in the home! And during this season of postpartum and the family getting sick and busy schedules I recently felt like I was always behind and I hated myself for it. I thrive in routine and keeping the home tidy yet when it gets off schedule I end up feeling not enough. Not good enough of a mother. Not good enough of a wife. Not good enough for myself. Even simply loving myself and listening to my body when I’m way beyond exhausted and needed rest. I now realize I made my routine into my idol.
You spoke this so well. This has been my trouble area as well, but for me, I hear what I think others would think of me if they saw my home or what wasn't getting done etc., and so now I see that has been another part of the perfectionism and idol.
Yes! I feel this way too. I am 9 weeks pp with my second. I had so much trouble resting and sitting in the chaos of it all. I forced myself to try and keep up with everyone and everything. Even still, I feel like I am failing if I am not staying on top of it all. God has given us grace. We need to allow ourselves to receive it.
I jumped right back into it way quicker than I expected after having my 3rd this time around. While it seems so great I regretted it months after. I can agree with everything you’re saying, postpartum is a very vulnerable time. You’re doing the Lords will and the enemy loves taking advantage of any cracks remained open. I love this real and raw feelings you’re able to share with us as it spreads awareness of how in depths postpartum and centering your life on Christ for every single litte thing. I just had this conversation with my husband after the early deep postpartum months that it really is a spiritual battle for the both of us, the anxiety, depression, worries. It is bound to happen because we just grew a human. Your body mind and soul is healing. Lean on the Lord. Thank you for this beautiful message.
This has come at a perfect time. I have been idolizing a child recently. It has been all consuming. I have exchanged my bible for books on fertility. Thank you for sharing your struggle. It is too easy to justify idolizing such things. It's past time for me to get back right with God.
My goodness...I NEEDED this today. Almost 38 weeks pregnant with baby #2 and so ready to be done and into our next season. I didn't even realize I have put having this baby (among other things) ahead of my relationship with Jesus. Super convicted by this. Thank you.
I truly appreciate you talking about your struggles as well and what the Lord has helped you through sometimes it’s easy to think that we are the only ones struggling but I appreciate you humbling yourself and sharing with us not only your struggles but how the Lord has convicted and helped you through it 🙏
Milena! This is a beautiful and timely video yet again!!! Praise the Lord for your videos, all glory to God. So happy to hear you’re doing good and had your beautiful baby ❤️ May the Lord continue to bless & guide you + your family. Love you sister!
Thank you, dear sister for this reminder. God has used you so many times to bring my own sin to light. Praise God for you and the things that he’s teaching you, may he bless you beyond what you could ever imagine! 🩷
I almost turned it off but I’m so glad I didn’t. I had a stillborn baby 2 1/2 weeks ago and I still struggle to hear/see of moms with their babies. But I always come away from your videos inspired to know the Lord more and spend more time with Him. I knew I had to continue watching even with the baby stuff. It was all woven together. You’re a blessing to so many women Milena including myself. 🩷
Thanks for sharing. I think my idol this season has been sleeping and and just relaxing in bed. In and of it self 'rest' is not a bad thing but idolising and living for it is. I have found that it at times has stopped me from praying and spending quality time with the Lord. it is definitely something that I will be addressing.
Oh I can completely acknowledge that good things can become idols. Especially having kids, finding a husband, taking care of a home, etc. so many women make having kids their entire life and stop putting God first. It’s mind blowing once your eyes are open to this reality. These are good things but don’t out them before Christ!
I so badly want to just meet up with you for coffee and just share what the Lord has done in our lives through pregnancy. I needed this video today, I’m 6 weeks postpartum ❤
Milena you have been such a blessing in my motherhood and wife journey. You have such a gift and continue to inspire and teach me so much. I am 37 weeks pregnant with baby #3 and I am so grateful I watched this video now. It is such an eye opener and really makes me think of things.
Thank you for sharing what you’ve been going through! I’ve been going through this as well, I don’t have any children yet but hoping and praying someday we will be blessed with a child, but with household things. Your story has really opened my eyes and Im so thankful that you’re staying strong and sharing your testimony❤️
This video could not have come at a better time ❤ I've been struggling hard with making work and idol. Stressing about it instead of leaving it at the feet of Jesus ❤️
I have a 3 month old and I’m usually a clean freak… until I had him. 😂 I prayed so much for this child and I admit I would lose my joy and peace if I wasn’t cleaning, and I admit I prioritized that even over God… this was so needed for me. Thank you for the honesty ❤
An understanding husband is another blessing you have! He understood you in this period of postpartum, understood what you needed and then took the responsibility to actually help you. 🙂 I totally get what you are saying in this video. I am far on the other end of motherhood and am now mother to 4 children ages 17-25, still all unmarried. But in all stages and seasons there is this truth that can be applied. It's convicting. Thank you for being honest to yourself and being vulnerable in sharing it with us.
Thank you for the transparency. We are nobody without sin, we need the Lord every single day. daily encounters with Him sustain us!! Lastly, i know your encounters with the Lord are going to be so different in this season, than it was when you had your 3 littles and pregnant. I hope you all find your groove again!!
Thank you so so much for this! I had my fourth baby almost 8 weeks ago and I had been struggling with exactly the same thing. The Lord opened my eyes to it and this video couldn’t be more timely, thank you 🤎
After I had my 5th, my daughter age 6 came from school and said something like, "I was hoping you would clean the house." I'm not sure how old the baby was...maybe 2 weeks? Fortunately, it struck me as hilarious instead of stressing me out.
So so good!! 💕 So important for postpartum mamas to hear this. Lord willing there will always be household tasks to give glory to the Lord with HOWEVER we only have our children in our home for so little time. Don’t think twice about the little chores during those precious baby days!! And lean on your spouse to take on some of those tasks you usually enjoy doing while you’re in that freshly postpartum season! You are ONE with your spouse, and it just makes sense for them to do the tasks that are usually yours…it took my husband and I having kids to really understand what being ONE and working as a Team meant…it was such a a beautiful blessing, and showed us how having children can bring you closer to your spouse if you let the Lord lead.
So amazing to hear a take on this subject that is not very touched on. The emphasis on the role as women in the Bible is, but not the idolization of it. It’s so true what the Lord revealed to you. Thank you for being an open vessel and encouraging us women to live the life the Lord call us to. May the Lord continue to use you and bless you. In Jesus name.
Oh this video was for me huh 😂💕 thank you so much Milena. Time and time again God has used you in my life, this last year especially, and I’m so grateful as I’m sure many others are. Praying for you and your family ❤
Thank you, thank you, Milena! ❤ This is the answer to why I have been struggling lately. I am currently almost 29 weeks pregnant and I am trying to keep up with it all, but this last week or so has hit me so hard and this video is bringing me to my knees before the Lord. Thank you.
I went through this exact thing transitioning from 1 baby to 2 under to . It was an intense storm but Jesus got me through it . ! Thank you for posting this
Here I am, so proud that my 2 month old is now sleeping through the night. Getting into a routine after having such a rough time the first month. Not that it has become easier because all days are different. But I’m finally able to take a shower, brush my teeth, EAT during the day. I was into my word, praying to the Lord to guide me through this transition into a first time mom. Now here I am idolizing my home, just like you,and not being in my word every day because “there’s so much to do in the house” and feeling guilty if my husband came home to a mess or me smelling from not showering. Thank you Lord, for using Milena as a vessel ❤
The title already got me because the Lord has been trying to get my stubborn attention lately. I’m a person that has to be doing something every minute, can’t stay still. Even my husband has been telling me about this but I was too stubborn to listen. Keeping a tidy house has become an idol for me and I’m crying because it prevents me from spending those quality moments with my 11month old daughter, I don’t wanna wake up one day regretting that I didn’t spend those moments pouring into life and telling her about Jesus. Thank you for being so brave to share this with us and Inspiring us to do the same, 😭🩷 you’re like an older sister I never had!
I am so there right now! Thank you for sharing! I am in the same place and really struggle with this for years! The enemy distracts and I completely forget that this is a sin! Thank you! I’m looking forward to your next video and gaining some tips for how you have been working to overcome this. ❤
Hi! 6 months postpartum and still have not found the rythm I had before giving birth and this vídeo has enlightened me so much. I was idolizing that season of life instead of fully embracing and commiting to this new reality God has gifted me. Thank you so much Milena!! You speak TRUTH!! it burns like fire because it comes from the Holy Ghost. Know that you are much loved and that we pray for you, your marriage and your ministry. God bless you 😘 looking forward for those practical tips next week hehehe 😊
It’s good to see you back on your channel. God bless you & your beautiful family. You have helped me so much work on my relationship with God. Keep going Mama, so proud of you you’ve grown so much. Ive been watching you since you were pregnant with your first.
It is interesting how we can idolize the home. I thought I was alone in that! I don’t have any kids but I really want to keep our apartment clean and to stay in routine. I did that when we first moved to another state and it really helped me to get In Routine but then I felt super anxious if not in it or if one thing wasn’t done. Thank you for the video! I relate.
I have always been very aware of my idolatry towards my home. I NEED to get in a routine. I NEED to get the house on a good cleaning schedule. THEN everything will fall into place. In short - God is not enough. 😢 Something I am constantly working on.❤
I also love Ecclesiastes! I listened to a Bible project podcast and Tim actually said that “smoke” would be a better translation than “meaningless.”This life has meaning, but it’s here and it’s gone; it passes through our fingers like smoke. I think the Hebrew word is actually “breath.”
Wow… I was just diagnosed with an autoimmune diseases and I’m 99% positive that it’s from this. My second son was born in November and I have a newly two year old. I’ve been struggling with this since my husband went back to work at 1 month postpartum. I have no idea how to continue with my responsibilities as a mother, wife, housekeeper, and individual without idolizing it the way you described. I feel like a failure if anything falls short or if my kids aren’t put before me 100% of the time. I can’t even shower without anxiety. I feel like this video and the next one you put out are signs from God. I have an appointment with my doctor today and am hoping I haven’t damaged myself too badly.
I just had my fourth child and the postpartum experience this time around has emotionally been very different. I was also feeling very "Ecclesiastes" about everything and even still now. I had the opposite problem though where I was resting too much...but not really beneficial rest...more like I'd give myself permission to watch my favorite shows until all hours of the night because my baby was going to wake up for a feed soon anyway. I'm learning ab out discipline and also really trying to treasure this time more than just getting through it. Thank you for your videos. I'm always just a little bit not wanting to watch because I don't want to be convicted, but I'm always so glad I do watch them. The Lord is using you!
You know what? I needed to hear this. I am aware things like our phones, our hobbies, etc. can become idols, but it’s never hit me before that cleaning and serving my home can be too. Since I saw the title it has been nudging me to pick up my Bible instead of load the dishwasher first. Thank you for sharing what the Lord has placed on your heart. 🩷
I love this so much Milena! Thank you for the encouragement. It’s so easy to let good things become idols. I highly recommend the book “Gospel Treason” by Brad Bigney. I read it last summer with some friends and it’s all about idols and it was so helpful and revealed so much to me!! I wish I would’ve read it sooner!
I am 19 year old and i am struggling so easly i can make thing an idol like specifically my boyfriend and worthly dreams i would love to if you can pray for me more focusing on God and put God first .Thank you already have a nice day and i like your video it was so calm and peaceful ❤🙏😽
I’ve been saying this, that I feel like I’m running around more than giving time with the Lord even though I do I feel like I don’t eat his bread as much as I truly need because I’m soooo busy & I don’t like it! I’ve been praying for God to help me slow down my life but when he helps I just feel like I’m lazy but I’m not I prayed for this to not always be on the go go go go go like the world wants
Hi Milena! I am currently 25 weeks pregnant and I am just now realizing that I would love to do a home birth. Could you please pray that the Lord open doors for this to happen? You have shown me so much of beauty that can be had by giving birth at home. Prayers to make this come true would be very appreciated! :)
Hi Rebecca! I’m not Milena (obviously lol) but I will pray for you! 28weeks myself and a strong believer in home births! God designed us to carry and deliver babies! I pray that you will find the support and assistance you need for the peaceful home birth you desire. God bless you and your baby!
Oh my… I have struggled so much. I am pregnant with my third. I have put off a lot of things to rest and have felt extremely guilty for doing so, but I absolutely have had to. I prayed for strength to continue which He never delivered. Do not store up treasures where moth and rust destroy keeps popping in my head. I take so much pride in my home being orderly that I haven’t made time for rest. And it feels weird and bad being out of our norm because that is what my flesh understands, but God calls us to rest. Even God himself rested. I am definitely no greater than the Lord I must humble myself
Is hell because everything in the world can be a idol is is put first then God we do it all the time! You overcome one thing then your dealing with another problem. Besides we have hormones and we act crazy all time i cried and ask him for forgiveness after a mental breakdown and i don't even have kids yet 😂❤
With my third I did not prioritize post partum whatsoever and it’s my biggest regret. I had a birth center birth and was home within 6 hours of having her and by noon I was up doing laundry since my kids were with family and I felt like I had a chance of productivity rather than just spending all with baby
I love your videos but I do miss your old content as well. Seems like you’re only a Christian Channel now. Would love to see more recipes or homeschooling videos ect. But again just my opinion. Still love your videos though❤
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🥰✨🤗 Que o Senhor continue te dando discernimento e sabedoria do alto sobre sua vida Milena. Que você seja sempre a Mulher sábia que edifica o seu Lar. E que o Senhor continue te abençoando,te livrando e te guardando de todo mal em nome de Jesus. Deus abençoe você,sua casa, seu lar e sua linda família. Deus une pessoas,..Mas acima de tudo une propósitos. 🙏🏻🙏🏻💖✨ Obrigada! Por compartilhar sua vida, sua história e palavra de Deus conosco. 🤗🖐🏻🔥🔥🔥
Pfoe. This is so loaded and difficult for me. I have been postpartum for 11 months now. I have a 5,5 year old with autism and my husband is away for work 12 hours a day. The baby is very fussy and crying all the time still. It’s draining and I find myself in this constant state of trying to get the bare minimum done, but it is all consuming. And I know it’s not right. I have been crying out to God and feeling at my wits end for many months. It feels like my body just won’t bear much more. Mentally too. I feel like my home and our family goal of moving (and therefore making a bigger income) is definitely becoming an idol. But how does it not? How do I stay in this situation or try to get out of it without going overboard every single day? There’s like no way I could do less, because I’m already doing the bare minimum. I’m praying the replies on this comment can pull me out of my stuck mindset and into where God wants to lead our family.
Currently wrestling with breastfeeding and milk production as an idol. Couldn’t see it until recently and I’m 3 weeks PP! Praise God that He reveals things and gives us grace. Now all I need is to say Lord whatever Your plan is that’s fine with me, wether I feed by breast/bottle or EBM/formula this child is YOURS. Much love for you and the work God is doing in your life!
This is interesting as iv been watching you for the past year and a half. I started implementing some of your teachings, mothering/homemaking ect. I very quickly became angered, depressed and I prayed about it. He told me that these RUclips videos were becoming idols & that I was quickly becoming “religious and legalistic”. We have to be very careful in how we label “Christian homemaking” “trad wife” “Christian wife” “submission” ect. It can become legalistic and thus turning us away from God instead of towards God. Instead of leaning on God to teach us how to be mothers and wives we go to RUclips’s and influencers. We are putting pressure on ourselves to be someone that God never even called us to be. We are putting expectations on ourselves that God never placed on us. Therefore we are becoming tired, drained and burnt out because we aren’t leaning on the Holy Spirit. Last week I heard something that changed my life. “Are we placing our identity in “Christianity” or in Jesus. They two very different things. Christianity allows us to places rules, expectations & legalistic values on ourselves. Jesus just loves us.
I’m so ashamed to say that I am an isrealite myself. I was baptized early December and delivered my sweet girl late December. I’m so embarrassed to say Since then I have become such a lazy Christian. I have fallen and need to get back up.
One thing that I do is praying/worshipping/listening to my Bible while I'm being productive and getting things done. I try to bring the Lord with me during my day.
Beautiful ❤
The title already got me like okay Lord I hear you 😩
Same sis. God has been prompting me about this and I’ve low key been ignoring it and then this
Saaaaaaame
Me too 😭🔥
This 🙌🏻
SAMEEE
I feel so blessed my husband took over all cleaning and cooking for the first few months while I heal and recover.
A beautiful blessing to soak in 🩵 congratulations on your baby!
Yesss...it's such a blessing to be able to depend on our husband's and truly watch them rise to the challenge of fatherhood and partnership.
Now imagine the effect of your idol on to your audience. This is why I had to quit and delete my socials as I realized my "well thought" and innocent idols were becoming others because of how I was presenting them. But praise God for His mercy.
My dear sister, you may need more than a month. I had my 5th baby 18 months ago, and we are still adjusting and figuring out life 😂 and 2 of my boys are literal adults at ages 19 and 20 taking care of themselves and my husband and i are just over here surviving 😂 praise God for slow living
It took me months, maybe years, to get back to making To Do lists. I was just winging it.
One month is nothing. Putting too much on yourself after having a baby is not healthy.
@Erin_29 absolutely 100% true. We all have to go at the pace that's best for us and our family
not a wife or mom yet but both are desires and so i thank you for being such a Godly influence in this season i feel like God is preparing me for and refining me in
I feel the same way. I'm 16 and really find these videos very helpful and encouraging, especially since majority of my school environment is worldy and secular (Also by no means am I judging; you just notice it a lot more when you are saved and let go of your old self). I'm nowhere near ready to be and mother or wife right now😅, but I pray I will be both in my future. She is like a big sister that is leading us down the right path. 💕
I just turned 20 and also just found out i’m pregnant! i’m so excited but so nervous about motherhood but i’ve been watching your videos for awhile now, I didn’t think i’d be pregnant so soon but your videos have been so helpful :) thankyou milena!🤍
Aw congratulations 💙🩷 I am so happy for you and your blessing from the Lord🤍🤍🤍
Wow this is EXACTLY what I needed! I have been wrestling with perfectionism in the home! And during this season of postpartum and the family getting sick and busy schedules I recently felt like I was always behind and I hated myself for it. I thrive in routine and keeping the home tidy yet when it gets off schedule I end up feeling not enough. Not good enough of a mother. Not good enough of a wife. Not good enough for myself. Even simply loving myself and listening to my body when I’m way beyond exhausted and needed rest. I now realize I made my routine into my idol.
You spoke this so well.
This has been my trouble area as well, but for me, I hear what I think others would think of me if they saw my home or what wasn't getting done etc., and so now I see that has been another part of the perfectionism and idol.
Yes! I feel this way too. I am 9 weeks pp with my second. I had so much trouble resting and sitting in the chaos of it all. I forced myself to try and keep up with everyone and everything. Even still, I feel like I am failing if I am not staying on top of it all.
God has given us grace. We need to allow ourselves to receive it.
I jumped right back into it way quicker than I expected after having my 3rd this time around. While it seems so great I regretted it months after. I can agree with everything you’re saying, postpartum is a very vulnerable time. You’re doing the Lords will and the enemy loves taking advantage of any cracks remained open. I love this real and raw feelings you’re able to share with us as it spreads awareness of how in depths postpartum and centering your life on Christ for every single litte thing. I just had this conversation with my husband after the early deep postpartum months that it really is a spiritual battle for the both of us, the anxiety, depression, worries. It is bound to happen because we just grew a human. Your body mind and soul is healing. Lean on the Lord. Thank you for this beautiful message.
This has come at a perfect time. I have been idolizing a child recently. It has been all consuming. I have exchanged my bible for books on fertility. Thank you for sharing your struggle. It is too easy to justify idolizing such things. It's past time for me to get back right with God.
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I been slacking on God. And this is exactly what i needed 🙏
My goodness...I NEEDED this today. Almost 38 weeks pregnant with baby #2 and so ready to be done and into our next season. I didn't even realize I have put having this baby (among other things) ahead of my relationship with Jesus. Super convicted by this. Thank you.
I truly appreciate you talking about your struggles as well and what the Lord has helped you through sometimes it’s easy to think that we are the only ones struggling but I appreciate you humbling yourself and sharing with us not only your struggles but how the Lord has convicted and helped you through it 🙏
Milena!
This is a beautiful and timely video yet again!!! Praise the Lord for your videos, all glory to God. So happy to hear you’re doing good and had your beautiful baby ❤️ May the Lord continue to bless & guide you + your family. Love you sister!
Thank you, dear sister for this reminder. God has used you so many times to bring my own sin to light. Praise God for you and the things that he’s teaching you, may he bless you beyond what you could ever imagine! 🩷
For me an idol has been seeking rest from everything else but God. And I found that all these things only leave me feeling more restless.
3 months postpartum and this blessed me ❤️ I’m thankful the Lord keeps speaking through you to bless his body
I love how Milena is always focusing on her current feelings and she goes deeper and deeper everytime she start talking about it. ❤️
I almost turned it off but I’m so glad I didn’t. I had a stillborn baby 2 1/2 weeks ago and I still struggle to hear/see of moms with their babies. But I always come away from your videos inspired to know the Lord more and spend more time with Him. I knew I had to continue watching even with the baby stuff. It was all woven together. You’re a blessing to so many women Milena including myself. 🩷
Thanks for sharing. I think my idol this season has been sleeping and and just relaxing in bed. In and of it self 'rest' is not a bad thing but idolising and living for it is. I have found that it at times has stopped me from praying and spending quality time with the Lord. it is definitely something that I will be addressing.
Oh I can completely acknowledge that good things can become idols. Especially having kids, finding a husband, taking care of a home, etc. so many women make having kids their entire life and stop putting God first. It’s mind blowing once your eyes are open to this reality. These are good things but don’t out them before Christ!
I so badly want to just meet up with you for coffee and just share what the Lord has done in our lives through pregnancy. I needed this video today, I’m 6 weeks postpartum ❤
Milena you have been such a blessing in my motherhood and wife journey. You have such a gift and continue to inspire and teach me so much. I am 37 weeks pregnant with baby #3 and I am so grateful I watched this video now. It is such an eye opener and really makes me think of things.
Thank you for sharing what you’ve been going through! I’ve been going through this as well, I don’t have any children yet but hoping and praying someday we will be blessed with a child, but with household things. Your story has really opened my eyes and Im so thankful that you’re staying strong and sharing your testimony❤️
This video could not have come at a better time ❤ I've been struggling hard with making work and idol. Stressing about it instead of leaving it at the feet of Jesus ❤️
I have a 3 month old and I’m usually a clean freak… until I had him. 😂 I prayed so much for this child and I admit I would lose my joy and peace if I wasn’t cleaning, and I admit I prioritized that even over God… this was so needed for me. Thank you for the honesty ❤
Milena you’re one of the most REAL people on this platform.
Loved this!✨🤎
I’m due in July with my first baby and your last couple of videos were so helpful. There’s so much wisdom, truth and freedom!
Thank you 🙏🏼
Congratulations on ur first baby...praying for you and the baby
I thank the lord for how he uses you for his church ! He is so good thank you girl for obeying him !
An understanding husband is another blessing you have!
He understood you in this period of postpartum, understood what you needed and then took the responsibility to actually help you.
🙂
I totally get what you are saying in this video.
I am far on the other end of motherhood and am now mother to 4 children ages 17-25, still all unmarried. But in all stages and seasons there is this truth that can be applied. It's convicting.
Thank you for being honest to yourself and being vulnerable in sharing it with us.
Thank you for the transparency. We are nobody without sin, we need the Lord every single day. daily encounters with Him sustain us!! Lastly, i know your encounters with the Lord are going to be so different in this season, than it was when you had your 3 littles and pregnant. I hope you all find your groove again!!
Thank you so so much for this! I had my fourth baby almost 8 weeks ago and I had been struggling with exactly the same thing. The Lord opened my eyes to it and this video couldn’t be more timely, thank you 🤎
After I had my 5th, my daughter age 6 came from school and said something like, "I was hoping you would clean the house." I'm not sure how old the baby was...maybe 2 weeks? Fortunately, it struck me as hilarious instead of stressing me out.
So so good!! 💕
So important for postpartum mamas to hear this. Lord willing there will always be household tasks to give glory to the Lord with HOWEVER we only have our children in our home for so little time. Don’t think twice about the little chores during those precious baby days!! And lean on your spouse to take on some of those tasks you usually enjoy doing while you’re in that freshly postpartum season! You are ONE with your spouse, and it just makes sense for them to do the tasks that are usually yours…it took my husband and I having kids to really understand what being ONE and working as a Team meant…it was such a a beautiful blessing, and showed us how having children can bring you closer to your spouse if you let the Lord lead.
Thank you for your vulnerability in sharing! You are definitely not the only one. So grateful for the perspective and reminder.
Yes to all these comments. Definitely know this was the Holy Spirit speaking to me. ❤️ Thank you Milena.
So amazing to hear a take on this subject that is not very touched on. The emphasis on the role as women in the Bible is, but not the idolization of it. It’s so true what the Lord revealed to you. Thank you for being an open vessel and encouraging us women to live the life the Lord call us to. May the Lord continue to use you and bless you. In Jesus name.
Oh this video was for me huh 😂💕 thank you so much Milena. Time and time again God has used you in my life, this last year especially, and I’m so grateful as I’m sure many others are. Praying for you and your family ❤
Thank you, thank you, Milena! ❤ This is the answer to why I have been struggling lately. I am currently almost 29 weeks pregnant and I am trying to keep up with it all, but this last week or so has hit me so hard and this video is bringing me to my knees before the Lord. Thank you.
Eclesiastes hit me SO Hard lately, it's so profund!❤
You are such a blessing to the body. Thank you for this video ♥️
Praise YHWH for giving us his 10 commandments on how to live our lives for him and putting our faith into works!
Reminds me of Martha and Mary but yes we can make things an idol and I have that conviction lately
I went through this exact thing transitioning from 1 baby to 2 under to . It was an intense storm but Jesus got me through it . ! Thank you for posting this
Here I am, so proud that my 2 month old is now sleeping through the night. Getting into a routine after having such a rough time the first month. Not that it has become easier because all days are different. But I’m finally able to take a shower, brush my teeth, EAT during the day. I was into my word, praying to the Lord to guide me through this transition into a first time mom. Now here I am idolizing my home, just like you,and not being in my word every day because “there’s so much to do in the house” and feeling guilty if my husband came home to a mess or me smelling from not showering. Thank you Lord, for using Milena as a vessel ❤
The title already got me because the Lord has been trying to get my stubborn attention lately. I’m a person that has to be doing something every minute, can’t stay still. Even my husband has been telling me about this but I was too stubborn to listen. Keeping a tidy house has become an idol for me and I’m crying because it prevents me from spending those quality moments with my 11month old daughter, I don’t wanna wake up one day regretting that I didn’t spend those moments pouring into life and telling her about Jesus.
Thank you for being so brave to share this with us and Inspiring us to do the same, 😭🩷 you’re like an older sister I never had!
I am so there right now! Thank you for sharing! I am in the same place and really struggle with this for years! The enemy distracts and I completely forget that this is a sin! Thank you! I’m looking forward to your next video and gaining some tips for how you have been working to overcome this. ❤
I didn’t even need to watch the video…the blurb on the thumbnail called me out and convicted me.
Same!
Hi! 6 months postpartum and still have not found the rythm I had before giving birth and this vídeo has enlightened me so much. I was idolizing that season of life instead of fully embracing and commiting to this new reality God has gifted me. Thank you so much Milena!! You speak TRUTH!! it burns like fire because it comes from the Holy Ghost. Know that you are much loved and that we pray for you, your marriage and your ministry. God bless you 😘 looking forward for those practical tips next week hehehe 😊
you're so wonderful. thank you so much for all of your work. your videos really help me 🙏🏻🕊
I am so encouraged by your walk with the Lord!! Thank you for sharing you are so vulnerable and took so much from this in my own life!
Amen! Thank you thank you.
Such an important message 🙏🏻
It’s good to see you back on your channel. God bless you & your beautiful family. You have helped me so much work on my relationship with God. Keep going Mama, so proud of you you’ve grown so much. Ive been watching you since you were pregnant with your first.
It is interesting how we can idolize the home. I thought I was alone in that! I don’t have any kids but I really want to keep our apartment clean and to stay in routine. I did that when we first moved to another state and it really helped me to get In Routine but then I felt super anxious if not in it or if one thing wasn’t done.
Thank you for the video! I relate.
This really convicted me today thank you for sharing and being vulnerable❤ May God continue to use you to reach many, love you. 🙏🏼
I really needed to hear this! Thank you Milena ♥️
Very beautiful talk, thank you for sharing. May Yahweh always keep you firm 🤍
Thank you for sharing your heart…. It is not silly at all, but a reality.
I have always been very aware of my idolatry towards my home. I NEED to get in a routine. I NEED to get the house on a good cleaning schedule. THEN everything will fall into place. In short - God is not enough. 😢 Something I am constantly working on.❤
The baby crying at the end, made my uterus scream!
I also love Ecclesiastes! I listened to a Bible project podcast and Tim actually said that “smoke” would be a better translation than “meaningless.”This life has meaning, but it’s here and it’s gone; it passes through our fingers like smoke. I think the Hebrew word is actually “breath.”
Wow… I was just diagnosed with an autoimmune diseases and I’m 99% positive that it’s from this. My second son was born in November and I have a newly two year old. I’ve been struggling with this since my husband went back to work at 1 month postpartum. I have no idea how to continue with my responsibilities as a mother, wife, housekeeper, and individual without idolizing it the way you described. I feel like a failure if anything falls short or if my kids aren’t put before me 100% of the time. I can’t even shower without anxiety. I feel like this video and the next one you put out are signs from God. I have an appointment with my doctor today and am hoping I haven’t damaged myself too badly.
I just had my fourth child and the postpartum experience this time around has emotionally been very different. I was also feeling very "Ecclesiastes" about everything and even still now. I had the opposite problem though where I was resting too much...but not really beneficial rest...more like I'd give myself permission to watch my favorite shows until all hours of the night because my baby was going to wake up for a feed soon anyway. I'm learning ab out discipline and also really trying to treasure this time more than just getting through it. Thank you for your videos. I'm always just a little bit not wanting to watch because I don't want to be convicted, but I'm always so glad I do watch them. The Lord is using you!
This was such a blessing.
This is such an important topic to talk about! Thank you for opening up and being honest about it all!! 🤍
Milena, your videos are so relaxing 🤍
Yes, something I struggle with is balance.
Thank you for this video. I’m so convicted. Praise God 💗
You know what? I needed to hear this. I am aware things like our phones, our hobbies, etc. can become idols, but it’s never hit me before that cleaning and serving my home can be too. Since I saw the title it has been nudging me to pick up my Bible instead of load the dishwasher first. Thank you for sharing what the Lord has placed on your heart. 🩷
Wow this is something I needed to hear! Wonderful
I love this so much Milena! Thank you for the encouragement. It’s so easy to let good things become idols.
I highly recommend the book “Gospel Treason” by Brad Bigney. I read it last summer with some friends and it’s all about idols and it was so helpful and revealed so much to me!! I wish I would’ve read it sooner!
You can tell you’re really tired. You sound it.
I hope you’re doing ok!
When she was talking about tearing during childbirth and how to prevent it.😅 yikes it doesn't always help or go as planned no matter what we do
I am 19 year old and i am struggling so easly i can make thing an idol like specifically my boyfriend and worthly dreams i would love to if you can pray for me more focusing on God and put God first .Thank you already have a nice day and i like your video it was so calm and peaceful ❤🙏😽
Great teaching on the definition of idolatry, thank you.
I found Timothy Keller’s book Counterfeit Gods useful on this
thank you for sharing this. you're such a gift M
I’ve been saying this, that I feel like I’m running around more than giving time with the Lord even though I do I feel like I don’t eat his bread as much as I truly need because I’m soooo busy & I don’t like it! I’ve been praying for God to help me slow down my life but when he helps I just feel like I’m lazy but I’m not I prayed for this to not always be on the go go go go go like the world wants
glad to know i’m not the only one who enjoys cooking in the dark lol so peaceful
Love this video milena. x
Hi Milena! I am currently 25 weeks pregnant and I am just now realizing that I would love to do a home birth. Could you please pray that the Lord open doors for this to happen? You have shown me so much of beauty that can be had by giving birth at home. Prayers to make this come true would be very appreciated! :)
Hi Rebecca! I’m not Milena (obviously lol) but I will pray for you! 28weeks myself and a strong believer in home births! God designed us to carry and deliver babies! I pray that you will find the support and assistance you need for the peaceful home birth you desire. God bless you and your baby!
HALLELUJAH
Holy conviction 🔥🔥🤍
Sweet milena❤ your videos continue to uplift and inspire me and I could never thank you enough 🙏💕💕🙏💕💕
Oh my… I have struggled so much. I am pregnant with my third. I have put off a lot of things to rest and have felt extremely guilty for doing so, but I absolutely have had to. I prayed for strength to continue which He never delivered. Do not store up treasures where moth and rust destroy keeps popping in my head. I take so much pride in my home being orderly that I haven’t made time for rest. And it feels weird and bad being out of our norm because that is what my flesh understands, but God calls us to rest. Even God himself rested. I am definitely no greater than the Lord I must humble myself
Is hell because everything in the world can be a idol is is put first then God we do it all the time! You overcome one thing then your dealing with another problem. Besides we have hormones and we act crazy all time i cried and ask him for forgiveness after a mental breakdown and i don't even have kids yet 😂❤
The Early Church always taught that women need 40 days for rest and healing after the birth of children. The Orthodox Church still does this.
Preach. At 9 weeks postpartum I am now wondering if I have made an idol of my home, too.
With my third I did not prioritize post partum whatsoever and it’s my biggest regret. I had a birth center birth and was home within 6 hours of having her and by noon I was up doing laundry since my kids were with family and I felt like I had a chance of productivity rather than just spending all with baby
Paise Yah🙌🏾
I’m 29 and a newer Christian… I want to learn about the lord but where do you think I should start?
I love your videos but I do miss your old content as well. Seems like you’re only a Christian Channel now. Would love to see more recipes or homeschooling videos ect. But again just my opinion. Still love your videos though❤
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🥰✨🤗 Que o Senhor continue te dando discernimento e sabedoria do alto sobre sua vida Milena. Que você seja sempre a Mulher sábia que edifica o seu Lar. E que o Senhor continue te abençoando,te livrando e te guardando de todo mal em nome de Jesus. Deus abençoe você,sua casa, seu lar e sua linda família. Deus une pessoas,..Mas acima de tudo une propósitos. 🙏🏻🙏🏻💖✨ Obrigada! Por compartilhar sua vida, sua história e palavra de Deus conosco. 🤗🖐🏻🔥🔥🔥
THIS GOT ME
Pfoe. This is so loaded and difficult for me. I have been postpartum for 11 months now. I have a 5,5 year old with autism and my husband is away for work 12 hours a day. The baby is very fussy and crying all the time still. It’s draining and I find myself in this constant state of trying to get the bare minimum done, but it is all consuming. And I know it’s not right. I have been crying out to God and feeling at my wits end for many months. It feels like my body just won’t bear much more. Mentally too. I feel like my home and our family goal of moving (and therefore making a bigger income) is definitely becoming an idol. But how does it not? How do I stay in this situation or try to get out of it without going overboard every single day? There’s like no way I could do less, because I’m already doing the bare minimum. I’m praying the replies on this comment can pull me out of my stuck mindset and into where God wants to lead our family.
Currently wrestling with breastfeeding and milk production as an idol. Couldn’t see it until recently and I’m 3 weeks PP! Praise God that He reveals things and gives us grace.
Now all I need is to say Lord whatever Your plan is that’s fine with me, wether I feed by breast/bottle or EBM/formula this child is YOURS. Much love for you and the work God is doing in your life!
Milena!!!! what are you cooking up dear?
This is interesting as iv been watching you for the past year and a half. I started implementing some of your teachings, mothering/homemaking ect. I very quickly became angered, depressed and I prayed about it. He told me that these RUclips videos were becoming idols & that I was quickly becoming “religious and legalistic”. We have to be very careful in how we label “Christian homemaking” “trad wife” “Christian wife” “submission” ect. It can become legalistic and thus turning us away from God instead of towards God. Instead of leaning on God to teach us how to be mothers and wives we go to RUclips’s and influencers. We are putting pressure on ourselves to be someone that God never even called us to be. We are putting expectations on ourselves that God never placed on us. Therefore we are becoming tired, drained and burnt out because we aren’t leaning on the Holy Spirit. Last week I heard something that changed my life. “Are we placing our identity in “Christianity” or in Jesus. They two very different things. Christianity allows us to places rules, expectations & legalistic values on ourselves. Jesus just loves us.
Where is your tea kettle from??? 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I’m so ashamed to say that I am an isrealite myself. I was baptized early December and delivered my sweet girl late December. I’m so embarrassed to say Since then I have become such a lazy Christian. I have fallen and need to get back up.
Take the first 6 weeks super slow. Snails 🐌 pace. No erranding. No church. Lay low!!