Are You AVOIDANT TOO? | 4 Signs
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
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In this video, Coach Courtney Gatlin gives 4 signs of someone who is emotionally unavailable.
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I’ve been with my avoidant partner nearly two years and I’m an anxious attachment person, and not only did/do we have cultural differences that can infringe on communication styles. But there was a lot of trauma that occurred in his young life. In the beginning of us dating he was much less in touch with his emotions and much more hot and cold. But now with hard work, time, and patience and especially Trust -we have come a long way and he communicates to me how he’s feeling and if he needs that time on his own and pursues me with effort, love and care. It didn’t happen over night but it’s come a long way and is only improving. ❤
Thanks for sharing that with the community Maria!
On point as always I was with a emotionally unavailable man for 2 years I think my problem was I was to available so I have learned how to pull back if need be it's so sad the way they are we all want true real love you just won't find it with them.
Can you do a video about why DAs are so stingy and not giving? I’ve been seeing one for a few years and asking him for things or to be there is like pulling teeth. You’ve touched on it before. It was spot on but I’d love a more in depth video. They only do the bare minimum.
I found this as well. Mine hoarded his resources totally. I understand that his very strong DA attachment style with his wife’s ( now separated for 30 years) addiction to spending put them in a lot of debt that he was solely responsible for.
I’d love to see a vid on this.
@Rhea Mickens yes, I think it’s a DA trait as well. They don’t like to be relied upon so they don’t want others to rely on them.
@Nia Hughes it’s one of those things that “if I give it to u, then I am w.out” they don’t find comfort in being “w.out” bc that can be seen as one step closer to being broke, homeless, etc. even though, normal people like yourself KNOWS that they have excess and that wouldn’t JUST HAPPEN. However, to them, it’s a step towards it whenever they do something for you… you’ll have to explain to them that pouring into you is healthy, with actions, not words … hope this helps ❤
@@hickslovehealing5887 I find it so hard not to take it personally even though I know it’s their programming. I’m an FA (working to be secure so I get) it. We’re both runners. I just can’t have someone I can’t rely on.
Overtime I matched my ex’s energy. His emotional unavailability made me feel confused + unsafe, in the process I to became emotionally unavailable? Thankfully I am self aware I find it difficult to trust
It was definitely my interest in a probable avoidant that opened my eyes to my own avoidant tendencies. I thought i had an anxious style and I do, but after enough drama i started leaning heavily avoidant... But it's been there the whole time... Wall building like a mason
Yes, I haven't even listened yet, coach, but yes lol. I learned so much about myself with him including that I'm FA. Which is a blessing because that with therapy and prayer has been amazing! Thank you for you videos! Your patience and guidance is top tier!
Lol
Now you didn’t have to CALL ME OUT LIKE THAT Coach! Good thing I’m in therapy! FA FEMALE!!
good for you!
Great video coach Court. Keep them coming thanks.
Really enjoying your videos. They are getting better n better. Good points here
Good to see you still here LG ❤️
That's me tbh. I'm 25 so I better fix this
Wow. All me😭
Good video. Accurate points. 👍🏾
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They are. Next one is tomorrow evening
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