Motherly Advice Ft. Grandma Margaret || Father Knows Something Podcast
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- Опубликовано: 28 июл 2024
- Welcome back to Father Knows Something! Real People. Real Stories. Real Dad advice with a dash of ADHD, and maybe a couple of millennials chiming in from time to time to add their takes.
This week's episode has Jerry, Grandma Margaret, and Morgan discussing stories that all involve trouble with mom! Relationships with our moms can be so challenging, luckily we have grandma on to share her wisdom and experience on this topic. What are your thoughts? Any advice you'd like to share with these listeners?
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Index:
00:00 -- Start
07:29 -- Story 1
17:03 -- Story 2
26:17 -- Story 3
35:32 -- Story 4
Wow, I absolutely love her!! I can’t believe she was so nervous, she is incredibly well spoken. If she’d ever be willing to come back on, I would love love love to see it. ❤
I want to thank all of you listeners for the positive acceptance and love that you have given grandma Margaret. She is an amazing woman, she just gave you an example of what a real person is all about. I do love grandma Margaret, Morgan’s maternal grandmother. DAD aka FKS
It is apparent from the way you interact that you have a lot of love and respect for one another!
you are all lovely!
Honestly hearing Grandma promote body positivity was so healing. I know so many of us get negative comments. It made me tear up 🥲
You need to have her back! She gives awesome advice. One thing I will say is both Grandma Margaret & Jerry were bullied growing up & turned out to be so kind & gentle with their words. I think I’ve never stopped to think that bullied kids turn into grandparents who will understand what a child is really feeling because it happened to them.
Also, a good suggestion if anyone feels lonely, unfulfilled, or needs something to do, go to your local animal shelters and volunteer or just hang out with the abandoned animals. Many animals sit in a cage all day every day until they are euthanized, unfortunately, and a lot of shelters always need help!
And you can put it on your resume!
This is such a beautiful idea thank you! Next time I feel depressed my ass is gonna see some babies at the animal shelter
And who knows? If you are in the position for it, you may also make a friend for life. 😊 I have volunteered, interned, and worked in several shelters. I sometimes came home with a new buddy, and we healed together.
FKS has always been such a healing show for me, but this episode truly took it to another level. My dad passed away two years ago, and I have a very strained relationship with a mother who doesn't understand boundaries. Hearing your grandma talk about distancing yourself from people who are unkind is a message I never heard growing up. It was always "you never turn your back on family, no matter what." If you read this, please tell your grandma thank you. She also made me feel so close to my own grandma, who has also passed away.
I will pass your msg on to her, Thank you..xo
WE LOVE GRANDMA!!!! She’s so sweet and well spoken, she’s amazing!! ❤❤
Grandma Margaret! ❤❤
My grandma was my PERSON before she died. I'm getting loving flashbacks! ❤❤
Grandma Margret was awesome! Please bring her back!
Grandma was great and her voice is so sweet! ❤ She can come back on any time!
& the artwork in the back is really cool, love it :)
For the empty nester & hubs, yes find something for yourself but also with your husband. We are empty nesters this year too and my best friend aka husband and I are sailing from San Diego to Mexico this year! You got this!
That was my story!! Thank you for your support and have FUN on your sailing trip!
Grandmas love story omg 🥹🥹🥹 so beautiful
Always cherish your grandma ❤ my paternal grandmother is my absolute best friend and #1 supporter. She has truly saved me in more ways than I can count. Grandparents like this are such a blessing.
LOVE Grandma!! ❤❤❤
I could listen to her talk about her life for hours.
AHHH YOUVE MENTIONED GRANDMA AND GETTING HER ON A SHOW AND IM SO EXCITED I LOVE LISTENING TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILIES STORIES WHILE I WORK ALL DAY 🥰🥰
Having grandma Margaret on couldn’t have come at a better time, I hope to see her again soon! Thank you gang 💛
I love grandma Margaret! She needs her own podcast. She must be protected at all costs! 🥺❤
Loved this episode! Thanks for introducing us to Grandma Margaret, even though it felt like we knew her because she‘s referenced so often ❤
I know Grandma Margaret was nervous, but did she enjoy doing it in the end? She did a great job! ❤
10 minutes in and I’m already enjoying this so much! I love talking to grandparents and hearing their advice and stories. They’ve lived life and know a few things that I think we can all learn from. I really loved this you guys. hope she will be comfortable to do this more in the future! ❤️ if not, I enjoyed this episode and appreciate her taking time to share some of her life!
Thank you for reading my story (empty nesters)!! My daughter moves out this weekend. Just the thought of her empty bedroom makes me cry. BUT...I have some weekend trips planned with my husband. Just the two of us! I'm really excited. And I've tried to verbalize that we need to connect with each other more now that our house will be empty. We have some healing & growth to do but I think we're on the same page to face this next chapter together and live our best life! Thank you Grandma Margaret, Jerry & Morgan for making me feel like a part of the family! ❤
Grandma Margaret is so sweet, the story of her reconnecting with her sweetheart is so wholesome ❤
Morgan's face expression close up 😂 " I broke his leg" 😮😂
This is so so sweet 😭 to be able to share your career and your passion with your family? A dream and the take of grandma on people talking about others body? That hit me being someone that was extremely bully for being overweight by her own family i love this woman 🥺✨
Omg G’Ma Margaret is adorable. I could listen to her tell stories and talk for hours. Sending love from Scotland 🏴
❤❤❤ for Grandma Margaret!!
Love Grandma Margaret! She was absolutely fantastic and I hope she’s on again! 💛💛💛
Grandma did AMAZING
I love her Minnesotan accent ❤❤❤
I really want a t-shirt that says "PSA: Put brain in gear BEFORE opening mouth" 😂 love Grandma Margaret and the whole crew!!❤
Grandma Margaret was awesome! I hope she comes back! ❤
No stress if the fam needs to take a break from RUclips, we'll be here when you get back!
grandma's love story is the sweetest thing! i loved the introduction she did, her origin story. more grandma please!
That first story - for a moment there I was like, did I submit this and forget about it?? My relationship with my mother is very similar to what was described. I’m sure the advice will help the person who submitted, because it’s so given me some ideas on how to proceed. I can see the second story happening to me, also.
Weight has been a major source of conflict in my relationship with my mum. - I’ve always felt that she’s treated me better when I’m engaging in diet culture and essentially starving myself.
What’s really helped me is to actively try improve my own relationship with my body - diversifying my social media has helped me to really see plus sized bodies as beautiful (by that I don’t just mean people who are 1X. I mean actual plus sized people). Moving out helped a lot because I don’t have to hear her comments at every meal time (guess what - turns out I eat much healthier when there’s no one yelling at me just for being in the kitchen). I also started listening to podcasts like Maintenance Phrase which has really solidified my decision not to diet again. I finally feel comfortable enough to go swimming, even though my body is the largest it’s ever been. I finally dress the way I want now that I don’t have my mother telling me what is and isn’t flattering. Now when I hear her comments, I roll my eyes at it instead of being hurt like I did when I was a teenager.
Same girl, same... :(
My mom has always been critical of my weight and nothing is ever good enough for her. I have been the subject of her bullying since I reached 80 lbs as a kid and it’s never gotten better even though I’m at a normal, healthy weight as an adult. I’m in my thirties now and we don’t have a relationship. It’s definitely for the best. She never respected my boundaries so I had to draw a hard line in the sand years ago.
wow. i must say reading comments like this makes me feel like i’m not alone. my mom severely messed up my mental health. from narcissistic abuse, physical abuse, and comments about my physical appearance. my earliest memories are of her and my sister laughing at me pointing at my fat rolls.. she put me on intermittent fasting when i was 6 years old. she’s always told me that i couldn’t wear certain clothes like skirts and tank tops because that’s for the “pretty skinny girls.” even my calves she would make fun of because they’re naturally wide and muscular. saying i had chicken legs and looked like a man. this is still a constant battle i have with myself now as a 22 year old. i’m in therapy, but it seems like i just can’t separate myself from that little girl she so heavily bullied and abused. i hope to become confident like you and eventually accept myself for who i am..
Thank you Grandma Margaret! I miss my own Grandma so much and you remind me so much of her. (She was a New Year’s Eve baby! 😊) I really appreciate hearing your insights and thoughts. 🥰 THANK YOU!!!🥰
Love grandma Margret! Please come back again
My grandma was born on New Year’s Day as well ☺️ she was a lovely lady
She comes to my work all the time ❤❤ such a sweet sweet lady
SHE DOES?!?! OMG SMALL WORLD. You should tell her you saw her on next time you see her
I did!! Shes truly the sweetest actually coming to find out I know a lot of people who know you I just never came across meeting you!@@TwoHotTakes
would love to see grandma on THT, no need to be nervous ! i’m such a fan and would love it! hopefully she gets to come on someday !!
Amazing episode… and I’m barely 10 minutes in! Thank you FKS and Grandma for this episode💗
Hello Grandma Margaret!
Grandma was wonderful! ❤
How special to have grandma Margaret! She did amazing 🖤🖤🖤
Grandma really know a lot of things... I appreciate her advice and everyone hear 😊
Grandma Margret is so adorable❤
Aww... I loved this episode!. I love your grandmom!...
Can totally relate to Grandma Margaret's height comments from family! I was never chubby but towered over girls my age. Now I love being tall!
Omg!!! Gonna watch this to unwind before I sleep rn 🫶🏽
Awe we’ve been waiting for her!!!!! ❤❤❤
I love this!! Grandma margaret is a sweetheart
Absolutely loved grandma Margaret! Can't wait to meet mom!
Great job grandma! It’s hard to put yourself on the internet your advice was awesome❤
I love Grandma!! ❤
I already know this is going to be a favorite trio! ❤
Bring Grandma Margaret back!!❤❤❤
Loved this episode! Family knows something 🤍
My grandma passed weeks ago. This is so amazing that grandma Margaret was on.-
I'm so sorry for your loss
What a sweet nana you have ❤
Grandma is amazing!
aww, my grandma's name was also Margaret and she was also a wonderful lady
Morgan!! Is your moms name a mash up of her two parents?! Dennis & Margaret…Dennette?
Loooveee that!
Yay so excited for this episode ❤
So happy you're here and getting to meet my grandma
@@FatherKnowsSomethingis this Jerry’s mom? Grandma? Or is Ms Margret Morgan’s maternal grandma? She’s so sweet and this whole episode brought me such comfort and sadness as she reminds me soooo much of my dear Nana. I miss her dearly.
Grand Ma Marg, is Morgans Moms Mother, and yes she is a special Gal.. My mom passed 2006.. she was a amazing lady I wish you all could have met her too. BIG NEW Morgans mom is on next week!!
Grandma Margaret is the cutest ❤
Grandma is a natural at this and absolutely love her direct advice!!!
Omg grandma Margaret reminds me so so much of my Nana Violet. So great to have her. Also I thought the bug was on my tv and it went behind Dad just as I thought I smooshed it lol. I look away and then Morgan said "look at this huge bug" I look up and see the bug I thought was a fruit fly that I'd smooshed 😅😂 I had to try not to burst out laughing cuz it's 3 am and my roommates are sleeping 😅😊😂
With hurtful comments from loves ones : my new line (and I might have gotten this from Jerry hahaha but it's been HUGE) IS"are you trying to be helpful or hurtful?" Sometimes I amend a little bit with 'wait. Sorry I'm confused. Are you trying to be helpful or hurtful ? Because I don't know how to react to that"
As someone with ADHD (and rejection sensitivity) sometimes I DOOOO over analyses. Also means I maybe tend to give the benefit of the doubt when I shouldnt. ALLLSO MEANS I GOT A LOT OF SIMILAR BIRDS IN MY LIFE LOL who just may not be wording something "appropriately" and were able to back track together and get a good resolution
Or I can tell by the squirm that it was a mean comment and I can address it.
With moms boyfriend - BEEN THERE
I said to my mom 'i love you and I want you to be happy. If this makes you happy then fine. However, I'm not a fan and I don't think he treats you well. As such, honestly I'll probably not want to be around Him. So you're more than welcome to come to our place and see us or we can do lunches or whatever works - I want to keep a good relationship with you, but I'm not going to put him with him
I'm not asking you to choose, and I'm not wanting to cut you off - at all- I just want to be clear. Doesn't mean I'll never be around, just means sometimes I ought say no. It also means I'm not going to flitter myself when I speak with him. I'm choosing not to take his behaviours as a reflection of you unless you choose them to be. By which I mean, if he makes an qsshole comment and you both laugh- I will address the comment with him,.and I might say to you 'i dont think that it was funny and I suggest you ask yourself if you do or if you're laughing for.his sake." It also means when we're one on one i.might challenge you on YOUR words or reactions. I love you
I want you in my life. If you can't handle these boundaries than I respect that but I won't be changing them and those choices and actions will have consequences."
Great stuff here!!!!
The first story, the writer sounds exactly like me and my situation with my mom. No joke I could’ve wrote that and wouldn’t have been able to tell a difference. Grandma is right tho, I had to completely cut my mom out of my life for about a year because she simply could not respect my boundaries and stop making comments about my physical appearance. We are on speaking terms now however I have had to navigate what I tell her and how much I see her. My mom also doesn’t believe in therapy so theres only so much improvement that could be made to our relationship. My whole life she made comments about my body and being “fat”, I still to this day am working through those comments and learning how to love my body and who I am. Without therapy I fear I would just become her
I loved this episode!!❤
story 1 definitely sounds like there’s narcissism and codependency going on. trying to establish boundaries is really for the best. i think it also helps to not give large reactions when mom says these things. she’s wanting to stir things up, so either ignoring or calming restating how the comments make you feel may help.
Grandma Margaret awesome 🎊
awww i loved grandma margaret
More Grandma Margaret 🥺💕
For story 2’s op I think it’s time for that difficult sit down with her mom. It’s time for the brutal honesty of what her word’s towards you caused in your life. From the unhealthy habits to the validation seeking.
She needs to know that her words didn’t actually encourage you to get healthy. It just shamed you into bad habits to reach body goals set by her.
Tell her you won’t watch that happen to your son.
If she’s any kind of decent mom, grandma, or human, she’ll have an apology for you and a new attitude for your son.
Omg Yess I was hoping this would happen
Grandma good job!!! Come back!!!
To the first story - I would say to mother something like "Mom, I know you are thinking your remarks are helpful, but they are hurtful. I like my (whatever) and when you say hurtful and demeaning remarks - I feel resentment towards you. And I want you and I have a good time together, but you are working towards me not liking spending time with you. I want you to know about that so if you care how I feel in your presence, so you can do something about it. If you want."
My Grandmas name is Margaret too ❤
Grandma Margaret looks so young! How is she Jerry Mom?
She's my moms mom :)
morgan go to sleep😭
Awhhh I knowww. Tomorrows going to be tough 😂
omg the bug crawling behind your dad tho...
lil sweet bug 🪲
more grandma margaret!
That heavy mic probably hurting grandmas mic maybe its time to upgrade equipment
Is Grandma his mother? Or Morgan's mom's mother?
I noticed a comment from Jerry above that said it’s Morgan’s mom’s mother